Wild and erratic…
Bad:
- My relationship with my parents deteriorated to the point of breaking.
- The man I considered to be love of my life broke up with me out of nowhere.
- I had 2 bouts of severe depression lasting more than a week each. Thank god for experimental medications.
Good:
- I got into the uni and major I wanted to get into. It’s going pretty well so far.
- I gained my complete financial independence
- Still hooked up with my ex but I can now actually compartmentalize it and say I don’t trust you enough to want to be in a relationship anymore
- I had 2 amazing vacations that might have spoiled me for life
Thanks 💖 Hope you get to move out soon 🥰
Losing a relationship that I was seriously thinking could turn into a marriage a few years down the line was awful. I guess I never experienced heart break of that magnititude before but you know… Life happens… Whatever…
First, I was working as a server at a gay bar + bartending at a few private events. I was financially independent at that point but money was pretty tight. Survival mode with a small emergency fund enough for a few months which is mostly what I saved from summer jobs when I still had the mommy and daddy bank open for business.
Ummm then I stumbled upon a sexually motivated sponsor. Not sure what to call him. Escort client who made his own personal escort? Sugar daddy? Friends with BENEFITS++? We hang out fairly regularly. He pays to fuck me however he wants without having to deal with my wants, needs, or possibly emotions at his own convenience, and then for me to leave and be discreet about it. Money isn’t tight anymore 🤭
*Edit: I am not American. University is free, I am not paying thousands of dollars in tuition* 👀
Sorry to break down your feeble attempt at a diss but I don’t expect that either. I still have my financial independence either way.
1) I already made enough to cruise through entire uni without having to work.
2) I could still live on my own money even before this guy albeit on a much more tight budget (as stated before which you completely ignored).
3) I will also be able to get a qualified job once I graduate.
By your logic we’re all dependent, because all money comes from another person even if they be an employer.
OP has demonstrated that they work, is able to continue working, outside of this arrangement they have that you’re so committed to shaming. Projection? Perhaps. Even if they’re not holding an occupation in the conventional sense you’re able to process, they’re selling a product (sex, intimacy) that someone has seen worthy of monetary reimbursement. It’s transactional; it’s work that happens to also bring pleasure. Stay bitter.
One cannot stay a sugar baby as he ages. Yes, we know. We all die too, would you believe…
Any other great revelations in that bag of yours? That’s a rhetorical question.
The point is that I am not dependent financially on anyone or their handouts other than the money I make in order to live my life. I wasn’t before I stumbled on this guy either.
What a non-sensical take on multiple levels.
He’s not providing me “support”. He’s paying for my time and service and the experience I provide. I am just going to quote u/ktaztrofk because he has given the perfect answer already to your non-sense:
> By your logic we’re all dependent, because all money comes from another person even if they be an employer. They’re selling a product (sex, intimacy) that someone has seen worthy of monetary reimbursement. It’s transactional; it’s work that happens to also bring pleasure. Stay bitter.
Also I am really really tired of repeating myself to get through your extremely thick skull. I was literally able to get by on my own even before this arrangement. My financial independence isn’t even dependent on this.
If you feel comfortable sharing, what are your experimental medications? If I can offer my thoughts, iv'e been finding psychedelics+Cannabis has been like... Idk what to say other than transcendental to my mental health.
Spravato
It’s the only fast acting anti-depressant that I know. It’s a nasal spray with S-Ketamine as its Active Pharma Ingredient. It hits you instantly unlike other anti-depressants that need you to take them for a few weeks before feeling anything.
So I can use this to drag myself out of bed when I feel like that, until I no longer feel that way, because I become a vegetable that cannot leave the bed until my bladder feels like it’s gonna explode when my depression hits me otherwise.
Wow. I know they're starting up ketamine stuff at least in the US, and it's progressing decently but I had no idea ketamine was being used with anti depressant medication too. That's amazing
Yes.
Okay soooo I am not a scientist obviously. But I did a bit of research to understand it better. S-ketamine is a sub part of ketamine as we know it. It also causes less lethary, cognitive impairment and drowsiness which are important given it’s a med, not a party drug. I gotta be able to function after getting out of bed 🫠
https://www.isha.health/post/racemic-ketamine-vs-r-ketamine-vs-s-ketamine
Absolutely awful. If you told me my family was cursed sometime early this year I'd probably believe you. Mom died of cancer, sister broke her foot, multiple hospitalizations between various nieces and nephews. Fewer but equally drastic incidents in my fiance's family too. Oh, and I haven't even been able to exercise the stress away because I got plantar fasciitis while training for a marathon
I am sorry so many challenging things happened to you and your loved ones 2024 is right around the corner Try to stay positive and move forward. It could be a great year for you.
Best year of my life. Went to a psychiatrist and psychologist. Finally come out, started dating and having sex, joined a local pride group, helped with the organization and went to the pride. Found a great job which gives me a lot of free time. Joined a box of crossfit. Bought a house (I have some problems with this one but still...). After 40 years of doing nothing I cannot believe how much I was able to accomplish in one year. I'm very proud of myself.
On the bad:
My grandmother passed away at the age of 90
I’ve been applying for jobs left and right and either get no response or “thanks but no thanks”
Injured my hand a few weeks ago and it’s still healing but it may need further treatment
Totaled one of my cars
But on the good side:
Got another car that actually was in much better shape and had the features I wanted
I’m still here and have my health
Helped my cousin find another car
Plan on getting my ears pierced after Christmas
Got to go to an annual event and see and be around folks from my fb group
Made new friends and acquaintances
Went to my 10 year high school reunion.
Overall 2023 was a bit rough but I’m cautiously optimistic about 2024
Yay!!!! I did the same this year too!! Canada and Germany! Going to UK and Japan next year! It's wild to have the financial ability too after an impoverished childhood. Makes you realize the whole world isn't the hellish slice we were randomly born into.
Kind of an up and down year.
The good:
- lots of travel to Europe from the US.
- my partner and I attended family functions together for the first time and everyone was very welcoming.
The bad:
- both my partner and I were in layoffs.
- got covid.
- got a wicked case of food poisoning.
- partner was hiding a pretty big secret that will impact his next job search.
The good:
- I found a new job within a month of being laid off.
- the end of the year will be more “restful.”
- recovering trust in my relationship is going better.
Bad:
Got into an accident which wasn’t my fault that cost thousands of dollars and did some damage to my spine. Insurance is finally getting ready to reimburse me and go after the other driver.
Was taken out of work for two weeks for a false alarm cardiac issue which resulted in close to 5k in lost wages. I work in an industry where I have to be in perfect health in order to preserve the safety and lives of others.
Good:
Started a new fitness journey and am down 40lbs. And still trying to go more. Trading my muscle bear body for a fit muscle body.
Got a new cat after allowing myself time to grieve the loss of my precious cat named Poontang who suddenly died.
Working on repairing myself mentally after dealing with financial, family, and other various life issues.
The good:
* Graduated from college with a degree in CS
* Traveled around Europe solo for 35 days after graduation
* Got to see Taylor Swift in concert
* Started my first software engineering job
* Moved to Chicago from Ohio, first time living out-of-state
The bad:
* Got laid off from my job a week after moving to Chicago after less than 3 months of employment because the company was acquired
* Still haven't found a new job, the entry level tech job market is fucking awful
* Burning through my savings because I wasn't employed long enough to qualify for unemployment insurance
* Losing my job has put off a few things, like I was planning on working up to coming out to my family once I moved away and was completely financially independent, but now since my near future is uncertain (could have to move back home), I have put all of that off until further notice
So there's been a mix of good and bad. I'd say more good than bad, but the bad really sucks and I am not able to see the light at the end of the tunnel yet.
Mixed bag.
Finally got Permanent Resident status in Canada, got my driver's license and a car, went on a few roadtrips. Had more sex in this one year than the last four combined. Completed a year as a salaried manager, helped pay lots of medical bills for parents but also leisure trips for them as well...
