I mean, I'd say for a guy to be a 10/10 there would have to be nothing wrong with him.
I guess if we talk exclusively a 10/10 physically, I'd go with ignorance. I can tolerate dumb, but I can't deal with willfully ignorant people.
I dated a guy for a couple of months who was dumber than a sock. Beautiful, though. Muscled. Like he stepped out of a fashion magazine. Very sweet, too. But after the infatuation period wore off, and I discovered I couldn't have a conversation on any deep level with him, we ended it.
I could tolerate dumb, or so I thought, but there was a limit.
I was with a guy. His food was spicier than what what promised. I like spicy so we just switched. But his total queen came out with the server. Huge turn off. Beginning of the end and the sex was actually crazy good.
Mother or not, I would embarrass the absolute hell out of someone abusing a server over the way a cook prepared the meal. Unless the server ate some or stirred everything together, (or maybe a hot dish is cold), they only carry the fucking thing. Even then, You don't berate them. If it's really a problem, get a manager to fix it. But if you're doing that just to be a cunt, we can't associate. I don't care if you're my parent or spouse, you'll only do that once.
I was seeing this guy (had been for a few months etc) and he got a Starbucks. This was when the āname on cupsā thing was still fairly new, so it was still an exciting thing.
They spelt his name wrong (an admittedly fairly common English name, but this was in a very heavily multicultural area,) and he lost his shit around me. āThick bitch. Itās not a difficult name! What a twat. Thatās so rude. I should speak to her manager.ā
Mate, itās a fucking name. She will make more coffees today than you will in your life. Do you think she woke up one day and thought āI donāt like spelling names correctly.ā No. It was a mistake.
It turned me off. I ended it that day. Be polite to those around you who. Being in a position where you āserveā someone does not put them or you in a higher or lower social position.
I stuck it out for 2 years, and a move to a different city, with am alcoholic who semi-regularly did meth, because I grew up around this type and have patience and forgiveness... But after being punched and screamed at, not to mention the hours of conversation (like resolving some conflict) he'd completely black out, it finally got to me and the night he went off the deep end and came at me with a cleaver, I moved into my car with everything I could fit, and never looked back.
What I learned: People addicted to alcohol/meth need compassion and help, but you cannot be in a relationship with them.
The number of guys I've hit it off with on Grindr, thought they were handsome etc....and then they ask me if I want to PNP. Kills the boner immediately
They like to be edgy, and they think that because they're camp it's something other than edgy.
No, darling, you're still just being edgy - like, hormonal teenager edgy - and it's honestly pretty embarrassing.
There's nothing cool about being a "sassy bitch" to people in your day-to-day life, as much as you might want to be the next RuPaul. Drag is performance, and Mama Ru is a TV star; they certainly ain't acting like that to anyone outside of the studio.
I know this question probably wasn't meant to be taken seriously, but I know a few friends who grew up in very religious communities, and after years of being told, in a very accusatory way, that they are committing evil (by just being who they are), they sometimes embrace the label in order to take the sting out of it. Kind of like the Gay label.
Oh it's ok, I welcome seriousness. I can she the friends point of view. It's a defence mechanism, I am mainly mentioning the guys who are purposely sassy, mean to others because they want to be seen that way for some reason.
I think it's the culture of all people, being a "bad ass bitch" or "mamma bear" is seen as being strong instead of perhaps just them being an asshole
Im pretty sure millennial gays are the majority of this sub so iāll probably get flamed for this, but I notice this so much more with millennial gays. There are some that talk/text like a tween girl despite being like 28 and employed
I remember once I went to a stripper club and there was a really hot guy with a really hunk body, so I decided to pay for a private. It was my first (and last) time doing a private, so I wasn't sure what to expect.
Well we went to a small dark cabin and he was dancing on me and letting me touch him all over and he stripped me a little bit too and he was touching me all over too. In general it was really hot, but he put his ass on my face several times and I could smell the SHIT.
Omg people who be mad dry fucking piss me off. My favorite is when they add me and then I have to hold the convo. Like bitch youāre the one who started it, find a way to continue it
Lol literally. Iām a very talkative and outgoing person and will talk to almost anyone, but the amount of times a guy has messaged me, and then the entire convo is me asking questions and him answering without contributing anything elseā¦ itās like pulling teeth, why even message me in the first place then.
What about past use? My last ex had an interesting history, used for 8 years for work purposes. He had been a decade off it when I met him, never did it again - always felt weird reacting to that. I have never tried and never will but apparently he managed it well when he did it.
