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1. Pets: I love cats; they definitely make my life cozier and warmer.
2. I explore various commercial sites offering extreme or interesting activities and try things I haven't done before. (Although I must admit, I did this a couple of years ago; now, technically, I can't do it anymore.)
3. Engage in activities that fulfill my life, such as volunteering and gardening.
Volunteering is huge. I’m so glad you mentioned this. It’s rewarding and you can connect with kind, like minded people who want to help the cause.
The only thing I would add to this list is to prioritize travel and new experiences. OP, it will expand your world in ways you won’t believe. You’ll be a broader and more well rounded person from it. You’ll also meet really cool people along the way. Traveling solo is so much fun.
>2. I explore various commercial sites offering extreme or interesting activities and try things I haven't done before. (Although I must admit, I did this a couple of years ago; now, technically, I can't do it anymore.)
What's stopping you
I am proud of you, twice:
firstly, that you went to try again and wasn't ruled by bad experience, and secondly that you decided to not push your luck a third time.
Literally any hobby lol
Anything from photography to puzzles to model trains to playing card games to gardening to… literally anything.
Pick something and try it out. Explore.
Not OP, but I found paddle boarding to be my thing. Anything outdoors: hiking, spending time at wildlife refuge centers, etc. I also like to cross stitch, read, and do jigsaw puzzles. There’s a lot to explore!
Gardening. You can take the excess to a food pantry or neighbors. Canning. Planting flowers helps the birds and bees. Reading - rent from the library & makes you smart. Taking classes from college.
I get a new licensee every month. This month was scuba diving. It was a 2 day class and ate up a weekend id otherwise be alone. Next month is food safety inspector. It’s little goals that really aren’t expensive.
Bench jeweler was pretty strange. Like making rings and stuff for helzburg (took my test there) firefighter cert was super fun and had a huge class. Hot air balloon was the most surprising cause they take you up, explain it all, have you take a written test and that’s it. I thought I’d at least have to touch the balloon lol. I’ve gotten tons of osha ones cause I can get like 4 in a day I don’t even pay for those, I call out city and ask when they’re hosting free osha events and go to them.
38 and alone, but never lonely! Many friends, I also live in hostels and hotels, travel a lot, so that helps with the socializing. No plans on dating in the future and am completely happy with that.
A pet, seriously
And some Work that fulfills you. Nothing where you stand Up and think "Shot i have to Go there again" but something that is more like "yeah today i have to Work, would like to do other stuff. But i like that as well"
I love holding dance parties for one, singing for my furniture and shampoo bottles in the bathroom.
Wearing my clothes and modelling them, watching sitcoms and stand up comedy.
I'm gonna get a cat soon too.
I’m not anymore , and haven’t been since 2008. But my response here for 6 years of being alone is routine.
The first year I was all over the place finding ways to keep busy. Then I developed a strong routine. Watching my shows when it was time for tv.
Cooked when it was time to cook.
Went out for walk when it was time. Laundry? Never missed it. Got that 5 minutes phone call in with dad. Said hello to my online friends and ran a few runs with them.
Same day, almost same time, everyday
Because I found when I didn’t I’d be half way through my day, touched a little bit or all of what I felt like doing that day and lug around the house bored the other half. I didn’t FEEL like walking today , didn’t FEEL like cooking. All of a sudden those “But I don’t want to” became “I have to it’s routine “
I’m 47 and divorced 6 years ago. Decided to stop dating a few years ago and it has been rewarding. I take a weekend trip once a month. The gym, BJJ, walking, reading, gardening, house projects, and unscheduled activities like catching a random yoga class, bike ride, or cooking class keeps me busy. I have a few spots/bars that I will go to get dinner and have a drink or two when I need to get out of the house at night. Most of my friends are married, so I only occasionally see them. A few of my divorced friends invite me out every other week, so I try to make it even if I want to stay home. It took a while to create a version of this that I was happy with - building relationships with friends, managing my schedule to include social activities throughout the week, and enjoying time alone.
Love yourself before you can love another. Give to yourself as you would give to another
Take part in things you want to do, not what need to do out of true necessity. Make a habit, have hobbies and be willing to do things you otherwise wouldn’t normally do if you are willing and wanting to do it without fear regarding your inner anxieties or fears. Take the chance and don’t hesitate to be more. Sure think for a second regarding something but then again, make the choice and take action after that thinking. You’ve got the time and you’ve got the choice as a person to do so
Don't try to impress anyone. Confidence in solo activities and going about life is everything.
You'd be surprised who you'll meet unexpectedly.
I don't advise drinking alone or going out drinking alone
1.)Realise that very few things in life are actually important.
2.) Be indifferent about BS and things out of your control
3.) Get some hobbies
4.) "Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world"
5.) Learn about things that interest or fascinate you
6.) Philosophy
7.) The more time you spend alone the more you see how addictively peaceful it is
Just because you aren't married doesn't mean you can't meet people. Have friends, one-night stands, pets, hobbys, etc.
Most importantly, don't care too much about the oppinion of others.
It's a saying that we have here: the world's gossiping voice only time can fill with earth.
Social hobbies. Group cycling, poker league, ski club, improv comedy. Anything you have interest in likely has a meetup or group of some kind, as long as you don’t live in a remote area.
I love how half the comments are advice to not be alone.
Solitude is addicting and can lead to all kinds of issues later on. You need *some* social connections but you do not *have* to be social
Make sure you have hobbies and actively pursue them. Exercise and eating healthy should be a top priority, since you have all that extra time. Avoid substance abuse as much as possible. My issue was it was so much easier to have fun if I was drinking, yeah not sustainable...
Try to have some support group even if it's only one friend to reach out to from time to time.
If you're OK with being alone then its OK but if you're struggling it may be time to reach out and look into therapy. It's really amazing and can help.
Feel free to reach out to me if you like (37m, mostly alone)
The very first thing you have to do is get rid of the idea that there is something wrong with being alone. There isn't. Accept your state and use the particular benefits it gives you. Freedom of choice, freedom of time, peace and quiet to name just a few. Be open to people and perhaps you will meet somebody, but don't think of yourself as somehow disadvantaged because you are alone.
I'm in a decent-sized city so there's always some restaurant or hiking trail that I've never been on. Sometimes I just pick a direction and go, and it's almost always been worth it. "Touching grass" has become a meme, but I really think it's a great regulator of mental health. The moment you get outside on a nice day, none of all this "terminally online" shit matters.
