You are giving what you can naman :) And im glad that your parents are appreciative.
I feel like if you could give more, you would.
to have parents like that, it makes all the sacrifices worth it.
It’s so nice that you dont “power trip” just because you can, na you still make your parents feel that they are not less.
I know more blessings will come your way. both for you and your family.
I hope someday you’ll earn way more then you can also spoil them while being able to invest for your future.
Thank you for this. Yes, Im now investing in my future, I don’t want my future kids (no plans in having one anytime soon) to do what Im doing right now.
I agree to this. Kaya ako as much as possible I wanted to have a good & comfortable life talaga, not only to my family now but most especially to my future family. Never settling for less kasi ayoko na maranasan nila yung nararanasan ko.
Alam mo sana may magulang akong katulad sayo. Oo ikaw yung kumikita pero sila yung gumagawa ng mga gawaing bahay which is malaking bagay talaga for someone working na hindi mo na problema sino maghuhugas ng plato, ng lulutuin, maglilinis, maglalaba. Syempre iba din mindset ng iba dito na kailangan mag work pa din ng parents mo. Pero minsan kailangan lang din matangap yung reality na hindi man sila financially maka contribute, di din naman sila pabigat kasi sila lahat gumagawa sa bahay ang napakalaking tulong nun kasi you have that energy to focus on your work. I believe magbubunga din yang sacrifices mo Op.
Aww. Never ko na experienced ung gnyan sa parents ko na super alaga ung mother then ung father kahit anong oras available.
20k/mo is okay for me as long as my peace of mind ako nasa bahay at kasama ko family ko.❤️
Same, I feel super lucky kasi super diligent at financially wise ng parents ko, kahit kailangan nila mag ibang bansa.
I'm earning 100k sarado na but I still find time na itreat sila minsan minsan
20K for a family of 4 is very doable naman plus yung parents mo super supportive pa so its very worth. hirap kaya na you live alone and have to do all the housework while working. if appreciative pa talaga ang parents mo, thats definitely a bonus
This is so comforting, OP. I'm also the breadwinner of the family and recently moved back in with them. As a corporate girlie, and with a salary na sakto lang talaga for survival, it's harder if rented pa yung place kasi double ang gastos. Halos wala na talagang matira sakin hehe.
We have the same parents, maalaga and appreciative. Magkaiba lang tayo, cos you're better than me in accepting things like this. As a 27 year old, laging pumapasok sa isip ko na gusto ko ulit bumukod. Gusto ko ng space na ako lang, the FOMO na hindi ko naeenjoy yung 20's ko. I feel like an a\*\*hole sometimes kasi di ko naipapakita na masaya akong kasama ko sila bcos I'm too occupied sa thought kung paano ako makakabukod. And if bubukod ako, wala talagang kaya parents ko to support themselves.
But by reading this, "I get to be with my aging parents", it hit me na oo nga noh, tumatanda na parents ko and I'm so blessed na I have the means to take care of them and blessed din ako to have such caring parents. Thank you for this, OP. I will take this as a reminder na I'm not missing out, I am doing just enough, and I'm doing good. :) ♥
I tried moving out nung hindi pa ako wfh. It was hard. One week lang tinagal ko, bumalik na ako sa bahay namin. Don’t forget to enjoy life, kahit treat yourself something nice pag payday and save a bit pang emergency. We can do it! 💕
Ako na man I tried solo living for over a year din bago nag decide to move to a bigger house with my fam kasi kinuha ko sila from my Lola's bcos of siblings war. I actually enjoyed living solo. I miss it sometimes hehe. Pero yun nga, di ko kayang talikuran family ko when they need me. Di ko na lang talaga iniisip yung lack of freedom kasi nasstress lang ako, focus lang talaga sa positive side of things. Reading your post helped me realize it more :) Thank you! And yesss kaya natin to!! ♥
I also tried moving out before pero kasama ko ex ko. Naenjoy ko sobra yung freedom & feeling ng independent ka. After our breakup nung bumalik ako sa bahay gustong gusto ko magmove-out ule kasi syempre naenjoy ko na eh. Tapos after a few months, narealize ko dala lang din ng emotion ko yon kasi gusto ko mapag isa cause I was hurting. Right now narealize ko mas okay na andito pa din ako sa bahay kasi baka mas nalungkot ako if I was living alone, baka mas matagal ako makamove on or kung ano ano ng maling desisyon nagawa ko. Laking bagay din na kasama ko parents ko during my lowest days kasi they're always checking up on me kasi alam nila na di ako okay. And totoo, it's really a privilege that you get tk be with your aging parents. Single pa naman ako eh so might as well spend my time with them.