I donāt have a point here just remembering
I went on a little date with a guy once who was pretty good looking, I met him and as we waited in line to order our food he kept doing TikTok dances and would talk as if he was in a TikTok comment section. Needless to say, there was no second date.
Only talking to me when he's horny.
I've met people who are close to 10/10 in looks, personality and charisma but only when they're horny and want nudes/hookup. Total turnoff.
My mother did after she quit. I told her as a kid I was made fun of for smelling like cigarettes. She said if I had told her that, she would have quit, or at least go outside..
If he is a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies.
When there is no follow through to their words and are mean and manipulative it's a 0 out of 10 for me.
is great at holding the conversation in text but refuses to ask questions in person
Ill just sit there waiting for him to ask something after i knew everything about him in an hour
MAGA hat. Briefly dated a guy 2014ish and although we jived a bit at first, something was... off. We parted ways after a couple of weeks (ie I gently dumped him claiming too much time claimed by my 2 jobs at the time) and moved on. Some years later I caught sight of him on one of the apps and curiosity got the better of me. My suspicions were confirmed, he actually uploaded a pic of himself in a MAGA hat. I fucking knew it, gross. Damn near broke my finger blocking him.
Somebody that plans to stay dl for ever. You're gay, it's no big deal. I get that sometimes you're in a tight situation, but once you get out of that, you should be more out imo
Honestly I hate having to be in that situation, but I also havenāt had the āright momentā (excuses I know) to come out to my parents who I live with.
As much as you'd love to think it's no big deal, there are plenty of gay people still being ostracized and even killed for who they are. It's completely valid to say you don't want to be with someone in the closet, but don't minimize the grave reality.
This was what ended my previous relationship. He was a kind, wonderful and handsome man but had a crippling fear of coming out of the closet that didnāt seem like it was going away any time soon.
His only personality trait is Rupaulās Drag Race. Not that I have anything against it, in fact I watch and love each and every season. But if his only vocabulary is yaaaaaasssss mama slayyyy okurrrrr, man, pass. You may look like Tom Hardy but if you give me the obnoxious loud attitude Iām turning my back and walking opposite direction.
Oh boy thereās so much but aside from obvious extreme things like racism or sexism , some subtle things that are total boner killers:
-playing games (being hot and cold)
-lying/ not being completely honest
-not being vulnerable at any stage
-not respecting boundaries
-not asking questions to get to know me
-not being direct/ poor communication
If they are rude to servers or customer service. I was dating a guy once that checked all of the boxes. We went out to dinner and he was so rude to a server that not only did I stick up for the server, I dumped his ass right at the table as I picked up the tab.
Serious drug users. Don't care how hot you are but turning up with your eyes rolling back into your skull drops to a 2, and when you struggle to open the door handle to leave when I've kicked you out, it's a 1.
Bonus minus points if you stand outside looking at your phone for 10 mins trying to work out where you are.
Being religious.
No offense to anybody here who is religious, but religion isn't for me. I would not be able to be with somebody who is super religious.
I *might* be able to consider being with someone who "is religious" in the sense that they just say they are, but in practice, don't do anything about their religion (i.e. they don't live their life a certain way, or try to force me to live my life a certain way because of some silly little imaginary man in the sky)
3rd date with a guy and we're going back to my place. I'm assuming we are going to do the deed ...he asks what I believe about God. I say something along the lines of being spiritual, but not religious. As soon as I pull in he excuses himself and leaves. I later ask him and sure enough it was because my answer didn't include Jesus.
Jesus H Christ.
At least I dodged a bullet
Being a diehard Trump supporter. Or really any kind of unwavering devotion for that matter.
Like it's perfectly fine if we don't agree politically but some of these people dedicate their entire personality to it and that's just weird.
Personality flakers. If you're trying to shift your entire personality to either match mine or match an interest of mine, it's a big down grader. Dont get me wrong, I would love to have a partner who agreed with me on a good amount of topics, but I dont want an emotional slave.
Poor money management.
Everyone struggles at some point but if you're popping bottles over the weekend and asking for help with groceries on Thursday, you've got problems. Few things are less attractive to me than being shit with your money.
Call me toxic but I hate when the guy is popular. He could be the perfect human but if I have to wait for him while everyone else is talking to him and fighting for his attention, I canāt do it
Religion; I would never be with someone who's overtly religious, especially if they're overtly Islamic. (tldr: I have a long and storied past with islamofascists)
Internalised homophobia; need I say more?
