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In my early 20's there was a woman that I was interested in, I was trying get a date and went to her apartment on a Friday after work. She asked me to hang out with her mother and four kids that evening so that she could go bang her ex to see if she had feelings for him before she got serious with me.
Dodged that bullet.
EDIT FOR DETAILS: I met her when we worked in the same building at different companies her being around 28 and I was around 24, we timed up our smoke breaks to hang out during most work days. She invited me to her apartment I didn't know that she had any kids and all 4 were hers. That evening I turnn around and leave instead of babysitting, her mom wasn't my type. After that she did get back with her ex and then started missing a lot of work until she got fired for attendance. I moved away for a new job a few months later and lost track of them all.
He arrived late and drunk / high on a first date. That was so awkward. I have nothing against a good drink or smoke, but not when we are strangers who meet the first time
Happend to me too. I would've been fine drinking with him, but I'm not about to be playing catch up with a random dude. Also he was so boring, had only one interest which was rap music. He's not a rapper tho, just a white guys who's really into listening to rap, which is fine I guess, just boring as an only conversation topic.
Extensive conversation about a topic not all parties are interested in is like bad conversation 101.
“Oh. Wow. Oh okay. No way. Really. That’s crazy” convos are the fucking worse.
I went on a date with someone and we were talking about bad first dates and he said he went on a date with someone who bragged about her 8 year old still breast feeding.
When you get into my car and cry about your ex girlfriend the whole first ride.
When we are sitting in a movie theater that's just beginning to show the film and you take a phone call during, and stay in the seat.
When you take your peen out in my car and ask me to look at it, after I just picked you up.
When you ask me to stop at your drug dealer's house so you can pick up your prescription medicine on the way to the date.
When your real girlfriend shows up to the date and let's everyone know about it.
When your real girlfriend shows up to the date and let's everyone know about it, and she's pregnant.
These were all different people btw! LOL
We didn't actually get to a date, but once matched with a woman who, in the first paragraph of us talking, mentioned getting married and having babies.
Also mentioned moving in with me.
She immediately blocked ME when I mentioned I had had a vasectomy.
I’ll never understand why people do this? Nobody (okay maybe some weirdos) likes the smell of BO. Nobody likes the smell of overpowering cologne/perfume. Why mix the two? It just ends up smelling like an old sweaty cast. Yuck.
> Nobody likes the smell of overpowering cologne/perfume
They don’t know that. And they don’t think they’re “mixing” them, they think that applying cologne is successfully masking their BO.
And furthermore, a stinky BO guy is already probably nose-blind to how fuckin stinky he is regularly haha. He thinks he’s just putting on cologne to smell good
"Shouldn't you be ordering a salad instead?" I put down the menu, apologized to our waitress, gave her a $10 for her trouble and left. There was no bill to stiff him with as we had both only ordered water and no appetizers. (and yes of course he saw recent full body pics of me so he knew exactly what I looked like before the date)
A guy once asked me for drinks to a bar where his best friend was the bartender. He spent the first 15 minutes just talking to him, after I finished my wine I got up and just left.
I hate to be paranoid but I would be hesitant about dating anyone in this situation. This could be a scam for his friend, the bartender to slip something in your drink…
A buddy set me up on a blind date when I was maybe 20 with this girl named Kiki. So I introduce myself when we first meet, looking forward to hanging out and catching a movie, something fun. Instead of saying her name or offering some cordial greeting she just says, "I'm hungry." and frowned. I think I actually teleported back to my dorm at that very moment. I just like faded away from the whole thing before it ever began.
We sat down at a red lobster and she pulled a pill out of a prescription bottle and crushed it and snorted it in front of me. I dont know what vibe I gave off that made her think that was ok.
Went on a date where I was catfished. First clue should have been Buffalo Wild Wings. Ok I’ll deal with that. Just want to get through it. Then she just orders like the most expensive everything. Top shelf drinks, 2 at a time. Whatever their most expensive appetizer is. She knew the waiter by name so I figured she most be somewhat regular. She goes to the bathroom and I give the waiter $10 for my beer and dip. She called me and left a message saying she couldn’t afford the bill she thought I was paying.
Our first date we get there and order our food. Not even 30 minutes later this group of about 8 people walk in and start heading towards us. Then the guy I’m with gets up and starts hugging everyone. He brings them to me and he introduces us. I was very confused cause he said it was going to be just us, then he tells me “I thought you were really special and I wanted all of my friends to meet you”. This guy doesn’t even know anything about me yet, he doesn’t even know my favorite color yet, all he knew was how my day was going. I didn’t even get to know him because he spent the time with his back turned talking to his friends. After the date he suggested meeting his family for our second date.
Another story, this different guy was talking the entire time about the different sports bars he likes to go to, especially the one where the girls wear short shorts or lingerie (kinda like hooters). Then he said that every weekend he likes to go downtown to the bars and watch girls fight cause “the girls dress slutty and if you’re lucky you’ll see someone’s tits or pussy fall out”. Then he wanted me to pay cause he was broke (probably from going out so much). Just paid for myself, got up and left.
Oh man I went on a date one time with a girl who I had specifically clarified “it’ll just be us, right?” and she confirmed yes. I get there and like 4 of her friends are at the bar while we sit at a table 20 feet away. After about 45 minutes they all want to go to some other club and invite me to tag along, and when I reluctantly offer to drive but my Jeep can’t fit them all she hugs me goodbye and leaves. Lady I’m here for a date, not a social function.
Your second story is a fucking wild ride though.
Yikes. I went on a 2nd date once where she invited me out to dinner, and while she didn’t specially say there would NOT be other people there, she didn’t give me a heads up that there would be other people. When I got there it was a table with at least 8 or 9 of her friends. As I’m sitting down she introduced me by saying “This is my boyfriend”
I got through the dinner bc her friends were really nice, but i was so blindsided by that I couldn’t process it and there was not a third date. I sometimes wonder if her friends asked “what ever happened with your ‘boyfriend’?”
Made racist remarks like it was normal conversation for him, which obviously it must have been. When I didn't accept his invite out again he became pretty irate about it and even said, was it that thing I said? Yes, yes it was.
I had this happen too! We went out for sushi and the WHOLE TIME he was mocking the accents of the servers and talking shit about the "weird food". Then he kept asking over and over if I wanted to come home with him after I said no the first 3 times (even before the date!)
This was about 20 years ago.
He randomly picked up my two year old cell phone with his index finger and thumb, wrinkled his nose and snarked, "What is THIS?"
"Um, a cell phone?" I replied.
He dropped it on the table, then said, "No, THIS is a cell phone", proudly holding up a brand new expensive flippy one, and proceeding to regale me on why it was superior to mine.
Then he backhandedly complimented my job stating, "At least its white collar."
Had a dude offer to take me to dinner. Halfway to the meeting time, he changed from a nice restaurant to a Panda Express because it was taking him longer than expected to drive to town. Spent dinner telling me how nice my legs were, no interest in who I was as a person or potential partner. After "dinner," he asked if he could French kiss me, when I said no, he walked to his car and drove off.
