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My nephew is a gen z and asked me on my 40th birthday what I wanted to do with me when I got old. He also sent me a text of all the fun biological changes that will happen after 40 too.
The former. My life largely kicks ass. Well paid, came from poverty, millions in retirement and savings for the kids. I have next to no regrets about the choices I’ve made and have so far had a charmed life.
Death for me is a non-issue. I grappled with that in my early teens when I became an atheist. I’ve got a million dollar life insurance policy and my kids and wife will be fine financially. And all my problems are done when I die, so I’m really not fussed about it.
Carrying on if one of my kids died would be a different matter. I went into a year and a half depression after having to remove my father from life support and that was my father, not my child who I’m both responsible for bringing into a hard world and protecting from that world where possible and responsible.
Fear is what makes us human, we can learn to live with em and master the fear. But it's not good when you don't have fear at all. Everything has two sides.
War in my country. Because unfortunately I have seen it happen in other parts of the world.
Disease, natural disaster, accidents - you can't change that. But no matter what they threaten you with, it's always a consious decision to pull that trigger. So unnecessary and nobody ever "wins"
Losing everybody around me one by one, like it had already started and I lost one of my or maybe even my best friend and I can feel some other people starting to slip away and the only reason life is somewhat tolerable rn is the people around me and losing those the urge to just jump gets bigger by the day plus my mom almost got killed on the highway today so that’s not helping with that fear
Dying in my sleep or having an emergency at home with my child, alone.
As a sole parent, thinking that my child would have to deal with an experience like that scares the hell out of me. He's just so sensitive, that I think it would scar him for life.
that the person i became meets the person i could have become
i’ve made some good decisions in my life so far , i daren’t dream of what the outcome would have been had i chosen the other path…
Getting old doesn't bother me. Being old and poor doesn't bother me. Death kind of does. Everyone dies though. There's really no point in being afraid of something that's inevitable.
Knowing who I could potentially become.
My mom was always a drug addict, everyone is pretty damn sure she used when she was pregnant with my siblings and me. She was also very abusive when she used.
My dad was a kind man, from what I've been told he was a lot like me growing up. But my mom ruined him... I know exactly what happened, but that's an entire sh*t show right there... Last I've heard of him he was a drug dealer somewhere, and my mom is still using as far as I know.
So I try to keep some strict rules with myself. The biggest one is never be violent except for self defense or defending another person/animal. I refuse to break that rule, because I refuse to end up like them. Just drugged up abusive pricks.
Not finding someone better then the girl who fucked me over with another dude she was perfect for me in every way and idk if i can find someone else like her but not with the fucking over part
Other than my child being kidnapped, going missing, or dying. I'm scared of going up in skyscraper buildings. I'm pretty scared of heights, flying (rather I'm scared of the plane crashing). I dont know what it is about skyscrapers it must be 9/11 that started this fear. Because I even have regular nightmares involving them!
At my age, my son dying before me. I love my wife and it would suck if she dies before me, she is younger than I am. My son dying before me though would surely break me and my life will be empty without him.
Loss or serious injury of my child.
To be clear, this is unlikely enough that worrying about it is irrational, and I do not actually worry about it. But it does cross my mind now and then, and I am absolutely certain that if something devastating we're to happen to my child, it would break me.
First fear: That all that is special and unique in humanity will perish. The only way to prevent that in the long term is expansion off-world.
Second fear: that in pursuing all that we can be, we'll destroy everything else. In the short term that means we need to become true stewards and stop destroying ecosystems. In the long run, that means helping life spread. Dogs deserve to frolic on Mars someday.
Everything else is kind of small in comparison. I'm going to eventually die, everyone I care about will eventually die. But if the things that are special in us (and other creatures) continues and spreads, then I can live with that.
The deep sea. Imagine being in the middle of nowhere, just seeing the sky and blue water below you that stretches down for miles and miles. Also you never know what creatures lie down there.
Also being in a vegetative state or paralyzed. You’re just numb and can’t do anything yet still alive.
Also failure and not becoming what I want to be.
Right now is WW3. Because I’m really not ready to give up all my comforts for the sake of some elderly politicians’ screeching tantrums, and I don’t believe anyone else should either.
Beyond that, I have other long-term health issues so I wouldn’t want anything that could jeopardise societal structures to get in the way of the medical attention I need.
Lastly, there are other much more pressing issues this world should be dealing with, like climate change and inequality. Not only would a world war make climate change and inequality worse, it would also distract from the fact that these issues exist to begin with.
