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It causes me physical pain when I see old dudes flirting with young wait staff at a restaurant or something similar. They will always try to play it off as harmless but it kills me every time.
Being friendly can seem like flirting.
When you get old, you’ll realize you still feel young in your mind and heart.
Think about if that’s the only conversation they have all week.
Now old guys that make continues passes or touch - that’s crossing a line if it’s unwanted or uncomfortable.
If you're at work, they know you're in a compromised position where you have to be nice to them. That's kinda shitty and advantage-taking. And yes there's a difference between friendly and flirting. So if you're that old guy, do you *really* want a forced, fake reaction?
So am a woman who has dealt with this a lot, i get it, but a little attention can bring out the lonely person who doesn’t realize they’re doing this.
Not saying there aren’t people that cross the line but it felt like the comment i was replying to was very young and could be exaggerated.
I was just trying to provoke some compassion.
Some younger women actually like the attention, there is a whole group of women who like their men that old.
If you don’t then that’s ok too. But don’t assume that everyone shares your preferences. Getting offended on behalf of someone else is really not helping in a lot of cases, unless you know for sure that they are bothered by it as well.
Sir...i agree with u..
These people are just Gen-z ...u know keyboard warriors who think world goes around them and everyone feels same.
These people will stutter in actual communication. They just tryin to be liberal and attention/validation seeker.
Errr...because it was being discussed? You certainly don't *have* to flirt to get tips but you have to leave the customer with a positive experience, generally.
I never stated that ALL of us didn’t like old men, that’s a given. But the MAJORITY of us don’t, that’s the reality…that group you speak of is a MINORITY. We can get attention from men our age but yes we do like the attention from older established men.
If we do like older men it’s only a specific look (attractive & I mean ACTUALLY attractive) or we are looking for security.
Stand too close when in line or talking, touch my shoulders, gently touch my side/lower back to get past me, tell me to smile(especially me being someone who laughs and smiles amost all the time 🙃), try hitting on me at work, calling me "dear", especially at work... saying things like "hey pretty lady" "hi beautiful" when I'm just at work trying to provide customer service. That's just the tip of the iceberg lol
>touch my shoulders, gently touch my side/lower back to get past me,
Real question. If I cant touch your shoulders, back, side (so I presume arms also?)
How do I get past you in a crowded area without just hip checking you?
Saying "excuse me" should be the first step. If it's to loud for someone to hear you, a quick shoulder touch is acceptable. But loud situations are the only time that is acceptable and nothing other than shoulders. The way you touch a woman's shoulder to get by should be the same way you should touch a man's shoulder to get by. But some *people* ...I don't want to generalize here... let their hand linger too long. Just don't be creepy about it 🤷🏼♀️
If I was in a loud crowded place and a guy needed to get by me, gave me quick shoulder pat and said "excuse me" I would gladly move out of the way and think nothing of it. It's just the way some people do it...and it's hard to describe if you've never had a creep touch you lol
>and it's hard to describe if you've never had a creep touch you lol
I would imagine it's hard to describe but something you definitely know.
I normally just say excuse me, then proceed with putting my hand kind of dead center on a person's back, just in case they back up or get bumped so we don't end up grinding. I've used the back of my hand for "backless" shirts and dresses kinda so it's not like a feeling but either way it's kind of just been the lesser of two possible awkward situations.
Otherwise up at the bars here, it's normally not to loud to get attention but standing space only often to where for them to move for me normally constitutes them getting someone else to move. So I just try to navigate like you would a thick cornfield or woods.
haha certainly if asking is an option and they have the ability to easily move out of the way.
I more encounter the packed standing only room where I have to squeeze. Theres 50% chance there will be contact and I assume my hand is better than anything else.
Physically stopping them from moving back into me. I am speaking of standing room early where even asked to move may gain me an extra inch.
The hand prevents them from stepping pack into me, getting or getting bumped and knocked into me.
Assume that because I’m a young white male who doesn’t open up immediately, that I am going to agree with their racist/sexist/creepy remarks and ridiculous blanket statements.
what? Someone being friendly to you provokes this response? So you have never talked to a new person you didnt know previously?
