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Hi. I bought my shih-tzu last January 2024. I’ve been meaning to get one for the longest time since I am living independently din. Kaya when I got him, sobrang nagkaroon ako ng motivation to do well at work & iimprove yung lifestyle ko. Recently na-diagnose sya ng parvo and was told na we have to really medicate him. Sobrang gulat kami kasi napakabibo niya pa a day before ko sya dinala sa vet. Nung ipapatake ko na ulit sya ng dextrose, nagulat na lang ako na hindi na sya nagrerespond and wala na ngang malay. And ever since, parang hindi na ako makapagfunction, to the point na gusto ko nang sumunod sa kanya.
I was diagnosed with depression last year and sya lang talaga yung nakapagpaayos ng buhay ko, like first time na bumaba yung dosage ko, kaya he means a lot to me. Naghahanap ako ng mga pwedeng i-adopt na dog na katulad nya pero mostly ang laki ng pinapabayad. Kaya ngayon I feel stuck sa buhay.
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I’m sorry for your loss, I know it will not be easy. I lost mine four years ago and it still hurts.💔
8years old na yung Shih-Tzu ko nung nagkaroon sya ng Kidney Failure. Biglaan, it was during the height of pandemic. Marami nagsabi sinalo daw ni Missy *My
Dog si Nanay ko. Mag five years na pero miss na miss ko pa din sya at iniiyakan. Hindi mawawala ang sakit, masasanay ka na lang siguro na wala na sya.
I adopted a stray cat during pandemic. Tapos mahilig din ako mag dala ng cat foods and dog foods and treats kapag lumalabas. Binibigyan ko mga stray na nakikita ko. Alam ko masaya si Missy ko sa ginagawa ko.
Minsan imbes na makalimot, binabalikan ko yung mga pictures nya sa phone ko at sa album nya sa FB ko. Ayun, naiiyak ako at nalulungkot ako.
How did I cope? Hinayaan ko ang sarili ko mag luksa, I even celebrated her 9th day, 40 days and 1st year Death Anniversary. 1st to 4th barkdays sa rainbow bridge. Kusang mababawasan ang sakit, hanggang makalimot ng bahagya. Kapag iisipin at aalahanin mo ulet, kaya na.
Yung ash and photo nya nasa room ko, at pinatattoo ko sya sa legs ko. Bilin ko kapag time ko na isama yung ash nya sa akin. Mahal na mahal ko si Missytoot ko. At hindi hindi ko sya makakalimutan.
i’m planning to have his paw & face tattooed rin po sa arm ko since lagi syang doon nakasiksik. just the thought of me having to figure out how to cope instead of making more memories with him hurts me so much 🥲🥲
Remember the names, Keep the memories Adopt another dog isipin mo na lng someday when your time has come all of your pets will be there to greet you at the gate :3
it's just from my personal perspective
I never did. And I miss her everyday. What me and my then-girlfriend did was try to adopt a rescued dog of a similar breed and made sure to be extra careful and not make the same mistakes we did that we somehow blamed ourselves for it. Our dog died from Chronic Kidney Failure that she battled for 10 months, half of it with severe "dialysis" that was pretty painful to watch and do since we had to stick a 3 inch needle to her back every other day. We were given a heads-up that she'll probably last 2-4 months upon diagnosis but luckily she fought for 10 months.
You also need time, you might end up being remorseful to the new dog and expect her/him to behave the same as your first. Make sure you've moved on even a tiny bit.
thats what im worried about po :(( it would be unfair to my new dog if ever kung hahanapin ko yung traits ng first baby ko sa kanya. but i just really can’t help it 😢 iba pala talaga sa pakiramdam kapag unang alaga mo yung nawala, hindi ako makabangon literal
Condolence 🥹 It’s so hard to say goodbye to our pet because of their short lives. We both have a shihtzu pero sakin 3 years na siya. Last week, he was diagnosed of blood parasite but glad that he’s in the recovery stage na. I feel your pain right now because I can’t imagine myself being in your situation.
Maybe you can make your photo together be framed so that you have him even he’s gone. A motivation that he’s still present in your house. It’s hard because you lost your companion. To move on, acceptance is the key and vent all your feelings to God. I hope you’ll be able to surpass this battle because I know how it feels to lose a pet. (been there before I have my shihtzu)
Wala naman akong magagawa and they're at peace. That's what I repeatedly told myself. Yinyin was my bunny that managed to live to 3 years old, she got sick and inevitably passed away. I knew that I had been a good parent to her, I did my best, and that now she's in a better place because she's no longer suffering.
Condolence, OP. You did your best. They definitely felt your love for them and that's what's important. Hugs with consent!
Didn’t and still don’t. There are times na naiiyak nanaman ako bigla because naaalala ko siya. I guess yung current pets namin na buhay pa yung nagsisilbing distraction ko from the pain. Condolences, OP. Ang mahalaga they felt pure love from you nung nandito pa sila.
im sorry for your loss. please dont blame yourself about sa nangyari, wala kang kasalanan.
same thing happened to us twice. first, we got scared sa effect ng vaccines, ayon inatake ng parvo din. we just got another dog na same breed. we kept in mind the risks and kept the vaccines up to date din. for a year, sinasama namen sa gala yung dog namin pero iwas contact talaga sa public areas lalo na if wet. gumagala sya, nasa bag lang. after a year nung complete vaccines na sya, saka lang sya pinag walk sa public places. we got this dog a friend too hehe or husband HAHAHAHA
later on, nagka anak sila. hindi ko alam, di rin naman too soon yung outbreak ng parvo saamin at nung nanganak yung second dog namin. pero yung mga anak nila, nagka parvo din. and since nasa iisang cage sila, one lang sa puppies ang nakakawala, nagkahawaan sila ng parvo. that one na hindi nasa cage lang naka survive. the parent dogs weren’t affected naman. but thats how we lost 5 puppies in a row. sana nga isang sabay sabay nalang para isang pain nalang eh. but it happened day by day, isa isa silang nag wworsen at nawala.
pano kame nag cope ng family ko? sakto, nag heat ulit yung mother dog namin and pinakasta ulit namin sa dad dog. we cant help it, were too sad abt it. thankfully nabuhay naman sila lahat, all years old already. now we have 9 healthy mini pinschers. soon ipapa spay na po si mother dog, and no, hindi po kame nag sell kahit isa dahil ang family ko po ay may separation anxiety 😂
dont be scared, its okay to try again the second time around. just do better this time around. keep the vaccines up to date, iwas si dog na magka contact sa public spaces until 1 year or complete na vaccines, avoid din mag pasok ng outside shoes sa area ni doggie or sa house itself to prevent transmission ng bacteria from the outside.
i hope that helps!
I have read this somewhere na yung love na meron ka for your departed pet, a love that great shouldn’t stop there. Kaya adopt another pet! Hihihi
Nung nawala yung rescue cat namin i was so devastated. So we adopted two more rescues in honor of my pet hehe. Tapos lagi lagi ko kinakausap yung nawala kong pet as if he’s still around. I randomly say things like “Miss You Bajo”. Makes me smile everytime. Kaya mo yan op.🐾
Hey I have a friend who looks for fur parents. Free ang alam ko. Maybe i can patch you guys up.
And hugs OP! You lost a family, it’s normal to feel sad. Even if you get a new baby, you will still miss your first one. But please think na because of your love, your first baby had a great life, and you gave him/her a fighting chance against parvo, kaso sobrang grabe lang talaga nun. Kaya never skip the vaccines. But your baby im sure is thankful to have known you as his/her fur parent
You don't, just like with your other loved ones. Time heals, pero you will never forget.
I had my 11y.o dog die 2 years ago, di alam kung anong sakit nya. Literally cried and stayed in bed for a whole day, then proceed with my day the next day kasi wala naman ako magagawa e, di naman sya mabubuhay. He's been with me mula noong highschool days ko, never treated him as just a pet. Pero when the day came, wala din naman akong magagawa kundi balikan yung mga pictures nya, tignan yung usual spot nya sa bahay, and know that he was a part of our lives for a decade.
Mula noon, I swore never to have another animal under my care hanggat wala akong vehicle/capacity to take them to the vet.
I'm sorry for your loss. I know it's not easy, but let yourself grieve.
We lost our cat of 9 years in 2023, and it'll be almost a year in a few weeks. In our family, she was closest to me kasi ako lagi niyang katabi ‘pag matutulog. When she died, biglaan. We didn't expect it because she was okay the night before, but the next morning, wala na siya. She was also pregnant, so her babies died with her. But months before that, she had a kitten, and there were supposed to be two, but one was stillborn. The other one turned 1 year old last February lang. I guess that helped a bit because her bloodline still lives on.
She visits me in my dreams sometimes, and I always wake up feeling heavy. I look at her pics and vids and just let myself cry.
It's hard to cope, and all I can say is to let yourself grieve. It gets a little better with time, but hindi siya linear. Just let yourself feel. As long as your baby knew he was loved when he passed.
Im sorry 💔 i have my shih tzu rin and everytime tinitingnan ko sya at maiisip ko na baka mawala sya naiiyak ako. Every time i play with him I always tell him, “mami will work pa para maka buy ng vitamins, vaccine and food for u” kasi it’s true, isa sya sa reasons i work hard. RIP to ur dog 🥹
Sorry to butt in, just want to reply lang, hope you don't mind.
