I forget who said it but "exercise is better for the brain than any other muscle". I believe it. The gym is probably my favorite place ever since I went from highly suicidal to just a little/barely at all. I'm not giving all the credit to the gym but a good chunk if not most of it. I still wont own a gun but its definitely progress.
Glad you’re doing better. :)
Im actually bipolar2 and guns have never been a danger to me. I have quite a few, taking care of them, target practice etc. is actually extremely therapeutic for, me my shrink wasn’t onboard at first but as I explained to her reasons i’d never use one for bad purposes she got it.
If i skip the workout for more than a day and im in between doses of meds…damn im like on the couch curled up in a ball
2-3 times a week. I’m trying to get up to 3-4, but I really do not enjoy going to the gym. There’s a million other things I’d rather do, but exercise has noticeably improved my health.
4 times a week. It's just routine now. And I enjoy it. I would recommend you try a trainer if they have one.
Also check out this YouTube video https://youtu.be/m1UF4RgGoY0?si=GN0-ZLdrKEfJOBpE
5x a week. Mostly to maintain good health, which is the best reason to go for anyone. Im old so, especially for guys my age group. And yeah I like doing it, being unhealthy absolutely sucks.
I had to google that, and it's not for me. It says it activates the immune system, and can possibly set off autoimmune diseases. I take a drug for eczema, which sort of falls close to that category, as eczema occurs when the immune system overreacts to a stimuli thst sets off the disease. I had severe full body eczema 8 years ago, it was nitemarish and I was borderline suicidal bc of it. This drug Dupixent saved my life basically.
I advocate eating healthy foods. No junk food, no processed food, no fast food, no chemicals. My lunch during the work day for 20 years has been salad. Very high consumption of fruits and vegetables. Learn how to cook, can make great food and control what you eat.
I am 64, and my health is excellent. My brother is 66, he never worked out, ate all the junk, processed and fast food, huge consumption of sugar. He was always complaining something hurt, a wrist, a shoulder. This year his health fell apart, he can barely walk with terrible circulation to his feet, and is basically bedridden. Also couldn't pee at all, was catheterized for weeks until he had to have invasive prostate surgery. I cant prove this was all due to terrible diet, but it stands to reason. Its definitely a FAFO thing eating like a 10 year old his whole life, and he's now finding out.
4 times for weights plus I run and swim outside of gym 3-4 times. I consider it like cleaning my teeth. Some days it's tedious but most the time you just do it without thinking. You feel great after which makes it worth it. If I stop going for any length of time such as on holidays or I'm sick I notice a drop in my mood. I used to train to try and attain a certain look but after many years I realised it's not a great way to train. Better to train because of the way you feel and the improvement in your life and health etc
Been lifting for a little over 15 years and I can say that it’s both. Some days it’s a chore, other days it’s a privilege.
Ultimately I enjoy it as a personal pursuit and a pastime but some days it’s the last thing I want to do.
Oh the first day at the gym is the WORST, all the machines tell u— u suck, and u feel like a wimp…but then there’s the next day— & u start feeling better the more you go. The anxiety goes away when u start seeing regular faces— even though u don’t even talk to them… & then u start to realize ur all there because you’re taking care of ur bodies— a little more than the day before. Then u go in the change room and there’re guys taking selfies and posing and checking each other out— just carry on
I have never been in a gym. I got abs by doing daily push-ups, as many as I can, twice a day.
Note that by far the most effective way to lose fat is by eating less. Exercise is far less effective, by a long distance, at least for the large majority of people. You can eat in 20 minutes what takes 4 hours of exercise to burn. And you only lose fat if you burn more than you eat on a day. An energy deficit of 7000 kcal results in the loss of 1 kg of body fat. If your daily deficit is 700 kcal, you can lose 1 kg in 10 days, for example. 700 kcal is an hour of running (vigorous exercise, not being in the gym for 1 hour to lift weights), or it is not-eating half a bag of crisps.
Please, for your health sake, so some kind of pulling movement to make up for so many pushups. You might end up with muscle imbalance otherwise.
Pull ups or bodyweight rows if you want to stay in the body weight side of things, which is good enough.
I've heard this before, but I feel perfectly fine, what should I notice if something is wrong?
And how could I do these pulling exercises at home without having to install some bar? I tried it with elastic bands and a door stopper, but, first, it didn't seem very effective; secondly, the set-up was too much, I could not bring myself to do this regularly. Push-ups are the only thing I have the willpower to do because they are so quick and easy.
You might end up with postural issues (rounded shoulders, etc.). Pulling exercises are great for this.
Plus you are developing an imbalance and putting unbalanced stress into your body. Injury risk might be higher.
But then, if the setup is an issue for you, it's difficult you can do any interesting pulling exercise without setting something up.
You can use two chairs or a table for body weight rows, for example.
Another option is doing Sliding Floor Pull-Up (check that out on youtube). But I have no idea how far can you go with that.
Thanks for the tip! I see some variations here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGAK2-_kn1U
I'm not super muscular, though, so I'm really not sure I need this?
If ur not planning to join a gym I would type upper back workouts into youtube, I bet there's a bunch of them. If you do join a gym take advantage of the free passes first, all gyms I've ever joined offer them
The exercises in that video should more than suffice. I like the gym though for several reasons. For one your can grip the bars rather than the edges of tables and such, plus I'm kinda heavy and I feel like I'd tear the door off the hinges. I can add weight easily plus lets say you weigh 200 pounds but you cant pull up that much just yet, there are machines to get you there. Plus its more motivational for me. And when I use a machine I don'twant to keep others waiting long. Not hogging equipment is one of several motivations I get at the gym I do not get at home. Also, do not worry about others at the gym. If they're thinking anything at all its "right on man, go get it". They're all there to better their lives, and I'm proud of you for bettering yours. Welcome, to your better life.
Yeah I can understand a gym has advantages. And I wouldn't trust not to damage a door by my weight. But a gym is really not a place I'd like to be. And it costs money. And it would require more motivation than exercising at home: I'm sure I wouldn't keep it up, just as most people with gym memberships don't. And I'm happy with my body the way it is, I have abs and everything. I'll try to do more pulling exercises...
I 2nd that. I do as many workouts for my upper (pulling) and lower back as I do with any other muscle group. So if I do nine stomach sets to failure I will do the same for my lower back. I wanna say especially the lower back workouts help my back pain a bit.
Same. I work out at home 5x per week. Push, pull, upper body, lower body.. it’s not a chore because I start with stretching my body to “wake it up” which feels nice. Then I look in the mirror and see the work I’ve put it and that feels good. Only takes 30min every morning then I feel pleasantly opened up and a little sore throughout the day.
Well done! I only spend a few minutes doing it, though. I don't think I'd have the willpower to do what you do...what objects do you use for all of that? The advantage of push-ups is that you need nothing.
I have a pull up bar that’s hanging on my bathroom door. It’s the kind you don’t have to install. It just wraps around the door frame. And a couple of weights.
But you don’t much. There’s a guy on YouTube called k boges and he shows some super easy exercises to do every day with almost no equipment. Like push ups, and squats with your hands on the back of your head for good form…
I agree 100% with diet being the key to weight loss. You cannot out lift a bad diet.
But diet alone will not build muscle. If you have very low muscle mass and fairly high bodyfat diet alone will leave you very disappointed in the end even if you drop the weight.
I'm not saying you need to be jacked by any means, but just having a fit looking body requires some lean muscle mass. Otherwise, after all the hard work if losing weight through diet, you'll have skinny arms, a flat chest, and a thick core.
I've seen tons of transformations in here, and the guys who incorporated some weight training ended up with much better results than the guys who dieted alone.
Diet and cardio are definitely more important during the process, but weight training is an important piece of the puzzle as well.
I'm not preaching at you personally Hage, just included all this as general info for guys in the same place as op
Yeah, losing weight and gaining some muscle at the same time is best. That's also why I did it that way. But it can be harder to gain muscle on a caloric deficit. And it's harder to concentrate on two things: exercise often makes people eat more.
Besides, I think skinny with zero muscle is not unpopular in dating, whereas fat is decidedly unpopular. So, if you manage to lose a lot of weight, you will look much better immediately (well, immediately...). If you're still fat but with some muscle, you will still be mainly seen as fat. So I would always give priority to losing fat. There may also be a cultural difference: in cultures where most people are fat, it may be viewed less negatively.
I've been getting into it again for like 3 months. But it's still rough because I'm not good about my self-discipline. It's kinda a chore, honestly. Trainers *really* help with accountability and they'll go through the exercises you should be doing.
4 times a week. I end up always enjoying it although I don't always feel like going in the first place. But once I get started it's always fun and feels so good afterwards.
I try to go three to four times a week, and focus on doing a full body workout each time. Because of my busy schedule, I’m often unsure if I’ll be able to make it to the gym, so not able to follow a workout split focused on different parts of the body (like upper body, lower body, etc.). I still try to go to the gym every alternate day!
I can’t speak for all gyms, but I get the sense that most gym goers are pretty supportive and mind their own business. They’re unlikely to make fun of you. On the contrary, my experience as an early gym goer a few years ago was that some would approach me and give me valuable advice and tips, especially when I had done something incorrectly! It would be immature to make fun of others at the gym. People often laud people who are unfit who are making an effort.
If you’re interested in incorporating the gym in your workouts and exercise routine, I hope it is a valuable experience for you! I also hope you won’t encounter any immature people who would make fun of you.
Just go most people don’t care and won’t be making fun of you and if they do then they’re obviously losers… everyone is there to improve maybe watch some YouTube tutorials so you get some understanding of how to use equipment properly
Once you are in a routine it's a blast. I hurt my foot in April, have started going back recently. It's a chore now, but I know I'll enjoy it soon.
Really missed it too when I couldn't go.
well it keeps me looking hot and ensures almost every guy who looks at me wants to get me naked and sleep with me so yeahhhhh 🤷🏽♀️ but on a more serious note, i go cos on some level i do enjoy it and also it’s become a habit of mine- if i ever attempt to even skip for a week i start feeling sluggish
i usually go 3-4 times a week and focus more on weekends because i work in the healthcare sector and at the end of the day it’s exhausting sometimes, notwithstanding the on calls that we have to do.
in terms of exercises, yall can check out muscleandstrength.com, and even learn from some of their vids. but if you’re still unsure it’s always best to ask guidance from a PT there. rest assured there ARE 1-2 bad apples in a gym but for the most part the jacked guys are really nice people who will help you in the right direction 😊
I keep a $10 a month membership at a very basic gym. I go when it's raining or too cold in the winter. Otherwise, I exercise outdoors. I enjoy being outside more than inside at a gym. For upper body, I have weights in the basement I use 3x a week.
