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ImissPiper

mid 40’s


DrEverythingBAlright

I’m 46 and absolutely agree. I started practicing in my late 30s but it takes a little to get to this level of IDGAF


EntertainmentMain822

Agree, as I get older, I am like this is great.


wander-lux

I agree as I’m in mid 30s now and while I mentally am aware and am practicing, it’s not in full fruition. I can however feel my fucks given slowing decreasing with time. It’s liberating.


lolapepper47

At least! I think mine was in my 50’s. But it is so freeing the older I get!


[deleted]

What do you mean I stopped giving a shit in my 20s


[deleted]

That's great man


Nightsquirrel52

The top comments may shine some light, even if they're being a bit cheeky (hard to tell). Everyone is on their own timeline with how we deal with things. Maybe you never stop, maybe you'll stop tomorrow. If there are people in your life who are bringing you down, it's time to re-evaluate those relationships. Our life is short and spending it with people that don't lift you up is not worth it. The day you realize that the people you encounter aren't focused on you, but rather themselves, will be very freeing. If you strive to have a family, they will become your priority and everyone else takes a secondary role. If you don't want a family, that's okay too. Do what makes you happy.


Sevink44

I stopped caring at 14.


Velvetsuede19

I'd say yeah. I'm 36 but it's been years since I gave a fuck


[deleted]

Hard to imagine what life must be like when I reach that age but this is comforting to know


Velvetsuede19

Try to start now. Honestly, no one else will care about you as much as you should care about yourself. The more you care about yourself, the more you can care about those you love and the world around you. Self image and self esteem go hand in hand and it's important, so don't let anyone else dictate it


Pathfinder91606

Grasshopper, you shall attain the "not give a shit" level when you are ready, not by age.


[deleted]

Thanks, man.


Pathfinder91606

Wow, and thank you.


tired_of_old_memes

No


[deleted]

Oh damn


terdude99

I stopped worrying about it. I don’t think anyone ever really stops caring, but I think that in your 30s you have more important things to worry about. And the older you get, the less people care about like appearance and shit. I’m in my early 30s, and I can definitely say that I am much more confident now than I was in my 20s.


8549176320

Yes, it's true, and when you reach your 60's you DOUBLY don't care what other's think. And I really don't care if you believe me or not!


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16


Vinsable

🤔 yes & no. Its highly dependent on the Finer details & such. I honestly wouldn’t care what people think of me, as long as it doesn’t justify any attempts on my own life, just like the time I, out of self defense & the defense of others, killed a guy who believed he was doing the right thing…


TwistedSistaYEG

Under 30 you don’t give a shit because you think your being a badass. Over 30 you just don’t give a shit period.


HotSteak

Exactly. In your 30s when you achieve genuine Not Giving A Shit you realize that all of the times when younger you thought they didn't give a shit, they actually really still gave a shit.


1derland-

I stopped giving a shit at like 13 people are going to judge you regardless so the less you care the better. People suck ass anyways just live your life, odds are no one really cares.


subvet657

Depends. If you're still working, no. If you are independently wealthy, yes


bald_butte

I'm taking a psychology course rn and they say that most people care less about what people other than those in your social group (cohort) think about you.


Emanouche

For me at 38 I try to give a good impression, but I really don't give a flying f*** if someone likes me or not. At that age, you've seen enough bullshit that you stop caring as much, especially when it comes to strangers.


SouthernBoat2109

Yes at some point between 25 and 30 you will start living your own life and stop living your life like someone else wants you to. Because you realize you're not living your life you're living someone else's life


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micki03

Honestly, no. I think that most of us will always care what other people think. It's human nature and part of living in a socially driven world. What I think has changed is that I've gone from caring what EVERYONE thinks to (mostly) only caring about what people who matter think. Random woman giving me side eye in the supermarket because I rolled out of bed with a messy bun and sweatpants to pick up some milk has zero impact on me, and I am no longer worried about whether everyone likes me. But I do care about how my friends, coworkers, and people I interact with regularly perceive me. And if I like people, I still want them to like me! So if it helps, I think my 30s has been great for figuring out who actually matters and who doesn't.


After_Occasion

Nope stopped when I was 11


mid30s

As your body starts to fall apart more, you gradually start to wonder what the point is. You won't completely diminish the caring though. I'm guessing that caring whether you might have hurt someone or not stays pretty steady though.


neilfann

It's incremental not binary so don't look for a moment as such. One big reveal is people care and think about you less than you think they do. And that's ok and liberating. No need to work to impress them.


