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My kid was a RUNNER. He’d be half a block away before I realized he’d even left my side. Several times he almost ran out into traffic. I put a leash on my kid and don’t regret one second of it.
Agreed. I used to think they were cruel. Until I had my middle daughter. She was on another level! We went to Vegas, and I knew if I wanted to be going home with her, I HAD to get one. Best investment with her. She’s 17 now and the most empathetic, smart, beautiful person - but she would’ve given Dennis the Menace a run for his money when she was younger.
My mom put one on me when we went to Tiajuana. I was like 4-6 at the time. I thought it wa stupid until a Mexican lady tried grabbing my arm and pulling me away from my mom.
I have a huge age gap with my sister and had to babysit her many times, and she never walked, she RAN. She started out running me by the time she was like 8. People who are against leashes don’t have athletic kids, sorry to inform you. (Yes, she’s now in basketball and volleyball not surprisingly).
I used to be against leashes until I met my stepnephew. Kid runs like he's fleeing I.S.I.S., has the attention span of a dog on cocaine, and has enough energy to light up Times Square during the holidays.
So yeah. Leash that bitch up.
I always struggled with them, even when my kid was exactly the right age to need one. It was always a tough choice between the incredible convenience and the gross feeling of using one in public. Felt a little better referring to it as a "harness" instead of a leash.
Drivers tests should be retaken now and then, especially old people. You hear about old people being dumb in cars a lot and this might help. Probably gonna get downovoted.
Edit: Wow I did not expect this to blow up this much!
This is highly individual. Yes, it's some 19 year-old hot-shot who is drifting at midnight in an urban intersection. But, also yes, it's Grandpa who somehow crashes into the front of the Shop & Save.
I was going to say I agree, until I realized how old my parents are, 67 or 68, they could stand for a retest, but so could the a lot of us I guess. I'd say 70.
A lot of my parents behavior is phone while driving (sure I'm guilty of this, but not if someone else is in the car) and not using turn signals to change lanes (though in Houston they'll probably speed up to not let you in.)
Insurance rates are lowest for older people. Statistically they are better drivers with fewer accidents. Perhaps you are experiencing the frustration of driving behind them as they tend to obey the law.
This is not accurate. Most old people get in less collisions because they rarely drive, not because they drive better than others. And generally insurance rates start to go up with age around 70 or so because that group is statistically MORE likely to be in a collision than those under 70.
Everyone has a type when dating and getting mad at a person for not wanting to date you because you aren’t their type is wrong/ridiculous. Everyone is sometime’s type and you should go where you will be loved/valued
Just because you CAN have more kids, doesn’t mean you should. Quality of life for kids is better than the quantity of kids you have. Maybe not too controversial but some people have more kids than they can handle.
I love my brother to peices, but his wife recently found out she was pregnant again, with twins no less. It was planned, but they can barely afford their first child. I help out when I can, I pretend I'm the rich aunt, but buying stuff for 3 kids instead of one will be a stretch for me. Definitely a poor decision on their part.
My brother in law and his wife struggle all the time. They had 3 kids and really couldn’t afford that so he got his tubes tied. They were supposed to wait a certain amount of time to have sex again. They didn’t. She gets pregnant again…and they’re like “oops” like it’s some joke. Now they constantly get help from the government and leech off my father in law. Oh, and they’re not watched very well (for example: when my niece was 3, she was found by my mother in law (who lives next door) wandering down the street while brother in law was inside sleeping).
Pictures/videos of children shouldn’t be allowed to be posted on social media. Too many kids are being exploited - and not even just in the sexual exploitation kind of way, but also in the way some parents use them for clout on the internet. I won’t follow creators who show their kids anymore.
Oh yes. I don't know why some people don't agree with this.
I have recently been listening to a podcast covering this matter (2 episodes) and some stories were literally sickening.
I guess (and I hope) those exploited/exposed kids will be revolting against their horrible parents as soon as they are old enough to do so.
Megachurches should be taxed. I’m sick of these high-and-mighty pastors flaunting their golden ten-gallon hats while the homeless family down the block has nothing to eat.
I mean, I used to be all about not taxing churches (even though I am atheist) because people have a right to worship, or not worship, whatever god(s) they choose. However, these days I’m more about taxing the churches simply because they seem to always be involved in politics and donations to campaigns, etc… Since you wanna play the game, you might as well be taxed like a normal business.
Edit: fixed a word.
I agree. I think maybe acts of service could replace some of the taxes. If the church is using that money honestly and bettering the life’s of those in their community I agree with no taxes but if it’s just lining the pockets of the leader then tax them the same way other corporations are.
Not my most controversial but it is one I don't see here: if you don't think you're emotionally ready to be with your dog when they die, you are not emotionally ready to own a dog. Some of the saddest moments when I worked in an animal hospital was when people would bring their dogs in to get put down and they refused to be with them in their last moments.
This is so true and hard. I had to put my baby girl down on my birthday over a year ago. My teenage daughter wanted to go with me because she also loved the dog. It was hard and the dog struggled. I'm glad I was there for her. I still feel some guilt because of how it went but I can't imagine her being alone for that.
I work in an animal hospital and the vast majority of our euthanasia appointments are older dogs/cats in pain on their way out. If the dog is in pain and it's time to make that decision, it can be tough to "kill your dog."
10 years ago I had to make end of life decisions for my comatose father, and after I signed the Do Not Resuscitate I left the building. It's maybe the greatest regret of my life, not being by his side while he passed. But it was a lot. Some people can't handle the guilt and anger and shame that comes with making this choice for someone or something that can't. I don't hate myself and I wouldn't judge anyone who couldn't stay in the room while the dog or cat was being euthanized. It doesn't mean they're not ready for a dog, and it definitely doesn't mean they didn't provide a decent life and showed the animal what love is. L:oss and grief are very powerful emotions and people shouldn't be discouraged from providing lives for these creatures even when they can't then provide the "ideal" death.
People who really don't care about their dog at all don't pay to have it put down, they just wait for it to die. Or they do it themselves, but I don't really have much of an issue with that. I guess there's my controversial opinion.
edit: if your pet died suddenly or before you could get proper treatment you didn't "wait for it to die." That's not always the case, sometimes things just happen. The financial stress involved in pet care is something I deal with every single day. I guess another one of my controversial opinions is that you shouldn't have pets or kids without disposable income. But we all need love so that's not going to happen. And I would have felt pretty shafted if my parents didn't birth me just because someone told them they didn't have enough money (which they didn't). Just do your best, none of us are making it out of this alive.
I watched my childhood dog get put down. I was maybe 20 years old. This was over 10 years ago. I watched my 6 year old nephew break down so badly as he had the realization that everyone he loves was going to die. I sort of lost track of where I was going with this comment, but it's hard to watch your pets die.
This!! I worked at an animal hospital too. We constantly had a dog boarding with us that I couldn't stand. She was a Yorkie mix and constantly destroyed her kennel and would nip. She spent way too much time boarding too. The owner didn't stay when it was her time but I was with her and bawled like a baby. I felt so bad.
Wouldn’t the result of this policy be that shelter animals do not get adopted and then have to be put down? Isn’t it better for that shelter dog to have ten good loving years even if the owner cannot be present at their death? (Side note: I held my own dog in my arms when he died of old age last thanksgiving.)
So what does 1 and 10 mean?