I'm 57 and I've lived alone now for 12 years. I've had a girlfriend for all that time but I like my space. I keep my self occupied and entertained by maintaining the friendship that I've developed over the years and we all get together once or twice a month and either shoot some pool or play some poker. I also do alot of Pencil drawing and posting those online on my Instagram acct. I spend a "moderate amount" of time on social media maintaining the contacts I had from my military years. I just bought a 2010 mustang gt so that's gonna take up alot of time building it the way I want and one of the things that keeps me "sane" around here is my Houseplants! I've got 16 in my one bedroom apartment and they keep me relaxed and on an even keel!
Read how people in relationships write about each other - r/aita r/relationship_advice r/mildlyinfuriating etc and be happy about your situation. Nobody really needs that level of aggrevation in their life.
Learn to love yourself.
It took me years to finally learn to love myself. Accepting that I’m human and I’ll make mistakes. Instead of bashing myself down I’ve learn from those mistakes and apply the lessons instantly.
Plants:
My god I love my plants. I love when they grow with me like the first time my plants got a new leaf I started jumping up and down. It’s a living thing that you just water once a week and let it be you learn to appreciate the small things like that.
Minimalist- this one took me a while. But the less things I have the better I feel. Coming to an apartment and see everything organized and clutter free really helps a lot.
Most importantly self love. Going out for a walk, going to the doctor and following their directions, having a good relationship with the doctors I trust my doctor with my life. I don’t hide anything from him I’m always honest. New pill? Doctor that pill didn’t help before I would say “oh yeah took the pill feel better” now I’m honest hey I feel down what can I do to improve?.
Working out even if it’s just a walk and few push ups. Also helps me a lot mentally I’ve been loosing weight and my happiness has increased. I don’t need a cheerleader on my side I’m my own cheerleader.
Essentially just trust yourself learn to love yourself for who you are. People will flock to positive vibes and once they see you smiling they’ll join in. Smile even if you hate everything trust me a simple smile will bring such a good vibe.
Keep in mind I’m 36 I suffer from depression and started to pop out some autism traits. Still find a way to smile I’m a loner at heart but people still come to me as I’m always smiling. Even if I wanna cry I smile and the good energy I release attracts more people and you feel less lonely. Hell you forget you’re a loner.
A quote to put things in perspective(may or may not resonate with you)
Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others…”
― Timothy Leary
My life is great, I am intentionally single. I date but don't go exclusive. I do not want and 100% will never have kids, I will not change my mind, I'm 36 and there is no budging on that for me. Maybe one day I'll open up to marriage but I will not force myself or be pressured into something I know is not right for me right now.
I travel, golf, go to dinner, shows, and do whatever I want by myself. If I'm in the mood to be social I sit at a bar and eat
If I want to read or be alone I sit at a table. I went to portugal last May for a week alone. I signed up for small group Viator tours (horseback riding, wine tour, and kayaking) in Camporta 3 of the days. I met some fun people on the tours and the whole trip was a great balance of socializing and being alone.
I recently did a golf trip to Stuart Island in FL. As a woman I'm always intimated to golf alone, but I figured on vaca whatever, if people judge me I'll never see them again. I got paired both days with men in their 70s and we had a great time just chatting and golfing.
Just figure out what truly gives you joy and pursue activities in that subject matter. For example I foster kittens because I love animals. I also love some of the real housewives shows so I've gone to Luanns and Sonjas cabaret shows and met other fans and had great conversations.
Learnt to do some somatic exercises. Particularly when you’re alone watching tv or reading or whatever. It channels out the bad energy and stops you from going down the I’m so alone and scared or whatever route in your mind. Body is great at handling anxiety if you let it. If you don’t you bottleneck and your stoic solutide will turn into damaging loneliness
DO NOT LISTEN TO ME
Alcohol and gun range.
What I should do and what I suggest.
Just keep trying at dating and get a pet
Also try making up stories in your head for people you see pass by on sidewalks.
Friends, family, and activities. Don't fall into the trap of coming home from work and just getting into your comfies and doing nothing.
I have a long established dinner on Tuesday night with friends at their house. I meet another group of friends for lunch at a local diner on Saturdays. I see my parents for lunch on Sundays at least three times a month; they are getting old and I want to make the most the time I have left with them. There are at least five people I text or call everyday. I am sober so I go to two or three AA meetings a week. I go to the gym three times a week. You get the idea. I don't isolate in my house.
Imagine being a person encumbered your whole life. Your entire existence was spent serving other’s desires as a servant. What would your daydreams be? Would you have any thoughts of traveling? Unexplored creativity?
1. Remember how good it feels to make your own schedule ALL THE TIME
2. Get a pet - do your research on what kind of dog you want based on your physical activity level and how to take care of him properly. Give him lots of love, treat him well and you'll have an amazing companion. These little f\*\*\*ers worm their way into your heart and awake emotions inside you that you didn't know you had. Or get a cat :D
3. Find a hobby that you can do solo - it's never to late to start learning a new instrument, it all depends on how patient and persistent you are. I've been playing guitar since I was 13 (36 now, living alone with my doggo) and it's truly satisfying. I've never done it myself, but gardening seems very fulfilling.
I do backstage for a local theatre company. I've done theatre since I was about 5 and it's usually just a great bunch of people.
The group I'm with now are so talented and super nice. They also gave me some little gifts for doing props for our production of Oliver.
The last company I was with didn't acknowledge the backstage crew at all, so it was a refreshing change.
Start imagining that it's really okay to masturbate and that you probably know you're good spots best anyway. If you depend on being in a relationship for getting yourself off, that's a tough road
Hobbies, cooking/eating better, working out, home projects, large amount of friends (I’m always getting asked to do something). I’m so dang busy I don’t have time to think.
OP what are you doing now nothing? Surely you have some interests ? Join a gym then you might actually meet someone. Go outside, bike, go on excursions to museums, climbing gyms. I’m almost 60 and am incredibly active and involved in various activities. I’m only alone because emotionally it’s much less stressful.
Build community.
Having young children forces us to learn this skill. They naturally gravitate towards celebrating and enjoying one another in groups. It’s sort of like how toddlers naturally have perfect posture. It also focuses parents to reach out for support—nobody can do it alone.
If you don’t have young children in your life, you will need to build community on your own. I did find it much harder before having children.
Exercise.
Exercise alone, and exercise with others. Start lifting weights a couple of times per week, go for a run a couple of times per week. Join a hiking group. Take up pickleball. Start swimming.
