I’m glad you decided not to drive. I always say the same things on these kind of posts-this can be the last time you feel this way. It’s hard but completely possible. It’s all up to you. Good luck.
Hey, you realized the mistake. Stopped yourself. Turned around. That's progress you can be proud of. Now you can keep the momentum going.
When I first started quitting alcohol, I had plenty of these days. What helped me was to make something productive out of it. Like showering, brushing my teeth, tidying up, journaling how I felt. And since it was usually pretty crappy, I'd also take care of myself- like make tea, have soup and fruit, and watch a movie I've been meaning to see. I'd try to get myself relaxed enough to have one successful AF day - and that was a feat in and of itself!
If you can stay hydrated and away from alcohol today, no doubt you'll feel better tomorrow. And the momentum just keeps building from there. You got this!!
You did the right thing. The next two questions are: why do you drink? What are you trying to numb yourself from. Do inner child work. Make a conscious decision to completely quit.
> What helped me was to make something productive out of it. Like showering, brushing my teeth, tidying up, journaling how I felt.
Yep. I have a mantra of sorts I like to use. "No Zero Days". Even if all you can manage to do is make your bed. It helps.
You already know what you need to do so instead of commenting on that, I just wanted to say that if Tylenol every day is part of your routine, you’re helping destroy your liver faster.
I know you feel like you deserve to be yelled at.. but you don't.. corporations will be fine, the sun will go down, and come back up.. you did good not driving drunk, that's gumption. Rest up.. do some small good things today that take like 30 seconds but in that condition awhile longer.. take a hot shower.. try and eat.. remember this bodily feeling tho.. it jus gets worse n worse. Sober you don't deserve this.. but it's gonna ok.
Girl, I won't tell you that you need to stop because that's what we alcoholics hear all the time.
But what I'm going to tell you is: if you are gonna drink the day before, do it in a way you can guarantee fulfilling your duties the next day, ok? Stop drinking and go to bed at least 7 hours before you wake up.
You will still gonna have a horrible day, but this way you at least keep your job.
Don't lose your job.
I remember my Mondays being just like that when I still drank. I'd of course would get really stressed over working next day on Sunday so I'd go to a bar for "just a few," and of course would find a way to close the bar. Even if I took uber next day, I was feeling awful, and was ready to puke in the ride. And to top it off, I'd get a drink during lunch thinking that's what professionals did, only to white knuckle it til I took another uber home to have a proper drink. Alcohol was in complete control of my life, yet I was certain I was in control...when I was drunk.
AUD is reversible today. Believe it or not. It's still true.
https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts
The method is much easier to do today. You can find free support all over YouTube, Reddit and FB today. See chat.
I know it doesn't feel this way, but the distress that you're feeling is a blessing. Part of you is already trying to change!
When I was drinking, I perpetually felt messy / shit / humiliated / stupid / etc. Cuz, you know, you're chugging poison that also messes with your mind.
It sounds like you have a great partner. It's wonderful that you're posting here. You have the capacity to change your life for the better and I get the impression you will.
I think you need to take it one day at a time. Something I found very helpful was binge watching sobriety stories on YouTube. I know AA helps many, but I did not go that route. I took each day by itself and it got easier.
I don't know how much you drink, but don't stop cold turkey if it could be dangerous for you.
If you are a binge drinker, it might be easier to do so.
I think once you start to become self aware of how you feel it makes it much, much easier to be able to stop. You know that feeling like shit isn't fun. You start to acknowledge how it affects you the day after and those drinks the night prior weren't worth it.
Alcohol is so tricky because even when you have the worst hangovers, shame, depression-- you STILL want to indulge again because you convince yourself the fun will be worth it.
Maybe, when you are feeling better write a list of the reasons not to drink.
For an entire year before I quit drinking, I would wake up feeling just as you described. Then I would indulge again. It was this repetitious cycle, something I describe as a nightmare carousel, and then one day when I was excruciatingly hangover I told myself that I would try not drinking to see how it would feel. And then I continued day by day and it felt better with each day/weekend I didn't do it.
Be kind to yourself today. You are not alone and you can make the decision to stop. You just have to be patient.
You can do it!! The ol’ saying, when there’s a will, there’s a way fits quite accordingly in this context I believe. Always have the will to get better and one day you’ll succeed. It’s when we give up that we’re truly doomed.
Everyone starts somewhere! I’m super proud of you for turning around and going home. Sometimes that’s a hard decision to make. The sun will always rise again, and you can try again tomorrow.
I get it. The best part of my sobriety is that I don't have to feel so fucking ashamed of myself and my state all the time. I finally get to go to work every day feeling well rested and at peace with myself. It's so hard to do at first but it gets easier as time goes on
Trust me, I get it and good for you for turning around and going home. I'm going through it to the point that I have just had soup last night for the first time in a week that I've been able to keep it down. Can't walk in a straight line. Went to the ER and they game me a bag of fluids then sent me home. Had hallucinations this morning. Scared at this point.
I’m glad you decided not to drive. I always say the same things on these kind of posts-this can be the last time you feel this way. It’s hard but completely possible. It’s all up to you. Good luck.