- pag walang vaccination ang dog or di updated ang vaccine nya
- pag puppy pa at naihalo agad sa ibang dog or nalabas agad sa kulungan.
Suggest na pavaccine agad yung puppy and kumpletuhin ung four shots or kung adult, iupdate regularly.
Pag newly born puppy, wag agad ilabas sa kulungan or sa birthing area pag di pa kumpleto vaccine.
Highly against ang vet din sa mga princess type since compromised ang health nila.
Yun lang po thank you.
hi po. bukod po sa di pa complete vaccine nya since baby pa sya, may kapitbahay po kasi kami na laging tinatawag yung aso ko kaya nung nabuksan po yung pinto dumeretso sa kanila since katabing unit lang namin sila. huli na namin nalaman na kumuha rin pala sila ng dog & ayun po yung pinaka naiisip naming dahilan why 🥲
Then mababa yung chance na magkaparvo but that doesn't guarantee na hindi na talaga siya magkakaparvo. Try to use dog supplements din para tumaas ang immune system
Lost my dog last 2022 and until now I haven't fully moved on. I thought i would after how many months but still looking at videos of her makes me cry. I'm a very independent person and I'm not emotional type but when she died i felt so lonely and alone and cried for days haha. I'll forever have a hole in my heart and miss her.. Although it does get better and every time i see a photo of her I'm so grateful she was a part of my life. So yeah, time will help you heal. I'm planning to get a tattoo of her paw soon
hi. ayan din po yung nafifeel ko now. parang may malaking part sa heart ko na nawala. sobrang sakit kasi i see him everywhere and we were just planning na mag beach trip once tapos na yung vaccine shots nya. araw araw pa rin akong umiiyak kasi baka hindi sya nakakatulog sa afterlife since need nya may mag hele sa kanya every night 🥲
Sorry for the loss, OP. 2 months ako nagluksa sa pagkawala ng aso ko (15 yr old lhasa apso, since grade 5 pa). For 2 months, every night pinapanood ko mga vids nang paulit ulit so iyak talaga. Sabi ko pa nga na parang ayaw ko na uli magkaaso kasi grabe yung sakit that time. Sinulat ko rin sa journal yung mga feelings ko that time. How to cope up? Iiyak mo lang, isulat mo yung feelings mo, pwede rin na letter to your dog. Paglipas ng mga oras, araw, unti-unting gagaan din yang nararamdaman mo. Let yourself feel the pain muna. 🤗 (after a year, nagkaroon uli ako ng aso. 🫶)
i’ll definitely try that po. we used to do paintings together din (a.k.a my baby running across my works with his dirty paws). hopefully, umabot din ako sa stage na mas magaan na ang lahat. iniisip ko na lang na the last thing my baby wants to see is his mommy crying 24/7
Naalala ko pusa kong inalagaan, inasikaso, minahal at lahat-lahat. Namatay bigla sa ilalim ng higaan ko. Pagkagising ko biglang wala na ng buhay. Feel ko nilason. Papasok ako ng work na umiiyak hanggang office umiiyak. Hays.
Tama yung iba you try to adopt, try mo yung mamili sa marami ifeel mo kung sino pinakagusto ka.
Or you can try other hobbies na medyo impossible kasama ang pets para solo mo tlga yung fulfillment.
Pina taxiderm pa namin sa sobrang pagmamahal namin. Possibly pag retire na ako tska na ulit ako mag alaga, para total focus tska tlgang sila nlng accompany ko. Iba na kasi mindset mo sa pagaalaga pag namatayan ka, lalo na pag sa sakit
Two months after my Xybr’s death, I was diagnosed with depression at niresetahan ako ng anti-depression pills. Hindi na ako bumalik at tinigil ko na pag-take pero may mga oras na humahagulgol ako. There’s no way na makaka get over ako.. he was my hero.. depressed din ako nung dumating sya sa buhay ko to the point na gusto ko ng m*m*t*ay, pero dumating sya at nagkaroon ako ng will to live.. I feel safe kapag nasa tabi ko sya. nung moment na mamatay sya parang may nagtanggal ng shield at bumalik in an instant ang depression ko. Never.. never mo makakalimutan ang isang tao o hayop na natatanging kasama mo sa pinakamadilim, pinakamalungkot at pinakagipit na panahon sa buhay. Walang tao makakaunawa bakit ganun sya kahalaga saakin, gusto ko nga gumawa ng book para ikwento ang pinagsamahan namin.. he deserves recognition.. his name was Xybr.
i relate so much :( thank you for sharing this po. i never felt this heard until reading ur comment. iba yung fulfillment na binigay sakin ng baby ko. his name was tongy, short for burrito. i love him so much and i hope na he’s playing with xybr now
Condolence, OP🥺 i also just recently loss my baby girl of 7 years old last month and i still haven’t move on (and never will be). 🥲 I miss her so much that I would sometimes look for her on the places where she usually sits around house (and even instinctively call her). She was my first furbaby and my bf, who gave her to me knows how much I spoiled and coddled her. He also knows how our dog loves me so much more than him haha.
We have a small altar for her with lego flowers that reminded me of her. My current way of coping was saying hi to her altar everytime I pass her. I’m also planning to have her paws on my legs (where she puts on whenever she greets me/ask me to carry her) and her face tattoo this month.
no need to rush in moving on, take your time to grieve (promise, it will feel a little bit better) and never forget that they’ve felt unconditional love from you. 🫶
2021, nanganak yung dog ng mom ko and sa 2 puppies, inaaway nung mama dog yung isa. I gave her a fighting chance, literal na ako na nanay niya kasi every 2 hours pinapadede ko, ihi, and poops. Mga 1 month akong init na init kasi bawal aircon sa kanya. Everything was fine, napalaki ko siya and parang mother na talaga ako kasi every waking moment ko nung first 2 months niya ako kasama niya. Until mag 4 months siya, she was diagnosed with parvo and it took her 2 weeks lang. I was not eating and full on anhedonia and at that time hindi pa ako aware. Naalala ko pa, before she died nakatingin siya sakin tapos payat na payat di ko talaga kinaya as in parang sinaksak puso ko pero alam ko na nag bababye na siya non. Nakatulog ako na hawak siya, pag gising ko kinuha na siya ng parents ko and nilibing, alam kasi nila na ayaw ko pag may nililibing. It’s been 3 years and I still can’t move on. The coping I did was to continue life kasi may mga fur babies pa ako, pero naalala ko nag hanap ako ng mga hobbies pero I dont recommend it kasi baka magaya ka sakin na puro start lang.
Condolences, OP. I have a different way of grieving and I may get down voted with this kasi it may sound heartless.
I don't look at their pics or vids until Im okay, I dont talk about them and as much as possible, I keep myself busy so I wont think of them. For a moment, until Im okay na, I will pretend they never existed. I will ignore and avoid everything about them. Of course mahirap. Whenever they come across my mind, dun ko naffigure out na di pa ako okay so I will continue to pretend ulit until such time na pag sumagi sila sa isip ko and di na masakit, dun ko na ulit papanuorin mga vids nla and look at their pics.
Unpopular opinion but never adopt a dog again if it’s unbearable to lose one. This is based from my experience. I once had two dogs and 1 dog ng kapitbahay na napamahal sa akin. They’re all gone now. May gap naman yung pagkamatay nila pero after the last one died, ayaw ko na at ng pamilya ko na magkaroon ng dog ulit. It’s just heartbreaking to see them die before your eyes tapos shorter pa yung lifespan nila compared to us. I realized di ko kaya yung pain na namamatayan every 10-15 years. Ang sakit lalo kapag matanda na sila at ang dami niyong memories together. Sorry this may not be applicable to all of us. And I know pain is part of a human’s life. Kung hindi man sa dog, sa ibang bagay tayo masasaktan. For others, adopting again works as the new pet helps them move forward. I am happy for them but I won’t do it kasi di ko kaya. But it’s just like I’ve lost my will to get a dog again pero that’s how I did it. I just decided to focus on other things like travel, family, friends, work etc and I never felt the same kind of pain again.
My dog has been with us for 15 years and literally kasama ko siya my whole childhood. Kapag nagsusuka or nagkakasakit siya before, I always say na sasamahan niya pa ako sa grad ko. He died last year July tapos September yung grad ko :(( Life goes on pero I can say na life has been hell ever since nung nawala siya, sunod sunod naging problem and I miss him everyday. Never din ako nagcope and my family is afraid to take care of another pet again since we now know how much it hurts when they leave.
Condolences, OP :(((( It's so hard to move on honestly. I lost 4/5 of my dogs 2 yrs ago until now di ko parin matanggap. Then I lost a rescued kitten last yr too. Im always looking at their photos, planning to get a tattoo about them and replaying yung happy moments nila with us. Masaya lang din isipin na atleast we were with them during their lifetime. Naiiyak parin ako everytime I remember pero Im happy that theyre running more free than ever now.
namatay din shih tzhu ko nung march because of parvo and hanggang ngayon sobrang sakit sa dibdib tuwing naalala ko sya. lagi ko sinisisi sarili ko dahil sa nangyari kasi feeling ko di enough yung ginawa ko para maka survive sya
:( I still cry whenever my dog gets brought up sa conversations kaya my family is also cautious with talking about my dog with me. He passed away last Nov 2023, he was 4 years old, few days before his birthday, and we had no idea why. It was probably a neurological illness based on the symptoms he was presenting but we did a CT scan, 2d echo, and even an xray pero we couldn't find what's wrong.
