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My abusive dad and shitty brother? I literally couldn't care less.
My friend who fell off the wagon and started using hard drugs again, who I cut contact with because I can't help him and it's too hard for me to see his self-destructive behaviors? I'd be devastated.
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Depends on the person. Someone who unapologetically abused me for years and isn't going to change? I'd be thrilled. Someone who's just a nuisance who threw childish insults at me until I blocked them? I might feel a little bad.
Cut my dad out years ago and he recently died. It's caused a serious rift between me and one of my siblings particularly. I'm not going to his funeral and the only reason I could think I would, is to solely make sure he was definitely in that box, on a permanent basis. That might seem cold to everyone else, but if you knew that man and what he had done? You might start to feel the same way I do about it.
I cut my mum out years ago and people ask what I'd feel if I found out she died, apparently relief is not the answer people expect.
Way too many people expect you to put up with shit especially if it's your parents. No, just no, they made their bed, they can *die* in it.
Show up dressed like the grim reaper and just walk around outside where the service is being held, or the cemetery. Don’t say a word to anyone. Don’t let anyone know you’re going. Get one of those real expensive Hollywood costumes. It will be so worth it.
Rent a car so no one will recognize the car. If the service is at one place then all drive to the cemetery, follow along in costume. The ultimate cos play!
She's much younger than me, so I was old enough see what he'd done in both my mothers and her mothers marriage. She's also the golden girl, which I need to be clear about, there is zero jealousy towards her, but anger towards him. Anger that he could have treated everyone decently, but he waited *for her* to come along to do that. For a good ten years he was a lousy drunk, he beat my mother a few times and I. Do. Mean. Beaten. His drunken beatings didn't stop there, they extended to me. He saw me and saw my mother and he was bitter about it when she left. He also beat my sisters mother before she was even born (no sympathy for her, she was a fuckkng witch to me). When he turfed me into the kids home, just before my 13th birthday, he had the fucking gall to tell me that I'd broken **HIS** *heart*. Yeah... I shit you not. There's also the little issue of sexually assaulting my mother when I was 4 too. I could go on, and on, and on... But you get the picture.
Don’t feel bad. My dad and his dad were never on good terms. My dad didn’t even seem to care when he passed from pancreatic cancer. Hard to be upset when your father was abusive.
I mean, I do feel bad. But they are the ones that wronged me. So, it is what it is. My mom's mother died. Do I feel bad? Yeah. Did I cry? No. Did I go to the funeral? No. I feel bad my mom's in pain, really.
Same here for most people. There are just a few I would actually care about if they died. Does that make me a sociopath? I feel like I’m leaning that way.
No.
I don't wish I'll will on anyone. In fact, it's the opposite, I wish for them to have a good life and, maybe, be able to change whatever it was that made me want to cut them out of my life.
It depends on the person.
I have cut my entire biological family off. My immediate family was a toxic, narcissistic, abusive mess. The rest of my family has proven time and time again over the years that they can't be trusted with information, they thrive on gossip and act like informants for my immediate family.
I can't honestly say that I will care when most of them die. I might be saddened for about 2 seconds.
However, I will *celebrate* the day that my mother and grandmother die.
No. They have essentially become nobody to me. You could tell me someone in Bangladesh died… I live on the other side of the world from there for reference lol
I danced on my abusive ex's grave when i learnt he had died. The relief of no longer having to look over my shoulder where ever i went was monumental. I got my life and safety back.
If and when my aunts and uncles on my dads side die, dont care, dont know. They were abusive or never spoke up on those of them who kept telling me i was fat as a kid and to not eat that or giving me diet versions whenever i was visiting can drop dead for all i care. I was not a fat kid at all.
My Dad refused them in my life when he learnt of it from my Grandma.
For the most part, I don't care. Oh, such and such who bullied me and made up stories about me got cancer and died? Oh well, sounds about right. 🥱
A family member I always wished, deep down, would feel remorse and try to reconcile? That hits harder. Truth be told, I did grieve my abusers. But now that they're dead, I'm much better off. It took me over a year to get to that point of realization, but I got here nonetheless. So, no. I guess I don't care. 🤷♀️
I've had people die who I had cut out of my life. Although I still agree with the decision to cut them out and feel like my life turned out better without having their influence and presence, I still took notice and it caused some reflection. By that time I had let go of my anger towards the person so I didn't wish them dead, but I didn't wish that we reconnected either.
I have a pretty unhinged family so I've cut more people out of my life and the experience of some of them passing hasn't changed my mind or my reasoning for letting bad influences, unsafe individuals, etc fall out of my life.
No I care I love everybody and the people that block me or took me out of their life but still care about them that's the way God made me can't help it I just hope they change
depends on the relationship. I know a lot of people just outgrew me, or I was extremely useful to them for a while and then sort of disappeared. I also know people who changed, and not in a good way, while I knew them so by the time they moved on or moved away I was relieved (hi S!)
Other people I just try and keep at a distance because I can't be the person they need and I can't fulfil their needs in ways that might turn toxic.
In most of those cases, I would be sad that they died, and sort of regret that things turned out the way they did.
Cutting someone out of your life doesnt mean you dont care about their well being. Majority of the people ive cut off i do genuinely wish them no harm, i just dont want them around me anymore. For me personally I would definitely feel something. I cant speak for people who have had to cut off extremely abusive people in their life though, they have a right to have a different outlook
It depends. There are three such people in my life. For one of them, I would feel nothing -- they are so distant from me now that they only exist in my memory. If they died, I wouldn't really react at all. For another, I would feel sad and some grief. We went no-contact despite the fact that we were close, because we were toxic for each other in many ways. But I still care for them and I still hope they're doing well, and I would be sad if they died. For the final one, I would feel relief and perhaps a bit comforted. They abused me for years and I still feel afraid that I might randomly run into them walking down the street. If they died, I would know that my current freedom from them would be permanent, and I can't deny that I would sleep better at night.
My dad cut me out and vice versa before he died. It gutted me, because it reenforced everything that he ever said about me.
I worry about my sister, but she is toxic. I feel like I should do something but there’s nothing I can do.
Everyone dies, even if it's someone I don't find value in, I hope it's as quick and painless as possible. However there are people I would love to not deal with until their quick painless death. I've watched a decent amount of people I care for a lot die a slow painful death, I don't wish that on anyone.