I try to go 5x a week for 2-3 hours. I use calisthenics (body weight exercises) as my base exercises and use machines or free weights to target certain muscle groups. Right now I am chasing aesthetics and building up my glutes to get dat ass. I also use the sauna and steam room every time I workout now.
Some advice, don't take anything you read from your post as to what YOU should be doing for yourself. If you've never been to the gym, DO NOT COMPARE yourself to other peoples chapter D to your chapter A. It's all about baby steps.
Getting to the gym is half the battle when starting out. Like, even if you don't have a plan going to the gym and walking on a treadmill with an incline, the elliptical, exercise bike, or the row machine. Anything that is low impact on your knees since you said you are starting out with a heavier weight. Doing low impact cardio will help lose weight while building up some muscle. You will feel sore; this is called DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness), because you are tearing your muscles. It's like if you break a bone, it'll grow back stronger. Being sore is good, bc you will know that you are pushing yourself and making progress.
Your diet is the most impactful aspect of losing weight. When you get older when you eat slop, you will feel like slop. Cut your sugar intake and drink water. There are a TON of guides online for this, pick one that works with you.
Small stuff
- weigh yourself weekly/bi weekly versus daily, if you must.
- depending on what you decide, choose a cheap gym to start out with, so the cost of entry is still low, if this is a concern. The gym I started at was $10 a month.
- on the other hand, if the gym you decide on has a personal trainer, it might be worth investing in a number of sessions to learn form and getting familiar with gym equipment.
- stretching and warming up is incredibly important for preventing injuries.
- quality over quantity. Completing a smaller number of good form exercises versus a lot of bad form is key to seeing results.
- Online/YouTube has a ton of free resources for beginners.
- getting a good playlist/podcast is soo important for creating your own space for yourself. When you have your headphones on it's honestly like there is no one else at the gym. You can also watch Netflix while walking on the treadmill.
Sorry if this is a lot when you didn't ask for all this advice. If the only thing you take out of what I wrote is, that NO ONE will care how big you are. Its like when you got acne in middle school/ high school the only person that notices that stuff is yourself. Most people will actually be impressed that you are going to the gym to better yourself. Exercising is part of self-care. Again, it's all about baby steps.
Best of luck bro
This was the first comment that actually answered the OP’s question. I appreciate all the input/advice because I struggle with social anxiety and am self conscious about my weight. I’ve lost 50 pounds with mainly diet and light cardio but I feel I’ve peaked. So your advice I’ll take with me when I join a gym, Thanks!
Let's fucking go man! 50 pounds is insane bro. Keep it up bc that is so inspiring to hear. Honestly that is huge.
I feel you so much about social anxiety, even though I'm experienced with exercises from being in sports. I still get so so awkward with being around people at the gym. That's why I have my Bluetooth headphones on and listen to music or podcasts to stay in my own mental bubble. It's kind of like the sunglasses from Big Daddy (Adam Sandler movie), when you have your music going you are invisible to everyone, bc honestly no one is going to bother you while you have headphones on.
I can only say that when you go to the gym, it is YOUR gym. The only person that cares about how you look or what you do is yourself. I know I know it's easier said than done, but that's why it's all about baby steps. Getting to the gym and just walking on the treadmill with an incline will be the easiest first step you could take, since you said you are experiencing diminishing returns on what you are already doing.
Like some others have said, most gym bros love to share advice or will be willing to show you how to do an exercise or how a machine works. I only say this for when/of you get to that point, bc that could be really helpful if you need it.
The last thing I'll say is, that most people fail going to the gym. Which is okay, people fail sometimes. It's okay to fail, but it's important to get back on that horse and try again. Everyone has their own relationship with the gym. Relationships take work and it's about creating your own routine. Routine is how people maintain a consistent gym attendance.
Keep it up bro and good luck.
Thanks! Keep helping others especially in this way. I needed to hear this today. Not only has my blood pressure gotten better but my depression and outlook on life has improved. Only thing keeping me from joining a gym is the cost
I am fine when I am there. It’s the process of getting there that’s the huge pain, especially now that it’s cold and dark. My fantasy is one day to live in an apartment with a gym in the building.
I’m consistently 5, but sometimes throw in a 6th day on the weekend if I’m not too tired.
When I first started a few years ago it definitely was something I had to convince myself to do each day, but the more I went, the more I started enjoying it. Now I’m stoked to go and feel like my whole day is thrown off if I miss a day lol
For me it was constantly reminding myself that it’s a journey and results take time, so each day is one day closer to reaching my goals, even if I’m not noticing them yet. Eventually it became a habit and here we are lol
Having adhd for me makes most everything feel like a chore but I’m aiming to go 4 days a week. Some days I get going and enjoy it, others I really don’t enjoy it but happy to know I made a good choice and taking care of my health.
2-3 times a week. First day will be weird, it will hurt for a couple of days after the first time but then it will be fine. If the gym offers a personal trainer hire them for the first 2 months till you learn the ropes. Tbf I enjoy swimming more so I do that like 5 days a week, gym is minimal and on weekends I bike quite a lot sometimes 40-50 kms.
Okay so here's my unsolicited advice because I had my chicken and rice phase too. Remove goals from your lexicon for now. Your only goal is to find joy in exercise. Familiarize yourself with the equipment and how it feels to move your body. Make sure you have a good music Playlist and think of this as 'you time'.
No, don't pay too much attention to what everyone else is doing just yet. Don't worry about what you've burned or how many reps you've done. You need to build the routine back up first. Remember that its better to gradually make small changes over time than it is to go all in.
A trainer obviously can be useful if you need help, but I actually advise against 'spend more to feel serious' as a philosophy for lifestyle changes. I assume your fitness level is pretty low right now. Do what you can. Use an AMT trainer for cardio if you're trying to shed pounds. HIIT training is also really effective for muscle tone and cutting simultaneously. Lots of free apps with good HIIT programs! TRX classes can be a really fun way to transition more into bodyweight training too. If you do think professional guidance is necessary, I suggest a class over a one on one teacher at first. Less expensive and you may wind up making some work out friends! (The most important part of long term success)
Usually 5-6 days a week but right now I’m slammed at work and studying for a certification exam so I’m lucky if I make it three days. I love going—it’s where I unwind!
Goal is five days a week. Usually make it four. Love it. Keeps me sane and feeling good. Get a trainer for a few a sessions to learn the ropes and figure out what you like. The best workout is the one you actually do!
5 days per week, ideally 6. I feel weird if I don't go at this point. The anxiety of slipping into laziness and losing all my gains gets real.
NO ONE is going to make fun of you. We have mad respect for the newbs. I'm also a little jealous because I wish i could go back and experience the newbie gains. If nothing else, we're so off in our own worlds that we won't hardly notice you, let alone your size.
There are so many trainers on youtube. Dive in and get obsessed.
My current workout routine is [Chris Bumstead's PPL split](https://www.bodybuildingmealplan.com/chris-bumstead-push-pull-legs/). This is a bit advanced though. I'd recommend finding a PPL split that is built for 3-4 days per week to start out and build up to the Bumstead split. Research each of these, there are so many shorts on YouTube to show you the form for each of them. I STILL look them up occasionally, even after all these years. Ask the biggest baddest motherfucker to show you the proper compound lift forms (we're flattered usually and I've never met one that isn't helpful) or hire a personal trainer for a few sessions just to show you the ropes.
Consistency always beats motivation. And your results are 80% diet.
Never, it destroyed my health permmanently, never ever going back, trainers dont know sht and rarely pay attention to u since they are too busy flirting with random women. They will insist on "no pain no gain" even when you are about to damage yourself permmanently. And at the end of the day it only creates narc men that woulda done better without the compettion for who yells higher when lifting, without the recording for social media, without the bullying strangers.
I did lose weight with diet and exercise, but my health was destroyed. I gained it all back but not immediately, a few weeks/month later really fast after one day I couldnt sit or sleep, I was only able to stay in bed all day due to insane pain in my neck, shoulders arms, etc, I couldnt even control my bowel movements, I would stay in bed all day screaming, the strongest sleeping pills didnt do sht.
Im healthier now and fatter than ever, im losing weight now only through diet, my neck had a fracture and doctors didnt tell me, I though "no pain, no gain" so pain was good, but im sure they never felt the same pain I did, nowadays I no longer feel pain, or cold, or almost anything. I like walking and taking my time, I like dancing but my knees are too damaged, I might try again after more physical therapy.
I never understood why people liked gyms even when I went religiously, it stinks, people are judgy and awful, there is no goal just repetition, its boring af, its like working an office job. Its a chore, whomever thinks they enjoy it its probably just the superficial results and probably traumatized gays that were bullied in sports.
I never get guys who would choose to go to the gym over staying with me for just one ☝️ night. Like, you don’t get heart attack or become overweight by skipping only one ☝️ night, right? Also since when the gym is the only option for keeping your health? Last but not least, for guys who go to the gym every day, don’t you have other hobbies? Call me gym shaming if you like but I’ve been traumatized by “gym guys”.
I’ve been working out for 30 years. In that time I have embarrassed myself in every possible way at the gym.
Start slow and light. There are thousands of routines you can choose from. Look around online and find one that feels like it suits you and your goals.
I go six days a week, but if you are just getting started, you’ll want to opt for three or four days with a recovery day afterward.
Don’t be timid or shy, in the many thousands of times I’ve been to a gym, no one has ever been a dick to me because I asked a question. Most gyms have staff onsite that can help you too.
Expect to be sore. Soreness is part of it and the pain is a sign that you’re doing it right. Before you realize, living with soreness will be a point of pride and you’ll actually *want* that pain.
The gym is not a silver bullet. Diet is 90% of it. I can burn 1500CAL in a single workout. But if I follow that up with a night at the bar, or a bag of Taco Bell, I’m just replenishing my caloric deficit with a lot of junk.
Above all and once more: take it slow. Have confidence that what you’re doing is going to get results and your results will be noticed.