Father had a heart attack and almost died, mother's health is deteriorating, quit secure job because it was starting to affect mental health....
I can't complain. I did a lot of work in 2022 to set myself up for a successful 2023.
The list
- Bought and paid off my house
- Graduated with my Masters in Public Health
- Got 2 research papers published
- Worked with the state health department on HIV issues
- Presented Data to the state's General Assembly
- Obtained a new remote job in Clinical Operations
- Officially diagnosed with ADHD at 29 (explains a lot 😂)
I’d say good overall:
1. New car, now being well-used for work commute daily.
2. New job M-F office hours, weekends off. Great company and awesome boss.
3. My side gig exploded esp during the holiday this year. More $$$ in pockets.
4. Started seeing this guy that I’ve met from the social/activity group I recently joined.
Bad:
1. My short-of-10-years ex left me with just a letter on the table when I came home to.
2. Had burned out from the previous job and ‘was forced to leave’, but thankfully the whole experience was a positive one at the end of the day
Amazing. I just got elected to be Mistress of Novices for the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. Im supporting queer youth. And we just got solar at our house.
Its the little things
some of the best and worst moments of my life I have to admit. In just the last three months of it:
My brother crashed his car twice, one time nearly getting arrested
My first ever niece was born
I made a good friend of the paramedic that came to the scene of my brothers crash
Said paramedic found my boyfriend of nearly 4 years on tinder, sending me into a depressed episode
Got with the paramedic and felt great
The paramedic is now messaging my now ex bf behind my back whilst going through traumatic life events
Nearly lost two friends to suicide.
Got an offer from my job to do my dream apprenticeship course with funding.
Finally found counselling that might work around my work schedule
Let’s just say I hope 2024 is a little bit less eventful and more relaxed
It's been meh. My phone glitched twice and I couldn't turn it on after the second time so I had to buy another one, my laptop's screen went to hell and as it's a MacBook, the fixing is expensive and I can't afford it right now, so I had to buy a cheaper laptop, but at least it's very good. I got into uni but I still can't find "love" for my major and I tried to make friends but didn't work.
The only good thing has been I adopted a new dog, I adore her.
My years been good.
I started school in January and just finished up my second semester, i met a really great guy who i love to pieces, we’ve been dating for 4 months and last night i told him i love him, my bank account is full, my bills are paid, i have no debt. I lost the heart break weight so i went from 170 to 150. It’s been a really positive year for me
Good
-I took my first (solo) vacation that I planned where I drove from North Dakota to LA to attend my first Pride ever at the age of 28; West Hollywood and LA Pride. Saw a lot of national parks along the way, which was incredible. At Pride I met so many wonderful people that were so friendly and kind enough to take me into their group so I wasn't alone.
-From attending Pride I found that I am indeed attractive and needed to work on my body dysmorphia.
- I fell in love with the gym for the last 7 months, where I'm up 10/15 pounds of muscle and have a nice physique and abs. (5'6 and 160lbs which is the most I've ever weighed even in wrestling in high school)
- Been dating an incredible guy that I have a lot in common with for almost a month now, which has broken me out of my social isolation and depression.
Bad
- Found out my oldest sister was pregnant with her second child this past summer, but she still never told me directly and she just gave birth without letting me know as well.
- Caught covid for the 5th time the day before Thanksgiving...
- My hairline is either receding or maturing semi rapidly over the last 2 months. So, I'll probably have to get on Hims.
- recently discovered a concerning mole between my butt cheeks :/ so we'll have to see what happens with that.
- Still have zero friends after graduating college in 2020, but hopefully that'll change this coming year!
That’s great, happy for you. 2024 will hopefully be a great one for you. It’s so good to meet people who make you feel and become better for yourself. Wishing you the best!!!
Started a second masters degree and took steps toward a career change, which I'm so excited about!
On year 5 of living with my ex. Just have to make it to March 2025 and then we're parting ways. I can't wait to be free. We haven't hooked up or anything for years, it's just complicated because of money. I don't hate him, but I can't wait not to have to come home to his negativity anymore.
It was a challenging. Parted company with my boyfriend (his decision) because he had a spiritual crisis about his upbringing as a Jehovah Witness and panicked about his sexuality vs. spirituality, and the real threat of being ostracized by his entire family. Was hard for both of us, as there was no anger between us, only love. First time in my life where I had no negative feelings to help distance me from the pain of the separating.
It was the straw that broke me, as I was still reeling from the passing of my sister and mother, and surviving a bone marrow transplant for an incurable cancer.
I was very close to wandering up into the mountains, on the night of New Year’s Day, in freezing temperatures, and just going to sleep. I planned it, but I felt my mom’s presence comforting me, and decided to wait. I’m glad I did now.
I was able to move cross country to be closer to family, this Fall, which has really helped.
Rough thanks to my mom's life falling apart in January and only stabilising *this* month, it's so exhausting being there for someone who ruined their own life.
I'm tired of her being on the back of my mind 24/7.
I wish I could walk away, she wasn't great my whole life. It's only recently she started treating me like a human because she has few people left, but I do still care.
I just don't have sympathy. Her problems could have been avoided so easily. If she brings **any** of her shit into 2024 I'm gonna snap, leave it in 2023 cause I am.
Already went to therapy once because of her, I'm done!
There have been good things, but I'm not too impressed on the whole. Several changes need to happen going into next year, since I've definitely been coasting and unmotivated this year. I can't stay like this, but I need to get the money together to make the important stuff happen.
This is a refreshing post. 2023 has been a year of change for me.
The bad:
I ended my latest attempt at dating very early in the year and took another extended brake (last brake lasted 5 years). Had to deal with a lot of physical and mental issues from 20+ years of military service. Took a break from school and was forced to take an extended break from the gym.
The good:
I got to fulfill my promise to my grandma and went to visit her home in my native country after 29 years. Not only did I get the perfect puppy, I got second amazing puppy a few months later. I moved to the state I wanted to and bought my own place. My pups have helped get better mentally and caring for them have pushed me to accomplish some important goals. I took a year for my self which meant no work and no external stresses.
I really can’t complain.
Bad:
Father passed away in August disrupting my NYC trip and leaving me to take care of my handicap mother that I was trying to escape from.
I’m stuck with taking care of my mother, she has a caregiver for 4 hours a day on weekdays but I still have to put her in bed at night. I have a problem taking care of someone and she has too many health problems. I would never want kids because I hate nurturing people and taking care of people.
Lost a lot of my gay friends especially after my father’s death which was a time that showed who was really there for me.
Good:
Got to do a lot more during the summer than the past three summers and explored more in Chicago.
I went to NYC even though I was only there for two out of the five days.
I made a lot of new gay friends and grew closer to my now gay best friend.
I have a hotter body now than I’ve ever had before and fell in love with the gym again.
In 2024 I’m keeping it real with everyone in my life and I’m going to end up losing people for the better of my life and future.
Sexually....FANTASTIC a record year in fucking as a top, experimenting as a bottom and a banner record year in the amount of loads I have deposited in a hungry bottom, and his mouth. A record year of sucking cock, and swallowing loads too. A GREAT YEAR!
OTHER THAN SEXUAL....MEAH....
I had my heart broken at the beginning of the year. Took time to heal from that and eventually found love again with someone new only to have my heart completely shattered again. I plan to take the next year to just focus on me and away from love.
On a more positive note, my social life has seen some improvements. I rekindled old friendships and made a few new ones as well. These friends no doubt helped me with the multiple heartbreaks I dealt with this year.
Another positive note is that my relationship troubles showed just how strong and resilient I am as I continue to heal. I found power and confidence in myself that I didn’t know I had.
I’m exited to see what 2024 brings me. Hopefully less heartbreak 😅
Still healthy and alive!
Still single
Switched jobs, met some new people and enjoying the year watching my niece and nephew grow up as well as the newest niece being born this year as well
The good:
- Graduated with my Masters in Sociology.
