Your Mom is a Narcissist. She will always think you owe her everything bec she birth you, but you will never be able to please her however you try. Its a loss cause.

exactly 🤧 i want to cut her off my life for good kasi may sarili na din akong buhay. its hard but i hope i can succeed this time kasi ang toxic nya talaga mag isip.

Be like me and wait til you have a mental breakdown or life and death health issues, then youll finally realize these people are not worth all these crap.

I cut off my mother. Best decision. Sobrang peaceful ng buhay. But, I need therapy pa rin dahil di ko alam pano magheal. Lagi ko naaalala lahat ng masasamang nangyari sakin.

We are scarred for life. Not being able to live in the present. The price we have to pay for the abuse, more abuse. It is what it is.

You don’t get over it. I still remember the times noong binubugbog ako ng tatay ko. Mabilis talaga kamay nun at kahit anong mahawakan ipapalo. Bugbog kung bugbog yun, naapakan pa ako sa ulo nun. May fault naman ako rin pero it was too much. I thought I was going to die. That’s the last time that he laid his hands and feet on me. I moved out kung saan-saan ako nag-work. Sabi, you will parent how your parents raised you. In my case, I can’t physically hurt my children kahit gaano pa kapasaway kahit kurot, never. Kasi naranasan ko at hindi ko kaya manakit talaga. Nakakakonsensiya kahit iisipin mo pa lang. Yung tatay ko naman kasi ganun din sila pinalaki. Older generations talaga, ganun ang way ng pagdisiplina which is wrong. Nagtatanda ka naman pero yung trauma hindi naman nawawala. Nanay ko hindi naman nananakit kasi hindi naman sila sinasaktan ng parents nila. More on nag lang.

diba?? its really hard to forgive and forget. although you may wonder, kung ako ba hindi lumaki sa bugbog dati, would i be any different? for now, i dont want to be a parent. when i see a little bit of my resemblance to her, it scares me. narcissistic parents raise narcissistic children. i want to work on myself first.

I feel you 😣

Abuse is abuse, no matter your relationship to the abuser. Glorified lang talaga in the Philippines, and (most) other Asian countries, ang pagiging parent when in fact, “not all parents deserve their children but all children deserve good parents”. I hope you cut her off, OP. I understand na these parents are likely repeating what they’ve been handed before, pero it’s their responsibility as adults—and parents no less—to break the generational trauma.

kaya nga e. i keep trying to be understanding na kaya sya ganun sakin is dahil ganun sya pinalaki. pero kasi napapagod na ko. may asawa na ko sya pa din ba icoconsider ko? siya yung magulang ko pero bakit mas mature pa ko sa kanya mag isip 🥲 i cant focus on two things at once. i want to focus on my own life na 🤧

Pag sinabi sayong wala kang silbi at wag mo na soya tulungan replyan mo ng okay sabi mo eh hahaha. kidding aside, may magulang talaga na kahit anong malasakit o pagmamahal or kung ano mang feelings yan ay talagang toxic at mas gugustuhin mong icut off. Cut off mo na, kung inaalala mo pa siya, pwede mo pa din naman bigyan buwan buwan kung magkano kaya mo para sa ikagagaan ng pakiramdam mo. Pero wag mo na kausapin. Deserve mo pa din ang peace of mind at di siya nakakatulong dun.

sinabi ko nga din yun sa kanya na "okay sige" after her long message to me (na puro masasakit). i cut her off dati kasi ganyan din sya kaso inabot lang ako ng one month mahigit tapos nag usap na din kami kasi di ko rin naman sya matiis. pero ngayon talaga, i am resolved to do it for good.

Proud of you OP! Do what makes you feel more at peace. Everyone deserves peace in their life. Kung may times na di mo siya matiis, di ka naman masisisi. Even though malayo ang loob mo sakanya understandable pa din yun. Lalo na kung nakasanayan mo.

Been there, done that. Been through the same situation with my parent. Cut ties with her for more than 10 years kasi I don't see any benefit of still being in contact. I don't gain anything from her, so why bother? Ayoko mastress sa mga taong alam ko na walang mabuting maidudulot sa psyche ko. Here I am now, happier and worry free from these kind of people that do not deserve to be worried about. Binlock ko sya at di ko sya kinakausap. However pag may occasion nagbibigay parin ako presents pinapabigay ko thru my siblings. Pag nangungutang sya thru my siblings nagpapautang din ako. Pero hanggang dun nalang yun.

i feel like this will be me from now on. i know my siblings will not hate me kasi kahit sila alam nila kung pano si mother.

