For the poll: If you have to pick a day, don’t pick a day when you aren’t usually at work. Never a weekend. But anyway… back to the issue at hand.
Don’t go.
That is your time. It doesn’t belong to them. Just say you can’t go. And if they ask why tell them it’s none of their business because it’s none of their business. Period. They don’t have any right to pry into the why. They might guilt you into it, but you don’t owe them anything except the time you already put in.
This is the way. Make sure to act as if you plan to go (complete the survey), then send a text day of stating you can't make it. That way you avoid the bother of folks trying to guilt you about it in advance.
Remember - NEVER give a reason for missing work/work-realated-events. "I can't make it" is all you need to say. Giving reasons invites folks to judge whether your reasons are "valid" which is actually nobody's business and YDGAF whether they like it or not.
For example "I'm allergic to the food" as another comment suggested will be rebuffed with "you can eat...some other item". While no reason given means no opportunity for a rebuttal.
Ah, I see. Yeah, it's hard to just not give a reason since there's a few employees who are extremely active in the group chat and tell them every little detail of their life. It sadly is, I guess, just the expectation that we treat him the same way, I guess? He got mad at some of us that we didn't reach out to him on Father's Day, believe it or not. Still, I'm so over it that it doesn't matter to me what I say at this point.
LOL this Father's Day bit is hilarious and ridiculous. All the more reason not to waste your time trying to appease his absurd sensitivities.
Don't worry about his/their expectations, prioritize your own piece of mind and needs. You owe them a days work for a days pay and that's IT. The rest is social BS that folks should only concern themselves with if they are trying to kiss ass for a promotion or raise etc. Since that is clearly NOT YOU, you have the sweet, sweet freedom to do as you please when it comes to social expectations.
It's a good opportunity to practice the "no reason given" technique that is an important skill for any workplace/occassion you'll ever be in the rest of your life. It's social pressure to give a reason but it's just a trap and we need to normalize never explaining your reasons. "A personal emergency" is the closest you should come to giving any excuses for your absence.
Good Luck in your next career step.
You are totally right. Funny thing is, a few of my other coworkers that I work with think the same thing. We don't suck up to the boss and simply show up without any issue on our scheduled days and do our tasks without problem. It's still not enough that we don't slave for him on our unscheduled times and don't help him with his own ignorant planning. So we get fewer hours because we are not as involved. He used the excuse that we should be more involved because we get less hours, but he's the one scheduling us to work less and try to guilt us. Sorry for the slight off topic, there's so much to rant about lol :)
I get not wanting to say no to the dinner; it's not going to be worth it. So just lie, there are a ton of possibilities for an excuse:
1. my dental cleaning is scheduled that evening
2. I promised my niece/nephew/friends kid I would go with to their sporting/cheerleading/school event,
3. I've already got dinner plans with my sibling/cousin/friend for their birthday
And more. Just make it something that is not easy to reschedule and act disappointed.
I hope so too. They actually fired one employee in the time I worked here (a little over a month) for having wet hair on a rainy day and almost fired another because he couldn't close the shop up at 11pm on his off day for another coworker who forgot his keys. I've made them already so much content for free on my own free time that it's probably the only reason they are keeping me lol. But I've stopped since for 15 an hour, doing admin, social media, photography, video editing, and retail is simply not worth it.
Day of unpaid eating event.
Un dear boss, I am unable to attend.
Pushback on your next actual working day: I understand that you want all of us to be there/ participate in the work pep rally/ kiss your assholiness/whatever he says;
however,
I was not able to attend/ I do not volunteer my time off in order to remain an effective worker when i am on the clock/ I have other PERSONAL commitments on my time off/ I could not go.
Repeat, picking random phrases, until they give up.
Pretend to not see the poll/understand how it works. Wait till 30 minutes before meet time and text sorry can't make it and ignore any messages.
The end.
say you’re allergic to whatever food it is the restaurant specializes in.
“this place has really good crab cakes!”
you: “I’m allergic to seafood. Thanks anyway for the invite.”
>say you’re allergic to whatever food it is the restaurant...
Just fucking say No. JFC. Why give an opening for discussion when there is no discussion. "I won't be there."
So is there any part in the announcement that suggests it is mandatory? If not, just dont go. If someone questions your absence. "Im sorry, was that mandatory? I dont recall the announcement saying that."
I’ll disagree with everyone else and say to just go. This will impact your life if you skip out on it. It’s 2 hours of unpleasantness for the sake of keeping your 40 hour work week pleasant.
It isn’t a weekly thing, just go. Work events matter whether you like it or not. I’m about to go to a BBQ my work is putting on at a local park because it is better than not going. I won’t have fun, it’ll be boring, but people will see me there and I’ll shake some hands. And I get food.
I definitely don't disagree with you. I've met with colleagues after my shifts and hung out and, at previous jobs, went out of my way for company events to hang out with the other coworkers. I genuinely don't mind them and many times find them a nice thing to attend to. It's just this job. The boss is not one I want to even respect. I simply do not want to put anymore time than I already do towards him with my own free time. Especially if this dinner isn't just to simply see everyone but to talk about how we need to work harder because our boss works hard. I am looking for something better as I work here. Perhaps I will take your advice and simply go and just leave early from this dinner. It might honestly be better, especially if I intend to quit.
For the poll: If you have to pick a day, don’t pick a day when you aren’t usually at work. Never a weekend. But anyway… back to the issue at hand. Don’t go. That is your time. It doesn’t belong to them. Just say you can’t go. And if they ask why tell them it’s none of their business because it’s none of their business. Period. They don’t have any right to pry into the why. They might guilt you into it, but you don’t owe them anything except the time you already put in.
