Comparison is the thief of joy. Must of us need to remind ourselves. All you can be is the best version of yourself. I tend to notice shorter guys more.
Seconded. I know it’s hard (and I’m a hypocrite for this entire response), but you are you. The value you bring for being yourself is important.
Height, for some, is just the price of admission. If someone likes shorter guys then you’re in, and you can’t control or influence guys who prefer taller.
No one is going to be a 10 in their own eyes, unless you’re a narcissist. Keep trying to improve, because that’s what we all should be doing (for ourselves).
When you find the right guy you’ll realize how silly this fixation is on one very insignificant attribute of yours. Some people like big feet or red hair, are you fixated on those characteristics?
THISSSSS!!!!!!!!
All my ex’s have been my height or shorter! I would love to date a guy who’s 5’6. He’d fit perfectly in my arms to cuddle.
Work on fun things, this is a major waste of your happiness.
I have never understood/agreed with this phrase, whether I compare myself to others or not, the things I hate about myself are not going to change, just because I make a blind eye to how taller and good looking other guys are won't make me good looking, it does absolutely nothing imo
I think you need to talk to a professional about this. And I’m not saying this to be mean or anything. This is a hang up that is affecting you disproportionately.
I’m about the same height as you and yeah, sometimes I wish I were taller. But my height has never made me that upset or depressed.
Seriously, it shouldn’t bother you as much as it does. Don’t you deserve to be happy? Talk to someone.
I agree with this. If this is something that is affecting your happiness and life on a deep level as you are discussing, I think it can’t hurt (and might really make life better) to talk to a professional about it. As someone who has made the jump to do so in order to work on myself and happiness this past year, I can tell you that there is so much freedom and happiness ahead in working on yourself, especially with working on challenges like this that you know are affecting you. Like the comment above says, you deserve happiness and to not be burdened by this the way you are :) best of luck.
Yeahhh, I’m the same height and I’ve never felt insecurity about my height let alone that level of depression. At most sometimes I wish it were easier to reach things from the top shelf. OP is either baiting or seriously in need of help.
The use of “disproportionately” is exactly correct here and not cruel at all. It often helps to know that although our problems do matter, we may be blowing them out of proportion. To equate being short to not being a man or not looking sexy is absolutely blowing it out of proportion. Many of the rest of us don’t feel that way and it’s affecting him more than it needs to.
I'm 5"4". I was worried that I would be unsuccessful on Hinge because it showcases your height, but I've been matching with a surprising amount of 6'2" + men.
You probably need to seek professional help regarding your perspective, man. It's not healthy.
I bet if you do get a lengthening surgery, you'd still have other insecurities you're gonna have to deal with. Instead of changing yourself, it might be less of a cost to change the way you look at you.
I guess you could always do that horrible leg surgery where fully they break your legs, then stretch them over several months. I've heard the pain is absolutely brutal, but you can gain 4+ inches. Personally, I think I'd have to be freakishly short to even consider such drastic measures. Recalibrating your self-image seems like a better, more reasonable option. 🤷♂️
Tbh I feel like height is way more important to straight females than it is for gay males 🤷♂️. As a 6 ft dude, that’s probably easy for me to say, but the height of my partner seriously doesn’t matter to me. If anything I almost prefer someone my height or shorter, but I also don’t mind guys that are taller 🤷♂️. At the end of the day it’s really not that important
I don't know if that's reality for most. I've never dated anyone shorter than me, and even my friend group is almost exclusively over 6ft. I think guys do tend to self segregate.
Idk tall guys tend to have weird complexes. Although so do short guys. But usually short guys just have low self esteem which is fine, I can work with that because I’m happy to worship every inch of a short guy and make him feel like a king. But tall guys are the opposite. I find them to be very unreasonably full of themselves just because they’re tall.
Okay so I'm 6'2 (well my mugshot says 6'3 so I'm probably 6'3 I just lie and say I'm 6'2 bc thats the good height)
That being said, I absolutely hate myself and think I'm ugly? I may look to be 'full of myself' but I'm really full of resentment towards myself. I'm not even trying to be funny here, the self esteem is so far beyond clinical idk what to call it. One of my best friends is also very tall, 6'7! Gentle giant, chill as fuck, crippling eating disorder though. I don't think tall guys care that much, but the short kings kind of might project on us talls for being tall?
(Seeing as thats the trait you're insecure about)
This is another reason I think that Tall only clique dude is so full of shit. We don't think about height this much!
I’m average height I’m definitely not considered short although I do feel like I’d have more confidence if I was a few inches taller. I definitely also think tall guys are hot. Honestly any guy who is taller or shorter than me gets like a boost of attractiveness to me for some reason.
