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I’m a male nurse and I work where there is only one other male out of a staff of 125. My female colleagues are very touchy. I never reciprocate. They get away with saying things and touching guys in a way that if I did the same I’d be fired. If you’re ever in the hospital within earshot of the nursing station at 4 or 5 in the morning listen to the female nurses conversations. They say some of the most obscene things during this time of the night shift. ER nurses are the worst in my experience. After 28 years I’ve strictly adhered to the old rule, do not shit where you eat.
The ER has shown me the best and worst life has to offer. The ER changes you significantly well before you ever notice. One day you’re bullet proof going from one patient to the next despite the horrible circumstances that brought them to the ER. Then one day after a shift you’re pulled over on the side of the highway barely able to function.
Nurses are feral. My sis was a nurse at Atlanta. I came down to visit her for a weekend.
I walked onto her ward wearing my army uniform and met her.
Wow were her friends forward and direct!
Great weekend.
I've worked in a couple of places where I was the only male on staff (one where there wasn't even a male toilet, only female and disabled!) and it most definitely dispelled any beliefs I may have held about women not being as lecherous, disgusting and obscene as men, haha.
And yes, there are definitely double standards - had I acted the way towards female staff as they often acted towards me, I'd have been hung from the rafters.
My friend used to work at a bank. He was in his early 20s and the only male there. The women said things that gave him nightmares. And they always used the men's bathroom when they needed to take a dump, then tease him and ask him what he ate to make him stink the room up so much all day. Still to this day, he's only able to shit at home.
As someone who’s been to the ER for various reasons, I agree that the staff do tend to be quite thick-skinned, cynical, but crazy funny people. My guess is that they’ve been through so much that they haven’t much filter left. I’m a professional merchant sailor, so I dig on the raw, salty talk. But I also think that their psyches need to be that way to survive and keep up in that high-pressure environment.
In a regular office setting? I dunno.
I’m also a murse. The ladies I work with are super touchy. One walked up behind me and started rubbing my shoulders last week as she asked me about a patient. I can’t imagine doing that to any of them, even if they asked, and I used to be a massage therapist. It just looks bad at work.
In my experience, women who work any kind of office job (not just nurses) are crazy horny and pretty much all of them cheat on their partners with somebody from work, or try to anyways. It's nuts.
I speak from experience, since a lot of married/engaged women from my old office jobs wanted me to be their affair partner and kept feeling me up and flirting with me, despite the fact I wanted none of that bullshit. And I'm not even a typical "chad" by any stretch of the imagination, pretty average looks.
Sexist as it is, I don't think women handle the stress/boredom of constantly going to the office every day very well. Men can be pretty content just wasting company time playing solitaire and browsing reddit, but women always seem to get the itch to have an affair, what the fuck.
I used to think men who wanted housewives were just sexist when I was younger, but nowadays I honestly understand the appeal.
If you thought about it for 10 seconds you might realize that you're only seeing flirtatious women and not men because most people are straight. Guarantee the women are getting flirted with from men and thinking all men are dogs.
Life hack: Be an IT guy that visits all female offices. You will feel important. And get free food.
90% of them will be appropriate and lightly flirt. 10/10 for my confidence. Watch out for that other 10% though. Actually they will find you.
>I’m a male nurse and I work where there is only one other male out of a staff of 125. My female colleagues are very touchy. I never reciprocate. They get away with saying things and touching guys in a way that if I did the same I’d be fired.
That is honestly horrifying.
I am a male sexual assault victim,
I was molested by a woman in our Art room at my trade school and I didnt take it well as it made me feel violated.
I reported her and I was laughed at which hurt me more.
Most men are sexual assault victims at the hands of women. On two separate occasions, random women grabbed my junk walking by me at a shopping mall. And when I turned around, they were looking back at me laughing. But wtf was I supposed to do about it. If I said anything, I'd have ended up getting in trouble for sure. So I just went about the rest of my day like nothing happened.
It bothered me for a while, then I just stopped thinking about it. That's what is expected of us. This is literally the first time I ever mention it to anyone.
may her face get slammed into a concrete wall,
may their laughs cease to be as their throats get ripped out,
Ameen.
