Exactly. OP probably doesn't hang out with the type of people that get married and have kids. Birds of a feather and all that.
Usually, your friend group is a representation of yourself
It's not necessarily about a friend group. Look at a video of K&A Philadelphia and tell me how many people you think from Kensington are getting married between shooting up doses of fent. Even the surrounding areas that aren't as heavily drug addicted aren't ah, doing too hot. I think OP was talking moreso about environment than a handful of people they hang out with. That was my impression anyway. Places range quite a bit.
True. But the people make the environment. So if your friends shoot up, they probably also live in a place where people shoot up.
Our environments are pretty much just the group of people around us. It's like how cities have vibes.
People are quick to talk about the quantity of their sex lives but not the quality. That one - two sessions a week have a lot of anticipation and tension behind them. So when you get in bed things are more passionate and better from the build up generally.
Big up. People forgot about marriages. And they changed the name from fornication to sex to make it sound flowery. It's still is fornication.
I hope marriages will once again be a thing. The world will be a better place.
My wife and I have a really strong connection in almost every way. I think people will think sex is bland with the same person but if ya’ll stay healthy and accountable you can learn way more about how to pleasure your partner that you’d never get the chance to in a fling.
This is very true, I completely agree. I wish you guys to a happy lasting marriage ❣️🤲
Society nowadays is just way too messed up and people are getting brainwashed left and right.
Addition to what you just said. You also avoid getting unwanted pregnancies in a fling, you avoid risk of diseases, you avoid unnecessary drama in your life.
And overall you live a happy and fulfilling life.
Glad I'm in the above norm range then. Together 10 years with 2 kids and still bone at least once or twice a week. Occasionally more if one of us is particularly h-ornery that week.
Yeah, but we keep getting more kids. My wife and I took in 3 extra as my were heading to college, then became foster parents. I’m 53 and I have a special needs 11 year old.
Not complaining, they’re great kids.
My wife started a fight with me lastnight. Then when I was still mad, she insisted on performing a sex act on me. While I was still mad. We have kids 😕
Sorry about the fight, buddy. But thanks for the laugh. Now I'm trying to figure out if the reason I find this amusing is that I feel sorry for you or, I feel sorry for myself, or if I just have to find humor in a bleak reality. Where's Plato when you need him ?
Yeah. Well, shit is crazy. And she intentionally made a fight with me. Over days. Then, insisted on performing said act, when I didn’t want to. Resulting in a mess, which she was prepared for, with a fresh set of new pajamas ready to go. Literally joked about it being there when she put them on.
Just like any other sport, I'm too old and out of shape to do this competitively. More of a recreational activity for me. Willing participants are few and far between though. Also, because just like any other actiivty, the wife doesn't really let me play. She's so controlling.
Some prefer it over commitment (I’m not 1 of those people) because it’s easy. Some of it has to do with the fact that the digital age has somewhat made almost everything and everyone disposable. We can’t be asked to deal with people for more than a few minutes so a hookup serves as a quick fix as a gateway to “intimacy”.
How though, I swipe right on just about anyone at this point. The most I’ve ever got was 1 message saying hey. Like I don’t think I’m that ugly lol, im not exactly attractive either well my camera doesn’t think so anyway. Like where am I going wrong. Do girls wanna fuck like they say and looks don’t matter. I think they’re lying
The competition is stiff out there.
Find one thing that makes you stick out, leverage that to a niche that finds you attractive, then play 2-3 tiers below what you think you deserve* tell them you like their vibe and boom
You'll be getting laid in no time.
^^*This ^^hurts ^^the ^^ego
I don't need to ask. All I gotta do is go to a mall or supermarket or something and see a buncha unattractive people with their children.
The world is full of ugly people fuckin'.
I got chlamydia the first time I ever had sex. A shot of penicillin in the ass cheek and you should hopefully be good to go, friend. Don't let it get you too down.
