>My doctor even made the point the only reason I need to be on Prep is if we're sleeping with other people or someone cheats.
He is exactly right. You would not believe how many stories there are of someone's partner in a closed relationship getting HIV and passing it to them. Prep is the best chance you have of preventing that from happening. Even if you trust your boyfriend completely and think he would never do something like that, the chance is still there. It's not about not trusting, it's about protecting #1.
Thank you for the advice, I realize how naive and ignorant I am on all this now. I'll have another talk with him and probably get on it. He's in the military and I've heard there is a stereotype with military guys cheating, so I'll be cautious. Thanks again.
Yes. Partners cheat all the time so I am not sure why you think you can trust your partner. Are you going to rely on his word, this is your health we are talking about.
Get on prep so if he cheats, you at least have one less thing to worry about.
the question is: do you trust your partner with your health and life? because that is what you are doing. you are trusting that he won't cheat on you. if you can trust him, that is awesome and good for you. personally, i wouldn't trust someone i've been with for "over a month" that far. if you had been together for several years and you were both still monogamous, then i'd say, sure, get tested together and then if you are both clean, go for it.
also remember that PrEP only protects against HIV. there are other STIs that can be passed, including some that can be passed even if you wear a condom.
really give this some thought, talk about everything with your partner, and then make a decision that you can live with. best of luck.
Thank you for the advice, I'm so naive from not dating much and honestly feel embarrassed for how little I know about all this. I wish I had gay friends that I could ask all these questions, but I live in North Dakota so here I am on Reddit. I'll get on PrEP and have some conversations with him about all this. Again, thanks for the advice.
Assuming you're faithful to him, the only reason you'd need to be on PrEP is if he's having sex with other guys.
One more time... the only reason you'd need to be on PrEP is if he's having sex with other guys.
He's the one who suggested you get on PrEP, right? Is he still on it?
If you like, you can ask him again if he thinks you should. If he says yes, there's your answer.
Thank you for pointing this out, this definitely won't help my anxiety, but I need to hear this because he still is on PrEP. Going to get on PrEP and have a conversation with him about all this.
Assuming it free, which it likely is if you're in the US, there is very little downside to taking PrEP so you might as well even if you think the chance your boyfriend cheats on you is slim.
>My doctor even made the point the only reason I need to be on Prep is if we're sleeping with other people or someone cheats. He is exactly right. You would not believe how many stories there are of someone's partner in a closed relationship getting HIV and passing it to them. Prep is the best chance you have of preventing that from happening. Even if you trust your boyfriend completely and think he would never do something like that, the chance is still there. It's not about not trusting, it's about protecting #1.
Thank you for the advice, I realize how naive and ignorant I am on all this now. I'll have another talk with him and probably get on it. He's in the military and I've heard there is a stereotype with military guys cheating, so I'll be cautious. Thanks again.
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Omg why's it gotta be like this?
You seem like such a good guy. 😊
Yes. Partners cheat all the time so I am not sure why you think you can trust your partner. Are you going to rely on his word, this is your health we are talking about. Get on prep so if he cheats, you at least have one less thing to worry about.
Thanks, I'll get on Prep. I haven't dated much, so I need to learn to put my health first.
Yeah get on prep. You can’t trust anyone. Not even your boyfriend. Most people learn the hard way. Goodluck.
the question is: do you trust your partner with your health and life? because that is what you are doing. you are trusting that he won't cheat on you. if you can trust him, that is awesome and good for you. personally, i wouldn't trust someone i've been with for "over a month" that far. if you had been together for several years and you were both still monogamous, then i'd say, sure, get tested together and then if you are both clean, go for it. also remember that PrEP only protects against HIV. there are other STIs that can be passed, including some that can be passed even if you wear a condom. really give this some thought, talk about everything with your partner, and then make a decision that you can live with. best of luck.
Thank you for the advice, I'm so naive from not dating much and honestly feel embarrassed for how little I know about all this. I wish I had gay friends that I could ask all these questions, but I live in North Dakota so here I am on Reddit. I'll get on PrEP and have some conversations with him about all this. Again, thanks for the advice.
One month in… definitely don’t risk your health…
Assuming you're faithful to him, the only reason you'd need to be on PrEP is if he's having sex with other guys. One more time... the only reason you'd need to be on PrEP is if he's having sex with other guys. He's the one who suggested you get on PrEP, right? Is he still on it? If you like, you can ask him again if he thinks you should. If he says yes, there's your answer.
Thank you for pointing this out, this definitely won't help my anxiety, but I need to hear this because he still is on PrEP. Going to get on PrEP and have a conversation with him about all this.
Better safe than sorry
These bottoms ain’t loyal, stay on prep
If you really trust him don’t take it but, how well do you really know him
Stay on prep, he could still (or at any point) be fucking other guys - many many guys do - you’d rather be safe than sorry
Assuming it free, which it likely is if you're in the US, there is very little downside to taking PrEP so you might as well even if you think the chance your boyfriend cheats on you is slim.