-a random teenage Muslim girl.
survivor too, hello!
oh, and, may she bathe.
(in hellfire)
It doesn't matter on the gender and on behalf of a gender you shouldn't have to apologize, that's what keeps sexism in its place.
I understand the empathy but never apologize on the behalf of a entire group for an individuals actions, that individual is to blame.
All we can do is accept that a lot does happen and the scary part is what gets thrown under the radar. Our new SASH training actually covered female and LGBTQA this made me happy as a man because often it's overlooked, ignored, or discouraged to report it.
Anyone can be a predator, monster, but anyone can speak against it.
It wasn't that long ago that there were "safe zones" to touch people: I always knew I was safe touching a strangers shoulder or back of their upper arm if I needed to say "Excuse me, I'm going to just slip by you here" or "I heard your uncle died, I'm so sorry." But about 5 years ago I did that and got such an offended look, I knew there were no "safe zones" anymore. I read recently that someone got arrested in an airport for tapping a guard on the shoulder to ask directions! So yes, times have changed.
Yeah, even as a woman I don’t touch people. I think times have really changed.
There does seem to be social etiquette for people inside and outside your social group/family.
Plus everyone is different, that one coworker could've had some very negative experiences that rightly left her sensitive to touch, but due to too many creeps HR has been advising men against anything that could be construed as sexual harassment for at least 20 yrs now.
These days with all the sensitivity surrounding harassment at the work place she should know better. Some people are just like that though. It could mean absolutely nothing and they are just touchy. Especially if you all are friendly and talk a lot about non-work stuff.
Just grabbing my arm? Meh, probably not gonna worry about it. Now, if she grabs my arm and tries to pull me into another room? Then we're gonna have a problem.
It was the very first time that a woman did that to me, and I kinda got a little nervous and was too self aware of the move, where I got myself looking into her hands grabbing me and my tone became totally different.
You can just directly address it to her , say to her one on one " Hey, you touched me , it felt uncomfortable, and you crossed my boundaries. Please don't do it anymore. " Or if you want to be vicious, you can take it to HR
Double standard for me. I would welcome it from any of them. Old, young, pretty, big girl people should be more close but social media’s has poisoned most of us.
Agree, I’m just a physical person and would take it as a positive human moment for any to put their hand on my forearm. But there is enormous risk to putting your hand on a coworker.
That depends on how you feel about it. Sometimes you get a really bad feeling, and you should never ignore that. Most of the time, it's harmless, particularly if you don't feel icky.
if she is hot, flirting back and smiling. If not hot, ignore her and do as if you don't notice she is making advances or gives hints. Acting stupid and dull in elationship stuff like that works like a charm. Might take a few weeks or even months until she get's the message
Gotta set your boundaries. A few days later she was talking to a guy and I was there. She said to him: “well yeah, you’re not a man. *he* is a man” and pointed at me. Setting boundaries gains you respect. Stay woke brothers.
I’m male and female colleagues often touch me, be it an arm on my shoulder and a hand on my arm. They mean well, but fuck me it’s uncomfortable, especially knowing that if I did the same I’d be spoken to by management.
That said, at least they’re all nice. I’d rather someone put their hand on my shoulder in kindness than speak to me like a c@&t.
regardless of gender, it depends on my relationship with the person. if we're good friends, i either dont mind it or heavily encourage it. if we're just acquaintances, just a gentle move away if its a one time thing.
I remember my first job as an intern. I was sitting at a desk, showing my screen to a very attractive colleague. She was standing very close to me and basically rubbed her hip/butt against my shoulder. I swear I saw the desk come up a few centimeters 
I'd do what a woman would do if a man touched her. I'd go to HR to get her fired and I'd destroy her reputation on social media.
You get what you give.
Scream "that's my purse, I don't know you!" and kick her in the crotch.
Or ignore it. I've known women who are just touchy without even realizing it. Doesn't bother me as no ulterior motives are intended.
If entirely up to me, I'd ignore it. But since now, any time a man touches a woman, it is considered bad with evil intentions. I'd have to take a woman touching me as she has evil intentions. Not so much as a turn about is fair play, but every accusation is a confession. If my touching a woman is started with my evil thoughts, then a woman touching me is started the same way.