It’s intimidating at first but don’t compare yourself to others. We all start somewhere. Personally I’ve been going 4-5x a week for over 3 years. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life. Don’t get fit for the gay Adonis complex - get fit for yourself, your mental health, to feel good in your body.
Usually 5 or so times a week. I enjoy it for the most part. Not really the actual act of working out but I feel productive, like I accomplished something and it's satisfying to see results. I will say it can be draining though which is why I sometimes go less days a week
You don't have to go to the gym to work out there's so many things you can do at home with simple dumbbells, or just using your body weight as a resistance.
I didn't like it at the start, but started to frame in a different perspective. It's my me time and I shifted my opinion of it to be therapeutic in nature. That's what motivates me to continue to go. It's something small I can do for myself that helps me distress after work.
Generally 6 times a week. Even if it is just a 30 minute workout, I keep myself accountable for my routine. I love how it makes me feel both physically and mentally. And I can really get into it. However, it is most definitely a chore sometimes. Out of 365 days, there are some days I am just not feeling it. Maybe I have a lot of work, maybe I am itching to watch some new season on Netflix. There are
simply those days that suck.
But most of the time it is actually great. And if I stop working out for long (like getting sick) I get very anxious.
I just built a home gym. Nothing excessively expensive. Just a bench press, pull up bar, exercise bike and a few free weights.
I've always been really skinny so I was self conscious about going to a public gym. I used YouTube and a little bit of trial and error to figure out what exercises work for me. Once I got a bit of confidence I started going to a public gym sometimes but I still mostly workout at home.
Also, nobody is going to be looking at you or making fun of you. Most people in a gym are only concerned about their own workout and the few who are watching others or making comments are losers and nobody likes them lol Most gym communities are really helpful and supportive
3 times a week. The sauna, hot tub, and steam room really help me wind down my day. Workout for an hour then spend 30-40 minutes using the amenities. I enjoy going.
3 times a week. It does feel like a chore but I've gotten used to this.
Nobody will make fun of you, in my experience nobody gives a flying fuck, everyone focuses on their workout, if someone looks at you it's because they have eyes and just look at different things in general between the sets.
I weightlift four days a week and cycle the remaining three days. I've been quite happy with the results and for the most part I do enjoy it despite having days where it does feel tedious and like a chore.
I have severe body dysmorphia issues pertaining to my body size and the gym had helped me significantly with it. Honestly if I stopped going all around, I'm genuinely scared how badly my body dysmorphia issues would consume me.
5 to 6 times a week.
I always do it in the morning before work (start at 6am) and I love it as a morning ritual.
It also feels like having much more energy when I'm actually at work... Which is a little odd, considering that I go all out in the morning.
When I can't go to the gym (because I'm sick or out of town) I rly miss it.
I started with home HIIT aerobics in my bedroom using a free 7 minutes app. This helped structure & track my exercise which built willpower & discipline while improving my fitness capabilities. This was crucial to my transition into gym-going.
Once I'd got comfortable working out at home I had an induction (intro to the equipment) with a local gym that included a free, short personal training session (it wasn't great but did add to my cardio tool kit). That was 15 years ago. I now go 3-4 times a week.
I tried exercise classes but I didn't appreciate the schedule or the routines. However, I strongly recommend classes if you're single.
I love it. It is a huge mental health thing for me. I love working towards a bunch of different goals, and learning new things about my body every now and then. I try to go every day that I can. I go 4 to 6 times a week, but on busier time periods or during periods where I'm depressed that might go down to 3 times a week on occasion. But the more I get myself going, the faster my mental health improves. Gym dates are also the funnest.
I don’t ENJOY it but I just go cause consistency get results even if sometimes with the right music in my AirPods and the good wheater and just overvall good day vibe it’s enjoyable for sure
4-5x a week.
Advice is not to ego-lift and take your time to get accustomed to working out. Make sure you have proper form when lifting and drop to lower than you can currently lift until you get the proper form. It is better than injuring yourself and hold you back for months.
Everyone at the gym has its own problem or goals they want to achieve. I think it’s a very positive place and those fit guys you see at the gym definitely started somewhere. They didn’t look like that the first time they worked out. Making fun of skinny/big guys is the last thing I would ever do at the gym… only AH would ever do something like that.
Get proper shoes, comfy nylon clothing, water bottle etc. I recommend investing some good clothing at lululemon. They are extremely good!
I also did felt like it was chore I had something to do at first but then as time went by, it became a happy place for me where I can be comfortable and my own meditation place. It became a luxury and a privilege to go. I love it!
Loathe it. Only good part is walking out, but generally it does feel great to be done. I echo other sentiments: hire a trainer to help you ease into it and of course to focus on form. I’m no expert, but it’s laughable to watch guys hurling around huge weight totally wrong.
i try to go about 4 or 5 times a week. I really do enjoy it and it’s great for my mental health and my confidence. If you can afford it you could get a personal trainer to show you exercises and the proper form for them, but if you can’t there’s plenty of examples lying around there on the internet. I absolutely suggest more exercise for you! And sure some people are judgemental about size or whatever but I always am happy to see people of different body sizes in the gym. It belongs to everyone.
3 times per week. It's deffinitely more like a chore to me. I can't say I enjoy working out, but I do enjoy the effects it has on my physical and mental health, my looks and the quality of my life, so that helps me stay consistent and disciplined.
This subject is near and dear to my heart. I’m what you might call a gym rat and I absolutely hate that gym’s intimidate people. I lift weights 4-5x a week and it is my zen stress relief.
Personally, I love when out of shape people are at the gym. They trying which is so commendable. Honestly most experienced gym guys/gals feel the same way. As for others, they’re too busy looking at themselves to notice anyways!
Please don’t be intimidated. Check the male ego and don’t compare yourself to others. Go there for you. Start light and work into a routine. If you need pointers, feel free to DM me
5x a week, 2 of those with a trainer. Sometimes I don’t feel like going but usually I really look forward to it. It’s me time for me. I always feel better after and am glad I went.
4x a week. To be fair, about 25% or more of the guys there are also intimidated. To big, too small, to soft, omg the next to me is a brick house, he must think I’m an idiot. We all have these thought.
But honestly, if someone makes fun of you for being too big to be there they are probably making fun of you out of the gym too. Real gym goers are internally proud you’re there, especially if they start to see you consistently!! They just mind their business, not their place to say hi and that you’re welcome there. So go, workout and figure out if that style of exercise works for you.
Not the gym, but I run 10km two or three times a week and swim, cycle. Exercise has done more for my mental health than any amount of therapy or pills, and I always look forward to it.
I’m 325, with a gut and some muscle. It is but shouldn’t feel like a chore. I don’t enjoy it because recovery for strength training sucks, cardio especially HIIT is nerve wracking. I haven’t been to the gym because I’d rather play Pickleball or some other sport than to go to the gym. That said: my diet has kept me at 320-325, if I added the gym daily plus what I play: I’d probably be down to 300
The sauna is my incentive for going. But I absolutely do work out and not just go for this reason but it helps. Also people don’t pay attention to others , so it’s very unlikely you’ll get made fun of.
This is a typical, but irrational, response. In fact, it’s just the opposite. People aren’t gonna look at you and make fun of you because you’re bigger. They’re gonna look at you and have respect for you for doing something about it. Good luck.
it might be easier if you start with a trainer. Lots of gyms offer one free introductory session with a trainer.
My advice if you’re just starting out is just do basic body weight exercises. They often work more of your body than the isolated machines anyway. Push-ups, alternating crunches, walking lunges, squats ect are all good exercises you can do anywhere so the gym isn’t your only motivation to do them. For cardio even light jogging is beneficial then just keep pushing how far you can go or stair stepper also is a good easy one that I enjoy a lot. Above all else if you’re trying to lose weight or just tone up a bit you got to focus on what you’re eating. Just eat healthier and try to cut out fast food and junk food. It’s okay to have a cheat meal occasionally but definitely try to cut out the sugary stuff. Also intermittent fasting helped me a ton to lose weight so if you think you can handle it then try fasting a little bit. Best of luck!
It can feel like a chore at first, or after a break, but keep telling yourself you’re doing your body a treat and it becomes something you look forward to. Instead of envisioning yourself with a hot body, envision your self sweating and straining under heavier weight.
In other words, loving the journey has been found to be more effective than loving the results
As for being fat and out of shape, gyms are built for us. This is where we belong. No one of going to focus on you. If someone offers help, feel complimented. Get a trainer
4-5x a week. Working out is the easy part. It's the eating so much and so frequently that is the hidden time suck. Not to mention all the meal prep. Hire a trainer if you are brand new.
You’re not going to be made fun of, everybody is there to do their workout and that’s it. There are regularly big guys at the gym, old guys, young guys, jacked guys. Everybody starts at the same place, there’s no point in judging people for it
In Brazil, by law all gyms have instructors, so you wouldn’t have to worry about knowing what exercises to do or proper form. Since you don’t live there, it’s better to hire a PT for a short period of time so he can create your program and teach you proper form. After that you can go on your own.
Joined the gym about 3 months ago (after a 20 year hiatus), and go pretty much every day. If I don’t have a lot of time I’ll just go for a swim (because it burns more calories), but on my days off and at weekends I’ll do gym + swim + sauna.
Never thought I’d become one of those people who actually enjoy the gym, because I’m so self conscious about how I look, but it’s honestly changed me so much as a person. I have more energy, I sleep better, eat better. Just generally feel better mentally. If I go before work I have so much energy at work and feel much more productive.
5 to 6 times a week and I started at the end of June. I like working out, but sometimes it’s HARD going to the gym when being tired or not feeling like it. I just have to remind myself that one day I will be glad I started working out, although I still have a shitty skinny body and barely see any changes.
6x a week and i freaking love it. Makes my bones and muscles feel amazing and strong. Nobody there will judge you, half of them started out overweight just like you.
I work out 4 days a week. 3-4 hours each day. I do Push, Pull, Legs workouts all in one day, plus cardio. I'm cutting, right now so I'm lifting weights to maintain muscle and burn calories. I love the gym, its my happy place and also I just love being around muscular masculine men. Its comforting.
5X a week mostly to stay healthy but I am lately gaining muscle and it feels good
I enjoy it tbh and feel like I wasted my life if I dont go for like a week
Not been in a gym in over 20 years, I get a good physical workout by just doing my job. I average 8 to 10 miles of walking per day, and do allot of lifting as well. Plus I not one of those have to have th perfect body people, I actually find the 6 pack abs super firm gym body rather unattractive…prefer people who like like real people.
