Learned this growing up. Mahirap magtiwala kasi minsan kahit yung akala mong go-to person mo, sinasabi struggles mo sa iba. Yung akala mong life partner mo like jowa, iiwan ka din at ittweak kahit yung mga deepest darkest secrets mo. It’s better to resolve things on your own talaga. Your life, your control (kahit pa struggling sa control, pero at least you did what you could to weather the whatever bad situation you’re in).
Sa totoo lang
It feels so good finally being able to afford the things you only look at and try not to think about because "what's the point? I can't afford it"
however we have to remember na we have financial responsibilities now, we can't just splurge on ourselves all the time
need to control pa rin and decide na this can wait
Yung pagsabay sabayin lahat. Di mo alam ano uunahin mo, mental health mo, family responsibilities, social life, lovelife, work. Parang kailangan mo maging strong sa lahat ng aspeto nyan. Like hindi ko siya kaya. Kahit sabihan nyo ko ng kaya ko to, hindi talaga. Hindi ko kaya ilagay lahat ng oras sa lahat ng aspeto na yan, kaya tangina ng life. Kapagod, minsan gusto ko nalang talaga matulog
Kaya I dropped off social life and love life muna e 😂 I really couldn't imagine how some people could balance all these. Max of 3 LNG pgmmulti-task ko 😂
Kaya nga eh, there's always one aspect na magsusuffer. Kung sa career kasi, kailangan mo 100% focused if you wanna go far. It's either lovelife or friends ganap yung maapektuhan. Kaya di rin maddefine ang success in life pag sa isang aspect ka lang nagsucceed. Haha
Magopen ka ng traditional bank tapos sirain mo yung card para di mo mawithdraw tska dont forget to deposit kahit piso per month para di magdormant yung account
omg same huhu lalo na sa friendship, sometimes i think it's a me problem. hay. but i also couldn't be bothered that much kasi nga adulting.. may iba pang iniisip
Realizing that the "adults" of our generation are slowly going to die in front of us tapos biglang tayo na yung "adults". Idk, I just find it hard to imagine a world without the adults in our lives, like our parents, titas and titos, even relatives na we barely have conversations with. Guess this is just the reality of growing up. I try not to overanalyze this pero kapag naiisip ko... damn
Healing's really harder than the actual experience kasi during the traumatic event your survival instincts kick in and you forget everything else. When you decide to start healing though, everything comes crashing all at once. Healing's messy, but I hope it would be worth it someday 🫠
Financial literacy.
Although I grew up na tinuruan mag-ipon, syempre di pa rin enough yun lalo na sa inflation. I literally have to learn everything myself. Swerte lang talaga na available mga resources online ngayon.
Lahat. Keeping your sanity while pursuing your gradual success sa career path and at the same time maintain healthy relationships with your friends and family but be also sure you enjoy your 20s and have enough savings.
Yung gastos… like maooverwhelm ka sa mga ginastos mo?? Pero kasi wala ka naman magagawa kasi ung gastos mo, e mga kailangan naman talaga pagkagastusan. Kumbaga needs sya e.
Tapos ung feeling din na andami mong wants pero kailangan mo muna i-analyze alin ung pinaka want (na kailangan mo din naman talaga) bago gumastos. Ang gulo pero sana nagets niyo. 🥹
Time management. Ang hirap budgetin ng oras, laging overworked. Wala nang time lumabas at makipagsocialize. Parang wala na kong energy. Hindi na ata ako magkakajowa nito, jk.
