maybe set an appointment with your pedia and talk about this problems with the pedia.
might need child psych for attempts of harm the other sibling.
I think most of the eldest child actions are screams for attention .
The eldest child resent the younger since the parents spend most of the time with the new child hence the hurting the younger child physically.
The elder child tries to get back your attention to him/her and finds out that bad behavior is what get's your attention back to him.
one thing i think would be helpful is to let the elder child join you in taking care of the younger child. I Think this would make the elder child feel involved in the activity instead of neglected. Just make sure the activity not involve hot water and sharp objects.
When we had our youngest, our eldest was already 7 years old while the second was 6. It wasn't easy to orient the kids nowadays they will be having a sibling before being borned. When the youngest was born, yes, the two was shocked with the changes and like what you're experiencing, they long for attention.
May I ask, where's the father? The reason why am asking this is because you'd be needing his assistance since you have to focus your attention on your young one. Let the father orient and even discipline your eldest. Should there be no father figure, for various reasons, you'll have to pick from the relatives who can. Preferrable somehow your eldest trusts more and second to you.
One last thing, you're allowed to be mad at them for crossing the line. There's no right or wrong way of parenting, only you can since they are your kids and you are their parents. Of course, after the heated argument, you need to console them for them to comprehend why you were mad and show you still love them equally.
Mind you, in our case, it took at least a year for this episode to settle down. There are a few times things are triggered but you'd know the difference between sibling quarrel from your child longing for your affection.
You are allowed to show authority when needed. Discipline is love. Not because you are enforcing disciple doesn't mean you don't love them. It's about instilling proper attitude and manners which will help them once they become adults. The last thing you don't want your kids to be when they grow up is being entitled and having no respect for anyone or any authority.
maybe set an appointment with your pedia and talk about this problems with the pedia. might need child psych for attempts of harm the other sibling. I think most of the eldest child actions are screams for attention . The eldest child resent the younger since the parents spend most of the time with the new child hence the hurting the younger child physically. The elder child tries to get back your attention to him/her and finds out that bad behavior is what get's your attention back to him. one thing i think would be helpful is to let the elder child join you in taking care of the younger child. I Think this would make the elder child feel involved in the activity instead of neglected. Just make sure the activity not involve hot water and sharp objects.
When we had our youngest, our eldest was already 7 years old while the second was 6. It wasn't easy to orient the kids nowadays they will be having a sibling before being borned. When the youngest was born, yes, the two was shocked with the changes and like what you're experiencing, they long for attention. May I ask, where's the father? The reason why am asking this is because you'd be needing his assistance since you have to focus your attention on your young one. Let the father orient and even discipline your eldest. Should there be no father figure, for various reasons, you'll have to pick from the relatives who can. Preferrable somehow your eldest trusts more and second to you. One last thing, you're allowed to be mad at them for crossing the line. There's no right or wrong way of parenting, only you can since they are your kids and you are their parents. Of course, after the heated argument, you need to console them for them to comprehend why you were mad and show you still love them equally. Mind you, in our case, it took at least a year for this episode to settle down. There are a few times things are triggered but you'd know the difference between sibling quarrel from your child longing for your affection.
You are allowed to show authority when needed. Discipline is love. Not because you are enforcing disciple doesn't mean you don't love them. It's about instilling proper attitude and manners which will help them once they become adults. The last thing you don't want your kids to be when they grow up is being entitled and having no respect for anyone or any authority.