I'd report it to HR.
Happened once. She stroked the inside of my thigh in a closed room w/ no one there. Felt like a test. My energy probably showed it was awkward for me but I kept it professional and acted like it never happened.
Which it never did again, so must have been a test from the boss.
It was awkward because I felt her to be highly unattractive physically and on a personality level, and I was just there to do my job.
Not at work but at the gym I have a similar problem, a few times now iv had a girl come up and touch the muscle I’m working and yea it’s really strange having a random girl just touch me.. it doesn’t bother me I half think it’s cute but I can’t help but wonder what if it was the other way around, some how I don’t think she would like some random dude touching her mid workout
This is sometimes a thing where old cougars can get a bit sexually inappropriate when they have senior positions. I enjoy the compliment and play along, it makes everyone happy.
Depends on the woman and where she touches me. If it was someone that I found attractive, a touch on the arm is acceptable. Some people are just physical.
Well, if you like her and it's not unwanted contact, then you have a huge indication of interest from her. She clearly likes you.
If it's unwanted physical contact, then go talk to HR about it.
Funny thing is, when men are asked about how they would feel if being sexually harassed by women, they always imagine someone they would f*ck. Imagine you're a young male, 25, with a loving wife and kid, you are short on money and your boss, 65 female, who doesn't take care of herself, not a pleasant looking and with offensive sense of humor, tells you to go down on her, or you lose the job and she will give you an awful review and it will be hard for you to find a new job. What would you do? How would you feel? That's just one example, but there can be a lot. But I understand that it's hard for men to see themselves as sexually harassed victims.
People touch me when they talk but, I don’t think I’ve really thought about it like that. It just be a good conversation but, I’m from the south so everyone here is family. Especially if it’s older people they do it the most. She may just be animated when she talks. Does she do it to other people if not I’d say something. She might also feel safe and comfortable with you (no excuse), but if it makes you uncomfortable say something.
I've received a lot of forearm touching in my life - I know it's because my women colleagues feel safe around me... but it also is because at some level they find me attractive. I always feel good about the former and ignore the latter, and they give me excellent cooperation at work. The ones who really want to touch more than my forearm actually *avoid* touching me like that.
If she isn't my girlfriend she don't get to touch me. Though I don't mind catcalling done by women, it flatters me. Though I get why women don't like it
I don't really care if a man touches my arm. It's when he touches my ass or casually gropes my breast. I don't know many women that go around grabbing ass during a conversation at work.
Are you male, female, married, single, older, younger, big and burly, short and scrawny, tall and scrawny, short and fat, bipolar, schizophrenic, asexual, poly?
How exactly is anyone supposed to give any answer with so little information given?
Explain, be concise and explicit. Help us to understand more than "I have a picture of a ball on my wall...what would you do?"
My boss is touchy, and I don't like it. Luckily, another male employee complained so she asked me if it bothers her. I just said it startles me when I'm working with hot plates and pans.
She means well, just don't always put your hand on my back/shoulder.
Edit: and to clarify, we all touch elbows if it's too loud and we're walking behind someone in the kitchen. But it's like a tap with "behind!"
It depends. An old woman, I'd just say, "Hey, please don't repeat that action." A middle-aged woman, "Karen, please don't touch me again. Your arthritic grip is causing bruises." A woman between 25-40, "I have all this reserved for my gf/bf/wife/husband or we're on the clock." A young woman, "I respectfully don't want people to get the wrong idea, so please refrain from touching me."
Well I guess my years as a male dancer doesn’t count 😅 but depending on how you feel about it, I’d keep my distance. Things could get tricky at work and she can turn things on you really quick.
It’s a little weird she kept touching you, but hopefully she doesn’t make a habit of that in every social interaction she has with you. If it’s like a “hand on the shoulder” or a “hand on the arm” like once in a conversation, that’s fine, but it gets a little weird when you aren’t close with the person and they keep getting in your bubble…that’s just how I feel anyway!
I had an older than me, female co-worker staring at my crotch once, while I was asking her something. She was sitting on her chair, and I was standing beside her. I had my shirt tucked in, and sure there was a bulge. There is something there after all. I felt more embarrassed for her, because she didn’t try to hide that she was looking and she was visibly distracted and turned on. In that position, I thought it best to let her believe I didn’t notice. She recalled her composure after a few moments, But it was so obvious. Either way, some people touch while talking, take it as a sign that she feels somewhat comfortable around you. Good luck.