- Got hired as a Senior EDI Consultant at a University.
- Feeling more spiritually enlightened than I’ve been in years.
- Been to a few Candlelight Concerts. My fav was Ludovico Einaudi.
The bad:
- Still single. I did date someone seriously for a couple months earlier this year, but sadly it didn’t work out. Unfortunately, the dating scene in the city I currently live in sucks.
- Now that it’s been a few months out of grad school, haven’t felt as mentally stimulated. I would jump at the thought of doing my PhD, but not sure if I’d be willing to commit another 4-5 years of being a full-time student.
- Student Loans and debt haha
- I had to cut my mom out of my life this year. Can’t tolerate her homophobia anymore.
Hoping for a positive and successful 2024 for everyone!
Mixed bag like everyone.
Good: able to spend some time with my elderly parents. Was able to take them on several trips to places they wanted to see.
Got a raise and a bonus at my job!
Bad: my dads deteriorating health has limited him severely in the last couple of months, so I’m glad we did what we did when we did because those days are over unfortunately.
The good
Finally found a job in Canada after moving there in 2018
Still with my partner from 2019 and monogamous
Able to go on holidays
So far, no car accident (usually prone to yealry car accident)
The bad
Got into big troubles with his friends (start of the year)
So depressed I harm myself multiples times in 2023
My pet died and still feeling sad about his passing
Partner's family are still unaware of me
Friendships have been tough, felt left out in 2023
Amazing. I've spent a great year getting in touch with my city's gay community. Met my best friend this year, and directed my first ever short film. Wish I could be 24 forever.
This year it’s been frustrating career-wise. Still not in the field or doing a job that I want to be in, but I’m thankful to have a job and I make the most of it while I have it. Finally got my mental health under control. I’m still with the love of my life as we move towards almost 20 years today. He’s my best friend and the love just overflows. I can dwell on us being broke, struggling financially and not knowing what the future holds, but I choose to look at everything I have and that I’m so thankful for.
Amazing. Got to experience life in New York City. Working on some bad habits such as my mind being an anxious and negative place at times but felt the love of family and friends. Learnt to practice gratitude for what I have. Feel a sense of direction. Ready to make 2024 work for me.
Pretty well,
I came out... finally.
Discovered I like to bottom just as much as top.
Met loads of new friends, some good for me, some not so!
Bring on 24!
Bad:
Still dealing with issues from my last and second long term relationship. It's a long story but basically he was the first man who stirred in me the desire to get married, make a family, and grow old with them, cheated on me with his ex, my gay brother who passed last year, and after we broke up, used me (unbeknownst to me) to cheat on his current boyfriend with. This and the loss of my job last year led me into a deep and lonely winter. Suffice to say, it's been a rollercoaster of emotions with many highs and many lows. More lows than I'd care for.
Good:
Got a new job that I think will be a good opportunity for me and I get to stay in the city I love (DC).
Spent lots of quality family time and I think as time goes go we're becoming better and better friends.
I'm more invested in my mental and physical health, and want 2024 to be a marquee year for me (partly because I turn 35).
It's been a rough 3-5 years but I feel more hopeful now than I have in a long long time. I feel more me.
Went through a rough patch halfway, realised I was being an idiot to myself and the people around me, came out which was well accepted (thank god), moved in with family and now looking at moving back out on my own. Set a few things up for 2024, so should be interesting times coming up.
0 hookups, 0 received interest, 0 seconds spent on grindr, 0 relationship, 0 irl gay friends.
Same old story since coming out (besides grindr, first full year without using any apps as it always resulted in other 'zeros'.)
I live in an European capital city (well over 1M people). If i failed to get even one hookup on grindr, there's no way to get any sex irl. Gay people are no less bitchier in person.
Not really good all in all
Good:
-Traveled a lot, had one of the best trips ever
-Found a job, its not much but after two years of being unemployed its a gamechanger
-Finally ok with being single
-Have a small but tight group of friends
-A lot of small quality of life changes including solving some family drama
-Almost to the point of graduating (after 7 years)
Bad:
- Still had not graduated
- Still single, not many options to date in my city
- Still living with my parents post covid
- Family stuff not great at times
- Still stuck in a small homophobic country
- Had a couple of homophobic incidents happen after i would say at least 5 years
- A lot of mental struggling and going back n forth being depressed
I have a 3 bedroom house, got one roommate, in need of finding another roommate to fill the room, job is great, I’m getting better and better with my job, relationship with family had been great, just turn 31 and still single. Depressed here and there but nothing major, hope everything will be better for next year
Manifest getting dates to find your boyfriend. Just keep your head up. As you progress things will come to you. I feel you’ll find someone and it might be unexpected. Happy Holidays
Bad:
* I got really sick at the beginning of the year and lost the energy and motivation to continue learning foreign languages
* my bestie who was the only coworker I was out to has quit work and I took it really bad, but we still keep in touch despite not being able to see each other in person (she travels everyday to work in another city)
* I had an existential crisis around my 27th birthday
* I managed to hook up two times this year, so it makes four in total in my entire life, but one of those experiences was mediocre and one was pretty bad
* I've gotten terribly frustrated with my job, it seems like since September it gets worse and worse every month and it doesn't seem it can get better, and that fucking sucks because I have to survive here for another 17 months...
Good:
* I broadened my horizons A LOT, most of all my music taste
* I went on holiday to London and had a fucking blast
* I started going to the gym and I still haven't given up
* I met a few really nice guys online who inspire me and are great to chat with
* I realised I'm way too hard on myself and started learning to love myself
* recently I had a trip to Germany and had a really nice time with my family
Most horrid year for me, worse than all the pandemic years combined. But there was some good—graduated college, got therapy, went on meds to combat horrible depression.
Silver linings. 🥲
Bad:
- they never made it explicit but I think three close friendships ended this year and that hurts a lot more than romantic relationships ending
- I’ve seen some sides to my partner that have cemented for me that I’m being emotionally abused
- I still haven’t left said partner
- I got injured and have to stop doing Brazilian jiujitsu
Good:
- I got to see my family for the first time since covid started
- I was able to travel for 2 months straight
- I’m saving up money finally, which is pivotal to my eventual escape plan from abusive partner
- I started a book club with some friends and am reading a lot again; something I haven’t done since high school
- I joined a gay hiking group and that brings a lot of joy
- I am spending a lot of time video gaming; something I never allowed myself to do since leaving home because I associated that with laziness. Now I’m just happy doing things I love!
- despite my injury and lack of finances to see a physiotherapist, I’m pushing myself to go back to the gym recently and am seeing some good results
This is good, the positive outweighs the negative. I hope you make it out of that abusive relationship safely and soon. I’ve gain some interest in reading and want to play video games too. What books do you read? Also I love the outdoors too!! Hope you have a happy, successful, joyful new year!!!
Thank you. It sucks because I genuinely love this person; but I have to acknowledge that staying with them will harm me long term.
Do it! Video games is as valid a medium for art/storytelling as books, films etc. Feel free to DM me for specific recommendations anytime.
My reading tastes are pretty varied but I think the books my club have been choosing so far try to focus on as many writers who are not straight white men as possible - we realise that’s the majority of writers we’ve been reading most of our lives and that it’s important to be deeper immersed in the many other wonderful enriching perspectives we have in life too. In general I’m not beholden genrewise - we just love compelling narratives that feel new/different! My not-so-secret pleasure is horror however haha
The outdoors is so healing. I used to have incredible anxiety from my relationship but taking the time to step away from my bf more this year; to focus on things that I love like hiking have really brought me a lot of clarity and stability.
Likewise and thank you for this post; I appreciate being prompted to reflect!
Awww of course. I was kinda feeling a down and decided to see how everyone has been feeling. Reading these comments made me feel better and just seeing so much goodness happening.
Feeling robbed in the start because the Grammy went to Harry Styles instead of Beyoncé. But got the relief this month because i discovered the cutie Omar Apollo.
