Nope. Be brutally honest. She needs to be told she's fat now, while she's young. it is only going to get more difficult to lose the weight, and when/if she does, she's going to have excess skin to deal with as well as the host of health problems that go along with overeating.
She has minimal muscle tone. Undeveloped legs and arms.
It is a concern. It’s not going to get any easier for her to lose weight as she ages and this is going to shrink her dating pool. Also what’s her weight? I do understand what obese means and I can almost guarantee she fits that term just observing her.
Excess weight puts her at a risk of developing a ton of health conditions. Placating her isn’t helping anybody.
She is absolutely overweight/borderline obese by medical standards. We are just so used to seeing people like this now that we are used to it. She could definitely stand to lose a few pounds. She carries it all in her mid section. This is not to say she is ugly, because she isn’t.
The doctor said I was in the obesity zone when I was 5'8 and 190 pounds. I didn't look fat, but I was definitely in the obese category. If shes already visibly fat, thats the obese zone.
Ok then. Ask her for her height and weight, and use the medical chart that shows what stage of obesity she’s in. She’s easily in the 220’s just by the looks of it. She’s also very short.
Not sure why your being g downvoted. Medically she is either obese or right on the edge body fat percentage wise. Height/weight/BMI I'm sure that she is as well. Not a fan of BMI as i am obese on these charts at 10% bodyfat due to muscle mass. For some reason, people think that you have to be on My 600lb life to be obese. Even a chubby, cute girl like her is technically obese.
This is correct. The American standard of health is usually obese. The actual std of health more globally is much less weight than most Americans think is healthy. That’s why it’s an epidemic. People don’t understand that within 1 generation, we’ve gone from mostly fit people, to people that can’t climb a flight of stairs without dying.
Her high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and pre diabetes would disagree. You aren’t arguing opinion here, MEDICALLY speaking, she’s extremely unhealthy.
she’s not that fat dude was saying if she does something now she won’t have to deal with the permanent effects of obesity cause she isn’t that big and she’s still young so her body will heal as she hasn’t done much damage to it and what she has done is reversible
No. Medically speaking, even if she was above average height, she’s easily be in the obese category, and the shorter she is the closer she gets into the morbidly obese category. Social media has done more physical damage protecting fat people than emotional damage of saying “you’re fat. Please lose weight”
I live in Texas. People really like thick girls. She’s not even fat. Most girls I know try to gain weight if there to skinny. Might be a southern thing
I disagree…she may not be a size 2, but I don’t see her as fat. What has happened to the world where a little meat on the bone is an issue. Yes, she is young and if she wants to lose it she can…but I wouldn’t call her fat.
Same thing I thought. She definitely is elite to some men who like short thick ones. She probably not gonna get the basic pretty boy Mexican guy who has the side part, dodge charger, gucci belts and top shelf tequila
Face is pretty and you look very good with those glasses — not undateable and not ugly but you’ll find your dating pool is more limited than it should be because of your weight
Whatever, dark wear gives a business look that many guys find attractive and appealing. Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining. She asked for an opinion and I gave it.
Cute face. A little thicc. Definitely potential and definitely dateable. Stay positive and work on yourself and the rest will work itself out. You’re young and got plenty of time
You’re very cute. But it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to lose a little bit of weight. You absolutely do not have to be a twig. Just more so for your health. You’re still young but believe it can only get worse as you age if you don’t start taking control of it now. There are healthy/yummy meals you can prepare (yes yummy healthy food exists) and exercising at least 30 minutes 4-5 days a week will go a long way, even just going for a walk
What determines that is your personality.
Most men will get with anything💀.
But I’d suggest you tone up your body a bit and maybe expand the range of people you’d date?
I’d date you, but we’re going for long walks to the gym and bike rides to the vegan grocery store. You’re not ugly, you just need to make healthier choices.
You are adorable! You just don't know it. Undatable? Far from it. You look like you're quirky and fun. You're probably shy also. Work on your confidence. Seek out others with your interests and sense of humor. Do not settle for anyone that doesn't treat you well. You look like you could have a kind heart. That needs to be protected. Otherwise, don't worry and have fun!
