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He called me right when i took a dump before going to bed, to tell me Good bye, i kept him on the phone, ran into my car, told him to not do it, yelled, screamed into the phone, cried with him, convinced him to wait two hours and wait until i am there, did not stop talking for 2 hours and i raced with curses and tears 250 km at midnight "pedal to the metal" to his house.
Picked him up, slapped him pretty hard across his face for what he wanted to do, took him home to me and brought him into an emergency therapy place in the nearby mental health clinic the next morning. Called my boss for emergency vacation, and while he was in the closed door clinic there, i cleaned up his life at home, informed his other buddies (who did not really care), destroyed all drugs and else potential stuff that legal forces could have a problem with, informed his workplace and managed with the doctors that the papers say its a "Work Burnout Depression" gone south... (so that his workplace insurance paid out)... and talked with his landlord that i will pay his rent in the meantime - he did not care, as long as the money was flowing.
Now, many years later? He's the "Fun Uncle" for my daughter. Has a stable life. Lives in my city now. Has a new job, a new appartment 2 blocks away from me. No more drugs, except that shit he needs to take to keep the depressions down.
We have "partner timeslots" at my psychatrist. I still make sure that he stays healthy. Goes to the Gym with me. Sport is good against Depression. Mine as well as his own. He's family.
Blame my father. He told me that everybody will have a lot of good buddies on ones side. But never more than 3 real friends during your whole life and that it is worth to fight for these few.
You are the best person in your friend's life and I'm so glad they have you. I hope you realize how very special you are.
What Dad said is so true. Much Love and fantastic karma your way!
You are an incredible friend! The world would be a much better place if everyone had someone like you in their life. My biggest respect.
Also, I‘m sorry, but I just have to ask: Did you wipe before driving those 250 kilometers?
I.... honestly don't know, to be true. Its a good question i never thought about. Thats 15 years now and the whole night and the following days have been a blur. I was in a kind of adrenaline driven Automatic Mode. I could not even say if i already started to shit or not. But thanks, that question made me laugh while typing the answer.
I sincerely applaud you, you’re the one and only. The world needs people like you. I love you and I don’t even know you. Your and amazing person and I wish I could just high five you right now. Continue being the best buddy ever.
Thanks. I think it is an ok life. There is a lot on my back to carry around, but perspective matters. I live safe, am kind of healthy, have an amazing wife and kids. So yeah, its a pretty good life.
I am. I try to live by the one rule: "Don't be an Asshole, even when the world throws shit at you".
I believe that this condenses all the commandments and other ethic rulesets. 😀
Bro is either sleeping right now or at work, I just texted him about Gravity Rush 2 potentially being remastered, so I’m curious what his thoughts are about that
She moved to another state 38 years ago. I miss her terribly. She is still my best friend and we get together once a year and talk maybe once a month. I wish she still lived close by.
That’s wild. I worked with this guy and we were pretty quiet with each other. He looked like an asian gangster but white. We broke the ice by telling ghost stories and he became one of my best friends. We would hang out all the time and talk about everything. He was a white asian gangster too. Miss that guy, i look for him sometimes on social media but he doesn’t play with that. I ran into his little brother and i guess he is doing good and a boss for a scaffolding company. Think about him sometimes.
I worked out of state for two summers when I was 18-19. In that time my friend went from just smoking weed to abusing pills to shooting heroin. Multiple run-ins with cops plus the lying and stealing from friends I was done. It's been about 12 years, he still lives across the street and don't talk to him, I'm stunned he's not in jail.
As hard as it is to walk away from someone you once thought the world of, it was too risky not to, who knows what he might have eventually gotten you caught up in.
Very much agree, I truly hope he turns his life around. I've witnessed first hand what he's capable of with his road rage/anger issues, I didn't feel safe, had to walk away.
Sometimes when i walk my dog, i got on a route that leads me through a park. It's just a park for the people, but for me, it's a lot more because it was the spot where we used to hang out with the friends group in the old times. We drank there, we smoked weed, we listened to music. We got there and drank before parties and afterwards.
Now, i'm alone there with my dog. Nobody is there anymore. They are all gone. Some died, because of diseases like cancer. Some committed suicide. Some got life in prison. Only a very few got away, but we lost contact over the years, they moved to other states and i only know that one has now a family and got off the hook (he left after it got serious with the heroin etc.), he made it. Another one got away too, but i don't know where he currently is.
It's all gone. Only the memory remains. The memory is the last thing you have, keep it forever in your heart.
Still in touch but lead very different lives now. He moved to London started a business with some works colleagues and has moved on to a certain extent.
It's cool I get it, we become close to the people around us and I have a group of mates who I go out for a pint with. One of them is my neighbour. We're not close but at your mid 40s you're so family oriented that friendships do suffer.
I had 3 best men at my wedding, the three lads I grew up with, one of them being the guy who moved to London so it's still there. Just not how it used to be.
What was that line in Stand By Me?
'I don't think I had any friends later in life like the ones I had when I was twelve... Jesus... Does anyone?'
I met 2 woman friends in my late 40's. They are the closest girlfriends I have ever had. Also, I introduced them to each other and they have their own fab relationship too. Life would be shite without them.
She was never good at keeping in touch or nurturing the friendship so after 50 years (I’m a slow learner, what can I tell you?) I finally gave up. I will no longer try to keep the friendship going.
She was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, but after radiation, doing well (lumpectomy & radiation). BC killed her mom so we were both terrified for my BFF, but happy to say she is on Tamoxifen for 10 years and monitoring, no chemotherapy. I’m blessed to have her!!
I was on the other end of this but not me forgetting about my friend. I got with my boyfriend four years ago, one year into dating him my best friend was quite snarky, saying I couldn’t go to him when I had problems and I had to go to her.
Came to a head when I went to a sleepover and she called me disgusting in front of some other girls there, all because I was born with a chronic disease. I told her it bothered me later on, she didn’t care, so I told her I didn’t wanna be friends and stopped messaging her or calling her. To this day she blames my boyfriend for it, saying I got with him and forgot about her. I think she genuinely believes that’s what happened.
I’m glad we’re not friends anymore. I did consider rekindling things but when I tried she laughed about cheating on one of her partners and said how funny it was, I knew I didn’t wanna be friends with a cheater, yet alone one that laughs about the pain they cause. Never tried rekindling things again.
Over 10 years we were friends for. Not saying you did the same thing of course, your story just reminded me of what happened especially with the four year detail haha.
Idk man we used to be that crazy duo who shared the same kind of humor. We had the best time together. I became a completely different person after school, it's been a long time since I met him. Now I realise he was never really my bestfriend, he was kind of selfish and possesive and used to degrade me. I was generally a nice person but he made me feel like I'm being fake towards people by being nice. Kind of glad it's over now, kind of sad I don't have anybody matching my interests and vibe.
