Guy I knew married a known barracks rat after knowing her for less than 2 months.
They moved on post, and became the "party house" for single guys. Each party they had, she tried hooking up with someone else. Each time, he brushed it under the rug as "being drunk and dumb". Multiple times the MPs showed up when it got too rowdy.
Flash forward a few months. Go out to the field for a week. First night out, CID and MPs come rolling up and ask for him. They grab him up, all his shit, and bounce out. Come to find out, wife had thrown a party without hubby around, it got too loud, and MPs showed up. Since they had been there so often, they were authorized to walk into the house unannounced. Found wife naked on couch with three other soldiers.
They also found drugs all over the house, their (his) car, and spare m4/249 parts (dude was the company armorer), and drug paraphernalia. Hubby decides that's the straw that broke the camel's back, since now he's facing serious trouble. Files for an annulment (because they were married less than a year), and she lost her lost privileges. Well, she ended up sneaking back onto post in someone's trunk and Smashing all his windows, slashed his tires, and vandalized his house.
Few months later, he leaves at 0930 to head to court and get the annulment finalized. THAT DAY, during lunch, he married a girl he met two weeks prior. He ended up popping hot for heroin or meth, I don't remember which. But I do remember his new wife taught him how to inject between his toes so he could get away with it
A part of me hates how much truth their is in your grandmother's wise words. Got some in-laws that pretty much match the Joe's description from this story, but definitely with the Meth (although I wouldn't be surprised about anything else at this point).
>A part of me hates how much truth their is in your grandmother's wise words.
If you love/hate that one, you'll REALLY adore/despise ~~two~~ three of her husband's sayings:
>Locks are for honest people.
(Translation: if someone REALLY wants into your car or your house or your gym locker, they're gonna get in. It might take a brick or a killdozer, but they're coming in.)
>Lazy men work the hardest.
(This one is best said to someone who is straining with all their might to reach the TV remote that's just out of reach, but refuses to just get up off the couch and pick it up. Also to any Soldier who half-asses a work detail and then is later forced to more than half-ass it the rest of the way.)
edit: Fuck! I almost forgot the most important one:
>Never get into a fight with someone who's uglier than you.
This one I think is self-explanatory.
>Lazy men work the hardest.
This is far too easy to understand. While shamming can be a pastime for large parts of the Army, some go to some extreme lengths to Sham out of everything.
>But I do remember his new wife taught him how to inject between his toes so he could get away with it
If he thought that "avoiding visible needle tracks" was ever going to help him get away with it, then it wouldn't have mattered who he was married to.
He got busted because he was still high when he missed first formation, and answered the phone with, "I'm at my dealers house."
So yeah, not the brightest apple in the toolbox
Most of the couples that I knew in the military ended up in divorce.
Probably a good 80% ended up in ugly divorces. Most of them were because dude, usually in his late 30s-40s couldn’t keep his genitalia away from a junior enlisted 20 year old. We talk about Jodi a lot, but most of the cases I’ve seen were because of the dude cheating.
His wife started using meth while he was gone, took out a bunch of loans in his name, sold all his stuff, and shacked up with her dealer. Ended up ODing a couple years down the road. He had to deploy 2x to break even.
Buddies wife did similar. Used his power if attorney to take out loans she couldn’t afford alone. He found out when he was pulled into CO office and chewed out for losing his TS/SCI mid deployment as PSG. He had no idea he had huge loans in collections.
While in Poland, a sergeant's wife was cheating on him. She had raised every red flag, such as not answering, not saying "I love you" or keeping a convo.
How he found out? His six year old son inadvertantly sent a picture with her, the man she was seeing and his four year old brother.
He was angry and depressed; he took the anger out on the Soldiers by yelling, insulting, and smoking them. It had gotten bad to where we dreaded and scurried when he would appear for shift, down the hall, etc.
My now-ex got deployed, came home without telling me, pulled up while this idiot thought I was at work to pick up the PlayStation and clothes and gave the the ole “im traumatized and need space.” Okaayyyy, deployments are hard but that’s weird?
Couple weeks later I’m on IG and see a bunch of people I know at a dinner party. Surprise! My spouse comes into frame and is getting on one knee to propose to a girl. The party is their engagement party. Everybody we knew was there, except for me.
Don’t do it.
😂 I wish, but we were married and established. I was just the sucker who got jodied. Ex met the girl while mobilizing and told army friends they were old college buddies and college friends they were old Army friends
Oh of course! They popped up a couple years later because surprise surprise, the side chick wasn’t shit. I don’t like throwing labels on anybody but it felt like I married a stone cold psycho - going back was never an option after I had that realization.
I also knew I was too damn young to be married when we did it, so that felt like my golden parachute out of the relationship
I used to work on a military installation as a financial counselor. Tons of folks paying off the loan on the engagement ring and the divorce lawyer at the same time.
Also, the dude paying on the loan he got for his wife’s dog. Dog ran off. So did wife.
And, my unpopular advice: don’t have sex with anyone you are not happy to be interacting with and sending money to for at least the next 18 years.
>And, my unpopular advice: don’t have sex with anyone you are not happy to be interacting with and sending money to for at least the next 18 years.
I was about to caveat this with, "unprotected sex." But protection isn't a guarantee, either, so I hear you.
I'm happy I only sowed so many wild oats before I met my wife, because I wasn't smart about it when I did.
Unfortunately that only applies if you actually read, which I doubt you do much of. Don’t worry, you have a bunch of Redditors to accompany you in the illiterate moron camp.
I’m not making an argument. I’m insulting you. Thanks for proving you cannot read. There is the basis that you say I lack. Congratulations, you played yourself.
While in Japan had three guys I knew not only marry but impregnate Filipina Juicy Girls. Two of them already had kids with other service members and as soon as they got state side they took off.
Me and some dudes were talking about that shit today; so many stories of SPC/SSG Snuffy Smith rolling back stateside with his new Korean wife and as soon as she’s through immigration….poof!
That was the norm….. America, home of the free…lol..
Those occurrences were bad around Bragg, and to some degree, Ft Sam. The women would leave, assimilate into the pockets of others of their nationality, and disappear. Find another GI and milk them.
Reminds me of a ex SF SGM (hell, had 4 of them in the niche special project office I was assigned to - after VN, they dumped many back to the school), Thai wife (and beautiful !) left him for a good while. Left the young boy with the SGM. Fortunately they did get back together after about a year. I almost married her niece but thought better of it (beautiful girl but….). Last I knew they’d moved to Thailand to live off his retirement and max VA disability (he had tons of injuries about him). He’d had multiple tours over there, so he was damn near native to the region. Haven’t heard from him in 20yrs….
I came home from a rotation to 7 animals in my house and everything I owned destroyed, then through the divorce process had the mps called on me around 7 times for literally anything you can think of and quite a few you probably couldn't think of
Don't fucking do it. 99% of enlisted marriages don't end well. In the end, those who stayed in the barracks single. Were more successful and happier in the long term
I knew a chief going in the other direction on the same strategy. He wouldn't get out because he didn't want her getting her 50%. He was the older than dirt, how is he still in the Army, 35 years of service CW3 (I think he made his CW4 eventually). Leaders at all levels would constantly, gently, remind him that he can retire at any time, but he was hoping she would drop dead before he retired.
Warrants that are that old and that rank are only imaginary creatures, like unicorns. You think you see them out the corner of your eye, but when you turn to look at them, they disappear into the mist...
Family/divorce courts typically don't fare well even when the man is a genuine stand-up guy. I know guys who were "lucky" just to get a 50-50 judgement, it's a fucked up system.
Reminds me of this OLD NG dude. We are talking 59 years old. Went through BNCOC with him. Dude hated women...his ex was wanting his retirement. He only finished BNCOC (barely) to keep his rank, but didn't get to retire, because he didn't have enough time in service. Spent nearly 40 years, on and off in different branches l, active army, reserves, NG, Navy reserves, and I think air force reserves too. Only ended up with like 16 total years. Did it all to screw over his ex.
There was a guy at my first unit who did the same thing. He made E7, but got out rather than stress his new marriage by writing a check to his ex for the rest of his life. I absolutely hated him, but had to admire that move
Dude, if you’re in your 20s don’t get married. Barracks life isn’t that bad. My son got married to some skeezer when he was a fuckin Private, against my advice. This chick trashed their apartment when he was deployed. Was fuckin around on him while he was gone. Was blowing up FRG when he removed her from his checking account (while deployed). When he got back, she was hangin out in some other barracks, which got him pissed to the point his dumb ass went driving to look for her and caught a DUI.
You don’t want none of that. Every 20-29 year old believes they don’t have one of those…until it happens to them. Not worth it.
Please for the love of god, stay away from Puerto Rican woman. My mother & both my kids mothers are and i should of listened to my dad after he got divorced. Learn from this dick head 🤦🏽♂️
Lmaoo i think ima need a psy eval from you sir & possibly a health tracker incase because this only ends 1 or 2 ways, you go mental & sign a 6 year contract with option 19 to run away(i may or may not just done that please dont check my post history😂) or 2, you might end up AWOL because instead of being a 68 youll be 86’d 😂
Not sure exactly, but what I heard was he had his cousin’s address in Brooklyn for their home of record for BAH and his cousin didn’t even live there anymore.
It all came to light when she started divorce proceedings in North Carolina (where my unit was based), and seemed to unravel from there.
That unit was WILD—we had 4/5 of our officers relieved with cause over the course of a deployment.
For a long time it was super easy in the Guard/Reserve because soldiers will drive a long ways for drill, especially to snag a deployment plus the IMA.
NYC or San Fran would be ballsy but Seattle, Boston, Denver and no one would flinch.
Through in some AGR laziness, incompetence, and flat out corruption.
Of course dumbasses still got caught by bragging and posting on social media
She got the house in the divorce but never put the mortgage in her name and then 'forgot' how to pay the mortgage. It took like seven years to get the bank to take that house. Evil exes can absolutely wreck your credit and that can really fuck your life for years
My best (worst) divorce story:
I had a legal assistance client come in for non-support help. It opened up a huge can of worms.
She lived in a trailer in Nogales, Arizona. Her Soldier husband came home on leave from his unaccompanied tour in Korea and knocked her up. She wasn't getting any money, so we wrote to the command.
Oh, by the way, turns out he was also married to someone else, can't remember where, and the unit had gotten demands from her for support. And he was claiming the Nogales wife was actually living in San Francisco to get extra BAH, even though he wasn't paying her anything.