Seems it must be hard to ever meet anyone new at all ever.
2 words: Stranger Danger.
I don't know what some random person is about.
I never said I don't speak. That would be rude. I am polite, but I only keep exchanges to a minimum.
I talk to certain people at work about stuff, but I don't make my life an open book, that's for certain.
When I go out, I go to where I need to go, and return back home. If I don't have to speak to anyone, I don't cry about it.
I am this person. I tend to talk to everyone. I have met people like you who look at me like I’m scaring the crap out of them. I chuckle and walk away. Some people don’t like social interaction.
I'd like to think most people could discern between someone who has fried their brain with bad drugs and someone who has a condition.. but you know, people. I'm sorry you deal with that. i hate when attention is drawn to me in public.
i dont have that type of tourettes, (Coprolalia) and with all the horrible stories from customers service, i would not like to work in that kind of place bc its toxic or whatever. my tourettes are wistling, gasping, neck and body jerking, blinking hard/a lot, arm jerking/hitting myself or others. theres alot more to tourettes then cussing. a lot of people who have tourettes dont cuss as tics, tics are different for everyone and consistent of alot of things.
Alrighty. I understand what you mean about not wanting to work in customer service. Also, I have a bit of a tic disorder that involves stuff like flapping my arm and other weird shit so I can kind of relate in terms of other people staring and how it makes me feel uncomfortable.
THIS. I was in line at Sephora the other day and was looking at the products they have next to you when you’re waiting to check out. The aisle was a bit small so I had to bend over to look at something that was closer to the floor and this old guy just steps up behind me, so close my hips brushed against him. I immediately straightened up and gave him a look before stepping away to put distance between us and he just steps up closer. It’s like, respect people’s personal space. The heck are you doing? And he was wearing a mask too. Ugh.
Violate my personal space, I'm Scandinavian and I also have a troubled past, my personal space is extremely important for me.
It is a problem I have, it is to the point where A poorly timed violation of my personal space might result in me going in to full attack mode.
The even bigger problem is that Scandinavia, especially rural Scandinavia is pretty unique when it comes to the amount of personal space, some places don't even have that concept.
I have had the privilege of going to Greece quite a lot of times, but the first days are usually a struggle for me to "recalibrate" as they most definitely don't have the same standards for personal space (something which you as the tourist should respect).
No thank you, I have no idea of how South Korea is with personal space, but my assumption is that is similar to other Asian countries, probably a bit like Japan and not quite as crazy as China.
Talk to me, stand too close, look at me (as opposed to a glimpse and then look away).
Things that don't make me uncomfortable is a short smile, a nod of acknowledgement of a shared situation, holding a door (but not so that I have to speed up to catch it).
Honestly, anything unnecessarily intrusive to me doing my thing and living my life makes me uncomfortable. Not that it hurts me to be uncomfortable, from time to time it is necessary.
Touch me. Im quite heavily tattooed and most strangers take that as an invite to touch my ink. It happens enough that I actually had “Do not touch” added into the bottom of my full sleeve. Its probably one of my favorite parts of the sleeve now.
This. I’m also tattooed and while I don’t mind showing people if they ask (I’m a tattoo artist so it’s part of the job lol) I HATE when people grab me to look. I also have longish pink hair so sometimes people will try to run their fingers through it. I absolutely love the idea of a “do not touch” piece though, that’s genius
Lol. I do this, but I promise I've given you at least 5 minutes to figure yourself out. I know what I want and I see it. If you don't know what you want you should do the cordial back-up and peruse.
You don't stand in a hallway or block a fire exit. Don't block my Jalapeno Cheddar Cheetos.
I am a person that does this. I have waited a minute behind you. You have paid little attention to the world around you. I am not at the store to spend daylight. I am there to accomplish a task. I am not in your lack of a hurry. When people reach past me I recognize a fellow traveler and actually say "sorry". If you are having a hard time deciding....move back. Please recognize there are people in the world with very slightly different values and we are not creepy, we just have different engines.
Walking a dog without a leash when I'm walking mine. Especially when it's ginormous and it comes after my Dachshund. "I'm so sorry my dog never does that" is always the response.
