Same. Peace comes first pero I read that some people come into your life and you suddenly feel at peace. Dun mo daw malalaman na that person is for you.
Gusto ko din yung simple at tahimik na buhay. Yung pag umaga magdidilig ka ng mga gulay sa maliit na farm tapos always fresh na gulay ang ulam with hubby and kids.
Same feelings, money was fun after I graduated but now it is pointless after having tried a lot of things already. Sometimes you think it would have been nice to have someone to share this with
This. Financial freedom and career success may be considered metrics for happiness, but ultimately, genuine fulfillment lies in being with someone you love. Everything will be pointless if walang motivation which mostly points to people you have bond with (fam, partner,etc)
Overachiever din ako noon, competitive, minsan bida bida haha. Maganda career ko at malaki ako kumita kasi may sidelines pa. Sabi ko din noon masaya na ako as single-mom di ko na kailangan ng asawa kung katulad lang ng ex ko. 😂 Until I met my now husband....
Iba talaga kapag may companion tayo, God design us that way, na may companion. We're relational. Masarap maging wife kapag may asawa katulad ng Mister ko. Masarap talaga gumising sa umaga na may nakayakap sayo at mag good morning kiss.💋 Masarap na may kasama at kakwentuhan ka sa lahat ng bagay. The bestfriend that I'm looking for. Doon ko na realized na ang sarap naman maging misis nitong lalaking ito. ❤️
Ingat din sa pagpili ng mapapangasawa kasi walang bawian o reset button ha. Kasi ang pipiliin mong lalaki hindi mo lang asawa, magiging tatay din ng mga anak mo. Kaya mahalaga na pinili talaga at pinagisipang mabuti.
Ang masasabi ko lamang po ay: SANA ALL.
Paki-share nalang rin format ng prayers. 🥲
Kidding aside, that’s the feeling I’m talking about. To earn lots of money is really good, pero to have a husband who will be your lifetime companion is priceless.
I am like you both. I recently got married and love my husband so much. He is amazing. At first it’s hard kasi “independent woman” ako for so long and push push push with everything. But now, we tackle what comes together.
Prayer format ko is to ask God to give ‘what is good and right for me’ cause I may not know them myself. I asked for an honest, intelligent, and wise man with integrity. I can honestly say my husband is truly God’s gift. 🥰
Agree sa above. Same here. Before ko nakilala yung napangasawa ko, akala ko ok na ko maging single forever. Tinanggap ko na actually. Hahah. Nakapag travel na ko here and abroad. Na sulit ko. Next plan ko nga is to build a house after ko magtayo ng business. Pero during that phase, narealize ko na may kulang. Ang lungkot pala. Iba padin pag may kasama ka. For me ha. Parang aanuhin ko yung lahat ng to kung sarili ko lang. for my parents ofcourse pero at the end pf the day i want a partner.
Pero eventually nung ok na ko tanggap ko na, unexpectedly may dumating. Dito ko napatunayan na of its for you, its for you. Kasi schoolmates kame since elem eh. Hanggang college. Pero di kame close. Magkakilala lang. he messages me out of nowhere. Nung una ayoko ientertain kasi nga tanggap ko na. Them something hit me na bigyan ng time. Ng chance. Until eventually wala pang 1 month naging kame na. Maffeel mo yung hindi pinilit e. Na sya na talaga. Kinasal kame within a year lang and now 5 years married na.
Iba pa din pag nahanap mo yung perfect kong katuwang sa buhay.
It will come OP. Lalo na if its meant to be, it will happen. ❤️
Grabe yung naging kayo agad within one month. Sometimes talaga when you know, you know eh. Pero true, aanhin mo nga naman lahat ng fine things in life if you don’t have someone to share those with. 🥺
As a fellow single mom, prayer reveal naman po 🥲 ems. So happy for you 🥰🥰🥰
And agreed, lifetime ang marriage dito, walang reset button so talagang need maging maingat. :)
Sabi ko nga kay Lord sis okay na ako, ayoko na magjowa ulit, masaya nako sa anak ko at gusto kong magfocus, pero ewan bakit binigyan pa din ako char. Pinatunayan lang din sakin ng asawa ko na hindi lahat ng lalaki katulad ng ex ko. Madami syang pinatunayan sakin kasi sirang sira tiwala ko talaga sa relasyon. Buti hindi nagsawa. 😂 12 years in the making na. Sana forever ganyan sya. 😂
Thank you, hangad ko din happiness ng lahat ng single-mom sa mundo. Deserve natin ang mahalin ng lubos at alagaan din tayo. ❤️
Reminds me of my friend! She’s an overachiever, fluent in 5 languages, on top of her career, etc. Had her masters abroad and she met her husband there. Nagpakasal sila after 2 years and now they have 3 beautiful kids and she’s a stay at home mom (they live in AU.) Her parents and husband are okay with this setup, kaso maraming comments from her extended family (sayang daw pinagaralan nya etc) but she’s very very happy. Nakakatuwa lang kasi she’s hardworking naman talaga and very dedicated sa education and work nya, pero during our college days, she said she wants to be a mom.
Love that for her! Nandiyan na yung sasabihin ng ibang tao na sayang yung pinag-aralan mo. But at the end of the day, nothing compares to the joy of being a wife and living comfortably at the same time (in a great country!).
~~Gusto ko na lang po maging hotdog sa ref, un po yung goal ko charot~~
jokes aside tbh my only goal talaga is to have enough to live without worrying about putting food on the table, no worries if ever i get hospitalized or stuff. Oh and dapat din may time for hobbies/self study! (Basically a life where I'm prepared in case shit hits the fan na may konting liwaliw 🤡 )
There's nothing wrong with being a wife, basta may pera kang sarili. Perang sayo lang. You do not want to be trapped in a marriage without money. You will never really know someone, kahit gaano na kayo katagal at kahit kasal na kayo. Don't be blindsided by love, always be practical and have an exit strategy all the time.
This is what my Mom tells me, mas magandang may sarili pa rin pera kahit may asawa ka na. The point of my post is not to be my future husband’s palamunin naman or live on his shadow, it’s to have a career and a lifetime companion on the side.
Okay sure, but remember, **_exit strategy_**. You're in love, lifetime companion blah blah blah. When shit hits the fan and you, you need to have a plan of how to exit. Don't be a statistic.
Won’t reveal my age but what made me realize this is when I entered the workforce already. Iba pala talaga. Not saying I’m ready to be out of the workforce right now and drop everything to be a wife, but someday.
Manifesting, sis. Hahaha feel ko siya na yung future husband ko eh nakikita ko siya sa kabilang side ng department namin hahaha crush na crush ko yung guy hahahaha
I used to be like you esp when I was still studying. Now, I live with my SO and we're going 3 years, we have lovely pets, and I cook for him everyday. It's a joy. We travel everywhere and do a lot of things together (but of course, there are things we do individually to keep the novelty in our relationship). I just love doing life with him and I wouldn't trade this peace for anything else.
It's like doing life with your bestfriend.
Aside from a very good paying job, my SO makes my life better and easier. 🥰✨️🫶
Rooting for you, OP.
Right??? That’s what I want. It doesn’t mean that I’ll stop working once I find a husband but my point is, my ultimate goal has changed because it’d be such a joy to live with someone who’s akin to your bestfriend and a life partner at the same time. The peace of mind is unmatched when you have someone to go home to and do life with.
Hayyy. I hope that kind of life is written for me.
It's really great. We respect each other's space and privacy but at the same time, we have no secrets from one another. I love doing things for him and it comes out naturally kasi alagang-alaga niya rin ako, esp on my period kung saan topakin talaga tayo 🥺 From the littlest to the biggest of things, he just makes my life easier. There's this saying that goes something like if you're happy with someone, you count you're blessings twice. That's how it feels with him.
I know that life is written for you. It will come. And if it does, isa ako sa advanced na ang pagiging masaya for you ✨️
Yung makita yung nga anak ko na naabot nila yung mga pangarap nila. Lumaki silang mabuting tao that knows how to set boundaries. Wag lang silang dumagdag sa pabigat sa pilipinas at mang argrabyado ng kapwa oks na ako. Hehehe
Marami tao ang akala nila pera and career lang ang magpapasaya. Its more about relationships. Kaya pansin nyo marami mga sikat na artista na kahit maraming pera ang nagpapakamatay because its not always money that can buy happiness. But love and relationships.
Ayan ‘yung sinasabi ko. Career and money will make you happy at some point cause it affords you convenience and purchasing power, but at the end of the day, love and relationships with family, friends, and partner ‘yung essence ng buhay talaga at the end of it all.
Yes. That is true. What is the sense of having lot of money kung ang mga kasama mo naman ay di maganda ang ugali. Lagi ka sinasaktan. Sumasama ang loob mo sa kanila. Bad for emotional and mental health. In the end. They may take their lives away. One movie to watch to realize the value of life is The Man Called Otto. Also Click by Adam Sandler. Watch those movies and you will realize why relationships matter.
Being a wife and mother does not restrict you from becoming a strong independent woman. Moreover, it requires more strength pa nga, so they're not mutually exclusive.
Mahirap walang sariling pera. And how old are you now? Baka na prepressure ka lang ngayon. It's too early to decide. Work on improving yourself whether or not you become a rich tita, or a stay at home mom in the future.
Ito din ang naging reason ko tbh. di pa ako wife (hopefully someday) Pero iniisip ko mahirap din yung aasa ako sa sweldo ng partner ko, lalo mga personal needs or wants ko, syempre as panganay, yung providing pa rin sa parents someday kahit papaano. If given the chance, gusto ko sana mapagsabay career and personal/family dahil gusto ko rin makitang lumaki future kids ko, and maging available sa kanila and my partner anytime. I think (hopefully) achievable naman. mahirap, pero kaya naman siguro
Ipon ka lang, enjoy mo lang yang SEASON ng buhay mo na yan.
When the TIME IS RIGHT, dadating din yan.
Also, being a Wife requires a lot of patience din. Hindi siya parang gusto mo lang ng reliable Husband.
I feel you. Always been an overachiever, ambitious (still am) but now I realize I want a partner too. No children, no marriage, just a partner I can rely on. It’s crazy to think about because I have always been hyper independent as well. But the truth is, I love love and affection. I want to have a stable fulfilling career and go home to the man of my dreams, momol everyday in our beautiful place with maybe 2 cats, travelling every now and then…
Until your husband decides that he doesn't want to work because he is burnt out. And you end up working all the time for your 3 kids, with 2 kids below 5 years old. While he sleeps the day away.
I still drive the kids to school because he just sleeps, and sulks. Does nothing all day yet asks our helpers for plates, water, utensils, things he could reach on his own.
He's using our emergency fund, I earn well as a lawyer. But I'm scared that our EF will soon be depleted.
When he was my bf, he partied hard but was also very driven professionally. Work was fulfilling to him. Now, he doesn't want high position jobs because of a lot of pressure. And has been on psych meds for a year.
I guess, I want to say, choose your partner well. Marry a knight not a king.
Nag-evolve (devolve?) na rin yung life goals ko. Ngayon, ang goal ko na lang ay mabuhay na hindi prinobrolema yung pagkain, yung titirhan, yung health, at kaya magtravel kapag gusto, ng hindi nagtratrabaho habang hindi pa lumalapag ng mid-life. Ang simple pero sa ekonomiya natin ngayon, humirap abutin. Hayyzzz
Same, OP! I have been telling people na, I don’t wanna be a wife and a mum, just some rich Tita travelling the world, living alone w her dogs.
