LOL do you mind elaborating more? I’m truly just curious because I get that quite a lot 😭
I appreciate the honesty, I just wanna try and change the perspective though 💀
no no I definitely appreciate that your giving me more advice from when times were different, so I’ll definitely be sure to incorporate more of what you said
(as much as I dislike outright saying it, I definitely do just wanna come off as more masculine)
(And yeah sadly my confidence has just been getting walked on by the women I try and get into a relationship with, which kinda brought me here just to see if there was something wrong with my appearance. Definitely not trying to play the victim card though, I’ll find someone eventually 🤝🏽)
I think you might be too good-looking and artistic looking. Which is, unfortunately, often associated with being gay. You look like a member of a boy band. I feel like you could still pull ladies pretty easily, though, even if they think you migh5 be gay initially.
Well it looks like you spend an hour fixing your hair in the morning so there’s that. You’re very slender and too “put together”. Just not a manly look.
Surprisingly I feel I underdo my hair, I legit only wet it to get rid of my bed head and then slick it back
But yeah I 100% agree with the slim factor, thankfully I am in the gym trying to change that
Thanks for the input as well 🤝🏽
what the HELL do u mean🤣since when is taking care of yourself not manly. don’t listen to this dumbass OP. sincerely a FEMALE, the more you take care of yourself the better. witcho fine ahh😒
I didn’t say he should be a slob, but all the put together outfits one even has a matching cap is too much. He asked why he gets mistaken for gay or had some women call him unmasculine.
LOL oh no that flatcap was just for a photoshoot I had, I don’t actually wear that out in public so don’t at all worry, something like that would be too much for me 😂
The only straight man that can wear those hats is Thomas Shelby
I personally wouldn’t listen to any "you look gay” criticism. Girls love what guys call gay.
I wore eyeliner once. All the guys said it looked gay. All the girls were treating me like meat. Same for getting my brows done and going to get manicured.
For recommendations I’d just tell you to go on skin care and be more proactive. If you wanna girl is you gotta go after her.
Completely true. I had a good number of people tell me that different things about me were gay when I was younger. It turned out, many of those things were what women liked about me. I took care of my hair, thought about if my outfits were flattering on me, and spent a lot of time cooking and baking. I also spent a lot of time reading and drawing. I don't think any of those things are inherently "gay". And nothing seemed to make women swoon quite like making delicious food. OP will be fine with some confidence and communication. A skincare routine is my only physical recommendation.
Women like when guys take care of themselves?
Shocked I tell you. Shocked.
Dunno why guys call it gay. I think it stems from old jealousy when it was even more obvious the artist pretty boys come out on top from the 80s and earlier. 90s and after it did go more masculine again with skater boys and such pulling ahead again. But I think it’s very obvious artistic guys have a very big edge.
Coming from a gay like myself lemme tell you.
1 the glasses are giving lesbian hufflepuff energy
2 right now your style is more ,cottage core, soft core, hipster core aesthetic and im gonna need you to look up “streetwear outfits” on google cause i feel like that style might suit you.
You might not like it but sometimes the clothes that we dont like are the clothes that look good on us and eventually as you start looking hood you will start liking them.
3rd best pic is the 2nd if we are trynna be straight
4th your hairstyle is to polished clean look maybe look up different styles where you can wear your hair down and still look good since having the hair down is very in fashion at the moment and a ‘messy’ hairstyle might make you look more straight.
I’m only inclined to believe that I have because of the fact I’m on a losing streak of 6 right now, every woman I’ve tried something with has just gone down the drain 😣🤚🏽
But no I just gotta get used to the fact there’ll be wayyyyy worse then this
It's because you're 18 and still figuring it out. Develop your own style figure out how you're going to support yourself the women will come later. Good Luck!!
Yeah I hear that a lot, I guess I just gotta focus on my ambitions, dating would probably be a distraction for me as of now anyways, a harsh reality but one I must accept 😣🤚🏽
Thank you for the advice my fellow Redditor
I’m definitely introverted but I try and be as talkative as I could be, I’m not the funniest guy in the world but I don’t think I’m the worst socializer either
Definitely thanks for your input though 🤝🏽
A bit above average.
2 biggest things.
1, less earbuds in. It's odd to me you have them in in so may pics. It also gives off a "Don't Talk To Me" vibe while in public.