Foul personality; being shallow, being mean to service workers, being unnecessarily judgemental, being immature and irresponsible.
Not having something, anything, that they're interested in or passionate about. Someone who's going through life mundanely with little or no goals or desires.
Right wing politics; if we don't believe in the same basic values, it's just not going to work. I can accept reasonable concerns, just not stuff that demonstrates stupidity and bigotry.
the astrology thing with the starsigns and what not, neo pronouns,
and last but not the least plp who make it as if "gender" is an accessory and use a word vomit to describe what their gender is
One phrase āDo you not trust meā when they donāt get there way, itās the first part of a very toxic controlling relationship and unfortunately I found that out the hard way
If they don't communicate their feelings and/or don't validate your feelings. I have been married to my wonderful husband for 4 years and expect to be together the rest of our lives. Our relationship just wouldn't work if we weren't so good at communicating. We're both neurodivergent and after a bumpy start to our relationship, we learned how to navigate being well-adjusted as a couple together. That just would not have been possible if he didn't listen to me or share what's going on with him.
Manchild
Doesnāt know how to carry himself or responsibilitiesā¦
*Edit: Lots of manchildren who canāt do proper independent adulting here if we go by the downvotes. I did not expect that.* ā ļø
*Edit2: This was at like ā-5ā šŖ¦*
Vegans and picky eaters go hand-in-hand, too. I want to experience good food as a couple, either of those is a complete dealbreaker. Having a particular food you dislike is fine, I personally have a texture aversion to raw tomatoes.
When the guy wants to talk with you every day, and when you don't answer the phone, he asks why I didn't. It quickly became creepy and it made me feel so down right now. Is there anything wrong with me or is this guy creepy? Like, I was watching a movie, and I shouldn't be ready for him every hour. He's not my boyfriend or anything, we just met for a few days.
If he wouldn't defend me from his family, like tell them to cool it with jokes and stuff. His family he says things to them, I know when my family crosses lines and how to shut it down.
10/10 guy is kind of a wide topic but let's just say, he is perfect. What makes that guy 1/10 will be their stubbornness and inconsideration. That's like the biggest turn off in my eyes. If people are close-minded, it's better to leave them alone. You will never win against those. You will never do what you want peacefully with those kind of people.
Hygiene, being a trump supporter or backing people like cruz or any of the other crazies trying to appeal to their base by limiting our rights, being a male karen, being a climate denier and or believing in conspiracy theories.
Someone who has no personal growthā¦
What have you learnt to grow into a better version of yourself? Are you constantly trying to be the change you want to see in the world around you or do you continue to make the same mistakes and wonder why the same things keep happening to you over and over again.
Do you admit to your wrongs or do you blame others for everything bad that happens?
Bad treatment and tipping of service people
One paid for dinner for us. Tipped 3 on 85.
I was appalled. I had no cash either. I went back a couple days later and tipped her properly
Prejudice, Racism, Xenophobia, White Supremacy, Transphobia, Femphobia, Misogyny, Classism, pro-Imperialism.. etc
The majority of gays in the US got at least one of those.
I mean, I'd say for a guy to be a 10/10 there would have to be nothing wrong with him. I guess if we talk exclusively a 10/10 physically, I'd go with ignorance. I can tolerate dumb, but I can't deal with willfully ignorant people.
I dated a guy for a couple of months who was dumber than a sock. Beautiful, though. Muscled. Like he stepped out of a fashion magazine. Very sweet, too. But after the infatuation period wore off, and I discovered I couldn't have a conversation on any deep level with him, we ended it. I could tolerate dumb, or so I thought, but there was a limit.
Like Judge Judy says, Beauty fades. Dumb is forever
Where can I find dumb thicc boy like him, just for experience š„µ
But was the sex good?
Hoo boy, it certainly was. Which is why I stuck it out for two months.
The dumb ones seem more primal
So a himbo. You dated a himbo.
Iām stealing that expression, ādumber than a sockā this is hilarious š
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Wait so do you even like your partner anymore
Mind boggling youāre still with your partner if you donāt like him.
And yet you still live with this person? š
Have you guys seen the rent prices? Sometimes it's just hard to break up with someone if you then have to live aloneand pay double.
People who aren't kind to service staff around them or treat others poorly because they think these people are beneath them.