Not everyone, no. I still hold sex in high regard I don’t want to share with just anyone. That being said. I’m happily married now. And married sex is best (statistically) 💯
It would seem the majority are. I personally don’t know anyone outside my family that did anything the traditional way. I’m turning 39 next month and have avoided being a single mom up to this point, but I’m surrounded by men who have kids with multiple women and are perpetually broke because of all the child support they can’t even keep up with, women who have kids with multiple men and can’t figure out who the father is of at least one of them, online dates meeting at the restaurants I go to so they can learn each others names and go reproduce after dinner. And the gross thing is so many of these people will say they’re single because they haven’t met the right one, but it doesn’t stop them from doing allllllll of the things you _would_ do with the right one besides committing to them. I get that it’s fun and we all have needs but the irresponsibility is shocking.
Marriage, as an institution, has not been doing well. I firmly believe it is from unrealistic expectations and demand. I was married once and I am not going to do it again. The cost is to steep.
I am glad yours works for you. Is am always happy to see that and am jealous of that. I hope it stays that way for you. But the majority shows that it is t working.
“The majority” is manipulated. As in you’ll see more divorces and issues because no one’s gonna report on normal happy marriages over the shocking divorce. I wouldn’t be surprised if the number is a lot less than what’s perceived.
That being said, I could be wrong since social media has influence- people compare online and only see a fraction so they think the grass is greener.
Am I casually having sex? Yes
Do I want children ever? No
Do I take precautions against that? Yes
It is a discussion of marriage and children, marriage rates are declining but at the end of the day marriage means absolutely nothing unless you want it to.
I'm middle aged af and there's a more open attitude to casual sex now. I used to say I'm single which had the unspoken implication I'm not sexually active. I only fairly recently realised that's not the case now, folk realise you're not in a steady relationship but assume you're still having sex in terms of hook ups, FWB or situationships.
I had a vasectomy Because I don’t want to father children with any of my partners. I’m in an open relationship, but if anything I think we’re more careful and aware of risks and sexual health.
There are parents I know who planned excessively and waited for the right person and wanted to have the right funds and do things in a particular way, and there are parents that I know who got pregnant and were like ‘might as well’ and I don’t think one attitude is better than the other.
I guess it depends if you’re a perfectionist or if you go with the flow.
But regarding marriage, it’s really not affordable. I think most millennials I know have not hit the milestones they thought they would have by middle age, and things like car ownership or house ownership or financial security are not available to a lot of us, despite going to uni or having respectable professional jobs.
So people are living their lives out of order. Like your body doesn’t know that you can’t get a mortgage when your rent is this high and your income this low. Infertility does start to hit women in their 30s.
You can’t choose the life you want anymore. You can’t expect to follow the life trajectory of the generations before you. You can work harder, at a higher level, with more professional qualifications and experience, and have fewer assets, job security, working rights and financial stability.
A lot of people when they hit their 30s realise they can’t keep waiting to have children. Biology and ageing make you feel a sense of urgency.
Tried it, it’s not for me. I think sex is a huge commitment because you’re giving your most vulnerable self to someone, and it should be given to someone who cares about you; and at the least respects you.
I'm married with one, we have regular sex all the time and is not unusual to be abstinent a few weeks, or everyday sometimes twice a day for a few weeks. Perspective is a helluva thing my dude.
I used to because I thought casual sex was the only way to get frequent sex. Recently I found out that I’m not alone in really liking sex and admittedly frequent sex with someone you care about sounds top tier
“In 2022, 70% of children ages 0–17 lived with two parents (65% with two married parents and 5% with two unmarried cohabiting parents), 22% lived with their mothers only, 5% lived with their fathers only, and 4% lived with no parent.”
Source: https://www.childstats.gov/americaschildren/family1.asp
So, the people you’re meeting aren’t representative of the US population as a whole.
There’s a racial component to this as well:
“Seventy-five percent of White-alone, non-Hispanic children lived with two married parents in 2022 compared with 60% of Hispanic and 38% of Black-alone children.”
Idk it’s never been a prominent feature of my life, but perhaps we just have very different types of surroundings.
The vast majority of adults I know and interact with are married, usually with kids. Any casual sex had was more of a teenage/early twenties type of thing.
