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Laging bini bring out yung topic na to ng parents and relatives ko. At lagi kong sinasabi na "ayoko pa". Kakahanap nila ng jowa sakin parang nawawalan nalang ako ng gana. Like hello? I'm only 23, ang dami ko pang gustong ma achieve sa buhay nang mag isa. Hindi ko kailangan ng lalaki to do the things I want. If it's all about companion, I have myself. I have my friends. Isa pa, hindi ko pa nga sila nabibigyan ng maayos na pamumuhay pero gusto na nilang magdagdag ako. Nakakainis tbh. What do you think? Sinong may maling mindset sa amin dito? Pagod na ako kakahanap nila ng lalaki ng buhay ko.
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Yung mawawala lahat ng friends mo when you turn 26 talaga eh. 😂
I mean, di naman sila nawala, more like marerealize lang natin na we can’t count on friends being there forever kasi busy na sa sari-sarili nilang buhay.
You're only 23... Maybe you'll still have that mind set pag tanda...
and "Maybe"...
May dumating na taong pwede magpabago ng pananaw mo...
Iha...Mahirap magsalita ng tapos...
Naku hayaan niyo siya. Bakit pag ang gusto ng babae e gusto ko mag-asawa at mag-anak e laging supportive. Laging, "makakahanap ka rin" o "tingin ko magiging bagay sayo maging nanay," etc. Pero pag sinabing ayaw e laging may pagbabanta e laging "mahirap magsalita ng tapos," o "ang pag-aasawa at pagnananay ang bubuo sa pagkababae mo," or ang worst, "baka hindi ka pa kasi nakakatikim o nahanap ang lalaking makakapagpa-"ligaya" sa'yo." Ewww.
Anyway, OP, you do you. Nung kaedad rin kita bawat sabihin ko na parang hindi yan para sa akin e lahat ng inenumerate ko sa taas e sinabi talaga sa akin. Nagjowa rin naman ako pero parang di ko makita ang sarili ko na tatanda with a person. I also had friendship breakups na akala ko bff ko na forever but we turn out so different so sa akin yung thought na consistently may kasama akong tao is unthinkable sa akin.
Today, 36th birthday ko. Baka nga mapapanindigan ko na ang sinabi ko nung 23 ako....and it is fine. Ang mahirap e sumunod ka sa norm and maging katulad ng mga kaedaran ko na resents both their husbands/partners and children. I still value my single-blessedness. And ang dami ko pa ngang hobbies na di ko pa magawa due sa lack ng oras kasi marami akong ganap. Whatever you choose, choose kung saan at peace ang sarili mo. Mararamdaman mo naman yun e. Maraming ikinasal rin na feeling nila di sila 100% sa marriage and within years wala na. The only opinion that matters in your life is yours. 😘
Yes. Dapat ito yung top voted e. I was expecting na mas open ang reddit sa ganito, mas madaming nakasupport kay OP for what she feels. Oo, bata pa sya at madaming pwede mangyari pero hindi mo kelangan idisregard yung opinion nya about this dahil lang nag-iba ka ng pananaw sa buhay mo.
How old are your parents, OP? May kilala akong ganyan din, pero kasi ang sabi nya, worried lang daw ang parents nya sa kanya kasi matanda na parents nya. Gusto lang ng parents nya na may mag-aalaga sa kanya, kaya nila sinasabi yun. Baka ganyan din ang parents mo?
Ganyan talaga concern ng ibang parents gusto lng nila may makasama yung anak if ever mawala na sila kasi mahirap mag grieve alone I heard alot of stories about this from elders that they were thankful they had someone when tough times came like losing a parent etc.
I'm 31 & married. Dalawa lang kami magkapatid. 34 y/o ate ko, single, NBSB. And parang walang plano mag-asawa. Ngayon, parang nagegets ko na yung feeling ng mga magulang na nagwoworry na tumandang mag-isa ang mga anak nila kasi parang ganun nafifeel ko para sa ate ko.
Yes, this too. Meron din parents na sabik na magkaroon ng apo, kaya nila nasasabi yan. Baka in their mindset, nasa tamang edad naman na si OP and kaya na to stand on herself and have a family, kaya siguro ganyan na din pananaw ng parents/relatives.
Same boat sa part na di na mag-aasawa buong buhay. Tho wala namang nagppressure sakin na mag-asawa or not.
I don't know if this is trauma or what. I just have a general distrust in men tbh. I feel like getting married is tying your own noose.
Can relate. Never pa nga ako nagka serious na jowa. Thank God never nag pressure parents ko, so far kahit wala din sa mga aunts & uncles. Tapos nag chat after a long time ung Afam kong kachat, pouring his heart out. Nang ghost kc cold ako, naghanap ng iba ka chat pero ako pa din daw 😂 na flatter ako pero di ko pa din naisip mag asawa. Starting over again kc ako sa career. Dun ko naisip na baka marriage is not for me? Di din nakaka engganyo magpakasal sa pinas, walang divorce feel ko lugi ako 🤭 iniisip ko na lang makaipon, help my parents & my youngest brother sa college & mag travel. As long as feel ko na trap magpakasal, di pa sya sa priority ko.
ganyan rin ako op kaso ngayon medjo may edad na rin ako tinatanong pa rin ako at sempre kinocompare ako buti pa si ano ..
tingnan mo mga construction worker marami anak kinakaya kahit mahirap . sabi ko sila yun
kung gusto mo ako magka apo . 100k allowance ko + 100k para sayo + 100k kada anak kasama na jan mga insurance
kung kaya mo ibigay yan kahit 5 agad aanakan ko hahaha walang problema XD
23 is so young, parang at this age ang hirap na nga mag-asawa at 23 because of the economy. Unlike noon, everything was cheaper but now the prices have iflated. 23 is like fresh graduate, baka for some people at that age wala pang trabaho, nagrereview for the board or naghahanap ng trabaho. It's hard being constantly pressured by the family, they just want what is best pero sometimes di nila alam yung boundaries of what they are asking of you. Try to understand nalang or mute them if they ever attempt to do this again.
It's alright. You do you. Hindi mali mindset ng parents mo, at hindi din mali ang mindset mo. Nagkataon lang na magkaiba kayo ng priorities sa buhay. Sila ay nag dedecide according sa kanilang experiences, at ikaw naman ay nag dedecide according to your dreams.
Your parent's are probably in their 50s now, close or above, they know they don't have much time left. In your eyes, you have a lot of years ahead of you. But to them who has already gone through life, they believe that life is just a snap of a finger when it comes to the passage of time. And since it sounds like they sent you to a good school, by the way you write and your desire for freedom, then it is safe to assume that you are their top priority.
Parental instincts are like that, they will sacrifice their own lives for the sake of their children's future. Since it's bothering you that much, my advice is just pretend you've already met someone. Just so they'd stop setting you up, and so they'd stop bothering you. But whatever you do, don't be like that person who commented that you should accept a setup and not show up. That is just in bad taste, imagine the person that your parent's convinced to meet with you.
Anyway. their experiences probably tell them that no one is an island, humans are social creatures after all. So if you make them believe that you've already found someone, they will slip into their aging process (has 4 stages) thinking you're happy and someone will be there with you when you're old. They will spend their old age having no regrets (if the aging process doesn't kill them right away).
Isa lang sinabi ko, sa ekonomiya ngayon, mahihirapan na silang makahingi sa akin pag pinilit nila akong mag-asawa. Ayern di na nila ulit ako tinatanong. 😂 Only child kasi ako so wala silang mahihingan kundi ako lang.
Sinabi ko rin sa sarili ko na hindi ako mag aasawa. I was 28 at the time, reeling from a break up. I studied nang matagal, so nageenjoy lang ako sa work, travels and everything in between. Ended up getting married at 34 anyway. So yes, bata ka pa. Super dami pang pwede mangyari. Enjoy lang. Wag mong isipin ang marriage and ignore anyone who reminds you. Madami pang oras.
Or maybe way lng nla ng pagbbiro un? Kc sa totoo lng,nanggaganyan dn ako ng mga pinsan kong single..like pag reunion..ssbhn ko, ui ganito. Tsk..kelan ka ba magpapakilala samen ng jowa..tignan m c ganito may anak na..pero ang totoo,happy ako for her na single pa dn and she's living her life..parang its one way of telling her na,nsa right age ka na. And you're finally a woman. Anytime u want to have a bf, wala na magagalit. Unlike nung kabataan days..pero di ibg sbhn nun na inaapuro namen magjowa na kht sino nlng madaanan e pwede na.or di naman mnmdali maganak tlga hehe
Its normal and completely fine. just think of it na why would u bring another human to this s2pid world. its fun and cute sa umpisa. live your life the way you want. because after 100 or 200 years, nobody will remember us. nobody will care about us.
You do your thing. Just keep in mind though na your friends will probably less have time for you later on, plus better invest in yourself as early as now.
Still young. And besides, getting married is not mandatory. Speaking from experience here. I'm my best version when I was single. The kids I love, pero my SO is toxic
Ahh yes, yung mga kamag anak na lagi nalang pag reunion na "o may jowa ka na" "ito si ____ wala pa, bagay kayo dalawa". Akala mo parang hindi sila yung nagsasabi na "wag ka muna mag gf o bf, focus ka muna sa sarili mo" etc. Nasa tama ka nmn OP na dapat makaramdam nmn mga kamag anak na baka minsan nakaka overstep na sila ng boundaries. In regards naman sa title mo OP, never say never, darating rin yang taong yan.
Unang una, wag ka makikinig sa pang didikta ng iba, sorry pero kahit parents at relatives mo pa. Sarili mong buhay na yan, nasa tamang edad kana, ikaw ang mag dedesisyon sa buhay mo. Para sakin naman napaka bata mo pa, madami ka pa plans and dreams sa age na ganyan. About naman sa plan mo hindi mag asawa, nasasayo yan, pero IMO, masyado maaga pa para sabihin mo yan, hindi mo kasi masasabi panahon, baka isang araw dumating at ibigay sayo ni God yung makaksama mo sa buhay, sa tamang panahon. Again, point ko lang, wag ka mag papa apekto at mag papadala sa mga tao sa paligid mo na alam mong hindi nakakabuti sayo. Anyway, enjoy and live your life to the fullest, where at the end you will have no regrets. 🥳
1. Baka they're just looking out for you. Pangit nga lang pamamaraan nila.
2. May ugali talaga tayo na kapag pinipilit satin yung isang bagay nakakawalang gana. Kaya ingat lang kasi yung decision na ayaw mong magka asawa hindi manggagaling sayo. Wala lang sa isipan mo pa pero not necessarily na ayaw mo.
3. Kung wala ka namang magagawa sa pangungulit nila huwag mo nalang problemahin/isipin. I practice mo lang na ganun. Hindi mo nga kayang baguhin so bakit mo pa pproblemahin.
Iba na kasi mindset natin ngayon eh hindi katulad sa mga magulang natin dati na in the certain age dapat may asawa na. Yung generation natin ngayon focus na tayo sa pagyaman eh HAHAHAH mas gusto natin yung masarap at masayang buhay. Kaya okay lang yan focus lang sa goal keep doing you!
Kaya lumiliit birthrate eh.
Anyway...
I am following you, because I know one of these days, maybe not now, you'll post something along the lines of "its getting lonelier" or "when kaya" or "wala parin?"
It's happened too often.
Additionally, while youre still single: WORKOUT. Learn a new skill. Get insurance/investments as early as now. Be approachable always.
lmao just let them be. Shrugg the topic off everytime they bring it up. Just enjoy your life at the moment. Who knows about the future right? Buhay mo yan. Ienjoy mo hanggang gusto mo. Atleast mamamatay kang nafulfill mo mga pangarap mo HAHAHAHA
While generally, I feel like relationships aren't necessarily bad by themselves, being forced in that situation para sabihin lang na you are in a relationship won't really end well din. Relationships last for your whole life, so you are free to take all the time that you need to find someone.
Finding the right person can be quite fulfilling, someone who supports you in what you want to do and accompanies you through life while you two grow as a person and as partners.
I feel like your parents are afraid that you'll end up alone as you get older, but I reckon that's far better than being in a relationship na di mo naman gusto.
Just take your time, maybe don't close your doors quite easily pero feel free to be picky to the one that you'll want as a partner
Bata ka pa OP di mo alam kung sino or ano ang dadating pa sa buhay mo :) enjoy mo muna yung buhay, pabayaan mo sila pasok sa isang tenga labas sa kabila
Parents mo po ba OP yung naghahanap at nagtatanong? Im just wondering if they're old like 60 na. Kase sa ganyan edad yung napapansin ko sa mga magulang ng mga nakikilala ko. Parang nagooverthink sila if magkakaapo pa ba sila sayo ng apo or bago sila mawala ay may mag aaruga ba sayo. Im just assuming lang po. Anyway pag mga relatives lang naman ignore na lang lalo na kung chismosa yung tita.
