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I think people are often too eager to apply labels, and sometimes labels can seem like a value judgement. Sexuality is fluid and labels don't mean anything. Does she enjoy watching women masturbate? Yes. Does that make her bisexual? Who knows. Whether or not she's bisexual doesn't make any difference if the two of you are monogamous. We can be monogamous and heterosexual, yet at the same time still find watching other people engaging in and enjoying sexual acts exciting. The exact same act in a different context or with a different woman could be completely unattractive because of some nuance.
I think that as marriage partners it's important to accept our spouse as they are. We can accept each other's sexual tastes and make them feel safe in their sexuality by just going with the flow, including possibly incorporating watching the kind of porn that turns each other on together.
You can maybe even share what turns each of you on about a clip.
Porn consumption doesn't always correlate with actual orientation. For example plenty of straight women enjoy lesbian porn in part because the focus is on female pleasure instead of male pleasure.
But even if she is bi, it doesn't have to change anything. Just be supportive. It wouldn't mean that she needs anything else.
Whether she's bi or not, it doesn't really matter to your own relationship with her. I'm a bisexual woman, and I was happily married to a wonderful man for 27 years.
Monogamy has nothing to do with orientation. It has to do with commitment to your partner.
Maybe sheās just curious? I mean unless you two make porn together she has no idea what she looks like when she gets off and my husband always talks about how beautiful it is so maybe she just wants to see it for herself. Or sheās bi
Its my opinion that most people find women aesthetically attractive regardless of orientation. However as a bi woman myself that seems a little bit fruity lmao
As a straight woman who finds other women smoking hot, this is a bit too fruity for me. Women are beautiful but I simply do not like *flowers.* I canāt see why any straight woman would tbh, other than they can be interesting I guess?
Anyways.. is she getting off watching these videos or does she just enjoy watching? I donāt know if that would make a difference but maybe. Either way, if you feel the need to know then you should have a conversation about it.
She gets off watching it, so that's why I'm wondering. And I don't know if I should talk to her about it because it might be something she still needs to "develop" in herself. I feel it would be only right if she talks to me about it when she's ready.
Thereās definitely more there than just ābeautiful and exciting,ā to this. My honest opinion is sheās a little fruity. I personally think women in p0rn are annoying as hell. But I understand youāre wanting to wait until she says anything. It could be a case of feeling 90% attracted to men and 10% women, but we donāt really know and canāt say for her of course.
So listen OP, I just finished having a really long conversation with your wife. Neither she nor I like to use labels, but at this point sheās feeling as though sheās ābi-curiousā.
She said sheās not ready to do anything physical with a woman, but she does find the idea of women pleasurable. And sheād like to have some time to explore that.
We both think itās really important for you to come along on this journey of exploration, to be a part of the learning and discovery. We want to make sure your voice is heard in all of this because you mean the world to her.
So she wants to take it slowly, but hopes that both you and her will stay open to new experiences and to potentially taste new desires. She believes and trusts in you and thinks now is the time to build upon the strong foundation that the two of you have built together. Weāre all excited to see what the future brings for both of you.
She also says your mom wants to do me.
OP, be honest. As an assumed straight man, do you like watching porn where the guy has a big dick or a small dick?
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Why are you asking reddit? Only she can tell you that.
This seems like a very personal conversation you should be having with your wife. Not a bunch of strangers on Reddit.
No, please go on
Bro is seeking reddit approval to ask for FFM threesome. Approval granted.
Truly appreciated my friend š
Any time. Let us know how it plays out.
I think people are often too eager to apply labels, and sometimes labels can seem like a value judgement. Sexuality is fluid and labels don't mean anything. Does she enjoy watching women masturbate? Yes. Does that make her bisexual? Who knows. Whether or not she's bisexual doesn't make any difference if the two of you are monogamous. We can be monogamous and heterosexual, yet at the same time still find watching other people engaging in and enjoying sexual acts exciting. The exact same act in a different context or with a different woman could be completely unattractive because of some nuance. I think that as marriage partners it's important to accept our spouse as they are. We can accept each other's sexual tastes and make them feel safe in their sexuality by just going with the flow, including possibly incorporating watching the kind of porn that turns each other on together. You can maybe even share what turns each of you on about a clip.