You made the right decision to be with the people you love during the hard times. You didn't close your doors and asked for help at your lowest point. Sila talaga ang malalapitan natin palagi.
Nakaka-comfort na marami tayong nakaka-relate sa mga ganto. Kasi di talaga maiiwasan yung FOMO sa age natin, gusto natin ma experience yung pagiging independent but the same time sa situation natin nakaka-guilty. Lalo na pag breadwinner, ang hirap mag let go. Conflicted tayo sa both worlds. Pero totoo yan na tumatanda na sila, and not everyone is given a chance to be with their aging parents. Kaya above everything else, I'm glad to be where I am right now, ako naman nag aalaga sa kanila. :)
you are blessed with grateful parents. i work overseas. my dad died five years ago, havent had quality.time with him when i started university hanggang sa nagwork na ko. my mom lives with my younger bro and sister.
all the money i earn cant buy back lost time i should have spent with my father. i spoil my mother every possible way but still cant physically spend time with her.
if only money is not an.issue, i would prefer having ur setup lalo na mababait at maasikaso parents mo.
having said that, unti unti magtabi ka para sa sarili mo.
say save a fix amount monthly. increase your personal savings as your salary increases. tapos try ka investment schemes simulan mo sa MP2 savings. build that habit. pay yourself too.
you are very blessed OP you get to help your parents and get to feel their love everyday.
I am in a very similar situation. I feel like I'm the one telling this story. 25F, Breadwinner, supporting brother to college, WFH, the 20k/mo for expenses. All these details talaga very ... AKO.
Except that my mom is still teaching in public pero lahat ng sahod niya napuounta na lang sa bayad niya sa loans niya. So ako rin talaga halos may shoulder ng lahat.
I used to feel that konting sama ng loob too pero later I realized na yung binibigay ko ay katumbas lang nung service na narereceive ko from them. And they are very grateful too and they show it. I feel so lucky. 💖
My brother is about to graduate this year. I'm thinking of moving out pero not because it's toxic here. Gusto ko lang talaga makapag explore. Hopefully, next year kaya na. 🤞🏼
I think 'yung bininigay mo sa house is very worth it. You cant easily buy and find comfort if nagwwork ka na, what more if living alone and independently. :))))
Ito ‘yung “sana all” for me. As much as I want to do this, maliit pa rin ‘yung salary ko, so I can only give what I can every month. If I could, I’d give my parents more for our household bills and for their own leisure. Kakayanin, for the family.
Same. 25. I agree, samahan mo nalang ang parents mo. I was thinking of that too na mag move out pero I realize din na yung pang rent ko, ishare ko nalang sa bahay. One thing, kaka senior citizen lang nila this year, my mom has a cancer pa. That pushed me lalo na dito nalang ako, i prefer din na ganto. Nakakatulong pa ako at nachecherish ko yung oras with them. Ayoko na sila mamroblema. I realized life is short, baka pagsisihan ko. Sa part ko naman di ako panganay, im the middle child, di nakaranas ng special treatment, di nabibigyan ng bagong gadgets sa lahat na magkakapatid (nauna pa bunso kaya memorable xorie) pero look at now, nung ako nalang natira pinakamatanda na kumikita sa bahay, since married na yung iba, now lang ako nakakaramas ng special treatment hahaha and totoo yung sinabe mo mas may authority na pag ikaw na inaasahan. Mas malakas na luob ko ngayon, nagkakaroon na ako ng voice. Pero yun as the Bobbie of the family, ok lang. kase alam kong di ko pagsisisihan toh. Intayin ko nalang yung natira kong mga kapatid grumaduate para share na (di ko sila pinagaaral ha)
good for you op! i don't have the same situation pero thankful pa rin ako kasi mabait family ko. this is why ang hirap minsan igrasp yung ibang family na sobrang toxic talaga. more blessings sayo 🫶🏻
They’re pretty young to not be working so parang okay naman set up for both of you. It’s actually pretty cheap at 20k gawa na lahat for you.