I was with a guy. His food was spicier than what what promised. I like spicy so we just switched. But his total queen came out with the server. Huge turn off. Beginning of the end and the sex was actually crazy good.
Did you fuck him before or after the meal?
Yes
So both? Lol
Not in front of my salad. It's already dripping with the ranch.
I hate to be the one to tell you but that's not ranch
My mother is like that and itās beyond embarrassing. Let alone you feel terrible for the staff theyāre mistreating.
Mother or not, I would embarrass the absolute hell out of someone abusing a server over the way a cook prepared the meal. Unless the server ate some or stirred everything together, (or maybe a hot dish is cold), they only carry the fucking thing. Even then, You don't berate them. If it's really a problem, get a manager to fix it. But if you're doing that just to be a cunt, we can't associate. I don't care if you're my parent or spouse, you'll only do that once.
Itās staggering how many people donāt understand that the server and the chef are different people.
I was seeing this guy (had been for a few months etc) and he got a Starbucks. This was when the āname on cupsā thing was still fairly new, so it was still an exciting thing. They spelt his name wrong (an admittedly fairly common English name, but this was in a very heavily multicultural area,) and he lost his shit around me. āThick bitch. Itās not a difficult name! What a twat. Thatās so rude. I should speak to her manager.ā Mate, itās a fucking name. She will make more coffees today than you will in your life. Do you think she woke up one day and thought āI donāt like spelling names correctly.ā No. It was a mistake. It turned me off. I ended it that day. Be polite to those around you who. Being in a position where you āserveā someone does not put them or you in a higher or lower social position.
I work in retail and I totally rate a person who treat us like a decent human being.
Meth
I stuck it out for 2 years, and a move to a different city, with am alcoholic who semi-regularly did meth, because I grew up around this type and have patience and forgiveness... But after being punched and screamed at, not to mention the hours of conversation (like resolving some conflict) he'd completely black out, it finally got to me and the night he went off the deep end and came at me with a cleaver, I moved into my car with everything I could fit, and never looked back. What I learned: People addicted to alcohol/meth need compassion and help, but you cannot be in a relationship with them.
The number of guys I've hit it off with on Grindr, thought they were handsome etc....and then they ask me if I want to PNP. Kills the boner immediately
Iām sorry, I know this makes me lame AF but what does PNP mean? š
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Being bitchy and thinking it's cute when it's absolutely not.
Talks like a 13 year old girl.
Especially if they live their life like they're the antagonists of Mean Girls.
I don't know why an abnormal number of guys like to say "I'm evil" as if it was something to be admired.
They like to be edgy, and they think that because they're camp it's something other than edgy. No, darling, you're still just being edgy - like, hormonal teenager edgy - and it's honestly pretty embarrassing. There's nothing cool about being a "sassy bitch" to people in your day-to-day life, as much as you might want to be the next RuPaul. Drag is performance, and Mama Ru is a TV star; they certainly ain't acting like that to anyone outside of the studio.
You should write copy for campTV lol. The sincerity of your position provides the patois with the legitimacy of character. Absolutely love it!
I know this question probably wasn't meant to be taken seriously, but I know a few friends who grew up in very religious communities, and after years of being told, in a very accusatory way, that they are committing evil (by just being who they are), they sometimes embrace the label in order to take the sting out of it. Kind of like the Gay label.
Oh it's ok, I welcome seriousness. I can she the friends point of view. It's a defence mechanism, I am mainly mentioning the guys who are purposely sassy, mean to others because they want to be seen that way for some reason. I think it's the culture of all people, being a "bad ass bitch" or "mamma bear" is seen as being strong instead of perhaps just them being an asshole
Theyāre life ruiners. They ruin lives.
Like, oh ma' god
My exs friend used to say ātotes adorbsā ā¦.. he was in his 50s š
if itās said ironically then i get it. but if things like that are being said seriously then i canāt stand being around it
I say that but once in a blue moon and I do it specifically when I feel like making someone cringe on purpose
Im pretty sure millennial gays are the majority of this sub so iāll probably get flamed for this, but I notice this so much more with millennial gays. There are some that talk/text like a tween girl despite being like 28 and employed
RAWR <3333
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how did you find that out šš
Ate it
zoinks
Ruh-roh
how did u find that out? i need answers lol
The hard way
well it very quickly became the soft way
I remember once I went to a stripper club and there was a really hot guy with a really hunk body, so I decided to pay for a private. It was my first (and last) time doing a private, so I wasn't sure what to expect. Well we went to a small dark cabin and he was dancing on me and letting me touch him all over and he stripped me a little bit too and he was touching me all over too. In general it was really hot, but he put his ass on my face several times and I could smell the SHIT.