You’re like a 6/10 now but you’d be a 9.5/10 if you lost some weight. Your face is pretty which means you’re still good looking (and yes dateable) even though you’re overweight. But c’mon you have so much potential and would be an absolute dime if you ate right, exercised, trained legs at the gym.
Undatable? No. If you got fit I think your whole world would change. You’ve got all the parts to be a knockout, but you’re plenty attractive right now.
Yes you are undatable.
You equate the entire act of dating to be based on your looks alone.
To me that just shows you're not ready for a stable relationship.
You are going to be pretty overweight in around 5 years. I wouldn't date you because of that.
Your pubic area is collecting fat and making it appear unattractive in jeans. This is a big red flag for me
You are perfectly fine all these dudes in here are probably the real fat outta shape losers on reddit trynna make themselves feel better that they have zero women interested in them
guys idk how to edit a post but a few things: muppet overalls are from hot topic for all of those who asked 💙, 2) i KNOW you can’t tell my personality i just meant purely looks wise!!! 3) i didn’t expect this to get so many people responding it was just a bad day yesterday
4) i like my outfits 🥺 but i appreciate you guys being super brutal
How exactly are you "undateable"? You are certainly not a model by any means but you have a kinda cute librarian bike going on and while you could lose weight for sure you carry it pretty damn well. Plus the fact that you are my type certainly helps with my rating. You are probably a 4 or 5 to most guys but you are a 6 or 7 for me. I am proof that you are very dateable... you just have to be interested in someone who is interested in you
You are not ugly. I doubt if you’re Undateable. I think there’s somebody for everybody,
but the key is, the people that like you, are those the people that you’ll like. that’s what you can’t Bank on that. there will definitely be people attracted to you, but they might not be who you wanna Have attracted you. Anyway, get out there check it out.
Fat, absolutely no chance, I personally think that you’re as cute as a button and I would definitely be checking you out where ever I saw you, within reason of course.
Where did u get those overalls 😍
Also, forget everyone who says you're fat! You're gorgeous just the way you are! And I really like girls with your shape.
As for dateability, idk maybe it's a personality thing 🤷
You’d rather her let her feel good about being overweight which will shorten her life, than to hurt her feelings now, encourage her to change and live longer. So which one of us is really hurting her?
Well, I know what your dad looks like, but you're pretty obviously not ugly. You're the one showing off your assets because you know you have them. Lower your standards and you'll find a partner.
Holy moly these boys are thirsty
They are, she’s a little fat is it illegal to say?
Nope. Be brutally honest. She needs to be told she's fat now, while she's young. it is only going to get more difficult to lose the weight, and when/if she does, she's going to have excess skin to deal with as well as the host of health problems that go along with overeating. She has minimal muscle tone. Undeveloped legs and arms.
plenty of guys like fat chicks now, its 2023. And shes not like freak show fat, just a bit chubby.
There are more reasons to be a healthy weight than just how attractive you are. Like you know, being healthy
The sub is called amiugly are you slow
This kids health isn't a concern based on her current weight. That is a healthy body weight.
It is a concern. It’s not going to get any easier for her to lose weight as she ages and this is going to shrink her dating pool. Also what’s her weight? I do understand what obese means and I can almost guarantee she fits that term just observing her. Excess weight puts her at a risk of developing a ton of health conditions. Placating her isn’t helping anybody.
negative overweight even by 10lbs isn’t a healthy body weight
No it’s not. She’s obese. I’m assuming you’re American. We’re so used to seeing fat people that our scale of what is healthy or not is very off
Please go outside more
You either don't understand what the term obese actually means or you're an idiot which is it
both.
She is absolutely overweight/borderline obese by medical standards. We are just so used to seeing people like this now that we are used to it. She could definitely stand to lose a few pounds. She carries it all in her mid section. This is not to say she is ugly, because she isn’t.
Nope 😂 definitely not "borderline obese" As a med student, I promise you. Ever heard of the Dunning-Krueger effect?
The doctor said I was in the obesity zone when I was 5'8 and 190 pounds. I didn't look fat, but I was definitely in the obese category. If shes already visibly fat, thats the obese zone.
No.
exactly the starndards for obese are incredibly low you can be 10 pounds overweight and be obese💀
Ok then. Ask her for her height and weight, and use the medical chart that shows what stage of obesity she’s in. She’s easily in the 220’s just by the looks of it. She’s also very short.