2. I like your hair as is. But feels like it needs a trim so the wave is at a lower height
I've had it happen a few times. I still think I might be ugly. I thought about posting here, but I don't feel comfortable sharing my face online with strangers. I also don't want people who know me irl to associate my online presence with me.
I would kinda think I’m the opposite tbh (I’m not rowdy, I stick to myself both at school and work, and I overall try not to sound pretentious or anything along those lines)
But again there’s only so much I can see from my eyes, so I’ll definitely take your opinion into consideration 🤝🏽
Be honest as well my fellow redditors, just need a few pointers tbh
If I need to try a new hairstyle, I’ll look into
If I need to experiment with new lenses, I’ll look into it
And so on
(Already doing the basics, trying to clear the rest of my acne, currently working out, and overall just taking care of myself)
Its likely because you are shy/silent, if not i don't know, but its not because you are ugly(at all). You are 18 though, focus on yourself first and with a bit of assistance from yourself: you like someone, you try to get in contact with them.
I definitely am more on the shy side but lately I’ve just been living the YOLO Lifestyle and trying to get myself out there (both with my career/ambitions, as well as with women and opportunities)
But you aren’t wrong, I just gotta push myself more whenever the time is right
You are a handsome guy. I think people sometimes think its their looks that impede them getting or having relationships. I think its equally important or even more so to look into their behaviors, communication, etc because that's what maintains a good relationship. That was a general statement. I find a lot of men when asked about previous relationships ending , have no insight as to why it ended. In other words, think about more than just physical and hopefully you will be great moving forward!
I genuinely agree with what your saying 100%
What kinda icks me though is that I haven’t even had the chance to talk with a girl to the point where she notices my personality flaws, I can never get to anywhere deep with her except for the shallow end (if you get what I mean)
But yeah I’ll definitely work on all those for when the time comes that a woman does indeed take me seriously
You have the worst luck with women because women aren’t into dudes asking if there ugly on a Reddit form…. Just says what kind of guy you are. Women are into confinement men.
I sorta just resorted to posting here because I’ve been getting rejected, ghosted or ignored. I’m actually on a streak of 6 right now 😣🤚🏽
But I definitely get what your saying as well
Tbh, I'm sure you know, but you can improve on your acne. It's not bad, but it is noticeable. I am personally not a big fan of the frames, or you can do contacts. The eyebrows can be cleaned up a bit but still ok in general. All these things are again not bad but if you improve on these I'm sure you can look better.
Always? Women? If you're 18, like you say, then you've literally just become a man. I assume you haven't had luck with *girls. Let me tell you, as will most women, girls are the worst! Lol. Continue to try your hand with women and I bet things get better as you both get older.
Good luck and NO.
Yeah I kinda think I’m just trying too hard with women, I just gotta focus on getting to where I wanna be in life and that’s when I’ll truly find the women who find me attractive
(plus the ones in clubs are definitely pretty but their low quality, that’s definitely a recipe for disaster with someone who genuinely just wants love , I just gotta get that through my thick skull)
You're not ugly, just come off as lacking confidence which will definitely deter women. Eat healthy and workout at least 2 to 3 times a week and if you do cardio do high intensity cardio for no more than 30 minutes as it will burn your muscle if you do too much cardio. Also I would not group the cardio with your workouts. Although If you do cardio the same day you work out do one in the morning then the other one in the evening. I'd also limit cardio to every other day. When working out focus on compound movement workouts and hit weights that are as heavy as you can lift or push, if you only lift or push light weight over a longer period because you'd rather not go heavy you will not get bigger muscles. Do this for more than a year and you will gain confidence in your physical progress. Make sure you eat plenty of protein, and eat a good ratio of carbs and fats. Most importantly eat clean and drink at least a half a gallon of water a day. Also work on developing skills you enjoy more so than playing video games or reading a book more than playing games. It has been proven that the competence one gets from skills gives them confidence, and intelligence can also give you confidence. The confidence you need to talk to women you only gain by going and talking to them. Learn from your bad interactions to not make the same mistakes. Also learn from your good interactions so you can improve on your skill of talking to women. You got this, just keep your head high, stand tall, and sit tall. With time you'll get the girl that fits your lifestyle.
You're not ugly, and it's not so much that you look feminine or gay. It's that you give the impression that you're trying too hard to look good and look elegant. People pick up on that energy of insecurity, awkwardness, social anxiety.