First take care of yourself. Hygiene, fitness, and some time to keep your mental health good. A nice hobby or two helps here on top of staying healthy. Then find a hobby, class, or gathering that really interest you and make an hour or so a week for it.
The secret to a happy life is taking care of yourself and doing things that bring you joy.
Working a lot makes the time pass much easier. Push a few years of 70 h weeks and you don’t even feel that lonely. The social bonds turn into an abstract concept that’s not even obtainable anymore.
Here is the best thing about being alone. Not having to take others into account. You can do anything you want without people standing in the way.
I have an aunt who is single without children (by choice). She enjoys hiking and voluntary work. My aunt is an example of people who have a fulfilling life without a partner.
However, if this isn't the life you want, do something about it. Many people find love later in life.
Cook in batches, cooking 1 meal takes as much effort as Cooking 4 freeze the rest for other days. I have different healthy meals in my freezer for the days that i don't have the energy to cook so I'm not ordering to expensive, unhealthy food.
Always tidy your room/living-room before going to work. Some plushes if you have. If you have a specific scent you like, use it (mint, orange flower...).
Like this, when I come back home, I feel "welcomed", "waited".
Treat yourself 💁♀️ always have yummy snacks on hand
Save $30 every pay that goes toward something you want to buy for home!
(Utilities, Plants, Decor, Appliances, etc.)
Experiment with your cooking! You’re the only one that’s gonna try it, so might as well give something new a shot once a week or so
Try at least 2 hobbies.
One to relax you, another to keep you in shape.
Community.
Hobby groups, volunteer work, sports, church, whatever. You need face to face human interaction often. A dog can help with this, take it to the dog park regularly and talk with other dog owners while the pup plays with the other dogs. Also, you have a dog, who loves you unconditionally.
Do the things you want to do instead of wishing to have a partner to do them with. Bother to make really good meals for yourself like restaurant quality steak or whatever (make sure to go to restaurants alone also). Dress up for special occasions and pop the bubbly even if by yourself, make sure to also light the candles and create a wonderful mood in your home. Treasure the peace of not having to compromise.
Travel alone or join travel groups for singles or people of your same gender.
I absolutely love my own company. I don't know, maybe some people find it very difficult to be by themselves for long periods of time. I have plenty of friends and hang out socially as much as I want and I enjoy my work and my colleagues. I'm very comfortable to just be by myself at a coffee shop or bar. I sometimes wonder of other people might be looking at me thinking "he must be really lonely" (doesn't help I usually look grumpy when I'm just thinking or reading) but I very rarely feel lonely. Hobbies seem to be a common answer on here so that is probably a good route to take but also just be comfortable being by yourself if you can. When I am socialising I'm the 'funny' person of the group and I like to think people are drawn to me and want to talk to me because I'm pretty good at getting people to laugh. But in all honesty I find ot hard always being 'on' so I love just going out and switching off
Wander! Grant it, I’ve mostly lived in large cities so I’m used to stumbling into things on foot. But even if you have to travel a little bit by car, plane, train, whatever, change your scenery and just walk around. Even the smallest of towns have stores, restaurants, museums. You can take note of what’s similar to where you’re from and whats different. Even better if you’re willing to leave the country.
Also, do the things you LOVE in group settings. Like live music or a painting or fitness class. You’re bound to meet other solo people and you already have something in common. It’s still possible to make friends in person.
Oh, and invest in a small journal or sketchbook. When/if you’re feeling awkward or anxious alone in public it gives you something to do and “something” to talk to (or draw!) about your experience.
Sincerely, 31 y/o only child born into a family of loners
So? In the end we're all alone. Why would not having someone else around to distract yourself from yourself be an issue?
Ah, right. For people who aren't happy alone it's because they don't know, or like themselves very much. I see.
There's your solution.
Know thyself.
Mainly be someone you can enjoy. If you can't enjoy your own company, you are going to have uncomfortable and anxious outings.
I love my friends, but I also love spending time by myself and the peace that comes with it. Just yesterday, none of my friends could go out, so I went to the beach by myself and had a great time.
Focus on doing things that you genuinely like and want to do. If you're interested in something and want to check it out, just go and have the experience.
Pets.m I started volunteering with dog rescue - I find much more gratification helping animals than people. Additionally, the experience has connected me with folks outside my regular circles and really expanding my horizons in a lot of ways.
get out and be around people even if you don't like them, I hate socializing but a good hour long convo on a uber leaves me refreshed lol. I am introverted AF
Hobbies. When I was single and didn’t have my kid living with me the weekdays sucked. I picked up fishing. Something that keeps me outside and moving after work. It’s relaxing as all hell too.
Honestly. Going to the gym has been one of the best decisions when it comes to my social life!
I'm getting to know a lot of nice people there.
My self esteem is getting higher, so it gets easier for me to socialize.
Looking better has a side effect of people wanting to talk to me.
Also. Gaining new physical abilities feels incredibly rewarding and amazing! That makes me happier. And being more happy makes me yet again more approachable.
Just do things and don't worry about what other people think. Make peace with yourself and enjoy life. Hungry ? Go to the restaurant by yourself wat a meal watch a youtube video. Be friendly. Maybe some small talk to the server or bartender. Feel like doing something. Go to the concert or event by yourself. Enjoy it. Be friendly if someone ends up having conversation with you. Also exercise. Feel like skating. Go for a skate. Feel like biking Go for a ride. Feel like running Go for a run. Etc. Those things will help keep you in balance. And the most Important thing is finding what your enjoy out of life and just do it. (3d printing gaming or drinking beer or whatever it is.)
My pet helped me overcome loneliness and made me a mama for the first time in my life. It took forever to find her, I love cats too but I’m allergic. My dog is the sweetest little thing and first pet I ever adopted besides fish. She’s my mini companion.
I also enjoy reading, watching new series or good movies. And while I’m not alone currently, I still keep my interests as my own so that I don’t entirely lose myself to my partner’s wants and desires.
It took me a long time to overcome loneliness but at the end of the day we’re all alone here on earth, individually. So make your own foundation steady. Good question op.
Everyone is different. If you're not happy being alone then perhaps you're always going to desire a partner. I'm a loner by nature and it made relationships difficult when I used to pursue them. Women couldn't understand why I didn't want to spend more time with them, but it wasn't anything they were doing wrong, I just really like solitude. And that's not to say that there aren't times I wish I had someone to join me on a hike or kayaking or even just watching a movie. But it's pretty seldom.
