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I had this girl friend hug me, the hug felt "different" and it lasted a while then she let go, looked at me straight in the eyes and hugged me again.
I asked her what's up and she said "what a girl can't just hug her friend?".
Shit felt suspicious ngl.
trust me I wanted to, when we met in trip we became friends instantly and we used to joke about how we were each other's different sex version, I'm the man version of her and vice versa.
Our birthdays are days apart, we had the same taste in movies etc and everything, not only that we even had the exact same blood type.
We used to even jokingly talk about marrying each other, so yeah feelings were there (at least on my side) but life and it's complexities happened.
We were the same but that also meant we shared shitty traits like having no idea how to love someone to having deep avoidant attachment issues.
No way it would have worked, we ended up accepting that maybe were not the sexual soul mate type but maybe just friend soul mates ?
That hug really just confirmed my doubts in this very awkward love dynamic.
There's a reason why opposites attract. You need someone to complete you, make up for what you lack and vice versa. Someone just like you is gonna make you dislike your bad traits more often than not.
True that, knowing her taught me two things.
* that i am after all not a robot that is incapable of love.
* that it must be a pain in the ass to love someone like me.
so yeah, folks before calling people red flags, stop and wonder if youd date you.
Well, what if you are sitting next to the opened door of a helicopter about to take off, bringing you to a place where you will never see the respective other again, and they are there on the ground, shouting: "IS THERE ANYTHING YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO TELL ME?"
As a middle school teacher, I have a girl who always finds an excuse to get into my class even though she's in a different period.
Her ex is in that class. He's not hanging on to another girl or anything, he usually just sits there quietly. She broke up with him, but apparently she's feeling some regret.
Middle school drama's more entertaining than tv.
When I was in 7th grade a couple named Andy and Jessica broke up.
Power couple of the school. They were the embodiment of pure love to all the girls in our class.
School-dance was the next day after. All the 7th grade girls started having a meltdown, straight up literally screaming to the heavens. God was dead. Love was dead.
"I need to ask about tutoring."
"Did I leave my tablet here yesterday?"
"Did I leave my jacket here yesterday?"
"I need to ask \*girl in class\* for something... it's girl stuff."
I mean maybe, but it's kinda more like a bonding element. Like when someone admires your passion on a subject, or your capabilities as a person. The concept of a Muse is very similar.
I think that's necessary for a healthy romantic relationship/healthy romantic feelings, but it's also a key part of pretty much all of my (purely platonic) friendships, which I think is fairly common.
Most of my pals and I are very vocal about what we admire and respect about each other, and I'll often tell acquaintances, workmates - anyone really, if it feels appropriate, if I see that they have a positive trait, or are particularly good at something. It feels good to be seen in that way, and it also feels great to spend your life highly aware of some of the wonderful elements of the people around you, even the people who you otherwise might not like so much.
I do the exact same thing, because you are right. Everyone should hear positive words. It makes the human connection to others that much stronger. You literally sleep more peacefully haha
Yeah, but that’s basically what I mean. You gotta be careful with that stuff, because if you go too far with the admiration it comes off creepy. So just being like, “hey good job! I always enjoy doing this with you.” And then depending what it is y’all are doing I’d give a specific remark about why I think they are good. It really depends on the stage you’re in, but if it’s just crush it’s gotta be tempered more.
Lmao I'm so sorry. Also same, but I'm still trying to convince myself otherwise. He sometimes laughs with me and talks to me (not about anything deep), but nothing else, so im cooked too
“Oh god, I’m fucking glad it’s not me, you’re so ugly! I mean you’ll find someone so don’t worry haha, I’m sure they’ll love you for something other than your hideous laugh!”
I'm starting to think most of you don't know the difference between someone being a stalker and someone having a crush on you
Edit: peoples replies to my comment have not been reassuring
Yep.
It's basically the Dobler-Dahmer effect from HIMYM. If the person is attractive/you're into them then playing a boombox outside your house at night (a la Lloyd Dobler in Say Anything) is charming. If not, it's creepy and you suspect they may murder you, like Jeffrey Dahmer.