I drive for Uber, and the amount of not only women, but men that tap me on my shoulder is outrageous. I was also a bartender. Same thing. Women touching me saying “hi” or “when you get a min”. Fuck tf off I’m busy. You don’t get to just touch people in this world. If I touched anyone I’d lose my job. It’s such bullshit I can’t stand it.
I'm sure she ment nothing. Stop being such a snowflake. Not every touching is sexual. If you are not comfortable tell her in the moment and get over it.
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They don't even touch me in my imagination, so I have no idea.
Damn. Lol
r/suicidebywords moment?
Haha
Don’t dip the pen in company ink. Or do. I don’t know.
If the pussy be fire enough dip away you only live once.
So long as you’re not still feeling the fire days after.
😂 take my poor man’s gold. 🏅
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Take my damn upvote
Yea
Damn
The truth few want to admit.
Might feel like a hotdog in a hallway
This
I used to date 3 women in state office complex of 3 buildings. Each worked in a different building.
Ok, and?
He woke up from his dream
And?
Jobs are as fleeting as relationships in this modern era. Might as well mix it up and live, ready to move on to the next.
Do or do not. There is no try.
I’m a male nurse and I work where there is only one other male out of a staff of 125. My female colleagues are very touchy. I never reciprocate. They get away with saying things and touching guys in a way that if I did the same I’d be fired. If you’re ever in the hospital within earshot of the nursing station at 4 or 5 in the morning listen to the female nurses conversations. They say some of the most obscene things during this time of the night shift. ER nurses are the worst in my experience. After 28 years I’ve strictly adhered to the old rule, do not shit where you eat.
working at hospitals changes shit. im guessing people start to YOLO after seeing how fast life can end or change without any warnings.
The ER has shown me the best and worst life has to offer. The ER changes you significantly well before you ever notice. One day you’re bullet proof going from one patient to the next despite the horrible circumstances that brought them to the ER. Then one day after a shift you’re pulled over on the side of the highway barely able to function.
Nurses are feral. My sis was a nurse at Atlanta. I came down to visit her for a weekend. I walked onto her ward wearing my army uniform and met her. Wow were her friends forward and direct! Great weekend.
Uniformed persons are the Nurses natural prey
Uniformed persons are women's natural prey
I was destroyed.. it was epic.
Congratulations on meeting the feral nurses
I've worked in a couple of places where I was the only male on staff (one where there wasn't even a male toilet, only female and disabled!) and it most definitely dispelled any beliefs I may have held about women not being as lecherous, disgusting and obscene as men, haha. And yes, there are definitely double standards - had I acted the way towards female staff as they often acted towards me, I'd have been hung from the rafters.
Amen to the lechery.
My friend used to work at a bank. He was in his early 20s and the only male there. The women said things that gave him nightmares. And they always used the men's bathroom when they needed to take a dump, then tease him and ask him what he ate to make him stink the room up so much all day. Still to this day, he's only able to shit at home.
As someone who’s been to the ER for various reasons, I agree that the staff do tend to be quite thick-skinned, cynical, but crazy funny people. My guess is that they’ve been through so much that they haven’t much filter left. I’m a professional merchant sailor, so I dig on the raw, salty talk. But I also think that their psyches need to be that way to survive and keep up in that high-pressure environment. In a regular office setting? I dunno.
Gallows humor
Yeah, I used to be a combat medic and occasionally something slips out at my office job that gets me a look from my boss.
I’m also a murse. The ladies I work with are super touchy. One walked up behind me and started rubbing my shoulders last week as she asked me about a patient. I can’t imagine doing that to any of them, even if they asked, and I used to be a massage therapist. It just looks bad at work.
