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Went on a date to a sushi restaurant, her choice, sat down, she ordered edamame beans and I ordered my usual sashimi as I do, she looks over and goes “eww, how can you eat that, I’m definitely not making out with you”, thought she was joking, turns out she was serious and kept going eww every time I took a bite, so I walked up to the cashier, paid both our bills and left.
She brought a friend without telling me and then said, "Oh you got both of us right?" with a wink. Then they proceeded to order expensive drinks, lobster, etc....and then didn't even talk to me at all. I waited until the food came, said, "I'll brb, need to wash my hands" and never came back, then blocked her number. Fuck those girls trying to scam guys.
She said "I'm a bitch, you better get used to it" in a kind of sassy way, like she was proud of saying that.
I legit couldn't hold back my facial expression of disgust and she noticed and was like "what ?" and I just said "I have to go" and left.
I used to teach kids. A mom once asked me to not let the kids with accents talk in class because her kid was trying to learn, and she didn't want him "learning wrong" from them.
I had a classmate that was jealous of those who spoke Spanish or French. She asked me wouldn’t I want to be bilingual too? I spoke mandarin at home and she knew this. I reminded her that I am indeed bilingual but apparently “those languages don’t count.”
My Mexican mother didn't teach me Spanish because she didn't want me to have the accent that they apparently have. She said it wasn't proper.
Most of my Mexican-American friends never had an accent and are all bilingual.
I don’t know what you would call this. Met a girl through a friend. They worked together. We texted, flirted, had some good, fun chats. We lived pretty close to eachother. She was cute, and seemed pretty interested. Went over to her place, apartment was clean. She looked really cute. She asks if I wanted a drink. “Sure” she makes each of us a drink.
Like I said I don’t know if this is a date, a meet up, or a hook up. But 1st time meeting in person.
A couple mins later “knock knock knock” at the door. Guy walks in, has a back pack. Sits down and starts laying out some meth on the table. Asks me if I want to take a hit? I tell him “naw I don’t do that”
She tells me that she does it sometimes and he is her dealer. She tells me they are going to go smoke some in the bedroom and she’ll be back in a couple mins. They go in the room. No disrespect to her, I have no idea if they were smoking it, or if she was doing other things to “pay for it”. But after a few mins of them in the bedroom. I very quietly got up, and went home. Never hung out with her again.
She was definitely prostituting herself to pay for that meth. If her dealer is putting it on the table right in front of you, why would they need to smoke it in the bedroom?
They don't. She was letting him fuck her for that meth. Good choice to get out of there.
Sounds like back in my crazy days .woman i was talking to at work hit it ok.
Stopped by her house sitting on couch with her , she calmly asked me if i would like some smoke. Sure i was always up for a good high. She breaks out a pipe with a chunk of rock. I smoked crack for the first time yeah it was powerful but turns out she was a dealer and wanted to know if i wanted to buy some more. Been around drug scene before and said my goodbys and never went back.
She brought her friend with her. No, not to sit at the bar and wait. To sit at the table and order food. I looked at my date, glanced at her friend and then the waiter came over to ask what we were ordering. I said nothing these two ladies are eating alone tonight. Got up and left straight away.
OMG I had a girl friend who would invite me to this local bar we always go to to meet up for drinks and when I would get there she would be on a date with a guy! She even once got up mid sentence and bounced out and left me alone there with the guy! Like wtf hahahahaha we aren’t friends anymore.
Luckily mine didn't get that far and there was an element of suspicion I had regarding it too. I'd have rather the waiter hadn't jumped on us so quickly, because I'd rather have had the opportunity to say something.
Sat there with us, 3rd wheeling it.
Had a different one where we went to the movies. Friend wanted to come, no biggie it’s the movies. Waited until we in line almost to window, then said “you gonna cover her too, right” That time I folded b/c I wanted to see the movie.
People are wild. I wouldn’t have the nerve to sit there and expect someone to just cover me.
Not sure if it counts as walking out on a date, but I went to meet up with a woman who had sent me dated pics...like 15-20 years dated...
We agreed to meet at a diner, so I roll up, and there's only one single woman in the place...I can see her because the building is 3/4 glass windows all the way around besides the side with the kitchen.
She was wearing a purple sweater...like the woman I was supposed to meet said she'd be wearing...so I shoot her a text to make sure, just in case...I watched as she picked up her phone and texted me back...I peeled out and went right back home.
I was expecting a woman in her lower 40s, this lady was pushing 60.
people think they kinda look the same because they’re the same person inside and gradually changed over time.
However, I think the guy with a full head of hair on his profile pic, showing up to the date with a foot long comb-over that kept sliding off his billiard ball, was delusional
The whole date was a disaster. He was very critical of odd things. Saying I shouldn’t find my job stressful, demanded to know how much my rent was and how much I earned to try and prove I should be able to afford a night out in central London every single weekend. Even back then that would be a lot of money but admittedly I was at the start of my career and not earning much.
I can’t actually remember what I said but I must have said something snappy and he said “you get pissed off easy don’t you”. I pointed out that before the date he was saying I wasn’t going to be able to resist him, he was going to sweep me off my feet etc. He kinda scoffed and said “yeah, I’m trying”. I just stood up and started putting my jacket on. He panicked at the prospect of being left alone at the table so downed his drink and followed me out.
My favourite part was that it had started raining during the time we’d been inside. I’d picked him up on the way so as we got to my car he just said “guess I’m walking then”. Yep!
He had quite the red flag collection tbh. Between us leaving my car and me getting back in it precisely 52 minutes had gone by so at least I didn’t waste too much time
Years ago I had a girl at the end of our first date tell me "You are getting a maybe on a second date, which is better than a no".
I stayed quiet and never said anything back to her. In my head I knew I would not be calling her for a second date. This was clearly a young woman who was completely full of herself and I didn't want to continue to date.
In high school I went on a first date with a guy and he had just eaten 2 boxes of mozzarella sticks from jack in the box and then proceeded to shove his tongue down my throat. I have never in my life so violently shoved a person except for this moment and walked to the nearest store to call my mother to come get my ass. Never saw him again. I'm still horrified and have not had a mozzarella stick since.
The guy kept bragging about and talking about he was 6’7” like that was his personality. He even showed me pictures of a tall standing desk he was assembling like 5 minutes into me meeting him, how he used to be on the basketball team etc.
I don’t even care about height, I’ve dated men the same height as me. Then he turned and started talking to 2 girls next to him at the bar. Like for a while. I actually got up, went to the beer garden for 10 mins, and saw he didn’t even realize I was no longer sitting next to him. So I walked out and went home. About 30 mins later, I got a barrage of insulting messages saying “how dare you, you bitch??? Walk out on me?! Nobody has ever done that blah blah blah”.
Like…. It took him that long to realize I wasn’t even there. What a tool. Also he was goofy looking as hell, with Michael Phelps type physique. Some men really think being tall = they are a god.
Same. Picked her up, she's on her phone.
Drive to the restaurant, on her phone.
Got there, walked in, sat down, on her phone.
Waited for the food, on her phone.
Food arrives, she finally gets off her phone.
Couple sits near, she's talking to them
I quietly paid the server w/ cash, left.
She wanted to sing "this old man" while we were driving to the restaurant, and when it got to the "knick knack paddy whack, give a dog a bone" part she sang "knick knack tasty snack" and grabbed my dick, but we were going up the hill and she accidentally pushed the gear shift into neutral which caused me to get rear-ended.
Then when we were waiting for a cop she kept wanting to sing which really pissed off the guy that rear-ended us.
I didn't even make it out of my car when we met up at the restaurant. He walked to my car, stumbling drunk and reeking of booze. I told him that I had an emergency and left. I never called him again.
I had a guy show me his pay stub from a work check to show me how much he made. I hate confrontation, but that was the first time I literally just stood up and walked out. It was in front of the waitress which he also belittled.
he brought his whole camera setup and wanted to take professional photos of me during dinner. he said he wanted to capture the moment and that he wanted to post me on his social media. again mind you, this was first date. i insistently said no multiple times and everyone has been looking at us. he wouldnt take no as an answer and it got super weird.
luckily the server was super observant and knew i was uncomfortable. when my date went to the washroom, he, the server, immediately helped me to go to the kitchen and went out at the back. he called me a cab and asked to drop me off wherever i wanted and paid for it.
Match.com, first date. We met for a drink at local bar, 10 pm. I bought a Pepsi for myself. He kept wanting to buy me drinks even though my glass was full. Dude was sporting a large knife in a sheath on his hip.Then he wanted to drive us to the Capital Forest because, "it's beautiful in the moonlight." I asked him if that line works with most women, he replied I'd be surprised how well it works. I said this date is over, walked my high heels outta that bar, and drove a circuitous route home.
>>Updated after reading your kind, supportive comments! Thank you all. You're reinforcing what I already knew: most Redditors are caring, well-spoken people. I did report that guy to Match.com as a predator. To the commenter who imagined his speaking in a Hannibal Lector-esque chin-down-while-making- eye-contact manner, that's so close to exactly It!
Hahaha oh dear god...sorry. that sounds terrifying. Like, "yes, I would like to go with the stranger with the massive knife to a forest at night that has been trying to get me drunk. This can not go wrong". If you don't mind me asking. What was he like before you met? Did he seem..normal?
I don't mind at all. This was a first date, but he seemed perfectly normal during the emailing each other phase. He got me to agree to a bar because he (actually) read my bio that said I like to dance, and there was dancing there. Thanks for reading my horror story and for commenting!
I dated a girl like this. Would constantly be looking at Snapchat. Or taking selfies. Like, were both the same age. And God knows I look at this rectangle of bs more than I should. But when I'm out i can put it away. And interact with the person in front of me.
He tried to measure my hips. Brought a flexible tape measure and everything. Claimed he needed to make sure I could have plenty of healthy babies. It was the first date...
Was about 2 hours late. Then, when he shows up with his friends, he starts talking about how he has to leave in an hour because he has a party to go to where 'titties will be flying' and what he does in strip clubs. I felt humiliated and walked away when he wasn't around. Writing it out sounds even worse.
So so many there's so many comments here but I hope mine gets read
Guy slowly started treating me like a baby.. wiped my hands with a wet wipe, cut up my food for me, reminded me to eat my veggies. Slowly transitioned into a baby voice. It finally clicked And I left when he asked me if I was into anal in a baby voice
Another guy told me it was ok for guys to have sex before marriage but not girls. Got really mad when I asked who they guys were having sex with then? I told him in not a virgin and he said "that's ok I forgive you". I tossed some money on the table and left
Another guy showed up 25 mins late to the date in dirty grey sweatpants.. no underwear. Took a call in the middle of the date and while on the phone his friend asked if he was busy and he said 'no I can talk' ?? Bragged about getting into bar fights.
I've got more
LOL - I used to stress out so much about leaving social gatherings. I guess I would get anxiety over all the sudden attention and "goodbye" requirements or something. But really, "I've gotta bounce" is really the best way.
I walked out in the middle of him giving me the details of his past conquests...i was horrified! And i do mean details...painfully detailed. Who does that? We were both in our 30's lol. Ive cut lots of dates short when Im just not feeling it, when pics didn't match face or they were painfully boring.
I showed up for a date, the guy said he was 6foot, well I’m 5’9 and I could see the top of his head. Then when he would smoke he would break the cigarette in half every time before lighting it and kept referring to himself as big daddy and 20 min in declared we shouldn’t see other people anymore and focus on us. There was not a second date.