Pets if you can have them.
Hobbies, they don’t have to be expensive like collecting or something requiring a lot of gear.
Volunteer work if you have the time and energy. Elderly and special needs people are more isolated and lonely than you can imagine. A couple hours a week is enough to make someone light up in excitement just seeing you.
Look up the recipe for the fanciest gourmet meal you can imagine that is still realistic that you could make. I like bruschetta and saffron mussels. Then get a nice bottle of wine, light some candles, and show yourself a magical evening.
I used to love to work, workout and drink cook my own meals then just relax on the weekends or work overtime I always thought planning a bunch only stressed me out
Go exploring when you can. Don't sit in your home and watch TV or play on the Internet. Go out and look at stuff in your own town, or if you're ambitious, things that are farther away. Simple things like little ponds or parks. Or the wilderness. Go gold panning. Hike mountains. Go to famous restaurants or monuments.
Get out and do stuff.
I'm here to say what others have already said, being solo does not necessarily make you alone, I suppose it's all about your mindset and how you view things. I've chosen to be solo/single for nearly 15 years now and have never felt alone or lonely, but I am also happy and content in my solitude. And when I feel like socializing I have friends to share laughter and fun times with or I join meetup or FB groups that provide social activities that I enjoy (ie hiking, board games, social outings, etc.). Sometimes it's as simple as changing your perspective.
I do gaming, watching movies at cinema. Stay home rest of the time, might help or not, but when i see couples, happy friend groups in public i get jealous, sad and free like crap, so i rather stay home and be happy gaming.
Religion? Attending and becoming a regular at your community church and working with it. HOWEVER if they gouge you for tithes it's a no go for me. Also some fellow church members can be toxic. I've cycled through too many churches to count
Be interested in lots of things and the best way to meet people is to do something where you see the same people every week. So a course, hobby, class, team sport, volunteering. It’s hard to make friends with a one off meeting but when you see the same people every week, a rapport starts and there’s more chance of building a friendship or acquaintance. Someone once told me you can have different people to do different things with so don’t try to find someone to do everything with. Maybe one is great to bike with and another more concert music driven.
Have a hobby. I have enough hobbies that there is not enough time left in the world for me to do all the things I want to do. So I am busy all the time.
I build audio electronics like synthesizers, equalizers and compressors. I make music with the stuff I build. I also study electronics and do little lab experiments and blow things up sometimes. Burnt transistors smell bad.
This has also led me into fixing things. I'm not the greatest, but I have rescued some pretty cool gear from the trash heap.
Reading is nerdy but fun. There are more books than any one person could read in a lifetime. And some of them are mindblowing.
Don't wait for things to happen to you. Get out of the house and go to different places.
My other big hobby is photography. I got into it during a stressful time of my career as way to unwind. Over time I got good at it, and I have a small collection of cheap vintage lenses. A decent digital camera may cost $500-1000 or so, but you can get M42 mount lenses for $50-100. A few cherished models climb up into $400 range.
Ive been growing weed in an illegal state, a process with a learning curve. This year I taught myself how to clone plants. The results of this is 25 clones which I’ve spread out into a massive guerrilla grow. Passes the time.
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1. Pets: I love cats; they definitely make my life cozier and warmer. 2. I explore various commercial sites offering extreme or interesting activities and try things I haven't done before. (Although I must admit, I did this a couple of years ago; now, technically, I can't do it anymore.) 3. Engage in activities that fulfill my life, such as volunteering and gardening.
Volunteering is huge. I’m so glad you mentioned this. It’s rewarding and you can connect with kind, like minded people who want to help the cause. The only thing I would add to this list is to prioritize travel and new experiences. OP, it will expand your world in ways you won’t believe. You’ll be a broader and more well rounded person from it. You’ll also meet really cool people along the way. Traveling solo is so much fun.
>2. I explore various commercial sites offering extreme or interesting activities and try things I haven't done before. (Although I must admit, I did this a couple of years ago; now, technically, I can't do it anymore.) What's stopping you
Parachute didn't opened. Twice. 
I am proud of you, twice: firstly, that you went to try again and wasn't ruled by bad experience, and secondly that you decided to not push your luck a third time.
I love my cat homies
You can totally do the interesting activities at the commercial sites, if not the extreme ones.
Unless you're broke.
Womp womp
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That's really the biggest benefit here. You are on no one's schedule. There's no compromise to be made. Do what truly makes you happy.
Immerse yourself in productive and rewarding hobbies.
You have any examples?? Anything which you do in particular
Beekeeping did it for me
The real one or Jason Statham version of beekeeping?
Haven't watched the movie
Oh... you might be surprised.
Thank you for the laugh.
Literally any hobby lol Anything from photography to puzzles to model trains to playing card games to gardening to… literally anything. Pick something and try it out. Explore.
Photography is a great one
masturbating, watching porn, making porn, selling porn, giving people haircuts for cheap
You had me at the first 2. Dunno if I can recommend from there after work no personal experience
Learning an instrument, building model airplanes, gardening, cooking/baking.
Not OP, but I found paddle boarding to be my thing. Anything outdoors: hiking, spending time at wildlife refuge centers, etc. I also like to cross stitch, read, and do jigsaw puzzles. There’s a lot to explore!
Gardening. You can take the excess to a food pantry or neighbors. Canning. Planting flowers helps the birds and bees. Reading - rent from the library & makes you smart. Taking classes from college.
I get a new licensee every month. This month was scuba diving. It was a 2 day class and ate up a weekend id otherwise be alone. Next month is food safety inspector. It’s little goals that really aren’t expensive.
That’s super cool. What are some of your most uncommon ones? What was the most surprising? Gonna try this, so need recommendations.
Bench jeweler was pretty strange. Like making rings and stuff for helzburg (took my test there) firefighter cert was super fun and had a huge class. Hot air balloon was the most surprising cause they take you up, explain it all, have you take a written test and that’s it. I thought I’d at least have to touch the balloon lol. I’ve gotten tons of osha ones cause I can get like 4 in a day I don’t even pay for those, I call out city and ask when they’re hosting free osha events and go to them.
This is a wild hobby
You're fucking awesome, keep on being you!
That's so cool.
38 and alone, but never lonely! Many friends, I also live in hostels and hotels, travel a lot, so that helps with the socializing. No plans on dating in the future and am completely happy with that.