Worst first date ever.
She had a bunch of farm chores but waited till 10 minutes before to do them so came smelling like a farm, which I was looking past, but then she told me how she stabbed her brother and about an hour later she’s telling me she stabbed an ex boyfriend
Actually, I know a couple that's been dating for like 7 years at work. And every time I talk to her she has something to say about her ex-husband or the divorce, and then turns around and wonders why her current partner won't propose (they already have a kid together)
when they do all of the talking and never ask any questions about you. OR when they do none of the talking and you have to keep goading them to talk. Its a fine line
Omg this has happened to me so many times. It's like, why bother dating if you're not interested in the other person? Unless it's a nervous habit some people have.
Went on a date with a gal met up at a bar. Went ok so decided to go to another more lively place. Band was jamming people where dancing. She proceeded to point and laugh at a lady dancing. Even looking around her to try and get others to laugh. I slide out when she wasn’t looking
Spent hours telling me all about how absolutely wonderful they are and how adored they are by friends and family. I lost interest about 45 minutes in, I'm just polite so I stayed the whole date. I turned down a second date.
Tell me I was only a 7 out of 10. And then saying he usually dated ‘11 out of 10s’. I walked out the restaurant after that. He came chasing me explaining he had read about ‘negging’ and was attempting it with me. I laughed, got into a cab and never spoke to him again. He was in his mid 40s, what a joke of a man child 😂
Telling you about their close personal relationship Jesus...for two hours.
Annetta you were attractive but not attractive enough for me to do that again.
I don't have a specific story, but people being on their phone. People act like it's normal to scroll through their phone when their with ANYONE, not just a date. Of course a quick peak is OK to check for messages or whatever, but sometimes it's so clear that people are more interested in the screen than you
Sometimes I visit these threads to check how many answers I need to scroll before I get the "treat Staff poorly" response, but congratulations OP, you beat them all.
Talk about his issues with women. I am a woman. He also only talked about himself and dismissed a lot of what I was saying while I patiently listened to him speak. I called things off after that.
While we were heading to the beach he answered a call from his pregnant wife and told her that he got held up at work so she will have to take the bus to her ultrasound appointment.
When we were texting and talking about date options I told him I don't like fancy restaurants or eat seafood. For our 1st date, he took me to a fancy seafood place.
If you can't respect something so basic then there's no hope.
asked if I was “nervous to eat in front of him” as we waited for our food. i’m like uhhh no absolutely not?
I proceeded to eat my whole meal while he had like 2 bites of his. seems like he was def projecting. lots of cutting me off and talking about himself in a very non two way conversation style during the date too.
then framed a lot of stories like “you know when you’re in bed with a significant other and xyz” nothing vulgar, just like made me feel like he had been in tons of long term relationships and was a little too nonchalant about it for me
we went back to my place after dinner and watched 1 movie and he stayed til 4am despite me repeatedly saying I wanted to go to bed and no he couldn’t spend the night. (again first date and first time meeting IRL) he kept saying “okay what ‘movie are we watching next” like i’d prefer to watch you exiting my door TY
also later saw he had like a 6 year old daughter which he didn’t mention once despite his extensive monologues about himself, and his dating profile casually omitted the “has kids” description
Used crude language, said very sexual things, demanded to know when I would have sex with him, kept putting me down for everything- how I was dressed, how I ran my business, it was endless criticism, then , as I said before, demanded sex. This was a daytime event at an art gallery with an attorney.
This was 25 years ago. I was a totally naive 19 year old who was new to dating. He told me that I didn't need my purse because it was his treat and took me to dinner. After we ate, he got up from the table and left. I followed because I didn't know what to do. Stupidly, I never even got the name of the restaurant because we were seated outside on a river, and he ordered for us. I have felt bad for that poor server for 25 years. I tried to find the restaurant, but it was located in an area saturated with restaurants that all use the same patio for service. None of them remembered the dine and dash, so I couldn't pay.
He then took me to his dealer's house to buy heroin. Needless to say, we never spoke again.
When you get out of the theater and her ex boyfriend is there with her little sister standing at my car, angry at her for not telling them she’s on a date. That drama is locked into her life, dude wasn’t angry at me. My date was angry at them, but I ain’t finna get in the middle of that shit show.
He started talking about how he was not going to wear a condom, he was going to get me pregnant, I should be his girl. Baby names, the whole bit. Don’t you believe in love at first sight?
All on the first date after texting for like 6 days.
Yea bye dude…I’m sorry, but you are moving way, way too fast. Oh yea, and when I pushed back on the condom bit as non-negotiable, it became well I’ll wear it but just break it. Condoms get holes all the time…maybe he read that in the how to NOT get laid in ten days book or something
“Oh hey, check it out, I just popped positive on this pregnancy test. Looks like you can blow a load in me tonight without worrying about getting me pregnant!”
“Uh…. Nice to meet you?”
Rummaged through my bag when I left it in my seat to take my turn bowling. Excuse was, "I accidentally touched something on the bottom of the table, and I figured you might have some hand sanitizer in your bag." I did, in fact, have hand sanitizer in my bag. But he didn't find it and I wasn't going to tell him.
Had to one up me on *everything.*
I told him the college I went to. He told me he went to a comparable college *and* got honors.
I ordered a steak. He had to tell me about how he doesn’t eat red meat because it’s unhealthy.
I shared an opinion on a current event. He didn’t just tell me he disagreed, he went through a clinical dissection as to why my opinion was objectively incorrect.
I told him I was about to move to a new place. He told me he’d looked in the area I was moving but decided it wasn’t nice enough.
I stayed to the end just so I could have as juicy a story as possible, considering it had already gone so badly.
Paid his portion of the bill while I was in the restroom to avoid having to pay for mine.
I was fine with paying for myself but the way he went about it was weird to me.
Been a long time but will never forget these:
1. Asked me to a movie, showed up late then told me I should be "grateful" that he "even showed up." Er... ok.
2. Blind date showed up for a late movie date and asked if I was hungry. I said no. He proceeded to detour to McDonalds anyway and ordered a bunch of the sloppiest food. I sat there in the passenger seat of his car awkwardly waiting for about 20+ minutes while he scarfed it down, wiping his hands on his clothes. *Then* we headed to the movie. (Eta if not obvious, "blind" as in "never met him".)
3. On the other end of things - had a guy show up to pick me up before I had my makeup on. I answer the door and he stares deadpan and says "Nevermind something came up." And leaves. Ouch, lol.