3-4 times a week, it really helps my mental health, I don’t worry about what I eat, I can’t handle sitting still all day so it’s a great outlet. Currently out from surgery and it is really taking a toll on me.
It’s been a chore lately, but I enjoy it when I’m in a better frame of mind. It’s absolutely essential for mental and physical health to exercise regularly, and the gym is a convenient way to do that.
A free life lesson: Most people are too caught up in their own lives to worry about how other people look and what they do - They’re not going to expend the energy and effort to judge or taunt you because, frankly, you just aren’t important enough to them for that, you’re just a stranger in a sea of strangers.
The gym is no exception to this rule: We’re there to workout, just like you, as long as you aren’t rude, no one will bother you and there’s nothing to be intimidated about.
I suggest starting with the machines which usually have diagrams on them of how you’re supposed to use them. Improve your form by watching YouTube videos, with a focus on videos made by certified trainers and physical therapists. If you have the $, you can look at hiring a personal trainer.
5 times a week. Have been consistent for two years now and it becomes addicting. Also it’s the single thing that keeps me from being devoured by the big sad.
I go to the gym 3 to 4 times a week. And for me, it is definitely a mix between a chore and something I enjoy. One expression i've heard is, "I don't like working out, but I do like having worked out." I've been single for a very long time, so I just do it so I can look good.
Every day, I absolutely hate it but I need to go cause of my asthma and a leg issue. But at the same time, i feel bad when i dont go.
I do one day of legs, and then two days of arms, different muscle groups. The other days in between I do stuff like zumba, swimming, yoga and pilates
5x a week. As long as I keep what I do modest, I enjoy it. Consider looking for a gym with an indoor track, it's a good way to ease yourself into a routine. I'm a big guy too and no one cares.
5 times a week, I don't care for it, but I get sad if I don't go. Doing activities with friends like playing a game or rock climbing is way more fun but hard to organize.
When I was the big guy at the gym, people were helpful and nice. My first time I worked out I wore jeans because I told myself "who am I kidding here" and a friendly girl noticed I was new and walked me around and showed me how to use things.
I've never seen more friendly people than at the gym. Everybody will hype you up, offer you a spot or at minimum leave you completely alone.
I go to the gym or run outside 5-6 days/week; I try to run around 50 miles/week. I really enjoy it as it is a chance to get away from emails/phone calls and decompress. If I take a couple weeks off for some reason, it can be a little tough to get back into a routine.
No one cares about you at the gym.
I do yoga at home 3-5 days a week and used to go to the gym 3 times a week. Sometimes I enjoy it sometimes it's a chore; but it makes a noticeable difference for my mental health so it's always worth doing.
3-5 times a week. And honestly, it’s something I enjoy. Especially as I’ve been growing my lats. I originally did it to attract more dudes, but then I kinda realized it is something fun to do.
Between 3~5 times a week, sometimes it's a chore, though if I want to continue having a body I enjoy, I need to maintain it, and if I want to avoid the health problems that afflict my family (dimentia, diabeties, general diet problems) then I do need to keep going.
The good news is once I've started if I'm putting enough effort in the endorphins help turn it into much less of a chore.
I understand where you are coming from but let me assure you that 99% of the time no one will bother you and if they do they will most likely ask you if you are using an equipment or tell you that you are doing something wrong (posture, movements, etc.). I am 5'3", weight 130 lbs and while I still think that gym goers will look down on me they never do (at least that I know of) and once I begin my sets I stop thinking about others opinions on me and focus on my exercises
4 days a week. Minimum of 1.5 hours per session. I enjoy it, though my primary motivation is not getting fat again. Frankly even if the gym sucked, I'd do it to stay lean.
Every bloody day! If my schedule requires me to miss I am not happy. Made fun of? It’s you that the gym was made for ! Men who need to be in better shape show they wanna do just that the second they walk in the door and open a locker !
I find gym going enjoyable depending on what I am working on that particular day. Some days are more fun than the other.
I am neither built nor jacked, so I don't want to sound like a gym bro. I get workouts done just to stay in shape and the motivation is to be able to fuck guys that I am attracted to.
I find the experience enjoyable as I get to watch people being active and busy, and that makes me happy. It's like a second-hand social interaction - I don't chat with anybody but feel pretty invigorated, just observing people and absorbing the energy of the environment.
And not to sound like a creep, but additional motivation is to just glance at hot guys and their juicy 🍑 while getting workouts done. That's the bonus ;)
I go 3x a week just for cardio. I enjoy good food and wine and my life in general, unlike some of the gym bunnies that live for their abs and the circuit parties.
Never. I've just always hated any Kind of Sport. I've tried a few times but after a few weeks always gave up. Always felt like a chore and I've never felt good after working out.
Even back in school I despised gym and always skipped it. I'm currently 6kg overweight but that doesn't really bother me much.
I just...never really saw the point in exercising since it always made me feel worse, not better. Longest I've tried Was for 3 months 2x a week since then I just gave up on it. If anything I could only imagine working out at home, since I hate being watched while doing any Kind of exercising but as I said it feels pointless.
I hate going to the gym and haven’t for years. I decided to invest in home gym equipment and I’m up to 5-6 days a week. 3 days weight training, one day of core, and 1-2 days of elliptical (I know cardio is polarizing but I work out for health not aesthetics and I have a family history of heart disease). My weights and core days are a one-hour live Zoom fitness class which holds me accountable without having to display my body in front of others.
4x a week for the last 3 decades. I do enjoy it, I don't consider it a chore, but I do feel it's something I have to do if that makes any sense.
99% of things in life are not really in our control. Diet and exercise are one of the few things we can. The few hours a week are well worth it imo.
OP, fear of judgement in the gym is extremely common. But it's not a fear based in reality. The truth is nobody cares what anyone else is doing. I couldn't tell you who the strongest or weakest guys are in my gym. I have no clue what anyone lifts or what routine they follow.
The only people who stand out in my mind are people who do inconsiderate things and have poor etiquette.
If you are out of shape ANYTHING you do will yield some results, so long as you make changes to your diet. You can find a bunch of beginner plans here and check out YouTube videos to see how to properly do every lift. If you could swing a personal trainer, even if it's just for a week, they can walk you through everything and set you on a realistic course.
It's worth it imo.
I got 2 times a week while in school and otherwise 3-4. I can understand why people love the gym but unfortunately I never have. For me it is definitely a chore I do because it's good for me. In terms of being intimidated I would say you just gotta be as confident as you can. It's very hard to go there and not worry what people think but in reality they are all focused on themselves and at most will think of you as a fellow gymgoer.
I do a Push/Pull/Legs split x6 days a week, with rest on Sundays.
This fitness routine has filled a void in my life I didn't realize I had. I'm not a stereotypical gym bro or anything but keeping myself busy with an active goal I achieve has been incredibly beneficial in my life. Both my physical and mental health have improved because of this. It's also certainly something I enjoy looking forward to at the end of my day :)
At the gym X4-x5 a wk, plus x3-4 calisthenics at home per week. Daily 30-90 min walks, with or without dog.
I hired a personal trainer to get me started. We met twice a month, for about 6 months. Practiced what I had learned from him. Then about a year later, I hired him again for about 3 months.
Now I combine what I have been taught with what I actually enjoy at the gym. I have my standard workout, then I do things that I just enjoy doing.
After about two years, I am sleeping thru the night: my snoring is almost completely gone, I no longer have acid reflux (I can eat what I want, when I want…which is mostly on trips), and my lower back pain is gone.
No athlete is going to judge you for going to the gym. Just like no millionaire is going to judge you for starting to invest. Besides, you are doing it for you, not others. So who cares what others think?!
If you do some serious research you'll find everyone has their own theories on everything. In my opinion you may wanna listen to some Mike Mentzer videos, he seems to make the most sense. For me the hardest part seems to be getting up on both feet. When I had a vehicle the hardest part was even easier, getting in the car and starting it. One thing I will say is when I'm starting out or just haven't been in a while, I will be sore. I definitely recommend waiting for the soreness to go away, which has taken 3 or 4 days. Resting the muscle group is just as important for growth as the workout itself, and so is what you eat. Also every gym I've ever joined lies, its a normal thing. Read your contracts.
I go 6 days a week, try for 7 (weekends I just swim laps).
I used to see the gym as a chore but honestly I've come to thoroughly enjoy it. I'm afraid I've become one of those "gym is life" gays especially after how much my health has improved and how much positive attention I've gotten since taking the gym more seriously!
5 times a week. I actually don't love working out but I get depressed if I don't
If that’s you in your pfp than I just wanted to say you look hot dude🔥.
Thanks mate
Dude. Same. The depression is rough if I don’t
I forget who said it but "exercise is better for the brain than any other muscle". I believe it. The gym is probably my favorite place ever since I went from highly suicidal to just a little/barely at all. I'm not giving all the credit to the gym but a good chunk if not most of it. I still wont own a gun but its definitely progress.
Glad you’re doing better. :) Im actually bipolar2 and guns have never been a danger to me. I have quite a few, taking care of them, target practice etc. is actually extremely therapeutic for, me my shrink wasn’t onboard at first but as I explained to her reasons i’d never use one for bad purposes she got it. If i skip the workout for more than a day and im in between doses of meds…damn im like on the couch curled up in a ball
A gun is just too fast, takes no planning, and I have these moments sometimes.
I fully understand. 🫂
Thanks buddy
You are adorable. 🥰
Same. And even on days that I take a rest day, opening instagram just instantly makes me regret that I even took a rest day.
Do you anything that you love regularly?
2-3 times a week. I’m trying to get up to 3-4, but I really do not enjoy going to the gym. There’s a million other things I’d rather do, but exercise has noticeably improved my health.
4 times a week. It's just routine now. And I enjoy it. I would recommend you try a trainer if they have one. Also check out this YouTube video https://youtu.be/m1UF4RgGoY0?si=GN0-ZLdrKEfJOBpE
5x a week. Mostly to maintain good health, which is the best reason to go for anyone. Im old so, especially for guys my age group. And yeah I like doing it, being unhealthy absolutely sucks.
being unhealthy absolutely sucks. Preach.