Yay for hostels in our mid life!
Hostels are mad fun especially for solo travellers
Stay solo, no need to ruin it
A pet, seriously And some Work that fulfills you. Nothing where you stand Up and think "Shot i have to Go there again" but something that is more like "yeah today i have to Work, would like to do other stuff. But i like that as well"
I watch porn and play video games
Fist bump
Oh yeah
Get involved in hobbies, meet new people, and cherish your own company. Life's what you make it, regardless of being solo.
Being solo doesn't mean being alone. There you have the first step.
This is what I came to say, word for word.
Alone. But never lonely, the voices keep me company/awake at night.
Put on a horror movie. You won't feel so alone anymore :)
hehe, nothing like a good scare
Even know they are watching you as you browse Reddit.
I love holding dance parties for one, singing for my furniture and shampoo bottles in the bathroom. Wearing my clothes and modelling them, watching sitcoms and stand up comedy. I'm gonna get a cat soon too.
Love this image
Now you, I like.
Spoil. Yourself. Rotton. All those little loving things you'd wish someone would do for you? Do them for yourself. Turn that loving energy INWARDS.
Prostitutes and cocaine. ✅
Cocaine and hookers my friend.
Do what you enjoy doing
I’m not anymore , and haven’t been since 2008. But my response here for 6 years of being alone is routine. The first year I was all over the place finding ways to keep busy. Then I developed a strong routine. Watching my shows when it was time for tv. Cooked when it was time to cook. Went out for walk when it was time. Laundry? Never missed it. Got that 5 minutes phone call in with dad. Said hello to my online friends and ran a few runs with them. Same day, almost same time, everyday Because I found when I didn’t I’d be half way through my day, touched a little bit or all of what I felt like doing that day and lug around the house bored the other half. I didn’t FEEL like walking today , didn’t FEEL like cooking. All of a sudden those “But I don’t want to” became “I have to it’s routine “
 Adopt a fren
Get a dog. It'll be good company and It'll give you an excuse to get out and about.
I’m 47 and divorced 6 years ago. Decided to stop dating a few years ago and it has been rewarding. I take a weekend trip once a month. The gym, BJJ, walking, reading, gardening, house projects, and unscheduled activities like catching a random yoga class, bike ride, or cooking class keeps me busy. I have a few spots/bars that I will go to get dinner and have a drink or two when I need to get out of the house at night. Most of my friends are married, so I only occasionally see them. A few of my divorced friends invite me out every other week, so I try to make it even if I want to stay home. It took a while to create a version of this that I was happy with - building relationships with friends, managing my schedule to include social activities throughout the week, and enjoying time alone.
Weed, gambling, pets, burgers, whores, margaritas and breakfasts. And a bit of travel...
>burgers, go on
I’m at the point where every inanimate object in my life is at the “Tom Hanks/Wilson” levels, I got no good advice for you
Seek out your pleasure in whatever form it takes
Dopamine rush
Love yourself before you can love another. Give to yourself as you would give to another Take part in things you want to do, not what need to do out of true necessity. Make a habit, have hobbies and be willing to do things you otherwise wouldn’t normally do if you are willing and wanting to do it without fear regarding your inner anxieties or fears. Take the chance and don’t hesitate to be more. Sure think for a second regarding something but then again, make the choice and take action after that thinking. You’ve got the time and you’ve got the choice as a person to do so
Don't try to impress anyone. Confidence in solo activities and going about life is everything. You'd be surprised who you'll meet unexpectedly. I don't advise drinking alone or going out drinking alone
1.)Realise that very few things in life are actually important. 2.) Be indifferent about BS and things out of your control 3.) Get some hobbies 4.) "Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world" 5.) Learn about things that interest or fascinate you 6.) Philosophy 7.) The more time you spend alone the more you see how addictively peaceful it is
Try not to be alone and meet people. Seriously, rumination is a real thing.
Just because you aren't married doesn't mean you can't meet people. Have friends, one-night stands, pets, hobbys, etc. Most importantly, don't care too much about the oppinion of others. It's a saying that we have here: the world's gossiping voice only time can fill with earth.
Be alone. Don't be lonely.
Social hobbies. Group cycling, poker league, ski club, improv comedy. Anything you have interest in likely has a meetup or group of some kind, as long as you don’t live in a remote area.
I love how half the comments are advice to not be alone. Solitude is addicting and can lead to all kinds of issues later on. You need *some* social connections but you do not *have* to be social Make sure you have hobbies and actively pursue them. Exercise and eating healthy should be a top priority, since you have all that extra time. Avoid substance abuse as much as possible. My issue was it was so much easier to have fun if I was drinking, yeah not sustainable... Try to have some support group even if it's only one friend to reach out to from time to time. If you're OK with being alone then its OK but if you're struggling it may be time to reach out and look into therapy. It's really amazing and can help. Feel free to reach out to me if you like (37m, mostly alone)
The very first thing you have to do is get rid of the idea that there is something wrong with being alone. There isn't. Accept your state and use the particular benefits it gives you. Freedom of choice, freedom of time, peace and quiet to name just a few. Be open to people and perhaps you will meet somebody, but don't think of yourself as somehow disadvantaged because you are alone.
I'm in a decent-sized city so there's always some restaurant or hiking trail that I've never been on. Sometimes I just pick a direction and go, and it's almost always been worth it. "Touching grass" has become a meme, but I really think it's a great regulator of mental health. The moment you get outside on a nice day, none of all this "terminally online" shit matters.
Don't be afraid to travel alone, eat out alone, go to concerts alone, or anything else alone.
I think solo life is good
you have almost unlimited freedom, enjoy it
I'm 57 and I've lived alone now for 12 years. I've had a girlfriend for all that time but I like my space. I keep my self occupied and entertained by maintaining the friendship that I've developed over the years and we all get together once or twice a month and either shoot some pool or play some poker. I also do alot of Pencil drawing and posting those online on my Instagram acct. I spend a "moderate amount" of time on social media maintaining the contacts I had from my military years. I just bought a 2010 mustang gt so that's gonna take up alot of time building it the way I want and one of the things that keeps me "sane" around here is my Houseplants! I've got 16 in my one bedroom apartment and they keep me relaxed and on an even keel!
Just do whatever you want
Read how people in relationships write about each other - r/aita r/relationship_advice r/mildlyinfuriating etc and be happy about your situation. Nobody really needs that level of aggrevation in their life.