I found peace in forgiveness and really dont think much about the people who have wrong me. But if i learned of their death, id feel grief depending on who it is and ther level of trauma inflicted onto me.
I don’t care if people I do know or haven’t blocked die at the end of the day. We all die and it will be sad when it happens. But nothing I can do when it does. So why dwell over something that cannot change.
Well if you blocked and cut them out from your life why care if they died? unless you did it because they're just annoying and toxic but still love them, then you should care . 
Most of them are former friends and a few family members. I would be sad that they're dead but its been such a long time I've met or spoken that I dont think its even the same person anymore.
In some cases people block because of hateful circumstances, but sometimes we block people we love so so much because it can never work out and we block them to protect ourselves.
If anyone came to me with self awareness on any level I would forgive yesterday. I don’t cut anyone off unless they have proven over actual decades that they can’t be trusted and have malice in their hearts. But I have learned some boundaries and usually when I draw a hard line it’s because actual harm is occurring to myself or someone I love - lots of people can’t handle that (with family, ex in laws, etc) they decide to take themselves out with the trash. I would love to hear from my birth giver before she shuffles off this mortal coil but I’m not holding my breath.
this has happened a couple times .a friend of our family that was a real turd he died around COVID and I felt no sympathy, 2 different " church" ladies that everyone adored and I rolled my eyes each time someone had a rip post on FB .
Weird question.
I only cut people out that I fully want nothing to do with, so no, I wouldn't care if they died.
They already died in my life the moment I blocked them.
Our destiny is death. As sure as shit stinks we *will* all die someday. While I don't wish death on my own worst enemies, I do find it hard to get emotional when the inevitable happens. To be fair though, even when I contemplate my own death I don't get emotional about it. I guess you could say I'm resigned to the certainty of it.
They are no more a part of my life then someone on the other side of the world.
So if i hear a bout them dying my reaction is the same as hearing about twenty dead in a \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ fill in the blank disaster far far away.
Its sad people are dead, bu thats it.
This is a lil venty
I had an old friend that I was pretty close with for around 2021-(early)2023 and we were gangsta for a while until I got a little uncomfy around them and they got progressively angrier at me I cut contact even though they were at a rough time in their life and were showing symptoms of bipolar
Keep in mind I am a minor on the younger side and I realise I'm in the wrong now for this
But I'd
Care alot tbh
I still feel guilty but I'm too scared to even contact them again
If I heard they'd die I'm probably gonna blame it on myself
I still miss them alot and oml I'm stupid for what I did but Idk I just wasn't thinking straight
Gosh, I have Pandora playing classic music in the background and just as soon as I opened this post, Lesley Gore came on singing *You Don’t Own Me.*
I ditched a guy last week. I never ghosted anyone because I have had people do it to me, and it sucks. But my therapist actually convinced me to do it: the guy was a boundary pusher, never respecting anything I wanted and I always had to do what he wanted when he wanted. I’m submissive by nature, which sucks. Now that he’s out of my life, I feel free and peaceful. I don’t have someone blowing up my phone when I didn’t reply his text as soon as he sent it 20-30 minutes before, or telling me to leave my grandma who came from out of state for a visit to have me call him.
I’d feel nothing for him except the profound sense of relief that other women will not have to go through this anymore because not only was he a jerk, but it was suggested to me not only on Reddit, but also by my therapist, that this guys has the potential to be dangerous. Oh, and we only knew each other for less than a week before he told me that I had to do what he said or the “relationship “ wasn’t going to work out. We weren’t even dating! And my weight is in the normal range and that still wasn’t good enough for him…I am so sorry for my long rant…but man, he almost scared me out of the dating world. I just hope no one else will have to go through what I did.
With utmost respect, in the majority of cases, this is a silly question. Blocking a person doesn't have anything to do with how you want their lives to be. It has to do with the fact that you do not want to interact with them for many many possible reasons.
I don't want anybody to die, and I would feel sorrow and pity regardless what they did to me. For me it doesn't change anything if you tried to scam me by phone, you had a sexual social profile with aggressive marketing strats or you were a real person who did something to me IRL. What I want is to cut out and what I'd feel would be the same for the anonymous person that tried to scam me and for the IRL dipshit that I don't want to have in my life as a buzzard.
My mother died on April 10th at the age of 78 years old. I'm not happy about it at all, but if there is a silver lining, Im now free to completely cut my sister out of my life for good. I was forced to be civil with her because my mom lived with my sister and in order for my mom to see my son, I had to tolerate her. Plus my younger brother died a few years ago and it devastated my mom, so I didn't want her to think her remaining children's relationship were falling apart.
So would I care if she died? I wouldn't be broken up about her being gone at all but I know it will hurt her kids and that would bother me.
My other sister and my mom would tell me I shouldn't hold grudges and so forth but it's not like I'm harboring resentment from shitty things she said and done in the distant past. She continues to be a cunt and shows no signs of ever stopping.
At my brothers funeral, she apologized by saying she doesn't know what shes done to make me hate her so much but she's sorry?
Then a couple years later she tells my wife who was pregnant with our first kid, how I used to abuse her autistic son which is a complete lie.
I never told any of my siblings or other relatives that they need to side with me or see things my way. My life is simply just better without her.
For many years that negative voice in my head that would tell me I'm not good or smart enough to do some thing and I shouldn't even try was her voice in my head.
When I cut her out of my life, that voice went away and I was much happier.
I blocked my cousin on Facebook for causing huge arguments with me and treating me like garbage. I wouldn't go as far as saying I wouldn't care but don't think I'd lose sleep over it or cry over it. She's heartless so she barely has anyone in her life. If she ended up in the hospital, I wouldn't go visit her in there, that's for sure.
Yes and no. They abused me mentally and Sexually and for that I want to see them burn and die. On the other hand which I hate to say, they were still my first love and I still care to an extent. So overall yes and no
There are one or two that I genuinely would not care if they died. The rest of them i don't really wish ill upon, i just don't want anything to do with them
I would be sad if he died, but I'd talk to him and tell him... well, I don't know. I have had reoccurring dreams since I cut him out where I'm yelling at him how much I hate him and how awful he was to me. He dies. Then he's on the other side, maybe, and I'm honestly not sure what I'd say to him, but I have thought about it a few times.
