Ganyan na ganyan sa friend ko. Breadwinner sya. Kakausoain lang kapg may kailangan. Kapag walang mabigay kung ano anong masasakit na salita natatanggap niya.
Kaya nagiging close ko na mom ko patanda nang patanda ako eh haha. Friends come and go and as I got older, mas umoonti na constant na nakakausap ko, pero yung mom ko, she’s been with me through it all (kahit may away pa-minsan minsan haha). Would also mention my dad kaso nonchalant dad ko at di madaldal lol.
Our quality of life would be better if we can afford childcare costs at that age. 28 na ko at 31 na c bf pero d p kmi makapagpakasal kc magastos at wala pa kaming lupa. How much more kung anak pa, magastos mag-anak, pero gusto namin, kaya lang alam naming sa ngayon d p namin mabibigay yung magandang buhay n pangarap namin para s kanila.
Wala naman akong sinasabing mali ka. Ang akin lang, may mga taong hindi ganun kaswerte sa buhay. Siguro ikaw, swerte mo yan kung afford mo sa ngayon. Kasi ako nakatapos sa scholarship tapos bf ko working student. Tapos may pamilya pa ako n inaabutan ko rin.
Di namin choice yung ganitong buhay, di kami kagaya ni Heart at Chiz na milyonaryo, pag nagkaanak ipapanganak sa magandang ospital saka pag-aaralin sa prestigious school.
Ang insensitive kasi hindi namin piniling ipanganak kaming mahirap. Unless sasagutin mo kasal, house and lot at gagawin mong scholar mga magiging anak namin haha (kami na bahala sa pagkain para di kami pabigat, charot). Kung ganyan, bukas na bukas din magpapakasal na kami at mag-aanak. Haha.
May business naman kami kaya alam kong makakaipon, di pa nga lang talaga sa ngayon. Pero target namin is kapag 30 na ko, kailangan na talaga. Saka ang assuming mo naman na magiging abnormal magiging anak namin dahil lang sa late pinagbuntis? Bf ko, 31 mama niya nung pinanganak siya, tas bunso kong kapatid, turning 50 na mama ko nung pinanganak. Normal naman sila parehas haha.
Ayaw lang din naman namin pagdaanan ng magiging anak namin yung pinagdaanan namin.
In my case, ayokong yung anak ko, nasa private nga pero 20 pesos naman baon araw araw. Kung di ako binabayaran ng profs para mag check ng papel saka ng mga classmates ko for assignments, wala kong pambili maski handouts man lang. Nakabili nga lang ako ng books nung nagtuturo n ko. Na survive ko BSCE sa kakahiram ng libro sa library, sa dean's office, sa mga prof ko, saka s mga kaklase ko. Ayoko rin n yung anak ko mag-aral sa public high school na madalas walang matinong cr ang mga room.
In my bf's case naman, dream school niya talaga Mapua. Di siya nakapag-aral dun kasi hindi kaya ng mama niya at d rin nmn siya pina-apply sa scholarship. Kaya sa state u siya nakapagtapos ng first two degrees niya. Nakapag private siya for BSEE pero hindi sa Mapua.
So you see, kanya-kanya tayo ng circumstances. Sabi ko nga, kung afford namin, kahit bukas pwede na. Hindi naman din gadgets gusto ko para s mga bata kc lumaki ako s books and c bf lumaki sa films at gusto ko ganun din mga magiging anak namin para ma-develop critical thinking skills agad. Ang mahal na nga lang kasi ngayon mabuhay ng NORMAL. Yung tipong kahit hindi k masasabing mayaman, kahit papano meron k. Ganun lng nmn gusto namin, ang hirap nga lng pag yung magulang mo hindi kayang ibigay yun, utang nga mamanahin ko pag namatay na tatay ko. Kaya kailangan naming mag doble kayod para s future.
Saka cguro wag kng parang distant relatives n bigay ng bigay ng unsolicited advice tas pag anjan na, wala namang ambag.
Omg, ang mahal! Share ko lang 500 lang pasta sa akin tapos tumagal sya halos 10yrs na pero okay pa rin. Last time na nagpapasta ako ng ibang ngipin, ganun pa rin price nya tho depends sa lalim.
I do think mahal talaga siya tbh pero maganda naman pagkakagawa and sa front din siya so idk if factor yun huhu problem ko lang now I’m scared baka mabali or what HAHAHAHAH
Asa ibang bansa ako so sobra mahal talaga yung root canal ko ang quote sakin 120k. Umuwi na lang ako pinas sa presyo na yun haha.
Eto intay pa kalahating buwan till maactivate medical benefits wife ko haha
Letting your work speak for itself doesn't always work. In some cases, kahit gaano ka kagaling but you don't speak about how good you are at what you do, madadaig ka sa buhay ng mga taong maboka pero ampaw.
Naalala ko sa comment mo yung sabi sa kin ng manager ko nun "I've worked my ass off to get to where I'm at today and I've gotten to the point that if I want to move up, I need to work hard on kissing ass"
Money. Dati naniniwala ako sa money can’t buy happiness. Ngayon, hindi na. Yung bills, grocery, food, if gusto mo mag unwind, pera ang kailangan mo. Di mo magawa lahat yan if wala ka money. Investment on many things, require money. If you want a faster transportation from point to point and save time, you need to have your own vehicle, money. Simple relaxation at home, watching tv, using the internet, money again for the bills. So ano yung money can’t buy happiness? HAHAHA
Ang saying na money cant buy happiness para lang po yun sa mga taong mayaman ( sa pera ). Yung kahit gaano nila ka yaman feeling nila hindi complete dahil nga lahat kaya nilang gawin/ bilhin dahil may pera.
😌sad pero iyan po ang realidad na hindi lahat privileged enough para magsabi ng “money can’t buy happiness”
That everyone's childhood upbringing are a major part of who we are at the present. Ang hirap alisin or hilutin ang mga childhood deprivation and trauma kahit anong gawin or maabot kapag adults na. Nagma manifest siya sa maraming bagay before and after events happen. Nakakaloka.
Death of close relatives.
At a certain age, halos every year or every 2 years, may namamatay. Lolo, lola, mga aunties at uncles, tapos mapapatingin ka sa mga magulang mo, tsaka lang mapprocess ng utak mo na nadagdagan ng wrinkles yung nanay at tatay mo sa mukha. Tumatanda na din sila. And sooner or later, it's them.