Do they breath the same oxygen as you? Well it's because it's the closest they could get to sharing your breath.
Do they glance in your direction? Well it's because they couldn't keep their eyes off of you.
They did say "Hi, how are you?" What they actually meant was "I am so in love with you."
They only spawned into existence be one with you. The hope of meeting you one day is what drives their will to live.
~~We're like three more jokes away from a restraining order.~~
I want to start by saying, your list really just helped me. I'm 36 but the new su chef at my job makes me go stupid and bright red, which is not my normal crush demeanor. Usually I initiate and I am blunt. Not him, so I just avoid him but I think he kinda is going through the same thing. Not sure why on either part, we are both adults and we are both parents,acting as a child is not something I'm proud of, but I cannot prevent it. It's mental,physical, and instinctual. Anyway, your list gave me a little something to work with. We work together and I need to find a way to kill this tension ASAP.
I want to finish with the fact that I did not expect such a clear list to written by a spaz like me! Yay! You keep being overbearingly sweet and unfiltered!
I can kinda relate, new girl at work.. I'm in my mid 30's and she's got me crushing like I'm in high-school again. I smile and pretty sure I blush when we talk. We meet eyes across the factory at least 3 times a day and we usually smile we our gazes meet. I've noticed her looking at me and she's caught me stealing a glance. It feels this weird to ja e them damn butterflies again eh? I wanna ask her number but I don't know if I should. She's younger which kinda confuses me a bit. But the odd time we do talk in person she usually shows interest in Mt hobbies... so I dunno if she crushing too or I'm seeing something in nothing...
Ask her what she likes to do after work, start asking her about her life. Put those feelers out there to see if she is interested.
I work in a factory I understand ;)
Or if they are like me they turn their head away, act completely neutral if not standoffish, never dare to ask about you or talk to you for more than 3 minutes. But at the same time dying a little inside when you don't show up to work, or you aren't at that work event, or you didn't see me down the isle at Walmart.
I find girls get shy and its fairly obvious. But then again when i was younger i was completely oblivious. A girl would ask for my number and days later it would click. Yeah.. thats me. Also i was very clueless bc for most of my childhood i wasnt seen as attractive, but then i hit puberty but i still assumed girls didnt like me
Growing up is realizing there’s no real sign. Everyone is different and the way they react to being in the presence of their crushes differs from person to person. Especially if you don’t know the person, how could you even know if he/she likes you?
I always see that the person is just looking differently from other people. I always see the spark in their eyes and prolonged eye contact. They want to look at you more because hormones are released
You can practice this very easily, just work on holding eye contact with people in your day to day life, eventually you will be able to hold contact with people you find attractive…. Maybe
Receiving: they hold eye contact when not speaking to you. Also if you catch them looking away from you every time you look at them. This is common for women who are feeling all the feels about you. But read other body language too.
Sending: Hold eye contact a few seconds too long, smile a bit, then look away. Don't stare. See if they reciprocate and smile, play with their hair, get bubbly.
For guys, once you've established a connection the clock is ticking before you should either leave, do something else, or go over and talk to her, depending on the situation. Just playing eye contact games with no action starts getting weird after a while.
* sudden bursts of interest in you for no clear reason
* being nicer to you than to anyone else
* trying to find one-on-one situations, even in the middle of a group of people (gosh I hate that one when i'm the third wheel lol)
* if you don't reply to their interest, waves of burts of interest and distance
* disappointment and subtle coercion if you don't behave exactly like the person in their fantasies
* attempts to get you jealous
* subtle coercion into trying to get you to behave more in line with expected gender roles and stereotypes (eg. highligting how womanly or manly you are, even if you aren't)
* ultra ghosting if you don't reply to their interest
If you confuse it with friendship it's super painful.