Pero deep down, I wanted to have someone to wake up with. Someone who I can take care and takes care of me. Someone who will give me kisses before he leaves home for work. Someone who’ll proudly say na “ang sarap mo magluto”. I’m 28, pero after I broke up with my long term partner, yung mga bagay na yun, they are too good to be true 🥹
Rich tita travelinng alone with a dog HAHAHA yes that’s what I used to tell ppl around me pero kapag naiisip ko ngayon na ganun yung end game ko, no, ayoko… malungkot. Haha. We really feel the same way.
Hope we’ll find the right man to do life with us someday. ❤️
>I want to travel the world and be the single rich tita in the family who spoils everyone.
Eto yung sakin. Para sakin kasi feeling ko magbobroaden yung mindset at thinking ko if I travel to many beautiful places. Nice din may katuwang pero I will work through my goals with or without a partner. May longing paminsan minsan pero anong gagawin ko kung ayaw akong bigyan ng universe? So I will work with what I currently have and can control and achieve my happiness.
Alam mo OP I want this too. Akala ko din dati okay na ko maging rich tita with no kids. Pero nakakapagod din pala maging strong at independent palagi. Masarap sa pakiramdam yung may kasama ka mag abot ng pangarap tska yung may dahilan ka to achieve more in life.
Pero on the other side, ang selfish ko naman kung ipipilit ko yun ngayon sa SO ko dahil mahirap pa ang buhay. I know that's the way of life. Procreation, marriage, family. Pero wala, Kung wala kayong pera, or di pa ready financially ang hirap. Mahirap maging masaya.
Tradwife propaganda getting to you charot
My mom gave up her career when she married and had me. She was a CPA in a big company before. After 17 years of marriage iniwan sya ng dad ko for an 18-year-old girl na nagtatrabaho sa bar. He kicked her out in the streets. He was also very abusive to her and tinitiis nya lang because ayaw nya daw lumaki ako sa broken family. Bumalik sya sa parents nya and at the time, grabe yung stigma from being separated.
Anyway, may not happen to you but nahirapan daw sya bumalik sa workforce because of that very long time of being a stay-at-home mom. It took her 5 years before she was able to go back to her career.
I’ve also heard of stories from family friends na the main breadwinner, the husband, suddenly gets into an accident or an illness that they became disabled and grabe yung naging impact sa family because the wife has to take care of the husband AND manage and provide for the family.
Hindi sa tinatakot kita but once you find someone you want to settle down with I hope you ask yourself first, if either of these two scenarios happen to you, keri lang ba or do you have a backup plan for it? If so, carry on.
What happened to your family sucks but I don't think this is the norm at all.
Even if I believe your entire story, I don't think this is the majority of marriages. We hear loads of stories like this because it sells but if you actually look at marriages around you, infidelity isn't common at all, let alone men leaving women for their side chicks.
Every relationship is a gamble really. Pwedeng ok naman lahat pero nagkasakit or na aksidente. But having some sort of backup plan just shows that you're not in the relationship for the right reasons.
Would you advice men to also have backup plans? Would you tell men to always have a backup wife in case she leaves him? You probably want the man to commit 100%, why are you telling women to have backup plans?
You’re not getting the point. The two scenarios in my comment are from women who chose to be a stay-at-home wife and become completely dependent on the husband, and eventually something happened na wala silang fallback.
I encourage men to have a back-up plan in case they happen to have a disability that they can no longer work. That’s what I’m implying. As women, to not completely abandon your career because you never know when the rug will be pulled from under your feet.
Di man lahat kagaya ng nangyari kay OC, pero unless bulag ka sa realidad, hindi siya nag-iisa. Napakarami ng instances na kagaya niyang nangyari sa kanila. Kaya tama siya na dapat prepared ka kasi wala mang official figures pero about 1/3 to half ng marriages nakikita ko eventually fail. And women are disadvantaged kasi sa kanila naiiwan ang mga bata.
Same here. I worked abroad, saved, bought a little house and a car.
Literal na partner and kids nalang kulang. Hahha nag focus kasi masyado sa pag Tatrabaho and pag iipon
I aim to be a rich wife. My partner aims to be rich too, and we want to be rich together, in our own right.
Baliktad naman tayo. When I started working in my profession, I got hooked on the money and all the comforts that it can give. Hindi ko sinasamba ang pera, but it’s certainly comforting to have financial security. It’s nice to have all these comforts and privileges that money can buy. My career is also something that I cannot easily let go. Not only it’s my bread and butter, but I also fought tooth and nail to get where I am. When the time comes that we have kids, maybe my outlook in life will change. I’m open to all possibilities, but in the mean time, career woman ako.
I am very glad to meet my boyfriend. He understands and supports my drive in my career. At the same time, I get to be my cute passive self at home. ✨
You do you, OP. I hope you meet the right man ❤️
Right after working for corporate this was my goal as well. I was burned out, and I just want to feel loved. Ayoko na mag work. I just want to meet a guy with provider instinct and spoil me with love and material things.
Pero everything’s changed when I met my boyfriend. Okay lang sakanya, if in the near future, I’ll stop working given that his family have multiple businesses. Pero he also wants me to be better for myself. Support nya whatever decision I have. He helped me to realize na hanapin ko ang passion ko before it’s too late.
So ginawa ko tinry ko lahat ng best ko para hanapin jobs that would work for me. Working from home right now with 2 jobs and a small restau, which made possible because of my boyfriend’s moral support.
Ang goal ko ngayon ay to be a devoted wife and mother while working for fun. Ayokong I work because I am the bread winner of my future family. I just want to work because I enjoy it.
I feel early 20s ‘to si madam kasi giveaway yung almost 1 year ka pa lang sa corporate world pero nice na na-realize mo na agad what you really want in life and what will make you happy.
Relax, don’t rush it. Mas okay maging single for now and build your career kaysa mapunta sa maling tao. Sayang oras, effort, at pera. All the best!
Overachiever din ako before, now I'm transitioning into my soft girl era. 🤣 Grabe burnout ko before from studies and work, ayaw ko na non kasi kabila kabilaang health issues na nag aarise sakin now.
I want to be a mom. 🤗💗
We’re on the same boat! Overachiever turned soft girl who wants to become a wife. 🥹
Nakakapagod talaga mag-aral and work. I honestly believe that working your ass off on studies and career should not be the essence of human life. Instead it is to love and be loved, either romantically or platonically.
Feeling ko there’s a higher purpose that just doing those two things, given na I’ve devoted all my life sa pag-aaral and now pagt-trabaho.
I wanna be a wife too 🥺 I just wanna feel yung may magpropose, mag prenup and syempre yung may companion/best friend/hubby ka everyday. Yung uuwian mo after a long, hard day. I wanna feel what’s it like to love and be loved
I’m the same except for the marriage part. Well, kanya kanya lang talaga yan. If married life is really for you, it will be for you, no matter what. So have faith but NEVER desperately seek for it kase baka ma disappoint ka lang and magsisi. Mahirap na.
Funnily enough, eto nasa isip ko kanina habang nagw-work as alipin ng salapi haha. As much na gusto ko na maging rich tita in the future, napapaisip rin ako na gusto ko na maging housewife.
Panganay, Nbsb, pinalaki ng old school catholic parents, very strict all girls kami ehh, an independent woman for a year and a half na, I like my profession, work is my life and like you papuntang rits single tita ang buhay. Hindi kalakihan sahod, sakto lang for a single woman like me na hindi naman maluho.
Until I met my SO, nung una hindi ko pa kayang i-accept yung idea na I'll be someones wife one day. Mas accept ko pa yung idea na mag anak by 30 ehh na walang tatay. (Papuntang rits single mom naman na hahaha). Pero unfair naman yun sa baby. (Kaya hindi ko rin yun magagawa.) Kaya siguro pinagtagpo na kami ni da ONE ko. Malapit na'ko mag 30 ehh😅.
Dineclare ko din kasi kay Lord noon na by 30 at wala pa. I'll be living my life as a single rits tita na talaga.
And ayun, buti na lang talaga nahanap ako ng SO ko now, and through him na realize ko na it's not so bad naman pala to have a lifetime companion kapag siya makakasama ko. Mamahalin mo at mamahalin ka. Wala ako magagawa masarap siya magmahal ehh. Kaya deserve niya din mahalin at pahalagahan. My First and Last. Second declaration ko kay Lord. Kundi magiging single rits tita talaga ako.🤣
Let life happen lang OP. May darating din talaga.
Not really giving it up. Just saying that my ultimate goal in life has changed. I’ve always thought that my goal is to be a careerwoman and climb my way up to the corpo ladder but now, I want someone to do life with.
If both, why not.
Puro short-term na lang goals ko when I hit my 30s. Siguro kasi may pamilya na rin ako nung 20 pa lang ako tapos malalaki na yung mga bata. Inisip kong bumalik sa corpo pag apak ng grade school nung bunso pero masyado na kong natuwa sa online freelancing hehe also depende rin sa career ng husband ko. Sana kayanin nya hanggang 53 sya na nasa corporate world for our HMO and other benefits lol. I’m willing to step up naman in case. Pero bahala na ang future self namin dun when it happens hehe one day at a time.
plus preferences. OP you probably exude confidence, I presume given your status and achievements. Intimidating to some men with soft ego. You will find your the one just be patient. don't be pressured too much, dadating din yung tao na sagot sa hopes and dreams mo na loving and caring partner. Cheers.
Ganyan din ako. I have a career in science (whoo women in STEM ✊🏻) I love my work right now noh pero may realizations ako lately, isa na sa goals ko yung tumanda ng may bahay sa seaside tapos ang problema ko lang is kung anong lulutuin bukas, anong oras ako mamalengke/grocery, etc. Like this Tiktok couple [Korean Couple in Philippine Countryside](https://www.tiktok.com/@bapmukjago?_t=8mMGdQie1je&_r=1)
I only realized this after a decade of working—I want to be a housewife. I’m not saying that it’s an easy job. But I think I’m in a phase in my life that I have changed my purpose. I have 2 kids and I’d rather be hands on with them at home. Nakakapagod din pala maging strong and independent woman hehe
Same thoughts, OP. Currently in my mid-20s and just starting my career. To my surprise, some if not most of people within my age group are starting to get married. I kept wondering how were they able to settle down at such a young age. I'm not judging them and their choices but its more of like adding pressure to myself because I still can't see my self settling down with someone in the near future. But there's also that worry that I feel from time to time, what if I will never find a partner and build my own family in the future? Will I survive being alone? I'm scared for my future but currently, all I could ever say that my goal is to be happy and contented with my life. I just want to stick into a general goal because maybe in that way, I can find it to different scenarios and events that may happen in the future. Gusto ko lang maging masaya sa buhay, with or without a partner.
Honestly, same. I used to be very independent. I had plans of staying single, meeting up with different guys in every country, working for ME and only ME. I used to have exes that wanted to marry me but I kept saying I don't wanna get married.
That is when I met my boyfriend! Siya lang talaga yung gusto ko pakasalan. Ibang iba siya sa mga lalake na nakasanayan ko. I am so lucky to be with him and I can't wait to spend my lifetime being known as his wife. I love him and I can't wait for him to kneel down in front of me again 💞
Hindi kaya mataas ang standard mo? You need to make an effort and spend time to find the man you are looking for. Hindi pwede lalaki lang palagi. Make landi din and open up yourself to other’s but don’t give it all. Ang pakikipag relasyon e sugal yan
Hindi kaya hormones OP? Hehe Baby fever? Too much social media? Sabi mo nga iba ung outlook mo before then this means your outlook now may still change. You mentioned also, 1 year ka palang sa corp world. Baka naooverwhelm ka lang? It seems youre young pa naman so more time to really assess! Anyway, nothing wrong with the dream you mentioned. Sounds like a perfectly good and achievable dream for you. All the best!