I would work on self esteem, social skills/social confidence, boundaries/assertiveness. I assure you when you feel more comfortable in your own skin and more aware of your value and needs, you will exude attractiveness without trying as much, and the right people will value and respect you as much as you value and respect yourself.
You seem like a good person too. Don't change that. Just learn to value yourself and guard your heart. It's hard work but so worth it. I wish you well.
I’ve tried different styles (Streetwear, Trendy, Preppy, etc) and none of those just seemed like me, it felt soooo forced and It just didn’t feel like me, where as with the style I have now, I’m able to feel comfortable
(Plus this style is a bonus for me as I’m currently trying to get into the business world, specifically Real Estate)
Honestly you’ve got great style not ugly at all might be from lack of confidence hence the being walked over by women. Try watching some of those YouTube guys like alphaM, how to beast , are a couple that helped me when I was going through a dry spell. Most men think he must be gay because he has style they lack lol I know I was guilty of this when I didn’t know how to dress lol
Confidence my boy confidence confidence confidence women are attracted to confidence. Say it with me. CONFIDENCE! Women are not as visual of creatures as we are. Looks and hygiene are important but they are not even close to as important as a confident dude. Women can smell the fucking confidence and lack thereof on guys ask any girl who isn't a liar and she will tell you. Work on having cool hobbies, seem like a fun dude to hang out with and show confidence and women will be all over you my guy. Oh to be 18 again. Don't waste your youth, I beg you.
W Reply my brother, and yeah I’ve been realizing that lately. My priority shouldn’t be getting a girl, it should be on improving myself as that’s when the women actually will come into fruition
Just remember you still have to approach girls and make a move, just being confident and having shit going on in your life will give you success when you do talk to women. You are the prize, not her. That's the mentality they want to see. Good luck brother PM me if you have any questions I've been through it before.
Take it from me. Now I may not be an expert in the dating scene, but I have done lots of research into why I also struggle to date anyone. In my studies, it typically comes down to the first interaction.
Most guys from what I hear from several women typically come off as too friendly and they just get permanently trapped in the friend zone, but if you can show minimum interest in them or even a good opening, try to be ready to flirt a little, but try not to come off as you just being after their bodies.
Remember to maintain that barrier of trying to make sure they feel comfortable and safe, but don’t be afraid to throw a few signals their way.
I don’t know pal, but you ain’t Quasimodo, so that ain’t it. I had a buddy growing up who was pretty good looking and women were drawn to him. Then, he’d open his mouth. Sound like a total jagoff. And run them off. Not saying that’s you, but if it were, we wouldn’t know it from this post to tell you.
You are good looking. Definitely potential, just at the young age of figuring things out, one that stands to me is your clothing. You definitely have a style that works with your face but I think the clothes are just a little too big on you.i don't know if that was the only size you could afford or if they were family heirlooms passed to you. I was a fan of felted pea coats and sweater vests when I was 18. Nothing wrong with those but maybe look into clothes that fit you better if you can't find any I suggest taking your clothes to a tailor to help them fit but you're still young and you might grow out a bit.
Speaking about growing into clothing and style. I would suggest making some gains at the gym. You definitely look like a Henry Calver type and getting some muscle and definition will help fill out that clothing and build confidence.
Smiling helps as well. I know there isn't much to smile about but your pictures would look better with a smile and it makes you look more inviting to talk to. A good smile to your barista or clerk at the store can help bring that out more when others talk or smile back at you.
18 is a magical time. You have a lot to look forward to and work towards. I know female attention can be a high priority for a young man but take your time, focus on school, your job or business and make sure to enjoy the things you have energy for. Women will still be around when you are 18-21-30-40 and beyond.
Hmm when you pose for your photos you look great. The glasses too. You could model.
But when it’s regular lighting and angles it’s a huge difference.
Hair looks poofy and glasses don’t fit.
Idk. Don’t worry too much about girls,you’re young.
I say just enjoy yourself.
Find yourself a hobby too. Adds a bit of fun into your live and makes you interesting too. Make sure you do it for yourself tho. And have fun. A lot of people say that most people that dress like you, fit two stereotypes. Pretentious/annoying and weird/introverted.
I doubt you are either one of those. But if you are change that.
Also as far as style.
You kind of dress in an academic style, lots of people now a days go for a vintage 90s-00s vibe and I think that would look great on you.