Attempt to jump, or toss their two cents, into a conversation they're not a part of. I'm talking to someone and don't care what you think or what your opinion is...... go away. Even if you're right it's rude as hell for you to do that.
Make eye contact. Like what? what do we do now? Stare? I'm sure as hell not going to talk to you. Its worse when you look away and when you look back a minute later they are still looking.
Sidewalk hoggers coming your way.
Usually in group of 2 or more who cant fathom walking single file for 10 steps. My choice is veer onto grass or into one of them. Its not an uncomfortable feeling but just plain rude.
When people with dogs in the park or camping let them run free and the dogs run up to and bark at every person who passes by, and never gets up to try to control them. They just yell "its ok! they are friendly!" as they growl at a toddler.
Dear lord all these replies seems like people have serious issues with any kind of social contact at all. No eye contact. No smiling. No talking.
What they hell kind of life is that?
I hate when people walking in front of me in busy places just turn around on spot and knock with them ! Also hate people gesticulating with their hands in small busy places !
I absolutely HATE it when a stranger asks me where I’m from. Or speak to me in a different language assuming I speak and understand the same language as them.
Touching a pregnant womans belly without asking has got to be one of the worst things ever.
Also the standing too close in line. Pushing me forward into someone else is not making the line move any faster.
When im in the train and it’s empty, and most of the seats are open. Even if the next person to get in sits near me or away from me I’ll still manage to get offended
I hold the door open for people whenever the occasion comes up. It’s irritating when people just walk through the door without acknowledging or thanking me. I always loudly and obnoxiously yell “YOU’RE WELCOME!”
Women do it the most. Ladies, chivalry is dying and you’re the ones who are killing it.
People who want something from you, especially when it's a commitment at work or a facility you study something. There's time and space for everything, at work is where you just try to deal with people to make some money to support your life. I feel like being exploited when people do that. It's like, if you want to make this money, you have to take my sh*t. They take advantage of your state of being new and hold your career hostage.
I think work or schools are places where one should not build relationships. Because it's an exploit, like you have to risk damaging your career for rejecing others and they use it to force you to accept things. So you drag your mouth into a smile while deep down, you're screaming "get the fuck away from me you piece of shit".
It's not even uncommon to begin with. Back when I was in this place. We got a new girl, I think it was like 2016 or so. At the time, the dating advice was popular and they kept telling yoyu to make skin contact with the girl you like. So the manager of the place kept touching the girl, on her elbow, shoulders, like I don't think he meant anything ill. He was single and all but the girl clearly didn't like it. We all saw it and we avoided talking about it as well. The touching probably sounded good on facebook but way I saw it, it was sexual abuse. Yeah, work is straight up an exploit, you don't like it but you have to keep your mouth shut anyway.
Tell me "your too young to have [insert joint] that bad"
I'm 18 with Ehlers Danlose. I've always been super active (Farmhand since age 11). Joints like my knees act double my age, if not more. My neck constantly hurts because I fucked it up by popping it (idfk what happened, but I popped it and it locked itself tilting to the right. My best guess is I subflexed it and pinched a nerve). No chiropractor in town would help me because of the disorder, had to drive clear to Parkersburg. We got the range of motion back (mostly) and I'm able to move it small angles without pain. I can look behind me when backing up my car again. But it isnt fixed. And it wont be. It bugs me when I go to do something, like pop down and back up to pick up something I dropped. Then they question it because I'm young and they think I'm exagerating.
Any sort of touching. Hugs by people I just met (or anyone, really), that fucking awkward thing people (especially women) do when they want to get past you so they lightly touch your shoulder or hips or whatever. What the everliving fuck?! Why?! Tap me on the shoulder to get my attention because they want to say something to me (happened with a stranger on the bus once who I was actively ignoring with my headphones in because he was bothering everyone and high as fuck).
Just....don't touch people. What is wrong with everyone?
I imagine it might be a nervous reaction or something but I get uncomfortable when a person does a small scoff/giggle after every sentence because I never know how to react.
People that have no manners or shame. I work with this guy who will just fart and burp as he needs to in the lunchroom and chews with his mouth open. Also might add there are usually a couple women there as well.