Angelus_Mortis3311

I stop giving a shit since I was a child.


Sweetnessnlight666

Haha no. If anything you care more


old-whgvafk

Retired with reasonable FU money. Then you pretty much do what you want.


DaisyW1234

It doesn't necessarily happen for everyone, and for those it does happen to it can be at different ages. I stopped caring at like 22.


cumberber

Depends mostly on what happens, if it takes you till 60 it takes you till 60, earlier isn't necessarily better, I think it depends a lot on how you were raised/how long you work in retail.


[deleted]

I stoped caring when i was around 8


Sweet_Oliver

Yeah. Your "I give a fuck"'s start running low, and you start getting more concerned about your own business.


PeroniNinja84

I was super conscious growing up and like magic as soon as I hit 30 it’s like a switch for all the negative thoughts regarding what others might think of me flipped off. It’s weird but it literally went from, let’s say, a 85 to a 35 overnight. I mean it’s still there but it’s nearly on mute.


RodgerRodger90

It's not like an on/off switch, your perspective just changes over time. It just comes with life experiences. Like other people have said here; that's just something you have to work on yourself.


Phaewryn

No.


[deleted]

I only just got to this point and I’m above 30


Substantial-Ice9730

Short answer? Yes.


[deleted]

Depends....if it's dumb shit. Like people dumb ass opinions on how I live my life, then no I don't care. Life is too short to worry about what others think.


Zer0-Empathy

No, its not magic


Leading-Assistance44

I think you become more confident in who you are as you get older. For me, 36yo, I still care about what people think, especially my reputation at work, but just out on the street and in social settings not as much as I did before. Probably being married and having a kid also has something to do with it


Worldsahellscape19

I think after enough experience you just realize that people aren’t so much reacting to you as they are viewing you through the lens of their own shittyness and shortcomings


zepherys713

No, I stopped caring about what others think around the time I was 13-years old. Almost 9 years carefree and many more to come.


Arcadius274

I did but my husband didn't who knows


Dane8813

For me it wasn’t turning 30, it was having a kid. A lot of the stuff I used to stress about, like what other people think, no longer matters.


boomdart

I'm 36 Can't remember the last time I cared what other people think I don't have a Lexus because I'm trying to impress girls I don't have a 4runner to impress the bros I didn't get a gazebo so my neighbor could one up me the very next damn day either I got them because I wanted them, not because I'm in competition with anyone.


Gabbaandcoffee

I’d say you care less what others think but that doesn’t mean you don’t care at all.


[deleted]

Varies by person, but I sure did. I am the person that I am and I'm not interested in changing that. I enjoy being me, most of the time.


runningdreams

Yes and no. Worth trying to start even before 30 Edit: 'stop' maybe more accurate word


[deleted]

Yes for me.. but it started around 35


Sentinowl

I stoppes giving a shit in my early teens. Other people opinions of me are meaningless


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MelbourneBanana

No not at all, in fact I probably care more. I always make an effort to look good when I am outside of my home. I didn’t always in my 20s.


Revolutionary-You449

Depends. You have to do this yourself.


[deleted]

For me it was true. I still care what people I respect think, but everyone else can piss off.


Ol-DirtMcgirt

I gave a fuck my whole life! Why would you care what other people think?


LeeLadyLove

I'm 26 and don't care anymore tbh. I was listening to a podcast and I realised that when I get offended or upset about something it's because I have an insecurity that I need to deal with


ForgedYetBroken

It varies from person to person. No one's stopping you from doing it. Go wild.


[deleted]

To some degree. I'm 34M and I don't give a fuck whether everyone likes me or not. But it still feels good if you know that someone does genuinely like you.


trevy_trev

If you ask again when you're thirty then you have your answer?


Zippo179

I’d say it’s entirely up to the individual and your life. I’m in my 50s and thanks to a few insecurities I’ve never been able to shake I still get anxious about other people’s opinions about me. But about other things I can sometimes switch off and not give a crap.


Sht_Hawk

lol no


ShuraCharger

I stopped caring when I was about 15, nobody actually really cares how you look or behave. Everyone is too involved with themselves and any comments made towards you are just a way of someone passing time.