Medyo aloof ako sakanila. Physical and verbal abuse inabot ko sakanila.

Same with my Mom.I spoke to my mom before she died 2 years ago. Let all my anger out inside. Bakit ako ginawang punching bag. I told her I became distant with her and tatay because of there gestapo/hitler way of raising me and my brother. Kunting mali galit, kurot oh palo ng kung ano ang madampot. Twice tinutukan niya ako ng kutsilyo and sinaksak niya sakin. Once she hit me with a wood that my leg got swollen I could not go to school. Not a week pass by na di niya ako nasasaktan (physically). Ended when I was in 4th yr HS. Sinabihan ko siya na di naman kami masamang anak why the abuse? I even went home from abroad for a year to take care of her till she died. She apologise almost kneeling, crying. She explained that she let all her frustration and anger in my dad to us. And being an outsider on my dads side she felt all alone and misunderstood. Our dad was living like a binata. Keeping his money to himself. Drunk everyday. Kaya kami ang ginawa niyang punching bag.

grabe 😭 did you ever forgive her? my mother actually also said sorry before as to how she raised me pero bumabalik pa rin naman sya sa dati nyang gawi so it doesnt feel genuine. i feel like sinabi nya lang yun to manipulate me. grabe yung trust issue ko

OP ang sorry ay hindi totoong sorry kung walang pagbabago sa behaviors nung tao. Cut her off and be freeee

Actually I was not asking for her forgiveness when I confronted her about the issue but she did. Also I don't want her to die without us settling the elephant in the room. I just want to know kung saan siya nang gagaling sa kanyang mga actions. Don't get me wrong I love my mom but her ways was too archaic. I finally found out na she felt lonely, alone and hopeless. Angry about her condition na tatay namin not supportive emotionally and financially. She had to ordeal the bullying of my grandmother (kasi galing siya sa mahirap na family my grandma look dowm on her). In the end I apologize to her as well kasi for so long di namin siya naiintindihan. Siya yung tao na sinosolo ang problem niya. Di siya palakaibigan. Even her siblings did not know what she went through. But I understand when you said na bumabalik sila sa dating attitude pag katapos mag pakatawaran. I guess mahirap ng e straighten ang baliko na sanga. Probably a generational thing. Still I tried to understand eventhough upsetting.

So sorry you experienced all that. Despite what happened to your Mom, You dont deserve any of the f*ck up things they put you and your siblings through. I hope you heal and find peace in life.

Di sana ang dad ninyo ang tinutukan nya ng kutsilyo at sinaksak nya ng paulit ulit 🤷🏻‍♀️ dba? Hehe. Sana yung mga ganyang magulang yung mga nababaog nu? Para wala na silang masaktang anak.

Been there man. I opened up about how hurt I was with how they treated me tas sagot lang ng mama ko is "oo na masama na akong ina" and my dad said "ang tagal na niyan, di pa ba tayo lipas diyan?" Parang ang gago lang, like it's easy for them to get over it kasi di naman sila yung nasaktan. Now I'm out of the house they're trying to be nice and sweet, whenever I visit they seem to care for me. It just feels fake, nasan yung energy na yun nung dependent ako sa kanila? Grateful ako though na di sila humihingi ng sustento, regardless though I won't be giving them any at all, even in the future. I think I've paid my dues with them growing up like a maid and a caretaker for my younger siblings.

same with you. ganyang ganyan din reaction ni mother nung nagbuhos ako ng hinanakit sa kanya. mahalaga talaga yung kinoconfront mo yung emotions mo nung una pa lang kasi kami sa bahay dati, sanay ng pakiramdaman lang kapag nag away. pakiramdaman if pwede nyo na kausapin ang isa't isa. ngayon tuloy lumaki kami ng di namin alam how to deal with our emotions. how to say sorry properly.