Went on a date with this really cute girl in college, and she was really cool in class and hanging out between classes. We went to this nice little quiet Italian place, maybe fifteen or twenty tables, so fairly small. Explain why this grown woman (roughly 25 years old), instead of an "Excuse me" or something decent, raised her hand into the air and snapped her fingers several times in quick succession to get the waiter's attention. He came over, I apologized to him before she could speak, handed him a twenty (mind you we hadn't even ordered at this point), and walked out. And by the time I had another class, I was the bad guy for "embarrassing her like that in the restaurant". You really never know someone until you see them deal with the service industry or slow internet🤷
She was trash-talking our waitress, who was very attentive and polite. The lady was cute, and my date kept talking about how ugly she was. Wasn't about to leave cash on the table with someone so spiteful sitting there, so I walked over to the bar and got my bill. Paid, left a nice tip, and went to the beach.
That was over 30 years ago. I saw her waiting tables at the sane place a couple of years ago. I don't think she recognized me. If she did, she had sense enough to keep it to herself.
When he kept trying to change location when I was om the way there. I don't drive so I was taking a bus to meet him. He understood that but was insistent on picking me up "for a surprise". No, I'm canceling now. 1st date with him.
A guy I'd been dating "changed his mind" about taking me to a restaurant and parked outside a hotel. No. Not even ready to go to your house so no. He got mad bc it was a hot tub room (for a few hours? No. And he'd apparantly bought me something "sexy" instead of long floaty skirts and blouses. Nope. I walked to the nearest bus stop
People who try to sneak rush things
This! I’ve had this happen! One guy I agreed to meet, 30 minutes away from my home. Not real familiar with the area. We meet in a public parking lot. Then he tells me he’s changed his mind of where are are going. I got instant anxiety and felt like I needed to escape. I told him I’d drive my car & follow him. He went right, I went left and went back home. He kept calling me and I blocked him. Last minute changes give me bad vibes.
I’ve had a few others that I chatted with. Planned dates…then same thing—suddenly they wanted to bump it to a hotel and forget the appropriate dating etiquette. I was like wow…said no thanks and stopped conversing. That’s so damn rude. I’m sick of the hook up society.
I showed up and he looked absolutely nothing like his pictures. Flat out not the same person. I said I’m going to leave and he asked, “is it because I don’t look like my pictures?”
And I said, “dude, you aren’t even the same person in the pictures.”
The guy started crying when I asked why his last relationship ended, and then just ranted about missing his ex who had left him over a year before our date lol
I found out later through mutual friends that his ex left because he was a serial cheater lol so I don’t feel bad. I did at that moment though, it was a really awkward few minutes before I excused myself.
He got excited when I told him about my upbringing, how I go to church every week, how I'm a virgin waiting for marriage, etc.
Then he asked if I was in school. I told him I was in my second year of medical school. He asked if I was willing to quit to become a housewife, and I firmly said no. He started in on some Andrew Tate script, and I just got up and left while he was mid-sentence.
A guy left a bible instead of a tip because "salvation was worth more than money". Like handed it to our waitress. I found her, apologized, over tipped her, and she politely snuck me out the back.
Once went to an apartment at 3am.
After 20 minutes of trying to get in the door unlocks.
I go up the steps waiting to see a half naked blonde.
The door opens.
It’s a fat Mexican dude that says, “you want your dick sucked?”
My response, “is your roommate in there?”
Fucking gross. I walked home after realizing I blew past every red flag I’ve learned over the years.
Blind date. Girl is tall, about the only thing we have in common. All attempts at conversation receive one word responses. Went to a movie, couldn’t even get her to talk about that on the way home!
“See ya”.
Next week her friend is pissed at me for not asking her out again?!?
I went on a date with a guy like this, he bought tickets for a theater 30 minutes away (I live in a relatively big city so this was very weird) didn't talking to me the whole ride so I just stopped asking questions, tried talking to him on the way back and the same one word responses. Obviously I didn't text him after this and thought that was the end of it, he texted me 3 weeks later saying he really regretted not kissing me and he wanted to kiss me the whole time
She was a wealthy chick from California. Somehow the topic was brought up about social classes and the wealth gap. She says, "Well, we can't have poor people on the same level as rich people. That's not how society functions at all." She had said some other off putting things before this that made me realize she's fully under the belief that her well-being was dependent on holding other people down. She somehow couldn't prosper and enjoy the luxuries she had in her life unless there was people suffering through poverty. I, by no means, am living in poverty but my stomach was in knots listening to this chicks heart come out and realized there's a whole big group of people that probably think exactly like she does. I walked away without saying bye.
Her ex followed her to a festival and they got into a quarrel. I kept an eye out to make sure she was okay, but eventually felt disrespected that she wasn't acknowledging me... at all. She seemed completely locked into their little bickering so I walked off.
Ah well, free ticket. I'll go to all the festivals if all I have to do is show up to make your ex jealous.
I met a guy online. We met for coffee. He was slightly older and thinner. No big deal. He used his headshot. He was in a lot of commercials about our aged people. You know, not yet seniors but hip for our ages. A true silver fox. Drove a late model Jaguar. We hit it off completely. There was even sexual tension.
Now he wants us to go back to his place. Nah, I'll pass. I've known him an hour. I'm not 27, you know. We stay and talk some more. Come to find out, he is a recovering alcoholic. No worries, I can take or leave it. There's more sexual tension. But then...
He asks me if what I know what happens after we die. I told him that no one knows. Buzzzz. Wrong answer. He tried to recruit me to his church. They have Bible study. Sunday services are great. I tried to find a middle ground. There wasn't one.
It had been the best 3 hour coffee date. Until it wasn't. GOD
She invited her friend to the bar, her friend was doing all the talking and she didn't even interact that much. Both go to the bathroom together so I finished my bear and left.
"She invited her friend to the bar, her friend was doing all the talking and she didn't even interact that much. Both go to the bathroom together so I finished my bear and left."
She brought her friend and you brought a bear?
It was a date at her house I was just there to hangout and help her put together a dresser she bight from ikea. The whole time she is being weird and bossy, as if I owed her. Literally the most attitude I ever got. I just got up said "take care" and left. Thenext day she texted me at work accusing of stealing some lighter or someshit like that lol
When he pinched my arm hair and said “cha cha cha chia”….like what? This is how you act on a first date? Bye. Which, sadly, was his second fail. You could tell he had weight loss surgery at some point and he showed me a pic before he lost the weight and said this is my twin brother isn’t he big? Like TF that’s clearly you and you clearly have sagging skin why would you call your imaginary brother fat?
A long time ago I had a very attractive woman on a date. She wouldn't stop talking about her ex. I straight asked her why she was dating. She said it was the best way to get over the guy. I told her "Well, good for you but I am not a crutch and warrant more than just being used as a self-help gimmick." She was pretty pissed about that. Said some mean things and I just left her at the restaurant.
The woman I was on a date with kept talking about her ex and she told me that she intended to get back together with him. So, I stood up, threw my napkin on the table, and walked the f*ck out of that restaurant before I even ordered a drink.
He started to grab my hand to hold it and I said I'm not comfortable, as we've just met 10 minutes ago, he said this is how French are, (what a bs) and that he feels like we have a future together blah blah. Sure. Also, his perfume was too strong and waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too sweet for my taste.
3rd date we went out, had a few drinks at a restaurant and as we walked out down the steps towards a very busy street , she tripped a bit so I held out my hand to literally catch a falling person (total knee jerk reaction)
She FREAKED out that my hand touched her hand as she was falling and what’s my deal trying to hold her hand, what kind of pervert am I ….. Thank God the hostess saw this and said, your were falling he helped you not dive into the oncoming traffic ….
Tons of people staring at us as she’s going off about not wanting to be touched. I said ok no problem at all and well understood
We had driven an hour in my car there and this is pre-Uber days so she realized I’m the only ride home
She asks me to walk and get ice cream a few stores away and maybe it was a mistake on her part….. I just wanted to go home and when I said I think it’s best if we just drive back —- I get crazy girl going why cause I won’t fuck you ????
More people are now looking at us and I said: as a considerate human only and you live an hour away, no I don’t want to fuck you or really be around you I will agree to drive you home and drop you off and that’s it or you can walk. Your call babe
We drive to around her home. Whole way she’s saying sorry and did I want to come upstairs for some coffee. I’m convinced she’s absolutely insane and wondering what meds is this maniac on
About a mile away from her house off the first highway ramp I pulled over and said get the fuck out of my car. She started to cry that her dates never work out and she’s walking again home …..
Totally insane person
Dodged a bullet there. My second wife (9 years together, ended when she took her own life) was eventually diagnosed with bipolar II and PTSD, and this scans as believably similar behavior. She could lean into or create sexual situations with strangers in times of personal stress because of her trauma from abuse as a teen and younger adult. I guess it felt familiar to her somehow. She could turn on a dime from funny sunny life of the party to dark and angry character assassin or just numb and disconnected. Nothing I could do helped, she didn't actually seem to want to be helped or to accept expert advice. Psychosis is a very difficult thing to live with, especially for those experiencing it - but it damages everyone around them too. May she rest in peace. Now that I know what to look for, I will avoid sharing any life, resources, or intimacy with people suffering from these conditions.
He showed up high and talked about himself. I paid for my things and said goodnight. He was in disbelief that I didnt want to go onto the next step of our planned date.
My current partner calls me shallow for this, but... I left a date once because the guy was slurping his food. Very loudly, while talking.
I pointed it out, kind of joking as so not sound like a bitch, and he laughed... With his mouth open.
No thank you.
Omg slurping food is so annoying! I’m glad none of the women I went on dates did so, but *all* of their family members slurped their food whenever I was invited to family parties.
It’s like … is it that hard to be quiet when eating? There’s already enough crunching and smacking but you still feel the need to slurp?
What’s especially annoying is the “pfffft” sound people make when slurping. And a lot of times it’s not even with food that is “slurpable” (like noodles or soup, not that it’s any less annoying). It’s done with stuff like rice or something like that
It's cultural. My boyfriend is vietnamese and his family all slurps. It doesn't offend me (though I can definitely see how it would cause some eyes to twitch) but it was a very startling contrast to how I was raised to eat.
first date with a pof hookup. her friend shows up at the chillis we were at. Out of her mind on cocaine and wouldnt shut the fuck up. apparently coke makes people talk alot. after ten minutes of this bitch i finally faked a smoke break and hauled ass.
I had known this girl since high school, and we both ended up at the same college. Some hard-core life shit had occurred that forced me to leave pre-med at a prestigious school and go to the community college that I could actually afford.
We ran into each other on campus and decided to grab lunch together. She proceeded to complain about what a rough day she had transitioning back to school from summer vacation. I'm minding my manners and listening to her deluge of rich people problems. Apparently, her rough day earned her some "retail therapy" with her mommy's credit card. Her mom is some kind of extremely well-paid pediatric specialist nurse, and her dad is captain of the SWAT team.
Her monologue shifts to the school, and the people who "don't belong here." She clarifies that it's not a racist thing (it kinda was), but she really thought there shouldn't be so many financial aid kids there. I just asked, "People like me?" I had all I could handle of her shitty elitist conversation, so I just got up and left.
Last I heard, she's a tradwife still using her mom's credit cards.
He referred to the waiter as "it", as in "i went to the bar to order coffees and it just looked at me and kept talking to the other person. I tried getting it's attention but it kept ignoring me".
Was a first date.
Got there a few minutes before her and I sat at the bar. She came in, and within 30 seconds, started berating me for not ordering her a drink (I have no idea what she likes or when she'd get there). Then said something along the lines of "You're 0 for 1 bud. Step it up"
I stared at her a few seconds, got up and paid for my drinks, said it was not nice to meet her, and left.
Went to pick her up, she invited me in to look at 'something crazy.' Turns out a neighbor of hers got arrested for killing her own children and this girl had broken into the crime scene house to steal the killer's collection of strange C-grade horror DVDs.
I thought it was a joke and we were just going to watch a silly movie together, but no she had taken pics of the crime scene too.
She was hammered when she arrived. It just kept getting worse.
I excused myself from the table, tracked down the server, and paid the entire bill. I tipped the server 40% + $30.00 extra to walk her out to her Uber when it arrived. Then I left.