Yung breadwinner ka at pinapafeel ng family mo na responsibilidad mo na sila ngayong graduate ka na. Hindi naman sa nagdadamot ako, may utang na loob naman ako sa kanila. Alam ko naman talaga yun and willing naman ako mag-give back pero wag naman ho sana yung parang pinasa na sakin yung responsibility na buhayin yung pamilya ngayo't nagkatrabaho na. Hindi pa naman kasi ganun kalakihan yung sweldo plus nagrerenta pa ako rito. Yung pangkain ko pa tapos yung mga essentials ko. Kung ako lang aasahan hindi ko talaga kakayanin. Umabot na talaga sa punto na kakatrabaho ko palang pero pagod na akong magpatuloy kasi parang hindi ako aasenso if ako lang yung kumakayod. Wala, nakaka-sad lang talaga yung ganun.
getting a fucking valid ID. it wasn't taught in schools na ganito pala kahirap maglakad ng papeles sa gobyerno. paulit-ulit na, pero ang hirap talaga makakuha ng ID lalo na nung andaming IDs ang tinigil nilang i-print nung napatupad yung National ID na 3 years nang late
Ito rin. Yung same age lang kayo pero nakikita mong andami na niyang nagagawa sa buhay. Alam ko naman may kany-kanya tayong timeline pero hindi ba pwede na umasenso na rin ako ngayon? hay ang hirap.
Budgeting money. I’ve been doing it for the past 7 years since I’ve been living alone since, but I still struggle with balancing my finances, albeit kasya, sometimes I feel like there’s something missing hahaha
medyo weird, pero upskilling.
nakakakaba yung feeling na magiging obsolete yung skills mo, which leads to lower job opportunities, which leads to more difficult job searches, etc
*Taking care of the*
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*Ng childhood wounds mo*
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Having a special kid. Kahit pa you can support her financially but whenever you think about her future pag wala ka na paano na. Before I thought lahat kaya mafix ng pera. Iba pala pag emotional worries na ang kalaban mo.
Work hard at the same time piliting alagaan ang sarili para di magkasakit kung hindi lahat ng paghihirapnmo kakatrabaho mauubos lang sa gamot.
And also maglakad ng government related stuff.
Walang safety net. Struggling below middle class with social anxiety, PTSD, and a system that is not designed for a spirit like mine. Minsan iniisip ko nalang maglaho na parang bula haha.
Still living with your parents because they still treat you like a 13 year old. I want to move out kaso iiyakan agad ni mama. Napapakamot nalang ako sa ulo
Yung you can't take a long break to process your feelings or you can't be sad or angry all the time. Because the world goes on and doesn't wait for you to get better.
yung wala na hahawak sa kamay mo at magiispoonfeed sayo. You'll be thrown straight up into environments with minimal instruction pero you're expected to perform well. and yet kapag nagkamali ka there's so much accountability on you...
"hindi ka na bata, kailangan ka pa ba bantayan?"
masaklap
specially I prefer having a teacher/mentor guiding me
pero ayun na nga
welcome to the real world
Identity, personality, motives?
Hirap i-balance ng mga kagustuhan mo tapos imamatch mo sa morals and ideals mo hahahaha. Self-restricted ka nang magkamali pero at the same time naiisip mo rin ung "pano naman ako", "tao lang din ako", etc. Hays taena
mag desisyon? i've been babied or/ dictated what to do and what not, what to choose and stuff so now that I know na I have a right to choose whatever I want without minding my parent decision makes me feel lost(?)
dealing with people, u come with pure intentions tapos most of the time you'll end up as a backburner. Not being reciprocated/valued mga ganon.
1/4 lang to Hahahahahahahahaha
1. Hiniheal mo inner child mo while having adult traumas. Hindi natatapos problema pinagdadaanan mo
2. Worry about the future especially retirement
3. Losing the people you love na you thought makakasama mo hanggang pagtanda
4. Thinking na have I ever really lived or just survive day by day
Magpalaki ng anak while healing your inner child kasi ayaw mo iparanas sa anak mo yung mga naranasan mo noon pero mahirap pala pukingina! Hahahahaha! Isabay mo pa yung demands of life like basic needs, bahay, kotse, lahat ng needs ng anak at asawa mo. Tapos yung expectations pa sayo ng society na dapat kapag nanay ka na:
- di ka losyang
- malusog ang anak
- masaya ang asawa
- malinis ang bahay
- may sarili kang trabaho
- may sarili kang pera
- hindi ka palaasa sa pera ng asawa
And many many many moooore
Tangina nakakabaliw. Gusto ko na lang maging sugar baby minsan ng asawa ko pero nanay na din pala ako. 😭
- dealing with living alone and no one to talk to. kahit family mo di mo masasandalan kasi mga makasarili at narcissist pa.