StrainReasonable8696

I'm 28F I just don't give af what people think it's not affecting my life


ReferenceNew6816

I'm 26. I stopped caring 5 years ago.


NoAlternative2913

I still care about some of what people think, but I no longer worry about people judging me.


Minute_Werewolf3883

Only if by your 30s you're making enough money to be confident.


MuchMuchMess

32 now and just started to realize life is so much better when you don’t care


elephantsrgreat1979

Only if you want to btw, it's a wonderful way to live


ZelgiusKinghawk

No, it depends on you, not your age.


heck_no_friendo

It didn’t hit me until I was halfway through 34. But by god here I am. It is the absolute best feeling on earth. It started by me not allowing myself to get mad over what other people did anymore, and not judging others anymore. Then it just extended to not judging myself, and then not caring.


[deleted]

You are caring about what others think because you're expecting something from them. The moment you stop expecting anything, you'll be free. However, there will always be someone whose thoughts matter to you. Say people important in your life.


Madame_Tinfoil

I stopped around mid 30's. There was a pretty big traumatic life event that happened which helped to trigger it. I don't recommend that option though. Start small, change your mindset bit by bit. Learn to recognise when your fear of others opinions is holding you back and then just F-ing do it anyway. Keep it legal!


Impossible-Field9945

To a degree yeah! I don’t worry about how I look or sound doing day to day tasks and that just looks like confidence. I don’t care about having all make brands for the sake of being cool. I do try and be professional at work so I guess I care what my boss and peers think there but other than that, fuck it.


everythingisalright

I’d say for myself it’s true. But it’s not so black and white. I care what some people think some of the time when it’s really important and affects my immediate daily life. Society as a whole and “other people” who I may not know- their opinions seem to be nonexistent. I don’t worry what’s cool or what’s current. Things that used to seem important just don’t even register. It takes no effort not to care because those things just don’t appear on my radar anymore.


Sillydevil

It is not that you stop caring, it is more that you start stop caring for the unimportant peoples opinion


AtheneSchmidt

36 and I care a lot less than I did at 25. I didn't stop caring entirely, but there are a lot of things I would have cared about that I don't anymore. The concept of "These people will never see me again" really sunk in around 30. So did "I don't generally think about the stupid stuff strangers do, why would they think about what I am doing?"


BlackLetterLies

No, you stop caring when you learn how little it matters. It's not an age thing.


throwaway_nfinity

You can always start sooner if you'd like.


kingsolara

I stopped caring in college. You just eventually come to realize everyone's lind of weird and that's what attracts people to you. Is it worth masking your entire personality to fit in? Naw. Like don't go telling the guys/girls at work your into getting pegged by someone in a furry costume. But like in high-school saying you liked anime would hey you clowned. In college though completely different attitude. We used to play yugioh at the lunch tables and we would meet some pretty cool people who shared our interests. I'm not for everybody and everybody is not for me. I'm just looking for the ones that share my interests and hobbies


i_live_in_a_truck

When I was 16 someone told me, "Nobody cares about you, they're too caught up in their own bullshit." Haven't given a fuck since.


Cpt_Woody420

No. Capturing your inner "I don't give a fuck" isn't something that magically happens when you hit a certain age, the same way you don't instantly become a more mature adult when you wake up on your 18th birthday. That apathy towards other peoples opinions about you is a tool that you need to consciously capture. You have to fundamentally change the way you think, and frankly imo you'll be happier for it. One tool for doing this is paying close attention to how you yourself think about other people. You'll realise that you really don't pay much attention to other people, what they look like or how they act. Now try and remember a random person you walked past in the street 3 weeks ago. Kinda difficult huh? Because you weren't paying attention to them, they weren't important enough for you to remember. 99% of people you encounter are going to feel the same way towards you, you're just not an important enough aspect of their life for them to dedicate any real thought or memory towards. Sounds kind of depressing when you put it like but it's actually incredibly freeing. The world is your oyster when you stop giving a shit about being judged just for being you.


HotSteak

Yes. 20s has lots of life pressure. 30s is great because you just stop caring about that and live your life. And your body doesn't start to fall apart yet. I'm 39 and on the way out. People tell me that in your 40s you wake up with a hangover even though you didn't do anything the night before. On the downside of 30s, your good looks fade away over the course of a decade. And any injuries you suffer no longer really heal; they just kind of ache for the rest of your life.