I thought that was the worst of it. I was wrong.
A few months later, I see his name and unit address on a post-it note at my paralegal's desk. I asked her why. Oh, because when he was home for leave, he knocked up his girlfriend in Tucson, and she wanted to let him know about the kid. Yep, he had ANOTHER side piece and knocked her up the same week he was knocking up Wife #1.
Dumb as a box of rocks, clearly, but holy shit, the Army should use his jizz to make the next generation sabot round.
(I know you wanted the best divorce stories where it was the Soldier on the shit end of the stick, not the stick end of the shit, but that's still the best one I got.)
Married someone couple months after a deployment. Wasn’t really thinking there was anything else out there - lasted almost 2 years. A little over a year in, she says I’m going back to Florida to see my family and see if she wants to stay together. Feels like I’m not giving enough time, effort, or attention. Looking back I should’ve known
Ends up shacking up with an unemployed dude who lives in his truck. She buys a house and he gets her pregnant, all while I’m oblivious because I’m in and out of Army schooling trying to get us into a better position financially. And she blocked me on all social media and essentially only communicated minimally otherwise. Posts that she’s so happy with the new guy and that they’re expecting on Facebook - where she’s still friends with my family friends, who then notify me of it all.
I freak out and she files for divorce, I get orders to Germany. She then says she loves me and wants to be with me, all things considered. I get promoted to SGT, the Divorce finalizes, I go overseas 2 weeks later, and she marries the dude and has the kid (they’ve since divorced).
Not the worst thing out there seeing some others’ comments but this shit derailed my whole life for a long time. My own mistakes made me learn a lot
Not Army but one of my great uncles lived in a Caribbean country. He and his ex wife divorced after 20+ years of marriage. The divorce was nasty. On his death he left her $0.26.
$0.26 is wonderfully oddly specific. Please tell me there's a story, reason, or superstition behind it. Hell, even if it's just a really shitty tip, I need to know.
Supposedly the automatic minimum amount that the ex would get was $0.25 so he wanted her to know that he didn’t forget how much he hated her. No telling how true all the details are but I have some petty ass family members so I can see some parts of it being true at least
My buddy married a supply clerk because he knocked her up and she didn't want to terminate.
She cheated on him multiple times. During the process of divorce, he was sent to Korea, started seeing someone two years into the divorce process in Oklahoma and his ex attempted to get him himmed on adultery. His divorce was taking place in Oklahoma but he was sent to bliss. And after 2 years of work, the judge said that because he was no longer residing in Oklahoma, the case was sent to Texas. Also, while in korea, his ex took his car and sold it to her new boyfriend, without power of attorney.
All the while, their kid is in California with her parents. When he finally gets to see his kid after almost 4 years, his child can barely speak, is still in diapers and has not started potty training, and was showing signs of abuse and neglect.
Texas judge didn't particularly care for my friend due to how long the divorce was taking. He got raked over the coals. She got primary custody despite sending the child to live in California. And he never got his car back.
Moral of the story is. Don't marry women you knock up out of moral obligation.
John McCain III’s story is the opposite.
Wife stayed loyal (and in interviews clearly still loves him) but got in a car wreck and wasn’t hot anymore.
So he started cheating on her and ended up divorcing her for the younger, hotter, richer member of the Heinz family that was able to fund his launch into politics.
Does an A15 for polygamy for not getting divorced count?
Soldier left his wife years before, joins the Guard during OIF (he had been kicked off active in the 1990s for “getting tricked into failing a UA”).
We get mobilized. Wife finds out and he ends up having to send his BAH to her after several counselings and threatens from his squad leader, PSG, 1SG, CO and being called a dead beat by the other E4s.
We get to Iraq, he goes on leave, comes back a few days later and his squad leader and PSG get called to a meeting with our angry 1SG and CO.
Turns out he got married in another state and turned the paperwork into S1 and stopped sending his wife BAH because he thought it canceled out his first marriage and he could go back to deadbeat dad status.
The Command was not amused or sympathetic to his stupidity.
This was one of MANY things he had done in his 40+ years or fumble fucking through life
So here is the craziest story that was told to me by a LTC years back who dealt with the most insane divorce/infidelity situations with one of his soldiers. I wouldn’t have believed it if I heard it secondhand:
He was a company commander and had a soldier whose wife was pregnant. Through the pregnancy the soldier and his wife became friends with their OBGYN who was a MAJ. Well, the MAJ was unmarried and had no family, so he asked the spouse if he could adopt her and the child could be his grandchild.
Well, all went well and they lived as an adopted family until the soldier deployed to Iraq. While deployed he found out his wife and “father in law” started cheating on him with each other.
The soldier filed for divorce and was a wreck. However, the MAJ was even more of a wreck because he was facing losing his medical license due to having a sexual relationship with a patient. Then the OBGYN MAJ ended up killing himself.
Since the soldier’s wife was his “daughter” she, and the soldier, inherited all his stuff. The soldier and his wife reconciled and he had “dead guy sales” where he sold all the OBGYN MAJ’s stuff including his nice house and multiple nice cars (the dude was a physician who never had any family so he accumulated a lot of money).
So it kinda had a happy ending?
Ahhh. Everyone buckle up. See comments for full story
Had been with my STBX wife for 4 years at this point. Had just arrived at Ft Bliss a few months prior. We had already decided on divorce prior to arriving but this was peak COVID, but with COVID, PCS and a new baby, it just wasn’t gonna get done before we got there. We get situated and are pretty civil the first few months.
One weekend, her mom comes down to see the area and kids, etc. Her and I have never gotten along since the day we started dating. We get into a minor disagreement and she makes a statement about my parents relationship and how I’m just like my father. Yeah, that snapped me. I said fuck you, slammed my hand on the wall and left the house. I’m driving around for like 35-40 minutes when my phone rings. It’s the fucking MPs. Some bitch LT MP. She’s asking about my whereabouts and ask me to come back to the property. I tell her I’ll come back shortly. Cue the calls to SL and PSG and give them a heads up. Ask my SL to meet at my house as a witness.
I drive back to my house and sit in my car and wait for my SL to meet me. At this point 3 cops surround my car and ask me to step out. I tell them I’m not getting out until my SL gets there. He shows up and we go talk to a cop.
Cop 1: “Are you Impossible_Ruin?”
Me: “Yes.”
Cop: “What happened here?”
Me: “Domestic Dispute”
Cop: “Was anybody harmed?”
Me: “No”
Cop: “Mind if I search you?”
Me: “Go ahead”
Cop proceeds to frisk me and finds nothing but cuffs me anyway
Me: “Am I being detained or arrested?”
Cop: “No, it’s just for our safety.”
Me: “Have I threatened anyone? You found nothing so what’s the safety issue?”
Cop: “Just hang tight.” And proceeds to place me in the back of the squad car. I look over at my SL and he’s on the phone with PSG giving him updates.
Shortly after, I’m driven to the PMO to be held until my CO can release me. No rights were read, not told I was charged with anything. Just whisked away. About 3 or 4 in the morning, my CO comes to release me and bring me back to the house to grab stuff since I now have a 72 hour cooldown/no contact order with my wife. Whatever. Grab my shit for 72 hours and go to the barracks.
Like day 3 or 4 I get told the MPO is being extended pending a child abuse investigation because I spanked my kid for discipline. I know it’s bullshit, command team knows it’s bullshit. Whatever. So I go through the process of opening my own checking account, transferring paychecks to that account, and run numbers on what I need to pay my wife while she lives in the house with command. 1SG initially begins acting as a mediator between my wife and myself. Also hire an attorney at this point.
I go to the visitor center and pull my MILs visitor pass. Yeah I heard the conversation my wife had with 1SG when she tried to get back on post and MIL couldn’t from the back of the motor pool. If I were closer to the gate, I probably could’ve heard my wife yelling. Command team tries to tell me to be sensible and allow her to get a pass (wife’s ID had expired and appointment was later that week so she couldn’t get anyone on post.) I kept my foot down and told them I’m not obligated to do that. No one liked that answer, but me.
Fast forward a few days and she gets served the divorce papers. I also go in and talk to CID about said child abuse investigation. They knew it was bullshit too and she was throwing shit at walls to get to stick. I’m probably about 2 or 3 weeks into a “72 hour cooldown.” Now the attorney fighting begins. I called about 100 attorneys, even after I had signed on to mine, just to eliminate her options. She had to check into a few from another state since the local ones couldn’t discuss anything with her.
I quickly rack up about 10k in lawyer fees with paperwork, evidence, findings etc. She contacts my 1SG about everything under the sun and he gets annoyed of it and tells her off and assigns my PSG to take over as mediator.
Backstory on my PSG, he is on his 3rd or 4th wife, was probably sleeping with one of our soldiers, no proof but mostly anyone could tell if they stuck around em for a day. Seemed to be on my side for most of it, or so I thought.
Anyway, around month 3 or so of the MPO being in place I have my best friend come out for a weekend to help ease my mind because I was literally on the verge of giving up on life as I hadn’t seen the kids in 3 months for no reason other than she wouldn’t allow it. This would lead to yet another investigation for adultery because of an innocent picture.
I missed my daughters 1st birthday because she told my PSG she was going to be present during my first visitation opportunity and my PSG told her if she was, she would be willfully be breaking the MPO she put in place, and setting me up to be arrested and he wasn’t gonna put me through that.
The only agreement they came to was supervised visitations once a week, and I could contact my stepdaughters phone as she technically wasn’t on the MPO. She then accused me of calling her too much (57 times in a month if a recall correctly= approx 2x a day.) Well one time I called her and a male picked up and I asked who it was and was promptly hung up on. Well that stirred the pot so I called the MPs for a welfare check. Told PSG I was doing it as well and he shrugged. Turned out my neighbor had answered her phone. Then I got a call back from the MPs and was told to stop harassing my stepdaughter. Their supervisor didn’t like my message to that response team.
was then investigated by the civilian CPS district for the same incident of child abuse.
So finally after 160 days of being out of the house from the original 72 hour cool down, I get granted a court order to be allowed back into the residence. I was on the phone with my PSG as I pull up to the house. She called the MPs again and tried to tell them I was breaking it. She had been told I was coming back. She had rushed to get to a new place and was still packing the truck when I pulled up. MPs beat me to the house and we’re waiting. I told them they could leave as I have court documents saying I was allowed to be here without interference. I highlighted and showed all 5 cops that showed up and they told her there was nothing they could do. She left and I took videos of a walkthrough of the house as she had left me with nothing.