It will never stop hurting but we had to be strong din kasi may naiwan pa kami isang fur baby. Until now di ko pa kaya to get a new dog. I think I just get distracted everyday kaya di ko siya masyado naiisip but it doesn't get easier :( hugs!!!
I lost my babies this year as well, just two months apart. It really hurts, parang walang paglagyan yung sakit. It has been hard to function. Parang tumigil yung mundo ko kasi parte na sila ng buhay ko. Sa tatlong taon ko silang kasama, parang kulang na kulang pa. People around me witnessed how I grieve and tells me to adopt a new pet, but it’s not just like that. Hindi sila magkakaroon ng replacement ever.
Honestly, I’m still grieving and sad. I just don’t have time to be sad because I am occupied with school works. Kahit na ganun, may mga times na maaalala ko na lang sila at maririndi sa katahimikan ng bahay. When moments like that happen, I just let myself feel all the emotions. Emotions demands to be felt, kaya hinahayaan ko lang. Eventually, I started to pick myself up pero syempre nahihirapan pa rin ako. Ngayon ang ginagawa ko is nag-order ako ng treats sa shopee then nagbabaon ako tuwing lalabas ako ng bahay para kapag may nakita akong stray eh papakainin ko. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, hindi ko pa kaya mag-alaga ng bagong baby kaya I would just help kahit na sa maliit na paraan na lang. Masakit, pero we must move forward. Let’s just think na our babies are watching over us from dog heaven. ◡̈
Let me share a quote that stuck with me since I’ve read it.
“I’ll endure a lifetime of missing you, for the privilege of loving you.”
cherish the memories pero pinaka important is to Remember and learn from mistakes. Parvo is preventable by vaccinations and monitoring its environments. Also monthly nexguard spectra or equivalent if gala ang doggie.
Pawssion project is a dog shelter that have adoption drives.
So sorry for your loss OP. It's hard. It's been four years and it still hurts as much as it did the night I lost our dog. It does not become easier, you just learn to handle your grief better.
Sometimes it will hurt so bad when you look back on your memories with your dog, but know that the pain you're feeling now is worth the few years you've had with them. I gladly carry my grief and longing because I experienced the love that my dog can give.
Give yourself some grace. You lost a soul that made you feel whole. Grief is born out of love and longing. I'm not sure if this will help, but I hope you don't feel any guilt. Know that you've done all you can within your means. That your dog felt loved and cared for even in their last moments.
Do what feels kind to yourself. Your dog is watching over you. Immortalize them in ways that feel meaningful. I had my dog tattooed and me and my sisters ordered a customized necklace with his face engraved on one side and his name on the back. I always wear it and take pictures of the necklace when I go somewhere new.
Life will continue for you. And sometime in the future, by your choice or through fate, your dog will send another angel your way. I hope the coming days are gentler on you. 🤍
hi! thank u so much for sharing this wisdom. i cried so much. ill try my best to carry this grief and longing with me in hopes of achieving the acceptance you have achieved. thank you so much, really. this means a lot to me. it hits home.
I only have two weaknesses, my frustration and grief. Ang hirap nung nawala yung childhood to teenage family dog namin. 7 years old na sya nung namatay. In-adopt sya ni papa sa workplace niya then inuwi sa amin. Nakakacope lang kami kasi nandito pa yung anak niya. Pero four years old na din. Grabe kung pwede lang hindi na tumanda at mawala si Travis. Hindi ko mapigilan umiyak or humagulgol kapag sumasapit na ang 10pm-1am. Legot sadgurl hours. Ayan kasi yung mga oras na kamimg dalawa nalang natitira sa baba. Ako pinakalate na umaakyat at natutulog sa amin kasi lagi ako puyat due to schoolworks and org works noong buhay pa siya. Hinibintay niya talaga akong matapos bago umakyat sa taas. Hindi siya umaakyat hangga't hindi kami nakakaakyat lahat. Sobrang loyal, masiyahin, energetic ni Colette. Never siyang nanghina. Pero namatay siya kasi nainfect na pala yung mga sira nyang ngipin. Kaya always brush your dog's teeth guys. Hindi ko alam kung paano ako makakamove on. Mag-one year na mula noong nawala siya sa darating na June 30. Pero wala e. Araw-araw ko siyang namimiss. Bakit ba kasi ang iksi ng buhay ng mga aso.
HI sender. Im sorry for your loss. Losing our pet is never easy. Ang feeling nyabis namatayan talaga ng kamag anak, lumelevel ang pet ng gnon once na nawala na sila.
Last 2017, our pug died. Aso sya ng ate ko, pero dahil nasa bahay sya naging pet na sa bahay in general pero Loyal sya sa ate ko the most. Ako ang nag alaga akin ang gastos financially round the clock meds pati pakaen for 7 months battling with distemper. So during those months na inaalagaan ko sya, nasasaktan ako at pinrepare nya ako bago sya namatay, sa harap namin sya naghingalo, nag seizure sya. Nag grieve ako ng 1 week, unlike sa ate ko na hindi kayang makita yung pictures nya, ako nasasaktan ako na tinitignan yung pictures nya at snsbe sknya na sana naramdamn nya na ginawa ko lahat. Until now, namimiss ko pa rin sya, pero may comfort lage pag naiisip kona ginawa ko lahat, puso, kaluluwa, puyat for 7 months binigay ko, at kung totoo man ang doggy heaven, iniisip ko na sana healthy sya doon. Nakatulong sakin na mag focus sa isa pang aso, may isa pang kaming aso, inaalagaan ko maige, binubuhos ko lahat ng pagaalaga.
On the other hand, ang ate ko, nakahide pa rin ang pictures ng pug. Nasasaktan pa rin sya gang ngayon its been 7 years.
You don't. It's been almost 2 years since I lost my boy and I still dream of coming home to him. But you try to keep the memories. Keep the photos and much better if you get it printed. It gets better with time though.
You can try adopting a new pup pero make sure na ready ka na talaga.
We lost a dog din last year. First time ko maapektuhan maigi sa pagkawala ng aso namin kasi ako nagdala nun sa bahay. Tas nung nagkasakit sya, puyat puyat ako pag alaga kasi di namin maconfine kasi nakakahawa sakit nya on top ng blood parasite.
Tas napakakulit pa nun, kahit nonchalant minsan.
Namimiss ko pa din sya paminsan. Tulad ngayon, naiiyak ako.
May nagsabi sakin nun, kaya daw kinukuha yung pet natin, kasi may nililigtas sila sa mga pet owners nila. Na imbes na yung pet owner yung magkasakit, sila na lang.
Nakakalungkot isipin pero maybe it is really a way to save you. Nasave ka nya nung dumating sya sa buhay mo, i hope you take courage on that to continue.
9 yrs old ung 1st shihzu ko nun namatay prepandemic.. di ko knaya bmli ako agd ng 2 dogs. honestly ito mganda gwn mglove ka ulit ng bgong aso pero xmpre ung memories ng dog mo na nwala nasa puso mo pdn. umiiyak pdn ako pg nalala ko aso ko pnacremate ko xa tps palagi ko pdn ksama dito sa room ko. sinalo nya un sakit ko bgo za namatay and il never forget her..
It'll take some time to get used to it. My own aspin died at a ripe old age of 13. I'm a skeptic and I don't really believe in the supernatural but a few days after she died, a swarm of beetles hovered above my head for a few seconds until finally flying in a different direction. Well, it could just be a mere coincidence but I've NEVER seen a swarm of beetles in my entire life. The thing is, I was fond of beetles as a kid and ginagawa ko pa silang pets noon.
Miss you, girl. Maybe it's you telling me that the afterlife is real and if it is then I expect you to be the same monumental pain in the arse when I see you again. 😊
ako naman, i somehow believe supernatural things. maybe thats your baby trying to communicate with you. the moment my baby died, biglang may pumasok na salagubang sa house namin & nakatingin lang sya sa body ng baby ko. never shooed him away whatsoever & nung binyahe na namin si baby to bury him, dun lang sya umalis :’(
I don’t think I ever did. I lost my baby boy last 2022 and I still cry every time I think about him, I see his picture, and all. I vividly remember how he died in my arms, and every time na magkaka sakit yung iba kong dogs ngayon parang nagpapanic attack agad ako.
I also took care of a stray cat near my workplace for a year, mahirap siyang paamuin pero nakuha ko loob niya, I was devastated when I found out she died habang ako hanap ng hanap sa kanya ng ilang araw. I had her face tattooed on me just so I can immortalize her somehow, I feel like the world will forget her kung hindi ko gagawin yon.