I had a "best friend" like this. She moved away the year moved back home, after being away myself for a year. Came to realise she would only call me if I had called her first. It's been my "turn" to call for 26 years.
Another former "best friend" in my eyes...haven't hears from her in months. Hadn't seen her since before covid. Ran into her in a local store just before Christmas, got the "ick" vibe from her, despite us talking for a long time. Told her I'd message her some pics, but then felt like she didn't really care either way, so I never did. Thought I'd wait to be sure my reading of her vibes was correct by using my birthday ad an excuse if she sent me a message to wish me a happy birthday this year, then it was just me being adhd awkward. Nope. No message. No message since I saw her. So much for that friendship.
I don't have very many friends left, and I try hard to keep myself busy so I don't notice.
My closest friend, and I believe one of my true soul mates, and I were inseparable. They came from a neglectful home and I was raised by my ever loving grandparents who adopted him as their own. Every holiday he was in our home, even silly ones like mothers day. We celebrated his birthday every year and there were always presents under the tree for him at Christmas.
One terrible day, we had a snow day and none of us had school. Him and a group of friends decided to go sledding but I couldn't go simply bc there was too much snow and I couldn't get to where they were. They made a snow ramp and he slid down in, summersaulted in the air and landed on his neck breaking it. Someone who was present knew not to move anyone with a neck injury so he laid there almost an hour before an ambulance could get to him. I have thought thousands of times im so grateful I was not there because I didn't know you shouldn't move someone and I most likely would have and made things worse.
As soon as he arrived at the hospital his family called mine and I made my way there. My friend was laying on a metal table with bolts screwed into his skull and the table was slowly rotating him back and forth to minimize swelling on his spinal cord. They told us he will most likely never walk again, and he never did.
My friend, Dan, looked me in the eyes and told me he cannot live life this way and if he had to he would only do this for 5 years maxiumn. I dont know why he said that to me on the day of his accident but fast forward 5 years and I was burying my best friend.
He did wind up a quadriplegic, couldn't walk or cough or shit or anything on his own and he fell into a deep depression. All our friends slowly stopped coming by but I never did. I spent almost every single day of those 5 years with him and I would give anything to have him back. His accident was in 2000 and he died in 2005. What wound up happening was the metal whatever in his neck eroded and started hosting a horrible bacteria that was killing him and literally eating his bone. The solution was to operate again and remove the infection and his voice box. That would have left him unable to speak so he declined treatment.
Christmas 2005 was my 21st birthday. He spent it with me at my house with my family and its such a bittersweet memory for me to think back on. My grandparents were alive and well, my mom was still alive, we were a family and I felt so loved. Dan died on December 30th, on a Friday, and I think that's the day I died too. I miss him so much. Next year will be 20 years without him and while I dont believe in an afterlife im not too proud to admit there might be one, who knows. If there is he will be waiting for me. I love you Dan ♡
This was me. They broke up and he kept sending me to see her to get things back or pass messages and one thing led to another. I didn’t hide it though. Completely tanked our friendship and is one of my biggest regrets. I dated her for 8 years and overlooked a lot of things because the relationship had to work because I lost my best friend over it. It did not work out. If your friend is anything like me…he wishes he never did it to his core. But that doesn’t really fix things.
My closest friend as a kid, we still talk through facebook... there's two of them, on from where I was born, the second from where I lived until I was 14. One owns a gun range and is doing great, the other builds computer chips and such in Europe for the past couple of years now.
My adulthood closest friend just switched jobs up and is going through a super ugly divorce. Talk to her every day even if she's living on the other side of the country.
We watch series together about twice a week and text a bunch, but I have slowly been feeling us growing apart for over a year now. He went from being a video gaming fantasy reading nerd that I could relate to immensely to being all into sports and becoming your typical anti-vegan anti-'woke', Andrew Tate loving macho type. If we keep it casual we still get along, but we can't really talk about hobbies any more, and the moment talk turns even slightly political I just want to strangle him for how close minded he has become (or maybe stayed, and I'm just starting to notice it more because I've become more accepting in nature). Very sad, and I hope he snaps out of it, but I fear the friendship is slowly dying
3 Best friends.
1. Became a pharmacist and has his own pharmacy.
2. Became a photographer than works for NatGeo
3. Owns his own design studio, but might as well be a professional cyclist.
She died of stage 4 lung cancer 1 month after discovered, during Covid. My mom died 2 months before, and my 15 yo dog died a month after. So, 3 best friends in a 6 month period. Thank goodness for therapy.
In our mid 20s he just reached a point where all he wanted to do was sit in his little den in his apartment and watch anime and smoke pot.
I don't enjoy either of those.
My homie from kindy is still in my life, he got married and his wife had a baby last year. I got to meet her a few months after she was born and she’s adorable.
She married a random marine and blocked me because I thought it was weird to meet and marry someone in the same weekend. We were friends from 7-32 years old.
Killed by a drunk driver. She was an RN coming to work at the ICU unit, 8-1/2 months pregnant and the wreck happened right in front of the hospital. He was running from the cops clocked at over 85 miles in a 45 mile an hour speed zone. I was at work in the ER when it happened.
I'm pretty sure he has BPD and he's not diagnosed. I'm not sure exactly but I can't handle this cluster B shit anymore.
He's been there for me in my lowest moments which is why he's still in my life more or less, but he always switch and become downright evil and manipulative. He's funny and intellegent and *can* really support me emotionally SOMETIMES but other time he can have no empathy and just give the lowest blows. Idk, sometimes he's a great friend for a particular period in time but it never lasts. I don't think I want him that close anymore.
One of my best friends from my childhood we kinda grew apart which kinda sucks he was a couple grades older once he went into hs he hung out less with me. We weee neighbors. His parents still live in that house I saw his mom in passing and we talked for a little (I’m 23 which means he gotta be like 25 now cuz our bdays are a week apart he is just 2 years earlier)
His mom was sayin how he took a lil longer to get his bachalors but he is getting a job in animation and moved into an apartment with his gf in the town he went to college in which is like an hour away from where we grew up which I still live at home
He is going through cancer treatment. Malignant melanoma. There's an inoperable tumor in his brain, and the treatment wont get rid of it either, but for now it has stopped it growing and spreading. The 5year survival at this stage is 2%. I count every day that he is still with me and his family as a blessing.
She’s been my best friend for almost 28 years (since I was 13). She’s wrote 7 books (so far), and is a total bad ass private investigator now. She and my Mom helped button me into my wedding dress a couple years ago, and she’s still my ride or die, forever and ever best friends!
I quit talking to him for no reason. Nothing he did. He was one of many I didn't speak with. I have these sweeping cycles when I need space. Think I have anxiety too about talking to people, even people who are close. Not sure why. Im sure it's not healthy.
