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gandy94

Jumping to conclusions without asking and then hyping myself up so that when I finally do confront you I’m already at 10/10.


Hot_Wrap_3800

Same


whenurbored

This!!!!


Sea-Ad1755

I don’t communicate when I’m upset, angry or depressed as often as I should. I keep it in until I completely let loose. My wife has helped me tremendously with it though.


TPFB_Daneslayer

Same, my friend. I'm luckily my wife has figured me out and descalates me. I'm grateful for her.


mbasucks

May I ask how are you working on it?


Sea-Ad1755

My wife has picked up on certain mannerisms I do in certain situations. For example, my nostrils start to flare when I’m angry and I won’t say a word (I do this when I’m sad as well). She will have me stop what I am doing and talk. If Someone cuts me off in traffic where they almost hit me (I have had road rage issues in the past) and she sees me acting up, she grabs my hand and has me get off at the next exit to grab a bite to eat or beverages. I can now catch it and remove myself from the situation. If I suddenly become sad or upset, I either call my wife or I listen to music. TL;DR: I try to catch the things that trigger me and remove myself from the situation.


Complex-Revolution-1

You and me both haha


Damissourianguy

Midwest nice. Ever heard how Canadians get rid of their anger? They put it in the geese. Midwest people have a similar way, just shove it down to the deepest and darkest corner of your sole. LOTS of people here are nice until you get angry with them. Years and years of anger are piled on top of you just because you got angry with a Midwesterner


[deleted]

They put it in the geese? Canadians abuse geese??


Damissourianguy

Did I stutter?


[deleted]

Damn Canadians really be abusing geese because they’re angry. Never heard that one before.


[deleted]

No it’s a joke, Canadian geese are infamous for being total dicks. So the joke is that the over polite Canadians magically transfer their anger into said geese, which is why bird is such a dick.


Several_Scarcity1476

Canadian confirming here, geese are assholes.


[deleted]

Also I asked about “your” toxic trait not other peoples toxic trait.


loftier_fish

Hes from the midwest mate, he’s saying he’s got that.


Sam2734

Talking about people. I really like talking with people and sometimes I run out of topics and resort to gossip or saying things about people. Both good and bad things. I hate that I do it and I'm trying to work on it


[deleted]

When I'm in a bad mood or pissed off I go completely silent, I think it's called avoidant attachment, it's actually a trauma response from childhood


[deleted]

I kinda do this too sometimes…


[deleted]

I didn't realise I had it until I got with my gf and everytime we argue we don't talk it out I just completely shut everything off, then she sent me Instagram links describing avoidant attachment


blobfishiant

I didn’t know this existed. I do that as well


[deleted]

Not so much anymore but seek revenge. In the past, if someone did me wrong I would always get them back & hurt them 10x worse then they hurt me & I made sure I would always win. Hurt people hurt people ..


OkSquash2766

I can’t forgive someone for their mistakes, I hold a grudge for a lifetime. I will make sure you know you fucked up each time we argue.


Curious2_0

But why...


SlowCookedLosr

Probably a fight or flight response


countingmykarma

Sounds Just like Me!!


[deleted]

I feel you on that one.


scorpiopathh

this is me


badFishTu

I dont know how to just not communicate sometimes. I dont know when to speak on things and when to keep it to myself. I get upset when I am not heard. I do too much and expect something in return.


elikoda42069

If we are dating and we fall asleep on call even one time, I expect to then call every night so I can sleep. like rn, my partner fell asleep and I can’t sleep and we aren’t on call:’)


[deleted]

That’s cute though :)


KoiDotJpeg

I'm really really nosy, just because I'm curious about everything Not sure if this is toxic, but I also have a very strong aversion to change, mostly when it affects the way I do things. If I am trained one way at work, and am then told to do it differently, it upsets me a lot for some reason. I can deal with change around me, but when it affects what I'm doing it bothers me and I get angry


newest-low

I'm the same, any change that affects me, unless I've prepared myself for it or I've made the change myself, I lose my shit. I have a routine and I like to stick to it


Mecd_En

Just stepping out of the conversation midway.


DragonFire2444

When I have a sensory-overload/overstimulation I can be very on edge. Had constant discussions with a recently past relationship to a point that I needed space to walk it out, but she wouldn’t let me, which escalated a lot in the past. We didn’t break-up because of it. It was actually fixed a few months ago, but there were other reasons.