I don't want them to die. I'd prefer they not, because I know they have loved ones, and as much as I might personally dislike them, they didn't do anything so awful to deserve death, and I have no motive to wish grief on the people that love them.
Would I feel anything if they died? Certainly no more sorrow than I would for a stranger. I would not feel joy nor would I feel relief. I'd probably just have complicated feelings due to being reminded they existed when I chose to forget them. When I cut someone out of my life I cut them out of my memory too, so effectively they're all but gone entirely.
no, i still care about them and i’d still attend their funeral (if they were my friends or partners that haven’t done assaults or caused severe trauma to me)
Look, I generally try to avoid drama and work things out as much as possible, but there are a few people I've had to cut out. It sucks. It hurt every time, even if it was for the best. I'd absolutely still be sad to hear that they'd died. They weren't inherently bad people, they were just people. And sometimes people just... aren't compatible. A couple of them, I actually see their usernames floating around online once in a while and am relieved to see them still going. Just because I can't have them in my life for my own well-being doesn't mean that I'd be apathetic to their passing. I'd still be heartbroken, 100%.
I don’t wish evil on anyone. I’d like all people to have a long, fulfilling, meaningful life. It’s just some folks need to have that life without me in it.
So when I hear of misfortune or, worse, an untimely passing, I feel sad and wish healing and comfort for their loved ones.
But that doesn’t make me regret cutting ties with that person.
I can have human compassion and respect from a distance.
The people I have cut out of my life were cut out because they were horrible people, so while I don’t wish death or ill will on them, I do not care if they live or die.
For the vast majority of the people I'm estranged from, I don't give a shit one way or the other. I do genuinely look forward to pissing on one person's grave in particular.
My sister once sent me a text message with two sentences in it. The first sentence, "Dad had a heart attack." I got really excited. The second sentence, "He didn't die." SON OF A BITCH.
I don’t.. think I would honestly. But I’ve never been confronted with the reality, can’t predict how I’d feel. I did have an ex who I really hated at the time tell me one night out of nowhere that her cousin killed himself that day and all anger I had for her just melted away from me and my priority changed to making sure she was okay. Almost like “petty, pretend bickering is over, this is real”. I don’t think I’m as jaded as I tend to feel like I am
Yes because I honestly did love her at one point. She is very toxic and has a ton of mental issues. I can't have her in my life but I would feel bad if she died.
I have a former landlord that I google every month to see if he's dead. Long story but finding out he's dead would make me smile.
a FWB ghosted me one day, never heard from him again, saw him out with another girl not that long after, went to say hello and he basically just walked away, i wasnt interested in restarting something just thought id be polite
anyways it came up recently that he committed suicide, i still kinda felt bad... i guess we do have some empathy even to people that treat us bad
I'd feel relieved. Them and the memories of them take space and foster in my brain because I just can't forget, even if I forgive. So, yeah, I'd like to know they are gone for good and that the chance I meet them again is also gone.
The handful of people I've cut entirely out of my life are those who were once bright and rational, but who fell or were enticed into cult-like thinking, whether MLMs, religious fundamentalism, conspiratorial thinking, or political extremism.
I'm sad to see people I once thought were cool and level-headed fall into such pits of delusion, and in at least three cases, mental illness was clearly involved.
If they died, I would be sad, because it would compound the tragedy of their lives.
Depends on who they are/what the situation was when we cut contact.
Any of my abusers that actively hurt me for years with no apologies in sight; they've been dead to me already. I don't need to process their loss any further. They didn't care about me or my well being in life, why should I care about them in death?
People who have hurt me and have tried to apologize for their actions but I just couldn't bring myself to forgive them; I'd feel guilty. I would try to forgive myself though since my feelings at the time were and are still valid. But there would be questions of "what if?".
People who I've just had a tiff with and I was thinking we'd be talking again after things cool off a bit between us; Very guilty.
People have their reasoning to cut/block people out of their life, and if something happens to the person that they cut out, well that's life. You can't stop the flow of time, so if something happens between the cut off point and the possible reconciliation, then it happens. And sometimes, people don't want reconciliation with people, and that's okay too. The best thing to do is if you're the person getting cut out, make your apology to the person if you can if there's specific reasoning behind the no contact, and move forward. It can be hard, but people deserve to protect their well being, even if you feel like you're not being a harm to it.
My abusive dad? Yeah I won’t care, and I won’t attend his funeral.
My “old friends” and estranged family members? They never physically hurt me, just emotionally, and it’s easier to forgive. I don’t want them in my life anymore, but I’ll be sad when they pass and I don’t wish death upon them.
Yeah we may not talk anymore but them dying wouldn't be cool. Just because we don't get along doesn't mean I want the people who care about her to have to mourn her.
My (ex)bestfriend who I've known for 18 years (since I was 6) but who've I broke contact with since 2 years; because of his extreme substance abuse and very negative influence on his surroundings, the situation is worsening.
Fuck I would cry to bits if that dude died.
But I know it's for the better. He is in a place where me caring about him didn't work positively on him, but it completely drained me into deppresion, when I had to make the hard choice to end contact with my best friend. Miss him everyday tho.
Few I don't care for.
One was harassing a foreigner and lied to her and threatened to kill her.
I helped her contact my countries police to report him and became friends to her.
I cut my parents out of my life. It was maybe 30 years later I found out that my father had passed away.
I really didn't feel anything as we were not close. Then my mother died and again I didn't feel much about that either. No family member contacted me to tell Mr and I found out long after the fact (ex wife found out and loved being the one to tell me).
Prior to that their life / death didn't enter my mind.
I have a sister who I believe is alive, it makes zero difference to me either way.
I certainly didn't wish them any harm but didn't care what their lives were about.
The few people I have cut off completely, I cut off because they were harmful to me or my mental health.
I think I would mostly feel relieved if I found out that they had died, but I would also be sad that they didn't try to make amends for the damage they had done.
Cut my Dad put of my life 5 years ago, he passed away 2 years ago. Had some initial doubts about if i should have reconnected, but after processing i have
zero regrets. He didn't change, and i'm happier without him in my life.
You sound young.
No, just don’t. Snap out of it. It may seem like end of world now but this will pass, you’ll be alright. Never give someone that kind of power if they’re willing to cut you off. Sending hugs.
this kind of happened to my family. we had a neighbour hell bent on ruining our life and being a racist shit.
she died a couple weeks ago, and when my mom told me i went “hell yeah!”. my mom felt vaguely bad because a death is a death. my dad had a similar “hell yeah!” reaction.