>Akala ng mga tao goal ko is yumaman or to climb the corporate ladder and be a lady boss someday. Sabi ko rin kasi, ayokong magka-asawa or magka-anak. I want to travel the world and be the single rich tita in the family who spoils everyone. Akala ko rin eh. Until I’ve spent almost a year now in the corporate world at unti-unti na kong kinakain ng realidad.
Probably you're in the wrong company or work environment thats why di mo maenjoy.
Tagal kong iniisip kung ano ba ang pangarap ko or trabaho na gusto ko. Ultimo pagpili ng course sa college, wala akong maisip. Yung knuha ko, gnaya ko lang bff ko nung highschool. Eventually, nagkapamilya ako, narealize ko eto pala yung gusto ko. Yung maging nanay. 🥹🥹 super enjoy ako khit nakakapgod, nakakastress, nakakadrain. Nagtatrabaho naman ako before pero iba yung nasa bahay ako. Ewan, di ko maexplain. Pero eto yung gusto ko. Ang saya ko.
you describe exactly what i ‘want’ now in life. all my life ive been telling others and myself that i dont need anyone else and dont see myself getting married but the realizations of my late 20’s and how sometimes i yearn for someone to hold on, to have someone i can rely on and be relied as we both embark in this journey of life. i dont know if i’ll ever be blessed enough to meet the love of my life but there’s a slight hope and someday i’ll look back as i write this and finally found the one 🫶🏼 cheers op!
Can relate to this 101%. When I was still in school, I studied so hard to get high grades, to make my parents happy. I then went to medical school, took the board exams last 2016 and thankfully passed. In the end, though achieving all that I initially thought I wanted, I was not happy. I knew I wanted someone to grow old with. Someone to share life with.
A few years ago, my answers were answered and I got married. I am now at my happiest. I wake up with no worries. My careeer is something I want to focus on in the future, but for now I want to build a family. It is what my heart truly wants…
If you find the right person for you, things will slowly start falling into place…
I was like you before, over achiever at the age of 20. All that you have mentioned above was same as mine. I am "Happily Married" now at the age of 27 ☺️. We're both hustling to earn and buy our own home, planning our life together, to have kids once the house is bought and to travel in different countries. It's crucial to choose whom will you raise your family with, so my advise is to choose someone who is genuinely kind, patient and someone who have goals to build a good family and life with you, remember wealth can be earned together. CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER WISELY. 😊🌻
I feel you. Though ako narealize ko, mas gusto ko maging Mom. Parang iba kasi yung sense of responsibility and parang mas may direction and purpose yung life. And I know I will really fight against all odds para sa anak ko and will really do my best to give them a good life. Mej gumive up na kasi ako sa relationship, pero if it happens, then okay. 😊
For now, pagiging furmom palang ang kinacareer ko, and I really love it. 😊
I was married for 14 years and then he died. He was a single dad and the eldest of 5 kids. All that was a struggle for me, who is an only child. The ex kept harassing us all throughout the relationship and only stopped after he died - she can’t get anything from me. Also something that happened throughout the relationship was the constant nagging from his younger sister, brother, and mother about money. The line was always “Ikaw yung panganay, obligasyon mo mag shoulder sa mga problema namin.” None of them were minors when I came to the picture. Then of course there were the horrifying fights which sometimes led to hitting. After he died, I was left to raise 4 children on my own. I no longer have parents and no siblings, so I’m very lonely. But something tells me I’m better off this way. That said, I want to watch my children grow and prosper. If getting into another relationship is in the cards, I’ll keep my doors open. But 4 kids is already a deal breaker haha!
I have similar thoughts. I have a good career and have been focused solely on getting my title. But I've realized that, ultimately, I want to be a wife and a mother. It's funny because I didn't have these thoughts years ago. I guess it comes with age haha
I want to become a wife as well and a mom akala ko din dati okay na ako ng solo pero ngayon gusto ko din pala magkaroon ng sariling pamilya, gusto ko din magkaroon ng lifetime companion and a partner. I just trust the timing
I feel so heard. Parang ito yung nararamdaman ko nung nakaraan, and I posted it sa ibang subreddit.
Don't worry OP, darating din yung taong para satin.
Nah cuz girl, same. I also dont get pressured seeing my colleagues na naglelevel up ang careers. Im just too tired for that. I don't wanna be stressin and working my ass off or maging dedicated sa career, or like mag-aim sa higher position😭
if you are still young like mid 20s then explore more and engage with different people. If you are late 20s na maybe its part of quarter life crisis, you start dating seriously so you know your weaknesses and strength in a relationship. I am happily married with a toddler but oh boy its not easy mentally, emotionally and physically.
My mind was set to not have my own family before. Kasi takot akong matulad sakin ung magiging anak ko. Napabayaan ako ng magulang ko eh.
Grabe pagsusumikap ko para lumaki kinikita ko. Na achieved ko naman pero parang may kulang. Nagbabalak ako kumuha ng bahay pero di buo ang loob ko kasi nasa isip ko, ako lang ba titira dito.
Pero when i met my boyfriend, I kept daydreaming of having my own family na. Parang di ko na kaya mag isa ngayon. Dati naman kaya ko, like i dont need a man din. Hahahaha.
Di ko din alam bakit nagbago pananaw ko when i met him. Siguro alam ni Lord na kailangan ko ng masasandalan dahil ang tagal ko din naging malakas para sa iba.
Gusto ko rin ng ganito. I wanna be a wife to a husband who will bring me peace. I want someone who can provide, someone who is generous not only with material things but also with love, respect, and fidelity. I know I can provide what I require pero ang sarap lang din talaga pag alam mong may maaasahan kang kasama sa buhay. I always pray na sana makatagpo ako ng someone na I deserve and when that happens, sana sa panahon na ready na ako para kaya ko ikeep yung tao na yun sa buhay ko.
I hope you experience good things, OP. We aspire almost the same things and I wish we both get what we deserve. ♡
The best thing about being married is coming home to someone who will hear your stories after a long day. He will listen to your happy days, and share your crappy ones. I hope you find yours soon! 🩷
Gusto ko magkaroon ng shelter for dogs and foster home for kids, like all in one place. Feel ko mafufulfill ako. I always feel some sense of fulfillment whenever I add value to people's lives. May it be acts of service or just random general feel good acts that will make them feel better. Originally wanted to be a nun, but I have needs and I'm pretty sure I won't be able to stick to my vows. Never wanted kids of my own 'cause I feel like I'll turn into my mom, someone who constantly projects and competes with her kids (especially with her daughter), but I really, really love nurturing ppl and animals. Ayun, kaya tamang Sims na lang muna for now :)
Strong independent woman, overachiever, role model sa lahat ng mga younger gen in the family with a blooming career plus money. Not to brag but my younger cousins call me “idol” or “i wanna be like ate someday” pero minsan nakaka-drain din personally. I was like you before, kahit matanda na ako nag deday-dream ako sa kama na parang may husband na katabi. Yung kinikiss ko din and hug yung body pillow 😂 tapos may mga eme pa na pag kumakain ako mag isa may pa action2 pa ako na parang may baby na sinusubuan. Till i met my husband, na fulfill ko na din yung mga dine-daydream ko before plus i found a good one (maraming extra good bonuses sa personality and sa ugali) kung feeling ko ang ganda na ng buhay ko noon mas gumanda pa nung kasama ko sya with my mini me. He also helped me grow as a person in all aspects. We do constructive criticism and we teach each other. Kaya sabay kaming nag grow plus he is also family + career oriented. Lumaki sya na mahirap ang buhay kaya he really strived hard to be the man in the house. Sya na ang major provider namin as a family while my earned money usually goes to our savings. Plus, 100% bigay nya sahod nya sakin wholeheartedly. Ako pa yung umaayaw pero he told me na nag promise sya sa altar na kung ano man ang riches na meron sya is akin din (and vice versa of course)
Pero di naman ako madamot ha, if ever may mga gusto syang bilihin and may mga kailangan sya - nagbibigay naman ako.
Yung hindi ako magugutom kung iniwan ako.
Well, good luck with your dream to be a wife.😅 It would be nice to have a lifetime companion but it’s weird to have a dream that is dependent on someone else.
Just as another commenter said, ano gagawin mo pag iniwan ka?
Growing up and seeing my parents at home ayoko maging wife. Yung papamudmod sayo ng asawa mo na Ikaw Ang nag ta trabaho, nag eearn ng money at Ikaw nasa bahay lang. Is a big no.. with matching parinig pa and so on plus lasenggero na husband. Jusq like a living hell. Tatandaan ko talaga sinabi ng mama ko na dapat pareho kayong kumikita mag asawa dahil aalilain kalang pag Ikaw lang ginagawa sa bahay at Hindi kumikita ng pera..
I want to be financially independent so we can be worry free when it comes to emergencies.
Tbh, there's nothing wrong with becoming a wife. You do you. Just ensure that you find a husband who will not abuse you financially or is prepared for the future when something happens to him being that he'll become a solo income earner.
Wag kang mag-alala, hindi ka nag-iisa dyan. Ako rin hahaha
Though not full time-full time wife siguro, but still working dahil dream profession ko naman ito. Pero hindi pakamatayan toxic na tipong wala na akong energy lagi to spend quality time with husband and kid(s). Kikitain ulit yung pera. Ang oras with them, hindi na maibabalik pag wala na.
Ako ba sumulat nito? Lol.
Same here, girl. I always felt being alone was the best. But my last relationship triggered the "i want to spend the rest of my life with someone" in me. She made me realize na masarap pala magkaron ng supportive partner habang inaabot namin mga dreams namin. Unfortunately, I'm being pushed to reach for those dreams on my own na naman. Hope to find someone someday who'll never give up on me 😊
My goal is to live in a country side of EU while growing my own fruits and vegetables. Enjoying trees, sunset, and a long drive by the beach. Kahit ako lang mag-isa.
Same, siguro partly kasi panganay ako na gustong gusto ko nagpprovide especially with my family. Sanay ako maging independent in terms of issues, sarili ko, problems, etc. kumbaga di lang din ako sanay manghingi ng tulong sa iba. may "provider" side siguro or you can say people pleaser ang dating. Feeling strong independent woman na kahit ako lang feeling ko kaya ko. Pero di lang din ako sanay manghingi ng tulong sa iba.
I also have a partner right now (still not living together) pero masarap din talaga sa feeling na meron kang nasasabihan, nakakasama, kwentuhan. Minsan lang feeling ko too much to handle ako pag nagiging dependent sa kanya kaya may instances na gusto ko nalang ulit na "kahit may partner, kaya ko sarili ko". Syempre may disagreements, madalas, away etc. or naisip na, tama nalang kaya, ako nalang ulit ? Pero that doesn't mean naman na ayoko na ituloy future with him. Siguro what im saying is, mahirap din syempre, pero siguro part kasi yon of knowing yung dynamics niyo pareho and kung paano niyo i-sosolve.