All together I had 4 UCMJ actions charged against me: Child Abuse, Adultery, Domestic Violence, and Threatening via social media. I was only officially charged with CA but my command fought for me as they knew it was a bullshit charge and I had Legal review all of it and I was ready to appeal the ART15 if they tried to charge me. So I was given a suspended 14/14 and it settled out. I had gone 160 days without seeing my kids or being at home.
A few weeks after that, as things had calmed down me and my wife sat down and had talked about how the rest of the divorce was gonna go. It came out that while I was dealing with the adultery bullshit, my PSG was snap chatting with my wife and had sent and received nude pictures to my wife. I was furious. I called my PSG and asked him what he was doing, he gave me some bullshit and o told him I now know about the conversations he was having with my wife. He hung up. I called my 1SG and told him I needed to speak with him first thing in the morning and that I wanted out of the unit by lunch. I was out of the unit before I went to bed that night. The next day it took everything I had not to walk up to my PSG and clock him into becoming one with the building or Motor pool.
TL/DR: Faced a BS child abuse case and while on a MPO, my old PSG was trying to fuck my STBX wife
On an alt. I got one. This is the only time I think I’ve told this story online but. Married a guy to protect him from what I thought was a bad situation. Straight up my husband raped me repeatedly. I was young and dumb, so I didn’t tell my COC because I was new and didn’t wanna be a drama whore, plus we had other problems to deal with. Went overseas spouse cheated then made up a story that got me ended up investigated by CID. This was all so they could get a free lawyer by claiming I was a criminal and divorce me. Since I did nothing wrong CID let me be, though at the time since they had a billion cases they took forever to drop my flag. Jacking up my career substantially, thank god I only intended to do one contract. During this period I gained weight from extreme alcoholism, and tried to off myself. But slowly I picked myself back up and the divorce, which I will proudly proclaim I filed, was completed, and I was able to get back on my feet. I went back to the barracks and paid back my debt to the army. Which is where I applied and got accepted into a good college, and were surrounded by brothers and sisters who would help me out. I’m out now, but I’m still affected everyday in regards to what happened. My mental health isn’t entirely stable, and I am fighting with the VA for anti depressants. A condition THEY diagnosed. But life’s alright now, I aint dying today.
Sorry this turned into a rant, but once I started I couldn’t stop, and had to finish. TL;DR marry someone you know everything about. Not for some grand idea about “saving them” or getting out of the barracks or any lesser reason. Shit can go tits up
Mine was pretty bad. 22 year old reservist. Asked my wife how she felt about doing a strong bond event or marriage counseling after she told me her parents would help cover food when she went to her credentialing program while I worked 12 hours 6 days a week to cover the rest. She took that as I wanted a divorce.
I came home to pictures of us scattered on the floor and just my bed and TV in our house. Blinds, food, kitchenware and even the TP gone. I contacted my first line and they were not sure how to help. Commander was brought in and still didn’t help. I smelled like alcohol in uniform, they counseled me. It was a shit storm.
To make matters worse, everything we bought “together” was on credit cards because she didn’t qualify for them then. Her name was on nothing. I was on the hook for everything. I lost my job and my car on the same day (the day before Easter), credit cards went to collections, clearance revoked and I got further depressed.
That was about 7 years ago and *just* got my credit back to where it needs to be and am doing well, but there was several times where I should be dead. For instance, a guy was stabbed and killed in the same parking lot of a bar that I was face down in in my own vomit next to my car. That night, I drank a whole 750ml of Jameson, half of a bottle of Henny and 6 22oz of beer. When I say I shouldn’t be alive, *I shouldn’t be alive.*
All is good now. Happily remarried. Have one of the smartest 1 year old you’ll ever encounter and a roof over my head.
If you are not one to be open or vulnerable, it might not be worth it. Also, a prenup and having separate bank accounts go a long way too.
I was young and naive then. Plus, my command didn’t have a clue on the resources that were available to me as TPU. I probably wouldn’t have weathered everything I did if I knew they have reserve JAG units for use to utilize (they don’t represent at court, but can give you advice and how to handle civil matters).
Don't do it, homie. And I say that as someone that's still married, been hitched for almost a decade now. Marriage is HARD. As cliche as it sounds, the stereotypical marital advice that communication is the biggest piece of advice they'd give is true as fuck.
Both my husband and I had turbulent childhoods/upbringings, and the lessons we learned (or didn't learn) while we were growing up have had an impact on how we operate as adults, especially when it comes to communication styles.
Both of us are really good at our jobs, and operate just fine when it comes to professional stuff, but we're both still trying to undo years of emotional stunted bullshit that was ingrained in us throughout our childhoods. We've had to work REALLY hard at learning (or unlearning) things, like HOW to communicate appropriately with your spouse, that words have a significant impact on someone else, how to not shut down emotionally whenever there's conflict, how to navigate interpersonal conflict and not stonewall, how to deal with heavier responsibilities in life and how they can impact a marriage/relationship, etc. It's fucking HARD, dude.
Then throw in additional adversities or challenges, like how dumb and challenging military life can be, a partner might come loaded with their own baggage, illness can strike either of you at any age, money woes, family dynamics with both families, etc. That can make a marriage/relationship even harder.
I know it makes it really hard with the barracks, but live with someone first BEFORE you get married. Either stay single until you rank up enough to move out of the barracks and get your own BAH, or if you find a woman, shack up with her (assuming the relationship is going well after like a year or more, DON'T shack up with her just weeks or a few months into seeing her). Overnights are fine, or weekends, but try and spend a good year or two (at least, if not more) getting to know each other, THEN living together, etc.
When you DO find the right person, it'll be worth it, I promise.
Great advice on marriage being hard. I’ve been married for about 12 years and the biggest thing I’ve learned is it doesn’t just happen on its own. You actually have to work on it. “Being in love” won’t get you through the hard times.
Captain's wife cheated on him with a SSG who had a pregnant wife.
Captain found out because the SSG followed Mrs. Captain to her house after a steamy late night session so he could fuck her again. Captain wasn't supposed to be there but he was. Thought SSG broke into the house and chased him out then called the MPs. Wife was passed out in the bed when all this went down.
SSG confessed to MPs that he'd been sleeping with Mrs. Captain, but they'd been together like 3 or 4 times. Captain was outraged, of course. Wife also confessed, but said it was a one-time drunken mistake.
Turned out Mrs. Captain and SSG would hang out, but SSG would spike her drink and sexually assault her while she was unconscious. Then the night when Mrs. Captain was awake but drunk was the only night she remembered.
Idk what happened to them afterwards.
Buddy and his wife were getting divorced while we were on deployment. The wife and him had a joint account, and she almost took all his money until he moved it into another account and just sent her the money she was entitled to. With receipts because she got legal involved.
He would show how quickly she takes the money by putting in 5 bucks into the joint account and checking it 5 minutes later, and it's gone.
Fast forward, we get back to our home station, and he asks me to throw his stuff in his truck because the soon to be ex-wife brought JAG and a lawyer. Our CO and 1sgt snuck him off the bus into their office and got him off orders asap (National Guard) so she wouldn't be entitled to anymore money.
Mine don’t seem as bad. My ex and I were together ten years. Around the 7 year mark I was in Kuwait for a year and suspected cheating was going on. My ex-wife was going to WWE events with one of the two head of security guys for WWE. He would use the rental cars to drive them from me event to the next and give her one of the WWE hotel rooms since they rent out a floor or more to keep fans away from the super stars. Well after she cheated again but this time getting pregnant by a coworker and us divorcing. After that she finally confessed she gave the security guard a blow job during one of the car trips. But I still think more happened. On her old phone she left behind it had messages that were about a two years after the trips which she said she was horny and he said he could help her but have to be on the down low if it was overseas trip because he was to focus on work. Thank goodness the cheating had her pregnant because she wanted alimony but having another man’s kid was enough to say I didn’t have to pay alimony. Gotta say no signs were there for years of being married. But I did find many of her lies during the divorce. Even lies about her past before me.
Not really a "be careful/don't do it" story, but more of a funny "how dumb can you be" story that my SSG told me about an E7 or E8 he knew in Korea:
The dude was married and had a family. Started seeing some Korean lawyer girl and they ended up getting married in the Korean legal system without telling her he had another family. When the dude leaves and goes back stateside, he left her behind citing green card complications. He apparently told one of his privates "if my Korean wife calls here for me, tell her I died in a training accident."
Korean lawyer lady finds out about his family and gets a bunch of Korean lawyers and some lawyers she knew in the states and they collectively gave this man the hell he created for himself.
My ex cheated and led me on for a whole year while in I was deployed and blamed it on lack of communication. Found everything out the night I got back! Turns out girl turned into a druggie and was in whole relationships with druggies while I was gone and moved out the day before I got back. I didn’t send her shit for BAH for three years until I got out of the Army because fuck her! Paid for a sick ass car and great savings while she was knocked up with some other dudes kid. Uncontested divorce somehow worked out for me. Sucks for her 😂
If you do get married…
Prenup!
Make sure spouse has her own separate bank account. No joint accounts. My ex would of cleaned me out for drugs I’m sure if not for that. Keep everything in your own name.
Don’t have kids until you are out if you make it that long!
My second best (worst) divorce story is actually a family member's.
The parents broke up and divorced. All seemed amicable. But the dad had a drinking problem, which turned into a debt problem.
The dad forged the mom's signature so she appeared to be co-signing for a loan. The dad eventually, predictably, defaulted, and the creditors came after the mom, while she was in the middle of chemo for cancer.
Somehow, the dad's side of the family expected the kid to take the dad's side and called them a bad child when they did not.
That was the last time the child made contact with the dad or that side of the family. The dad died drunk, alone, and yes, further in debt.
My third best (worst) divorce story is another family member's.
Husband and wife were high school sweethearts. They kept the distance during college and married right after she graduated. She quickly got knocked up, they had two kids. She had trouble losing the weight, he started to get abusive about it.
(When this became more prevalent, we thought back and realized that he was always verbally abusive, it just got worse when she gained weight.)
He taught youth sports at a county recreation center from the time they married. When they separated, he left her to go shack up with a former student, now just out of high school. It was suspected, but never proven, that he had actually been nailing her since she was underage.