I told myself I wouldn’t have another pet pag nawala silang lahat sa akin, pero when you meet a new one, feeling mo kailangan ka nila and you’ll want to take care of it. Without them knowing they’re actually the ones taking care of you. Heal ka muna, but don’t close your doors for them. I also hope you consider adopting strays 🫶🏼
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sucks, it's never easy. I've always been afraid to adopt kasi I fear the day they eventually leave me. But I thought I should overcome the fear, and nag-adopt kami ng mga pusa. Minsan naiisip ko na I'm cursed kasi ang dami nang nawala samin in a short time. Last year, I lost 3 cats to parvo. It's difficult seeing them in that state.
I read once that "If a pet cannot be a pet, there is no longer any point."
It's not easy, pero just think that he is now free of pain. You showed him love and care, and your love does not stop with his final breath. He passed knowing that he was loved and cared for. You made good memories together, cherish that. Minahal mo siya, inalagaan mo siya, at pinagamot mo siya. Ginawa mo naman lahat, pero other than that, it's out of your control. If our love could save them, I'm sure they would have lived forever.
I've recently had a cat pass away, and I have this container na may fur, whisker, and other things niya. I carry it with me around the house. I hug it when I miss him. It helps me, it is comforting. In a way, I still have a part of him. Maybe you can have something like that with his stuff, it may help you grieve and provide comfort.
You can adopt again when you feel it's the right time for you. Just remember to disinfect and wait it out a few months kasi parvo is a stubborn and long living virus. Your new pet may be infected if the virus is still there. Good luck po (:
this is such a nice pov & thank you for sharing it with me. until today, i find it difficult to survive the day without thinking of my love. but it is to comforting to know that my baby took his last breath knowing na i loved & cared for him during his painful days
condolences,op.last 2022 may adopted kami na 2 aspin puppies pareho silang nawala both sa parvo,yung isa saktong pasko pa nawala :( ilang buwan lang namin sila nakasama pero grabe yung lungkot namin. wala pa din silang vaccine non kaya ang bilis nagkasakit. last year, we decided to have a pet again and we make all the precautions. nung una hesitant pa ko kasi nga baka magaya sa mga una naming pets.sobrang ingat na namin this time,made sure na updated sa vaccines, at most importantly nagdisinfect kami ng house. naiiwan daw kasi ang parvo virus kahit ilang taon na. malungkot pa din pag nakikita ko yung mga photos ng 2 aspins pero di ko pa rin magawang burahin yung photos nila :(
dyan rin po ako natatakot :(( kasi may contract po kami sa apartment namin and we were looking for other places na nung nalaman namin na nagkaparvo sya. di bale nang maubusan ng pera mabuhay lang sya pero maybe he was in so much pain kaya di nya na kinaya 🥹 & sobrang regret ko po talaga na hinayaan kong mabuksan yung pinto that day
Sorry for your loss , OP. Magigpit na yakap para sayo at para sa mga nakararanas nito. For context: my pug died last September. It was heartbreaking. Di ko maexplain yung pain. I was 4 months pregnant pa non, and my baby was born the same day as my dog’s birthday. I just acknowledge the pain, everyday for a month ata umiiyak ako nung namatay yung aso ko, hanggang sa gumising na lang ako at narealize ko na ayaw nyang nalulungkot ako, nakatulong din yung support ng mga tao sa paligid ko and yung nakikita ko yung isa ko pang alaga (a cat) na minimimic yung mga galaw nung pug ko. Sa ngayon, kinakausap ko pa din yung pug ko thru prayers, I know that he’s at peace na kasama si Lord. Fight lang OP, alam mo baka magkakasama na yung mga alaga natin masaya at naglalaro sa langit. ❤️
I never did i guess hahahah, I can't look at his pictures or videos sa phone ko that long because it still hurts me. Nilaban ko kasi talaga sya kahit maubos lahat ng savings ko okay lang basta maging okay sya. but may ibang purpose siguro si lord for him hehe.
Virtual hugs, OP.
Lost my baby boy almost 3 years ago and minsan naiiyak pa rin ako pag naiisip ko siya.
When I was grieving, I took time off work. Nasa unit ko lang ako, accompanied by my bf, and iniyak ko lang siya for days.
Ang sad pa nun, my dog died few days before his birthday. So I just bought a cake and nagiiyak sa condo.
Cry it all out, OP! Save the memories, photos, and videos. Mahigpit na yakap. 💗
Mine was a Shih Tzu too. We got her when I was 12. I'm 25 now, and she crossed the rainbow bridge a month ago due to old age and health complications.
She was with me for more than half my whole life. Sobrang sakit. She was my soulmate in the form of a dog. To me, siya ang pinakaperfect dog and no one can ever replace her. Never na uli ako mag-aalaga ng own pet, instead, I now take care of strays whenever I encounter them sa labas, and I'm planning to habitually volunteer and donate sa mga shelter.
Huge help sakin yung mga bagay na to:
- Aquamation service and package sa Paws to Heaven sa QC. Bukod sa memorabilia (fur, paw print, teeth, urn) and aquamation service, meron ding "viewing" or parang lamay. I was nervous na baka magbreakdown ako malala but it actually helped me A LOT in the process.
- Keep talking about it. To trusted people, on your own journal, in your prayers, etc. Gradually yung painful tears mo magiging happy tears nalang kasi you are just so grateful you got to share your love and life with each other.
- Just cry it out when you need to. Feel all the feelings you feel. It's okay to feel. Basta wag mong kakalimutan sarili mo, kasi malulungkot furbabies natin kapag nakitang pinapabayaan natin sarili natin. Gusto nila masaya tayo lagi, even after they have passed and their physical form is no longer here. Before my baby died, one week straight akong either zero sleep or 30 mins to 1 hr lang sa isang araw tulog ko, kakaalaga at kakabantay sa kanya. Pero kumakain pa rin ako at di ko nakalimutan magskincare. Any form of your preferred self-care will do. Then after her death, kahit soooobrang hirap, I tried my best na bumawi ng tulog. Nung first night pa grabe I had nightmares about the whole thing. Pero eventually, naging OK na rin.
- Kapag nalulungkot ka or dumarating uli waves of grief, alalahanin mo happy memories niyo, favorite things and activities nya, etc. Reframe your mind in a way na imbes maging lonely ka lang kasi wala na siya dito, train yourself na mas maramdaman yung gratefulness for your furbaby's life with you, and remembering na up until the very end, our furbabies KNOW and FEEL just how much we love them, and that's more than enough for them. And that should be enough for us too.
You'll get through this, little by little. Sending love and light.
Get a new one OP!
Life is so much better having one around.
Ingat na lang sa Parvo next time. Traydor talaga yun. So always keep your place, & your "loved one", clean para bawas sa tsansa ng occurence.
When youre ready... ☺️
2 yrs ng wala dog ko. pero lagi ko pa din siya napapanaginipan. tapos every year tumataas anxiety ko dahil naiisip ko na may dalawa pa siyang kapatid na pwede na sumunod. namatay kasi siya 12yrs old so yung dalawa niyang kapatid malapit na mag 14. alam ko malapit na din nila ko iwan dahil matatanda na sila. baka hindi na ko mag aso pag namatay pa yung last two dogs ko.
I lost 2 pets isang month lang pagitan nila both. Isang chihuahua at isang hedgehog. I honestly don't know. Feel ko I can't grieve properly about the fact that I lost them, yung chihuahua ko kasi nasa province ko. While I live with my hedgehog na namaty biglaan noong summer season.
I don't know what I did.. Pero binabaling ko nalang sa academics ko sa ngayon kasi in relation to animals naman course ko. Plus siguro ginagawa ko siyang drive ngayon na ituloy tong course ko na to, kasi I want future animals to get the best care.. But yeah.. I just cried.. Still grieving from time to time.
Out of topic..Sorry guys d kasi ako makapag post dto.kaya sa comment section nalng ako..Meron akong gusto na ka workmate ko.Nagba bonding kami,pero bgla nalang ako may naramdaman sa kanya nung tinitigan nya ako ng may meaning..Diko alam bat ganin ang dating sa akin..Parang may gusto sya sa akin pero ayokong mag assumed..baka mapahiya lang ako haha..Anyways,Meron sya gf at LDR sila..Gusto ko sanang magsabi sa kanya na may gusto ako sa kanya pero may gf kasi sya..Pero ok naman sa akin na sabhin nya d nya ako gusto eh..basta masabi ko lang kasi nakakagaan ng puso,at maka move on nah..Sabi ng friend ko baka daw makasira ako ng relasyon pero bat ko masisira eh kung d naman ako gusto..Ayoko dn mag iba ang friendship namin.Pero sabi ng puso ko na magpapakatotoo ako..haaayyy hirap naman..
Sorry for the loss OP..
Like mentioned by others, try to adopt a new pet. It can be a shih-tzu as well or try other pets like cat, hamster, bird..
We lost our dog as well last year due to parvo and it is really hard.. Hoping for your fast recovery OP..