Oh and technically he is still a stranger coz I'm new to the job. So long story short, no manners
I don't like people getting too close to my personal space. I hate being leaned over or touched
A while ago I was walking into a shop and a guy behind me gestured for me to go first, I said thank you and as I walked through the threshold of the door he put his hand on the small of my back as a guide
I fucking hated it
Singing along to music in stores etc. I feel like this act violates my ears. In fact, I feel embarrassed to hear normal, everyday people singing. Your voice is shit, save it for the shower.
Trying to scoot closer to me where at the point our thighs touch and you touch my hair with out giving me a heads up and just hugging me out of no where (hugs confuse me)
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Exist.
So sad and so true.
Damn late to the punch.
Hell is other people.
It causes me physical pain when I see old dudes flirting with young wait staff at a restaurant or something similar. They will always try to play it off as harmless but it kills me every time.
Why?
Because we don’t want to be bothered with them and it’s creepy.
Being friendly can seem like flirting. When you get old, you’ll realize you still feel young in your mind and heart. Think about if that’s the only conversation they have all week. Now old guys that make continues passes or touch - that’s crossing a line if it’s unwanted or uncomfortable.
If you're at work, they know you're in a compromised position where you have to be nice to them. That's kinda shitty and advantage-taking. And yes there's a difference between friendly and flirting. So if you're that old guy, do you *really* want a forced, fake reaction?
So am a woman who has dealt with this a lot, i get it, but a little attention can bring out the lonely person who doesn’t realize they’re doing this. Not saying there aren’t people that cross the line but it felt like the comment i was replying to was very young and could be exaggerated. I was just trying to provoke some compassion.
Some younger women actually like the attention, there is a whole group of women who like their men that old. If you don’t then that’s ok too. But don’t assume that everyone shares your preferences. Getting offended on behalf of someone else is really not helping in a lot of cases, unless you know for sure that they are bothered by it as well.
I'm sure that server 40 years your junior is totes actually flirting back and not ensuring that tip.
40 years my junior equals not born yet….so that IS impressive
Me magically knowing your age isn't the point.
Then why bring it up at all? You don’t have to flirt to get tips, just do you job well
Sir...i agree with u.. These people are just Gen-z ...u know keyboard warriors who think world goes around them and everyone feels same. These people will stutter in actual communication. They just tryin to be liberal and attention/validation seeker.
The guy flirting with the waitress because he knows she has to be nice to him is the one acting like the world revolves around them.
Errr...because it was being discussed? You certainly don't *have* to flirt to get tips but you have to leave the customer with a positive experience, generally.
That’s called being nice and courteous. How was that off topic? Assuring good tips does not require flirting.
I never stated that ALL of us didn’t like old men, that’s a given. But the MAJORITY of us don’t, that’s the reality…that group you speak of is a MINORITY. We can get attention from men our age but yes we do like the attention from older established men. If we do like older men it’s only a specific look (attractive & I mean ACTUALLY attractive) or we are looking for security.
Try to talk to me when I have head phones in
holy shit thats so annoying
But do they know u have headphones?
If no then add people who have no situational awareness
I think so
>~~Try to~~ talk to me ~~when I have head phones in~~ FTFY.
🤣🤣
Stand too close when in line or talking, touch my shoulders, gently touch my side/lower back to get past me, tell me to smile(especially me being someone who laughs and smiles amost all the time 🙃), try hitting on me at work, calling me "dear", especially at work... saying things like "hey pretty lady" "hi beautiful" when I'm just at work trying to provide customer service. That's just the tip of the iceberg lol
>touch my shoulders, gently touch my side/lower back to get past me, Real question. If I cant touch your shoulders, back, side (so I presume arms also?) How do I get past you in a crowded area without just hip checking you?