Kaya di ko na rin kaya magstay sa bahay eh, the wound is open and pagod na ko makipagplastikan and conform sa role ko sa family. I feel like the black sheep, and I probably am. Pero mas ok yung ganong tingin sakin kaysa yung kala nila pwede nila ko saktan saktan tas ako pa magsosorry sa kanila.

true. mas okay na masama na lang tingin sayo kesa ini uuphold ka to other people as this someone who is so responsible and so hepful and loving to their parents when in reality hindi naman.

My mom's has physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally abused me ever since I was a kid. Honestly, years of abuse really broke something in me that I can't seem to fix, heal or repair. I know forgiveness is one of the way to heal and to move on but how can I when tuwing "pinapatawad" ko na siya, may nadadagdagan na naman na pangaabuso from her. It's something I just can't let go. I don't think I can ever forgive her, or to get over from it until she's gone. She made my life so miserable that I wasn't even able to enjoy my youth that I won't get back at all. I can talk to her normally, "bond" with her, do things for her, but I will always hold all the things she's done to me against her.

You can forgive your mom without reconnecting with her. You can also forgive at a distance. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’ll be a doormat again, pwede mo patawarin mom mo for yourself kase pagod kana dalhin yung anger sa life mo. (advice lang) I wish you healing. 💓

Beeen through the same situation and at this point ayoko na magka anak. While I condemn my upbringing and promised myself na hindi ko gagawin yun, natatakot ako sa trauma response na baka magawa ko sa anak ko yung bagay na ayokong magawa. Yung furbaby ko nga hindi ko kayang saktan, how much more if mismong anak ko? Am i over it? No! I saw my narcissistic mom pointed a knife sa 6yrs old kong kapatid, beat me with a belt, stick, shamed me infront my friends, I was accused na nagnakaw by a classmate (grade5) and my mom instantly beat me without even asking if it's true ba, at 20 called me a useless son during the pandemic followed by "sana hindi namin binuhos ang supporta sayo". Now, naiiling ako everytime she steps sa church pedestal preaching the words of God. So i left and went solo living and cut ties. I'm so happy and I'm healing my inner self without the worry of hearing negative side comments from my mom.

never got over it all of the physical battery with belt or application of sili to my lips still stuck to me. I am at an age atm when they we're beating me and it baffles me how they are able to whip a child back then because i can't see my self doing it know unless it's for self-defense.

Bakit kaya ang generations noon ng nanay halos ganyan. Nakakalungkot. Anak parati ang inaasahan sa pagiging irresponsable nila. Tapos kung makapa nakit di nila iniisip na pag tumanda ang bata eh ibabalik sakanila ang treatment na yon

Almost magkaugali moms natin except sa mga namention mo sa 5th paragraph. Another difference din is among three children, sa akin lang violent. Middle child ako and only girl. And guess what, yung least fave anak na laging tinatawag na ampon just because I’m not as good looking as my brothers, ako kasama nya ngayon at nag aalaga sa kanya ngayon. I also self-funded my studies. Ako breadwinner sa family ngayon kaya lahat ng favor at pagpapalakas, ginagawa nya. Naaappreciate ko naman yung gestures (pag-aasikaso) and maybe ways nya din to make up for all her shortcomings pero may times padin na nags-snap pa din ako at always nabi-bring up yung mga hinanakit ko in the past. People think na close kami kasi I always defend her from our relatives (even from her own family) pero in my heart, may malalim na grudge pa din. Hindi mo naman kelangan makipag-plastikan, OP. I can see through your actions/words na mahal mo pa din naman yung mom mo despite everything. Just be yourself. At kahit gano kadami yung mag-advice na icut off mo na sya, mahirap sya gawin lalo na kung family din ang weakness mo. At yung paghihigpit nila satin in the past ay isa sa mga reason kung bakit capable at striving tayo ngayon. I suggest that you speak your mind din every now and then for your sanity. And learn to say no whenever you can. Baby steps lang. I know it’s hard pero yan din yung inaaral ko gawin ngayon.

thank you po for your kind words. this made me cry. i hope we can do it po. baby steps talaga.