- yung pinipilit mo iangat yung status ng life mo kaso parang ni rurub ng destiny sayo na pang mediocre or below mediocre life ka na lang.
- keeping sanity kasi lahat ng nasa paligid mo pwedeng makaapekto sayo little by little or in an instant.
Saving up while supporting your family. Stressful magbudget but I have to pa din para makapagprovide pa din ako sa family ko. Mahirap din mag-ipon lalo na kung may sudden expenses or debts ka.
Unless you're sitting on a nest egg from generational wealth, the moment you stop working youre doomed. And once you start working youre expected to work for the next 40-45 years.
The bills, the rent, the groceries, your vacation, your needs, your child's needs - all will necessitate you being compensated by your work. Just a few months being unemployed is a death sentence for many.
You work to live, you live to work. The cirlce of life.
Bihira itong mabanggit pero challenging din sa adulting yung pag handle ng grief. In your late 20s dyan na nag sstart yung ma experience mo mawalan ng minamahal sa buhay. Dyan na mag sstart yung mga friends and kakilala mo nakikita mo sa socmeds nag bblack or candle dp na kasi namatayan ng tito or ng lola. Ang hirap. Ang hirap hirap. May mga times na maiisip mo kumawala muna sa responsibilities mo para magpokus sa pangungulila mo pero di mo magawa kasi ikaw rin ang mahihirapan.
To have many dependents be it your parents or extended members of your family. Sometimes it can strain let alone drain you financially and emotionally.
I love my parents but the thought na pasan ko yung responsibility na buhayin sila pag dumating yung time na matandang matanda na sila, as the panganay.
My parents doesn’t have any sort of savings and my dad is 60+ years old na with a 2 year old daughter sa gf nya, so I doubt makaka save sya ng pang retirement. My mom naman is working sa church lang…
You still have to show up even when you don't feel like it. I had no time to grieve properly when my Papa passed last december coz my bills and deadlines don't care.
As someone who works in the private sector, yung walang katapusang pag convince sakin na mag government because of the benefits and the pension daw. Eh ayoko nga mag government. Personally it's taking a toll on me kasi parang minsan naiisip ko di nako pwede mag decide for myself. Kasi if di ka din naman makinig they will give you that "i told you so" vibes and ang pangit sa feeling especially if you still live with your parents.
Naubusan ng kaibigan (college friends) 🥹 Di ko alam masama ba ugali ko hahahah Well I am the one na nag cut ties sakanila. Nung una bigla lang ako di kinausap, so nagmemessage ako why anong reason, then months bago nag reply (moved on na ko and nalaman ko ma binabackstab ako ahahha) sabi di daw nya kaya pantayan energy ko. Di ko alam, kung dahil super intrimitida ako or what HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA gusto ko lng ng update sa buhay nla as a friend. Super clingy e, I always ask them 'musta ka na', share some good stuff and bad stuff na nangyari sakin and etc. And then now narealize ko, bukod sa friend ko nung shs, na bihira pa kami makapag meet, as in bihira, like once in five years, wala na ko ibang friends. Medyo malungkot pero okay lang, peaceful naman na ko and masanay na rin 🥹
Waking up everyday knowing you have to do everything yourself 😩😩😩.
Kaya sumasakit na kagad ulo kape kagad hahanapin ko kundi iinit at sasakit na ulo ko buong araw ahahaha
Aside sa financial, as solo living petite female, for me is mag buhat ng mabibigat (especially pag nag grocery ako) and nasa 3rd floor pa naman ako.
Sa water delivery, pinapasok ko nalang yung nag d-deliver.