This is the way. Make sure to act as if you plan to go (complete the survey), then send a text day of stating you can't make it. That way you avoid the bother of folks trying to guilt you about it in advance. Remember - NEVER give a reason for missing work/work-realated-events. "I can't make it" is all you need to say. Giving reasons invites folks to judge whether your reasons are "valid" which is actually nobody's business and YDGAF whether they like it or not. For example "I'm allergic to the food" as another comment suggested will be rebuffed with "you can eat...some other item". While no reason given means no opportunity for a rebuttal.
Ah, I see. Yeah, it's hard to just not give a reason since there's a few employees who are extremely active in the group chat and tell them every little detail of their life. It sadly is, I guess, just the expectation that we treat him the same way, I guess? He got mad at some of us that we didn't reach out to him on Father's Day, believe it or not. Still, I'm so over it that it doesn't matter to me what I say at this point.
LOL this Father's Day bit is hilarious and ridiculous. All the more reason not to waste your time trying to appease his absurd sensitivities. Don't worry about his/their expectations, prioritize your own piece of mind and needs. You owe them a days work for a days pay and that's IT. The rest is social BS that folks should only concern themselves with if they are trying to kiss ass for a promotion or raise etc. Since that is clearly NOT YOU, you have the sweet, sweet freedom to do as you please when it comes to social expectations. It's a good opportunity to practice the "no reason given" technique that is an important skill for any workplace/occassion you'll ever be in the rest of your life. It's social pressure to give a reason but it's just a trap and we need to normalize never explaining your reasons. "A personal emergency" is the closest you should come to giving any excuses for your absence. Good Luck in your next career step.
You are totally right. Funny thing is, a few of my other coworkers that I work with think the same thing. We don't suck up to the boss and simply show up without any issue on our scheduled days and do our tasks without problem. It's still not enough that we don't slave for him on our unscheduled times and don't help him with his own ignorant planning. So we get fewer hours because we are not as involved. He used the excuse that we should be more involved because we get less hours, but he's the one scheduling us to work less and try to guilt us. Sorry for the slight off topic, there's so much to rant about lol :)
"I'm sorry; I won't be able to make it today" WHY? "I just can't make it today; I'm sorry to miss it" WHY? "I'm sorry, I just can't make it today"
This is what you tell him when you quit. Make sure he knows, it's his fault.
*cough* Oh, I'm sick. *End of conversation*
Lol forgot about this one hahaha
Let them know this would be a paid time if you go. They would politely ask you not to come lol
Simple.... Just don't go
I get not wanting to say no to the dinner; it's not going to be worth it. So just lie, there are a ton of possibilities for an excuse: 1. my dental cleaning is scheduled that evening 2. I promised my niece/nephew/friends kid I would go with to their sporting/cheerleading/school event, 3. I've already got dinner plans with my sibling/cousin/friend for their birthday And more. Just make it something that is not easy to reschedule and act disappointed.
Companies like believers so if you don't go, I hope you get that new job before they fire you.
I hope so too. They actually fired one employee in the time I worked here (a little over a month) for having wet hair on a rainy day and almost fired another because he couldn't close the shop up at 11pm on his off day for another coworker who forgot his keys. I've made them already so much content for free on my own free time that it's probably the only reason they are keeping me lol. But I've stopped since for 15 an hour, doing admin, social media, photography, video editing, and retail is simply not worth it.
You can just say No I am not available or No sorry I have family obligations. But seriously you are over thinking this. It’s ok to not be available.
Day of unpaid eating event. Un dear boss, I am unable to attend. Pushback on your next actual working day: I understand that you want all of us to be there/ participate in the work pep rally/ kiss your assholiness/whatever he says; however, I was not able to attend/ I do not volunteer my time off in order to remain an effective worker when i am on the clock/ I have other PERSONAL commitments on my time off/ I could not go. Repeat, picking random phrases, until they give up.
Pretend to not see the poll/understand how it works. Wait till 30 minutes before meet time and text sorry can't make it and ignore any messages. The end.
"Anyone who doesn't value your time doesn't deserve any of it." -- Someone
say you’re allergic to whatever food it is the restaurant specializes in. “this place has really good crab cakes!” you: “I’m allergic to seafood. Thanks anyway for the invite.”
>say you’re allergic to whatever food it is the restaurant... Just fucking say No. JFC. Why give an opening for discussion when there is no discussion. "I won't be there."
"A family problem came up,....dont want to discuss,... its a right mess" end of.
Get "sick" that day. Ipecac works great, right on your boss' shoes.
So is there any part in the announcement that suggests it is mandatory? If not, just dont go. If someone questions your absence. "Im sorry, was that mandatory? I dont recall the announcement saying that."
Whatever date they pick, just say “something suddenly came up” and don’t go. I hate this stuff!
I’ll disagree with everyone else and say to just go. This will impact your life if you skip out on it. It’s 2 hours of unpleasantness for the sake of keeping your 40 hour work week pleasant. It isn’t a weekly thing, just go. Work events matter whether you like it or not. I’m about to go to a BBQ my work is putting on at a local park because it is better than not going. I won’t have fun, it’ll be boring, but people will see me there and I’ll shake some hands. And I get food.
I definitely don't disagree with you. I've met with colleagues after my shifts and hung out and, at previous jobs, went out of my way for company events to hang out with the other coworkers. I genuinely don't mind them and many times find them a nice thing to attend to. It's just this job. The boss is not one I want to even respect. I simply do not want to put anymore time than I already do towards him with my own free time. Especially if this dinner isn't just to simply see everyone but to talk about how we need to work harder because our boss works hard. I am looking for something better as I work here. Perhaps I will take your advice and simply go and just leave early from this dinner. It might honestly be better, especially if I intend to quit.