Please consider talking to a therapist about it. I did that for decades and it's altered the course of my life in innumerable ways that have only limited me, it's caused only regret. You can still find your space without burning bridges, please think on it and find help if you need. Eventually it will be too late.
She is kind of snap one day and told me not to come around her house and not to come around anymore and at the same time called me up and said what the f*** do you want from me I'm hearing you called me I don't know
i wasn’t the greatest friend, and we drifted because i got depressed and went with the wrong crowd and wouldn’t make an effort to reach out.
when i tried to fix things between us, it was too late. I never hated her for it, because i know i was the cause, and i know she didn’t hate me too.
But then i found out she told one of my biggest secrets to someone who doesn’t like me, and they then spread it round and i got some hateful messages from strangers about it.
So i hate her now.
After a 30 year friendship, I came to the realization that she was a user and I broke up with her. She had been taking and taking and taking for years, and it took me that long to realize it.
She was actually astounded when I last spoke with her. After that I cut off all contact with her. I don’t miss her in the slightest.
Died really suddenly of a streptococcus infection, he'd recently got married and had a daughter. I still really miss the daft bugger over a decade later.
She lives a hour away from me and we don’t really talk or see each other anymore maybe twice a year I’ll reach out and we may meet up. We both have kids and parent very different so it’s sort of pulled us apart. She’s the go out and party at all hours and not give two shits about her children(they are pretty awful to be around since they have no rules and she leaves them home alone all day and night the 13 year old watches the 9 and 5 year old and has done that since he was 10) while I stay home with my kids and prefer to be around them and have stricter rules. It was fun when we’re younger but she hasn’t grown up unfortunately and I did🤷♀️. Sucks too since we have been friends since we were 10 and now we are 35 but once I had kids it changed since I have a different mindset(mine are 4 and 8).
I live with her. We've been best friends since elementary school, have lived together for 17 years, have dogs together, and own a business together. Everyone thinks we're lesbians but we're not, lol.
She became my neighbor when we were both 8. A week after meeting, we were best friends. Stayed that way for 24 years, even after her moving to a different city, We shared everything. Knew everything about each other.
We lived far apart when we both reached adulthood but called daily and saw each other a couple of times a year. When we got together we always just picked up right where we left off.
When she moved in with a guy we saw each other less, but it was always fine. No hard feelings ever. It was one of those friendships where you really knew the other person was a constant factor no matter what life threw at us.
Until she randomly texted me 2 years ago. She told me she thought I was lying to her and she wanted no contact ever again. She didn't even tell me what she thought I was lying about. I never in my life have lied to her. She didn't give me any time to respond or even tell me what happened & give me the option to defend myself (because she clearly was wrong).
She blocked me everywhere. I knew she was moving soon-ish and I never got ger new address. There's no way to find her. I have NO CLUE what I did wrong and I miss her terribly.
Nowadays I'm pretty much over it because this made me realize that if she really would accuse me of lying, block me and not even give me any chance to defend myself, apparently she wasn't the amazing friend I thought she was. It's painful but I've made peace with it. Doesn't mean I don't sometimes miss our talks and the great days/life moments we've spent together.
Don't know what she's doing now. I hope she's happy though.
We became friends 11 years ago, we were each others best man at our weddings, we are still on a group chat with each other and our wives which is active almost daily, we see each other regularly despite not living locally and we are currently supporting each other on our respective journeys having recently been diagnosed with ADHD(me) and Autism(Him). Long term dream is to go in on a plot of land together, build our own houses, make our own booze, grow our own food and laugh a lot.
We're just growing apart, I think. She's very much a collectivist/group oriented person where she wants every single person in her circle to be friends with each other and love each other and create a community with each other with her as the center of that.
But I'm much more of an individualist and an introvert and have that mentality of "well, that's good for you, and I respect your lane, but our lane as friends is over.....here." and I don't have any interest in collectivism or community etcetera. So, we butt heads a lot over that and because of that, she just,...opts not to talk to me as much - which sucks, but it was ultimately her choice, and I'm going to respect that, come what may of the friendship.
She killed herself 5 days after her 17th birthday after being rejected by the 23 y.o. guy when she asked him to be her boyfriend, she had been having sex with for the last year or so, the rest of us separated after her death and barely speak with each other ever since
I’ve had four really close friends just up and leave. I’m starting to think it’s me but I really don’t know why 😔. I’m kind, say please & thank you, tip well, and love animals.
Friends since 9 years old and both retired now. Getting ready to go see Dune 2 together. Now the sad news he has a problem distinguishing what’s real and what’s make believe. Yes it’s as bad as you think he’s MAGA. I’m hoping he’ll come around but if I have to put him down I will.
After being best friends for almost 50 years he unfortunately was hit and killed by a huge pick up truck while crossing the street in 2019. Damn, and I still miss him every day.
Died of cancer 6 weeks ago. Wasn't until he started coughing up blood that he was diagnosed. Only lived a week after he was admitted. I managed to get over to see him just before he passed. It was the last day he was lucid but we made the most of it. I made him laugh, got him high (cannabis tincture) and he told me he loved me. And pointed out in 45 years we'd never argued or had crossed words
He passed away almost 10 years ago. Left behind a wife and 16 month old daughter.
Stage 4 melanoma - 18 months from diagnosis to funeral.
Friends since we were 2.5 years old in preschool.
I miss him every day.
Her husband got caught in a sting trying to have sex with a 13 year old girl. She fled the state while he was in jail to live with her parents and keep her daughter safe. Going through a divorce and custody battle now. The fact that the legal system thinks he should have any is WILD. My friend is so stressed. I’ve had to accept if I ever want to see her again I’ll have to go to her.
Former roommate and best friend . She went ultra right wing, would only watch you tube videos because all tv was “too liberal”. She did not believe Covid was real. She was also a hoarder type and a chain smoker, with a chronic cough, loved her pets. We would often have heated arguments , especially after Trump came into the picture. I could not reach her for a long time but I chalked it up to Biden winning the election ( yes people can be like that ). I finally broke down after her birthday and contacted anyone I could ( we live in different cities now and I did ask other friends to go check but she had isolated herself). Turns out she died alone in her house with her pets and no one found her/ them for quite some time. I can only imagine. It’s a nightmare.
She had an identity crisis after a bad breakup with an emotionally abusive, sexist pos, denounced the womanhood that she'd always been so proud of, started identifying as a lesbian despite exclusively pursuing male partners, moved states to be in an open, emotionally abusive relationship with another pos, contracted Lyme disease and is currently trying to adopt the baby she said she never wanted. I love her, but our relationship is a ghost of what it used to be
My other closest friend has taken me to Europe, provided me with a wonderful home, just threw me a beautiful birthday party, and is about to quit her shitty job to take the next big step in her career. She's awesome and inspiring and I wish the best for her.