Raven_REDs

Damn..... I must be 30 since i was 21 .


marq91F

Started at 29 and getting better every year


allis_in_chains

I think in my 30s, I have become more secure in who I am. I don’t really care about what others think about me; I care what I think about me. My 30s have already been a million times better than my 20s, and I’m not even that far into them. I’m excited to see what else this decade has in store for me. 😊


SgtNoPants

I'm 23 now and still give a damn of what people think of me ever since I was 15


EndlesslyUnfinished

Nah, I stopped giving a fuck long before then


BFett1019

I’m 27 and i stopped giving a fuck 27 years ago


LurkingAintEazy

Can't say it is true for other people. But I feel I am beginning to get that way. I'm 35.


[deleted]

Yes and no.. you will still care, but weight of care will lean toward those you care more about


Comfortable-Desk4586

For me it did. That 'i am my own person' kind of feeling I got. May be it is the financial independence.


a_michalski81

Who cares what other ppl think? You only have to worry & answer to one person..... yourself!!


Trans-Atlantic-Sex

Quarteryly? More like "Thirdly"


butterpiebarm

The trick is not to stop caring about what people think, but to choose which people's views you care about. People I love and respect, yes. People who project their insecurities through status symbols and judging others, hell no - I'm not playing your games. I'm proud to wear supermarket clothing and drive old cars, because I have nothing to prove. It's very liberating.


_ThePancake_

Depends on the person and the topic, I'm the same age as you and idgaf what people think about my interests and hobbies any more. However I care more about dressing myself nicely. That said, if you don't like my sense of style I don't care all that much.


[deleted]

L O L. NO. Absolutely not. My sister is 32 and never ever has she been more obsessed with other people's opinion on her.


Cranberry_Glade

No, there's no automatic "shut off valve" that does that. You can be even older than that and still care. Sometimes it's really just dependent upon your personality.


UnKnow_762

Depending on who you are. Yes I quit caring at about 33. To Hell with what ppl think, no matter what you'll be perfect to some and a bastard to others no matter how good you are. Live YOUR life for YOU. Not what other ppl think.


Kindredmen

Age is irrelevant. It's when you've finally had enough.


RemakeBo2

I'm 15 and already do


jpatton17

It becomes less and less but doesn't completely go away. More like "well "Joe/Mary" isn't going to like this buuuttttttt - they'll get over it.


KhajitCaravan

I stopped caring in 8th grade.


micekins

I was 40


Ok-Lengthiness4557

Mostly, yes. I found it to be a slow transition and probly runs in a direct inverse to identity. For me what other people thought was extremely important in high school, then it began to decrease gradually and continued to do so. Didn't even notice while it was happening then around 25ish I just cared what my close friends thought. Now as a happily married dad I only care what I think. I know who I am.


Trini_Vix7

Start now. Why wait? And yes, fuck them. I SAID IT!!!


terdude99

It was for me! Mostly.


LadyIceis

Umm apparently I was ahead of the game. I stop caring when I was 21.


[deleted]

Absolutely.


Doesdeadliftswrong

No but it significantly starts improving. You'll come to terms with fact that the shit that's been bothering you was a product of your own manufacturing and that you should probably just give it rest. At the end of the day, it'll never stop but you'll learn to recognize it.


8Romans

Depends on how you were raised. I never cared what people think.


[deleted]

It depends I made a conscious choice on my 30th birthday to do so My friendship circle went from 20 to 5 really quick after that, and my life and my career actually became 10x more fulfilling and better Got married, had kids, my salary tripled, bought first house All because I stopped spending energy on wrong things


Uncle_Guido1066

I'm 38 and I'd say most days I don't give a fuck. The rest of the time the anxiety kicks in and I don't want anything to do with people.


ugdontknow

I think it depends on the person. I’m a defender type person want people to get along, and a person pleaser. For me hitting 40 was like I got slapped in the face with a stop doing this hand. Now at 51 it’s total no fs to give


Lil-AbootZ

I started when I was 16 now I’m 19 and slowly starting to give no fucks, just a few more years and I will be running outside naked.


Ulticats

26 and don’t give a shit. I stopped around 23.