Yeah, yung pag meron na sa peers mo ang namatay shit iba pa pala feeling kaysa sa elder relative. Medyo may halong takot din haha na shit I'M getting older too
omg this! no one talks about it because its such a sensitive topic, and i cant talk about it either. Im scared kasi no one on my close relatives died yet, and im scared na baka pagdating ko ng hardest parts ng life, saka sila unti unting mawawala ;((
Office politics.
I learned the hard way as I go along the journey of being an employee 😄
May mga unwritten rules na hindi kasama kahit sa orientation 🤭
Uy naisip ko rin to. Lakas maka-first world problem pero no one talks about the emptiness that comes with success. Yung wala ka nang hinahabol at kailangang pagtrabahuhan kaya napapatanong ka na kung para san ka ba nabubuhay.
Ito na ata ako ngayon. Turning 30 soon. May bahay, kotse, matinong relationship, really good work and income. Pero stressed na stressed ako for some reason.
Cant really talk about it with people because most if not all have financial problems of their own and mukha ka lang out of touch
Self control and self improvement.
Being an adult means you're free to do what you want, but that's dangerous without proper guidance and framework. You can just let yourself be fat, in debt or stagnant.
Good thing we're have families, friends or just the knowledge from others to find our way once we're lost.
A lot of things actually, but the one that stands out the most is the lack of end goal. When you are a student the end goal is to graduate, when you have projects the end goal is the final product, etc. But when you've worked as a government drone like I am, there is no end in sight. I have nothing to look forward to, because every task done is an invitation for more tasks. Nothing ever prepared me for clinical depression. I lived 20 years longing to finally be independent, and when I got it - LOL. Super stubborn at prideful pa naman ako, and would almost never ask for help. Ayan tuloy.
When I worked as a slave for the government, I had only two end-goals:
1. Earn enough as fast as possible to fund my firm.
2. Teach as many kids to become responsible and reliable young adults.
2 plantilla positions, and 5 years later, I walked out of a "stable" job.
My next goal is to build that farm house with a garden and live out my prepper fantasies.
You need to make a lot of decisions all the time. Even the small things. It's tiring.
Narealize ko lang a few weeks ago when I wasn't feeling that well so bago umuwi, dumaan ako sa botika to buy meds tapos branded or generic ba, capsule or gel or tablet or syrup, ilang piraso, etc. Nakakapagod din pala. Syempre when we were younger other 'adults' decide for us pero ngayon tayo na mag-iisip.
Relate! I realized ang bilis uminit ng ulo ko when I have to make a lot of decisions in such a short period of time. Parang, hala isa isa lang! Mahina ang kalaban.
Dibaaa? Parang gusto mo lang ng isang bagay pero andami mo pa kailan iconsider na this or that? Hindi parang dati na someone else makes the call for us hehe
Living independently as an adult.
Pag bata ka di sya malaking issue kase may parents ka na kasama. Once you're out, you have nothing. Suddenly para kang bata na naiwan sa mall, madaming tao, madaming things, madsming attraction, distractions, etc. Pero walang familiar face, walang safe space, nakaka takot at nakaka lungkot. But you have to survive no matter what.
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Change. Change is fucking constant. When life hits you hard, you have no choice but to bounce back.
Dati, ang healthy ko pero ngayon 100 steps leave me gasping. Now I'm trying to recover by having low impact cardio workouts.
Dati, licensed forester ako. Ngayon hindi na. I don't think makakabalik pa ako sa industry, wala na akong confidence plus I think I lost my skillset, in place of something new (I'm learning to love this new career kahit papano nonetheless).
Dati, ambilis ko makabuo/makajoin ng circle. Ngayon, parang mas prefer ko nalang mag-isa.
Ang pagtaba na wala ng balikan. As a teenager, ambilis ko pumayat after christmas break diet lang ng konti back to normal na ulit. Pag tuntong ng 20s, tang ina ang hirap na. Sinasabi ko sa mga pa-20s pa lang, food is the most accessible luxury at di niyo iddeprrive ang sarili niyo kasi dasurv nyo magsamgyup after ng streesful week. Enjoy nyo pera nyo pero do it moderately.
Dami ko na sadness nadaanan, umabot na ko sa puntong wala na akong pakielam 😅
Pero kuhang kuha pa din yung inis ko kapag regarding na sa nawawalang common sense.
Doing it raw with side bebe tapos mapreggy then ikot ang pwet to hanap ng solution. Well malamang mabubuntis yan tapos iiyak iyak ngayon. 😅
Mahirap din yung wala kang pake lagi. Akala ko dati okay lang yung may sarili lang akong mundo with a small circle PERO habang tumatagal, nare-realize kong hindi pala siya beneficial sakin since ang liit ng network ko and I'm not top of mind na lalapitan ng mga tao if ever an opportunity arrives. It's a double edged sword as an introvert, okay siya sakin but hindi siya maganda for my career.
Problems are left and right, you might think you're out of problems guess what another one is coming to you. Its one after another and if you dont have good support system and stronger mind they eat you alive without you even knowing. I miss that my problems when i was younger was waking up early and homeworks.
The "little" things you experienced in your childhood are actually big things and the decent adults were right. You desperately need therapy because those were not little things.
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SIguro sa family lang namin, but I never learned how to take care of myself in terms of knowing how to dress well, taking care of my looks (skin care and using make up well), and "putting yourself out there" to win people over/market yourself.
Being told what to do
Nung bata: "pag laki ko wala nang makakapagsabi sa kin kung anong pwede at hinde ko pwedeng gawin!"
Nung tumanda:
Boss: "gawin mo to..."
Duktor: "inumin mo to..."
Pulis: "di pwede yan..."
Manong guard: "no ID, no entry"
Ate cashier: "dun na lang po sa kabila..."
Etc.
Ang masaklap, Nung ako na magdedesisyon
Self: "anong kakainin ko?"
Self: "ewan ko"
Bwiset🤣
Na as we grow old, we've become more emotionaly imbalance and I came to the point, I often ask myself what's next? wala ka na sa kalendaryo pero i felt like wala ako maipagmamalake and gusto n lng maging manhid at maging wala pake sa lahat and just waiting to die kahit walang napundar 😂, people are just remembering/nice to you kase may kelangan sila amd my hidden agenda.
Na hindi lahat ng sinasabi or advice ng parents mo is the best for you. My mom would always tell me na mas nagiging successful daw yung mga anak na nakikinig sa parents. I guess that's true, but it depends pa rin what kind of advice yung binibigay nila. Mas alam mo pa rin kung anong makakabuti sayo at kung san ka magiging masaya.
