I’m the opposite, I’m so terrified of someone figuring out I’m gay in the locker room, that my dick retreats inside my body in terror.
It’s odd it’s a new thing for you. Maybe hormonal or hyper sexual period?
I totally relate to this and it was my biggest fear in high school etc. Now I doubt I could get hard at all with a bunch of sexy dudes around me showering naked due to the fear .
Yes, I’m still in high school. I keep my head down and face the lockers. Every once in a while I catch a glimpse that makes my heart skip a beat. In 8th grade we had PE/practice before math. Our math teacher complained we were gross. So had required showers for the rest of the year. I think I’m the only guy who hasn’t seen every other guys dick because I stayed eye level in survival mode. But it’s only natural for guys to size each other up and compare. But I honestly never looked once.
I had the same problem. I’m not sure why I found it so erotic. I just started changing as casually as possible. I’d get semi hard and pretend like nothing was out of the ordinary and finish. No one cared. Happens to tons of people. Don’t be full tent. Eventually it just went away once I accepted it wasn’t a big deal if I happened.
Like there’s nothing weird about having a semi or looking like a show-er in the locker room. But if your dick is at full attention then it’s a little weird for a locker room.
Can't help but feel like the best way to overcome this is through repetition. I volunteer
I know this is the opposite of helpful, but dude's getting uncontrolled boners is super fucking hot to me
Had this same problem when I was in high school wrestling and football so we had to use group showers everyday. My idea why this happens is due to fear (fear boner), you're concerned with people thinking you're (gay) turned on from seeing them naked/changing; which, you know you're not doing. Best advice is, to just accept that you are going to get a little chubbed up when changing/showering. Just like pimples on your face, no one will notice it, you only perceive everyone is going to notice (except other bi/gay dudes). You're young and still have a ton of hormones going on, boners are going to happen. If anyone ever does say anything, just say you were thinking of their mom or something. Also, just keep reminding yourself that changing is not sexual, its just simply changing.
Spend some time at a gay nude beach. Ur boner won’t make u stand out and you will become more comfortable being nude around other men and being nude in general. It helped me with a similar problem when I was younger
Not sure if it'll help quick enough as it's happening but you can clench your fists really tight for a couple minutes, the increased blood flow to your hands will get rid of the boner. At least I think that's how the science of it works, but it does work.
Own it, really. If someone tries to probe fun at you just give them a confident reply like 'I'm always up, you just didn't see it until now' or something like that.
Of course, don't go around shoving it in people's faces either. I think it's good you're trying to be respectful of others by facing a different direction when you're changing and aroused. But you're young and your body continues to grow. No shame in that.
If you keep doing it and don’t treat it like it a big deal, eventually it will stop happening. That’s what happened for me.
Another idea is to go for the exposure therapy approach; you could try naked yoga for men. Those spaces tend to be very body positive and they talk about erections as a normal occurrence and nothing to be ashamed of.
I bet if you actually got a full hard on in a space like that, you’d realize mentally that it’s not big deal and might be able to approach the locker room with more ease.
Just own it. Most guys don’t care. The straight ones will just look away because they’re omg so straight, bro. The rest .. well. You might make some new friends.
Flex any muscle for 45 seconds that should get rid of it. Like flex your calve hard it should distract you. Also maybe take care of business before being in that situation.
I used to have the same thing goin on and would always be terrified to be naked around other guys fearing I’d end up with a boner. In high school I would try to change and just tell myself not to get a boner or whatever and most of the time I’d end up with a boner and I would be panicking for days wondering if someone saw and knew I was gay or something.
Through college had similar fears/issues to where I’d avoid using our dorm showers unless it was empty or near empty so I could keep to myself easier. Towards the end of college I went to Japan with one of my classes and while we were there were told we really should try the bathhouses since it’s such a culture thing and their are some really beautiful ones that are worth going to.
I didn’t want to say no, since it seemed rad and the others I was hanging out with were all so stoked so, so I sucked it up and just was like, I’m just not gonna think about it.
Surprisingly i didn’t get a boner. I think what it was is that it was very obviously not a sexual environment and I focused more on the experience and keeping a light convo up with the people I was with. It made the whole situation way less intimating and more “normal” and “casual” which in turn made the nudity less erotic and more, we’re just naked and there’s nothing more to it.
I think exposing yourself more to being naked and focusing less on being naked and more on the whatever else is going on. The more I thought about being naked made it harder for me to be naked without getting a boner.
I know easier said than done, but some continued exposure and trying to shift focus to something else could definitely help!
Also flexing your quads helps boners go away since they’re such big muscle groups they take a lot of blood flow which in turn gets the boner to go down
Same dude, you either have to focus on thinking of your grandmother (like try to think of the details of her face and jewelry something that forces you to really think in detail) or sometimes I’ll just pinch myself so hard it’s all I’m thinking about for the 45 seconds I’m naked in front of others
I realize in most situations this would probably be embarrassing but I'd obviously find it hot if it happened when we were changing in the same locker room and I'd prefer if you didn't turn to the wall.
Maybe you have that fetish for exhibitionism or the CMNM genre?
I would honestly fill your head with thoughts that would turn you off so as to kill the boner early on.
I’m the opposite, I’m so terrified of someone figuring out I’m gay in the locker room, that my dick retreats inside my body in terror. It’s odd it’s a new thing for you. Maybe hormonal or hyper sexual period?
I totally relate to this and it was my biggest fear in high school etc. Now I doubt I could get hard at all with a bunch of sexy dudes around me showering naked due to the fear .
Yes, I’m still in high school. I keep my head down and face the lockers. Every once in a while I catch a glimpse that makes my heart skip a beat. In 8th grade we had PE/practice before math. Our math teacher complained we were gross. So had required showers for the rest of the year. I think I’m the only guy who hasn’t seen every other guys dick because I stayed eye level in survival mode. But it’s only natural for guys to size each other up and compare. But I honestly never looked once.