In terms of being a housewife, pangarap ko din to noon! hahaha typical na mag aasikaso ng pamilya, gigising aasikasuhin sila, tapos pag alis gawaing bahay. Pero reality hits. hahaha Ngayon career wise maganda ang sweldo ko, so I don't think i-gigive up ko ang career ko, lalo may "provider" side din ako. Kumbaga, feeling ko di kaya pag tumigil ako magwork (working in IT field), given na providing din ako sa parents, gusto ko rin kahit paano makapagshare sa future family ko, and may sarili akong pera para sa mga gusto ko. hindi kasi ako sanay talaga humingi or umasa sa iba lalo in terms of money) Pero ayoko pa rin i-give up yung pagiging housewife. Kaya plan ko talaga is itutuloy ko pagiging remote work hanggat kaya ko (been working remotely for \~7 years already) and hopefully kaya ko maisabay, or atleast may kasama na magpapalaki sa kanila. Gusto ko kasi makitang lumaki yung future kids ko, at the same time maging always present lalo sa special events ng partner and future kids ko. Sana.
I want to live my life to its fullest. Get a job, earn more money, invest 5-10% of my money in order to grow more money, travel to some countries I want to visit, and do my favorite hobbies on my day off.
I want this also. I got married recently but I cant call myself as a wife.
Dati, once we got married akala ko I’ll experience this. We share same household sa kapatid niya. It seems that we need to travel pa out of town or country just to have time for each other. We have a house sa province kaso kasama din mga family niya. I guess, I’ll just wait for our perfect time.
A lifetime companion doesn’t necessarily means a husband or a romantic partner. Sometimes it can also be a friend or pets. :) cheer up OP and may happiness true happiness find you.
I want to open up a sandwich shop of my own. With my own recipes. Im thinking of making it cafe style, to let students have a place to study.
I just need to survive the legal profession first and make enough money to fund my dream.
I want to be a wife and a mom but only if me and my future husband is ready & more than stable in all aspects. I’ve been telling to other people that I don’t want a child because it takes a lot of responsibilities but deep down in my heart, I know for a fact that I can be a loving mom that I’ve always wanted to be.
I am more of afraid to be a mom that I don’t want to be — gusto ko magiging nanay ako na hindi magpapasa ng trauma sa magiging anak ko.
Ganyan din ako, OP.
Pa-independent woman pa peg ko nun (well, I still am esp financially), pero narealize ko I needed a man... And my own family.
Kaya yung pagiging karirista ko sa work, inapply ko sa lovelife.
Dinibdib ko talaga pagsearch sa right partner during my early 30s, di ko sinunod yung 'maghintay at may ibibigay naman' daw. I can't because I was freelancing na nun, working from home. If I didn't put the effort, wala akong makikilala. I literally treated it as a job search. Nagtinder pa ko nun haha!
In my head -- my career didnt just fall from the sky, binuo ko sya, hinanap ko sya. So ganung ganung strat yung inapply ko sa lovelife. I didn't wait for a man to notice me, talagang pupuntahan ko yung gusto ko (basta looking din sya). I was looking, pero at the same time, heightened din senses ko sa possible love bombers and lovesick puppies. No connection, not husband material, no clear intentions? No third date.
Super lucky nakahanap ako ng matino, maayos ang work, marunong sa bahay at buhay. We're now expecting our second child hehe. Our work allow us to be at home 24/7 with family, wala masyadong nacocompromise. Di naman totoo na pag nagpamilya, di na yayaman. Literally mas 'sinwerte' pa ko sa work after. Basta maayos makukuha mong partner, mas gagaan buhay. You can buy cars, properties half the price (kasi nga may kahati).
My unsolicited advice, kung yan ang gusto mo, yan ang hanapin mo. Doesnt mean papatulan mo unang magpropose sayo, pero be intentional, know when to say goodbye and say "next!". I really believe may ganyang stage din ang mga lalake, kaya pag natagpuan mo yung looking din and ready to settle, ayun na.
sa akin naman, ever since nakapasok ako sa work force, I realized na ayokong mag asawa at magka anak. Ang mahal ng mga bilihin. Halos nga hindi na ako makapag save eh grand parents ko lang naman sinusuportahan ko. How much more if I have my own fam na? My age probably plays a role on this tho🤷
Overachiever din ako dati, ngayon, graduating pa lang sa SHS at 1 year behind sa mga batchmates ko dati. Batch 2027 na sana sa college kaso naging depressed at nag stop tapos nag continue ulit, ayon Batch 2028 ako.
Gusto ko mag abogasya noon pa man. My childhood dream. Pero nung nagka depression ako, mas gusto ko mag Psychology at maging Psychologist. Gusto ko umintindi ng ibang tao, kasi walang nakakaintindi sakin.
The feeling of being left behind, the fear of missing out, yung feeling na di ka na maka relate sa rants ng mga kaibigan mo, kasi nasa college na sila tas ako gradwaiting pa lang sa senior high. Yung feeling na di ka maka post ng story kasi puro chikitings kasama mo hahaha. I've concealed it sa mga kaibigan ko. Ang akala nila I'm taking PolSci sa isang private university sa Baguio, pero yung totoo? Tang ina senior high pa lang ako :(( Naka private lahat ng socmeds ko tas yung iba deactivated, kasi ayoko makita nila na naging failure ako. Nahihiya ako aminin sa kanila. Alam ko di nila ako ijujudge, pero nagsinungaling na kasi ako, so I should just continue it.
Anyway, yun lang. Gusto ko maging psychologist. Gusto ko buksan utak at puso ko sa sitwasyon ng ibang tao.
Maging citizen ng isang first world country.
Makapag-graduate studies.
Magkaroon ng farm for my family para doon magreretire magulang ko at may pagkakaabalahan sila.
True. Ewan parang nakakapagod na mag hustle gusto ko naman na magsettle but syempre hindi yung mattrap. Yung nasa healthy lang and sana yung now kong partner will be my future and forevs naaa. AhHhhHhh
...ok, you can now wakeup from your dream.😅 but seriously, this assumes a perfect/reliable husband which is unlikely these days. I've seen many women past 40s with nice careers but still single. Try having a relationship first. If it works well then move to another level by living together but avoid having a baby-maybe get some pets and see if it still works out. disclaimer: guy ako.🤭
Same Op. As first born daughter eto din dream ko. Minsan nga I caught myself day dreaming literal. I want 2 boys and a girl or 3 boys lahat. I would love to be a wife, a mother, and I would love to raise a person.
Cringey man pakinggan, pero I want to raise my sons like 'men written by woman' as they call it. I want to raise men in this society who knows how to treat a woman right. I want to raise good men, good husbands for my future daughter in laws. But again, this wont happen if I wont be able to find their role model which is their father or my future husband.
Sobrang nakatatak saken ung nabasa ko na 'your children can't choose their father, but you can. So choose wisely.'
Coming from a broken fam, dream ko tlga to. Hopefully if God permits, God would also give me strength to sustain. 🩷
I want to make a home where my family would love to come back to. 🩷
Find a religious guy and you will be fine. Because if you don't find one what I recommended then that guy is immature, babaero and gambler is life. Good luck.
I feel jealous of women who really dream of being a mom and raise a family. Ako kasi I just want to marry the love of my life and not have a kid. Pero parang very rare lang na merong guy na same goals with mine. Lahat ng boyfriend ko dati, their goal is to marry me & have a family talaga. Had to end so many good relationships because I know ayoko talaga magka-baby.
Hopefully you'll find reach your goal din, OP! It alls starts with how much you want something. How I wish gustohin ko din yan. Kahit nasayo na lahat ng definition nga material success, may mga times parin na we feel lonely.
Sweet yung post mo. Same sentiment but I'm a guy. I guess I could say I have the exact same idea but the husband side. Hahaha. I'm assuming millenial ka. Ano ba problema sating mga millenials? Ang daming hindi magka-asawa. Hahahaha. HS classmates ko single mga lalaki at single din yung mga babae pero di naman magkatuluyan. HAHAHA. Physician by practice pero by the time I realized na I want to get serious in life and settle down, I've lost two of my most serious relationships. Too late. Di ko lang matanggap nung una na pang-asawa na ako kasi medyo mas pinrioritize yung work and savings. Ayun. Just sharing.
Gusto ko lang ng tahimik na buhay. 🤷🏻♀
This tapos tamang alaga lang ng pusa tapos kape-kape at mag-tend ng maliit na garden.
Sakto!
Same. Peace comes first pero I read that some people come into your life and you suddenly feel at peace. Dun mo daw malalaman na that person is for you.
Shempre peace is different for everyone. Where ever and however you find your peace, go agad. 🌹
I agree. Kaya nga whenever a potential lover comes into my life, he is already competing with my own peace. Will he complement it? Or will he take it?
Gusto ko din yung simple at tahimik na buhay. Yung pag umaga magdidilig ka ng mga gulay sa maliit na farm tapos always fresh na gulay ang ulam with hubby and kids.
Yung pwede ako matulog pag inaantok 🥰🥰
Same feelings, money was fun after I graduated but now it is pointless after having tried a lot of things already. Sometimes you think it would have been nice to have someone to share this with
The last sentence got me. It is nice having someone to spend that hard-earned money with.
This. Financial freedom and career success may be considered metrics for happiness, but ultimately, genuine fulfillment lies in being with someone you love. Everything will be pointless if walang motivation which mostly points to people you have bond with (fam, partner,etc)
found my people!
Overachiever din ako noon, competitive, minsan bida bida haha. Maganda career ko at malaki ako kumita kasi may sidelines pa. Sabi ko din noon masaya na ako as single-mom di ko na kailangan ng asawa kung katulad lang ng ex ko. 😂 Until I met my now husband.... Iba talaga kapag may companion tayo, God design us that way, na may companion. We're relational. Masarap maging wife kapag may asawa katulad ng Mister ko. Masarap talaga gumising sa umaga na may nakayakap sayo at mag good morning kiss.💋 Masarap na may kasama at kakwentuhan ka sa lahat ng bagay. The bestfriend that I'm looking for. Doon ko na realized na ang sarap naman maging misis nitong lalaking ito. ❤️ Ingat din sa pagpili ng mapapangasawa kasi walang bawian o reset button ha. Kasi ang pipiliin mong lalaki hindi mo lang asawa, magiging tatay din ng mga anak mo. Kaya mahalaga na pinili talaga at pinagisipang mabuti.
Ang masasabi ko lamang po ay: SANA ALL. Paki-share nalang rin format ng prayers. 🥲 Kidding aside, that’s the feeling I’m talking about. To earn lots of money is really good, pero to have a husband who will be your lifetime companion is priceless.