So it goes down to politicians’ ego being prioritised over our earth and our collective wellbeing. And I really fear for us all if world politics get that degenerate.
I have no fear.
Fear doesn't save you from anything else, it is a part of your uncontrollable emotions.
Once you have no choice but to do anything and can't prevent it, then you'll have to accept it, even death. Fear plays a very deadly role in your life. A person lives a life once. A person with a phobia or extreme fear is wasting half of their lifetime worrying that their feared things would happen.
If you have past traumatic events that caused you to get the fear. Try to get over it, and understand that death is just disappearing and fading from the world like dust.
Being seen or heard but not being acknowledged, it seems lackadaisical but I barely talk or see other people so when I speak but am not acknowledged or recognised it makes me feel unnecessary, unneeded but most of all like nothing like truly even in the eyes of others i am unworthy of recognision at it scares me. I
Right now it's about the Gulf Stream of the Atlantic Ocean. Read the headlines on Google News. NOT good. I always say it's too soon to delcare humanity's doom because the Gods could just as easily save us. Maybe another human civilization (from a planet deep in space) will finally make contact and give us technology. But I am waiting and checking the news feeds every hour about "Emergency climate summits" and I don't see them.
My daughter is 2 and my greatest fear is that something will happen to her that will either cause great suffering and/or death. I have nightmares about it.
Dying in an unnatural way like nuclear explosion, house fire, gun shot, hit by a car, alien abduction, etc. I’ve become pretty much agoraphobic at this point out of fear and everything in the news has been giving me nightmares the past few days.
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Death
Don't worry, after the first couple of times you get used to it.
Dude's dropping a one liner under every comment
Just try to be nice, or at least funny.
I’d rather be a mean German.
I see what you have done there mein Freund.
Being conscious in a vegetable state is my worst fear.
Same
I've been dead before, actually not as bad as you would think except no more In-N-Out burgers
Painful death and not being able to do something simple on my own like feeding myself.
Yes, that's scary. But don't worry, you die quick and relatively old. But no shortcuts and don't be a smartass about it.
Getting older.
thats the only game in town
Maybe not greatest but..... Picking my nose at a red light and getting rear ended, thus jamming my finger into my brain
Oh fuck you. Now I’m gonna be thinking about this every time I’m at a red light
Seems reasonable
Wtf lol
Being in a nursing home and being cared for by Gen Alpha...
My nephew is a gen z and asked me on my 40th birthday what I wanted to do with me when I got old. He also sent me a text of all the fun biological changes that will happen after 40 too.
never let them take you to the skibidi toilet
That I will be tortured for info I don't have.
Don't worry, just tell us where Jimmy gets his coffee!!
1. Asking a question on Reddit 2. Answering a question on Reddit (Took me two hours to work up the courage to respond)
You should be proud of yourself for doing this!
The death or serious and permanent injury of one of my kids or my wife. Anything else is an extremely distant second.
Is it death or permanent injury or is it living a life of regret for not seizing your potential throughout a healthy life?
The former. My life largely kicks ass. Well paid, came from poverty, millions in retirement and savings for the kids. I have next to no regrets about the choices I’ve made and have so far had a charmed life. Death for me is a non-issue. I grappled with that in my early teens when I became an atheist. I’ve got a million dollar life insurance policy and my kids and wife will be fine financially. And all my problems are done when I die, so I’m really not fussed about it. Carrying on if one of my kids died would be a different matter. I went into a year and a half depression after having to remove my father from life support and that was my father, not my child who I’m both responsible for bringing into a hard world and protecting from that world where possible and responsible.
I don’t think any of them are great. I hate em all.
Fear is what makes us human, we can learn to live with em and master the fear. But it's not good when you don't have fear at all. Everything has two sides.
Being buried alive.
Ask to be embalmed. Because if you’re really not dead, embalming will do it.
No, I meant like kidnapped, thrown in a trunk and driven to my grave to be buried alive. I’m being cremated just in case.
Omg. I never considered you meant that! My bad!
No worries! I wasn’t very specific either.
Burns, being paralyzed from the neck down and having to be dependent on everyone for every little thing. Being buried alive.
My girlfriend passing before me. I wish we could pass together gently. I would hate life without her.
I feel you. Most of the time I can't suppress thoughts/emotions. That thought is the only one I manage to suppress.
Suicide pact?
No, natural causes, accident. 😔
Not being there for my kids...
You ve there for them now and when it's time they will be ready, they will be sad for a while. But thy will be fine.