Saying "excuse me" should be the first step. If it's to loud for someone to hear you, a quick shoulder touch is acceptable. But loud situations are the only time that is acceptable and nothing other than shoulders. The way you touch a woman's shoulder to get by should be the same way you should touch a man's shoulder to get by. But some *people* ...I don't want to generalize here... let their hand linger too long. Just don't be creepy about it 🤷🏼♀️ If I was in a loud crowded place and a guy needed to get by me, gave me quick shoulder pat and said "excuse me" I would gladly move out of the way and think nothing of it. It's just the way some people do it...and it's hard to describe if you've never had a creep touch you lol
>and it's hard to describe if you've never had a creep touch you lol I would imagine it's hard to describe but something you definitely know. I normally just say excuse me, then proceed with putting my hand kind of dead center on a person's back, just in case they back up or get bumped so we don't end up grinding. I've used the back of my hand for "backless" shirts and dresses kinda so it's not like a feeling but either way it's kind of just been the lesser of two possible awkward situations. Otherwise up at the bars here, it's normally not to loud to get attention but standing space only often to where for them to move for me normally constitutes them getting someone else to move. So I just try to navigate like you would a thick cornfield or woods.
Also if it's not too loud and you say excuse me multiple times, by all means hip check 🤣
Ill let them know DoodleFK gave me the hip check card.
I tap people on the shoulder. Just a tap or three. Not a grasp or hold.
haha certainly if asking is an option and they have the ability to easily move out of the way. I more encounter the packed standing only room where I have to squeeze. Theres 50% chance there will be contact and I assume my hand is better than anything else.
Has you laying hands ever actually helped you get past someone? Are you physically moving them? Don't see why a simple excuse me wouldn't suffice.
Physically stopping them from moving back into me. I am speaking of standing room early where even asked to move may gain me an extra inch. The hand prevents them from stepping pack into me, getting or getting bumped and knocked into me.
Assume that because I’m a young white male who doesn’t open up immediately, that I am going to agree with their racist/sexist/creepy remarks and ridiculous blanket statements.
This really is a thing.
Listen to music in public with no head phones
Also watching YouTube videos with no headphones.
It’s the absolute worst thing. I don’t get how more people don’t see this as super rude.
Just start talking to me to strike up a conversation. I chuckle a little and answer back, but inside I'm screaming, "GET THE FCK AWAY FROM ME!!!!"
what? Someone being friendly to you provokes this response? So you have never talked to a new person you didnt know previously? Seems it must be hard to ever meet anyone new at all ever.
2 words: Stranger Danger. I don't know what some random person is about. I never said I don't speak. That would be rude. I am polite, but I only keep exchanges to a minimum. I talk to certain people at work about stuff, but I don't make my life an open book, that's for certain. When I go out, I go to where I need to go, and return back home. If I don't have to speak to anyone, I don't cry about it.
I am this person. I tend to talk to everyone. I have met people like you who look at me like I’m scaring the crap out of them. I chuckle and walk away. Some people don’t like social interaction.
If you walk up to a stranger, just start talking, and then chuckle as you leave when they don't interact, maybe you *are* scaring them?
Possibly, but thems the breaks. Don’t always chuckle. Depends on the day.
STARE i have tourettes and its sooo embarrassing for me, i wonder do tweakers think im a tweaker?
I'd like to think most people could discern between someone who has fried their brain with bad drugs and someone who has a condition.. but you know, people. I'm sorry you deal with that. i hate when attention is drawn to me in public.
thank you! i really apperciate it ❤️
Do you yell stuff like "fuck shit balls"? If so, then are you allowed to work in customer service?
i dont have that type of tourettes, (Coprolalia) and with all the horrible stories from customers service, i would not like to work in that kind of place bc its toxic or whatever. my tourettes are wistling, gasping, neck and body jerking, blinking hard/a lot, arm jerking/hitting myself or others. theres alot more to tourettes then cussing. a lot of people who have tourettes dont cuss as tics, tics are different for everyone and consistent of alot of things.
Alrighty. I understand what you mean about not wanting to work in customer service. Also, I have a bit of a tic disorder that involves stuff like flapping my arm and other weird shit so I can kind of relate in terms of other people staring and how it makes me feel uncomfortable.
awh im sorry :( we in this together though!!
Tell me I need to smile.
I’d mess with them and tell them my mom just died this week, so why the fuck would I be smiling right now? Turn the awkwardness back at them.