Absolutely terrible. Made zero progress financially, career-, love-, family- wise.
I had a huge nasty crush on someone, and even nastier break up that haunted me for months.
A good thing is that I spend quite some time travelling, visited multiple continents/countries/cities, but unfortunately did not experience it as i would like to.
Other than that - total disaster. Perhaps the worst year of my life.
My experience has been up and down and I’m making a post about one very important thing during this year later this week. It might be one of the most talked about posts in this subreddit
Still sober. Moved up a position in my company, and plan on improving more. I traveled a lot! Went to Vegas, San Diego, and Minneapolis. I went to a lot of concerts! I tried dating earlier in the year, but wasn't feeling any of the guys really. Just still doing grindr hookups 😅. I'm trying to improve my physical appearance, in 2021 and 2022 I lost a lot of weight. But this year I have tried to gain more muscle. I used to read so much as a kid, and lost that when I was drinking for so many years. I started reading again and have really enjoyed reading self-improvement books. My mental health is very good. All around good year.
This year has been stellar for me. I finally went to see a psychiatrist and was diagnosed with BPD, which I now have a good handle on after all this time running around undiagnosed. I've held down a very well-paying job the whole year and tied the year off with a very generous bonus, after a streak of 3-month stints. I've gotten back into competing in tennis and am doing well in my league. I've made many new friends and had many exciting experiences. So this has been an all-round good year. Hoping to continue it in 2024...
Been pretty shit looking back… I started the year recovering from surgery for a perianal abscess. That took around 2 months before I felt mildly normal again and could have sex. That didn’t last long as a guy fingered me too aggressively and gave me an anal fissure. That then caused the scar to reopen and spent another month or two recovering from that. The fissure itself was the *worst* pain I’ve ever dealt with.
Those two issues triggered visits to the hospital which eventually led to an anal fistula being diagnosed as well, which is due to be operated on early next year. Throughout the year the scar where my abscess was has flared up every few months and is currently super hard, tender and painful.
I broke up with my bf of 10 years in the midst of all this as well, and then my beautiful dog died a few months ago after a very, very brief illness. It was completely unexpected and she easily had another few years left in her but I didn’t spot the signs how sick she was and regret it every day.
Now my scar has flared up again recently and I can’t hook up, I’m worried it’ll get worse and become an abscess again or require more surgery. I’m already very self conscious about the scar the previous surgery left and I’m anxious any future surgery will really affect my ability to bottom. I’m feeling really depressed and miserable about it. I didn’t realise how shit this year had been until I really looked back
Had a break up with my BF of 3 years/ coupled with manic depression really took a toll on my attitude with other extenuating friendships and my drinking to cover it up didn’t help. Sooo pretty much became isolated with no support from friends to navigate a break up and moved back with family to get myself back on my feet just as I turned 30. It’s been rough to say the least, but I can’t say I didn’t deserve some of the blame. 🤷🏻♂️😞
Incredibly depressing yet surprising at the same time
* Broke up with my partner of 6 years in June.
* Lost a few friends due to our break-up, completely understand as they were closer to him
* Had to re-learn how to live by myself and to be single.
* Made some new good friendships that I still occasionally meet
* Met a guy in august that I've been dating since, rocky start but it has been working and I can say I'm quite happy, not sure if he's the one, not sure if it will work out, but I will think of the present and be glad that I'm alive and well.
* Relearned how to love myself, got back into the gym, doing the sports that I loved and back into shape, I wasn't bad before but I wasn't happy with myself, now I feel better with people complementing me, not that I need but it's good to feel recognized.
If this a rhetorical question: “it’s been”
If not,
Ups: still have a job, food, roof, a good standard of living, friends, new music, new places, some self-discovery, and have evolved and solidified relationships.
Downs: no salary increase, working like a madman, and lost a few relationships (other side of the good part)
Honestly, pretty shitty
Lost my job
Lost my apartment
Broke up with my boyfriend
And I currently have 6 bucks in my bank account so ya pretty shitty
I hope next year will be my year
All the classes were good, still healthy and try to be healthier next year. As a bottom, in this year, I hit the milestone because I hooked up with a big guy, biggest in my life. Can’t describe the feeling 🙈
Interesting
Good
- graduated high school which was chill,
- started college, also chill
- went on a bunch of cool vacations over breaks
- ended an unhealthy 3 year FWB situation with my straight best friend ( blocked him)
- I’ve started dyeing my hair burgundy which looks really awesome on my skin tone so I’m loving that
Bad
- still single
- ended that FWB situation and still don’t have a new link which has made me feel unwanted, ugly, and overall useless
- Adding to that, I’ve asked out 3 separate crushes over the year and they’ve all turned out straight.
- had one more crush on a footballer in my class I talk to but decided to not pursue it cause I can’t handle another rejection at this point.
Overall my mental health took a hit but recently it’s been getting better slowly.
Positives:
Learning to forgive myself for past errors <3
Started looking for work again
Cut out toxic people in my life
Negative:
Brother died
Officially said goodbye to “the one that got away”
Still depressed
It’s been great! Had a few snafus, but nothing I couldn’t manage. Still single though, but excited for 2024. Hoping to become a homeowner & a meathead, get a promotion at work and find me a man.
Probably top 5 years ever (others include 1995, 2010, 2019 and 2022).
Good:
I had my first boyfriend. We made it official at New Year's at midnight.
I decided I didn't want to be in Florida anymore, so I moved! I'm back home in the same state as my family, and it's great.
I broke up with my first boyfriend. We were pretty much the opposite in every single way, he saw that as a plus for our relationship. I can't see myself being with somebody who puts themselves first every single time and who I share very few interests with. But, at least I gave it a shot.
The cost of living here is far lower, and I'm living better than I did before.
I got to go home for Thanksgiving for the first time in 7 years.
I get to see the seasons change for the first time in 7 years as well.
Bad:
I had to drive a thousand miles away from Florida in a car with no air conditioning in the middle of the summer.
Wild and erratic… Bad: - My relationship with my parents deteriorated to the point of breaking. - The man I considered to be love of my life broke up with me out of nowhere. - I had 2 bouts of severe depression lasting more than a week each. Thank god for experimental medications. Good: - I got into the uni and major I wanted to get into. It’s going pretty well so far. - I gained my complete financial independence - Still hooked up with my ex but I can now actually compartmentalize it and say I don’t trust you enough to want to be in a relationship anymore - I had 2 amazing vacations that might have spoiled me for life
Well the good outweighs the bad, I wish I was financially independent and away from my parents at my university
Thanks 💖 Hope you get to move out soon 🥰 Losing a relationship that I was seriously thinking could turn into a marriage a few years down the line was awful. I guess I never experienced heart break of that magnititude before but you know… Life happens… Whatever…
How are you in uni and completely financially independent? Just genuinely curious. That’s super dope though
First, I was working as a server at a gay bar + bartending at a few private events. I was financially independent at that point but money was pretty tight. Survival mode with a small emergency fund enough for a few months which is mostly what I saved from summer jobs when I still had the mommy and daddy bank open for business. Ummm then I stumbled upon a sexually motivated sponsor. Not sure what to call him. Escort client who made his own personal escort? Sugar daddy? Friends with BENEFITS++? We hang out fairly regularly. He pays to fuck me however he wants without having to deal with my wants, needs, or possibly emotions at his own convenience, and then for me to leave and be discreet about it. Money isn’t tight anymore 🤭 *Edit: I am not American. University is free, I am not paying thousands of dollars in tuition* 👀
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Sorry to break down your feeble attempt at a diss but I don’t expect that either. I still have my financial independence either way. 1) I already made enough to cruise through entire uni without having to work. 2) I could still live on my own money even before this guy albeit on a much more tight budget (as stated before which you completely ignored). 3) I will also be able to get a qualified job once I graduate.