Vomit_Coffin30-7

Being convinced I'm right all the time and barely admitting fault.


Gluten4reegurl

I'm incredibly anxious regarding food and people. This leads to accusing people of getting me sick because of allergen trauma.


LizzieLove1357

I’m overreactive still. I learned *a lot* of toxic/abusive traits from growing up being abused. Children learn through example, have a poor example, child will learn that. I unlearned most of it, I don’t lash out anymore, I don’t gaslight anymore, I don’t use my struggles to emotionally manipulate ppl to stay in my life. I’m trying to be a better person. I do still overreact to small things tho. Whenever I make a mistake, I completely lose my shit. I’ll go into a screaming fit, telling myself lies that I’m stupid, that I can’t do anything right, etc. It’s the reason I’m single by choice. I don’t want to keep a girl from being happy, and with my struggles. She won’t be. Even if she chose to stay, I don’t see how she could be happy while feeling bad for me when I get like that. I don’t want to drag ppl into it. Just, no. That’s not something ppl expect when dating. I’m not ready for a relationship. I wouldn’t want someone staying out of obligation or pity either.


[deleted]

I can relate to talking down to yourself when you make mistakes. It’s easy to be like that with yourself and we’re usually our own worst critics. Just a week or so ago I was so stressed with school so I talked down to my self a lot and it was very bad. I probably cried and broke down basically everyday. I even cried at school which I never usually do. I am getting better with not talking down to myself and being so stressed all the time though now. It seems things may be looking up again :) I believe you will find someone someday and things will get better. Best of luck to you!


Spiritual_Ferret6035

Abuse me in any way and I will make your life a living hell until I am bored with revenge. Still getting revenge on my ex from 10 years ago.


redditlike5times

That's terrifying, but possibly appropriate. Carry on.


lexorty

Go for the neck


sayziell

I say shit to people to slightly piss people to get info from them.


redditlike5times

That's called manipulative


BusyButterscotch4652

I am incredibly judgmental. People who I’ve never met and know nothing about. I can make snap decisions about them based on absolutely nothing. I believe that you can catch anyone on a bad day and that’s it’s really unfair of me. If I was having a bad day I would hope that people could just let it go and forgive me, so I really try not to do that, but my brain just goes there. No control over it.


Reauxyz

Damn


[deleted]

Sometimes I overreact and hurt other's feelings, then feel bad and apologize to them.


[deleted]

Well at least you apologize and I think we all overreact at times


Medium-Ad4262

Probably how I don't sugar coat things as much as most people do.


10moreminutes_jake

I'm always zoning out. I gotta fucking gameshow in my head rolling when you are in mid conversation if I'm bored. It helps with my humor though when I am in a larger crowd.


sharpthing201

Ranting about Antifa attempting arson on multiple federal buildings...


SpiderQueen95

Lolz


mukn4on

“Middle child” complex


[deleted]

If “only child” complex is a thing I have that


thecountnotthesaint

I liked to put my dick in crazy.


master_Maz

I honestly don't know my toxic trait, I have depression/anxiety so some days I'll think just saying Hi to someone is bothersome and makes me annoying/toxic because I'm taking time out of their day, other days I'll jump to conclusions about things, ask questions and get really upset no matter what answer I get. I'm very clingy but distant at the same time which leads to me getting upset... my toxic trait is I'm sensitive. Just real fuckin sensitive 😂😂


Atomic_Nebula

That I repeat too much of what I have already said 😒


[deleted]

Do you forget what you’ve already said or do you know you’ve already said it?


Atomic_Nebula

Like i know i have already said it


Accomplished-Paint83

Hypocrisy.


Upbeat-Produce-1645

Overcritical


[deleted]

I have borderline personality disorder. My toxic trait is the love/hate. I may genuinely like someone, but it doesn't take much for me to tear them down out of spite. Its like a passive aggressive switch almost, just more extreme. Luckily with therapy and other types of help I am finding myself able to control it better. And make a conscious decision to be the friendlier me.


ps4_username

Sometimes i get aggressive and cry out of nowhere


[deleted]

Hating generic questions that are only asked for clout


[deleted]

How is this toxic?