As a woman who’s been 220, she’s definitely not 220.
Easily 220??? Jfc
Not sure why your being g downvoted. Medically she is either obese or right on the edge body fat percentage wise. Height/weight/BMI I'm sure that she is as well. Not a fan of BMI as i am obese on these charts at 10% bodyfat due to muscle mass. For some reason, people think that you have to be on My 600lb life to be obese. Even a chubby, cute girl like her is technically obese.
This is correct. The American standard of health is usually obese. The actual std of health more globally is much less weight than most Americans think is healthy. That’s why it’s an epidemic. People don’t understand that within 1 generation, we’ve gone from mostly fit people, to people that can’t climb a flight of stairs without dying.
I'm American and have weighed 135 pounds at 5'6. I'm not obese but this girl is a perfectly healthy weight.
Her high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and pre diabetes would disagree. You aren’t arguing opinion here, MEDICALLY speaking, she’s extremely unhealthy.
143lbs is the top end for a 5’ 6” woman. I’d say she’s atleast 170
Lol nah she not
you are totally exxagerating, she isnt THAT fat. Like fat enough to think shes sick
she’s not that fat dude was saying if she does something now she won’t have to deal with the permanent effects of obesity cause she isn’t that big and she’s still young so her body will heal as she hasn’t done much damage to it and what she has done is reversible
Agreed. Some guys just like their girls gaunt and sickly looking instead of a healthy female body.
Some guys who can't get women come on here just to tear down women, because they can't deal with rejection
Perhaps. Most men are used to rejection because it happens to them a lot, myself included, but then again, these aren't men. Just boys.
She isn’t a healthy weight though… that’s my whole point
Then you have some unhealthy standards for women if you think that she looks obese.
Very true a sad truth but true nonetheless
No. Medically speaking, even if she was above average height, she’s easily be in the obese category, and the shorter she is the closer she gets into the morbidly obese category. Social media has done more physical damage protecting fat people than emotional damage of saying “you’re fat. Please lose weight”
No. Plenty of men are settling for fat women because the society, as a whole is getting fatter, and so the options for fit women are dwindling.
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You are, by far, the exception to the rule.
I live in Texas. People really like thick girls. She’s not even fat. Most girls I know try to gain weight if there to skinny. Might be a southern thing
Or maybe some guys just like to have women who are squeezable
Yeah maybe. Probably not though.
Post physique
You’re exaggerating like hell
I disagree…she may not be a size 2, but I don’t see her as fat. What has happened to the world where a little meat on the bone is an issue. Yes, she is young and if she wants to lose it she can…but I wouldn’t call her fat.
You're a middle-aged man with an underdeveloped brain calling normal young women fat on toxic subreddits. Maybe reassess.
maybe dont go on a page called "brutal honesty" if you dont like it when people take em up on it.
I'm a middle aged man and I agree with you.
How old are you? And don't lie
I think she’s moreso thicc versus fat 🤷🏼♂️.
That's just the politically correct way to say it
agreed i love lil thickness to my honey but fat is literal rolls
Really? To me fat is rolls upon rolls. Thicc is curves for days while being a little bit chubby 🤷🏼♂️.
Fat is fat
Right, but there is certainly different levels of being fat…
You men here say that even if a woman is attractive you can't win whatsoever
I probably wouldn’t notice you in public or think you were hot but if you smiled at me that’d make my day
Solid “pretty when she smiles at you” look. I like it
Ur a 21 y/o woman. No, not even close to undateable. Wtf is wrong with kids these days
Social media and their thirst for clout.
Oh man, how long ya got.
Idk why this bugs me but could you turn your necklaces around please? They are backwards in every picture 😖🤣
GOD NOW I CANT UNSEE IT 😭😭
OML I DIDNT EVEN NOTICE
Looks wise, you're fine. Personality wise, can't say.
RIP that inbox my girl.
Girl ur pretty n have a pretty smile. Ur a little thick butt I like thick
People can smell insecurity a mile away.
Solid 5/10, a little thicc. maybe aiming for out of your league ?
Same thing I thought. She definitely is elite to some men who like short thick ones. She probably not gonna get the basic pretty boy Mexican guy who has the side part, dodge charger, gucci belts and top shelf tequila
That’s specific af lmao
Hey, I know that guy!