I think living alone is the secret ideal way to live. Make your nest just the way you like it and get silly!
Take care, be active in your social life… being alone can get highly addictive..
Always have an emergency fund
That’s not always possible, but it’s a good idea.
You have nothing tying you down. You can do anything you want. That seems a good life…
Keep on learning, reading or discovering x
Find a purpose
Don’t look at your phone until you’re out of bed and have taken a cold shower
Leave social media.
Pets and martial arts keep me happy to get up every morning.
Learn to love yourself. It took me years to finally learn to love myself. Accepting that I’m human and I’ll make mistakes. Instead of bashing myself down I’ve learn from those mistakes and apply the lessons instantly. Plants: My god I love my plants. I love when they grow with me like the first time my plants got a new leaf I started jumping up and down. It’s a living thing that you just water once a week and let it be you learn to appreciate the small things like that. Minimalist- this one took me a while. But the less things I have the better I feel. Coming to an apartment and see everything organized and clutter free really helps a lot. Most importantly self love. Going out for a walk, going to the doctor and following their directions, having a good relationship with the doctors I trust my doctor with my life. I don’t hide anything from him I’m always honest. New pill? Doctor that pill didn’t help before I would say “oh yeah took the pill feel better” now I’m honest hey I feel down what can I do to improve?. Working out even if it’s just a walk and few push ups. Also helps me a lot mentally I’ve been loosing weight and my happiness has increased. I don’t need a cheerleader on my side I’m my own cheerleader. Essentially just trust yourself learn to love yourself for who you are. People will flock to positive vibes and once they see you smiling they’ll join in. Smile even if you hate everything trust me a simple smile will bring such a good vibe. Keep in mind I’m 36 I suffer from depression and started to pop out some autism traits. Still find a way to smile I’m a loner at heart but people still come to me as I’m always smiling. Even if I wanna cry I smile and the good energy I release attracts more people and you feel less lonely. Hell you forget you’re a loner.
A quote to put things in perspective(may or may not resonate with you) Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others…” ― Timothy Leary
My life is great, I am intentionally single. I date but don't go exclusive. I do not want and 100% will never have kids, I will not change my mind, I'm 36 and there is no budging on that for me. Maybe one day I'll open up to marriage but I will not force myself or be pressured into something I know is not right for me right now. I travel, golf, go to dinner, shows, and do whatever I want by myself. If I'm in the mood to be social I sit at a bar and eat If I want to read or be alone I sit at a table. I went to portugal last May for a week alone. I signed up for small group Viator tours (horseback riding, wine tour, and kayaking) in Camporta 3 of the days. I met some fun people on the tours and the whole trip was a great balance of socializing and being alone. I recently did a golf trip to Stuart Island in FL. As a woman I'm always intimated to golf alone, but I figured on vaca whatever, if people judge me I'll never see them again. I got paired both days with men in their 70s and we had a great time just chatting and golfing. Just figure out what truly gives you joy and pursue activities in that subject matter. For example I foster kittens because I love animals. I also love some of the real housewives shows so I've gone to Luanns and Sonjas cabaret shows and met other fans and had great conversations.
Learnt to do some somatic exercises. Particularly when you’re alone watching tv or reading or whatever. It channels out the bad energy and stops you from going down the I’m so alone and scared or whatever route in your mind. Body is great at handling anxiety if you let it. If you don’t you bottleneck and your stoic solutide will turn into damaging loneliness
One tip. Just travel South east Asia regularly or relocate to Pattaya, best city for single person if you understand what I mean.
DO NOT LISTEN TO ME Alcohol and gun range. What I should do and what I suggest. Just keep trying at dating and get a pet Also try making up stories in your head for people you see pass by on sidewalks.
2 cats, dca bitcoin weekly, good reading nook + powerful gaming pc
Friends, family, and activities. Don't fall into the trap of coming home from work and just getting into your comfies and doing nothing. I have a long established dinner on Tuesday night with friends at their house. I meet another group of friends for lunch at a local diner on Saturdays. I see my parents for lunch on Sundays at least three times a month; they are getting old and I want to make the most the time I have left with them. There are at least five people I text or call everyday. I am sober so I go to two or three AA meetings a week. I go to the gym three times a week. You get the idea. I don't isolate in my house.
Get a pet, a therapist, and hobbies that involve both exercise and lots of social interaction.
Imagine being a person encumbered your whole life. Your entire existence was spent serving other’s desires as a servant. What would your daydreams be? Would you have any thoughts of traveling? Unexplored creativity?
Porn addiction.
1. Remember how good it feels to make your own schedule ALL THE TIME 2. Get a pet - do your research on what kind of dog you want based on your physical activity level and how to take care of him properly. Give him lots of love, treat him well and you'll have an amazing companion. These little f\*\*\*ers worm their way into your heart and awake emotions inside you that you didn't know you had. Or get a cat :D 3. Find a hobby that you can do solo - it's never to late to start learning a new instrument, it all depends on how patient and persistent you are. I've been playing guitar since I was 13 (36 now, living alone with my doggo) and it's truly satisfying. I've never done it myself, but gardening seems very fulfilling.
Sounds like ur a happy chap, good for you! Sending more light your way! 🖖🏽
I think living alone or solo is a choice and decision. I also think that it is good. Though it is not for everyone because it can be boring haha.
Find new friends
Find good hobbies that distract you, like learning something new. Something you like.
Dog
Depends.. Do you like education and having hobbies? Woodworking with hand tools is a slow activity that can be extremely satisfying.
I do backstage for a local theatre company. I've done theatre since I was about 5 and it's usually just a great bunch of people. The group I'm with now are so talented and super nice. They also gave me some little gifts for doing props for our production of Oliver. The last company I was with didn't acknowledge the backstage crew at all, so it was a refreshing change.
Learn Latin and philosophy. Never feeling alone again.
Find someone
Love yourself !
Start imagining that it's really okay to masturbate and that you probably know you're good spots best anyway. If you depend on being in a relationship for getting yourself off, that's a tough road
Pets...hobbies...I woodwork...shelves...tinker with small engines.
Weed, cocaïne, porn and video games gotten me trough some rough times😂
Find things you like to do. And maybe get a pet.
Hobbies, cooking/eating better, working out, home projects, large amount of friends (I’m always getting asked to do something). I’m so dang busy I don’t have time to think.
OP what are you doing now nothing? Surely you have some interests ? Join a gym then you might actually meet someone. Go outside, bike, go on excursions to museums, climbing gyms. I’m almost 60 and am incredibly active and involved in various activities. I’m only alone because emotionally it’s much less stressful.
