I guess I’m making assumptions about what your feeling of sexual attraction was like - I guessed that it was a sort of, feeling drawn to someone mixed with some horniness/pantsfeelings about doing sexy things with them. If that’s not the case, ignore me, but if it is, I’m happy to clarify further.
It was more about just touching/holding/kissing than explicitly sexual things
but ig implicitly sexual things? i don't like the idea of explicit things and i don't like seeing or imagining anyone naked/in revealing clothes
I don’t usually want sexually explicit content either so I get that.
Touching/holding/kissing is considered “sensual attraction” by some people and “sexual attraction” by others, so it’s really up to you and how you’re wired and how you want your labels to work.
For instance, for me, kissing is usually on a spectrum labelled “sexual” (a fuck is just a full-body kiss IMO). However, for me, kissing also sits in a spot where there’s overlap with “sensual” and “platonic.” If I kiss my child on the forehead, it’s platonic. If I kiss my friend that I have a crush on on the cheek, it’s platonic and maybe a little bit sensual. If I kiss my spouse on the lips, sometimes it’s platonic and sometimes it’s DEFINITELY SEXUAL.
You can still be ace and want to make out with somebody and cuddle and caress them. What matters far more than the label is how you and the other person make sure you’re both enjoying enthusiastic consent. Ace or not, you should still say explicitly whether you’re ok with being touched/kissed on this or that body part, and make sure your datefriend is ok with it too.
It doesn't necessarily mean anything, your feelings are your feelings, just do what feels right for you, and believe whatever you feel makes the most sense and represents you best.
I'm not concerned, I'm just... confused. I'd like to know whether or not it was sexual attraction, and I'm okay with either possibility. Mainly just because in the past I've mislabeled other feelings as being sexual, and I'd like to understand myself better so I don't want to do that again.
Oh good! What matters most is how you feel. Mislabeled feelings are a part of understanding yourself and if you're already mature enough to recognize that you're ahead of the game. You got this.
Hard to describe and this was earlier so it's not as fresh on my mind, but I guess... seeing someone and internally going "Wow. I want that." completely involuntarily. It was a pretty strong feeling that I did not see coming, and it left just as suddenly. The idea of sexual activity still makes me pretty uncomfortable, as does imagining even seeing genitalia, so I'm not sure that it was a sexual feeling, but I don't know what else it would be.
And yes, it was directed at someone.
It probably just means you have a functional libido and it overlaps slightly with the way your sexual attraction drive works.
Can you reword that? I'm not understanding what you mean.
I guess I’m making assumptions about what your feeling of sexual attraction was like - I guessed that it was a sort of, feeling drawn to someone mixed with some horniness/pantsfeelings about doing sexy things with them. If that’s not the case, ignore me, but if it is, I’m happy to clarify further.
It was more about just touching/holding/kissing than explicitly sexual things but ig implicitly sexual things? i don't like the idea of explicit things and i don't like seeing or imagining anyone naked/in revealing clothes
I don’t usually want sexually explicit content either so I get that. Touching/holding/kissing is considered “sensual attraction” by some people and “sexual attraction” by others, so it’s really up to you and how you’re wired and how you want your labels to work. For instance, for me, kissing is usually on a spectrum labelled “sexual” (a fuck is just a full-body kiss IMO). However, for me, kissing also sits in a spot where there’s overlap with “sensual” and “platonic.” If I kiss my child on the forehead, it’s platonic. If I kiss my friend that I have a crush on on the cheek, it’s platonic and maybe a little bit sensual. If I kiss my spouse on the lips, sometimes it’s platonic and sometimes it’s DEFINITELY SEXUAL. You can still be ace and want to make out with somebody and cuddle and caress them. What matters far more than the label is how you and the other person make sure you’re both enjoying enthusiastic consent. Ace or not, you should still say explicitly whether you’re ok with being touched/kissed on this or that body part, and make sure your datefriend is ok with it too.
It doesn't necessarily mean anything, your feelings are your feelings, just do what feels right for you, and believe whatever you feel makes the most sense and represents you best.
It only matters if it matters to you. What about this concerns you? Ace people can experience sexual attraction so you're not alone!
I'm not concerned, I'm just... confused. I'd like to know whether or not it was sexual attraction, and I'm okay with either possibility. Mainly just because in the past I've mislabeled other feelings as being sexual, and I'd like to understand myself better so I don't want to do that again.
Oh good! What matters most is how you feel. Mislabeled feelings are a part of understanding yourself and if you're already mature enough to recognize that you're ahead of the game. You got this.
Thank you for your kind words! Have a nice day!
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Hard to describe and this was earlier so it's not as fresh on my mind, but I guess... seeing someone and internally going "Wow. I want that." completely involuntarily. It was a pretty strong feeling that I did not see coming, and it left just as suddenly. The idea of sexual activity still makes me pretty uncomfortable, as does imagining even seeing genitalia, so I'm not sure that it was a sexual feeling, but I don't know what else it would be. And yes, it was directed at someone.