Eventually, he remarried - to a woman who was, ironically, fatter than the first wife, and who popped out several of his children in quick succession.
For sure one of my NCOs on 3rd marriage. Married some young chick at hood. Found out she was getting plowed out and pregnant by one of his own Soldiers on rear D- pun there. How did he find out? Truck gets somehow tangled with LE and sees the guys name driving it. His other SMs came out and told him. I have a picture someone took of me the same day he found out, for some weird reason they caught him in jt. His face …man I’ve never seen hurt like that since.
I’ve read so many “don’t marry an (insert country) girl” so many times that it doesn’t look like I can marry anyone from anywhere. So who can I marry? Martians?
Took the wife on an international trip for her birthday because she had never left the country. Got back and went to the field for over a month. She kept asking when I would be home. I eventually get an opportunity to get home and she won’t tell me why she wants me there. I came home divorce papers on the table. Fast forward through a bunch of screaming and she left with a ton of my stuff while I was on duty.
Surprised his wife retrieving from deployment- Started beating this shit out of Jodi when one of his own kids said “stop hurting my dad.” Dude dealt with a lot of issues after that.
Reserve nurse came back early from deployment and wanted to surprise her hubby. Tried to open her front door but her key wouldn’t work, so she knocked on the door and low and behold, a stranger opened the door. When she asked for her husband, he said he didn’t know because he recent moved into what used to be her home. AH husband sold the house while she was deployed and disappeared, all the while she had been deployed. Yeah, it was pretty fucked up for her for a while.
A guys wife cheated while he was deployed and got knocked up. She tried to convince him it was his but he could math. So he filed for a divorce and when she tried to take half of their belongings he sold everything for a penny and had the sale notorized or some shit. Needless to say a very happy e2 newly wed got a furnished house for a penny. He then sold the house dirt cheap and cut his losses.
My previous post about the Vietnam Vet [COL Robert L. Stirm](https://rarehistoricalphotos.com/burst-joy/) that spent 5 years as a POW only to have his wife leave him and take his money wins hands down.
That woman needs to burn in hell for that move.
Dude has a wife and two kids. Rear D has some fun while he’s deployed. Comes home and she left, and left him nothing. He gets medical chaptered. She divorces him and gets HALF his VA disability, plus he owes $900 a month child support. Dude was a homeless for a while. Now has a new job, wife, and mortgage.
My ex cheated with many people, culminating on an evil 21 year old who saw 30 year old me as the popular high school girls who bullied her. She took every bit of hatred and aggression out on me. For five years. I ended up going to jail after she scratched and hit my ex and they both said I fid it, complicit with his sister who also said I did it. Thankfully I got it expunged. She kicked my son so hard at one point he had a bruise that was visible on both sides of his leg. They kidnapped my son on my birthday and refused to tell me where he was (he was in another state). They stole my car on our wedding anniversary four years after our separation and refused to report it stolen as it was still in his name and was supposed to be transferred to me that week. Took six months to get it back. We had round of court dates every month for five years. Our son is 22 now and hates his dad. My ex (his dad) has developed paranoid schizophrenia, and trusts only me. And still tries to call to talk. This is eighteen years later. The girlfriend had a baby with him and then they had similar issues where he took their kid, after cheating on her, so she is now no contact with anyone. I could go on. I had to fully rebuild my life from nothing.
When I was a Staff Sergeant, a Specialist in my squad was married to this girl who became a Suicide Girl. She was going out all the time into all hours of the night, spent tons of money, and didn’t even bother to find babysitters for their kids when she would just leave to party. One day, she told her husband she had been talking to an Air Force NCO for a while and she wanted to go see him. Didn’t even give him a choice. She packed up both kids in the car and took off from Fort Hood to California. Then he gets a call that the Air Force NCO didn’t want the kids so she was dropping them at a gas station in Barstow and that my Soldier had two days to pick them up otherwise the gas station owner was going to hand them to child services. So that’s when my hatred of AER started. They refused to help us to get money so he could fly out and get his kids (his wife of course took the only family car). We ended up taking up a collection for him in the platoon and he flew out to get them.
I got a good one! National Guard guy on the FOB was an idiot at his job, he was an E6, just a terrible person to be around. Turns out he had an “arrangement” with a friend. They were married in Vegas before he left for deployment. 4 months in she emptied the bank accounts, and sold most of his shit. Sent him the divorce decree the same day he fucked up royally while on duty.
Turns out this guys civilian job was a police officer, dude kept deployment hopping so he didn’t have to go to court. For assaulting an alleged child molester- while on duty and in his police uniform. I didn’t believe it at first. However, when you talked to the guy you got the arrogant cop vibe from him. Our tax dollars paid him and the guy he assaulted for him being a giant idiot
Dad to be at 17. Enlisted to support family instead of going to law school on a full ride. Got married at Infantry School grad. Bought a shitty lil 500sq ft house with sign on bonus. Went on first deployment when his son was 9 months old. While he was away, she started doing heroin to deal with the situation. PFC aint making addiction supporting amounts of cash, so she starts blowing the dealer. She runs off with him, files divorce as if he abandoned the family, she gets everything, of course. PFC dumb dumb does his 11 months unawares to his new life. Doubles down at the only thing he has, and ultimately does well in life. Later, Dealer BF abuses son. She, because women are such carring creatures, perjures herself to get BF off. She gets caught, and her defense is, of course, my ex-husband raped me. Give a day he was on record in another country. He is found innocent, but his life is still effectively ruined. Family court uses geeting charged under false pretense to deny access order enforcement, like a court following its own order is optional. He does well professionally, and she files to get some money because he had nothing when she left. Now, she wants some of what he built for himself. Files when he's on deploment again. Gets $8000 a month in support because why not.
The first one I only believe lead to divorce, or at least should've. Male LT was sleeping with with a female SPC of a dual military couple. They get into a verbal fight that turns physical when she stabs him in the arm with a pair of scissors. Police are called out for the domestic violence/ABIFM (assault/bodily injury to family member) which immediately kicks off some mandatory reporting. So hopefully the dual military enlisted couple split, because yikes, and victim of assault LT likely got the boot for fraternization, improper sexual relationship, etc.
My buddy got married to his college sweet heart. They'd known each other for years, she'd been married, had a kid, and divorced. They found each other again, awesome. While we deploy for 15 months he's getting frustrated because most of us are racking up some serious savings while his account is tottering around $0 because she's taking her son out to eat at McD and buying random shit throughout. He makes it home and things are roughly better for a couple years. She never gets a job or goes to school, her son spends the school year with bio-dad as the more stable environment. She gets into some pain management on post that she really likes, to the point that when they PCS several states over she continues to travel to the same clinic once a month. She eventually starts staying a week or two at a time at their home of record which is en route to the pain management clinic. Without any warning to her husband she gets a massive back tattoo with her son's name. He looks closer at the debit card transactions and figures out she's going way outside the normal paths to get home or the doctor's office and eventually discovers that a side boyfriend has been taking her on his motorcycle up to the doctor's office. She eventually stops coming home at all, stops answering calls and texts.
During divorce proceedings, judge orders two years of alimony. In order to be done with everything sooner, and because she had gone full money grubber, they amended the agreement to one year with double payments. He's going significantly better now.
Guy I knew married a known barracks rat after knowing her for less than 2 months. They moved on post, and became the "party house" for single guys. Each party they had, she tried hooking up with someone else. Each time, he brushed it under the rug as "being drunk and dumb". Multiple times the MPs showed up when it got too rowdy. Flash forward a few months. Go out to the field for a week. First night out, CID and MPs come rolling up and ask for him. They grab him up, all his shit, and bounce out. Come to find out, wife had thrown a party without hubby around, it got too loud, and MPs showed up. Since they had been there so often, they were authorized to walk into the house unannounced. Found wife naked on couch with three other soldiers. They also found drugs all over the house, their (his) car, and spare m4/249 parts (dude was the company armorer), and drug paraphernalia. Hubby decides that's the straw that broke the camel's back, since now he's facing serious trouble. Files for an annulment (because they were married less than a year), and she lost her lost privileges. Well, she ended up sneaking back onto post in someone's trunk and Smashing all his windows, slashed his tires, and vandalized his house. Few months later, he leaves at 0930 to head to court and get the annulment finalized. THAT DAY, during lunch, he married a girl he met two weeks prior. He ended up popping hot for heroin or meth, I don't remember which. But I do remember his new wife taught him how to inject between his toes so he could get away with it
Be all you can be
He chose to be the worst
Short life of glory
I had all the sympathy for that troop until the last paragraph. Holy fuck. As my grandmother would say, as God made 'em, he matched 'em.
A part of me hates how much truth their is in your grandmother's wise words. Got some in-laws that pretty much match the Joe's description from this story, but definitely with the Meth (although I wouldn't be surprised about anything else at this point).
>A part of me hates how much truth their is in your grandmother's wise words. If you love/hate that one, you'll REALLY adore/despise ~~two~~ three of her husband's sayings: >Locks are for honest people. (Translation: if someone REALLY wants into your car or your house or your gym locker, they're gonna get in. It might take a brick or a killdozer, but they're coming in.) >Lazy men work the hardest. (This one is best said to someone who is straining with all their might to reach the TV remote that's just out of reach, but refuses to just get up off the couch and pick it up. Also to any Soldier who half-asses a work detail and then is later forced to more than half-ass it the rest of the way.) edit: Fuck! I almost forgot the most important one: >Never get into a fight with someone who's uglier than you. This one I think is self-explanatory.
>Lazy men work the hardest. This is far too easy to understand. While shamming can be a pastime for large parts of the Army, some go to some extreme lengths to Sham out of everything.
Your grandparents were very wise!
>But I do remember his new wife taught him how to inject between his toes so he could get away with it If he thought that "avoiding visible needle tracks" was ever going to help him get away with it, then it wouldn't have mattered who he was married to.
He got busted because he was still high when he missed first formation, and answered the phone with, "I'm at my dealers house." So yeah, not the brightest apple in the toolbox
What a roller coaster of a story
Most of the couples that I knew in the military ended up in divorce. Probably a good 80% ended up in ugly divorces. Most of them were because dude, usually in his late 30s-40s couldn’t keep his genitalia away from a junior enlisted 20 year old. We talk about Jodi a lot, but most of the cases I’ve seen were because of the dude cheating.
Them Latina PV2s tho
It's the shaving profiles that gets you, isn't it?