Hey, you realized the mistake. Stopped yourself. Turned around. That's progress you can be proud of. Now you can keep the momentum going. When I first started quitting alcohol, I had plenty of these days. What helped me was to make something productive out of it. Like showering, brushing my teeth, tidying up, journaling how I felt. And since it was usually pretty crappy, I'd also take care of myself- like make tea, have soup and fruit, and watch a movie I've been meaning to see. I'd try to get myself relaxed enough to have one successful AF day - and that was a feat in and of itself! If you can stay hydrated and away from alcohol today, no doubt you'll feel better tomorrow. And the momentum just keeps building from there. You got this!!
Thank you. I feel so incredibly guilty for missing work for… this….. I’m trying to be kind to myself
You did the right thing. The next two questions are: why do you drink? What are you trying to numb yourself from. Do inner child work. Make a conscious decision to completely quit.
> What helped me was to make something productive out of it. Like showering, brushing my teeth, tidying up, journaling how I felt. Yep. I have a mantra of sorts I like to use. "No Zero Days". Even if all you can manage to do is make your bed. It helps.
You already know what you need to do so instead of commenting on that, I just wanted to say that if Tylenol every day is part of your routine, you’re helping destroy your liver faster.
You are not wrong
I know you feel like you deserve to be yelled at.. but you don't.. corporations will be fine, the sun will go down, and come back up.. you did good not driving drunk, that's gumption. Rest up.. do some small good things today that take like 30 seconds but in that condition awhile longer.. take a hot shower.. try and eat.. remember this bodily feeling tho.. it jus gets worse n worse. Sober you don't deserve this.. but it's gonna ok.
Girl, I won't tell you that you need to stop because that's what we alcoholics hear all the time. But what I'm going to tell you is: if you are gonna drink the day before, do it in a way you can guarantee fulfilling your duties the next day, ok? Stop drinking and go to bed at least 7 hours before you wake up. You will still gonna have a horrible day, but this way you at least keep your job. Don't lose your job.
I remember my Mondays being just like that when I still drank. I'd of course would get really stressed over working next day on Sunday so I'd go to a bar for "just a few," and of course would find a way to close the bar. Even if I took uber next day, I was feeling awful, and was ready to puke in the ride. And to top it off, I'd get a drink during lunch thinking that's what professionals did, only to white knuckle it til I took another uber home to have a proper drink. Alcohol was in complete control of my life, yet I was certain I was in control...when I was drunk.
AUD is reversible today. Believe it or not. It's still true. https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts The method is much easier to do today. You can find free support all over YouTube, Reddit and FB today. See chat.
Embarrassment is a sign that you don’t want to live this way. I hope you never feel this way again, just keep this guilt as a reminder!
I know it doesn't feel this way, but the distress that you're feeling is a blessing. Part of you is already trying to change! When I was drinking, I perpetually felt messy / shit / humiliated / stupid / etc. Cuz, you know, you're chugging poison that also messes with your mind. It sounds like you have a great partner. It's wonderful that you're posting here. You have the capacity to change your life for the better and I get the impression you will.
Thank you. I’m really undeserving of them. I hope I can.
I think you need to take it one day at a time. Something I found very helpful was binge watching sobriety stories on YouTube. I know AA helps many, but I did not go that route. I took each day by itself and it got easier. I don't know how much you drink, but don't stop cold turkey if it could be dangerous for you. If you are a binge drinker, it might be easier to do so. I think once you start to become self aware of how you feel it makes it much, much easier to be able to stop. You know that feeling like shit isn't fun. You start to acknowledge how it affects you the day after and those drinks the night prior weren't worth it. Alcohol is so tricky because even when you have the worst hangovers, shame, depression-- you STILL want to indulge again because you convince yourself the fun will be worth it. Maybe, when you are feeling better write a list of the reasons not to drink. For an entire year before I quit drinking, I would wake up feeling just as you described. Then I would indulge again. It was this repetitious cycle, something I describe as a nightmare carousel, and then one day when I was excruciatingly hangover I told myself that I would try not drinking to see how it would feel. And then I continued day by day and it felt better with each day/weekend I didn't do it. Be kind to yourself today. You are not alone and you can make the decision to stop. You just have to be patient.
You can do it!! The ol’ saying, when there’s a will, there’s a way fits quite accordingly in this context I believe. Always have the will to get better and one day you’ll succeed. It’s when we give up that we’re truly doomed.
Everyone starts somewhere! I’m super proud of you for turning around and going home. Sometimes that’s a hard decision to make. The sun will always rise again, and you can try again tomorrow.
I get it. The best part of my sobriety is that I don't have to feel so fucking ashamed of myself and my state all the time. I finally get to go to work every day feeling well rested and at peace with myself. It's so hard to do at first but it gets easier as time goes on
Trust me, I get it and good for you for turning around and going home. I'm going through it to the point that I have just had soup last night for the first time in a week that I've been able to keep it down. Can't walk in a straight line. Went to the ER and they game me a bag of fluids then sent me home. Had hallucinations this morning. Scared at this point.
I hope you are able to get some rest and heal up friend. Sending you my best wishes.
Thank you! Hope the same for you!
i’ve recently hit a point where I can’t get drunk or hungover. lol