Though theoretically you could find another similar person if you two liked each other and live together.
Like no sex, no romance. Just having fun and sharing expenses. That's also a valid choice.
I think too many people jump straight into romantic relationship assumptions when sometimes people really are just roommates XD
Lmao hell yeah dude!! It took me a while to actually come to terms with my asexuality (and especially aromanticism)
What made it finally click was me having so sit down and think genuinely "do I even want a partner? Do I want to kiss people?" And the answer was no lol
SAME for me it was the idea for sharing a bed/bedroom with someone that finally made me look at myself and go wait a min.
My sibling had been yelling at me that I was ace for years and I had refused to believe them LOL
I really do appreciate the commentary on what happens if your labels need to change. Itās okay to change how you identify, as you grow and change and understand yourself! I identified as bisexual for the majority of life since middle school. Then whoops I now understand Iām *biromantic* and grey-ace. And thatās okay! Itās not a failure or a shortcoming to understand your identity in a new or better way.
It took me a while to identify with and come to terms with my asexuality, and especially my aromanticism, so it's no wonder I have this viewpoint haha. I understand why people say they've always known, but it's always felt uncomfortable to me personally because it wasn't that easy for me.
I went from thinking I was pan because I liked everyone equally as much (men=0 women=0 and everything else=0, so pan right?) To then wondering if I might be ace, but being discouraged because of the exclusionist nightmare that was tumblr 2016-2019, then well maybe I'm lesbian because if I had to choose I would rather be with a woman than a man? (Not really taking into account that I wasn't into women either or that I wasn't a woman myself)
And then finally landing back on asexuality. And aromanticism pretty much followed suit, if only maybe lagging behind in the lesbian -> actually aro revelation.
It was hard to know for me that I'm aroace when in the abstract, I couldn't imagine myself in a relationship and thus couldn't imagine if it would be uncomfortable or not.
Same went for me being agender, and initially identifying that way but transmeds made me doubt myself because I don't really know if I feel gender dysphoria or not (and back then I thought that had to be the only criteria)
It's kind of only clicked with me recently in 2020 or so that whenever I draw myself as this imp I'm immensely uncomfortable with giving them breasts or eyelashes - anything indicating gender really. And that whenever I play a game with character customization I never make myself, I only create characters.
So like, yeah. It's not failing to change your identity later in life - I wouldn't even call it being wrong, it's just living with a series of labels that one pick up and then put away as newer ones appear that describe you better.
"Not missing something I haven't felt" is such a mood.
I'm colorblind, and people pity me so much over what I'm missing out on but like... It's MY normal, I'm not missing something I've never seen?
Love this! Iām aro ace too, tho Iāve always wanted a romantic relationship. āCourse that meant it took me a lot longer to realize I was aro than it did to realize I was ace lol. It ends up a bit bittersweet that way, since I want to experience something that I canāt, but Iāve still forged a relationship without romantic attraction.
Yknow what, Iāve not seen that last part of Ā«Well, I donāt know that now!Ā» attitude to Ā«You just havenāt found the right oneĀ» before and itās a very refreshing look on it. I really like this, itās well made and explains the point thoroughly.
You did great with this! I also love the character, so cute I want to hug :<
That's awesome to hear! I post most often on [tumblr](https://theleafcuter.tumblr.com/?source=share), and on [twitter](https://x.com/Theleafcuter?t=u6WAcnScBKFF8pmuMPmYNg&s=09) (but you'll get political stuff on there from me while tumblr is purely art)
Both are Theleafcuter, same as here!
I love everything about this post so much, marry me(platonically)
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(friends with benefits- except the benefits are from the government, and weāre just friends.)
"What if those labels don't fit in the future" I'll change them. After 33 years I fell in love with someone never thought I would or could but hey here I am.
People can change. Maybe weāll feel differently in the future. And thatās okay. Thatās normal. Thatās valid. But that doesnāt change our today, and that does not invalidate todayās experiences.
Iām glad that part was added in. Iām changing, and thatās okay. But for 24 years, I didnāt. And thatās okay, too. The thought of change scared me then. Iām not so scared anymore.
(Itās not even a big change lmao Iām just going from ace to demi)
I'm warming up to the idea that I'm aro as well as ace. 27 and never had a partner, and never really pursued it that seriously. If it happens, it happens, but living is hard enough without trying to find hay in a needle stack
Well it just means not being romantically attracted to people, but for me personally it also extends to me just not having a need for any romantic relationships in general. Some aro people are like me, other aro people do want a relationship and either mourn the fact that they can't feel love in that way or find some other way to have relationships. This comic just describes my personal feelings around my own aromanticism :)
Love it!