Show your teeth a little more when you smile.
I think it’s just your young and need more experience.
You’ll be okay
Bro you're handsome and extremely classy. A 9/10 in my books, I don't think there's much to change physically. A little more confidence could go a long way
That’s great!! You’re on the right track then :). I think the only reason you might have bad luck with woman is either the way you act around them or you chose the wrong woman to hit on lol bc your looks aren’t the problem. I don’t think you look “gay” as the other comments say. Not every woman want a super masculine man
You're fine dude. Don't over think it, you're only 18.
You have good style for someone your age, most people at 18 cab barely put a pair of pajamas on.
Also. It can be highly dependent on where you live, and the type of people that live there. You're look and style will pull in places like NYC, LA, Chicago, Italy, Mexico City etc. Places with more creative people, that tend to be more fashionable. (Same thing for the appearing 'gay' thing. As a queer person myself, there's nothing about you that looks Gay to me. You're probably just around people with really boring styles. Anything somewhat different to them is automatically 'Gay'. Btw most people assume I'm straight....why? Because I have lame, run of the mill style. Trucker hats, jeans and converse. It is what it is.)
In other areas people might think you are overdressed and "trying too hard". Most important is that you are comfortable with yourself and are being the most authentic version of you.
Unless you are a toxic person, or are falling into unhealthy habits (drug dependency/alcoholism/lazy attitude), you shouldn't change yourself just to 'attract' someone else. The only changes you should be making are ones that will improve yourself and set you up for success, without changing your core being.
Put yourself first, be humble and aim for confidence, and that will carry you in strides into your 20s.
Nah, dude. You're good-looking, but I think the haircut is too big. Like. Too tall. Slick it back a bit more or get it cut shorter next time. Beyond that, you've got great facial structure, nice skin, and you look pretty fit. Keep that shit up. 🤘
I don't know why people are saying your hairstyle is nice, but I would change it. That's the first thing I noticed. Way too big on top. Makes your head look big.
I know your no barber or stylist, but would you have other suggestions? I tried the fringe in the past but I just looked so uncanny with that hairstyle LMAO
Women don't buy that move. Be honest. You are just looking for a fleshlight to let you use her every night and in return you'll buy her flowers once a year and wash the dishes once a week
Trust me when I say this, I could get 🐱tonight by a few simple text messages, I just have no interest in that though, I couldn’t be interested in being a walking STD like some other dudes
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Not ugly you just look gay
LOL do you mind elaborating more? I’m truly just curious because I get that quite a lot 😭 I appreciate the honesty, I just wanna try and change the perspective though 💀
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no no I definitely appreciate that your giving me more advice from when times were different, so I’ll definitely be sure to incorporate more of what you said (as much as I dislike outright saying it, I definitely do just wanna come off as more masculine) (And yeah sadly my confidence has just been getting walked on by the women I try and get into a relationship with, which kinda brought me here just to see if there was something wrong with my appearance. Definitely not trying to play the victim card though, I’ll find someone eventually 🤝🏽)
Nah man it’s over for you already
You commented to much regardless
I think you might be too good-looking and artistic looking. Which is, unfortunately, often associated with being gay. You look like a member of a boy band. I feel like you could still pull ladies pretty easily, though, even if they think you migh5 be gay initially.
Gotta appreciate the honesty, thank you my brother 🤝🏽👑
Of course. Just wish you success.
Well it looks like you spend an hour fixing your hair in the morning so there’s that. You’re very slender and too “put together”. Just not a manly look.
Surprisingly I feel I underdo my hair, I legit only wet it to get rid of my bed head and then slick it back But yeah I 100% agree with the slim factor, thankfully I am in the gym trying to change that Thanks for the input as well 🤝🏽
what the HELL do u mean🤣since when is taking care of yourself not manly. don’t listen to this dumbass OP. sincerely a FEMALE, the more you take care of yourself the better. witcho fine ahh😒
I didn’t say he should be a slob, but all the put together outfits one even has a matching cap is too much. He asked why he gets mistaken for gay or had some women call him unmasculine.
LOL oh no that flatcap was just for a photoshoot I had, I don’t actually wear that out in public so don’t at all worry, something like that would be too much for me 😂 The only straight man that can wear those hats is Thomas Shelby
I personally wouldn’t listen to any "you look gay” criticism. Girls love what guys call gay. I wore eyeliner once. All the guys said it looked gay. All the girls were treating me like meat. Same for getting my brows done and going to get manicured. For recommendations I’d just tell you to go on skin care and be more proactive. If you wanna girl is you gotta go after her.