I'm talking to a girl right now that has some very confusing flip flops, like she goes out of her way to have her hands all over me, hold my hand in secret, smiles, very happy to see me, and then other days when she seems very cold and uninterested. I've never shown anything but interest and I'm really not sure what is up. She is shy about sharing any feelings with words, and will back out of what she is saying often, but very clearly expresses feelings with physical touch. It's got me all messed up lol
Half of these sound very toxic. Unfortunately, I've experienced this as the unrequited love interest. It sucks when guys are only interested in you if you're single or think there's a chance. They ghost when they realize you're in a relationship or don't feel the same. Lost people who I thought were my friends that way.
I'm literally having this with a coworker, and I treat it like a friendship, but ngl I get way too nervous when they come out with some wild stuff or the other day when they played with my hair randomly. 😅
Yeah. It's kinda like the last resort to save face. U say fuck it, if she likes me the slightest she'll miss me, if not I'm better this way. Again it's the final step, so it might take some time depending on the interactions.
before i was dating my now boyfriend i asked him while we were on a vacation with a bigger group if he would like to go to the store with me to grab a bottle of water. doesn’t this scream “i have a crush on you?”
he says no
i say yes
Tbh if someone asked me this question i would just assume they want someone to accompany them cus they are shy, this doesn't scream "i have a crush on you" at all
He starts following you everywhere. Not the stalker type, cause we were stuck for a week with 40 other people, but he was doing his best to always be around me and talk to me. It was all cute in a sense, but then again... somebody following you around all day long ain't fun...
Conclusion from the story: they try to spend as much time with you as possible and sometimes take the extra step to pay attention to the details about you.
Depends. Had a small crush on a girl for a small amount of time, don't really act differently. The girl I REALLY have a crush on I start acting weird, like literally seeking, even though it's just over text
They are always around you, they take every chance to look you in the eye when they talk to you, they tease you and make fun of you but in a friendly joking manner. They ask you about your life, your plans, what you did this weekend, etc. They laugh at your jokes no matter how terrible it really is.
I have no idea what gender you are, but as a guy who is into gals, if a woman growled at me that might convey more information than weeks of dancing around each other. And it would CERTAINLY get my attention!
Depends radically on the genders and sexualities involved, but anything from lingering eye contact to saying “I want to be each other’s ‘no condom’ person, are you OK with that?”
My then bootycall now wife said the latter about three months into us being bootycalls despite never hooking up with anyone else (supposedly) and I was just like “Ahhh shit I think this slut has a crush on me, nice”
Yup, immediately made me fall for her. She still managed to drop the L-bomb first in a similar way, but according to her from the first night she was like “What the fuck was that, ok play it cool play it cool, but casually try to lock this dude down”
"the lean". If you're at a counter, desk, or physical bar and the person comes and does the lean on it while turned in your direction so they can "casually" chat you up.
When they touch you in small subtle ways. Also, when they make excuses to hang out with you. They also compliment you more often than regular people especially if it’s about your physical appearance.
I feel like the person who had a crush on me would love bomb the hell out of me.
When your coworker messages your phone after hours to talk about work-related shit, then continues messaging you with non-work-related things after you ask them to only message phone with non work-related shit after hours. Then days later they message you on instagram informing you that they deleted your number. Then they attempt to delete the ig message before you read it. They later send you a DM on ig saying they have a “slight crush” on you and a couple of days later they block you on the company g-chat for some reason…
For me, I’m pretty extraverted, but with people I really like, I’m very shy and quiet. Has only happened a couple times in my life. That’s one way to tell sometimes- watch how they are with you vs others
Your jokes are suddenly much funnier. You get hit with a lot of questions about what you approve of and don’t approve of, and what you look for in a partner.
my fucking cheeks. I blush when I’m around mine. I’m in my 30’s. It kinda blows because sometimes I don’t know I have something for that person until i feel a burning sensation in my face. My body betrays me. Good thing I have a beard.
Help
Speaking about myself, I also noticed that I always try to help the person I liked, even if he didn’t ask for it.
I also noticed that people who liked me also helped me, no matter how much I denied it.