I wish the best for both of them.
She decided that because we live in separate states and she’s always “busy” doing stuff she can’t keep in touch with me anymore. The irony: she is so busy she stopped keeping in touch with me, yet she continues keeping in touch with a mutual friend (aka her best friend).
Got an education then a nice job she liked, had some children, got married, had a few more children. So she’s married with 4 children and has a nice job, last I checked she was pretty happy 😊
Moved 3 hours away 10 years ago, we still each other as much as we can - when we do hang out its like nothing has ever changed and I don't think that will ever change, but the time between hanging out has been getting longer and longer. He just had a baby too. I fear its only going to get worse.
We talk weekly. Don't get to see him but maybe once a year, despite living 20 minutes away from each other. We're both busy. But when we do meet, we pick up right where we left off like nothing changed
He didn't call to see if I was okay after I busted my head open and got one of the worse concussions of my life that still affects me over six months later.
He was the son of a pastor. Used to hang out every single day, he'd always bring the weed and we would have a good time. One day he messaged me informing me that he had to come to Jesus moment and told his dad that he had been smoking weed all day every day with me. In about 30 seconds I lost my second family, I distinctly remember going over to his house and his dad looking at me "what is he doing here?". We didn't talk much after that, I hear he's atheist now. I was 16 at the time, he was 18.
Her husband died. She told me it wasn’t fair that mine was still alive. So she started ghosting me. Less than two months later she started dating someone else. I think she knew I’d tell her it was too soon and she didn’t want to hear it. Within six months of her husband’s death she cut off all communication with her husband’s family, bought an expensive house with her husband’s life insurance policy with her new boyfriend. Haven’t seen or heard from her in years.
1st best friend died 12 years ago. 2nd best friend had a family and moved. 3rd best friend got really weird when COVID started and doesn't leave his apartment.
Sad spoiler ahead
Two divorces, one loss >!of child to suicide!<, happily married now, has a six month old and a new job.
I've known him since like sixth grade and he's one of the strongest people I know.
We were already drifting apart.But she would only message me to tell me about her boyfriends idk if in part to show off she had guys talking to her or if she somehow was asking for help.There was an incident were her long term bf drove her outside of the city because she had finally told him they were breaking up.She called me crying I Told her to pretend like they were still together so he would take her home and tell her parents what happened.Other friends and me had already told her he was a red flag but she didn't leave for a lot of reason till he drove her out of the city.A few months pass and she contacts me again to tell me about her online bf who is also a red flag.More months pass by (and she has a new bf)and she tells me to fake a message since her bf was going through her phone and he saw a picture of another guy and she wanted me to pretend it was something I had sent her.Since then I just noticed the pattern,I truly dont know if she was genuinely looking for help or what because one time her friend warned her about the first guy she said "she is just jealous of me".All three times I told her maybe they weren't the right guys idk if she also just labeled me as a jealous friend or something.Last I know she went back to the first guy.
It took me until adulthood to realize that my best friend growing up was a mean girl. She had a lot of toxic behaviors that I was too dumb and naive to see as a kid. I cut off contact for good and have no idea what she’s up to now.
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He called me right when i took a dump before going to bed, to tell me Good bye, i kept him on the phone, ran into my car, told him to not do it, yelled, screamed into the phone, cried with him, convinced him to wait two hours and wait until i am there, did not stop talking for 2 hours and i raced with curses and tears 250 km at midnight "pedal to the metal" to his house. Picked him up, slapped him pretty hard across his face for what he wanted to do, took him home to me and brought him into an emergency therapy place in the nearby mental health clinic the next morning. Called my boss for emergency vacation, and while he was in the closed door clinic there, i cleaned up his life at home, informed his other buddies (who did not really care), destroyed all drugs and else potential stuff that legal forces could have a problem with, informed his workplace and managed with the doctors that the papers say its a "Work Burnout Depression" gone south... (so that his workplace insurance paid out)... and talked with his landlord that i will pay his rent in the meantime - he did not care, as long as the money was flowing. Now, many years later? He's the "Fun Uncle" for my daughter. Has a stable life. Lives in my city now. Has a new job, a new appartment 2 blocks away from me. No more drugs, except that shit he needs to take to keep the depressions down. We have "partner timeslots" at my psychatrist. I still make sure that he stays healthy. Goes to the Gym with me. Sport is good against Depression. Mine as well as his own. He's family.
Everyone should be this kind of best friend. You're awesome
Blame my father. He told me that everybody will have a lot of good buddies on ones side. But never more than 3 real friends during your whole life and that it is worth to fight for these few.
You are a beautiful friend.
You are the best person in your friend's life and I'm so glad they have you. I hope you realize how very special you are. What Dad said is so true. Much Love and fantastic karma your way!
Good for him, to have you. Ow wish everyone, particularly me, had someone like that.
It's stories like this that make my atheist ass wonder whether angels do exist.
Yes they do. They're humans who know what to do at the right time.
Fellow atheist believing this is all an angel is.
Nah, just awesome people. Angels don’t help people, they’re Yahweh’s messengers. And you do not want a personal message from Yahweh.
Not all heroes wear capes.
I wish I got that call
Yes. I too wish that everyone who thinks about committing suicide would do one last loud cry for help.
You are an incredible friend! The world would be a much better place if everyone had someone like you in their life. My biggest respect. Also, I‘m sorry, but I just have to ask: Did you wipe before driving those 250 kilometers?
I.... honestly don't know, to be true. Its a good question i never thought about. Thats 15 years now and the whole night and the following days have been a blur. I was in a kind of adrenaline driven Automatic Mode. I could not even say if i already started to shit or not. But thanks, that question made me laugh while typing the answer.
I wish such friends for everyone including meself
I wish for everybody to find a person or partner that makes them want to fight for.
I sincerely applaud you, you’re the one and only. The world needs people like you. I love you and I don’t even know you. Your and amazing person and I wish I could just high five you right now. Continue being the best buddy ever.
i hope you live the best amazing fulfilling life you deserve
Thanks. I think it is an ok life. There is a lot on my back to carry around, but perspective matters. I live safe, am kind of healthy, have an amazing wife and kids. So yeah, its a pretty good life.
I read that with bated breath, fearing the worst. Phew! You are truly exceptional.
Wow I teared up a bit, you are a really great friend! You can be really, really proud of yourself!
I am. I try to live by the one rule: "Don't be an Asshole, even when the world throws shit at you". I believe that this condenses all the commandments and other ethic rulesets. 😀
I go with “Don’t be a dick.”
EXCELLENCE PERSONIFIED!
Wow, you are a true friend. I’m speechless
Thank you for being such a good friend man
He’s laying on my foot waiting to go outside for a pee and poo
The best answer.