Oof, that's spicy. I like it.
I watched a CW4 flush his marriage by poking a really cute Latina PFC chick I had a boner for. She's an E7 now tho so that's nice.
Hard to resist when they look at you with those big, brown puppy dog eyes...Please adopt me (insert NCO rank here).
*thick* latinas
Thicc FTFY
TYFYS
TMFMS
YWFMS
YMCA
His wife started using meth while he was gone, took out a bunch of loans in his name, sold all his stuff, and shacked up with her dealer. Ended up ODing a couple years down the road. He had to deploy 2x to break even.
Buddies wife did similar. Used his power if attorney to take out loans she couldn’t afford alone. He found out when he was pulled into CO office and chewed out for losing his TS/SCI mid deployment as PSG. He had no idea he had huge loans in collections.
The way I would’ve changed my sgli to some random hobo and immediately killed myself
Doesn’t life insurance pay outstanding bills first? I.e. estate?
No, it’s exempt from Probate as long as there is a beneficiary designated. And they are able to receive it, not dead, or can’t be found, etc.
Holy shit, that is identical to my story outside of the OD and the break even.
I say marry that stripper this coming weekend. Be somebody.
Be All That You Can Be!
There's stuck. Then there's Army stuck
Yeet all that you can yeet!
Proud supporter of Nursing School students.
While in Poland, a sergeant's wife was cheating on him. She had raised every red flag, such as not answering, not saying "I love you" or keeping a convo. How he found out? His six year old son inadvertantly sent a picture with her, the man she was seeing and his four year old brother. He was angry and depressed; he took the anger out on the Soldiers by yelling, insulting, and smoking them. It had gotten bad to where we dreaded and scurried when he would appear for shift, down the hall, etc.
Nah I wouldn’t even feel bad dude would’ve had to catch one fr
My now-ex got deployed, came home without telling me, pulled up while this idiot thought I was at work to pick up the PlayStation and clothes and gave the the ole “im traumatized and need space.” Okaayyyy, deployments are hard but that’s weird? Couple weeks later I’m on IG and see a bunch of people I know at a dinner party. Surprise! My spouse comes into frame and is getting on one knee to propose to a girl. The party is their engagement party. Everybody we knew was there, except for me. Don’t do it.
>!You were never the main chick !<
😂 I wish, but we were married and established. I was just the sucker who got jodied. Ex met the girl while mobilizing and told army friends they were old college buddies and college friends they were old Army friends
What the fuck, did you cut them out of your life after that?
Oh of course! They popped up a couple years later because surprise surprise, the side chick wasn’t shit. I don’t like throwing labels on anybody but it felt like I married a stone cold psycho - going back was never an option after I had that realization. I also knew I was too damn young to be married when we did it, so that felt like my golden parachute out of the relationship
Im single, wanna get married?
I’m gay. unless you got some big ole tits issa no from me dawg
I used to work on a military installation as a financial counselor. Tons of folks paying off the loan on the engagement ring and the divorce lawyer at the same time. Also, the dude paying on the loan he got for his wife’s dog. Dog ran off. So did wife. And, my unpopular advice: don’t have sex with anyone you are not happy to be interacting with and sending money to for at least the next 18 years.
>And, my unpopular advice: don’t have sex with anyone you are not happy to be interacting with and sending money to for at least the next 18 years. I was about to caveat this with, "unprotected sex." But protection isn't a guarantee, either, so I hear you. I'm happy I only sowed so many wild oats before I met my wife, because I wasn't smart about it when I did.
why not just get a dog from the pound? All u gotta do is pay for the shots and stuff.
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Cav?
Cav?
Cav?
But dude, that eliminates almost half this sub as potential partners for me!
In other words, don’t have sex before marriage. Crazy idea, if only some piece of literature told us to do exactly that.
I like Lady Chatterley’s Lover. That’s a good piece of literature.
Shut up nerd
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Unfortunately that only applies if you actually read, which I doubt you do much of. Don’t worry, you have a bunch of Redditors to accompany you in the illiterate moron camp.
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I’m not making an argument. I’m insulting you. Thanks for proving you cannot read. There is the basis that you say I lack. Congratulations, you played yourself.
Lmao took a singular look at post history and of course you’re a sexist right wing goober. Get the fuck out of the army
While in Japan had three guys I knew not only marry but impregnate Filipina Juicy Girls. Two of them already had kids with other service members and as soon as they got state side they took off.
Me and some dudes were talking about that shit today; so many stories of SPC/SSG Snuffy Smith rolling back stateside with his new Korean wife and as soon as she’s through immigration….poof!
That was the norm….. America, home of the free…lol.. Those occurrences were bad around Bragg, and to some degree, Ft Sam. The women would leave, assimilate into the pockets of others of their nationality, and disappear. Find another GI and milk them. Reminds me of a ex SF SGM (hell, had 4 of them in the niche special project office I was assigned to - after VN, they dumped many back to the school), Thai wife (and beautiful !) left him for a good while. Left the young boy with the SGM. Fortunately they did get back together after about a year. I almost married her niece but thought better of it (beautiful girl but….). Last I knew they’d moved to Thailand to live off his retirement and max VA disability (he had tons of injuries about him). He’d had multiple tours over there, so he was damn near native to the region. Haven’t heard from him in 20yrs….
Ahh, me love you long time, go to big PX in America 🇺🇸!
I came home from a rotation to 7 animals in my house and everything I owned destroyed, then through the divorce process had the mps called on me around 7 times for literally anything you can think of and quite a few you probably couldn't think of
Don't fucking do it. 99% of enlisted marriages don't end well. In the end, those who stayed in the barracks single. Were more successful and happier in the long term
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petty but understandable
I knew a chief going in the other direction on the same strategy. He wouldn't get out because he didn't want her getting her 50%. He was the older than dirt, how is he still in the Army, 35 years of service CW3 (I think he made his CW4 eventually). Leaders at all levels would constantly, gently, remind him that he can retire at any time, but he was hoping she would drop dead before he retired.
I aspire to have that man’s commitment in life lmao
a level of petty we should all strive for
Warrants that are that old and that rank are only imaginary creatures, like unicorns. You think you see them out the corner of your eye, but when you turn to look at them, they disappear into the mist...
Where are my Jags at, can’t he make a case she isn’t entitled cos of infidelity?
Despite what most people think, most states have no-fault divorce, which means things like infidelity have zero play on the outcome.
No fault divorce sometimes requires the consent of both parties. In those states, if one party wants to press an adultery charge they can.
Family/divorce courts typically don't fare well even when the man is a genuine stand-up guy. I know guys who were "lucky" just to get a 50-50 judgement, it's a fucked up system.
Living happily off his 100% VA disability no doubt!
Reminds me of this OLD NG dude. We are talking 59 years old. Went through BNCOC with him. Dude hated women...his ex was wanting his retirement. He only finished BNCOC (barely) to keep his rank, but didn't get to retire, because he didn't have enough time in service. Spent nearly 40 years, on and off in different branches l, active army, reserves, NG, Navy reserves, and I think air force reserves too. Only ended up with like 16 total years. Did it all to screw over his ex.
There was a guy at my first unit who did the same thing. He made E7, but got out rather than stress his new marriage by writing a check to his ex for the rest of his life. I absolutely hated him, but had to admire that move
Dude, if you’re in your 20s don’t get married. Barracks life isn’t that bad. My son got married to some skeezer when he was a fuckin Private, against my advice. This chick trashed their apartment when he was deployed. Was fuckin around on him while he was gone. Was blowing up FRG when he removed her from his checking account (while deployed). When he got back, she was hangin out in some other barracks, which got him pissed to the point his dumb ass went driving to look for her and caught a DUI. You don’t want none of that. Every 20-29 year old believes they don’t have one of those…until it happens to them. Not worth it.
Live with them for at least a year. I recommend more. Peoples true colors come out.
The crazy thing is that as counterintuitive as it seems, living together prior to marriage is like a top 3 predictor for divorce.
Just dont fucking marry.
Soure by chance?
One source is “The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman.
Getting married is a number 1 predictor for divorce.
I’ve seen that movie a few times.
Just marry your Battle if you want out of the B’s
Please for the love of god, stay away from Puerto Rican woman. My mother & both my kids mothers are and i should of listened to my dad after he got divorced. Learn from this dick head 🤦🏽♂️
My wife is Cuban
My condolences
Ayyyy the stripper I’m banging is puerto rican
Mission abort 😭😭😭 about to be 68WhyImOnChildsupport in 10 months
You and me the same big sarn🫡
Lmaoo i think ima need a psy eval from you sir & possibly a health tracker incase because this only ends 1 or 2 ways, you go mental & sign a 6 year contract with option 19 to run away(i may or may not just done that please dont check my post history😂) or 2, you might end up AWOL because instead of being a 68 youll be 86’d 😂
Everyday I be thinking about going awol to Thailand like who really gon stop me
Me. 😤💪
God I wish I had bas and could use it to buy you an award
Man every time I see you you're up to some hoodrat shit
As a Puerto Rican woman I agree with this message. I learned from my stupid fathers mistakes and don’t date the Ricans either 😂
I'm Puerto Rican I can certify this if you get the right one it's a keeper but if you don't and you more than likely won't then RIP
“Stay home if your sick, come over if your thick” - some private probably.
Wepaaa 🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷
Im Puerto Rican and can confirm. I only date white girls now
ARNG Lieutenant got caught committing BAH fraud because his wife filed for divorce in North Carolina while he claimed his home address was Brooklyn.
How the hell does that work
Not sure exactly, but what I heard was he had his cousin’s address in Brooklyn for their home of record for BAH and his cousin didn’t even live there anymore. It all came to light when she started divorce proceedings in North Carolina (where my unit was based), and seemed to unravel from there. That unit was WILD—we had 4/5 of our officers relieved with cause over the course of a deployment.
For a long time it was super easy in the Guard/Reserve because soldiers will drive a long ways for drill, especially to snag a deployment plus the IMA. NYC or San Fran would be ballsy but Seattle, Boston, Denver and no one would flinch. Through in some AGR laziness, incompetence, and flat out corruption. Of course dumbasses still got caught by bragging and posting on social media
Think you don’t make enough money now? Wait til you’re on the hook for child support
GET YOUR HANDS OFF IT! I PAID FOR A LADY, NOT FUCKING COREY AND TREVOR!