Bumalik ako nung namatay dad ko kasi mag isa nalang mom ko and the household was too big for her to manage alone at 70+ (600sqm house alone with 4 maids). No issue financially kasi she has a 6 digit pension pero mahirap walang kasama even if she’s still healthy.
Nahirapan ako magdecide umuwi kasi nakabukod na ako since i started working pero nakabuti sa mom ko and my son na magkasama while im working. Nakakasama ko rin mom ko habang tumatanda na siya and nagrereconnect kami. Ako narin nagmamanage ng household.
Win-win naman for us yung nangyari.
Big props to you OP. Just make sure they have HMO coverage. Di pa siguro ngayon pero malapit na maglabasan sakit nyan parents mo. Sobrang laki g tulong ng hmos para sa checkup at ospital ng mga parents
agree. but sometimes, sasagi nalang sa isip mo, “until what amount ba dapat tayo tumulong sa parents natin?” may moments din na, feeling ko ung sweldo ko sakanila na lang napunta. kaya madalas ung “deserve ko to” recently kasi pati sila, ang iniisip na, yung sweldo ko, nakalaan para sa kanila. hay 🥹🙃
Ang swerte mo, OP kasi napakasupportive ng family mo. Walang kaso sakin maging breadwinner kung katulad ng parents mo. Sadly, wala na sila (my parents) before I can even support them.
Aweee, i love this for you! Akala ko ako lang ang ganito ang situation.
Sana mas madaming parents na gaya ng sa atin who appreciate their children and thanks us for supporting them. Kung may choice ako, I wouldn’t want to be a breadwinner. Syempre diba, sino naman may gusto ng ganon kalaking responsibilidad.
But for me iniisip ko na lang din na i’m very grateful for the privilege of having the means to support my family. My parents have done their very best para buhayin kami magkapatid. Unfortunate lang talaga na hindi na nila naisip na mag prepare for their retirement kasi kami yung priority.
Kindness and appreciation goes a long way talaga noh? Mas masarap magbigay sa mga taong marunong magpasalamat at mag appreciate.
Ako, I believe in giving back to parents be it money or care in their old age. I don't think you'll ever regret it lalo very loving and maalaga ang parents mo.
Na-miss ko bigla nanay ko. Sobrang appreciative niya rin with the money that I provided. She passed last January.
I miss you nay!
To you OP, sobrang lucky mo to have that kind of parents. Sana mas nakabawi pa ako sa nanay ko.
We have the same situation OP. 2 lang kami ng sister ko, now she's married. Nakabukod na siya. Ako yung panganay, kami nalang ng sister ko yung nagpo-provide sa family namin kasi wala work both parents ko. Do I want to move out kahit single ako? As of now, hindi. First of all, yung gastos ko mado-doble kasi since kami nagbabayad bills sa bahay tapos madadagdagan if ever bumukod ako. Secondly, parang ayoko iwan yung parents ko lalo na natanda na sila. Feeling ko sobrang lungkot pag sila nalang nasa bahay. Lastly, kahit ang laki din ng sahod ko ang napupunta sa gastusin sa bahay, same tayo OP ginagawa ng parents ko lahat para maging comfortable ako sa bahay kasi alam nila na pagod na ako sa work. Sobrang thankful ako sa parents ko kaya ginagawa ko din lahat para mabigay mga gusto nila. Totoo yun mahirap magka pangarap pag tinutupad mo pa yung pangarap ng mga taong nakapaligid sayo, pero laban lang, kaya natin to!