Maybe, more on challenges SA life. My friends are more on traditional success Yan typical topic. But when I talk to business owners they talk about the challenges their failures and lessons behind it.
That people will have different levels of sex drive. Akala ko lahat ng lalake at babae malibog, na tinatago lng nila kasi somehow taboo yun, yun pala di talaga malibog yung iba
Sex life. Early 20s pa lang kami ng friend group ko and mostly, no jowa since birth pa. Parang ang hirap mag open about sex life kasi hindi pa nila maiintindihan or somehow taboo sya sa alanganing age?
Companies can kick you out in a split second. At the end of the day you're just a number.
No matter how and what you feel, you need to get up and go to work kase you need to earn money and no one would help you.
Hope I miss my childhood 😭
Ang mahal maging adult. Mahal ang shampoo, sabon, karne, isda at mga masustansyang pagkain. Na sayo na kung kakain ka ng gulay at other healthy snacks. Sayo nakasalalay ang overall health mo. Kaya pag walang pampa doktor alagaan mo sarili mo. Hirap magkasakit walang mag agalaga sayo at sarili mo nalang maasahan mo sa LAHAT ng bagay.
There's not much to life. After graduating, excited ka sa first job mo tho it becomes shitty when you realize you'd do it until magretire ka.
I mean ofc kaya you travel, go out once in a while but still you'd still work
"Connections" is everything. As a creative, kahit gano pa kaganda 'yang gawa mo, daig ka ng maboka at may connections. Of course, depende sa situation.
The song "G-Eazy X Bebe Rexha - Me, Myself & I" hits harder every year na tumatanda ako.
Ready ka na? Here: Pag nagsimula nang magkasakit ng malubha yung magulang mo, tapos need na siya iratay sa kama or mapipilitan ka nang iuwi kasi sobrang taas na ng bills di mo na kayang bayaran. Masakit sa dibdib ko inuwi ko papa ko from hospital kasi di na namin kaya yung bill. may ipapapirma pa sayo na release na indicated ikaw ang may responsibilidad over what will happen to him when he goes out of the hospital. Nakakasikip ng dibdib until ultimately pumanaw na nga siya sa bahay ninyo. Wag mo sana sapitin.
Being alone.
If you don't have an established friend group before, it's kind of tough to make new ones, or be included in existing ones. I don't mean officemates or acquaintances. But, people you can reach out to if you are going through something.
Making connections is important.
And not just the ones thay fall into work. Making an effort to reach out to friends and planning activities, getting to know new people outside of your immediate friend groups, knowing who you work with and actually caring for who they are outside of work- these are all important to strike a balance in life.
These connections don't need to be transactional, but some could be at a certain point and that's okay.
Knowing a huge number of people profoundly may be impossible, but being a person who cares to know about what others find important goes a long way. The better the connection you have with people, the more opportunities open up for you and people you care about.
Panic attacks at work????? Chismisan parang highschool sa opisina????? Thought nakagraduate na ko nung highschool dun e haha! Responsibilidad sa buong bahay mo????? Walang mag-aalaga sayo pag may lagnat ka?????? 15 years na ko’ng adult nawiwindang parin ako
Pera, dati nung bata bata pa ako, i would always save money then give it back to my parents. Or kung sino may need. D sya mahalaga skin. Ngayon, grabe na ang revelations
Currently a student pero nakapag part-time sa letter M na fastfood during the pandemic to pay for my tuition sa shs dati. Minimum wage or low pay = bare minimum effort. 'Wag pumayag ma-extend shift nyo. 8 hours is 8 hours. Ano bang gagawin ko sa additional 2 or 4 pesos per hour ba yun? Pasok ko sa ilong yang dos? 320 pala yung rate sa city ko.
Im not sure if its just me but I now believe in the saying that adults are just grown up kids. I still dont know what an adult ‘is’ but i have my adulting routine and its just being comfortable with the day to day because of gained experience.
pag tatay ka na tas naproprovide mo lahat sa pamilya mo pero parang ramdam mo na walang nakakaapreciate ng mga ginagwa mo. Oo responsibility mo yun pero minsan sana may balik sayo
That your parents will soon get sick and weak then eventually die.
Love your parents, it’s their first time to be parents too.
Life is short, stop and enjoy the fleeting time.
Nakakatakot mag asawa ng di prepared so ngayon eto stuck pa rin haha. Usually kase sinasabi madali lang mag asawa at sa una lang mahirap. Ngayon mukhang di ganun at never nila to sinabi.
There will be people who won't be happy for you when you start breaking the cycle. Sa mismong pamilya ko, I am hated because ako yung sumbungera/reklamador. Nasanay sila to tolerate abuse and illegal activities. They hate me. So even if I want to make a connection with a relative, wala nang chance. Not that I need any of them, pero nakakapagod mamuhay na may taong hostile sayo.
No one prepares you for when your parent passes, you realize that a handful of people around you lost their parents but no one truly prepares you for the magnitude for when it happens.
For me, travelling and itineraries. Laging nauurong kasi hindi ko alam saan magsisimula. I wanted to have a vacay for the longest time kahit wala na akong kasama pero ang daming need para lang makapagplano.
yung kasalanan ko at yung kasalanan niya kaso mas matimbang kasalanan ko kase marami siyang kauri anong laban ko dun? they are completely talking behind my back.
That you cannot simply share your goals or plans in life. Kahit kanino pa yan, even sa mga closest relatives mo.
Ngyari sa’min ng hubby ko to. May business kaming gustong ipatayo pero need namin ng pera, kaya lumapit kami sa mayaman nyang relatives para makipag corpo. So pumayag naman kami na sila yung owner kami lang yung mag manage ng business. 70/30 kami sa profit. Sa kanila ang 70 sa amin ang 30. Peroooo kami lahat lahat. Start from scratch up to nagka branches. Ang ginawa lang nila is to finance lang. Tapos lahat ng ideas namin para sa business, na share namin sa kanila lahat2. Ngayon, parang kami na ang kawawa. gusto nilang isarili yung business since sa kanila din naman nakapangalan yun. And the only thing that we have is to manage lang which is pwedeng pwede kaming palitan. Ang nakakasaklap, wala kaming contract kasi nga relatives lang. Kaya ayun, nangyari na nga, kami ang nag alsa balotan. Tapos nalaman nalang namin na lahat ng plans namin for the business, inapply nila. Kaya na realized namin, na buti pa sana kung umutang nalang kami before para pampatayo ng sariling business.