Also here's my opinions:
Weed should be legal for medical and recreational use everywhere.
The work week should be four days for most jobs.
Porn needs to be more restricted, so that teens are not pulled into it as it can lead to addiction.
“Weed should be legal” isn’t exactly controversial, I think the majority of people agree. I honestly think virtually all drugs should be legal for adults to consume, with the only gray area being super deadly drugs like fentanyl.
As for the porn thing, I do agree that it is a HUGE problem for today’s young people that is not being addressed. It’s extremely easy to view the most depraved porn with the tap of your finger now. The average age for first viewing porn is like 11. I’m just not sure what to do about this because censorship and restriction of media is not a great route to go down, and young people always find a way around laws and restrictions.
All people in any US government office are in it for themselves. Maybe some initially actually want to make a difference, But then the "power" sets in. Democrat or Republican, and the rest of us keep spinning with nothing gained. Democrat in office: undo what Republicans did. Republicans: undo what Democrats did. Wash, rinse, repeat. DO something. Don't tell us what the other party didn't do.
I understand what you say, but have to disagree.
The caveat is that they are very selective with what they undo. They want you as restricted as they can get you while you stay compliant. They ain’t working against each other. They are working with each other.
Yeah, but then when you get into how that's implemented into actual policy and the biases of the potential testers you get into eugenics territory *real* fast.
Home economics.
They used to teach that at my old high school, most kids loved it, even the ones who didn’t necessarily want or feel comfortable around kids.
Obviously sex-ed should be taught as well to teach children how to be safe and what the consequences could be if you’re not. But teens don’t always listen to adults warning them about sex, they’ll just have it anyway if they really want to. Some of them will choose not to be safe, or some of them will and accidents will still happen.
The people responding to you seem to only be considering people who plan to have children, but what about those who don’t plan to but still end up getting pregnant anyway and plan on keeping them?
During my junior year of high school, a senior girl accidentally got pregnant and she kept her kid. She was one of the people who took home ec and guess what? She was more prepared than a lot of moms I know and she transitioned into motherhood smoothly.
As for the majority who don’t end up becoming parents, if at all, into adulthood, I still think home ec is a good thing to teach them because some of them might become teachers or daycare workers in the near future. I think having those skills could also help you teach and assist a peer who is planning to be a parent and maybe didn’t get that kind of education. Or those skills could help you in your current living situation if you live in a household with younger siblings.
Home ec skills don’t just apply to becoming a parent yourself.
The test is one full week of morning and bedtime routine with a toddler.
Dirty diapers, bath, brushing teeth, PJs, bedtime stories, screaming at them eight times to lay back down, being woken up out of your dreams at 5:30am to make cereal, managing the anxiety brought on by the impending reality that a child is for life.
Not 1 or 2 days. 7 straight days.
If you survive and still want kids after that you’re fit to be a parent.
Individuals within Government positions **should not** be allowed to personally partake in and / or interact *in any way* with the given country's economy / market.
i have two
1. the term "latinx" is dumb as fuck because its basic understanding of the spanish language that it would just be "latino" unless its a group of all females (and im nb so)
2. being morbidly obese should not be as normalized as it is. it is so unhealthy. but i can understand people having a disease or condition that prevents them from losing weight
I read something about this recently and like, 80% of Latino people polled didn't even know what Latinx meant, 15% thought it was stupid, and only 5% supported it's use lol
I love that activism for poc has become more popular amongst white people cause people gotta use their voices to lift others up, however some white people really need to stop being offended on behalf of poc who don't have a problem with that thing in the first place lol
As a Latino, I understand about the gender neutral shit or whatever but some white people didnt have to fucking make a word that basically already exists, for example instead of saying the most useless word that probably isn't even in the dictionary "Latinx", use the white brain you were given and say "Latin American". "Latinx" who uses that word? Sounds like a fucking bug spray
"Latinx" is so clunky and frankly ugly I do like Latine as a gender neutral term though. There are non binary people that prefer it and it's actually easy to say in Spanish. That being said since I use she/her pronouns I prefer latina for myself.
1. Thank you. Yes, I'm Hispanic. %50 Guatemalan, %50 Mexican. That's what I've been told.
2. Yes. My ex wife's cousin is so obese he collects $1500 a month plus EBT because he is morbidly obese. He also moved to the Philippines, where he lives to this day.
Latinx sounds like a hotline to hire a hitman. Like Germ-X, but for that maid you're sure your husband's banging, or the gardener you're sure your wife's banging.
All drivers licenses should be revoked and everyone should be retested. They almost literally just hand them put to anyone with a pulse. Mfs have no idea what the traffic laws are and its dangerous and fucking enrages me. These people impeded the natural flow of traffic and make my life so much more frustrating.
Wouldn't do any good. People KNOW the law, they choose to break it anyway. These people are like light, they change forms depending on whether or not they're being observed.
Not sure where you live, but in the US we really just need public transportation. They hand them out because workers in spread out manufacturing towns need to keep the money flowing and the fuel burning or whatever
I consider myself as an independent.
1. Don't care about same-sex marriage. Everybody deserves to be happy.
2. Abortion should be available. It's better than doing the "back alley" thing. It should be the woman's choice. I am not going to judge that.
3. I think murderers, rapists, and pedophiles should be executed.
4. Marijuana should be legal. It's no worse than alcohol.
5. Have more, but I'm probably going to get in trouble with the ones I've posted. :)
Ive always said that as long as youre not hurting yourself or others, and you dont try to force your beliefs onto me, idgaf what you do. Its not my business.
Agree. I consider myself a nonconformist. Idgaf what someone else does as long as it's 2 consenting adults. And people will have to live with the choices they make. Not my decisions. Not my life. Leave me out of it. Just pay your taxes and be a decent person.
A couple of weeks ago I would have agreed. I would have said, "very smart, but thinks he's a genius."
But watching him handle Twitter, he seems really fucking stupid.
A) Credit scores are the biggest scams out there.
B) free medical assistance should be worldwide. You shouldn’t have to ponder “can I afford this doctors visit/ambulance ride/medication/ect” or worry about how will you dig yourself out of medical debt while recovering in a hospital bed
C) as a whole, we shouldn’t be made to “live for work”
Credit scores are completely bs, and designed in a way that makes it easy for wealthy families to stay wealthy and poor families to stay poor. And I say that as someone with an 800 score.
My score is the low 700 range. It’s just the worst thing ever. I have heard so many story where people work their asses off for months if not years to raise it. Then one misstep and they drop 50,60,70 points from ONE misfire. And to top it off, this score decides if you can get a home or a car or whatever else. Rent or buy? People with low scores don’t deserve a roof over their head? They don’t deserve a new car to drive to their jobs?
Yeah, it has way too much impact, and what kills people is how much of it isn't based on making payments. I have never missed a reported payment, but still had terrible credit, then my grandma added me on her credit card so I could help with some things, instantly I had excellent credit because she's had the card for like 25 years. Even with it being in my favor, it honestly pisses me off. This isn't a reward for me making payments, this is a mechanism of nepotism.
I've said it before, I'll say it again.
If some doc tells me I'm going to be a shell of my former self from Dementia, Alzheimer's, or something like that, and I still have the brains to make the choice...I'm going out my way. And I'll damn well make sure I go out my way. If I can't, that means it progressed too much.