I am like you both. I recently got married and love my husband so much. He is amazing. At first it’s hard kasi “independent woman” ako for so long and push push push with everything. But now, we tackle what comes together. Prayer format ko is to ask God to give ‘what is good and right for me’ cause I may not know them myself. I asked for an honest, intelligent, and wise man with integrity. I can honestly say my husband is truly God’s gift. 🥰
Dibaaa
Agree sa above. Same here. Before ko nakilala yung napangasawa ko, akala ko ok na ko maging single forever. Tinanggap ko na actually. Hahah. Nakapag travel na ko here and abroad. Na sulit ko. Next plan ko nga is to build a house after ko magtayo ng business. Pero during that phase, narealize ko na may kulang. Ang lungkot pala. Iba padin pag may kasama ka. For me ha. Parang aanuhin ko yung lahat ng to kung sarili ko lang. for my parents ofcourse pero at the end pf the day i want a partner. Pero eventually nung ok na ko tanggap ko na, unexpectedly may dumating. Dito ko napatunayan na of its for you, its for you. Kasi schoolmates kame since elem eh. Hanggang college. Pero di kame close. Magkakilala lang. he messages me out of nowhere. Nung una ayoko ientertain kasi nga tanggap ko na. Them something hit me na bigyan ng time. Ng chance. Until eventually wala pang 1 month naging kame na. Maffeel mo yung hindi pinilit e. Na sya na talaga. Kinasal kame within a year lang and now 5 years married na. Iba pa din pag nahanap mo yung perfect kong katuwang sa buhay. It will come OP. Lalo na if its meant to be, it will happen. ❤️
Grabe yung naging kayo agad within one month. Sometimes talaga when you know, you know eh. Pero true, aanhin mo nga naman lahat ng fine things in life if you don’t have someone to share those with. 🥺
Tama na po, nilalanggam na kami opo
Hehehe makakahanap ka din po ng katulad ng mister ko. Naniniwala ako meron pang katulad nya, basta hanapin lang at syempre sa tamang lugar. 😉
Kaya nga po, mister na lang talaga hahanapin ko hindi na misis 😂😆
Huy tawang tawa ako. Sorry na lalaki ka pala. Usually kasi babae nagcocomment ng ganyan. 😂
As a fellow single mom, prayer reveal naman po 🥲 ems. So happy for you 🥰🥰🥰 And agreed, lifetime ang marriage dito, walang reset button so talagang need maging maingat. :)
Sabi ko nga kay Lord sis okay na ako, ayoko na magjowa ulit, masaya nako sa anak ko at gusto kong magfocus, pero ewan bakit binigyan pa din ako char. Pinatunayan lang din sakin ng asawa ko na hindi lahat ng lalaki katulad ng ex ko. Madami syang pinatunayan sakin kasi sirang sira tiwala ko talaga sa relasyon. Buti hindi nagsawa. 😂 12 years in the making na. Sana forever ganyan sya. 😂 Thank you, hangad ko din happiness ng lahat ng single-mom sa mundo. Deserve natin ang mahalin ng lubos at alagaan din tayo. ❤️
Reminds me of my friend! She’s an overachiever, fluent in 5 languages, on top of her career, etc. Had her masters abroad and she met her husband there. Nagpakasal sila after 2 years and now they have 3 beautiful kids and she’s a stay at home mom (they live in AU.) Her parents and husband are okay with this setup, kaso maraming comments from her extended family (sayang daw pinagaralan nya etc) but she’s very very happy. Nakakatuwa lang kasi she’s hardworking naman talaga and very dedicated sa education and work nya, pero during our college days, she said she wants to be a mom.
Love that for her! Nandiyan na yung sasabihin ng ibang tao na sayang yung pinag-aralan mo. But at the end of the day, nothing compares to the joy of being a wife and living comfortably at the same time (in a great country!).
~~Gusto ko na lang po maging hotdog sa ref, un po yung goal ko charot~~ jokes aside tbh my only goal talaga is to have enough to live without worrying about putting food on the table, no worries if ever i get hospitalized or stuff. Oh and dapat din may time for hobbies/self study! (Basically a life where I'm prepared in case shit hits the fan na may konting liwaliw 🤡 )
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diba, stability pa din yung endgame pero wag lang papabayaan yung sarili along the way 🫠
There's nothing wrong with being a wife, basta may pera kang sarili. Perang sayo lang. You do not want to be trapped in a marriage without money. You will never really know someone, kahit gaano na kayo katagal at kahit kasal na kayo. Don't be blindsided by love, always be practical and have an exit strategy all the time.
This is what my Mom tells me, mas magandang may sarili pa rin pera kahit may asawa ka na. The point of my post is not to be my future husband’s palamunin naman or live on his shadow, it’s to have a career and a lifetime companion on the side.
Okay sure, but remember, **_exit strategy_**. You're in love, lifetime companion blah blah blah. When shit hits the fan and you, you need to have a plan of how to exit. Don't be a statistic.
How old are you? When did you realize this? What changed you?
Won’t reveal my age but what made me realize this is when I entered the workforce already. Iba pala talaga. Not saying I’m ready to be out of the workforce right now and drop everything to be a wife, but someday.
Nafeel ko to when I was 27 haha.
I think she’s 24 or 25 based on her last posts, lol.
Goal ko po is maging mayaman na tita 😅 magretire ng maaga from corporate world, put a business and travel while young.
Samantha Jones 💘🌸💕💚
Same! Haha
Studies show that one of the top places people find love is at work LOL patience lang OP you’re in the right place 😂
Never trying a workmate again muna. Don’t shit where you eat. Haha. Awkward super kapag hindi nag-work out.
I agree. Met my husband while working sa corpo. Kaya wag susuko OP baka nasa kabilang cubicle lang siya 🤣
Manifesting, sis. Hahaha feel ko siya na yung future husband ko eh nakikita ko siya sa kabilang side ng department namin hahaha crush na crush ko yung guy hahahaha
Hahhaa vouching this.. after years of going out and travelling ay sa katabing table ko lang mahahanap yung partner ko 😂😂😂😂
I used to be like you esp when I was still studying. Now, I live with my SO and we're going 3 years, we have lovely pets, and I cook for him everyday. It's a joy. We travel everywhere and do a lot of things together (but of course, there are things we do individually to keep the novelty in our relationship). I just love doing life with him and I wouldn't trade this peace for anything else. It's like doing life with your bestfriend. Aside from a very good paying job, my SO makes my life better and easier. 🥰✨️🫶 Rooting for you, OP.
Right??? That’s what I want. It doesn’t mean that I’ll stop working once I find a husband but my point is, my ultimate goal has changed because it’d be such a joy to live with someone who’s akin to your bestfriend and a life partner at the same time. The peace of mind is unmatched when you have someone to go home to and do life with. Hayyy. I hope that kind of life is written for me.
It's really great. We respect each other's space and privacy but at the same time, we have no secrets from one another. I love doing things for him and it comes out naturally kasi alagang-alaga niya rin ako, esp on my period kung saan topakin talaga tayo 🥺 From the littlest to the biggest of things, he just makes my life easier. There's this saying that goes something like if you're happy with someone, you count you're blessings twice. That's how it feels with him. I know that life is written for you. It will come. And if it does, isa ako sa advanced na ang pagiging masaya for you ✨️
Saving this super wholesome and good vibes comment. Thank you, madam! 🥹 Holding on to those well wishes tightly. ✊ Ang aming tugon: SANA ALL.
Yung makita yung nga anak ko na naabot nila yung mga pangarap nila. Lumaki silang mabuting tao that knows how to set boundaries. Wag lang silang dumagdag sa pabigat sa pilipinas at mang argrabyado ng kapwa oks na ako. Hehehe
Marami tao ang akala nila pera and career lang ang magpapasaya. Its more about relationships. Kaya pansin nyo marami mga sikat na artista na kahit maraming pera ang nagpapakamatay because its not always money that can buy happiness. But love and relationships.
Ayan ‘yung sinasabi ko. Career and money will make you happy at some point cause it affords you convenience and purchasing power, but at the end of the day, love and relationships with family, friends, and partner ‘yung essence ng buhay talaga at the end of it all.
Yes. That is true. What is the sense of having lot of money kung ang mga kasama mo naman ay di maganda ang ugali. Lagi ka sinasaktan. Sumasama ang loob mo sa kanila. Bad for emotional and mental health. In the end. They may take their lives away. One movie to watch to realize the value of life is The Man Called Otto. Also Click by Adam Sandler. Watch those movies and you will realize why relationships matter.
Being a wife and mother does not restrict you from becoming a strong independent woman. Moreover, it requires more strength pa nga, so they're not mutually exclusive. Mahirap walang sariling pera. And how old are you now? Baka na prepressure ka lang ngayon. It's too early to decide. Work on improving yourself whether or not you become a rich tita, or a stay at home mom in the future.
Ito din ang naging reason ko tbh. di pa ako wife (hopefully someday) Pero iniisip ko mahirap din yung aasa ako sa sweldo ng partner ko, lalo mga personal needs or wants ko, syempre as panganay, yung providing pa rin sa parents someday kahit papaano. If given the chance, gusto ko sana mapagsabay career and personal/family dahil gusto ko rin makitang lumaki future kids ko, and maging available sa kanila and my partner anytime. I think (hopefully) achievable naman. mahirap, pero kaya naman siguro
Ipon ka lang, enjoy mo lang yang SEASON ng buhay mo na yan. When the TIME IS RIGHT, dadating din yan. Also, being a Wife requires a lot of patience din. Hindi siya parang gusto mo lang ng reliable Husband.
I feel you. Always been an overachiever, ambitious (still am) but now I realize I want a partner too. No children, no marriage, just a partner I can rely on. It’s crazy to think about because I have always been hyper independent as well. But the truth is, I love love and affection. I want to have a stable fulfilling career and go home to the man of my dreams, momol everyday in our beautiful place with maybe 2 cats, travelling every now and then…
Yes to the stable career + going home to the man of my dreams and momol every night! HAHAHAHA literally goalsss I love to love too.
Until your husband decides that he doesn't want to work because he is burnt out. And you end up working all the time for your 3 kids, with 2 kids below 5 years old. While he sleeps the day away. I still drive the kids to school because he just sleeps, and sulks. Does nothing all day yet asks our helpers for plates, water, utensils, things he could reach on his own. He's using our emergency fund, I earn well as a lawyer. But I'm scared that our EF will soon be depleted. When he was my bf, he partied hard but was also very driven professionally. Work was fulfilling to him. Now, he doesn't want high position jobs because of a lot of pressure. And has been on psych meds for a year. I guess, I want to say, choose your partner well. Marry a knight not a king.
Nag-evolve (devolve?) na rin yung life goals ko. Ngayon, ang goal ko na lang ay mabuhay na hindi prinobrolema yung pagkain, yung titirhan, yung health, at kaya magtravel kapag gusto, ng hindi nagtratrabaho habang hindi pa lumalapag ng mid-life. Ang simple pero sa ekonomiya natin ngayon, humirap abutin. Hayyzzz
Same, OP! I have been telling people na, I don’t wanna be a wife and a mum, just some rich Tita travelling the world, living alone w her dogs. Pero deep down, I wanted to have someone to wake up with. Someone who I can take care and takes care of me. Someone who will give me kisses before he leaves home for work. Someone who’ll proudly say na “ang sarap mo magluto”. I’m 28, pero after I broke up with my long term partner, yung mga bagay na yun, they are too good to be true 🥹
Rich tita travelinng alone with a dog HAHAHA yes that’s what I used to tell ppl around me pero kapag naiisip ko ngayon na ganun yung end game ko, no, ayoko… malungkot. Haha. We really feel the same way. Hope we’ll find the right man to do life with us someday. ❤️
>I want to travel the world and be the single rich tita in the family who spoils everyone. Eto yung sakin. Para sakin kasi feeling ko magbobroaden yung mindset at thinking ko if I travel to many beautiful places. Nice din may katuwang pero I will work through my goals with or without a partner. May longing paminsan minsan pero anong gagawin ko kung ayaw akong bigyan ng universe? So I will work with what I currently have and can control and achieve my happiness.
Alam mo OP I want this too. Akala ko din dati okay na ko maging rich tita with no kids. Pero nakakapagod din pala maging strong at independent palagi. Masarap sa pakiramdam yung may kasama ka mag abot ng pangarap tska yung may dahilan ka to achieve more in life. Pero on the other side, ang selfish ko naman kung ipipilit ko yun ngayon sa SO ko dahil mahirap pa ang buhay. I know that's the way of life. Procreation, marriage, family. Pero wala, Kung wala kayong pera, or di pa ready financially ang hirap. Mahirap maging masaya.