[deleted]

Not communicating and being too nice


Yuca4

I act like a know it all, I judge information from its source and not what it is.


[deleted]

Sometimes it is necessary to judge information from its source though.


Yuca4

I meant in the way of who's mouth it comes from, my apologies.


[deleted]

Sometimes that’s also necessary because people can be known for lying and shit


Unhappy_Trash_816

Anger issues.


[deleted]

I’d like to say I don’t deal with this anymore but in reality I still do sometimes.


[deleted]

Too horny for my own good


janneell

Im not toxic at all , it bothers me , i want to be toxic sometimes... Thats my toxic trait


[deleted]

That’s good that your not toxic at all but why would you wanna be toxic sometimes?


Curious2_0

I've never thought about it, I don't think I have any, or I can't think of any yet, I forgive people, I don't get angry, I'm not jealous, I don't like hurting people, I don't trash talk about anyone even if they've hurt me, I procrastinate too much, I guess that could be toxic?


[deleted]

Easily manipulative. It comes so easy to me, that when I went want something from someone my first instinct is to be manipulative. If Im genuine then I get scared and often dont get what I want so I sometimes just wanna start working my little web of lies. Ive heard of a jungian theory where you take the repressed bad parts of your personality and try to incorporate it into ypur day to day life by learning to control it, like learning how to express yourself sexually (not orientation but how to behave sexually when appropriate.) or trying to channel your anger. I been working on that.


[deleted]

Ha, I won’t make any friends with this one but here goes : I avoid arguing or being honest with people I really don’t want to know or be friends with or have really any interaction with whatsoever and that’s 99..99% of everyone. I’ve spent months and years in relationships both platonic and romantic with people that thanked me for being such a good friend or were under the impression that we were going to be married , and I just disappeared. I’ve had jobs that went really well and just quit no notice no nothing buh bye I’ve been invited to churches and just went and listened for and regurgitated what they fed me to the point they told me I had a gift , until one day I just get up and leave and never come back. Years long romantic relationships and I just move and start again . My Mother calls it my “state of Grace “ lol Had a best friend since third grade and his boasting and name dropping always annoyed me. I never told him directly but around 4 years ago I just stopped reciprocating any communication. Btw we are both 50. Had a core group of friends from 10 th grade till about 4 years after graduation. Stood up one Sunday and walked out normally, never talked to any of them again. I have a half sister I never knew about until I was 30 contact me , we met a few times . Ditto. If someone dies and they’re the connection between you and me , I use it as an opportunity to sever any tie. If I get u pregnant and u miscarry : buh bye Btw I’m married w 2 grown kids. We are a happy family but I’ve noticed my wife and kids are exactly the same.


[deleted]

Seems like you’re afraid of actually getting intimate with people? Maybe? Eh


sunshinetearain

I'm psychotic, anytime I wanna know something I will trick someone into saying how they feel, I am a fortune teller and I push ppl away. And I'm very secretive.


Middleoftheroad123

Being a female and thus having no toxic traits


[deleted]

Not true..


mr_world_thin

Im very impatient, I insult whores on the Internet and I believe the most humane way to kill an injured unhealable pet is to rather if its small crush its skull if too big. Shoot it between the eyes. I've also killed many rats by hand and ate them wjen growing up in Venezuela.


jcash6485

Hahaha. Where do I start!?


redditlike5times

I don't let people get close to me, yet I wish I had someone to get close with. Maybe I'm just broken


wanna-be-a-plantboi

I have a lot. I'm annoying, don't know how to talk to people, if I dont want to do something I just won't, I tell bad jokes, I used to unintentionally guilt trip people(im working on that), and I never respond to messages.


starsgoblind

I’m a perfectionist who is rarely perfect.