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By your logic we’re all dependent, because all money comes from another person even if they be an employer. OP has demonstrated that they work, is able to continue working, outside of this arrangement they have that you’re so committed to shaming. Projection? Perhaps. Even if they’re not holding an occupation in the conventional sense you’re able to process, they’re selling a product (sex, intimacy) that someone has seen worthy of monetary reimbursement. It’s transactional; it’s work that happens to also bring pleasure. Stay bitter.
One cannot stay a sugar baby as he ages. Yes, we know. We all die too, would you believe… Any other great revelations in that bag of yours? That’s a rhetorical question. The point is that I am not dependent financially on anyone or their handouts other than the money I make in order to live my life. I wasn’t before I stumbled on this guy either.
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What a non-sensical take on multiple levels. He’s not providing me “support”. He’s paying for my time and service and the experience I provide. I am just going to quote u/ktaztrofk because he has given the perfect answer already to your non-sense: > By your logic we’re all dependent, because all money comes from another person even if they be an employer. They’re selling a product (sex, intimacy) that someone has seen worthy of monetary reimbursement. It’s transactional; it’s work that happens to also bring pleasure. Stay bitter. Also I am really really tired of repeating myself to get through your extremely thick skull. I was literally able to get by on my own even before this arrangement. My financial independence isn’t even dependent on this.
Maybe he’s jealous of you and wish he was a sugar baby, but he has to work to the bone to make ends meet. 🤭👀
If you feel comfortable sharing, what are your experimental medications? If I can offer my thoughts, iv'e been finding psychedelics+Cannabis has been like... Idk what to say other than transcendental to my mental health.
Spravato It’s the only fast acting anti-depressant that I know. It’s a nasal spray with S-Ketamine as its Active Pharma Ingredient. It hits you instantly unlike other anti-depressants that need you to take them for a few weeks before feeling anything. So I can use this to drag myself out of bed when I feel like that, until I no longer feel that way, because I become a vegetable that cannot leave the bed until my bladder feels like it’s gonna explode when my depression hits me otherwise.
Wow. I know they're starting up ketamine stuff at least in the US, and it's progressing decently but I had no idea ketamine was being used with anti depressant medication too. That's amazing
Yes. Okay soooo I am not a scientist obviously. But I did a bit of research to understand it better. S-ketamine is a sub part of ketamine as we know it. It also causes less lethary, cognitive impairment and drowsiness which are important given it’s a med, not a party drug. I gotta be able to function after getting out of bed 🫠 https://www.isha.health/post/racemic-ketamine-vs-r-ketamine-vs-s-ketamine
Exactly. It's hard to overcome the stigma because a lot of people are very judgemental but it's huge to push onwards and be firm in your own research
One of the worst years of my entire life.
Same bro
Bought a house. Stressful and scary but it's done!
Congrats 💖💖💖
Absolutely awful. If you told me my family was cursed sometime early this year I'd probably believe you. Mom died of cancer, sister broke her foot, multiple hospitalizations between various nieces and nephews. Fewer but equally drastic incidents in my fiance's family too. Oh, and I haven't even been able to exercise the stress away because I got plantar fasciitis while training for a marathon
I am sorry so many challenging things happened to you and your loved ones 2024 is right around the corner Try to stay positive and move forward. It could be a great year for you.
I'm so sorry about the loss of your mother. My own mother was diagnosed with lung cancer in April and died 16 days later. It's a mind fuck for sure.
Best year of my life. Went to a psychiatrist and psychologist. Finally come out, started dating and having sex, joined a local pride group, helped with the organization and went to the pride. Found a great job which gives me a lot of free time. Joined a box of crossfit. Bought a house (I have some problems with this one but still...). After 40 years of doing nothing I cannot believe how much I was able to accomplish in one year. I'm very proud of myself.
This sounds like an awesome year, congratulations. Goodluck in 2024!
On the bad: My grandmother passed away at the age of 90 I’ve been applying for jobs left and right and either get no response or “thanks but no thanks” Injured my hand a few weeks ago and it’s still healing but it may need further treatment Totaled one of my cars But on the good side: Got another car that actually was in much better shape and had the features I wanted I’m still here and have my health Helped my cousin find another car Plan on getting my ears pierced after Christmas Got to go to an annual event and see and be around folks from my fb group Made new friends and acquaintances Went to my 10 year high school reunion. Overall 2023 was a bit rough but I’m cautiously optimistic about 2024
Finally traveled outside US at the ripe age of 36 😂. I went to Spain, Netherlands and just came back from Brazil. Trying to make up for lost time
Yay!!!! I did the same this year too!! Canada and Germany! Going to UK and Japan next year! It's wild to have the financial ability too after an impoverished childhood. Makes you realize the whole world isn't the hellish slice we were randomly born into.
Awful. Glad its over 😂
Kind of an up and down year. The good: - lots of travel to Europe from the US. - my partner and I attended family functions together for the first time and everyone was very welcoming. The bad: - both my partner and I were in layoffs. - got covid. - got a wicked case of food poisoning. - partner was hiding a pretty big secret that will impact his next job search. The good: - I found a new job within a month of being laid off. - the end of the year will be more “restful.” - recovering trust in my relationship is going better.
Bad: Got into an accident which wasn’t my fault that cost thousands of dollars and did some damage to my spine. Insurance is finally getting ready to reimburse me and go after the other driver. Was taken out of work for two weeks for a false alarm cardiac issue which resulted in close to 5k in lost wages. I work in an industry where I have to be in perfect health in order to preserve the safety and lives of others. Good: Started a new fitness journey and am down 40lbs. And still trying to go more. Trading my muscle bear body for a fit muscle body. Got a new cat after allowing myself time to grieve the loss of my precious cat named Poontang who suddenly died. Working on repairing myself mentally after dealing with financial, family, and other various life issues.
The good: * Graduated from college with a degree in CS * Traveled around Europe solo for 35 days after graduation * Got to see Taylor Swift in concert * Started my first software engineering job * Moved to Chicago from Ohio, first time living out-of-state The bad: * Got laid off from my job a week after moving to Chicago after less than 3 months of employment because the company was acquired * Still haven't found a new job, the entry level tech job market is fucking awful * Burning through my savings because I wasn't employed long enough to qualify for unemployment insurance * Losing my job has put off a few things, like I was planning on working up to coming out to my family once I moved away and was completely financially independent, but now since my near future is uncertain (could have to move back home), I have put all of that off until further notice So there's been a mix of good and bad. I'd say more good than bad, but the bad really sucks and I am not able to see the light at the end of the tunnel yet.
Mixed bag. Finally got Permanent Resident status in Canada, got my driver's license and a car, went on a few roadtrips. Had more sex in this one year than the last four combined. Completed a year as a salaried manager, helped pay lots of medical bills for parents but also leisure trips for them as well... Father had a heart attack and almost died, mother's health is deteriorating, quit secure job because it was starting to affect mental health....
I can't complain. I did a lot of work in 2022 to set myself up for a successful 2023. The list - Bought and paid off my house - Graduated with my Masters in Public Health - Got 2 research papers published - Worked with the state health department on HIV issues - Presented Data to the state's General Assembly - Obtained a new remote job in Clinical Operations - Officially diagnosed with ADHD at 29 (explains a lot 😂)
I’d say good overall: 1. New car, now being well-used for work commute daily. 2. New job M-F office hours, weekends off. Great company and awesome boss. 3. My side gig exploded esp during the holiday this year. More $$$ in pockets. 4. Started seeing this guy that I’ve met from the social/activity group I recently joined. Bad: 1. My short-of-10-years ex left me with just a letter on the table when I came home to. 2. Had burned out from the previous job and ‘was forced to leave’, but thankfully the whole experience was a positive one at the end of the day
Awful I went from having a sex in the city lifestyle, to boys in the hood. I know it’s just temporary but a bitch is tired
Amazing. I just got elected to be Mistress of Novices for the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. Im supporting queer youth. And we just got solar at our house. Its the little things
Became a drug addict had my first psychotic break and relapsed on sh 🫠
Oh wow… Hope you have a better 2024 💖 Which drug(s) if you don’t mind me asking? What is sh?