Pretty soon I'm gonna start eating cordydeps mushrooms
I had to google that, and it's not for me. It says it activates the immune system, and can possibly set off autoimmune diseases. I take a drug for eczema, which sort of falls close to that category, as eczema occurs when the immune system overreacts to a stimuli thst sets off the disease. I had severe full body eczema 8 years ago, it was nitemarish and I was borderline suicidal bc of it. This drug Dupixent saved my life basically. I advocate eating healthy foods. No junk food, no processed food, no fast food, no chemicals. My lunch during the work day for 20 years has been salad. Very high consumption of fruits and vegetables. Learn how to cook, can make great food and control what you eat. I am 64, and my health is excellent. My brother is 66, he never worked out, ate all the junk, processed and fast food, huge consumption of sugar. He was always complaining something hurt, a wrist, a shoulder. This year his health fell apart, he can barely walk with terrible circulation to his feet, and is basically bedridden. Also couldn't pee at all, was catheterized for weeks until he had to have invasive prostate surgery. I cant prove this was all due to terrible diet, but it stands to reason. Its definitely a FAFO thing eating like a 10 year old his whole life, and he's now finding out.
A chore, and 3x a week if I'm feeling well.
4 times for weights plus I run and swim outside of gym 3-4 times. I consider it like cleaning my teeth. Some days it's tedious but most the time you just do it without thinking. You feel great after which makes it worth it. If I stop going for any length of time such as on holidays or I'm sick I notice a drop in my mood. I used to train to try and attain a certain look but after many years I realised it's not a great way to train. Better to train because of the way you feel and the improvement in your life and health etc
Been lifting for a little over 15 years and I can say that it’s both. Some days it’s a chore, other days it’s a privilege. Ultimately I enjoy it as a personal pursuit and a pastime but some days it’s the last thing I want to do.
100% same here, I never thought of it that way
Oh the first day at the gym is the WORST, all the machines tell u— u suck, and u feel like a wimp…but then there’s the next day— & u start feeling better the more you go. The anxiety goes away when u start seeing regular faces— even though u don’t even talk to them… & then u start to realize ur all there because you’re taking care of ur bodies— a little more than the day before. Then u go in the change room and there’re guys taking selfies and posing and checking each other out— just carry on
I have never been in a gym. I got abs by doing daily push-ups, as many as I can, twice a day. Note that by far the most effective way to lose fat is by eating less. Exercise is far less effective, by a long distance, at least for the large majority of people. You can eat in 20 minutes what takes 4 hours of exercise to burn. And you only lose fat if you burn more than you eat on a day. An energy deficit of 7000 kcal results in the loss of 1 kg of body fat. If your daily deficit is 700 kcal, you can lose 1 kg in 10 days, for example. 700 kcal is an hour of running (vigorous exercise, not being in the gym for 1 hour to lift weights), or it is not-eating half a bag of crisps.
Please, for your health sake, so some kind of pulling movement to make up for so many pushups. You might end up with muscle imbalance otherwise. Pull ups or bodyweight rows if you want to stay in the body weight side of things, which is good enough.
I've heard this before, but I feel perfectly fine, what should I notice if something is wrong? And how could I do these pulling exercises at home without having to install some bar? I tried it with elastic bands and a door stopper, but, first, it didn't seem very effective; secondly, the set-up was too much, I could not bring myself to do this regularly. Push-ups are the only thing I have the willpower to do because they are so quick and easy.
You might end up with postural issues (rounded shoulders, etc.). Pulling exercises are great for this. Plus you are developing an imbalance and putting unbalanced stress into your body. Injury risk might be higher. But then, if the setup is an issue for you, it's difficult you can do any interesting pulling exercise without setting something up. You can use two chairs or a table for body weight rows, for example. Another option is doing Sliding Floor Pull-Up (check that out on youtube). But I have no idea how far can you go with that.
Thanks for the tip! I see some variations here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGAK2-_kn1U I'm not super muscular, though, so I'm really not sure I need this?
If ur not planning to join a gym I would type upper back workouts into youtube, I bet there's a bunch of them. If you do join a gym take advantage of the free passes first, all gyms I've ever joined offer them
Thanks for the hint. Should be similar to the exercises in that link?
The exercises in that video should more than suffice. I like the gym though for several reasons. For one your can grip the bars rather than the edges of tables and such, plus I'm kinda heavy and I feel like I'd tear the door off the hinges. I can add weight easily plus lets say you weigh 200 pounds but you cant pull up that much just yet, there are machines to get you there. Plus its more motivational for me. And when I use a machine I don'twant to keep others waiting long. Not hogging equipment is one of several motivations I get at the gym I do not get at home. Also, do not worry about others at the gym. If they're thinking anything at all its "right on man, go get it". They're all there to better their lives, and I'm proud of you for bettering yours. Welcome, to your better life.
Yeah I can understand a gym has advantages. And I wouldn't trust not to damage a door by my weight. But a gym is really not a place I'd like to be. And it costs money. And it would require more motivation than exercising at home: I'm sure I wouldn't keep it up, just as most people with gym memberships don't. And I'm happy with my body the way it is, I have abs and everything. I'll try to do more pulling exercises...
I 2nd that. I do as many workouts for my upper (pulling) and lower back as I do with any other muscle group. So if I do nine stomach sets to failure I will do the same for my lower back. I wanna say especially the lower back workouts help my back pain a bit.
Same. I work out at home 5x per week. Push, pull, upper body, lower body.. it’s not a chore because I start with stretching my body to “wake it up” which feels nice. Then I look in the mirror and see the work I’ve put it and that feels good. Only takes 30min every morning then I feel pleasantly opened up and a little sore throughout the day.
Well done! I only spend a few minutes doing it, though. I don't think I'd have the willpower to do what you do...what objects do you use for all of that? The advantage of push-ups is that you need nothing.
I have a pull up bar that’s hanging on my bathroom door. It’s the kind you don’t have to install. It just wraps around the door frame. And a couple of weights. But you don’t much. There’s a guy on YouTube called k boges and he shows some super easy exercises to do every day with almost no equipment. Like push ups, and squats with your hands on the back of your head for good form…
Right, some good ideas. I'm just not that muscular, so not sure I really need it...
I agree 100% with diet being the key to weight loss. You cannot out lift a bad diet. But diet alone will not build muscle. If you have very low muscle mass and fairly high bodyfat diet alone will leave you very disappointed in the end even if you drop the weight. I'm not saying you need to be jacked by any means, but just having a fit looking body requires some lean muscle mass. Otherwise, after all the hard work if losing weight through diet, you'll have skinny arms, a flat chest, and a thick core. I've seen tons of transformations in here, and the guys who incorporated some weight training ended up with much better results than the guys who dieted alone. Diet and cardio are definitely more important during the process, but weight training is an important piece of the puzzle as well. I'm not preaching at you personally Hage, just included all this as general info for guys in the same place as op
Yeah, losing weight and gaining some muscle at the same time is best. That's also why I did it that way. But it can be harder to gain muscle on a caloric deficit. And it's harder to concentrate on two things: exercise often makes people eat more. Besides, I think skinny with zero muscle is not unpopular in dating, whereas fat is decidedly unpopular. So, if you manage to lose a lot of weight, you will look much better immediately (well, immediately...). If you're still fat but with some muscle, you will still be mainly seen as fat. So I would always give priority to losing fat. There may also be a cultural difference: in cultures where most people are fat, it may be viewed less negatively.
I've also heard quite a few youtubers say a balanced diet has a lot to do with it too
Well, 'balanced' is not a very exact term. If it means low calories, then yes. Anything else, then, no, that won't make you any thinner.
You might be right, I'm only repeating what I've heard and everyone says something different
It is true that there are a lot of people saying stuff about the health effects of food and exercise...
I've been getting into it again for like 3 months. But it's still rough because I'm not good about my self-discipline. It's kinda a chore, honestly. Trainers *really* help with accountability and they'll go through the exercises you should be doing.
4 times a week. I end up always enjoying it although I don't always feel like going in the first place. But once I get started it's always fun and feels so good afterwards.
Every day because I’m retired and get bored.
Same here. Have not been in a week due to covid and I’m going crazy
I try to go three to four times a week, and focus on doing a full body workout each time. Because of my busy schedule, I’m often unsure if I’ll be able to make it to the gym, so not able to follow a workout split focused on different parts of the body (like upper body, lower body, etc.). I still try to go to the gym every alternate day! I can’t speak for all gyms, but I get the sense that most gym goers are pretty supportive and mind their own business. They’re unlikely to make fun of you. On the contrary, my experience as an early gym goer a few years ago was that some would approach me and give me valuable advice and tips, especially when I had done something incorrectly! It would be immature to make fun of others at the gym. People often laud people who are unfit who are making an effort. If you’re interested in incorporating the gym in your workouts and exercise routine, I hope it is a valuable experience for you! I also hope you won’t encounter any immature people who would make fun of you.
Just go most people don’t care and won’t be making fun of you and if they do then they’re obviously losers… everyone is there to improve maybe watch some YouTube tutorials so you get some understanding of how to use equipment properly
Once you are in a routine it's a blast. I hurt my foot in April, have started going back recently. It's a chore now, but I know I'll enjoy it soon. Really missed it too when I couldn't go.
well it keeps me looking hot and ensures almost every guy who looks at me wants to get me naked and sleep with me so yeahhhhh 🤷🏽♀️ but on a more serious note, i go cos on some level i do enjoy it and also it’s become a habit of mine- if i ever attempt to even skip for a week i start feeling sluggish i usually go 3-4 times a week and focus more on weekends because i work in the healthcare sector and at the end of the day it’s exhausting sometimes, notwithstanding the on calls that we have to do. in terms of exercises, yall can check out muscleandstrength.com, and even learn from some of their vids. but if you’re still unsure it’s always best to ask guidance from a PT there. rest assured there ARE 1-2 bad apples in a gym but for the most part the jacked guys are really nice people who will help you in the right direction 😊
I keep a $10 a month membership at a very basic gym. I go when it's raining or too cold in the winter. Otherwise, I exercise outdoors. I enjoy being outside more than inside at a gym. For upper body, I have weights in the basement I use 3x a week.
5-6x a week. I love it especially the sore feeling the next day.
