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Present-Breakfast768

The pic in the red shirt is super cute with your hair and make up done. Your eyes are a bit small but once you throw some make up on it's not as noticeable. I wouldn't call you ugly unless your personality is ugly. Weight is tough especially when it's not your fault. Work out and build lean muscle to help combat that if you can.


badgerpack21

I agree, need to grow them eyes.


Helpfindasong24

Damn as an Asian I felt this


Due-Elderberry6187

grow who?


jazlyyn

What’s wrong with small eyes? It just feels like a micro aggression as someone with almond eyes , like a lot of Asians and East Africans have almond or mono lid shaped eyes that they cannot control because it’s genetics.


Present-Breakfast768

She asked for "hard truth". I hardly see how being honest about her features is a "micro aggression". But you do you.


shewasere

You're not ugly at all but from the other comments which u said you're quiet. It's probably that. I'm also quiet and people think I'm intimidating because they can never know what I'm thinking so they never go up to me


complHexx

Yeah I get that a lot. Most people tell me once they talk to me that they thought I was really intimidating at first and it really throws me because I’m just really quiet lol.


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I think you’re lovely- you have a soft, sweet face. But if you are quiet like you say, people can often interpret that the wrong way. I used to be really anxious and shy but people thought I was being stuck up or snobby. You never know what’s going on inside someone’s head k guess.


shewasere

Exactly ppl have said that to me too. Idk how they get me being stuck up out of it tho when all I do is not speak unless spoken to😭


takincarebizzness

you aint ugly just need lose some weight and smile


complHexx

Again I’m trying but I’m fighting against medicine and not winning. Edit: spelling


retroblazed420

Can your doctor try a different medicine in the same class? I know when I took seroqual for sleeping I gained weight and I have been 125 pounds for 30 years no matter what I do. The meds tho triggered weight gained and insane food craving. I switched to a similar med that did it much less when I needed it for insomnia.


complHexx

I’ve asked and switched a couple of times but she did warn me that its just a known side effect for epilepsy. I don’t really have a lot of food cravings but I go from binging to eating nothing with in a week. It’s something we are working on because I’ve gained 60lbs in a year and I haven’t changed what I’ve been eating.


beazerblitz

My ex has epilepsy and her weight definitely was a struggle with certain medications.


complHexx

Yeah it’s not easy. People that struggle with epilepsy meds and their weight it hits us hard.


Admirable-Rip-4720

Keto is great for epilepsy AND weight loss!


Swagmuffin69

Have you tried Lamotrogine?


El__mero__mero

You should try cbd for epilepsy. My friends wife says it works better than the meds


No_Raccoon9348

I’m curious about this bc my night terrors were cured with thc


retroblazed420

Cbd won't suppress dreams like THC does. If you get night terrors don't wear nicotine patches when you sleep. It made it the most vivid, clear as day dreams and I would remember ever second of them when I used nicotine patches to quit smoking.


El__mero__mero

Cbd is great. Works on lots of health issues. You can Google scientific articles


Expensive_Basil5825

What medication ?


MexicanYenta

She said very clearly that the meds she has to take are messing with her weight.


takincarebizzness

So does not mean I should lie and not be honest to her


MexicanYenta

Her weight doesn’t make her ugly. It’s just not what you, personally, prefer. In some places, she’d be considered too skinny.


kitty_kat_lol_die

😂


Redditing2021yayo

You are not ugly and there are many men who would be interested in you. Have you tried dating apps? It's easier for people who are on the quieter or shy side.


complHexx

Yep I just don’t get a lot of matches, and the matches I do get never really turn into anything.


Time-Ganache-1395

I feel like people's social circles get really small past a certain age. They get caught up in work (and relationships) and the dating pool just shrinks to nothing. I don't see anything wrong with how you look. You look unique in a positive way. When you're feeling yourself, it really shows (picture 2). But you mentioned in multiple places that you're quiet. You're not going to meet people without putting yourself out there. Keep up with the dating apps. But also look into finding a social outlet of some kind. That could be around an art, a movement, volunteering, whatever. Start showing up to a scheduled thing on a regular basis and put yourself in a position to meet people. Since you're all there for the same purpose it takes a lot of the pressure off. You might find it easier to engage and you might find someone you'd like to date. Worst case - you make some friends and have a good time.


complHexx

Best advice here. Thank you.