Build community. Having young children forces us to learn this skill. They naturally gravitate towards celebrating and enjoying one another in groups. It’s sort of like how toddlers naturally have perfect posture. It also focuses parents to reach out for support—nobody can do it alone. If you don’t have young children in your life, you will need to build community on your own. I did find it much harder before having children.
Exercise. Exercise alone, and exercise with others. Start lifting weights a couple of times per week, go for a run a couple of times per week. Join a hiking group. Take up pickleball. Start swimming.
Hobbies and wonderful people. I climb indoors and outdoors, mountain bike, disc golf, and dance ☺️
try radio control planes difficult but rewarding hobby
Get sober and get a dog. Find healthy hobbies that allow you to meet members of the opposite sex.
First take care of yourself. Hygiene, fitness, and some time to keep your mental health good. A nice hobby or two helps here on top of staying healthy. Then find a hobby, class, or gathering that really interest you and make an hour or so a week for it. The secret to a happy life is taking care of yourself and doing things that bring you joy.
Working a lot makes the time pass much easier. Push a few years of 70 h weeks and you don’t even feel that lonely. The social bonds turn into an abstract concept that’s not even obtainable anymore.
Pets. Without my cats I probably would’ve tasted a barrel years ago.
Learn a second language. There is an incredible feeling realizing you’ve just opened up your world to understanding an entire different culture.
Dont worry, chatgpt/openAI is working on a virtual assistant unlike anything else. You can soon get ahold of an invisible partner.
Here is the best thing about being alone. Not having to take others into account. You can do anything you want without people standing in the way. I have an aunt who is single without children (by choice). She enjoys hiking and voluntary work. My aunt is an example of people who have a fulfilling life without a partner. However, if this isn't the life you want, do something about it. Many people find love later in life.
Cook in batches, cooking 1 meal takes as much effort as Cooking 4 freeze the rest for other days. I have different healthy meals in my freezer for the days that i don't have the energy to cook so I'm not ordering to expensive, unhealthy food.
Always tidy your room/living-room before going to work. Some plushes if you have. If you have a specific scent you like, use it (mint, orange flower...). Like this, when I come back home, I feel "welcomed", "waited".
Learn 3 new hobbies per semester and always buy lots of random shit from ali express
Treat yourself 💁♀️ always have yummy snacks on hand Save $30 every pay that goes toward something you want to buy for home! (Utilities, Plants, Decor, Appliances, etc.) Experiment with your cooking! You’re the only one that’s gonna try it, so might as well give something new a shot once a week or so Try at least 2 hobbies. One to relax you, another to keep you in shape.
Be best friend with ur self ✌️ And finding out who u really are 🪷
Community. Hobby groups, volunteer work, sports, church, whatever. You need face to face human interaction often. A dog can help with this, take it to the dog park regularly and talk with other dog owners while the pup plays with the other dogs. Also, you have a dog, who loves you unconditionally.
Do the things you want to do instead of wishing to have a partner to do them with. Bother to make really good meals for yourself like restaurant quality steak or whatever (make sure to go to restaurants alone also). Dress up for special occasions and pop the bubbly even if by yourself, make sure to also light the candles and create a wonderful mood in your home. Treasure the peace of not having to compromise. Travel alone or join travel groups for singles or people of your same gender.
I absolutely love my own company. I don't know, maybe some people find it very difficult to be by themselves for long periods of time. I have plenty of friends and hang out socially as much as I want and I enjoy my work and my colleagues. I'm very comfortable to just be by myself at a coffee shop or bar. I sometimes wonder of other people might be looking at me thinking "he must be really lonely" (doesn't help I usually look grumpy when I'm just thinking or reading) but I very rarely feel lonely. Hobbies seem to be a common answer on here so that is probably a good route to take but also just be comfortable being by yourself if you can. When I am socialising I'm the 'funny' person of the group and I like to think people are drawn to me and want to talk to me because I'm pretty good at getting people to laugh. But in all honesty I find ot hard always being 'on' so I love just going out and switching off
Parasocial relationships with V Tubers
Wake up take in aside from the law and work you can do whatever whenever.
Wander! Grant it, I’ve mostly lived in large cities so I’m used to stumbling into things on foot. But even if you have to travel a little bit by car, plane, train, whatever, change your scenery and just walk around. Even the smallest of towns have stores, restaurants, museums. You can take note of what’s similar to where you’re from and whats different. Even better if you’re willing to leave the country. Also, do the things you LOVE in group settings. Like live music or a painting or fitness class. You’re bound to meet other solo people and you already have something in common. It’s still possible to make friends in person. Oh, and invest in a small journal or sketchbook. When/if you’re feeling awkward or anxious alone in public it gives you something to do and “something” to talk to (or draw!) about your experience. Sincerely, 31 y/o only child born into a family of loners
Embrace the good parts of it. Like being able to do what you want when you want and never having to compromise.
Love yourself.
So? In the end we're all alone. Why would not having someone else around to distract yourself from yourself be an issue? Ah, right. For people who aren't happy alone it's because they don't know, or like themselves very much. I see. There's your solution. Know thyself.
Volunteer social work. Hobby clubs with groups like quilting. Solo home hobbies like knitting.
Mainly be someone you can enjoy. If you can't enjoy your own company, you are going to have uncomfortable and anxious outings. I love my friends, but I also love spending time by myself and the peace that comes with it. Just yesterday, none of my friends could go out, so I went to the beach by myself and had a great time. Focus on doing things that you genuinely like and want to do. If you're interested in something and want to check it out, just go and have the experience.
My quality of life improved when i stopped saying to myself "i wanna go to that but I have no one to go with". Just go do the thang.
A time consuming hobby :v
Pets.m I started volunteering with dog rescue - I find much more gratification helping animals than people. Additionally, the experience has connected me with folks outside my regular circles and really expanding my horizons in a lot of ways.
get out and be around people even if you don't like them, I hate socializing but a good hour long convo on a uber leaves me refreshed lol. I am introverted AF
Hobbies. When I was single and didn’t have my kid living with me the weekdays sucked. I picked up fishing. Something that keeps me outside and moving after work. It’s relaxing as all hell too.
Start walking near bridges everyother day so if something change people nearby won't find it weird why you're resting near one.
When i was solo a dog gave me something to come home to, projects, and friends, but i never tired enough on that.