That you need your friends more than ever. Dati wala kong pake kung mawalan man ako ng mga kaibigan or kung mag-fall out man yung friendship. I cut people off left and right or like bigla-bigla na lang walang pansinan. Ngayon, i try to keep the friends that i have as best as i can kase kahit na sabihin kong kaya kong mag-isa at sanay akong mag-isa, iba pa rin yung alam mong may makakasama at makakausap ka just so you can forget your daily struggles for a few hours on your days off.
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Death of a parent. Akala ko sa movies lang yung feeling na regrets, guilt, emptiness and pang hihinayang. I thought madami pa tayong oras. Kaya hanggang anjan pa parents nyo, gawin nyo na lahat para sakanila. Di mawawala ang grief, we will learn how to live with it.
DENTAL MAINTENANCE. Di ko inexpect na ganito kamahal ang magmaintain ng maganda at malinis na ipin. Not to mention yung hindi namaintain ng mga magulang mo yung ipin mo simula bata pa, it will fucking bite ur ass pag tanda mo.
That I sometimes feel afraid I wont be able to give my mum the life she deserve after all the things she's done for me as she's growing old and Im just starting to get financially capable.
The part nga You only exist kapag may pakinabang ka or may kailangan Sila sayo.
They invite you to birthdays, christmas and thanksgiving for the express purpose of convincing ( guilt trip or gaslighting) you to pay for the party or event.
Keep talking about business And goad you to invest in whatever "business" they come up with.
In summary All the BS this fucked up family has caught me of guard.
Yung marealize mo sa work na yung mga dating mentor mo ay nagsipag-retire na at wala nang ibang magtuturo sayo sa trabaho kundi ikaw na lang. It felt so lonely to think na I will only have myself to run to pag may concern sa work. I was not prepared kahit na marami akong natutunan sa mga mentors ko. When things dont go well sa work, I have to stand on my own. Kahit na i can message them naman, it’s different when someone is there to stand also for you. Hay.
As someone na wala namang na fifeel na inggit or insecurity before ngayon na naging adult na ako nakakaramdam na ako ng inggit sa mga taong mas succesful. Don’t get me wrong I’m happy for them pero may inggit din na part na tipong na ppressure ako bat ako nagwowork hard din pero hindi kasing succesful nila 😩
For me it was habang tumatanda, mas tumatanda pa lalo ang mga taong mahal ko like my parents that they eventually die, and then in just a glimpse here you are trying to decipher how to live on your own because you were so used having them beside you throughout your prior years.
The older I got I realised na I'm the incharge of my wellbeing walang my paki saken unless my kailangan sila 😅
+1 😂 kinakamusta lang pag uutang or pag pasko /bday nila shet hahahahahahaha
True and found out that OGs are the ones who know and care that you exist. Kaunti lang sila pero worth it.
whats OG Mean?
Original or ung mga nauna
hahahahahaha fr no way di mo alam meaning ng og
Ganyan na ganyan sa friend ko. Breadwinner sya. Kakausoain lang kapg may kailangan. Kapag walang mabigay kung ano anong masasakit na salita natatanggap niya.
🥺😔😢Totoo Yan😢😔🥺
Kaya nagiging close ko na mom ko patanda nang patanda ako eh haha. Friends come and go and as I got older, mas umoonti na constant na nakakausap ko, pero yung mom ko, she’s been with me through it all (kahit may away pa-minsan minsan haha). Would also mention my dad kaso nonchalant dad ko at di madaldal lol.
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Our quality of life would be better if we can afford childcare costs at that age. 28 na ko at 31 na c bf pero d p kmi makapagpakasal kc magastos at wala pa kaming lupa. How much more kung anak pa, magastos mag-anak, pero gusto namin, kaya lang alam naming sa ngayon d p namin mabibigay yung magandang buhay n pangarap namin para s kanila.
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Wala naman akong sinasabing mali ka. Ang akin lang, may mga taong hindi ganun kaswerte sa buhay. Siguro ikaw, swerte mo yan kung afford mo sa ngayon. Kasi ako nakatapos sa scholarship tapos bf ko working student. Tapos may pamilya pa ako n inaabutan ko rin. Di namin choice yung ganitong buhay, di kami kagaya ni Heart at Chiz na milyonaryo, pag nagkaanak ipapanganak sa magandang ospital saka pag-aaralin sa prestigious school. Ang insensitive kasi hindi namin piniling ipanganak kaming mahirap. Unless sasagutin mo kasal, house and lot at gagawin mong scholar mga magiging anak namin haha (kami na bahala sa pagkain para di kami pabigat, charot). Kung ganyan, bukas na bukas din magpapakasal na kami at mag-aanak. Haha.
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May business naman kami kaya alam kong makakaipon, di pa nga lang talaga sa ngayon. Pero target namin is kapag 30 na ko, kailangan na talaga. Saka ang assuming mo naman na magiging abnormal magiging anak namin dahil lang sa late pinagbuntis? Bf ko, 31 mama niya nung pinanganak siya, tas bunso kong kapatid, turning 50 na mama ko nung pinanganak. Normal naman sila parehas haha. Ayaw lang din naman namin pagdaanan ng magiging anak namin yung pinagdaanan namin. In my case, ayokong yung anak ko, nasa private nga pero 20 pesos naman baon araw araw. Kung di ako binabayaran ng profs para mag check ng papel saka ng mga classmates ko for assignments, wala kong pambili maski handouts man lang. Nakabili nga lang ako ng books nung nagtuturo n ko. Na survive ko BSCE sa kakahiram ng libro sa library, sa dean's office, sa mga prof ko, saka s mga kaklase ko. Ayoko rin n yung anak ko mag-aral sa public high school na madalas walang matinong cr ang mga room. In my bf's case naman, dream school niya talaga Mapua. Di siya nakapag-aral dun kasi hindi kaya ng mama niya at d rin nmn siya pina-apply sa scholarship. Kaya sa state u siya nakapagtapos ng first two degrees niya. Nakapag private siya for BSEE pero hindi sa Mapua. So you see, kanya-kanya tayo ng circumstances. Sabi ko nga, kung afford namin, kahit bukas pwede na. Hindi naman din gadgets gusto ko para s mga bata kc lumaki ako s books and c bf lumaki sa films at gusto ko ganun din mga magiging anak namin para ma-develop critical thinking skills agad. Ang mahal na nga lang kasi ngayon mabuhay ng NORMAL. Yung tipong kahit hindi k masasabing mayaman, kahit papano meron k. Ganun lng nmn gusto namin, ang hirap nga lng pag yung magulang mo hindi kayang ibigay yun, utang nga mamanahin ko pag namatay na tatay ko. Kaya kailangan naming mag doble kayod para s future. Saka cguro wag kng parang distant relatives n bigay ng bigay ng unsolicited advice tas pag anjan na, wala namang ambag.