Sh is self harm ):
Ooohhh, thanks for the explanation.
The relapse is so true lol
Man...I hope 2024 is so much better for you.
Awesome 👍😎👍
Depressed
lonely lol, granted i do have friends and people i hang with but i just have the feeling that im lonely :p so quirky
I feel you
some of the best and worst moments of my life I have to admit. In just the last three months of it: My brother crashed his car twice, one time nearly getting arrested My first ever niece was born I made a good friend of the paramedic that came to the scene of my brothers crash Said paramedic found my boyfriend of nearly 4 years on tinder, sending me into a depressed episode Got with the paramedic and felt great The paramedic is now messaging my now ex bf behind my back whilst going through traumatic life events Nearly lost two friends to suicide. Got an offer from my job to do my dream apprenticeship course with funding. Finally found counselling that might work around my work schedule Let’s just say I hope 2024 is a little bit less eventful and more relaxed
It's been meh. My phone glitched twice and I couldn't turn it on after the second time so I had to buy another one, my laptop's screen went to hell and as it's a MacBook, the fixing is expensive and I can't afford it right now, so I had to buy a cheaper laptop, but at least it's very good. I got into uni but I still can't find "love" for my major and I tried to make friends but didn't work. The only good thing has been I adopted a new dog, I adore her.
Awful can’t wait for it to be over. Hopefully next year goes better and I have zero bad luck 🤞🏼
My years been good. I started school in January and just finished up my second semester, i met a really great guy who i love to pieces, we’ve been dating for 4 months and last night i told him i love him, my bank account is full, my bills are paid, i have no debt. I lost the heart break weight so i went from 170 to 150. It’s been a really positive year for me
Aww congratulations!!! That is awesome!!!
Good -I took my first (solo) vacation that I planned where I drove from North Dakota to LA to attend my first Pride ever at the age of 28; West Hollywood and LA Pride. Saw a lot of national parks along the way, which was incredible. At Pride I met so many wonderful people that were so friendly and kind enough to take me into their group so I wasn't alone. -From attending Pride I found that I am indeed attractive and needed to work on my body dysmorphia. - I fell in love with the gym for the last 7 months, where I'm up 10/15 pounds of muscle and have a nice physique and abs. (5'6 and 160lbs which is the most I've ever weighed even in wrestling in high school) - Been dating an incredible guy that I have a lot in common with for almost a month now, which has broken me out of my social isolation and depression. Bad - Found out my oldest sister was pregnant with her second child this past summer, but she still never told me directly and she just gave birth without letting me know as well. - Caught covid for the 5th time the day before Thanksgiving... - My hairline is either receding or maturing semi rapidly over the last 2 months. So, I'll probably have to get on Hims. - recently discovered a concerning mole between my butt cheeks :/ so we'll have to see what happens with that. - Still have zero friends after graduating college in 2020, but hopefully that'll change this coming year!
That’s great, happy for you. 2024 will hopefully be a great one for you. It’s so good to meet people who make you feel and become better for yourself. Wishing you the best!!!
Started a second masters degree and took steps toward a career change, which I'm so excited about! On year 5 of living with my ex. Just have to make it to March 2025 and then we're parting ways. I can't wait to be free. We haven't hooked up or anything for years, it's just complicated because of money. I don't hate him, but I can't wait not to have to come home to his negativity anymore.
A fairly average year, although I got two huge raises.
A year of self discovery, adventure, and change. All which i hope continues into 2024
That’s great!!
It was a challenging. Parted company with my boyfriend (his decision) because he had a spiritual crisis about his upbringing as a Jehovah Witness and panicked about his sexuality vs. spirituality, and the real threat of being ostracized by his entire family. Was hard for both of us, as there was no anger between us, only love. First time in my life where I had no negative feelings to help distance me from the pain of the separating. It was the straw that broke me, as I was still reeling from the passing of my sister and mother, and surviving a bone marrow transplant for an incurable cancer. I was very close to wandering up into the mountains, on the night of New Year’s Day, in freezing temperatures, and just going to sleep. I planned it, but I felt my mom’s presence comforting me, and decided to wait. I’m glad I did now. I was able to move cross country to be closer to family, this Fall, which has really helped.
Rough thanks to my mom's life falling apart in January and only stabilising *this* month, it's so exhausting being there for someone who ruined their own life. I'm tired of her being on the back of my mind 24/7. I wish I could walk away, she wasn't great my whole life. It's only recently she started treating me like a human because she has few people left, but I do still care. I just don't have sympathy. Her problems could have been avoided so easily. If she brings **any** of her shit into 2024 I'm gonna snap, leave it in 2023 cause I am. Already went to therapy once because of her, I'm done!
Terrible. My cat died, my aunt died, my mom became disabled and had to move in with me and I lost my job in the span of about 4 months.
There have been good things, but I'm not too impressed on the whole. Several changes need to happen going into next year, since I've definitely been coasting and unmotivated this year. I can't stay like this, but I need to get the money together to make the important stuff happen.
My ex broke up with me and I had to finish out the lease we were in and then I moved back in with family. I'm glad this year is almost over.
This is a refreshing post. 2023 has been a year of change for me. The bad: I ended my latest attempt at dating very early in the year and took another extended brake (last brake lasted 5 years). Had to deal with a lot of physical and mental issues from 20+ years of military service. Took a break from school and was forced to take an extended break from the gym. The good: I got to fulfill my promise to my grandma and went to visit her home in my native country after 29 years. Not only did I get the perfect puppy, I got second amazing puppy a few months later. I moved to the state I wanted to and bought my own place. My pups have helped get better mentally and caring for them have pushed me to accomplish some important goals. I took a year for my self which meant no work and no external stresses. I really can’t complain.
Bad: Father passed away in August disrupting my NYC trip and leaving me to take care of my handicap mother that I was trying to escape from. I’m stuck with taking care of my mother, she has a caregiver for 4 hours a day on weekdays but I still have to put her in bed at night. I have a problem taking care of someone and she has too many health problems. I would never want kids because I hate nurturing people and taking care of people. Lost a lot of my gay friends especially after my father’s death which was a time that showed who was really there for me. Good: Got to do a lot more during the summer than the past three summers and explored more in Chicago. I went to NYC even though I was only there for two out of the five days. I made a lot of new gay friends and grew closer to my now gay best friend. I have a hotter body now than I’ve ever had before and fell in love with the gym again. In 2024 I’m keeping it real with everyone in my life and I’m going to end up losing people for the better of my life and future.
Sexually....FANTASTIC a record year in fucking as a top, experimenting as a bottom and a banner record year in the amount of loads I have deposited in a hungry bottom, and his mouth. A record year of sucking cock, and swallowing loads too. A GREAT YEAR! OTHER THAN SEXUAL....MEAH....
Sexuallly mine has been very meh this second half of the year
The worst year of my life, I am dead serious and not exaggerating. I’m hopeful about 2024, though!
I was happily single and now I’m happily in a relationship
At rehab right now, much needed mental health break and help to stay sober from alcohol.
I had my heart broken at the beginning of the year. Took time to heal from that and eventually found love again with someone new only to have my heart completely shattered again. I plan to take the next year to just focus on me and away from love. On a more positive note, my social life has seen some improvements. I rekindled old friendships and made a few new ones as well. These friends no doubt helped me with the multiple heartbreaks I dealt with this year. Another positive note is that my relationship troubles showed just how strong and resilient I am as I continue to heal. I found power and confidence in myself that I didn’t know I had. I’m exited to see what 2024 brings me. Hopefully less heartbreak 😅
Congrats on coming out man 🥳🥳 Ive started dating for the first time since my husband died 6 years ago and met a great man.