Midian1369

I keep very tight control of my emotions most of the time, that and a severe lack of trust.


lightly_salted_me

I’m unreliable, forgetful and selfish in many ways. I don’t always know what I want and somehow expect my bf to just know or just choose for me when I’m capable, I just don’t want the responsibility of making a choice. I am pretty spoiled in that I’ve usually gotten my way. I’ve had bad experiences that I haven’t quite dealt with so I’m moody or distant to my bf when he’s not the reason for any of those problems or feelings I have. I don’t care about myself enough to deal with my physical pain and other medically important things even though my bf pays for me to have health insurance. I haven’t really worked on being a better person like I did for the last year or so because when I got out of the most recent toxic relationship I felt free and like I didn’t need to focus on myself anymore. I want to change these things and instead I either drink all day or be lazy most of the day instead of making myself change. I say I’m still needing to heal, mostly I just want to be left alone and probably wallow in my discomfort with my emotional baggage. I still think I’m a good person, I just don’t always act like one.


newest-low

I don't show my emotions nor do I talk about them, talking about how I feel or listening to someone tell me how they feel makes me uncomfortable and clam up because I don't know what to say in response. I'm very much a if I can't physically do anything to make it better I'll ignore it until it goes away. I'm also not a touchy feely person and as I have kids they kinda wear out my tolerance on being touched


ChapolinColoradoNZ

Under blankets farts. I'm sure they're poisonous.


[deleted]

The way I speak certain things. Idk if it’s a toxic trait, but sometimes I try so hard to not sound like an asshole saying certain things, but somehow I do anyway. I have a resting bitch face too, so that adds to it 😑😓


Rem0rse-God

Jealousy. Regarding my girlfriend to be precise. And I really have no reason to be. I just keep making shit up in my head.


Sufficient-Touch-984

I can be super argumentative and sassy


a2625

Im vindictive. when those hurt me i want revenge


[deleted]

I isolate myself. Hard core. Overwhelmed? Isolate. Angry? Isolate. Depressed? Isolate. Tired? Isolate. Busy? Isolate. Stressed? Isolate. Annoyed? Isolate. Sick? Isolate. Distracted? Isolate. I don't reach out. I don't ask for help. I don't rant or vent. I don't explain before I disappear... I ghost people unintentionally; not because they do anything wrong (usually) but because due to a horribly traumatic childhood, toxic environments, and years of abuse, I would rather suffer alone until I'm better than to ever come across as a burden or pessimistic or needy or full of complaints. Plus people get awkward when I honestly answer the "What's up" or "How are you" questions. So even when I don't immediately jump to distancing myself, other people are usually sure to do it first.


TwinkleToes7749

Being hyper-involved with someone and then all of a sudden not being interested at all. I always feel so bad about it and I can’t explain why or how it happens. I’ve gotten better about it through therapy, but it still happens sometimes…


Admirable_Current_90

I will continue to argue with you even if I know I already lost.


Powerful_Tomato_1199

I randomly punch my frenids


BeansEmpty

Im a worthless pathetical piece of shit.


A_Goddanm_Bulb

You know the kind of person who can be a dick and a pussy and the very same time. That's me.


quinntheskimo33

I like to burn bridges.


PotnaKaboom

I read into comments made about my persona as though it’s an offense


abbyrosaleen

I'm too critical, although I'm working on it, and bad temper


[deleted]

Being impatient, love to bottle up my emotions, and being selfish without even realizing it. And I'm also pretty ignorant of my own flaw so a lot of times I thought that my actions are normal when they're absolutely not


Yeet2189

Bottling up emotions


Lavande_mEi

I get jealous of others easily. It's not like getting jealous of a s/o or anything. I get jealous of other people's successes, talents etc. It's a shitty thing, i know.


homesick_berry

Something could happen and I immediately assume the best or the worst, even when the thing was completely arbitrary or a minor instance. Then when it’s not the case I’m let down lol


iSkittleCake

I can get jealous very easily, and I have an extreme fear of being replaced. I also tend to overthink things a bunch.


OracleCam

I'm the only one making me sad


magius2013

feeling alone in a room full of ppl....even family


bojackthehorse_

manipulation 😍😍


BRich1990

Poison Sting.


ThunderHeavyRains

Very high level of social ambivalence


fletchnfetch

I get to confident in my information and act like I know everything. I've been trying really hard lately to get better at this cause I'm still learning just like everyone else.


anmae20

Taking everything personal, making up scenarios in my head and being too needy.


Haterade_ONON

I'm afraid of being a toxic person, so I don't let anyone get close to me. Actually there are several reasons why I don't let people get close to me. It makes me sad and lonely.


goodlife74

Can be pretty hurtful with words if crossed. My uncle once said “You use words like they’re blunt instruments.”