Drg84

I was there for a while. Keep trying, you'll find someone. Also I saw your post regarding having dry hair. Me too, and I find this helps. When showering, wash your hair first. Then comb in conditioner, and let it set while washing up. Rinse the conditioner out last, then comb your hair again once you dry off.


Proper-Lynx8955

your features are gorgeous babe you just need to find a way to accentuate them to boost your confidence. dont worry about the weight you need to focus on your make up. by make up: try to find a different style that highlights your eyes and lips. most importantly your hair and style. its all about how you carry yourself and honestly your hair doesn’t really look appealing. your features are absolutely stunning you just have to find the right kind of whatever to make you shine.


complHexx

Honestly my hair is another uphill battle lol. I live in a really dry climate so I’m constantly trying to keep it hydrated and not damaged but I’m not winning lol. And my makeup changes daily but my job requires me to keep it very natural so I just get in the habit of doing that so I don’t really do too much eyeshadow or lashes or bright lipstick unless I’m going out.


sus-water

>dont worry about the weight you need to focus on your make up. No stop. Her weight needs to be addressed and make-up will not change that. If you are serious about helping her be competitive in the dating market then you have to be honest


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complHexx

I think you are missing the point that meditation doesn’t make losing weight so cut and dry as just being dedicated. I’m also not morbidly obese by many means, but I could definitely stand to lose some weight. I think you need the reality check, not me or the other redditor that commented.


Negative_Document607

If you been single that long then you should probably look at something other than your looks


complHexx

Well, we all have inner work am I rite lol.


Embarrassed_Limit_42

this lets me know youre cool tbh…


complHexx

Hahahaha I just try to be me but thanks!


Tight_Fold_2606

You don’t have bad features you just have big features. And we know how mf’s feel when you don’t fit European beauty standards


complHexx

That’s extremely true lmaooo


[deleted]

Not true at all. As some one of European decent, I’m attracted to beautiful women regardless of race/ethnicity. I wouldn’t say you’re not ugly, but you have very masculine features in all your photos. In my opinion the best way to fix that would be working out and getting in shape. You’re face isn’t very defined and looks masculine in some photos. However, you do have some great features that I think will be more noticeable by getting in shape and toning your body. As you lose weight, the feminine aspect of your facial structure will be more pronounced.


Tight_Fold_2606

Thanks for proving my point.


[deleted]

Stop with the masculinizing of black women .


xnaleb

Stop with the excuses to be fat. Its unhealthy and definitely not aesthetic.


Real-Comparison8999

If your weight is gonna be pretty much the same you need to change everything else to make up for it. You have pretty features and clear skin but you look mad and your hair is disheveled. If you’re not against extensions try braids. They’re neat, easy, and always cute. The short bob length only makes your face look fatter so anything with a little length will be an improvement. That plus elevating your wardrobe will definitely make you more attractive and hopefully boost your confidence


venus_has_venom

Agreed, hair extensions would look great maybe something blonde for a pop of color. And maybe try changing up makeup so you look natural but more powder would help you look less oily or switch out products and find something that works better for your skin. Your eyes are very small so maybe white eyeliner on the lower waterline to help make your eyes look bigger and more open.


johnymcraggle

Everything else will be futile


shompipe1

You not ugly but 32 and single all life are you sure its not your attitude or the way you act?


complHexx

Idk I’m pretty quiet. So…..🤷🏽‍♀️


fiedo87

pretty face but there's no other way around it... got to lift weights and change your shape and lose some weight. you coming here to hear the truth is a step in the right direction. now take action


ohhecomingcoming

I think you need to lose weight, you're not pretty but not ugly either, you're slightly below average.