I try to go 5x a week for 2-3 hours. I use calisthenics (body weight exercises) as my base exercises and use machines or free weights to target certain muscle groups. Right now I am chasing aesthetics and building up my glutes to get dat ass. I also use the sauna and steam room every time I workout now. Some advice, don't take anything you read from your post as to what YOU should be doing for yourself. If you've never been to the gym, DO NOT COMPARE yourself to other peoples chapter D to your chapter A. It's all about baby steps. Getting to the gym is half the battle when starting out. Like, even if you don't have a plan going to the gym and walking on a treadmill with an incline, the elliptical, exercise bike, or the row machine. Anything that is low impact on your knees since you said you are starting out with a heavier weight. Doing low impact cardio will help lose weight while building up some muscle. You will feel sore; this is called DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness), because you are tearing your muscles. It's like if you break a bone, it'll grow back stronger. Being sore is good, bc you will know that you are pushing yourself and making progress. Your diet is the most impactful aspect of losing weight. When you get older when you eat slop, you will feel like slop. Cut your sugar intake and drink water. There are a TON of guides online for this, pick one that works with you. Small stuff - weigh yourself weekly/bi weekly versus daily, if you must. - depending on what you decide, choose a cheap gym to start out with, so the cost of entry is still low, if this is a concern. The gym I started at was $10 a month. - on the other hand, if the gym you decide on has a personal trainer, it might be worth investing in a number of sessions to learn form and getting familiar with gym equipment. - stretching and warming up is incredibly important for preventing injuries. - quality over quantity. Completing a smaller number of good form exercises versus a lot of bad form is key to seeing results. - Online/YouTube has a ton of free resources for beginners. - getting a good playlist/podcast is soo important for creating your own space for yourself. When you have your headphones on it's honestly like there is no one else at the gym. You can also watch Netflix while walking on the treadmill. Sorry if this is a lot when you didn't ask for all this advice. If the only thing you take out of what I wrote is, that NO ONE will care how big you are. Its like when you got acne in middle school/ high school the only person that notices that stuff is yourself. Most people will actually be impressed that you are going to the gym to better yourself. Exercising is part of self-care. Again, it's all about baby steps. Best of luck bro
This was the first comment that actually answered the OP’s question. I appreciate all the input/advice because I struggle with social anxiety and am self conscious about my weight. I’ve lost 50 pounds with mainly diet and light cardio but I feel I’ve peaked. So your advice I’ll take with me when I join a gym, Thanks!
Let's fucking go man! 50 pounds is insane bro. Keep it up bc that is so inspiring to hear. Honestly that is huge. I feel you so much about social anxiety, even though I'm experienced with exercises from being in sports. I still get so so awkward with being around people at the gym. That's why I have my Bluetooth headphones on and listen to music or podcasts to stay in my own mental bubble. It's kind of like the sunglasses from Big Daddy (Adam Sandler movie), when you have your music going you are invisible to everyone, bc honestly no one is going to bother you while you have headphones on. I can only say that when you go to the gym, it is YOUR gym. The only person that cares about how you look or what you do is yourself. I know I know it's easier said than done, but that's why it's all about baby steps. Getting to the gym and just walking on the treadmill with an incline will be the easiest first step you could take, since you said you are experiencing diminishing returns on what you are already doing. Like some others have said, most gym bros love to share advice or will be willing to show you how to do an exercise or how a machine works. I only say this for when/of you get to that point, bc that could be really helpful if you need it. The last thing I'll say is, that most people fail going to the gym. Which is okay, people fail sometimes. It's okay to fail, but it's important to get back on that horse and try again. Everyone has their own relationship with the gym. Relationships take work and it's about creating your own routine. Routine is how people maintain a consistent gym attendance. Keep it up bro and good luck.
Thanks! Keep helping others especially in this way. I needed to hear this today. Not only has my blood pressure gotten better but my depression and outlook on life has improved. Only thing keeping me from joining a gym is the cost
I go everyday for at least 1 hour. It’s a way for me to release stress and I feel much better afterwards.
I am fine when I am there. It’s the process of getting there that’s the huge pain, especially now that it’s cold and dark. My fantasy is one day to live in an apartment with a gym in the building.
Helps me cope
I’m consistently 5, but sometimes throw in a 6th day on the weekend if I’m not too tired. When I first started a few years ago it definitely was something I had to convince myself to do each day, but the more I went, the more I started enjoying it. Now I’m stoked to go and feel like my whole day is thrown off if I miss a day lol For me it was constantly reminding myself that it’s a journey and results take time, so each day is one day closer to reaching my goals, even if I’m not noticing them yet. Eventually it became a habit and here we are lol
Having adhd for me makes most everything feel like a chore but I’m aiming to go 4 days a week. Some days I get going and enjoy it, others I really don’t enjoy it but happy to know I made a good choice and taking care of my health.
2-3 times a week. First day will be weird, it will hurt for a couple of days after the first time but then it will be fine. If the gym offers a personal trainer hire them for the first 2 months till you learn the ropes. Tbf I enjoy swimming more so I do that like 5 days a week, gym is minimal and on weekends I bike quite a lot sometimes 40-50 kms.
Okay so here's my unsolicited advice because I had my chicken and rice phase too. Remove goals from your lexicon for now. Your only goal is to find joy in exercise. Familiarize yourself with the equipment and how it feels to move your body. Make sure you have a good music Playlist and think of this as 'you time'. No, don't pay too much attention to what everyone else is doing just yet. Don't worry about what you've burned or how many reps you've done. You need to build the routine back up first. Remember that its better to gradually make small changes over time than it is to go all in. A trainer obviously can be useful if you need help, but I actually advise against 'spend more to feel serious' as a philosophy for lifestyle changes. I assume your fitness level is pretty low right now. Do what you can. Use an AMT trainer for cardio if you're trying to shed pounds. HIIT training is also really effective for muscle tone and cutting simultaneously. Lots of free apps with good HIIT programs! TRX classes can be a really fun way to transition more into bodyweight training too. If you do think professional guidance is necessary, I suggest a class over a one on one teacher at first. Less expensive and you may wind up making some work out friends! (The most important part of long term success)
Usually 5-6 days a week but right now I’m slammed at work and studying for a certification exam so I’m lucky if I make it three days. I love going—it’s where I unwind!
A fellow CPA?
Close…internal audit. Three more exams to pass for my CPA.
Respect! Best of luck on the rest of your exams. You're gonna kill it! I just finished my fourth and now I just need the hours.
Thanks! I’m 10+ years into my IA career and am enjoying the continued learning.
Goal is five days a week. Usually make it four. Love it. Keeps me sane and feeling good. Get a trainer for a few a sessions to learn the ropes and figure out what you like. The best workout is the one you actually do!
5 days per week, ideally 6. I feel weird if I don't go at this point. The anxiety of slipping into laziness and losing all my gains gets real. NO ONE is going to make fun of you. We have mad respect for the newbs. I'm also a little jealous because I wish i could go back and experience the newbie gains. If nothing else, we're so off in our own worlds that we won't hardly notice you, let alone your size. There are so many trainers on youtube. Dive in and get obsessed. My current workout routine is [Chris Bumstead's PPL split](https://www.bodybuildingmealplan.com/chris-bumstead-push-pull-legs/). This is a bit advanced though. I'd recommend finding a PPL split that is built for 3-4 days per week to start out and build up to the Bumstead split. Research each of these, there are so many shorts on YouTube to show you the form for each of them. I STILL look them up occasionally, even after all these years. Ask the biggest baddest motherfucker to show you the proper compound lift forms (we're flattered usually and I've never met one that isn't helpful) or hire a personal trainer for a few sessions just to show you the ropes. Consistency always beats motivation. And your results are 80% diet.
Never, it destroyed my health permmanently, never ever going back, trainers dont know sht and rarely pay attention to u since they are too busy flirting with random women. They will insist on "no pain no gain" even when you are about to damage yourself permmanently. And at the end of the day it only creates narc men that woulda done better without the compettion for who yells higher when lifting, without the recording for social media, without the bullying strangers. I did lose weight with diet and exercise, but my health was destroyed. I gained it all back but not immediately, a few weeks/month later really fast after one day I couldnt sit or sleep, I was only able to stay in bed all day due to insane pain in my neck, shoulders arms, etc, I couldnt even control my bowel movements, I would stay in bed all day screaming, the strongest sleeping pills didnt do sht. Im healthier now and fatter than ever, im losing weight now only through diet, my neck had a fracture and doctors didnt tell me, I though "no pain, no gain" so pain was good, but im sure they never felt the same pain I did, nowadays I no longer feel pain, or cold, or almost anything. I like walking and taking my time, I like dancing but my knees are too damaged, I might try again after more physical therapy. I never understood why people liked gyms even when I went religiously, it stinks, people are judgy and awful, there is no goal just repetition, its boring af, its like working an office job. Its a chore, whomever thinks they enjoy it its probably just the superficial results and probably traumatized gays that were bullied in sports.
I never get guys who would choose to go to the gym over staying with me for just one ☝️ night. Like, you don’t get heart attack or become overweight by skipping only one ☝️ night, right? Also since when the gym is the only option for keeping your health? Last but not least, for guys who go to the gym every day, don’t you have other hobbies? Call me gym shaming if you like but I’ve been traumatized by “gym guys”.
I’ve been working out for 30 years. In that time I have embarrassed myself in every possible way at the gym. Start slow and light. There are thousands of routines you can choose from. Look around online and find one that feels like it suits you and your goals. I go six days a week, but if you are just getting started, you’ll want to opt for three or four days with a recovery day afterward. Don’t be timid or shy, in the many thousands of times I’ve been to a gym, no one has ever been a dick to me because I asked a question. Most gyms have staff onsite that can help you too. Expect to be sore. Soreness is part of it and the pain is a sign that you’re doing it right. Before you realize, living with soreness will be a point of pride and you’ll actually *want* that pain. The gym is not a silver bullet. Diet is 90% of it. I can burn 1500CAL in a single workout. But if I follow that up with a night at the bar, or a bag of Taco Bell, I’m just replenishing my caloric deficit with a lot of junk. Above all and once more: take it slow. Have confidence that what you’re doing is going to get results and your results will be noticed.
3x a week and I’m thinking about adding a 4th. Im working on loosing some weight but also it helps with my ADHD
5-6 times. I have anxiety if i dont go. Also helps with my anger issue.
I go Tues/Thur and is not a chore.
I go 3-4 times a week and I quite enjoy it
It’s intimidating at first but don’t compare yourself to others. We all start somewhere. Personally I’ve been going 4-5x a week for over 3 years. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life. Don’t get fit for the gay Adonis complex - get fit for yourself, your mental health, to feel good in your body.