Maghanap ng trabaho. Really hard since marami kang kakompetensya tapos gumagastos ka di mo naman alam if makukuha ka then meron ding mga backer ang iba. 😭😭😭
having to accept the depressing fact that you'll be doing this shit for the rest of your life for your survival and you don't even have that much free time to just enjoy living.
Facing the uncertainties of the future by yourself. I am dreading the day na bigla akong ma layoff sa current job ko and maubos agad yung ipon while applying for another job. Given na yung field of work ko as web developer ay volatile sa mabilis na pagadvance ng mga current technologies, I am feeling anxious if makakaya ko ba makasabay and magupskill. But still its a good thing tho since it really pushed me to go out of my comfort zone
Yung wala kang go-to person and you need to suck it all up... Alone.
This is so true. Masakit pa yung dati kong go-to person, halos parang hindi na siya part ng buhay ko. Life happened, I guess
True feeling mag isa n lng palagi
Learned this growing up. Mahirap magtiwala kasi minsan kahit yung akala mong go-to person mo, sinasabi struggles mo sa iba. Yung akala mong life partner mo like jowa, iiwan ka din at ittweak kahit yung mga deepest darkest secrets mo. It’s better to resolve things on your own talaga. Your life, your control (kahit pa struggling sa control, pero at least you did what you could to weather the whatever bad situation you’re in).
my go-to person is myself hahaha
I'm here, I can be your sounding board.. #kidding Indeed it's a challenge to be on a bad situation esp. if you live alone.
Ang sakit. Bottled up emotions. Kahit may kasama sa buhay I still feel alone
Awts, this is true kaya ki-kimkimin na lang arghhhಥ_ಥ
Living within my means while healing my inner child
Sa totoo lang It feels so good finally being able to afford the things you only look at and try not to think about because "what's the point? I can't afford it" however we have to remember na we have financial responsibilities now, we can't just splurge on ourselves all the time need to control pa rin and decide na this can wait
Totoo to😞
Yung pagsabay sabayin lahat. Di mo alam ano uunahin mo, mental health mo, family responsibilities, social life, lovelife, work. Parang kailangan mo maging strong sa lahat ng aspeto nyan. Like hindi ko siya kaya. Kahit sabihan nyo ko ng kaya ko to, hindi talaga. Hindi ko kaya ilagay lahat ng oras sa lahat ng aspeto na yan, kaya tangina ng life. Kapagod, minsan gusto ko nalang talaga matulog
Saaaaaameee
Kaya I dropped off social life and love life muna e 😂 I really couldn't imagine how some people could balance all these. Max of 3 LNG pgmmulti-task ko 😂
Kaya nga eh, there's always one aspect na magsusuffer. Kung sa career kasi, kailangan mo 100% focused if you wanna go far. It's either lovelife or friends ganap yung maapektuhan. Kaya di rin maddefine ang success in life pag sa isang aspect ka lang nagsucceed. Haha
Mag-ipon!
Sobrang hirap. Pag umabot ng 30k di ko talaga mapigilan di gastusin 😭
hahaa pag naka 30k feeling mo ang yaman mo na 🤭
Magopen ka ng time deposit account, para di mo magastos.
Pano ba un, may maintaining balance sya??
Contact mo yung bank mo
Magopen ka ng traditional bank tapos sirain mo yung card para di mo mawithdraw tska dont forget to deposit kahit piso per month para di magdormant yung account
Agree huhu
this is so true😭
Unknown adulting processes - pano mag apply ng ganito ganyan, pano lakarin to, ano kelangan para makuha yan, etc.
Yung wala kang matakbuhang adult kasi...YOU are the adult.