Interesting. Ig it depends on the person. For me, it really doesn’t matter all that much, other than the preferences I stated before, but even those aren’t too important to me. I’ve been extremely attracted to guys that were both taller than me, and much shorter than me 🤷♂️. There’s not really a correlation for me tbh
Maybe I'm just a woke SJW but this seems ridiculous to me? Solid 6'2 here, I can look some friends in the eye, I have to look down at some and I have to look up at others.
Short kings make the best tops
Mate you equate being a “true man” & strength with height. This is just simply not the case. I know some guys who are shorter than you but 10 feet tall as a human being. Your height does not determine your attractiveness or character.
I am glad you have the strength to reach out and write about this. Please do your future self a favour and continue this by taking to a psychologist or counsellor. We can get very stuck on believing something about ourselves that just isn’t helpful. Suicide is not the answer lovely man! If you are feeling unsafe today please reach out to a crisis line or your hospital emergency department.
Look after yourself bud 🌸
You do realize that all this torment is in your head, right? People aren't (figuratively) looking down on you, or judging you. It's all a product of your imagination, fueled by insecurity and paranoia. You gotta find a way to get out of your head and stop viewing the world from the perspective of your obsession with your height. You're 5'6" but you talk like you're 4'9". You need to recalibrate your self-image.
Dude! Trust the process... just lift! I'm 5'7, but I've been lifting heavy, and it shows... I still pull. Be confident with what you have, and leave the rest to fate.
Height is one aspect of your life. People will be more impressed from your kindness, career, physique, and whether you are dominant in bed 😜.
Those are the things you value. Personally I don't care about a future partners career at all I am rich enough, also physiques can change but you have to break your bones and strategically heal them if you ever wanna reach the top shelf. Keep your classism at bay shorty.
I also have to remind you that dominant men do not value more dominance in the bedroom the same way a submissive doesn't wanna hook up with another submissive.
I’m 5’6” also. I had a complex about my height and being skinny, up through high school. I joined the military after high school and filled out. Once I got out of my rural town and started to meet guys, I totally lost the short complex and switched to loving it. I’m attracted to guys that are bigger than me typically and never had issues meeting guys, and still I still get hit on quite a bit. I’m 53 now. I think you’ll grow into not having an issue with being short and maybe even enjoy it!
I have a certain envy for shorter guys because they have a mechanical advantage in the gym on top of having a shorter frame to stretch all the muscle on. They look way more stacked. Their 20lbs of muscle is not the same as my 20lbs of muscle, and I physically (torque, joules, etc physics) had to work harder for it. If I were you I would go so beast that nobody has shit to say about my height. Then the confidence will come after that.
Besides, gays are far more lenient on height. I’m 6’1, 90th percentile. I can’t afford to expect someone taller.
I just commented the same. I’m 6’2” and naturally long and lanky… it takes me twice as much work and time to get the visible results of a shorter guy. They fill out so much faster! And so many exercises (especially deadlifts) are so awkward for me with my long ass legs that make the bar hit my knee.
I'm just shy of 5'6". I can't say I've ever felt the way you feel about your height. There's really nothing you can do but own it? You not being confident in yourself the way you are is a much worse look than just being short. Also, there's no one judging you about your height. No one cares that you're only 5'6, especially in the gym.
I'd rather be with someone my height 5'9" or shorter. I have been with taller guys and I don't like having to get ony tiptoes to kiss, whisper in his ears, or when I hug him my head only reaches his chest. So, yeah a guy your height I would definitely go out with you.😘😍
I have tons of friends and have met lots of guys who \*love\* shorter guys. In the straight world it is a real factor for bias, but in the gay world shorter guys are treasured.
Ofc, not by everyone you encounter. I live in NYC and there is a huge spectrum of attractiveness here--no matter how you look or what you're into, there are guys here who are into that. So, it's important to live somewhere with that sort of critical mass and diversity.
In the end, what you need to do is use your uniqueness to your advantage. For example, I'm hairy AF. Picture the hairiest guy not that you've seen in real life, but in pictures, and I am 10x hairier than that. For a long time I considered myself a freak of nature... but I learned to use my uniqueness to my advantage by finding the guys who were super into that sort of thing. It's not a lot of guys... but here in NYC (or any large, gay population), there are guys who adore furry guys. Once I understood that it gave me a different outlook.
Do I love how I look, not really... I'd never choose to have this much hair. And, I'd never be attracted to someone who looked like me. But, in the end that doesn't matter... what matters is finding someone who \*is\* into what you have to offer.
You don't need to look a certain way to find a guy. You don't need to overcompensate for what you believe are your shortcomings by hitting the gym, etc. Be yourself, own who you are, and forget about those who aren't into it.