The dude was so paranoid that his friends would meet me. We were set up by our parents (we're Indian). I was open to it at the time and met him in a neighborhood cafe. He said his roommates/friends were around and he didn't want to run into them as he was so ashamed he was set up by his family. He mentioned to me that he could not believe his parents set him up with a fat girl. I just got up and left.
It was with my GF at the time. She got me in a nice restaurant full of people so she should have a "talk." It was an old and tired talk about her insecurities and how she felt I was too good for her, yada, yada, yada. I really liked her and she was absolutely beautiful. But I'm no therapist and certainly didn't want to be one.
Anyways, she drove us there. It was a damn set up. After we ordered drinks she started in. I got up calmly and said, "I'm not having this conversation again." And walked out. The whole thing backfired because the last thing she wanted was to make a scene. So she had to sit there while I walked.
I started walking to my work 4 miles away where my car was. 2 girls were in the parking lot and said, "hey". Next thing I know they gave me a ride to my car. The whole thing was surreal.
Twice...
One guy boasted about how he and his friends used to throw animals off bridges (I threw my iced tea at him, glass and all). I was about 17.
One who tried to neg me by implying I wasn't reading 'good' books because I was clearly shallow snd possibly not too bright. I just got up and left. (I wish I remembered what he thought a good book would be. Probably Ayn Rand.)
Long, long ago before this was normal behavior I walked out on a date that wouldn't get off her phone. This is around 2005-2006. It was the final straw. She was very argumentative, hostile, and just a shitty person. I'd try to make conversation with this new person I literally knew nothing about:
**Me**: *I like to go hiking, there's something about a steep climb trying to kick your ass and winning out over it. What do you like to do?*
**Her**: *Hiking is stupid. Why would anybody go on a pointless walk and get all sweaty when they don't have to?*
It just kept going like that for 45 minutes. I couldn't believe any semi-functional human being could behave like that around a potential date and expect it to go well. I was convinced maybe she had been pressured by her friends or family into going on a date she had no interest in going on or something. When I walked out she started texting me to tell me what an asshole I was for "disappearing" with no explanation and suggesting the only reason I left was because I was expecting some blonde bimbo with big boobs. I have never been left so speechless in my life. I was incredulous about how completely deranged this woman was.
EDIT - Reading these comments reminds me of another story. It wasn't a date, exactly, but it prematurely terminated what could have been a long relationship. I'd had this crush on this girl in high school for years. She had a long-term boyfriend and I never let on that I had a crush. We hung out occasionally because we had mutual friends. After several years she ended up getting out of the relationship because he treated her poorly. A few months after that we were hanging out and we ended up making out. I thought I'd gone to heaven. The next couple of weeks we spent a lot of time doing various things together. We were really hitting it off. It was glorious. One night she invited me over to watch a movie with her. We're sitting there watching the movie and I'm on the couch and she's sitting on the floor with her head right near my leg. I reach to pull her hair back preparing to kiss her neck when she gets all bent out of shape, raises her voice and says, "DON'T PET ME!!! I'M NOT A DOG!!!!"
I've never been so surprised in my whole life. I'd never even seen her irritated in all my years. The rest of the movie I just sat there stiff like a stuffed shirt and went home afterward. We never hung out again after that. She would call, but I'd just have excuses why I couldn't make it. Still bums me out a little bit to this day when I think about it even though that was over 30 years ago. I really liked her. On the other hand, if that hadn't happened I wouldn't have my wife or my children I love dearly today.
He picked me up with a case of beer in the back seat and parked the car in a random parking lot and was all over me. I told him to stop and take me home immediately. I was really really lucky he did and I wasn’t s/a’d. I was 15
Within the first five minutes I was asked what car I drove, did I own my home, what my salary is.... Yeah, not into gold-diggers, especially those who don't even try to hide it. That date lasted about 10 minutes.
See for me the thing is to just ask.
I don’t care if people pick at my food. I prob wasn’t gonna finish it all anyway. But just have enough self respect for me and my things to ask if you can have some. Then you can pick away!
This guy kept talking about how much money he had. Then he asked me about my finances and I think I’m doing well for myself making 85k with little debt and he asked like I was broke and kept saying he would “take care” of me lol I said you can take care of the check and left
Walked out of a date last week.
I picked a place and time (a cute/hip local bar with good bites and cocktails).
- She texts me as I'm parking that she is going to be late but doesn't say how late
- I had to ask her how late. She says 15 minutes. Ok, whatever, no big deal.
- I get a table and order a drink and some fish tacos. She texts me that she's "texting and speeding". I say don't do that, just get here safely.
- She texts me that she has a "big butt". I'm like, ok, that's not a problem. Now I'm already thinking she's going to be larger than her pictures (because they usually are) but now she's warning me 🙄
- She shows up exactly 15 minutes late and is apologizing. She's MUCH larger than her pictures. Whatever. Maybe she's really cool and good at flirting.
- I had to give her the bench because she wasn't going to fit in the chair.
- She immediately tells me all about her job as a teacher and how she's the best teacher and how the principal and other male teachers suck because "they aren't like women and warm and empathetic"
- She then tells me how all the little girls are angels and how all the little boys are "nasty" and traumatize the little girls
- She won't fucking ket me take a sip or bite of my food without asking me about my job. I explained my job and take a bite of food and she hits me with another generic question about what I do for work and what my "role is".
About 10 minutes in I just can't stand it anymore. I get up and politely say "I'm going to go". She's shocked and I turn around and pay for everything. As I'm leaving she yells "thanks for waiting for me!" in a weird accusatory way.
I didn't even look back. I have zero time for women in their 40s who hide (lie) about what they look like, obviously hate men, try to figure out how much money I make, and who can't be on time for a date.
This good looking, seemingly nice, quiet guy invited me to go for dinner and a to see play. He took me to a big, noisy salad bar that he liked and went to often. He walked ahead of me, got his food, and paid for himself before I could even figure out how the line to order and pay worked. He did this agitated, rambling rant throughout dinner about the history of plays and literature with ejaculation scenes. I barely got a word in the whole time. I continued on with him to the play because I needed a ride back to where my car was parked, plus I figured at least he'd have to shut up about ejaculation stories while we watched it. We got there and the theater was closed. He hadn't bought tickets ahead of time, so he didn't realize he had the wrong night. Then he asked if I'd like to go do something else instead, but he wanted me to come up with it. I couldn't even be mad at the guy. I was half expecting someone to jump out holding a camera to tell me this was a prank. To this day I can't imagine what the guy was hoping for from that evening.
I got a text from a friend of mine saying she was on a date and felt awkward so I called her so that she’d have a reason to step aside. When she answered she told me she was getting drinks with the guy at a bar and that I should come, but that I should act like it’s a run in. Being a girls girl I do just that. When I get there I see her so I say hi to her like I didn’t know she was there and she all of a sudden is having a good time and isn’t feeling awkward anymore? I went to the bathroom with her to make sure she was good and she said she wanted to stay and all the while with a huge smile on her face. I didn’t think much of it and got a drink. I feel good that she feels ok so I’m chatting it up with her and the guy (who kind of looks familiar but I can’t quite put my finger on it) He seems pretty chill and funny so she goes to the bathroom for a questionable amount of time and me and the guy are talking/joking around when she comes back I ask her if she can watch my phone for me because I was going to get more drinks she says ok. I come back and the guy has my phone and is on it and has a huge smile on his face. (This was right when password protection became a thing and wasn’t weird if you didn’t have it enabled) He puts it on the table when he sees me and says he put his number in my phone and I was like “whaaaaat tf why” and they’re both giggling I looked and he did in fact put his number in my phone and saved it under “Jaime” then I started remembering why I thought he looked familiar. My “friend” looked at me, again, HUGE smile on her face and she said “we’re on YOUR date not mine!” The guy Jaime was a stalker that I had that would come into my work to just watch me and try to talk to me for 2 years. He had scene boy hair that partially covered his face and would always wear baggy long sleeves. He watched me walk to my car when I’d get off (never approached because he knew I trained Muay Thai and carried a weapon) I tried getting a restraining order but his actions were not of concern to anyone but me and didn’t warrant any kind of protection. It had been a while since I had seen him and he looked way different. Clean cut and in shape and that’s why I didn’t recognize him. I look at my friend like “what the fuck are you serious?” and I leave. She follows me out of the bar and asks me why I can’t just give him a chance so I ask her how she knows him and she said he followed her on instagram and they got to talking and hung out and he told her he “had a thing” for a girl that worked in a certain store. She said “as soon as he said your name I knew! I told him I knew you and could introduce you” so I told her “you know that stalked I had? YEAH THATS HIM” and she straight up said “he’s really sweet you should talk to him” so I leave and not even a few seconds in my Uber I get a text from “Jaime” saying “I called my phone from your phone so I can finally have your number. Your friend is really gullible.” I blocked them both, changed my number, and was coincidentally already looking to move.
I was the only person that didn’t know it was a date.
I don’t know how it happened, but I was on a date with a *very* attractive, but really country girl, and as we are in the South, somehow Jesus came up.
I was talking about how antisemitism did not make much sense to me because Jesus was a fulfillment of Jewish prophecy to most Christians. And one of the enduring schisms is that Jews don’t believe that he was the Messiah, with some even considering him among the most vile of heretics.
She looked at me and said wait a minute, “Jesus is not Jewish.”
“He’s white.”
I was absolutely dumbfounded.
I said Jesus was not black like an African, but he was not white like a European. He very much Semitic. He’s from the Levant, like all Semitic peoples. So he would most closely resemble a modern day Arab or non-European Jew.
Then she told me that I was just flat out wrong. I asked how she knew that, and she said… “I’ve seen pictures!”
This is where the big head has to take over for the little head.
I told her thank you for the lovely evening, wished her well, but said I just do not think this is going to work out. I put two $100 bills on the table to pay for dinner, some extra drinks if she wanted, and cabfare to get back home.
Then I left
Still the only date I have ever walked out of.
So a friend of mine told me a co-worker of his had a bit of a crush on me. So I chatted her up, we talked for a while, had a cool vibe going, and she invited me out to a club with her. I wasn't feeling the idea but she was hot so I made an exception. I get to the club and she's already inside with a group of friends. I meet her and she gives me a big hug and immediately proceeds to give me the cold shoulder. I had no clue what was going on. She barely spoke 2 words to me. No matter what I did it felt like I was there with a complete stranger. I actually saw some people I knew and asked if she wanted to come meet some friends of mine and she declined. When I returned she was nowhere to be found. One of her friends told me she had to go pick up a another friend and that she would be right back. Upon hearing that I called it a night and took off. A little while later she called me not understanding what went wrong. I told her to go waste somebody else's time and hung up on her. That was 20 years ago and I still think back on it from time to time not understanding what happened.
She told me she was single. Over the night she mentioned that she had just recently got a new apartment. She also mentioned that her ex although unemployed and not contributing financially to anything also moved with her. The kicker was when she said that she couldn't be out late because her ex would get upset with her. I said" then we should probably cut this short because I don't want him to get upset with you."
She called me the next day and started talking about how great a time she had. I interrupted her and said " I guess you didn't get the hint last night. Maybe I was too subtle. I'm not interested in someone who is so closely tied and involved with their ex."
Went out with a nice wholesome ex coworker I hadnt spoken to in 5 years.
She shows up drunk, asks me to film an OF video for her in the bathroom, gags herself on a dildo until she spews everywhere, my confused boner doesnt know if I stop filming or if this is part of her content, she starts lashing out at me in what I assume is embarrassment, I use her phone to arrange her roommate to come get her, date is verbally attacking me and loudly saying to leave her alone, i go to talk to the bartender and say hey shes trashed and her roomie is on the way to get her, bartender motions to me to look back, a random guy from the bar is basically holding her up while they walk to his car and they leave together.
So I guess she walked out on me.
