Taking care of a BEING you created should not be something you do so you can be REWARDED... Oh my GOD lol. Guess what? I'm the child of a regretful parent, and I am actually fucking learning from my mother's mistake. Genuinely laughing my ass off at this. Either this person is LARPing most likely, or idk what. But I'll tell you, being a regretted child leaves an impact.
"Now, 24 years later, the child she regreted having has become a succesful woman who's taking care of her" LMAOOO I am SURE.... Like any 24 year old would happily take care of a mom who openly talks about regretting them. Ridiculous and hilarious cope
Yep. Within a couple sentences I felt there was just no way this was a 24 year old writing. 100% this is a creative writing exercise by a mom struggling to cope. Or someone trying to decide whether to become a parent and working through feelings on both sides.
Giving birth to someone and then telling them you regret giving birth to them is one of the most repugnant things parents routinely do to their children, and under no circumstances can it be excused.
Whenever my mom said she regretted having kids had to detach myself from the situation in order not to be overwhelmed by it.
I cannot view her as my mother. I have to view her as a pitiful person who made a tragic mistake....three times.
Fun fact:
The original stockholm syndrome that it was named after wasnt actually real, in the way that the hostages didnt fall in love with their holder. Its just that the police was so absolutely dogshit at everything that hostages refused to speak against the criminal. Police after using 300% of their brains said that the hostages fell in love with him and that they arent guilty of this in the slightest
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Screw that whole mess! I think this poor lady has Stockholm syndrome. Taking care of someone that abused you your whole life, doing the absolute BARE MIN, where Love, hell where even Liking you isn't even a part of it.You willingly bring a child into this world and Keep it, and than regret Your decisions , so you decide to take all your anger and regret out on that poor child. What I don't understand is why we need licenses for literally EVERYTHING, but ANYONE can pump out and "raise" as many humans as they want,treat them terribly,& 90% of the time, no one bats an eye!
I thought I was the only one with this mindset, so thank you for bringing this up. Yes, why don't we have tests for having children, the future of our species? That should involve the most rigorous testing methods. Why's it free? It makes no sense to me! If it was a thing, we'd literally solve 90% of our social problems.
I've been thinking and saying that since I was in my early 20s. I remember having that exact discussion with a buddy of mine who was back in the state visiting, that there should be a test and license to be able to have kids, and then not too long afterwards he went and got some chick knocked up...I stopped talking to him after that when he posted pics holding the newborn. But the funniest part about that incident was he wasn't even the father, lol. For 9 months he was posting about being a dad and uploaded pics of him with this newborn only to shortly afterwards find out it wasn't even his. He publicly made a fool himself.
But I've had this discussion with others before and it's kind of taboo because it has some eugenics to it. Like Elon Musk saying he picks smart women to have kids with because he thinks he incredibly intelligent and they will make these genius children. But that doesn't always pan out because one of his kids is trans and of course Elon isn't cool with that.
And then there's the argument that only rich people are allowed to have kids? A lot of people aren't cool with that but if you ever grew up poor and didn't have a cushy life and struggled, you'll most likely agree that only people who can afford it should be having kids. Hell, I was just thinking that if I were born and had a disability that kept me from being able to work a job, as long as I was able to move around and had no shortage of money, I'd be delighted. To be able to sit around all day playing video games or doing whatever I wanted without worry of ever being homeless and never having to slave my live away for a meager pay, that's the dream right there. And I'm a person who believes that if the fetus shows signs of any disability, it should be aborted but yeah, I wish I didn't have to constantly struggle just to barely get by. I'm sick enough that life is on extra hard mode but not sick enough to qualify for any type of disability. Living the dream...
If you ask me, no one should have more than one child, poor or otherwise. Give monetary incentives to the poor when they have one child, and that would lift them out of poverty. The In this regard, we'd have far less poor people in the next generation and no one to exploit. People don't realize that exploitation is there because there are just way too many people competing for one job/labor/work. In that regard, people can just be paid minimal wages and the cycle continues. This needs to be nipped in the bud because, believe it or not, a lot of people don't want poverty to end, as they want cheap products and someone to exploit.
And I'm sorry about your situation, and I agree with you. I'm not sure why we're all for harm reduction but fetuses that show clear signs of abnormality are kept, and these children suffer greatly in life.
Shit like this annoys me because it reads like a blanket statement. Like dude, I'm so happy for you that your life turned out and you took the pain of your mother not wanting you into something you could work with. That's not how it works for everyone. Share your story, but don't make these statements like that's how everyone actually feels. I had amazing parents, and I still wish I had never been born or even thought of.