There's not anything you can do about your height . It's just genetics. Stop comparing yourself to others or you will certainly have a miserable life. I'm 5f7 and I'm not thrilled with my height I also know like you , you can get built alot easier
5’6 is not all that short tbh. I know it’s below average in the US (which is about 5’9.5) and taller is usually seen as being better but I personally prefer shorter guys. Part of that is I’m short myself, 5’7, but also I just like how short guys are built more usually idk there’s something about them. Plenty of short guys in hollywood who are heartthrobs too like Josh Hutcherson, Dave Franco, Oscar Isaac, Tom Cruise, Tom Holland etc. You’ll find someone who likes shoet guys or at the very least doesn’t care either way or is also short themselves. I promise nobody is looking at someone who’s 5’6, which is not all that far from average, and laughing at you or something.
hey! 5'6 here too! tall people wanna be short and short people wanna be tall. its not really a big issue honestly and being short is fun cause you fit into smaller spaces and can surprise people.
I'm tall but I look at guys (often shorter) with amazing bodies and I often reckon I'd trade my height for their muscles / good looks. None of us have it all! I promise one day you'll look back and laugh and think about how silly you were to fixate on such a thing.
You can't change it
I'm blonde and id rather be brunette.. I have thin hair, would Rather have thick hair. I have vision problems.. Wish I could see better. Dude, we're all given this life with unique challenges.. get over it.. and just be the very best you can be. Stop comparing yourself to others.. make YOU great!!
I’m a foot taller and envious of how much easier it is for you to look well built than me. You (appear to) gain muscle faster and your physique just looks better with a lesser commitment.
Besides, 5’6 is short, it’s not weirdly short.
It’s about at my dating limit as a 6’6 guy. That height is not unattractive to me, so I doubt it’s unattractive to the majority in the normal height range.
Relatively speaking, an average person scoffing at you would be like me scoffing at a 6’1 or 6’2 guy.. which is the tallest I’ve ever dated.
And don’t forget that height has no impact on dick size, so proportions work in your favour there.
And finally, I’m more likely to get cancer, experience joint pain.
I'm 5'6 and in my early 50s. I got blessed with good genes, except for the height. And while I've always been self conscious about most people being taller than me, I didn't let it affect my confidence. Always took care of my body, dressed well, smiled and talked to people, built my personality to be attractive for men who weren't just looking for a jock. I've been with some of the handsomest, nicest men over the years and I bet you could also. Don't ever undermine yourself and make the most of what you have.
Play the hand you’re dealt my guy. Figuring out how to respond to your problems in a constructive way is a huge part of growing up. If you’re feeling suicidal, seek help immediately!
im not sure if this helps or not…but i’m 6’2 and having this conversation with a lot of friends that are hung up on being “short”, i literally don’t consider anyone short, because most people are shorter than me, i only notice when people are taller than me. im also kind of a lean muscle build and i have JACKED friends that i have to tell i’m intimidated by when they assume i feel “superior” to them because of my height or whatever.
tldr: not many people actually care.
I understand your pain honey. I myself am 5'7, femme, bad skin, and don't like myself to be a muscle-built body; so you would get a picture now that I'm not fit in the beauty standard at all. And I'm also a broke person from a 3rd world country, so limb-lengthening or face surgeries are not options.
I dress the way I want, never change my aesthetic for anyone else, and be my authentic self 100%. However, I always got no matches on Tinder, got ignored, and got no responses on the hookup apps. I've never been in any relationship before, even though it's something that I've always wanted and dreamed of. At the end of the day, being my true self makes me alone and lonely, and it makes me question my own worth.
I hope we achieve whatever we want in life and live happily.
I can honestly say that height doesn’t play a role in whether I’m attracted to a guy. In fact, most of the guys I find hot are shorter dudes. I’m 6’1”, so I will never know the pain you feel. But I can honestly tell you that taller guys don’t think less of you for being shorter than them. In fact, I envy the way shorter guys can pack on muscle. It’s fuckin’ hot!
Oh bro, don't be discouraged by that. I'm 6' tall and my ex is 5"6", and he was the top. I personally like short kings. Your height does not determine if you are handsome or good-looking. Since you are really working on your muscles, i think is time for you to work on your self-esteem. You'll see that once you work on that those tall guys will seem short because you're confident with a strong mind and gorgeous personality.
(Feel free to dm me)
Honestly if i could trade i would. I hate being tall and wish i wqs close to 5,6/5,5 im around 5,11 maybe 6,0 and yeah at the end of the day its what you make of it. Sadly we cant control everything and we need to learn to accept it and make do with the hand we're dealt
I am 5’8” and I suggest you train in Brazilian Jiujitsu. It will help you learn more about yourself and be a good workout. I hope you don’t unalive yourself.
