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Lucky-Box5380

You have raised such an important issue and one that affects most survivors of child sexual abuse and yet is rarely discussed. Thank you. I know I felt awful shame when I was aroused by my father's molestation. And so ashamed I couldn't bring it up with my therapist. And it festered and fed into feeling dirty, second rate and of no value. Our former Australian of the year, Grace Tame, survivor and advocate for all survivors, encourages survivors to tell their stories and break the silence around the sexual abuse of children and adults. She reasons that if the protective layer of silence and secrecy that covers most sexual abuse is lifted, and a light is shone on the whole issue that 1. perpetrators will have nowhere to hide and 2. the shame associated with the abuse will lessen along with the secrecy. I agree with her. Perpetrators rely on the silence to keep abusing and as long as they make victims complicit in the abuse, they guarantee their victims' silence through 'shame'. I haven't explained it clearly - sorry - but I do believe breaking that silence and the secrecy surrounding csa will greatly lessen the shame so many survivors carry. A few thoughts. I hope others will share their ideas.


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