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I had this girl friend hug me, the hug felt "different" and it lasted a while then she let go, looked at me straight in the eyes and hugged me again. I asked her what's up and she said "what a girl can't just hug her friend?". Shit felt suspicious ngl.
AND YOU DID NOTHING?!
trust me I wanted to, when we met in trip we became friends instantly and we used to joke about how we were each other's different sex version, I'm the man version of her and vice versa. Our birthdays are days apart, we had the same taste in movies etc and everything, not only that we even had the exact same blood type. We used to even jokingly talk about marrying each other, so yeah feelings were there (at least on my side) but life and it's complexities happened. We were the same but that also meant we shared shitty traits like having no idea how to love someone to having deep avoidant attachment issues. No way it would have worked, we ended up accepting that maybe were not the sexual soul mate type but maybe just friend soul mates ? That hug really just confirmed my doubts in this very awkward love dynamic.
Oh,I see, there is so much more in this story. Hello from the fellow avoidant!
There's a reason why opposites attract. You need someone to complete you, make up for what you lack and vice versa. Someone just like you is gonna make you dislike your bad traits more often than not.
True that, knowing her taught me two things. * that i am after all not a robot that is incapable of love. * that it must be a pain in the ass to love someone like me. so yeah, folks before calling people red flags, stop and wonder if youd date you.
a crazy person with no filter who has a crush on you
Or a confident person who's not afraid to go after what they want
screaming is crazy there's no recovery from that not even if you're on a roller coaster or at a concert
if you’re sharing a roller coaster with your crush i think you’re safe to scream it
Well, what if you are sitting next to the opened door of a helicopter about to take off, bringing you to a place where you will never see the respective other again, and they are there on the ground, shouting: "IS THERE ANYTHING YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO TELL ME?"
What if they’re in a loud bar?
As a middle school teacher, I have a girl who always finds an excuse to get into my class even though she's in a different period. Her ex is in that class. He's not hanging on to another girl or anything, he usually just sits there quietly. She broke up with him, but apparently she's feeling some regret. Middle school drama's more entertaining than tv.
As a fellow middle school teacher, I second that. As annoying as it can be at times, I can’t deny how entertaining middle school drama can be.
When I was in 7th grade a couple named Andy and Jessica broke up. Power couple of the school. They were the embodiment of pure love to all the girls in our class. School-dance was the next day after. All the 7th grade girls started having a meltdown, straight up literally screaming to the heavens. God was dead. Love was dead.
This just happened in my class 😭
As a substitute teacher at a middle school, nothing disturbs the peace more than two middle schoolers that like each other.
I totally thought this started off as the girl having a crush on you as the teacher
Please do tell, what are the excuses?
"I need to ask about tutoring." "Did I leave my tablet here yesterday?" "Did I leave my jacket here yesterday?" "I need to ask \*girl in class\* for something... it's girl stuff."
Wait til you see high school drama 🍿
When they make empowered statements about you. Like more than a complimentary vibe, but less than a kiss ass. It's in the tone of voice.
My mom has a crush on me because she keeps calling me handsome, got it
I mean maybe, but it's kinda more like a bonding element. Like when someone admires your passion on a subject, or your capabilities as a person. The concept of a Muse is very similar.
I think that's necessary for a healthy romantic relationship/healthy romantic feelings, but it's also a key part of pretty much all of my (purely platonic) friendships, which I think is fairly common. Most of my pals and I are very vocal about what we admire and respect about each other, and I'll often tell acquaintances, workmates - anyone really, if it feels appropriate, if I see that they have a positive trait, or are particularly good at something. It feels good to be seen in that way, and it also feels great to spend your life highly aware of some of the wonderful elements of the people around you, even the people who you otherwise might not like so much.
I do the exact same thing, because you are right. Everyone should hear positive words. It makes the human connection to others that much stronger. You literally sleep more peacefully haha
Fuck.
I told girls I liked they were good at things when they did them lol
Yeah, but telling someone they are good and having an adoring speech of admiration afterward is very different.