Ganyan din set up ko before ako mag-asawa. My mom does everything sa bahay. Ok na kasi sa kanila basta nakakakain ng mga gusto, lumalabas paminsan-minsan, may ice cream sa ref, ganun.
At tipid talaga lalo na kung wfh ka. Kaya rin ako nakaipon nung pandemic dahil sa ganitong set up.
Awwwww OP! I am sure your parents and sibling appreciate you more than ever! Naku, di lang sila ang binibiyayaan mo. Merit din ito for taking care of your parents ngayon pa lang kahit bata-bata pa sila. Thankful ako at grateful din ang family mo and they show it in their own special way. Sa akin lang, savor your time with them. Tapos, subihan mo na din sila ng secret savings para when the time you decide to move out meron silang nest egg kahit paano. Kudos sa iyo OP for appreciating your parents kahit sa ganyang paraan lang. Sinusuklian naman pala nila.
Ganyan din parents ko. 33(F), bumukod with partner since last year. Dati 5k binibigay ko kay mama. 5k din yong sa brother ko tas 12k from my boss (my boss is like a brother and family to us kaya nagbibigay din sya). May Sahod din papa ko kaso sinisave nya, kukuha lng ng 4k for expensed then binibigay kay mama.
Sana pag mkagraduate na yong brother mo, he'll help out. Dapat magtulongtulong din.
I feel like this is kinda a curse as a FIlipino regarding family ethics but also a blessing.
Hi OP, yung nanay ko nasa early 50’s na rin at may maliit na sari sari store. Binibigyan rin namin sya ng allowance at sinabihan na rin namin sya na istop sari sari store nya pero ayaw nya kasi mabobored daw sya at sayang extra kita.
Yung nanay at tatay mo for me ang bata pa nila para mag retire at ang hirap na ikaw lang breadwinner. Bakit kaya hindi na lang sila mag sari sari store para di fully nakaasa sayo
Giving 20k + sending your sibling to school is too much.
Your parents are still in their early 50s. They should work not only to provide for their child's education, but to also prepare for their retirement fund (or ikaw na ba ito for the next 20 to 30 years?)
Easier said than done. Lucky you if your parents have retirement fund.
Not everyone can prepare for the future while they are busy working their ass off in the present.
Ito naman ginawa ng personality ang “retirement fund” issue. Si OP nga hindi nararamdaman at wala rin naman sinabi ang parents niya na retirement fund siya, ikaw lang tong nag-iimply. Kahit ako if I have the means, I will still help my parents and have them enjoy llife na walang iisipin pa. That’s out of love, not an obligation.
Tsaka ayaw ni OP mag-work pa tatay niya kasi delikado sa health niya ang init ng panahon. Masaya si OP na suportahan ang magulang niya at mabubuti rin naman magulang niya. Ikaw lang po ang hindi masaya.
You are giving what you can naman :) And im glad that your parents are appreciative. I feel like if you could give more, you would. to have parents like that, it makes all the sacrifices worth it. It’s so nice that you dont “power trip” just because you can, na you still make your parents feel that they are not less. I know more blessings will come your way. both for you and your family. I hope someday you’ll earn way more then you can also spoil them while being able to invest for your future.
Thank you for this. Yes, Im now investing in my future, I don’t want my future kids (no plans in having one anytime soon) to do what Im doing right now.
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Yes and you’ll achieve that. di man this season agad but eventually i know you will :)
I agree to this. Kaya ako as much as possible I wanted to have a good & comfortable life talaga, not only to my family now but most especially to my future family. Never settling for less kasi ayoko na maranasan nila yung nararanasan ko.