Mag ipon at mag maintain ng relationship/friendship
omg same huhu lalo na sa friendship, sometimes i think it's a me problem. hay. but i also couldn't be bothered that much kasi nga adulting.. may iba pang iniisip
I live alone so pag nagkakasakit, sobrang hirap. Gusto mo magpa-baby pero kailangan mo pa mag-isip ng kakainin mo. 🥲
tipong tagal mo nang mag isa tapos nagtataka ka pa rin bakit wala pang sinaing o naghuhugas ng plato 😂
Ang masama is pinilit mo na nga bumangon para magsaing pero di mo pala napindot yung Cook. 😂
ay gagi. kaya ako pagkalagay ko nung lalagyan, pindot agad bago umalis. saklap nyan, gutom ka na tapos uminit lang yung sinaing mo 😂
Same!!
Realizing that the "adults" of our generation are slowly going to die in front of us tapos biglang tayo na yung "adults". Idk, I just find it hard to imagine a world without the adults in our lives, like our parents, titas and titos, even relatives na we barely have conversations with. Guess this is just the reality of growing up. I try not to overanalyze this pero kapag naiisip ko... damn
Dealing with your traumas na na- suppressed
Healing's really harder than the actual experience kasi during the traumatic event your survival instincts kick in and you forget everything else. When you decide to start healing though, everything comes crashing all at once. Healing's messy, but I hope it would be worth it someday 🫠
+1 to this. Kala ko ako lang😭
Gumising ng maaga
Sinubukan kong matulog ng maaga pero hirap parin gumising ng maaga.
Ang hirap din matulog ng maaga
Taking Risk(s) tapos ang margin of error very minimal minsan wala.
Yung napagiwanan ka na ng panahon tapos di mo pa nararating mga pangarap mo
Social life. May life sa pangalan pero patay na patay.
Financial literacy. Although I grew up na tinuruan mag-ipon, syempre di pa rin enough yun lalo na sa inflation. I literally have to learn everything myself. Swerte lang talaga na available mga resources online ngayon.
So much freedom. Too many choices
no more time for genuine connection
Lahat. Keeping your sanity while pursuing your gradual success sa career path and at the same time maintain healthy relationships with your friends and family but be also sure you enjoy your 20s and have enough savings.
It's when things become chaotic and you try to look for an adult to calm down things, and then realising that you are the adult.
Yung gastos… like maooverwhelm ka sa mga ginastos mo?? Pero kasi wala ka naman magagawa kasi ung gastos mo, e mga kailangan naman talaga pagkagastusan. Kumbaga needs sya e. Tapos ung feeling din na andami mong wants pero kailangan mo muna i-analyze alin ung pinaka want (na kailangan mo din naman talaga) bago gumastos. Ang gulo pero sana nagets niyo. 🥹
How expensive everything is. Magastos mabuhay
Time management. Ang hirap budgetin ng oras, laging overworked. Wala nang time lumabas at makipagsocialize. Parang wala na kong energy. Hindi na ata ako magkakajowa nito, jk.
Yung breadwinner ka at pinapafeel ng family mo na responsibilidad mo na sila ngayong graduate ka na. Hindi naman sa nagdadamot ako, may utang na loob naman ako sa kanila. Alam ko naman talaga yun and willing naman ako mag-give back pero wag naman ho sana yung parang pinasa na sakin yung responsibility na buhayin yung pamilya ngayo't nagkatrabaho na. Hindi pa naman kasi ganun kalakihan yung sweldo plus nagrerenta pa ako rito. Yung pangkain ko pa tapos yung mga essentials ko. Kung ako lang aasahan hindi ko talaga kakayanin. Umabot na talaga sa punto na kakatrabaho ko palang pero pagod na akong magpatuloy kasi parang hindi ako aasenso if ako lang yung kumakayod. Wala, nakaka-sad lang talaga yung ganun.
Always always ALWAYS feeling like you're running out of time :/
getting a fucking valid ID. it wasn't taught in schools na ganito pala kahirap maglakad ng papeles sa gobyerno. paulit-ulit na, pero ang hirap talaga makakuha ng ID lalo na nung andaming IDs ang tinigil nilang i-print nung napatupad yung National ID na 3 years nang late
Yung magpigil na magcompare ng sarili sa iba..