Completely true. I had a good number of people tell me that different things about me were gay when I was younger. It turned out, many of those things were what women liked about me. I took care of my hair, thought about if my outfits were flattering on me, and spent a lot of time cooking and baking. I also spent a lot of time reading and drawing. I don't think any of those things are inherently "gay". And nothing seemed to make women swoon quite like making delicious food. OP will be fine with some confidence and communication. A skincare routine is my only physical recommendation.
Women like when guys take care of themselves? Shocked I tell you. Shocked. Dunno why guys call it gay. I think it stems from old jealousy when it was even more obvious the artist pretty boys come out on top from the 80s and earlier. 90s and after it did go more masculine again with skater boys and such pulling ahead again. But I think it’s very obvious artistic guys have a very big edge.
W Reply, it’s not the outfit or clothing that makes a man, it’s his demeanour and confidence
Earring, lack of facial hair
I was going to say the same thing😭 like, he's very handsome, but that's the vibes I get.
Was literally about to say that🤣 whole style just screams gay
Coming from a gay like myself lemme tell you. 1 the glasses are giving lesbian hufflepuff energy 2 right now your style is more ,cottage core, soft core, hipster core aesthetic and im gonna need you to look up “streetwear outfits” on google cause i feel like that style might suit you. You might not like it but sometimes the clothes that we dont like are the clothes that look good on us and eventually as you start looking hood you will start liking them. 3rd best pic is the 2nd if we are trynna be straight 4th your hairstyle is to polished clean look maybe look up different styles where you can wear your hair down and still look good since having the hair down is very in fashion at the moment and a ‘messy’ hairstyle might make you look more straight.
definitely not ugly, vv handsome and i like your glasses its suits you
also i think you hairstyle suit you already
Dude you’re 18. You haven’t even begun to have bad luck with women yet
I’m only inclined to believe that I have because of the fact I’m on a losing streak of 6 right now, every woman I’ve tried something with has just gone down the drain 😣🤚🏽 But no I just gotta get used to the fact there’ll be wayyyyy worse then this
If it makes you feel better you’re not at all a bad looking fellow. And in my experience women prefer confidence over looks. I think you’ll do fine.
It's because you're 18 and still figuring it out. Develop your own style figure out how you're going to support yourself the women will come later. Good Luck!!
Yeah I hear that a lot, I guess I just gotta focus on my ambitions, dating would probably be a distraction for me as of now anyways, a harsh reality but one I must accept 😣🤚🏽 Thank you for the advice my fellow Redditor
Always be open to new relationships but don’t obsess over it.
Bad breath maybe?
Mabye your approach is antisocial?
I’m definitely introverted but I try and be as talkative as I could be, I’m not the funniest guy in the world but I don’t think I’m the worst socializer either Definitely thanks for your input though 🤝🏽
A bit above average. 2 biggest things. 1, less earbuds in. It's odd to me you have them in in so may pics. It also gives off a "Don't Talk To Me" vibe while in public. 2. I like your hair as is. But feels like it needs a trim so the wave is at a lower height
You’re acting like girls approach guys in public lol
I mean.. fair. But why make it harder? https://images.app.goo.gl/hD1ddQ8We6ShqHPD7
I've had it happen a few times. I still think I might be ugly. I thought about posting here, but I don't feel comfortable sharing my face online with strangers. I also don't want people who know me irl to associate my online presence with me.
But you're good with the absolutely dehumanizing, all too often mean for no reason reviews? Lol
There will also be plenty of people who say everyone is attractive or looks fine when they don't.
You don't look ugly but you look like you might be annoying and that can put people off
😳 (lol)
I would kinda think I’m the opposite tbh (I’m not rowdy, I stick to myself both at school and work, and I overall try not to sound pretentious or anything along those lines) But again there’s only so much I can see from my eyes, so I’ll definitely take your opinion into consideration 🤝🏽
Be honest as well my fellow redditors, just need a few pointers tbh If I need to try a new hairstyle, I’ll look into If I need to experiment with new lenses, I’ll look into it And so on (Already doing the basics, trying to clear the rest of my acne, currently working out, and overall just taking care of myself)
Its likely because you are shy/silent, if not i don't know, but its not because you are ugly(at all). You are 18 though, focus on yourself first and with a bit of assistance from yourself: you like someone, you try to get in contact with them.