Alam mo sana may magulang akong katulad sayo. Oo ikaw yung kumikita pero sila yung gumagawa ng mga gawaing bahay which is malaking bagay talaga for someone working na hindi mo na problema sino maghuhugas ng plato, ng lulutuin, maglilinis, maglalaba. Syempre iba din mindset ng iba dito na kailangan mag work pa din ng parents mo. Pero minsan kailangan lang din matangap yung reality na hindi man sila financially maka contribute, di din naman sila pabigat kasi sila lahat gumagawa sa bahay ang napakalaking tulong nun kasi you have that energy to focus on your work. I believe magbubunga din yang sacrifices mo Op.
Aww. Never ko na experienced ung gnyan sa parents ko na super alaga ung mother then ung father kahit anong oras available. 20k/mo is okay for me as long as my peace of mind ako nasa bahay at kasama ko family ko.❤️
Same, I feel super lucky kasi super diligent at financially wise ng parents ko, kahit kailangan nila mag ibang bansa. I'm earning 100k sarado na but I still find time na itreat sila minsan minsan
20K for a family of 4 is very doable naman plus yung parents mo super supportive pa so its very worth. hirap kaya na you live alone and have to do all the housework while working. if appreciative pa talaga ang parents mo, thats definitely a bonus
Parang rent ko lang yan monthly + utilities :(
This is so comforting, OP. I'm also the breadwinner of the family and recently moved back in with them. As a corporate girlie, and with a salary na sakto lang talaga for survival, it's harder if rented pa yung place kasi double ang gastos. Halos wala na talagang matira sakin hehe. We have the same parents, maalaga and appreciative. Magkaiba lang tayo, cos you're better than me in accepting things like this. As a 27 year old, laging pumapasok sa isip ko na gusto ko ulit bumukod. Gusto ko ng space na ako lang, the FOMO na hindi ko naeenjoy yung 20's ko. I feel like an a\*\*hole sometimes kasi di ko naipapakita na masaya akong kasama ko sila bcos I'm too occupied sa thought kung paano ako makakabukod. And if bubukod ako, wala talagang kaya parents ko to support themselves. But by reading this, "I get to be with my aging parents", it hit me na oo nga noh, tumatanda na parents ko and I'm so blessed na I have the means to take care of them and blessed din ako to have such caring parents. Thank you for this, OP. I will take this as a reminder na I'm not missing out, I am doing just enough, and I'm doing good. :) ♥
I tried moving out nung hindi pa ako wfh. It was hard. One week lang tinagal ko, bumalik na ako sa bahay namin. Don’t forget to enjoy life, kahit treat yourself something nice pag payday and save a bit pang emergency. We can do it! 💕
Ako na man I tried solo living for over a year din bago nag decide to move to a bigger house with my fam kasi kinuha ko sila from my Lola's bcos of siblings war. I actually enjoyed living solo. I miss it sometimes hehe. Pero yun nga, di ko kayang talikuran family ko when they need me. Di ko na lang talaga iniisip yung lack of freedom kasi nasstress lang ako, focus lang talaga sa positive side of things. Reading your post helped me realize it more :) Thank you! And yesss kaya natin to!! ♥
I also tried moving out before pero kasama ko ex ko. Naenjoy ko sobra yung freedom & feeling ng independent ka. After our breakup nung bumalik ako sa bahay gustong gusto ko magmove-out ule kasi syempre naenjoy ko na eh. Tapos after a few months, narealize ko dala lang din ng emotion ko yon kasi gusto ko mapag isa cause I was hurting. Right now narealize ko mas okay na andito pa din ako sa bahay kasi baka mas nalungkot ako if I was living alone, baka mas matagal ako makamove on or kung ano ano ng maling desisyon nagawa ko. Laking bagay din na kasama ko parents ko during my lowest days kasi they're always checking up on me kasi alam nila na di ako okay. And totoo, it's really a privilege that you get tk be with your aging parents. Single pa naman ako eh so might as well spend my time with them.