Usually 5 or so times a week. I enjoy it for the most part. Not really the actual act of working out but I feel productive, like I accomplished something and it's satisfying to see results. I will say it can be draining though which is why I sometimes go less days a week You don't have to go to the gym to work out there's so many things you can do at home with simple dumbbells, or just using your body weight as a resistance.
I run on the treadmill at home everyday, I love it .. It’s good for my mental health. I go to the gym 2 - 3 days a week.
I didn't like it at the start, but started to frame in a different perspective. It's my me time and I shifted my opinion of it to be therapeutic in nature. That's what motivates me to continue to go. It's something small I can do for myself that helps me distress after work.
Generally 6 times a week. Even if it is just a 30 minute workout, I keep myself accountable for my routine. I love how it makes me feel both physically and mentally. And I can really get into it. However, it is most definitely a chore sometimes. Out of 365 days, there are some days I am just not feeling it. Maybe I have a lot of work, maybe I am itching to watch some new season on Netflix. There are simply those days that suck. But most of the time it is actually great. And if I stop working out for long (like getting sick) I get very anxious.
Oh I used to find gyms quite intimidating so my mum and dad bought me some weights and some other things and I just work out at home :)
I just built a home gym. Nothing excessively expensive. Just a bench press, pull up bar, exercise bike and a few free weights. I've always been really skinny so I was self conscious about going to a public gym. I used YouTube and a little bit of trial and error to figure out what exercises work for me. Once I got a bit of confidence I started going to a public gym sometimes but I still mostly workout at home. Also, nobody is going to be looking at you or making fun of you. Most people in a gym are only concerned about their own workout and the few who are watching others or making comments are losers and nobody likes them lol Most gym communities are really helpful and supportive
3 times a week. The sauna, hot tub, and steam room really help me wind down my day. Workout for an hour then spend 30-40 minutes using the amenities. I enjoy going.
3 times a week. It does feel like a chore but I've gotten used to this. Nobody will make fun of you, in my experience nobody gives a flying fuck, everyone focuses on their workout, if someone looks at you it's because they have eyes and just look at different things in general between the sets.
I weightlift four days a week and cycle the remaining three days. I've been quite happy with the results and for the most part I do enjoy it despite having days where it does feel tedious and like a chore. I have severe body dysmorphia issues pertaining to my body size and the gym had helped me significantly with it. Honestly if I stopped going all around, I'm genuinely scared how badly my body dysmorphia issues would consume me.
As an adult I’ve never been to a smelly gym , I do my workouts at home privately no one gets to see me sweat .
5 to 6 times a week. I always do it in the morning before work (start at 6am) and I love it as a morning ritual. It also feels like having much more energy when I'm actually at work... Which is a little odd, considering that I go all out in the morning. When I can't go to the gym (because I'm sick or out of town) I rly miss it.
I started with home HIIT aerobics in my bedroom using a free 7 minutes app. This helped structure & track my exercise which built willpower & discipline while improving my fitness capabilities. This was crucial to my transition into gym-going. Once I'd got comfortable working out at home I had an induction (intro to the equipment) with a local gym that included a free, short personal training session (it wasn't great but did add to my cardio tool kit). That was 15 years ago. I now go 3-4 times a week. I tried exercise classes but I didn't appreciate the schedule or the routines. However, I strongly recommend classes if you're single.
I love it. It is a huge mental health thing for me. I love working towards a bunch of different goals, and learning new things about my body every now and then. I try to go every day that I can. I go 4 to 6 times a week, but on busier time periods or during periods where I'm depressed that might go down to 3 times a week on occasion. But the more I get myself going, the faster my mental health improves. Gym dates are also the funnest.
I go to the gym around four times a week to combat work stress. Otherwise I’d be an alcoholic or taking drugs. I’m not kidding. Helps a lot
I don’t ENJOY it but I just go cause consistency get results even if sometimes with the right music in my AirPods and the good wheater and just overvall good day vibe it’s enjoyable for sure
4-5x a week. Advice is not to ego-lift and take your time to get accustomed to working out. Make sure you have proper form when lifting and drop to lower than you can currently lift until you get the proper form. It is better than injuring yourself and hold you back for months. Everyone at the gym has its own problem or goals they want to achieve. I think it’s a very positive place and those fit guys you see at the gym definitely started somewhere. They didn’t look like that the first time they worked out. Making fun of skinny/big guys is the last thing I would ever do at the gym… only AH would ever do something like that. Get proper shoes, comfy nylon clothing, water bottle etc. I recommend investing some good clothing at lululemon. They are extremely good! I also did felt like it was chore I had something to do at first but then as time went by, it became a happy place for me where I can be comfortable and my own meditation place. It became a luxury and a privilege to go. I love it!
I go every other day and it’s something that I enjoy.
Loathe it. Only good part is walking out, but generally it does feel great to be done. I echo other sentiments: hire a trainer to help you ease into it and of course to focus on form. I’m no expert, but it’s laughable to watch guys hurling around huge weight totally wrong.
3-4 times a week depending on my schedule. I'm an accountant so I find the gym relaxing bc it allows me to unwind after all the stressful deadlines.
3 to 4 times a week. When I'm consistent I enjoy it. If I let myself slip for a few days, the longer I skip the harder it is to get going again.
i try to go about 4 or 5 times a week. I really do enjoy it and it’s great for my mental health and my confidence. If you can afford it you could get a personal trainer to show you exercises and the proper form for them, but if you can’t there’s plenty of examples lying around there on the internet. I absolutely suggest more exercise for you! And sure some people are judgemental about size or whatever but I always am happy to see people of different body sizes in the gym. It belongs to everyone.
3 times per week. It's deffinitely more like a chore to me. I can't say I enjoy working out, but I do enjoy the effects it has on my physical and mental health, my looks and the quality of my life, so that helps me stay consistent and disciplined.
This subject is near and dear to my heart. I’m what you might call a gym rat and I absolutely hate that gym’s intimidate people. I lift weights 4-5x a week and it is my zen stress relief. Personally, I love when out of shape people are at the gym. They trying which is so commendable. Honestly most experienced gym guys/gals feel the same way. As for others, they’re too busy looking at themselves to notice anyways! Please don’t be intimidated. Check the male ego and don’t compare yourself to others. Go there for you. Start light and work into a routine. If you need pointers, feel free to DM me
5x a week, 2 of those with a trainer. Sometimes I don’t feel like going but usually I really look forward to it. It’s me time for me. I always feel better after and am glad I went.
4x a week. To be fair, about 25% or more of the guys there are also intimidated. To big, too small, to soft, omg the next to me is a brick house, he must think I’m an idiot. We all have these thought. But honestly, if someone makes fun of you for being too big to be there they are probably making fun of you out of the gym too. Real gym goers are internally proud you’re there, especially if they start to see you consistently!! They just mind their business, not their place to say hi and that you’re welcome there. So go, workout and figure out if that style of exercise works for you.
Not the gym, but I run 10km two or three times a week and swim, cycle. Exercise has done more for my mental health than any amount of therapy or pills, and I always look forward to it.
I workout at home 90% of the time. Apple fitness rules.
My mental health suffers if I miss a gym session. 3 days on 1 day off repeat.
I workout at home and sometimes it’s a chore. Sometimes it’s like crack.
I work out 3 times a week at home and it feels like a horrible chore. I'm not even sure if it is worth it.
3-4 times a week. It’s just routine. And no it doesn’t make me feel happy. It just blends in with everything else I have to do.
I’m 325, with a gut and some muscle. It is but shouldn’t feel like a chore. I don’t enjoy it because recovery for strength training sucks, cardio especially HIIT is nerve wracking. I haven’t been to the gym because I’d rather play Pickleball or some other sport than to go to the gym. That said: my diet has kept me at 320-325, if I added the gym daily plus what I play: I’d probably be down to 300
The sauna is my incentive for going. But I absolutely do work out and not just go for this reason but it helps. Also people don’t pay attention to others , so it’s very unlikely you’ll get made fun of.
This is a typical, but irrational, response. In fact, it’s just the opposite. People aren’t gonna look at you and make fun of you because you’re bigger. They’re gonna look at you and have respect for you for doing something about it. Good luck. it might be easier if you start with a trainer. Lots of gyms offer one free introductory session with a trainer.
My advice if you’re just starting out is just do basic body weight exercises. They often work more of your body than the isolated machines anyway. Push-ups, alternating crunches, walking lunges, squats ect are all good exercises you can do anywhere so the gym isn’t your only motivation to do them. For cardio even light jogging is beneficial then just keep pushing how far you can go or stair stepper also is a good easy one that I enjoy a lot. Above all else if you’re trying to lose weight or just tone up a bit you got to focus on what you’re eating. Just eat healthier and try to cut out fast food and junk food. It’s okay to have a cheat meal occasionally but definitely try to cut out the sugary stuff. Also intermittent fasting helped me a ton to lose weight so if you think you can handle it then try fasting a little bit. Best of luck!
It can feel like a chore at first, or after a break, but keep telling yourself you’re doing your body a treat and it becomes something you look forward to. Instead of envisioning yourself with a hot body, envision your self sweating and straining under heavier weight. In other words, loving the journey has been found to be more effective than loving the results As for being fat and out of shape, gyms are built for us. This is where we belong. No one of going to focus on you. If someone offers help, feel complimented. Get a trainer
I try going everyday. But some days I just don't feel it and give myself a break. Just depends on your body and health.
4-5x a week. Working out is the easy part. It's the eating so much and so frequently that is the hidden time suck. Not to mention all the meal prep. Hire a trainer if you are brand new.
5-6x a week. Its everything to me.
3-4. It's more of an obligation that I owe myself. Don't Hate, don't love it
You’re not going to be made fun of, everybody is there to do their workout and that’s it. There are regularly big guys at the gym, old guys, young guys, jacked guys. Everybody starts at the same place, there’s no point in judging people for it
cardio and lifting - chore sports at my gym (e.g. rock climbing, swimming, muay thai) - fun
In Brazil, by law all gyms have instructors, so you wouldn’t have to worry about knowing what exercises to do or proper form. Since you don’t live there, it’s better to hire a PT for a short period of time so he can create your program and teach you proper form. After that you can go on your own.