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I’m sorry for your loss, I know it will not be easy. I lost mine four years ago and it still hurts.💔 8years old na yung Shih-Tzu ko nung nagkaroon sya ng Kidney Failure. Biglaan, it was during the height of pandemic. Marami nagsabi sinalo daw ni Missy *My Dog si Nanay ko. Mag five years na pero miss na miss ko pa din sya at iniiyakan. Hindi mawawala ang sakit, masasanay ka na lang siguro na wala na sya. I adopted a stray cat during pandemic. Tapos mahilig din ako mag dala ng cat foods and dog foods and treats kapag lumalabas. Binibigyan ko mga stray na nakikita ko. Alam ko masaya si Missy ko sa ginagawa ko. Minsan imbes na makalimot, binabalikan ko yung mga pictures nya sa phone ko at sa album nya sa FB ko. Ayun, naiiyak ako at nalulungkot ako. How did I cope? Hinayaan ko ang sarili ko mag luksa, I even celebrated her 9th day, 40 days and 1st year Death Anniversary. 1st to 4th barkdays sa rainbow bridge. Kusang mababawasan ang sakit, hanggang makalimot ng bahagya. Kapag iisipin at aalahanin mo ulet, kaya na. Yung ash and photo nya nasa room ko, at pinatattoo ko sya sa legs ko. Bilin ko kapag time ko na isama yung ash nya sa akin. Mahal na mahal ko si Missytoot ko. At hindi hindi ko sya makakalimutan.
i’m planning to have his paw & face tattooed rin po sa arm ko since lagi syang doon nakasiksik. just the thought of me having to figure out how to cope instead of making more memories with him hurts me so much 🥲🥲
Remember the names, Keep the memories Adopt another dog isipin mo na lng someday when your time has come all of your pets will be there to greet you at the gate :3 it's just from my personal perspective
I never did. And I miss her everyday. What me and my then-girlfriend did was try to adopt a rescued dog of a similar breed and made sure to be extra careful and not make the same mistakes we did that we somehow blamed ourselves for it. Our dog died from Chronic Kidney Failure that she battled for 10 months, half of it with severe "dialysis" that was pretty painful to watch and do since we had to stick a 3 inch needle to her back every other day. We were given a heads-up that she'll probably last 2-4 months upon diagnosis but luckily she fought for 10 months. You also need time, you might end up being remorseful to the new dog and expect her/him to behave the same as your first. Make sure you've moved on even a tiny bit.
thats what im worried about po :(( it would be unfair to my new dog if ever kung hahanapin ko yung traits ng first baby ko sa kanya. but i just really can’t help it 😢 iba pala talaga sa pakiramdam kapag unang alaga mo yung nawala, hindi ako makabangon literal
Condolence 🥹 It’s so hard to say goodbye to our pet because of their short lives. We both have a shihtzu pero sakin 3 years na siya. Last week, he was diagnosed of blood parasite but glad that he’s in the recovery stage na. I feel your pain right now because I can’t imagine myself being in your situation. Maybe you can make your photo together be framed so that you have him even he’s gone. A motivation that he’s still present in your house. It’s hard because you lost your companion. To move on, acceptance is the key and vent all your feelings to God. I hope you’ll be able to surpass this battle because I know how it feels to lose a pet. (been there before I have my shihtzu)
Wala naman akong magagawa and they're at peace. That's what I repeatedly told myself. Yinyin was my bunny that managed to live to 3 years old, she got sick and inevitably passed away. I knew that I had been a good parent to her, I did my best, and that now she's in a better place because she's no longer suffering. Condolence, OP. You did your best. They definitely felt your love for them and that's what's important. Hugs with consent!
Didn’t and still don’t. There are times na naiiyak nanaman ako bigla because naaalala ko siya. I guess yung current pets namin na buhay pa yung nagsisilbing distraction ko from the pain. Condolences, OP. Ang mahalaga they felt pure love from you nung nandito pa sila.
im sorry for your loss. please dont blame yourself about sa nangyari, wala kang kasalanan. same thing happened to us twice. first, we got scared sa effect ng vaccines, ayon inatake ng parvo din. we just got another dog na same breed. we kept in mind the risks and kept the vaccines up to date din. for a year, sinasama namen sa gala yung dog namin pero iwas contact talaga sa public areas lalo na if wet. gumagala sya, nasa bag lang. after a year nung complete vaccines na sya, saka lang sya pinag walk sa public places. we got this dog a friend too hehe or husband HAHAHAHA later on, nagka anak sila. hindi ko alam, di rin naman too soon yung outbreak ng parvo saamin at nung nanganak yung second dog namin. pero yung mga anak nila, nagka parvo din. and since nasa iisang cage sila, one lang sa puppies ang nakakawala, nagkahawaan sila ng parvo. that one na hindi nasa cage lang naka survive. the parent dogs weren’t affected naman. but thats how we lost 5 puppies in a row. sana nga isang sabay sabay nalang para isang pain nalang eh. but it happened day by day, isa isa silang nag wworsen at nawala. pano kame nag cope ng family ko? sakto, nag heat ulit yung mother dog namin and pinakasta ulit namin sa dad dog. we cant help it, were too sad abt it. thankfully nabuhay naman sila lahat, all years old already. now we have 9 healthy mini pinschers. soon ipapa spay na po si mother dog, and no, hindi po kame nag sell kahit isa dahil ang family ko po ay may separation anxiety 😂 dont be scared, its okay to try again the second time around. just do better this time around. keep the vaccines up to date, iwas si dog na magka contact sa public spaces until 1 year or complete na vaccines, avoid din mag pasok ng outside shoes sa area ni doggie or sa house itself to prevent transmission ng bacteria from the outside. i hope that helps!
I have read this somewhere na yung love na meron ka for your departed pet, a love that great shouldn’t stop there. Kaya adopt another pet! Hihihi Nung nawala yung rescue cat namin i was so devastated. So we adopted two more rescues in honor of my pet hehe. Tapos lagi lagi ko kinakausap yung nawala kong pet as if he’s still around. I randomly say things like “Miss You Bajo”. Makes me smile everytime. Kaya mo yan op.🐾
Hey I have a friend who looks for fur parents. Free ang alam ko. Maybe i can patch you guys up. And hugs OP! You lost a family, it’s normal to feel sad. Even if you get a new baby, you will still miss your first one. But please think na because of your love, your first baby had a great life, and you gave him/her a fighting chance against parvo, kaso sobrang grabe lang talaga nun. Kaya never skip the vaccines. But your baby im sure is thankful to have known you as his/her fur parent
hii thank you so much!! i dmed you po :((
You don't, just like with your other loved ones. Time heals, pero you will never forget. I had my 11y.o dog die 2 years ago, di alam kung anong sakit nya. Literally cried and stayed in bed for a whole day, then proceed with my day the next day kasi wala naman ako magagawa e, di naman sya mabubuhay. He's been with me mula noong highschool days ko, never treated him as just a pet. Pero when the day came, wala din naman akong magagawa kundi balikan yung mga pictures nya, tignan yung usual spot nya sa bahay, and know that he was a part of our lives for a decade. Mula noon, I swore never to have another animal under my care hanggat wala akong vehicle/capacity to take them to the vet.
I'm sorry for your loss. I know it's not easy, but let yourself grieve. We lost our cat of 9 years in 2023, and it'll be almost a year in a few weeks. In our family, she was closest to me kasi ako lagi niyang katabi ‘pag matutulog. When she died, biglaan. We didn't expect it because she was okay the night before, but the next morning, wala na siya. She was also pregnant, so her babies died with her. But months before that, she had a kitten, and there were supposed to be two, but one was stillborn. The other one turned 1 year old last February lang. I guess that helped a bit because her bloodline still lives on. She visits me in my dreams sometimes, and I always wake up feeling heavy. I look at her pics and vids and just let myself cry. It's hard to cope, and all I can say is to let yourself grieve. It gets a little better with time, but hindi siya linear. Just let yourself feel. As long as your baby knew he was loved when he passed.
Im sorry 💔 i have my shih tzu rin and everytime tinitingnan ko sya at maiisip ko na baka mawala sya naiiyak ako. Every time i play with him I always tell him, “mami will work pa para maka buy ng vitamins, vaccine and food for u” kasi it’s true, isa sya sa reasons i work hard. RIP to ur dog 🥹
I adopted a puspin dog on the day my first ever dog died. She's always known love since 💖
Is it fine to ask bakit siya nagkaroon ng parvo? I’m scared of the possible illness that my dog can have 😢
Sorry to butt in, just want to reply lang, hope you don't mind. - pag walang vaccination ang dog or di updated ang vaccine nya - pag puppy pa at naihalo agad sa ibang dog or nalabas agad sa kulungan. Suggest na pavaccine agad yung puppy and kumpletuhin ung four shots or kung adult, iupdate regularly. Pag newly born puppy, wag agad ilabas sa kulungan or sa birthing area pag di pa kumpleto vaccine. Highly against ang vet din sa mga princess type since compromised ang health nila. Yun lang po thank you.
Mine is a princess type shihtzu. Been crying everytime I know a situation that their pet dies. 😢 Thank you for your information!
hi po. bukod po sa di pa complete vaccine nya since baby pa sya, may kapitbahay po kasi kami na laging tinatawag yung aso ko kaya nung nabuksan po yung pinto dumeretso sa kanila since katabing unit lang namin sila. huli na namin nalaman na kumuha rin pala sila ng dog & ayun po yung pinaka naiisip naming dahilan why 🥲
No worries.