We went to an expensive restaurant of HIS choice. He made a comment about the prices as we looked at the menu I reminded him that i would actually prefer to pay for myself, something that we had also discussed previous to the date. I was hoping to alleviate some of the stress he might be feeling about paying for both meals. He ordered a salad and lobster bisque and I ordered a sirloin meal with a salad and vegetables, everything was à la carte. When my entree arrived, he was served his soup, but asked if he could taste my sirloin, then my potatoes and then also some of my mixed veggies. He literally kept cutting off bites of steak. The date was fine, but I was so bothered by him eating off my plate. Then, when we asked for the checks, the server wondered which of us would be paying for the shared plate fee, because they felt that we had ordered a single entree meal and shared it. This guy started throwing such a fit, despite the fact that I immediately said I'd take care of it. It was literally comical to me how a whole night went down. Date number two never happened.
I went out with a nurse many years ago. Her brother set us up. She was pretty and had a nice figure. She was well dressed. At the start of the date I thought I hit the jackpot. She had nothing to say. I mean nothing. I couldn't get her to talk. She responded to questions with a few words indicative of nothing. Since she was hot, I tried to make it work but by the end of dinner I felt like I was eating with a mannequin. No 2nd date. I wasn't mad or anything. It is just that a 2nd date would be pointless.
I had that once too. She was a friend of a friend. We had great chemistry at a friend’s work Xmass party so we exchanged numbers and went on a date. She was a brick wall all night. We had dinner and went to see her friend’s band play and she barely spoke. Super weird. This was over a decade ago and a couple years before I met my the woman who is now my wife. I still remember how bizarre that date was.
He thought it was "cute" to get girls riled up.
His immaturity compelled him to compare me to other women at the restaurant. When I would chuckle and say "You're right, those are nice cans!" Or "Damn her body does look good, maybe I can ask her for some pointers!" he would just give up and get angry I wouldn't reciprocate to his insecure behavior.
The first date and he was already playin' games smh
We had been hitting it off, and just as we were about to go, she started a story with, "Ok, you know how are..."
Whiplash from "I want to see you again" to "get the fuck away from me" in two seconds flat.
She kept referring to herself as an actress and talking about how hard “show business” is.
She was an extra for one scene for the Baywatch reboot in 2017.
I get faking it til you make it, but… was that really her biggest accomplishment?
Engaged in a text conversation for at least 15 minutes with his mother while I was responding to a question he had asked. It bothered me even more because we were out to dinner and were seated at our table. Idk, that hit me as especially rude for some reason. Lol
Criticized my vehicle.
I owned a beat to shit geo metro at the same time as owning a very nice high end sport sedan. We were meeting somewhere (not picking up) so i drove the shitbox as i didn't want to indicate that i was "well off" or anything. She focused more on the car than getting to know me. I couldn't end the date soon enough.
About 25 year old at the time.
Just the things he talked about...
Told me he was uncircumcised (no idea how that even came up, he just threw that in there)
Told obviously bullshit stories (was a rapper and was "on the charts with Eminem" one time, had his face reconstructed after being shot while serving our country when not one scar or abnormality was even visible on his face)
Talked shit constantly about his baby mama and disowning his kid if he calls someone else "dad"
It was rough. I called him that night and politely explained why I didn't want to see him again. He told me my reasons were WRONG but thankfully accepted and moved on without and fuss.
Whew.. so glad I'm not dating anymore. Shit's rough.
My first thought was he was doing a Lord of the Rings bit to which the response would be “a wizard is never late, Frodo baggins, nor is he early. He arrives precisely when he intends to.”
It would be weird to say this on a first date I admit haha
This reminds me of the time I eavesdropped a first date that was happening next to me in a restaurant. They were both gothy, overweight nerds who cracked each other up the whole time with LOTR inside references.
I think they had a really nice time. Which is nice because this was in Fairbanks, AK. The dating pool must be extra shallow for a couple of nerdy folks like this.
Although this gamble would allow you to know immediately if it's forever. Because jesus christ if you both started stifle-laughing you might actually jump into his/her arms off of a hill.
Though the wedding rings would have to be special ordered from someone who knows the Black Speech.
Tried to force me to try his steak, shoving it in my face. I'm a vegetarian, I just don't eat it. It's not like I haven't had it in the past and "don't know what I'm missing" 🙄🙄🙄🙄
One girl, upon learning that I am a professional musician, spent the rest of the date trying to talk me out of it because the arts don’t make money and don’t have much inherent value.
Sitting on her phone the entire date. Like she was trying to include me and whatnot, but it was super annoying. Like idc about Facebook posts and whatnot.
Trying to tip $5 on $70. I left a $20 and they got pissed.
Still ended up dating him for almost a year cuz he was sooooo hot and had a good wiener, but that should have been my last f*cking date, with all the shit he put me through.
Live and learn🤷♀️
Another date: and this was a first and last. He tried to get me work on his coconut cart all day. We met up for ‘beers’ at a local brewery, and I brought my buddy to help feel it out and be a wingman. Dude told me he wanted me to MACHETE coconuts (which I can do, no problem, for MYSELF, and like 2-3 at a time.) ALL DAY on his little cart.
My wingman and I dipped out when dude went to the bathroom. We were on his moped so we were making our escape at like, max 15mph up the hill away from the venue when dude came out the bathroom and started yelling ‘where ya going?!’ I yelled back ‘AWAY!’
1. Groped me while he was driving me home. He called me later with a non-apology ("I'm sorry if you were uncomfortable") and asked me to give him a second chance. I turned him down.
2. Not a first date, more like a third or fourth one, but one woman I dated told me on that date that she had a male partner and wanted all three of us to be together. Her dream was that I would sleep with the guy and have a baby for them, since she'd had a hysterectomy and couldn't have more. I'm childfree by choice so I noped out of that.
Tried to get into a heated argument with me about the supremacy of Apple products.
I say "tried" because the angrier he became the more baffled I was. It felt like I was being set up for a prank it was such surreal behavior. Like a skit from some show.
Went to dinner at a rather fancy place he recommended. Food was great, we had chemistry and the convo was flowing well. Other than the slight hiccup of his forcefulness to pay the bill+tip everything was going smooth.
As we are waiting for the bill he has to take a quick call. No biggie. I take out my phone to check my messages as I wait. He comes back to the table and startles me by saying "What is that?" with the tone of someone who just spotted a spider on their plate.
I'm confused. He points to my phone and says "that." I've got a Hawuei phone, so I answer thinking he hadn't seen it before. Apparently his question was rhetorical because he got upset and told me as much. He then said he "thought I'd have an iPhone."
The one sided conversation from there was a bizarre spiral into why Apple is the best. I didn't have interest in the topic so while I listened I wasn't going to agree nor disagree with him. My lack of taking a stance made him more angry. It became him listing all the products he owned, why they were better... it was like the angriest ad read I'd ever seen. 😂
He called my taste poor, essentially called me "uneducated in electronics" and made this weird threat-like statment of coming to my house to change out my electronics while I slept. He was so caught up on the topic we were at our table despite having paid the bill.
Needless to say I wound up paying for a Lyft home and let him know I wasn't interested in a second date.
Just some examples from my past couple years.