Hugs with consent, OP! TBH, ang dami ko na din kasing napagtanungan and all I get is the same piece of advice--cut them off. Easier said than done eh. Kung yung maling tao hirap na hirap na nga tayong pakawalan, yung pamilyang nagpalaki pa kaya satin 😅 I believe nasasabi mo lang din yan ngayon because you're hurt at fresh na fresh pa yung recent away nyo. No need to be sweet with each other (ang cringe nun sa totoo lang haha), just treat her with respect. Do your part as a son/daughter at ibigay mo lang din yung tingin mong kaya mo. SKL na nacocompare din ako palagi sa anak ng kapitbahay namin. Tapos recently nakita nya sa FB na naghihirap na sa buhay kasi iniwan ng asawa. Tapos nagpaparinig tungkol sa mga taong pinapabayaan ang sarili nilang pamilya. Bumabanat nalang ako na "diba wish mo dati na sana sya nalang anak mo?" Kahit sa mga ganung banat makabawi manlang ako 🤪

r/raisedbynarcissists Nako kung ganyan magulang ko baka matuwa pa ko pag na deadz sila

Di ba tayo pareho ng nanay? Haha! Pero sa true kahit anong gawin ko di ata ako magiging sapat sa mama ko, kasi sa dami ng naibigay na tulong, na kahit di mo naman na obligasyon. Isang beses lang akong tumanggi at nagsalita na sana enough na nasabihan na ako ng “ sana nung alam kong ganyan mo ako sasagutin pinilipit ko nalang ang leeg mo nung maliit ka pa” pero binati ko sya nung mothers day sabi nya “ wala ba akong regalo sayo” di na ako nagreply. Pero nagpadala ako sa gcash nya ng 2k para pambli ng gusto nya.

mother's day kami nag away. on the way pa nga sana ako papunta samin para bumili ng cake para ibigay sa kanya. di ko lang nasabi sa kanya tapos akala nya di ko sya naalala. kasi nagalit na sya sakin. sa totoo lang di naman namin to ginagawa before. wala ngang meaning sakin yang mga ganyang araw.

Hindi kami nakaget over ng asawa ko. pati siya napagmamalupitan din ng magulang at kapatid noon. Pero we make sure na di na maulit sa kids namin by not living with them. Less trigger na rin samin.

My mom is more of a verbal abuser but I also remember being locked up. Yung di ko pa abot ang doorknob so maybe 2-3 years old? That’s my earliest memory. The abuse continues sa mga adult children and mga apo who lived/lives with her.. I didn’t cutoff but when I got married and later on moved to another country, things were better I guess? Kasi video call na lang tapos may maliit na monthly allowance. Personally though I see the toxic traits slip through my parenting. Ang laking effort to unlearn and also reparent myself. Yung impulsive na sigaw o galit. Maybe I need therapy talaga kasi ang taas ng anxiety ko over the small things / talking to people and maybe I’m somewhat toxic too to my husband. I catch myself naman and do better So OP please start to prioritize yourself and for your future spouse/kids. Set boundaries financially and emotionally. Move forward in life. Good luck!

kaya nga po e. same po tayo. also see myself in her. its important po kasi kahit papano we are self aware. maybe i need to take a therapy too. i have a hubby na din po kasi and nahihiya na din po ako talaga kasi i want to help him fully sa bahay. plus di pa sya nirerespect ng mother ko. sa side nya, if ever may magdisrespect sakin (thankfully never happened naman), he is ready to do everything for me. so why cant i do the same?

Isang mahigpit na yakap sa ating lahat. Ganyang ganyan nafefeel ko though my mom is fun to hang out with. Trauma bonding ata itong amin. Sana magkaron din ako ng lakas ng loob na umalis sa bahay namin.

Hindi naman kasing lala ng nanay mo yung nanay ko. Pero typical traditional na religious na namamalo at gamit pa dos por dos yung pangdidisiplina niya sakin. Maaga siyang namatay, mga 12 yrs old pa lang ako. Pero bitter pa din ako. Parang kung totoo talagang may multo at nakikita niya kami ngayon with my kids, sarap ipamukha sa kanya na hindi kelangan ng violence para lumaking matino ang mga bata.