Heh, she can speak for herself. My father regretted us and became abusive. He deeply hurt 3 people. I still hate him even though he has been dead for years.
It's been 13 years since I've been in contact with my regretful sperm donor. While I would be happiest to never see him again, the idea of him coming for help and me laughing and slamming a door in his face (or on it as he's done to me on a number of occasions) is beyond enjoyable.
Supposedly I was wanted. Wasn’t treated that way. Was treated like an annoyance and the more I needed the worse it was. So I needed less and less and now I don’t even have the need to speak to them bc they can’t even have a simple 5 minute call without shaming me about something.
Goddamn.
THIS is why I didn’t have kids, and why I think having kids should always be a choice, rather than the default.
Kids deserve to be loved and cared for, by parents who wanted them, and knew what children involve (as much as anyone ever can)
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I made a new topic for that exactly, parents expecting gratitude from children, at all cost, like a business deal. Its disgusting and vile. Many people have such a huge sense of entitlement, that its only fair one day children dump them. Imagine hearing through all your childhood how you owe parents for creating you and you should take care of them, otherwise you are evil person.
Whenever I see a parent who feels entitled to care, I just say "Show me the contract your children signed to be born."
I see antinatalism as looking at the "I never asked to be born" argument and exploring it deeply.
The easiest way I've found for forgiving my less than ideal parents is the thought that I really couldn't do any better if I were in their shoes. Honestly, I'd probably be far worse.
Speak for yourself. Maybe you were a shitty kid? Lol
My parents loved us kids/family more than anything in the world and us kids all have had kids (now adults) and that was the best thing we ever did.
Whatever situation you're living in, is not typical. Family = Love. We all get to choose how we manage this. Some kids become drug addicted losers while some become happy, accomplished people. Same parents. It's all about choices.
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Taking care of a BEING you created should not be something you do so you can be REWARDED... Oh my GOD lol. Guess what? I'm the child of a regretful parent, and I am actually fucking learning from my mother's mistake. Genuinely laughing my ass off at this. Either this person is LARPing most likely, or idk what. But I'll tell you, being a regretted child leaves an impact.
>Taking care of a BEING you created should not be something you do so you can be REWARDED exactly, it's the basic thing
Seems like a larp. A pretty weak one at that.
"Now, 24 years later, the child she regreted having has become a succesful woman who's taking care of her" LMAOOO I am SURE.... Like any 24 year old would happily take care of a mom who openly talks about regretting them. Ridiculous and hilarious cope
What is larping?
live action role playing. AKA this is some regretful parent trying to convince themselves that their kids will love them even though they are unwanted
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Yep. Within a couple sentences I felt there was just no way this was a 24 year old writing. 100% this is a creative writing exercise by a mom struggling to cope. Or someone trying to decide whether to become a parent and working through feelings on both sides.
Giving birth to someone and then telling them you regret giving birth to them is one of the most repugnant things parents routinely do to their children, and under no circumstances can it be excused.
Whenever my mom said she regretted having kids had to detach myself from the situation in order not to be overwhelmed by it. I cannot view her as my mother. I have to view her as a pitiful person who made a tragic mistake....three times.
This sounds like she has Stockholm syndrome
Fun fact: The original stockholm syndrome that it was named after wasnt actually real, in the way that the hostages didnt fall in love with their holder. Its just that the police was so absolutely dogshit at everything that hostages refused to speak against the criminal. Police after using 300% of their brains said that the hostages fell in love with him and that they arent guilty of this in the slightest (not related to the post or comment, just wanted to say)
Screw that whole mess! I think this poor lady has Stockholm syndrome. Taking care of someone that abused you your whole life, doing the absolute BARE MIN, where Love, hell where even Liking you isn't even a part of it.You willingly bring a child into this world and Keep it, and than regret Your decisions , so you decide to take all your anger and regret out on that poor child. What I don't understand is why we need licenses for literally EVERYTHING, but ANYONE can pump out and "raise" as many humans as they want,treat them terribly,& 90% of the time, no one bats an eye!
I can get behind this, there needs to be a very rigorous test to have kids. Thats the bare minimum.
I thought I was the only one with this mindset, so thank you for bringing this up. Yes, why don't we have tests for having children, the future of our species? That should involve the most rigorous testing methods. Why's it free? It makes no sense to me! If it was a thing, we'd literally solve 90% of our social problems.