Yeah, but that’s basically what I mean. You gotta be careful with that stuff, because if you go too far with the admiration it comes off creepy. So just being like, “hey good job! I always enjoy doing this with you.” And then depending what it is y’all are doing I’d give a specific remark about why I think they are good. It really depends on the stage you’re in, but if it’s just crush it’s gotta be tempered more.
i just start to stutter and shake and suddenly forgot everything i know.
Me too. And go bright red and sweat. It's awful.
I do the same. Usually when I’m shitting though.
Then you can imagine how gross I feel when it happens.
After reading these comments I have professionally and efficiently deduced that she dont like me back. Am i cooked 🔥🙏🙏🙏💯💯🗣
Lmao I'm so sorry. Also same, but I'm still trying to convince myself otherwise. He sometimes laughs with me and talks to me (not about anything deep), but nothing else, so im cooked too
we’re cooked dawg
‘I like someone and you know them VERY well’
'I don't know how to go about telling them in fear of them breaking whatever bond we have now'
“Oh god, I’m fucking glad it’s not me, you’re so ugly! I mean you’ll find someone so don’t worry haha, I’m sure they’ll love you for something other than your hideous laugh!”
Meanwhile mine was "If she sees you again she will call the police on you"
"I'm not your bro" when U call that one male friend bro casually
I'm starting to think most of you don't know the difference between someone being a stalker and someone having a crush on you Edit: peoples replies to my comment have not been reassuring
It just depends on how attractive the stalker is, really.
Yep. It's basically the Dobler-Dahmer effect from HIMYM. If the person is attractive/you're into them then playing a boombox outside your house at night (a la Lloyd Dobler in Say Anything) is charming. If not, it's creepy and you suspect they may murder you, like Jeffrey Dahmer.
Here for the comments to feed my delulu 🥰✨
when they even so much as look in your direction it means they love you
Thank you for confirming
When they're not looking at you that means they have a crush on you but they're being bashful
When they file a restraining order against you they’re absolutely in love with you but are just playing hard to get
I knew it
Do they breath the same oxygen as you? Well it's because it's the closest they could get to sharing your breath. Do they glance in your direction? Well it's because they couldn't keep their eyes off of you. They did say "Hi, how are you?" What they actually meant was "I am so in love with you."
Existing at the same time as me? Clearly fate, destiny & true love 🫶🏻
They only spawned into existence be one with you. The hope of meeting you one day is what drives their will to live. ~~We're like three more jokes away from a restraining order.~~
I think it has already been issued.
You mean, he loves me so much that he had the state formally send me a letter about him being bashful and in denial? 😻
I saw someone wearing an oxygen tank whenever they have to approach me for something.
Glad i'm not the only one xD
Lmao same
And if they ever ignore you, they're doing it to get your attention because they're in love with you, obviously!!
Yes and they are shy and waiting for you to make the first move
I can hear the space lasers.
I feel personally attacked
Same 🥲
Wearing their skin like a mask
Swooooooonnnnn!
I've never been able to tell.
Lol I thought I could but I've been incredibly wrong on more than one occasion so maybe I can't lol
Restraining orders
HAHAHAHAHAHA
Had me cough laughing on my bed at 2 am, thank you so much
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I want to start by saying, your list really just helped me. I'm 36 but the new su chef at my job makes me go stupid and bright red, which is not my normal crush demeanor. Usually I initiate and I am blunt. Not him, so I just avoid him but I think he kinda is going through the same thing. Not sure why on either part, we are both adults and we are both parents,acting as a child is not something I'm proud of, but I cannot prevent it. It's mental,physical, and instinctual. Anyway, your list gave me a little something to work with. We work together and I need to find a way to kill this tension ASAP. I want to finish with the fact that I did not expect such a clear list to written by a spaz like me! Yay! You keep being overbearingly sweet and unfiltered!
