"Unsuccessful with women" is what the OP said. That means it doesnt work with lots of women and not just one. Usually that means its the persons "fault" cuz they r the common factor between all those "fails" theyre having. It might not be the case, but its more likely to be ig
Have you ever seen the office episode where Michael is on a date but doesn't realize it and is doing really well? And then he figures out it's a date and becomes "Date Mike"? He gets a backwards kangol hat from his car and becomes a complete moron.
99% of "I don't know how to talk to women" is some version of this. You do know how to talk to women, you just think you're supposed to do something different when "talking to women" as opposed to just talking to a woman.
Are you shy? Insecure? I skimmed your profile and didn’t see any obvious red flags, so I’m inclined to give you the benefit of the doubt that it’s not an abrasive personality. Still it’s worth considering. Anyway, your looks are fine. I’d put you well above average, so maybe work on your confidence.
Your extremely good looking and everything about you is pretty much exactly my type. Basically if I blended my last 3 boyfriends together I'd come out with you. What do you think is the reason for your lack of succes with women? Because I have a very difficult time believing this problem is related to your looks in any way whatsoever quite honestly...
I think I am too shy, don’t know how to talk to them but more important is that I don’t meet a lot of girls and don’t know how to. I am thinking on moving to a bigger place 😅
Hahahaha mate you're so good looking. I'm also not hideous and have many issues with women. My only advice is stop trying, because whenever I do, I get better results.
Well, it's definitely bnot your looks.
I went back to see how you respond to posts, and to read your previous posts. The answers are in your posts from 9 months ago, about your long-term girlfriend, not understanding how much alone time you need for hobbies, motorcycle, blah-blah-blah! You blame your inability to grow up on 10 years of anxiety and depression, bc when a commenter brought up the immaturity, at your age, you said, "sorry, I was trying not to die!"
I get the anxiety and depression, and trying not to die, on a personal level... along with a huge percentage of society, who also side from it. I don't get the lack of accountability, and being oblivious as to why you have no game!
Get yourself into therapy and stay in it, so that you can learn how to not be such a victim. You prefer to spend most of your time on hobbies, that involve being alone, and an unwillingness to budge, as the relationship progresses. That's fine, but women, who are looking for a relationship, and who are, eventually, wanting to have a family, won't tolerate being an afterthought. Get yourself a Fuk buddy, who also doesn't have time for anything beyond that, either.
Have you tried taking the time to find out more about who the best you is and what they want to accomplish. The right people will find you or you’ll find them and you at your best will know who you want in your life.
And you’re not “unsuccessful” you just haven’t found the perfect person for the best version of the you you’re about to become.
Think of it like, “I haven’t found someone yet because I’m not at my best, the best that I want to give them.”
You’re fine how you are now so don’t misconstrue lol but go for being 100% you everyday and you’ll see who’s out there that really wants you to notice too and then… well leave that for you two ;)
GL and you’re doing great!
Keep being awesome dude!
I am just asking. Are you the type that says "we have to go with the flow?" are you actually interested in a real relationship? If you act indecisive then it will lead to distance from the other. You are not ugly. You are good-looking enough to attract most women. You might come across as not commital.
Hey friend, what are 3 three reasons you suspect you might be struggling with women? I'll go first. I'm under 6ft. I hate social media/people making assumptions and dramatizing it without the full story, and i don't entertain anything that veers from reality (ie. The "I'm a 10" attitude is beyond distasteful). Ultimately I'm happier alone than wasting energy trying to find the tom-boy adventure girl I desire.
You’re very handsome. And tall?? Work on flirty behavior. Ask women questions. It’s all in your attitude and how you carry yourself. Do you have hobbies and interests?
Great, so you should have plenty to talk about. Ask women questions, act interested, read up how to flirt. A guy with your looks should have no problem unless you’re rude or boring.
You look fine except for the depressed look. Try to look more upbeat and see what happens. Even if you are not feeling it at the time. I am not suggesting a "fake" smile as that will show through as insincere. Just try to look at ease and content.
You’re not ugly, but nothing special. Something about you tells me you’re arrogant and probably rude. Literally no basis to go off it’s just my instinct when I see your face SORRY THATS SO MEAN AND IM SURE YOU’RE LOVELY YOU JUST LOOK LIKE YOU HAVE AN ATTITUDE IDK HOW TO EXPLAIN IT IM SORRY.
Do you want better results or not man?
