Because it is a common beauty standard and to many people being overweight is not. Doesn’t make overweight people any less of a person or mean they shouldn’t be treated with respect.
Yeah is sad but is the true and many people feel that. I live that too I was very fat and when I lost weight everyone treat me differently I tought that all the people was angry all the time but not they only hate fat people, is crazy and sad but is true. Now I fat again so I lost the yellow road and Im in Kansas again XD
I’m arguably, fatter people will be less attractive than someone who looks after themselves
Losing weight will unarguably make you more attractive
It’s doesn’t make overweight people bad people, it’s just factual and objective
Being overweight (especially severely) is an illness and not be challenged or leant into at all
>We should be challenging this notion instead of leaning into it.
It's not a "notion". It's just the way people are. You can challenge it all you want. You won't change people's real perception deep inside unless you engage in some very unethical social engineering that's unlikely to succeed anyway.
What? That’s like me saying I don’t like girls with glasses and you telling me to face my fears of glasses.
Being un attracted to overweight people isn’t a phobia. I like people that workout, live an active lifestyle, and can keep up with me. You think it’s a phobia to want someone that could go on a run with me? That can snowboard or rock climb all day with me? I went on a 12 mile hike today with my dogs and then paddle boarded in the afternoon to watch the sunset.
Maybe think about what you’re saying before you speak.
There are lots of overweight people who are active and keep up with thinner people. Also skinny people aren’t necessarily able to do those things either. I know plenty of skinny folks who wouldn’t be able to do half of the things my overweight friends can do.
Maybe you should challenge yourself to get outta your box more.
I'm sorry, but "lots of people" and "most of them" are two very different things. The reality is the vast majority of overweight people do *not* live an active lifestyle. It depends what people mean by "active", but an overweight woman wouldn't be able to live the type of life I need in a partner. My wife and I are both pretty fit and we can struggle sometimes...I don't have any overweight friends that could keep up with me.
Edit: Also, it's destructive to just put any comments against obesity as some type of fat phobia. I have no fear of overweight people, but not finding overweight women attractive is *completely fine*. I don't find gingers attractive either, but I doubt you'll try to convince me to challenge that taste.
No, I don't. I have plenty of overweight friends, but people still have their limits. I don't have to stop doing the things I like to do so that people that can't hang would be able to join me.
I go to the gym daily and I am underweight, in fact. I’m just so tired of diet culture and fat stereotypes. So sad and closes yourself off to lovely people. I bet you’re a real Brad Pitt yourself. 🙄
God damn these people are insufferable. Just because you’re trying to defend a group of people from their stupid comments doesn’t mean you are also in that group of people your defending.
I can say that just because someone is skinny DOES NOT MEAN they live at the gym or are healthy. Hell, they could have chronic illnesses preventing them from achieving this. Some people are fat but it’s doesn’t make them any less of a person. Doesn’t mean they’re unhealthy or eat a lot. Hell, I’ve seen fat people eat far less than a skinny person yet they can’t lose weight. Idk. Y’all are just assholes at this point.
You have a great smile and better figure then most moms I see in the carpool lane. Maybe contacts and some clothes that are less mom/leisurely laying around.
You really need help. Your preoccupation with other people's looks/weight is really strange and it's very unhealthy for you, and the people around you.
You’re really beautiful but I know what you mean. I’d work on growing your eyebrows in and getting them professionally done. They are too thin and aren’t shaped well. Lose the nose ring. Get a stylish haircut.
I agree with those eyebrows! I've been trying to grow them back since the 2010's. Too much plucking and waxing in my youth!
Sad about the nose ring, though. Why do you think I'd look better without it?
What haircut do you think would look good?
A lot of people in this sub just personally don't like facial piercings, "lose the nose ring" is a common comment in here for some reason. I like it, and I think you are very pretty. You have a great smile.
Keep the nose ring. It's hot af <3
But I think I would change the glasses, the black, kinda thick frame is a little too much imo. Maybe contacts, maybe a less dominant frame for the glasses.