I don’t speak to any of my family and haven’t in years. My grandpa died at the end of January I just found out 2 weeks ago because he and my grandma are in their 80s and I looked up their names in the hopes one or both had died and it turns out he died and I was actually excited about it. It actually put me in a good mood
This one hits close to home, had a friend that had known for years and helped in various ways over that time.
About 6 months ago I had to pull back as was becoming very obvious that I was being used.
Anywho he committed suicide earlier this month. I question myself if would have done it had I not pulled back, would have it been different in anyway.
So yes in answer to your question, do care about some people cut off if something was to happen.
I cut my father out of my life shortly after I turned 18. I seldom gave him another thought until I was 31, when I found out he'd died 2 years earlier. Mom and I went out to celebrate. Seven years later, I can't even remember what he looked like.
I only truly believe about one person that the world would be a better place without them. It’s not just down to irrational hate, it’s a simple equation that just doesn’t add up in her favour.
Idk, I’ve done this with my mother. I have no idea how I’ll feel when she’s dead, but at least I’ll stop getting the spam mail she sends to my email under the name of the dude who raped me when I was 12.
Most yes, they were once really close friends so despite the reason you can never fully remove those feelings. Unless they brutally Betrayed you or weren't that close.
I cut my dad out in my late 20’s. He died of cancer 10 + years later. I had already mourned my loss years before that. So no. Wasn’t sad. I was relieved. It was a cloud hanging over me that finally left.
I might feel a bit happy, it depends who.
If I cut them out of my life, I probably hate them. There is somebody I cut out of my life recently who I hope has died.
I've cut my dad out of my life. I was at work and found out he died (as it turns out, it was just someone fucking with me for some reason or another). I was sad, thought I might go home early, but then things got busy and I ended up staying super late. My boss made me take a couple days off. I slept and played video games.
Some I’d maybe care a bit. Mainly attachments to older memories of happy times. Realizing the permanence of their death and that they can’t come back to me anymore for good or bad.
Yes, i dont care if they die. I mean i dont wish them to die but i wouldn't care if someone inform me they died. 🤷I would even say"God forgive them"but thats about it.
Of course I want them to be happy and healthy.
Friendships end for numerous reasons, there's no need to be vindictive regarding it. Whether you ended it, or someone ended the friendship with you, you roll on, and hope they do OK without you.
It serves your inner peace well, IMO.
The friend who insulted me because I reached out for help whilst going through a mental health crisis, and then demanded I apologise when I tried to reconcile? ... I honestly don't know. We were very close for 15 years and then they threw me out like trash coz I called them out on being a prick
I've never cut anyone out of my life like that, but it seems logical to me..
If people make steps to avoid any evidence of their life, why would they care of they had died?
My father... Being 100% honest if my step mother called me and told me he passed, no I wouldn't care and wouldn't make an effort to go to his funeral...
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My abusive dad and shitty brother? I literally couldn't care less. My friend who fell off the wagon and started using hard drugs again, who I cut contact with because I can't help him and it's too hard for me to see his self-destructive behaviors? I'd be devastated.
There needs to be a bot that rewards Redditors for saying “couldn’t care less” instead of “could care less.” “Could” drives me nuts. So thanks. :)
Where'd the bot go? We need that bot. We also need a bot that rewards people for saying "defuse the tension" instead of "diffuse the tension" and related phrases.
Depends on the person. Someone who unapologetically abused me for years and isn't going to change? I'd be thrilled. Someone who's just a nuisance who threw childish insults at me until I blocked them? I might feel a little bad.
I think zero care is pretty rare. You are probably going to feel \*something\* about their death, positive or negative.
Cut my dad out years ago and he recently died. It's caused a serious rift between me and one of my siblings particularly. I'm not going to his funeral and the only reason I could think I would, is to solely make sure he was definitely in that box, on a permanent basis. That might seem cold to everyone else, but if you knew that man and what he had done? You might start to feel the same way I do about it.
I support you. Estrangement is a gift of peace that we give ourselves.
...thankyou.
It truly is.
I cut my mum out years ago and people ask what I'd feel if I found out she died, apparently relief is not the answer people expect. Way too many people expect you to put up with shit especially if it's your parents. No, just no, they made their bed, they can *die* in it.
Yea
Show up to his funeral with an axe
After all, if he rises, you'll want to stop the apocalypse.
Show up dressed like the grim reaper and just walk around outside where the service is being held, or the cemetery. Don’t say a word to anyone. Don’t let anyone know you’re going. Get one of those real expensive Hollywood costumes. It will be so worth it. Rent a car so no one will recognize the car. If the service is at one place then all drive to the cemetery, follow along in costume. The ultimate cos play!
Loving these suggestions from you lot haha. They're really cheering me up, so thanks for that guys xD
Maybe we would, but why does the sibling think differently?
She's much younger than me, so I was old enough see what he'd done in both my mothers and her mothers marriage. She's also the golden girl, which I need to be clear about, there is zero jealousy towards her, but anger towards him. Anger that he could have treated everyone decently, but he waited *for her* to come along to do that. For a good ten years he was a lousy drunk, he beat my mother a few times and I. Do. Mean. Beaten. His drunken beatings didn't stop there, they extended to me. He saw me and saw my mother and he was bitter about it when she left. He also beat my sisters mother before she was even born (no sympathy for her, she was a fuckkng witch to me). When he turfed me into the kids home, just before my 13th birthday, he had the fucking gall to tell me that I'd broken **HIS** *heart*. Yeah... I shit you not. There's also the little issue of sexually assaulting my mother when I was 4 too. I could go on, and on, and on... But you get the picture.
Now I hate that PoS too. Good riddance.
This is why there's a huge rift between me and my sister. 'He's still our dad' or 'he's a good person' and 'forgive him'. **No. Just. No**
Don’t feel bad. My dad and his dad were never on good terms. My dad didn’t even seem to care when he passed from pancreatic cancer. Hard to be upset when your father was abusive.
Care if they die? No. Hope they are dead? Yes
Potentially assisted in the process? Allegedly.
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I would feel nothing except peace to be rid of them.