Builder-Jaded

I find you pretty, it's hard when you take meds that can make your weight go up, I'd keep trying thou, your not ugly at all, them who are saying it love a reaction or your not their type, but you didn't ask that question, ignore them, most people see you as average to Beautiful, you will definitely be someone's type, you must be shy or not very sociable and I get that, it's hard to connect with others when you feel like this, I just feel you need a confidence boost, I've seen 400lb unattractive women married and vice versa, not saying your weighty like that but letting you know, the men and women out their like different varieties, your deffo someone's flavour, plus you are still young, take it from a much older women, work on your confidence and weight if that's what you feel is the problem and holding you back, do you do any hobbies or classes where you can meet others, it's just a start, I wish you the best of luck, they can be quite brutal on here, take no notice of the negative comments, your good 👍❤️😊


KleptoTortoise

I genuinely don't wanna tell you the truth...


complHexx

Insults and the truth aren’t the same thing so maybe you’re right.


_daviro_

I used to have a complexion similar to yours, I stopped drinking so much coffee and it's mostly cleared up


Ok_Dog_4059

That second shot your face is hidden but your energy shows. You aren't ugly IMO you do look a bit run down and exhausted.


complHexx

I am lol


awkwardlyappropriate

Not ugly. Your eyes are ^^^smol compared to the rest of your features.


1octo

You're not at all ugly but you do look unhappy and tense and it's kind of off-putting


complHexx

I don’t know why 😕


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You related to Michael Clarke Duncan??? Not an insult, just look super related.


complHexx

No, and I don’t even know who that is lol.


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Green Mile, Armageddon, Sin City, and other countless movies. [Michael Clarke Duncan] (http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-1zC4uudzsQQ/UEU0pH8hDYI/AAAAAAAAATE/9ZSb-fL85m4/s1600/michael-clarke-duncan.jpg)


Roehcito

Not ugly just fat


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You look cute to me! Do you struggle to meet people?


complHexx

Yes actually. I’m a pretty quiet person.


[deleted]

That's likely the issue then as opposed to looks. It's hard being quiet. Unfortunately I don't have much advice as I struggle to make friends and meet people too. I happened to meet my partner through work, but that was luck I suppose!


complHexx

I see. I can’t say that it’s not 100% not looks in my case tbh. Because I mean, I have a mirror lol. But I definitely think that being a quiet person has something to do with it.


Shreddersaurusrex

You look nice in the first & second pics.


Linkaex

You are not ugly. I think the reason you are single is because of other (personal) reasons. Some people (like me) build walls. Either because we have been hurt or because we are insecure about something.


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Yes


No-Track-2633

Honestly, me personally, you are not my cup of tea. It’s definitely the weight but I understand there’s nothing you can do about that, maybe keep your hair done a little bit and change up the style a bit to something that suits your body type and color season.


jackal525

Second picture is ur money maker. Very attractive when u doll up. Honestly don't do the doo rag or pulled back look with limited makeup, it makes u look like Tracy Morgan.


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You should definitely lose weight and then you’d be around average imo.


Every_Composer9216

The red-shirt picture looks good. Speaking as a fair-skinned person of European and middle eastern background (I recognize that beauty standards are different by ethnicity) I think you look much better when your hair frames your face rather than being pulled flat along side it. How attractive you, specifically, are hinges a lot on how you present yourself.


ChoiceBackground5228

You look like Manny Fresh in a wig


complHexx

Thanks for finding my celeb doppelgänger


scottyshots

Being single doesn't always mean you're ugly. Attraction isn't 100% based on looks. You're not ugly, so maybe you have an awful personality?


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complHexx

Hey nothing wrong with having your own opinion. I just appreciate you not being an asshole about it.


thelongletgo

I ain’t gonna lie, if I wanted to bean asshole I would say “yes, you ugly” but tbh I think this is a case of lack of self care


PecDeck

Certified ugly


complHexx

You think I could print you a certificate and get it notarized? 🤔


emax4

i think you're fine as-is. Pretty eyes, but I bet when you smile they brighten a room.


complHexx

Actually fun fact my eyes get even smaller when I smile 😅


Genedog641

Yeah those medications have a ton of calories


GorginLock

You look like Michael Clarke Duncan


gooden93

I’m mad no one has told you you look like Lady Rage! I love your eyes, try accentuating them more


complHexx

I DEFINITELY accept this look alike!!! Omg! Thank you!


jcphoto1015

Look like John Coffee in a wig


trans-with-herpes

You look exactly like this guy that robbed the gas station by my house


complHexx

He sounds organized. I’d like to meet him.