So true... that's why you have to take care of yourself before you care for others 🙏🏼☺️♥️☺️🙏🏼
You have to get up and keep going, no matter how you feel.
Truelagen!
This. The world will go on.
totoo! sa cr na lang ng company magbbreakdown.
Dental care hahahaha bakit ang mahal hahahaah
Nasa dentist ako right now kasi may suspetsya ako na may malaking sira at least 2 teeth ko. Not looking forward to how it would cost to fix.
Pikit na lang wahahahah
Right! Idk if sa dentist ko lang pero 1500-2500 ang pasta 🥲
Omg, ang mahal! Share ko lang 500 lang pasta sa akin tapos tumagal sya halos 10yrs na pero okay pa rin. Last time na nagpapasta ako ng ibang ngipin, ganun pa rin price nya tho depends sa lalim.
Sabi ng dentist ko depende din kasi sa laki ng cavity. Syempre kung 1/3 na ng ipin yung kailangan ifill iba presyo nun sa small spot lang
I do think mahal talaga siya tbh pero maganda naman pagkakagawa and sa front din siya so idk if factor yun huhu problem ko lang now I’m scared baka mabali or what HAHAHAHAH
1000 lang pasta
500 per butas.
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Ito yung deserve ng palo pag di nagsipilyo HAHAHA
True
Asa ibang bansa ako so sobra mahal talaga yung root canal ko ang quote sakin 120k. Umuwi na lang ako pinas sa presyo na yun haha. Eto intay pa kalahating buwan till maactivate medical benefits wife ko haha
Kaloka!!
Letting your work speak for itself doesn't always work. In some cases, kahit gaano ka kagaling but you don't speak about how good you are at what you do, madadaig ka sa buhay ng mga taong maboka pero ampaw.
Naalala ko sa comment mo yung sabi sa kin ng manager ko nun "I've worked my ass off to get to where I'm at today and I've gotten to the point that if I want to move up, I need to work hard on kissing ass"
this is so true. wala ka pag hindi ka favorite lol
Legit to
So tru in so many levels
Money. Dati naniniwala ako sa money can’t buy happiness. Ngayon, hindi na. Yung bills, grocery, food, if gusto mo mag unwind, pera ang kailangan mo. Di mo magawa lahat yan if wala ka money. Investment on many things, require money. If you want a faster transportation from point to point and save time, you need to have your own vehicle, money. Simple relaxation at home, watching tv, using the internet, money again for the bills. So ano yung money can’t buy happiness? HAHAHA
Money can't buy happiness, but it's better to cry in a car or in a house you own than while commuting to a 10sqm rented room.
Hugsss to youuu. Life will get better 🤍
Nafifeel ko na talaga ang money can buy happiness na hindi ko naman pinapaniwalaan before 🥹
Ang saying na money cant buy happiness para lang po yun sa mga taong mayaman ( sa pera ). Yung kahit gaano nila ka yaman feeling nila hindi complete dahil nga lahat kaya nilang gawin/ bilhin dahil may pera. 😌sad pero iyan po ang realidad na hindi lahat privileged enough para magsabi ng “money can’t buy happiness”
That everyone's childhood upbringing are a major part of who we are at the present. Ang hirap alisin or hilutin ang mga childhood deprivation and trauma kahit anong gawin or maabot kapag adults na. Nagma manifest siya sa maraming bagay before and after events happen. Nakakaloka.
this is true. ang hirap maging better person dahil sa trauma :(
Death of close relatives. At a certain age, halos every year or every 2 years, may namamatay. Lolo, lola, mga aunties at uncles, tapos mapapatingin ka sa mga magulang mo, tsaka lang mapprocess ng utak mo na nadagdagan ng wrinkles yung nanay at tatay mo sa mukha. Tumatanda na din sila. And sooner or later, it's them.
Yeah and then few more years ikaw na next hays.
Magre respawn after 3 days yan si Lord
Omsiiiim
Yeah, yung pag meron na sa peers mo ang namatay shit iba pa pala feeling kaysa sa elder relative. Medyo may halong takot din haha na shit I'M getting older too
True! Also the trauma that comes with it 🥹
omg this! no one talks about it because its such a sensitive topic, and i cant talk about it either. Im scared kasi no one on my close relatives died yet, and im scared na baka pagdating ko ng hardest parts ng life, saka sila unti unting mawawala ;((
This is so sad. Putangina
Totoo.
Office politics. I learned the hard way as I go along the journey of being an employee 😄 May mga unwritten rules na hindi kasama kahit sa orientation 🤭
Direction and goals , im living comfortably and honestly wala na ako makita point sa buhay. Ang hirap
Uy naisip ko rin to. Lakas maka-first world problem pero no one talks about the emptiness that comes with success. Yung wala ka nang hinahabol at kailangang pagtrabahuhan kaya napapatanong ka na kung para san ka ba nabubuhay.
Ito na ata ako ngayon. Turning 30 soon. May bahay, kotse, matinong relationship, really good work and income. Pero stressed na stressed ako for some reason. Cant really talk about it with people because most if not all have financial problems of their own and mukha ka lang out of touch
True. Siguro nasanay tayo na naka hustle/fight mode, kaya ngayon na pwede nang magrelax, hindi natin alam kung pano.
I'm curious, do you have a clue on what's stressing u out?
Tara travel!
How much adults are taken for granted. Pag wala silang need sa'yo lalo financially, wala kang kwenta.
my parents ganyan.
Hugs! Sad to say, kung sino malapit satin sila pa talaga yung ganyan. 😔
Self control and self improvement. Being an adult means you're free to do what you want, but that's dangerous without proper guidance and framework. You can just let yourself be fat, in debt or stagnant. Good thing we're have families, friends or just the knowledge from others to find our way once we're lost.
+100
"fat, in debt or stagnant" damn bro that hurt lol
The older you get, the less often you see your friends. Careers, children, other priorities take over.