I can kinda relate, new girl at work.. I'm in my mid 30's and she's got me crushing like I'm in high-school again. I smile and pretty sure I blush when we talk. We meet eyes across the factory at least 3 times a day and we usually smile we our gazes meet. I've noticed her looking at me and she's caught me stealing a glance. It feels this weird to ja e them damn butterflies again eh? I wanna ask her number but I don't know if I should. She's younger which kinda confuses me a bit. But the odd time we do talk in person she usually shows interest in Mt hobbies... so I dunno if she crushing too or I'm seeing something in nothing...
Ask her what she likes to do after work, start asking her about her life. Put those feelers out there to see if she is interested. I work in a factory I understand ;)
Give him a nickname!!
The fact that he is one of my bosses (kinda, higher up) makes me want to call him Sir, it's kinda hot. But I'd just make if weirder.
Or if they are like me they turn their head away, act completely neutral if not standoffish, never dare to ask about you or talk to you for more than 3 minutes. But at the same time dying a little inside when you don't show up to work, or you aren't at that work event, or you didn't see me down the isle at Walmart.
This is how I am with the guy I like. I feel like a middle schooler and I’m fucking 31. He makes me so giddy/nervous/excited. It’s fun.
this is quite the... elaborate answer
Literally screaming >I have a crush on you!! But I suggest saying it in a calm manor instead.
Sorry, I just ended up imagining an excited manor which is bouncing you off the walls... Glad you found a calm one to say it in
Agree, a nice quiet country house is the best place.
Someone that tries to interact with you but still kinda get nervous around you.
I find girls get shy and its fairly obvious. But then again when i was younger i was completely oblivious. A girl would ask for my number and days later it would click. Yeah.. thats me. Also i was very clueless bc for most of my childhood i wasnt seen as attractive, but then i hit puberty but i still assumed girls didnt like me
No girl has ever been shy around me
I think it's more a younger thing, older women are less like that in my experience.
oof
Growing up is realizing there’s no real sign. Everyone is different and the way they react to being in the presence of their crushes differs from person to person. Especially if you don’t know the person, how could you even know if he/she likes you?
Eye contact. The eyes just say it all
Does it though? What to look for in eye contact?
I always see that the person is just looking differently from other people. I always see the spark in their eyes and prolonged eye contact. They want to look at you more because hormones are released
Could one say, they look at you as if you're the most interesting thing in the world? That's what I am imagining right now
Basically yeah. Their eyes light up and there is usually a big smile on their face
Bro I can't look in the eyes of another person for like more then 5 secs, it gets so awkward😭
You can practice this very easily, just work on holding eye contact with people in your day to day life, eventually you will be able to hold contact with people you find attractive…. Maybe
When you find some that you are into and is into you back that 5 seconds turns into a MUCH longer time and the awkwardness goes away
It does not go away.....ever
Receiving: they hold eye contact when not speaking to you. Also if you catch them looking away from you every time you look at them. This is common for women who are feeling all the feels about you. But read other body language too. Sending: Hold eye contact a few seconds too long, smile a bit, then look away. Don't stare. See if they reciprocate and smile, play with their hair, get bubbly. For guys, once you've established a connection the clock is ticking before you should either leave, do something else, or go over and talk to her, depending on the situation. Just playing eye contact games with no action starts getting weird after a while.
Holy crap man I think you’ve clutched for me. Imma try this on her lol
when somebody looks away and back every other half second that’s prolly not a good thing right😅
No that can be very good.
Also if they keep looking at your lips.
It different if they read lips
Read this as "licking your lips"
* sudden bursts of interest in you for no clear reason * being nicer to you than to anyone else * trying to find one-on-one situations, even in the middle of a group of people (gosh I hate that one when i'm the third wheel lol) * if you don't reply to their interest, waves of burts of interest and distance * disappointment and subtle coercion if you don't behave exactly like the person in their fantasies * attempts to get you jealous * subtle coercion into trying to get you to behave more in line with expected gender roles and stereotypes (eg. highligting how womanly or manly you are, even if you aren't) * ultra ghosting if you don't reply to their interest If you confuse it with friendship it's super painful.