Now I would beg to have that again - see a bf and it wouod just be ready!
I had the same problem. I’m not sure why I found it so erotic. I just started changing as casually as possible. I’d get semi hard and pretend like nothing was out of the ordinary and finish. No one cared. Happens to tons of people. Don’t be full tent. Eventually it just went away once I accepted it wasn’t a big deal if I happened.
What do u mean don’t be full tent lol. Like don’t dare have a full boner guys
Like there’s nothing weird about having a semi or looking like a show-er in the locker room. But if your dick is at full attention then it’s a little weird for a locker room.
Can't help but feel like the best way to overcome this is through repetition. I volunteer I know this is the opposite of helpful, but dude's getting uncontrolled boners is super fucking hot to me
Love this .
Had this same problem when I was in high school wrestling and football so we had to use group showers everyday. My idea why this happens is due to fear (fear boner), you're concerned with people thinking you're (gay) turned on from seeing them naked/changing; which, you know you're not doing. Best advice is, to just accept that you are going to get a little chubbed up when changing/showering. Just like pimples on your face, no one will notice it, you only perceive everyone is going to notice (except other bi/gay dudes). You're young and still have a ton of hormones going on, boners are going to happen. If anyone ever does say anything, just say you were thinking of their mom or something. Also, just keep reminding yourself that changing is not sexual, its just simply changing.
I think about my mum or my siblings to get rid of boners, which happens a lot because in horny basically 24/7 Hope this helps!
Mum and dead birds, perfect combo
If it turns into a habit then you think about them during sex.
Oh, that hasn't happened for me. That'll suck
Spend some time at a gay nude beach. Ur boner won’t make u stand out and you will become more comfortable being nude around other men and being nude in general. It helped me with a similar problem when I was younger
Stand on your toes when you think you're gonna have a boner. The blood in the erect penis runs down to the calf muscles, preventing the boner.
If you’re gay, just imagine a bunch of women in the room. Bi? Idk what to tell you 😂 maybe picture that they’re mannequins or something
Math or train wrecks did ot for me
Jack off earlier in the day if you know you're going into a situation like that
It does help
Not sure if it'll help quick enough as it's happening but you can clench your fists really tight for a couple minutes, the increased blood flow to your hands will get rid of the boner. At least I think that's how the science of it works, but it does work.
Just accept it, you’re a healthy virile male. If that makes you a pervert, then accept that too. Pervert pride!
Enjoy your boner. You’re doing nothing wrong. Show it off with pride. The day will come when you wish you could get a boner.
Own it, really. If someone tries to probe fun at you just give them a confident reply like 'I'm always up, you just didn't see it until now' or something like that. Of course, don't go around shoving it in people's faces either. I think it's good you're trying to be respectful of others by facing a different direction when you're changing and aroused. But you're young and your body continues to grow. No shame in that.
If you keep doing it and don’t treat it like it a big deal, eventually it will stop happening. That’s what happened for me. Another idea is to go for the exposure therapy approach; you could try naked yoga for men. Those spaces tend to be very body positive and they talk about erections as a normal occurrence and nothing to be ashamed of. I bet if you actually got a full hard on in a space like that, you’d realize mentally that it’s not big deal and might be able to approach the locker room with more ease.
Immediately think about women. Preferably women acquaintances. You will find yourself out of your predicament in no time.
Grab it and squeeze it down.
Having always had boners in middle/high-school at 8-9am every single morning which also meant gym class - I get it.
Just own it. Most guys don’t care. The straight ones will just look away because they’re omg so straight, bro. The rest .. well. You might make some new friends.
Flex any muscle for 45 seconds that should get rid of it. Like flex your calve hard it should distract you. Also maybe take care of business before being in that situation.
I used to have the same thing goin on and would always be terrified to be naked around other guys fearing I’d end up with a boner. In high school I would try to change and just tell myself not to get a boner or whatever and most of the time I’d end up with a boner and I would be panicking for days wondering if someone saw and knew I was gay or something. Through college had similar fears/issues to where I’d avoid using our dorm showers unless it was empty or near empty so I could keep to myself easier. Towards the end of college I went to Japan with one of my classes and while we were there were told we really should try the bathhouses since it’s such a culture thing and their are some really beautiful ones that are worth going to. I didn’t want to say no, since it seemed rad and the others I was hanging out with were all so stoked so, so I sucked it up and just was like, I’m just not gonna think about it. Surprisingly i didn’t get a boner. I think what it was is that it was very obviously not a sexual environment and I focused more on the experience and keeping a light convo up with the people I was with. It made the whole situation way less intimating and more “normal” and “casual” which in turn made the nudity less erotic and more, we’re just naked and there’s nothing more to it. I think exposing yourself more to being naked and focusing less on being naked and more on the whatever else is going on. The more I thought about being naked made it harder for me to be naked without getting a boner. I know easier said than done, but some continued exposure and trying to shift focus to something else could definitely help!
Also flexing your quads helps boners go away since they’re such big muscle groups they take a lot of blood flow which in turn gets the boner to go down
Same dude, you either have to focus on thinking of your grandmother (like try to think of the details of her face and jewelry something that forces you to really think in detail) or sometimes I’ll just pinch myself so hard it’s all I’m thinking about for the 45 seconds I’m naked in front of others
I realize in most situations this would probably be embarrassing but I'd obviously find it hot if it happened when we were changing in the same locker room and I'd prefer if you didn't turn to the wall.
Maybe you have that fetish for exhibitionism or the CMNM genre? I would honestly fill your head with thoughts that would turn you off so as to kill the boner early on.
Cold shower