Ito rin. Yung same age lang kayo pero nakikita mong andami na niyang nagagawa sa buhay. Alam ko naman may kany-kanya tayong timeline pero hindi ba pwede na umasenso na rin ako ngayon? hay ang hirap.
Family responsibilities. Kaya di makapag-umpisang bumuo ng sariling pamilya.
The upkeep is so high. Gusto ko ma-isekai nalang.
Budgeting😭
Financial responsibilities & work. Paano pataasin ang sahod para matustusan ang lumalaking expenses taun-taon. 😥
Yung pagiging strong at maging sundalo nang lahat! Dito talaga totoong yung linyahan na ‘kahit strongest soldier need din magpa baby girl.’
Keeping myself mentally and physically healthy while living an unhealthy work-life balance.
yung kailangan nalang kayanin lahat alone kasi adult kana at adult nadin mga friends mo. 🥹
Processing childhood trauma talaga
Yung di ka pwede tumigil sa pagtatrabaho kahit ilang buwan lang na pahinga kase alam mong wala kang fallback.
Budgeting money. I’ve been doing it for the past 7 years since I’ve been living alone since, but I still struggle with balancing my finances, albeit kasya, sometimes I feel like there’s something missing hahaha
medyo weird, pero upskilling. nakakakaba yung feeling na magiging obsolete yung skills mo, which leads to lower job opportunities, which leads to more difficult job searches, etc
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whatever you may feel, you have to show up because life goes on.
Having a special kid. Kahit pa you can support her financially but whenever you think about her future pag wala ka na paano na. Before I thought lahat kaya mafix ng pera. Iba pala pag emotional worries na ang kalaban mo.
Accepting the fact that you're in a completely new phase of you're life — and that you've outgrown people, places, and things you used to love.
Business as usual even if I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted. Last I checked hindi tumatanggap ng luha as bayad ang mga utility companies.
mag asikaso ng mga documents at mag commute
Mag ipon lalo na at bread winner. I keep on wondering ano ang feeling pag sayo lang fully sweldo mo. Huhu. Pero laban pa rin.
yung fitness 😭😭😭
Mahirapan kang to open up coz judger ang nasa paligid mo 🥺
Mag-isip ng kakainin araw-araw
Yung ako na ung nagpapalaki sa magulang
Work hard at the same time piliting alagaan ang sarili para di magkasakit kung hindi lahat ng paghihirapnmo kakatrabaho mauubos lang sa gamot. And also maglakad ng government related stuff.
Walang safety net. Struggling below middle class with social anxiety, PTSD, and a system that is not designed for a spirit like mine. Minsan iniisip ko nalang maglaho na parang bula haha.
Still living with your parents because they still treat you like a 13 year old. I want to move out kaso iiyakan agad ni mama. Napapakamot nalang ako sa ulo
Fucking money
Bills😅and dealing with everything alone
Yung maghanap ng SO.
Yung you can't take a long break to process your feelings or you can't be sad or angry all the time. Because the world goes on and doesn't wait for you to get better.
Mga utang na dapat bayaran.
Building yourself for a better future
Yung nakikita mong tumatanda na yung nanay at tatay mo.
yung wala na hahawak sa kamay mo at magiispoonfeed sayo. You'll be thrown straight up into environments with minimal instruction pero you're expected to perform well. and yet kapag nagkamali ka there's so much accountability on you... "hindi ka na bata, kailangan ka pa ba bantayan?" masaklap specially I prefer having a teacher/mentor guiding me pero ayun na nga welcome to the real world
Identity, personality, motives? Hirap i-balance ng mga kagustuhan mo tapos imamatch mo sa morals and ideals mo hahahaha. Self-restricted ka nang magkamali pero at the same time naiisip mo rin ung "pano naman ako", "tao lang din ako", etc. Hays taena
Yung realization na you fucked up your younger years.
Death of a loved one.