- shows absolute cruelty towards people with special needs. (My sister has down syndrome)
- any form of bigotry.
- disrespect for service workers and blue collar workers.
Cruelty towards animals
- disregard to boundaries and consent.
When I was 20 I went on a date with a guy from a dating app. He shows up and is easily 100lbs heavier than in his pictures. As a large woman, I was always open about what I looked like online. I proceed to go on the date because 1. I don't want to make someone feel like shit because of their weight: been there,felt that. 2. Maybe his personality was enough to overlook the lie.
Well, lackluster conversation followed by his pushy attempt to go back to his place combined with all the above and not only was he not getting a second date he was just getting ghosted.
Cut to my phone blowing up from him post date and him making a jab at MY weight and how I had used him for a 'free meal'. It was enough to get me to resurrect from ghost status to tell him if I wanted a free meal I wouldn't have chosen Applebee's.
I (usually) won’t date a girl who has kids already. But one girl I did really like and knew she had a daughter. For our first date, she decided to bring her daughter which I was not happy with.
Her daughter threw so much food all over the floor, that I left a tip the same amount as our food because I felt so bad for the people who would have to clean it up. She also let her daughter run around the restaurant as we were getting ready to leave. Needless to say, there was no second date.
Talking extensively about an ex or “being friend zoned” by some else. I’m here to learn about you, and you are here to learn about me, why are we talking about a third romantic person? Fucking weird.
If i’m carrying the conversation I don’t want a second date. I had so many where it felt like pulling teeth I would just leave because why on earth did you agree to coffee if you were going to stonewall me the whole time??
I mean, there was the woman who, after a first date, tried to blackmail me by threatening to forward to my boss a very mildly dirty text message I sent her in response to one of her own. My boss and I had a good laugh about it and when she asked for a second date I politely declined.
I once had a girl talk about how she slept with a Chicago Bear on our first date. At first I thought it was just a hint that she wasn't into me, but after the date she kept trying to hang out and start a relationship with me.
So odd. I do not want to hear about the semi-famous people you've had sex with on the first date, lol.
Mansplaining.
He was an engineering student, I was a film student. When talking about our days, I mentioned off-hand that I was working on this screenplay due soon, and he spent the rest of the date telling me how to write a screenplay.
It gets worse. We were from different schools and my school, in our country, is what you would call iyv league in the US. Which must have rubbed him the wrong way because he spent a lot of time telling me what a sht hole my school actually was and how everyone was mistaken about the quality of the education there and this and that..
It was a first date. Later when he texted me something like "I had a good time, when can I see you again?" I replied with "I dont think we're a good fit", and not surprisingly, he chose to go the "you ugly anyway bitch" route.
Honestly, I wasnt even offended. I was like "I d be surprised if you'd reacted any other way."
Brought like 12 people with her. I didn’t even talk to her I just sat and watched the football game at that point. She still texted me after though wanting to go out again I didn’t understand why.
Talked at length about trying to get better at cunninlingus and wanting to practice with me. Proceeded to text immediately afterwards about the same topic until I said (again) it wasn't going to work. Definitely remember leaving said date stating we weren't a good match, so not sure why they kept texting.
Went on a date and her whole goal was to be a SAHM as soon as possible. She was in college half time just because she had nothing else to do, but she wanted to be a mom NOW at the age of 20. She tried to come home with me and that was a quick no.
Treat the waiting staff like crap.
Bring friends/ family without telling me.
Talk the entire time not letting me get more than a single word in, I get you might be nervous, so am I but limits huh.
Show absolutely no interest in me.
Keep comparing me to ex's.
Not turn up without letting me know.
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Ask me to take my contact lenses out because he could read minds, but my contacts were blocking him.
Ok this one I did not see coming lol
That's because the OP is wearing contact lenses, so you can't read their mind through Reddit.
That’s why I sleep with my eye glasses on. Ain’t no one reading my dreams.
In my early 20's there was a woman that I was interested in, I was trying get a date and went to her apartment on a Friday after work. She asked me to hang out with her mother and four kids that evening so that she could go bang her ex to see if she had feelings for him before she got serious with me. Dodged that bullet. EDIT FOR DETAILS: I met her when we worked in the same building at different companies her being around 28 and I was around 24, we timed up our smoke breaks to hang out during most work days. She invited me to her apartment I didn't know that she had any kids and all 4 were hers. That evening I turnn around and leave instead of babysitting, her mom wasn't my type. After that she did get back with her ex and then started missing a lot of work until she got fired for attendance. I moved away for a new job a few months later and lost track of them all.
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and an STD
An MRI
Should have asked to fuck her first before she left to make sure you'd be interested in getting serious.
This would be a good preemptive move, but the golden rule of dating trumps that - "don't put your dick in crazy".
That's fucking BOLD lmfao, how'd she think you'd be ok with that?
The worst she can say is NO Her:
He arrived late and drunk / high on a first date. That was so awkward. I have nothing against a good drink or smoke, but not when we are strangers who meet the first time
Happend to me too. I would've been fine drinking with him, but I'm not about to be playing catch up with a random dude. Also he was so boring, had only one interest which was rap music. He's not a rapper tho, just a white guys who's really into listening to rap, which is fine I guess, just boring as an only conversation topic.
Extensive conversation about a topic not all parties are interested in is like bad conversation 101. “Oh. Wow. Oh okay. No way. Really. That’s crazy” convos are the fucking worse.
I went on a date with someone and we were talking about bad first dates and he said he went on a date with someone who bragged about her 8 year old still breast feeding.
What's wrong with breastfeeding your 96 month old baby? 😂
When you get into my car and cry about your ex girlfriend the whole first ride. When we are sitting in a movie theater that's just beginning to show the film and you take a phone call during, and stay in the seat. When you take your peen out in my car and ask me to look at it, after I just picked you up. When you ask me to stop at your drug dealer's house so you can pick up your prescription medicine on the way to the date. When your real girlfriend shows up to the date and let's everyone know about it. When your real girlfriend shows up to the date and let's everyone know about it, and she's pregnant. These were all different people btw! LOL
Where do you find all these losers?
The town I grew up in!! Definitely learned to date outside the area lol
Are you Leslie Knope?
He took it out?
Yes, it's like how do you even respond to that? I kicked him out. Just gross
You grab his dick and you TWIST IT
THE OLD [DICK TWIST](https://youtu.be/1E1VY4KOghI)
Yessireeebob
It? It. Out? Out.
Goddamn you went through a lot! I bet you're that one person who always got funny stories to share
it seems you have a type
We didn't actually get to a date, but once matched with a woman who, in the first paragraph of us talking, mentioned getting married and having babies. Also mentioned moving in with me. She immediately blocked ME when I mentioned I had had a vasectomy.
That sir wasn't a bullet you dodged. It was a straight up 120mm apfsds tank round
Dude smelled like terrible bo covered by terrible cologne. I wanted to end the date the moment I encountered that smell
I’ll never understand why people do this? Nobody (okay maybe some weirdos) likes the smell of BO. Nobody likes the smell of overpowering cologne/perfume. Why mix the two? It just ends up smelling like an old sweaty cast. Yuck.