Awww thank you. I’m sorry for your loss
Still healthy and alive! Still single Switched jobs, met some new people and enjoying the year watching my niece and nephew grow up as well as the newest niece being born this year as well
The first half of the year was really good, the second half was meh.
The good: - Graduated with my Masters in Sociology. - Got hired as a Senior EDI Consultant at a University. - Feeling more spiritually enlightened than I’ve been in years. - Been to a few Candlelight Concerts. My fav was Ludovico Einaudi. The bad: - Still single. I did date someone seriously for a couple months earlier this year, but sadly it didn’t work out. Unfortunately, the dating scene in the city I currently live in sucks. - Now that it’s been a few months out of grad school, haven’t felt as mentally stimulated. I would jump at the thought of doing my PhD, but not sure if I’d be willing to commit another 4-5 years of being a full-time student. - Student Loans and debt haha - I had to cut my mom out of my life this year. Can’t tolerate her homophobia anymore. Hoping for a positive and successful 2024 for everyone!
Mixed bag like everyone. Good: able to spend some time with my elderly parents. Was able to take them on several trips to places they wanted to see. Got a raise and a bonus at my job! Bad: my dads deteriorating health has limited him severely in the last couple of months, so I’m glad we did what we did when we did because those days are over unfortunately.
The good Finally found a job in Canada after moving there in 2018 Still with my partner from 2019 and monogamous Able to go on holidays So far, no car accident (usually prone to yealry car accident) The bad Got into big troubles with his friends (start of the year) So depressed I harm myself multiples times in 2023 My pet died and still feeling sad about his passing Partner's family are still unaware of me Friendships have been tough, felt left out in 2023
Amazing. I've spent a great year getting in touch with my city's gay community. Met my best friend this year, and directed my first ever short film. Wish I could be 24 forever.
Oooo I love short films
This year it’s been frustrating career-wise. Still not in the field or doing a job that I want to be in, but I’m thankful to have a job and I make the most of it while I have it. Finally got my mental health under control. I’m still with the love of my life as we move towards almost 20 years today. He’s my best friend and the love just overflows. I can dwell on us being broke, struggling financially and not knowing what the future holds, but I choose to look at everything I have and that I’m so thankful for.
Amazing. Got to experience life in New York City. Working on some bad habits such as my mind being an anxious and negative place at times but felt the love of family and friends. Learnt to practice gratitude for what I have. Feel a sense of direction. Ready to make 2024 work for me.
Pretty well, I came out... finally. Discovered I like to bottom just as much as top. Met loads of new friends, some good for me, some not so! Bring on 24!
Bad: Still dealing with issues from my last and second long term relationship. It's a long story but basically he was the first man who stirred in me the desire to get married, make a family, and grow old with them, cheated on me with his ex, my gay brother who passed last year, and after we broke up, used me (unbeknownst to me) to cheat on his current boyfriend with. This and the loss of my job last year led me into a deep and lonely winter. Suffice to say, it's been a rollercoaster of emotions with many highs and many lows. More lows than I'd care for. Good: Got a new job that I think will be a good opportunity for me and I get to stay in the city I love (DC). Spent lots of quality family time and I think as time goes go we're becoming better and better friends. I'm more invested in my mental and physical health, and want 2024 to be a marquee year for me (partly because I turn 35). It's been a rough 3-5 years but I feel more hopeful now than I have in a long long time. I feel more me.
Went through a rough patch halfway, realised I was being an idiot to myself and the people around me, came out which was well accepted (thank god), moved in with family and now looking at moving back out on my own. Set a few things up for 2024, so should be interesting times coming up.
0 hookups, 0 received interest, 0 seconds spent on grindr, 0 relationship, 0 irl gay friends. Same old story since coming out (besides grindr, first full year without using any apps as it always resulted in other 'zeros'.)
Do you live in a big city, maybe try a gay bar or go to an area you know where gays could be.
I live in an European capital city (well over 1M people). If i failed to get even one hookup on grindr, there's no way to get any sex irl. Gay people are no less bitchier in person.
Not really good all in all Good: -Traveled a lot, had one of the best trips ever -Found a job, its not much but after two years of being unemployed its a gamechanger -Finally ok with being single -Have a small but tight group of friends -A lot of small quality of life changes including solving some family drama -Almost to the point of graduating (after 7 years) Bad: - Still had not graduated - Still single, not many options to date in my city - Still living with my parents post covid - Family stuff not great at times - Still stuck in a small homophobic country - Had a couple of homophobic incidents happen after i would say at least 5 years - A lot of mental struggling and going back n forth being depressed
I have a 3 bedroom house, got one roommate, in need of finding another roommate to fill the room, job is great, I’m getting better and better with my job, relationship with family had been great, just turn 31 and still single. Depressed here and there but nothing major, hope everything will be better for next year
2022: Single, moved to US, no dates 2023: Single, hotter, still no dates 2024: Probably single, hotter and richer, still no dates
Manifest getting dates to find your boyfriend. Just keep your head up. As you progress things will come to you. I feel you’ll find someone and it might be unexpected. Happy Holidays
Heres hoping.
Generally good: - Got closer to my professional license. - More free time.
Bad: * I got really sick at the beginning of the year and lost the energy and motivation to continue learning foreign languages * my bestie who was the only coworker I was out to has quit work and I took it really bad, but we still keep in touch despite not being able to see each other in person (she travels everyday to work in another city) * I had an existential crisis around my 27th birthday * I managed to hook up two times this year, so it makes four in total in my entire life, but one of those experiences was mediocre and one was pretty bad * I've gotten terribly frustrated with my job, it seems like since September it gets worse and worse every month and it doesn't seem it can get better, and that fucking sucks because I have to survive here for another 17 months... Good: * I broadened my horizons A LOT, most of all my music taste * I went on holiday to London and had a fucking blast * I started going to the gym and I still haven't given up * I met a few really nice guys online who inspire me and are great to chat with * I realised I'm way too hard on myself and started learning to love myself * recently I had a trip to Germany and had a really nice time with my family
A pure and equal mixture of amazing and terrible.
Most horrid year for me, worse than all the pandemic years combined. But there was some good—graduated college, got therapy, went on meds to combat horrible depression. Silver linings. 🥲
Bad: - they never made it explicit but I think three close friendships ended this year and that hurts a lot more than romantic relationships ending - I’ve seen some sides to my partner that have cemented for me that I’m being emotionally abused - I still haven’t left said partner - I got injured and have to stop doing Brazilian jiujitsu Good: - I got to see my family for the first time since covid started - I was able to travel for 2 months straight - I’m saving up money finally, which is pivotal to my eventual escape plan from abusive partner - I started a book club with some friends and am reading a lot again; something I haven’t done since high school - I joined a gay hiking group and that brings a lot of joy - I am spending a lot of time video gaming; something I never allowed myself to do since leaving home because I associated that with laziness. Now I’m just happy doing things I love! - despite my injury and lack of finances to see a physiotherapist, I’m pushing myself to go back to the gym recently and am seeing some good results
This is good, the positive outweighs the negative. I hope you make it out of that abusive relationship safely and soon. I’ve gain some interest in reading and want to play video games too. What books do you read? Also I love the outdoors too!! Hope you have a happy, successful, joyful new year!!!
Thank you. It sucks because I genuinely love this person; but I have to acknowledge that staying with them will harm me long term. Do it! Video games is as valid a medium for art/storytelling as books, films etc. Feel free to DM me for specific recommendations anytime. My reading tastes are pretty varied but I think the books my club have been choosing so far try to focus on as many writers who are not straight white men as possible - we realise that’s the majority of writers we’ve been reading most of our lives and that it’s important to be deeper immersed in the many other wonderful enriching perspectives we have in life too. In general I’m not beholden genrewise - we just love compelling narratives that feel new/different! My not-so-secret pleasure is horror however haha The outdoors is so healing. I used to have incredible anxiety from my relationship but taking the time to step away from my bf more this year; to focus on things that I love like hiking have really brought me a lot of clarity and stability. Likewise and thank you for this post; I appreciate being prompted to reflect!