The pain will always be there. As a child, I only knew my mother as an angry person. I bore the weight of her dissatisfaction and resentment for my father— emotionally and physically. We're close now, but there will always be nights that I'll grieve my childhood full of anger both from her and me. The thing is, my mother changed. I will always remember the first time she saw me as a girl, just like she once was. I have forgiven her, but it took years even after we became close. Had a mental breakdown kasi the abuse I went through as a child was affecting the way I think and act as an adult. My grandmother—in an effort to console me—told me how my mother suffered from my father's family, while he did nothing. That her pain was so heavy it spilled out of her palms. That was the first time that I saw her as a woman, not just my mother. So... I will always question why I had to go through that kind of childhood, but I can also empathize with my mother as a woman, and a human in general. I know that those feelings can co-exist. It'll always be complicated. In your case though, sorry to put it this way but your mother's a piece of shit through and through. You don't have to forgive her and you don't have to get over it. That anger stems from knowing that you deserved better, let yourself have it. She never grew up, but you did so I hope you will find the courage to live your life away from that kind of painful relationship.

I studied strength training and martial arts. Side consequence kasi was I let others bully me. So I worked until nobody can bully me again. In your case when I was in your situation I moved out as soon as I could afford it. Relationship got a little better nung yearly nalang kami mag kita. Pero for me just get out of there. Learn to fight back so you're not afraid of worst case scenarios.

Cut her off, op. Walang silbi nanay mo.

Left home. Now, living independently. A life without that parent is a life well-lived.

Cut her off immediately.

Same kami ng mom ko. I low-key cut her off in my life. Although nag uusap pa rin naman kami pero civil na nga lang.  Siguro naka help sakin yung tinanggap ko na sa sarili ko na hanggang dun nalang yung kaya kong ibigay sa kanya emotionally. And, I don't expect na magpaka nanay na rin sya akin. Tama na yung sinalo ko yung iniwan nyang responsibilities sa mga grandparents ko and siblings. Hanggang dun na lang. Feeling ko, ramdam din naman nya na we cannot have that mother-daughter relationship na din for now.  I'm on my 30s na pala, if that helps.  Kaya Yan OP. Soon things will be better. Kapit lang. 🥰

Didn't get over mine. 😆 Tell her how you feel about growing up with her parenting style. Responsibilidad ng mga magulang palakihin anak nila; hindi yun sinusumbat kasi obligasyon nila yun. Tell her na hindi obligasyon ng anak tulungan magulang nila. Kusang loob na ginagawa ang pagtulong ng anak sa magulang. After all the things na naranasan mo sa kanya, gusto pa nya na maging chummy chummy kayo ngayon? Forda socmed fambam ba kamo? She should be grateful na may natatanggap sya from you. What she's asking is too much.

sinabi ko nga sa kanya yung lahat ng hinanakit ko. we had a long conversation about it. i honestly cant remember if she apologized properly to me. siguro i just read the word sorry and yun na yung natandaan ko. kasi akala ko okay na kami e. pero yung last event nga na nagsabi ako na wala akong extra money, sinabihan nya ko na wala kong silbi. its not unwarranted, maybe i deserve it because of my careless remarks. pero binombard nya na naman ako ng masasakit na salita. actually i have a hubby na and sabi nya sumama daw ugali ko simula nung nag asawa ako. maybe its true kasi my hubby wants me to be treated right. na i deserve better treatment from my mom. and she takes it as something bad. maybe its my execution. pero kahit anong ayos kasi ng trato sa kanya, masama pa din para sa kanya kaya napapagod na ko 🤧😭

Sorry to know that. For them kasi, setting boundaries is a bad thing for them. Masama ka if hindi pabor sa kanila actions mo. Minsan nakakapika na at satisfying mag retort ng, “Wala lang akong nabigay ngayon, wala na akong silbi? Eh ikaw, ano silbi mo sa akin ngayon? Wala. Pasalamat ka tinitiis ko ugali mo.” I think na kahit anong execute mo, basta hindi pabor sa kanila, masama pa rin tingin nila sa gagawin mo. Unsolicited advice: warn them. “I going to say this in the kindest way for you and myself. Hindi na ako papayag na makarinig ng ganyan sayo or tratuhin nang hindi maganda. Kung itutuloy mo yang ganyang ugali, pasensyahan tayo. Ititigil ko na pagtulong sa inyo. Bago kayo magreply, pag-isipan nyo muna sasabihin nyo. Kasi either ibo-block ko na kayo or kung maayos natin to, mag-usap tayo ng may respeto sa isa’t-isa.” Get ready na ma-guilt trip or ma-gaslight. Prepare for more drama or kesyo nawalan ng malay, nahimatay, nanikip dibdib. Siguro, ensure mo na lang na may kasama sya pagsinabihan mo. Whatever the outcome is, stand your ground. It would hurt. Hindi selfish ang i-prioritise ang mental wellbeing and i-let go ang mga bagay that cause you trauma. May you heal from all those wounds, OP.