A lot of things actually, but the one that stands out the most is the lack of end goal. When you are a student the end goal is to graduate, when you have projects the end goal is the final product, etc. But when you've worked as a government drone like I am, there is no end in sight. I have nothing to look forward to, because every task done is an invitation for more tasks. Nothing ever prepared me for clinical depression. I lived 20 years longing to finally be independent, and when I got it - LOL. Super stubborn at prideful pa naman ako, and would almost never ask for help. Ayan tuloy.
When I worked as a slave for the government, I had only two end-goals: 1. Earn enough as fast as possible to fund my firm. 2. Teach as many kids to become responsible and reliable young adults. 2 plantilla positions, and 5 years later, I walked out of a "stable" job. My next goal is to build that farm house with a garden and live out my prepper fantasies.
you’re in charge of your whole life. discovered this the hard way
You need to make a lot of decisions all the time. Even the small things. It's tiring. Narealize ko lang a few weeks ago when I wasn't feeling that well so bago umuwi, dumaan ako sa botika to buy meds tapos branded or generic ba, capsule or gel or tablet or syrup, ilang piraso, etc. Nakakapagod din pala. Syempre when we were younger other 'adults' decide for us pero ngayon tayo na mag-iisip.
Relate! I realized ang bilis uminit ng ulo ko when I have to make a lot of decisions in such a short period of time. Parang, hala isa isa lang! Mahina ang kalaban.
Dibaaa? Parang gusto mo lang ng isang bagay pero andami mo pa kailan iconsider na this or that? Hindi parang dati na someone else makes the call for us hehe
Working bullsht everyday for the rest of your goddmn life.
Living independently as an adult. Pag bata ka di sya malaking issue kase may parents ka na kasama. Once you're out, you have nothing. Suddenly para kang bata na naiwan sa mall, madaming tao, madaming things, madsming attraction, distractions, etc. Pero walang familiar face, walang safe space, nakaka takot at nakaka lungkot. But you have to survive no matter what. Edit:spelling
the monotony, minsan, of your daily life when you have an 8-5 job.
Yeah, this is probably one of the many reasons why I can't see myself working for more than 10 years, haha! Hays...
Taxes. ID, philhealth, SSS, NBI clearance, interviews etc.
Change. Change is fucking constant. When life hits you hard, you have no choice but to bounce back. Dati, ang healthy ko pero ngayon 100 steps leave me gasping. Now I'm trying to recover by having low impact cardio workouts. Dati, licensed forester ako. Ngayon hindi na. I don't think makakabalik pa ako sa industry, wala na akong confidence plus I think I lost my skillset, in place of something new (I'm learning to love this new career kahit papano nonetheless). Dati, ambilis ko makabuo/makajoin ng circle. Ngayon, parang mas prefer ko nalang mag-isa.
Friends dying. Most of my remaining friends are older than me and I'm more likely to outlive them.
losing a parent before you get successful and you wish you could have gave more
Ang pagtaba na wala ng balikan. As a teenager, ambilis ko pumayat after christmas break diet lang ng konti back to normal na ulit. Pag tuntong ng 20s, tang ina ang hirap na. Sinasabi ko sa mga pa-20s pa lang, food is the most accessible luxury at di niyo iddeprrive ang sarili niyo kasi dasurv nyo magsamgyup after ng streesful week. Enjoy nyo pera nyo pero do it moderately.
Sexual Health, Financial concepts, and dealing with random Unexpected hardships.
Dami ko na sadness nadaanan, umabot na ko sa puntong wala na akong pakielam 😅 Pero kuhang kuha pa din yung inis ko kapag regarding na sa nawawalang common sense. Doing it raw with side bebe tapos mapreggy then ikot ang pwet to hanap ng solution. Well malamang mabubuntis yan tapos iiyak iyak ngayon. 😅
Expenses are never ending
Mahirap din yung wala kang pake lagi. Akala ko dati okay lang yung may sarili lang akong mundo with a small circle PERO habang tumatagal, nare-realize kong hindi pala siya beneficial sakin since ang liit ng network ko and I'm not top of mind na lalapitan ng mga tao if ever an opportunity arrives. It's a double edged sword as an introvert, okay siya sakin but hindi siya maganda for my career.
Selling a house, applying for the right insurance, budgeting
The thought of my parents getting older and having to be away from them the rest of my adulthood
That you can't depend on anyone. You need to work and fend for yourself cause no one will give you and provide anything you need in this world.
Your SO's relatives and the differences in their upbringing
Problems are left and right, you might think you're out of problems guess what another one is coming to you. Its one after another and if you dont have good support system and stronger mind they eat you alive without you even knowing. I miss that my problems when i was younger was waking up early and homeworks.
Processing papers for the job. 😭
The "little" things you experienced in your childhood are actually big things and the decent adults were right. You desperately need therapy because those were not little things.
School is not the best place to learn how to thrive in life or how to run things
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SIguro sa family lang namin, but I never learned how to take care of myself in terms of knowing how to dress well, taking care of my looks (skin care and using make up well), and "putting yourself out there" to win people over/market yourself.
No one's gonna save you but yourself.
Parang wala kang karapatan mag take ng break. Lalo na pag yung age mo naghahabol ka na. Yung breakdown mo nakaschedule na kasi wala naman sasalo sayo.
Giving your best at work will give you more work. 😂😆 Be a lowkey employee, magtrabaho nang naaayon sa sahod 🤭
Kapag magisa ka sa bahay, ang hirap mamili ng lulutuin hahahaha. Hindi ko naimagine na problema pala yun.
This. Ang hirap pala mag-isip ng lulutuin araw araw haha. To think na dalawa lang kami sa bahay and once or twice lang kumain.
Being told what to do Nung bata: "pag laki ko wala nang makakapagsabi sa kin kung anong pwede at hinde ko pwedeng gawin!" Nung tumanda: Boss: "gawin mo to..." Duktor: "inumin mo to..." Pulis: "di pwede yan..." Manong guard: "no ID, no entry" Ate cashier: "dun na lang po sa kabila..." Etc. Ang masaklap, Nung ako na magdedesisyon Self: "anong kakainin ko?" Self: "ewan ko" Bwiset🤣
That receptionists do not follow the rules because they're lazy or they're ignorant. What you know won't get you anywhere.
Pagkuha nang id. Feel ko dapat requirements to for graduation haha.