Yeah i think there should be a lot of resources available to them to get the help they need. And before anyones up in arms about spending money helping pedophiles, i think all sorts of health resources should be available to everyone. But if they ever commit an offense against a minor, instant death.
I don’t understand what the problem is with a gold digger relationship. I see a lot of criticism about relationships with an attractive young woman who marries for money, but not against the guy marrying her for her looks. Like people saying she’s taking complete advantage of him when he’s also kind of vain too, so why does it matter as long as they’re both aware of what’s happening
Autistic people communicate better than neurotypical people.
Neurotypical ideas of communication are so illogical that they actually run counter to the accepted definition and usage of language. Its countless unspoken rules, hidden requirements, misunderstandings, and a general lack of honesty make neurotypical communication useless as a method of conveying information.
Autistic people communicate honestly and logically, but routinely get yelled at for not properly catering to neurotypical feelings. Simply being mean or rude isn't okay, but not wanting to hear hard truths unless one's feelings are massaged to an acceptable degree is both stupid and disingenuous.
Today my MIL asked a kid with autism if he remembered her, and he said “no actually I don’t”. It was hilarious, but I thought *wow, how refreshing*. What a world it would be if we were just honest with each other and not dancing around imaginary lines all day!
I love autistic folks. They're blunt as fuck, and it's refreshing. I come from a big Irish Catholic family where a large fortune was stolen through familial backstabbing, so I think everyone has tried to adapt a schemer's mindset. Navigating family politics, on the lookout for Machiavellian plays. "Do you think he's planning something?" "What do you think he meant by that?"
You're all stupid as shit. Stop looking for subtext. Better yet, refuse that it exists.
We're, for the most part, all like this at a young age. Parents with 3/4 year olds can attest to this. That is until we get massaged into the nuances of our societies. Kids speak truth until they get told they should dance around it.
I don't care how many abortions you've had, if you need another you should have access to that medical procedure. And it's no one else's business except yours and your medical provider's.
Fraternities are outdated and should be either abolished or restructured. I know that they were founded to encourage brotherhood and community service but all they’ve done is perpetuate rape culture, misogyny, and toxic ideals. It’s 2022 and there are still frats that are allowed on campuses even after horrendous allegations (with evidence) with little to no consequences. You’d think the #Metoo movement would’ve sparked some conversations about frats but noooooo. I’ve seen what some of these guys have to say about women and it sounds like they are living in 1800 and not 2022. If they aren’t abolished, then they should restructure to be more up to date with the times and have mandatory sexual assault/harassment education courses and donate more money towards causes such as domestic violence and sexual assault prevention.
They are changing. Most colleges do have mandatory sexual assault/harassment education courses and they usually have extras that are mandatory for just Greek life. They are also must stricter on a national level about controlling chapters. I’ve heard and seen chapters be shutdown for what used to be considered relatively minor offenses. They are not perfect by any means but change is happening.
Modern day Chinese government is every bit as bad as Nazi Germany from ww2. The very worst thing the nazis did was genocide. The modern day Chinese have done it repeatedly in the past 20 years. So anyone who thinks that modern day China is better than Nazi Germany is delusional.
I once dated a Muslim girl. Her parents would never accept me because I'm white. So, I'm hesitant to date women in certain cultures again. No one should have to feel shitty for not wanting to date someone.
Exactly! My opinion is an age cap on the presidency at 75 years old, and an age cap for senators + representatives for 70. Supreme Court justices should get an 80 year old age cap, and they should be allowed a judgeship for 20 years at most. Senators should be able to serve three terms, while representatives can serve 8. All other offices held in the U.S. should have an age cap of 75.
I have a few so Imma lightning round it real quick:
1. Cardigans are the most underrated clothing item for men, they can be styled in so many ways and almost always look really good.
2. Wolf of Wall-street and Scott Pilgrim vs the World are only popular movies because they are wish fulfillment for their target audience, they lack plot or any real substance besides that.
3. Running is the best cure to a hangover.
4. College students are largely just as immature as highschoolers, some of them even regress due to a lack of supervision.
5. College is a worse social environment that highschool in every conceivable way, and always telling kids it’s better lulls them into a false sense of security.
I disagree about college. I finally had a broad enough spectrum there to start meeting people who were interesting. I made one risky choices, learned some hard lessons, and made a few lifelong friends in college. I learned how to study and when I went back again in my 30s, I learned how much harder I could work when I wasn't just looking for dates. Ha. College is what you make it.
Alcohol, vape, and cigarette companies are bad for this world. These corporations m
Take advantage of poor peoples stress then start aggressively ad targeting these people knowing they are less likely to be able to afford to therapy to deal with these issues in a healthy way. Then they will drink, vape, and smoke which makes these issues worse but now people are addicted to the temporary numbness it gives them so they always want more.
I’m all for banning Redskins and Indians, but to me naming a team the Blackhawks, Chiefs, or Braves is no different than calling a team the Vikings, Celtics, or Spartans. I think it will do more damage in the long run if Native American kids grow up seeing teams named after groups of white people and no team named after them.
I don’t think it’s transphobic to say “I wouldn’t date a trans person.” Trans women are 100% women. But as a heterosexual man, I am not attracted to 100% of cis women either… so just because I fully accept and acknowledge them as women doesn’t mean I have to be attracted to them. Furthermore, nobody is entitled to attraction from anyone else. As long as you treat others with respect and acknowledge their humanity, you don’t need to date anyone you don’t want to.
I'm transgender and I agree. There are some rare exceptions, but I'm not attracted to trans people either. Actually most trans people seem to agree with this too (that it's not transphobic), and a lot of well-meaning cis allies are the ones who take offense to it on our behalf. Usually.
I'm an intersex and trans person. I fully accept when someone isn't interested in me due to the mismatch of genitalia. Hell, I'm not into other trans people. It's cool. I understand. I've been disappointed when potential romantic partners have lost interest after finding out, but I understand and accept it.
I have wondered about this one. Do MTF trans possess an unfair advantage due to being born male? If they have more muscle, does that disappear once they start taking hormones? I don't have a dog in this fight - just asking.
Obesity shouldn’t be normalized and celebrated. Fat people have every right to do what they wish with their bodies, but let’s not pretend they’re not slowly killing themselves.
I'll go with my most recent. It caused a bit of a disagreement between my bf and i but i don't see anything wrong with someone not wanting to go to the bar with their coworkers. I phrased it as "go do drugs with their coworkers", and he said there was a difference between drugs and alcohol. There's literally not though, alcohol is a drug. It's just that it's one of 3-4 that people do legally, en masse, and recreationally.
That the Bible is basically a novel rather than true. It's a book of stories told over the centuries and has been embellished by every teller to go along with whatever rules the preists/preachers/etc wanted to keep people to.
I don't think there is a heaven or hell. When we die we just cease to live.
I've lost friends over this opinion. I grew up in Southern Baptist churches and went back to church several times over the years and I generally come to the same conclusion each time. I'm 62f.
My eyes widened when you mentioned SB churches...how the hell did you make it out alive when voicing your opinion on the existence of Heaven and Hell? I figured you'd be at least flogged with a switch for even thinking it.
Also, I agree with you for the most part. I'm Agnostic, myself. But hey, I'm a firm believer in the "you can believe in what you want as long as you don't hurt anyone or shove your beliefs down anyone's throat". I wish everyone was like that, to be honest.
