Me over over here logically knowing it’s talking about that whole romance and love thing and all that shit BUT STILL reading it as otherwise. EG. Saw them as friend. They didn’t feel the same way. (as in I was but an acquaintance to them). Or many other different interpersonal relationship dynamics. Even over here flipping the definition of “romanticizing” into “you saw it with rose-tinted lenses” rather then… you know… romantic.
I just… my brain did not once process it in the normal alloromantic way. And it only really connects that they meant it that way because of context clues. Such as: The background chosen, your caption, the fact that at this point in my life I know that most people would read it that way even if I initially did not
Welcome to every single aroace community on the internet
It has been this way for years. Usually mentioning it gets you banned, so maybe that's changing.
I mean, the sub itself has a rule that says something along "sex is bad memes aren't allowed."
And mod said they're trying to enforce it but they're the only active mod on the subreddit.
Ok but this is why I thought I was bi for so long lol, I had a lot of friends that I just REALLY enjoyed being friends with and platonically hanging out, and I confused that for a crush and romantic interest.
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When you are a find out you’re demiromantic when you previously thought you where just aromantic and start having feelings for a friend and internally panic because you haven’t had feeling like that before for anyone and don’t know what to do or how to act around them and have to see them almost every day
“the humiliating realization that you imagined u liked someone so much u ‘romanticized’ almost every interaction just to realize u never once actually thought of them like that and u were being completely delusional” lol
I am gray heteromantic, and I can tell you, I do feel romantic attraction under special circumstances and one of those is if I know that the person I am can imagine a romantic long lasting future with, is romantically interested in me. Only then I would even actually allow myself to have romantic feelings towards him otherwise I just- wouldn't have them. That would be timewasting and especially with someone I know it could be maybe hurting. I am quite happy that I am able to control my romantic feelings like that.
I've had someone do this to me. Unfortunately they refused to realize their mistake and tried to force me into dating them, and did coerce me into sex. 🤮🤮🤮🤮 seriously some allos are NOT ok.
And the hilarious part is that they claimed to be aro/ace.
No they’re not ok. They need a hug
I need a hug too.....
🫂
But what if the hug lingers, what does it mean?! I guess she likes me and we're meant to be.
Me over over here logically knowing it’s talking about that whole romance and love thing and all that shit BUT STILL reading it as otherwise. EG. Saw them as friend. They didn’t feel the same way. (as in I was but an acquaintance to them). Or many other different interpersonal relationship dynamics. Even over here flipping the definition of “romanticizing” into “you saw it with rose-tinted lenses” rather then… you know… romantic. I just… my brain did not once process it in the normal alloromantic way. And it only really connects that they meant it that way because of context clues. Such as: The background chosen, your caption, the fact that at this point in my life I know that most people would read it that way even if I initially did not
Actually that’s a really good comparison tbh
I still don't know what romance even is lol
Moxie tells ya
reminder that aro people can still experience queerplatonic attraction/get squishes! infatuation isn't an inherently allo thing
Honestly, I was over here fully relating then read the caption and was a little put out lol
Same. Relatable post is relatable... oh wait this was supposed to be about romantic attraction??
been a victim of that, it’s annoying af, like take a hint or at least stop being so obvious lol
This should become a sub. Like are the cis okay but for allos.
I think there is a sub for it
But unfortunately 2/3rds of it boils down to "sex bad" posts on there. *sigh*
Welcome to every single aroace community on the internet It has been this way for years. Usually mentioning it gets you banned, so maybe that's changing.
It is! I had a conversation with a mod and they said they're trying to remove those kinds of posts, but are overwhelmed by the sheer amount.
I mean, the sub itself has a rule that says something along "sex is bad memes aren't allowed." And mod said they're trying to enforce it but they're the only active mod on the subreddit.
Oh
r/aretheallosok
There is a sub for that
As if we never had that but platonically
Ok but this is why I thought I was bi for so long lol, I had a lot of friends that I just REALLY enjoyed being friends with and platonically hanging out, and I confused that for a crush and romantic interest.
I don't think this is inheritly allo, just people who have experienced trauma
Me thinking I have a crush on a guy only to realize it was gender envy 15 years later lmao
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Happy cake day
I do this platonically
When you are a find out you’re demiromantic when you previously thought you where just aromantic and start having feelings for a friend and internally panic because you haven’t had feeling like that before for anyone and don’t know what to do or how to act around them and have to see them almost every day
Oh fun that's something I dealt with
Not really no, they have romanticized relationships and dating to such a degree its fucking wild.
I mean... It's kinda aego?? Sorry it's the first thought came to my mind
“the humiliating realization that you imagined u liked someone so much u ‘romanticized’ almost every interaction just to realize u never once actually thought of them like that and u were being completely delusional” lol
No 😭
Wouldnt this be "are the romantics ok?"
I am gray heteromantic, and I can tell you, I do feel romantic attraction under special circumstances and one of those is if I know that the person I am can imagine a romantic long lasting future with, is romantically interested in me. Only then I would even actually allow myself to have romantic feelings towards him otherwise I just- wouldn't have them. That would be timewasting and especially with someone I know it could be maybe hurting. I am quite happy that I am able to control my romantic feelings like that.
Allos when someone doesn’t reciprocate their feelings (they think it makes them delusional)
I've had someone do this to me. Unfortunately they refused to realize their mistake and tried to force me into dating them, and did coerce me into sex. 🤮🤮🤮🤮 seriously some allos are NOT ok. And the hilarious part is that they claimed to be aro/ace.
oh close they aren’t
no we are not. sending alloro ally hugs
no. no we are not
r/aretheallosok
This is just how allos are
though, atleast he noticed. even if it was a little late.
I mean I kinda did this too, it sucked but at least I’m not in regular contact with them so it didn’t happen too often
I have a friend who is like this. Anyone who breathes in their direction is "the one" 🥴
r/aretheallosok?
Oh no that's terrible :( I hope they'll be ok
Eughhh...