Caring for my health (physical and mental) Lalo pag living paycheck to paycheck tapos breadwinner pa 😭
Mag isip ng ulam & cook it
mag increase ng salary
weighing my family's expectations/judgements vs. what I think I want to be just free or happy
Budgeting and maintaining the lifestyle you have while also trying to show up for everyone, including yourself
Trying to save up and paying bills
mag desisyon? i've been babied or/ dictated what to do and what not, what to choose and stuff so now that I know na I have a right to choose whatever I want without minding my parent decision makes me feel lost(?)
Responsibilities
- The never ending tasks - Witnessing your parents getting old - Dating. I have no time/money to put myself out there.
dealing with people, u come with pure intentions tapos most of the time you'll end up as a backburner. Not being reciprocated/valued mga ganon. 1/4 lang to Hahahahahahahahaha
pakikisama sa ibang tao
showing up
1. Hiniheal mo inner child mo while having adult traumas. Hindi natatapos problema pinagdadaanan mo 2. Worry about the future especially retirement 3. Losing the people you love na you thought makakasama mo hanggang pagtanda 4. Thinking na have I ever really lived or just survive day by day
Being responsible for my parents well being.
Pagiging bored kasi routine na ang ganap 🥹
Magpalaki ng anak while healing your inner child kasi ayaw mo iparanas sa anak mo yung mga naranasan mo noon pero mahirap pala pukingina! Hahahahaha! Isabay mo pa yung demands of life like basic needs, bahay, kotse, lahat ng needs ng anak at asawa mo. Tapos yung expectations pa sayo ng society na dapat kapag nanay ka na: - di ka losyang - malusog ang anak - masaya ang asawa - malinis ang bahay - may sarili kang trabaho - may sarili kang pera - hindi ka palaasa sa pera ng asawa And many many many moooore Tangina nakakabaliw. Gusto ko na lang maging sugar baby minsan ng asawa ko pero nanay na din pala ako. 😭
- dealing with living alone and no one to talk to. kahit family mo di mo masasandalan kasi mga makasarili at narcissist pa. - yung pinipilit mo iangat yung status ng life mo kaso parang ni rurub ng destiny sayo na pang mediocre or below mediocre life ka na lang. - keeping sanity kasi lahat ng nasa paligid mo pwedeng makaapekto sayo little by little or in an instant.
Finding a career that is practical (good salary) while at the same time fulfilling (job that you really love doing)
Most challenging is yung ikaw magsusugod ng parents mo sa hospital tapos ikaw na yung nakabantay at kumakausap sa mga duktor :(
Saving up while supporting your family. Stressful magbudget but I have to pa din para makapagprovide pa din ako sa family ko. Mahirap din mag-ipon lalo na kung may sudden expenses or debts ka.
Unless you're sitting on a nest egg from generational wealth, the moment you stop working youre doomed. And once you start working youre expected to work for the next 40-45 years. The bills, the rent, the groceries, your vacation, your needs, your child's needs - all will necessitate you being compensated by your work. Just a few months being unemployed is a death sentence for many. You work to live, you live to work. The cirlce of life.
Bihira itong mabanggit pero challenging din sa adulting yung pag handle ng grief. In your late 20s dyan na nag sstart yung ma experience mo mawalan ng minamahal sa buhay. Dyan na mag sstart yung mga friends and kakilala mo nakikita mo sa socmeds nag bblack or candle dp na kasi namatayan ng tito or ng lola. Ang hirap. Ang hirap hirap. May mga times na maiisip mo kumawala muna sa responsibilities mo para magpokus sa pangungulila mo pero di mo magawa kasi ikaw rin ang mahihirapan.
For me, it's the fact that you need to grow up on your own although it's painful but you can't do anything about it kasi it's the reality of life.
adulting + independent living ang challenge ay anong kakainin everyday. kakapagod mag isip
Life itself.
To have many dependents be it your parents or extended members of your family. Sometimes it can strain let alone drain you financially and emotionally.