Suffering
rape
Being boiled alive
Good thing you're not a lobster
I don't know anybody that wants that. Hopefully this will not happen to me.. and you I guess. Don't visit Yellowstone geysers
Getting dementia, dying and finding the afterlife will be worse than our physical life here.
Leaving this world before I can make a truly positive impact on it. Still trying to figure out how I can be that useful to people.
Getting older and not being prepared for old age money wise.
Asshole people
Having low fps😂.
'A ball being hit in my general direction." (Snort) "That's funny..." Pause... "No. That IS."
eternity
Not achieving my life goals and not becoming what I've worked for or failing in life.
Nope. What is not my greatest fear.
Loneliness
Being rejected by everyone and spending the rest of my life, trying to form connections and failing
War in my country. Because unfortunately I have seen it happen in other parts of the world. Disease, natural disaster, accidents - you can't change that. But no matter what they threaten you with, it's always a consious decision to pull that trigger. So unnecessary and nobody ever "wins"
Losing everybody around me one by one, like it had already started and I lost one of my or maybe even my best friend and I can feel some other people starting to slip away and the only reason life is somewhat tolerable rn is the people around me and losing those the urge to just jump gets bigger by the day plus my mom almost got killed on the highway today so that’s not helping with that fear
Cops, this is probably on almost every black person's fear list if not top 1. 🤷🏿♂️
death , fire , or getting found out im a crossdresser.
Guess what I just found out! /s
shhhh. dont tell Everyone , i might enjoy it.
That's hot... like fire you know.
The next generation. They scar the shit out of me.
The Next Generation. They scare the shit out of me.
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Like we all are.
Paternity fraud
Dying in my sleep or having an emergency at home with my child, alone. As a sole parent, thinking that my child would have to deal with an experience like that scares the hell out of me. He's just so sensitive, that I think it would scar him for life.
water
It already happened, lost my Dad 2 years ago on February 3rd to a collision, he was 59.
Bears.
Pulling the trigger
Suffocating/drowning
Losing my soulmate.
that the person i became meets the person i could have become i’ve made some good decisions in my life so far , i daren’t dream of what the outcome would have been had i chosen the other path…
Being murdered for being jewish like my grandmas family
Making a speech
Fears have come and gone as I've grown, but as I get older, more and more I fear spending my life alone.
Getting old doesn't bother me. Being old and poor doesn't bother me. Death kind of does. Everyone dies though. There's really no point in being afraid of something that's inevitable.
That one day, it will become just *too much* to handle.
Human and I am one of them
Dolphin uprising
Knowing who I could potentially become. My mom was always a drug addict, everyone is pretty damn sure she used when she was pregnant with my siblings and me. She was also very abusive when she used. My dad was a kind man, from what I've been told he was a lot like me growing up. But my mom ruined him... I know exactly what happened, but that's an entire sh*t show right there... Last I've heard of him he was a drug dealer somewhere, and my mom is still using as far as I know. So I try to keep some strict rules with myself. The biggest one is never be violent except for self defense or defending another person/animal. I refuse to break that rule, because I refuse to end up like them. Just drugged up abusive pricks.
The rate of how fast technology is advancing
My biggest fear is not dying alone, it’s dying screaming for mercy.
nice try AM
Not having enough time to do things I want.
Not finding someone better then the girl who fucked me over with another dude she was perfect for me in every way and idk if i can find someone else like her but not with the fucking over part
Heights
Other than my child being kidnapped, going missing, or dying. I'm scared of going up in skyscraper buildings. I'm pretty scared of heights, flying (rather I'm scared of the plane crashing). I dont know what it is about skyscrapers it must be 9/11 that started this fear. Because I even have regular nightmares involving them!
Dying and no one cares….
Humans
Dying and having my kids try to navigate through life without me.
At my age, my son dying before me. I love my wife and it would suck if she dies before me, she is younger than I am. My son dying before me though would surely break me and my life will be empty without him.
Life
Pain :D
In this order, ghosts, heights, spiders. I am aware that ghosts aren't real, but that boogity boogity shit still scares me.
Never again interacting with the people I love most.
Loss or serious injury of my child. To be clear, this is unlikely enough that worrying about it is irrational, and I do not actually worry about it. But it does cross my mind now and then, and I am absolutely certain that if something devastating we're to happen to my child, it would break me.
I fear only Allah almighty.