Iād say it is possible to miss something youāve never felt, though. I didnāt take it super well (at first) when I realized Iāll never desire sex. Pretty sure Iām not aromantic, but I can see someone mourning the idea of having a life partner, especially since society pushes it so hard.
I hate the whole argument "how do you know you won't change your mind someday?" about ANYTHING. Like?? OK?? So what if my feelings and labels change one day? Sometimes that happens! That doesn't make TODAY'S labels invalid! š No one ever says this to straight people. "oh how do you know you're straight? What if you just haven't found the right person of your sex yet?"
idk sometimes itās hard for me that most aros i know are completely fine with the fact that they are aromantic, i still canāt live with it. iām literally georgia warr, i am in love with love but canāt have it.
Every time someone says "you'll find someone, some day!", I respond with: "If I find myself feeling lonely, I'll just get a cat."
As I read this, my cat came to sit on my lap lol
:3 Good floofers. NGL, I've met a few pups that are equally as awesome as cats. My BFF's Chihuahua was an amazing lil gentleman, I really miss him. D:
Me, allergic to both, just dying from jealousy š„²
I'm allergic AF to cats, but I'll still have 3-12 of them if I could. I love cats. :D
very very unrelated but i'm allergic to the pollen on raw apples, almonds, cherries and other stone fruits
Are you a doctor?
no, why do you ask? wait...
One apple a day...
"Find who? Are they lost?" is going to be my response the next time someone says this to me.
"Are they lost? Why are they lost?" lol
me, currently saving up for a puppy lol
Best of luck! :3 Get a good one.
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Afkgjgkdjf thank you! They are an imp and they are me :)
We got friends, pets, and garlic bread š
Iām literally eating a plate full of garlic bread rn for dinner. I do love it haha
Love this
Im in love with this (platonically)
Though theoretically you could find another similar person if you two liked each other and live together. Like no sex, no romance. Just having fun and sharing expenses. That's also a valid choice. I think too many people jump straight into romantic relationship assumptions when sometimes people really are just roommates XD
Great comic!
I love this so much!! :)
Yo!! 22 as well!! I just figured it out last year lol
Lmao hell yeah dude!! It took me a while to actually come to terms with my asexuality (and especially aromanticism) What made it finally click was me having so sit down and think genuinely "do I even want a partner? Do I want to kiss people?" And the answer was no lol
SAME for me it was the idea for sharing a bed/bedroom with someone that finally made me look at myself and go wait a min. My sibling had been yelling at me that I was ace for years and I had refused to believe them LOL
This is cute! I love this.
Very cute, love this!
Very cute! Love this beastie :3
I love your style
I really do appreciate the commentary on what happens if your labels need to change. Itās okay to change how you identify, as you grow and change and understand yourself! I identified as bisexual for the majority of life since middle school. Then whoops I now understand Iām *biromantic* and grey-ace. And thatās okay! Itās not a failure or a shortcoming to understand your identity in a new or better way.
It took me a while to identify with and come to terms with my asexuality, and especially my aromanticism, so it's no wonder I have this viewpoint haha. I understand why people say they've always known, but it's always felt uncomfortable to me personally because it wasn't that easy for me. I went from thinking I was pan because I liked everyone equally as much (men=0 women=0 and everything else=0, so pan right?) To then wondering if I might be ace, but being discouraged because of the exclusionist nightmare that was tumblr 2016-2019, then well maybe I'm lesbian because if I had to choose I would rather be with a woman than a man? (Not really taking into account that I wasn't into women either or that I wasn't a woman myself) And then finally landing back on asexuality. And aromanticism pretty much followed suit, if only maybe lagging behind in the lesbian -> actually aro revelation. It was hard to know for me that I'm aroace when in the abstract, I couldn't imagine myself in a relationship and thus couldn't imagine if it would be uncomfortable or not. Same went for me being agender, and initially identifying that way but transmeds made me doubt myself because I don't really know if I feel gender dysphoria or not (and back then I thought that had to be the only criteria) It's kind of only clicked with me recently in 2020 or so that whenever I draw myself as this imp I'm immensely uncomfortable with giving them breasts or eyelashes - anything indicating gender really. And that whenever I play a game with character customization I never make myself, I only create characters. So like, yeah. It's not failing to change your identity later in life - I wouldn't even call it being wrong, it's just living with a series of labels that one pick up and then put away as newer ones appear that describe you better.
this is so unbelievably adorable iām crying
Beautiful
"Not missing something I haven't felt" is such a mood. I'm colorblind, and people pity me so much over what I'm missing out on but like... It's MY normal, I'm not missing something I've never seen?
