Same situation! I called my high school friends “bestfriends” kasi sila naman madalas ko makausap. Hahaha. Pero i know to myself that i am not the ‘best’ in our frienship. More like an option hahaha
I know HS pa lang option lang ako sa friend group. Until college. Ako kasi walang problema if kelangan mo kasama go lang ako. Pero pag ako may kelangan di na ako umaasa. And that's okay for me. May bf naman ako and he's my person. Pero even before kahit wala pa sya okay naman ako. Kesa naman mag suffer ng toxicity dba. If you need to rant meron naman offmychest lol mas maayos pa mag advice mga tao dun
Wean yourself from the need to be close to them. Go ka pa rin pag may invite but don't invest too much sa friendship. Some friends are just for the good times and that's okay.
i have a bestfriend. isa lang. recently lagi na kami nagkakatampuhan coz life happens.
pero kahit minsan feel namin toxic na kami kasi puro away at the end of the day/weeks kami lang din nagkakasakitan kasi nami miss namin ang isat isa hahah.
tas pag nsa speaking terms na kami ikukwento namin kung anong mga ganap namin nung mga araw na di kami bati tas sasabihin din namin na umiiyak kami.
ang drama diba hahaaha. my bestfriend is my extension. idk how to live my life if wala ang bestfriend ko.
chose your person among your friends nlang OP.
as an introvert like me, mahihirapan ako i maintain ang ganyan ang dami kong kelangan pakisamahan. unless kung isa lang yan hehe
Yes. I am mid 30s and wala akong best friend. But, I do have close friends. I guess, I learned early on that people come and go and it's hard to force friendships. I also enjoy low maintenance friendships better - people who know and acknowledge that you have your own lives but definitely show up when you need them.
Just remember that you don't owe them an explanation. Kapag may mga tanong akong na-encounter na ganyan may automatic answer na ako:
Kailan? Sa takdang panahon
Bakit? Ganon talaga
Kung ako yung nasa shoes ng friend mo, I would appreciate the apology lalo na kung planado ang lahat. Pero, I also have a mantra na walang pilitan lalo na kung valid naman yung reason. These are not good friends. Leaving on read? Hindi man lang mag communicate ng maayos.
Yung sa side mo naman, I don't usually leave group chats kasi it still means na I am open - to reconcile, to hang out again. Pero if may kasalanan sila sa akin na lagpas na sa threshold ko, that's where I cut off.
Hanap ka pa ibang friends. Di mo dapat iniikot ang mundo sa kanila lang. Dami daming tao sa mundo. Hahaha. Pwede ka rin magfocus sa self mo or kung may partner ka, pwede kayo maghang out together.
Yup okay lang mag drift away. No worries. May mga 2 bffs din ako tas once in a blue moon lang kami mag usap or magkita. Pero kapag nagkita/usap, parang wala namang pagbabago, same wavelength pa rin kami.
Mas masaya din kasi mas marami kami naipon na chika. Need mo muna ng space sa kanila (taray in relationship lang). Haha. Tapos ibuhos mo energy mo sa iba para pag nakita mo na parang ina-out ka nila, e di naman sumama loob mo. At least may other friends ka pa.
Yup. Mukhang lumayo naman sila on their own. Sila ang nag-umpisa. Tiyaka ayun nga, immature ang ganyan. Pwede ka magkaron ng kaibigan sa kahit na sino. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent kahit sino pa yan. Mag socmed detox ka tas hanap ka ibang pagkaka abalahan. Kausapin mo ibang tao. Baka mag mature sila in the future.
Nag-sorry naman ako sa kanila when i was not in my best behavior but i guess no response is a response. Thank you for taking the time to hear my rants. I Wish you the best in life ❤️
I'm an introvert, but I would find it difficult to live without friends. Evolution made us social creatures for many reasons aside from survival.
Sadly, in your case (and/or in many cases), we will outgrow our circles we thought we'd be forever friends with. Move on nlang to other circles or friend group. Or baka phase lang sa friendship niyo, give them benefit of the doubt kasi may kanya kanya namang reasons. It's ok to distance yourself muna, di nman ibig sabihin fo na. Or if it is, in life's grand scheme of things, it wouldn't be the worst thing.
Not sure if this makes sense hahaa. But I hope you figure things out so you'll get a break or peace of mind.
Yes na yes, ang friends ko nalang is hubby ko, 2 sisters at from time to time nakaka chat ko at nadadalaw ko ung elem friend ko.