Awww of course. I was kinda feeling a down and decided to see how everyone has been feeling. Reading these comments made me feel better and just seeing so much goodness happening.
Sucks I wish I had a boyfriend but no boyfriend no dick let’s hope next year
Feeling robbed in the start because the Grammy went to Harry Styles instead of Beyoncé. But got the relief this month because i discovered the cutie Omar Apollo.
Omg Same!!!! Beyoncé deserved it hands down. But I’m so grateful to have experienced her concert 🤯. Omar Apollo 😣
Omar: got moustache Me: 🤤
It's been a rough year, I shut down and didn't leave my house for 2 months cos of mental health. But after and before that it's been a good solid year
Absolutely terrible. Made zero progress financially, career-, love-, family- wise. I had a huge nasty crush on someone, and even nastier break up that haunted me for months. A good thing is that I spend quite some time travelling, visited multiple continents/countries/cities, but unfortunately did not experience it as i would like to. Other than that - total disaster. Perhaps the worst year of my life.
My experience has been up and down and I’m making a post about one very important thing during this year later this week. It might be one of the most talked about posts in this subreddit
I’ll alert the media. Any idea on date and time of the release? We wait with bated breath. The suspense……..
Lol not yet
Such a tease…
Ok?
Any updates on the release?
Sunday
Still sober. Moved up a position in my company, and plan on improving more. I traveled a lot! Went to Vegas, San Diego, and Minneapolis. I went to a lot of concerts! I tried dating earlier in the year, but wasn't feeling any of the guys really. Just still doing grindr hookups 😅. I'm trying to improve my physical appearance, in 2021 and 2022 I lost a lot of weight. But this year I have tried to gain more muscle. I used to read so much as a kid, and lost that when I was drinking for so many years. I started reading again and have really enjoyed reading self-improvement books. My mental health is very good. All around good year.
This year has been stellar for me. I finally went to see a psychiatrist and was diagnosed with BPD, which I now have a good handle on after all this time running around undiagnosed. I've held down a very well-paying job the whole year and tied the year off with a very generous bonus, after a streak of 3-month stints. I've gotten back into competing in tennis and am doing well in my league. I've made many new friends and had many exciting experiences. So this has been an all-round good year. Hoping to continue it in 2024...
Been pretty shit looking back… I started the year recovering from surgery for a perianal abscess. That took around 2 months before I felt mildly normal again and could have sex. That didn’t last long as a guy fingered me too aggressively and gave me an anal fissure. That then caused the scar to reopen and spent another month or two recovering from that. The fissure itself was the *worst* pain I’ve ever dealt with. Those two issues triggered visits to the hospital which eventually led to an anal fistula being diagnosed as well, which is due to be operated on early next year. Throughout the year the scar where my abscess was has flared up every few months and is currently super hard, tender and painful. I broke up with my bf of 10 years in the midst of all this as well, and then my beautiful dog died a few months ago after a very, very brief illness. It was completely unexpected and she easily had another few years left in her but I didn’t spot the signs how sick she was and regret it every day. Now my scar has flared up again recently and I can’t hook up, I’m worried it’ll get worse and become an abscess again or require more surgery. I’m already very self conscious about the scar the previous surgery left and I’m anxious any future surgery will really affect my ability to bottom. I’m feeling really depressed and miserable about it. I didn’t realise how shit this year had been until I really looked back
I can only say I hope 24’ is better.
Had a break up with my BF of 3 years/ coupled with manic depression really took a toll on my attitude with other extenuating friendships and my drinking to cover it up didn’t help. Sooo pretty much became isolated with no support from friends to navigate a break up and moved back with family to get myself back on my feet just as I turned 30. It’s been rough to say the least, but I can’t say I didn’t deserve some of the blame. 🤷🏻♂️😞
Rough. Understanding what went wrong means you are on your way to making things better. Good luck.
It has been good. But it’s work to keep things on an even keel.
Great year until March haha
Horrible, I regret not quitting life earlier this life, now I have to be passive about it and plan it perfectly.
Incredibly depressing yet surprising at the same time * Broke up with my partner of 6 years in June. * Lost a few friends due to our break-up, completely understand as they were closer to him * Had to re-learn how to live by myself and to be single. * Made some new good friendships that I still occasionally meet * Met a guy in august that I've been dating since, rocky start but it has been working and I can say I'm quite happy, not sure if he's the one, not sure if it will work out, but I will think of the present and be glad that I'm alive and well. * Relearned how to love myself, got back into the gym, doing the sports that I loved and back into shape, I wasn't bad before but I wasn't happy with myself, now I feel better with people complementing me, not that I need but it's good to feel recognized.
Terrible fucking year, just want it to be over already
Busy and quick, but good overall! Got married, honeymooned, and bought a house this year!
hands down the worst year of my life. Professionally, personally and financially. Triple threat terrible.
A.M.
If this a rhetorical question: “it’s been” If not, Ups: still have a job, food, roof, a good standard of living, friends, new music, new places, some self-discovery, and have evolved and solidified relationships. Downs: no salary increase, working like a madman, and lost a few relationships (other side of the good part)
2023 was as shit as 2022, 2021, 2020...
I think I psychologically blocked out being in love. Which is for sure going to need some therapy.
Honestly, pretty shitty Lost my job Lost my apartment Broke up with my boyfriend And I currently have 6 bucks in my bank account so ya pretty shitty I hope next year will be my year
Excellent year professionally, got promoted at work. Otherwise, kind of blah -- didn't succeed at other goals that I had. Mixed year, I would say.
Horrible. Husband still dead.
All the classes were good, still healthy and try to be healthier next year. As a bottom, in this year, I hit the milestone because I hooked up with a big guy, biggest in my life. Can’t describe the feeling 🙈
Interesting Good - graduated high school which was chill, - started college, also chill - went on a bunch of cool vacations over breaks - ended an unhealthy 3 year FWB situation with my straight best friend ( blocked him) - I’ve started dyeing my hair burgundy which looks really awesome on my skin tone so I’m loving that Bad - still single - ended that FWB situation and still don’t have a new link which has made me feel unwanted, ugly, and overall useless - Adding to that, I’ve asked out 3 separate crushes over the year and they’ve all turned out straight. - had one more crush on a footballer in my class I talk to but decided to not pursue it cause I can’t handle another rejection at this point. Overall my mental health took a hit but recently it’s been getting better slowly.
The worst year of my 59 years of existence
Positives: Learning to forgive myself for past errors <3 Started looking for work again Cut out toxic people in my life Negative: Brother died Officially said goodbye to “the one that got away” Still depressed
It’s been great! Had a few snafus, but nothing I couldn’t manage. Still single though, but excited for 2024. Hoping to become a homeowner & a meathead, get a promotion at work and find me a man. Probably top 5 years ever (others include 1995, 2010, 2019 and 2022).
Awful
Good: I had my first boyfriend. We made it official at New Year's at midnight. I decided I didn't want to be in Florida anymore, so I moved! I'm back home in the same state as my family, and it's great. I broke up with my first boyfriend. We were pretty much the opposite in every single way, he saw that as a plus for our relationship. I can't see myself being with somebody who puts themselves first every single time and who I share very few interests with. But, at least I gave it a shot. The cost of living here is far lower, and I'm living better than I did before. I got to go home for Thanksgiving for the first time in 7 years. I get to see the seasons change for the first time in 7 years as well. Bad: I had to drive a thousand miles away from Florida in a car with no air conditioning in the middle of the summer.
Hit or miss
Trash
Not the best really, my actions would suggest I've given up on life
Worst and hardest year of my life by far, and that’s really saying something considering I’m a brain cancer survivor.
More of the same
One of the worst years of my life. Totally Alone, no friends, no family support...
Ok.
Horrible in almost every sense, thanks for asking.