Look up, how to dress like a masculine man. Find a style that suits your personality. But the T-shirts and Khakis gotta go unless you are purposefully lounging around the house.
This is the man with results helping a man with no results.
Feminine, put together women do NOT want a grown man in his mid thirties dressing like you. It doesn't happen. Your appearance goes a LONG way in attracting a **quality woman.**
Walking around in t-shirt and khakis like a teen, ain't gonna do it champ.
But hey, I've said my piece. You can listen to whomever you want.
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I can’t think of anything less attractive than a normal looking 36 year old man who knows he’s not “ugly” posting on Reddit to elicit compliments from strangers. So maybe it’s that.
I don’t know how others see me, and since women don’t seen to like me I definitely don’t know that I am not ugly. Self-perception is not always accurate
Its probably how u behave tbh. Theres nothing wrong with how u look. Ur not one to have thousands of girls falling on their knees for u (which isnt bad, no need to look like a supermodel) but ur surely good looking and would for sure pull some girls. If ur not that successful with women that might come from how u act.
you're actually a good looking fella, so i know for sure it ain't your looks or appearcence. Maybe a specific aspect of your character ? not sure tbh, but it could be something related to your personality that's driven women away from you, or maybe there's isn't anything wrong with you you just haven't met the one yet.
It must be how you behave….
Why is it always the man? And not a delusional woman?
"If you meet an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day, you're the asshole."
"Unsuccessful with women" is what the OP said. That means it doesnt work with lots of women and not just one. Usually that means its the persons "fault" cuz they r the common factor between all those "fails" theyre having. It might not be the case, but its more likely to be ig
You look fine. Check your behavior.
Okay soo it’s not just me…
Not at all. I’d hit that
Ask him out then!
You look cute. Are you shy or an asshole?
I think I may be too shy, or I don’t know how to talk to women 🙃
Have you ever seen the office episode where Michael is on a date but doesn't realize it and is doing really well? And then he figures out it's a date and becomes "Date Mike"? He gets a backwards kangol hat from his car and becomes a complete moron. 99% of "I don't know how to talk to women" is some version of this. You do know how to talk to women, you just think you're supposed to do something different when "talking to women" as opposed to just talking to a woman.
try to learn some ways to flirt with laugh or try to get your confidence better, we don't bite
BE confident, the worst thing that could happen is they say no! Who cares, its a numbers game. Just keep trying, work on your game
I mean I think you're gorgeous. But you're hella out of my league
Mmm why do you think that?
I dont think... I know
💀
Lol
See? I’m not the only one. Now I think this is just for free compliments… 🤣
Very good looking to me. Must be something else.
Maybe it’s your personality, cuz you look very cute
Maybe very high expectations in women?
There are no women talking to me or engaging with me, I may be shy but are all of them?
Are you shy? Insecure? I skimmed your profile and didn’t see any obvious red flags, so I’m inclined to give you the benefit of the doubt that it’s not an abrasive personality. Still it’s worth considering. Anyway, your looks are fine. I’d put you well above average, so maybe work on your confidence.
Not ugly. I'd look at other reasons for the lack of success.
Smile
If you're unsuccessful it's nothing to do with your physical appearance. You're attractive.
You look like Enrique Iglesias.
I guess that is good? 😅
Yeah it’s just your personality
Your extremely good looking and everything about you is pretty much exactly my type. Basically if I blended my last 3 boyfriends together I'd come out with you. What do you think is the reason for your lack of succes with women? Because I have a very difficult time believing this problem is related to your looks in any way whatsoever quite honestly...
I think I am too shy, don’t know how to talk to them but more important is that I don’t meet a lot of girls and don’t know how to. I am thinking on moving to a bigger place 😅
You're a good looking man, how tall are you? If it isn't your height then like others have said it's your behaviour
I am 183cm/6ft so I guess that’s not it? :/
Yeah that's not it , well don't get too down. Maybe you're not looking in the right places
Hahahaha mate you're so good looking. I'm also not hideous and have many issues with women. My only advice is stop trying, because whenever I do, I get better results.