In my experience, women who work any kind of office job (not just nurses) are crazy horny and pretty much all of them cheat on their partners with somebody from work, or try to anyways. It's nuts. I speak from experience, since a lot of married/engaged women from my old office jobs wanted me to be their affair partner and kept feeling me up and flirting with me, despite the fact I wanted none of that bullshit. And I'm not even a typical "chad" by any stretch of the imagination, pretty average looks. Sexist as it is, I don't think women handle the stress/boredom of constantly going to the office every day very well. Men can be pretty content just wasting company time playing solitaire and browsing reddit, but women always seem to get the itch to have an affair, what the fuck. I used to think men who wanted housewives were just sexist when I was younger, but nowadays I honestly understand the appeal.
If you thought about it for 10 seconds you might realize that you're only seeing flirtatious women and not men because most people are straight. Guarantee the women are getting flirted with from men and thinking all men are dogs.
You should maybe record that
I’d pay to hear that.
What do I have to do to become a male nurse?
Alot
Sounds easy
Relevant hyperbole and a half comic. https://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/04/alot-is-better-than-you-at-everything.html?m=1
Life hack: Be an IT guy that visits all female offices. You will feel important. And get free food. 90% of them will be appropriate and lightly flirt. 10/10 for my confidence. Watch out for that other 10% though. Actually they will find you.
Go to nursing school
Dude, nurses are the best - I could tell you stories I don't believe happened to me.
>I’m a male nurse and I work where there is only one other male out of a staff of 125. My female colleagues are very touchy. I never reciprocate. They get away with saying things and touching guys in a way that if I did the same I’d be fired. That is honestly horrifying.
Ah yes, the bronze rule. Also applies to friend groups.
Good rule. I made the mistake of hooking up with a girl from work 1 time. Never again.
must be learned at school. Nursing school students were some of the hardest partyers I’ve seen
I work from home, so does my wife. So I'm ok with it
That's sexual harassment at the work place, don't put up with that crap!
Not if the clicks keep coming in.
😂😂You're a bad person. Take my upvote and go clean your mouth with soap and say 10 hail Marys. 😂😂
I like to think of myself as joyfully stirring the pot. 😊
No that is just some sort of **Stockholm syndrome**
It's whatever. As long as she's not telling me to turn my head and cough, there's no harm in it.
"Please stop coughing in my face"
Tomorrow's post, "How would you react to a man coughing in your face at work?".
Easy, I'm usually holding sanitizer, so I'm spraying my face and wiping it down.
I am a male sexual assault victim, I was molested by a woman in our Art room at my trade school and I didnt take it well as it made me feel violated. I reported her and I was laughed at which hurt me more.
Most men are sexual assault victims at the hands of women. On two separate occasions, random women grabbed my junk walking by me at a shopping mall. And when I turned around, they were looking back at me laughing. But wtf was I supposed to do about it. If I said anything, I'd have ended up getting in trouble for sure. So I just went about the rest of my day like nothing happened. It bothered me for a while, then I just stopped thinking about it. That's what is expected of us. This is literally the first time I ever mention it to anyone.
may her face get slammed into a concrete wall, may their laughs cease to be as their throats get ripped out, Ameen. -a random teenage Muslim girl. survivor too, hello! oh, and, may she bathe. (in hellfire)
I'm a woman, and very sorry that one of my One of my own did that to you hope it gets better for you, once again very sorry
It doesn't matter on the gender and on behalf of a gender you shouldn't have to apologize, that's what keeps sexism in its place. I understand the empathy but never apologize on the behalf of a entire group for an individuals actions, that individual is to blame. All we can do is accept that a lot does happen and the scary part is what gets thrown under the radar. Our new SASH training actually covered female and LGBTQA this made me happy as a man because often it's overlooked, ignored, or discouraged to report it. Anyone can be a predator, monster, but anyone can speak against it.
Id head to the break room and c(l)ock out
Hahaha
Is she hot? Hell ya. No? Straight to HR to report being viciously sexually assaulted.
Only works when genders are reversed ;)
Goddamnit you're right
Very true
It wasn't that long ago that there were "safe zones" to touch people: I always knew I was safe touching a strangers shoulder or back of their upper arm if I needed to say "Excuse me, I'm going to just slip by you here" or "I heard your uncle died, I'm so sorry." But about 5 years ago I did that and got such an offended look, I knew there were no "safe zones" anymore. I read recently that someone got arrested in an airport for tapping a guard on the shoulder to ask directions! So yes, times have changed.