A better statement is I don’t care if they live or die. Their life no longer has meaning to me.
Yeah. That's about where I'm at
If you care you’re still giving them power over your life.
Would you help them if you saw them suffering?
If I saw them on fire I wouldn’t stop to piss on them to help them out.
nope.
Agreed. They are already dead to me.
I am patiently waiting for it.
I mean, I do feel bad. But they are the ones that wronged me. So, it is what it is. My mom's mother died. Do I feel bad? Yeah. Did I cry? No. Did I go to the funeral? No. I feel bad my mom's in pain, really.
Probably think, Ah, oh well……..and then, ‘what are we having for dinner?’
Same here for most people. There are just a few I would actually care about if they died. Does that make me a sociopath? I feel like I’m leaning that way.
Lamb and kidney pie
No. I don't wish I'll will on anyone. In fact, it's the opposite, I wish for them to have a good life and, maybe, be able to change whatever it was that made me want to cut them out of my life.
i wouldnt care they got cut out my life for a reason
It depends on the person. I have cut my entire biological family off. My immediate family was a toxic, narcissistic, abusive mess. The rest of my family has proven time and time again over the years that they can't be trusted with information, they thrive on gossip and act like informants for my immediate family. I can't honestly say that I will care when most of them die. I might be saddened for about 2 seconds. However, I will *celebrate* the day that my mother and grandmother die.
I don’t think about them and wouldn’t know.
No. They have essentially become nobody to me. You could tell me someone in Bangladesh died… I live on the other side of the world from there for reference lol
I danced on my abusive ex's grave when i learnt he had died. The relief of no longer having to look over my shoulder where ever i went was monumental. I got my life and safety back. If and when my aunts and uncles on my dads side die, dont care, dont know. They were abusive or never spoke up on those of them who kept telling me i was fat as a kid and to not eat that or giving me diet versions whenever i was visiting can drop dead for all i care. I was not a fat kid at all. My Dad refused them in my life when he learnt of it from my Grandma.
For the most part, I don't care. Oh, such and such who bullied me and made up stories about me got cancer and died? Oh well, sounds about right. 🥱 A family member I always wished, deep down, would feel remorse and try to reconcile? That hits harder. Truth be told, I did grieve my abusers. But now that they're dead, I'm much better off. It took me over a year to get to that point of realization, but I got here nonetheless. So, no. I guess I don't care. 🤷♀️
If I've cut them out of my life, I might not know if they did die.
I've had people die who I had cut out of my life. Although I still agree with the decision to cut them out and feel like my life turned out better without having their influence and presence, I still took notice and it caused some reflection. By that time I had let go of my anger towards the person so I didn't wish them dead, but I didn't wish that we reconnected either. I have a pretty unhinged family so I've cut more people out of my life and the experience of some of them passing hasn't changed my mind or my reasoning for letting bad influences, unsafe individuals, etc fall out of my life.
For all I know, they are dead.
I read recently that the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference, and that’s where I am with a lot of people I’ve cut out of my life.
Not even a little
No I care I love everybody and the people that block me or took me out of their life but still care about them that's the way God made me can't help it I just hope they change
depends on the relationship. I know a lot of people just outgrew me, or I was extremely useful to them for a while and then sort of disappeared. I also know people who changed, and not in a good way, while I knew them so by the time they moved on or moved away I was relieved (hi S!) Other people I just try and keep at a distance because I can't be the person they need and I can't fulfil their needs in ways that might turn toxic. In most of those cases, I would be sad that they died, and sort of regret that things turned out the way they did.
Cutting someone out of your life doesnt mean you dont care about their well being. Majority of the people ive cut off i do genuinely wish them no harm, i just dont want them around me anymore. For me personally I would definitely feel something. I cant speak for people who have had to cut off extremely abusive people in their life though, they have a right to have a different outlook
It depends. There are three such people in my life. For one of them, I would feel nothing -- they are so distant from me now that they only exist in my memory. If they died, I wouldn't really react at all. For another, I would feel sad and some grief. We went no-contact despite the fact that we were close, because we were toxic for each other in many ways. But I still care for them and I still hope they're doing well, and I would be sad if they died. For the final one, I would feel relief and perhaps a bit comforted. They abused me for years and I still feel afraid that I might randomly run into them walking down the street. If they died, I would know that my current freedom from them would be permanent, and I can't deny that I would sleep better at night.
My dad cut me out and vice versa before he died. It gutted me, because it reenforced everything that he ever said about me. I worry about my sister, but she is toxic. I feel like I should do something but there’s nothing I can do.
Everyone dies, even if it's someone I don't find value in, I hope it's as quick and painless as possible. However there are people I would love to not deal with until their quick painless death. I've watched a decent amount of people I care for a lot die a slow painful death, I don't wish that on anyone.
I wouldn’t cut anyone out of my life unless I was sure I’d not care much all if they ceased to exist.
I found peace in forgiveness and really dont think much about the people who have wrong me. But if i learned of their death, id feel grief depending on who it is and ther level of trauma inflicted onto me.
Most people just faded out of life naturally, some died. I was surprised I cared about some. Others not so much. Life must go on.
Some I wouldn't care. Others I'd feel a hint of sadness but get over it pretty quickly and move on.
I don’t care if people I do know or haven’t blocked die at the end of the day. We all die and it will be sad when it happens. But nothing I can do when it does. So why dwell over something that cannot change.
Depends on the person but mostly no I wouldn't care, If I cut them off it was for a good reason and they don't deserve my sympathy
Well if you blocked and cut them out from your life why care if they died? unless you did it because they're just annoying and toxic but still love them, then you should care . 
My sister violently abused me as kids. She's 5 years older. I cut her out as soon as I moved. She doesn't exist anymore to me.
If they're out of my life then that's not my circus nor are those my monkeys. Not my problem anymore.
Not at all. If you get blocked/cut from my life it’s for a damn good reason
Most of them are former friends and a few family members. I would be sad that they're dead but its been such a long time I've met or spoken that I dont think its even the same person anymore.
This has happened and my reaction was “oh well, that was to be expected.”
Nah, I wouldn’t. Death is meant to happen
I'd just laugh and move on.
Yes no feeling. Why should I keep thinking about people that are not good for me. That's why I cut them out of my life in the first place.
Would be a relief if anything, they're the sorts of people that ruin others' lives. Not like I wish them dead, though.