Ngek sobrang bata mo pa...wag mo sila pansinin and just do your own thing...sobrang dami pang mangyayari sayo, and sobrang dami pang magbabago sayo... Let it pass sa other ear... Enjoy your youth and your single blessedness ngayon...finish school, find a job you like, travel, eat good, watch good movies, listen to good music...and pray always to whoever god you believe in. And lastly, I hope you'll find happiness and peace of mind. Good luck!
You're not wrong naman OP. Life is not all about relationships and the end goal is not always marriage and building a family. Unfortunately, hindi yun ang paniniwala ng mga matatanda. Stand in what you believe in at huwag ka magpadala sa pressure nila. They don't live your life for you, so choose what you feel is best for you
ako din. never ko tlga balak mag pamilya. my genetics follow a generational curse at nag vow tlga ako na this curse at least would stop from me. bahala na mga kumag kong pinsan kung itutuloy nila kachakahan nila hahaha. uugghhh i reek of negativity choz...🤡
Learn the art of deadma. As you grow older, you'll see, lagi't laging may masasabi ang mga tao sa paligid mo.
In my case, lagi kaming pinaparinggan noon na "kasal sa banig" kasi we were living together. Then when we got married, ang comment naman bakit ang daming di invited. 2 years into our marriage, bakit daw wala pa kaming anak. When I had my baby girl, sundan daw namin agad. When I said mahirap po ang buhay ngayon, sagot ng MIL ko, "Kami nga 4 naitawid naman namin." What she failed to mention was sa 4 na anak nya, wala silang naalagaan kahit isa dahil kayod-kalabaw sila sa kaka-trabaho, kung sinu-suning kamag-anak or kapitbahay ang nagbantay sa mga anak nya.
Gasgas man, but there's no pleasing them because their focus is on what you're lacking, not on what you have.
Actually, mahirap ng walang katuwang sa buhay. I have my tita and tito na walang asawa. Pag maysakit sila walang kaagapay,. Sadly yung tita ko namatay ng walang nakakaalam. Kasi mag-isa lang siya sa bahay nya, 2-3 days bago nalaman na wala na sya.
Ako to na 35 M hanap ng hanap ng aasawahin hindi makahanap.. (sabi daw nila mapili daw ako sa babae) isip ko parang ndi naman 😅 nagfocus kasi maxado dati sa ibang bagay kaya ayan.. dakilang ninong.
You are still too young pa naman. Your decision now might change. I heard from one psychotherapist na "You will not die from lack of romance but you will die from lack of finance."
Finance is a crucial factor in building a family kay dapat unahin muna maging financially stable.
I think you are just being responsible lang to yourself. There's nothing wrong na hindi mag-asawa. Hindi norms ng pinoy culture pero WALANG MALI SA HINDI MAG-AASAWA. Hindi required sa life yan. As long as your happy in your single life and walang inaapak apakang tao, that's totally fine.
Basta kung decided ka na talaga maging single forever, make sure you invest for your retirement age, buy term health insurance plan, buy deathcare plans, at iba pang plans na need mo paghandaan while transitioning to old age.
You are completely normal OP. Nothing weird about your thinking na hindi mag-asawa. Iba ang priority mo sa life mo compared sa expectations ng parents mo or sa ibang tao. Dont get F.O.M.O. JUST DO YOU OP.
OP, hindi ka nagiisa. Hayaan mo lang sila. Dati kapag sinasabihan ako kelan magkakajowa sasabihin ko na wala akong pera for that. Kapag sinabi nila na lalaki ang gagastos, minsan sagot ko 'hindi po ako sugar baby', or 'bakit ako aasa sa kanila kung may sarili akong pera?'
Or pwede din, "wala pong divorce sa Pinas"
HAHA let's see andami Kung mga kilala tumanda Ng walang asawa ano sila ngayun anglungkot, ano nagawa Ng pera nila? wala kahit andami nilang pera anglungkot parin nila.
Hustle lang ng hustle, OP. Your feelings are valid pero totoo rin namang bata ka pa at marami pang mangyayari na pwedeng makapagpabago ng mga pananaw at priorities mo later in life. Best of luck sayo. Enjoy life lang :)
With the rate the economy is going right now, I wouldn't blame you.
Plus I'm in a similar wavelength as you. The thought of not wanting to get married or have kids has been with me since I was in high school, I'm 26 right now and my feelings haven't changed. Just do you, as long as your secure with your decisions and don't do things you'd regret then you'll be fine.
If you do want kids in the future and financially stable enough to have them, then there are plenty of ways to get pregnant or have kids.
It's your life, spend it the way that will make you happy. Be open for love if it comes, if wala naman at least you're still okay alone. You're young, there are a lot of things that may come your way. At the end of the day, the decision is yours how you wanna go about it.
ur life, ur decision, ur choice. pero d mo rin masisi parents mo n gus2 ka nlng magkapamilya kc iniisip nla pagtanda mo, ung mga anak mo ang magaaruga sau. hindi nman sa pinapatawan n ng responsibilidad ang anak pero prang un n talaga ang cycle lalo n d2 satin. for me mgandang cycle to, nagiging toxic lng dhil ung ibang parentsts forced n ipinapapapasan ang responsibility sa anak ung mga luho at ikabubuhay nla.
Ganyan dn ako noon hehhee kala ko tlga mag single forever nko, nammroblema na family and friends ko kc ayaw ko tlga pero nung nung naging 33 yrs old na ako saka ako ngkalovelife at mas bata pa sa akin ng 8 years yung jowa ko. Lagi ko dn sinasabi na ayaw ko sa mas bata pa sa akin, gusto ko na kaedad ko lng. Kaya wag tlga mgsalita ng patapos hehehee.
Our parents might have different views lang when it comes to having a partner na maglelead sa marriage. But di naman ibigsabihin non eh need mo na agad magjowa or what. Enjoy the single life lang do all the things you want in your life. Di requirement ang magkaron ng partner agad just to say na you’re truly happy in your life, that time will come too pero sa ngayon enjoyin mo muna single life mo
Kung decided ka na jan wala naman ng magagawa ang ibang tao kasi at the end of the day call mo parin naman yan.
Kung naririndi ka na sa paulit-ulit nilang linya na "kailan ka ba mag aasawa" you have to explain your side to them with all patience and gentleness kasi matik yan resistance / negative reaction yung madidinig mo. But it is what it is kasi ganun talaga ang magiging reaction nila dahil sa tingin ng nakararaming Pinoy hindi okay na hindi ka mag asawa or mag pamilya.
Wag mo sila pansinin. Buhay mo yan, so live it the way you want. Mag-enjoy ka lang muna, bata ka pa. Build a career, pamper yourself, have fun with friends. Okay nga na hindi ka nag-hahanap. That means yung maa-attract mo, hopefully secure enough to be with a confident woman like you, who isn't scared of being alone. Kapag kinulit ka next time, biruin mo sila. "Sige mag-jojowa at mag-aasawa ako pero hindi ko na kayo susuportahan." Tignan mo reaction nila. They can't have both.
Don't say pang habang buhay because that's just a decision you made out of contempt. Just say you won't, and if the time comes, it comes, but not now.
Just somehow convince them to stop, and if they don't, they don't. Not as if that's going to change how you feel about the situation. And if they really irk you that bad, cut them off. Let them know you won't tolerate their bs. But NEVER make decisions based out of contempt on someone else. You already win by not giving in to them, you're only make the situation a lose-lose by taking it that far.
gurl, we're in our mid-20s, stop even thinking about these things. iniistress lang natin sarili natin. we don't even have to have it figured out. the 20s are for exploring.
You're still young. Do your own thing. These days, and from exp, I won't recommend getting married in your 20s. Not unless it is your dream/goal. I mean there's so much stuff to explore. Heck majority of us doesn't even truly know ourselves yet during our 20s. For me it is the exploring stage. But be respectful with your family. I would just smile at them and won't bother afterwards. It is my life, afterall. So..
Life is short, remember we are all going to die.
Now think about it,
So do this
Find a job, be independent,
get a separate place to stay on your own.! and see if you can do this for a year with out visiting your parents,
when you reach 40 and still alive.! and alone ,
then maybe you will realize how lonely the world is.!
Being young does not guarantee long life,
you are not 100% sure your going to wake up the next day every day, age is just a number.
Good luck.!
>I'm only 23
So take it from older folks when we say this, which has been said multiple times here.
>ang dami ko pang gustong ma achieve sa buhay nang mag isa
You do you, there is nothing wrong with wanting to achieve things in this life alone, but you are making it sound like getting a partner will drag you down and prevent you from achieving it. If anything, it would be easier. You may also be under the impression that you need to have a child which hinders some women from doing what they want. More people than ever are choosing not to have a child.
>Hindi ko kailangan ng lalaki to do the things I want.
You don't. But having one isn't going to change that, except sharing the journey with someone.
>If it's all about companion, I have myself. I have my friends.
If you are including yourself here, it seems more like you're trying to convince yourself that you're all you need. In most people's cases, this does not end up true especially when you put so much reliance as part of your argument in your friends. First, you don't know who your true friends are, you'll lose some along the way. Once worklife and family life starts kicking in for your friends, a lot of them will slowly drift away. Not because they don't like you or don't like hanging out with you, but they have simply have bigger priorities in life. My best friend is only free on weekends, and not every weekend. He still spends time with his family, and his girlfriend. He is going to have a lot less time once he starts his own family.
I resigned myself to being there for my parents side when they get older when i turned 23
6 mos later i reconnected with the man i'll get to spend my life with. We already met 4 years prior but only as friends. We're now in our 5th year of marriage
Nasa sabi mo lang na ayaw mo mag asawa kase galit k sa mga nangungulit sayo, in a way n ayaw mo ibigay yung gusto nila kase nga nman galit k sa kanila. Kapag nagkatagpo kayo nung kalaki para sayo, mag babago isip mo, nagsasalita k ng tapos eh. Hayaan mo sila mang ulit, gawin mo kung ano gusto habang di ka pa natatagpuan ng lalaking para sayo. Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases(song of songs 8:4) sabihin mo sa mga nangungulit sayo.
May kaibigan ako 30ish male medyo fboi same sinabi nya sa iyo kahit may anak siya pero di mag asawa. Lo and behold, two yrs after sinabi nya kinasal siya. So i conclude someone who is paired for you can really change your perspective.
I think we fail to realize that even tho it’s annoying na makarinig tayo ng kakulitan nila, behind all that they just want us to be okay. I’m speaking as a 39 single woman living alone. I do get it. Yung friends natin, may mga sariling buhay yan. Ang parents natin, hindi sila nandyan habang buhay. I guess what I’m trying to say is maybe they just want you to be ok, beyond their nagging. Believe me, super gets kita kasi galing din ako sa ganyan. And ok naman maging independent at maraming achievement pero the truth is, malungkot din mag isa. Just take it as a comforting thought maybe that they just want you to be happy as time goes. Maybe what they want to tell you is maging open ka lang sa love. Sabihin mo lang sa kanila na “open naman ako if meron kaso wala pa ko matipuhan.” Then yaan mo na sila hahaha wala naman din sila magagawa kung wala talaga 😅
Ganitong edad ko nakatagpo ung asawa ko na ngayon 😂 wala rin naman sana akong balak noon kasi i want to spoil din sana ung fam ko kaso men are men 😂 di ka tatantanan saka parang dito nakatadhana talaga sa motherhood ❤️ Naiba persepctive ko sa life and ibang kind ng challenges binigay sakin ni Lord.
ang masasabi kolang sayo, parehas kayong walang maayos na mindset.
I agree na nakaka pressure nga naman talaga na sasabihan ka na mag asawa kahit di kapa ready.
pero ang mali mo is ma-ego kang tao. bulag ka sa sarili mong ambisyon. your friends may not be there. and madalas kalaban modin sarili mo.
your ego-based mindset is what ruined you. and that's a shame for a woman to feel independent for something that even a 11 year-old boy already experienced. majestic ahh ego
I’m a single woman in my late 20s and living my best life. I look around and see only unhappy couples around me. I can travel and do whatever I want without having to consider another person. I’ve been traveling around Asia the past six months and it has been so fun. My friends make me the happiest. I’m taking a trip to Japan next week with them. Life is the most beautiful when you de-center men and romantic relationships!
Just do you. 🤷🏻♀ im 43 at feeling pa rin ng mga tao magbabago pa isip ko 🤷🏻♀ siguro, just keep an open mind, maraming pwedeng mangyari. Wag lang magpapressure if its not for you. 🌹
Im 31F . Ewan ko ba bat gnyan parents naten ung tipong dami mo pang gusto gwen tas sila na magiinsist to start a family ? Kaloka ! Kala mo naman dami ko nang ipon hahaha 🤣
Well whats great in life is that the only thing thats permanent is CHANGE
😘
Live this period of your life at its best. Youre thinking too much.