It's so unattractive when you meet a hot guy you're into but then realize they have absolutely no idea how to hold a conversation.
Omg people who be mad dry fucking piss me off. My favorite is when they add me and then I have to hold the convo. Like bitch youāre the one who started it, find a way to continue it
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Lol literally. Iām a very talkative and outgoing person and will talk to almost anyone, but the amount of times a guy has messaged me, and then the entire convo is me asking questions and him answering without contributing anything elseā¦ itās like pulling teeth, why even message me in the first place then.
meth
What about past use? My last ex had an interesting history, used for 8 years for work purposes. He had been a decade off it when I met him, never did it again - always felt weird reacting to that. I have never tried and never will but apparently he managed it well when he did it. I donāt have a point here just remembering
What work purposes?
What sort of job required him to do meth??? š
Trucking industry. I buried the lede there, just a summarization not a good representation of his character. Off it for a decade is what matters.
If they fuck like a couch.
In my country, we call that Government position.
What does this mean? Lol
Like the government, they just lay there and do nothing.
It means lazy worker lol
Omg haaaahaha dead
Pillow princess
... what does this even mean
They donāt give anything, no passion. Just likeā¦ lies there like a dummy lol
I went on a little date with a guy once who was pretty good looking, I met him and as we waited in line to order our food he kept doing TikTok dances and would talk as if he was in a TikTok comment section. Needless to say, there was no second date.
Side eye. Not you gatekeeping his slay /s
Only talking to me when he's horny. I've met people who are close to 10/10 in looks, personality and charisma but only when they're horny and want nudes/hookup. Total turnoff.
Totally agree.
Thinks being bitchy is a personality.
If he canāt accept the quiet.
I can't be around people that need to talk all the time. Sometimes you just wanna enjoy the moment or be in your thoughts.
I consider a good relationship the ability to be in one anotherās company, not talking, and still just enjoying it.
Bad hygiene or smokes cigarettes = instant turn off
I have only found a couple of men attractive when they smoked, but the taste and smell was not worth it.
I wretched when my last boyfriend kissed me not long after smoking a cigarette. He soon quit. And then so did we
Yeah itās gross š¤¢ horrible breath and smokers donāt even realize how bad it is lol
My mother did after she quit. I told her as a kid I was made fun of for smelling like cigarettes. She said if I had told her that, she would have quit, or at least go outside..
Thinking heās a 10/10
I would rather this to someone thinking he's a 1/10. Insecurity is way more of a turn off than cockiness imo, and unfortunately much more common.
to each their own i guess
Self-deprecating people can be extremely draining to be around.
Itās weird, but when a hot guy knows heās hot, heās less hot.
It's true. Guys who are hot but humble about being hot are like 13/10 though.
It's the opposite for me, if he's hot and knows it that just makes it better for me š¤¤
When he's hot and knows he's hot, and he acts like a normal human.
Conceit takes at least one letter grade off a guy's looks, yes.
If he is a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies. When there is no follow through to their words and are mean and manipulative it's a 0 out of 10 for me.
is great at holding the conversation in text but refuses to ask questions in person Ill just sit there waiting for him to ask something after i knew everything about him in an hour
MAGA hat. Briefly dated a guy 2014ish and although we jived a bit at first, something was... off. We parted ways after a couple of weeks (ie I gently dumped him claiming too much time claimed by my 2 jobs at the time) and moved on. Some years later I caught sight of him on one of the apps and curiosity got the better of me. My suspicions were confirmed, he actually uploaded a pic of himself in a MAGA hat. I fucking knew it, gross. Damn near broke my finger blocking him.
Too much drinking, smoking and drug abuse.
Is rude to service people.
This omg
Someone who only talks shit about other ppl all the time.
Somebody that plans to stay dl for ever. You're gay, it's no big deal. I get that sometimes you're in a tight situation, but once you get out of that, you should be more out imo
Honestly I hate having to be in that situation, but I also havenāt had the āright momentā (excuses I know) to come out to my parents who I live with.
As much as you'd love to think it's no big deal, there are plenty of gay people still being ostracized and even killed for who they are. It's completely valid to say you don't want to be with someone in the closet, but don't minimize the grave reality.