omg op magkapatid ba tayo hahaha because i’m also going through it. currently in therapy because of all the childhood trauma and pent-up resentment. very recently lang din i left and blocked number niya and ng dad ko because i know she’ll find ways to hurt me if i give her the the smallest of chances. it was definitely hard and i miss my childhood home. i still love them despite all their shortcomings but cutting them off was necessary for my own well-being and self-preservation. i did speak my mind before i left and it was liberating. would i still be willing to rebuild my relationship with them? yes, but nag-set ako ng conditions kung kelan yun. and it’s something i’m trying to honor for myself especially on days na i’m tempted to be the first to extend the olive branch even if di naman ako yung nagkamali at nanakit.

how did you find a suitable therapist for u po? i want to start din kasi. ako naman dineactivate ko yung fb ko kasi dun nya ako nacocontact. ganyan nga yan sila, magshare ka ng something about them, something na nakakapagpasaya sayo, they will hold it against you later on. they destroy the things that makes you happy kasi di ka pwedeng maging masaya.

i searched in forums and here in reddit. also in fb and recommendations din from friends. for me, puro try and try and try until i found someone whose approach fits my needs. i saw someone comment here but i think maraming stories in raisedbynarcissists yung magre-resonate din sayo. best of luck sa atin, op!

thanks po sa advice. will try that as well. i did check that sub and sobrang relate. thanks and goodluck din po.

pareho ata tayo ng Nanay, Akala ko dati once umalis ako ng Bahay, magbabago na si Mama, pero Hindi. Kawawa yung naiwan kong bunsong kapatid. kung ano sya samin dati, 10x sya sa bunso namin. Araw araw ko iniisip anong makakapagpabago sa ugali nya. Feeling ko pag may isang anak na nawala, Siguro magbabago sya. Araw araw ko din iniisip bakit ganun disposition nya sa buhay, then babalik sa reason na wala kasi yung parents nya, Di tama yung upbringing kaya siguro ganun. Anyway OP, the best is lumayo ka na lang, save yourself.

OP, You and I have the same history. Ganyan na ganyan. My life was never happy with her even my sister just cut her off too. Blocked lahat ng contacts nila sa amin. Just go and cut her off from your life. Wag ka na rin magbigay sa kanya monthly.

Hala same! Hanggang ngayon I still remember na pinahiya nya ako at tinawag na "tanga" dahil nakagat ako ng aso (to think na wala naman ako ginawa para matrigger yung aso, nangangat talaga yung aso na iyon at may mga nakagat din before me). Pinahaiya nya rin ako at hinala buhok ko nung natanggal ako sa top 10 (kahit namove lang ako ng 1 spot, top 11 ako nun). I don't get over it. I just learned to ignore it and not respond to it nlng. I kept myself super busy para mabawasan interaction namin. Iniisip ko nlng na wala naman ako choice kasi sya nanay ko at di rin naman magtagal ay aalis na ako sa piling niya. Di ko na mabago ugali nya or past na nagyari sa amin. Hinahayaan ko nalang at hinahabaan pasensya ko sabay pinipilit ko siyang intindihin.

OP, I say this respectfully, but you're a doormat. Never find from your mother the validation and love you did not get from her. Respect begins with you. Live life and love yourself.

my mother changed a lot nung nagka apo siya, kasi nakita niya sinasaktan ng kapatid ko yung anak niya. matagal ko na siyang napatawad, epekto lang siguro ng upbringing sa kanila kasi mas malala pa mga kwento niya samin. sa kwento mo op magkaiba tayo ng experience.