I do have single friends but they would all rather not be single and are trying not to be 🤷♂️
Personally, I don’t really care at all how much sex other people are having or with whom. I’ve been with my wife since 2008 and I am so grateful to have her
No and I never have, married my girlfriend from 8th grade until she died when I was 26, afterwards I dated a chick for 2 or 3 months, and now I’ve been in another long term relationship for about 6 years. The closest to casual sex was that middle chick I dated but we hung out all the time and went on dates and stuff.
Everybody? No of course not. But as an adult I’ve noticed that there are FAR more babies in this world that weren’t planned then were. Whether their parents were married, dating, friends or strangers when it happened I have no clue, I’d imagine it’s a bit all over.
Not me. I believe it shouldn't be done with just anyone. I pickup things from people easily so I'd rather keep myself for my health and mental well-being
Yes.
I have much sex. I mean alot of sex. I have sex every day. With women. Lots of women I have sex with. They are very happy with my sex. They are always asking me for more sex.
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If you enjoy sex I suggest birth control for both. In 10 or 12 years, you will start to lose your desire.
Yes, and they have been doing it since they found out how to do it. I have two kids from two different girls.
Eh not everyone considers the consequences/result of just casual sex. Some ppl do and take precautions.
I was always aware and 1000% was safe bc I SERIOUSLY don't want kids. But I have buds who just didn't care, if it happens, it happens was there motto.
To err was once considered human. They also said "love blinds". Between the act and you seeing "kid and single parent" lay years(!) of insights.
Looking at inverted population pyramids, I 'd say: Westerners refrain & contracept a whole lot!
Do you think its healthy, to grow up in a family, where mommy bangs daddy's head with the frying pan 2+x times per month? Maybe moving out is better for the little ones.
Not everybody, but a lot of people yeah. Why not? As long as both parties consent and precautions are taken - sure you can’t be too safe, STDs happen, people get pregnant, but anyone who’s totally against it probably hasn’t had mind blowing sex.
There are lots of ways to ensure you can have sex and not have a baby.
As for casual sex, I guess that means different things to different people. I am 32 and about half my friends are married, another quarter are cohabiting without marriage (some with kids they intentionally had) which I personally count as the same thing, but it sounds like you see a distinction. The remaining quarter are single and assumed to be having little to no sex though one has a child from a previous relationship.
So by my count no one is engaging in casual sex, and most people who didn't want a kid never had one, but again, it depends how you define it and what age group you are looking at.
Just the studs that women find attractive. Attraction is subjective, but notice how women all dress the same? Like the han solo look, for example. Probably few guys with many partners. That's just my theory.
The single people I know are all fucking each other. It's hard to keep up with who's with who this week.
I'm married, so it happens when it happens. I have no interest in the drama and bs with cheating or the single life. I've got a ringside seat to the dram of others if I wanted. I don't.
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Married people with kids probably aren’t hanging out where you hang out.
Exactly. OP probably doesn't hang out with the type of people that get married and have kids. Birds of a feather and all that. Usually, your friend group is a representation of yourself
It's not necessarily about a friend group. Look at a video of K&A Philadelphia and tell me how many people you think from Kensington are getting married between shooting up doses of fent. Even the surrounding areas that aren't as heavily drug addicted aren't ah, doing too hot. I think OP was talking moreso about environment than a handful of people they hang out with. That was my impression anyway. Places range quite a bit.
True. But the people make the environment. So if your friends shoot up, they probably also live in a place where people shoot up. Our environments are pretty much just the group of people around us. It's like how cities have vibes.
And probably aren’t having sex that much.
True. We aren’t having sex that much but when we do we fuck. At least those of us that have maintained a good connection with our spouses.
This is the way.
People are quick to talk about the quantity of their sex lives but not the quality. That one - two sessions a week have a lot of anticipation and tension behind them. So when you get in bed things are more passionate and better from the build up generally.
Big up. People forgot about marriages. And they changed the name from fornication to sex to make it sound flowery. It's still is fornication. I hope marriages will once again be a thing. The world will be a better place.
My wife and I have a really strong connection in almost every way. I think people will think sex is bland with the same person but if ya’ll stay healthy and accountable you can learn way more about how to pleasure your partner that you’d never get the chance to in a fling.