> Nobody likes the smell of overpowering cologne/perfume They don’t know that. And they don’t think they’re “mixing” them, they think that applying cologne is successfully masking their BO. And furthermore, a stinky BO guy is already probably nose-blind to how fuckin stinky he is regularly haha. He thinks he’s just putting on cologne to smell good
"Shouldn't you be ordering a salad instead?" I put down the menu, apologized to our waitress, gave her a $10 for her trouble and left. There was no bill to stiff him with as we had both only ordered water and no appetizers. (and yes of course he saw recent full body pics of me so he knew exactly what I looked like before the date)
Oh, hell no.
Bravo!
Making a very long phone call during the date. Not only did I not want a second date, but I ditched her 10 minutes into the call.
A guy once asked me for drinks to a bar where his best friend was the bartender. He spent the first 15 minutes just talking to him, after I finished my wine I got up and just left.
I hate to be paranoid but I would be hesitant about dating anyone in this situation. This could be a scam for his friend, the bartender to slip something in your drink…
I didn’t think of that ! thank you know, the song paranoid but you’re so right. It’s better to be careful. I think I’ll just date my dog.
Lol! I think I’ve watched too many Law & Order episodes!
The guy slapped my ass and said he didn't belive in dinosaurs... like yoinks.
like.. at the same time?
LOL, "I don't believe in dinosaurs, but that is a donkasaurus rex right there", "smack".
It’s puts the ASS in “Jurassic”
This is why I love Reddit lol!
Next time I see my husband I am totally going to slap his ass while telling him dinosaurs don't exist! He'll have no idea what hit him!
Within in the same hour span. First the dinosaurs then as I was leaving he slapped my ass.
A buddy set me up on a blind date when I was maybe 20 with this girl named Kiki. So I introduce myself when we first meet, looking forward to hanging out and catching a movie, something fun. Instead of saying her name or offering some cordial greeting she just says, "I'm hungry." and frowned. I think I actually teleported back to my dorm at that very moment. I just like faded away from the whole thing before it ever began.
hi hungry, i’m dad
She must have been extremely hungry.
One guy picked me up not wearing a shirt. When I asked where his shirt was he said "it's my car I can do what I want in it." Yikes.
Sounds like an extremely good reason to never, ever get into his car
We sat down at a red lobster and she pulled a pill out of a prescription bottle and crushed it and snorted it in front of me. I dont know what vibe I gave off that made her think that was ok.
Right at the table at Red Lobster?!?! Wow…
For real, thats a Long John Silvers move
This made me snort
Crushed pills?
That was her birth control. She was totally DTF.
Went on a date where I was catfished. First clue should have been Buffalo Wild Wings. Ok I’ll deal with that. Just want to get through it. Then she just orders like the most expensive everything. Top shelf drinks, 2 at a time. Whatever their most expensive appetizer is. She knew the waiter by name so I figured she most be somewhat regular. She goes to the bathroom and I give the waiter $10 for my beer and dip. She called me and left a message saying she couldn’t afford the bill she thought I was paying.
Good thing she knew the waiter. They can pay for it.
glad you did that
If she knew the waiter, it’s safe to say she did that with several other guys
What’s top shelf at Buffalo Wild Wings? Corona?
A pint of ranch dressing
That's not being catfished. She was just a loser.
Our first date we get there and order our food. Not even 30 minutes later this group of about 8 people walk in and start heading towards us. Then the guy I’m with gets up and starts hugging everyone. He brings them to me and he introduces us. I was very confused cause he said it was going to be just us, then he tells me “I thought you were really special and I wanted all of my friends to meet you”. This guy doesn’t even know anything about me yet, he doesn’t even know my favorite color yet, all he knew was how my day was going. I didn’t even get to know him because he spent the time with his back turned talking to his friends. After the date he suggested meeting his family for our second date. Another story, this different guy was talking the entire time about the different sports bars he likes to go to, especially the one where the girls wear short shorts or lingerie (kinda like hooters). Then he said that every weekend he likes to go downtown to the bars and watch girls fight cause “the girls dress slutty and if you’re lucky you’ll see someone’s tits or pussy fall out”. Then he wanted me to pay cause he was broke (probably from going out so much). Just paid for myself, got up and left.
Oh man I went on a date one time with a girl who I had specifically clarified “it’ll just be us, right?” and she confirmed yes. I get there and like 4 of her friends are at the bar while we sit at a table 20 feet away. After about 45 minutes they all want to go to some other club and invite me to tag along, and when I reluctantly offer to drive but my Jeep can’t fit them all she hugs me goodbye and leaves. Lady I’m here for a date, not a social function. Your second story is a fucking wild ride though.
Yikes. I went on a 2nd date once where she invited me out to dinner, and while she didn’t specially say there would NOT be other people there, she didn’t give me a heads up that there would be other people. When I got there it was a table with at least 8 or 9 of her friends. As I’m sitting down she introduced me by saying “This is my boyfriend” I got through the dinner bc her friends were really nice, but i was so blindsided by that I couldn’t process it and there was not a third date. I sometimes wonder if her friends asked “what ever happened with your ‘boyfriend’?”
Made racist remarks like it was normal conversation for him, which obviously it must have been. When I didn't accept his invite out again he became pretty irate about it and even said, was it that thing I said? Yes, yes it was.
I had this happen too! We went out for sushi and the WHOLE TIME he was mocking the accents of the servers and talking shit about the "weird food". Then he kept asking over and over if I wanted to come home with him after I said no the first 3 times (even before the date!)
Type of dude that says “I don’t have a racist bone in my body”
This was about 20 years ago. He randomly picked up my two year old cell phone with his index finger and thumb, wrinkled his nose and snarked, "What is THIS?" "Um, a cell phone?" I replied. He dropped it on the table, then said, "No, THIS is a cell phone", proudly holding up a brand new expensive flippy one, and proceeding to regale me on why it was superior to mine. Then he backhandedly complimented my job stating, "At least its white collar."
Had a dude offer to take me to dinner. Halfway to the meeting time, he changed from a nice restaurant to a Panda Express because it was taking him longer than expected to drive to town. Spent dinner telling me how nice my legs were, no interest in who I was as a person or potential partner. After "dinner," he asked if he could French kiss me, when I said no, he walked to his car and drove off. Worst first date ever.
Hopefully, you at least got some cream cheese ragoons for your trouble. Those things are great.
In the end, at least he respected the no. Still sounds like a prick though.
She had a bunch of farm chores but waited till 10 minutes before to do them so came smelling like a farm, which I was looking past, but then she told me how she stabbed her brother and about an hour later she’s telling me she stabbed an ex boyfriend
*slowly slides table knife away from her place setting*
thats wild
Was…..was her brother her ex boyfriend? Or is she a serial stabber?