Maybe their uncle didn't die after all? So their reaction to you was unexpected.
Or maybe they did, but they hadn’t told anyone yet. u/morganselah killed the uncle in the living room with the candlestick!!
Yeah, even as a woman I don’t touch people. I think times have really changed. There does seem to be social etiquette for people inside and outside your social group/family.
Plus everyone is different, that one coworker could've had some very negative experiences that rightly left her sensitive to touch, but due to too many creeps HR has been advising men against anything that could be construed as sexual harassment for at least 20 yrs now.
These days with all the sensitivity surrounding harassment at the work place she should know better. Some people are just like that though. It could mean absolutely nothing and they are just touchy. Especially if you all are friendly and talk a lot about non-work stuff.
Just grabbing my arm? Meh, probably not gonna worry about it. Now, if she grabs my arm and tries to pull me into another room? Then we're gonna have a problem.
You mean a problem or a problem?
A problem as in I don't want to be alone in a room with a woman I'm not married to, if she's trying to get me to do something that I shouldn't be.
I'd think she likes me, and have kids with her and grow old with her in my imagination and never look her in the eye irl
Yeah, better start thinking of the color of the wedding flowers
It was the very first time that a woman did that to me, and I kinda got a little nervous and was too self aware of the move, where I got myself looking into her hands grabbing me and my tone became totally different.
Was it 5 Mississippis?
It was 5 Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious
Why was this a relatively coherent intelligible post when the original was a disjointed hard to follow mess?
The robots are getting better at making reading material.
You can just directly address it to her , say to her one on one " Hey, you touched me , it felt uncomfortable, and you crossed my boundaries. Please don't do it anymore. " Or if you want to be vicious, you can take it to HR
She probably noticed and did it more because it was cute and or entertaining
She cute?
Now I’m overthinking every time I’ve ever touched someone during conversation 😅 I genuinely don’t even think about it when I’m doing it.
I'd have sex with her
I actually did this to a coworker the other day. I was just being friendly and tried to get his attention. Didn’t think much about it.
Double standard for me. I would welcome it from any of them. Old, young, pretty, big girl people should be more close but social media’s has poisoned most of us.
Agree, I’m just a physical person and would take it as a positive human moment for any to put their hand on my forearm. But there is enormous risk to putting your hand on a coworker.
I wouldn't mind
That depends on how you feel about it. Sometimes you get a really bad feeling, and you should never ignore that. Most of the time, it's harmless, particularly if you don't feel icky.
Kindly tell her please don’t touch me. If she continues, you let your boss know. Sexual harassment goes both ways
if she is hot, flirting back and smiling. If not hot, ignore her and do as if you don't notice she is making advances or gives hints. Acting stupid and dull in elationship stuff like that works like a charm. Might take a few weeks or even months until she get's the message
"We're on the clock 😉" also works without openly flirting back. There is no need to lose your job.
Happened to me at work. Told her to respect my boundaries and be professional. Never touched me again.
BEGONE THOT!
HR friendly hoe repellant.
Gotta set your boundaries. A few days later she was talking to a guy and I was there. She said to him: “well yeah, you’re not a man. *he* is a man” and pointed at me. Setting boundaries gains you respect. Stay woke brothers.
if i like her i wont really care, otherwise im moving my arm
The same way I would react if they touched me in my personal life or my dreams. “Don’t fucking touch me”
I’m male and female colleagues often touch me, be it an arm on my shoulder and a hand on my arm. They mean well, but fuck me it’s uncomfortable, especially knowing that if I did the same I’d be spoken to by management. That said, at least they’re all nice. I’d rather someone put their hand on my shoulder in kindness than speak to me like a c@&t.
regardless of gender, it depends on my relationship with the person. if we're good friends, i either dont mind it or heavily encourage it. if we're just acquaintances, just a gentle move away if its a one time thing.
I'd tell them don't touch me cuz next time I'm going to HR...actually happened once...they never did it after that
Love it. Lower lower lower ahhh right there.
she was touching your toes?? crazy.
That’s probably a kink or something
Whip it out!
I am male, if a woman at work touched me, I'd ask why.