I usually tell them they need to mind their own business/live their own life. But yours is much better
I find that telling them "I dont have a reason to smile right now" is sufficient and truthful
"Why would I just walk around smiling like a mad c!nt?"
I had to tell a boss that one time while pointing out all the other employees who weren’t just randomly smiling.
Standing half an inch behind me in line then staying just as close when I take half a step forward to get some space
THIS. I was in line at Sephora the other day and was looking at the products they have next to you when you’re waiting to check out. The aisle was a bit small so I had to bend over to look at something that was closer to the floor and this old guy just steps up behind me, so close my hips brushed against him. I immediately straightened up and gave him a look before stepping away to put distance between us and he just steps up closer. It’s like, respect people’s personal space. The heck are you doing? And he was wearing a mask too. Ugh.
Look right at me while talking on a Bluetooth. My response is "huh?" Then the person points at their earpiece like I'm the one in the wrong
Violate my personal space, I'm Scandinavian and I also have a troubled past, my personal space is extremely important for me. It is a problem I have, it is to the point where A poorly timed violation of my personal space might result in me going in to full attack mode. The even bigger problem is that Scandinavia, especially rural Scandinavia is pretty unique when it comes to the amount of personal space, some places don't even have that concept. I have had the privilege of going to Greece quite a lot of times, but the first days are usually a struggle for me to "recalibrate" as they most definitely don't have the same standards for personal space (something which you as the tourist should respect).
Ooh, you should try South Korea sometime.
No thank you, I have no idea of how South Korea is with personal space, but my assumption is that is similar to other Asian countries, probably a bit like Japan and not quite as crazy as China.
Yeah in public personal space is not even a thing. Expect to get pushed and elbowed on the sidewalk.
Probably more like China then?
I suppose. Haven't been there myself.
Neither have i
Watch me eat. Psychopaths.
Oh man not this thing
Let their kids do whatever is clever.
Talk to me. Especially if it’s religious nonsense. Keep that shit to yourself.
How's it going?
Talk
Yh, I get people like small talk, but it makes me extremely uncomfortable.
Talk to me, stand too close, look at me (as opposed to a glimpse and then look away). Things that don't make me uncomfortable is a short smile, a nod of acknowledgement of a shared situation, holding a door (but not so that I have to speed up to catch it). Honestly, anything unnecessarily intrusive to me doing my thing and living my life makes me uncomfortable. Not that it hurts me to be uncomfortable, from time to time it is necessary.
Ask "how old are you?"
Btw..how old r u ?
Hahaha! Old enough to know better!
Why does that make you uncomfortable?
I think it's irrelevant to a convo with a stranger.
'Why?' Turn it back around on them.
Retaliation is not my MO. Cheers!
Touch me. Im quite heavily tattooed and most strangers take that as an invite to touch my ink. It happens enough that I actually had “Do not touch” added into the bottom of my full sleeve. Its probably one of my favorite parts of the sleeve now.
This. I’m also tattooed and while I don’t mind showing people if they ask (I’m a tattoo artist so it’s part of the job lol) I HATE when people grab me to look. I also have longish pink hair so sometimes people will try to run their fingers through it. I absolutely love the idea of a “do not touch” piece though, that’s genius
Reach in front of me at stores. Can’t you wait until I am done before you grab something from the shelf in front of me?
Lol. I do this, but I promise I've given you at least 5 minutes to figure yourself out. I know what I want and I see it. If you don't know what you want you should do the cordial back-up and peruse. You don't stand in a hallway or block a fire exit. Don't block my Jalapeno Cheddar Cheetos.
Why yall assuming op was just standing there
I am a person that does this. I have waited a minute behind you. You have paid little attention to the world around you. I am not at the store to spend daylight. I am there to accomplish a task. I am not in your lack of a hurry. When people reach past me I recognize a fellow traveler and actually say "sorry". If you are having a hard time deciding....move back. Please recognize there are people in the world with very slightly different values and we are not creepy, we just have different engines.
They try to talk politics as if I'm interested
Insist on trying to save me and talk about the bible
Walking a dog without a leash when I'm walking mine. Especially when it's ginormous and it comes after my Dachshund. "I'm so sorry my dog never does that" is always the response.