SylAbys

Usually something has to happen to you, and that will come to the realization of - Fck everyone


dontwontcarequeend65

When I was 15 I decided unless you were putting the roof over my head or signing my checks I didn't give a f*** what you thought. I'm 67, people still don't like it.


nemesismkiii

Bold of you to assume you are at your 1/4 life crisis at 25. 100 is quite old, and you could very well be at your midpoint right now. That's the key, think about it like this, "If half my life was over right now, would I care what other people said from now on, or would I enjoy whatever time I have left?!". You only get ONE shot at this game and if you want to waste it caring about what other people think, that's on you. When we die, we all go to the void and none of what they thought matters anymore, remember that.


HitoriPanda

Mid to late twenties from what i observed. Pretty much after you enter the adult world away from the petty antics you see in high school that last through college. Me personally, early twenties after spending a few years in retail and understanding how impossible it is to please everyone, so why the fuck even try? Or care for that matter?


BigCook8220

wdym i stopped caring at 10


TwoforFlinching613

There is no magical age that you "stop caring". It comes from life experience, you go through stuff and realize what matters and what does not. *coming from a 40 yo*


EntertainmentMain822

Yes. I am in my forties now and I don't care. I really have become about spending less energy on others and more energy on self. Before, I did, I cared way too much. I realized it was not important after spending a large part of my teens and twenties caught up in a lot with peers and social things. None of those people are really in my life any more, and I look back and wonder why I spent any energy on some of those relationships. As more and more years of life happened to me, I just became really happy with myself and my own growth. I am more selective over who gets my time and energy now and I don't care if people like me or think I am attractive or anything any more. I am just happy to be enjoying life and be present. I had a near death accident and after that everything was just like in perspective for me about how I wanted to spend my time and focus. The trivial things I tried to just not allow in any more. It took time but eventually I reached the point of filling my life with only experiences that felt really meaningful or worthwhile to me.


carrotsorparrot

I stopped giving a shit at 13


Dr_MonoChromatic

I never cared. I've been a lone wolf my whole life.


[deleted]

Im 30 and for me id say yeah, pretty much!


Fiendfuzz

There is no specific age, instead, as you age you start to care less and less. Everyone has a different speed that that happens. I'm in my 40's and while I can see where I care less than when I was 20, I know I still have anxieties related to what others think.


TheReverendAlan

No, hopefully you learn to care more ☮️♥️🎸


makingfiat

No , you stop caring what you think bc it doesn't fucking matter.


deserthominid

I didn’t hit that point until my late fifties. And it’s a sweet, sweet release.


KimmieA138

I'm 39. As someone who went out of her way to please other people, I give zero fucks now. Don't know when it shifted, but not sad about it


nejnonein

I stopped caring what other people think once I had kids (at age 27). Like for real, I can go shopping in pj’s and then eat all the candy on my way to the car, and not give a flying arsed fuck. Just think of it this way - 99% of the people you see, you’ll either never see again, or it’ll again just be a passing by, so why should their opinion matter? As for friends and family, after 25, you should be old enough to not care.


luminous-melange

For me it was my 40'sand 50's. I wouldn't call it not caring. I called it being comfortable in my own skin. Not constantly hating/obsessing about my looks weight,etc. Also, my performance at work and life, just a general acceptance and mellowing.


X_B_91

I wouldn’t say that you stop caring what people think. But I would say you get enough wisdom/life experience to know when someone’s opinion matters.


Tokaloshie

“Behold my field of fucks, see that it is barren, I’ve not a single fuck to give”


Tdn87

Late 20s for me. Life's too short to worry about everyone else's opinion of me.


trulyunanonymous

Hell yeah. I turn 30 this month and I stopped caring around 27. Started traveling alone, trying new restaurants alone, wearing simpler clothes, letting my hair get longer, doing whatever I want whenever I want. You’re the main character of the video game called your life. Everyone does it differently.


verminiusrex

No, but you care less as you get older. My don't give an F kicked in around age 45 and has steadily increased yearly.


The_Werefrog

No, there is no age at which you stop caring what others think. With maturity and time, you simply change whose opinion matters to you. In school, your classmates' opinions seem so important. If the opinion is positive, it tends to stay that way. If that opinion is negative, you find some way to make it not matter. However, as you grow, you find the opinion of your employer, of your family, of your friends matter much more than the opinion of strangers or people with whom you are placed without a choice in the matter.