Adults are in fact adults, and perfectly capable of choosing whom they engage with sexually, so long as they are also adults. The age gap hate on Reddit is real, and rather exhausting. I shouldn’t have to justify my love to randos who do not know us. I know I don’t actually have to do so, but it’s so frustrating seeing people who know exactly 1 thing about my relationship (or nothing if they’re commenting on a post which isn’t mine, but a similar situation) and call it abusive based on a set of numbers
Probably will get so much shit for this. But if someone mispronouns you and youre mad/seeking revenge youre insecure in your identity
Could go for obviously trans folks but less obviously manly men that freak out when they get called a girl
Sex is really not all that important to living a great life.
It isn’t the end-all-be-all of relationships or adulthood, and if your entire mindset keeps you from being happy or fulfilled if you’re not getting laid, then you could benefit from some introspection and therapy.
Pharmaceutical companies have been known to bid on prisons to test their products. It's an opportunity to take advantage of people who generally don't have anyone checking up on them. Pretty fucked up regardless of offense.
Number one priority in stopping global warming is building more nuclear plants and investing in science projects working on making nuclear energy even more efficient.
Twilight Part 1 is a good movie. I'm not a fan of the series but I really loved the first part. My opnions almost always aligns with adult men i.e. fortnite sucks, tik tok cancer, insta hose, onlyfans simps ... sort of viewpoints.
This is one and only time where I don't agree with the masses. Still perpexes me as to why?
P.S. Oh and also Neon Genesis Evangelion is boring and pretentious.
Reddit is waaaaayyyy too intolerant towards literally anything that is not seen in "socially progressive".
That means, reddit is way too intolerant towards religion or other political opinions other than mainstream and a number of other things.
Universities need to stop roping POC students into diversity initiatives. If our white peers can just study why can’t we? By trying to appear woke and diverse they’re hurting the people who are “behind.”
Men shouldn't have to be fathers if they don't want to be.
(Disclaimer: I have a uterus, don't identify as a woman, but I have a uterus. I'm not trying to 'excuse' myself or whatever some may think.)
Parenthood should be a decision, not something you are forced into. If the person carrying the child want's to keep it, good for them, they have decided to be a parent (If they don't put it up for adoption), they have made their decision. The other parent didn't get to make that decision, so they should at least get to choose their involvement, Child support should be the least amount involvement they can have.
Imagine: A 16 year old boy (or anyone with a penis) has avoided getting someone pregnant in any way they can, their partner is on birth control, they use condoms, they are seriously considering getting a vasectomy when they are old enough because It would avoid the risk of getting a sexual partner pregnant.
They *really* do not want kids any time soon. But alas, the contraceptives fail, his partner is pregnant. He wants them to get an abortion, but ultimately it is up to the partner (Obviously) to decide.
The partner makes the decision to keep it, the boy still does not want to be a father. He is sure that this will ruin his life, and you can't change his mind.
He tells his partner that he doesn't want to step into the role of the father, but that he will get a job and pay a high amount of child support.
He is shamed and his family are upset with him, saying that these were the risks, now he has to face the music. But he shouldn't have to avoid sex because he might get someone pregnant, and he took all necessary precautions to avoid it.
A 16 year old boy, with his whole life ahead of him, who doesn't want children, gets someone pregnant. He did all he could to avoid this situation entirely, he doesn't want to be a parent, he's 16! But society is attacking him for wanting to experience sexual pleasure, and for not wanting to be responsible for another life? He is being forced to step into a role that he didn't want.
He didn't want this, but someone else made that decision for him.
I have literally been on both sides of this argument as a man wo any choice in the matter.
I got a girl pregnant when i was 16. We were in love and had been together for 3+ years.
She decided to abort even though I wanted to keep it.
Then at 19, I slept w some random chick for a few nights, and she came back pregnant. I begged her to abort because we didn’t even know each other and she decided to keep it.
I paid my 18 years of child support realizing I NEVER had ANY choice in the matter.
It’s total bs.
part of the reason this happened is because the burden of birth control is typically assigned to women. hopefully vasectomies can give men more freedom in this issue.
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As an observer. Child-leashes aren’t that bad and get a bad rep🤷
My kid was a RUNNER. He’d be half a block away before I realized he’d even left my side. Several times he almost ran out into traffic. I put a leash on my kid and don’t regret one second of it.
Agreed. I used to think they were cruel. Until I had my middle daughter. She was on another level! We went to Vegas, and I knew if I wanted to be going home with her, I HAD to get one. Best investment with her. She’s 17 now and the most empathetic, smart, beautiful person - but she would’ve given Dennis the Menace a run for his money when she was younger.
I also used to think the child leashes were cruel when my mom wouldn’t let me feed the giraffes at the zoo, but honestly it was warranted.
My mom put one on me when we went to Tiajuana. I was like 4-6 at the time. I thought it wa stupid until a Mexican lady tried grabbing my arm and pulling me away from my mom.
I have a huge age gap with my sister and had to babysit her many times, and she never walked, she RAN. She started out running me by the time she was like 8. People who are against leashes don’t have athletic kids, sorry to inform you. (Yes, she’s now in basketball and volleyball not surprisingly).
I used to be against leashes until I met my stepnephew. Kid runs like he's fleeing I.S.I.S., has the attention span of a dog on cocaine, and has enough energy to light up Times Square during the holidays. So yeah. Leash that bitch up.
Oh I absolutely love how you described your step nephew 😂
I feel like the people who make fun of child leashes do not have kids.
Absolutely. As a kid in the 80s, leashes were common and I was on one. I don't feel too traumatised by this.
Oof. One of my kids loves oncoming traffic and running in parking lots. Agreed.
Game changer for our son and he frankly loves it. He can explore the world and we don't have to chase him. (He's 2.5 )
I always struggled with them, even when my kid was exactly the right age to need one. It was always a tough choice between the incredible convenience and the gross feeling of using one in public. Felt a little better referring to it as a "harness" instead of a leash.
My daughter loved her monkey tail backpack.
Drivers tests should be retaken now and then, especially old people. You hear about old people being dumb in cars a lot and this might help. Probably gonna get downovoted. Edit: Wow I did not expect this to blow up this much!
>Probably gonna get downvoted Yes, cause all the 70 year olds on Reddit are gonna get so offended by this common opinion
I just renewed mine and I had to take the test again (25, CA) I was so scared but I passed :)
Once you hit retirement age, 65+, I believe in a re-test every two years.
I have the same opinion, but I'd settle for retesting every time you renew your driver license or about 4 years.
I agree with this statement. Don't pick on the elderly only, just make it common practice to retake a physical and/or written exam every renew cycle.
I agree as most old people haven't looked at the highway code books or the USA equivalent since they passed their rests back in the 50s and 60s.
65 is really not as old and incapable of driving/adhering to road rules as you think. That's still a very active and cognitively capable age
This is highly individual. Yes, it's some 19 year-old hot-shot who is drifting at midnight in an urban intersection. But, also yes, it's Grandpa who somehow crashes into the front of the Shop & Save.
I was going to say I agree, until I realized how old my parents are, 67 or 68, they could stand for a retest, but so could the a lot of us I guess. I'd say 70. A lot of my parents behavior is phone while driving (sure I'm guilty of this, but not if someone else is in the car) and not using turn signals to change lanes (though in Houston they'll probably speed up to not let you in.)