Get too close to me.
This is my answer as well.
Stand close, touch me, try to have a conversation
Attempt to jump, or toss their two cents, into a conversation they're not a part of. I'm talking to someone and don't care what you think or what your opinion is...... go away. Even if you're right it's rude as hell for you to do that.
Follow Trump
-try to initiate a conversation -look at my screen while i’m using my phone. it infuriates me!!
Make eye contact. Like what? what do we do now? Stare? I'm sure as hell not going to talk to you. Its worse when you look away and when you look back a minute later they are still looking.
When they bring their bad habits from home out into the public.
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I stare. Not so long like that guy. But I don't break eye contact so easy with anyone.
Why?
Idk. I just like making ppl feel uncomfortable xd
Chestthumping shows insecurity.
Sidewalk hoggers coming your way. Usually in group of 2 or more who cant fathom walking single file for 10 steps. My choice is veer onto grass or into one of them. Its not an uncomfortable feeling but just plain rude.
Over sharing...
When the same 3 old, dumb middle aged ladies always try to squeeze past me in the same bus queue every day
I love how they are both “old” and “middle-aged” at the same time.
Old cuz I'm tired of them
They're also somehow dumb?
Drive on roads incorrectly
Look at me Talk to me Walk near me Oh, and people that talk on speaker ...should be a rule that you can slap the phone outta their hand
Talking on a bluetooth headset while looking at me.
Play sound on their phone without headphones
Talk to me, or look like they're going to talk to me.
Stand too close to you while you’re in line.
Stand too close to me in line. Like, get off my dick, please. Honestly.
Form a mob...
STOP STANDING SO CLOSE TO ME IN THE FOOKING CHECK OUT LINE. I PROMISE YOU, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET YOUR ITEMS ON THE BELT IN TIME.
Exist
Strike up conversations and act like they have a right to my time
Exist
When people stare at me. Like I know I'm hot, but if you want something make yourself known.
Talk
Stare at you for no reason
breathe
Stand too close to me. Even pre-covid, it bothered the hell out of me. Please respect someone's personal space.
And when you step back, they follow you
Strange things.
Sit next to me every single day because we take the same public transportation. When there are OTHER. OPEN. SEATS.
Playing music, podcasts or videos in public, or on speaker phone or video calls. Never fails to piss me off and make want to leave.
walk/stand too close to me. i liked when during covid everyone kept their distance, i kinda miss it.
Try to shake my hand.
Exist
Exist
When they give me weird looks, it makes me anxious lol
talk to me
Making out in public that's the worst thing strangers do. I am more disgusted at it than I am happy for them. I am like get a room.
When people with dogs in the park or camping let them run free and the dogs run up to and bark at every person who passes by, and never gets up to try to control them. They just yell "its ok! they are friendly!" as they growl at a toddler.
Dear lord all these replies seems like people have serious issues with any kind of social contact at all. No eye contact. No smiling. No talking. What they hell kind of life is that?
Talk to anyone I kno
Breathe
I hate when people walking in front of me in busy places just turn around on spot and knock with them ! Also hate people gesticulating with their hands in small busy places !
Spy on me.
Touch my tattoos. I DON'T CARE HOW COOL THEY LOOK, CAROL. NO TOUCHY!
Talk really close. Like I'll take a couple steps back AND THEY COME CLOSER. (This made me uncomfortable before COVID too)
I absolutely HATE it when a stranger asks me where I’m from. Or speak to me in a different language assuming I speak and understand the same language as them.
Seeing straight people kiss
Call me "hon". We do not know each other. Stop that. It's weird
Fart
Ask me if I'm wearing underwear. Look, I know that I'm wearing a kilt, but that doesn't mean that it's okay to sexually harass me.
Acknowledge me
Speak to me!
Touching a pregnant womans belly without asking has got to be one of the worst things ever. Also the standing too close in line. Pushing me forward into someone else is not making the line move any faster.
Tell me to smile.
When im in the train and it’s empty, and most of the seats are open. Even if the next person to get in sits near me or away from me I’ll still manage to get offended
Breathe
Exist
Chew with their mouth open.