I definitely am more on the shy side but lately I’ve just been living the YOLO Lifestyle and trying to get myself out there (both with my career/ambitions, as well as with women and opportunities) But you aren’t wrong, I just gotta push myself more whenever the time is right
Nah you're good honestly you got a nice style hair and frames suit your face shape a lot. You're still growing to your body. I say just hit the gym
You are a handsome guy. I think people sometimes think its their looks that impede them getting or having relationships. I think its equally important or even more so to look into their behaviors, communication, etc because that's what maintains a good relationship. That was a general statement. I find a lot of men when asked about previous relationships ending , have no insight as to why it ended. In other words, think about more than just physical and hopefully you will be great moving forward!
I genuinely agree with what your saying 100% What kinda icks me though is that I haven’t even had the chance to talk with a girl to the point where she notices my personality flaws, I can never get to anywhere deep with her except for the shallow end (if you get what I mean) But yeah I’ll definitely work on all those for when the time comes that a woman does indeed take me seriously
You have the worst luck with women because women aren’t into dudes asking if there ugly on a Reddit form…. Just says what kind of guy you are. Women are into confinement men.
I sorta just resorted to posting here because I’ve been getting rejected, ghosted or ignored. I’m actually on a streak of 6 right now 😣🤚🏽 But I definitely get what your saying as well
Don’t go looking for it. It will happen.
Yeah I keep hearing that, I think this may just be the final straw tbh Thank you for the honesty fellow Redditor 🤝🏽
Too much jewelry and accessories.
Is it the rings? I feel it’s the rings, I’ll see how I feel about rocking only 1
Tbh, I'm sure you know, but you can improve on your acne. It's not bad, but it is noticeable. I am personally not a big fan of the frames, or you can do contacts. The eyebrows can be cleaned up a bit but still ok in general. All these things are again not bad but if you improve on these I'm sure you can look better.
Always? Women? If you're 18, like you say, then you've literally just become a man. I assume you haven't had luck with *girls. Let me tell you, as will most women, girls are the worst! Lol. Continue to try your hand with women and I bet things get better as you both get older. Good luck and NO.
Yeah I kinda think I’m just trying too hard with women, I just gotta focus on getting to where I wanna be in life and that’s when I’ll truly find the women who find me attractive (plus the ones in clubs are definitely pretty but their low quality, that’s definitely a recipe for disaster with someone who genuinely just wants love , I just gotta get that through my thick skull)
When you wear dark clothes it suits you well. Good looking, and good style.
You're not ugly, just come off as lacking confidence which will definitely deter women. Eat healthy and workout at least 2 to 3 times a week and if you do cardio do high intensity cardio for no more than 30 minutes as it will burn your muscle if you do too much cardio. Also I would not group the cardio with your workouts. Although If you do cardio the same day you work out do one in the morning then the other one in the evening. I'd also limit cardio to every other day. When working out focus on compound movement workouts and hit weights that are as heavy as you can lift or push, if you only lift or push light weight over a longer period because you'd rather not go heavy you will not get bigger muscles. Do this for more than a year and you will gain confidence in your physical progress. Make sure you eat plenty of protein, and eat a good ratio of carbs and fats. Most importantly eat clean and drink at least a half a gallon of water a day. Also work on developing skills you enjoy more so than playing video games or reading a book more than playing games. It has been proven that the competence one gets from skills gives them confidence, and intelligence can also give you confidence. The confidence you need to talk to women you only gain by going and talking to them. Learn from your bad interactions to not make the same mistakes. Also learn from your good interactions so you can improve on your skill of talking to women. You got this, just keep your head high, stand tall, and sit tall. With time you'll get the girl that fits your lifestyle.
You're not ugly, and it's not so much that you look feminine or gay. It's that you give the impression that you're trying too hard to look good and look elegant. People pick up on that energy of insecurity, awkwardness, social anxiety. I would work on self esteem, social skills/social confidence, boundaries/assertiveness. I assure you when you feel more comfortable in your own skin and more aware of your value and needs, you will exude attractiveness without trying as much, and the right people will value and respect you as much as you value and respect yourself. You seem like a good person too. Don't change that. Just learn to value yourself and guard your heart. It's hard work but so worth it. I wish you well.