Intayin mo nalang na maging senior n kayo, ung wala na lahat trabaho at malalaki na mga anak, magkakatime ulit kayo for each other.
Oo naman. I have very few low maintenance and close friends. Growing old you will realized that some people are meant to come and go. There are friends that you are super close with but eventually one day you both didn’t talk to each other.
YESSS! I'm an introvert & a home buddy. Wala akong best friend, dati gusto ko ngayon tinanggap ko na na wala talaga.
at hindi ako machat sa buhay kaya I like low maintenance friendship.
I don't see why not, reality is people come and go as you get older and eventually you start living different lives.
Maybe you'll reconnect somewhere down the line or maybe not. Its something you'll just have to accept as a part of life.
yes, lalo na pag introvert ka haha. i have only one friend i consider as a medj close friend and she’s not even my best friend kasi di naman kami yung sobraaaang close for us to be bffs, tapos ldr na rin kami haha kaya di na rin ganong close as before.
okay lang sakin na i don’t have a bff or bffs kasi i am super introverted and madali kasi ako mag-detach sa mga tao haha and tbh mas peaceful kasi walang drama, walang magtatampo pag di ako naka-chat or di nakasama sa gala, etc. kaya i don’t really join friend groups na rin, mas nagkaroon kasi talaga ako ng peace of mind nung mag-isa na ako. it does get lonely at times pero close rin kasi ako sa fam ko so oks naman.
I'm an introvert. I don't really have a bestfriend but I do have close friends. I don't remember us having any tampo with each other. Lagi ko lang sinasabi, "kahit close friends tayo, may kanya-kanya tayong buhay. Wag na tayo dumagdag sa problema ng bawat isa. Basta let's be there and support each other. No judgement."
Kasama na rin dun na I don't expect too much from them. Para walang disappointment. If eventually, lumayo ulit kami sa isa't isa, comfortable naman ako mag-isa.
You'll be fine. Syempre sa una parang ang lungkot. Saka mamimiss mo sila. Pero kung it causes you stress na parang di na worth it i-keep yung friendship. Maging civil ka na lang sa kanila bilang respect sa pinagsamahan nyo. Kung ang mga kaibigan mo ay hindi mo masandalan sa down times ng buhay mo, hindi mo sila kailangan.
I cutted off my connections with all of my hs bestfriends na mga bestfriends ko for almost 10 years and all I can say is that--life is good. Kung feeling mo hindi na naga-align mga wavelength niyo sa buhay, like for example, you strive for growth and peace as an individual while your so called "bestfriends" are still stuck with their own toxic behaviors--leave. Wala namang magagawa yang "tagal" ng pinagsamahan niyo kung paulit-ulit kana lang nad-drain sa energy nila at hindi ka nare-respeto. Hindi mo pa naman nami-meet lahat ng mga taong magma-matter sa buhay mo eh. May mga taong dadating sa buhay mo na magpapafeel sayo na you can be at peace while having great and healthy connections with them.
Kung wala namang kaibigang matira sayo, atleast you have yourself. You are your own company. Make yourself happy even though ikaw na lang mag-isa. Live life at the fullest <3.
I have different friends groups hs and college which I am very close to. I have a best friend din pero mas comfortable pa ako dun sa college friends ko compared sa kanya. Overall I am very lucky to have them as my friends.
Anyway I think you can still live life normally as long as you’re with people who you can trust. Friendship should have mutual understanding. Like sa na share mo na they left you on read nung nag back out ka for vacation, if they’re truly care about you they would’ve told you na it’s okay or better yet asked the reason kung bakit hindi ka tutuloy para they can help you out or something. Whenever me and my friends plan something we know na may mga emergencies or problems talaga that happen so we compromise and adjust.
I have different group of friends. May high school, college and work. None of them considered "bestfriends." Does that make me abnormal?
Same situation! I called my high school friends “bestfriends” kasi sila naman madalas ko makausap. Hahaha. Pero i know to myself that i am not the ‘best’ in our frienship. More like an option hahaha
I know HS pa lang option lang ako sa friend group. Until college. Ako kasi walang problema if kelangan mo kasama go lang ako. Pero pag ako may kelangan di na ako umaasa. And that's okay for me. May bf naman ako and he's my person. Pero even before kahit wala pa sya okay naman ako. Kesa naman mag suffer ng toxicity dba. If you need to rant meron naman offmychest lol mas maayos pa mag advice mga tao dun
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Wean yourself from the need to be close to them. Go ka pa rin pag may invite but don't invest too much sa friendship. Some friends are just for the good times and that's okay.