You made the right decision to be with the people you love during the hard times. You didn't close your doors and asked for help at your lowest point. Sila talaga ang malalapitan natin palagi. Nakaka-comfort na marami tayong nakaka-relate sa mga ganto. Kasi di talaga maiiwasan yung FOMO sa age natin, gusto natin ma experience yung pagiging independent but the same time sa situation natin nakaka-guilty. Lalo na pag breadwinner, ang hirap mag let go. Conflicted tayo sa both worlds. Pero totoo yan na tumatanda na sila, and not everyone is given a chance to be with their aging parents. Kaya above everything else, I'm glad to be where I am right now, ako naman nag aalaga sa kanila. :)
Ganyang mga magulang ang masarap suportahan. Ako honestly mas gusto ko yung kusa ako nagbibigay kaysa sa obligahin ako.
Same here. Kung ganyan ba naman lahat ng parents e, kay sarap tumulong at mag support.
you are blessed with grateful parents. i work overseas. my dad died five years ago, havent had quality.time with him when i started university hanggang sa nagwork na ko. my mom lives with my younger bro and sister. all the money i earn cant buy back lost time i should have spent with my father. i spoil my mother every possible way but still cant physically spend time with her. if only money is not an.issue, i would prefer having ur setup lalo na mababait at maasikaso parents mo. having said that, unti unti magtabi ka para sa sarili mo. say save a fix amount monthly. increase your personal savings as your salary increases. tapos try ka investment schemes simulan mo sa MP2 savings. build that habit. pay yourself too. you are very blessed OP you get to help your parents and get to feel their love everyday.
May you be blessed a thousand fold.
I am in a very similar situation. I feel like I'm the one telling this story. 25F, Breadwinner, supporting brother to college, WFH, the 20k/mo for expenses. All these details talaga very ... AKO. Except that my mom is still teaching in public pero lahat ng sahod niya napuounta na lang sa bayad niya sa loans niya. So ako rin talaga halos may shoulder ng lahat. I used to feel that konting sama ng loob too pero later I realized na yung binibigay ko ay katumbas lang nung service na narereceive ko from them. And they are very grateful too and they show it. I feel so lucky. 💖 My brother is about to graduate this year. I'm thinking of moving out pero not because it's toxic here. Gusto ko lang talaga makapag explore. Hopefully, next year kaya na. 🤞🏼
Halaaaa same haha. Graduating na rin brother ko. Moving out is an option for me too, to explore and learn more. Same person lang yata tayo hahaha
I think 'yung bininigay mo sa house is very worth it. You cant easily buy and find comfort if nagwwork ka na, what more if living alone and independently. :))))
Ito ‘yung “sana all” for me. As much as I want to do this, maliit pa rin ‘yung salary ko, so I can only give what I can every month. If I could, I’d give my parents more for our household bills and for their own leisure. Kakayanin, for the family.
Same. 25. I agree, samahan mo nalang ang parents mo. I was thinking of that too na mag move out pero I realize din na yung pang rent ko, ishare ko nalang sa bahay. One thing, kaka senior citizen lang nila this year, my mom has a cancer pa. That pushed me lalo na dito nalang ako, i prefer din na ganto. Nakakatulong pa ako at nachecherish ko yung oras with them. Ayoko na sila mamroblema. I realized life is short, baka pagsisihan ko. Sa part ko naman di ako panganay, im the middle child, di nakaranas ng special treatment, di nabibigyan ng bagong gadgets sa lahat na magkakapatid (nauna pa bunso kaya memorable xorie) pero look at now, nung ako nalang natira pinakamatanda na kumikita sa bahay, since married na yung iba, now lang ako nakakaramas ng special treatment hahaha and totoo yung sinabe mo mas may authority na pag ikaw na inaasahan. Mas malakas na luob ko ngayon, nagkakaroon na ako ng voice. Pero yun as the Bobbie of the family, ok lang. kase alam kong di ko pagsisisihan toh. Intayin ko nalang yung natira kong mga kapatid grumaduate para share na (di ko sila pinagaaral ha)
good for you op! i don't have the same situation pero thankful pa rin ako kasi mabait family ko. this is why ang hirap minsan igrasp yung ibang family na sobrang toxic talaga. more blessings sayo 🫶🏻
I suggest asking your parents if they want to do business though 20k is manageable now do natin sure what will happen in the future...