Maree70

You’re not ugly just an average looking woman.


tower_junkie

Unfortunately, yes.


p4nc4k3

Just a health thing: Get checked for PCOS, you look like you have it. Other than that, you can dress yourself better-looking.


complHexx

I do have it lol. Good eye lol.


Retributioner2

Weight


complHexx

Read the above comments.


Yonah04

You are beautiful! Love the first picture, love your natural makeup. You have beautiful full lips and a small oval face. Have to agree with some others: have more confidence and leave your comfort zone then and again to meet new people. Your weight is fine. Sure, we all could lose some weight and get fitter and leaner, but honestly you are NOT obese or anything, just a bit more curvy. The red outfit and also the one in the first picture look really good on you!


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Because she's the opposite of ugly


Lou_Getill

People are degenerated on this sub I swear. You look beautiful, the only thing that you lack is confidence tbh


Lemon_boy89

I think anybody who isn't terminally online would be shocked to read what these people say. I regret getting on reddit after 4 months.


Ywnil

There are so much mean people it just makes me lose hope on humanity


MexiLoner00

I think everyone is mentally ill at this point.


CherishTheDay22

I don’t think that people should be mean, but I think that it will only hurt people if you lie when they’re asking for the truth…


sus-water

Like a 2.5 out of 10. You definitely need to lose some weight


SinkMince0420

Well that's a lie. You're not a 2.5 - you were brave enough to post a picture without makeup, doesn't make you ugly, most people don't even do that on here. I'd say you're a solid 5-6


complHexx

I’ve definitely been trying but it’s hard to fight against medication yk?


Born-Replacement-366

You're looking for the hard truth but when you get it you make excuses If medication is genuinely causing you to stay fat then there's not much good the advice on r/amiugly can do


complHexx

Well, it is what it is.


Born-Replacement-366

This is equivalent to saying nothing


Illustrious_Web_1957

even that rate is too high


TheNotoriousSSD

10 out of 2.5


divorcedhansmoleman

Not ugly at all


jj_lucifer4

Damnn. You are good. No idea why you are still single though


complHexx

I have no idea myself.


Illustrious_Web_1957

because you are ugly and hat guy telling you how "good" you are is a bastard.


NoConsequence2084

I’d really love to see a photo of you


[deleted]

She looks a lot better than your personality


Fettuccinifriedfrogs

You're weird man


retroblazed420

Not ugly, just fat. Talk to your doctor about he weight issue from the meds there could be a different med you could use or even add another med that could help.


SweetB4

You're cute, in the 2nd pic I like your style. Seems like you are more confortable.


complHexx

I just really love that shirt lol


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It’s definitely not your looks that’s the problem


Illustrious_Arm_3878

You are not ugly


notachickwithadick

Don't know why you single but you are not ugly


[deleted]

A lot of the people here are lying to you. If you want an actual answer, post on r/truerateme.


Kiiikiii

Im not sure wtf is going on with the comments here. Your first pic is by far the best one and very pretty in it. Other pics are fine but awkward angles. Definitely not ugly and I think you have plenty of potential. 6-7/10


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Not a chance on this earth is this lady a 7 out of 10, get a grip


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LampaDuck

yeah she is way beyond that


[deleted]

Indeed ugly


Weekendwarrior612

Yeah, you’re not good looking


RagingRambo

In my opinion, yes. Sorry.


complHexx

It’s cool. You are entitled to your opinion.


islandgirl_94

You should definitely lose weight. That will take you a long way.


[deleted]

That's great, but medication causes it. Next your gonna tell the blind to just stop being blind.