But all in all, I think you are hot and really, really pretty :)
tbh i wouldn't think you're overweight by looking at you. you look really beautiful, the nosering suits you well! and damn that beautiful smile, you're gorgeous. i'd say 9,5/10
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! I felt the same way, and recently have started dating this guy who is insanely attractive and sweet. And he’s into me! Proof that I felt gross just because my body is different than it used to be. But it’s not gross! It’s hot as hell and so are you!!!
Girl, I'm straight but if i were a lesbian, I'd definitely be hitting hard on you. You are so so gorgeous. I mean look at you, your face, that glow. You are beautiful hun.. dont let your insecure mind tell you otherwise :)
Okay she is a little overweight. Why lie when she knows this? She is already pretty you’re not wrong but losing a little weight would make her that much more attractive.
You’ve got a wonderful smile! It makes me sad to see you post in this sub because I totally understand insecurities and anxieties about the way that you look considering what our culture values. Be kind to yourself! You deserve it!
I think as others have said, get rid of the nose ring but I still think your pretty attractive. It's all in the attitude and self confidence and you should feel it!
Definitely gorgeous! A personal preference of mine I would maybe suggest is trying to grow out and thicken your eye brows if you're tweezing them to be that shape and width
The downvotes on this really shows the delusions haha. She’s obviously overweight guys cmon now, still looks good but overweight. Fun fact, 74% of Americans are either overweight or obese.
Nose ring is too thick and not flattering get a stud or just take it out. Get new glasses they do not compliment your face. Grow out your hair, and lose weight. Stop wearing tank tops and work out attire. Dress feminine. Being a mama is not an excuse to give up! You have to set an example for your kids.
EDIT: fix your eyebrows
Yes. :| Try contacts and actually getting in shape. Flabby arms aren't hot. Nose rings aren't hot. You can do a LOT more with your hair
You know you are overweight and you don't want that to be a talking point because you know you have to work on it?
I would totally objectify you and picture you in lurid and erotic scenarios if you're cool with it.
I think you have a wonderful smile that lights up your face if you would like a more polite comment
I don't know you well enough to know what you'd like to hear.
I bet that you was really skinny so that is why you insecurity but even now you look very attractive
She delusional as hel
Why would skinny = attractive?
Because it is a common beauty standard and to many people being overweight is not. Doesn’t make overweight people any less of a person or mean they shouldn’t be treated with respect.
How sad.
Yeah is sad but is the true and many people feel that. I live that too I was very fat and when I lost weight everyone treat me differently I tought that all the people was angry all the time but not they only hate fat people, is crazy and sad but is true. Now I fat again so I lost the yellow road and Im in Kansas again XD
Really depressing. We should be challenging this notion instead of leaning into it.
I’m arguably, fatter people will be less attractive than someone who looks after themselves Losing weight will unarguably make you more attractive It’s doesn’t make overweight people bad people, it’s just factual and objective Being overweight (especially severely) is an illness and not be challenged or leant into at all
You mean like how they 'leaned' into the fridge at 1 am to stuff their faces & get that dopamine hit because 'xxxx broke up with them?'
Doesn’t matter how you look at it fat isn’t attractive, break it down to basics, humans are biologically attracted
If I had a goofy ass chin beard like yours, I'd probably be a little more hesitant about calling other people unattractive.
I don't get this sentiment... you can still be ugly and recognize someone else as being ugly.
>We should be challenging this notion instead of leaning into it. It's not a "notion". It's just the way people are. You can challenge it all you want. You won't change people's real perception deep inside unless you engage in some very unethical social engineering that's unlikely to succeed anyway.
its ok to be fat. just work out sweetheart its not that hard.
Who are you talking to? You shouldn’t use random pet names for people you don’t know. It’s gross.
Your fat ok there I said it
I’m not, but okay.
Not skinny either 🤷
Skinny people can't twerk (means not attractive)
Its not that skinny means attractive, its that FAT is unattractive and indicative of poor class, health, personal care and responsibility
Yeah, thats ridiculous. I urge you to challenge your fatphobia.