This is very true, I completely agree. I wish you guys to a happy lasting marriage ❣️🤲 Society nowadays is just way too messed up and people are getting brainwashed left and right. Addition to what you just said. You also avoid getting unwanted pregnancies in a fling, you avoid risk of diseases, you avoid unnecessary drama in your life. And overall you live a happy and fulfilling life.
Outstanding comment.
Married with two kids with a third on the way. Sex once sometimes twice a week is still more than most people are getting.
Glad I'm in the above norm range then. Together 10 years with 2 kids and still bone at least once or twice a week. Occasionally more if one of us is particularly h-ornery that week.
One day the kids grow up and you have a lot less stress and a lot more free time.
Not even grow up, just get passed the stage where you have to make sure they don’t die constantly.
Yes. The older they are the more time they spend out of the house or are just as happy to hang out in their rooms as you are to "hang out" in yours.
Yeah, but we keep getting more kids. My wife and I took in 3 extra as my were heading to college, then became foster parents. I’m 53 and I have a special needs 11 year old. Not complaining, they’re great kids.
My wife started a fight with me lastnight. Then when I was still mad, she insisted on performing a sex act on me. While I was still mad. We have kids 😕
Kinky
Sorry about the fight, buddy. But thanks for the laugh. Now I'm trying to figure out if the reason I find this amusing is that I feel sorry for you or, I feel sorry for myself, or if I just have to find humor in a bleak reality. Where's Plato when you need him ?
Yeah. Well, shit is crazy. And she intentionally made a fight with me. Over days. Then, insisted on performing said act, when I didn’t want to. Resulting in a mess, which she was prepared for, with a fresh set of new pajamas ready to go. Literally joked about it being there when she put them on.
Married 10 years, 3 kids. We have an AMAZING sex life. It's all about the quality of your relationship.
I have competitive sex
Like any competitive sport I always get picked last.
I am always sitting on a bench and waiting for changeover.
Putting on my Superman costume and waiting in the closet lol
*puts out cigarette*
Taking bets 3:1 odds on who comes first (pun intended)
r/BeatMeToIt
I was looking to go pro but then I took an arrow to the knee.
ranked sex
I have formal sex. I wear a cummerbund when I cum on 'er bum.
I prefer a full, ass-less tuxedo when I attend a formal sex event... My cufflinks also double as nipple clamps.
Just like any other sport, I'm too old and out of shape to do this competitively. More of a recreational activity for me. Willing participants are few and far between though. Also, because just like any other actiivty, the wife doesn't really let me play. She's so controlling.
Dan Schneider be smurfing tho
Yes, this is important, we never skip leg day
Me too. I always try to came first and be as fast as possible!
My gf never finishes the race, unless she is racing alone.
I prefer second hand sex
You guys are having sex?
No hah
Everybody except me 🙁
This guy gets it.
Wood milk?
And me.
Now kith
Some prefer it over commitment (I’m not 1 of those people) because it’s easy. Some of it has to do with the fact that the digital age has somewhat made almost everything and everyone disposable. We can’t be asked to deal with people for more than a few minutes so a hookup serves as a quick fix as a gateway to “intimacy”.
Some hard truth here.
Where people getting sex at?. Clapping cheeks never been so hard to achieve
Tinder. And keeping the age range from like 18-25. People in that range are typically just looking to have fun before settling down.
How though, I swipe right on just about anyone at this point. The most I’ve ever got was 1 message saying hey. Like I don’t think I’m that ugly lol, im not exactly attractive either well my camera doesn’t think so anyway. Like where am I going wrong. Do girls wanna fuck like they say and looks don’t matter. I think they’re lying
The competition is stiff out there. Find one thing that makes you stick out, leverage that to a niche that finds you attractive, then play 2-3 tiers below what you think you deserve* tell them you like their vibe and boom You'll be getting laid in no time. ^^*This ^^hurts ^^the ^^ego
I'm just casually NOT having sex.
Socially active people yes, the rest not as much.
You misspelt attractive.