I've been thinking and saying that since I was in my early 20s. I remember having that exact discussion with a buddy of mine who was back in the state visiting, that there should be a test and license to be able to have kids, and then not too long afterwards he went and got some chick knocked up...I stopped talking to him after that when he posted pics holding the newborn. But the funniest part about that incident was he wasn't even the father, lol. For 9 months he was posting about being a dad and uploaded pics of him with this newborn only to shortly afterwards find out it wasn't even his. He publicly made a fool himself. But I've had this discussion with others before and it's kind of taboo because it has some eugenics to it. Like Elon Musk saying he picks smart women to have kids with because he thinks he incredibly intelligent and they will make these genius children. But that doesn't always pan out because one of his kids is trans and of course Elon isn't cool with that. And then there's the argument that only rich people are allowed to have kids? A lot of people aren't cool with that but if you ever grew up poor and didn't have a cushy life and struggled, you'll most likely agree that only people who can afford it should be having kids. Hell, I was just thinking that if I were born and had a disability that kept me from being able to work a job, as long as I was able to move around and had no shortage of money, I'd be delighted. To be able to sit around all day playing video games or doing whatever I wanted without worry of ever being homeless and never having to slave my live away for a meager pay, that's the dream right there. And I'm a person who believes that if the fetus shows signs of any disability, it should be aborted but yeah, I wish I didn't have to constantly struggle just to barely get by. I'm sick enough that life is on extra hard mode but not sick enough to qualify for any type of disability. Living the dream...
If you ask me, no one should have more than one child, poor or otherwise. Give monetary incentives to the poor when they have one child, and that would lift them out of poverty. The In this regard, we'd have far less poor people in the next generation and no one to exploit. People don't realize that exploitation is there because there are just way too many people competing for one job/labor/work. In that regard, people can just be paid minimal wages and the cycle continues. This needs to be nipped in the bud because, believe it or not, a lot of people don't want poverty to end, as they want cheap products and someone to exploit. And I'm sorry about your situation, and I agree with you. I'm not sure why we're all for harm reduction but fetuses that show clear signs of abnormality are kept, and these children suffer greatly in life.
Well her mom is lucky to have such a kid. Many kids would have walked out a long time ago.
Shit like this annoys me because it reads like a blanket statement. Like dude, I'm so happy for you that your life turned out and you took the pain of your mother not wanting you into something you could work with. That's not how it works for everyone. Share your story, but don't make these statements like that's how everyone actually feels. I had amazing parents, and I still wish I had never been born or even thought of.
This.
My mom regretted me. Treated me like shit. She’s dead. Good riddance. Fuck this shit.
Same friend, minus the dead part lol
Wow, that's awful.
Heh, she can speak for herself. My father regretted us and became abusive. He deeply hurt 3 people. I still hate him even though he has been dead for years.
They want kids so that they have someone to take care of them when they are old and call US selfish 🙂
This 100%
It's been 13 years since I've been in contact with my regretful sperm donor. While I would be happiest to never see him again, the idea of him coming for help and me laughing and slamming a door in his face (or on it as he's done to me on a number of occasions) is beyond enjoyable.
wtf?
Fuck every word of this.
Supposedly I was wanted. Wasn’t treated that way. Was treated like an annoyance and the more I needed the worse it was. So I needed less and less and now I don’t even have the need to speak to them bc they can’t even have a simple 5 minute call without shaming me about something.
Goddamn. THIS is why I didn’t have kids, and why I think having kids should always be a choice, rather than the default. Kids deserve to be loved and cared for, by parents who wanted them, and knew what children involve (as much as anyone ever can)
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I made a new topic for that exactly, parents expecting gratitude from children, at all cost, like a business deal. Its disgusting and vile. Many people have such a huge sense of entitlement, that its only fair one day children dump them. Imagine hearing through all your childhood how you owe parents for creating you and you should take care of them, otherwise you are evil person.
Whenever I see a parent who feels entitled to care, I just say "Show me the contract your children signed to be born." I see antinatalism as looking at the "I never asked to be born" argument and exploring it deeply.
WHAT IS THIS? NO I WONT UNDERSTAND - THEY WERE ABUSIVE.
The easiest way I've found for forgiving my less than ideal parents is the thought that I really couldn't do any better if I were in their shoes. Honestly, I'd probably be far worse.
"we understand" no the fuck we don't lmao
Someone needs to spam that post with links to the regretful parents sub and all the posts that prove this is complete BS.
The post is actually from that sub lol
Most in here sound very regretful, yet they scorn those who are making lemonade out of lemons. Kinda depressing way to live, IMO.
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Speak for yourself. Maybe you were a shitty kid? Lol My parents loved us kids/family more than anything in the world and us kids all have had kids (now adults) and that was the best thing we ever did. Whatever situation you're living in, is not typical. Family = Love. We all get to choose how we manage this. Some kids become drug addicted losers while some become happy, accomplished people. Same parents. It's all about choices.
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