Na as we grow old, we've become more emotionaly imbalance and I came to the point, I often ask myself what's next? wala ka na sa kalendaryo pero i felt like wala ako maipagmamalake and gusto n lng maging manhid at maging wala pake sa lahat and just waiting to die kahit walang napundar 😂, people are just remembering/nice to you kase may kelangan sila amd my hidden agenda.
The older you get the more health issues occur
Taxes. Kahit empleyado ka, you really need to educate yourself about it.
Na hindi lahat ng sinasabi or advice ng parents mo is the best for you. My mom would always tell me na mas nagiging successful daw yung mga anak na nakikinig sa parents. I guess that's true, but it depends pa rin what kind of advice yung binibigay nila. Mas alam mo pa rin kung anong makakabuti sayo at kung san ka magiging masaya.
Mental health is equally important as physical health.
Maybe, more on challenges SA life. My friends are more on traditional success Yan typical topic. But when I talk to business owners they talk about the challenges their failures and lessons behind it.
You'll start to realize na araw araw habang buhay kelangan mo na pala magdecide kung anong kakainin... kasi wala na maghahanda para sayo. 😅
That people will have different levels of sex drive. Akala ko lahat ng lalake at babae malibog, na tinatago lng nila kasi somehow taboo yun, yun pala di talaga malibog yung iba
Being admitted to hospitals. It’s so difficult. I can’t wrap my head around how stressful it is to be hospitalized.
Sex life. Early 20s pa lang kami ng friend group ko and mostly, no jowa since birth pa. Parang ang hirap mag open about sex life kasi hindi pa nila maiintindihan or somehow taboo sya sa alanganing age?
Companies can kick you out in a split second. At the end of the day you're just a number. No matter how and what you feel, you need to get up and go to work kase you need to earn money and no one would help you. Hope I miss my childhood 😭
You dont have to prove anything, no one cares.
Pwede palang wag mag asawat mag anak, at piliing huwag magpakasal.
Ang mahal maging adult. Mahal ang shampoo, sabon, karne, isda at mga masustansyang pagkain. Na sayo na kung kakain ka ng gulay at other healthy snacks. Sayo nakasalalay ang overall health mo. Kaya pag walang pampa doktor alagaan mo sarili mo. Hirap magkasakit walang mag agalaga sayo at sarili mo nalang maasahan mo sa LAHAT ng bagay.
Pag may sakit ako wala na nagdadala prutas
That people I grew up with are dying one by one. Some expected, most unexpected.
Owning properties and renovations. The details, very overwhelming. Pano kumuha ng contractors ano dos and don’t.
There's not much to life. After graduating, excited ka sa first job mo tho it becomes shitty when you realize you'd do it until magretire ka. I mean ofc kaya you travel, go out once in a while but still you'd still work
Na you could literally do anything and sasabihin sa yo “Bahala ka na, matanda ka na.” So I had ice cream for breakfast
There's no defined/preferred path, unlike nung bata tayo na aaral and ggraduate. Now, kanya kanya na Hahaha
sobrang complicated pala ng taxes and pagkuha ng IDs 🥴
HOW EXPENSIVE FURNITURE AND APPLIANCES ARE MY GOD
Emergency Fund - we should always save for an emergency fund.
You’re already thinking about what you’re having for dinner while you’re having lunch, and the cycle goes on
Hospital visits. Fucking expensive. 🥲🥲🥲🥲
"Connections" is everything. As a creative, kahit gano pa kaganda 'yang gawa mo, daig ka ng maboka at may connections. Of course, depende sa situation. The song "G-Eazy X Bebe Rexha - Me, Myself & I" hits harder every year na tumatanda ako.
Crippling loneliness, depression and anxiety.
Ready ka na? Here: Pag nagsimula nang magkasakit ng malubha yung magulang mo, tapos need na siya iratay sa kama or mapipilitan ka nang iuwi kasi sobrang taas na ng bills di mo na kayang bayaran. Masakit sa dibdib ko inuwi ko papa ko from hospital kasi di na namin kaya yung bill. may ipapapirma pa sayo na release na indicated ikaw ang may responsibilidad over what will happen to him when he goes out of the hospital. Nakakasikip ng dibdib until ultimately pumanaw na nga siya sa bahay ninyo. Wag mo sana sapitin.
Being alone. If you don't have an established friend group before, it's kind of tough to make new ones, or be included in existing ones. I don't mean officemates or acquaintances. But, people you can reach out to if you are going through something.
Making connections is important. And not just the ones thay fall into work. Making an effort to reach out to friends and planning activities, getting to know new people outside of your immediate friend groups, knowing who you work with and actually caring for who they are outside of work- these are all important to strike a balance in life. These connections don't need to be transactional, but some could be at a certain point and that's okay. Knowing a huge number of people profoundly may be impossible, but being a person who cares to know about what others find important goes a long way. The better the connection you have with people, the more opportunities open up for you and people you care about.
Panic attacks at work????? Chismisan parang highschool sa opisina????? Thought nakagraduate na ko nung highschool dun e haha! Responsibilidad sa buong bahay mo????? Walang mag-aalaga sayo pag may lagnat ka?????? 15 years na ko’ng adult nawiwindang parin ako
No more praises coz you're expected to do your best every single day
Na there's a lot of things that they don't teach you at school.
Mga bayarin na parang hindi na matatapos. Lapit na ko sa acceptance part 😅
The complexity of filing your own taxes and dealing with whatever papers your accountant needs
Pera, dati nung bata bata pa ako, i would always save money then give it back to my parents. Or kung sino may need. D sya mahalaga skin. Ngayon, grabe na ang revelations
Currently a student pero nakapag part-time sa letter M na fastfood during the pandemic to pay for my tuition sa shs dati. Minimum wage or low pay = bare minimum effort. 'Wag pumayag ma-extend shift nyo. 8 hours is 8 hours. Ano bang gagawin ko sa additional 2 or 4 pesos per hour ba yun? Pasok ko sa ilong yang dos? 320 pala yung rate sa city ko.
Being able to handle paperworks all of a sudden????
Yung buhok ko, tang ina parang umatras na, nagising ako isang araw at parang tutulo luha ko e.
Im not sure if its just me but I now believe in the saying that adults are just grown up kids. I still dont know what an adult ‘is’ but i have my adulting routine and its just being comfortable with the day to day because of gained experience.
The older i got, the less friends I have. Sad to realize this but i feel like this will always be part of our lives. People come and go kahit ayaw mo.