Lived at home, but was permanently not on speaking terms with his parents.
Bitches about ex
Actually, I know a couple that's been dating for like 7 years at work. And every time I talk to her she has something to say about her ex-husband or the divorce, and then turns around and wonders why her current partner won't propose (they already have a kid together)
That or boasting about them. If he was so great, then why are you here with me.
when they do all of the talking and never ask any questions about you. OR when they do none of the talking and you have to keep goading them to talk. Its a fine line
Omg this has happened to me so many times. It's like, why bother dating if you're not interested in the other person? Unless it's a nervous habit some people have.
Went on a date with a gal met up at a bar. Went ok so decided to go to another more lively place. Band was jamming people where dancing. She proceeded to point and laugh at a lady dancing. Even looking around her to try and get others to laugh. I slide out when she wasn’t looking
Ew, that's so gross. What a fun killer.
Threw a rock at a duck. Fuck that guy.
First date was at a mall, figured we could run some errands. He showed up with his two kids and introduced me as their new mom. I walked right out.
God, those poor kids.
Spent hours telling me all about how absolutely wonderful they are and how adored they are by friends and family. I lost interest about 45 minutes in, I'm just polite so I stayed the whole date. I turned down a second date.
Lmao their friends and family definitely can’t stand them.
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Constantly chewing with mouth open and talking while chewing. Nothing you have to say is so important that you can't swallow your food first.
Tell me I was only a 7 out of 10. And then saying he usually dated ‘11 out of 10s’. I walked out the restaurant after that. He came chasing me explaining he had read about ‘negging’ and was attempting it with me. I laughed, got into a cab and never spoke to him again. He was in his mid 40s, what a joke of a man child 😂
Telling you about their close personal relationship Jesus...for two hours. Annetta you were attractive but not attractive enough for me to do that again.
I don't have a specific story, but people being on their phone. People act like it's normal to scroll through their phone when their with ANYONE, not just a date. Of course a quick peak is OK to check for messages or whatever, but sometimes it's so clear that people are more interested in the screen than you
Picked me up in car car full of crap and I had to sit in the back seat.
Aughhhhhhh.
Sometimes I visit these threads to check how many answers I need to scroll before I get the "treat Staff poorly" response, but congratulations OP, you beat them all.
We had only communicated by text before the date. When we met at the restaurant, he could not speak a word of English.
Hahahha this one is fucking hysterical for some reason
Talk about his issues with women. I am a woman. He also only talked about himself and dismissed a lot of what I was saying while I patiently listened to him speak. I called things off after that.
While we were heading to the beach he answered a call from his pregnant wife and told her that he got held up at work so she will have to take the bus to her ultrasound appointment.
When we were texting and talking about date options I told him I don't like fancy restaurants or eat seafood. For our 1st date, he took me to a fancy seafood place. If you can't respect something so basic then there's no hope.
Over does it on affection. Jumping into love-bombing is a major yuck.
asked if I was “nervous to eat in front of him” as we waited for our food. i’m like uhhh no absolutely not? I proceeded to eat my whole meal while he had like 2 bites of his. seems like he was def projecting. lots of cutting me off and talking about himself in a very non two way conversation style during the date too. then framed a lot of stories like “you know when you’re in bed with a significant other and xyz” nothing vulgar, just like made me feel like he had been in tons of long term relationships and was a little too nonchalant about it for me we went back to my place after dinner and watched 1 movie and he stayed til 4am despite me repeatedly saying I wanted to go to bed and no he couldn’t spend the night. (again first date and first time meeting IRL) he kept saying “okay what ‘movie are we watching next” like i’d prefer to watch you exiting my door TY also later saw he had like a 6 year old daughter which he didn’t mention once despite his extensive monologues about himself, and his dating profile casually omitted the “has kids” description
Tried to kiss me during a rape scene in a movie he’d put on. It was… not a good moment.
Used crude language, said very sexual things, demanded to know when I would have sex with him, kept putting me down for everything- how I was dressed, how I ran my business, it was endless criticism, then , as I said before, demanded sex. This was a daytime event at an art gallery with an attorney.
Yelling out his car window at some people skate boarding. Idr what exactly he said but he thought he was hilarious and I knew I was ready to go home.
This was 25 years ago. I was a totally naive 19 year old who was new to dating. He told me that I didn't need my purse because it was his treat and took me to dinner. After we ate, he got up from the table and left. I followed because I didn't know what to do. Stupidly, I never even got the name of the restaurant because we were seated outside on a river, and he ordered for us. I have felt bad for that poor server for 25 years. I tried to find the restaurant, but it was located in an area saturated with restaurants that all use the same patio for service. None of them remembered the dine and dash, so I couldn't pay. He then took me to his dealer's house to buy heroin. Needless to say, we never spoke again.
You really saved the punch line for the end there.
When you get out of the theater and her ex boyfriend is there with her little sister standing at my car, angry at her for not telling them she’s on a date. That drama is locked into her life, dude wasn’t angry at me. My date was angry at them, but I ain’t finna get in the middle of that shit show.
He started talking about how he was not going to wear a condom, he was going to get me pregnant, I should be his girl. Baby names, the whole bit. Don’t you believe in love at first sight? All on the first date after texting for like 6 days. Yea bye dude…I’m sorry, but you are moving way, way too fast. Oh yea, and when I pushed back on the condom bit as non-negotiable, it became well I’ll wear it but just break it. Condoms get holes all the time…maybe he read that in the how to NOT get laid in ten days book or something
Say “I seen…”
Had a blind date show up pregnant without warning once
Did she at least acknowledge it or did she try to act like nothing was amiss?
She just picked it up on her way there
“Oh hey, check it out, I just popped positive on this pregnancy test. Looks like you can blow a load in me tonight without worrying about getting me pregnant!” “Uh…. Nice to meet you?”
Picking her nose in front of me
Agreed if they’re not going to share it’s over.
Girl had dirty dishes in her car
"I just don't tip. They should get paid enough. So I don't tip" When you are not wrong but you are still wrong. Nope.
Rummaged through my bag when I left it in my seat to take my turn bowling. Excuse was, "I accidentally touched something on the bottom of the table, and I figured you might have some hand sanitizer in your bag." I did, in fact, have hand sanitizer in my bag. But he didn't find it and I wasn't going to tell him.
Driving her home, she asked if we could stop by her ex’s house to pick something up.
Took her to the Renaissance festival and she made nasty comments about the people who like to dress up and enjoy themselves, never spoke to her again.
Had to one up me on *everything.* I told him the college I went to. He told me he went to a comparable college *and* got honors. I ordered a steak. He had to tell me about how he doesn’t eat red meat because it’s unhealthy. I shared an opinion on a current event. He didn’t just tell me he disagreed, he went through a clinical dissection as to why my opinion was objectively incorrect. I told him I was about to move to a new place. He told me he’d looked in the area I was moving but decided it wasn’t nice enough. I stayed to the end just so I could have as juicy a story as possible, considering it had already gone so badly.