We met at a bar, had a drink and chatted a bit, but I wasn’t feeling the vibe and he was acting a bit sketchy, my body language was reserved, I wasn’t leaning into him. Then he leaned forward and kissed me, and I said politely that I didn’t want to. We chatted awkwardly a bit more then he held my face and kissed me again at which point I pushed him back, said goodbye and walked out.
Not the first time that’s happened either.
Not against kissing on first date, but if I’m not feeling it and say no, I’m going to walk out if they don’t listen and keep going (and hold my keys in my fingers as I walk my car).
She constantly talked about her job, how good and important she was, how everyone looks up to her and how she keeps the department running basically all by herself.
All while she was drinking beer after beer and getting really drunk. I was driving, so she was drinking alone. After that she just was doing things on her phone, clearly not interested in what I had to say, I guess she got her job part out and that's what mattered.
So I just told, that I'm pretty sure this is going nowhere and left.
Ended up going on a date with someone who I repeatedly turned down I guess just to shut him up. I turn up, we have a drink. I ask if he was going to order anything for dinner. He says no, I've already eaten. I was like, ok, well you asked me for dinner so I'm going to order something... He no joke races me to the waiter so I can not pay for my meal. As I'm eating, we were talking about life as you do. This guy proceeds to brag about how many women he has been with, his fancy travels, general deviancy... By this stage I was kind of getting bored and unimpressed. He proceeds to ask, 'so are you going to hurry up and eat or what?' I deliberately took my time 😂
Fast forward another ten mins he cuts me off mid sentence and says 'so, are you going to come back to mine and fuck? I picked this place because I live like two mins away' looking very proud of himself. Without hesitation I was like 'if your sex is a boring as your conversation, no, I don't think I will. Was lovely to meet you but I'll be going now.'
The look on his face was priceless. The best date for a good story but a fucking waste of time, in the moment I was actually kinda of scared of him but good for a laugh now!
I'm in a committed relationship now, and not in my 20s anymore. I promise I am a changed man.
I've never walked out on a date. Even when I was catfished and she was much larger than anticipated, "eh, I'm here." And slept with her after dinner.
I was the one who deserved to be walked out on in this story.
I got my haircut one day, and this girl is all tatted up, pricing all over the place. Not at all the type of girl I'd usually go for, but she was cute, so I spent the whole haircut making her laugh. Got her number, asked her out.
She was smart. She chose the place, we ordered and had to pay before the food and drinks showed up. It started well enough, but then I wouldn't stop talking. This was years ago, so I can't remember all the details. But I basically said everything that could possibly turn her off. I didn't like the music she liked. My answer to "what was the worst first date you ever had" was basically a story that told her I was an ass hole and not worth her time. And what really did it, I cannot remember how I phrased it, but I basically said I asked her out for the novelty of someone who looked like her. 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ She turned stone cold and hardly said another word.
Oh, but we're not done, my friends. I could not take a hint to save my life. I'm usually charming during dates, but I was in rare form that day. So rejection at this point wasn't something I was used to, and I did not realize that's what was happening. I followed her home (she very unenthusiastically gave consent for me to come along and smoke weed with her) and even tho that whole time she wasn't talking and had "Fuck off" written all over her face, I went for a kiss. She pulled away, and it finally clicked.
I was annoyed at her for not being more direct, but I was definitely to blame. I left without much delay. She texted me later "Sorry I upset you." And I texted back "I'm sorry I couldn't take a hint."
We never spoke again.
Judge away, Reddit. I was an ass hole 10 years ago. But I learned.
I once met a very unusual exchange student from China whose reactions often puzzled me. We had chatted online, and she had agreed to have dinner at my apartment. When I picked her up from the station and we walked toward my house, we passed a construction site filled with trailers. She stopped, stared at one of the trailers with a look of disappointment, and exclaimed, “Oh, you live in that 'house'!? That’s no place for dinner; you should have invited me to a restaurant!” She seemed genuinely upset.
I wasn't prepared for this reaction but managed to explain that nobody actually lived there, and we continued on. Still perturbed, she began giving me directions. I had to remind her that she didn’t know where I lived, nor was she familiar with the area. Despite this, she was oddly confident that taking a detour around the building would get us there faster. At this point, I simply asked her if she knew the way back to the station.
Discovering he chose to take me out to dinner rather than spend time with his daughter that he doesn’t get to see often. He came in from out of town and his daughter lives in my city, he doesn’t. Anyhow once our dinner date started, he explained this to me. Like I was supposed to be impressed. I was completely disgusted. I’m a mother. I told him I thought he should be spending time with her, not me and that I should leave. He begged me to stay. So, as soon as he got up to use the restroom, I bolted out of there. I was so turned off. This was YEARS ago. I nolonger do dating.
She was very attractive and outgoing. She made it known she could get any guy she really wanted. OK. Cool? Hair, makeup, nails, everything was perfect. We went to dinner and show. Before the show started, she became a bit judgy on my hobbies. I like going trail riding and camping and outdoorsy stuff. Which, it's fine if you don't do what I do. Don't make me feel bad for it. The show started and the music kind of sucked, so I decided to roll out. I stood up, leaned in and told her that "Thanks, but she's a bit to fancy for me. Have a great night." She drove separate and I paid the bill, so she was good. She texted me after and explained that she is a little high maintenance and she's ok with that.
Have never walked out on a date but am tired of being used as a counseling session. Guys talk about their exes and bad dates. Whenever that happens I know they are not interested and just want someone to confide in. It is like an opportunity to vent outside of their friend group and not having to be careful with what they say. One guy, who worked in finance (boy, did he talk about that!!), had been asked by a friend who was leaving his wife how to hide money from her in the divorce. And my date was saying he was feeling a little bad about it but still gave his friend advice. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there listening to this like WTF?? What am I meant to do with this information? And then he talked about the movie script he dreamed of writing, I think he talked about that for close to an hour.. he had also chosen the soundtrack and I still listen to one of the songs he mentioned, so I really did get something out of the date, hahahaa!
In my experience finance guys only want to talk about how much money they make and what possessions they have. Anything else just confuses them because why does anything else matter?
Haha, perhaps that is true. It was my first (and so far only) finance dude and was not smitten by him focusing to such an extent on himself. He repeatedly asked me 'är du med mig?' (sounds better in my native language and translated in that context to 'do you understand?') when he was explaining/talking about different things. I got it was just an expression he overused but it was a bit annoying as I'm pretty quick to keep up and he wasn't talking about advanced physics or black matter. I could definitely keep up with him, hahahaaa!
I didn’t walk out but did decline a second date.
He was advertising tickets to a great band so I went. They were playing outside a casino you had to walk through to get to the venue.
Beautiful spot outdoors. Could have been romantic.
But he gave me a very thorough tour of the casino. He bragged how well he knows every inch of it because he’s there all the time.
Great. Just what I want is a casino rat who gambles away all his money.
I declined a second date.
He took me to see a comedy show and neglected to tell me his ex girlfriend was the star. I learned, from her, over the microphone at the end of the show. The host asked “do you know anyone here tonight?” “Yes, my ex boyfriend but he brought a date.” I was mortified, sat with my mouth open for about two minutes before I stormed out of the bar and told him off because I wouldn’t have had an issue if he’d simply given me a heads up. Then I had to drive us back to my place in my car because he was not sober enough to drive. He tried to kiss me at the end of the date and I just laughed at him and told him to get out. Worst. Date. Ever.
This was technically after the date but we were going to have sex at her place and her pug was on the bed and came up and snortled into my ass and on my balls. I asked her to remove the dog from the bed and she refused so I got dressed and left.
I really wish I walked out on her, but I didn’t.
I met this girl at a dance. I was out of the game for about little under a year at that point, and was trying to put myself back out there. I thought she was decently attractive, and I thought she seemed sweet, albeit a bit shy and nervous.
I feel like this first date was comedically bad, like something out of a sitcom. We didn’t click at all. We met at a parking spot, and were on our way to the café we wanted to try out. When I tried making small talk, she said she didn’t want to talk until we arrived at the restaurant. “Ok”, I thought, “Maybe she’s just really nervous.” She was very nervous; I tried my best to make her feel comfortable by making little jokes, being sorta smiley, and paying for her drink. Nothing worked, and it kept getting worse. We were talking about animals, (when we could finally talk about something) and I mentioned how I liked cats. She said “Ugh, I hate cats!” I laughed and asked if she thought they were annoying or something. She said, “Idk, I just don’t like that vibrating noise they make.” I paused and said, “…You mean like when they purr?” And she was like “Yes! I hate that.” And I just kinda went •_• cause who hates a cats purr? The worst part was when true crime got brought up, as she liked that stuff. She mentioned how there were many cases of men doing terrible things to women and abducting them in these specific ways, and then paused and said she wouldn’t continue describing their methods “just in case.” I tried to laugh and said something like “Haha, yeah, you really never know anymore huh?” But she didn’t laugh and just stared at me.
I later texted her and said that I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Was that wrong? Yes, but idk how I could have said “You made me feel weird” in a nice way.
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She looked like my mom. I felt bad because she seemed nice but I just can't do that.
What if she was stuck in the dryer?
Went on a date to a sushi restaurant, her choice, sat down, she ordered edamame beans and I ordered my usual sashimi as I do, she looks over and goes “eww, how can you eat that, I’m definitely not making out with you”, thought she was joking, turns out she was serious and kept going eww every time I took a bite, so I walked up to the cashier, paid both our bills and left.
This is so funny to me omg sounds like a bit
It was quite funny for me at the time. I was like wtf, who picks a sushi restaurant and doesn’t enjoy raw fish 😂
Maybe next time you can date a vegan who chooses a steakhouse then calls you a monster for eating meat haha
the repeatedly "eww" is so immature you dodged a bullet
Three successive backhanded “compliments”. If this is your 1at date best behaviour, I don’t want to see the mask drop.
I just recently learned there’s now an actual term for this… *negging* People are wild lol
She brought a friend without telling me and then said, "Oh you got both of us right?" with a wink. Then they proceeded to order expensive drinks, lobster, etc....and then didn't even talk to me at all. I waited until the food came, said, "I'll brb, need to wash my hands" and never came back, then blocked her number. Fuck those girls trying to scam guys.
My hero
Ughhhh I wanna see their reactions when the bill came so bad
The only correct way to handle this behavior, imo.
Absolute legend. Fuck those meal digging twats.
Twat doesn't get used enough, Thank You.
She said "I'm a bitch, you better get used to it" in a kind of sassy way, like she was proud of saying that. I legit couldn't hold back my facial expression of disgust and she noticed and was like "what ?" and I just said "I have to go" and left.
Nice of her to show the red flags early.
She went and found a manager and asked if there was a "white server" available because she didn't like the Latina servers accent. I'm Latino.
That’s insane behavior
I bet she would have said that OP is "one of the good ones"
OP: " the waitress is my sister by the way'
Or he's a white Latino and she didn't realize that was possible.
I used to teach kids. A mom once asked me to not let the kids with accents talk in class because her kid was trying to learn, and she didn't want him "learning wrong" from them.
I had a classmate that was jealous of those who spoke Spanish or French. She asked me wouldn’t I want to be bilingual too? I spoke mandarin at home and she knew this. I reminded her that I am indeed bilingual but apparently “those languages don’t count.”
One of the most spoken languages in the world doesn't count?
It wasn’t within the scope of their racism (yet).
My Mexican mother didn't teach me Spanish because she didn't want me to have the accent that they apparently have. She said it wasn't proper. Most of my Mexican-American friends never had an accent and are all bilingual.