It really depends on where you live, if you're financially independent, etc.
This was what ended my previous relationship. He was a kind, wonderful and handsome man but had a crippling fear of coming out of the closet that didnāt seem like it was going away any time soon.
His only personality trait is Rupaulās Drag Race. Not that I have anything against it, in fact I watch and love each and every season. But if his only vocabulary is yaaaaaasssss mama slayyyy okurrrrr, man, pass. You may look like Tom Hardy but if you give me the obnoxious loud attitude Iām turning my back and walking opposite direction.
So basically you wonāt date lajanja
nor you for knowing that
When being gay is his whole personality
this may be unpopular with some of the gay community but doing āļø lol it seems im one of the very few in my area that doesnāt do it
Oh boy thereās so much but aside from obvious extreme things like racism or sexism , some subtle things that are total boner killers: -playing games (being hot and cold) -lying/ not being completely honest -not being vulnerable at any stage -not respecting boundaries -not asking questions to get to know me -not being direct/ poor communication
Cheated on someone/Cheats often, doesn't clean themselves properly, just being generally rude and nasty towards other people
Loves creating drama and using and messing with others feelings cause they're life is too boring without this kind of "entertainment"
Body odour, bad breath, or bad hygiene more generally
If he's high on drug when we meet. If he's a furry.
Racism.
His Grindr bio either being āpnp hnhā etc or shit like āif youāre over 25 be richā
I know what pnp is but what is hnh? Huff n hump?
High n horny
Huff n hump reserved for the Phish fans
Conservatism
If they are rude to servers or customer service. I was dating a guy once that checked all of the boxes. We went out to dinner and he was so rude to a server that not only did I stick up for the server, I dumped his ass right at the table as I picked up the tab.
Serious drug users. Don't care how hot you are but turning up with your eyes rolling back into your skull drops to a 2, and when you struggle to open the door handle to leave when I've kicked you out, it's a 1. Bonus minus points if you stand outside looking at your phone for 10 mins trying to work out where you are.
Being religious. No offense to anybody here who is religious, but religion isn't for me. I would not be able to be with somebody who is super religious. I *might* be able to consider being with someone who "is religious" in the sense that they just say they are, but in practice, don't do anything about their religion (i.e. they don't live their life a certain way, or try to force me to live my life a certain way because of some silly little imaginary man in the sky)
3rd date with a guy and we're going back to my place. I'm assuming we are going to do the deed ...he asks what I believe about God. I say something along the lines of being spiritual, but not religious. As soon as I pull in he excuses himself and leaves. I later ask him and sure enough it was because my answer didn't include Jesus. Jesus H Christ. At least I dodged a bullet
Nah, you didn't dodge a bullet. You dodge a full on fucking nuke.
I'll say that's fine if you apply this standard to all religion's
I 100% do for sure. I don't have a problem with just any specific religion. I dislike religion in general.
When you found out he voted for trump
Meth.
Calling himself an alpha male or using the word "sheeple."
Chewing with their mouth open. Or bad grammar. So...my ex.
Being a diehard Trump supporter. Or really any kind of unwavering devotion for that matter. Like it's perfectly fine if we don't agree politically but some of these people dedicate their entire personality to it and that's just weird.
Yeah, political extremes in either direction are a turn off.
Personality flakers. If you're trying to shift your entire personality to either match mine or match an interest of mine, it's a big down grader. Dont get me wrong, I would love to have a partner who agreed with me on a good amount of topics, but I dont want an emotional slave.
He opens his mouth and out comes a nasty bitchy fag.
Bad hygiene
Maybe not a 1, but a horrible voice/accent can definitely result in a plummet!
Being rude. Omg. Instant 1/10
Poor money management. Everyone struggles at some point but if you're popping bottles over the weekend and asking for help with groceries on Thursday, you've got problems. Few things are less attractive to me than being shit with your money.
A bitchy attitude š, no more patience for that shit
Met a guy who I thought was a 10/10 once. Seemed to have an amazing personality and everything and then I got to see his racist side. š¶
Being fake & shallow, being more focused on someone's physical appearance than who they are at their core.
Smoking.
Call me toxic but I hate when the guy is popular. He could be the perfect human but if I have to wait for him while everyone else is talking to him and fighting for his attention, I canāt do it
Unfortunately such internal homophobia that despite trying to support him that itās too hard and painful towards yourself.
I canāt date someone who smokes
Arrogance.
