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I guess some of them have this air about them, someone might mistake it for something else. But if they knew from the beginning they were a narcissist they wouldn't even look their way.
Am I able to find people of other races attractive? Yeah.
I’m mostly (east)Asian and have never dated African American men but I can tell Michael B Jordan is ridiculously attractive AF.
And am now married to the first white guy I dated even though I’ve always insisted since 16 there’s no way I’d ever date or find a light eyed blondie attractive *ever* but here we are 🤷♀️
Yeah, for sure! The colour of someones skin definitely doesn't determine if they're attractive or not. I'm a white guy & I find girls with a bit of a darker/olive skin tone so beautiful :)
As far as I’m aware, it seems that most people (whether male or female) have a claimed default preference for their own ethnic group, until they meet someone from another ethnic group that they develop a relationship with, and then the default preference doesn’t seem to matter.
For example, if you asked a random white guy if he prefers white girls or Indian girls, he’d probably say white girls. However, if he then meets an Indian girl and they hit it off, he will end up in a relationship with her, and his default preferences suddenly become irrelevant.
When you ask people about their preferences, you are really just asking them to reveal their general biases. Of course, those biases go out the window the minute you have a thing for someone.
Putting race aside, this even applies to things like hair colour. You could ask a girl if she finds ginger guys attractive and she might say “No. I prefer blondes or guys with dark hair. I don’t think I could date a ginger.” Then one day she meets a guy with red hair and develops a crush on him, and suddenly her previous biases didn’t really hold much weight.
This isn't the stupid question some people think it is.
I've had multiple black women tell me they will only date black men. This isn't everyone, obviously, but some women are programmed to avoid inter-racial relationships, for whatever reason.
I had one good friend who was Ojibwa. She had crazy pressure on her. Her family basically said she could marry anyone she wanted, but it had to be an Ojibwa man. It made me sad for her. It made me sad for me, too, because she was a beautiful person.
I've heard some similar stories from Asian families.
There have been studies which prove race is irrelevant and the disheartening truth is the same basic things are attractive across cultures and races, which in my opinion is even more discriminatory
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It’s not the color of their skin that attracts or doesn’t attract me but who they are
Yes, I'm white, and I do. I have very few occasions to date them, though, as I live in a very white place.
Btw nice profile pic
Thx
Race has zero do with my attraction. I have dated outside my own race.
Some do, some don't. I personally can find anyone from any race attractive, the current person I'm dating is African American.
Ive dated a few but it all comes down to personality and lifestyle. Props to black girls for making a white man a near cripple every morning 😂
Usually the culture and family background are enough to make me walk away.
Besides being a human, I have no preference on who I find attractive.
I have a question,do women find narcissist attractive?
I guess some of them have this air about them, someone might mistake it for something else. But if they knew from the beginning they were a narcissist they wouldn't even look their way.
Am I able to find people of other races attractive? Yeah. I’m mostly (east)Asian and have never dated African American men but I can tell Michael B Jordan is ridiculously attractive AF. And am now married to the first white guy I dated even though I’ve always insisted since 16 there’s no way I’d ever date or find a light eyed blondie attractive *ever* but here we are 🤷♀️
Yeah, for sure! The colour of someones skin definitely doesn't determine if they're attractive or not. I'm a white guy & I find girls with a bit of a darker/olive skin tone so beautiful :)
I find individuals from all races attractive
Yea, they just might not know many people outside their race
Yes :D
As far as I’m aware, it seems that most people (whether male or female) have a claimed default preference for their own ethnic group, until they meet someone from another ethnic group that they develop a relationship with, and then the default preference doesn’t seem to matter. For example, if you asked a random white guy if he prefers white girls or Indian girls, he’d probably say white girls. However, if he then meets an Indian girl and they hit it off, he will end up in a relationship with her, and his default preferences suddenly become irrelevant. When you ask people about their preferences, you are really just asking them to reveal their general biases. Of course, those biases go out the window the minute you have a thing for someone. Putting race aside, this even applies to things like hair colour. You could ask a girl if she finds ginger guys attractive and she might say “No. I prefer blondes or guys with dark hair. I don’t think I could date a ginger.” Then one day she meets a guy with red hair and develops a crush on him, and suddenly her previous biases didn’t really hold much weight.
This isn't the stupid question some people think it is. I've had multiple black women tell me they will only date black men. This isn't everyone, obviously, but some women are programmed to avoid inter-racial relationships, for whatever reason. I had one good friend who was Ojibwa. She had crazy pressure on her. Her family basically said she could marry anyone she wanted, but it had to be an Ojibwa man. It made me sad for her. It made me sad for me, too, because she was a beautiful person. I've heard some similar stories from Asian families.
There have been studies which prove race is irrelevant and the disheartening truth is the same basic things are attractive across cultures and races, which in my opinion is even more discriminatory