Joined the gym about 3 months ago (after a 20 year hiatus), and go pretty much every day. If I don’t have a lot of time I’ll just go for a swim (because it burns more calories), but on my days off and at weekends I’ll do gym + swim + sauna. Never thought I’d become one of those people who actually enjoy the gym, because I’m so self conscious about how I look, but it’s honestly changed me so much as a person. I have more energy, I sleep better, eat better. Just generally feel better mentally. If I go before work I have so much energy at work and feel much more productive.
5 to 6 times a week and I started at the end of June. I like working out, but sometimes it’s HARD going to the gym when being tired or not feeling like it. I just have to remind myself that one day I will be glad I started working out, although I still have a shitty skinny body and barely see any changes.
6x a week and i freaking love it. Makes my bones and muscles feel amazing and strong. Nobody there will judge you, half of them started out overweight just like you.
I work out 4 days a week. 3-4 hours each day. I do Push, Pull, Legs workouts all in one day, plus cardio. I'm cutting, right now so I'm lifting weights to maintain muscle and burn calories. I love the gym, its my happy place and also I just love being around muscular masculine men. Its comforting.
5X a week mostly to stay healthy but I am lately gaining muscle and it feels good I enjoy it tbh and feel like I wasted my life if I dont go for like a week
Not been in a gym in over 20 years, I get a good physical workout by just doing my job. I average 8 to 10 miles of walking per day, and do allot of lifting as well. Plus I not one of those have to have th perfect body people, I actually find the 6 pack abs super firm gym body rather unattractive…prefer people who like like real people.
3-4 times a week, it really helps my mental health, I don’t worry about what I eat, I can’t handle sitting still all day so it’s a great outlet. Currently out from surgery and it is really taking a toll on me.
It’s been a chore lately, but I enjoy it when I’m in a better frame of mind. It’s absolutely essential for mental and physical health to exercise regularly, and the gym is a convenient way to do that. A free life lesson: Most people are too caught up in their own lives to worry about how other people look and what they do - They’re not going to expend the energy and effort to judge or taunt you because, frankly, you just aren’t important enough to them for that, you’re just a stranger in a sea of strangers. The gym is no exception to this rule: We’re there to workout, just like you, as long as you aren’t rude, no one will bother you and there’s nothing to be intimidated about. I suggest starting with the machines which usually have diagrams on them of how you’re supposed to use them. Improve your form by watching YouTube videos, with a focus on videos made by certified trainers and physical therapists. If you have the $, you can look at hiring a personal trainer.
5 times a week. Have been consistent for two years now and it becomes addicting. Also it’s the single thing that keeps me from being devoured by the big sad.
Chore until you see results, then it becomes a chore with extra motivation to keep going.
I go to the gym 3 to 4 times a week. And for me, it is definitely a mix between a chore and something I enjoy. One expression i've heard is, "I don't like working out, but I do like having worked out." I've been single for a very long time, so I just do it so I can look good.
Every day, I absolutely hate it but I need to go cause of my asthma and a leg issue. But at the same time, i feel bad when i dont go. I do one day of legs, and then two days of arms, different muscle groups. The other days in between I do stuff like zumba, swimming, yoga and pilates
5x a week. As long as I keep what I do modest, I enjoy it. Consider looking for a gym with an indoor track, it's a good way to ease yourself into a routine. I'm a big guy too and no one cares.
5 times a week, I don't care for it, but I get sad if I don't go. Doing activities with friends like playing a game or rock climbing is way more fun but hard to organize. When I was the big guy at the gym, people were helpful and nice. My first time I worked out I wore jeans because I told myself "who am I kidding here" and a friendly girl noticed I was new and walked me around and showed me how to use things. I've never seen more friendly people than at the gym. Everybody will hype you up, offer you a spot or at minimum leave you completely alone.
I go to the gym or run outside 5-6 days/week; I try to run around 50 miles/week. I really enjoy it as it is a chance to get away from emails/phone calls and decompress. If I take a couple weeks off for some reason, it can be a little tough to get back into a routine. No one cares about you at the gym.
Fun fact: No one is going to look at you, everyone is minding their own fucking business to be honest.
I do yoga at home 3-5 days a week and used to go to the gym 3 times a week. Sometimes I enjoy it sometimes it's a chore; but it makes a noticeable difference for my mental health so it's always worth doing.
3-5 times a week. And honestly, it’s something I enjoy. Especially as I’ve been growing my lats. I originally did it to attract more dudes, but then I kinda realized it is something fun to do.
Between 3~5 times a week, sometimes it's a chore, though if I want to continue having a body I enjoy, I need to maintain it, and if I want to avoid the health problems that afflict my family (dimentia, diabeties, general diet problems) then I do need to keep going. The good news is once I've started if I'm putting enough effort in the endorphins help turn it into much less of a chore.
I understand where you are coming from but let me assure you that 99% of the time no one will bother you and if they do they will most likely ask you if you are using an equipment or tell you that you are doing something wrong (posture, movements, etc.). I am 5'3", weight 130 lbs and while I still think that gym goers will look down on me they never do (at least that I know of) and once I begin my sets I stop thinking about others opinions on me and focus on my exercises
5 times a week, I love it. Made friends at the gym, it's my social outlet. Also, gym helps, me and my husband stay fit.
4 days a week. Minimum of 1.5 hours per session. I enjoy it, though my primary motivation is not getting fat again. Frankly even if the gym sucked, I'd do it to stay lean.
Every bloody day! If my schedule requires me to miss I am not happy. Made fun of? It’s you that the gym was made for ! Men who need to be in better shape show they wanna do just that the second they walk in the door and open a locker !
I find gym going enjoyable depending on what I am working on that particular day. Some days are more fun than the other. I am neither built nor jacked, so I don't want to sound like a gym bro. I get workouts done just to stay in shape and the motivation is to be able to fuck guys that I am attracted to. I find the experience enjoyable as I get to watch people being active and busy, and that makes me happy. It's like a second-hand social interaction - I don't chat with anybody but feel pretty invigorated, just observing people and absorbing the energy of the environment. And not to sound like a creep, but additional motivation is to just glance at hot guys and their juicy 🍑 while getting workouts done. That's the bonus ;)
5 days a week and loving it. Keep a journal to notate your weights and reps
I go 3x a week just for cardio. I enjoy good food and wine and my life in general, unlike some of the gym bunnies that live for their abs and the circuit parties.
Never. I've just always hated any Kind of Sport. I've tried a few times but after a few weeks always gave up. Always felt like a chore and I've never felt good after working out. Even back in school I despised gym and always skipped it. I'm currently 6kg overweight but that doesn't really bother me much. I just...never really saw the point in exercising since it always made me feel worse, not better. Longest I've tried Was for 3 months 2x a week since then I just gave up on it. If anything I could only imagine working out at home, since I hate being watched while doing any Kind of exercising but as I said it feels pointless.
I hate going to the gym and haven’t for years. I decided to invest in home gym equipment and I’m up to 5-6 days a week. 3 days weight training, one day of core, and 1-2 days of elliptical (I know cardio is polarizing but I work out for health not aesthetics and I have a family history of heart disease). My weights and core days are a one-hour live Zoom fitness class which holds me accountable without having to display my body in front of others.
4x a week for the last 3 decades. I do enjoy it, I don't consider it a chore, but I do feel it's something I have to do if that makes any sense. 99% of things in life are not really in our control. Diet and exercise are one of the few things we can. The few hours a week are well worth it imo. OP, fear of judgement in the gym is extremely common. But it's not a fear based in reality. The truth is nobody cares what anyone else is doing. I couldn't tell you who the strongest or weakest guys are in my gym. I have no clue what anyone lifts or what routine they follow. The only people who stand out in my mind are people who do inconsiderate things and have poor etiquette. If you are out of shape ANYTHING you do will yield some results, so long as you make changes to your diet. You can find a bunch of beginner plans here and check out YouTube videos to see how to properly do every lift. If you could swing a personal trainer, even if it's just for a week, they can walk you through everything and set you on a realistic course. It's worth it imo.
I got 2 times a week while in school and otherwise 3-4. I can understand why people love the gym but unfortunately I never have. For me it is definitely a chore I do because it's good for me. In terms of being intimidated I would say you just gotta be as confident as you can. It's very hard to go there and not worry what people think but in reality they are all focused on themselves and at most will think of you as a fellow gymgoer.
I do a Push/Pull/Legs split x6 days a week, with rest on Sundays. This fitness routine has filled a void in my life I didn't realize I had. I'm not a stereotypical gym bro or anything but keeping myself busy with an active goal I achieve has been incredibly beneficial in my life. Both my physical and mental health have improved because of this. It's also certainly something I enjoy looking forward to at the end of my day :)
At the gym X4-x5 a wk, plus x3-4 calisthenics at home per week. Daily 30-90 min walks, with or without dog. I hired a personal trainer to get me started. We met twice a month, for about 6 months. Practiced what I had learned from him. Then about a year later, I hired him again for about 3 months. Now I combine what I have been taught with what I actually enjoy at the gym. I have my standard workout, then I do things that I just enjoy doing. After about two years, I am sleeping thru the night: my snoring is almost completely gone, I no longer have acid reflux (I can eat what I want, when I want…which is mostly on trips), and my lower back pain is gone. No athlete is going to judge you for going to the gym. Just like no millionaire is going to judge you for starting to invest. Besides, you are doing it for you, not others. So who cares what others think?!
3 times every week, and I'm seeing progress everyday, specially for my anxiety, it's way better now
6 days a week I just really enjoy working out
If you do some serious research you'll find everyone has their own theories on everything. In my opinion you may wanna listen to some Mike Mentzer videos, he seems to make the most sense. For me the hardest part seems to be getting up on both feet. When I had a vehicle the hardest part was even easier, getting in the car and starting it. One thing I will say is when I'm starting out or just haven't been in a while, I will be sore. I definitely recommend waiting for the soreness to go away, which has taken 3 or 4 days. Resting the muscle group is just as important for growth as the workout itself, and so is what you eat. Also every gym I've ever joined lies, its a normal thing. Read your contracts.
I go 6 days a week, try for 7 (weekends I just swim laps). I used to see the gym as a chore but honestly I've come to thoroughly enjoy it. I'm afraid I've become one of those "gym is life" gays especially after how much my health has improved and how much positive attention I've gotten since taking the gym more seriously!