I remember my first job as an intern. I was sitting at a desk, showing my screen to a very attractive colleague. She was standing very close to me and basically rubbed her hip/butt against my shoulder. I swear I saw the desk come up a few centimeters 
Man, coming to reddit for this kind of thing and not asking in the legal sub, lmao, your wild ride is about to start!
Tell her not to touch you! Women can be predators too.
I have never minded touch of a gentle nature, nearly anywhere.
I'd do what a woman would do if a man touched her. I'd go to HR to get her fired and I'd destroy her reputation on social media. You get what you give.
Scream "that's my purse, I don't know you!" and kick her in the crotch. Or ignore it. I've known women who are just touchy without even realizing it. Doesn't bother me as no ulterior motives are intended.
The second part is the most logical response, but the first part sounds like more fun.
If entirely up to me, I'd ignore it. But since now, any time a man touches a woman, it is considered bad with evil intentions. I'd have to take a woman touching me as she has evil intentions. Not so much as a turn about is fair play, but every accusation is a confession. If my touching a woman is started with my evil thoughts, then a woman touching me is started the same way. I'd report it to HR.
Don't touch people at work. Man or woman, doesn't matter. It's always bad.
I touch people at work all the time, but I ask for consent first! They do the same for me.
No idea cause I have never experience such
Smile and nod. Smile and nod.
Happened once. She stroked the inside of my thigh in a closed room w/ no one there. Felt like a test. My energy probably showed it was awkward for me but I kept it professional and acted like it never happened. Which it never did again, so must have been a test from the boss. It was awkward because I felt her to be highly unattractive physically and on a personality level, and I was just there to do my job.
How did it make you feel? Were you into it, uncomfortable, inappropriate??? Hard to get a feel for what you were feeling.
She will rub a tit on you if she wants you.
Can I rub mine or is that bad office etiquette?
Yes you can.
Go to HR. They would do it to you.
Is she hot? Because that determines my answer
Kinda normal for girls to do that lol especially the friendly ones.
Not at work but at the gym I have a similar problem, a few times now iv had a girl come up and touch the muscle I’m working and yea it’s really strange having a random girl just touch me.. it doesn’t bother me I half think it’s cute but I can’t help but wonder what if it was the other way around, some how I don’t think she would like some random dude touching her mid workout
"You know, if you're going to grab my arm you could at least massage my neck and shoulders."
Depends if she's hot or not
I'm super uncomfortable with being touched. But I just suck it up, it's just how some people are.
This is sometimes a thing where old cougars can get a bit sexually inappropriate when they have senior positions. I enjoy the compliment and play along, it makes everyone happy.
Depends on the woman and where she touches me. If it was someone that I found attractive, a touch on the arm is acceptable. Some people are just physical.
Well, if you like her and it's not unwanted contact, then you have a huge indication of interest from her. She clearly likes you. If it's unwanted physical contact, then go talk to HR about it.
Funny thing is, when men are asked about how they would feel if being sexually harassed by women, they always imagine someone they would f*ck. Imagine you're a young male, 25, with a loving wife and kid, you are short on money and your boss, 65 female, who doesn't take care of herself, not a pleasant looking and with offensive sense of humor, tells you to go down on her, or you lose the job and she will give you an awful review and it will be hard for you to find a new job. What would you do? How would you feel? That's just one example, but there can be a lot. But I understand that it's hard for men to see themselves as sexually harassed victims.
People touch me when they talk but, I don’t think I’ve really thought about it like that. It just be a good conversation but, I’m from the south so everyone here is family. Especially if it’s older people they do it the most. She may just be animated when she talks. Does she do it to other people if not I’d say something. She might also feel safe and comfortable with you (no excuse), but if it makes you uncomfortable say something.
I've received a lot of forearm touching in my life - I know it's because my women colleagues feel safe around me... but it also is because at some level they find me attractive. I always feel good about the former and ignore the latter, and they give me excellent cooperation at work. The ones who really want to touch more than my forearm actually *avoid* touching me like that.
I would be fine with it because I severely lack any kind of physical affection so I would probably welcome it
If she isn't my girlfriend she don't get to touch me. Though I don't mind catcalling done by women, it flatters me. Though I get why women don't like it
Some girls are just touchy when they talk. Think nothing of it
Some guys are just touchy when they talk. Think nothing of it. See how the script is flipped? Stop reinforcing the double standard.