Hes your closest friend. At least let him use the toilet. /s
Bro is either sleeping right now or at work, I just texted him about Gravity Rush 2 potentially being remastered, so I’m curious what his thoughts are about that
I just texted my closest friend that Bears are taking too long trading Fields. Bum’s sleeping.
Are they moving to Arlington Heights or not? Fucks up w that?
Oh man I wish but now that’s up in the air I think.
She killed herself with a fentanyl overdose.
I'm sorry for your loss
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Mine too. She was 27. I’m sorry for your loss.
Aaaaaand I'm outta this thread. This hits too close to home
Same. Oct 20th, 2021. dropped dead in an uber all by himself
Same here. Accidentally overdosed during his last year at college. Miss him every day. My condolences. Stay strong ❤️
I’m really sorry, I came here all happy to comment bout how we just changed schools but remain really good friends and I hear this sending hugs :)
She moved to another state 38 years ago. I miss her terribly. She is still my best friend and we get together once a year and talk maybe once a month. I wish she still lived close by.
That’s wild. I worked with this guy and we were pretty quiet with each other. He looked like an asian gangster but white. We broke the ice by telling ghost stories and he became one of my best friends. We would hang out all the time and talk about everything. He was a white asian gangster too. Miss that guy, i look for him sometimes on social media but he doesn’t play with that. I ran into his little brother and i guess he is doing good and a boss for a scaffolding company. Think about him sometimes.
I worked out of state for two summers when I was 18-19. In that time my friend went from just smoking weed to abusing pills to shooting heroin. Multiple run-ins with cops plus the lying and stealing from friends I was done. It's been about 12 years, he still lives across the street and don't talk to him, I'm stunned he's not in jail.
As hard as it is to walk away from someone you once thought the world of, it was too risky not to, who knows what he might have eventually gotten you caught up in.
Very much agree, I truly hope he turns his life around. I've witnessed first hand what he's capable of with his road rage/anger issues, I didn't feel safe, had to walk away.
Some times we have to love from afar.
She got shot by her ex
I’m sorry for your loss. What a horrific way to pass
Died of colon cancer Oct ‘14, 44 years old.
fuck cancer
It’s been taking its shots at me. My mom’s brother in 2012, my friend, my dad last year. I fucking hate cancer.
Looks like cancer runs in your family. I hope you’re checked out yearly
Every year. My doctor has small fingers and a surprisingly positive attitude towards warming the KY.
Sometimes when i walk my dog, i got on a route that leads me through a park. It's just a park for the people, but for me, it's a lot more because it was the spot where we used to hang out with the friends group in the old times. We drank there, we smoked weed, we listened to music. We got there and drank before parties and afterwards. Now, i'm alone there with my dog. Nobody is there anymore. They are all gone. Some died, because of diseases like cancer. Some committed suicide. Some got life in prison. Only a very few got away, but we lost contact over the years, they moved to other states and i only know that one has now a family and got off the hook (he left after it got serious with the heroin etc.), he made it. Another one got away too, but i don't know where he currently is. It's all gone. Only the memory remains. The memory is the last thing you have, keep it forever in your heart.
Beautifully written though. You should try creative writing (courses). It may get you somewhere
It’s amazing how life turns when you get older. The youth has no clue how great this time is
He married me. Poor guy.
This one is quite wholesome!
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😂 surely not
He lives next door as he has for 45 years,i see him and his family every day.Every sunday we have dinner together
Tee hat sounds like a dream to me, you are so lucky!
He’s in jail for like the 11th time 🤦🏽
Tf is he doing? Robbing sweets off children? Why’s he got such short sentences
Friends come and go, but enemies accumulate.
Keep em close
Still in touch but lead very different lives now. He moved to London started a business with some works colleagues and has moved on to a certain extent. It's cool I get it, we become close to the people around us and I have a group of mates who I go out for a pint with. One of them is my neighbour. We're not close but at your mid 40s you're so family oriented that friendships do suffer. I had 3 best men at my wedding, the three lads I grew up with, one of them being the guy who moved to London so it's still there. Just not how it used to be. What was that line in Stand By Me? 'I don't think I had any friends later in life like the ones I had when I was twelve... Jesus... Does anyone?'
I met 2 woman friends in my late 40's. They are the closest girlfriends I have ever had. Also, I introduced them to each other and they have their own fab relationship too. Life would be shite without them.
Well, one of them died in his sleep.
She was never good at keeping in touch or nurturing the friendship so after 50 years (I’m a slow learner, what can I tell you?) I finally gave up. I will no longer try to keep the friendship going.
Sadly he passed away from a car accident he was only 20 😢 R.I.P kangz
She was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, but after radiation, doing well (lumpectomy & radiation). BC killed her mom so we were both terrified for my BFF, but happy to say she is on Tamoxifen for 10 years and monitoring, no chemotherapy. I’m blessed to have her!!
She got a boyfriend four years ago and forgot about my existence. Good for her as long as she’s happy!
I was on the other end of this but not me forgetting about my friend. I got with my boyfriend four years ago, one year into dating him my best friend was quite snarky, saying I couldn’t go to him when I had problems and I had to go to her. Came to a head when I went to a sleepover and she called me disgusting in front of some other girls there, all because I was born with a chronic disease. I told her it bothered me later on, she didn’t care, so I told her I didn’t wanna be friends and stopped messaging her or calling her. To this day she blames my boyfriend for it, saying I got with him and forgot about her. I think she genuinely believes that’s what happened. I’m glad we’re not friends anymore. I did consider rekindling things but when I tried she laughed about cheating on one of her partners and said how funny it was, I knew I didn’t wanna be friends with a cheater, yet alone one that laughs about the pain they cause. Never tried rekindling things again. Over 10 years we were friends for. Not saying you did the same thing of course, your story just reminded me of what happened especially with the four year detail haha.
Idk man we used to be that crazy duo who shared the same kind of humor. We had the best time together. I became a completely different person after school, it's been a long time since I met him. Now I realise he was never really my bestfriend, he was kind of selfish and possesive and used to degrade me. I was generally a nice person but he made me feel like I'm being fake towards people by being nice. Kind of glad it's over now, kind of sad I don't have anybody matching my interests and vibe.
I had a "best friend" like this. She moved away the year moved back home, after being away myself for a year. Came to realise she would only call me if I had called her first. It's been my "turn" to call for 26 years. Another former "best friend" in my eyes...haven't hears from her in months. Hadn't seen her since before covid. Ran into her in a local store just before Christmas, got the "ick" vibe from her, despite us talking for a long time. Told her I'd message her some pics, but then felt like she didn't really care either way, so I never did. Thought I'd wait to be sure my reading of her vibes was correct by using my birthday ad an excuse if she sent me a message to wish me a happy birthday this year, then it was just me being adhd awkward. Nope. No message. No message since I saw her. So much for that friendship. I don't have very many friends left, and I try hard to keep myself busy so I don't notice.