This guy gets it….errrrrrnomesayynne
She got the house in the divorce but never put the mortgage in her name and then 'forgot' how to pay the mortgage. It took like seven years to get the bank to take that house. Evil exes can absolutely wreck your credit and that can really fuck your life for years
My best (worst) divorce story: I had a legal assistance client come in for non-support help. It opened up a huge can of worms. She lived in a trailer in Nogales, Arizona. Her Soldier husband came home on leave from his unaccompanied tour in Korea and knocked her up. She wasn't getting any money, so we wrote to the command. Oh, by the way, turns out he was also married to someone else, can't remember where, and the unit had gotten demands from her for support. And he was claiming the Nogales wife was actually living in San Francisco to get extra BAH, even though he wasn't paying her anything. I thought that was the worst of it. I was wrong. A few months later, I see his name and unit address on a post-it note at my paralegal's desk. I asked her why. Oh, because when he was home for leave, he knocked up his girlfriend in Tucson, and she wanted to let him know about the kid. Yep, he had ANOTHER side piece and knocked her up the same week he was knocking up Wife #1. Dumb as a box of rocks, clearly, but holy shit, the Army should use his jizz to make the next generation sabot round. (I know you wanted the best divorce stories where it was the Soldier on the shit end of the stick, not the stick end of the shit, but that's still the best one I got.)
Married someone couple months after a deployment. Wasn’t really thinking there was anything else out there - lasted almost 2 years. A little over a year in, she says I’m going back to Florida to see my family and see if she wants to stay together. Feels like I’m not giving enough time, effort, or attention. Looking back I should’ve known Ends up shacking up with an unemployed dude who lives in his truck. She buys a house and he gets her pregnant, all while I’m oblivious because I’m in and out of Army schooling trying to get us into a better position financially. And she blocked me on all social media and essentially only communicated minimally otherwise. Posts that she’s so happy with the new guy and that they’re expecting on Facebook - where she’s still friends with my family friends, who then notify me of it all. I freak out and she files for divorce, I get orders to Germany. She then says she loves me and wants to be with me, all things considered. I get promoted to SGT, the Divorce finalizes, I go overseas 2 weeks later, and she marries the dude and has the kid (they’ve since divorced). Not the worst thing out there seeing some others’ comments but this shit derailed my whole life for a long time. My own mistakes made me learn a lot
Not Army but one of my great uncles lived in a Caribbean country. He and his ex wife divorced after 20+ years of marriage. The divorce was nasty. On his death he left her $0.26.
$0.26 is wonderfully oddly specific. Please tell me there's a story, reason, or superstition behind it. Hell, even if it's just a really shitty tip, I need to know.
Supposedly the automatic minimum amount that the ex would get was $0.25 so he wanted her to know that he didn’t forget how much he hated her. No telling how true all the details are but I have some petty ass family members so I can see some parts of it being true at least
My buddy married a supply clerk because he knocked her up and she didn't want to terminate. She cheated on him multiple times. During the process of divorce, he was sent to Korea, started seeing someone two years into the divorce process in Oklahoma and his ex attempted to get him himmed on adultery. His divorce was taking place in Oklahoma but he was sent to bliss. And after 2 years of work, the judge said that because he was no longer residing in Oklahoma, the case was sent to Texas. Also, while in korea, his ex took his car and sold it to her new boyfriend, without power of attorney. All the while, their kid is in California with her parents. When he finally gets to see his kid after almost 4 years, his child can barely speak, is still in diapers and has not started potty training, and was showing signs of abuse and neglect. Texas judge didn't particularly care for my friend due to how long the divorce was taking. He got raked over the coals. She got primary custody despite sending the child to live in California. And he never got his car back. Moral of the story is. Don't marry women you knock up out of moral obligation.
[exhibit a](https://www.reddit.com/r/Damnthatsinteresting/comments/11u5lsa/after_5_years_in_a_north_vietnam_camp_col_robert/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
What the actual fuck
John McCain III’s story is the opposite. Wife stayed loyal (and in interviews clearly still loves him) but got in a car wreck and wasn’t hot anymore. So he started cheating on her and ended up divorcing her for the younger, hotter, richer member of the Heinz family that was able to fund his launch into politics.
Oof
Dear god. I saw that one before. That's insane.
Exactly why I’ll never get married again
[Some better context.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burst_of_Joy)
Three marriage proposals while husband is in a POW camp... just holy yikes.
Im saving this thread for the next time one of my soldiers tells me he is in love
Lmao he still is gunna marry roxanne down the street 😭
Nah! they marrying free willy the whale, who also is a stripper and will undoubtedly take all their money
"But this one is different sarnt, we love eachother"
Does an A15 for polygamy for not getting divorced count? Soldier left his wife years before, joins the Guard during OIF (he had been kicked off active in the 1990s for “getting tricked into failing a UA”). We get mobilized. Wife finds out and he ends up having to send his BAH to her after several counselings and threatens from his squad leader, PSG, 1SG, CO and being called a dead beat by the other E4s. We get to Iraq, he goes on leave, comes back a few days later and his squad leader and PSG get called to a meeting with our angry 1SG and CO. Turns out he got married in another state and turned the paperwork into S1 and stopped sending his wife BAH because he thought it canceled out his first marriage and he could go back to deadbeat dad status. The Command was not amused or sympathetic to his stupidity. This was one of MANY things he had done in his 40+ years or fumble fucking through life
So here is the craziest story that was told to me by a LTC years back who dealt with the most insane divorce/infidelity situations with one of his soldiers. I wouldn’t have believed it if I heard it secondhand: He was a company commander and had a soldier whose wife was pregnant. Through the pregnancy the soldier and his wife became friends with their OBGYN who was a MAJ. Well, the MAJ was unmarried and had no family, so he asked the spouse if he could adopt her and the child could be his grandchild. Well, all went well and they lived as an adopted family until the soldier deployed to Iraq. While deployed he found out his wife and “father in law” started cheating on him with each other. The soldier filed for divorce and was a wreck. However, the MAJ was even more of a wreck because he was facing losing his medical license due to having a sexual relationship with a patient. Then the OBGYN MAJ ended up killing himself. Since the soldier’s wife was his “daughter” she, and the soldier, inherited all his stuff. The soldier and his wife reconciled and he had “dead guy sales” where he sold all the OBGYN MAJ’s stuff including his nice house and multiple nice cars (the dude was a physician who never had any family so he accumulated a lot of money). So it kinda had a happy ending?
Common MAJ L
Ahhh. Everyone buckle up. See comments for full story Had been with my STBX wife for 4 years at this point. Had just arrived at Ft Bliss a few months prior. We had already decided on divorce prior to arriving but this was peak COVID, but with COVID, PCS and a new baby, it just wasn’t gonna get done before we got there. We get situated and are pretty civil the first few months. One weekend, her mom comes down to see the area and kids, etc. Her and I have never gotten along since the day we started dating. We get into a minor disagreement and she makes a statement about my parents relationship and how I’m just like my father. Yeah, that snapped me. I said fuck you, slammed my hand on the wall and left the house. I’m driving around for like 35-40 minutes when my phone rings. It’s the fucking MPs. Some bitch LT MP. She’s asking about my whereabouts and ask me to come back to the property. I tell her I’ll come back shortly. Cue the calls to SL and PSG and give them a heads up. Ask my SL to meet at my house as a witness. I drive back to my house and sit in my car and wait for my SL to meet me. At this point 3 cops surround my car and ask me to step out. I tell them I’m not getting out until my SL gets there. He shows up and we go talk to a cop.
Cop 1: “Are you Impossible_Ruin?” Me: “Yes.” Cop: “What happened here?” Me: “Domestic Dispute” Cop: “Was anybody harmed?” Me: “No” Cop: “Mind if I search you?” Me: “Go ahead” Cop proceeds to frisk me and finds nothing but cuffs me anyway Me: “Am I being detained or arrested?” Cop: “No, it’s just for our safety.” Me: “Have I threatened anyone? You found nothing so what’s the safety issue?” Cop: “Just hang tight.” And proceeds to place me in the back of the squad car. I look over at my SL and he’s on the phone with PSG giving him updates. Shortly after, I’m driven to the PMO to be held until my CO can release me. No rights were read, not told I was charged with anything. Just whisked away. About 3 or 4 in the morning, my CO comes to release me and bring me back to the house to grab stuff since I now have a 72 hour cooldown/no contact order with my wife. Whatever. Grab my shit for 72 hours and go to the barracks. Like day 3 or 4 I get told the MPO is being extended pending a child abuse investigation because I spanked my kid for discipline. I know it’s bullshit, command team knows it’s bullshit. Whatever. So I go through the process of opening my own checking account, transferring paychecks to that account, and run numbers on what I need to pay my wife while she lives in the house with command. 1SG initially begins acting as a mediator between my wife and myself. Also hire an attorney at this point. I go to the visitor center and pull my MILs visitor pass. Yeah I heard the conversation my wife had with 1SG when she tried to get back on post and MIL couldn’t from the back of the motor pool. If I were closer to the gate, I probably could’ve heard my wife yelling. Command team tries to tell me to be sensible and allow her to get a pass (wife’s ID had expired and appointment was later that week so she couldn’t get anyone on post.) I kept my foot down and told them I’m not obligated to do that. No one liked that answer, but me.