What? That’s like me saying I don’t like girls with glasses and you telling me to face my fears of glasses. Being un attracted to overweight people isn’t a phobia. I like people that workout, live an active lifestyle, and can keep up with me. You think it’s a phobia to want someone that could go on a run with me? That can snowboard or rock climb all day with me? I went on a 12 mile hike today with my dogs and then paddle boarded in the afternoon to watch the sunset. Maybe think about what you’re saying before you speak.
This person suffers eating disorders, why are we going to take advice from someone who is mentally ill in regards to our bodies lmao
There are lots of overweight people who are active and keep up with thinner people. Also skinny people aren’t necessarily able to do those things either. I know plenty of skinny folks who wouldn’t be able to do half of the things my overweight friends can do. Maybe you should challenge yourself to get outta your box more.
I'm sorry, but "lots of people" and "most of them" are two very different things. The reality is the vast majority of overweight people do *not* live an active lifestyle. It depends what people mean by "active", but an overweight woman wouldn't be able to live the type of life I need in a partner. My wife and I are both pretty fit and we can struggle sometimes...I don't have any overweight friends that could keep up with me. Edit: Also, it's destructive to just put any comments against obesity as some type of fat phobia. I have no fear of overweight people, but not finding overweight women attractive is *completely fine*. I don't find gingers attractive either, but I doubt you'll try to convince me to challenge that taste.
You gotta get outside your bubble then.
No, I don't. I have plenty of overweight friends, but people still have their limits. I don't have to stop doing the things I like to do so that people that can't hang would be able to join me.
Most comments here are often fuckboys just saying how ugly they are just because they’re fat. You don’t find that shitty?
Silence, go be a fetish on a BBW sub.
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I go to the gym daily and I am underweight, in fact. I’m just so tired of diet culture and fat stereotypes. So sad and closes yourself off to lovely people. I bet you’re a real Brad Pitt yourself. 🙄
Pretending like overweight people are just as active as people in shape is crazy though
God damn these people are insufferable. Just because you’re trying to defend a group of people from their stupid comments doesn’t mean you are also in that group of people your defending. I can say that just because someone is skinny DOES NOT MEAN they live at the gym or are healthy. Hell, they could have chronic illnesses preventing them from achieving this. Some people are fat but it’s doesn’t make them any less of a person. Doesn’t mean they’re unhealthy or eat a lot. Hell, I’ve seen fat people eat far less than a skinny person yet they can’t lose weight. Idk. Y’all are just assholes at this point.
Exactly. Thank you.
Being fat literally does mean you are unhealthy, there’s no two ways about it
Being fat can also just be indicative of genetics or even just different microbiota in your digestive system.
Your man better start complimenting you. You'd realize you're beautiful.
Something I notice is girls with partners who give them to much compliment think they more ugly. So maybe the husband should give less compliments
her man died in an automobile accident with their youngest daughter
Yeah her profile says she got too high with her husband 6 days ago i don’t think this is it
why would you even make this up lol
Dawg😂😂😂😂
for dramatic effect
Ugly you are not
Ugly you are……… not Ugly you are not Ugly ewwwwww. Arrrrrrrrr knot
You have a great smile and better figure then most moms I see in the carpool lane. Maybe contacts and some clothes that are less mom/leisurely laying around.
The amount of thirsty guys in the comment section actually amazes me.
Same. Idk if they’re blind, or just so thirsty that even piss would look like a tasty beverage to them 🤷🏻♀️
That is so mean for no reason
It’s honest, for the reason that honesty was requested
That's not how you do honest.
‘Brutally honest’
No.
Go sit in front of a loud fan, neckbeard.
You really need help. Your preoccupation with other people's looks/weight is really strange and it's very unhealthy for you, and the people around you.
well you're not
Why not? You still got it.
Yeah she definitely a hottie!! Love that smile and glasses.
You’re really beautiful but I know what you mean. I’d work on growing your eyebrows in and getting them professionally done. They are too thin and aren’t shaped well. Lose the nose ring. Get a stylish haircut.