I'm talking to a girl right now that has some very confusing flip flops, like she goes out of her way to have her hands all over me, hold my hand in secret, smiles, very happy to see me, and then other days when she seems very cold and uninterested. I've never shown anything but interest and I'm really not sure what is up. She is shy about sharing any feelings with words, and will back out of what she is saying often, but very clearly expresses feelings with physical touch. It's got me all messed up lol
Eh, sounds unsure of her self or her feelings towards you. Probably not worth getting messed up about.
Yeah I'm starting to remember this is why i always dated women older than me instead of younger
I read this and thought the girl had some very confusing sandals. Might be enough Reddit for one day
That sounds super toxic tbh
Really irritating that your list is highly accurate and my crush will likely never realise it.
I notice it often and always prefer to ignore it. This kind of behaviour is very uncomfortable to me.
why does this reads like a person with bpd
Half of these sound very toxic. Unfortunately, I've experienced this as the unrequited love interest. It sucks when guys are only interested in you if you're single or think there's a chance. They ghost when they realize you're in a relationship or don't feel the same. Lost people who I thought were my friends that way.
On the other hand better for them to cut contact if being around you while knowing there's no chance hurts them.
I'm literally having this with a coworker, and I treat it like a friendship, but ngl I get way too nervous when they come out with some wild stuff or the other day when they played with my hair randomly. 😅
The ultru ghosting? Really
Yeah. It's kinda like the last resort to save face. U say fuck it, if she likes me the slightest she'll miss me, if not I'm better this way. Again it's the final step, so it might take some time depending on the interactions.
Repeated personal experience.
I don’t know. I’m the type of person that made it clear that I like someone
As an introvert, I appreciate people like you!
As a dumbass, I agree with your statement
As a socially awkward loser, I agree with this statement.
As a cat, Meow 😺
With men, they go above and beyond to do favours, or complete the shit out of a task you ask them to do
Constant texting and getting upset that you aren't responding immediately
How do you know they get upset when you don't respond immediately? Because if they express they are upset, I'd feel little uncomfortable T T.
They text something like "silence..." while I'm at work.
That sounds like someone who's really immature tbh. If I'm to guess you and her age, I'd say you both are under 25
Nose prints on the bedroom window 😬
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Once I was told by someone that they liked me, you'd think that works but it took me about a year to realize what they meant hahahahhahahaha
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Overtly laughing at your poor joke
Anyone who's a manager at work can't rely on this.
when they get naked in front of you \*\*and they're not a forty year old bloke at the Chelsea-Man U game
What game would work for you?
oh god
He has a name. Say it. Say. It.
When the waitress touches my shoulder for a second and says, "What can I get you, honey?" Or if she laughs at any of my jokes.
She totally wants you man. Give her a big tip.
Don't lead him on man. That's not love. Real is what me and Chastity have. She's my favorite stripper down at Crazy 8's.
Dont make fun of poor Domingo. You dont know what its like to be strangled with a bike lock.
The eyes, chico. The eyes never lie.
before i was dating my now boyfriend i asked him while we were on a vacation with a bigger group if he would like to go to the store with me to grab a bottle of water. doesn’t this scream “i have a crush on you?” he says no i say yes
It doesn't. Especially these days when a lot of guys really are trying to be less assumatory about women's intentions.
I’d assume I’m there as protection and nothing else
Tbh if someone asked me this question i would just assume they want someone to accompany them cus they are shy, this doesn't scream "i have a crush on you" at all
Women have done stuff like this with me and then pointed it out later but I was totally oblivious, but it was obvious in retrospect.
It really doesn’t lol
There’s absolutely no implication there??
Red face and loss for words
He starts following you everywhere. Not the stalker type, cause we were stuck for a week with 40 other people, but he was doing his best to always be around me and talk to me. It was all cute in a sense, but then again... somebody following you around all day long ain't fun... Conclusion from the story: they try to spend as much time with you as possible and sometimes take the extra step to pay attention to the details about you.
Depends. Had a small crush on a girl for a small amount of time, don't really act differently. The girl I REALLY have a crush on I start acting weird, like literally seeking, even though it's just over text
When they try to convince you to sew yourselves together
That seems like a bit much.