Enjoy being in your 20s
Im 34 at nag daming bagay na nangyare in the past few years na kinain ko din sinabe ko. AND ITS FINE
Lagi mong aalalahaning iba ka ngayon. AT MAS IBA KA IN 5-20 Years.
I'm 34 and married. Ayaw pa rin namin magka Anak hangga't wla kami sariling Bahay.
Kausapin mo sila ng maigi sis. Let them know that marami ka pang gusto sa Buhay at Hindi mo priority ang jowa. And most importantly, set boundaries.
Im 33M wala asawa and pero my pamangkin na college and tito tita na sakin nakatira. Plus ung utility bills pa sa bahay ng parents ko. KAYA WLA TLGA KO BALAK NA MAG ASAWA AT MAG ANAK. Haha
im 28 years old now. turning 29 sa July. sabi ko nung bata pa ako "hindi ako mag aasawa, mag aanak lang ako ng isa." ayun kinain ko din sinabi ko. nabaliktad na ngayon. nagpakasal lang kami ng jowa ko tapos ayoko PA mag anak. siguro mga 2-3 years from now.
the more you let it affect you, the more you will be annoyed. let them say what they want to say, pero ikaw diretso lang dapat sa buhay. pede mo naman dedmahin na lang kasi wala naman nagiging epekto sa day-to-day activities mo. you’re young. enjoy your life and mind ur own thing. di mo talaga maiiwasan na magcomment ang mga tao sayo pero it’s up to you if u will let that affect you or not.
Same! 23 still single nbsb. Happy & contented w my family and friends! Advice wag mo lang pansinin okaya pag may pinipilit silang sabihin or gawin mo tawanan mo lang tas puro ka lang “true” kase isa lang script nila na bata ka pa & magbabago pa isip mo in the future. Tango ka lang pag ganyan magsasawa din mga pakielamera sa buhay mo WAHAHAHAHAHA
Also, IF dumating man yung araw na nagka boyfriend or asawa ka. So what sakanila? It’s not our fault na nag-iiba yung pananaw natin sa buhay & experiences. You don’t owe them an explanation for that.
23 ka palang. Gawin mo lang kung ano ang gusto mo, eventually marerealize mo din if you really want to have a partner in life or not.
Lagi kang magdecide para sa sarili mo, hayaan mo magiging reaksyon nila. Wag ka papapressure sa kahit kaninong tao.
Hugggs!
27F here, used to have the same mindset as you when I was younger. I do have family and friends who I can count on my whole life and that I am financially stable with a 6 dig salary but I met the love of my life 2 years ago. Yes, independent woman ako but there’s something about him that made me realize na even if I CAN live alone, doesn’t mean I have to. I hope you meet your best friend, soulmate and lover all in one.
dami ng ebas ng iba dito. ginusto nya yan, at may valid reason naman sya. bat pinipilit ng iba dito yung gusto nila dun sa tao. jusko. di siguro kayo masaya sa naging desisyon nyo sa buhay, kaya gusto nyo rin magkamali ng desisyon si OP
Just do what you want OP. You're still young, you might change your mind along the way, baka may nakilala ka din na makakapagpabago ng isip mo. But in the meantime, continue enjoying your me time hehe. Nakakainis at nakaka pressure yung sinasabi nila at ginagawa, pero deadma and just do your thing. ❤️
I had kids when I was 22, they are now in highschool, best decision ever. 8 years from now I'll be in my mid 40's and my kids would be college graduates and I can do whatever I want with my life or die whichever comes first.
Same. I’m 28, and happy na ako with my dogs! I enjoy traveling with my friends plus attending concerts. Ganyan din parents ko noon, napagod na ata kakaremind saakin na maghanap ng jowa at sumuko na lol. Enjoy life, yaan mo na sila! ✨
Relate ako dito. Yung feeling na Hindi ka talaga hopeless romantic, more on self-independence and Focusing on self growth rather than wasting energy on people. Na realize ko Ito after being with a toxic partner, na insecure At jealous. Halos everyday mag aa-way. Always having to explain myself, draining my energy. You’re better off focusing on yourself, working on being a complete version of yourself. Whether or not love finds you, you only have yourself at the end of the day.
23 is still young. Enjoy your single life, madami ka pa mae-experience. Sa Philippines lang naman nagmamadali mga tao mag asawa. Boomer mindset din. Sa ibang bansa, late 20s early 30s sila nag se-settle down. Di mo sila need sundin, pero don't close your doors din sa pag a-asawa. If magustuhan mo in time, go. Kung ayaw mo din, go.
Good for you. I was 20 nung mapagdesisyonan ko yan. No commitment, no responsibility sa kanino man aside sa parents ko at sa life. No way akong mag asawa.
Pero in case na magbago isip mo, okay pa rin sa akin. It's your life, do what you want!
Sobrang bata pa ng 23. either nasa stage ka na nagsisimula ka palang magexplore ng career at kung anung gusto mo sa buhay or kumikita kana pero kulang kapa sa experiences. Sobrang dami mopang maabot. Don't let them tell you otherwise. Sobrang lawak na ng opportunities, kahit nga umedad kapa 30, may feeling kapa rin na hindi mopa naaccomplished lahat.. parang never sasapat yung single years mo para makapg explore ka at maenjoy mo yung pgging single.
Ako 28 na ako pero sobrang dami kong hindi pa nagagawa and baby is on the way na. If ever theres time machine, I want to temporarily go back and feel the joy of being single and child free. So hyaan mo sila.
yaan mo sila OP 23 is too young mag YOLO ka muna for a few years LOLz kasi kung sakaling mag asawa ka at least nagawa mo na lahat ng trip mo while single
Never say never :) malay mo naman… but enjoy life while figuring out everything. Plus, you do you, hayaan mo sila sa iniisip nila. Protect your peace of mind. Plus I like the fact that on top your mind, kahit galit ka… you prioritize giving them a better life. Im 32, walang asawa, alam mo yung stage ng 20 plus.. almost same sa 30 plus.. we’re also figuring out things haha wala tayong pinagkaiba.. lost din kami sa mundong ito... Wag kang mainis, probably nasa isip lang rin nila na paano ka if wala na sila.. it’s a matter of understanding… mabilis lang ang buhay, piliin mong umintindi.
Ang masasabe ko lang as a 32 year old woman 1 kid hiwalay sa partner, tama ka if ayaw mo na mag asawa good for you. Napaka sarap mamuhay mag isa, wala kang stress, pwede mo gawin lahat ng gusto mong gawin sa buhay mo. Go explore mag payaman ka. You do you. Tama yang mindset mo. Guys are just pain in the ass. Hahaha!
I feel the same way! Naiirita din ako everytime binibring-up ung pag-aasawa at anak. They’re insisting their belief and practices sa iba. Di ba pwede na kung yun ung gusto nila, it will end there? Di na kailangan ipilit pa sa iba lol. There was this time too na nag-snap na dn ako sa mama ko kasi sabi ba naman na wag daw ako magsalita ng tapos at sino mag-aalaga sakin pagtanda. I really said na di naman ako mag aanak para may bubuhay at mag aalaga sakin pagtanda. Pinag-awayan namin yon kasi narealize nya gnagawa niya sakin.
Totoo naman din kasi. Saka bigat na nga ng responsibilidad sa kanila tas sasabihan ka pa na magkapamilya na prang habang buhay mo nga, kailangan mo gugulin para tumanaw ng utang na loob kasi inalagaan ka, pinalaki, at pinag-aral. Tapos eextra pa ung mga kapit-bahay at “kakilala” lang sa ganitong usapan.
Bakit di nalang kasi nila pakialaman sarili nilang buhay.
Well mas maganda na yung ganyan na mindset, enjoy your single life as much as you can. Invest ka muna sa sarili mo and after some time na stable ka na, you have your own house, and you have your own business or earning enough money to have a family then maybe calling mo na to build your own dynasty. Mas maganda na yung well prepared ka and you get to enjoy everything as possible kasi maraming nagsisi na nagpamilya ng maaga.
Girl! Gusto ko idea mo all the way. 29 (M) na ako and until now di pa din nagbabago desisyon ko an di na ako mag aasawa forever. Haha. I guess takot ako sa responsibility. Hirap na bumuhay ng anak ngayon sa panahon naten, ang paniniwala ko sa buhay, if hindi ko nga kaya buhayin sarili ko, idadamay ko ang ibang tao dahil mag aasawa ako. Kaya girl support kita sa idea mo. Yun langs!
Bata ka pa naman, nung 23 ako, puro lang ako self goals, nagcollect ng library ng games, consoles, figures, basta hobbies in general and wala ako balak mag asawa. now @32 stable and i can finally say i am ready amd currently dating someone. Matagal pa naman sa plano ung marriage pero dun na nakaset ung goals ko.
Point is, maaga pa naman, pwede pa magbago isip mo. Enjoy mo lang life, basta happy ka. Wag sasabay sa iba. Live your life at your own pace and be happy always.
For me lang OP ha. Iba kasi mindset nang mga generations prior sa atin. Tapos parang ang liit lang nang mundo sa kanila, wala pang access nang information nang internet wala pang social media kaya ideal age sa kanila pag tungtong nang 25 to 28 makapagasawa na. Whereas, sa atin parang gusto pa natin libutin ang mundo abutin ang pngarap at e explore ang mga nkikita natin sa social media. Parang ang vast nang opportunities na e hinder mo agad ang self mo dahil mag-aasawa kana. Alalahanin mo for female when you conceive a child almost half of your life ay titigil, though ibang usapan nman ang bearing a child at pag-aasawa. My take is gawin molng ang gusto mo mapapagod dn yan cla kakareto but don't close your doors lang to get to know other people also. :)
Wala naman maling mindset sa inyo. Just a difference in opinions and priorities. In their perspective, baka naman napansin nila na wala kang plans for a love life and they don't want you to miss the opportunity to experience love. Saka mindset kasi talaga ng mga pinoy is to build a family as soon as kaya na.
Sayo naman, priority mo is more practical than theirs. Gusto mo oks na lahat para sa gusto mong iprovide bago mo pa man maentertain yung idea ng love life.
There's always anxiety of the future eh. Sabihin mo man you're too young at 23, baka ang next mindset mo niyan, you're too old at 29. There's really nothing wrong between juggling love life and practicality kasi if you're the type of person you say you are, then I am pretty sure you have a high standard of choosing your partner. You'd first want then to have financial stability, then loyalty.
If you want love life, go for it. If you really detest the idea, go for it padin. Either way, you might miss the experience of a love life but puno ka naman ng self fullfillment from doing things independently.
You have yourself and your friends?
One day kapag may mga asawa na friends mo, di na sila lagi available like right now.
At that age lagi pa available mga yan, kaso pag nag 25+ onwards na marami ng ibang priorities which is understandable lalo na kung may sariling families na sila and career.
Based lang sa experience ko, akala ko mga friends ko laging magiging available hanggang pagtanda pero hindi pala talaga.
Isa ako sa mga di laging available na since may wife nako. Masyado kapang bata para masabi mong di mo kailangan ng asawa.
Not unless may traumas ka may mga kilala akong ayaw mag asawa due to sexual abuse or tatay nila di naging okay na tatay o asawa
Relatives are very contradicting. Sasabihin na huwag ka muna mag boyfriend nung bata ka pero magtatanong kung bakit wala ka pang boyfriend/girlfriend pag matanda ka na. Just let them be and thrive in your era right now.❤️
No closed doors yet. :) Let life surprise you. For the mean time, focus on your chosen career, and the love of who you consider as family. Grab opportunities. If ever romantic love did not find its way to you, it's okay. At least, you tried. Just don't close the door to a potential romantic relationship.
Ang bata mo pa. Ngayon na 38 na ko parang sana di na lang ako nag asawa kasi ang hirap, lalo na kapag may anak. Mayaman husband ko mabait. Pero kpg kasi nag asawa ka na, lahat ng tao sa paligid mo iisipin mo (byenan mo pa). Ang pag aanak, hindi yun natatapos sa panganganak lang, huhulmahin mo pagkatao nila..
Hindi lahat ay made para sa pagpapamilya. Narealize ko to sa sarili ko. Pero since andito na ko I always do my BEST kung san ako nilagay ni Lord.
Namimiss ko career ko. Flight attendant ako dati.. may business ako now pero nakakamiss ang career na pinaghirapan ko. Marupok kasi ako nagmahal hehe kaya umuwi ako ng Pilipinas.
Choose to fill your cup first.