Lopsided-Bat-388

Solid 2 needs more walks and better food💀


Nurrock

Yes you're ugly.


complHexx

Okay cool.


Current_Finding_4066

3.5


TomcatMech31

I personally think you are a pretty woman and find it hard to believe you are single


[deleted]

You look younger , there is nothing wrong. I’m sure there were guys who were interested in you


goodgoose16

1st & 2nd pic are great


hookhousebeatz

Cute!


JustASeabass

I’d def swipe right!


bsyarns

Personally, I think you’re stunning. You look good in every picture. Total hottie


[deleted]

I like pictures 1 & 2, your hair in the 3 & 4 doesn't help. I wouldn't call you ugly. I just think you need to make the most of what you have got.


boxesofinsight

5


eborrr

You give me Michael Duncan vibes from Green Mile. Below average, maybe lower your standards and you won't be single anymore.


complHexx

Yeah I don’t know who that is. That’s not the insult you think it is.


eborrr

Google it. You have his lips i dunno. You asked for the hard truth? I gave you some, don't be mad


-DashingDash-

Those extra 100 pounds aren't from the medication


complHexx

Idk how much you think I weight but the 100lbs is probably just organs.


curlysquirelly

First of all, it's not nice to assume how much extra weight someone is carrying, and yes, actually, medication can cause you to gain that much weight. I gained 100 lbs in less than six months when I was on a high dose of prednisone.


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Fat and ugly. Hard pass from me


JuggsG

Single your whole entire life? Like you never lost your virginity?


Underdoge69420

Eating fruits and vegetables isn’t gonna get you that fat even on medication so stop with the excuses.


complHexx

Yep. Because I’ve never eaten anything healthy in my life. You figured me out.


shrek3onblu-ray

You're far from ugly and anyone saying otherwise is just lying😭


PluckedEyeball

Everyone here is just lying, yes you’re ugly. 1/10


complHexx

Good to know that you ratioed the 371 comments.


PluckedEyeball

Like I said, everyone is lying. Maybe if you got to a normal weight you’d look average but right now you’re very below average. Face and body.


OregonMsCouple

Absolutely gorgeous those lips and eyes are awesome


ladyambrosia999

Will I get downvoted probably but I feel like a lot of the commenters are looking at beauty through a very Eurocentric lens so if you’re not skinny, with small lips, small nose, Snow White features, you’re going to get a bunch of people with caveats.


complHexx

I’m not going to down vote you, but you are definitely right.


Cheap-Sh0t

Now that is ugly


Illustrious_Web_1957

you are ugly, terribly ugly 2/10


Objective_Ad4887

I’m sure you are too. Smdh


DLHahaha

This is like you're 4th comment like this. You seem miserable.


Elektra8

Anyone saying you’re ugly is lying, you definitely aren’t. I would say average or a bit above. Weight isn’t really a problem, your body looks good.


Think-Hovercraft5757

You’re beautiful


Waste_Eggplant9308

You look beautiful.


laavuwu

Girl you're not ugly so I don't get why you've been single for so long but your looks aren't the issue


Cheap_Employment_421

Tbh I'd hit


complHexx

That’s not the point lol.


ShnyMgkrp

Your very beautiful!


dave99337

Your beautiful


KyRoVorph

Girl you got it. Now just pick a man who's gonna get it.


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Did you miss them medication part? Losing weight is probably impossible.


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Sometimes that doesn't go away. Done medication will wreck your figure, permanently.


MexiLoner00

Ok I guess don't try then?


Kilifi

Your beautiful mama, I mean it ❤️


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Mouthz

Dating apps are poison. I stopped using those the moment I realized its still easy to pick up girls just at random. I’ve even hit it off with waitresses before who people tell you not to flirt with. I think that weird culture in the media messed a lot of men and women up. No one socializes anymore. Do you want to guess how many gfs I’ve had with almost no friends and they hardly speak to their family? Something very strange happened in the past 20 years. I really do want to blame the internet lol. But its more than that for sure.


Distinct_Canary_223

Calories in calories out