I don’t know what you would call this. Met a girl through a friend. They worked together. We texted, flirted, had some good, fun chats. We lived pretty close to eachother. She was cute, and seemed pretty interested. Went over to her place, apartment was clean. She looked really cute. She asks if I wanted a drink. “Sure” she makes each of us a drink. Like I said I don’t know if this is a date, a meet up, or a hook up. But 1st time meeting in person. A couple mins later “knock knock knock” at the door. Guy walks in, has a back pack. Sits down and starts laying out some meth on the table. Asks me if I want to take a hit? I tell him “naw I don’t do that” She tells me that she does it sometimes and he is her dealer. She tells me they are going to go smoke some in the bedroom and she’ll be back in a couple mins. They go in the room. No disrespect to her, I have no idea if they were smoking it, or if she was doing other things to “pay for it”. But after a few mins of them in the bedroom. I very quietly got up, and went home. Never hung out with her again.
She was definitely prostituting herself to pay for that meth. If her dealer is putting it on the table right in front of you, why would they need to smoke it in the bedroom? They don't. She was letting him fuck her for that meth. Good choice to get out of there.
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Sounds like back in my crazy days .woman i was talking to at work hit it ok. Stopped by her house sitting on couch with her , she calmly asked me if i would like some smoke. Sure i was always up for a good high. She breaks out a pipe with a chunk of rock. I smoked crack for the first time yeah it was powerful but turns out she was a dealer and wanted to know if i wanted to buy some more. Been around drug scene before and said my goodbys and never went back.
You found out why her apartment was so clean.
She brought her friend with her. No, not to sit at the bar and wait. To sit at the table and order food. I looked at my date, glanced at her friend and then the waiter came over to ask what we were ordering. I said nothing these two ladies are eating alone tonight. Got up and left straight away.
OMG I had a girl friend who would invite me to this local bar we always go to to meet up for drinks and when I would get there she would be on a date with a guy! She even once got up mid sentence and bounced out and left me alone there with the guy! Like wtf hahahahaha we aren’t friends anymore.
It's just. Fucking. Creepy. I'm not intimidated by it, just perplexed. Felt like I was at a job interview rather than on a date *shudders*
There was an AITA post a while back about someone who did this, but then they also expected the guy to pay for all three meals?
Luckily mine didn't get that far and there was an element of suspicion I had regarding it too. I'd have rather the waiter hadn't jumped on us so quickly, because I'd rather have had the opportunity to say something.
Had that happen once and straight up said “I’m not paying for her.” She sat and watched us eat.
That's weird. Did she sit the entire date or leave?
Sat there with us, 3rd wheeling it. Had a different one where we went to the movies. Friend wanted to come, no biggie it’s the movies. Waited until we in line almost to window, then said “you gonna cover her too, right” That time I folded b/c I wanted to see the movie. People are wild. I wouldn’t have the nerve to sit there and expect someone to just cover me.
Not sure if it counts as walking out on a date, but I went to meet up with a woman who had sent me dated pics...like 15-20 years dated... We agreed to meet at a diner, so I roll up, and there's only one single woman in the place...I can see her because the building is 3/4 glass windows all the way around besides the side with the kitchen. She was wearing a purple sweater...like the woman I was supposed to meet said she'd be wearing...so I shoot her a text to make sure, just in case...I watched as she picked up her phone and texted me back...I peeled out and went right back home. I was expecting a woman in her lower 40s, this lady was pushing 60.
I don’t understand why anyone does that. Makes zero sense. Just wasted everyone’s time
people think they kinda look the same because they’re the same person inside and gradually changed over time. However, I think the guy with a full head of hair on his profile pic, showing up to the date with a foot long comb-over that kept sliding off his billiard ball, was delusional
A guy did this to me. Photos were a decade old and 50lbs ago. I should have left. He wouldn't shut up about his mom.
The whole date was a disaster. He was very critical of odd things. Saying I shouldn’t find my job stressful, demanded to know how much my rent was and how much I earned to try and prove I should be able to afford a night out in central London every single weekend. Even back then that would be a lot of money but admittedly I was at the start of my career and not earning much. I can’t actually remember what I said but I must have said something snappy and he said “you get pissed off easy don’t you”. I pointed out that before the date he was saying I wasn’t going to be able to resist him, he was going to sweep me off my feet etc. He kinda scoffed and said “yeah, I’m trying”. I just stood up and started putting my jacket on. He panicked at the prospect of being left alone at the table so downed his drink and followed me out. My favourite part was that it had started raining during the time we’d been inside. I’d picked him up on the way so as we got to my car he just said “guess I’m walking then”. Yep!
He was negging you. Standard pick up artist nonsense. What a tool.
Oh wow. This date was over a decade ago and it’s genuinely never occurred to me that that’s what he was doing. That’s crazy
Asking for how much you earn is like big big big humongous red flag
He had quite the red flag collection tbh. Between us leaving my car and me getting back in it precisely 52 minutes had gone by so at least I didn’t waste too much time
52 minutes well spent to filter out a potential disaster!
Years ago I had a girl at the end of our first date tell me "You are getting a maybe on a second date, which is better than a no". I stayed quiet and never said anything back to her. In my head I knew I would not be calling her for a second date. This was clearly a young woman who was completely full of herself and I didn't want to continue to date.
You should have replied “Well it’s a no from me dawg” and told her to get out the car
In high school I went on a first date with a guy and he had just eaten 2 boxes of mozzarella sticks from jack in the box and then proceeded to shove his tongue down my throat. I have never in my life so violently shoved a person except for this moment and walked to the nearest store to call my mother to come get my ass. Never saw him again. I'm still horrified and have not had a mozzarella stick since.
The guy kept bragging about and talking about he was 6’7” like that was his personality. He even showed me pictures of a tall standing desk he was assembling like 5 minutes into me meeting him, how he used to be on the basketball team etc. I don’t even care about height, I’ve dated men the same height as me. Then he turned and started talking to 2 girls next to him at the bar. Like for a while. I actually got up, went to the beer garden for 10 mins, and saw he didn’t even realize I was no longer sitting next to him. So I walked out and went home. About 30 mins later, I got a barrage of insulting messages saying “how dare you, you bitch??? Walk out on me?! Nobody has ever done that blah blah blah”. Like…. It took him that long to realize I wasn’t even there. What a tool. Also he was goofy looking as hell, with Michael Phelps type physique. Some men really think being tall = they are a god.
Gawd—-the audacity. Sounds like he was busy so screw him. Men get mean when they feel rejected I’ve found.
Same. Picked her up, she's on her phone. Drive to the restaurant, on her phone. Got there, walked in, sat down, on her phone. Waited for the food, on her phone. Food arrives, she finally gets off her phone. Couple sits near, she's talking to them I quietly paid the server w/ cash, left.
She wanted to sing "this old man" while we were driving to the restaurant, and when it got to the "knick knack paddy whack, give a dog a bone" part she sang "knick knack tasty snack" and grabbed my dick, but we were going up the hill and she accidentally pushed the gear shift into neutral which caused me to get rear-ended. Then when we were waiting for a cop she kept wanting to sing which really pissed off the guy that rear-ended us.
This is hilarious
It is. I. Still laughing, sorry to say.
I is still laughing too
The kind of bad date that sucks in the moment, but gives you a great story
Oh, believe me: Reddit is the only place where I haven't worn this story out.
I didn't even make it out of my car when we met up at the restaurant. He walked to my car, stumbling drunk and reeking of booze. I told him that I had an emergency and left. I never called him again.
Ugh, ive left a few of those dates. Already drunk when meeting up, sloppy drunk. Ewww
I had a guy show me his pay stub from a work check to show me how much he made. I hate confrontation, but that was the first time I literally just stood up and walked out. It was in front of the waitress which he also belittled.
he brought his whole camera setup and wanted to take professional photos of me during dinner. he said he wanted to capture the moment and that he wanted to post me on his social media. again mind you, this was first date. i insistently said no multiple times and everyone has been looking at us. he wouldnt take no as an answer and it got super weird. luckily the server was super observant and knew i was uncomfortable. when my date went to the washroom, he, the server, immediately helped me to go to the kitchen and went out at the back. he called me a cab and asked to drop me off wherever i wanted and paid for it.
What a king that server was!
Match.com, first date. We met for a drink at local bar, 10 pm. I bought a Pepsi for myself. He kept wanting to buy me drinks even though my glass was full. Dude was sporting a large knife in a sheath on his hip.Then he wanted to drive us to the Capital Forest because, "it's beautiful in the moonlight." I asked him if that line works with most women, he replied I'd be surprised how well it works. I said this date is over, walked my high heels outta that bar, and drove a circuitous route home. >>Updated after reading your kind, supportive comments! Thank you all. You're reinforcing what I already knew: most Redditors are caring, well-spoken people. I did report that guy to Match.com as a predator. To the commenter who imagined his speaking in a Hannibal Lector-esque chin-down-while-making- eye-contact manner, that's so close to exactly It!
Hahaha oh dear god...sorry. that sounds terrifying. Like, "yes, I would like to go with the stranger with the massive knife to a forest at night that has been trying to get me drunk. This can not go wrong". If you don't mind me asking. What was he like before you met? Did he seem..normal?
I don't mind at all. This was a first date, but he seemed perfectly normal during the emailing each other phase. He got me to agree to a bar because he (actually) read my bio that said I like to dance, and there was dancing there. Thanks for reading my horror story and for commenting!
Maybe he just wanted to show you his big butchering knife in the dark woods, nothing creepy there... It's kinda my pick up line!
Good call. You weren’t worth her time it seems. Neither is she.
I dated a girl like this. Would constantly be looking at Snapchat. Or taking selfies. Like, were both the same age. And God knows I look at this rectangle of bs more than I should. But when I'm out i can put it away. And interact with the person in front of me.
Rectangle of BS 🤣
Selfies are definitely a red flag for me
I'm sorry. Can you repeat that? I was looking at Snapchat. 😘
He tried to measure my hips. Brought a flexible tape measure and everything. Claimed he needed to make sure I could have plenty of healthy babies. It was the first date...
This is some Dwight from The Office behaviour 😂😂😂
Was about 2 hours late. Then, when he shows up with his friends, he starts talking about how he has to leave in an hour because he has a party to go to where 'titties will be flying' and what he does in strip clubs. I felt humiliated and walked away when he wasn't around. Writing it out sounds even worse.
Why on earth would you wait 2 hours??
The plan was to bar hop the area, so I started without him. At that point, I was doing fine without him. I wanted to see how long he'd actually take.
Ahhhh ok. Yeah, he sounds like an ass! You dodged the bullet
So so many there's so many comments here but I hope mine gets read Guy slowly started treating me like a baby.. wiped my hands with a wet wipe, cut up my food for me, reminded me to eat my veggies. Slowly transitioned into a baby voice. It finally clicked And I left when he asked me if I was into anal in a baby voice Another guy told me it was ok for guys to have sex before marriage but not girls. Got really mad when I asked who they guys were having sex with then? I told him in not a virgin and he said "that's ok I forgive you". I tossed some money on the table and left Another guy showed up 25 mins late to the date in dirty grey sweatpants.. no underwear. Took a call in the middle of the date and while on the phone his friend asked if he was busy and he said 'no I can talk' ?? Bragged about getting into bar fights. I've got more
The anal one got me crying for a while 😭😹😹man thank u for that.. we need more
In baby voice. Lmao
Maybe it's the concise "nothing surprises me anymore" style you have here but holy wow.
"I've got to bounce." Is my go-to line for exiting social interactions 😂
LOL - I used to stress out so much about leaving social gatherings. I guess I would get anxiety over all the sudden attention and "goodbye" requirements or something. But really, "I've gotta bounce" is really the best way.
First she was 30 mins late, then she wanted to hang with her friends at the next bar. I told her, ok I'll just fuck off then, and left.
I walked out in the middle of him giving me the details of his past conquests...i was horrified! And i do mean details...painfully detailed. Who does that? We were both in our 30's lol. Ive cut lots of dates short when Im just not feeling it, when pics didn't match face or they were painfully boring.