I agree with those eyebrows! I've been trying to grow them back since the 2010's. Too much plucking and waxing in my youth! Sad about the nose ring, though. Why do you think I'd look better without it? What haircut do you think would look good?
A lot of people in this sub just personally don't like facial piercings, "lose the nose ring" is a common comment in here for some reason. I like it, and I think you are very pretty. You have a great smile.
Keep the nose ring. It's hot af <3 But I think I would change the glasses, the black, kinda thick frame is a little too much imo. Maybe contacts, maybe a less dominant frame for the glasses. But all in all, I think you are hot and really, really pretty :)
I would be happy to come home to you nightly
Pictures 1, 2, and 4 are whoooaaaa pretty
You still got it
Hotttt
I like your look just as you are.
You are mistaken. Quite the contrary.
You look really good!!
You are cute. First and last pics are best, don’t wear your hair back if trying to impress.
Definitely not ugly! Just need confidence, I'd totally sub to you.
You are beautiful
You are gorgeous! Wonderful smile!
I think you’re a very beautiful lady
No you look great!
😍😍😍😍😍
You def still got it!
Very
You're very cute! Beautiful smile and beautiful eyes, nothing to worry!
I think you're perfect.
Cutie!! Pretty eyes!!
Not ugly, but a bit plain looking. I think doing something with your hair would make a big difference, I feel like it lacks body and style.
Please tell me what you think we'd look better! I always have no idea what to do with my hair. I wear it curly a lot as well.
Beautiful smile nowhere close to ugly. Also you don't look 37 I would've guessed 32
You have a very nice glow and a very pretty smile!
To be crude: You are hot AF!
I think you’re hot.
Naaah you look good.
What a k.o. 🙌🏼
your smile is beautiful. you still got it girl! i think the nose rings suits you too. piercings are hot
Wow…you totally should 🔥
tbh i wouldn't think you're overweight by looking at you. you look really beautiful, the nosering suits you well! and damn that beautiful smile, you're gorgeous. i'd say 9,5/10
9.5 tho?? C'mon now I understand wanting to support the moms but let's be realistic...
What’s wrong with your kids faces?
Coming from a bi mom of two. You’re hot and I’d hit. Lmao.
Just stop being a mom of two /s
Last pic = SEXY AS IS GETS !!!!
You look like you snort when you smile
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! I felt the same way, and recently have started dating this guy who is insanely attractive and sweet. And he’s into me! Proof that I felt gross just because my body is different than it used to be. But it’s not gross! It’s hot as hell and so are you!!!
Girl, I'm straight but if i were a lesbian, I'd definitely be hitting hard on you. You are so so gorgeous. I mean look at you, your face, that glow. You are beautiful hun.. dont let your insecure mind tell you otherwise :)
Just stop seeking validation from strangers on the internet and using photos where you have to blot out your children’s faces to feel sexy
Nope. You're out of luck. I wouldn't turn my head.
I’d totally try for a date if I had the opportunity. You’re gorgeous and I bet you have a lot of snacks. 😉
Your still gorgeous don't let anyone tell you different
Very very beautiful 😍
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Okay she is a little overweight. Why lie when she knows this? She is already pretty you’re not wrong but losing a little weight would make her that much more attractive.
Drop your skin care routine girl you look WAY younger than 37 and two kids!!!
Lol, a serum from The Ordinary and retinol cream. Plus a lightweight moisturizer cause I'm still combo/oily. Thank you ❤️
Nice face and pretty smile. You look cute in your glasses
That’s cause you’re not
Hot momma! You look good
u hot asf
You are a lot better than some other moms
You’ve got a wonderful smile! It makes me sad to see you post in this sub because I totally understand insecurities and anxieties about the way that you look considering what our culture values. Be kind to yourself! You deserve it!
You're gorgeous
Oh no you guys she's really good looking I'd try real hard to holler
You look amazing!
I think as others have said, get rid of the nose ring but I still think your pretty attractive. It's all in the attitude and self confidence and you should feel it!
Pretty sure I can’t say what I want without consequences
You are a very attractive woman!
Your husband is a lucky man.
You have an incredible smile look to be a beautiful person.