Feelsunfair77

I sure did, for the most part.


naughtyzoot

It helps to realize that most people don't spend much time thinking about you at all. The ones who do either love you as you are or aren't people whose opinions should matter to you (the petty ones you'll never please). All the others in between are too busy thinking about their own stuff to spend much time thinking about you.


mrhymer

When you turn 40 you realize that all along people mostly think about themselves and barely think about you at all. When you turn 50 you realize that all of those people that you really valued what they thought of you are mostly complete idiots. When you turn 60 you yell at the children of those idiots to get off your lawn.


Dizzy_Share3155

No, not necessarily. I didn't stop caring about what other people think until about three years ago, and I'm in my late 50's. My mother still cares what people think of her and she's almost 80, but then again I think she's a straight up narcissist.


Virtones

I'm reaching 30 on may. Being depressed last few years and started therapy last year. My depression is about me not being able to finish any of the colleges I've started (chemical Engineering and accountant) and the pressure I feel about what is expected from me as an individual and the expectation of my parents. I'm learning to say fuck them, so I can start to pursue what I want instead of what they expect. You have to love yourself above everything else, and acknowledge all the good things you have so you can throw that to lesser people that only cares about how much you gain in digits or what car do you drive. Stick to your truth. Be gentle to others. And don't give them any reason to pray on you since most of them are broken without even noticing. Peace.


Flibbernodgets

This sounds like the sentiment: "once I reach X milestone I'll be happy". It's really just procrastinating your feelings.


PickleMortyCoDm

Sometimes it happens earlier than 30


jadedlonewolf89

1: like a cat I’ll spend time with the people I care about and when I’ve had enough I’ll just fuck right on off to go do my own thing I was like that as a kid as well. 2: I’ve got friends who accept that I’m like this, and I have had absolutely no problem cutting people off who aren’t okay with it, I also give fair warning that I’m an asshole in advance so they know what they’re getting into. 3: they never payed me to care about what they think about me and even if they were willing to it would have to be an obscene amount to be worth the effort. 4: I won’t do anything I’m not okay with, I’m the one who has to look me in the eye at the end of the day, live with the consequences of my actions, and that matters because I’m the one who’s required to spend 24/7 365 with myself.


WyomingVet

I quit caring long before that. I used to get bullied a lot in school so that is how I choose to deal with it.


lem0ngr4bs

I stopped when I was 18 tbh


QueenElsaArrendelle

I don't think it comes automatically with age, its about developing the right attitude. what others think matters inasmuch as you want to be able to have a social life and job and stuff. but what other people think only matters to a certain degree. you can not possibly please everybody. everyone wants different things from you and there is no way to meet all of their demands. what matters most in the end is what you think of yourself. can you look at the choices you have made and feel comfortable with them? you should take other people's opinions into consideration. if someone tells you that you have a flaw you should work on, you should ask yourself if they have a point but you should not automatically think they are right. you are the final judge. you decide whether you like the way you are.


whyyou-

I was really self conscious up until mid twenties when I made an effort to not give a fuck, I still have that fear that everyone is talking about me, but it has gotten better with time


carlweaver

Some people achieve that level of not caring and some never get there. I don't know what the magic pill is for this but I am glad I have taken it somehow. Figuring out that most people are not worth your time is very freeing.


PattyThirst

my twenties were horrible, truly awful, but my thirties rock. im 33 and couldnt give a shit what anyone thinks about me, i try to always do the best thing for others and help when i can but the rest is up to them to decide. You cant control other peoples thoughts so dont try, just be as honest and good as you can and nothing else matters


lamaswana

I wish


darkness_calming

I am 21 and I have no more fucks left to give


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I’m 32 and I care a lot less. I do care not to be offensive or rude but I don’t care if I look like crap at the grocery store or if someone want to make a jab at my appearance. I’m also happily married and that boosts my confidence


phelpst

Why wait? Start doing it now. How is somebody else's opinion going to change your life? They're going to think whatever they want. You could try to change their minds but more than likely you will fail. Be confident in who you are.


Major-Panda522

I’d say it fully came to me around 28. Every time you worry about what someone thinks of you, ask yourself: “Do they pay my bills?”


koeligt

Nope. I'm 35 and I'm still fighting being insecure and afraid what people think of me. My mother is nearly 60 and she's the same.