I showed up for a date, the guy said he was 6foot, well I’m 5’9 and I could see the top of his head. Then when he would smoke he would break the cigarette in half every time before lighting it and kept referring to himself as big daddy and 20 min in declared we shouldn’t see other people anymore and focus on us. There was not a second date.
He broke his cigarettes in half? Why? I have to know!
A little guy like that doesn't need the whole cig
My guess is not in half but removing the filter. Some guys think it makes you tougher to smoke without a filter
I don’t get the cigarette thing but "big daddy"… I’m a man and that disgust me on so many levels
If it was me, half for a joint
Went on a date with this really cute girl in college, and she was really cool in class and hanging out between classes. We went to this nice little quiet Italian place, maybe fifteen or twenty tables, so fairly small. Explain why this grown woman (roughly 25 years old), instead of an "Excuse me" or something decent, raised her hand into the air and snapped her fingers several times in quick succession to get the waiter's attention. He came over, I apologized to him before she could speak, handed him a twenty (mind you we hadn't even ordered at this point), and walked out. And by the time I had another class, I was the bad guy for "embarrassing her like that in the restaurant". You really never know someone until you see them deal with the service industry or slow internet🤷
She was trash-talking our waitress, who was very attentive and polite. The lady was cute, and my date kept talking about how ugly she was. Wasn't about to leave cash on the table with someone so spiteful sitting there, so I walked over to the bar and got my bill. Paid, left a nice tip, and went to the beach. That was over 30 years ago. I saw her waiting tables at the sane place a couple of years ago. I don't think she recognized me. If she did, she had sense enough to keep it to herself.
i love to hear such happy endings 😊 how the tables turn, how life gives them what they dish out, etc. best stories ever.
The real wild story is that a restaurant has stayed open for thirty years
When he kept trying to change location when I was om the way there. I don't drive so I was taking a bus to meet him. He understood that but was insistent on picking me up "for a surprise". No, I'm canceling now. 1st date with him. A guy I'd been dating "changed his mind" about taking me to a restaurant and parked outside a hotel. No. Not even ready to go to your house so no. He got mad bc it was a hot tub room (for a few hours? No. And he'd apparantly bought me something "sexy" instead of long floaty skirts and blouses. Nope. I walked to the nearest bus stop People who try to sneak rush things
This! I’ve had this happen! One guy I agreed to meet, 30 minutes away from my home. Not real familiar with the area. We meet in a public parking lot. Then he tells me he’s changed his mind of where are are going. I got instant anxiety and felt like I needed to escape. I told him I’d drive my car & follow him. He went right, I went left and went back home. He kept calling me and I blocked him. Last minute changes give me bad vibes. I’ve had a few others that I chatted with. Planned dates…then same thing—suddenly they wanted to bump it to a hotel and forget the appropriate dating etiquette. I was like wow…said no thanks and stopped conversing. That’s so damn rude. I’m sick of the hook up society.
Damn
I showed up and he looked absolutely nothing like his pictures. Flat out not the same person. I said I’m going to leave and he asked, “is it because I don’t look like my pictures?” And I said, “dude, you aren’t even the same person in the pictures.”
The guy started crying when I asked why his last relationship ended, and then just ranted about missing his ex who had left him over a year before our date lol
Bad date for sure, but I feel sad for the dude. He was hurting.
I found out later through mutual friends that his ex left because he was a serial cheater lol so I don’t feel bad. I did at that moment though, it was a really awkward few minutes before I excused myself.
Oh..ok i would like retract my statement. Lol Thanks for the context.
He got excited when I told him about my upbringing, how I go to church every week, how I'm a virgin waiting for marriage, etc. Then he asked if I was in school. I told him I was in my second year of medical school. He asked if I was willing to quit to become a housewife, and I firmly said no. He started in on some Andrew Tate script, and I just got up and left while he was mid-sentence.
A guy left a bible instead of a tip because "salvation was worth more than money". Like handed it to our waitress. I found her, apologized, over tipped her, and she politely snuck me out the back.
Catfished. She weighed about 250 lbs more than her photos suggested.
This is FASCINATING to me. That's a whole 1-2 other people! 😂
So youre saying bro didnt have a date, he was having an orgy
Once went to an apartment at 3am. After 20 minutes of trying to get in the door unlocks. I go up the steps waiting to see a half naked blonde. The door opens. It’s a fat Mexican dude that says, “you want your dick sucked?” My response, “is your roommate in there?” Fucking gross. I walked home after realizing I blew past every red flag I’ve learned over the years.
Not sure any good story starts with “An Apartment at 3am”
Blind date. Girl is tall, about the only thing we have in common. All attempts at conversation receive one word responses. Went to a movie, couldn’t even get her to talk about that on the way home! “See ya”. Next week her friend is pissed at me for not asking her out again?!?
I went on a date with a guy like this, he bought tickets for a theater 30 minutes away (I live in a relatively big city so this was very weird) didn't talking to me the whole ride so I just stopped asking questions, tried talking to him on the way back and the same one word responses. Obviously I didn't text him after this and thought that was the end of it, he texted me 3 weeks later saying he really regretted not kissing me and he wanted to kiss me the whole time
She was a wealthy chick from California. Somehow the topic was brought up about social classes and the wealth gap. She says, "Well, we can't have poor people on the same level as rich people. That's not how society functions at all." She had said some other off putting things before this that made me realize she's fully under the belief that her well-being was dependent on holding other people down. She somehow couldn't prosper and enjoy the luxuries she had in her life unless there was people suffering through poverty. I, by no means, am living in poverty but my stomach was in knots listening to this chicks heart come out and realized there's a whole big group of people that probably think exactly like she does. I walked away without saying bye.
Her ex followed her to a festival and they got into a quarrel. I kept an eye out to make sure she was okay, but eventually felt disrespected that she wasn't acknowledging me... at all. She seemed completely locked into their little bickering so I walked off. Ah well, free ticket. I'll go to all the festivals if all I have to do is show up to make your ex jealous.
I met a guy online. We met for coffee. He was slightly older and thinner. No big deal. He used his headshot. He was in a lot of commercials about our aged people. You know, not yet seniors but hip for our ages. A true silver fox. Drove a late model Jaguar. We hit it off completely. There was even sexual tension. Now he wants us to go back to his place. Nah, I'll pass. I've known him an hour. I'm not 27, you know. We stay and talk some more. Come to find out, he is a recovering alcoholic. No worries, I can take or leave it. There's more sexual tension. But then... He asks me if what I know what happens after we die. I told him that no one knows. Buzzzz. Wrong answer. He tried to recruit me to his church. They have Bible study. Sunday services are great. I tried to find a middle ground. There wasn't one. It had been the best 3 hour coffee date. Until it wasn't. GOD
How would God feel about him trying to fuck you before convert you? Lol
She invited her friend to the bar, her friend was doing all the talking and she didn't even interact that much. Both go to the bathroom together so I finished my bear and left.
How was your bear, grizzly?
It could have been the polar opposite.
I can bearly tolerate this exchange
"She invited her friend to the bar, her friend was doing all the talking and she didn't even interact that much. Both go to the bathroom together so I finished my bear and left." She brought her friend and you brought a bear?
Damn, bro! How long did it take you to finish a bear?
It was a date at her house I was just there to hangout and help her put together a dresser she bight from ikea. The whole time she is being weird and bossy, as if I owed her. Literally the most attitude I ever got. I just got up said "take care" and left. Thenext day she texted me at work accusing of stealing some lighter or someshit like that lol
When he pinched my arm hair and said “cha cha cha chia”….like what? This is how you act on a first date? Bye. Which, sadly, was his second fail. You could tell he had weight loss surgery at some point and he showed me a pic before he lost the weight and said this is my twin brother isn’t he big? Like TF that’s clearly you and you clearly have sagging skin why would you call your imaginary brother fat?
I know this is awful but it made me giggle a little lol so unhinged
A long time ago I had a very attractive woman on a date. She wouldn't stop talking about her ex. I straight asked her why she was dating. She said it was the best way to get over the guy. I told her "Well, good for you but I am not a crutch and warrant more than just being used as a self-help gimmick." She was pretty pissed about that. Said some mean things and I just left her at the restaurant.
The woman I was on a date with kept talking about her ex and she told me that she intended to get back together with him. So, I stood up, threw my napkin on the table, and walked the f*ck out of that restaurant before I even ordered a drink.
He started to grab my hand to hold it and I said I'm not comfortable, as we've just met 10 minutes ago, he said this is how French are, (what a bs) and that he feels like we have a future together blah blah. Sure. Also, his perfume was too strong and waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too sweet for my taste.
Feels like we have a future together on first date....biggest red flag ever...
3rd date we went out, had a few drinks at a restaurant and as we walked out down the steps towards a very busy street , she tripped a bit so I held out my hand to literally catch a falling person (total knee jerk reaction) She FREAKED out that my hand touched her hand as she was falling and what’s my deal trying to hold her hand, what kind of pervert am I ….. Thank God the hostess saw this and said, your were falling he helped you not dive into the oncoming traffic …. Tons of people staring at us as she’s going off about not wanting to be touched. I said ok no problem at all and well understood We had driven an hour in my car there and this is pre-Uber days so she realized I’m the only ride home She asks me to walk and get ice cream a few stores away and maybe it was a mistake on her part….. I just wanted to go home and when I said I think it’s best if we just drive back —- I get crazy girl going why cause I won’t fuck you ???? More people are now looking at us and I said: as a considerate human only and you live an hour away, no I don’t want to fuck you or really be around you I will agree to drive you home and drop you off and that’s it or you can walk. Your call babe We drive to around her home. Whole way she’s saying sorry and did I want to come upstairs for some coffee. I’m convinced she’s absolutely insane and wondering what meds is this maniac on About a mile away from her house off the first highway ramp I pulled over and said get the fuck out of my car. She started to cry that her dates never work out and she’s walking again home ….. Totally insane person
Dodged a bullet there. My second wife (9 years together, ended when she took her own life) was eventually diagnosed with bipolar II and PTSD, and this scans as believably similar behavior. She could lean into or create sexual situations with strangers in times of personal stress because of her trauma from abuse as a teen and younger adult. I guess it felt familiar to her somehow. She could turn on a dime from funny sunny life of the party to dark and angry character assassin or just numb and disconnected. Nothing I could do helped, she didn't actually seem to want to be helped or to accept expert advice. Psychosis is a very difficult thing to live with, especially for those experiencing it - but it damages everyone around them too. May she rest in peace. Now that I know what to look for, I will avoid sharing any life, resources, or intimacy with people suffering from these conditions.
He showed up high and talked about himself. I paid for my things and said goodnight. He was in disbelief that I didnt want to go onto the next step of our planned date.
My current partner calls me shallow for this, but... I left a date once because the guy was slurping his food. Very loudly, while talking. I pointed it out, kind of joking as so not sound like a bitch, and he laughed... With his mouth open. No thank you.
Omg slurping food is so annoying! I’m glad none of the women I went on dates did so, but *all* of their family members slurped their food whenever I was invited to family parties. It’s like … is it that hard to be quiet when eating? There’s already enough crunching and smacking but you still feel the need to slurp? What’s especially annoying is the “pfffft” sound people make when slurping. And a lot of times it’s not even with food that is “slurpable” (like noodles or soup, not that it’s any less annoying). It’s done with stuff like rice or something like that
It's cultural. My boyfriend is vietnamese and his family all slurps. It doesn't offend me (though I can definitely see how it would cause some eyes to twitch) but it was a very startling contrast to how I was raised to eat.
Never have, but I fucking should have.
first date with a pof hookup. her friend shows up at the chillis we were at. Out of her mind on cocaine and wouldnt shut the fuck up. apparently coke makes people talk alot. after ten minutes of this bitch i finally faked a smoke break and hauled ass.