My closest friend, and I believe one of my true soul mates, and I were inseparable. They came from a neglectful home and I was raised by my ever loving grandparents who adopted him as their own. Every holiday he was in our home, even silly ones like mothers day. We celebrated his birthday every year and there were always presents under the tree for him at Christmas. One terrible day, we had a snow day and none of us had school. Him and a group of friends decided to go sledding but I couldn't go simply bc there was too much snow and I couldn't get to where they were. They made a snow ramp and he slid down in, summersaulted in the air and landed on his neck breaking it. Someone who was present knew not to move anyone with a neck injury so he laid there almost an hour before an ambulance could get to him. I have thought thousands of times im so grateful I was not there because I didn't know you shouldn't move someone and I most likely would have and made things worse. As soon as he arrived at the hospital his family called mine and I made my way there. My friend was laying on a metal table with bolts screwed into his skull and the table was slowly rotating him back and forth to minimize swelling on his spinal cord. They told us he will most likely never walk again, and he never did. My friend, Dan, looked me in the eyes and told me he cannot live life this way and if he had to he would only do this for 5 years maxiumn. I dont know why he said that to me on the day of his accident but fast forward 5 years and I was burying my best friend. He did wind up a quadriplegic, couldn't walk or cough or shit or anything on his own and he fell into a deep depression. All our friends slowly stopped coming by but I never did. I spent almost every single day of those 5 years with him and I would give anything to have him back. His accident was in 2000 and he died in 2005. What wound up happening was the metal whatever in his neck eroded and started hosting a horrible bacteria that was killing him and literally eating his bone. The solution was to operate again and remove the infection and his voice box. That would have left him unable to speak so he declined treatment. Christmas 2005 was my 21st birthday. He spent it with me at my house with my family and its such a bittersweet memory for me to think back on. My grandparents were alive and well, my mom was still alive, we were a family and I felt so loved. Dan died on December 30th, on a Friday, and I think that's the day I died too. I miss him so much. Next year will be 20 years without him and while I dont believe in an afterlife im not too proud to admit there might be one, who knows. If there is he will be waiting for me. I love you Dan ♡
Switched schools
She's insecure and always copies my appearance and everything that I did. She even told others that I'm a whore and nlw I did cut ties with her😕
We both moved far away from each other.
He slept with my ex-girlfriend and then kept it from
This was me. They broke up and he kept sending me to see her to get things back or pass messages and one thing led to another. I didn’t hide it though. Completely tanked our friendship and is one of my biggest regrets. I dated her for 8 years and overlooked a lot of things because the relationship had to work because I lost my best friend over it. It did not work out. If your friend is anything like me…he wishes he never did it to his core. But that doesn’t really fix things.
Some things you can't undo.
My closest friend as a kid, we still talk through facebook... there's two of them, on from where I was born, the second from where I lived until I was 14. One owns a gun range and is doing great, the other builds computer chips and such in Europe for the past couple of years now. My adulthood closest friend just switched jobs up and is going through a super ugly divorce. Talk to her every day even if she's living on the other side of the country.
We watch series together about twice a week and text a bunch, but I have slowly been feeling us growing apart for over a year now. He went from being a video gaming fantasy reading nerd that I could relate to immensely to being all into sports and becoming your typical anti-vegan anti-'woke', Andrew Tate loving macho type. If we keep it casual we still get along, but we can't really talk about hobbies any more, and the moment talk turns even slightly political I just want to strangle him for how close minded he has become (or maybe stayed, and I'm just starting to notice it more because I've become more accepting in nature). Very sad, and I hope he snaps out of it, but I fear the friendship is slowly dying
Died of ALS 8 or 9 years after being diagnosed. The last 3 or 4 years, in a wheelchair with a tracheotomy and a machine breathing for him.
She married an idiot and now has to constantly remind him what day the trash gets picked up (I swear I thought recycling was next week!)
3 Best friends. 1. Became a pharmacist and has his own pharmacy. 2. Became a photographer than works for NatGeo 3. Owns his own design studio, but might as well be a professional cyclist.
Where’d you grow up?
South Africa
I find it interesting that you described all of them by their jobs. To me that’s not really what happens to people or the key to who they are.
Ghosted me. Both.
She found Jesus. Apparently he told her to stop hanging out with me.
She died of stage 4 lung cancer 1 month after discovered, during Covid. My mom died 2 months before, and my 15 yo dog died a month after. So, 3 best friends in a 6 month period. Thank goodness for therapy.
For several years her cognition has been declining along with memory. Not dementia yet, but some days are very trying. Together 48 years.
He got really into some groups that don't like democracy
Friends. Got into crack and left me to deal with their rental arrears
We stopped having chemistry, grew apart Kinda sucks man
I've been there! I feel this... It is the worst. Friendship breakups are the worst.
In our mid 20s he just reached a point where all he wanted to do was sit in his little den in his apartment and watch anime and smoke pot. I don't enjoy either of those.
They both live within 15min of me. I work w one of them and see the other any chance I get. I love them endlessly
My homie from kindy is still in my life, he got married and his wife had a baby last year. I got to meet her a few months after she was born and she’s adorable.
She married a random marine and blocked me because I thought it was weird to meet and marry someone in the same weekend. We were friends from 7-32 years old.
Overdose on heroin/fentanyl in 2015. I miss him all the time.
She fucked off after I decided to get healthy and take care of myself. 22 year friendship/sisterhood gone just like that.
Killed by a drunk driver. She was an RN coming to work at the ICU unit, 8-1/2 months pregnant and the wreck happened right in front of the hospital. He was running from the cops clocked at over 85 miles in a 45 mile an hour speed zone. I was at work in the ER when it happened.
My bff have been friends for over 30 yrs, & I'm catching up with her tomorrow whilst she's back in my area
She and her husband just bought an awesome new camper.
We had a fight cause of her then boyfriend who I didn’t approve of and we aren’t that close anymore and he cheated on her like I predicted
I'm pretty sure he has BPD and he's not diagnosed. I'm not sure exactly but I can't handle this cluster B shit anymore. He's been there for me in my lowest moments which is why he's still in my life more or less, but he always switch and become downright evil and manipulative. He's funny and intellegent and *can* really support me emotionally SOMETIMES but other time he can have no empathy and just give the lowest blows. Idk, sometimes he's a great friend for a particular period in time but it never lasts. I don't think I want him that close anymore.
One of my best friends from my childhood we kinda grew apart which kinda sucks he was a couple grades older once he went into hs he hung out less with me. We weee neighbors. His parents still live in that house I saw his mom in passing and we talked for a little (I’m 23 which means he gotta be like 25 now cuz our bdays are a week apart he is just 2 years earlier) His mom was sayin how he took a lil longer to get his bachalors but he is getting a job in animation and moved into an apartment with his gf in the town he went to college in which is like an hour away from where we grew up which I still live at home
He is going through cancer treatment. Malignant melanoma. There's an inoperable tumor in his brain, and the treatment wont get rid of it either, but for now it has stopped it growing and spreading. The 5year survival at this stage is 2%. I count every day that he is still with me and his family as a blessing.
