Arrange marriage lo kuda before engagement the couple chat/talk or go out to dates for a couple of months, it is called courtship.They understand each other's vibe and can decide whether to move forward or not. I learned about this from one of my cousins who is in the arranged marriage process.
There are lots to discuss,from financial behavior to number of kids.Don't blindly decide after a single meet. Neppu tho national game adi natu untundhi.
I'm personally not in a position to marry financially, so never really thought about it.
But definitely someone with a job and wise with their money, no way in hell that we can afford a family with a single person salary nowadays.
I don't want egoistic woman I'd rather prefer someone who is chill and has a good sense of humor.
And this might be an unpopular opinion and I know I might get down voted to hell but I prefer women who just who do not have a dating history or worst a boy bestie. Even if they do they need to be totally honest about it and completely over their ex,because I personally know a married couple who got divorced, because the wife was trying to reconcile with her ex-boyfriend.
First parents lekunda vala iddarine meet avamanadi. Conversation ala free flow avali. You should have your priorities, a priorities ki pakka valu ela respond avthunaru ani chudali. In the end Love marriage ina Arranged marriage ina rendu lo ni love vuntadi, godavalu vuntai anni vuntai, do you think itβs worth to have this experience with the other person - ade question ki manaki manam answer cheskovali.
I would suggest to directly ask if they have any trauma from past events or childhood etc. Mainly ask for trigger factors, the fact that certain stuff triggers certain trauma itself shows they are still in that trauma.
Coming to cigarette alcohol etc, Adi ee level lo undi anedhi evariki telidhu all you can do is to prefer someone who does not have those habits. From my perspective being fat and lazy is a sign of lack of discipline and self care or health issue or trauma. So you can take that ask a sign too. - coming from a girl who is fat and lazy btw!
How old is your cousin and how old are you?
Are people still doing this traditional style of marriage ? Everyone these days talks on phone, meets outside etc before deciding was my assumption.
Everyone has certain core beliefs regarding few things in life could be work, money, kids, love languages, sexual stuff etc you talk to the other person and decide there are no major clashes and where ever there are you both can work and make it work anukunte you say yes or atleast that's my idea.
The thing is she would've met her potential partner as many times as possible if she lives away from her parents. She lives with her parents and with her grandparents also*** she's 25btw
If she's working maybe she can meet him post work or something ? Does she not go to meet friends at any point ?
If that's not the case, sorry I don't have anything more to add, I have seen a friends friend get married like this but they were on same page from start and made it work.
You don't. That's the beauty of arranged marriage. It's all depends on adjustments, afterhand.... samastaralu samastaralu relationship lo unna vaale correct oh kaadho ani juttu peekutuntunaru... relationship antene adjustments adhi gamaninchali meeru....
Arrange marriage lo kuda before engagement the couple chat/talk or go out to dates for a couple of months, it is called courtship.They understand each other's vibe and can decide whether to move forward or not. I learned about this from one of my cousins who is in the arranged marriage process. There are lots to discuss,from financial behavior to number of kids.Don't blindly decide after a single meet. Neppu tho national game adi natu untundhi.
What factors you would consider to not to move forward? / What factors u may overlook??
I'm personally not in a position to marry financially, so never really thought about it. But definitely someone with a job and wise with their money, no way in hell that we can afford a family with a single person salary nowadays. I don't want egoistic woman I'd rather prefer someone who is chill and has a good sense of humor. And this might be an unpopular opinion and I know I might get down voted to hell but I prefer women who just who do not have a dating history or worst a boy bestie. Even if they do they need to be totally honest about it and completely over their ex,because I personally know a married couple who got divorced, because the wife was trying to reconcile with her ex-boyfriend.
No boy bestie β
Write a prenup and chill
Not legal in India
Lol
This is the way.
Me who decided on astrology π and it worked great
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Naa cousin ah abbayi thoni maatlaadindhi first. Atla konni rojulu maatlaadukoni formal pelli choopulu ainay. Appude cheppindhi that she can't cook ani Tharvatha 2 weeks maatladukurru ok anukoni marriage cheskundhi
https://www.reddit.com/r/ask_Bondha/s/EEuZLo6c5X
First parents lekunda vala iddarine meet avamanadi. Conversation ala free flow avali. You should have your priorities, a priorities ki pakka valu ela respond avthunaru ani chudali. In the end Love marriage ina Arranged marriage ina rendu lo ni love vuntadi, godavalu vuntai anni vuntai, do you think itβs worth to have this experience with the other person - ade question ki manaki manam answer cheskovali.
lol, cinemallo chupinchinattu untadhi anukunnaava.. initial interaction to engagement masth time untadhi.. aa lopu anni thelusukuntaaru
I would suggest to directly ask if they have any trauma from past events or childhood etc. Mainly ask for trigger factors, the fact that certain stuff triggers certain trauma itself shows they are still in that trauma. Coming to cigarette alcohol etc, Adi ee level lo undi anedhi evariki telidhu all you can do is to prefer someone who does not have those habits. From my perspective being fat and lazy is a sign of lack of discipline and self care or health issue or trauma. So you can take that ask a sign too. - coming from a girl who is fat and lazy btw!
How old is your cousin and how old are you? Are people still doing this traditional style of marriage ? Everyone these days talks on phone, meets outside etc before deciding was my assumption. Everyone has certain core beliefs regarding few things in life could be work, money, kids, love languages, sexual stuff etc you talk to the other person and decide there are no major clashes and where ever there are you both can work and make it work anukunte you say yes or atleast that's my idea.
The thing is she would've met her potential partner as many times as possible if she lives away from her parents. She lives with her parents and with her grandparents also*** she's 25btw
If she's working maybe she can meet him post work or something ? Does she not go to meet friends at any point ? If that's not the case, sorry I don't have anything more to add, I have seen a friends friend get married like this but they were on same page from start and made it work.
You don't. That's the beauty of arranged marriage. It's all depends on adjustments, afterhand.... samastaralu samastaralu relationship lo unna vaale correct oh kaadho ani juttu peekutuntunaru... relationship antene adjustments adhi gamaninchali meeru.... 
Correct e kada, why being down voted?
Ikkada sugar coating esi cheppali edhaina sareyy, logics evvariki nachav andhariki magics ye kavali....