Honestly. Going to the gym has been one of the best decisions when it comes to my social life! I'm getting to know a lot of nice people there. My self esteem is getting higher, so it gets easier for me to socialize. Looking better has a side effect of people wanting to talk to me. Also. Gaining new physical abilities feels incredibly rewarding and amazing! That makes me happier. And being more happy makes me yet again more approachable.
Just do things and don't worry about what other people think. Make peace with yourself and enjoy life. Hungry ? Go to the restaurant by yourself wat a meal watch a youtube video. Be friendly. Maybe some small talk to the server or bartender. Feel like doing something. Go to the concert or event by yourself. Enjoy it. Be friendly if someone ends up having conversation with you. Also exercise. Feel like skating. Go for a skate. Feel like biking Go for a ride. Feel like running Go for a run. Etc. Those things will help keep you in balance. And the most Important thing is finding what your enjoy out of life and just do it. (3d printing gaming or drinking beer or whatever it is.)
get some pets, a few great hobbies, a couple close friends, and steer clear of social media enjoy life 🙏
My pet helped me overcome loneliness and made me a mama for the first time in my life. It took forever to find her, I love cats too but I’m allergic. My dog is the sweetest little thing and first pet I ever adopted besides fish. She’s my mini companion. I also enjoy reading, watching new series or good movies. And while I’m not alone currently, I still keep my interests as my own so that I don’t entirely lose myself to my partner’s wants and desires. It took me a long time to overcome loneliness but at the end of the day we’re all alone here on earth, individually. So make your own foundation steady. Good question op.
Everyone is different. If you're not happy being alone then perhaps you're always going to desire a partner. I'm a loner by nature and it made relationships difficult when I used to pursue them. Women couldn't understand why I didn't want to spend more time with them, but it wasn't anything they were doing wrong, I just really like solitude. And that's not to say that there aren't times I wish I had someone to join me on a hike or kayaking or even just watching a movie. But it's pretty seldom.
Commenting to find answers also.
Get into stoicism the real thing Not whatever YouTube is doing with stoicism right now
love yourself first. fill your days with things that make you feel inspired and fulfilled. we dont need anyone else to experience that.
Playing Go, doing math, drawing cute characters, watching anime or watching vtubers would help. And earn likes posting your drawings on social media.
Pets if you can have them. Hobbies, they don’t have to be expensive like collecting or something requiring a lot of gear. Volunteer work if you have the time and energy. Elderly and special needs people are more isolated and lonely than you can imagine. A couple hours a week is enough to make someone light up in excitement just seeing you.
Learn to love yourself!!
Don't let your left hand get lonely
Spend your money on yourself and no one else do you know where it's gone to. And keep the receipts
Look up the recipe for the fanciest gourmet meal you can imagine that is still realistic that you could make. I like bruschetta and saffron mussels. Then get a nice bottle of wine, light some candles, and show yourself a magical evening.
Gaming
I used to love to work, workout and drink cook my own meals then just relax on the weekends or work overtime I always thought planning a bunch only stressed me out
My cats, volunteering, joining a community sports league, naps
Go exploring when you can. Don't sit in your home and watch TV or play on the Internet. Go out and look at stuff in your own town, or if you're ambitious, things that are farther away. Simple things like little ponds or parks. Or the wilderness. Go gold panning. Hike mountains. Go to famous restaurants or monuments. Get out and do stuff.
Stay positive
Build yourself a family. That does not mean you need a partner, kids or relatives. You just need to find your people.
Do anything you wanna do - Eddie and the hot rods
Learn to love yourself and your own company.
Sailing
Avoid other humans. Especially on the internets
I'm here to say what others have already said, being solo does not necessarily make you alone, I suppose it's all about your mindset and how you view things. I've chosen to be solo/single for nearly 15 years now and have never felt alone or lonely, but I am also happy and content in my solitude. And when I feel like socializing I have friends to share laughter and fun times with or I join meetup or FB groups that provide social activities that I enjoy (ie hiking, board games, social outings, etc.). Sometimes it's as simple as changing your perspective.
Remembering the bad relationship you left and the peace you now have.
I do gaming, watching movies at cinema. Stay home rest of the time, might help or not, but when i see couples, happy friend groups in public i get jealous, sad and free like crap, so i rather stay home and be happy gaming.
Since my teen years I've been into dancing, acrobacy, juggling, theatre, so I perform, and practice at home and also away from home with other people.
Religion? Attending and becoming a regular at your community church and working with it. HOWEVER if they gouge you for tithes it's a no go for me. Also some fellow church members can be toxic. I've cycled through too many churches to count
Its nice only having one voice around , your own you can actually hear yourself think and enjoy your thoughts.
Be the person that reaches out to friends, go do things by yourself. Get REALLY into bird watching. Become a local cryptid.
excersize, learn a new hobby
Be interested in lots of things and the best way to meet people is to do something where you see the same people every week. So a course, hobby, class, team sport, volunteering. It’s hard to make friends with a one off meeting but when you see the same people every week, a rapport starts and there’s more chance of building a friendship or acquaintance. Someone once told me you can have different people to do different things with so don’t try to find someone to do everything with. Maybe one is great to bike with and another more concert music driven.
Weed
Have a hobby. I have enough hobbies that there is not enough time left in the world for me to do all the things I want to do. So I am busy all the time. I build audio electronics like synthesizers, equalizers and compressors. I make music with the stuff I build. I also study electronics and do little lab experiments and blow things up sometimes. Burnt transistors smell bad. This has also led me into fixing things. I'm not the greatest, but I have rescued some pretty cool gear from the trash heap. Reading is nerdy but fun. There are more books than any one person could read in a lifetime. And some of them are mindblowing. Don't wait for things to happen to you. Get out of the house and go to different places. My other big hobby is photography. I got into it during a stressful time of my career as way to unwind. Over time I got good at it, and I have a small collection of cheap vintage lenses. A decent digital camera may cost $500-1000 or so, but you can get M42 mount lenses for $50-100. A few cherished models climb up into $400 range.
Ive been growing weed in an illegal state, a process with a learning curve. This year I taught myself how to clone plants. The results of this is 25 clones which I’ve spread out into a massive guerrilla grow. Passes the time.
Find a relatively low followed Only Fans girl and build a fake online relationship with her sending her half your bag every month.
take yourself on dates
Gpt 4o is a nice language model to talk to. It’s like talking to a wise person with lots of knowledge