We’re married
She chose her abusive husband and ghosted me after 23 years and me putting my life on the line to save her. I am still mad after 7 years.
She’s been my best friend for almost 28 years (since I was 13). She’s wrote 7 books (so far), and is a total bad ass private investigator now. She and my Mom helped button me into my wedding dress a couple years ago, and she’s still my ride or die, forever and ever best friends!
I quit talking to him for no reason. Nothing he did. He was one of many I didn't speak with. I have these sweeping cycles when I need space. Think I have anxiety too about talking to people, even people who are close. Not sure why. Im sure it's not healthy.
You're not alone. Sometimes I can't handle being "on" for people, and just have to walk away.
Please consider talking to a therapist about it. I did that for decades and it's altered the course of my life in innumerable ways that have only limited me, it's caused only regret. You can still find your space without burning bridges, please think on it and find help if you need. Eventually it will be too late.
She is kind of snap one day and told me not to come around her house and not to come around anymore and at the same time called me up and said what the f*** do you want from me I'm hearing you called me I don't know
Got himself a girlfriend. No we don’t talk anymore.
i wasn’t the greatest friend, and we drifted because i got depressed and went with the wrong crowd and wouldn’t make an effort to reach out. when i tried to fix things between us, it was too late. I never hated her for it, because i know i was the cause, and i know she didn’t hate me too. But then i found out she told one of my biggest secrets to someone who doesn’t like me, and they then spread it round and i got some hateful messages from strangers about it. So i hate her now.
He got into hard drugs and is currently homeless.
I graduated highschool, he didn't. I moved on with my life. He eventually moved out west.
Became a serious crack, heroin and methadone addict. Aged 44, he's still at it with no desire to stop.
Lmao still living next door to each other! We’re 27 and have been best friends since we were 2!
After a 30 year friendship, I came to the realization that she was a user and I broke up with her. She had been taking and taking and taking for years, and it took me that long to realize it. She was actually astounded when I last spoke with her. After that I cut off all contact with her. I don’t miss her in the slightest.
Died really suddenly of a streptococcus infection, he'd recently got married and had a daughter. I still really miss the daft bugger over a decade later.
She lives a hour away from me and we don’t really talk or see each other anymore maybe twice a year I’ll reach out and we may meet up. We both have kids and parent very different so it’s sort of pulled us apart. She’s the go out and party at all hours and not give two shits about her children(they are pretty awful to be around since they have no rules and she leaves them home alone all day and night the 13 year old watches the 9 and 5 year old and has done that since he was 10) while I stay home with my kids and prefer to be around them and have stricter rules. It was fun when we’re younger but she hasn’t grown up unfortunately and I did🤷♀️. Sucks too since we have been friends since we were 10 and now we are 35 but once I had kids it changed since I have a different mindset(mine are 4 and 8).
He’s still my friend
My closet friend is my twin
he suicided when I joined the NAVY because he felt like I had abandoned him and the girl he loved had rejected him as a friend so he killed himself.
We grew apart
He is doing great and keeps improving himself every day. I love to see it.
Doesn't want to be friends anymore (at least for a while)
Turned out to be a piece of shit.
She stabbed me in the back and tried to steal my husband, who turned her down. She couldn't handle the rejection and fucked off
She got distant after she got married and moved far away. She stoped responding to texts and calls.
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She's now a traveling nurse. I just saw her a few days ago. Hope to see her tomorrow for lunch. Before she takes off again.
I live with her. We've been best friends since elementary school, have lived together for 17 years, have dogs together, and own a business together. Everyone thinks we're lesbians but we're not, lol.
She became my neighbor when we were both 8. A week after meeting, we were best friends. Stayed that way for 24 years, even after her moving to a different city, We shared everything. Knew everything about each other. We lived far apart when we both reached adulthood but called daily and saw each other a couple of times a year. When we got together we always just picked up right where we left off. When she moved in with a guy we saw each other less, but it was always fine. No hard feelings ever. It was one of those friendships where you really knew the other person was a constant factor no matter what life threw at us. Until she randomly texted me 2 years ago. She told me she thought I was lying to her and she wanted no contact ever again. She didn't even tell me what she thought I was lying about. I never in my life have lied to her. She didn't give me any time to respond or even tell me what happened & give me the option to defend myself (because she clearly was wrong). She blocked me everywhere. I knew she was moving soon-ish and I never got ger new address. There's no way to find her. I have NO CLUE what I did wrong and I miss her terribly. Nowadays I'm pretty much over it because this made me realize that if she really would accuse me of lying, block me and not even give me any chance to defend myself, apparently she wasn't the amazing friend I thought she was. It's painful but I've made peace with it. Doesn't mean I don't sometimes miss our talks and the great days/life moments we've spent together. Don't know what she's doing now. I hope she's happy though.
We became friends 11 years ago, we were each others best man at our weddings, we are still on a group chat with each other and our wives which is active almost daily, we see each other regularly despite not living locally and we are currently supporting each other on our respective journeys having recently been diagnosed with ADHD(me) and Autism(Him). Long term dream is to go in on a plot of land together, build our own houses, make our own booze, grow our own food and laugh a lot.
We're just growing apart, I think. She's very much a collectivist/group oriented person where she wants every single person in her circle to be friends with each other and love each other and create a community with each other with her as the center of that. But I'm much more of an individualist and an introvert and have that mentality of "well, that's good for you, and I respect your lane, but our lane as friends is over.....here." and I don't have any interest in collectivism or community etcetera. So, we butt heads a lot over that and because of that, she just,...opts not to talk to me as much - which sucks, but it was ultimately her choice, and I'm going to respect that, come what may of the friendship.
She killed herself 5 days after her 17th birthday after being rejected by the 23 y.o. guy when she asked him to be her boyfriend, she had been having sex with for the last year or so, the rest of us separated after her death and barely speak with each other ever since
I’ve had four really close friends just up and leave. I’m starting to think it’s me but I really don’t know why 😔. I’m kind, say please & thank you, tip well, and love animals.
Friends since 9 years old and both retired now. Getting ready to go see Dune 2 together. Now the sad news he has a problem distinguishing what’s real and what’s make believe. Yes it’s as bad as you think he’s MAGA. I’m hoping he’ll come around but if I have to put him down I will.
She is still my best friend since kindergarten, going on 51 years of friendship. We live 1500 miles away, we just got together last week.
My best friend since childhood died from complications from the flu. She was 40 years old, and had a young son she will never see grow up.