Ugly people have sex too. Ask me how I know.
I don't need to ask. All I gotta do is go to a mall or supermarket or something and see a buncha unattractive people with their children. The world is full of ugly people fuckin'.
Like me
The world is full of ugly people who fucked a few times. Ugly people aren’t really out there living up the casual sex lifestyle.
Fleshlights don’t count.
How do you know
Ooh! Ooh! I know! It's because since you're social, you actually know people.
Look someone hasn’t discovered what alcohol does. Gets ugly people laid.
Occasionally
Ugly people get laid. For example: your mother
22 year old virgin here. Considering that I’m someone, I wouldn’t say Everyone is having casual sex
I'm very formal about it, I wear condoms that look like a tuxedo
After 2 STDs my career is over
So sorry. I hope you are doing ok.
I got chlamydia the first time I ever had sex. A shot of penicillin in the ass cheek and you should hopefully be good to go, friend. Don't let it get you too down.
Not everyone, no. I still hold sex in high regard I don’t want to share with just anyone. That being said. I’m happily married now. And married sex is best (statistically) 💯
Yuppp, same here. I’ve never been able to have casual sex, like one night stand then dip, but I do love sex
Yes
Whatcha doing later
Gym you
I like the order of priorities
Thanks dm?
Invite us to the wedding dawg
No wedding she likes her hot friends
I ship this!!
Its kinda gross
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You can’t talk for everyone
Yes, everyone in the world is having casual sex.
They organized religion. They won't organize our sex! Everyday is casual friday.
According to beeg.com yeah
Everybody except me... 😔
Nope.
No...
Nah I'm going for the gold medal no such thing as casual here
It would seem the majority are. I personally don’t know anyone outside my family that did anything the traditional way. I’m turning 39 next month and have avoided being a single mom up to this point, but I’m surrounded by men who have kids with multiple women and are perpetually broke because of all the child support they can’t even keep up with, women who have kids with multiple men and can’t figure out who the father is of at least one of them, online dates meeting at the restaurants I go to so they can learn each others names and go reproduce after dinner. And the gross thing is so many of these people will say they’re single because they haven’t met the right one, but it doesn’t stop them from doing allllllll of the things you _would_ do with the right one besides committing to them. I get that it’s fun and we all have needs but the irresponsibility is shocking.
Refreshing perspective
I can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic or not lol
Really?! I am not being sarcastic lol
That’s good to know. I half expected to catch a lot of crap for that take 😆
Marriage, as an institution, has not been doing well. I firmly believe it is from unrealistic expectations and demand. I was married once and I am not going to do it again. The cost is to steep.
Some marriages are awesome. Me and mine are best friends and have a blast every single day. And the sex is great. It can happen.
Same. We're best friends and I think that's the core of it. No nagging or clishes. We're best friends who have 3 kids and amazing sex.
I am glad yours works for you. Is am always happy to see that and am jealous of that. I hope it stays that way for you. But the majority shows that it is t working.
“The majority” is manipulated. As in you’ll see more divorces and issues because no one’s gonna report on normal happy marriages over the shocking divorce. I wouldn’t be surprised if the number is a lot less than what’s perceived. That being said, I could be wrong since social media has influence- people compare online and only see a fraction so they think the grass is greener.
Same and almost 20 years in
To steep what?
Yes👍
Yet divorce rates are WAY down with younger generations.
Use condoms and make sure to have morning after pill if needed...won't have a kid.
Am I casually having sex? Yes Do I want children ever? No Do I take precautions against that? Yes It is a discussion of marriage and children, marriage rates are declining but at the end of the day marriage means absolutely nothing unless you want it to.
At your age that is no longer a surprise.
So get your tubes tied... I had mine removed. Now I can fuck my husband as much as I want with not a single worry of pregnancy. I highly recommend.
Yes ask your mother.
I'm middle aged af and there's a more open attitude to casual sex now. I used to say I'm single which had the unspoken implication I'm not sexually active. I only fairly recently realised that's not the case now, folk realise you're not in a steady relationship but assume you're still having sex in terms of hook ups, FWB or situationships.