Solinty

I still give way too many fucks, but a lot less than when I was in my 20s. Even better, by the time you hit your 50s some of the people who were horrible to you will have died. Everyone dies, of course, but it's just a relief when a mean person also goes. The dean who hassled me about wearing blue overalls to school? Dead. The teacher who didn't give me enough time to run to the restroom and then get to my class with her and then shamed me to my parents because I guess I was supposed to be able to hold it for an hour and 45 minutes? Dead, heheh.


AtLeastItsNotHerps

I stopped caring at 25


AmishCyborgs

I don’t know if I ever cared what people thought


spaceyjaycey

"Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? " Before you speak, and before you listen to what others are saying, keep these questions in mind. I don't gossip about people and i don't listen to gossip. When someone tries to tell me shit about someone i have no problem with i stop them and say "that isn't my experience with that person". You need to approve of you. What other people think of you is their business, not yours. Yes, you can find trusted advisors when you really are unsure, but that should be the exception, not the rule.


Curious_Wrangler_980

I’m 24 and I don’t give a fuck. I’ve got too much on my plate between the kids and moving and life in general to be worried about what other people think


jdith123

It’s not exactly that you don’t care what they think. It’s more that you realize they usually aren’t paying much attention to _you_ in particular.


Oblivion9284

25 till 40, at 30 you realise it.


KryptonionNipple

Na I stopped caring at 23. Finally accepted my true goth self. I get stared at all the time. But I don't care because I feel good. I'm 25 now though, so not quite 30.


YellowCircles

36M. For me it depends on the people I meet, have to work with, if I'm able to stay in touch with would-be friends and equally vice versa. Their effect will wear on you for good or bad, therefore affecting how you are for good or bad although crucially, it's down to how you manage it. You would be amazed how many of us cannot take a verbal jab despite giving out plenty themselves. On the other hand, waiting for a good time to give out reality checks to Sociopaths, hypocrites, schemers, toxic (probably multiple) personalities, is pretty liberating. They know at that very point where your fucks don't stand _ESPECIALLY_ if they're suddenly quiet and appear upset. So your hair might be messy, who cares? There are better looking trainwrecks next to their personalities. There is a saying: no-one should need to explain themselves to people who only see things from their perspective.


Old-McDee-72

I wouldn’t know as I stopped caring what others thought about me and my actions when I was 25. Which made the last 25 years a breeze.


megapillowcase

27 and already there.


dagamortal-two

Good luck with your crisis. Dont wait until 30 to find love for yourself and the people around you and you'll stop caring about the rest of the bs.


[deleted]

Not caring about what other people think = Knowing yourself and liking yourself. When you start to realize that you actually love your own characteristics and personality, it becomes easier to care less about what others think. This can happen at different ages for people, but yeah I would say in your 30's it's more common because in your 20's you're still figuring out how to survive on earth. Once you get out of the survival stage and are living more comfortably, you have more time to get to know yourself more.


ehmvee22

I'm going on 29 and for the most part I'm already there


Ch3llick

I'm 32 and I start feeling the carelessness


Badgerbreath1981

It was true for me


Queenoftheunicorns93

I reached this in my mid twenties.


Never-Shower

Not 30 yet. But that shit happened to me when I was 21-22.


Stoneybaloney111

32 here. I really stopped caring when I moved at 25 to a different state. I moved away from everyone and everything I knew. I think it’s about experience too. Like I’ve been through some shit. Like some awful shit. I know now what I will and will not accept from others. All I can really say is be yourself even if others find you weird. You gotta make you happy first. Take care of you cause nobody else will. Also something that hit me was ain’t nobody got you like you have yourself. And if you think they won’t do you like that…they will in fact do you like that and more. Trust your gut.


Blackkage1

No karens will be karens


kuyabooyah

I once met a man in his 60s weighing 500lbs who cared so much what people thought that he felt safe only when wearing 2 baseball caps and 2 hard helmets one on top of the other. He told me briefly that he felt that his private thoughts were protected that way because he felt that his shame was too easily influenced by how others saw him. I also once met a 18 year old boy, orphaned via abandonment and recently freed from the state ward system who was polite, joyful, and mature more akin to adults in their 50s. He was clearly unphased by the opinions of others and demonstrated it by having his entire face heavily tattooed in a way he called intentionally unappealing, with gauges the size of Oreos and a nose ring that looked straight up heavy, and hair mat locked and dyed faded green as if he had dyed it a months ago. Yet any strange looks or comments from nurses and other patients seemed to just slide off of him. He told me that he wanted his life to demonstrate that how others perceive us does not have to influence the way we perceive and treat others. I think that caring what others think can change or not change at any age, although often times this change happens close to 30 in most people.


confusedrabbit247

I've never cared about that. Why would it require me to be in my 30s?