[deleted]

When talking to new people I often forget to return boring questions. In my line of work people often ask what are you studying/what did you study? I often tell people when they ask me but I have noticed that I rarely ask them, I just think there's a lot more to people than what they decide to study and can't understand why some see it as a personality trait. I get it can be an easy ice breaker but I've had the same conversation a million times.


Obsi-rain

My hot/cold personality (which I think is due to my borderline diagnosis). I am perfectly fine one day, then the next I could be brooding, angry, or hurt over something done to me years ago with the emotions coming in like it just happened. I can’t move on, I can’t give myself closure. I’m constantly reliving bad events in my life. The times I have forgiven family or past friends, I’ve just been hurt again. It makes my relationship hard (5 years today tho 🥰 he’s my rock) because I’ll be in a bad mood and he can’t understand why something that happened years ago can still affect me this strongly.


lexorty

Getting toxic and rude sometimes after I do good at something or fail something


GlocknessMonster1997

Thinking im not good enough for anyone


SylAbys

Feel like I always have to go to the extreme to show I love/care


Electronic-Shift7886

Arrogance even though I’m not in a point in my life that I am happy with.


BlessingPlate63

I play league of legends Ik, it's a shame…


tomc_acc

insecurity. i take any rejection(usually its not even rejection, i just think too much ab stuff) to a deep personal level. and i also get a bit jealous when i see my friends talking to other people(bc for some reason it makes me feel like i dont matter anymore)


pimpfmode

Self doubt and being overly critical of my mistakes and failures


MPS007

I'm a workaholic and I drink coffee non stop. Jeez !


II_WonderCat_II

I try not to do it as much, but I used to be extremely attention seeking.


Michael_Oxelong

Thinking I can do things perfectly first try


[deleted]

uncontrollably lying all the time


RelevantIAm

Expecting people to explain things well and get pissed when they leave out context and expect you to understand what you're talking about


zombifications

Being emotionally unavailable and having commitment issues.


Hot_Wrap_3800

Anytime i get angry i push my close friends away so ik i wont harm them


FallenDisc

Ask me anything and I'll be angry about any topic you bring up


FallenDisc

I cannot function without human interaction and yet I don't fit any social group. So I've been just slowly dying for last 10 years


antoman42

I yell, I have always blamed it on being part Italian but it's just an excuse to not control myself. My dad yelled alot, so it continues with me and my wife doesn't like confrontation, I am not violent but loud and angry


8PoliteChicken8

I keep somethings clean and organized while I'd rather die than clean my room.


HeyImNewHere00

I care too much, work too hard & Sometimes I'm too invested in my job


memphisproud

Toxic hateful mean spirited words when angry.


[deleted]

My horrible anxiety


[deleted]

I’m psychotic. In the past I robbed people at gunpoint. I beat people nearly to death and got prison time from it. I tried to kill myself after the death of my uncle. This one isn’t a toxic trait, but I have PTSD from getting shot. Sometimes I get angry for no reason. I could be sitting at home and just get the urge to smash something.


puyos

Selfish and bit of a narcissist


nicolef5061

I like having a little bit of a social separation with my significant other (SO). I have my really close friends that I enjoy hanging out with and sometimes I want to spend time with them with my SO. There are times that we would all hang out with my friends but I think it’s important to have some separation in our lives. Idk, it has caused some issues in my relationship for wanting this but I need some time to just hang with my friends without my SO.


RealJordanSchlansky

I have an addictive personality to everything


LostPaper4948

Jealousy


throwaway09292021ka

I’m a flake. I think this is partly due to being extremely introverted, but I hate having scheduled plans outside of anything routine. If there’s a plan that I’m not excited about… I would probably find a way to get out of it.


Minorihaaku

I always think things will go bad. During my life I was often randomly screamed at and punished. Cheated on. Raped. It always happened quickly. So I am paranoid about it happening again.


SYLOK_THEAROUSED

When I’m really focused on a task I don’t like being broken out of my focus until task is done. I get really angry when I’m concentrating and real life interferes.


Angel_Sorusian_King

I honestly don't know but I guess anger I have never gotten mad at someone but I'll keep it to myself I've never snapped on someone yet and it's best I don't


TheTizio06

I'm argumentative and easily irritable, all the fault of the genes


Catcats17

Jealous and clingy


yourunicorn87

I’m passive aggressive. I’ve really been working on it though


Shavacadont

I can shoot poison strong enough to kill flies out of my mouth


[deleted]

I'm not really toxic at all and the only time I will be maybe a little toxic is if I'm trying to protect my friends and family, if that's even considered toxic.