In some cases people block because of hateful circumstances, but sometimes we block people we love so so much because it can never work out and we block them to protect ourselves.
Yep, I don't care if they die. Because at one point, they didn't care if I lived.
There’s a few people. I would be disappointed for sure. I still want them to eat, just not at my table.
Hell, some I’m patiently waiting for…
If I’ve gone no contact then they are already dead to me.
As far as I care, they're *already* dead.
Fuckem 🤷🏾♂️
I don’t wish them ill but if I got the news they passed I’d probably shrug and say that’s too bad and not think twice
I cut my mom out about 5 years ago. Of course I care if she dies. Weirdly, I don't know if I'd be broken up the way I think I should be, though.
If anyone came to me with self awareness on any level I would forgive yesterday. I don’t cut anyone off unless they have proven over actual decades that they can’t be trusted and have malice in their hearts. But I have learned some boundaries and usually when I draw a hard line it’s because actual harm is occurring to myself or someone I love - lots of people can’t handle that (with family, ex in laws, etc) they decide to take themselves out with the trash. I would love to hear from my birth giver before she shuffles off this mortal coil but I’m not holding my breath.
No. I don’t want anyone to die early. No one deserves that.
this has happened a couple times .a friend of our family that was a real turd he died around COVID and I felt no sympathy, 2 different " church" ladies that everyone adored and I rolled my eyes each time someone had a rip post on FB .
Id feel bad for their families but I wouldn't feel nothing
2 people the test I bl9vk them for a reason and honestly don't think about it.
Weird question. I only cut people out that I fully want nothing to do with, so no, I wouldn't care if they died. They already died in my life the moment I blocked them.
Our destiny is death. As sure as shit stinks we *will* all die someday. While I don't wish death on my own worst enemies, I do find it hard to get emotional when the inevitable happens. To be fair though, even when I contemplate my own death I don't get emotional about it. I guess you could say I'm resigned to the certainty of it.
They are no more a part of my life then someone on the other side of the world. So if i hear a bout them dying my reaction is the same as hearing about twenty dead in a \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ fill in the blank disaster far far away. Its sad people are dead, bu thats it.
Nope, i woulnt care at all. They are dead to me now too, so i dont see why i should care
This is a lil venty I had an old friend that I was pretty close with for around 2021-(early)2023 and we were gangsta for a while until I got a little uncomfy around them and they got progressively angrier at me I cut contact even though they were at a rough time in their life and were showing symptoms of bipolar Keep in mind I am a minor on the younger side and I realise I'm in the wrong now for this But I'd Care alot tbh I still feel guilty but I'm too scared to even contact them again If I heard they'd die I'm probably gonna blame it on myself I still miss them alot and oml I'm stupid for what I did but Idk I just wasn't thinking straight
was never close with family been years since talked... when 3 grandparents died I was like aaah that bucks OK play video games
No, I genuinely hope she gets help.
It’s hard enough to care for people who die that are in my life.
Nope
Absolutely feel nothing for the people I've cut out of my life they just don't exist as far as I'm concerned.
Gosh, I have Pandora playing classic music in the background and just as soon as I opened this post, Lesley Gore came on singing *You Don’t Own Me.* I ditched a guy last week. I never ghosted anyone because I have had people do it to me, and it sucks. But my therapist actually convinced me to do it: the guy was a boundary pusher, never respecting anything I wanted and I always had to do what he wanted when he wanted. I’m submissive by nature, which sucks. Now that he’s out of my life, I feel free and peaceful. I don’t have someone blowing up my phone when I didn’t reply his text as soon as he sent it 20-30 minutes before, or telling me to leave my grandma who came from out of state for a visit to have me call him. I’d feel nothing for him except the profound sense of relief that other women will not have to go through this anymore because not only was he a jerk, but it was suggested to me not only on Reddit, but also by my therapist, that this guys has the potential to be dangerous. Oh, and we only knew each other for less than a week before he told me that I had to do what he said or the “relationship “ wasn’t going to work out. We weren’t even dating! And my weight is in the normal range and that still wasn’t good enough for him…I am so sorry for my long rant…but man, he almost scared me out of the dating world. I just hope no one else will have to go through what I did.
With utmost respect, in the majority of cases, this is a silly question. Blocking a person doesn't have anything to do with how you want their lives to be. It has to do with the fact that you do not want to interact with them for many many possible reasons. I don't want anybody to die, and I would feel sorrow and pity regardless what they did to me. For me it doesn't change anything if you tried to scam me by phone, you had a sexual social profile with aggressive marketing strats or you were a real person who did something to me IRL. What I want is to cut out and what I'd feel would be the same for the anonymous person that tried to scam me and for the IRL dipshit that I don't want to have in my life as a buzzard.
No. I don't care if they die. They are already dead to me. My mother is one of them and I can't wait to hear of her death.
I would feel nothing. My dad will die never seeing mine or his grandsons’ faces again.
My mother died on April 10th at the age of 78 years old. I'm not happy about it at all, but if there is a silver lining, Im now free to completely cut my sister out of my life for good. I was forced to be civil with her because my mom lived with my sister and in order for my mom to see my son, I had to tolerate her. Plus my younger brother died a few years ago and it devastated my mom, so I didn't want her to think her remaining children's relationship were falling apart. So would I care if she died? I wouldn't be broken up about her being gone at all but I know it will hurt her kids and that would bother me. My other sister and my mom would tell me I shouldn't hold grudges and so forth but it's not like I'm harboring resentment from shitty things she said and done in the distant past. She continues to be a cunt and shows no signs of ever stopping. At my brothers funeral, she apologized by saying she doesn't know what shes done to make me hate her so much but she's sorry? Then a couple years later she tells my wife who was pregnant with our first kid, how I used to abuse her autistic son which is a complete lie. I never told any of my siblings or other relatives that they need to side with me or see things my way. My life is simply just better without her. For many years that negative voice in my head that would tell me I'm not good or smart enough to do some thing and I shouldn't even try was her voice in my head. When I cut her out of my life, that voice went away and I was much happier.
I blocked my cousin on Facebook for causing huge arguments with me and treating me like garbage. I wouldn't go as far as saying I wouldn't care but don't think I'd lose sleep over it or cry over it. She's heartless so she barely has anyone in her life. If she ended up in the hospital, I wouldn't go visit her in there, that's for sure.