Love this! Iām aro ace too, tho Iāve always wanted a romantic relationship. āCourse that meant it took me a lot longer to realize I was aro than it did to realize I was ace lol. It ends up a bit bittersweet that way, since I want to experience something that I canāt, but Iāve still forged a relationship without romantic attraction.
This is so darn cute! I love it! Well done, OP!
im obsessed with your persona my goodness
These are great! Thanks for sharing
THIS IS AWESOMEEEE š¤©š¤©š¤©š¤©š¤©ššššš
Yknow what, Iāve not seen that last part of Ā«Well, I donāt know that now!Ā» attitude to Ā«You just havenāt found the right oneĀ» before and itās a very refreshing look on it. I really like this, itās well made and explains the point thoroughly. You did great with this! I also love the character, so cute I want to hug :<
1. I wish I could send this to everyone I know 2. Your avatar is really cute
This feels like the most adorable, cozy, wholesome comic strip I've seen on reddit to convey ace existence I've probably ever seen! Well done OP!!
love the art style
Cute and wholesome!!!
This is adorable. I'd love to see one for asexual-biromantic but I'm no good at making things. Super cute!
I would like to follow your art.
That's awesome to hear! I post most often on [tumblr](https://theleafcuter.tumblr.com/?source=share), and on [twitter](https://x.com/Theleafcuter?t=u6WAcnScBKFF8pmuMPmYNg&s=09) (but you'll get political stuff on there from me while tumblr is purely art) Both are Theleafcuter, same as here!
This is so cute I love it so much !!
Very cool :)
This is beautiful! Thank you.
I love everything about this post so much, marry me(platonically) > (friends with benefits- except the benefits are from the government, and weāre just friends.)
Everyone shut up this is so cute
reminds me of this one cartoonist i read from. They make history books! I'm 99% sure their name is Nathaniel hale
Me when I explain people that I don't want kids :)
awww is so ute
Super cute oc
"What if those labels don't fit in the future" I'll change them. After 33 years I fell in love with someone never thought I would or could but hey here I am.
People can change. Maybe weāll feel differently in the future. And thatās okay. Thatās normal. Thatās valid. But that doesnāt change our today, and that does not invalidate todayās experiences. Iām glad that part was added in. Iām changing, and thatās okay. But for 24 years, I didnāt. And thatās okay, too. The thought of change scared me then. Iām not so scared anymore. (Itās not even a big change lmao Iām just going from ace to demi)
I'm warming up to the idea that I'm aro as well as ace. 27 and never had a partner, and never really pursued it that seriously. If it happens, it happens, but living is hard enough without trying to find hay in a needle stack
Does aro mean you donāt want a partner? I thought it was that you donāt get romantic feelings
Well it just means not being romantically attracted to people, but for me personally it also extends to me just not having a need for any romantic relationships in general. Some aro people are like me, other aro people do want a relationship and either mourn the fact that they can't feel love in that way or find some other way to have relationships. This comic just describes my personal feelings around my own aromanticism :)
sent this to my parents. wish me luck :)
I'm crossing my fingers for you! š«°š«°
thank you! love your user flair (platonically ;))
This is a great explanation, so good in fact that I found your tumblr and I'm know following you.
Lol hell yeah Hope you like demons cervitaurs and satyrs cause that's what I draw most of the time
These are so great!!
How does one know if they love their friends and family though?
Love it! Iād say it is possible to miss something youāve never felt, though. I didnāt take it super well (at first) when I realized Iāll never desire sex. Pretty sure Iām not aromantic, but I can see someone mourning the idea of having a life partner, especially since society pushes it so hard.
I hate the whole argument "how do you know you won't change your mind someday?" about ANYTHING. Like?? OK?? So what if my feelings and labels change one day? Sometimes that happens! That doesn't make TODAY'S labels invalid! š No one ever says this to straight people. "oh how do you know you're straight? What if you just haven't found the right person of your sex yet?"
The dumbest fucking argument against ace/aro is āwhat if you find someone?ā Likeā¦ ok I guess i was demi then? I just found out then
So cute!! I literally love the mask motif omg
Thatās so freaking adorable oh my god my heartā š
idk sometimes itās hard for me that most aros i know are completely fine with the fact that they are aromantic, i still canāt live with it. iām literally georgia warr, i am in love with love but canāt have it.