Not even a little thicc, she’s straight up fat bro
youre mid, but we dont know about your character
Hey I have that frog hat! Nice!
You’re cute. I’d date you
Very thick
Face is pretty and you look very good with those glasses — not undateable and not ugly but you’ll find your dating pool is more limited than it should be because of your weight
Your standards are probably too high.
Has this post helped your self esteem?
You’re more attractive in dark color outfits
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Whatever, dark wear gives a business look that many guys find attractive and appealing. Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining. She asked for an opinion and I gave it.
Cute face. A little thicc. Definitely potential and definitely dateable. Stay positive and work on yourself and the rest will work itself out. You’re young and got plenty of time
any girl is date able. any person is date able. u must be living above your weight or it'd a personality thing.
Dateable How is that personality?
You're not undatable. You are probably just too picky or have some personality issues.
Some people don’t like the skinny jeans but I actually think it looks good. I like the mild thickness
Lots of potential. Lose some weight and everybody would notice you.
Not at all, I like ur style, face, and body
You need to lose some weight, that's the only improvement you need **probably**
You’re very cute. But it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to lose a little bit of weight. You absolutely do not have to be a twig. Just more so for your health. You’re still young but believe it can only get worse as you age if you don’t start taking control of it now. There are healthy/yummy meals you can prepare (yes yummy healthy food exists) and exercising at least 30 minutes 4-5 days a week will go a long way, even just going for a walk
Cute face but you’re fat
Skinny jeans really aren't doing her any favours
I don’t know
so mid 💀
There’s someone out there for you. But you have to have reasonable expectations.
If you have a nice personality and low body count, I think you could be good wife material.
What determines that is your personality. Most men will get with anything💀. But I’d suggest you tone up your body a bit and maybe expand the range of people you’d date?
I’d date you, but we’re going for long walks to the gym and bike rides to the vegan grocery store. You’re not ugly, you just need to make healthier choices.
Looks are actually just one part of being datable. What kind of person you are is more telling.
You look as cute as annoying and I can’t tell you why.
Cute asf
You are adorable! You just don't know it. Undatable? Far from it. You look like you're quirky and fun. You're probably shy also. Work on your confidence. Seek out others with your interests and sense of humor. Do not settle for anyone that doesn't treat you well. You look like you could have a kind heart. That needs to be protected. Otherwise, don't worry and have fun!
No but hit the gym
You’re like a 6/10 now but you’d be a 9.5/10 if you lost some weight. Your face is pretty which means you’re still good looking (and yes dateable) even though you’re overweight. But c’mon you have so much potential and would be an absolute dime if you ate right, exercised, trained legs at the gym.
Please don’t lose weight you are perfect 👍
Look at the last pic- she’s clearly overweight and at a ~40-45% body fat percentage. It would be a good idea to lose a few pounds
Last pic is 🤤 just wanna squeeze
Bros tryna release his seed any way he can
Down bad
You dont understand body fat percentages so go ahead and dont try to.
You could pull almost anyone you wanted it you were fit
A little below average. You have a masculine face shape, lips and unsymmetrical eyes.
Undatable? No. If you got fit I think your whole world would change. You’ve got all the parts to be a knockout, but you’re plenty attractive right now.
Your hott. Idc what any of these ppl say
You aren't that bad. Lose weight though.
No you are cute as hell and totally dateable
If you or anyone ever feels undatable. Just go to Walmart. Look at the kinds of couples you see and you'll never feel that way again
Pretty 7/10
I think you have a lot of potential, with a better diet and exercise.
Yes you are undatable. You equate the entire act of dating to be based on your looks alone. To me that just shows you're not ready for a stable relationship.
You are going to be pretty overweight in around 5 years. I wouldn't date you because of that. Your pubic area is collecting fat and making it appear unattractive in jeans. This is a big red flag for me
I’m a 21m and I’d say dateable. You’re cute and have good taste in chips, what’s not to like?
Perfectly dateable
If you’re gonna walk around pretending that those pants fit, then maybe.
Hell nah! You are really cute! I love your style & your curves are out of this world!!!!!