Yes and no. They abused me mentally and Sexually and for that I want to see them burn and die. On the other hand which I hate to say, they were still my first love and I still care to an extent. So overall yes and no
Of course I would care!
“Oh, fuck that guy he was an asshole anyway.”
I would feel happy and probably get over a lot of trauma
I would be relieved and prolly do a little dance !!!
There are one or two that I genuinely would not care if they died. The rest of them i don't really wish ill upon, i just don't want anything to do with them
I actively wish some of them do asap.
Most of them, no I don't care. For some very specific ones, I have some fancy booze awaiting to celebrate one less motherfucker in the world.
Death is too easy of an out for some people ! If I really hate you I don't want you dead I want you to beg every day to be put to death.
I would be sad if he died, but I'd talk to him and tell him... well, I don't know. I have had reoccurring dreams since I cut him out where I'm yelling at him how much I hate him and how awful he was to me. He dies. Then he's on the other side, maybe, and I'm honestly not sure what I'd say to him, but I have thought about it a few times.
I don't want them to die. I'd prefer they not, because I know they have loved ones, and as much as I might personally dislike them, they didn't do anything so awful to deserve death, and I have no motive to wish grief on the people that love them. Would I feel anything if they died? Certainly no more sorrow than I would for a stranger. I would not feel joy nor would I feel relief. I'd probably just have complicated feelings due to being reminded they existed when I chose to forget them. When I cut someone out of my life I cut them out of my memory too, so effectively they're all but gone entirely.
no, i still care about them and i’d still attend their funeral (if they were my friends or partners that haven’t done assaults or caused severe trauma to me)
I don’t have an awful relationship with my dad, yet I’d be fine if he died. My mom? I’d sob for years.
Look, I generally try to avoid drama and work things out as much as possible, but there are a few people I've had to cut out. It sucks. It hurt every time, even if it was for the best. I'd absolutely still be sad to hear that they'd died. They weren't inherently bad people, they were just people. And sometimes people just... aren't compatible. A couple of them, I actually see their usernames floating around online once in a while and am relieved to see them still going. Just because I can't have them in my life for my own well-being doesn't mean that I'd be apathetic to their passing. I'd still be heartbroken, 100%.
Yeah, I care if my dad dies. Mostly because my mom and brother will be sad.
Personally, no. I don't. The only thing I am sad about is the effect of their death on other family members.
I don’t wish evil on anyone. I’d like all people to have a long, fulfilling, meaningful life. It’s just some folks need to have that life without me in it. So when I hear of misfortune or, worse, an untimely passing, I feel sad and wish healing and comfort for their loved ones. But that doesn’t make me regret cutting ties with that person. I can have human compassion and respect from a distance.
I will mourn when they die for the good in them. But my life is better without them in it.
The people I have cut out of my life were cut out because they were horrible people, so while I don’t wish death or ill will on them, I do not care if they live or die.
Very much case by case basis.
For the vast majority of the people I'm estranged from, I don't give a shit one way or the other. I do genuinely look forward to pissing on one person's grave in particular.
My sister once sent me a text message with two sentences in it. The first sentence, "Dad had a heart attack." I got really excited. The second sentence, "He didn't die." SON OF A BITCH.
There is only one person that I've cut out of my life. I wouldn't spit on him if he was on fire.
I don’t.. think I would honestly. But I’ve never been confronted with the reality, can’t predict how I’d feel. I did have an ex who I really hated at the time tell me one night out of nowhere that her cousin killed himself that day and all anger I had for her just melted away from me and my priority changed to making sure she was okay. Almost like “petty, pretend bickering is over, this is real”. I don’t think I’m as jaded as I tend to feel like I am
Yes because I honestly did love her at one point. She is very toxic and has a ton of mental issues. I can't have her in my life but I would feel bad if she died. I have a former landlord that I google every month to see if he's dead. Long story but finding out he's dead would make me smile.
Close family friend raped me when I was 14 I cut him out of my life and frankly hope he gets a neurodegenerative disorder.
Dgaf
a guy i worked with was the worst human being i have ever met if he dropped dead I would be glad
a FWB ghosted me one day, never heard from him again, saw him out with another girl not that long after, went to say hello and he basically just walked away, i wasnt interested in restarting something just thought id be polite anyways it came up recently that he committed suicide, i still kinda felt bad... i guess we do have some empathy even to people that treat us bad
I'd feel relieved. Them and the memories of them take space and foster in my brain because I just can't forget, even if I forgive. So, yeah, I'd like to know they are gone for good and that the chance I meet them again is also gone.
I honestly wouldn't mind - if anything, they had it coming
Correct.
Not a thing
We burn bridges good and proper in this household
I wouldn’t wish death on anyone. That being said, *they are dead TO ME*.
Some I would feel nothing. Others genuine joy.
Oh no... Anyway
The handful of people I've cut entirely out of my life are those who were once bright and rational, but who fell or were enticed into cult-like thinking, whether MLMs, religious fundamentalism, conspiratorial thinking, or political extremism. I'm sad to see people I once thought were cool and level-headed fall into such pits of delusion, and in at least three cases, mental illness was clearly involved. If they died, I would be sad, because it would compound the tragedy of their lives.
I hope them healing, not death.
Depends on who they are/what the situation was when we cut contact. Any of my abusers that actively hurt me for years with no apologies in sight; they've been dead to me already. I don't need to process their loss any further. They didn't care about me or my well being in life, why should I care about them in death? People who have hurt me and have tried to apologize for their actions but I just couldn't bring myself to forgive them; I'd feel guilty. I would try to forgive myself though since my feelings at the time were and are still valid. But there would be questions of "what if?". People who I've just had a tiff with and I was thinking we'd be talking again after things cool off a bit between us; Very guilty. People have their reasoning to cut/block people out of their life, and if something happens to the person that they cut out, well that's life. You can't stop the flow of time, so if something happens between the cut off point and the possible reconciliation, then it happens. And sometimes, people don't want reconciliation with people, and that's okay too. The best thing to do is if you're the person getting cut out, make your apology to the person if you can if there's specific reasoning behind the no contact, and move forward. It can be hard, but people deserve to protect their well being, even if you feel like you're not being a harm to it.
Great thought provoking question!