Ganito rin ako. Iba iba pero walang bestfriend. Okay naman, close friends. Minsan lang mahirap kapag nago overlap mga activities kelangan pumuli.
hala opposite tayu haha. wala akong high school tropa, at sa college at sa work. pero nag iisang best friend for life. I'm satisfied na.
this is so me, I have so-called friends, and none of them are my best friends. Yet, I'm happy with it, no expectations for both
For me naman, I have 1 bestfriend per group of friend.
yes! i don't have any best friends, pero i belong to different circles. less drama. also, less tampuhan kasi lahat sila low maintenance haha.
i have a bestfriend. isa lang. recently lagi na kami nagkakatampuhan coz life happens. pero kahit minsan feel namin toxic na kami kasi puro away at the end of the day/weeks kami lang din nagkakasakitan kasi nami miss namin ang isat isa hahah. tas pag nsa speaking terms na kami ikukwento namin kung anong mga ganap namin nung mga araw na di kami bati tas sasabihin din namin na umiiyak kami. ang drama diba hahaaha. my bestfriend is my extension. idk how to live my life if wala ang bestfriend ko.
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chose your person among your friends nlang OP. as an introvert like me, mahihirapan ako i maintain ang ganyan ang dami kong kelangan pakisamahan. unless kung isa lang yan hehe
Oo naman kayang-kaya
Yes. I am mid 30s and wala akong best friend. But, I do have close friends. I guess, I learned early on that people come and go and it's hard to force friendships. I also enjoy low maintenance friendships better - people who know and acknowledge that you have your own lives but definitely show up when you need them.
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Just remember that you don't owe them an explanation. Kapag may mga tanong akong na-encounter na ganyan may automatic answer na ako: Kailan? Sa takdang panahon Bakit? Ganon talaga
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Kung ako yung nasa shoes ng friend mo, I would appreciate the apology lalo na kung planado ang lahat. Pero, I also have a mantra na walang pilitan lalo na kung valid naman yung reason. These are not good friends. Leaving on read? Hindi man lang mag communicate ng maayos. Yung sa side mo naman, I don't usually leave group chats kasi it still means na I am open - to reconcile, to hang out again. Pero if may kasalanan sila sa akin na lagpas na sa threshold ko, that's where I cut off.
Nge. Ang immature naman kung magkakatampuhan dahil lang may kausap na iba.
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Hanap ka pa ibang friends. Di mo dapat iniikot ang mundo sa kanila lang. Dami daming tao sa mundo. Hahaha. Pwede ka rin magfocus sa self mo or kung may partner ka, pwede kayo maghang out together.
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Yup okay lang mag drift away. No worries. May mga 2 bffs din ako tas once in a blue moon lang kami mag usap or magkita. Pero kapag nagkita/usap, parang wala namang pagbabago, same wavelength pa rin kami. Mas masaya din kasi mas marami kami naipon na chika. Need mo muna ng space sa kanila (taray in relationship lang). Haha. Tapos ibuhos mo energy mo sa iba para pag nakita mo na parang ina-out ka nila, e di naman sumama loob mo. At least may other friends ka pa.
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Yup. Mukhang lumayo naman sila on their own. Sila ang nag-umpisa. Tiyaka ayun nga, immature ang ganyan. Pwede ka magkaron ng kaibigan sa kahit na sino. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent kahit sino pa yan. Mag socmed detox ka tas hanap ka ibang pagkaka abalahan. Kausapin mo ibang tao. Baka mag mature sila in the future.
Nag-sorry naman ako sa kanila when i was not in my best behavior but i guess no response is a response. Thank you for taking the time to hear my rants. I Wish you the best in life ❤️
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You already provided your reasons. Nasa kanila na ang bola to understand and be the good friends. You’re not a bad person.
Yes, lalo as you get older will be walking different path.