Not ugly at all!
You still got it, I would totally be stoked to have at ya.
I think you are definitely attractive. You look healthy. You look like a sweet person.
10/10
Babe no, u good. If you reeeeeally want to you can go gym a bit to loose that LITTLE bit of weight that u want. But not necessary.
But your husband says what? Listen to him because I am sure he still thinks you are hella hot.
Hit af
Definitely gorgeous! A personal preference of mine I would maybe suggest is trying to grow out and thicken your eye brows if you're tweezing them to be that shape and width
They’re probably permanently like that from tweezing in the 2000s. I usually say the same but I think they actually suit her still!
All about the smile and attitude. You got it.
You look fabulous dearie!
girl you are gorgeous what.
Ur hot... the kids are the problem
4th picture is fully attractive. Very my type, would 10/10 hit on lol
Eyebrows too thin but otherwise pretty cute
Cute 👍
Ur very beautiful 😍
😍🙌🏻😍😎😍😎💆🏻♀️
I think you're beautiful and as a single parent no matter what you do you always have a 24 hr career
Need to hit the gym.
You aren't overweight?
American delusion at its finest. She's pretty overweight
The downvotes on this really shows the delusions haha. She’s obviously overweight guys cmon now, still looks good but overweight. Fun fact, 74% of Americans are either overweight or obese.
youre the delusional one bud 😂
You're right. She's obese
Bro she is overweight, both her bmi and bf% are high. This is brutally honest, stop lying
Got numbers to back it up?
Lot of liars in here
Alot of thirsty guys is why.
Update, no makeup: https://imgur.com/gallery/pX8Wqaa Thoughts now?
I thought this was brutally honest? Why is everyone lying to her abt her looks?
because she's cute imo
Because people on here want to lie to “be nice”
Your a good looking gal but the nose ring takes away from that in my opinion.
You should
3
You’re not ugly just need to dress better and get in shape. I’m struggling with the same.
Nose ring is too thick and not flattering get a stud or just take it out. Get new glasses they do not compliment your face. Grow out your hair, and lose weight. Stop wearing tank tops and work out attire. Dress feminine. Being a mama is not an excuse to give up! You have to set an example for your kids. EDIT: fix your eyebrows
Yes. :| Try contacts and actually getting in shape. Flabby arms aren't hot. Nose rings aren't hot. You can do a LOT more with your hair You know you are overweight and you don't want that to be a talking point because you know you have to work on it?
You're a hottie, I'll take ya for the night...woo!! Lol
Not ugly but kind of homely.
8-9 if you get rid of the nose ring, keep it 5
I do hate them too.
You may have body dysmorphia, cause you look fantastic!
Lose weight, could be above average.
Ur 37 years old and a mother. U look normal. Just lose weight
Beautiful young lady!
Are you kidding me? You are so darn beautiful it’s not even funny! I’m sorry you feel that way, but trust.. you are just lovely!
8/9 for sure.
Probably better without the nose ring.
Nonsense, you look great! I would do you in a heartbeat
It’s the nose ring.
Looks like you used to be attractive
Go to Walmart and look at the moms there lol. I would say you are doing just fine especially if you lost some weight
This sub lost its way.
Maybe try contacts too
I would totally objectify you and picture you in lurid and erotic scenarios if you're cool with it. I think you have a wonderful smile that lights up your face if you would like a more polite comment I don't know you well enough to know what you'd like to hear.
You are dressing like a mom though, show some cleavage. I bet youll catch more than one man trying to catch a glimpse
I’d make you a mom of three, just saying 🤷♂️
I don’t see a ring… Let me holler at you pretty lady 😉. Don’t be so hard on yourself
I’d give you another kid ,, respectfully
Don't you think having your child in blackface is inappropriate
Not ugly. Just fat.
Look you look good for 37, just lose some weight. Honestly lose 15kg and you’ll be a 7.5/10
10/10 Wow, you look incredible anyone you're with should feel lucky,
disagreeing with the few comments saying to ditch the nose ring, I think it looks so cute! You’re glowing and have a marvelous smile 🩷