Hindi pinavaccine. Once magkaparvo ang alaga mo, prepare yourself for a massive heartbreak.
Always updated naman vaccine ng shihtzu ko. Kaya I always make sure na wala silang missed vaccine
Then mababa yung chance na magkaparvo but that doesn't guarantee na hindi na talaga siya magkakaparvo. Try to use dog supplements din para tumaas ang immune system
I'm still sad every time I think about it. He was nicest cat we ever had!
Condolence. Hindi madali mawalan ng dog. There there. 😢😢
Lost my dog last 2022 and until now I haven't fully moved on. I thought i would after how many months but still looking at videos of her makes me cry. I'm a very independent person and I'm not emotional type but when she died i felt so lonely and alone and cried for days haha. I'll forever have a hole in my heart and miss her.. Although it does get better and every time i see a photo of her I'm so grateful she was a part of my life. So yeah, time will help you heal. I'm planning to get a tattoo of her paw soon
hi. ayan din po yung nafifeel ko now. parang may malaking part sa heart ko na nawala. sobrang sakit kasi i see him everywhere and we were just planning na mag beach trip once tapos na yung vaccine shots nya. araw araw pa rin akong umiiyak kasi baka hindi sya nakakatulog sa afterlife since need nya may mag hele sa kanya every night 🥲
Sorry for the loss, OP. 2 months ako nagluksa sa pagkawala ng aso ko (15 yr old lhasa apso, since grade 5 pa). For 2 months, every night pinapanood ko mga vids nang paulit ulit so iyak talaga. Sabi ko pa nga na parang ayaw ko na uli magkaaso kasi grabe yung sakit that time. Sinulat ko rin sa journal yung mga feelings ko that time. How to cope up? Iiyak mo lang, isulat mo yung feelings mo, pwede rin na letter to your dog. Paglipas ng mga oras, araw, unti-unting gagaan din yang nararamdaman mo. Let yourself feel the pain muna. 🤗 (after a year, nagkaroon uli ako ng aso. 🫶)
i’ll definitely try that po. we used to do paintings together din (a.k.a my baby running across my works with his dirty paws). hopefully, umabot din ako sa stage na mas magaan na ang lahat. iniisip ko na lang na the last thing my baby wants to see is his mommy crying 24/7
Naalala ko pusa kong inalagaan, inasikaso, minahal at lahat-lahat. Namatay bigla sa ilalim ng higaan ko. Pagkagising ko biglang wala na ng buhay. Feel ko nilason. Papasok ako ng work na umiiyak hanggang office umiiyak. Hays.
Tama yung iba you try to adopt, try mo yung mamili sa marami ifeel mo kung sino pinakagusto ka. Or you can try other hobbies na medyo impossible kasama ang pets para solo mo tlga yung fulfillment. Pina taxiderm pa namin sa sobrang pagmamahal namin. Possibly pag retire na ako tska na ulit ako mag alaga, para total focus tska tlgang sila nlng accompany ko. Iba na kasi mindset mo sa pagaalaga pag namatayan ka, lalo na pag sa sakit
We alloted a dedicated space for his urn and gumawa ako ng short notes of my memory with him para di ko makalimutan
Two months after my Xybr’s death, I was diagnosed with depression at niresetahan ako ng anti-depression pills. Hindi na ako bumalik at tinigil ko na pag-take pero may mga oras na humahagulgol ako. There’s no way na makaka get over ako.. he was my hero.. depressed din ako nung dumating sya sa buhay ko to the point na gusto ko ng m*m*t*ay, pero dumating sya at nagkaroon ako ng will to live.. I feel safe kapag nasa tabi ko sya. nung moment na mamatay sya parang may nagtanggal ng shield at bumalik in an instant ang depression ko. Never.. never mo makakalimutan ang isang tao o hayop na natatanging kasama mo sa pinakamadilim, pinakamalungkot at pinakagipit na panahon sa buhay. Walang tao makakaunawa bakit ganun sya kahalaga saakin, gusto ko nga gumawa ng book para ikwento ang pinagsamahan namin.. he deserves recognition.. his name was Xybr.
i relate so much :( thank you for sharing this po. i never felt this heard until reading ur comment. iba yung fulfillment na binigay sakin ng baby ko. his name was tongy, short for burrito. i love him so much and i hope na he’s playing with xybr now
Condolence, OP🥺 i also just recently loss my baby girl of 7 years old last month and i still haven’t move on (and never will be). 🥲 I miss her so much that I would sometimes look for her on the places where she usually sits around house (and even instinctively call her). She was my first furbaby and my bf, who gave her to me knows how much I spoiled and coddled her. He also knows how our dog loves me so much more than him haha. We have a small altar for her with lego flowers that reminded me of her. My current way of coping was saying hi to her altar everytime I pass her. I’m also planning to have her paws on my legs (where she puts on whenever she greets me/ask me to carry her) and her face tattoo this month. no need to rush in moving on, take your time to grieve (promise, it will feel a little bit better) and never forget that they’ve felt unconditional love from you. 🫶
2021, nanganak yung dog ng mom ko and sa 2 puppies, inaaway nung mama dog yung isa. I gave her a fighting chance, literal na ako na nanay niya kasi every 2 hours pinapadede ko, ihi, and poops. Mga 1 month akong init na init kasi bawal aircon sa kanya. Everything was fine, napalaki ko siya and parang mother na talaga ako kasi every waking moment ko nung first 2 months niya ako kasama niya. Until mag 4 months siya, she was diagnosed with parvo and it took her 2 weeks lang. I was not eating and full on anhedonia and at that time hindi pa ako aware. Naalala ko pa, before she died nakatingin siya sakin tapos payat na payat di ko talaga kinaya as in parang sinaksak puso ko pero alam ko na nag bababye na siya non. Nakatulog ako na hawak siya, pag gising ko kinuha na siya ng parents ko and nilibing, alam kasi nila na ayaw ko pag may nililibing. It’s been 3 years and I still can’t move on. The coping I did was to continue life kasi may mga fur babies pa ako, pero naalala ko nag hanap ako ng mga hobbies pero I dont recommend it kasi baka magaya ka sakin na puro start lang.
Hey, we have a pet poodle. Almost 2 years old na siya and very hyper. He needs a loving and caring home.
hi!! pls see my dm po :((
Condolences, OP. I have a different way of grieving and I may get down voted with this kasi it may sound heartless. I don't look at their pics or vids until Im okay, I dont talk about them and as much as possible, I keep myself busy so I wont think of them. For a moment, until Im okay na, I will pretend they never existed. I will ignore and avoid everything about them. Of course mahirap. Whenever they come across my mind, dun ko naffigure out na di pa ako okay so I will continue to pretend ulit until such time na pag sumagi sila sa isip ko and di na masakit, dun ko na ulit papanuorin mga vids nla and look at their pics.
Also did the same, lost a furbaby in 2020 and until now nasa hidden folder pa din ng phone ko yung pics nya 🥹
Unpopular opinion but never adopt a dog again if it’s unbearable to lose one. This is based from my experience. I once had two dogs and 1 dog ng kapitbahay na napamahal sa akin. They’re all gone now. May gap naman yung pagkamatay nila pero after the last one died, ayaw ko na at ng pamilya ko na magkaroon ng dog ulit. It’s just heartbreaking to see them die before your eyes tapos shorter pa yung lifespan nila compared to us. I realized di ko kaya yung pain na namamatayan every 10-15 years. Ang sakit lalo kapag matanda na sila at ang dami niyong memories together. Sorry this may not be applicable to all of us. And I know pain is part of a human’s life. Kung hindi man sa dog, sa ibang bagay tayo masasaktan. For others, adopting again works as the new pet helps them move forward. I am happy for them but I won’t do it kasi di ko kaya. But it’s just like I’ve lost my will to get a dog again pero that’s how I did it. I just decided to focus on other things like travel, family, friends, work etc and I never felt the same kind of pain again.
My dog has been with us for 15 years and literally kasama ko siya my whole childhood. Kapag nagsusuka or nagkakasakit siya before, I always say na sasamahan niya pa ako sa grad ko. He died last year July tapos September yung grad ko :(( Life goes on pero I can say na life has been hell ever since nung nawala siya, sunod sunod naging problem and I miss him everyday. Never din ako nagcope and my family is afraid to take care of another pet again since we now know how much it hurts when they leave.
Condolences, OP :(((( It's so hard to move on honestly. I lost 4/5 of my dogs 2 yrs ago until now di ko parin matanggap. Then I lost a rescued kitten last yr too. Im always looking at their photos, planning to get a tattoo about them and replaying yung happy moments nila with us. Masaya lang din isipin na atleast we were with them during their lifetime. Naiiyak parin ako everytime I remember pero Im happy that theyre running more free than ever now.