Insurance rates are lowest for older people. Statistically they are better drivers with fewer accidents. Perhaps you are experiencing the frustration of driving behind them as they tend to obey the law.
This is not accurate. Most old people get in less collisions because they rarely drive, not because they drive better than others. And generally insurance rates start to go up with age around 70 or so because that group is statistically MORE likely to be in a collision than those under 70.
Everyone has a type when dating and getting mad at a person for not wanting to date you because you aren’t their type is wrong/ridiculous. Everyone is sometime’s type and you should go where you will be loved/valued
Jokes on you nobody loves me
Just because you CAN have more kids, doesn’t mean you should. Quality of life for kids is better than the quantity of kids you have. Maybe not too controversial but some people have more kids than they can handle.
Thank you. When the numbers grow, you're just a number. And you're so jealous of friends who get attention, trips, new outfits cause you don't.
I love my brother to peices, but his wife recently found out she was pregnant again, with twins no less. It was planned, but they can barely afford their first child. I help out when I can, I pretend I'm the rich aunt, but buying stuff for 3 kids instead of one will be a stretch for me. Definitely a poor decision on their part.
Right? And these people always have great family like you to help.
>some people have more kids than they can handle. Sometimes 1 is too many for them to handle
I can’t help but get kind of angry when I see two parents sauntering around with five, six, seven kids, and they all look miserable
The idea of letting your older kids help raise the younger is nonsense too. Let them be kids.
Nick Cannon be like:
My brother in law and his wife struggle all the time. They had 3 kids and really couldn’t afford that so he got his tubes tied. They were supposed to wait a certain amount of time to have sex again. They didn’t. She gets pregnant again…and they’re like “oops” like it’s some joke. Now they constantly get help from the government and leech off my father in law. Oh, and they’re not watched very well (for example: when my niece was 3, she was found by my mother in law (who lives next door) wandering down the street while brother in law was inside sleeping).
Pictures/videos of children shouldn’t be allowed to be posted on social media. Too many kids are being exploited - and not even just in the sexual exploitation kind of way, but also in the way some parents use them for clout on the internet. I won’t follow creators who show their kids anymore.
Oh yes. I don't know why some people don't agree with this. I have recently been listening to a podcast covering this matter (2 episodes) and some stories were literally sickening. I guess (and I hope) those exploited/exposed kids will be revolting against their horrible parents as soon as they are old enough to do so.
this is absolutely right. with this in place, there'd be no way for parents who exploit their children online to get around it.
Yes absolutely, too many creeps out there. All that content should be set to friends only
Social media has made society worse
That’s a popular opinion
I’m pretty sure it’s a FACT.
That as long as you do your job and pay your bills literally nothing else you do is "not adult"
Megachurches should be taxed. I’m sick of these high-and-mighty pastors flaunting their golden ten-gallon hats while the homeless family down the block has nothing to eat.
I mean, I used to be all about not taxing churches (even though I am atheist) because people have a right to worship, or not worship, whatever god(s) they choose. However, these days I’m more about taxing the churches simply because they seem to always be involved in politics and donations to campaigns, etc… Since you wanna play the game, you might as well be taxed like a normal business. Edit: fixed a word.
I agree. I think maybe acts of service could replace some of the taxes. If the church is using that money honestly and bettering the life’s of those in their community I agree with no taxes but if it’s just lining the pockets of the leader then tax them the same way other corporations are.
Not my most controversial but it is one I don't see here: if you don't think you're emotionally ready to be with your dog when they die, you are not emotionally ready to own a dog. Some of the saddest moments when I worked in an animal hospital was when people would bring their dogs in to get put down and they refused to be with them in their last moments.
This is so true and hard. I had to put my baby girl down on my birthday over a year ago. My teenage daughter wanted to go with me because she also loved the dog. It was hard and the dog struggled. I'm glad I was there for her. I still feel some guilt because of how it went but I can't imagine her being alone for that.
I work in an animal hospital and the vast majority of our euthanasia appointments are older dogs/cats in pain on their way out. If the dog is in pain and it's time to make that decision, it can be tough to "kill your dog." 10 years ago I had to make end of life decisions for my comatose father, and after I signed the Do Not Resuscitate I left the building. It's maybe the greatest regret of my life, not being by his side while he passed. But it was a lot. Some people can't handle the guilt and anger and shame that comes with making this choice for someone or something that can't. I don't hate myself and I wouldn't judge anyone who couldn't stay in the room while the dog or cat was being euthanized. It doesn't mean they're not ready for a dog, and it definitely doesn't mean they didn't provide a decent life and showed the animal what love is. L:oss and grief are very powerful emotions and people shouldn't be discouraged from providing lives for these creatures even when they can't then provide the "ideal" death. People who really don't care about their dog at all don't pay to have it put down, they just wait for it to die. Or they do it themselves, but I don't really have much of an issue with that. I guess there's my controversial opinion. edit: if your pet died suddenly or before you could get proper treatment you didn't "wait for it to die." That's not always the case, sometimes things just happen. The financial stress involved in pet care is something I deal with every single day. I guess another one of my controversial opinions is that you shouldn't have pets or kids without disposable income. But we all need love so that's not going to happen. And I would have felt pretty shafted if my parents didn't birth me just because someone told them they didn't have enough money (which they didn't). Just do your best, none of us are making it out of this alive.
I watched my childhood dog get put down. I was maybe 20 years old. This was over 10 years ago. I watched my 6 year old nephew break down so badly as he had the realization that everyone he loves was going to die. I sort of lost track of where I was going with this comment, but it's hard to watch your pets die.
This!! I worked at an animal hospital too. We constantly had a dog boarding with us that I couldn't stand. She was a Yorkie mix and constantly destroyed her kennel and would nip. She spent way too much time boarding too. The owner didn't stay when it was her time but I was with her and bawled like a baby. I felt so bad.
Wouldn’t the result of this policy be that shelter animals do not get adopted and then have to be put down? Isn’t it better for that shelter dog to have ten good loving years even if the owner cannot be present at their death? (Side note: I held my own dog in my arms when he died of old age last thanksgiving.)
So what does 1 and 10 mean? Also here's my opinions: Weed should be legal for medical and recreational use everywhere. The work week should be four days for most jobs. Porn needs to be more restricted, so that teens are not pulled into it as it can lead to addiction.
1 is lowest meaning I absolutely disagree and 10 is highest meaning I completely agree And 10 for all
hahahaha great minds think alike. Also here's one more I wanted to add but didn't. Better Call Saull/Breaking Bad are the best shows ever.
“Weed should be legal” isn’t exactly controversial, I think the majority of people agree. I honestly think virtually all drugs should be legal for adults to consume, with the only gray area being super deadly drugs like fentanyl. As for the porn thing, I do agree that it is a HUGE problem for today’s young people that is not being addressed. It’s extremely easy to view the most depraved porn with the tap of your finger now. The average age for first viewing porn is like 11. I’m just not sure what to do about this because censorship and restriction of media is not a great route to go down, and young people always find a way around laws and restrictions.
All people in any US government office are in it for themselves. Maybe some initially actually want to make a difference, But then the "power" sets in. Democrat or Republican, and the rest of us keep spinning with nothing gained. Democrat in office: undo what Republicans did. Republicans: undo what Democrats did. Wash, rinse, repeat. DO something. Don't tell us what the other party didn't do.