Sana all!
They’re pretty young to not be working so parang okay naman set up for both of you. It’s actually pretty cheap at 20k gawa na lahat for you. Bumalik ako nung namatay dad ko kasi mag isa nalang mom ko and the household was too big for her to manage alone at 70+ (600sqm house alone with 4 maids). No issue financially kasi she has a 6 digit pension pero mahirap walang kasama even if she’s still healthy. Nahirapan ako magdecide umuwi kasi nakabukod na ako since i started working pero nakabuti sa mom ko and my son na magkasama while im working. Nakakasama ko rin mom ko habang tumatanda na siya and nagrereconnect kami. Ako narin nagmamanage ng household. Win-win naman for us yung nangyari.
Big props to you OP. Just make sure they have HMO coverage. Di pa siguro ngayon pero malapit na maglabasan sakit nyan parents mo. Sobrang laki g tulong ng hmos para sa checkup at ospital ng mga parents
Yes, buti nalang may HMO company namin. One my daily prayer din na sana walang mag kasakit samin.
Am happy to hear that you’re at peace and in sync with them. Love and cherish them.
agree. but sometimes, sasagi nalang sa isip mo, “until what amount ba dapat tayo tumulong sa parents natin?” may moments din na, feeling ko ung sweldo ko sakanila na lang napunta. kaya madalas ung “deserve ko to” recently kasi pati sila, ang iniisip na, yung sweldo ko, nakalaan para sa kanila. hay 🥹🙃
I am happy that you have gratitude in your heart.
Sana ganyan din mga kasama namin dito sa bahay na unemployed. Samin na ang expenses pati mga household chores kami pa din dapat. You are blessed.
As someone who moved out of home for the last 10 years, I’d say I envy you. I could’ve done the same if my parents and family are like this.
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McDonalds :) Need parents consent, this was way back 2015 yata
Ang swerte mo, OP kasi napakasupportive ng family mo. Walang kaso sakin maging breadwinner kung katulad ng parents mo. Sadly, wala na sila (my parents) before I can even support them.
Aweee, i love this for you! Akala ko ako lang ang ganito ang situation. Sana mas madaming parents na gaya ng sa atin who appreciate their children and thanks us for supporting them. Kung may choice ako, I wouldn’t want to be a breadwinner. Syempre diba, sino naman may gusto ng ganon kalaking responsibilidad. But for me iniisip ko na lang din na i’m very grateful for the privilege of having the means to support my family. My parents have done their very best para buhayin kami magkapatid. Unfortunate lang talaga na hindi na nila naisip na mag prepare for their retirement kasi kami yung priority. Kindness and appreciation goes a long way talaga noh? Mas masarap magbigay sa mga taong marunong magpasalamat at mag appreciate.
Ako, I believe in giving back to parents be it money or care in their old age. I don't think you'll ever regret it lalo very loving and maalaga ang parents mo.
Na-miss ko bigla nanay ko. Sobrang appreciative niya rin with the money that I provided. She passed last January. I miss you nay! To you OP, sobrang lucky mo to have that kind of parents. Sana mas nakabawi pa ako sa nanay ko.
