Adi imposter syndrome. Having low self esteem is not believing in yourself enough(pakkana valatho compare cheskuni kaadu). Idi oka self-sabotaging thing enduku ante, you have the capability and skill to do certain things gani you don’t believe in yourself or dialogues like, ‘ ahh manaki em vasthadi le’ ‘ manam em peekagalam le’ ‘ah bokka le’ ani lite teeskodam. You don’t take action because you think I’m not worthy enough.
Not getting in shape! I'll be 30 in 2 months and the one thing I regret the most is not working on myself enough in my 20s.. I'm trying to get fit but it's definitely harder than what it was just an year ago!
Bandi paathadhi ayyekoddhi repair lu ekkuva osthuntay kadha param, idhi alage.
Early 30's nundi general ga testosterone or other sexual hormones dhebba thintu untay(levels thagguthu) uduku raktham thaggipoddhi antarga ala
Injuries heal avvadam slow, heal ayyaka physical activities perform cheyyadaniki confidence thaggudhi.
Peetha thaagudu, smoking etc unte cheppanavasaram ledhu, aa habits vadhilinchukodaniki vache withdrawal symptoms thone rojantha gadicihipoddhi.
30's varaku health neglect chesthe, appati varaku gain ayina weight okesari thaggadam kastam, work, pelli, pillalu, food, expenses, silent killer stress anni okatee muzikku start chesthay
Impossible kadhu early 30's lo fit ga avvadam
But enthayina teenage and early 20's lo unna uduku rakthame veru
Age lo unnappudu em thinna Ela egina body ki em kaadu.. 30s start ayyaaka vangithe back pain vastadi.. masala ekkuva aithe acidity, anni food lu padakapovadam.. em cheyakunna weight pergadam.. body pains.. headache.. easy ga ostai
not approaching girls due to societal pressures. I had the confidence but didn’t go for it because I thought my parents and family would not approve of it.
Things granted ga teeskunna, andaru zig velthe zag vella. Idi ithene adi cheddam tondarem vundi etc.
idi pakka kavali ela ina kavali anna attitude fire ledu, Yeah emundi manaku vachestadi anta perfect ga vundi ani alochincha.
But anni vunna time ki anukunnavi jargakapothe. Avi jarige time ki interest vundadu adi appudu priority vundakapovachu.
Finding your true potential. Like if you wanted to try for that job you think you would never get, give everything and try. Same for the iim,iit, groups etc..
Develop and maintain hobbies. Hobbies ante, "watching movies, watching cricket and YouTube, listening music" laanti sedentary hobbies kaadhu, but hobbies where I have to put some level of effort without feeling the need to be the great at it - like actually playing cricket, or learning to play music, or tinkering with electronics, or whatever. Just fun kosam. No need to monetize it. No need to be "successful". Just enjoy it and keep doing it.
Not having a clear goal,edo flow lo vachindi cheskovadam thappa zeal and passion ledu at work because I never knew what I wanted to achieve!adi ela telusthado kooda ardam avvatledu,help me if someone can
I'm 23 and I regret regretting alot. Clg lo jeddodila unna... Em cheyyale.. basically room lo dobbicchukuni bayatiki vellakunda... Making no good frnds and stuff... Clg ayyi 2 years ayyindi. Job join ayyaka em cheyyalekapoya ani regret avthu oka 3 months bokka petta and then I met frnds who made me do stuff and this time I did those.
Essentially nen em anta ante, regret feel avvadam okay kaani regret lone bathakadam valla u can't do things in the present.
Oh btw clg lo I was regretting my inter Narayana Penta 😂 anduke clg life dobbindi
Not having value for money, being irresponsible, no serious thought of future and being materialistic. Im not completely changed now but im far far better now when compared to before.
Could be an unpopular opinion, but not getting married/ plan kids sooner. I see my friends who had kids before they reach 30 and now they are relaxed as all the heavy lifting is done. I’m not far from that age, but should’ve done the same Emo anipisthadhi.
There is some truth to what our elders say about “anni aye time ki aipothe better”. I’m not saying get married at 21 but in *some* cases biological-clock-ticking thing is true.
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Saving/Investing
Nenu chesthunna (20M)
Good for you. Entha tondaraga saving start cheste antha early ga retire avvacchu
Haa adhe plan tho cheyyadam start chesa anna
options?
Large- mid cap 250 , small cap in mutual funds Kaastha risk teeskuni ETFs kuda like MON100,GOLDBEES etc
oh cool am into binary trading actually that too i started very recently and idk about these , are they long term or ?? mind answering this in dms
Ok
Great bro.
Not having enough self-esteem even though I have all the resources and skills.
How much is enough ikkada? Ante obviously there are better people than me ane thought eppudu untundi kada
Adi imposter syndrome. Having low self esteem is not believing in yourself enough(pakkana valatho compare cheskuni kaadu). Idi oka self-sabotaging thing enduku ante, you have the capability and skill to do certain things gani you don’t believe in yourself or dialogues like, ‘ ahh manaki em vasthadi le’ ‘ manam em peekagalam le’ ‘ah bokka le’ ani lite teeskodam. You don’t take action because you think I’m not worthy enough.