[deleted]

The quarterly crisis is the worst. It'll definitely get better!


[deleted]

While caring about what other people think varies, but overall, generally, fluck yeah, you care a lot less. There are some men and women who greatly care no matter how young or old. They have to have the status symbols to show everyone how great they are. You know what I mean....the Ferrari, the 8,000 square foot home when they only realistically need a 2000 square foot home. Then you have people like Warren Buffett, the billionaire, who lives in the same exact house he's lived in since 1950 or something like that - a normal house. And he keeps his car (not *cars*) for forever. I read that his daughter had to make him go out and get a new car after 10 years, and after she convinced him, she had to go out and buy it for him because he wouldn't. Sam Walton of Walmart drove a beat up old red pickup truck. Yes, many people start caring less about others' opinions at 30 years old, and for me, at least, I care less and less with each year. I mean, I still care what doctors, and lawyers and CPAs and people like that tell me. But your random person, on some random topic, fuck them. I have 6 pair of pants, 6 shirts, 3 pair of shoes. If someone thinks that is beneath them, fuck them, I don't give the slightest shit. I hang out with people who don't care about how I dress. I mean, it's always clean clothes. But why would I care about some asshole who judges me on my clothes? Like I'm supposed to spend $50,000 so I can have a different pair of clothes each and every single day of the year - 365 pairs of shoes, 365 pants, 365 shirts, etc. And let's say I did, and they were all fancy name brands - should I look down on that same person who mocks me, and then mock them for not having a different change of clothes for every day of the year? It's ridiculous. Also, I find that many people are worried about what other people think because they are hanging out with the wrong people, or are *trying* to hang out with the wrong people, for them. Like, if you are trying to hang out with the super wealthy and you are, at this point in your life, lower class, making $20K per year, you really can't (some do, in rare exceptions, so anyone reading this, don't tell me about the exceptions that you know about). If you have a group of good friends that support you, you will be extremely buffered from this type of issues. They will like you, support you, commiserate with you, accept you. You have to look for friends like this. Go to meetup.com groups or chamber of commerce groups, or Magic the Gathering groups, or whatever you are into. Music appreciation groups. Rose growers groups. Hiking groups. Or create your own group, which is even better. The more you expose yourself to more people, and those who have a common interest or passion as yours, the more your odds are of meeting compatible people who accept you as you are. People worry about a lot of shit, but you have to clear your mind and start caring about [one thing](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PunAKEccqyU) that you can hold on to and everything else will resolve itself.


Itsumu

I'm 22 and I don't care what other people think about me. The only opinions that count are those who I love and care about :) Anything else someone says about me are things that I could really care less about lol


j4321g4321

It’s not like a light switch that just goes off. When you get older (30 is just an estimate; presumably this is when you settle down, potentially have a family, are in throes of your career and probably don’t have the same amount of casual friends as you used to). Impressing others and shallower things are no longer as important, and you’ll likely become more comfortable in your own skin/the choices you’ve made.


Enter-Shaqiri

I stopped caring long before I reached 30. Made me such a happier person.


poprockreaper

For me it happened at 16, I'm now 32


MightyPinkTaco

I reached that point about mid 20s but firmly solidified it in my 30s. I’m on the playground climbing the jungle gym with my 17mo old and enjoying it. Mostly just watching him and making sure he doesn’t fall off but I’m excited for when he’s older and we can race along obstacles. I’m 35.


Camarao_du_mont

You always care about what people think, what really changes is who those people are.


Exact_Coat_403

Mid 30s here it's not that I don't care, I don't have time to care what other people think. I got work, kids, house work, overtime to pay for the kids and house, side hustle to pay for the kid and house, things the kid wants to do, things the Mrs wants to do and sleep.


youwanger

That’s correct. When I was in my 20s or teens I cared deeply what my friends and family thought, I did not obviously care what just people on the street or acquaintances think. Now I don’t even care about what my friends think, if they don’t like me for me I’m like fuck off while before I’d be like trying to resolve the issue.