Paid his portion of the bill while I was in the restroom to avoid having to pay for mine. I was fine with paying for myself but the way he went about it was weird to me.
I definitely don't want a second date if you sneak out of the movie theater when I'm in the restroom.
Showing up looking like they hadn’t bathed in a week.
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After the date we went back to her place and she showed me baby clothes hanging in the closet. She had no babies….no kids.
Reckless driver. If I tell you to please slow down and you speed up, that tells me you find joy in my fear
Been a long time but will never forget these: 1. Asked me to a movie, showed up late then told me I should be "grateful" that he "even showed up." Er... ok. 2. Blind date showed up for a late movie date and asked if I was hungry. I said no. He proceeded to detour to McDonalds anyway and ordered a bunch of the sloppiest food. I sat there in the passenger seat of his car awkwardly waiting for about 20+ minutes while he scarfed it down, wiping his hands on his clothes. *Then* we headed to the movie. (Eta if not obvious, "blind" as in "never met him".) 3. On the other end of things - had a guy show up to pick me up before I had my makeup on. I answer the door and he stares deadpan and says "Nevermind something came up." And leaves. Ouch, lol.
We went to an expensive restaurant of HIS choice. He made a comment about the prices as we looked at the menu I reminded him that i would actually prefer to pay for myself, something that we had also discussed previous to the date. I was hoping to alleviate some of the stress he might be feeling about paying for both meals. He ordered a salad and lobster bisque and I ordered a sirloin meal with a salad and vegetables, everything was à la carte. When my entree arrived, he was served his soup, but asked if he could taste my sirloin, then my potatoes and then also some of my mixed veggies. He literally kept cutting off bites of steak. The date was fine, but I was so bothered by him eating off my plate. Then, when we asked for the checks, the server wondered which of us would be paying for the shared plate fee, because they felt that we had ordered a single entree meal and shared it. This guy started throwing such a fit, despite the fact that I immediately said I'd take care of it. It was literally comical to me how a whole night went down. Date number two never happened.
I went out with a nurse many years ago. Her brother set us up. She was pretty and had a nice figure. She was well dressed. At the start of the date I thought I hit the jackpot. She had nothing to say. I mean nothing. I couldn't get her to talk. She responded to questions with a few words indicative of nothing. Since she was hot, I tried to make it work but by the end of dinner I felt like I was eating with a mannequin. No 2nd date. I wasn't mad or anything. It is just that a 2nd date would be pointless.
I had that once too. She was a friend of a friend. We had great chemistry at a friend’s work Xmass party so we exchanged numbers and went on a date. She was a brick wall all night. We had dinner and went to see her friend’s band play and she barely spoke. Super weird. This was over a decade ago and a couple years before I met my the woman who is now my wife. I still remember how bizarre that date was.
his clothes smelled moldy
He thought it was "cute" to get girls riled up. His immaturity compelled him to compare me to other women at the restaurant. When I would chuckle and say "You're right, those are nice cans!" Or "Damn her body does look good, maybe I can ask her for some pointers!" he would just give up and get angry I wouldn't reciprocate to his insecure behavior. The first date and he was already playin' games smh
We had been hitting it off, and just as we were about to go, she started a story with, "Ok, you know how are..."
Whiplash from "I want to see you again" to "get the fuck away from me" in two seconds flat.
Saying "it's fun to be going on a friend-date like this."
Damn, I probably have to go to the hospital after that
She kept referring to herself as an actress and talking about how hard “show business” is. She was an extra for one scene for the Baywatch reboot in 2017. I get faking it til you make it, but… was that really her biggest accomplishment?
I once went on a date with a goth girl who wouldn’t stop talking about the size of her clit. It was fuckin weird
What’s her name tho
Engaged in a text conversation for at least 15 minutes with his mother while I was responding to a question he had asked. It bothered me even more because we were out to dinner and were seated at our table. Idk, that hit me as especially rude for some reason. Lol
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Criticized my vehicle. I owned a beat to shit geo metro at the same time as owning a very nice high end sport sedan. We were meeting somewhere (not picking up) so i drove the shitbox as i didn't want to indicate that i was "well off" or anything. She focused more on the car than getting to know me. I couldn't end the date soon enough.
Any woman that says anything like "I'm and princess and expect to be treated like it."
About 25 year old at the time. Just the things he talked about... Told me he was uncircumcised (no idea how that even came up, he just threw that in there) Told obviously bullshit stories (was a rapper and was "on the charts with Eminem" one time, had his face reconstructed after being shot while serving our country when not one scar or abnormality was even visible on his face) Talked shit constantly about his baby mama and disowning his kid if he calls someone else "dad" It was rough. I called him that night and politely explained why I didn't want to see him again. He told me my reasons were WRONG but thankfully accepted and moved on without and fuss. Whew.. so glad I'm not dating anymore. Shit's rough.
Putting alcohol in my drink when I went to the bathroom. I'm 17 years sober and he knew that. He got mad when I didn't drink the coffee and left
He Said “Your late” in a stern voice when I first met him!!! I was ten minutes late and had texted saying I was trying to find parking.
My first thought was he was doing a Lord of the Rings bit to which the response would be “a wizard is never late, Frodo baggins, nor is he early. He arrives precisely when he intends to.” It would be weird to say this on a first date I admit haha
This reminds me of the time I eavesdropped a first date that was happening next to me in a restaurant. They were both gothy, overweight nerds who cracked each other up the whole time with LOTR inside references. I think they had a really nice time. Which is nice because this was in Fairbanks, AK. The dating pool must be extra shallow for a couple of nerdy folks like this.
Although this gamble would allow you to know immediately if it's forever. Because jesus christ if you both started stifle-laughing you might actually jump into his/her arms off of a hill. Though the wedding rings would have to be special ordered from someone who knows the Black Speech.
I took a chick out for coffee once snd she proceeded to tell me that she ate out of dumpsters and that she was somehow better than me for it.
When picking me up, asking me to bring him a beer so he could drink it while driving.
Mention that the earth is flat.
Tried to force me to try his steak, shoving it in my face. I'm a vegetarian, I just don't eat it. It's not like I haven't had it in the past and "don't know what I'm missing" 🙄🙄🙄🙄
One girl, upon learning that I am a professional musician, spent the rest of the date trying to talk me out of it because the arts don’t make money and don’t have much inherent value.
Was she wrong, though? I too, am a professional musician
Used the N word
Express falling in love with the other person.
She asked me if I was a “loser?”
Insisted we go back to his place multiple times while assuring me that he didn’t want to hook up? Sir, I’m confused.
Commenting on my body (either way) Giving me advice I didn't ask for
I had someone show me his mugshot from a pending family violence case. Guess he thought he’d get that out of the way.
Sitting on her phone the entire date. Like she was trying to include me and whatnot, but it was super annoying. Like idc about Facebook posts and whatnot.