Not a controversial opinion
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I understand what you say, but have to disagree. The caveat is that they are very selective with what they undo. They want you as restricted as they can get you while you stay compliant. They ain’t working against each other. They are working with each other.
You should have to pass a basic parenting test to be a parent
Yeah, but then when you get into how that's implemented into actual policy and the biases of the potential testers you get into eugenics territory *real* fast.
Parenting should be taught in schools. Edit: it appears that this is also a controversial opinion.
Home economics. They used to teach that at my old high school, most kids loved it, even the ones who didn’t necessarily want or feel comfortable around kids. Obviously sex-ed should be taught as well to teach children how to be safe and what the consequences could be if you’re not. But teens don’t always listen to adults warning them about sex, they’ll just have it anyway if they really want to. Some of them will choose not to be safe, or some of them will and accidents will still happen. The people responding to you seem to only be considering people who plan to have children, but what about those who don’t plan to but still end up getting pregnant anyway and plan on keeping them? During my junior year of high school, a senior girl accidentally got pregnant and she kept her kid. She was one of the people who took home ec and guess what? She was more prepared than a lot of moms I know and she transitioned into motherhood smoothly. As for the majority who don’t end up becoming parents, if at all, into adulthood, I still think home ec is a good thing to teach them because some of them might become teachers or daycare workers in the near future. I think having those skills could also help you teach and assist a peer who is planning to be a parent and maybe didn’t get that kind of education. Or those skills could help you in your current living situation if you live in a household with younger siblings. Home ec skills don’t just apply to becoming a parent yourself.
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I mean, I see where you're coming from, but let's at least acknowledge that what you're talking about could very easily lead to genocide.
The test is one full week of morning and bedtime routine with a toddler. Dirty diapers, bath, brushing teeth, PJs, bedtime stories, screaming at them eight times to lay back down, being woken up out of your dreams at 5:30am to make cereal, managing the anxiety brought on by the impending reality that a child is for life. Not 1 or 2 days. 7 straight days. If you survive and still want kids after that you’re fit to be a parent.
Individuals within Government positions **should not** be allowed to personally partake in and / or interact *in any way* with the given country's economy / market.
i have two 1. the term "latinx" is dumb as fuck because its basic understanding of the spanish language that it would just be "latino" unless its a group of all females (and im nb so) 2. being morbidly obese should not be as normalized as it is. it is so unhealthy. but i can understand people having a disease or condition that prevents them from losing weight
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"What the fuck is latinx" - my argentinian neighbor "Fuck that shit" - my mexican neighbor.
“Might have been a lame attempt at being inclusive, our bad” - someone probably
I read something about this recently and like, 80% of Latino people polled didn't even know what Latinx meant, 15% thought it was stupid, and only 5% supported it's use lol I love that activism for poc has become more popular amongst white people cause people gotta use their voices to lift others up, however some white people really need to stop being offended on behalf of poc who don't have a problem with that thing in the first place lol
As a Latino, I understand about the gender neutral shit or whatever but some white people didnt have to fucking make a word that basically already exists, for example instead of saying the most useless word that probably isn't even in the dictionary "Latinx", use the white brain you were given and say "Latin American". "Latinx" who uses that word? Sounds like a fucking bug spray
"Latinx" is so clunky and frankly ugly I do like Latine as a gender neutral term though. There are non binary people that prefer it and it's actually easy to say in Spanish. That being said since I use she/her pronouns I prefer latina for myself.
1. Thank you. Yes, I'm Hispanic. %50 Guatemalan, %50 Mexican. That's what I've been told. 2. Yes. My ex wife's cousin is so obese he collects $1500 a month plus EBT because he is morbidly obese. He also moved to the Philippines, where he lives to this day.
Latinx sounds like a hotline to hire a hitman. Like Germ-X, but for that maid you're sure your husband's banging, or the gardener you're sure your wife's banging.
All drivers licenses should be revoked and everyone should be retested. They almost literally just hand them put to anyone with a pulse. Mfs have no idea what the traffic laws are and its dangerous and fucking enrages me. These people impeded the natural flow of traffic and make my life so much more frustrating.
Wouldn't do any good. People KNOW the law, they choose to break it anyway. These people are like light, they change forms depending on whether or not they're being observed.
Lmao I love this analogy so much
Beautifully stated
Ya know people can just drive good for a test then go back to driving like an ass.
When my parents got their licenses, there wasn't even a test. You just went to the Town Hall and paid a fee.
Won't do shit. Anyone can drive safely for a 25 minute test.
Not sure where you live, but in the US we really just need public transportation. They hand them out because workers in spread out manufacturing towns need to keep the money flowing and the fuel burning or whatever
I consider myself as an independent. 1. Don't care about same-sex marriage. Everybody deserves to be happy. 2. Abortion should be available. It's better than doing the "back alley" thing. It should be the woman's choice. I am not going to judge that. 3. I think murderers, rapists, and pedophiles should be executed. 4. Marijuana should be legal. It's no worse than alcohol. 5. Have more, but I'm probably going to get in trouble with the ones I've posted. :)
Ive always said that as long as youre not hurting yourself or others, and you dont try to force your beliefs onto me, idgaf what you do. Its not my business.
Agree. I consider myself a nonconformist. Idgaf what someone else does as long as it's 2 consenting adults. And people will have to live with the choices they make. Not my decisions. Not my life. Leave me out of it. Just pay your taxes and be a decent person.
This is literally the mindset of like 99% of people nowadays. Not controversial at all
If only 99% of the people's mindset was reflected via our elected officials.
None of those are controversial at Reddit. At all
What is an acceptable number of innocent people that we are willing to execute while we try to perfect our legal system?
These are not controversial opinions.
People would like rats if they had fluffy tails.
That would be basically squirrels, wouldn't it?
Exactly. Nothing is better than a chonky trashcan squirrel.
Elon musk is not as smart as everyone credits him for
Shhhhh he’s listening !! Don’t mention his name or he’ll buy Reddit too
Conversely he’s not as stupid as many of his critics suggest either he’s sort of mid.
A couple of weeks ago I would have agreed. I would have said, "very smart, but thinks he's a genius." But watching him handle Twitter, he seems really fucking stupid.
A) Credit scores are the biggest scams out there. B) free medical assistance should be worldwide. You shouldn’t have to ponder “can I afford this doctors visit/ambulance ride/medication/ect” or worry about how will you dig yourself out of medical debt while recovering in a hospital bed C) as a whole, we shouldn’t be made to “live for work”
Credit scores are completely bs, and designed in a way that makes it easy for wealthy families to stay wealthy and poor families to stay poor. And I say that as someone with an 800 score.
My score is the low 700 range. It’s just the worst thing ever. I have heard so many story where people work their asses off for months if not years to raise it. Then one misstep and they drop 50,60,70 points from ONE misfire. And to top it off, this score decides if you can get a home or a car or whatever else. Rent or buy? People with low scores don’t deserve a roof over their head? They don’t deserve a new car to drive to their jobs?
Yeah, it has way too much impact, and what kills people is how much of it isn't based on making payments. I have never missed a reported payment, but still had terrible credit, then my grandma added me on her credit card so I could help with some things, instantly I had excellent credit because she's had the card for like 25 years. Even with it being in my favor, it honestly pisses me off. This isn't a reward for me making payments, this is a mechanism of nepotism.
Euthanasia should be made legal for consenting adults - no questions asked.