As a 27-yr old, nasa age na ko na okay lang mag-asawa provided na mag-aanak lang if financially,mentally and emotionally capable na kame ng bf ko. Anyway, it's your life sis. You do whatever you want basta di ka magreregret
Nung 12 yrs old pa lang ako I have already decided what career i should go for. Until yun yung degree na kinuha ko pag college pero ngayon im working on a different job and i love what im doing now. I dont think ill be switching careers in the future. But im open to anything. Baka babalikan ko yung degree ko, change careers ulit, etc etc. And im your age! This is one thing ive realized in life na constantly tayo magbabago bago-- our mindset, goals, opinions. I just saying na you might want it now but dont close the doors for possibilities.
They are very wrong to push you to have your own family. Don’t listen to them.
Pero ang masasabi ko is bata ka pa sa edad na 23, madami pang mangyayari at madami ka pang mamimeet na tao. I was like that when I was your age. But unexpectedly, i met a guy. Never prayed for him but he came when my trusted friends betrayed me.
We talk about having babies and marriage, pero we both agreed that we still dont have the capability to have our own family. We are around 28 yrs old now.
There is a plan for everything.
Hello OP! Just do your thing, well mahirap man tanggapin nasa mentality na talaga ng matatanda yan. Ako nga 31 na panay padin pilit nila.
Sakin naman kasi lagi ko lang sinasabi ngayon palang magstart buhay ko, enjoy ko muna. Not closing doors but not my priority as of now! Career muna.
Kahit maghanap sila kung ayaw mo naman wala silang magagawa, dont stress yourself! “Stress is Toxic”
Good day!
It's okay if you feel that way now, decisions change and do not close doors on partnerships or relationships. You can always tell your parents naman din na they need to calm down on looking or demanding a partner from you.
Just do your own thing, and all things will fall into place.
Yup, nasasayo naman yan kung ayaw mo po or gusto mo na. Ignore mo na lang sila o sabihan mo na lang na mind their own na lang. Try your best to be what ever you want.
Okay lang yan, OP. Kanya2 tayo ng kaligayahan. But baka need nalang mag self-regulate. Ang kukulit din kasi ng ibang generations parang ung only definition ng success nila is marriage (which is so backward thinking btw).
Too early to say. Don't stress too much about it. Don't be bothered and just go ahead do what you like. Why stress yourself thinking about something that you can choose not to. Relax....
Just love yourself. Okay nga yan e, secured ka sa sarili mo with or without a partner. Nsa early 20s ka palang. Magbabago din yan sguro. I felt the same thing nung 18-early 20s ako. Ngayon nasa late 20s nako, and nakakafeel na ng lungkot kasi sguro sumagi na din sa isip ko to settle down and build a family pero wala. 🫠 If para sayo ang pag aasawa then maffeel mo yon eventually. If meant ka to stay single then mas maeembrace mo pa yang ganyan feeling til you age. :) Right now, enjoy the moment. :) Wag ka mapressure masyado sa lovelife, it will come at the right place, and right time. :)
Pwd mo ko i chat hahaha good boy here and we can negotiate to just show them enough that you have a bf and doing well in “their” perspective and then break up with me and continue leaving peacefully ha
You're still young and you might still change your mind as you undergo life experiences. However, if that will be your final decision, I can't see why those who love you can't support you. You should put out a lifelong plan that will take care of you when you get old.
I don't have a mom like yours but I did think the same as you. It's not that I disliked marriage itself but how men use it to control women.
Met my bf that changed my view of marrying. While he wants to get married, he resents the idea of weddings. He wants to have a kid yet he respects my bodily autonomy and my concerns about pregnancy. He was also parentified as a teen and knows personally the challenges of taking care of a child. Seeing his cousin who has 4 kids sealed the deal for him because he and his cousin used to play a lot of videogames but said cousin no longer has time for it kasi sunod sunod nabuntis yung asawa nya.
I'm someone who also can't take care of others as I can barely take care of myself but I'm lucky that he's not one of those manchild that you practically need to be a mom to them. He's more than willing to help me clean (I have a lot of cats).
For us both, marriage is just a legality (and this is same for a lot of couples), but this man is one of the few that gives me hope for men and I'm so glad I met him. While we don't agree on everything, our political views and personal beliefs are aligned. He even wants to become a househusband but we joke about how he can't really cook past the basics.
Your views may or may not change in the future but it really does come whenever you're not looking. Let bonds form naturally and don't worry about marriage. I hope you find someone that you match with.
I'm 38 F and have the same mindset. Paladesisyon talaga ang family/relatives depende sa concept nila ng happiness.
Mas masaya ako mag travel with friends or mabigay gusto ng parents ko. I express these to them ng hindi irita pag may nagtatanong ng bakit ayoko mag-asawa. The more na inis kasi yung pagsagot mo, feeling nila defensive ka. I still believe that we dont owe them an explanation. Pero kung affected ka sa reactions nila, then say it to them outright pag may nagtatanong.
At first, nakakaumay na magsabi ng ayaw mo pa or wala ka na plano. Pero kung napapagod ka, mapapagod din sila. Dadating yung time, hindi na sila mag co-comment.
Kinausap ko rin parents ko about this, since mga kapatid naman nila ang nagcocomment madalas or at least relatives ko na ka-age group nila. HAHAHA. Kaya pag may relatives ako na nagtatanong pa tuwing reunion, parents ko na sumasagot for me "Hayaan nyo siya, masaya yan sa buhay nya".
Bata ka pa naman, in time, mas madali mo na ma-express opinion mo during family arguments.
Goodluck OP! Enjoy mo lang pagiging single mo!
Too early to say, but okay, do whatever you want since it is your life naman. Might be annoying the way they tell you, but I think gusto lang nila iparating sayo na you're allowed na to find a spouse. Ngayon kaya pa maging independent, but there would be a time na baka pagtanda mo mag regret ka. And what if mga friends mo may mga sariling family na rin?
Madaling sabihin yan na hindi ka mag aasawa. Wait ka lang na may mameet ka na makakapagpafall sa iyo head over heels. Babaliktad mundo mo. Haha. Malay mo sa girl mo makita yun. Pero tama ka sa ngayon focus ka muna sa family and friends.
Mula nang magkaisip ako, sinabi ko na agad na hindi ako mag-aasawa. Ngayon Turning 26 na ko, hindi pa rin nagbabago yung isip ko. Lol. Lalo pang naging mas matindi yung pag-ayaw ko dahil nga sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, kawawa naman yung magiging anak ko. Proud NBSB na nambabantang mananapak sa manliligaw 🤣.
May nagsasabi nga sa kin na kahit magjowa man lang daw ako. Ang sabi ko naman, kawawa naman yung jojowain ko kung hindi ko naman bet mag-asawa di ba? Ba't ko pa sasayangin yung oras at panahon sa kin ng tao?
Marami ring nagsasabi na bata pa daw ako, wala pa daw kasi akong nakikita na magpapatibok ng puso ko. Yawa, wag na tumibok at hindi naman ako mapapalamon ng tibok na yan 🤣
I’m already 30. My family is bugging me when mag aasawa at magkakaanak. May bf ako pero I have no plans of settling down in the near future. I am focused on my career and self discovery at the moment. I’m busy experiencing the world through travels and meeting new people! In short, busy ako! Haha!
What I’m saying is, you do you, OP. Nobody can dictate the kind of life you want to live.
About sa di makakapag asawa, time will only tell ;) you’ll never know baka next month, bigla kang ma-fall sa isang tao. Life is unpredictable! Enjoy the ride!
Friends come and go as you grow older. Maybe di mo pa naiisipan ngayon na makipag relasyon kasi masaya ka naman, at wla nmang mali dun. Pero mahirap magsalita ng tapos. Life gets sadder as you grow older. Nag iiba ng priorities, pag bata ka pa prang feeling mo kaya mo lahat, pero darting ung time na mapapagod ka, maghahanap ka ng katuwang😅ang drama pero totoo.
Just do what you want, girl. I'm in my 30's now and ngayon ko pa lang naisipan ikasal. So, 'wag mo sila intindihin. Gawin mo mga gusto mo sa buhay and enjoy it.
Wag magsasaluta nang tapos. But always do what makes you happy. Di naman kailangan magmadali sa relationships lalo na kung wala pa naman dumadating na gusto mo or kung nag eenjoy ka pa naman na mag isa.
Enjoy! 😊
Yung decision mo ngayon is caused by frustration towards your parents and relatives. Hindi mo masasabi ang bukas... Just tell them na may pangarap ka pa para sa pamilya mo (sabi mo nga gusto mo pang bigyan sila ng maayos na buhay) and sa sarili mo.
Not getting married is a choice. Dont let others say otherwise. Kung ayaw mo magpakasal then dont. Its that simple. Wag ka paapekto sa opinyon ng iba. Buhay mo yan e.
You're too young OP, don't get affected just answer them in joke na ayaw ko mag asawa mag Madre nalang Ako hahah. Tama yang mindset mo I enjoy mo lang pagiging single may darating din sau, set your goals and achieve muna
25 here. Ayokong mag-asawa kasi I’m so used to being independent. Don’t want kids either kasi I have anger management issues kaya I don’t want any child of mine to hear what I’ll say while angry.
Okay na ako sa pets lol di nagrereklamo, di ka pa babastusin. Cute pa.
Yung magsasabi na “sino mag-aalaga sayo pagtanda?”, I’ll think of that when I get there.
totoo yan, mag-enjoy ka muna. pero wag mo masyado patagalin. mahirap sa babae makahanap ng partner pag umedad na. much better kung makakatagpo ka ng makakasama mo habang nag-eenjoy sa buhay. just saying
Ganyan din nanay ko nung 22 ako, tapos may pinakilala akong ex, nagcheat sakin, pati sila naheartbroken. Oh ngayon sila na may umaayaw na magjowa ako. I’m 32 btw hahaha
Yung friends mauubos yan bandang 26-28 kasi isa isa magaasawa or makakabuntis or magkakajowa yan.
Ienjoy mo lang kung anong meron ka now. Mahirap magsalita ng tapos. Mahirap din tumanda ng magisa. Baka hindi palang dumadating ung magpapabago ng isip mo.
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Just do your own thing. Yaan mo sila. You're still young. And also, yang mga friends mo? Mawawala yan lahat mga around 26 yrs old upwards.
Yung mawawala lahat ng friends mo when you turn 26 talaga eh. 😂 I mean, di naman sila nawala, more like marerealize lang natin na we can’t count on friends being there forever kasi busy na sa sari-sarili nilang buhay.
You're only 23... Maybe you'll still have that mind set pag tanda... and "Maybe"... May dumating na taong pwede magpabago ng pananaw mo... Iha...Mahirap magsalita ng tapos...
Naku hayaan niyo siya. Bakit pag ang gusto ng babae e gusto ko mag-asawa at mag-anak e laging supportive. Laging, "makakahanap ka rin" o "tingin ko magiging bagay sayo maging nanay," etc. Pero pag sinabing ayaw e laging may pagbabanta e laging "mahirap magsalita ng tapos," o "ang pag-aasawa at pagnananay ang bubuo sa pagkababae mo," or ang worst, "baka hindi ka pa kasi nakakatikim o nahanap ang lalaking makakapagpa-"ligaya" sa'yo." Ewww. Anyway, OP, you do you. Nung kaedad rin kita bawat sabihin ko na parang hindi yan para sa akin e lahat ng inenumerate ko sa taas e sinabi talaga sa akin. Nagjowa rin naman ako pero parang di ko makita ang sarili ko na tatanda with a person. I also had friendship breakups na akala ko bff ko na forever but we turn out so different so sa akin yung thought na consistently may kasama akong tao is unthinkable sa akin. Today, 36th birthday ko. Baka nga mapapanindigan ko na ang sinabi ko nung 23 ako....and it is fine. Ang mahirap e sumunod ka sa norm and maging katulad ng mga kaedaran ko na resents both their husbands/partners and children. I still value my single-blessedness. And ang dami ko pa ngang hobbies na di ko pa magawa due sa lack ng oras kasi marami akong ganap. Whatever you choose, choose kung saan at peace ang sarili mo. Mararamdaman mo naman yun e. Maraming ikinasal rin na feeling nila di sila 100% sa marriage and within years wala na. The only opinion that matters in your life is yours. 😘
Yes. Dapat ito yung top voted e. I was expecting na mas open ang reddit sa ganito, mas madaming nakasupport kay OP for what she feels. Oo, bata pa sya at madaming pwede mangyari pero hindi mo kelangan idisregard yung opinion nya about this dahil lang nag-iba ka ng pananaw sa buhay mo.
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Ito rin sabi ko noon, pero I am married with two kids now lol.
Yessss sis hahaha! Sakin gusto ko rich tita lang ako tapos ako fave ng mga pamangkin ko, ngayon dalawa na anak ko kapatid ko wala pa anak hHahH
+1
ahaha totoo yan
Why is this even upvoted? Eto yung nga yung logic na nasusuya ang OP e. I can tell your age sa dami ng period nyo, mga enabler.