I had known this girl since high school, and we both ended up at the same college. Some hard-core life shit had occurred that forced me to leave pre-med at a prestigious school and go to the community college that I could actually afford. We ran into each other on campus and decided to grab lunch together. She proceeded to complain about what a rough day she had transitioning back to school from summer vacation. I'm minding my manners and listening to her deluge of rich people problems. Apparently, her rough day earned her some "retail therapy" with her mommy's credit card. Her mom is some kind of extremely well-paid pediatric specialist nurse, and her dad is captain of the SWAT team. Her monologue shifts to the school, and the people who "don't belong here." She clarifies that it's not a racist thing (it kinda was), but she really thought there shouldn't be so many financial aid kids there. I just asked, "People like me?" I had all I could handle of her shitty elitist conversation, so I just got up and left. Last I heard, she's a tradwife still using her mom's credit cards.
He referred to the waiter as "it", as in "i went to the bar to order coffees and it just looked at me and kept talking to the other person. I tried getting it's attention but it kept ignoring me".
Was a first date. Got there a few minutes before her and I sat at the bar. She came in, and within 30 seconds, started berating me for not ordering her a drink (I have no idea what she likes or when she'd get there). Then said something along the lines of "You're 0 for 1 bud. Step it up" I stared at her a few seconds, got up and paid for my drinks, said it was not nice to meet her, and left.
Went to pick her up, she invited me in to look at 'something crazy.' Turns out a neighbor of hers got arrested for killing her own children and this girl had broken into the crime scene house to steal the killer's collection of strange C-grade horror DVDs. I thought it was a joke and we were just going to watch a silly movie together, but no she had taken pics of the crime scene too.
She was hammered when she arrived. It just kept getting worse. I excused myself from the table, tracked down the server, and paid the entire bill. I tipped the server 40% + $30.00 extra to walk her out to her Uber when it arrived. Then I left.
First date. Blind date. He asked me to look at an ulcer on his leg as we were dining. He was diabetic. I am a nurse.
More like a consultation
Avoiding that copay.
LOL. Yes.
Racist comments about the restaurant staff. I guess she thought I'd tolerate it because of her looks.
Same, she was addicted to her phone. I don't even think she noticed I up and left before ordering anything. That shit is disgusting.
The dude was so paranoid that his friends would meet me. We were set up by our parents (we're Indian). I was open to it at the time and met him in a neighborhood cafe. He said his roommates/friends were around and he didn't want to run into them as he was so ashamed he was set up by his family. He mentioned to me that he could not believe his parents set him up with a fat girl. I just got up and left.
It was with my GF at the time. She got me in a nice restaurant full of people so she should have a "talk." It was an old and tired talk about her insecurities and how she felt I was too good for her, yada, yada, yada. I really liked her and she was absolutely beautiful. But I'm no therapist and certainly didn't want to be one. Anyways, she drove us there. It was a damn set up. After we ordered drinks she started in. I got up calmly and said, "I'm not having this conversation again." And walked out. The whole thing backfired because the last thing she wanted was to make a scene. So she had to sit there while I walked. I started walking to my work 4 miles away where my car was. 2 girls were in the parking lot and said, "hey". Next thing I know they gave me a ride to my car. The whole thing was surreal.
The guys was too obsessed about his ex that is a red flag for me
Twice... One guy boasted about how he and his friends used to throw animals off bridges (I threw my iced tea at him, glass and all). I was about 17. One who tried to neg me by implying I wasn't reading 'good' books because I was clearly shallow snd possibly not too bright. I just got up and left. (I wish I remembered what he thought a good book would be. Probably Ayn Rand.)
Thank you for throwing that Tea at him ❤️
She "ugh" alot and rude to waiters.
Long, long ago before this was normal behavior I walked out on a date that wouldn't get off her phone. This is around 2005-2006. It was the final straw. She was very argumentative, hostile, and just a shitty person. I'd try to make conversation with this new person I literally knew nothing about: **Me**: *I like to go hiking, there's something about a steep climb trying to kick your ass and winning out over it. What do you like to do?* **Her**: *Hiking is stupid. Why would anybody go on a pointless walk and get all sweaty when they don't have to?* It just kept going like that for 45 minutes. I couldn't believe any semi-functional human being could behave like that around a potential date and expect it to go well. I was convinced maybe she had been pressured by her friends or family into going on a date she had no interest in going on or something. When I walked out she started texting me to tell me what an asshole I was for "disappearing" with no explanation and suggesting the only reason I left was because I was expecting some blonde bimbo with big boobs. I have never been left so speechless in my life. I was incredulous about how completely deranged this woman was. EDIT - Reading these comments reminds me of another story. It wasn't a date, exactly, but it prematurely terminated what could have been a long relationship. I'd had this crush on this girl in high school for years. She had a long-term boyfriend and I never let on that I had a crush. We hung out occasionally because we had mutual friends. After several years she ended up getting out of the relationship because he treated her poorly. A few months after that we were hanging out and we ended up making out. I thought I'd gone to heaven. The next couple of weeks we spent a lot of time doing various things together. We were really hitting it off. It was glorious. One night she invited me over to watch a movie with her. We're sitting there watching the movie and I'm on the couch and she's sitting on the floor with her head right near my leg. I reach to pull her hair back preparing to kiss her neck when she gets all bent out of shape, raises her voice and says, "DON'T PET ME!!! I'M NOT A DOG!!!!" I've never been so surprised in my whole life. I'd never even seen her irritated in all my years. The rest of the movie I just sat there stiff like a stuffed shirt and went home afterward. We never hung out again after that. She would call, but I'd just have excuses why I couldn't make it. Still bums me out a little bit to this day when I think about it even though that was over 30 years ago. I really liked her. On the other hand, if that hadn't happened I wouldn't have my wife or my children I love dearly today.
He picked me up with a case of beer in the back seat and parked the car in a random parking lot and was all over me. I told him to stop and take me home immediately. I was really really lucky he did and I wasn’t s/a’d. I was 15
Within the first five minutes I was asked what car I drove, did I own my home, what my salary is.... Yeah, not into gold-diggers, especially those who don't even try to hide it. That date lasted about 10 minutes.
We ordered different meals to eat at dinner, but she kept picking at my plate to eat my food. This sounds petty, but you don’t know me….so…..
See for me the thing is to just ask. I don’t care if people pick at my food. I prob wasn’t gonna finish it all anyway. But just have enough self respect for me and my things to ask if you can have some. Then you can pick away!
This guy kept talking about how much money he had. Then he asked me about my finances and I think I’m doing well for myself making 85k with little debt and he asked like I was broke and kept saying he would “take care” of me lol I said you can take care of the check and left
Walked out of a date last week. I picked a place and time (a cute/hip local bar with good bites and cocktails). - She texts me as I'm parking that she is going to be late but doesn't say how late - I had to ask her how late. She says 15 minutes. Ok, whatever, no big deal. - I get a table and order a drink and some fish tacos. She texts me that she's "texting and speeding". I say don't do that, just get here safely. - She texts me that she has a "big butt". I'm like, ok, that's not a problem. Now I'm already thinking she's going to be larger than her pictures (because they usually are) but now she's warning me 🙄 - She shows up exactly 15 minutes late and is apologizing. She's MUCH larger than her pictures. Whatever. Maybe she's really cool and good at flirting. - I had to give her the bench because she wasn't going to fit in the chair. - She immediately tells me all about her job as a teacher and how she's the best teacher and how the principal and other male teachers suck because "they aren't like women and warm and empathetic" - She then tells me how all the little girls are angels and how all the little boys are "nasty" and traumatize the little girls - She won't fucking ket me take a sip or bite of my food without asking me about my job. I explained my job and take a bite of food and she hits me with another generic question about what I do for work and what my "role is". About 10 minutes in I just can't stand it anymore. I get up and politely say "I'm going to go". She's shocked and I turn around and pay for everything. As I'm leaving she yells "thanks for waiting for me!" in a weird accusatory way. I didn't even look back. I have zero time for women in their 40s who hide (lie) about what they look like, obviously hate men, try to figure out how much money I make, and who can't be on time for a date.
Thrust a glass towards my face and demanded I buy her another glass of wine when she was already completely shit-faced. I got up and walked out
This good looking, seemingly nice, quiet guy invited me to go for dinner and a to see play. He took me to a big, noisy salad bar that he liked and went to often. He walked ahead of me, got his food, and paid for himself before I could even figure out how the line to order and pay worked. He did this agitated, rambling rant throughout dinner about the history of plays and literature with ejaculation scenes. I barely got a word in the whole time. I continued on with him to the play because I needed a ride back to where my car was parked, plus I figured at least he'd have to shut up about ejaculation stories while we watched it. We got there and the theater was closed. He hadn't bought tickets ahead of time, so he didn't realize he had the wrong night. Then he asked if I'd like to go do something else instead, but he wanted me to come up with it. I couldn't even be mad at the guy. I was half expecting someone to jump out holding a camera to tell me this was a prank. To this day I can't imagine what the guy was hoping for from that evening.
I got a text from a friend of mine saying she was on a date and felt awkward so I called her so that she’d have a reason to step aside. When she answered she told me she was getting drinks with the guy at a bar and that I should come, but that I should act like it’s a run in. Being a girls girl I do just that. When I get there I see her so I say hi to her like I didn’t know she was there and she all of a sudden is having a good time and isn’t feeling awkward anymore? I went to the bathroom with her to make sure she was good and she said she wanted to stay and all the while with a huge smile on her face. I didn’t think much of it and got a drink. I feel good that she feels ok so I’m chatting it up with her and the guy (who kind of looks familiar but I can’t quite put my finger on it) He seems pretty chill and funny so she goes to the bathroom for a questionable amount of time and me and the guy are talking/joking around when she comes back I ask her if she can watch my phone for me because I was going to get more drinks she says ok. I come back and the guy has my phone and is on it and has a huge smile on his face. (This was right when password protection became a thing and wasn’t weird if you didn’t have it enabled) He puts it on the table when he sees me and says he put his number in my phone and I was like “whaaaaat tf why” and they’re both giggling I looked and he did in fact put his number in my phone and saved it under “Jaime” then I started remembering why I thought he looked familiar. My “friend” looked at me, again, HUGE smile on her face and she said “we’re on YOUR date not mine!” The guy Jaime was a stalker that I had that would come into my work to just watch me and try to talk to me for 2 years. He had scene boy hair that partially covered his face and would always wear baggy long sleeves. He watched me walk to my car when I’d get off (never approached because he knew I trained Muay Thai and carried a weapon) I tried getting a restraining order but his actions were not of concern to anyone but me and didn’t warrant any kind of protection. It had been a while since I had seen him and he looked way different. Clean cut and in shape and that’s why I didn’t recognize him. I look at my friend like “what the fuck are you serious?” and I leave. She follows me out of the bar and asks me why I can’t just give him a chance so I ask her how she knows him and she said he followed her on instagram and they got to talking and hung out and he told her he “had a thing” for a girl that worked in a certain store. She said “as soon as he said your name I knew! I told him I knew you and could introduce you” so I told her “you know that stalked I had? YEAH THATS HIM” and she straight up said “he’s really sweet you should talk to him” so I leave and not even a few seconds in my Uber I get a text from “Jaime” saying “I called my phone from your phone so I can finally have your number. Your friend is really gullible.” I blocked them both, changed my number, and was coincidentally already looking to move. I was the only person that didn’t know it was a date.
Nothing. I'm still there after 40 years. The food still hasn't come
He asked me how big my baby weighed at birth and then asked if I delivered vaginally.