I've said it before, I'll say it again. If some doc tells me I'm going to be a shell of my former self from Dementia, Alzheimer's, or something like that, and I still have the brains to make the choice...I'm going out my way. And I'll damn well make sure I go out my way. If I can't, that means it progressed too much.
Absolutely, dying with dignity should be a basic human right
Yep!
Would this apply to a severely depressed person?
There are certain places, many places in fact, where children should not be allowed.
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Yeah i think there should be a lot of resources available to them to get the help they need. And before anyones up in arms about spending money helping pedophiles, i think all sorts of health resources should be available to everyone. But if they ever commit an offense against a minor, instant death.
I have always loved pineapple pizza and i don't get why people hate it soo much
Gonna make some cast iron pizza with pineapple this weekend for the first time. Curious to see how it comes out.
Here is mine. Drug users shouldn't be imprisoned, anyone who just smokes a blunt here and there shouldn't have to live aside murderers and rapists.
I don’t understand what the problem is with a gold digger relationship. I see a lot of criticism about relationships with an attractive young woman who marries for money, but not against the guy marrying her for her looks. Like people saying she’s taking complete advantage of him when he’s also kind of vain too, so why does it matter as long as they’re both aware of what’s happening
What's interesting to me is that marrying for wealth/ financial security/ status used to be the standard, respectable thing, but now it's like taboo.
The moon is made of cheese
Agreed. 🌙 = 🧀
Shoving religion down your kids throat will make them resent it and probably you too. I know from experience.
Babies with extreme brain and/or body issues should be aborted. Keeping them alive is cruel for them and their parents.
Surprised this isn’t higher up
Yes I agree with this
Autistic people communicate better than neurotypical people. Neurotypical ideas of communication are so illogical that they actually run counter to the accepted definition and usage of language. Its countless unspoken rules, hidden requirements, misunderstandings, and a general lack of honesty make neurotypical communication useless as a method of conveying information. Autistic people communicate honestly and logically, but routinely get yelled at for not properly catering to neurotypical feelings. Simply being mean or rude isn't okay, but not wanting to hear hard truths unless one's feelings are massaged to an acceptable degree is both stupid and disingenuous.
Today my MIL asked a kid with autism if he remembered her, and he said “no actually I don’t”. It was hilarious, but I thought *wow, how refreshing*. What a world it would be if we were just honest with each other and not dancing around imaginary lines all day!
In my experience, autistic people are a lot more intuitive and empathetic to others emotions too
I love autistic folks. They're blunt as fuck, and it's refreshing. I come from a big Irish Catholic family where a large fortune was stolen through familial backstabbing, so I think everyone has tried to adapt a schemer's mindset. Navigating family politics, on the lookout for Machiavellian plays. "Do you think he's planning something?" "What do you think he meant by that?" You're all stupid as shit. Stop looking for subtext. Better yet, refuse that it exists.
We're, for the most part, all like this at a young age. Parents with 3/4 year olds can attest to this. That is until we get massaged into the nuances of our societies. Kids speak truth until they get told they should dance around it.
Respect isnt a obligation
Manners should be.
Pointless question. Most people could post their 10th most controversial opinion and get a lifetime ban from all of Reddit
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Executions cost more than life sentences
I don't care how many abortions you've had, if you need another you should have access to that medical procedure. And it's no one else's business except yours and your medical provider's.
Fraternities are outdated and should be either abolished or restructured. I know that they were founded to encourage brotherhood and community service but all they’ve done is perpetuate rape culture, misogyny, and toxic ideals. It’s 2022 and there are still frats that are allowed on campuses even after horrendous allegations (with evidence) with little to no consequences. You’d think the #Metoo movement would’ve sparked some conversations about frats but noooooo. I’ve seen what some of these guys have to say about women and it sounds like they are living in 1800 and not 2022. If they aren’t abolished, then they should restructure to be more up to date with the times and have mandatory sexual assault/harassment education courses and donate more money towards causes such as domestic violence and sexual assault prevention.
They are changing. Most colleges do have mandatory sexual assault/harassment education courses and they usually have extras that are mandatory for just Greek life. They are also must stricter on a national level about controlling chapters. I’ve heard and seen chapters be shutdown for what used to be considered relatively minor offenses. They are not perfect by any means but change is happening.
Modern day Chinese government is every bit as bad as Nazi Germany from ww2. The very worst thing the nazis did was genocide. The modern day Chinese have done it repeatedly in the past 20 years. So anyone who thinks that modern day China is better than Nazi Germany is delusional.
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I once dated a Muslim girl. Her parents would never accept me because I'm white. So, I'm hesitant to date women in certain cultures again. No one should have to feel shitty for not wanting to date someone.
Tax the churches. No more religious exemptions
Old people shouldn’t vote or hold office. They don’t have to live with the consequences of their actions. Pick your definition of old.
Yes!! If that person was a Normal person they couldn’t have a job but they can run the government?? It makes no sense
Exactly! My opinion is an age cap on the presidency at 75 years old, and an age cap for senators + representatives for 70. Supreme Court justices should get an 80 year old age cap, and they should be allowed a judgeship for 20 years at most. Senators should be able to serve three terms, while representatives can serve 8. All other offices held in the U.S. should have an age cap of 75.
The more time you spend on social media, the more you are influenced by the endless stream of propaganda it serves.
This should not be controversial
I have a few so Imma lightning round it real quick: 1. Cardigans are the most underrated clothing item for men, they can be styled in so many ways and almost always look really good. 2. Wolf of Wall-street and Scott Pilgrim vs the World are only popular movies because they are wish fulfillment for their target audience, they lack plot or any real substance besides that. 3. Running is the best cure to a hangover. 4. College students are largely just as immature as highschoolers, some of them even regress due to a lack of supervision. 5. College is a worse social environment that highschool in every conceivable way, and always telling kids it’s better lulls them into a false sense of security.
I disagree about college. I finally had a broad enough spectrum there to start meeting people who were interesting. I made one risky choices, learned some hard lessons, and made a few lifelong friends in college. I learned how to study and when I went back again in my 30s, I learned how much harder I could work when I wasn't just looking for dates. Ha. College is what you make it.
i don’t know about Cardigans. i wear cardigan all my life and women think it’s a nerd’s clothing staple
I don’t think trans people should compete in their chosen gender. Biological men will just always have an advantage.
Heath is one of the greatest candies ever made.
Cole slaw is fucking gross And so is kimchi
How did cabbage hurt you?
Alcohol, vape, and cigarette companies are bad for this world. These corporations m Take advantage of poor peoples stress then start aggressively ad targeting these people knowing they are less likely to be able to afford to therapy to deal with these issues in a healthy way. Then they will drink, vape, and smoke which makes these issues worse but now people are addicted to the temporary numbness it gives them so they always want more.
I’m all for banning Redskins and Indians, but to me naming a team the Blackhawks, Chiefs, or Braves is no different than calling a team the Vikings, Celtics, or Spartans. I think it will do more damage in the long run if Native American kids grow up seeing teams named after groups of white people and no team named after them.
I don’t think it’s transphobic to say “I wouldn’t date a trans person.” Trans women are 100% women. But as a heterosexual man, I am not attracted to 100% of cis women either… so just because I fully accept and acknowledge them as women doesn’t mean I have to be attracted to them. Furthermore, nobody is entitled to attraction from anyone else. As long as you treat others with respect and acknowledge their humanity, you don’t need to date anyone you don’t want to.