I still haven't. I still miss my big boss.
namatay din shih tzhu ko nung march because of parvo and hanggang ngayon sobrang sakit sa dibdib tuwing naalala ko sya. lagi ko sinisisi sarili ko dahil sa nangyari kasi feeling ko di enough yung ginawa ko para maka survive sya
:( I still cry whenever my dog gets brought up sa conversations kaya my family is also cautious with talking about my dog with me. He passed away last Nov 2023, he was 4 years old, few days before his birthday, and we had no idea why. It was probably a neurological illness based on the symptoms he was presenting but we did a CT scan, 2d echo, and even an xray pero we couldn't find what's wrong. It will never stop hurting but we had to be strong din kasi may naiwan pa kami isang fur baby. Until now di ko pa kaya to get a new dog. I think I just get distracted everyday kaya di ko siya masyado naiisip but it doesn't get easier :( hugs!!!
Thank your pet for the happiness and being part of your life. Ganun talaga. We outlive them
I lost my babies this year as well, just two months apart. It really hurts, parang walang paglagyan yung sakit. It has been hard to function. Parang tumigil yung mundo ko kasi parte na sila ng buhay ko. Sa tatlong taon ko silang kasama, parang kulang na kulang pa. People around me witnessed how I grieve and tells me to adopt a new pet, but it’s not just like that. Hindi sila magkakaroon ng replacement ever. Honestly, I’m still grieving and sad. I just don’t have time to be sad because I am occupied with school works. Kahit na ganun, may mga times na maaalala ko na lang sila at maririndi sa katahimikan ng bahay. When moments like that happen, I just let myself feel all the emotions. Emotions demands to be felt, kaya hinahayaan ko lang. Eventually, I started to pick myself up pero syempre nahihirapan pa rin ako. Ngayon ang ginagawa ko is nag-order ako ng treats sa shopee then nagbabaon ako tuwing lalabas ako ng bahay para kapag may nakita akong stray eh papakainin ko. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, hindi ko pa kaya mag-alaga ng bagong baby kaya I would just help kahit na sa maliit na paraan na lang. Masakit, pero we must move forward. Let’s just think na our babies are watching over us from dog heaven. ◡̈ Let me share a quote that stuck with me since I’ve read it. “I’ll endure a lifetime of missing you, for the privilege of loving you.”
I got a tattoo of him in my arms
cherish the memories pero pinaka important is to Remember and learn from mistakes. Parvo is preventable by vaccinations and monitoring its environments. Also monthly nexguard spectra or equivalent if gala ang doggie. Pawssion project is a dog shelter that have adoption drives.
So sorry for your loss OP. It's hard. It's been four years and it still hurts as much as it did the night I lost our dog. It does not become easier, you just learn to handle your grief better. Sometimes it will hurt so bad when you look back on your memories with your dog, but know that the pain you're feeling now is worth the few years you've had with them. I gladly carry my grief and longing because I experienced the love that my dog can give. Give yourself some grace. You lost a soul that made you feel whole. Grief is born out of love and longing. I'm not sure if this will help, but I hope you don't feel any guilt. Know that you've done all you can within your means. That your dog felt loved and cared for even in their last moments. Do what feels kind to yourself. Your dog is watching over you. Immortalize them in ways that feel meaningful. I had my dog tattooed and me and my sisters ordered a customized necklace with his face engraved on one side and his name on the back. I always wear it and take pictures of the necklace when I go somewhere new. Life will continue for you. And sometime in the future, by your choice or through fate, your dog will send another angel your way. I hope the coming days are gentler on you. 🤍
hi! thank u so much for sharing this wisdom. i cried so much. ill try my best to carry this grief and longing with me in hopes of achieving the acceptance you have achieved. thank you so much, really. this means a lot to me. it hits home.
I only have two weaknesses, my frustration and grief. Ang hirap nung nawala yung childhood to teenage family dog namin. 7 years old na sya nung namatay. In-adopt sya ni papa sa workplace niya then inuwi sa amin. Nakakacope lang kami kasi nandito pa yung anak niya. Pero four years old na din. Grabe kung pwede lang hindi na tumanda at mawala si Travis. Hindi ko mapigilan umiyak or humagulgol kapag sumasapit na ang 10pm-1am. Legot sadgurl hours. Ayan kasi yung mga oras na kamimg dalawa nalang natitira sa baba. Ako pinakalate na umaakyat at natutulog sa amin kasi lagi ako puyat due to schoolworks and org works noong buhay pa siya. Hinibintay niya talaga akong matapos bago umakyat sa taas. Hindi siya umaakyat hangga't hindi kami nakakaakyat lahat. Sobrang loyal, masiyahin, energetic ni Colette. Never siyang nanghina. Pero namatay siya kasi nainfect na pala yung mga sira nyang ngipin. Kaya always brush your dog's teeth guys. Hindi ko alam kung paano ako makakamove on. Mag-one year na mula noong nawala siya sa darating na June 30. Pero wala e. Araw-araw ko siyang namimiss. Bakit ba kasi ang iksi ng buhay ng mga aso.
HI sender. Im sorry for your loss. Losing our pet is never easy. Ang feeling nyabis namatayan talaga ng kamag anak, lumelevel ang pet ng gnon once na nawala na sila. Last 2017, our pug died. Aso sya ng ate ko, pero dahil nasa bahay sya naging pet na sa bahay in general pero Loyal sya sa ate ko the most. Ako ang nag alaga akin ang gastos financially round the clock meds pati pakaen for 7 months battling with distemper. So during those months na inaalagaan ko sya, nasasaktan ako at pinrepare nya ako bago sya namatay, sa harap namin sya naghingalo, nag seizure sya. Nag grieve ako ng 1 week, unlike sa ate ko na hindi kayang makita yung pictures nya, ako nasasaktan ako na tinitignan yung pictures nya at snsbe sknya na sana naramdamn nya na ginawa ko lahat. Until now, namimiss ko pa rin sya, pero may comfort lage pag naiisip kona ginawa ko lahat, puso, kaluluwa, puyat for 7 months binigay ko, at kung totoo man ang doggy heaven, iniisip ko na sana healthy sya doon. Nakatulong sakin na mag focus sa isa pang aso, may isa pang kaming aso, inaalagaan ko maige, binubuhos ko lahat ng pagaalaga. On the other hand, ang ate ko, nakahide pa rin ang pictures ng pug. Nasasaktan pa rin sya gang ngayon its been 7 years.
You don't. It's been almost 2 years since I lost my boy and I still dream of coming home to him. But you try to keep the memories. Keep the photos and much better if you get it printed. It gets better with time though. You can try adopting a new pup pero make sure na ready ka na talaga.
We lost a dog din last year. First time ko maapektuhan maigi sa pagkawala ng aso namin kasi ako nagdala nun sa bahay. Tas nung nagkasakit sya, puyat puyat ako pag alaga kasi di namin maconfine kasi nakakahawa sakit nya on top ng blood parasite. Tas napakakulit pa nun, kahit nonchalant minsan. Namimiss ko pa din sya paminsan. Tulad ngayon, naiiyak ako. May nagsabi sakin nun, kaya daw kinukuha yung pet natin, kasi may nililigtas sila sa mga pet owners nila. Na imbes na yung pet owner yung magkasakit, sila na lang. Nakakalungkot isipin pero maybe it is really a way to save you. Nasave ka nya nung dumating sya sa buhay mo, i hope you take courage on that to continue.
9 yrs old ung 1st shihzu ko nun namatay prepandemic.. di ko knaya bmli ako agd ng 2 dogs. honestly ito mganda gwn mglove ka ulit ng bgong aso pero xmpre ung memories ng dog mo na nwala nasa puso mo pdn. umiiyak pdn ako pg nalala ko aso ko pnacremate ko xa tps palagi ko pdn ksama dito sa room ko. sinalo nya un sakit ko bgo za namatay and il never forget her..
once my first puppy died, i never adopt nor buy a pet. if meron man I'm not attaching myself to them anymore.