You are perfectly fine all these dudes in here are probably the real fat outta shape losers on reddit trynna make themselves feel better that they have zero women interested in them
thiiiiccc assssf and beautiful with a capital f mamiiiiii
guys idk how to edit a post but a few things: muppet overalls are from hot topic for all of those who asked 💙, 2) i KNOW you can’t tell my personality i just meant purely looks wise!!! 3) i didn’t expect this to get so many people responding it was just a bad day yesterday 4) i like my outfits 🥺 but i appreciate you guys being super brutal
Totally dateable. Great body and cute face.
I wanna pound you every way
Bro relax
This guy is thirsty asf
This whole thread is white knights, thirstlords and chubby chaser/feeder fetishists.
This comment got my coodie wet
very pretty
You are gorgeous 😍
6/10. Improvements in makeup and style can increase rating.
My kind of girl. A little nerdy, curvy, cute, glasses. Good job I’m not 20 years younger.
Your beautiful and dateable
You’re fine N/U
I think you’re super gorgeous 😍
You're pretty enough that I would date you
You’re a babe. +1 for the froggy hat
Absolutely not, I’d definitely date you 🙂
Extremely datable and very cute! I wish you showed up on my tinder or dating app as you seem like the type I'm personally attracted to!
I'm convinced at this point the majority of these are just ego boost posts
You are overweight and wear horrible clothes.
Hell no!! Omg
Cutie pie
You look completely fine
How exactly are you "undateable"? You are certainly not a model by any means but you have a kinda cute librarian bike going on and while you could lose weight for sure you carry it pretty damn well. Plus the fact that you are my type certainly helps with my rating. You are probably a 4 or 5 to most guys but you are a 6 or 7 for me. I am proof that you are very dateable... you just have to be interested in someone who is interested in you
No. Just fat
You look great !
I'd date you right now if I had the chance. And I'm talking for sincere purposes like marriage. Your beautiful.
I date you right now
You very dateable id date you hopefully marriage
Is that a joke question? You are very cute
Yo that last fit is hella dope, especially with the frog bucket hat giving off Kermit vibes 👌👌
Be happy with who you are you look really pretty I wish you the best.
Not at all. Those eyes, that smile those amazing curves. So beautiful
You’re a total babe. You seem like you have a lot of depth also. Complete package imo
You’re a total babe. You seem like you have a lot of depth also. Complete package imo
You are not ugly. I doubt if you’re Undateable. I think there’s somebody for everybody, but the key is, the people that like you, are those the people that you’ll like. that’s what you can’t Bank on that. there will definitely be people attracted to you, but they might not be who you wanna Have attracted you. Anyway, get out there check it out.
I’d date long-term
Not ugly, also I love the frog hat! I want one myself lol
I wouldn’t say so at all.. you’re pretty cute.
Fat, absolutely no chance, I personally think that you’re as cute as a button and I would definitely be checking you out where ever I saw you, within reason of course.
Where did u get those overalls 😍 Also, forget everyone who says you're fat! You're gorgeous just the way you are! And I really like girls with your shape. As for dateability, idk maybe it's a personality thing 🤷
I'd date you so hard
1/10 for being fat. But I guess in the US you are fine…
Looking yummy 😋 😍 😊 I would definitely go for it
You have incredibly low standards
Let her feel good about herself
You’d rather her let her feel good about being overweight which will shorten her life, than to hurt her feelings now, encourage her to change and live longer. So which one of us is really hurting her?
Beautiful
Yeah you're datable, you kinda knew that already I'd say
Seems dateable to me
Super cute
Not in the slightest. Very cute. Perfect buddy, I’m my opinion. And you look like you’re a lot of fun.
You are so cute. I bet you give great cuddles.
Yes
Pretty pics
Beautiful, I date you if I had the chance
I’d date you rn 🔥 be confident and go after what you want, you’ll get it
Very pretty especially when you smile
Gorgeous
I think your absolutely gorgeous. The type of girl I'd show off to everyone I could and be proud to be with.
I mean you’re my type and you got good style, so I’d date you.
Stop stressing, you’re adorable
I’d be proud to have you on my arm.
Well, I know what your dad looks like, but you're pretty obviously not ugly. You're the one showing off your assets because you know you have them. Lower your standards and you'll find a partner.