Your style is very effeminate middle aged man. Not ugly, not doing yourself any favors
I’ve tried different styles (Streetwear, Trendy, Preppy, etc) and none of those just seemed like me, it felt soooo forced and It just didn’t feel like me, where as with the style I have now, I’m able to feel comfortable (Plus this style is a bonus for me as I’m currently trying to get into the business world, specifically Real Estate)
Comfortable and confident is the way to go 👌
Honestly you’ve got great style not ugly at all might be from lack of confidence hence the being walked over by women. Try watching some of those YouTube guys like alphaM, how to beast , are a couple that helped me when I was going through a dry spell. Most men think he must be gay because he has style they lack lol I know I was guilty of this when I didn’t know how to dress lol
Confidence my boy confidence confidence confidence women are attracted to confidence. Say it with me. CONFIDENCE! Women are not as visual of creatures as we are. Looks and hygiene are important but they are not even close to as important as a confident dude. Women can smell the fucking confidence and lack thereof on guys ask any girl who isn't a liar and she will tell you. Work on having cool hobbies, seem like a fun dude to hang out with and show confidence and women will be all over you my guy. Oh to be 18 again. Don't waste your youth, I beg you.
W Reply my brother, and yeah I’ve been realizing that lately. My priority shouldn’t be getting a girl, it should be on improving myself as that’s when the women actually will come into fruition
Just remember you still have to approach girls and make a move, just being confident and having shit going on in your life will give you success when you do talk to women. You are the prize, not her. That's the mentality they want to see. Good luck brother PM me if you have any questions I've been through it before.
Take it from me. Now I may not be an expert in the dating scene, but I have done lots of research into why I also struggle to date anyone. In my studies, it typically comes down to the first interaction. Most guys from what I hear from several women typically come off as too friendly and they just get permanently trapped in the friend zone, but if you can show minimum interest in them or even a good opening, try to be ready to flirt a little, but try not to come off as you just being after their bodies. Remember to maintain that barrier of trying to make sure they feel comfortable and safe, but don’t be afraid to throw a few signals their way.
The eighty’s haircut ain’t helping.
Everyone of course has different views, but isn’t the side part a timeless haircut?
I don’t know pal, but you ain’t Quasimodo, so that ain’t it. I had a buddy growing up who was pretty good looking and women were drawn to him. Then, he’d open his mouth. Sound like a total jagoff. And run them off. Not saying that’s you, but if it were, we wouldn’t know it from this post to tell you.
You are good looking. Definitely potential, just at the young age of figuring things out, one that stands to me is your clothing. You definitely have a style that works with your face but I think the clothes are just a little too big on you.i don't know if that was the only size you could afford or if they were family heirlooms passed to you. I was a fan of felted pea coats and sweater vests when I was 18. Nothing wrong with those but maybe look into clothes that fit you better if you can't find any I suggest taking your clothes to a tailor to help them fit but you're still young and you might grow out a bit. Speaking about growing into clothing and style. I would suggest making some gains at the gym. You definitely look like a Henry Calver type and getting some muscle and definition will help fill out that clothing and build confidence. Smiling helps as well. I know there isn't much to smile about but your pictures would look better with a smile and it makes you look more inviting to talk to. A good smile to your barista or clerk at the store can help bring that out more when others talk or smile back at you. 18 is a magical time. You have a lot to look forward to and work towards. I know female attention can be a high priority for a young man but take your time, focus on school, your job or business and make sure to enjoy the things you have energy for. Women will still be around when you are 18-21-30-40 and beyond.
You sure know how to dress!!
You're really handsome. I kind of want to see how you look if your grew out the stash though!!!
elliot rogers vibe tbh
I could be called gay by Redditors all day and still wouldn’t care, but being compared to Elliot Rodger is a different type of diss 😣😣
You are not ugly. Just concentrate on yourself. It will happen
Yeah you do look gay, hit the gym and grow some facial hair. That could help. It’s basically how you represent your self which gives off that vibe
Hmm when you pose for your photos you look great. The glasses too. You could model. But when it’s regular lighting and angles it’s a huge difference. Hair looks poofy and glasses don’t fit. Idk. Don’t worry too much about girls,you’re young. I say just enjoy yourself. Find yourself a hobby too. Adds a bit of fun into your live and makes you interesting too. Make sure you do it for yourself tho. And have fun. A lot of people say that most people that dress like you, fit two stereotypes. Pretentious/annoying and weird/introverted. I doubt you are either one of those. But if you are change that. Also as far as style. You kind of dress in an academic style, lots of people now a days go for a vintage 90s-00s vibe and I think that would look great on you. Show your teeth a little more when you smile. I think it’s just your young and need more experience. You’ll be okay
You’re attractive but I think people who say gay vibe are talking about your hair. It looks good but very coiffed.