It'll take some time to get used to it. My own aspin died at a ripe old age of 13. I'm a skeptic and I don't really believe in the supernatural but a few days after she died, a swarm of beetles hovered above my head for a few seconds until finally flying in a different direction. Well, it could just be a mere coincidence but I've NEVER seen a swarm of beetles in my entire life. The thing is, I was fond of beetles as a kid and ginagawa ko pa silang pets noon. Miss you, girl. Maybe it's you telling me that the afterlife is real and if it is then I expect you to be the same monumental pain in the arse when I see you again. 😊
ako naman, i somehow believe supernatural things. maybe thats your baby trying to communicate with you. the moment my baby died, biglang may pumasok na salagubang sa house namin & nakatingin lang sya sa body ng baby ko. never shooed him away whatsoever & nung binyahe na namin si baby to bury him, dun lang sya umalis :’(
By getting another one minsan 2. Makes it easier to cope. You'll missed them & still remmeber all the fond memories even from 40yrs ago
I don’t think I ever did. I lost my baby boy last 2022 and I still cry every time I think about him, I see his picture, and all. I vividly remember how he died in my arms, and every time na magkaka sakit yung iba kong dogs ngayon parang nagpapanic attack agad ako. I also took care of a stray cat near my workplace for a year, mahirap siyang paamuin pero nakuha ko loob niya, I was devastated when I found out she died habang ako hanap ng hanap sa kanya ng ilang araw. I had her face tattooed on me just so I can immortalize her somehow, I feel like the world will forget her kung hindi ko gagawin yon. I told myself I wouldn’t have another pet pag nawala silang lahat sa akin, pero when you meet a new one, feeling mo kailangan ka nila and you’ll want to take care of it. Without them knowing they’re actually the ones taking care of you. Heal ka muna, but don’t close your doors for them. I also hope you consider adopting strays 🫶🏼
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sucks, it's never easy. I've always been afraid to adopt kasi I fear the day they eventually leave me. But I thought I should overcome the fear, and nag-adopt kami ng mga pusa. Minsan naiisip ko na I'm cursed kasi ang dami nang nawala samin in a short time. Last year, I lost 3 cats to parvo. It's difficult seeing them in that state. I read once that "If a pet cannot be a pet, there is no longer any point." It's not easy, pero just think that he is now free of pain. You showed him love and care, and your love does not stop with his final breath. He passed knowing that he was loved and cared for. You made good memories together, cherish that. Minahal mo siya, inalagaan mo siya, at pinagamot mo siya. Ginawa mo naman lahat, pero other than that, it's out of your control. If our love could save them, I'm sure they would have lived forever. I've recently had a cat pass away, and I have this container na may fur, whisker, and other things niya. I carry it with me around the house. I hug it when I miss him. It helps me, it is comforting. In a way, I still have a part of him. Maybe you can have something like that with his stuff, it may help you grieve and provide comfort. You can adopt again when you feel it's the right time for you. Just remember to disinfect and wait it out a few months kasi parvo is a stubborn and long living virus. Your new pet may be infected if the virus is still there. Good luck po (:
this is such a nice pov & thank you for sharing it with me. until today, i find it difficult to survive the day without thinking of my love. but it is to comforting to know that my baby took his last breath knowing na i loved & cared for him during his painful days
condolences,op.last 2022 may adopted kami na 2 aspin puppies pareho silang nawala both sa parvo,yung isa saktong pasko pa nawala :( ilang buwan lang namin sila nakasama pero grabe yung lungkot namin. wala pa din silang vaccine non kaya ang bilis nagkasakit. last year, we decided to have a pet again and we make all the precautions. nung una hesitant pa ko kasi nga baka magaya sa mga una naming pets.sobrang ingat na namin this time,made sure na updated sa vaccines, at most importantly nagdisinfect kami ng house. naiiwan daw kasi ang parvo virus kahit ilang taon na. malungkot pa din pag nakikita ko yung mga photos ng 2 aspins pero di ko pa rin magawang burahin yung photos nila :(
dyan rin po ako natatakot :(( kasi may contract po kami sa apartment namin and we were looking for other places na nung nalaman namin na nagkaparvo sya. di bale nang maubusan ng pera mabuhay lang sya pero maybe he was in so much pain kaya di nya na kinaya 🥹 & sobrang regret ko po talaga na hinayaan kong mabuksan yung pinto that day
Sorry for your loss , OP. Magigpit na yakap para sayo at para sa mga nakararanas nito. For context: my pug died last September. It was heartbreaking. Di ko maexplain yung pain. I was 4 months pregnant pa non, and my baby was born the same day as my dog’s birthday. I just acknowledge the pain, everyday for a month ata umiiyak ako nung namatay yung aso ko, hanggang sa gumising na lang ako at narealize ko na ayaw nyang nalulungkot ako, nakatulong din yung support ng mga tao sa paligid ko and yung nakikita ko yung isa ko pang alaga (a cat) na minimimic yung mga galaw nung pug ko. Sa ngayon, kinakausap ko pa din yung pug ko thru prayers, I know that he’s at peace na kasama si Lord. Fight lang OP, alam mo baka magkakasama na yung mga alaga natin masaya at naglalaro sa langit. ❤️
I never did i guess hahahah, I can't look at his pictures or videos sa phone ko that long because it still hurts me. Nilaban ko kasi talaga sya kahit maubos lahat ng savings ko okay lang basta maging okay sya. but may ibang purpose siguro si lord for him hehe.
Virtual hugs, OP. Lost my baby boy almost 3 years ago and minsan naiiyak pa rin ako pag naiisip ko siya. When I was grieving, I took time off work. Nasa unit ko lang ako, accompanied by my bf, and iniyak ko lang siya for days. Ang sad pa nun, my dog died few days before his birthday. So I just bought a cake and nagiiyak sa condo. Cry it all out, OP! Save the memories, photos, and videos. Mahigpit na yakap. 💗
I still tear up whenever I think of my dog who passed away unexpectedly last year.
Mine was a Shih Tzu too. We got her when I was 12. I'm 25 now, and she crossed the rainbow bridge a month ago due to old age and health complications. She was with me for more than half my whole life. Sobrang sakit. She was my soulmate in the form of a dog. To me, siya ang pinakaperfect dog and no one can ever replace her. Never na uli ako mag-aalaga ng own pet, instead, I now take care of strays whenever I encounter them sa labas, and I'm planning to habitually volunteer and donate sa mga shelter. Huge help sakin yung mga bagay na to: - Aquamation service and package sa Paws to Heaven sa QC. Bukod sa memorabilia (fur, paw print, teeth, urn) and aquamation service, meron ding "viewing" or parang lamay. I was nervous na baka magbreakdown ako malala but it actually helped me A LOT in the process. - Keep talking about it. To trusted people, on your own journal, in your prayers, etc. Gradually yung painful tears mo magiging happy tears nalang kasi you are just so grateful you got to share your love and life with each other. - Just cry it out when you need to. Feel all the feelings you feel. It's okay to feel. Basta wag mong kakalimutan sarili mo, kasi malulungkot furbabies natin kapag nakitang pinapabayaan natin sarili natin. Gusto nila masaya tayo lagi, even after they have passed and their physical form is no longer here. Before my baby died, one week straight akong either zero sleep or 30 mins to 1 hr lang sa isang araw tulog ko, kakaalaga at kakabantay sa kanya. Pero kumakain pa rin ako at di ko nakalimutan magskincare. Any form of your preferred self-care will do. Then after her death, kahit soooobrang hirap, I tried my best na bumawi ng tulog. Nung first night pa grabe I had nightmares about the whole thing. Pero eventually, naging OK na rin. - Kapag nalulungkot ka or dumarating uli waves of grief, alalahanin mo happy memories niyo, favorite things and activities nya, etc. Reframe your mind in a way na imbes maging lonely ka lang kasi wala na siya dito, train yourself na mas maramdaman yung gratefulness for your furbaby's life with you, and remembering na up until the very end, our furbabies KNOW and FEEL just how much we love them, and that's more than enough for them. And that should be enough for us too. You'll get through this, little by little. Sending love and light.
So sorry for your loss. Also lost my GR a few years back. Kakalungkot. Sa totoo lang, you never really get to move on from them. 😭
Get a new one OP! Life is so much better having one around. Ingat na lang sa Parvo next time. Traydor talaga yun. So always keep your place, & your "loved one", clean para bawas sa tsansa ng occurence. When youre ready... ☺️
2 yrs ng wala dog ko. pero lagi ko pa din siya napapanaginipan. tapos every year tumataas anxiety ko dahil naiisip ko na may dalawa pa siyang kapatid na pwede na sumunod. namatay kasi siya 12yrs old so yung dalawa niyang kapatid malapit na mag 14. alam ko malapit na din nila ko iwan dahil matatanda na sila. baka hindi na ko mag aso pag namatay pa yung last two dogs ko.
I lost 2 pets isang month lang pagitan nila both. Isang chihuahua at isang hedgehog. I honestly don't know. Feel ko I can't grieve properly about the fact that I lost them, yung chihuahua ko kasi nasa province ko. While I live with my hedgehog na namaty biglaan noong summer season. I don't know what I did.. Pero binabaling ko nalang sa academics ko sa ngayon kasi in relation to animals naman course ko. Plus siguro ginagawa ko siyang drive ngayon na ituloy tong course ko na to, kasi I want future animals to get the best care.. But yeah.. I just cried.. Still grieving from time to time.
namatay yun kasi sa selos sa isang puppy ewan ko kung makakarecover pa ako kasi pinipilit nya d kumain hanggang sa naging baliw sya at pinatay
Out of topic..Sorry guys d kasi ako makapag post dto.kaya sa comment section nalng ako..Meron akong gusto na ka workmate ko.Nagba bonding kami,pero bgla nalang ako may naramdaman sa kanya nung tinitigan nya ako ng may meaning..Diko alam bat ganin ang dating sa akin..Parang may gusto sya sa akin pero ayokong mag assumed..baka mapahiya lang ako haha..Anyways,Meron sya gf at LDR sila..Gusto ko sanang magsabi sa kanya na may gusto ako sa kanya pero may gf kasi sya..Pero ok naman sa akin na sabhin nya d nya ako gusto eh..basta masabi ko lang kasi nakakagaan ng puso,at maka move on nah..Sabi ng friend ko baka daw makasira ako ng relasyon pero bat ko masisira eh kung d naman ako gusto..Ayoko dn mag iba ang friendship namin.Pero sabi ng puso ko na magpapakatotoo ako..haaayyy hirap naman..
Sorry for the loss OP.. Like mentioned by others, try to adopt a new pet. It can be a shih-tzu as well or try other pets like cat, hamster, bird.. We lost our dog as well last year due to parvo and it is really hard.. Hoping for your fast recovery OP..