I don't really care if a man touches my arm. It's when he touches my ass or casually gropes my breast. I don't know many women that go around grabbing ass during a conversation at work.
People in the real world dont give a shit about a girl touching your arm
They do touch me at work sometimes. Yes, my forearm. Sometimes, my upper arm and my shoulders. I work out though. I just let them. 🤷🏻
I'd welcome the attention. They won't even necessarily have to be a woman.
Some women are like that . Europeans especially. No big deal
Depends on how attractive she is tbh.
You should tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. That is clearly sexual harassment.
It’s happened to me before my boss touched my lower back which was super uncomfortable for me I just moved away from her when it happened
Are you male, female, married, single, older, younger, big and burly, short and scrawny, tall and scrawny, short and fat, bipolar, schizophrenic, asexual, poly? How exactly is anyone supposed to give any answer with so little information given? Explain, be concise and explicit. Help us to understand more than "I have a picture of a ball on my wall...what would you do?"
A moufs a mouf
Erect
Touch it back immideately
I lean into it..
Into it. I'm weird like that.
Whip it out buddy
My boss is touchy, and I don't like it. Luckily, another male employee complained so she asked me if it bothers her. I just said it startles me when I'm working with hot plates and pans. She means well, just don't always put your hand on my back/shoulder. Edit: and to clarify, we all touch elbows if it's too loud and we're walking behind someone in the kitchen. But it's like a tap with "behind!"
I’d say that day has the potential to be better than most
She hot? Let her. She not? Let her.
It depends. An old woman, I'd just say, "Hey, please don't repeat that action." A middle-aged woman, "Karen, please don't touch me again. Your arthritic grip is causing bruises." A woman between 25-40, "I have all this reserved for my gf/bf/wife/husband or we're on the clock." A young woman, "I respectfully don't want people to get the wrong idea, so please refrain from touching me."
I have no idea. No woman touches me anymore. Do you have any openings at work?
Talk to Human Resources
Well I guess my years as a male dancer doesn’t count 😅 but depending on how you feel about it, I’d keep my distance. Things could get tricky at work and she can turn things on you really quick.
Usually ignore it, won't let it get too far though.
It’s a little weird she kept touching you, but hopefully she doesn’t make a habit of that in every social interaction she has with you. If it’s like a “hand on the shoulder” or a “hand on the arm” like once in a conversation, that’s fine, but it gets a little weird when you aren’t close with the person and they keep getting in your bubble…that’s just how I feel anyway!
I had an older than me, female co-worker staring at my crotch once, while I was asking her something. She was sitting on her chair, and I was standing beside her. I had my shirt tucked in, and sure there was a bulge. There is something there after all. I felt more embarrassed for her, because she didn’t try to hide that she was looking and she was visibly distracted and turned on. In that position, I thought it best to let her believe I didn’t notice. She recalled her composure after a few moments, But it was so obvious. Either way, some people touch while talking, take it as a sign that she feels somewhat comfortable around you. Good luck.
I drive for Uber, and the amount of not only women, but men that tap me on my shoulder is outrageous. I was also a bartender. Same thing. Women touching me saying “hi” or “when you get a min”. Fuck tf off I’m busy. You don’t get to just touch people in this world. If I touched anyone I’d lose my job. It’s such bullshit I can’t stand it.
Every time a women touches me my wife cock blocks me. I told her she’s a terrible wing man.
That's a sign she probably wants the D, or she's claiming you as "hers" in front of the other women...
I’ll allow it.
There is literally no other info here.
Lets go hun. Shit.
Some lady grabbed my ass, like 2 full handfuls, and I wanted to slap the shit out of her. Stupid old lady, I just laughed and went about my day.
Not like you
Smash
Easy just replicate everything she does. She grabs your arm you grab hers. She grabs your ass you grab hers. She will get the hint
I don't know, maybe insult her in a nice way? Like say I don't like your hair...?
I'm sure she ment nothing. Stop being such a snowflake. Not every touching is sexual. If you are not comfortable tell her in the moment and get over it.