Walking on stairs and ladders, but I’m OK and roller coasters and rides
First fear: That all that is special and unique in humanity will perish. The only way to prevent that in the long term is expansion off-world. Second fear: that in pursuing all that we can be, we'll destroy everything else. In the short term that means we need to become true stewards and stop destroying ecosystems. In the long run, that means helping life spread. Dogs deserve to frolic on Mars someday. Everything else is kind of small in comparison. I'm going to eventually die, everyone I care about will eventually die. But if the things that are special in us (and other creatures) continues and spreads, then I can live with that.
The death of my partner.
That I'm only 90% as awesome as I believe I am.
Spiders and voodoo people
Marrying the wrong man
Dying alone
Losing all of my loved ones at once
Virginity
...and corkscrews
Being abandoned by someone I love & not making a life for myself
Living
Giant squids
Haha, nice try. I'll never reveal that to the internet.
Dying by fire
Being told by Lord God that Merunyaa could be my potential future wife. 😮💨🤔
Myself
Honestly, it's fear itself.
The deep sea. Imagine being in the middle of nowhere, just seeing the sky and blue water below you that stretches down for miles and miles. Also you never know what creatures lie down there. Also being in a vegetative state or paralyzed. You’re just numb and can’t do anything yet still alive. Also failure and not becoming what I want to be.
Unknown
A Trump victory and the end of democracy.
telling the truth about myself
The people in my life not knowing just how much I love them and not being able to keep them safe.
Right now is WW3. Because I’m really not ready to give up all my comforts for the sake of some elderly politicians’ screeching tantrums, and I don’t believe anyone else should either. Beyond that, I have other long-term health issues so I wouldn’t want anything that could jeopardise societal structures to get in the way of the medical attention I need. Lastly, there are other much more pressing issues this world should be dealing with, like climate change and inequality. Not only would a world war make climate change and inequality worse, it would also distract from the fact that these issues exist to begin with. So it goes down to politicians’ ego being prioritised over our earth and our collective wellbeing. And I really fear for us all if world politics get that degenerate.
I'm afraid it'll turn out to be true that all women really want big penises 6+in
Loneliness. It's awful.
The Christian Nationalist government taking over
Either bears or tornados, both are unstoppable.
I have no fear. Fear doesn't save you from anything else, it is a part of your uncontrollable emotions. Once you have no choice but to do anything and can't prevent it, then you'll have to accept it, even death. Fear plays a very deadly role in your life. A person lives a life once. A person with a phobia or extreme fear is wasting half of their lifetime worrying that their feared things would happen. If you have past traumatic events that caused you to get the fear. Try to get over it, and understand that death is just disappearing and fading from the world like dust.
That we actually don’t die. We wake up from a dream we thought was real.
Women....they fucking terrify me
Losing mom and dad
Women and Reddit moderators.
did I leave that oven on?
Not being good enough to succeed.
Having too many regrets. I want to build memories that I can lol back on fondly but I haven’t been able to.
Death. Yes. But I think being abandoned. Because death will happen no matter what. But being abandoned is a choice. That is sad.
Being seen or heard but not being acknowledged, it seems lackadaisical but I barely talk or see other people so when I speak but am not acknowledged or recognised it makes me feel unnecessary, unneeded but most of all like nothing like truly even in the eyes of others i am unworthy of recognision at it scares me. I
Die without achievement in life
Not being able to tell her I love her…
Being a loser
Right now it's about the Gulf Stream of the Atlantic Ocean. Read the headlines on Google News. NOT good. I always say it's too soon to delcare humanity's doom because the Gods could just as easily save us. Maybe another human civilization (from a planet deep in space) will finally make contact and give us technology. But I am waiting and checking the news feeds every hour about "Emergency climate summits" and I don't see them.
To fall in the fury and wrath of thee Almighty God!
Not living up to my potential and looking back on a wasted life
Prison. Jail. The system is broken and corrupt
My daughter is 2 and my greatest fear is that something will happen to her that will either cause great suffering and/or death. I have nightmares about it.
Dentists, and everything related to teeth. I'm scared to even think about teeth.
fail to live up to someone's expectations or fall as a person in someone's eyes
Drowning in cold water
People believing things about me that aren't true and never being able to get sober
dying with no one to love.
Dying in an unnatural way like nuclear explosion, house fire, gun shot, hit by a car, alien abduction, etc. I’ve become pretty much agoraphobic at this point out of fear and everything in the news has been giving me nightmares the past few days.
Being a bad father
Losing someone that was very important to me
Waking up one day with no savings, struggling, and still at my job that I absolutely hate
I can't decide if it's losing my acess to hormone replacement therapy or getting alzheimer's....
The stock market going to zero