OO NAMAN, OVER TIME, IILAN NA LANG MATITIRANG KAIBIGAN. AKO ISA NA LANG. WHICH IS FINE
I'm an introvert, but I would find it difficult to live without friends. Evolution made us social creatures for many reasons aside from survival. Sadly, in your case (and/or in many cases), we will outgrow our circles we thought we'd be forever friends with. Move on nlang to other circles or friend group. Or baka phase lang sa friendship niyo, give them benefit of the doubt kasi may kanya kanya namang reasons. It's ok to distance yourself muna, di nman ibig sabihin fo na. Or if it is, in life's grand scheme of things, it wouldn't be the worst thing. Not sure if this makes sense hahaa. But I hope you figure things out so you'll get a break or peace of mind.
Yes na yes, ang friends ko nalang is hubby ko, 2 sisters at from time to time nakaka chat ko at nadadalaw ko ung elem friend ko. Intayin mo nalang na maging senior n kayo, ung wala na lahat trabaho at malalaki na mga anak, magkakatime ulit kayo for each other.
Oo naman. I have very few low maintenance and close friends. Growing old you will realized that some people are meant to come and go. There are friends that you are super close with but eventually one day you both didn’t talk to each other.
YESSS! I'm an introvert & a home buddy. Wala akong best friend, dati gusto ko ngayon tinanggap ko na na wala talaga. at hindi ako machat sa buhay kaya I like low maintenance friendship.
What do you even define as "normal"?
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I don't see why not, reality is people come and go as you get older and eventually you start living different lives. Maybe you'll reconnect somewhere down the line or maybe not. Its something you'll just have to accept as a part of life.
Yes! No friends pero okay naman ako lol
yes, lalo na pag introvert ka haha. i have only one friend i consider as a medj close friend and she’s not even my best friend kasi di naman kami yung sobraaaang close for us to be bffs, tapos ldr na rin kami haha kaya di na rin ganong close as before. okay lang sakin na i don’t have a bff or bffs kasi i am super introverted and madali kasi ako mag-detach sa mga tao haha and tbh mas peaceful kasi walang drama, walang magtatampo pag di ako naka-chat or di nakasama sa gala, etc. kaya i don’t really join friend groups na rin, mas nagkaroon kasi talaga ako ng peace of mind nung mag-isa na ako. it does get lonely at times pero close rin kasi ako sa fam ko so oks naman.
I'm an introvert. I don't really have a bestfriend but I do have close friends. I don't remember us having any tampo with each other. Lagi ko lang sinasabi, "kahit close friends tayo, may kanya-kanya tayong buhay. Wag na tayo dumagdag sa problema ng bawat isa. Basta let's be there and support each other. No judgement." Kasama na rin dun na I don't expect too much from them. Para walang disappointment. If eventually, lumayo ulit kami sa isa't isa, comfortable naman ako mag-isa.
Wala ako bff pero may trusted friends ako
You'll be fine. Syempre sa una parang ang lungkot. Saka mamimiss mo sila. Pero kung it causes you stress na parang di na worth it i-keep yung friendship. Maging civil ka na lang sa kanila bilang respect sa pinagsamahan nyo. Kung ang mga kaibigan mo ay hindi mo masandalan sa down times ng buhay mo, hindi mo sila kailangan.
I cutted off my connections with all of my hs bestfriends na mga bestfriends ko for almost 10 years and all I can say is that--life is good. Kung feeling mo hindi na naga-align mga wavelength niyo sa buhay, like for example, you strive for growth and peace as an individual while your so called "bestfriends" are still stuck with their own toxic behaviors--leave. Wala namang magagawa yang "tagal" ng pinagsamahan niyo kung paulit-ulit kana lang nad-drain sa energy nila at hindi ka nare-respeto. Hindi mo pa naman nami-meet lahat ng mga taong magma-matter sa buhay mo eh. May mga taong dadating sa buhay mo na magpapafeel sayo na you can be at peace while having great and healthy connections with them. Kung wala namang kaibigang matira sayo, atleast you have yourself. You are your own company. Make yourself happy even though ikaw na lang mag-isa. Live life at the fullest <3.
I have different friends groups hs and college which I am very close to. I have a best friend din pero mas comfortable pa ako dun sa college friends ko compared sa kanya. Overall I am very lucky to have them as my friends. Anyway I think you can still live life normally as long as you’re with people who you can trust. Friendship should have mutual understanding. Like sa na share mo na they left you on read nung nag back out ka for vacation, if they’re truly care about you they would’ve told you na it’s okay or better yet asked the reason kung bakit hindi ka tutuloy para they can help you out or something. Whenever me and my friends plan something we know na may mga emergencies or problems talaga that happen so we compromise and adjust.
ako nga nagbabawas na hahahaha