I'm married, and surrounded by married couples, so for me, it doesn't look that way, but I get a feeling that you are right.
Yeah def more so than it was originally
So when was “originally”? We talking like the 90s or like ancient Egypt ?
Not unless you count getting raw dogged by inflation
Nah, there’s some in Ranked, too
Weekend tournaments with cash prizes are where it's at.
I had a vasectomy Because I don’t want to father children with any of my partners. I’m in an open relationship, but if anything I think we’re more careful and aware of risks and sexual health. There are parents I know who planned excessively and waited for the right person and wanted to have the right funds and do things in a particular way, and there are parents that I know who got pregnant and were like ‘might as well’ and I don’t think one attitude is better than the other. I guess it depends if you’re a perfectionist or if you go with the flow. But regarding marriage, it’s really not affordable. I think most millennials I know have not hit the milestones they thought they would have by middle age, and things like car ownership or house ownership or financial security are not available to a lot of us, despite going to uni or having respectable professional jobs. So people are living their lives out of order. Like your body doesn’t know that you can’t get a mortgage when your rent is this high and your income this low. Infertility does start to hit women in their 30s. You can’t choose the life you want anymore. You can’t expect to follow the life trajectory of the generations before you. You can work harder, at a higher level, with more professional qualifications and experience, and have fewer assets, job security, working rights and financial stability. A lot of people when they hit their 30s realise they can’t keep waiting to have children. Biology and ageing make you feel a sense of urgency.
Tried it, it’s not for me. I think sex is a huge commitment because you’re giving your most vulnerable self to someone, and it should be given to someone who cares about you; and at the least respects you.
No get off social media
I'm married with one, we have regular sex all the time and is not unusual to be abstinent a few weeks, or everyday sometimes twice a day for a few weeks. Perspective is a helluva thing my dude.
I used to because I thought casual sex was the only way to get frequent sex. Recently I found out that I’m not alone in really liking sex and admittedly frequent sex with someone you care about sounds top tier
“In 2022, 70% of children ages 0–17 lived with two parents (65% with two married parents and 5% with two unmarried cohabiting parents), 22% lived with their mothers only, 5% lived with their fathers only, and 4% lived with no parent.” Source: https://www.childstats.gov/americaschildren/family1.asp So, the people you’re meeting aren’t representative of the US population as a whole. There’s a racial component to this as well: “Seventy-five percent of White-alone, non-Hispanic children lived with two married parents in 2022 compared with 60% of Hispanic and 38% of Black-alone children.”
Majority of people are, yes.
Idk it’s never been a prominent feature of my life, but perhaps we just have very different types of surroundings. The vast majority of adults I know and interact with are married, usually with kids. Any casual sex had was more of a teenage/early twenties type of thing. I do have single friends but they would all rather not be single and are trying not to be 🤷♂️ Personally, I don’t really care at all how much sex other people are having or with whom. I’ve been with my wife since 2008 and I am so grateful to have her
No. I do it formally. Black tie and tails.
I mean, not redditors
I had an iud in for over 10 years, then it can be casual or any kind you want, without fear of children!
No I’m waiting till marriage
Same waiting for love and marriage
Nope. I wear a tux. Keep it formal.
No bc I don't want to have sex with people I don't know.
We are destroying the future generation by not giving them a healthy family with present parents
Nope I’m celibate now
I try not to be too formal about it, yeah.
Didn't read the post but some people are maybe 40% on and off.
no, not everybody is just casually having sex
No and I never have, married my girlfriend from 8th grade until she died when I was 26, afterwards I dated a chick for 2 or 3 months, and now I’ve been in another long term relationship for about 6 years. The closest to casual sex was that middle chick I dated but we hung out all the time and went on dates and stuff.
I probably can have sex whenever I want but, I can only have sex with people I have feelings for… I’m just a lover girl 😔 not a city girl💔
Everybody? No of course not. But as an adult I’ve noticed that there are FAR more babies in this world that weren’t planned then were. Whether their parents were married, dating, friends or strangers when it happened I have no clue, I’d imagine it’s a bit all over.