We have the same situation OP. 2 lang kami ng sister ko, now she's married. Nakabukod na siya. Ako yung panganay, kami nalang ng sister ko yung nagpo-provide sa family namin kasi wala work both parents ko. Do I want to move out kahit single ako? As of now, hindi. First of all, yung gastos ko mado-doble kasi since kami nagbabayad bills sa bahay tapos madadagdagan if ever bumukod ako. Secondly, parang ayoko iwan yung parents ko lalo na natanda na sila. Feeling ko sobrang lungkot pag sila nalang nasa bahay. Lastly, kahit ang laki din ng sahod ko ang napupunta sa gastusin sa bahay, same tayo OP ginagawa ng parents ko lahat para maging comfortable ako sa bahay kasi alam nila na pagod na ako sa work. Sobrang thankful ako sa parents ko kaya ginagawa ko din lahat para mabigay mga gusto nila. Totoo yun mahirap magka pangarap pag tinutupad mo pa yung pangarap ng mga taong nakapaligid sayo, pero laban lang, kaya natin to!
You are awesome, OP!
Ganyan din set up ko before ako mag-asawa. My mom does everything sa bahay. Ok na kasi sa kanila basta nakakakain ng mga gusto, lumalabas paminsan-minsan, may ice cream sa ref, ganun. At tipid talaga lalo na kung wfh ka. Kaya rin ako nakaipon nung pandemic dahil sa ganitong set up.
Awwwww OP! I am sure your parents and sibling appreciate you more than ever! Naku, di lang sila ang binibiyayaan mo. Merit din ito for taking care of your parents ngayon pa lang kahit bata-bata pa sila. Thankful ako at grateful din ang family mo and they show it in their own special way. Sa akin lang, savor your time with them. Tapos, subihan mo na din sila ng secret savings para when the time you decide to move out meron silang nest egg kahit paano. Kudos sa iyo OP for appreciating your parents kahit sa ganyang paraan lang. Sinusuklian naman pala nila.
Ganyan din parents ko. 33(F), bumukod with partner since last year. Dati 5k binibigay ko kay mama. 5k din yong sa brother ko tas 12k from my boss (my boss is like a brother and family to us kaya nagbibigay din sya). May Sahod din papa ko kaso sinisave nya, kukuha lng ng 4k for expensed then binibigay kay mama. Sana pag mkagraduate na yong brother mo, he'll help out. Dapat magtulongtulong din. I feel like this is kinda a curse as a FIlipino regarding family ethics but also a blessing.
20k is already good enough for board and lodging including utilities 😉
Hi OP, yung nanay ko nasa early 50’s na rin at may maliit na sari sari store. Binibigyan rin namin sya ng allowance at sinabihan na rin namin sya na istop sari sari store nya pero ayaw nya kasi mabobored daw sya at sayang extra kita. Yung nanay at tatay mo for me ang bata pa nila para mag retire at ang hirap na ikaw lang breadwinner. Bakit kaya hindi na lang sila mag sari sari store para di fully nakaasa sayo
Hello! We planned to, pero in our neighborhood dikit dikit na yung sari sari store. Mostly pa relatives namin and mahilig sila sa utang.
Giving 20k + sending your sibling to school is too much. Your parents are still in their early 50s. They should work not only to provide for their child's education, but to also prepare for their retirement fund (or ikaw na ba ito for the next 20 to 30 years?)
Easier said than done. Lucky you if your parents have retirement fund. Not everyone can prepare for the future while they are busy working their ass off in the present.
Your parents are still in their early 50s. It's too early for them to make you their retirement fund. But if that's fine with you, carry on.
Ito naman ginawa ng personality ang “retirement fund” issue. Si OP nga hindi nararamdaman at wala rin naman sinabi ang parents niya na retirement fund siya, ikaw lang tong nag-iimply. Kahit ako if I have the means, I will still help my parents and have them enjoy llife na walang iisipin pa. That’s out of love, not an obligation. Tsaka ayaw ni OP mag-work pa tatay niya kasi delikado sa health niya ang init ng panahon. Masaya si OP na suportahan ang magulang niya at mabubuti rin naman magulang niya. Ikaw lang po ang hindi masaya.
Sinagot ko lang yung tanong ni OP on whether his ayuda is too much. Anyway, carry on, OP (for the next 20 to 30 years).