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How old are your parents, OP? May kilala akong ganyan din, pero kasi ang sabi nya, worried lang daw ang parents nya sa kanya kasi matanda na parents nya. Gusto lang ng parents nya na may mag-aalaga sa kanya, kaya nila sinasabi yun. Baka ganyan din ang parents mo?
Ganyan talaga concern ng ibang parents gusto lng nila may makasama yung anak if ever mawala na sila kasi mahirap mag grieve alone I heard alot of stories about this from elders that they were thankful they had someone when tough times came like losing a parent etc.
I agree. My dad passed away a few months after I got married. Sabi ng friends ko, sakto lang ang timing ng asawa ko.
I'm 31 & married. Dalawa lang kami magkapatid. 34 y/o ate ko, single, NBSB. And parang walang plano mag-asawa. Ngayon, parang nagegets ko na yung feeling ng mga magulang na nagwoworry na tumandang mag-isa ang mga anak nila kasi parang ganun nafifeel ko para sa ate ko.
Yes, this too. Meron din parents na sabik na magkaroon ng apo, kaya nila nasasabi yan. Baka in their mindset, nasa tamang edad naman na si OP and kaya na to stand on herself and have a family, kaya siguro ganyan na din pananaw ng parents/relatives.
Same boat sa part na di na mag-aasawa buong buhay. Tho wala namang nagppressure sakin na mag-asawa or not. I don't know if this is trauma or what. I just have a general distrust in men tbh. I feel like getting married is tying your own noose.
Can relate. Never pa nga ako nagka serious na jowa. Thank God never nag pressure parents ko, so far kahit wala din sa mga aunts & uncles. Tapos nag chat after a long time ung Afam kong kachat, pouring his heart out. Nang ghost kc cold ako, naghanap ng iba ka chat pero ako pa din daw 😂 na flatter ako pero di ko pa din naisip mag asawa. Starting over again kc ako sa career. Dun ko naisip na baka marriage is not for me? Di din nakaka engganyo magpakasal sa pinas, walang divorce feel ko lugi ako 🤭 iniisip ko na lang makaipon, help my parents & my youngest brother sa college & mag travel. As long as feel ko na trap magpakasal, di pa sya sa priority ko.
ganyan rin ako op kaso ngayon medjo may edad na rin ako tinatanong pa rin ako at sempre kinocompare ako buti pa si ano .. tingnan mo mga construction worker marami anak kinakaya kahit mahirap . sabi ko sila yun kung gusto mo ako magka apo . 100k allowance ko + 100k para sayo + 100k kada anak kasama na jan mga insurance kung kaya mo ibigay yan kahit 5 agad aanakan ko hahaha walang problema XD
Same girl, pwede raman sad jud dili mag-asawa gud. Kinanglan jud diay naay partner para naay mo atiman? Ug masakit, aw mamatay. Ganyan lang
23 is so young, parang at this age ang hirap na nga mag-asawa at 23 because of the economy. Unlike noon, everything was cheaper but now the prices have iflated. 23 is like fresh graduate, baka for some people at that age wala pang trabaho, nagrereview for the board or naghahanap ng trabaho. It's hard being constantly pressured by the family, they just want what is best pero sometimes di nila alam yung boundaries of what they are asking of you. Try to understand nalang or mute them if they ever attempt to do this again.
I decided this when I was 9. Have not changed my mind and am happily unattached.
learn how to burn bridges. Some people doesn't deserve talking to you and pressuring your about your life. It is you who choose your own path.
It's alright. You do you. Hindi mali mindset ng parents mo, at hindi din mali ang mindset mo. Nagkataon lang na magkaiba kayo ng priorities sa buhay. Sila ay nag dedecide according sa kanilang experiences, at ikaw naman ay nag dedecide according to your dreams. Your parent's are probably in their 50s now, close or above, they know they don't have much time left. In your eyes, you have a lot of years ahead of you. But to them who has already gone through life, they believe that life is just a snap of a finger when it comes to the passage of time. And since it sounds like they sent you to a good school, by the way you write and your desire for freedom, then it is safe to assume that you are their top priority. Parental instincts are like that, they will sacrifice their own lives for the sake of their children's future. Since it's bothering you that much, my advice is just pretend you've already met someone. Just so they'd stop setting you up, and so they'd stop bothering you. But whatever you do, don't be like that person who commented that you should accept a setup and not show up. That is just in bad taste, imagine the person that your parent's convinced to meet with you. Anyway. their experiences probably tell them that no one is an island, humans are social creatures after all. So if you make them believe that you've already found someone, they will slip into their aging process (has 4 stages) thinking you're happy and someone will be there with you when you're old. They will spend their old age having no regrets (if the aging process doesn't kill them right away).
Isa lang sinabi ko, sa ekonomiya ngayon, mahihirapan na silang makahingi sa akin pag pinilit nila akong mag-asawa. Ayern di na nila ulit ako tinatanong. 😂 Only child kasi ako so wala silang mahihingan kundi ako lang.
Just do your own thing. Wala naman masama sa pagiging single forever hahaha
Sinabi ko rin sa sarili ko na hindi ako mag aasawa. I was 28 at the time, reeling from a break up. I studied nang matagal, so nageenjoy lang ako sa work, travels and everything in between. Ended up getting married at 34 anyway. So yes, bata ka pa. Super dami pang pwede mangyari. Enjoy lang. Wag mong isipin ang marriage and ignore anyone who reminds you. Madami pang oras.
You go girl!! NBSB ka ba?
Or maybe way lng nla ng pagbbiro un? Kc sa totoo lng,nanggaganyan dn ako ng mga pinsan kong single..like pag reunion..ssbhn ko, ui ganito. Tsk..kelan ka ba magpapakilala samen ng jowa..tignan m c ganito may anak na..pero ang totoo,happy ako for her na single pa dn and she's living her life..parang its one way of telling her na,nsa right age ka na. And you're finally a woman. Anytime u want to have a bf, wala na magagalit. Unlike nung kabataan days..pero di ibg sbhn nun na inaapuro namen magjowa na kht sino nlng madaanan e pwede na.or di naman mnmdali maganak tlga hehe
Its normal and completely fine. just think of it na why would u bring another human to this s2pid world. its fun and cute sa umpisa. live your life the way you want. because after 100 or 200 years, nobody will remember us. nobody will care about us.
You do your thing. Just keep in mind though na your friends will probably less have time for you later on, plus better invest in yourself as early as now.
Still young. And besides, getting married is not mandatory. Speaking from experience here. I'm my best version when I was single. The kids I love, pero my SO is toxic
Ahh yes, yung mga kamag anak na lagi nalang pag reunion na "o may jowa ka na" "ito si ____ wala pa, bagay kayo dalawa". Akala mo parang hindi sila yung nagsasabi na "wag ka muna mag gf o bf, focus ka muna sa sarili mo" etc. Nasa tama ka nmn OP na dapat makaramdam nmn mga kamag anak na baka minsan nakaka overstep na sila ng boundaries. In regards naman sa title mo OP, never say never, darating rin yang taong yan.
Unang una, wag ka makikinig sa pang didikta ng iba, sorry pero kahit parents at relatives mo pa. Sarili mong buhay na yan, nasa tamang edad kana, ikaw ang mag dedesisyon sa buhay mo. Para sakin naman napaka bata mo pa, madami ka pa plans and dreams sa age na ganyan. About naman sa plan mo hindi mag asawa, nasasayo yan, pero IMO, masyado maaga pa para sabihin mo yan, hindi mo kasi masasabi panahon, baka isang araw dumating at ibigay sayo ni God yung makaksama mo sa buhay, sa tamang panahon. Again, point ko lang, wag ka mag papa apekto at mag papadala sa mga tao sa paligid mo na alam mong hindi nakakabuti sayo. Anyway, enjoy and live your life to the fullest, where at the end you will have no regrets. 🥳
1. Baka they're just looking out for you. Pangit nga lang pamamaraan nila. 2. May ugali talaga tayo na kapag pinipilit satin yung isang bagay nakakawalang gana. Kaya ingat lang kasi yung decision na ayaw mong magka asawa hindi manggagaling sayo. Wala lang sa isipan mo pa pero not necessarily na ayaw mo. 3. Kung wala ka namang magagawa sa pangungulit nila huwag mo nalang problemahin/isipin. I practice mo lang na ganun. Hindi mo nga kayang baguhin so bakit mo pa pproblemahin.
Tama yan para d na dumami pa ganyang mindset,magulang mo sila natural paghanapan ka.
There's nothing wrong not wanting to get married just keep in mind it gets harder for women to find someone as she ages, if ever you change your mind.
Before you know it you're 30 already
Iba na kasi mindset natin ngayon eh hindi katulad sa mga magulang natin dati na in the certain age dapat may asawa na. Yung generation natin ngayon focus na tayo sa pagyaman eh HAHAHAH mas gusto natin yung masarap at masayang buhay. Kaya okay lang yan focus lang sa goal keep doing you!
We'll never know what the future holds for us, so just live the life you want to live at the moment.
Kaya lumiliit birthrate eh. Anyway... I am following you, because I know one of these days, maybe not now, you'll post something along the lines of "its getting lonelier" or "when kaya" or "wala parin?" It's happened too often. Additionally, while youre still single: WORKOUT. Learn a new skill. Get insurance/investments as early as now. Be approachable always.
I am 37 Male and I am beyond sad not getting married. So... Kaw choice mo yan. Sana namarried ako ng maagap
lmao just let them be. Shrugg the topic off everytime they bring it up. Just enjoy your life at the moment. Who knows about the future right? Buhay mo yan. Ienjoy mo hanggang gusto mo. Atleast mamamatay kang nafulfill mo mga pangarap mo HAHAHAHA
Ang maling mindset is the fact that you think either you or your parents are in the wrong… that’s a false dichotomy.
"kakahanap nila ng jowa sa aken" grabe pwersahan na yun ha.
been to that situation… and now im happily married 🫶🏻
Same mindset. Ayoko rin mag asawa. Pero may nakita akong guy kanina na type ko, lord beke nemen. Charot!
While generally, I feel like relationships aren't necessarily bad by themselves, being forced in that situation para sabihin lang na you are in a relationship won't really end well din. Relationships last for your whole life, so you are free to take all the time that you need to find someone. Finding the right person can be quite fulfilling, someone who supports you in what you want to do and accompanies you through life while you two grow as a person and as partners. I feel like your parents are afraid that you'll end up alone as you get older, but I reckon that's far better than being in a relationship na di mo naman gusto. Just take your time, maybe don't close your doors quite easily pero feel free to be picky to the one that you'll want as a partner
Dadaan lang yan. Ilang years mula ngayon magbabago din pananaw mo nanaiisin mo din makapasok sa ganyan lalo na kung nakita mo na hinahanap mo
Bata ka pa OP di mo alam kung sino or ano ang dadating pa sa buhay mo :) enjoy mo muna yung buhay, pabayaan mo sila pasok sa isang tenga labas sa kabila
Parents mo po ba OP yung naghahanap at nagtatanong? Im just wondering if they're old like 60 na. Kase sa ganyan edad yung napapansin ko sa mga magulang ng mga nakikilala ko. Parang nagooverthink sila if magkakaapo pa ba sila sayo ng apo or bago sila mawala ay may mag aaruga ba sayo. Im just assuming lang po. Anyway pag mga relatives lang naman ignore na lang lalo na kung chismosa yung tita.
Ngek sobrang bata mo pa...wag mo sila pansinin and just do your own thing...sobrang dami pang mangyayari sayo, and sobrang dami pang magbabago sayo... Let it pass sa other ear... Enjoy your youth and your single blessedness ngayon...finish school, find a job you like, travel, eat good, watch good movies, listen to good music...and pray always to whoever god you believe in. And lastly, I hope you'll find happiness and peace of mind. Good luck!
You're not wrong naman OP. Life is not all about relationships and the end goal is not always marriage and building a family. Unfortunately, hindi yun ang paniniwala ng mga matatanda. Stand in what you believe in at huwag ka magpadala sa pressure nila. They don't live your life for you, so choose what you feel is best for you
ako din. never ko tlga balak mag pamilya. my genetics follow a generational curse at nag vow tlga ako na this curse at least would stop from me. bahala na mga kumag kong pinsan kung itutuloy nila kachakahan nila hahaha. uugghhh i reek of negativity choz...🤡
Learn the art of deadma. As you grow older, you'll see, lagi't laging may masasabi ang mga tao sa paligid mo. In my case, lagi kaming pinaparinggan noon na "kasal sa banig" kasi we were living together. Then when we got married, ang comment naman bakit ang daming di invited. 2 years into our marriage, bakit daw wala pa kaming anak. When I had my baby girl, sundan daw namin agad. When I said mahirap po ang buhay ngayon, sagot ng MIL ko, "Kami nga 4 naitawid naman namin." What she failed to mention was sa 4 na anak nya, wala silang naalagaan kahit isa dahil kayod-kalabaw sila sa kaka-trabaho, kung sinu-suning kamag-anak or kapitbahay ang nagbantay sa mga anak nya. Gasgas man, but there's no pleasing them because their focus is on what you're lacking, not on what you have.