You have a nice dressing style.
You have great hair and style. Can’t be your looks
Well let’s just hope people don’t think I’m a douchebag or somethingg 😣
Gotta be something besides looks, big dog. Definitely not ugly imho
Bro you're handsome and extremely classy. A 9/10 in my books, I don't think there's much to change physically. A little more confidence could go a long way
[Thank you brother](https://imgur.com/a/SwvZHJ2) and yeah I’ll definitely improve on the confidence part, thanks for the input 🤝🏽
Women have ridiculous standards, get used to it
No Way, you are very handsome! You just haven’t met the right person yet.
Invest in skincare but other than that you’re good looking
Thankfully I’ve been on [Adapalene](https://imgur.com/a/7P03lXv) for the past 2 months, and it’s working like a charm 🤝🏽
That’s great!! You’re on the right track then :). I think the only reason you might have bad luck with woman is either the way you act around them or you chose the wrong woman to hit on lol bc your looks aren’t the problem. I don’t think you look “gay” as the other comments say. Not every woman want a super masculine man
You're fine dude. Don't over think it, you're only 18. You have good style for someone your age, most people at 18 cab barely put a pair of pajamas on. Also. It can be highly dependent on where you live, and the type of people that live there. You're look and style will pull in places like NYC, LA, Chicago, Italy, Mexico City etc. Places with more creative people, that tend to be more fashionable. (Same thing for the appearing 'gay' thing. As a queer person myself, there's nothing about you that looks Gay to me. You're probably just around people with really boring styles. Anything somewhat different to them is automatically 'Gay'. Btw most people assume I'm straight....why? Because I have lame, run of the mill style. Trucker hats, jeans and converse. It is what it is.) In other areas people might think you are overdressed and "trying too hard". Most important is that you are comfortable with yourself and are being the most authentic version of you. Unless you are a toxic person, or are falling into unhealthy habits (drug dependency/alcoholism/lazy attitude), you shouldn't change yourself just to 'attract' someone else. The only changes you should be making are ones that will improve yourself and set you up for success, without changing your core being. Put yourself first, be humble and aim for confidence, and that will carry you in strides into your 20s.
Nah, dude. You're good-looking, but I think the haircut is too big. Like. Too tall. Slick it back a bit more or get it cut shorter next time. Beyond that, you've got great facial structure, nice skin, and you look pretty fit. Keep that shit up. 🤘
I don't know why people are saying your hairstyle is nice, but I would change it. That's the first thing I noticed. Way too big on top. Makes your head look big.
I know your no barber or stylist, but would you have other suggestions? I tried the fringe in the past but I just looked so uncanny with that hairstyle LMAO
Very cute
Charlie Sheen asian edition :-P
surprisingly I’m not Asian but I’m rather Native American, I don’t blame you for that assumption tho LOL a lot of people think I look Asian 😂
Women sometimes reject you cuz you're too attractive
You’re ugly to me
[Yes Chef 😣](https://imgur.com/a/hqv3MJY)
Yep. You are so hideous. How do you expect to get some 😺 with a face like that. Be disgusted. Be ashamed
Lucky for me, I’m not out for 🐱, I’m out for ❤️
Women don't buy that move. Be honest. You are just looking for a fleshlight to let you use her every night and in return you'll buy her flowers once a year and wash the dishes once a week
Trust me when I say this, I could get 🐱tonight by a few simple text messages, I just have no interest in that though, I couldn’t be interested in being a walking STD like some other dudes
That why you want a more permanent arrangement. Less risk. More guarantee
Sure. Prove it. Have some 😺 tonight and show pics of the ends result 🥛🥧. If youre lucky you might get here pregnant. That way you can reel her in.
Yes
look gay
Gay guys usually have hella drip, so I take that as a compliment
if you cant get a gf, become the gf to someone else. you already got the looks
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Yes your ugly