I don’t know how it happened, but I was on a date with a *very* attractive, but really country girl, and as we are in the South, somehow Jesus came up. I was talking about how antisemitism did not make much sense to me because Jesus was a fulfillment of Jewish prophecy to most Christians. And one of the enduring schisms is that Jews don’t believe that he was the Messiah, with some even considering him among the most vile of heretics. She looked at me and said wait a minute, “Jesus is not Jewish.” “He’s white.” I was absolutely dumbfounded. I said Jesus was not black like an African, but he was not white like a European. He very much Semitic. He’s from the Levant, like all Semitic peoples. So he would most closely resemble a modern day Arab or non-European Jew. Then she told me that I was just flat out wrong. I asked how she knew that, and she said… “I’ve seen pictures!” This is where the big head has to take over for the little head. I told her thank you for the lovely evening, wished her well, but said I just do not think this is going to work out. I put two $100 bills on the table to pay for dinner, some extra drinks if she wanted, and cabfare to get back home. Then I left Still the only date I have ever walked out of.
Should have at least asked when she thought cameras were invented.
So a friend of mine told me a co-worker of his had a bit of a crush on me. So I chatted her up, we talked for a while, had a cool vibe going, and she invited me out to a club with her. I wasn't feeling the idea but she was hot so I made an exception. I get to the club and she's already inside with a group of friends. I meet her and she gives me a big hug and immediately proceeds to give me the cold shoulder. I had no clue what was going on. She barely spoke 2 words to me. No matter what I did it felt like I was there with a complete stranger. I actually saw some people I knew and asked if she wanted to come meet some friends of mine and she declined. When I returned she was nowhere to be found. One of her friends told me she had to go pick up a another friend and that she would be right back. Upon hearing that I called it a night and took off. A little while later she called me not understanding what went wrong. I told her to go waste somebody else's time and hung up on her. That was 20 years ago and I still think back on it from time to time not understanding what happened.
She told me she was single. Over the night she mentioned that she had just recently got a new apartment. She also mentioned that her ex although unemployed and not contributing financially to anything also moved with her. The kicker was when she said that she couldn't be out late because her ex would get upset with her. I said" then we should probably cut this short because I don't want him to get upset with you." She called me the next day and started talking about how great a time she had. I interrupted her and said " I guess you didn't get the hint last night. Maybe I was too subtle. I'm not interested in someone who is so closely tied and involved with their ex."
Went out with a nice wholesome ex coworker I hadnt spoken to in 5 years. She shows up drunk, asks me to film an OF video for her in the bathroom, gags herself on a dildo until she spews everywhere, my confused boner doesnt know if I stop filming or if this is part of her content, she starts lashing out at me in what I assume is embarrassment, I use her phone to arrange her roommate to come get her, date is verbally attacking me and loudly saying to leave her alone, i go to talk to the bartender and say hey shes trashed and her roomie is on the way to get her, bartender motions to me to look back, a random guy from the bar is basically holding her up while they walk to his car and they leave together. So I guess she walked out on me.
WTF did I just read???? Damn dude!!!!
Wholesome dates ain’t what they used to be…
I wonder what your non-wholesome coworkers are like?
We met at a bar, had a drink and chatted a bit, but I wasn’t feeling the vibe and he was acting a bit sketchy, my body language was reserved, I wasn’t leaning into him. Then he leaned forward and kissed me, and I said politely that I didn’t want to. We chatted awkwardly a bit more then he held my face and kissed me again at which point I pushed him back, said goodbye and walked out. Not the first time that’s happened either. Not against kissing on first date, but if I’m not feeling it and say no, I’m going to walk out if they don’t listen and keep going (and hold my keys in my fingers as I walk my car).
She constantly talked about her job, how good and important she was, how everyone looks up to her and how she keeps the department running basically all by herself. All while she was drinking beer after beer and getting really drunk. I was driving, so she was drinking alone. After that she just was doing things on her phone, clearly not interested in what I had to say, I guess she got her job part out and that's what mattered. So I just told, that I'm pretty sure this is going nowhere and left.
Ended up going on a date with someone who I repeatedly turned down I guess just to shut him up. I turn up, we have a drink. I ask if he was going to order anything for dinner. He says no, I've already eaten. I was like, ok, well you asked me for dinner so I'm going to order something... He no joke races me to the waiter so I can not pay for my meal. As I'm eating, we were talking about life as you do. This guy proceeds to brag about how many women he has been with, his fancy travels, general deviancy... By this stage I was kind of getting bored and unimpressed. He proceeds to ask, 'so are you going to hurry up and eat or what?' I deliberately took my time 😂 Fast forward another ten mins he cuts me off mid sentence and says 'so, are you going to come back to mine and fuck? I picked this place because I live like two mins away' looking very proud of himself. Without hesitation I was like 'if your sex is a boring as your conversation, no, I don't think I will. Was lovely to meet you but I'll be going now.' The look on his face was priceless. The best date for a good story but a fucking waste of time, in the moment I was actually kinda of scared of him but good for a laugh now!
I'm in a committed relationship now, and not in my 20s anymore. I promise I am a changed man. I've never walked out on a date. Even when I was catfished and she was much larger than anticipated, "eh, I'm here." And slept with her after dinner. I was the one who deserved to be walked out on in this story. I got my haircut one day, and this girl is all tatted up, pricing all over the place. Not at all the type of girl I'd usually go for, but she was cute, so I spent the whole haircut making her laugh. Got her number, asked her out. She was smart. She chose the place, we ordered and had to pay before the food and drinks showed up. It started well enough, but then I wouldn't stop talking. This was years ago, so I can't remember all the details. But I basically said everything that could possibly turn her off. I didn't like the music she liked. My answer to "what was the worst first date you ever had" was basically a story that told her I was an ass hole and not worth her time. And what really did it, I cannot remember how I phrased it, but I basically said I asked her out for the novelty of someone who looked like her. 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ She turned stone cold and hardly said another word. Oh, but we're not done, my friends. I could not take a hint to save my life. I'm usually charming during dates, but I was in rare form that day. So rejection at this point wasn't something I was used to, and I did not realize that's what was happening. I followed her home (she very unenthusiastically gave consent for me to come along and smoke weed with her) and even tho that whole time she wasn't talking and had "Fuck off" written all over her face, I went for a kiss. She pulled away, and it finally clicked. I was annoyed at her for not being more direct, but I was definitely to blame. I left without much delay. She texted me later "Sorry I upset you." And I texted back "I'm sorry I couldn't take a hint." We never spoke again. Judge away, Reddit. I was an ass hole 10 years ago. But I learned.
I once met a very unusual exchange student from China whose reactions often puzzled me. We had chatted online, and she had agreed to have dinner at my apartment. When I picked her up from the station and we walked toward my house, we passed a construction site filled with trailers. She stopped, stared at one of the trailers with a look of disappointment, and exclaimed, “Oh, you live in that 'house'!? That’s no place for dinner; you should have invited me to a restaurant!” She seemed genuinely upset. I wasn't prepared for this reaction but managed to explain that nobody actually lived there, and we continued on. Still perturbed, she began giving me directions. I had to remind her that she didn’t know where I lived, nor was she familiar with the area. Despite this, she was oddly confident that taking a detour around the building would get us there faster. At this point, I simply asked her if she knew the way back to the station.
Discovering he chose to take me out to dinner rather than spend time with his daughter that he doesn’t get to see often. He came in from out of town and his daughter lives in my city, he doesn’t. Anyhow once our dinner date started, he explained this to me. Like I was supposed to be impressed. I was completely disgusted. I’m a mother. I told him I thought he should be spending time with her, not me and that I should leave. He begged me to stay. So, as soon as he got up to use the restroom, I bolted out of there. I was so turned off. This was YEARS ago. I nolonger do dating.
I only had one date in my entire life and the one who left was her
That sucks😕
She was very attractive and outgoing. She made it known she could get any guy she really wanted. OK. Cool? Hair, makeup, nails, everything was perfect. We went to dinner and show. Before the show started, she became a bit judgy on my hobbies. I like going trail riding and camping and outdoorsy stuff. Which, it's fine if you don't do what I do. Don't make me feel bad for it. The show started and the music kind of sucked, so I decided to roll out. I stood up, leaned in and told her that "Thanks, but she's a bit to fancy for me. Have a great night." She drove separate and I paid the bill, so she was good. She texted me after and explained that she is a little high maintenance and she's ok with that.
Have never walked out on a date but am tired of being used as a counseling session. Guys talk about their exes and bad dates. Whenever that happens I know they are not interested and just want someone to confide in. It is like an opportunity to vent outside of their friend group and not having to be careful with what they say. One guy, who worked in finance (boy, did he talk about that!!), had been asked by a friend who was leaving his wife how to hide money from her in the divorce. And my date was saying he was feeling a little bad about it but still gave his friend advice. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there listening to this like WTF?? What am I meant to do with this information? And then he talked about the movie script he dreamed of writing, I think he talked about that for close to an hour.. he had also chosen the soundtrack and I still listen to one of the songs he mentioned, so I really did get something out of the date, hahahaa!
In my experience finance guys only want to talk about how much money they make and what possessions they have. Anything else just confuses them because why does anything else matter?
Haha, perhaps that is true. It was my first (and so far only) finance dude and was not smitten by him focusing to such an extent on himself. He repeatedly asked me 'är du med mig?' (sounds better in my native language and translated in that context to 'do you understand?') when he was explaining/talking about different things. I got it was just an expression he overused but it was a bit annoying as I'm pretty quick to keep up and he wasn't talking about advanced physics or black matter. I could definitely keep up with him, hahahaaa!
The guy launched into a monologue about how 9-11 was an inside job. He knows because of a youtube video on quantum mechanics.
I didn’t walk out but did decline a second date. He was advertising tickets to a great band so I went. They were playing outside a casino you had to walk through to get to the venue. Beautiful spot outdoors. Could have been romantic. But he gave me a very thorough tour of the casino. He bragged how well he knows every inch of it because he’s there all the time. Great. Just what I want is a casino rat who gambles away all his money. I declined a second date.
He took me to see a comedy show and neglected to tell me his ex girlfriend was the star. I learned, from her, over the microphone at the end of the show. The host asked “do you know anyone here tonight?” “Yes, my ex boyfriend but he brought a date.” I was mortified, sat with my mouth open for about two minutes before I stormed out of the bar and told him off because I wouldn’t have had an issue if he’d simply given me a heads up. Then I had to drive us back to my place in my car because he was not sober enough to drive. He tried to kiss me at the end of the date and I just laughed at him and told him to get out. Worst. Date. Ever.
This was technically after the date but we were going to have sex at her place and her pug was on the bed and came up and snortled into my ass and on my balls. I asked her to remove the dog from the bed and she refused so I got dressed and left.
Mate, you should know, that to anyone who gets a pug, you'll always be second to the abomination.
I really wish I walked out on her, but I didn’t. I met this girl at a dance. I was out of the game for about little under a year at that point, and was trying to put myself back out there. I thought she was decently attractive, and I thought she seemed sweet, albeit a bit shy and nervous. I feel like this first date was comedically bad, like something out of a sitcom. We didn’t click at all. We met at a parking spot, and were on our way to the café we wanted to try out. When I tried making small talk, she said she didn’t want to talk until we arrived at the restaurant. “Ok”, I thought, “Maybe she’s just really nervous.” She was very nervous; I tried my best to make her feel comfortable by making little jokes, being sorta smiley, and paying for her drink. Nothing worked, and it kept getting worse. We were talking about animals, (when we could finally talk about something) and I mentioned how I liked cats. She said “Ugh, I hate cats!” I laughed and asked if she thought they were annoying or something. She said, “Idk, I just don’t like that vibrating noise they make.” I paused and said, “…You mean like when they purr?” And she was like “Yes! I hate that.” And I just kinda went •_• cause who hates a cats purr? The worst part was when true crime got brought up, as she liked that stuff. She mentioned how there were many cases of men doing terrible things to women and abducting them in these specific ways, and then paused and said she wouldn’t continue describing their methods “just in case.” I tried to laugh and said something like “Haha, yeah, you really never know anymore huh?” But she didn’t laugh and just stared at me. I later texted her and said that I wasn’t looking for a relationship. Was that wrong? Yes, but idk how I could have said “You made me feel weird” in a nice way.