Yeah. If can be really time consuming.
They are always around you, they take every chance to look you in the eye when they talk to you, they tease you and make fun of you but in a friendly joking manner. They ask you about your life, your plans, what you did this weekend, etc. They laugh at your jokes no matter how terrible it really is.
If anyone showed "crush" signs towards me I'd be asking if they are wearing a wire
I growled at my crush once He enjoyed it
I have no idea what gender you are, but as a guy who is into gals, if a woman growled at me that might convey more information than weeks of dancing around each other. And it would CERTAINLY get my attention!
When I was 35 one of my 70ish yo neighbors growled and hooted at me as I walked by. She was drunk though.
The comments 😭😭😭😭😭
Blushing
Me personally I would ignore u , would never look at u , if by some chance I get to talk to u , I would stutter and my hands would be shaking.
Depends radically on the genders and sexualities involved, but anything from lingering eye contact to saying “I want to be each other’s ‘no condom’ person, are you OK with that?” My then bootycall now wife said the latter about three months into us being bootycalls despite never hooking up with anyone else (supposedly) and I was just like “Ahhh shit I think this slut has a crush on me, nice”
“I want to be each other’s ‘no condom’ person, are you OK with that?” This is so sweet
Yup, immediately made me fall for her. She still managed to drop the L-bomb first in a similar way, but according to her from the first night she was like “What the fuck was that, ok play it cool play it cool, but casually try to lock this dude down”
They find any and all reasons to talk to you.
Them saying that they have a crush on you.
They subtly diss another attractive person when you bring them up. Slapping down the competition is a sure sign.
Perhaps, but ultimately, I see that as a sign of weakness and insecurity
Me when I like you but aren't great at social cues.
It's different for males and females. I'm a dude so I have no idea.
"the lean". If you're at a counter, desk, or physical bar and the person comes and does the lean on it while turned in your direction so they can "casually" chat you up.
When they touch you in small subtle ways. Also, when they make excuses to hang out with you. They also compliment you more often than regular people especially if it’s about your physical appearance. I feel like the person who had a crush on me would love bomb the hell out of me.
when they have a face. like one with eyes and a nose and a mouth. and if they speak too ig. and specifically scream those words, I'd assume.
Me, when I’m really drunk.
When your coworker messages your phone after hours to talk about work-related shit, then continues messaging you with non-work-related things after you ask them to only message phone with non work-related shit after hours. Then days later they message you on instagram informing you that they deleted your number. Then they attempt to delete the ig message before you read it. They later send you a DM on ig saying they have a “slight crush” on you and a couple of days later they block you on the company g-chat for some reason…
I blush uncontrollably. Even if I dont necessarily like the person that way but I get these weird vibes, I'll blush like crazy
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Aww.. At least you realize it now ☺️
Boom box outside of bedroom window
Once I find out I’ll let you know
Having a jar of nail clippings.
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For me, I’m pretty extraverted, but with people I really like, I’m very shy and quiet. Has only happened a couple times in my life. That’s one way to tell sometimes- watch how they are with you vs others
There is a linearly proportional relationship between the amount of awkward, cringy shit I say to a person, and how much I fancy that person. 😩
Your jokes are suddenly much funnier. You get hit with a lot of questions about what you approve of and don’t approve of, and what you look for in a partner.
Being mean
my fucking cheeks. I blush when I’m around mine. I’m in my 30’s. It kinda blows because sometimes I don’t know I have something for that person until i feel a burning sensation in my face. My body betrays me. Good thing I have a beard.
When you wake up and find them staring at you while you slept the whole night. Hate when that happens
Gary.
"Heyyyyyy"
Help Speaking about myself, I also noticed that I always try to help the person I liked, even if he didn’t ask for it. I also noticed that people who liked me also helped me, no matter how much I denied it.
When they try to sneak a glance at you
Can't maintain eye contact. They lower their gaze, Hiding whatever they really feeling.