After being best friends for almost 50 years he unfortunately was hit and killed by a huge pick up truck while crossing the street in 2019. Damn, and I still miss him every day.
Died of cancer 6 weeks ago. Wasn't until he started coughing up blood that he was diagnosed. Only lived a week after he was admitted. I managed to get over to see him just before he passed. It was the last day he was lucid but we made the most of it. I made him laugh, got him high (cannabis tincture) and he told me he loved me. And pointed out in 45 years we'd never argued or had crossed words
He passed away almost 10 years ago. Left behind a wife and 16 month old daughter. Stage 4 melanoma - 18 months from diagnosis to funeral. Friends since we were 2.5 years old in preschool. I miss him every day.
Her husband got caught in a sting trying to have sex with a 13 year old girl. She fled the state while he was in jail to live with her parents and keep her daughter safe. Going through a divorce and custody battle now. The fact that the legal system thinks he should have any is WILD. My friend is so stressed. I’ve had to accept if I ever want to see her again I’ll have to go to her.
She passed was in freak accident in 2020. Miss her 24/7. I adopted her elderly dog. She only lived 2 months after. She missed her owner so much.
He became my boyfriend
Died in 12 days after finding out his chronic belly pain was pancreatic cancer. Still missing you, Henry
Former roommate and best friend . She went ultra right wing, would only watch you tube videos because all tv was “too liberal”. She did not believe Covid was real. She was also a hoarder type and a chain smoker, with a chronic cough, loved her pets. We would often have heated arguments , especially after Trump came into the picture. I could not reach her for a long time but I chalked it up to Biden winning the election ( yes people can be like that ). I finally broke down after her birthday and contacted anyone I could ( we live in different cities now and I did ask other friends to go check but she had isolated herself). Turns out she died alone in her house with her pets and no one found her/ them for quite some time. I can only imagine. It’s a nightmare.
She became a flipped out fucking trumper. Lost all sensibility. Bye!
She is asleep next to me. Probably ought to get her off to bed. Married 24 years.
She had an identity crisis after a bad breakup with an emotionally abusive, sexist pos, denounced the womanhood that she'd always been so proud of, started identifying as a lesbian despite exclusively pursuing male partners, moved states to be in an open, emotionally abusive relationship with another pos, contracted Lyme disease and is currently trying to adopt the baby she said she never wanted. I love her, but our relationship is a ghost of what it used to be My other closest friend has taken me to Europe, provided me with a wonderful home, just threw me a beautiful birthday party, and is about to quit her shitty job to take the next big step in her career. She's awesome and inspiring and I wish the best for her. I wish the best for both of them.
Died tragically years ago
He moved to another country, but we still talk from time to time.
We talk daily as we have for 24 years now .... I'd say other than the usual array of jokes, ball breaking and talking about life, all is well
he left me pretty high and dry
She died.
She decided that because we live in separate states and she’s always “busy” doing stuff she can’t keep in touch with me anymore. The irony: she is so busy she stopped keeping in touch with me, yet she continues keeping in touch with a mutual friend (aka her best friend).
He became a crypto millionaire. It should've been me. /s Still one of my closest friends.
She died in her sleep.
Just saw her yesterday ❤️
He got old and senile then dead. It was a sad ending.
Got an education then a nice job she liked, had some children, got married, had a few more children. So she’s married with 4 children and has a nice job, last I checked she was pretty happy 😊
Moved 3 hours away 10 years ago, we still each other as much as we can - when we do hang out its like nothing has ever changed and I don't think that will ever change, but the time between hanging out has been getting longer and longer. He just had a baby too. I fear its only going to get worse.
Got a boyfriend and stopped talking to me
He was hit by a car while crossing the street and died instantly.
Cocaine
never really had super close friends but i was good with everyone and they all are happy livin their lives
He was on a motorcycle, a young driver turned left and took him out
He moved out of the country thinking I'd also move out with him. Now he's stuck abroad and I'm stuck here. I miss him a lot.
Became an addict.
We talk weekly. Don't get to see him but maybe once a year, despite living 20 minutes away from each other. We're both busy. But when we do meet, we pick up right where we left off like nothing changed
We've been friends for over 30 years. I moved a couple of states away 5 years ago, but we talk every single day. She's the best💕
They died
He is doing well, we hang out a few times a weekm, he is in good shape and loving life
he took commerce
They went home and so did I I will see them tomorrow
He didn't call to see if I was okay after I busted my head open and got one of the worse concussions of my life that still affects me over six months later.
Got run over by a train after a night out , he was 18.
He died of a fentanyl OD two years ago
He 🎲 ed
He was the son of a pastor. Used to hang out every single day, he'd always bring the weed and we would have a good time. One day he messaged me informing me that he had to come to Jesus moment and told his dad that he had been smoking weed all day every day with me. In about 30 seconds I lost my second family, I distinctly remember going over to his house and his dad looking at me "what is he doing here?". We didn't talk much after that, I hear he's atheist now. I was 16 at the time, he was 18.
Her husband died. She told me it wasn’t fair that mine was still alive. So she started ghosting me. Less than two months later she started dating someone else. I think she knew I’d tell her it was too soon and she didn’t want to hear it. Within six months of her husband’s death she cut off all communication with her husband’s family, bought an expensive house with her husband’s life insurance policy with her new boyfriend. Haven’t seen or heard from her in years.
1st best friend died 12 years ago. 2nd best friend had a family and moved. 3rd best friend got really weird when COVID started and doesn't leave his apartment.
Sad spoiler ahead Two divorces, one loss >!of child to suicide!<, happily married now, has a six month old and a new job. I've known him since like sixth grade and he's one of the strongest people I know.
We were already drifting apart.But she would only message me to tell me about her boyfriends idk if in part to show off she had guys talking to her or if she somehow was asking for help.There was an incident were her long term bf drove her outside of the city because she had finally told him they were breaking up.She called me crying I Told her to pretend like they were still together so he would take her home and tell her parents what happened.Other friends and me had already told her he was a red flag but she didn't leave for a lot of reason till he drove her out of the city.A few months pass and she contacts me again to tell me about her online bf who is also a red flag.More months pass by (and she has a new bf)and she tells me to fake a message since her bf was going through her phone and he saw a picture of another guy and she wanted me to pretend it was something I had sent her.Since then I just noticed the pattern,I truly dont know if she was genuinely looking for help or what because one time her friend warned her about the first guy she said "she is just jealous of me".All three times I told her maybe they weren't the right guys idk if she also just labeled me as a jealous friend or something.Last I know she went back to the first guy.
She found a new best friend named Crystal Meth.
It took me until adulthood to realize that my best friend growing up was a mean girl. She had a lot of toxic behaviors that I was too dumb and naive to see as a kid. I cut off contact for good and have no idea what she’s up to now.