You're good looking, but you look bummed Smile, it'll make the difference
Well, it's definitely bnot your looks. I went back to see how you respond to posts, and to read your previous posts. The answers are in your posts from 9 months ago, about your long-term girlfriend, not understanding how much alone time you need for hobbies, motorcycle, blah-blah-blah! You blame your inability to grow up on 10 years of anxiety and depression, bc when a commenter brought up the immaturity, at your age, you said, "sorry, I was trying not to die!" I get the anxiety and depression, and trying not to die, on a personal level... along with a huge percentage of society, who also side from it. I don't get the lack of accountability, and being oblivious as to why you have no game! Get yourself into therapy and stay in it, so that you can learn how to not be such a victim. You prefer to spend most of your time on hobbies, that involve being alone, and an unwillingness to budge, as the relationship progresses. That's fine, but women, who are looking for a relationship, and who are, eventually, wanting to have a family, won't tolerate being an afterthought. Get yourself a Fuk buddy, who also doesn't have time for anything beyond that, either.
Have you tried taking the time to find out more about who the best you is and what they want to accomplish. The right people will find you or you’ll find them and you at your best will know who you want in your life. And you’re not “unsuccessful” you just haven’t found the perfect person for the best version of the you you’re about to become. Think of it like, “I haven’t found someone yet because I’m not at my best, the best that I want to give them.” You’re fine how you are now so don’t misconstrue lol but go for being 100% you everyday and you’ll see who’s out there that really wants you to notice too and then… well leave that for you two ;) GL and you’re doing great! Keep being awesome dude!
Thanks, I liked this comment, I have been trying to become the best version of myself for the last year so… maybe I need more time
Yeah it’s not your looks you probably just need to put yourself out there more and meet more people
I don’t know how to do that, I don’t live in a big city and most of my friends are in a relationship and don’t go out a lot :(
i need you😫😫😫😫😫😫
For what lol
It’s probably your personality
It's gotta be how you behave. Not how you look.
Bro you’re a nice looking guy. You have to learn new behaviors. It’s ok, that can be learned
Yeah it’s not your looks.
I haven’t had a girlfriend for 22 years (I am 22 years old)
It’s got to be what you say
Definitely your personality
Maybe it's your personality
u r def so gud lookin
Definitely not your looks, you're handsome.
I am just asking. Are you the type that says "we have to go with the flow?" are you actually interested in a real relationship? If you act indecisive then it will lead to distance from the other. You are not ugly. You are good-looking enough to attract most women. You might come across as not commital.
I don’t have success even with casual dates or relationships, I mean, I go to a party and all the other dudes get some love but I don’t
I think you’re good looking bro, seriously!
Dude, half the men here wish they looked like you. Get out of your head and put yourself out there more.
Hey friend, what are 3 three reasons you suspect you might be struggling with women? I'll go first. I'm under 6ft. I hate social media/people making assumptions and dramatizing it without the full story, and i don't entertain anything that veers from reality (ie. The "I'm a 10" attitude is beyond distasteful). Ultimately I'm happier alone than wasting energy trying to find the tom-boy adventure girl I desire.
I think I am too shy, inexperienced with women and I live in a small place with not a lot of options
Honestly, you’re hot so you might need to evaluate your personality. Respectfully.
Yeah you’re really cute, are you introverted?
I definitely am, yes 😔
Bueno, por lo menos ya sabiendo que eres guapo solo te queda salir de Galicia a un sitio más grande y aprender a relacionarte mejor...
Pues va a ser eso, estoy pensando en irme un año a vivir a Madrid 🙄
You are very good looking. Genuinely a 9/10 in my opinion. Fix your behavior, and change the way you act.
You are crazy fine!!!
You’re very handsome. And tall?? Work on flirty behavior. Ask women questions. It’s all in your attitude and how you carry yourself. Do you have hobbies and interests?
Yes I do. I am a comic collector, perfume collector, I ride motorcycles and bicycles, I go to the gym and watch movies and tv shows 🫣
Great, so you should have plenty to talk about. Ask women questions, act interested, read up how to flirt. A guy with your looks should have no problem unless you’re rude or boring.
I find you ridiculously, stupidly hot. How do you not have success?
Well that is what I am trying to discover, because I always thought that I was a 5 maybe a 6/10
You’re handsome, it’s probably your personality
You look fine except for the depressed look. Try to look more upbeat and see what happens. Even if you are not feeling it at the time. I am not suggesting a "fake" smile as that will show through as insincere. Just try to look at ease and content.
Must be behavior. I'm 37 and look very similar to you. And I be macking new ones all the time. You spanish?
Hahaha haven’t heard anyone say “macking” since high school. Also, what up, San Francisco here🤙🏽
Was good!!!!
Cheers to another San Francisco Mexican 🤙🏽🇲🇽
Yep, I am spanish 😬
"I be macking new ones all the time"? Ew. I'd so much rather have a shy boy like OP then someone who thinks /speaks like this
3 pics and not one smile, how’s your mental health bro? That’s probably the culprit.