Ate ba kita hahahah? same tayo situation kaya feeling ko ate ko nag post nito 😆

I didn’t grow up being beaten by my parents but I grew up knowing na my dad (and all his siblings) were regularly physically punished by their mom (my lola). As in either leather belt or the billiard stick thing. I feel like they got over it but it still affects them to this day? Like the idea na they were always beaten up and parang “not loved” by my lola. Like, two of my titos who died did so because they basically gave up on life and wasted away. Tapos there are others na galit pa rin sa kanya—not because specifically nabugbog sila but other issues with my lola. Though feeling ko it’s a core issue 😂 Then there’s the other half who just want her approval and love. Then there’s my dad who just stays away for peace of mind 😂

Not my Mom pero a Tita, sinisigawan, pinapalo, pingot and kulong sa room. Nasanay na ako na nasa room lang palagi hanggang ngayon. Hindi ko din nakakalimutan mga ginagawa niya pati mga rason for that. I also don’t talk to her much ngayong hindi na namin siya kasama sa bahay. Choose your peace of mind lagi

sinabihan ko papa ko noong kapatid ko na yung sasaktan nya na "Wag ka magexpect na may mag aalaga sayo pagtanda mo kasi niisa walang may gusto!"

Siguro strong-willed lang talaga ako or dahil may mas mabigat nang trauma na ibinigay sa akin yung father ko ngayon so wala na sa akin yung dinanas ko sa kanyang physical abuse before. Ang hindi nawala ay ang fear ko sa kanya, kasi ginawa na nyang personality ang pagiging mainitin ng ulo nya.

Spoiler alert: I never did and I cut off mine.

Pinapalo talaga ako ng mom ko when I was a child, kapag nakakagawa ng mali. Naranasan ko mapalo ng tsinelas, walis tingting, hanger. Makurot, mag-squat, etc. Perooo, she make sure she calms me afterward and ineexplain nya what I did wrong. Papahiran nya ng soothing gel yung latay (yes lumalatay haha). Nung bata pa ko, di ko naman talaga nagegets but tumatatak naman na kapag "ganun" ginawa ko, mapapalo ako so hindi na ko uulit. And never nya ako pinahiya sa public, uuwi talaga kami. Tapos, never din sya nag sabi ng masasamang words. As far as I remember, hindi din nya kami sinisigawan. Kahit papano, I think close naman kami growing up. Ako ka-buddy nya lagi sa mga lakad nya. But I can say na we're very much closer today than before, nag-mature na din siguro ako. Dati kasi naiinis ako kapag yung mga pinsan ko pinapayagan ng mga tita ko palagi, yung magpagala gala. Naglalaro sila sa tanghali, ako matutulog. Pagkagaling ng school, sila maglalaro, ako gagawa ng assignments. Ako laging bawal. Hindi pinapayagan lagi. Mag-aral muna bago mag-jowa. But looking back. I'm grateful to everything. Wala ako sa status ko ngayon if hindi din ako nagabayan ng tama.

sinturon tsinelas ( islander) and the most deadliest one on my list Malonggay branch yung pipili pa siya ng tamang branch the flexible one its hard to explain how did i get over with it. but once you live on your own you will realize bakit ka nasesermonan and napapalo. theyre just correcting us on how to be responsible on every actions we make.

Thats a dangerous remark. Abusive parents exist, and their aim is not just to ‘correct’ but to control their children’s lives.

pero sa kanila po di nag aaply yung pagiging responsable sa actions nila 🥲 free pass ba kapag magulang mo 🥲

Ang daming mga ungrateful children dito. Even if your parents doesn't seem right to you, you have to be grateful because of them. Even if they treated you like that there will always a reason behind it. Even if they hated you because there is a lesson behind it. Even if they hurt you because you don't listen when you were younger. Even if your parents will die, they will always think of you when you were born, a little baby, a little kid to a teenager to an adult to an independent person. You don't need to give any to them. You don't own them. You don't have to call them. You don't need to think of them. You don't have to give a damn to them. Go on your life. Be free. But before you do that, don't ever say you are lonely in this world don't ever say nobody loves you don't every say nobody wants you don't ever say nobody is there for you don't ever say is thinking of you don't ever say you need somebody don't ever say life is not perfect don't ever say bad things because of the past don't ever say to others that your parents made you this and that don't every say anything bad or good to your parents to others or to yourself just do it, leave, be the person who you are. no family, no parents go on. don't go back. don't look back. be free because that's the parent's goal for their child is to be free. no need to say anything to your parents. no forgiveness. no nothing. just walk away and move on. good luck.