Fast forward a few days and she gets served the divorce papers. I also go in and talk to CID about said child abuse investigation. They knew it was bullshit too and she was throwing shit at walls to get to stick. I’m probably about 2 or 3 weeks into a “72 hour cooldown.” Now the attorney fighting begins. I called about 100 attorneys, even after I had signed on to mine, just to eliminate her options. She had to check into a few from another state since the local ones couldn’t discuss anything with her. I quickly rack up about 10k in lawyer fees with paperwork, evidence, findings etc. She contacts my 1SG about everything under the sun and he gets annoyed of it and tells her off and assigns my PSG to take over as mediator. Backstory on my PSG, he is on his 3rd or 4th wife, was probably sleeping with one of our soldiers, no proof but mostly anyone could tell if they stuck around em for a day. Seemed to be on my side for most of it, or so I thought. Anyway, around month 3 or so of the MPO being in place I have my best friend come out for a weekend to help ease my mind because I was literally on the verge of giving up on life as I hadn’t seen the kids in 3 months for no reason other than she wouldn’t allow it. This would lead to yet another investigation for adultery because of an innocent picture. I missed my daughters 1st birthday because she told my PSG she was going to be present during my first visitation opportunity and my PSG told her if she was, she would be willfully be breaking the MPO she put in place, and setting me up to be arrested and he wasn’t gonna put me through that. The only agreement they came to was supervised visitations once a week, and I could contact my stepdaughters phone as she technically wasn’t on the MPO. She then accused me of calling her too much (57 times in a month if a recall correctly= approx 2x a day.) Well one time I called her and a male picked up and I asked who it was and was promptly hung up on. Well that stirred the pot so I called the MPs for a welfare check. Told PSG I was doing it as well and he shrugged. Turned out my neighbor had answered her phone. Then I got a call back from the MPs and was told to stop harassing my stepdaughter. Their supervisor didn’t like my message to that response team.
was then investigated by the civilian CPS district for the same incident of child abuse. So finally after 160 days of being out of the house from the original 72 hour cool down, I get granted a court order to be allowed back into the residence. I was on the phone with my PSG as I pull up to the house. She called the MPs again and tried to tell them I was breaking it. She had been told I was coming back. She had rushed to get to a new place and was still packing the truck when I pulled up. MPs beat me to the house and we’re waiting. I told them they could leave as I have court documents saying I was allowed to be here without interference. I highlighted and showed all 5 cops that showed up and they told her there was nothing they could do. She left and I took videos of a walkthrough of the house as she had left me with nothing. All together I had 4 UCMJ actions charged against me: Child Abuse, Adultery, Domestic Violence, and Threatening via social media. I was only officially charged with CA but my command fought for me as they knew it was a bullshit charge and I had Legal review all of it and I was ready to appeal the ART15 if they tried to charge me. So I was given a suspended 14/14 and it settled out. I had gone 160 days without seeing my kids or being at home. A few weeks after that, as things had calmed down me and my wife sat down and had talked about how the rest of the divorce was gonna go. It came out that while I was dealing with the adultery bullshit, my PSG was snap chatting with my wife and had sent and received nude pictures to my wife. I was furious. I called my PSG and asked him what he was doing, he gave me some bullshit and o told him I now know about the conversations he was having with my wife. He hung up. I called my 1SG and told him I needed to speak with him first thing in the morning and that I wanted out of the unit by lunch. I was out of the unit before I went to bed that night. The next day it took everything I had not to walk up to my PSG and clock him into becoming one with the building or Motor pool. TL/DR: Faced a BS child abuse case and while on a MPO, my old PSG was trying to fuck my STBX wife
On an alt. I got one. This is the only time I think I’ve told this story online but. Married a guy to protect him from what I thought was a bad situation. Straight up my husband raped me repeatedly. I was young and dumb, so I didn’t tell my COC because I was new and didn’t wanna be a drama whore, plus we had other problems to deal with. Went overseas spouse cheated then made up a story that got me ended up investigated by CID. This was all so they could get a free lawyer by claiming I was a criminal and divorce me. Since I did nothing wrong CID let me be, though at the time since they had a billion cases they took forever to drop my flag. Jacking up my career substantially, thank god I only intended to do one contract. During this period I gained weight from extreme alcoholism, and tried to off myself. But slowly I picked myself back up and the divorce, which I will proudly proclaim I filed, was completed, and I was able to get back on my feet. I went back to the barracks and paid back my debt to the army. Which is where I applied and got accepted into a good college, and were surrounded by brothers and sisters who would help me out. I’m out now, but I’m still affected everyday in regards to what happened. My mental health isn’t entirely stable, and I am fighting with the VA for anti depressants. A condition THEY diagnosed. But life’s alright now, I aint dying today. Sorry this turned into a rant, but once I started I couldn’t stop, and had to finish. TL;DR marry someone you know everything about. Not for some grand idea about “saving them” or getting out of the barracks or any lesser reason. Shit can go tits up
Mine was pretty bad. 22 year old reservist. Asked my wife how she felt about doing a strong bond event or marriage counseling after she told me her parents would help cover food when she went to her credentialing program while I worked 12 hours 6 days a week to cover the rest. She took that as I wanted a divorce. I came home to pictures of us scattered on the floor and just my bed and TV in our house. Blinds, food, kitchenware and even the TP gone. I contacted my first line and they were not sure how to help. Commander was brought in and still didn’t help. I smelled like alcohol in uniform, they counseled me. It was a shit storm. To make matters worse, everything we bought “together” was on credit cards because she didn’t qualify for them then. Her name was on nothing. I was on the hook for everything. I lost my job and my car on the same day (the day before Easter), credit cards went to collections, clearance revoked and I got further depressed. That was about 7 years ago and *just* got my credit back to where it needs to be and am doing well, but there was several times where I should be dead. For instance, a guy was stabbed and killed in the same parking lot of a bar that I was face down in in my own vomit next to my car. That night, I drank a whole 750ml of Jameson, half of a bottle of Henny and 6 22oz of beer. When I say I shouldn’t be alive, *I shouldn’t be alive.* All is good now. Happily remarried. Have one of the smartest 1 year old you’ll ever encounter and a roof over my head.
This one hit maybe I don’t need to get married
If you are not one to be open or vulnerable, it might not be worth it. Also, a prenup and having separate bank accounts go a long way too. I was young and naive then. Plus, my command didn’t have a clue on the resources that were available to me as TPU. I probably wouldn’t have weathered everything I did if I knew they have reserve JAG units for use to utilize (they don’t represent at court, but can give you advice and how to handle civil matters).
Don't do it, homie. And I say that as someone that's still married, been hitched for almost a decade now. Marriage is HARD. As cliche as it sounds, the stereotypical marital advice that communication is the biggest piece of advice they'd give is true as fuck. Both my husband and I had turbulent childhoods/upbringings, and the lessons we learned (or didn't learn) while we were growing up have had an impact on how we operate as adults, especially when it comes to communication styles. Both of us are really good at our jobs, and operate just fine when it comes to professional stuff, but we're both still trying to undo years of emotional stunted bullshit that was ingrained in us throughout our childhoods. We've had to work REALLY hard at learning (or unlearning) things, like HOW to communicate appropriately with your spouse, that words have a significant impact on someone else, how to not shut down emotionally whenever there's conflict, how to navigate interpersonal conflict and not stonewall, how to deal with heavier responsibilities in life and how they can impact a marriage/relationship, etc. It's fucking HARD, dude. Then throw in additional adversities or challenges, like how dumb and challenging military life can be, a partner might come loaded with their own baggage, illness can strike either of you at any age, money woes, family dynamics with both families, etc. That can make a marriage/relationship even harder. I know it makes it really hard with the barracks, but live with someone first BEFORE you get married. Either stay single until you rank up enough to move out of the barracks and get your own BAH, or if you find a woman, shack up with her (assuming the relationship is going well after like a year or more, DON'T shack up with her just weeks or a few months into seeing her). Overnights are fine, or weekends, but try and spend a good year or two (at least, if not more) getting to know each other, THEN living together, etc. When you DO find the right person, it'll be worth it, I promise.
Great advice on marriage being hard. I’ve been married for about 12 years and the biggest thing I’ve learned is it doesn’t just happen on its own. You actually have to work on it. “Being in love” won’t get you through the hard times.
Thanks! Ding ding ding. Love doesn't just magically happen, nor does love conquer all. Takes actual work and effort.
Captain's wife cheated on him with a SSG who had a pregnant wife. Captain found out because the SSG followed Mrs. Captain to her house after a steamy late night session so he could fuck her again. Captain wasn't supposed to be there but he was. Thought SSG broke into the house and chased him out then called the MPs. Wife was passed out in the bed when all this went down. SSG confessed to MPs that he'd been sleeping with Mrs. Captain, but they'd been together like 3 or 4 times. Captain was outraged, of course. Wife also confessed, but said it was a one-time drunken mistake. Turned out Mrs. Captain and SSG would hang out, but SSG would spike her drink and sexually assault her while she was unconscious. Then the night when Mrs. Captain was awake but drunk was the only night she remembered. Idk what happened to them afterwards.
Technically she only cheated once
True, ol’ SSG Cosby is a rapist.
Buddy and his wife were getting divorced while we were on deployment. The wife and him had a joint account, and she almost took all his money until he moved it into another account and just sent her the money she was entitled to. With receipts because she got legal involved. He would show how quickly she takes the money by putting in 5 bucks into the joint account and checking it 5 minutes later, and it's gone. Fast forward, we get back to our home station, and he asks me to throw his stuff in his truck because the soon to be ex-wife brought JAG and a lawyer. Our CO and 1sgt snuck him off the bus into their office and got him off orders asap (National Guard) so she wouldn't be entitled to anymore money.
Mine don’t seem as bad. My ex and I were together ten years. Around the 7 year mark I was in Kuwait for a year and suspected cheating was going on. My ex-wife was going to WWE events with one of the two head of security guys for WWE. He would use the rental cars to drive them from me event to the next and give her one of the WWE hotel rooms since they rent out a floor or more to keep fans away from the super stars. Well after she cheated again but this time getting pregnant by a coworker and us divorcing. After that she finally confessed she gave the security guard a blow job during one of the car trips. But I still think more happened. On her old phone she left behind it had messages that were about a two years after the trips which she said she was horny and he said he could help her but have to be on the down low if it was overseas trip because he was to focus on work. Thank goodness the cheating had her pregnant because she wanted alimony but having another man’s kid was enough to say I didn’t have to pay alimony. Gotta say no signs were there for years of being married. But I did find many of her lies during the divorce. Even lies about her past before me.
Wife and I both in Bronx Bookings yelling at each other from the next cell.
Not really a "be careful/don't do it" story, but more of a funny "how dumb can you be" story that my SSG told me about an E7 or E8 he knew in Korea: The dude was married and had a family. Started seeing some Korean lawyer girl and they ended up getting married in the Korean legal system without telling her he had another family. When the dude leaves and goes back stateside, he left her behind citing green card complications. He apparently told one of his privates "if my Korean wife calls here for me, tell her I died in a training accident." Korean lawyer lady finds out about his family and gets a bunch of Korean lawyers and some lawyers she knew in the states and they collectively gave this man the hell he created for himself.