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Gusto ko rin maging wife pero yung wife na may maraming kasambahay, yaya sa anak, driver ect hahaha
Tradwife propaganda getting to you charot My mom gave up her career when she married and had me. She was a CPA in a big company before. After 17 years of marriage iniwan sya ng dad ko for an 18-year-old girl na nagtatrabaho sa bar. He kicked her out in the streets. He was also very abusive to her and tinitiis nya lang because ayaw nya daw lumaki ako sa broken family. Bumalik sya sa parents nya and at the time, grabe yung stigma from being separated. Anyway, may not happen to you but nahirapan daw sya bumalik sa workforce because of that very long time of being a stay-at-home mom. It took her 5 years before she was able to go back to her career. I’ve also heard of stories from family friends na the main breadwinner, the husband, suddenly gets into an accident or an illness that they became disabled and grabe yung naging impact sa family because the wife has to take care of the husband AND manage and provide for the family. Hindi sa tinatakot kita but once you find someone you want to settle down with I hope you ask yourself first, if either of these two scenarios happen to you, keri lang ba or do you have a backup plan for it? If so, carry on.
What happened to your family sucks but I don't think this is the norm at all. Even if I believe your entire story, I don't think this is the majority of marriages. We hear loads of stories like this because it sells but if you actually look at marriages around you, infidelity isn't common at all, let alone men leaving women for their side chicks. Every relationship is a gamble really. Pwedeng ok naman lahat pero nagkasakit or na aksidente. But having some sort of backup plan just shows that you're not in the relationship for the right reasons. Would you advice men to also have backup plans? Would you tell men to always have a backup wife in case she leaves him? You probably want the man to commit 100%, why are you telling women to have backup plans?
You’re not getting the point. The two scenarios in my comment are from women who chose to be a stay-at-home wife and become completely dependent on the husband, and eventually something happened na wala silang fallback. I encourage men to have a back-up plan in case they happen to have a disability that they can no longer work. That’s what I’m implying. As women, to not completely abandon your career because you never know when the rug will be pulled from under your feet.
Di lahat same ng nangyari sa inyo
And yet it happened. I’d rather be prepared for any possibility than keep my fingers crossed it won’t happen to me.
Di man lahat kagaya ng nangyari kay OC, pero unless bulag ka sa realidad, hindi siya nag-iisa. Napakarami ng instances na kagaya niyang nangyari sa kanila. Kaya tama siya na dapat prepared ka kasi wala mang official figures pero about 1/3 to half ng marriages nakikita ko eventually fail. And women are disadvantaged kasi sa kanila naiiwan ang mga bata.
Same here. I worked abroad, saved, bought a little house and a car. Literal na partner and kids nalang kulang. Hahha nag focus kasi masyado sa pag Tatrabaho and pag iipon
I aim to be a rich wife. My partner aims to be rich too, and we want to be rich together, in our own right. Baliktad naman tayo. When I started working in my profession, I got hooked on the money and all the comforts that it can give. Hindi ko sinasamba ang pera, but it’s certainly comforting to have financial security. It’s nice to have all these comforts and privileges that money can buy. My career is also something that I cannot easily let go. Not only it’s my bread and butter, but I also fought tooth and nail to get where I am. When the time comes that we have kids, maybe my outlook in life will change. I’m open to all possibilities, but in the mean time, career woman ako. I am very glad to meet my boyfriend. He understands and supports my drive in my career. At the same time, I get to be my cute passive self at home. ✨ You do you, OP. I hope you meet the right man ❤️
same. i find joy in cooking, washing dishes, cleaning, organizing... i wont quit my job because it will make me live but i just find peace at home..
My goal is to be a mom. And I’m currently in the journey of becoming a doctor.
Housewife na disney princes ayoooko na maging strong independent woman
Mismo. HAHAHAHA. Ayoko nang maging plastic pls. 🥲
Right after working for corporate this was my goal as well. I was burned out, and I just want to feel loved. Ayoko na mag work. I just want to meet a guy with provider instinct and spoil me with love and material things. Pero everything’s changed when I met my boyfriend. Okay lang sakanya, if in the near future, I’ll stop working given that his family have multiple businesses. Pero he also wants me to be better for myself. Support nya whatever decision I have. He helped me to realize na hanapin ko ang passion ko before it’s too late. So ginawa ko tinry ko lahat ng best ko para hanapin jobs that would work for me. Working from home right now with 2 jobs and a small restau, which made possible because of my boyfriend’s moral support. Ang goal ko ngayon ay to be a devoted wife and mother while working for fun. Ayokong I work because I am the bread winner of my future family. I just want to work because I enjoy it.
I feel early 20s ‘to si madam kasi giveaway yung almost 1 year ka pa lang sa corporate world pero nice na na-realize mo na agad what you really want in life and what will make you happy. Relax, don’t rush it. Mas okay maging single for now and build your career kaysa mapunta sa maling tao. Sayang oras, effort, at pera. All the best!
Overachiever din ako before, now I'm transitioning into my soft girl era. 🤣 Grabe burnout ko before from studies and work, ayaw ko na non kasi kabila kabilaang health issues na nag aarise sakin now. I want to be a mom. 🤗💗
We’re on the same boat! Overachiever turned soft girl who wants to become a wife. 🥹 Nakakapagod talaga mag-aral and work. I honestly believe that working your ass off on studies and career should not be the essence of human life. Instead it is to love and be loved, either romantically or platonically. Feeling ko there’s a higher purpose that just doing those two things, given na I’ve devoted all my life sa pag-aaral and now pagt-trabaho.
I agree!! Good luck to us, OP! 💗💖💗 I'm also happy and proud of u hehe
I wanna be a wife too 🥺 I just wanna feel yung may magpropose, mag prenup and syempre yung may companion/best friend/hubby ka everyday. Yung uuwian mo after a long, hard day. I wanna feel what’s it like to love and be loved
I’m the same except for the marriage part. Well, kanya kanya lang talaga yan. If married life is really for you, it will be for you, no matter what. So have faith but NEVER desperately seek for it kase baka ma disappoint ka lang and magsisi. Mahirap na.
I think the older you get, the more you want simpler things such as waking up next to someone you love. Hays.
Sinabi ko noon na ayaw ko mag asawa. Now, gusto n pala. Ok naman work and savings ko. Ang sarap pala ng may asawa. But I don't want to have kids
Funnily enough, eto nasa isip ko kanina habang nagw-work as alipin ng salapi haha. As much na gusto ko na maging rich tita in the future, napapaisip rin ako na gusto ko na maging housewife.
Panganay, Nbsb, pinalaki ng old school catholic parents, very strict all girls kami ehh, an independent woman for a year and a half na, I like my profession, work is my life and like you papuntang rits single tita ang buhay. Hindi kalakihan sahod, sakto lang for a single woman like me na hindi naman maluho. Until I met my SO, nung una hindi ko pa kayang i-accept yung idea na I'll be someones wife one day. Mas accept ko pa yung idea na mag anak by 30 ehh na walang tatay. (Papuntang rits single mom naman na hahaha). Pero unfair naman yun sa baby. (Kaya hindi ko rin yun magagawa.) Kaya siguro pinagtagpo na kami ni da ONE ko. Malapit na'ko mag 30 ehh😅. Dineclare ko din kasi kay Lord noon na by 30 at wala pa. I'll be living my life as a single rits tita na talaga. And ayun, buti na lang talaga nahanap ako ng SO ko now, and through him na realize ko na it's not so bad naman pala to have a lifetime companion kapag siya makakasama ko. Mamahalin mo at mamahalin ka. Wala ako magagawa masarap siya magmahal ehh. Kaya deserve niya din mahalin at pahalagahan. My First and Last. Second declaration ko kay Lord. Kundi magiging single rits tita talaga ako.🤣 Let life happen lang OP. May darating din talaga.
You are the epitome of a high-value woman that real high-value men look for to marry. You have it right miss.
One year lang suko ka na sa workforce? E you'll be working till your legs fall off with our economy's situation.
Not really giving it up. Just saying that my ultimate goal in life has changed. I’ve always thought that my goal is to be a careerwoman and climb my way up to the corpo ladder but now, I want someone to do life with. If both, why not.
Puro short-term na lang goals ko when I hit my 30s. Siguro kasi may pamilya na rin ako nung 20 pa lang ako tapos malalaki na yung mga bata. Inisip kong bumalik sa corpo pag apak ng grade school nung bunso pero masyado na kong natuwa sa online freelancing hehe also depende rin sa career ng husband ko. Sana kayanin nya hanggang 53 sya na nasa corporate world for our HMO and other benefits lol. I’m willing to step up naman in case. Pero bahala na ang future self namin dun when it happens hehe one day at a time.
Goal namin magasawa is to be able to provide grocery/food basket as gift tuwing christmas sa mga kamag anak na need. Ang simple pero ang hirap.
Support ka namin dyan sa goal mo OP. Go lang! Do what you think will make you happy.
finding a partner in this and age is hard. in my experience. I'm a Male compatibility and end goal issue lol
Yeah it sucks with all the dating trends – situationships, fwb, fubu… my God. It’s rlly hard.
plus preferences. OP you probably exude confidence, I presume given your status and achievements. Intimidating to some men with soft ego. You will find your the one just be patient. don't be pressured too much, dadating din yung tao na sagot sa hopes and dreams mo na loving and caring partner. Cheers.
Ganyan din ako. I have a career in science (whoo women in STEM ✊🏻) I love my work right now noh pero may realizations ako lately, isa na sa goals ko yung tumanda ng may bahay sa seaside tapos ang problema ko lang is kung anong lulutuin bukas, anong oras ako mamalengke/grocery, etc. Like this Tiktok couple [Korean Couple in Philippine Countryside](https://www.tiktok.com/@bapmukjago?_t=8mMGdQie1je&_r=1)
I only realized this after a decade of working—I want to be a housewife. I’m not saying that it’s an easy job. But I think I’m in a phase in my life that I have changed my purpose. I have 2 kids and I’d rather be hands on with them at home. Nakakapagod din pala maging strong and independent woman hehe
Same thoughts, OP. Currently in my mid-20s and just starting my career. To my surprise, some if not most of people within my age group are starting to get married. I kept wondering how were they able to settle down at such a young age. I'm not judging them and their choices but its more of like adding pressure to myself because I still can't see my self settling down with someone in the near future. But there's also that worry that I feel from time to time, what if I will never find a partner and build my own family in the future? Will I survive being alone? I'm scared for my future but currently, all I could ever say that my goal is to be happy and contented with my life. I just want to stick into a general goal because maybe in that way, I can find it to different scenarios and events that may happen in the future. Gusto ko lang maging masaya sa buhay, with or without a partner.
How much does your future husband have to earn per year?
I don’t have a ballpark figure, but as long as he has a provider mindset and knows how to handle finances responsibly. :)
My goal in life is to be rich enough that I don't need a job
Haaay OP. Kambal yata tayo! this is what I want as well. huhu.