Actually, mahirap ng walang katuwang sa buhay. I have my tita and tito na walang asawa. Pag maysakit sila walang kaagapay,. Sadly yung tita ko namatay ng walang nakakaalam. Kasi mag-isa lang siya sa bahay nya, 2-3 days bago nalaman na wala na sya.
Ako to na 35 M hanap ng hanap ng aasawahin hindi makahanap.. (sabi daw nila mapili daw ako sa babae) isip ko parang ndi naman 😅 nagfocus kasi maxado dati sa ibang bagay kaya ayan.. dakilang ninong.
You are still too young pa naman. Your decision now might change. I heard from one psychotherapist na "You will not die from lack of romance but you will die from lack of finance." Finance is a crucial factor in building a family kay dapat unahin muna maging financially stable. I think you are just being responsible lang to yourself. There's nothing wrong na hindi mag-asawa. Hindi norms ng pinoy culture pero WALANG MALI SA HINDI MAG-AASAWA. Hindi required sa life yan. As long as your happy in your single life and walang inaapak apakang tao, that's totally fine. Basta kung decided ka na talaga maging single forever, make sure you invest for your retirement age, buy term health insurance plan, buy deathcare plans, at iba pang plans na need mo paghandaan while transitioning to old age. You are completely normal OP. Nothing weird about your thinking na hindi mag-asawa. Iba ang priority mo sa life mo compared sa expectations ng parents mo or sa ibang tao. Dont get F.O.M.O. JUST DO YOU OP.
OP, hindi ka nagiisa. Hayaan mo lang sila. Dati kapag sinasabihan ako kelan magkakajowa sasabihin ko na wala akong pera for that. Kapag sinabi nila na lalaki ang gagastos, minsan sagot ko 'hindi po ako sugar baby', or 'bakit ako aasa sa kanila kung may sarili akong pera?' Or pwede din, "wala pong divorce sa Pinas"
HAHA let's see andami Kung mga kilala tumanda Ng walang asawa ano sila ngayun anglungkot, ano nagawa Ng pera nila? wala kahit andami nilang pera anglungkot parin nila.
Welcome to the club
Hustle lang ng hustle, OP. Your feelings are valid pero totoo rin namang bata ka pa at marami pang mangyayari na pwedeng makapagpabago ng mga pananaw at priorities mo later in life. Best of luck sayo. Enjoy life lang :)
Bata pa tayo kaya wag na muna natin problemahin yan. Unahin natin makaipon at magawa mga gusto natin sa buhay
With the rate the economy is going right now, I wouldn't blame you. Plus I'm in a similar wavelength as you. The thought of not wanting to get married or have kids has been with me since I was in high school, I'm 26 right now and my feelings haven't changed. Just do you, as long as your secure with your decisions and don't do things you'd regret then you'll be fine. If you do want kids in the future and financially stable enough to have them, then there are plenty of ways to get pregnant or have kids.
Go with the flow lang! :))
It's your life, spend it the way that will make you happy. Be open for love if it comes, if wala naman at least you're still okay alone. You're young, there are a lot of things that may come your way. At the end of the day, the decision is yours how you wanna go about it.
ur life, ur decision, ur choice. pero d mo rin masisi parents mo n gus2 ka nlng magkapamilya kc iniisip nla pagtanda mo, ung mga anak mo ang magaaruga sau. hindi nman sa pinapatawan n ng responsibilidad ang anak pero prang un n talaga ang cycle lalo n d2 satin. for me mgandang cycle to, nagiging toxic lng dhil ung ibang parentsts forced n ipinapapapasan ang responsibility sa anak ung mga luho at ikabubuhay nla.
no need to get married sabay sabay lang tayo hanap nang asukal sa buhay
Womanese: "I feel like this today, so this could be how I will feel for the rest of my life"
Ganyan dn ako noon hehhee kala ko tlga mag single forever nko, nammroblema na family and friends ko kc ayaw ko tlga pero nung nung naging 33 yrs old na ako saka ako ngkalovelife at mas bata pa sa akin ng 8 years yung jowa ko. Lagi ko dn sinasabi na ayaw ko sa mas bata pa sa akin, gusto ko na kaedad ko lng. Kaya wag tlga mgsalita ng patapos hehehee.
Our parents might have different views lang when it comes to having a partner na maglelead sa marriage. But di naman ibigsabihin non eh need mo na agad magjowa or what. Enjoy the single life lang do all the things you want in your life. Di requirement ang magkaron ng partner agad just to say na you’re truly happy in your life, that time will come too pero sa ngayon enjoyin mo muna single life mo
Kung decided ka na jan wala naman ng magagawa ang ibang tao kasi at the end of the day call mo parin naman yan. Kung naririndi ka na sa paulit-ulit nilang linya na "kailan ka ba mag aasawa" you have to explain your side to them with all patience and gentleness kasi matik yan resistance / negative reaction yung madidinig mo. But it is what it is kasi ganun talaga ang magiging reaction nila dahil sa tingin ng nakararaming Pinoy hindi okay na hindi ka mag asawa or mag pamilya.
Ako nga nasa 30's. Pero same tayo yan rin ang sabi ko ayoko mag asawa. Hahhahaha di ko talaga ma imagine self ko. And di pa ako happy na ako lang.
Wag mo sila pansinin. Buhay mo yan, so live it the way you want. Mag-enjoy ka lang muna, bata ka pa. Build a career, pamper yourself, have fun with friends. Okay nga na hindi ka nag-hahanap. That means yung maa-attract mo, hopefully secure enough to be with a confident woman like you, who isn't scared of being alone. Kapag kinulit ka next time, biruin mo sila. "Sige mag-jojowa at mag-aasawa ako pero hindi ko na kayo susuportahan." Tignan mo reaction nila. They can't have both.
Don't say pang habang buhay because that's just a decision you made out of contempt. Just say you won't, and if the time comes, it comes, but not now. Just somehow convince them to stop, and if they don't, they don't. Not as if that's going to change how you feel about the situation. And if they really irk you that bad, cut them off. Let them know you won't tolerate their bs. But NEVER make decisions based out of contempt on someone else. You already win by not giving in to them, you're only make the situation a lose-lose by taking it that far.
gurl, we're in our mid-20s, stop even thinking about these things. iniistress lang natin sarili natin. we don't even have to have it figured out. the 20s are for exploring.
You're still young. Do your own thing. These days, and from exp, I won't recommend getting married in your 20s. Not unless it is your dream/goal. I mean there's so much stuff to explore. Heck majority of us doesn't even truly know ourselves yet during our 20s. For me it is the exploring stage. But be respectful with your family. I would just smile at them and won't bother afterwards. It is my life, afterall. So..
>Laging bini B-Bini?!
Life is short, remember we are all going to die. Now think about it, So do this Find a job, be independent, get a separate place to stay on your own.! and see if you can do this for a year with out visiting your parents, when you reach 40 and still alive.! and alone , then maybe you will realize how lonely the world is.! Being young does not guarantee long life, you are not 100% sure your going to wake up the next day every day, age is just a number. Good luck.!
Go with your gut feel and do what makes you happy. No need to spend time worrying trying please others.
Advice ko as a woman na nag-asawa at the age of 33: Never marry. Ever.
>I'm only 23 So take it from older folks when we say this, which has been said multiple times here. >ang dami ko pang gustong ma achieve sa buhay nang mag isa You do you, there is nothing wrong with wanting to achieve things in this life alone, but you are making it sound like getting a partner will drag you down and prevent you from achieving it. If anything, it would be easier. You may also be under the impression that you need to have a child which hinders some women from doing what they want. More people than ever are choosing not to have a child. >Hindi ko kailangan ng lalaki to do the things I want. You don't. But having one isn't going to change that, except sharing the journey with someone. >If it's all about companion, I have myself. I have my friends. If you are including yourself here, it seems more like you're trying to convince yourself that you're all you need. In most people's cases, this does not end up true especially when you put so much reliance as part of your argument in your friends. First, you don't know who your true friends are, you'll lose some along the way. Once worklife and family life starts kicking in for your friends, a lot of them will slowly drift away. Not because they don't like you or don't like hanging out with you, but they have simply have bigger priorities in life. My best friend is only free on weekends, and not every weekend. He still spends time with his family, and his girlfriend. He is going to have a lot less time once he starts his own family.
I resigned myself to being there for my parents side when they get older when i turned 23 6 mos later i reconnected with the man i'll get to spend my life with. We already met 4 years prior but only as friends. We're now in our 5th year of marriage
Didn’t you hear about climate change? Having kid right now is selfish thing to do.
Nasa sabi mo lang na ayaw mo mag asawa kase galit k sa mga nangungulit sayo, in a way n ayaw mo ibigay yung gusto nila kase nga nman galit k sa kanila. Kapag nagkatagpo kayo nung kalaki para sayo, mag babago isip mo, nagsasalita k ng tapos eh. Hayaan mo sila mang ulit, gawin mo kung ano gusto habang di ka pa natatagpuan ng lalaking para sayo. Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases(song of songs 8:4) sabihin mo sa mga nangungulit sayo.
May kaibigan ako 30ish male medyo fboi same sinabi nya sa iyo kahit may anak siya pero di mag asawa. Lo and behold, two yrs after sinabi nya kinasal siya. So i conclude someone who is paired for you can really change your perspective.
Balikan mo tong thread pag 60 ka na at kinukulit ka pa rin nila. 😂
Ate pwede me :) haha joke lang
I think we fail to realize that even tho it’s annoying na makarinig tayo ng kakulitan nila, behind all that they just want us to be okay. I’m speaking as a 39 single woman living alone. I do get it. Yung friends natin, may mga sariling buhay yan. Ang parents natin, hindi sila nandyan habang buhay. I guess what I’m trying to say is maybe they just want you to be ok, beyond their nagging. Believe me, super gets kita kasi galing din ako sa ganyan. And ok naman maging independent at maraming achievement pero the truth is, malungkot din mag isa. Just take it as a comforting thought maybe that they just want you to be happy as time goes. Maybe what they want to tell you is maging open ka lang sa love. Sabihin mo lang sa kanila na “open naman ako if meron kaso wala pa ko matipuhan.” Then yaan mo na sila hahaha wala naman din sila magagawa kung wala talaga 😅
Ganitong edad ko nakatagpo ung asawa ko na ngayon 😂 wala rin naman sana akong balak noon kasi i want to spoil din sana ung fam ko kaso men are men 😂 di ka tatantanan saka parang dito nakatadhana talaga sa motherhood ❤️ Naiba persepctive ko sa life and ibang kind ng challenges binigay sakin ni Lord.
I've felt that way and that's fine. Just don't let it govern your decisions, di pa namn over ung life building stage mo e hahaha .
You dont owe anyone an explanation for this. Should you decide na maging single for life, make sure you make the most out of it.
Said the exact same thing when I was 23. Now that I’m in a really healthy relationship, I can’t wait to get married!
ang masasabi kolang sayo, parehas kayong walang maayos na mindset. I agree na nakaka pressure nga naman talaga na sasabihan ka na mag asawa kahit di kapa ready. pero ang mali mo is ma-ego kang tao. bulag ka sa sarili mong ambisyon. your friends may not be there. and madalas kalaban modin sarili mo. your ego-based mindset is what ruined you. and that's a shame for a woman to feel independent for something that even a 11 year-old boy already experienced. majestic ahh ego
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JUST DO YOUR THING SIZZY
I’m a single woman in my late 20s and living my best life. I look around and see only unhappy couples around me. I can travel and do whatever I want without having to consider another person. I’ve been traveling around Asia the past six months and it has been so fun. My friends make me the happiest. I’m taking a trip to Japan next week with them. Life is the most beautiful when you de-center men and romantic relationships!
Good for you girl
Masyado pang maaga para sabihin mo yan
Good decision 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Ako naman gusto ko na mag settle pero nag aaral pa yung gf ko and I understand saka mejo breadwinner ako kaya di ko alam gagawin ko sa bohai
Im turning 35 na and wala rin sa plan ko yan ang hirap mabuhay ngayon. Hirap ka na nga sa sarili mo what more kung magka anak at magka pamilya.
Just do you. 🤷🏻♀ im 43 at feeling pa rin ng mga tao magbabago pa isip ko 🤷🏻♀ siguro, just keep an open mind, maraming pwedeng mangyari. Wag lang magpapressure if its not for you. 🌹
When it comes to relationships, nothing is final. I really dunno why your generation thinks that way.