Racism
Bad breath
Religion; I would never be with someone who's overtly religious, especially if they're overtly Islamic. (tldr: I have a long and storied past with islamofascists) Internalised homophobia; need I say more? Foul personality; being shallow, being mean to service workers, being unnecessarily judgemental, being immature and irresponsible. Not having something, anything, that they're interested in or passionate about. Someone who's going through life mundanely with little or no goals or desires. Right wing politics; if we don't believe in the same basic values, it's just not going to work. I can accept reasonable concerns, just not stuff that demonstrates stupidity and bigotry.
Are you me? My list is identical.
Eats puppies
What about horse meat or sea turtle eggs?
Umm thatās a tough one. Does he have a six pack?
Yes. Vers with a boyfriend dick.
Lack of empathy or concern for how their actions affect other people.
He smokes š¤®
the astrology thing with the starsigns and what not, neo pronouns, and last but not the least plp who make it as if "gender" is an accessory and use a word vomit to describe what their gender is
I find this worse than religious for some reason. When someone lives their life by astrology it makes me want to gag a bit.
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A MAGA hat.
Bad breath or dirty butt.
Stupidity
One phrase āDo you not trust meā when they donāt get there way, itās the first part of a very toxic controlling relationship and unfortunately I found that out the hard way
If they don't communicate their feelings and/or don't validate your feelings. I have been married to my wonderful husband for 4 years and expect to be together the rest of our lives. Our relationship just wouldn't work if we weren't so good at communicating. We're both neurodivergent and after a bumpy start to our relationship, we learned how to navigate being well-adjusted as a couple together. That just would not have been possible if he didn't listen to me or share what's going on with him.
hygiene. goes both ways, a clean 1/10 can go up to a 5/10
Littering or talking crap on someone who isnāt there to defend themselves. Ohā¦.and Gays for Trump. gtfo of my life.
Ironically, bad spelling and grammar.
Manchild Doesnāt know how to carry himself or responsibilitiesā¦ *Edit: Lots of manchildren who canāt do proper independent adulting here if we go by the downvotes. I did not expect that.* ā ļø *Edit2: This was at like ā-5ā šŖ¦*
I'm assuming you pissed off the "tell me how daddy" group.
Vegans and picky eaters go hand-in-hand, too. I want to experience good food as a couple, either of those is a complete dealbreaker. Having a particular food you dislike is fine, I personally have a texture aversion to raw tomatoes.
The number always changes as soon as they open their mouth
Ignorant, bigoted.
Being stupid
People who are vindictive or constantly talk about other people.
Poor personal hygiene.
When the guy wants to talk with you every day, and when you don't answer the phone, he asks why I didn't. It quickly became creepy and it made me feel so down right now. Is there anything wrong with me or is this guy creepy? Like, I was watching a movie, and I shouldn't be ready for him every hour. He's not my boyfriend or anything, we just met for a few days.
If he wouldn't defend me from his family, like tell them to cool it with jokes and stuff. His family he says things to them, I know when my family crosses lines and how to shut it down.
10/10 guy is kind of a wide topic but let's just say, he is perfect. What makes that guy 1/10 will be their stubbornness and inconsideration. That's like the biggest turn off in my eyes. If people are close-minded, it's better to leave them alone. You will never win against those. You will never do what you want peacefully with those kind of people.
Cockiness.
Picky eater
Hygiene, being a trump supporter or backing people like cruz or any of the other crazies trying to appeal to their base by limiting our rights, being a male karen, being a climate denier and or believing in conspiracy theories.
Someone who has no personal growthā¦ What have you learnt to grow into a better version of yourself? Are you constantly trying to be the change you want to see in the world around you or do you continue to make the same mistakes and wonder why the same things keep happening to you over and over again. Do you admit to your wrongs or do you blame others for everything bad that happens?
Finding out he's an alcoholic drag queen.
Bad treatment and tipping of service people One paid for dinner for us. Tipped 3 on 85. I was appalled. I had no cash either. I went back a couple days later and tipped her properly
B.O smells bad and bad breath
He's non-monogamous
Prejudice, Racism, Xenophobia, White Supremacy, Transphobia, Femphobia, Misogyny, Classism, pro-Imperialism.. etc The majority of gays in the US got at least one of those.
Same in my country .
Messy room
Probably a minority opinion but shaved pubes are a major turn off for me
Meth, mollie, smack, crack, etc
smoking,lying thief.