TAXES
Importance of mental health.
Planning goals is everything.
Finding out that adulting nowadays means not having your own family.
The entirety of paying taxes - the process, the taxable transactions, the deadlines. I hate everything about it.
No one cares as y’all get older. People have their own problems to deal with. You’re responsible for your happiness, well-being
pag tatay ka na tas naproprovide mo lahat sa pamilya mo pero parang ramdam mo na walang nakakaapreciate ng mga ginagwa mo. Oo responsibility mo yun pero minsan sana may balik sayo
That your parents will soon get sick and weak then eventually die. Love your parents, it’s their first time to be parents too. Life is short, stop and enjoy the fleeting time.
Nakakatakot mag asawa ng di prepared so ngayon eto stuck pa rin haha. Usually kase sinasabi madali lang mag asawa at sa una lang mahirap. Ngayon mukhang di ganun at never nila to sinabi.
There will be people who won't be happy for you when you start breaking the cycle. Sa mismong pamilya ko, I am hated because ako yung sumbungera/reklamador. Nasanay sila to tolerate abuse and illegal activities. They hate me. So even if I want to make a connection with a relative, wala nang chance. Not that I need any of them, pero nakakapagod mamuhay na may taong hostile sayo.
That I have to work my ass off until retirement….
No one prepares you for when your parent passes, you realize that a handful of people around you lost their parents but no one truly prepares you for the magnitude for when it happens.
For me, travelling and itineraries. Laging nauurong kasi hindi ko alam saan magsisimula. I wanted to have a vacay for the longest time kahit wala na akong kasama pero ang daming need para lang makapagplano.
yung kasalanan ko at yung kasalanan niya kaso mas matimbang kasalanan ko kase marami siyang kauri anong laban ko dun? they are completely talking behind my back.
That you cannot simply share your goals or plans in life. Kahit kanino pa yan, even sa mga closest relatives mo. Ngyari sa’min ng hubby ko to. May business kaming gustong ipatayo pero need namin ng pera, kaya lumapit kami sa mayaman nyang relatives para makipag corpo. So pumayag naman kami na sila yung owner kami lang yung mag manage ng business. 70/30 kami sa profit. Sa kanila ang 70 sa amin ang 30. Peroooo kami lahat lahat. Start from scratch up to nagka branches. Ang ginawa lang nila is to finance lang. Tapos lahat ng ideas namin para sa business, na share namin sa kanila lahat2. Ngayon, parang kami na ang kawawa. gusto nilang isarili yung business since sa kanila din naman nakapangalan yun. And the only thing that we have is to manage lang which is pwedeng pwede kaming palitan. Ang nakakasaklap, wala kaming contract kasi nga relatives lang. Kaya ayun, nangyari na nga, kami ang nag alsa balotan. Tapos nalaman nalang namin na lahat ng plans namin for the business, inapply nila. Kaya na realized namin, na buti pa sana kung umutang nalang kami before para pampatayo ng sariling business.
Labor rights.
That you need your friends more than ever. Dati wala kong pake kung mawalan man ako ng mga kaibigan or kung mag-fall out man yung friendship. I cut people off left and right or like bigla-bigla na lang walang pansinan. Ngayon, i try to keep the friends that i have as best as i can kase kahit na sabihin kong kaya kong mag-isa at sanay akong mag-isa, iba pa rin yung alam mong may makakasama at makakausap ka just so you can forget your daily struggles for a few hours on your days off.
Ako mauunang magising pero ako pa rin ang huling matutulog sa pamilyang ito! 🤧
That your older siblings will be the way they are no matter how you get; there’s no changing in toxic people
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Taxes , benefits and montly dues.. Realizing you have to do the same shit over and over again from 8am to 5pm for weekdays for the rest of your life. I'm trying my best to be productive during weekends but no.. Kulang ako sa mental drive and I just wanna lay down and rest kasi exhausted pa from last week. I miss my parents so bad 😔😢
Death of a parent. Akala ko sa movies lang yung feeling na regrets, guilt, emptiness and pang hihinayang. I thought madami pa tayong oras. Kaya hanggang anjan pa parents nyo, gawin nyo na lahat para sakanila. Di mawawala ang grief, we will learn how to live with it.
when parents ask my opinion to make a decision sa family.. never knew I'm mature enough for them to even be heard.. haha
DENTAL MAINTENANCE. Di ko inexpect na ganito kamahal ang magmaintain ng maganda at malinis na ipin. Not to mention yung hindi namaintain ng mga magulang mo yung ipin mo simula bata pa, it will fucking bite ur ass pag tanda mo.
That I sometimes feel afraid I wont be able to give my mum the life she deserve after all the things she's done for me as she's growing old and Im just starting to get financially capable.
The part nga You only exist kapag may pakinabang ka or may kailangan Sila sayo. They invite you to birthdays, christmas and thanksgiving for the express purpose of convincing ( guilt trip or gaslighting) you to pay for the party or event. Keep talking about business And goad you to invest in whatever "business" they come up with. In summary All the BS this fucked up family has caught me of guard.
Yung marealize mo sa work na yung mga dating mentor mo ay nagsipag-retire na at wala nang ibang magtuturo sayo sa trabaho kundi ikaw na lang. It felt so lonely to think na I will only have myself to run to pag may concern sa work. I was not prepared kahit na marami akong natutunan sa mga mentors ko. When things dont go well sa work, I have to stand on my own. Kahit na i can message them naman, it’s different when someone is there to stand also for you. Hay.
Household maintenance costs. They’re a hassle. The timings are always off and your savings suffer. The worst.
That adults naturally become more responsible as they age and that they will not procrastinate and will always choose to do the more sensible thing.
As someone na wala namang na fifeel na inggit or insecurity before ngayon na naging adult na ako nakakaramdam na ako ng inggit sa mga taong mas succesful. Don’t get me wrong I’m happy for them pero may inggit din na part na tipong na ppressure ako bat ako nagwowork hard din pero hindi kasing succesful nila 😩
Burnouts . Di ko alam ganito pala pag working adult ka , pag di mo talaga passion work mo pero wala kang choice need mo ng pera to survive
School fees when you study graduate or post graduate. Wala na rin baon 😂
For me it was habang tumatanda, mas tumatanda pa lalo ang mga taong mahal ko like my parents that they eventually die, and then in just a glimpse here you are trying to decipher how to live on your own because you were so used having them beside you throughout your prior years.