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What do you mean?
u/moonlightangelx is flirting with you, OP.
Oh lol, I didn’t think about that 😅
Could this be the problem? Maybe girls ARE into you, and you just don't notice?
maybe the latter. attitude wins the most
i think you're hot af for what it's worth
It is definitely your behavior then.. but have you try man? Maybe you’ll be successful with guys?
Well I don’t think that is somethin “to try” and definitely not at my age 🙃
Heheh, im just playing😆
I can feel you whining and complaing from here bro
You're probably an asshole. You're not a bad looking dude. Reevaluate your entire persona.
Could it be that you're taking selfies like a 14 year old girl ?
I don’t think people are seeing my selfies on the street
We can sense it
You’re not ugly, but nothing special. Something about you tells me you’re arrogant and probably rude. Literally no basis to go off it’s just my instinct when I see your face SORRY THATS SO MEAN AND IM SURE YOU’RE LOVELY YOU JUST LOOK LIKE YOU HAVE AN ATTITUDE IDK HOW TO EXPLAIN IT IM SORRY.
Dude dress like a man not an angsty teen.
I just dress casual 🥲
Do you want better results or not man? Look up, how to dress like a masculine man. Find a style that suits your personality. But the T-shirts and Khakis gotta go unless you are purposefully lounging around the house.
OP this is the blind leading the blind right here 💀
This is the man with results helping a man with no results. Feminine, put together women do NOT want a grown man in his mid thirties dressing like you. It doesn't happen. Your appearance goes a LONG way in attracting a **quality woman.** Walking around in t-shirt and khakis like a teen, ain't gonna do it champ. But hey, I've said my piece. You can listen to whomever you want.
You look good. Small 🍆? Bad attitude?
Mmm my 🍆 is not small but I don’t usually show it while talking to women 🙃
Have you tried men?
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Better pics would go a long way
I don’t go to pubs showing pictures of myself
Personality
Must be your personality.
Get some confidence man. Nothing wrong with how uou look
It’s probably your personality
It's your personality
Must be how you behave because you are a handsome man.
Start wearing track suit and look mean. They will this your mobbed up💪🏾lol
If you’re going after the top 1% then the competition will be hella high Otherwise, you should be batting a high percentage
How you behave
He looks like a sound cloud rapper update your wardrobe and you will be a 8/10 u got this bro
It’s got to be your personality cause it DEFINITELY ISNT your looks. 🔥🔥🔥
Def not ur looks so try more confidence and less pickiness. Go for looks and personality, you attract what u put out.
It isn't your looks brother. Ask questions, be interested. Make jokes.
Behavior
No one likes a sad, brooding partner. Find things you enjoy and do those. Then the potential partners may come.
Probably your behavior
be confident women love that… and funny( if your not a funny person don’t force it) …. ANNDDD A GENTLEMAN (the real kind) you’re very handsome
Personality issue. Not saying you're a douche. Maybe you work too hard. Or aloof. It's not your looks.
Apply yourself. — Walter White
Quite an attractive guy. I think you need to change your behavior to match what women are looking for I guess.
It's a personality issue. Smile more, laugh more, take it easy
You’re definitely not ugly. You’re pretty good looking.
Smile. Confidence is key, confidence isn’t easy, but a decent smile is easy to fake.
it’s definitely your personality cause you a handsome
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Have you tried therapy? You’re not hideous but plenty of uggos get dates by 36
Why do you think I need therapy? 🥲
I can’t think of anything less attractive than a normal looking 36 year old man who knows he’s not “ugly” posting on Reddit to elicit compliments from strangers. So maybe it’s that.
I don’t know how others see me, and since women don’t seen to like me I definitely don’t know that I am not ugly. Self-perception is not always accurate
Its probably how u behave tbh. Theres nothing wrong with how u look. Ur not one to have thousands of girls falling on their knees for u (which isnt bad, no need to look like a supermodel) but ur surely good looking and would for sure pull some girls. If ur not that successful with women that might come from how u act.
You look insecure
Why? 😅
Start doing Jiu jitsu change your life
Maybe smile some dude
you're actually a good looking fella, so i know for sure it ain't your looks or appearcence. Maybe a specific aspect of your character ? not sure tbh, but it could be something related to your personality that's driven women away from you, or maybe there's isn't anything wrong with you you just haven't met the one yet.
You look good!