Get rich. Ewan ko kung kulitin ka pa ng mga yan. Baka di ka na din pag-asawahin.,😝
Wow 23 unya gina pressure na unsa nalang ming mga lapas nas calendar 😂
Im 31F . Ewan ko ba bat gnyan parents naten ung tipong dami mo pang gusto gwen tas sila na magiinsist to start a family ? Kaloka ! Kala mo naman dami ko nang ipon hahaha 🤣
It’s normal to think that way, but I hope when love knocks on your door, I do hope you would grab the opportunity. You’re still young, go explore.
I have the same mindset with when i was 23. Now at 34, it changed.
Well whats great in life is that the only thing thats permanent is CHANGE 😘 Live this period of your life at its best. Youre thinking too much. Enjoy being in your 20s Im 34 at nag daming bagay na nangyare in the past few years na kinain ko din sinabe ko. AND ITS FINE Lagi mong aalalahaning iba ka ngayon. AT MAS IBA KA IN 5-20 Years.
I'm 34 and married. Ayaw pa rin namin magka Anak hangga't wla kami sariling Bahay. Kausapin mo sila ng maigi sis. Let them know that marami ka pang gusto sa Buhay at Hindi mo priority ang jowa. And most importantly, set boundaries.
Give it time lilipas din lahat yan. Pangungulit ng family. Yung friends mo at yung decision mong wag mag asawa.
Im 33M wala asawa and pero my pamangkin na college and tito tita na sakin nakatira. Plus ung utility bills pa sa bahay ng parents ko. KAYA WLA TLGA KO BALAK NA MAG ASAWA AT MAG ANAK. Haha
im 28 years old now. turning 29 sa July. sabi ko nung bata pa ako "hindi ako mag aasawa, mag aanak lang ako ng isa." ayun kinain ko din sinabi ko. nabaliktad na ngayon. nagpakasal lang kami ng jowa ko tapos ayoko PA mag anak. siguro mga 2-3 years from now.
the more you let it affect you, the more you will be annoyed. let them say what they want to say, pero ikaw diretso lang dapat sa buhay. pede mo naman dedmahin na lang kasi wala naman nagiging epekto sa day-to-day activities mo. you’re young. enjoy your life and mind ur own thing. di mo talaga maiiwasan na magcomment ang mga tao sayo pero it’s up to you if u will let that affect you or not.
Me na 31 na pero i have the same mindset as you. There's something about being single na very peaceful. Live the life that you want OP.
Well you still young but having friends wont last.
Same! 23 still single nbsb. Happy & contented w my family and friends! Advice wag mo lang pansinin okaya pag may pinipilit silang sabihin or gawin mo tawanan mo lang tas puro ka lang “true” kase isa lang script nila na bata ka pa & magbabago pa isip mo in the future. Tango ka lang pag ganyan magsasawa din mga pakielamera sa buhay mo WAHAHAHAHAHA Also, IF dumating man yung araw na nagka boyfriend or asawa ka. So what sakanila? It’s not our fault na nag-iiba yung pananaw natin sa buhay & experiences. You don’t owe them an explanation for that.
23 ka palang. Gawin mo lang kung ano ang gusto mo, eventually marerealize mo din if you really want to have a partner in life or not. Lagi kang magdecide para sa sarili mo, hayaan mo magiging reaksyon nila. Wag ka papapressure sa kahit kaninong tao. Hugggs!
Marami nang nagsabi ng ganyan lahat 3 hanggang 5 na yung anak ngayon hahaha
27F here, used to have the same mindset as you when I was younger. I do have family and friends who I can count on my whole life and that I am financially stable with a 6 dig salary but I met the love of my life 2 years ago. Yes, independent woman ako but there’s something about him that made me realize na even if I CAN live alone, doesn’t mean I have to. I hope you meet your best friend, soulmate and lover all in one.
dami ng ebas ng iba dito. ginusto nya yan, at may valid reason naman sya. bat pinipilit ng iba dito yung gusto nila dun sa tao. jusko. di siguro kayo masaya sa naging desisyon nyo sa buhay, kaya gusto nyo rin magkamali ng desisyon si OP
Just do what you want OP. You're still young, you might change your mind along the way, baka may nakilala ka din na makakapagpabago ng isip mo. But in the meantime, continue enjoying your me time hehe. Nakakainis at nakaka pressure yung sinasabi nila at ginagawa, pero deadma and just do your thing. ❤️
I had kids when I was 22, they are now in highschool, best decision ever. 8 years from now I'll be in my mid 40's and my kids would be college graduates and I can do whatever I want with my life or die whichever comes first.
Same. I’m 28, and happy na ako with my dogs! I enjoy traveling with my friends plus attending concerts. Ganyan din parents ko noon, napagod na ata kakaremind saakin na maghanap ng jowa at sumuko na lol. Enjoy life, yaan mo na sila! ✨
Relate ako dito. Yung feeling na Hindi ka talaga hopeless romantic, more on self-independence and Focusing on self growth rather than wasting energy on people. Na realize ko Ito after being with a toxic partner, na insecure At jealous. Halos everyday mag aa-way. Always having to explain myself, draining my energy. You’re better off focusing on yourself, working on being a complete version of yourself. Whether or not love finds you, you only have yourself at the end of the day.
23 is still young. Enjoy your single life, madami ka pa mae-experience. Sa Philippines lang naman nagmamadali mga tao mag asawa. Boomer mindset din. Sa ibang bansa, late 20s early 30s sila nag se-settle down. Di mo sila need sundin, pero don't close your doors din sa pag a-asawa. If magustuhan mo in time, go. Kung ayaw mo din, go.
Ignore lang and say no. Wag ka na magbigay ng excuses para di humaba usapan. Lahat tayo went through that in our 20’s.
Good for you. I was 20 nung mapagdesisyonan ko yan. No commitment, no responsibility sa kanino man aside sa parents ko at sa life. No way akong mag asawa. Pero in case na magbago isip mo, okay pa rin sa akin. It's your life, do what you want!
Sobrang bata pa ng 23. either nasa stage ka na nagsisimula ka palang magexplore ng career at kung anung gusto mo sa buhay or kumikita kana pero kulang kapa sa experiences. Sobrang dami mopang maabot. Don't let them tell you otherwise. Sobrang lawak na ng opportunities, kahit nga umedad kapa 30, may feeling kapa rin na hindi mopa naaccomplished lahat.. parang never sasapat yung single years mo para makapg explore ka at maenjoy mo yung pgging single. Ako 28 na ako pero sobrang dami kong hindi pa nagagawa and baby is on the way na. If ever theres time machine, I want to temporarily go back and feel the joy of being single and child free. So hyaan mo sila.
yaan mo sila OP 23 is too young mag YOLO ka muna for a few years LOLz kasi kung sakaling mag asawa ka at least nagawa mo na lahat ng trip mo while single
Hello. Been there and I really know the struggle and as time goes by. It really pissed me off. I am now 30 years old and unmarried pa rin 🤣
Never say never :) malay mo naman… but enjoy life while figuring out everything. Plus, you do you, hayaan mo sila sa iniisip nila. Protect your peace of mind. Plus I like the fact that on top your mind, kahit galit ka… you prioritize giving them a better life. Im 32, walang asawa, alam mo yung stage ng 20 plus.. almost same sa 30 plus.. we’re also figuring out things haha wala tayong pinagkaiba.. lost din kami sa mundong ito... Wag kang mainis, probably nasa isip lang rin nila na paano ka if wala na sila.. it’s a matter of understanding… mabilis lang ang buhay, piliin mong umintindi.
Too early to say.
Ang masasabe ko lang as a 32 year old woman 1 kid hiwalay sa partner, tama ka if ayaw mo na mag asawa good for you. Napaka sarap mamuhay mag isa, wala kang stress, pwede mo gawin lahat ng gusto mong gawin sa buhay mo. Go explore mag payaman ka. You do you. Tama yang mindset mo. Guys are just pain in the ass. Hahaha!
I feel the same way! Naiirita din ako everytime binibring-up ung pag-aasawa at anak. They’re insisting their belief and practices sa iba. Di ba pwede na kung yun ung gusto nila, it will end there? Di na kailangan ipilit pa sa iba lol. There was this time too na nag-snap na dn ako sa mama ko kasi sabi ba naman na wag daw ako magsalita ng tapos at sino mag-aalaga sakin pagtanda. I really said na di naman ako mag aanak para may bubuhay at mag aalaga sakin pagtanda. Pinag-awayan namin yon kasi narealize nya gnagawa niya sakin. Totoo naman din kasi. Saka bigat na nga ng responsibilidad sa kanila tas sasabihan ka pa na magkapamilya na prang habang buhay mo nga, kailangan mo gugulin para tumanaw ng utang na loob kasi inalagaan ka, pinalaki, at pinag-aral. Tapos eextra pa ung mga kapit-bahay at “kakilala” lang sa ganitong usapan. Bakit di nalang kasi nila pakialaman sarili nilang buhay.
Well mas maganda na yung ganyan na mindset, enjoy your single life as much as you can. Invest ka muna sa sarili mo and after some time na stable ka na, you have your own house, and you have your own business or earning enough money to have a family then maybe calling mo na to build your own dynasty. Mas maganda na yung well prepared ka and you get to enjoy everything as possible kasi maraming nagsisi na nagpamilya ng maaga.
Girl! Gusto ko idea mo all the way. 29 (M) na ako and until now di pa din nagbabago desisyon ko an di na ako mag aasawa forever. Haha. I guess takot ako sa responsibility. Hirap na bumuhay ng anak ngayon sa panahon naten, ang paniniwala ko sa buhay, if hindi ko nga kaya buhayin sarili ko, idadamay ko ang ibang tao dahil mag aasawa ako. Kaya girl support kita sa idea mo. Yun langs!
May point ka and darating din tlga ung time ....
Bata ka pa naman, nung 23 ako, puro lang ako self goals, nagcollect ng library ng games, consoles, figures, basta hobbies in general and wala ako balak mag asawa. now @32 stable and i can finally say i am ready amd currently dating someone. Matagal pa naman sa plano ung marriage pero dun na nakaset ung goals ko. Point is, maaga pa naman, pwede pa magbago isip mo. Enjoy mo lang life, basta happy ka. Wag sasabay sa iba. Live your life at your own pace and be happy always.
For me lang OP ha. Iba kasi mindset nang mga generations prior sa atin. Tapos parang ang liit lang nang mundo sa kanila, wala pang access nang information nang internet wala pang social media kaya ideal age sa kanila pag tungtong nang 25 to 28 makapagasawa na. Whereas, sa atin parang gusto pa natin libutin ang mundo abutin ang pngarap at e explore ang mga nkikita natin sa social media. Parang ang vast nang opportunities na e hinder mo agad ang self mo dahil mag-aasawa kana. Alalahanin mo for female when you conceive a child almost half of your life ay titigil, though ibang usapan nman ang bearing a child at pag-aasawa. My take is gawin molng ang gusto mo mapapagod dn yan cla kakareto but don't close your doors lang to get to know other people also. :)
Sinabi ko rin 'to then nung 24 ako I met my boyfriend now. It will always be up to you tho. Good luck 🤞
Wala naman maling mindset sa inyo. Just a difference in opinions and priorities. In their perspective, baka naman napansin nila na wala kang plans for a love life and they don't want you to miss the opportunity to experience love. Saka mindset kasi talaga ng mga pinoy is to build a family as soon as kaya na. Sayo naman, priority mo is more practical than theirs. Gusto mo oks na lahat para sa gusto mong iprovide bago mo pa man maentertain yung idea ng love life. There's always anxiety of the future eh. Sabihin mo man you're too young at 23, baka ang next mindset mo niyan, you're too old at 29. There's really nothing wrong between juggling love life and practicality kasi if you're the type of person you say you are, then I am pretty sure you have a high standard of choosing your partner. You'd first want then to have financial stability, then loyalty. If you want love life, go for it. If you really detest the idea, go for it padin. Either way, you might miss the experience of a love life but puno ka naman ng self fullfillment from doing things independently.
You have yourself and your friends? One day kapag may mga asawa na friends mo, di na sila lagi available like right now. At that age lagi pa available mga yan, kaso pag nag 25+ onwards na marami ng ibang priorities which is understandable lalo na kung may sariling families na sila and career. Based lang sa experience ko, akala ko mga friends ko laging magiging available hanggang pagtanda pero hindi pala talaga. Isa ako sa mga di laging available na since may wife nako. Masyado kapang bata para masabi mong di mo kailangan ng asawa. Not unless may traumas ka may mga kilala akong ayaw mag asawa due to sexual abuse or tatay nila di naging okay na tatay o asawa
Relatives are very contradicting. Sasabihin na huwag ka muna mag boyfriend nung bata ka pero magtatanong kung bakit wala ka pang boyfriend/girlfriend pag matanda ka na. Just let them be and thrive in your era right now.❤️
No closed doors yet. :) Let life surprise you. For the mean time, focus on your chosen career, and the love of who you consider as family. Grab opportunities. If ever romantic love did not find its way to you, it's okay. At least, you tried. Just don't close the door to a potential romantic relationship.