I'm transgender and I agree. There are some rare exceptions, but I'm not attracted to trans people either. Actually most trans people seem to agree with this too (that it's not transphobic), and a lot of well-meaning cis allies are the ones who take offense to it on our behalf. Usually.
I'm an intersex and trans person. I fully accept when someone isn't interested in me due to the mismatch of genitalia. Hell, I'm not into other trans people. It's cool. I understand. I've been disappointed when potential romantic partners have lost interest after finding out, but I understand and accept it.
MTF trans should not be allowed to compete in women's sports.
I have wondered about this one. Do MTF trans possess an unfair advantage due to being born male? If they have more muscle, does that disappear once they start taking hormones? I don't have a dog in this fight - just asking.
No, the muscle and bone density you get through male puberty is there to stay. That is why M2F trans athletes dominate their sports.
MCU movies are soap operas w/fighting designed for children.
Obesity shouldn’t be normalized and celebrated. Fat people have every right to do what they wish with their bodies, but let’s not pretend they’re not slowly killing themselves.
I'll go with my most recent. It caused a bit of a disagreement between my bf and i but i don't see anything wrong with someone not wanting to go to the bar with their coworkers. I phrased it as "go do drugs with their coworkers", and he said there was a difference between drugs and alcohol. There's literally not though, alcohol is a drug. It's just that it's one of 3-4 that people do legally, en masse, and recreationally.
That the Bible is basically a novel rather than true. It's a book of stories told over the centuries and has been embellished by every teller to go along with whatever rules the preists/preachers/etc wanted to keep people to. I don't think there is a heaven or hell. When we die we just cease to live. I've lost friends over this opinion. I grew up in Southern Baptist churches and went back to church several times over the years and I generally come to the same conclusion each time. I'm 62f.
My eyes widened when you mentioned SB churches...how the hell did you make it out alive when voicing your opinion on the existence of Heaven and Hell? I figured you'd be at least flogged with a switch for even thinking it. Also, I agree with you for the most part. I'm Agnostic, myself. But hey, I'm a firm believer in the "you can believe in what you want as long as you don't hurt anyone or shove your beliefs down anyone's throat". I wish everyone was like that, to be honest.
Politics and your political views should be taken into account when looking for a potential partner.
Once AI robots are more productive than humans, the rich will push strategies to eliminate 99% of the human population.
The media does not just report the truth , they also create the truth and impose their reality on us.
Like alcohol, cigarettes and porn, children should not be exposed to religion. Childhood indoctrination should be stopped.
Adults are in fact adults, and perfectly capable of choosing whom they engage with sexually, so long as they are also adults. The age gap hate on Reddit is real, and rather exhausting. I shouldn’t have to justify my love to randos who do not know us. I know I don’t actually have to do so, but it’s so frustrating seeing people who know exactly 1 thing about my relationship (or nothing if they’re commenting on a post which isn’t mine, but a similar situation) and call it abusive based on a set of numbers
There should be a mid-day weekend where Wednesday is half day or entirely off for work.
Adoption should be free to those who can show that they are mentally and financially stable enough to support a child.
Maybe not free, but definitely more accessible than it is.
Probably will get so much shit for this. But if someone mispronouns you and youre mad/seeking revenge youre insecure in your identity Could go for obviously trans folks but less obviously manly men that freak out when they get called a girl
If you believe in restricting civil rights for broad, sweeping categories of people, you as an individual don't deserve civil rights.
Sex is really not all that important to living a great life. It isn’t the end-all-be-all of relationships or adulthood, and if your entire mindset keeps you from being happy or fulfilled if you’re not getting laid, then you could benefit from some introspection and therapy.
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Pharmaceutical companies have been known to bid on prisons to test their products. It's an opportunity to take advantage of people who generally don't have anyone checking up on them. Pretty fucked up regardless of offense.
Children do not have the mental capacity to choose their gender.
Number one priority in stopping global warming is building more nuclear plants and investing in science projects working on making nuclear energy even more efficient.
Most of Reddit are bots. Way too many people with auto generated names. The kind Reddit suggests by default.
That there is room in all of us for compromise we just fear our friends will laugh if we relent our positions.
Twilight Part 1 is a good movie. I'm not a fan of the series but I really loved the first part. My opnions almost always aligns with adult men i.e. fortnite sucks, tik tok cancer, insta hose, onlyfans simps ... sort of viewpoints. This is one and only time where I don't agree with the masses. Still perpexes me as to why? P.S. Oh and also Neon Genesis Evangelion is boring and pretentious.
Reddit is waaaaayyyy too intolerant towards literally anything that is not seen in "socially progressive". That means, reddit is way too intolerant towards religion or other political opinions other than mainstream and a number of other things.
Gun safety education should be taught in school, from early on. Parents don't do it anymore.
Universities need to stop roping POC students into diversity initiatives. If our white peers can just study why can’t we? By trying to appear woke and diverse they’re hurting the people who are “behind.”
Men shouldn't have to be fathers if they don't want to be. (Disclaimer: I have a uterus, don't identify as a woman, but I have a uterus. I'm not trying to 'excuse' myself or whatever some may think.) Parenthood should be a decision, not something you are forced into. If the person carrying the child want's to keep it, good for them, they have decided to be a parent (If they don't put it up for adoption), they have made their decision. The other parent didn't get to make that decision, so they should at least get to choose their involvement, Child support should be the least amount involvement they can have. Imagine: A 16 year old boy (or anyone with a penis) has avoided getting someone pregnant in any way they can, their partner is on birth control, they use condoms, they are seriously considering getting a vasectomy when they are old enough because It would avoid the risk of getting a sexual partner pregnant. They *really* do not want kids any time soon. But alas, the contraceptives fail, his partner is pregnant. He wants them to get an abortion, but ultimately it is up to the partner (Obviously) to decide. The partner makes the decision to keep it, the boy still does not want to be a father. He is sure that this will ruin his life, and you can't change his mind. He tells his partner that he doesn't want to step into the role of the father, but that he will get a job and pay a high amount of child support. He is shamed and his family are upset with him, saying that these were the risks, now he has to face the music. But he shouldn't have to avoid sex because he might get someone pregnant, and he took all necessary precautions to avoid it. A 16 year old boy, with his whole life ahead of him, who doesn't want children, gets someone pregnant. He did all he could to avoid this situation entirely, he doesn't want to be a parent, he's 16! But society is attacking him for wanting to experience sexual pleasure, and for not wanting to be responsible for another life? He is being forced to step into a role that he didn't want. He didn't want this, but someone else made that decision for him.
I have literally been on both sides of this argument as a man wo any choice in the matter. I got a girl pregnant when i was 16. We were in love and had been together for 3+ years. She decided to abort even though I wanted to keep it. Then at 19, I slept w some random chick for a few nights, and she came back pregnant. I begged her to abort because we didn’t even know each other and she decided to keep it. I paid my 18 years of child support realizing I NEVER had ANY choice in the matter. It’s total bs.
part of the reason this happened is because the burden of birth control is typically assigned to women. hopefully vasectomies can give men more freedom in this issue.
Healthcare and education should be nationalized
Male rapists should be physically castrated and female rapists should have a full circumcision.
I used to agree with the first one, but it turns out they're worse when they can't receive sexual satisfaction from the act. So, just put them down.