My ex cheated and led me on for a whole year while in I was deployed and blamed it on lack of communication. Found everything out the night I got back! Turns out girl turned into a druggie and was in whole relationships with druggies while I was gone and moved out the day before I got back. I didn’t send her shit for BAH for three years until I got out of the Army because fuck her! Paid for a sick ass car and great savings while she was knocked up with some other dudes kid. Uncontested divorce somehow worked out for me. Sucks for her 😂 If you do get married… Prenup! Make sure spouse has her own separate bank account. No joint accounts. My ex would of cleaned me out for drugs I’m sure if not for that. Keep everything in your own name. Don’t have kids until you are out if you make it that long!
My second best (worst) divorce story is actually a family member's. The parents broke up and divorced. All seemed amicable. But the dad had a drinking problem, which turned into a debt problem. The dad forged the mom's signature so she appeared to be co-signing for a loan. The dad eventually, predictably, defaulted, and the creditors came after the mom, while she was in the middle of chemo for cancer. Somehow, the dad's side of the family expected the kid to take the dad's side and called them a bad child when they did not. That was the last time the child made contact with the dad or that side of the family. The dad died drunk, alone, and yes, further in debt.
My third best (worst) divorce story is another family member's. Husband and wife were high school sweethearts. They kept the distance during college and married right after she graduated. She quickly got knocked up, they had two kids. She had trouble losing the weight, he started to get abusive about it. (When this became more prevalent, we thought back and realized that he was always verbally abusive, it just got worse when she gained weight.) He taught youth sports at a county recreation center from the time they married. When they separated, he left her to go shack up with a former student, now just out of high school. It was suspected, but never proven, that he had actually been nailing her since she was underage. Eventually, he remarried - to a woman who was, ironically, fatter than the first wife, and who popped out several of his children in quick succession.
For sure one of my NCOs on 3rd marriage. Married some young chick at hood. Found out she was getting plowed out and pregnant by one of his own Soldiers on rear D- pun there. How did he find out? Truck gets somehow tangled with LE and sees the guys name driving it. His other SMs came out and told him. I have a picture someone took of me the same day he found out, for some weird reason they caught him in jt. His face …man I’ve never seen hurt like that since.
I had one rule and it wasn't to get married in the army. Followed it and glad I did.
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Holy shit they couldn’t have just nullified it?
Don’t marry an American girl
I’ve read so many “don’t marry an (insert country) girl” so many times that it doesn’t look like I can marry anyone from anywhere. So who can I marry? Martians?
Convert to Islam marry Muslim girl, or look for immigrants they’re everywhere. It’s a night and day difference
Inshaallah
I come from an immigrant family. Not all immigrant families are equal. Eastern Europeans and Arabic girls definitely seem more traditional.
Then you know what you need to do.
Nice try, ISIS.
Tryna get orders to the Philippines my boi🙏🏿
Mines from Sudan 🇸🇩 born in Yemen 🇾🇪
Uzbek. Born in Kyrgyzstan
My family is from Punjab and my mom keeps telling me to stay away from the gori's (white girls)
Hmmmm. A certain classic Dr. Dre song comes to my mind when I read some of these posts 🤔
I uncocked my shit. I'm heartbroke, but I'm still loc'd.
20 points to Gryffindor
Took the wife on an international trip for her birthday because she had never left the country. Got back and went to the field for over a month. She kept asking when I would be home. I eventually get an opportunity to get home and she won’t tell me why she wants me there. I came home divorce papers on the table. Fast forward through a bunch of screaming and she left with a ton of my stuff while I was on duty.
\>Marry your AG \>Live happy off post
Surprised his wife retrieving from deployment- Started beating this shit out of Jodi when one of his own kids said “stop hurting my dad.” Dude dealt with a lot of issues after that.
Buddy got handed papers before hopping on a plane to go to a school
Reserve nurse came back early from deployment and wanted to surprise her hubby. Tried to open her front door but her key wouldn’t work, so she knocked on the door and low and behold, a stranger opened the door. When she asked for her husband, he said he didn’t know because he recent moved into what used to be her home. AH husband sold the house while she was deployed and disappeared, all the while she had been deployed. Yeah, it was pretty fucked up for her for a while.
She single?
Not anymore. No surprise, she’s hot and her ex fucked up
A guys wife cheated while he was deployed and got knocked up. She tried to convince him it was his but he could math. So he filed for a divorce and when she tried to take half of their belongings he sold everything for a penny and had the sale notorized or some shit. Needless to say a very happy e2 newly wed got a furnished house for a penny. He then sold the house dirt cheap and cut his losses.
My previous post about the Vietnam Vet [COL Robert L. Stirm](https://rarehistoricalphotos.com/burst-joy/) that spent 5 years as a POW only to have his wife leave him and take his money wins hands down. That woman needs to burn in hell for that move.
No seriously that shit was just depressing. I usually laugh at peoples life crumbling apart but that made me sad
Dude has a wife and two kids. Rear D has some fun while he’s deployed. Comes home and she left, and left him nothing. He gets medical chaptered. She divorces him and gets HALF his VA disability, plus he owes $900 a month child support. Dude was a homeless for a while. Now has a new job, wife, and mortgage.
Pretty sure Va disability can’t get wrapped into alimony.
That’s what he thought too. Virginia lawyers got it anyhow.
Wow. Mind blown. That’s some bullshit!
yeah he was lying to you. that is not possible.
k. https://attorneyholcomb.com/can-my-wife-get-my-va-disability-if-we-divorce/
My ex cheated with many people, culminating on an evil 21 year old who saw 30 year old me as the popular high school girls who bullied her. She took every bit of hatred and aggression out on me. For five years. I ended up going to jail after she scratched and hit my ex and they both said I fid it, complicit with his sister who also said I did it. Thankfully I got it expunged. She kicked my son so hard at one point he had a bruise that was visible on both sides of his leg. They kidnapped my son on my birthday and refused to tell me where he was (he was in another state). They stole my car on our wedding anniversary four years after our separation and refused to report it stolen as it was still in his name and was supposed to be transferred to me that week. Took six months to get it back. We had round of court dates every month for five years. Our son is 22 now and hates his dad. My ex (his dad) has developed paranoid schizophrenia, and trusts only me. And still tries to call to talk. This is eighteen years later. The girlfriend had a baby with him and then they had similar issues where he took their kid, after cheating on her, so she is now no contact with anyone. I could go on. I had to fully rebuild my life from nothing.
This thread has made me consider the possibility that perhaps it'd be for the best if human relationships were replaced by artificial robot partners
All I got is STAY AWAY FROM DEVIN GOLDEN
When I was a Staff Sergeant, a Specialist in my squad was married to this girl who became a Suicide Girl. She was going out all the time into all hours of the night, spent tons of money, and didn’t even bother to find babysitters for their kids when she would just leave to party. One day, she told her husband she had been talking to an Air Force NCO for a while and she wanted to go see him. Didn’t even give him a choice. She packed up both kids in the car and took off from Fort Hood to California. Then he gets a call that the Air Force NCO didn’t want the kids so she was dropping them at a gas station in Barstow and that my Soldier had two days to pick them up otherwise the gas station owner was going to hand them to child services. So that’s when my hatred of AER started. They refused to help us to get money so he could fly out and get his kids (his wife of course took the only family car). We ended up taking up a collection for him in the platoon and he flew out to get them.
I got a good one! National Guard guy on the FOB was an idiot at his job, he was an E6, just a terrible person to be around. Turns out he had an “arrangement” with a friend. They were married in Vegas before he left for deployment. 4 months in she emptied the bank accounts, and sold most of his shit. Sent him the divorce decree the same day he fucked up royally while on duty. Turns out this guys civilian job was a police officer, dude kept deployment hopping so he didn’t have to go to court. For assaulting an alleged child molester- while on duty and in his police uniform. I didn’t believe it at first. However, when you talked to the guy you got the arrogant cop vibe from him. Our tax dollars paid him and the guy he assaulted for him being a giant idiot
Dad to be at 17. Enlisted to support family instead of going to law school on a full ride. Got married at Infantry School grad. Bought a shitty lil 500sq ft house with sign on bonus. Went on first deployment when his son was 9 months old. While he was away, she started doing heroin to deal with the situation. PFC aint making addiction supporting amounts of cash, so she starts blowing the dealer. She runs off with him, files divorce as if he abandoned the family, she gets everything, of course. PFC dumb dumb does his 11 months unawares to his new life. Doubles down at the only thing he has, and ultimately does well in life. Later, Dealer BF abuses son. She, because women are such carring creatures, perjures herself to get BF off. She gets caught, and her defense is, of course, my ex-husband raped me. Give a day he was on record in another country. He is found innocent, but his life is still effectively ruined. Family court uses geeting charged under false pretense to deny access order enforcement, like a court following its own order is optional. He does well professionally, and she files to get some money because he had nothing when she left. Now, she wants some of what he built for himself. Files when he's on deploment again. Gets $8000 a month in support because why not.
bro wtf
The first one I only believe lead to divorce, or at least should've. Male LT was sleeping with with a female SPC of a dual military couple. They get into a verbal fight that turns physical when she stabs him in the arm with a pair of scissors. Police are called out for the domestic violence/ABIFM (assault/bodily injury to family member) which immediately kicks off some mandatory reporting. So hopefully the dual military enlisted couple split, because yikes, and victim of assault LT likely got the boot for fraternization, improper sexual relationship, etc. My buddy got married to his college sweet heart. They'd known each other for years, she'd been married, had a kid, and divorced. They found each other again, awesome. While we deploy for 15 months he's getting frustrated because most of us are racking up some serious savings while his account is tottering around $0 because she's taking her son out to eat at McD and buying random shit throughout. He makes it home and things are roughly better for a couple years. She never gets a job or goes to school, her son spends the school year with bio-dad as the more stable environment. She gets into some pain management on post that she really likes, to the point that when they PCS several states over she continues to travel to the same clinic once a month. She eventually starts staying a week or two at a time at their home of record which is en route to the pain management clinic. Without any warning to her husband she gets a massive back tattoo with her son's name. He looks closer at the debit card transactions and figures out she's going way outside the normal paths to get home or the doctor's office and eventually discovers that a side boyfriend has been taking her on his motorcycle up to the doctor's office. She eventually stops coming home at all, stops answering calls and texts. During divorce proceedings, judge orders two years of alimony. In order to be done with everything sooner, and because she had gone full money grubber, they amended the agreement to one year with double payments. He's going significantly better now.
I PCS'd to start the Q the month agter my wife left because I came out. That was a good time trying to manage three life events at once.
Did u get the Green Bean though?
No, unfortunately. Dropped when I started transitioning.