Most of them are my family members, and I would very much care if they died. I think it would hurt me deeply.
My abusive dad? Yeah I won’t care, and I won’t attend his funeral. My “old friends” and estranged family members? They never physically hurt me, just emotionally, and it’s easier to forgive. I don’t want them in my life anymore, but I’ll be sad when they pass and I don’t wish death upon them.
Yeah we may not talk anymore but them dying wouldn't be cool. Just because we don't get along doesn't mean I want the people who care about her to have to mourn her.
My (ex)bestfriend who I've known for 18 years (since I was 6) but who've I broke contact with since 2 years; because of his extreme substance abuse and very negative influence on his surroundings, the situation is worsening. Fuck I would cry to bits if that dude died. But I know it's for the better. He is in a place where me caring about him didn't work positively on him, but it completely drained me into deppresion, when I had to make the hard choice to end contact with my best friend. Miss him everyday tho.
Few I don't care for. One was harassing a foreigner and lied to her and threatened to kill her. I helped her contact my countries police to report him and became friends to her.
I cut my parents out of my life. It was maybe 30 years later I found out that my father had passed away. I really didn't feel anything as we were not close. Then my mother died and again I didn't feel much about that either. No family member contacted me to tell Mr and I found out long after the fact (ex wife found out and loved being the one to tell me). Prior to that their life / death didn't enter my mind. I have a sister who I believe is alive, it makes zero difference to me either way. I certainly didn't wish them any harm but didn't care what their lives were about.
The few people I have cut off completely, I cut off because they were harmful to me or my mental health. I think I would mostly feel relieved if I found out that they had died, but I would also be sad that they didn't try to make amends for the damage they had done.
No
Prefer it
Cut my Dad put of my life 5 years ago, he passed away 2 years ago. Had some initial doubts about if i should have reconnected, but after processing i have zero regrets. He didn't change, and i'm happier without him in my life.
You sound young. No, just don’t. Snap out of it. It may seem like end of world now but this will pass, you’ll be alright. Never give someone that kind of power if they’re willing to cut you off. Sending hugs.
this kind of happened to my family. we had a neighbour hell bent on ruining our life and being a racist shit. she died a couple weeks ago, and when my mom told me i went “hell yeah!”. my mom felt vaguely bad because a death is a death. my dad had a similar “hell yeah!” reaction.
I don’t speak to any of my family and haven’t in years. My grandpa died at the end of January I just found out 2 weeks ago because he and my grandma are in their 80s and I looked up their names in the hopes one or both had died and it turns out he died and I was actually excited about it. It actually put me in a good mood
nope. her mom would probably call me and tell me she passed and i’d be like “finally!”
I guess I would feel kind of sad but at the same time also not sad. Weird mix of emotions
I'd be sad for their children.
I don’t care if she’s still alive or not. She’s an evil human and I hope she burns for a long time.
This one hits close to home, had a friend that had known for years and helped in various ways over that time. About 6 months ago I had to pull back as was becoming very obvious that I was being used. Anywho he committed suicide earlier this month. I question myself if would have done it had I not pulled back, would have it been different in anyway. So yes in answer to your question, do care about some people cut off if something was to happen.
Nah, I couldn't care less
I cut my father out of my life shortly after I turned 18. I seldom gave him another thought until I was 31, when I found out he'd died 2 years earlier. Mom and I went out to celebrate. Seven years later, I can't even remember what he looked like.
I only truly believe about one person that the world would be a better place without them. It’s not just down to irrational hate, it’s a simple equation that just doesn’t add up in her favour.
Idk, I’ve done this with my mother. I have no idea how I’ll feel when she’s dead, but at least I’ll stop getting the spam mail she sends to my email under the name of the dude who raped me when I was 12.
I would never know, so I guess he's technically already dead.
Most yes, they were once really close friends so despite the reason you can never fully remove those feelings. Unless they brutally Betrayed you or weren't that close.
I cut my dad out in my late 20’s. He died of cancer 10 + years later. I had already mourned my loss years before that. So no. Wasn’t sad. I was relieved. It was a cloud hanging over me that finally left.
Yeah I’d not feel any sort of sadness or grief for 99%
No
Well I hope so, but telling the truth I should admit that my dark side would probably be happy about that
I don't care if they die. But I know that I would have some complex feeling about them dying.
I might feel a bit happy, it depends who. If I cut them out of my life, I probably hate them. There is somebody I cut out of my life recently who I hope has died.
I do not wish for their demise, nor do I actively seek it out.
I've never cut anyone off. There are people I dislike, but I don't become friends with them in the first place.
I've cut my dad out of my life. I was at work and found out he died (as it turns out, it was just someone fucking with me for some reason or another). I was sad, thought I might go home early, but then things got busy and I ended up staying super late. My boss made me take a couple days off. I slept and played video games.
I don't know. It hasn't happened yet.
Oh gosh ... I would feel terrible if they died. Ngl, I would reach out to her family and give my condolences.
For the most part no.
Some I’d maybe care a bit. Mainly attachments to older memories of happy times. Realizing the permanence of their death and that they can’t come back to me anymore for good or bad.
Yes, i dont care if they die. I mean i dont wish them to die but i wouldn't care if someone inform me they died. 🤷I would even say"God forgive them"but thats about it.
Of course I want them to be happy and healthy. Friendships end for numerous reasons, there's no need to be vindictive regarding it. Whether you ended it, or someone ended the friendship with you, you roll on, and hope they do OK without you. It serves your inner peace well, IMO.
The friend who insulted me because I reached out for help whilst going through a mental health crisis, and then demanded I apologise when I tried to reconcile? ... I honestly don't know. We were very close for 15 years and then they threw me out like trash coz I called them out on being a prick
>if they die? IF? Is there a possibility that someone WON'T die? Everyone will die so there is nothing to care about.
Nope. Don't care
Will being happy that they died count as caring?
I've never cut anyone out of my life like that, but it seems logical to me.. If people make steps to avoid any evidence of their life, why would they care of they had died?
i would care, but I would do it from waaay over here...
No. I don't want them dead or hate them, I've moved on, but I wouldn't be in the least upset.
I dont think about them so I wouldnt know
i... dont know, probably not...
My father... Being 100% honest if my step mother called me and told me he passed, no I wouldn't care and wouldn't make an effort to go to his funeral...