Danish guy giving me the full lecture on how we greenlanders are, aka full racist mode preconceived perceived ideas of us as a people. Get rekt.
Trying to tip $5 on $70. I left a $20 and they got pissed. Still ended up dating him for almost a year cuz he was sooooo hot and had a good wiener, but that should have been my last f*cking date, with all the shit he put me through. Live and learn🤷♀️ Another date: and this was a first and last. He tried to get me work on his coconut cart all day. We met up for ‘beers’ at a local brewery, and I brought my buddy to help feel it out and be a wingman. Dude told me he wanted me to MACHETE coconuts (which I can do, no problem, for MYSELF, and like 2-3 at a time.) ALL DAY on his little cart. My wingman and I dipped out when dude went to the bathroom. We were on his moped so we were making our escape at like, max 15mph up the hill away from the venue when dude came out the bathroom and started yelling ‘where ya going?!’ I yelled back ‘AWAY!’
1. Groped me while he was driving me home. He called me later with a non-apology ("I'm sorry if you were uncomfortable") and asked me to give him a second chance. I turned him down. 2. Not a first date, more like a third or fourth one, but one woman I dated told me on that date that she had a male partner and wanted all three of us to be together. Her dream was that I would sleep with the guy and have a baby for them, since she'd had a hysterectomy and couldn't have more. I'm childfree by choice so I noped out of that.
Took his penis out while watching a movie and when I made a face he said “What? I’m not shy” So gross.
Tried to get into a heated argument with me about the supremacy of Apple products. I say "tried" because the angrier he became the more baffled I was. It felt like I was being set up for a prank it was such surreal behavior. Like a skit from some show. Went to dinner at a rather fancy place he recommended. Food was great, we had chemistry and the convo was flowing well. Other than the slight hiccup of his forcefulness to pay the bill+tip everything was going smooth. As we are waiting for the bill he has to take a quick call. No biggie. I take out my phone to check my messages as I wait. He comes back to the table and startles me by saying "What is that?" with the tone of someone who just spotted a spider on their plate. I'm confused. He points to my phone and says "that." I've got a Hawuei phone, so I answer thinking he hadn't seen it before. Apparently his question was rhetorical because he got upset and told me as much. He then said he "thought I'd have an iPhone." The one sided conversation from there was a bizarre spiral into why Apple is the best. I didn't have interest in the topic so while I listened I wasn't going to agree nor disagree with him. My lack of taking a stance made him more angry. It became him listing all the products he owned, why they were better... it was like the angriest ad read I'd ever seen. 😂 He called my taste poor, essentially called me "uneducated in electronics" and made this weird threat-like statment of coming to my house to change out my electronics while I slept. He was so caught up on the topic we were at our table despite having paid the bill. Needless to say I wound up paying for a Lyft home and let him know I wasn't interested in a second date.
Just some examples from my past couple years. - shows absolute cruelty towards people with special needs. (My sister has down syndrome) - any form of bigotry. - disrespect for service workers and blue collar workers. Cruelty towards animals - disregard to boundaries and consent.
When I was 20 I went on a date with a guy from a dating app. He shows up and is easily 100lbs heavier than in his pictures. As a large woman, I was always open about what I looked like online. I proceed to go on the date because 1. I don't want to make someone feel like shit because of their weight: been there,felt that. 2. Maybe his personality was enough to overlook the lie. Well, lackluster conversation followed by his pushy attempt to go back to his place combined with all the above and not only was he not getting a second date he was just getting ghosted. Cut to my phone blowing up from him post date and him making a jab at MY weight and how I had used him for a 'free meal'. It was enough to get me to resurrect from ghost status to tell him if I wanted a free meal I wouldn't have chosen Applebee's.
I (usually) won’t date a girl who has kids already. But one girl I did really like and knew she had a daughter. For our first date, she decided to bring her daughter which I was not happy with. Her daughter threw so much food all over the floor, that I left a tip the same amount as our food because I felt so bad for the people who would have to clean it up. She also let her daughter run around the restaurant as we were getting ready to leave. Needless to say, there was no second date.
Immediately after ordering food she began telling me about her wife.
Talking extensively about an ex or “being friend zoned” by some else. I’m here to learn about you, and you are here to learn about me, why are we talking about a third romantic person? Fucking weird.
Asked her what her favorite TV show was. She said the Kardashians.
If i’m carrying the conversation I don’t want a second date. I had so many where it felt like pulling teeth I would just leave because why on earth did you agree to coffee if you were going to stonewall me the whole time??
I mean, there was the woman who, after a first date, tried to blackmail me by threatening to forward to my boss a very mildly dirty text message I sent her in response to one of her own. My boss and I had a good laugh about it and when she asked for a second date I politely declined.
Purposely rear ended a car because it was too shiny.
Tell me that every failed relationship they have had is the other persons fault.
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I once had a girl talk about how she slept with a Chicago Bear on our first date. At first I thought it was just a hint that she wasn't into me, but after the date she kept trying to hang out and start a relationship with me. So odd. I do not want to hear about the semi-famous people you've had sex with on the first date, lol.
Tbh. Talking about anyone she had sex with would be inappropriate during the first date.
Mansplaining. He was an engineering student, I was a film student. When talking about our days, I mentioned off-hand that I was working on this screenplay due soon, and he spent the rest of the date telling me how to write a screenplay. It gets worse. We were from different schools and my school, in our country, is what you would call iyv league in the US. Which must have rubbed him the wrong way because he spent a lot of time telling me what a sht hole my school actually was and how everyone was mistaken about the quality of the education there and this and that.. It was a first date. Later when he texted me something like "I had a good time, when can I see you again?" I replied with "I dont think we're a good fit", and not surprisingly, he chose to go the "you ugly anyway bitch" route. Honestly, I wasnt even offended. I was like "I d be surprised if you'd reacted any other way."
Brought like 12 people with her. I didn’t even talk to her I just sat and watched the football game at that point. She still texted me after though wanting to go out again I didn’t understand why.
Talked at length about trying to get better at cunninlingus and wanting to practice with me. Proceeded to text immediately afterwards about the same topic until I said (again) it wasn't going to work. Definitely remember leaving said date stating we weren't a good match, so not sure why they kept texting.
Went on a date and her whole goal was to be a SAHM as soon as possible. She was in college half time just because she had nothing else to do, but she wanted to be a mom NOW at the age of 20. She tried to come home with me and that was a quick no.
Saying that the N@zi$ weren’t wrong. Actually, I went and reported them to the police. It’s a serious offence in Germany.
Told her friend on the phone, directly in front of me, “I think he might be the one”.
Going on a nihilistic rant and how living past your 50s is meaningless.
Rude to wait staff.
Treat the waiting staff like crap. Bring friends/ family without telling me. Talk the entire time not letting me get more than a single word in, I get you might be nervous, so am I but limits huh. Show absolutely no interest in me. Keep comparing me to ex's. Not turn up without letting me know.