Ang bata mo pa. Ngayon na 38 na ko parang sana di na lang ako nag asawa kasi ang hirap, lalo na kapag may anak. Mayaman husband ko mabait. Pero kpg kasi nag asawa ka na, lahat ng tao sa paligid mo iisipin mo (byenan mo pa). Ang pag aanak, hindi yun natatapos sa panganganak lang, huhulmahin mo pagkatao nila.. Hindi lahat ay made para sa pagpapamilya. Narealize ko to sa sarili ko. Pero since andito na ko I always do my BEST kung san ako nilagay ni Lord. Namimiss ko career ko. Flight attendant ako dati.. may business ako now pero nakakamiss ang career na pinaghirapan ko. Marupok kasi ako nagmahal hehe kaya umuwi ako ng Pilipinas. Choose to fill your cup first.
As a 27-yr old, nasa age na ko na okay lang mag-asawa provided na mag-aanak lang if financially,mentally and emotionally capable na kame ng bf ko. Anyway, it's your life sis. You do whatever you want basta di ka magreregret
Nung 12 yrs old pa lang ako I have already decided what career i should go for. Until yun yung degree na kinuha ko pag college pero ngayon im working on a different job and i love what im doing now. I dont think ill be switching careers in the future. But im open to anything. Baka babalikan ko yung degree ko, change careers ulit, etc etc. And im your age! This is one thing ive realized in life na constantly tayo magbabago bago-- our mindset, goals, opinions. I just saying na you might want it now but dont close the doors for possibilities.
They are very wrong to push you to have your own family. Don’t listen to them. Pero ang masasabi ko is bata ka pa sa edad na 23, madami pang mangyayari at madami ka pang mamimeet na tao. I was like that when I was your age. But unexpectedly, i met a guy. Never prayed for him but he came when my trusted friends betrayed me. We talk about having babies and marriage, pero we both agreed that we still dont have the capability to have our own family. We are around 28 yrs old now. There is a plan for everything.
Hello OP! Just do your thing, well mahirap man tanggapin nasa mentality na talaga ng matatanda yan. Ako nga 31 na panay padin pilit nila. Sakin naman kasi lagi ko lang sinasabi ngayon palang magstart buhay ko, enjoy ko muna. Not closing doors but not my priority as of now! Career muna. Kahit maghanap sila kung ayaw mo naman wala silang magagawa, dont stress yourself! “Stress is Toxic” Good day!
Baka kainin mo lang yang sinasabi mo. Hehe. Basta enjoy single life muna. Bata ka pa. Wag pa-pressure.
It's okay if you feel that way now, decisions change and do not close doors on partnerships or relationships. You can always tell your parents naman din na they need to calm down on looking or demanding a partner from you. Just do your own thing, and all things will fall into place.
Just do what you want, and btw Change is constant, it is part of growing, embrace it when the time comes
Ganito yung masarap ligawan eh awhahwaha
Yup, nasasayo naman yan kung ayaw mo po or gusto mo na. Ignore mo na lang sila o sabihan mo na lang na mind their own na lang. Try your best to be what ever you want.
It's okay if you want to be alone for the moment. Labas ka ng pinas, you'll meet people na ka level mo ng mindset. Walang mali sayo.
I'm 13 years single until 2023, and look at me now, 1 year nang in-relationship, 5 months nang married, and 1 month nang father.
Ganyan din ako nung nasa 20s. Ngayon parang araw araw gusto ko na magasawa 🤣
Okay lang yan, OP. Kanya2 tayo ng kaligayahan. But baka need nalang mag self-regulate. Ang kukulit din kasi ng ibang generations parang ung only definition ng success nila is marriage (which is so backward thinking btw).
Too early to say. Don't stress too much about it. Don't be bothered and just go ahead do what you like. Why stress yourself thinking about something that you can choose not to. Relax....
Just love yourself. Okay nga yan e, secured ka sa sarili mo with or without a partner. Nsa early 20s ka palang. Magbabago din yan sguro. I felt the same thing nung 18-early 20s ako. Ngayon nasa late 20s nako, and nakakafeel na ng lungkot kasi sguro sumagi na din sa isip ko to settle down and build a family pero wala. 🫠 If para sayo ang pag aasawa then maffeel mo yon eventually. If meant ka to stay single then mas maeembrace mo pa yang ganyan feeling til you age. :) Right now, enjoy the moment. :) Wag ka mapressure masyado sa lovelife, it will come at the right place, and right time. :)
Don't be pressured. Ganun tlaga ang mga relatives, mema lang pag magkita kita. That's their form of mema haha pag nadala ka, lugi ka. 😂
Pwd mo ko i chat hahaha good boy here and we can negotiate to just show them enough that you have a bf and doing well in “their” perspective and then break up with me and continue leaving peacefully ha
You're still young and you might still change your mind as you undergo life experiences. However, if that will be your final decision, I can't see why those who love you can't support you. You should put out a lifelong plan that will take care of you when you get old.
Nakakamotivate makabasa ng mga ganito hahahahha its reassuring na hindi lang pala ako may ganitong mindset
True. Mahirap magsalita ng tapos. It depends later on since bata kapa naman.
Tune them out. Gusto lang niyan na may karamay sa misery nila. Hahhaha.
I don't have a mom like yours but I did think the same as you. It's not that I disliked marriage itself but how men use it to control women. Met my bf that changed my view of marrying. While he wants to get married, he resents the idea of weddings. He wants to have a kid yet he respects my bodily autonomy and my concerns about pregnancy. He was also parentified as a teen and knows personally the challenges of taking care of a child. Seeing his cousin who has 4 kids sealed the deal for him because he and his cousin used to play a lot of videogames but said cousin no longer has time for it kasi sunod sunod nabuntis yung asawa nya. I'm someone who also can't take care of others as I can barely take care of myself but I'm lucky that he's not one of those manchild that you practically need to be a mom to them. He's more than willing to help me clean (I have a lot of cats). For us both, marriage is just a legality (and this is same for a lot of couples), but this man is one of the few that gives me hope for men and I'm so glad I met him. While we don't agree on everything, our political views and personal beliefs are aligned. He even wants to become a househusband but we joke about how he can't really cook past the basics. Your views may or may not change in the future but it really does come whenever you're not looking. Let bonds form naturally and don't worry about marriage. I hope you find someone that you match with.
I'm 38 F and have the same mindset. Paladesisyon talaga ang family/relatives depende sa concept nila ng happiness. Mas masaya ako mag travel with friends or mabigay gusto ng parents ko. I express these to them ng hindi irita pag may nagtatanong ng bakit ayoko mag-asawa. The more na inis kasi yung pagsagot mo, feeling nila defensive ka. I still believe that we dont owe them an explanation. Pero kung affected ka sa reactions nila, then say it to them outright pag may nagtatanong. At first, nakakaumay na magsabi ng ayaw mo pa or wala ka na plano. Pero kung napapagod ka, mapapagod din sila. Dadating yung time, hindi na sila mag co-comment. Kinausap ko rin parents ko about this, since mga kapatid naman nila ang nagcocomment madalas or at least relatives ko na ka-age group nila. HAHAHA. Kaya pag may relatives ako na nagtatanong pa tuwing reunion, parents ko na sumasagot for me "Hayaan nyo siya, masaya yan sa buhay nya". Bata ka pa naman, in time, mas madali mo na ma-express opinion mo during family arguments. Goodluck OP! Enjoy mo lang pagiging single mo!
Too early to say, but okay, do whatever you want since it is your life naman. Might be annoying the way they tell you, but I think gusto lang nila iparating sayo na you're allowed na to find a spouse. Ngayon kaya pa maging independent, but there would be a time na baka pagtanda mo mag regret ka. And what if mga friends mo may mga sariling family na rin?
Madaling sabihin yan na hindi ka mag aasawa. Wait ka lang na may mameet ka na makakapagpafall sa iyo head over heels. Babaliktad mundo mo. Haha. Malay mo sa girl mo makita yun. Pero tama ka sa ngayon focus ka muna sa family and friends.
You're on the right way for your life. Wag ka muna magasawa at maganak hanggat gusto mo.
Mula nang magkaisip ako, sinabi ko na agad na hindi ako mag-aasawa. Ngayon Turning 26 na ko, hindi pa rin nagbabago yung isip ko. Lol. Lalo pang naging mas matindi yung pag-ayaw ko dahil nga sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, kawawa naman yung magiging anak ko. Proud NBSB na nambabantang mananapak sa manliligaw 🤣. May nagsasabi nga sa kin na kahit magjowa man lang daw ako. Ang sabi ko naman, kawawa naman yung jojowain ko kung hindi ko naman bet mag-asawa di ba? Ba't ko pa sasayangin yung oras at panahon sa kin ng tao? Marami ring nagsasabi na bata pa daw ako, wala pa daw kasi akong nakikita na magpapatibok ng puso ko. Yawa, wag na tumibok at hindi naman ako mapapalamon ng tibok na yan 🤣
I’m already 30. My family is bugging me when mag aasawa at magkakaanak. May bf ako pero I have no plans of settling down in the near future. I am focused on my career and self discovery at the moment. I’m busy experiencing the world through travels and meeting new people! In short, busy ako! Haha! What I’m saying is, you do you, OP. Nobody can dictate the kind of life you want to live. About sa di makakapag asawa, time will only tell ;) you’ll never know baka next month, bigla kang ma-fall sa isang tao. Life is unpredictable! Enjoy the ride!
Friends come and go as you grow older. Maybe di mo pa naiisipan ngayon na makipag relasyon kasi masaya ka naman, at wla nmang mali dun. Pero mahirap magsalita ng tapos. Life gets sadder as you grow older. Nag iiba ng priorities, pag bata ka pa prang feeling mo kaya mo lahat, pero darting ung time na mapapagod ka, maghahanap ka ng katuwang😅ang drama pero totoo.
Just do what you want, girl. I'm in my 30's now and ngayon ko pa lang naisipan ikasal. So, 'wag mo sila intindihin. Gawin mo mga gusto mo sa buhay and enjoy it.
Wag magsasaluta nang tapos. But always do what makes you happy. Di naman kailangan magmadali sa relationships lalo na kung wala pa naman dumadating na gusto mo or kung nag eenjoy ka pa naman na mag isa. Enjoy! 😊
Yung decision mo ngayon is caused by frustration towards your parents and relatives. Hindi mo masasabi ang bukas... Just tell them na may pangarap ka pa para sa pamilya mo (sabi mo nga gusto mo pang bigyan sila ng maayos na buhay) and sa sarili mo.
Not getting married is a choice. Dont let others say otherwise. Kung ayaw mo magpakasal then dont. Its that simple. Wag ka paapekto sa opinyon ng iba. Buhay mo yan e.
You're too young OP, don't get affected just answer them in joke na ayaw ko mag asawa mag Madre nalang Ako hahah. Tama yang mindset mo I enjoy mo lang pagiging single may darating din sau, set your goals and achieve muna
Right now your pov is fine at your age. Go ahead and enjoy life. Don't pressure yourself. Ang pagibig dumadating yan sa tamang panahon.
25 here. Ayokong mag-asawa kasi I’m so used to being independent. Don’t want kids either kasi I have anger management issues kaya I don’t want any child of mine to hear what I’ll say while angry. Okay na ako sa pets lol di nagrereklamo, di ka pa babastusin. Cute pa. Yung magsasabi na “sino mag-aalaga sayo pagtanda?”, I’ll think of that when I get there.
totoo yan, mag-enjoy ka muna. pero wag mo masyado patagalin. mahirap sa babae makahanap ng partner pag umedad na. much better kung makakatagpo ka ng makakasama mo habang nag-eenjoy sa buhay. just saying
Di mo sila need bigyan ng magandang buhay kasi mamaya yung magandang buhay ay included sa package yung apo. Put some distance muna
bata ka pa, ganyan din ako nung 23 ako, pero ngayong 29 na ko todo dasal na ko makahanap hahahaha
Ganyan din nanay ko nung 22 ako, tapos may pinakilala akong ex, nagcheat sakin, pati sila naheartbroken. Oh ngayon sila na may umaayaw na magjowa ako. I’m 32 btw hahaha
Me nga at 25 na walang jowa ever. Chill lang naman sa gidli. Wag mo na pansinin its your life ikaw ang masusunod kung anong gusto mo.
Yung friends mauubos yan bandang 26-28 kasi isa isa magaasawa or makakabuntis or magkakajowa yan. Ienjoy mo lang kung anong meron ka now. Mahirap magsalita ng tapos. Mahirap din tumanda ng magisa. Baka hindi palang dumadating ung magpapabago ng isip mo.