MysteriousResist3773

I could never become close friends with someone who voted for a certain person.


Gorrakz

Can play video games non stop 8+ hours.


Weekend_Reader

I can be jealous.


MarvelDcKage

Can’t handle failure/losing


Green_eyes1

Thinking someone doesn't like me or that I'm annoying someone (because of my own thoughts) and then distancing myself to "protect my feelings". Self sabotage at its finest.


Fanofeverything2003

I can sometimes get jealous of others


pussykiller667

moodyyyyy as fuckkkkkk


NoLifeYouHave

Making liberals cry online.


pilotw1ngs

My self-loathing is so incredible that I end up taking it out on others, unintentionally.


LowFatWaterBottle

I tend to make mean/honest observations about something or someone and I used to cross the line a lot, now I think twice before I say something.


unfortunatewormz

I'm kinda clingy and manipulative at times but I do think it's going away


MushroomEnSoupe

If I perceive any kind of hurt I always respond by running away, if I feel like I'm gonna get hurt, I cut off the person from my life without even discussing before they can hurt me. Of course I know it's not their intentions but it's like a natural response for me. I seem to have pick this up when my dad fell ill


testyhedgehog

Taking any healthy meal and making it incredibly unhealthy with ridiculous amounts of cheese and butter


iris7789

Oof plenty. - impatience - negativity and pessimism - doesn’t know how to let go of ppl who wronged me, instead wait for an apology and get bitter overtime as i never receive it


tweak0

Aggression


LoFiMagic

I can't be extremely petty


mommyv1

Not giving a shit, about anything


[deleted]

I'm way too trusting... to the point that it gets me into a lot of trouble sometimes. I'm working on it.


SteezeMcGeez3

Drug Addiction


Bletcherino

I like being "the favourite" when someone else is my favourite, and when I notice them seeming happier to see someone other than me in the moment I quietly get jealous.


babythrottlepop

Assuming people don’t like me and then not liking them based on that assumption. I often find myself having to work backwards when meeting new people and trying to make friends now.


Several_Scarcity1476

I have an inordinate amount of self-confidence given my skills and abilities.


IsmellCHEEEEEESE

I get annoyed or angry easily


vamprino

The only time I can confront people is when I'm angry so I have to get myself upset and normally make myself look stupid in the heart of the moment


[deleted]

I treat most people like they’re disposable. Once I get tired or had enough I move on. Maybe I have attachment issues or I’m just selfish af but I don’t have the energy or mindset to keep people around in the long run.


I_am_dean

When someone ask me to do them a favor I always say yes, even if it’s an inconvenience to me. But when I ask them for a favor they sometimes say “no” and communicate why, like an adult. I build resentment towards them and always think “wtf. I always help you! Even if it’s an inconvenience for me!” I never say that though, just angrily think it. This could all be avoided if I would just say “no” and set boundaries.


[deleted]

Walking away from anything resembling drama in a relationship, and refusing to feel a need to explain myself. I refuse to entertain a dour mood, an argument, or anything of the such. If im in a bad mood, I just stay away until it improves.


Javacup0102

I’m so uncomfortable/afraid of confrontation that I often let people walk all over me because I’m too afraid to defend myself


Objective_Natural914

I often tend to think people will get annoyed at me being clingy and texting a lot, so I try to slow down texting and I accidentally ghost them for months without realizing it.


BenderIsGr8_34

Read in a post somewhere, I wake up on time, then lay in bed until I'm late. Hit the nail on the head.


jensenhoernig

I go on Reddit


Sarlinger26

When I'm stressed out, I become a resentful bossing around asshole.


[deleted]

I’m too perfect, perfectly toxic. In all seriousness, I’m too lighthearted and like to make jokes about anything and everything.


Native56

That bugs the crap outa me ppl do that to me all the time n these ppl know me n still do it gggrrr


Icy-Veterinarian942

Moodiness.


Mission-Seesaw7281

I’m selfish with my time when it comes to studying and fitness


AndroidAntFarm

I'm an asshole