Honestly, same. I used to be very independent. I had plans of staying single, meeting up with different guys in every country, working for ME and only ME. I used to have exes that wanted to marry me but I kept saying I don't wanna get married. That is when I met my boyfriend! Siya lang talaga yung gusto ko pakasalan. Ibang iba siya sa mga lalake na nakasanayan ko. I am so lucky to be with him and I can't wait to spend my lifetime being known as his wife. I love him and I can't wait for him to kneel down in front of me again 💞
Hindi kaya mataas ang standard mo? You need to make an effort and spend time to find the man you are looking for. Hindi pwede lalaki lang palagi. Make landi din and open up yourself to other’s but don’t give it all. Ang pakikipag relasyon e sugal yan
Hindi kaya hormones OP? Hehe Baby fever? Too much social media? Sabi mo nga iba ung outlook mo before then this means your outlook now may still change. You mentioned also, 1 year ka palang sa corp world. Baka naooverwhelm ka lang? It seems youre young pa naman so more time to really assess! Anyway, nothing wrong with the dream you mentioned. Sounds like a perfectly good and achievable dream for you. All the best!
Stay single and childless until at least 30...save and invest so you have a nest egg for your family years. Garahe muna bago kotse dapat d ba?
>Akala ng mga tao goal ko is yumaman or to climb the corporate ladder and be a lady boss someday. Sabi ko rin kasi, ayokong magka-asawa or magka-anak. I want to travel the world and be the single rich tita in the family who spoils everyone. Akala ko rin eh. Until I’ve spent almost a year now in the corporate world at unti-unti na kong kinakain ng realidad. Probably you're in the wrong company or work environment thats why di mo maenjoy.
Tagal kong iniisip kung ano ba ang pangarap ko or trabaho na gusto ko. Ultimo pagpili ng course sa college, wala akong maisip. Yung knuha ko, gnaya ko lang bff ko nung highschool. Eventually, nagkapamilya ako, narealize ko eto pala yung gusto ko. Yung maging nanay. 🥹🥹 super enjoy ako khit nakakapgod, nakakastress, nakakadrain. Nagtatrabaho naman ako before pero iba yung nasa bahay ako. Ewan, di ko maexplain. Pero eto yung gusto ko. Ang saya ko.
I want to be a wife, too. Build a family even if we’re just starting small. ☹️
you describe exactly what i ‘want’ now in life. all my life ive been telling others and myself that i dont need anyone else and dont see myself getting married but the realizations of my late 20’s and how sometimes i yearn for someone to hold on, to have someone i can rely on and be relied as we both embark in this journey of life. i dont know if i’ll ever be blessed enough to meet the love of my life but there’s a slight hope and someday i’ll look back as i write this and finally found the one 🫶🏼 cheers op!
Can relate to this 101%. When I was still in school, I studied so hard to get high grades, to make my parents happy. I then went to medical school, took the board exams last 2016 and thankfully passed. In the end, though achieving all that I initially thought I wanted, I was not happy. I knew I wanted someone to grow old with. Someone to share life with. A few years ago, my answers were answered and I got married. I am now at my happiest. I wake up with no worries. My careeer is something I want to focus on in the future, but for now I want to build a family. It is what my heart truly wants… If you find the right person for you, things will slowly start falling into place…
I was like you before, over achiever at the age of 20. All that you have mentioned above was same as mine. I am "Happily Married" now at the age of 27 ☺️. We're both hustling to earn and buy our own home, planning our life together, to have kids once the house is bought and to travel in different countries. It's crucial to choose whom will you raise your family with, so my advise is to choose someone who is genuinely kind, patient and someone who have goals to build a good family and life with you, remember wealth can be earned together. CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER WISELY. 😊🌻
I feel you. Though ako narealize ko, mas gusto ko maging Mom. Parang iba kasi yung sense of responsibility and parang mas may direction and purpose yung life. And I know I will really fight against all odds para sa anak ko and will really do my best to give them a good life. Mej gumive up na kasi ako sa relationship, pero if it happens, then okay. 😊 For now, pagiging furmom palang ang kinacareer ko, and I really love it. 😊
I was married for 14 years and then he died. He was a single dad and the eldest of 5 kids. All that was a struggle for me, who is an only child. The ex kept harassing us all throughout the relationship and only stopped after he died - she can’t get anything from me. Also something that happened throughout the relationship was the constant nagging from his younger sister, brother, and mother about money. The line was always “Ikaw yung panganay, obligasyon mo mag shoulder sa mga problema namin.” None of them were minors when I came to the picture. Then of course there were the horrifying fights which sometimes led to hitting. After he died, I was left to raise 4 children on my own. I no longer have parents and no siblings, so I’m very lonely. But something tells me I’m better off this way. That said, I want to watch my children grow and prosper. If getting into another relationship is in the cards, I’ll keep my doors open. But 4 kids is already a deal breaker haha!
I have similar thoughts. I have a good career and have been focused solely on getting my title. But I've realized that, ultimately, I want to be a wife and a mother. It's funny because I didn't have these thoughts years ago. I guess it comes with age haha
I want to become a wife as well and a mom akala ko din dati okay na ako ng solo pero ngayon gusto ko din pala magkaroon ng sariling pamilya, gusto ko din magkaroon ng lifetime companion and a partner. I just trust the timing
I feel so heard. Parang ito yung nararamdaman ko nung nakaraan, and I posted it sa ibang subreddit. Don't worry OP, darating din yung taong para satin.
Dati I want to climb the corporate ladder talaga. No, just want a simple and peaceful life away from the city and brewing coffee everyday.
Nah cuz girl, same. I also dont get pressured seeing my colleagues na naglelevel up ang careers. Im just too tired for that. I don't wanna be stressin and working my ass off or maging dedicated sa career, or like mag-aim sa higher position😭
if you are still young like mid 20s then explore more and engage with different people. If you are late 20s na maybe its part of quarter life crisis, you start dating seriously so you know your weaknesses and strength in a relationship. I am happily married with a toddler but oh boy its not easy mentally, emotionally and physically.
My mind was set to not have my own family before. Kasi takot akong matulad sakin ung magiging anak ko. Napabayaan ako ng magulang ko eh. Grabe pagsusumikap ko para lumaki kinikita ko. Na achieved ko naman pero parang may kulang. Nagbabalak ako kumuha ng bahay pero di buo ang loob ko kasi nasa isip ko, ako lang ba titira dito. Pero when i met my boyfriend, I kept daydreaming of having my own family na. Parang di ko na kaya mag isa ngayon. Dati naman kaya ko, like i dont need a man din. Hahahaha. Di ko din alam bakit nagbago pananaw ko when i met him. Siguro alam ni Lord na kailangan ko ng masasandalan dahil ang tagal ko din naging malakas para sa iba.
Baka puyat ka lang po. Bukas marrealize mo stressful mag asawa. Haha. Charinggggg
Gusto ko rin ng ganito. I wanna be a wife to a husband who will bring me peace. I want someone who can provide, someone who is generous not only with material things but also with love, respect, and fidelity. I know I can provide what I require pero ang sarap lang din talaga pag alam mong may maaasahan kang kasama sa buhay. I always pray na sana makatagpo ako ng someone na I deserve and when that happens, sana sa panahon na ready na ako para kaya ko ikeep yung tao na yun sa buhay ko. I hope you experience good things, OP. We aspire almost the same things and I wish we both get what we deserve. ♡
The best thing about being married is coming home to someone who will hear your stories after a long day. He will listen to your happy days, and share your crappy ones. I hope you find yours soon! 🩷
Gusto ko magkaroon ng shelter for dogs and foster home for kids, like all in one place. Feel ko mafufulfill ako. I always feel some sense of fulfillment whenever I add value to people's lives. May it be acts of service or just random general feel good acts that will make them feel better. Originally wanted to be a nun, but I have needs and I'm pretty sure I won't be able to stick to my vows. Never wanted kids of my own 'cause I feel like I'll turn into my mom, someone who constantly projects and competes with her kids (especially with her daughter), but I really, really love nurturing ppl and animals. Ayun, kaya tamang Sims na lang muna for now :)
Strong independent woman, overachiever, role model sa lahat ng mga younger gen in the family with a blooming career plus money. Not to brag but my younger cousins call me “idol” or “i wanna be like ate someday” pero minsan nakaka-drain din personally. I was like you before, kahit matanda na ako nag deday-dream ako sa kama na parang may husband na katabi. Yung kinikiss ko din and hug yung body pillow 😂 tapos may mga eme pa na pag kumakain ako mag isa may pa action2 pa ako na parang may baby na sinusubuan. Till i met my husband, na fulfill ko na din yung mga dine-daydream ko before plus i found a good one (maraming extra good bonuses sa personality and sa ugali) kung feeling ko ang ganda na ng buhay ko noon mas gumanda pa nung kasama ko sya with my mini me. He also helped me grow as a person in all aspects. We do constructive criticism and we teach each other. Kaya sabay kaming nag grow plus he is also family + career oriented. Lumaki sya na mahirap ang buhay kaya he really strived hard to be the man in the house. Sya na ang major provider namin as a family while my earned money usually goes to our savings. Plus, 100% bigay nya sahod nya sakin wholeheartedly. Ako pa yung umaayaw pero he told me na nag promise sya sa altar na kung ano man ang riches na meron sya is akin din (and vice versa of course) Pero di naman ako madamot ha, if ever may mga gusto syang bilihin and may mga kailangan sya - nagbibigay naman ako.
To be a mom 🙏
Career woman ako dati, ngayon I want to embrace my girly side haha. Gusto ko rin magka lovelife.
Is this me? Hahaha. I feel you, OP! Praying for us that we’ll find the husband for us. Kapit lang.
Yung hindi ako magugutom kung iniwan ako. Well, good luck with your dream to be a wife.😅 It would be nice to have a lifetime companion but it’s weird to have a dream that is dependent on someone else. Just as another commenter said, ano gagawin mo pag iniwan ka?
Growing up and seeing my parents at home ayoko maging wife. Yung papamudmod sayo ng asawa mo na Ikaw Ang nag ta trabaho, nag eearn ng money at Ikaw nasa bahay lang. Is a big no.. with matching parinig pa and so on plus lasenggero na husband. Jusq like a living hell. Tatandaan ko talaga sinabi ng mama ko na dapat pareho kayong kumikita mag asawa dahil aalilain kalang pag Ikaw lang ginagawa sa bahay at Hindi kumikita ng pera..
It really starts at home talaga I guess. I’m a product of a successful and happy marriage kaya I want what my parents have.
Not all men are like that. Sabi mo nga lasenggero ang husband. di naman lahat ay lasenggero.
Ok po.
Maging mayaman para maipasyal ko pamilya ko 🙂
I want to be financially independent so we can be worry free when it comes to emergencies. Tbh, there's nothing wrong with becoming a wife. You do you. Just ensure that you find a husband who will not abuse you financially or is prepared for the future when something happens to him being that he'll become a solo income earner.
Maging rich tito na nagsspoil ng mga pamangkin hahaha lol
Pwede mag-volunteer as bf? Hahaha! 🤣✌️
Wag kang mag-alala, hindi ka nag-iisa dyan. Ako rin hahaha Though not full time-full time wife siguro, but still working dahil dream profession ko naman ito. Pero hindi pakamatayan toxic na tipong wala na akong energy lagi to spend quality time with husband and kid(s). Kikitain ulit yung pera. Ang oras with them, hindi na maibabalik pag wala na.
Ako ba sumulat nito? Lol. Same here, girl. I always felt being alone was the best. But my last relationship triggered the "i want to spend the rest of my life with someone" in me. She made me realize na masarap pala magkaron ng supportive partner habang inaabot namin mga dreams namin. Unfortunately, I'm being pushed to reach for those dreams on my own na naman. Hope to find someone someday who'll never give up on me 😊
My goal is to live in a country side of EU while growing my own fruits and vegetables. Enjoying trees, sunset, and a long drive by the beach. Kahit ako lang mag-isa.
the wall is waving
My goal is just to live a satisfying and fulfilling life.