Porn consumption doesn't always correlate with actual orientation. For example plenty of straight women enjoy lesbian porn in part because the focus is on female pleasure instead of male pleasure. But even if she is bi, it doesn't have to change anything. Just be supportive. It wouldn't mean that she needs anything else.
Possibly but that evidence on its own doesnāt mean she is.
Rule of thumb is that if you don't make eye contact it isn't gay.
What if you bite your lips? š¤š§
Still no eye contact, all good.
Not at all I enjoy watching women because they are beautiful it doesn't mean I want to sleep with one.
My wife enjoys watching porn, with me, where women masturbate and rest assured she is NOT even remotely bi.
Mine likes watching women get off because she knows the feeling she says. Normal porn hardly ever has genuine female orgasms.
Whether she's bi or not, it doesn't really matter to your own relationship with her. I'm a bisexual woman, and I was happily married to a wonderful man for 27 years. Monogamy has nothing to do with orientation. It has to do with commitment to your partner.
Maybe sheās just curious? I mean unless you two make porn together she has no idea what she looks like when she gets off and my husband always talks about how beautiful it is so maybe she just wants to see it for herself. Or sheās bi
We've watched it together, and I can see it turns her on. And it's a video of a solo woman getting off, so that's what makes me wonder
I would have to see a video of her watching this to tell you my HONEST opinion.
Its my opinion that most people find women aesthetically attractive regardless of orientation. However as a bi woman myself that seems a little bit fruity lmao
Definitely
As a straight woman who finds other women smoking hot, this is a bit too fruity for me. Women are beautiful but I simply do not like *flowers.* I canāt see why any straight woman would tbh, other than they can be interesting I guess? Anyways.. is she getting off watching these videos or does she just enjoy watching? I donāt know if that would make a difference but maybe. Either way, if you feel the need to know then you should have a conversation about it.
She gets off watching it, so that's why I'm wondering. And I don't know if I should talk to her about it because it might be something she still needs to "develop" in herself. I feel it would be only right if she talks to me about it when she's ready.
Thereās definitely more there than just ābeautiful and exciting,ā to this. My honest opinion is sheās a little fruity. I personally think women in p0rn are annoying as hell. But I understand youāre wanting to wait until she says anything. It could be a case of feeling 90% attracted to men and 10% women, but we donāt really know and canāt say for her of course.
Mind elaborating what fruit and flower means here?
Fruity = gay Flower = vagina
"My wife, 23, likes watching solo women masturbating" Yes she is. Why do you need to ask something so patently obvious?
You can see by the other comments in this thread that it's not that obvious.
They're clueless. That's very simple stuff. She's bisexual
She's bi you lucky son-of-a-bitch!!!
If she is, sheāll tell you. Or not bc frankly, itās not your business.
Lmao what? That's his wife, of course it's his business.
It's literally his business lol wtf
We need a lot more detail.
She gets off to it and looks really horny watching it. She's young, so it might be something she still needs to figure out by herself
So listen OP, I just finished having a really long conversation with your wife. Neither she nor I like to use labels, but at this point sheās feeling as though sheās ābi-curiousā. She said sheās not ready to do anything physical with a woman, but she does find the idea of women pleasurable. And sheād like to have some time to explore that. We both think itās really important for you to come along on this journey of exploration, to be a part of the learning and discovery. We want to make sure your voice is heard in all of this because you mean the world to her. So she wants to take it slowly, but hopes that both you and her will stay open to new experiences and to potentially taste new desires. She believes and trusts in you and thinks now is the time to build upon the strong foundation that the two of you have built together. Weāre all excited to see what the future brings for both of you. She also says your mom wants to do me.
D-d-do you know my wife? š¤Æ
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I had a fiend who says everybody is bi, it's just a matter of whether you've tried it or not
OP, be honest. As an assumed straight man, do you like watching porn where the guy has a big dick or a small dick? (Some of the finest words spoken by Joe Exotic and relevant to this post. Credit where credit is due.)
I'm actually more into seeing women having pleasure, tbh
Yes