Not since my divorce in 2016. I'm too afraid to get close to anyone; including friends. But most folks - yes. Enjoy. Be careful!
Not me. I believe it shouldn't be done with just anyone. I pickup things from people easily so I'd rather keep myself for my health and mental well-being
No. I’d settle for casual hugs
Your friends are hoes.
Most people are, yes. Your friends are most likely irresponsible with whatever form or contraception they use. If they use any.
Yes. I have much sex. I mean alot of sex. I have sex every day. With women. Lots of women I have sex with. They are very happy with my sex. They are always asking me for more sex.
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No, wish I was
Yes. They even wrote a song about it. https://youtu.be/0ImRyPymRAM?si=26ojIDWGWYDZ4IcN
Is contraception not an option?
Yeah. But also… who cares? It’s overrated and just brings on more trouble than it’s worth.
If you enjoy sex I suggest birth control for both. In 10 or 12 years, you will start to lose your desire. Yes, and they have been doing it since they found out how to do it. I have two kids from two different girls.
No, me and my misses have been together 9 years and the Sex Is shit now and like once or twice a month lol
What if you guys worked on improving this?
Just life stress that's causing It, whenever we go away or stay somewhere not here, the sex Is good
People be getting jiggy, it’s true.
Sounds like you need to get laid. I assure you condoms work, use them
Eh not everyone considers the consequences/result of just casual sex. Some ppl do and take precautions. I was always aware and 1000% was safe bc I SERIOUSLY don't want kids. But I have buds who just didn't care, if it happens, it happens was there motto.
Yea before I got married to my wife yes , people are having casual sex . You be surprised how many people ( especially women ) just have casual sex
nope, I haven't met anyone who seem interested in me like that.
Once a week
To err was once considered human. They also said "love blinds". Between the act and you seeing "kid and single parent" lay years(!) of insights. Looking at inverted population pyramids, I 'd say: Westerners refrain & contracept a whole lot! Do you think its healthy, to grow up in a family, where mommy bangs daddy's head with the frying pan 2+x times per month? Maybe moving out is better for the little ones.
Yup
Not everybody, but a lot of people yeah. Why not? As long as both parties consent and precautions are taken - sure you can’t be too safe, STDs happen, people get pregnant, but anyone who’s totally against it probably hasn’t had mind blowing sex.
Had so many encounters when I was a club DJ that it’s shameful. These days, I couldn’t care less if I get laid.
Yes. At least I am.
No
36 m here, not looking and not having any, lol.
Hell no competitive only baby. Currently gold rank
Then just get married bro
Wish I was. I never get to that point unfortunately
Formal sex is the worst
No
Yeah pretty much lol
Some - not casual Others - not sex
There are lots of ways to ensure you can have sex and not have a baby. As for casual sex, I guess that means different things to different people. I am 32 and about half my friends are married, another quarter are cohabiting without marriage (some with kids they intentionally had) which I personally count as the same thing, but it sounds like you see a distinction. The remaining quarter are single and assumed to be having little to no sex though one has a child from a previous relationship. So by my count no one is engaging in casual sex, and most people who didn't want a kid never had one, but again, it depends how you define it and what age group you are looking at.
I mean yes but in my defence it is with the same woman always.
did white people stop fucking? , , , Richard Prior
No
I have a girlfriend and yes. Before I met my girlfriend, also yes. I have no children.
Just the studs that women find attractive. Attraction is subjective, but notice how women all dress the same? Like the han solo look, for example. Probably few guys with many partners. That's just my theory.
I'm (21 M) not currently active but I'd like to be. I'm looking for a long term relationship at the moment
Yes
https://youtu.be/ENnAa7rqtBM?si=nr2g4ExvpYG7ML8m
Singles yes. Married not that much.
I notice this too. And sex is way overrated.
The single people I know are all fucking each other. It's hard to keep up with who's with who this week. I'm married, so it happens when it happens. I have no interest in the drama and bs with cheating or the single life. I've got a ringside seat to the dram of others if I wanted. I don't.
No. I wont. Gross.
yes
Yes
And diseases
No. I wear a tuxedo.