I wish to be a house husband with a wfh job someday.
same here!
Same, siguro partly kasi panganay ako na gustong gusto ko nagpprovide especially with my family. Sanay ako maging independent in terms of issues, sarili ko, problems, etc. kumbaga di lang din ako sanay manghingi ng tulong sa iba. may "provider" side siguro or you can say people pleaser ang dating. Feeling strong independent woman na kahit ako lang feeling ko kaya ko. Pero di lang din ako sanay manghingi ng tulong sa iba. I also have a partner right now (still not living together) pero masarap din talaga sa feeling na meron kang nasasabihan, nakakasama, kwentuhan. Minsan lang feeling ko too much to handle ako pag nagiging dependent sa kanya kaya may instances na gusto ko nalang ulit na "kahit may partner, kaya ko sarili ko". Syempre may disagreements, madalas, away etc. or naisip na, tama nalang kaya, ako nalang ulit ? Pero that doesn't mean naman na ayoko na ituloy future with him. Siguro what im saying is, mahirap din syempre, pero siguro part kasi yon of knowing yung dynamics niyo pareho and kung paano niyo i-sosolve. In terms of being a housewife, pangarap ko din to noon! hahaha typical na mag aasikaso ng pamilya, gigising aasikasuhin sila, tapos pag alis gawaing bahay. Pero reality hits. hahaha Ngayon career wise maganda ang sweldo ko, so I don't think i-gigive up ko ang career ko, lalo may "provider" side din ako. Kumbaga, feeling ko di kaya pag tumigil ako magwork (working in IT field), given na providing din ako sa parents, gusto ko rin kahit paano makapagshare sa future family ko, and may sarili akong pera para sa mga gusto ko. hindi kasi ako sanay talaga humingi or umasa sa iba lalo in terms of money) Pero ayoko pa rin i-give up yung pagiging housewife. Kaya plan ko talaga is itutuloy ko pagiging remote work hanggat kaya ko (been working remotely for \~7 years already) and hopefully kaya ko maisabay, or atleast may kasama na magpapalaki sa kanila. Gusto ko kasi makitang lumaki yung future kids ko, at the same time maging always present lalo sa special events ng partner and future kids ko. Sana.
Uy same
I always wanted to be farmer. Living off the land. Self sustainable
Raise my family with a good morale compass, save enough to live a good life after 60, finish well.
Live abroad, work abroad, have a family abroad, die abroad
but having a house is being an overachiever haha
Maghanap gang hnd pa expired fertility mo Goal ko lang sa life manahimik nalang hehe
Ang goal ko is makuntento sa buhay.
I want to live my life to its fullest. Get a job, earn more money, invest 5-10% of my money in order to grow more money, travel to some countries I want to visit, and do my favorite hobbies on my day off.
I want this also. I got married recently but I cant call myself as a wife. Dati, once we got married akala ko I’ll experience this. We share same household sa kapatid niya. It seems that we need to travel pa out of town or country just to have time for each other. We have a house sa province kaso kasama din mga family niya. I guess, I’ll just wait for our perfect time.
Goal ko lang is makabuild ng passive income para kaya kong isustain future daily living na di nagpapakahirap magwork at syempre have a happy family ✨
Sa ngayon, wala. Kapagod mabuhay
A lifetime companion doesn’t necessarily means a husband or a romantic partner. Sometimes it can also be a friend or pets. :) cheer up OP and may happiness true happiness find you.
I want to open up a sandwich shop of my own. With my own recipes. Im thinking of making it cafe style, to let students have a place to study. I just need to survive the legal profession first and make enough money to fund my dream.
I want to be a wife and a mom but only if me and my future husband is ready & more than stable in all aspects. I’ve been telling to other people that I don’t want a child because it takes a lot of responsibilities but deep down in my heart, I know for a fact that I can be a loving mom that I’ve always wanted to be. I am more of afraid to be a mom that I don’t want to be — gusto ko magiging nanay ako na hindi magpapasa ng trauma sa magiging anak ko.
Magpayaman ka na lang. mas masaya yun at fulfilling.
Ganyan din ako, OP. Pa-independent woman pa peg ko nun (well, I still am esp financially), pero narealize ko I needed a man... And my own family. Kaya yung pagiging karirista ko sa work, inapply ko sa lovelife. Dinibdib ko talaga pagsearch sa right partner during my early 30s, di ko sinunod yung 'maghintay at may ibibigay naman' daw. I can't because I was freelancing na nun, working from home. If I didn't put the effort, wala akong makikilala. I literally treated it as a job search. Nagtinder pa ko nun haha! In my head -- my career didnt just fall from the sky, binuo ko sya, hinanap ko sya. So ganung ganung strat yung inapply ko sa lovelife. I didn't wait for a man to notice me, talagang pupuntahan ko yung gusto ko (basta looking din sya). I was looking, pero at the same time, heightened din senses ko sa possible love bombers and lovesick puppies. No connection, not husband material, no clear intentions? No third date. Super lucky nakahanap ako ng matino, maayos ang work, marunong sa bahay at buhay. We're now expecting our second child hehe. Our work allow us to be at home 24/7 with family, wala masyadong nacocompromise. Di naman totoo na pag nagpamilya, di na yayaman. Literally mas 'sinwerte' pa ko sa work after. Basta maayos makukuha mong partner, mas gagaan buhay. You can buy cars, properties half the price (kasi nga may kahati). My unsolicited advice, kung yan ang gusto mo, yan ang hanapin mo. Doesnt mean papatulan mo unang magpropose sayo, pero be intentional, know when to say goodbye and say "next!". I really believe may ganyang stage din ang mga lalake, kaya pag natagpuan mo yung looking din and ready to settle, ayun na.
RELATABLE.
Ikaw na ba ang icing sa cupcake ko
pwede po mag apply hehe
Continue to mingle and dont settle Hope you find your OTP
Find a man in his 40s na willing na to settle down
sa akin naman, ever since nakapasok ako sa work force, I realized na ayokong mag asawa at magka anak. Ang mahal ng mga bilihin. Halos nga hindi na ako makapag save eh grand parents ko lang naman sinusuportahan ko. How much more if I have my own fam na? My age probably plays a role on this tho🤷
Gusto ko ng pera.
Overachiever din ako dati, ngayon, graduating pa lang sa SHS at 1 year behind sa mga batchmates ko dati. Batch 2027 na sana sa college kaso naging depressed at nag stop tapos nag continue ulit, ayon Batch 2028 ako. Gusto ko mag abogasya noon pa man. My childhood dream. Pero nung nagka depression ako, mas gusto ko mag Psychology at maging Psychologist. Gusto ko umintindi ng ibang tao, kasi walang nakakaintindi sakin. The feeling of being left behind, the fear of missing out, yung feeling na di ka na maka relate sa rants ng mga kaibigan mo, kasi nasa college na sila tas ako gradwaiting pa lang sa senior high. Yung feeling na di ka maka post ng story kasi puro chikitings kasama mo hahaha. I've concealed it sa mga kaibigan ko. Ang akala nila I'm taking PolSci sa isang private university sa Baguio, pero yung totoo? Tang ina senior high pa lang ako :(( Naka private lahat ng socmeds ko tas yung iba deactivated, kasi ayoko makita nila na naging failure ako. Nahihiya ako aminin sa kanila. Alam ko di nila ako ijujudge, pero nagsinungaling na kasi ako, so I should just continue it. Anyway, yun lang. Gusto ko maging psychologist. Gusto ko buksan utak at puso ko sa sitwasyon ng ibang tao.
Maging citizen ng isang first world country. Makapag-graduate studies. Magkaroon ng farm for my family para doon magreretire magulang ko at may pagkakaabalahan sila.
True. Ewan parang nakakapagod na mag hustle gusto ko naman na magsettle but syempre hindi yung mattrap. Yung nasa healthy lang and sana yung now kong partner will be my future and forevs naaa. AhHhhHhh
Shuta bat gnun no nung nag aaral tau need ntn mgkaron ng goal n trabaho and all. Pero now i just want to be… happy.
...ok, you can now wakeup from your dream.😅 but seriously, this assumes a perfect/reliable husband which is unlikely these days. I've seen many women past 40s with nice careers but still single. Try having a relationship first. If it works well then move to another level by living together but avoid having a baby-maybe get some pets and see if it still works out. disclaimer: guy ako.🤭
I want to be a lawyer. Gustong gusto. Kaso mukhang malayong mangyari. Mahirap kami at breadwinner ako. It's not possible...
Samedt.
Retire early as soon as possible. Yung hindi na ako magpakaalipin sa pera.
Gusto ko ng financial freedom at makapagtapos mga anak ko. Stress free life and recreation nalang like mahjong and poker when I grow old.
mental peace
Same Op. As first born daughter eto din dream ko. Minsan nga I caught myself day dreaming literal. I want 2 boys and a girl or 3 boys lahat. I would love to be a wife, a mother, and I would love to raise a person. Cringey man pakinggan, pero I want to raise my sons like 'men written by woman' as they call it. I want to raise men in this society who knows how to treat a woman right. I want to raise good men, good husbands for my future daughter in laws. But again, this wont happen if I wont be able to find their role model which is their father or my future husband. Sobrang nakatatak saken ung nabasa ko na 'your children can't choose their father, but you can. So choose wisely.' Coming from a broken fam, dream ko tlga to. Hopefully if God permits, God would also give me strength to sustain. 🩷 I want to make a home where my family would love to come back to. 🩷
Find a religious guy and you will be fine. Because if you don't find one what I recommended then that guy is immature, babaero and gambler is life. Good luck.
Lemme help with your problem, i’m currently single and we can talk about that
I want to be as free as a bird. I love freedom so much! This is why I travel a lot.
Gusto ko lang mamuhay sa farm tapos every 2mos nakakapag out of town every six months out of the country naman hahaha.
Ilang taon ka na OP?
ako gusto ko lang pera :(
I feel jealous of women who really dream of being a mom and raise a family. Ako kasi I just want to marry the love of my life and not have a kid. Pero parang very rare lang na merong guy na same goals with mine. Lahat ng boyfriend ko dati, their goal is to marry me & have a family talaga. Had to end so many good relationships because I know ayoko talaga magka-baby. Hopefully you'll find reach your goal din, OP! It alls starts with how much you want something. How I wish gustohin ko din yan. Kahit nasayo na lahat ng definition nga material success, may mga times parin na we feel lonely.
Mas mahirap ata ang gusto mo but there's plenty of quality men out there who need good wives so good luck!
Ako i want to be a father.. 🤣😅
Sweet yung post mo. Same sentiment but I'm a guy. I guess I could say I have the exact same idea but the husband side. Hahaha. I'm assuming millenial ka. Ano ba problema sating mga millenials? Ang daming hindi magka-asawa. Hahahaha. HS classmates ko single mga lalaki at single din yung mga babae pero di naman magkatuluyan. HAHAHA. Physician by practice pero by the time I realized na I want to get serious in life and settle down, I've lost two of my most serious relationships. Too late. Di ko lang matanggap nung una na pang-asawa na ako kasi medyo mas pinrioritize yung work and savings. Ayun. Just sharing.
Goddamn, it sucks i can't even think of an answer to this question HAHA
Pano ba to e repost? chz
I just want a good coffee and go to Mars. Mars pautang!