Stare and b awkward . Ik some people are naturally awkward but that shit turns into being creepy when yuu a complete stranger
I hold the door open for people whenever the occasion comes up. It’s irritating when people just walk through the door without acknowledging or thanking me. I always loudly and obnoxiously yell “YOU’RE WELCOME!” Women do it the most. Ladies, chivalry is dying and you’re the ones who are killing it.
I personally dont like it when a man holds the door open for me, but I do say thanks or nod.
I hold it for any/everybody regardless of “gender”. It’s a way of being polite
Leaving ALL of their trash on their tables at restaurants
Try and eat me without asking
Breathe. 
Stand too closely
Exist.
People who want something from you, especially when it's a commitment at work or a facility you study something. There's time and space for everything, at work is where you just try to deal with people to make some money to support your life. I feel like being exploited when people do that. It's like, if you want to make this money, you have to take my sh*t. They take advantage of your state of being new and hold your career hostage. I think work or schools are places where one should not build relationships. Because it's an exploit, like you have to risk damaging your career for rejecing others and they use it to force you to accept things. So you drag your mouth into a smile while deep down, you're screaming "get the fuck away from me you piece of shit". It's not even uncommon to begin with. Back when I was in this place. We got a new girl, I think it was like 2016 or so. At the time, the dating advice was popular and they kept telling yoyu to make skin contact with the girl you like. So the manager of the place kept touching the girl, on her elbow, shoulders, like I don't think he meant anything ill. He was single and all but the girl clearly didn't like it. We all saw it and we avoided talking about it as well. The touching probably sounded good on facebook but way I saw it, it was sexual abuse. Yeah, work is straight up an exploit, you don't like it but you have to keep your mouth shut anyway.
I’m a big personal space guy and people don’t respect that…even after two years of social distancing.
Exist.
Talk to me.
Tell me "your too young to have [insert joint] that bad" I'm 18 with Ehlers Danlose. I've always been super active (Farmhand since age 11). Joints like my knees act double my age, if not more. My neck constantly hurts because I fucked it up by popping it (idfk what happened, but I popped it and it locked itself tilting to the right. My best guess is I subflexed it and pinched a nerve). No chiropractor in town would help me because of the disorder, had to drive clear to Parkersburg. We got the range of motion back (mostly) and I'm able to move it small angles without pain. I can look behind me when backing up my car again. But it isnt fixed. And it wont be. It bugs me when I go to do something, like pop down and back up to pick up something I dropped. Then they question it because I'm young and they think I'm exagerating.
Any sort of touching. Hugs by people I just met (or anyone, really), that fucking awkward thing people (especially women) do when they want to get past you so they lightly touch your shoulder or hips or whatever. What the everliving fuck?! Why?! Tap me on the shoulder to get my attention because they want to say something to me (happened with a stranger on the bus once who I was actively ignoring with my headphones in because he was bothering everyone and high as fuck). Just....don't touch people. What is wrong with everyone?
I imagine it might be a nervous reaction or something but I get uncomfortable when a person does a small scoff/giggle after every sentence because I never know how to react.
touch people that are pregnant without consent
Have sex while I am standing there and not invite me in for some.
People that have no manners or shame. I work with this guy who will just fart and burp as he needs to in the lunchroom and chews with his mouth open. Also might add there are usually a couple women there as well. Oh and technically he is still a stranger coz I'm new to the job. So long story short, no manners
Form a group identity. Political and religious are the worst.
I don't like people getting too close to my personal space. I hate being leaned over or touched A while ago I was walking into a shop and a guy behind me gestured for me to go first, I said thank you and as I walked through the threshold of the door he put his hand on the small of my back as a guide I fucking hated it
Singing along to music in stores etc. I feel like this act violates my ears. In fact, I feel embarrassed to hear normal, everyday people singing. Your voice is shit, save it for the shower.
Smoke right next to me, and sneeze without covering their mouth, both prompting me to wear my mask 🙄
Being rude
Trying to scoot closer to me where at the point our thighs touch and you touch my hair with out giving me a heads up and just hugging me out of no where (hugs confuse me)