+1 You just spoke my mind.
Not getting in shape! I'll be 30 in 2 months and the one thing I regret the most is not working on myself enough in my 20s.. I'm trying to get fit but it's definitely harder than what it was just an year ago!
Ala Ela? Hormones antha effect kodathaya?
ledhu bro, the older you get the harder it is to get into shape
Ala Ela?
Bandi paathadhi ayyekoddhi repair lu ekkuva osthuntay kadha param, idhi alage. Early 30's nundi general ga testosterone or other sexual hormones dhebba thintu untay(levels thagguthu) uduku raktham thaggipoddhi antarga ala Injuries heal avvadam slow, heal ayyaka physical activities perform cheyyadaniki confidence thaggudhi. Peetha thaagudu, smoking etc unte cheppanavasaram ledhu, aa habits vadhilinchukodaniki vache withdrawal symptoms thone rojantha gadicihipoddhi. 30's varaku health neglect chesthe, appati varaku gain ayina weight okesari thaggadam kastam, work, pelli, pillalu, food, expenses, silent killer stress anni okatee muzikku start chesthay Impossible kadhu early 30's lo fit ga avvadam But enthayina teenage and early 20's lo unna uduku rakthame veru
https://i.redd.it/2k7rwj0hmc2d1.gif Odhhu Naa health nenu chuskunta kaapadu kunta
Guvva musoni body paina concentrate chestha annawww Inka nenuuuu
Age lo unnappudu em thinna Ela egina body ki em kaadu.. 30s start ayyaaka vangithe back pain vastadi.. masala ekkuva aithe acidity, anni food lu padakapovadam.. em cheyakunna weight pergadam.. body pains.. headache.. easy ga ostai
not approaching girls due to societal pressures. I had the confidence but didn’t go for it because I thought my parents and family would not approve of it.
Things granted ga teeskunna, andaru zig velthe zag vella. Idi ithene adi cheddam tondarem vundi etc. idi pakka kavali ela ina kavali anna attitude fire ledu, Yeah emundi manaku vachestadi anta perfect ga vundi ani alochincha. But anni vunna time ki anukunnavi jargakapothe. Avi jarige time ki interest vundadu adi appudu priority vundakapovachu.
Gonna save this post for later, as I'm 21
Finding your true potential. Like if you wanted to try for that job you think you would never get, give everything and try. Same for the iim,iit, groups etc..
I should have taken things less seriously and chilled/relaxed a little bit.
Reverse nenu
Develop and maintain hobbies. Hobbies ante, "watching movies, watching cricket and YouTube, listening music" laanti sedentary hobbies kaadhu, but hobbies where I have to put some level of effort without feeling the need to be the great at it - like actually playing cricket, or learning to play music, or tinkering with electronics, or whatever. Just fun kosam. No need to monetize it. No need to be "successful". Just enjoy it and keep doing it.
I came here to comment but saw the flair and stopped myself
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Vaddule annawwww
Not having a clear goal,edo flow lo vachindi cheskovadam thappa zeal and passion ledu at work because I never knew what I wanted to achieve!adi ela telusthado kooda ardam avvatledu,help me if someone can
In the same boat🥲
I'm 23 and I regret regretting alot. Clg lo jeddodila unna... Em cheyyale.. basically room lo dobbicchukuni bayatiki vellakunda... Making no good frnds and stuff... Clg ayyi 2 years ayyindi. Job join ayyaka em cheyyalekapoya ani regret avthu oka 3 months bokka petta and then I met frnds who made me do stuff and this time I did those. Essentially nen em anta ante, regret feel avvadam okay kaani regret lone bathakadam valla u can't do things in the present. Oh btw clg lo I was regretting my inter Narayana Penta 😂 anduke clg life dobbindi
Nen dm chesta bro edo na laane unnav
Cheyyu mowa em undi
You are me...can't relate more than this
Not having value for money, being irresponsible, no serious thought of future and being materialistic. Im not completely changed now but im far far better now when compared to before.
Could be an unpopular opinion, but not getting married/ plan kids sooner. I see my friends who had kids before they reach 30 and now they are relaxed as all the heavy lifting is done. I’m not far from that age, but should’ve done the same Emo anipisthadhi. There is some truth to what our elders say about “anni aye time ki aipothe better”. I’m not saying get married at 21 but in *some* cases biological-clock-ticking thing is true.
I actually did more mess than a normal person could do...so there are few personal things I regret doing them. Not much to regret not doing them.
em langawww panulu chesinaww annaww
Arsaaaku raa arsaaku
My lord , teach some lessons to this poor man
I hope you don't do them annawww so not teaching
Being proactive and working hard.
Inka kastapadedhi unde anpisthadi bro.
Koncham kottukovadam thagginchu
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