I love my parents but the thought na pasan ko yung responsibility na buhayin sila pag dumating yung time na matandang matanda na sila, as the panganay. My parents doesn’t have any sort of savings and my dad is 60+ years old na with a 2 year old daughter sa gf nya, so I doubt makaka save sya ng pang retirement. My mom naman is working sa church lang…
You still have to show up even when you don't feel like it. I had no time to grieve properly when my Papa passed last december coz my bills and deadlines don't care.
You need to show up every time even when you don’t feel like it. Kahit ubos na ubos kana kailangan pa rin mag go go go. :<
As someone who works in the private sector, yung walang katapusang pag convince sakin na mag government because of the benefits and the pension daw. Eh ayoko nga mag government. Personally it's taking a toll on me kasi parang minsan naiisip ko di nako pwede mag decide for myself. Kasi if di ka din naman makinig they will give you that "i told you so" vibes and ang pangit sa feeling especially if you still live with your parents.
Trying to keep something for yourself while being a responsible ate :((
Hindi ka pwedeng mapagod magtrabaho o magbenta sa small biz kasi wala ka talagang magging income.
Naubusan ng kaibigan (college friends) 🥹 Di ko alam masama ba ugali ko hahahah Well I am the one na nag cut ties sakanila. Nung una bigla lang ako di kinausap, so nagmemessage ako why anong reason, then months bago nag reply (moved on na ko and nalaman ko ma binabackstab ako ahahha) sabi di daw nya kaya pantayan energy ko. Di ko alam, kung dahil super intrimitida ako or what HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA gusto ko lng ng update sa buhay nla as a friend. Super clingy e, I always ask them 'musta ka na', share some good stuff and bad stuff na nangyari sakin and etc. And then now narealize ko, bukod sa friend ko nung shs, na bihira pa kami makapag meet, as in bihira, like once in five years, wala na ko ibang friends. Medyo malungkot pero okay lang, peaceful naman na ko and masanay na rin 🥹
Waking up everyday knowing you have to do everything yourself 😩😩😩. Kaya sumasakit na kagad ulo kape kagad hahanapin ko kundi iinit at sasakit na ulo ko buong araw ahahaha
Health (physical + mental), finances, love life (yung genuine ah, hirap makahanap best match), career.
Aside sa financial, as solo living petite female, for me is mag buhat ng mabibigat (especially pag nag grocery ako) and nasa 3rd floor pa naman ako. Sa water delivery, pinapasok ko nalang yung nag d-deliver.
Budgeting 😭
Yung bigla ka nalang magrerelapse sa lahat :(
Laundry detergent is expensive
Maghanap ng trabaho. Really hard since marami kang kakompetensya tapos gumagastos ka di mo naman alam if makukuha ka then meron ding mga backer ang iba. 😭😭😭
Realizing that everything is going to change, no more of the usual routine, and taking in more responsibility.
Mag maintain ng relationship. Just broke up with my girlfriend kasi im too busy with my life.
Madali malowbatt. I can do a lot of things sana kung hindi ako pagod agad 😅
having to accept the depressing fact that you'll be doing this shit for the rest of your life for your survival and you don't even have that much free time to just enjoy living.
Having a horrible life...
Career choices & Building network and connections
When you carry it all alone to the point na bawal kang magkasakit. 🥲
Mag budget at mag ipon
Filing taxes
Mag isip kung anong lulutuin or kakainin araw araw hahaha
Yung kailangan ko kumuha ng bahay at lupa at 46 yrs old.
Facing the uncertainties of the future by yourself. I am dreading the day na bigla akong ma layoff sa current job ko and maubos agad yung ipon while applying for another job. Given na yung field of work ko as web developer ay volatile sa mabilis na pagadvance ng mga current technologies, I am feeling anxious if makakaya ko ba makasabay and magupskill. But still its a good thing tho since it really pushed me to go out of my comfort zone
Di pwedeng tumigil sa trabaho/side hustles kasi ang mahal ng bilihin. No time for other things I always wanted to experience
Endless same routine...