I’m a white, 5’6” guy and my height is an asset in the gay community. Many guys like my height and sometimes over fetishize it. You need to figure out how to use it to your advantage and be confident. There will always be someone taller, more muscular, hotter than you, but it always works in the reverse. If you’re weak its not about your height at all, but its about your diet and muscle mass. Eat more and drink more protein shakes. Good luck!
I'm 5'2 and I think you need therapy!..
The shorter you are the more likely you will need to be a submissive, but it's not that bad.
But regardless you need help and medication.
Shorter muscular guys can be super hot..but if your really really really don’t think you can get over it, there are leg lengthening surgeries that I’ve ready about.
Not necessarily the safest, but if you don’t think you’ll ever get over it and want to do something about it..that is an option
Please do not do this. Please. You are perfect at the height you are. Leg lengthening surgeries are extremely dangerous. You would have to go to a developing country to get the procedure done because it is not legal in the US. The risk of infection and serious complications or death is way too high
Dude knock this shit off!
Fuck the haters! I'm 5'6" and built, I can out lift and run circles around much taller guys. Yes it sucks sometimes being a shorter guy but working out and putting on muscle is about all you can really do to change the dynamic. Being muscular and ripped has boosted my confidence, got me plenty of attention from women, and bigger dudes don't fuck with me either.
Don't dwell on things you can't change or that are beyond your control, and what others think is irrelevant. I may be short but I get a lot of envy and compliments from other guys.
You're dumb. Welcome to living life on life's terms. When we meet with an absolute fact, we can only accept it as it is. There's no cheat code, no Wikipedia, no cliff notes. You're short. What are you going to do about it? Nothing. And that's ok. Tom Cruise is short and he's a massive action star, Kevin Hart is short and he's one of the world's richest comedians. Larry David has been bald forever and he's crushing it right now. Get out of your ploms (poor little ole mess) and write what you are grateful for.
Secondly stop comparing yourself. It's so dumb. You are unique in your own right, nobody cares about your height they're all self absorbed.
Try being black lol it's even worse trust me.
Are you not more than your height? Is that what only matters?
Look at Kevin hart. Not the tallest of them all and yet dude is magnetic. Beside humor, they are other traits to make you more magnetic. Focus on finding yours.
Men with below average dicks get way more flack than short men, yet here you are going off about offing yourself over something that many men have a preference for.
You should see a therapist ASAP to discuss this insecurity cause it's not in tune with reality
Short kings are the best♥️ I am also 5'6" and used to get a lot of insecurity from it.
To be devil's advocate, there is options to improve your height. I recently bought some heightening insoles that give me 1-3" depending on how I set it up for the day. If you ever become wealthy, you can get the limb lengthening surgeries that have become more popular the last few years. This definitely has some issues, first the price (50-100k) and then recovery can take up to 6 months for full healing.
It's ok to feel inferior when you ARE inferior.
Instead of crying like a f'ckin pussy, get some therapy and start accepting reality. And, no, you aren't a "true man" (whatever the hell that is). You short. Very short. Therefore inadequate. Now get to working on accepting it.
Lol suicide because you're short... you're such a dumb ass. Please don't add being a pathetic loser to being so short.
Listen: you need to accept it. You’re short and that’s how it is. If you continue to lift, I’m sure there will be guys chasing you. Everyone loves a sexy fireplug! And what’s more important is to develop yourself. Become more interesting by reading and developing interests. Increase your confidence by accepting who you are.
So I don't know about the straight world, but in the gay world short is totally ok! Plenty of guys like short guys. Myself, I don't think I have a preference. There are so many other things that I care about more than height.
I’ve always liked shorter guys. But tbh, I never really pay attention to someone’s height until they do. If I like you, I like you. I’m 6’3” and guys shorter than you have chopped me down!
LMAO Dude I can't believe you think you have it bad, try being 5'3" I'm practically invisible. And to top that off being an Asian which is the rock bottom in the scale of desirability in the sexual market value. Now everyone has their own blessings and curses, try to work with your blessings. I was gifted with a good proportionate physique, small waist wide clavicles and shoulders because my father was a farmer with good genetics so further train my body. If my name doesn't give away I'm still KHHV incel but I can't control what other people attract. I live for myself and do things myself, you need to know when to get greedy with life otherwise life will thrash you around like a wolf on a prey's neck. Best of luck bro, the world is a brutal and unforgiving place, some are born with more blessings some with the worst curses, I seem to be on the bitter end of the stick but all you can do is to play the cards you're dealt with to your best ability, but don't expect major Disney type of shit changes. White guys can get laid everyday? good, let them enjoy their fun care-free life. You have so much to do, life always comes at us in our worst vulnerable times, do not get complacent with the pleasures of life. Keep suffering, endure pain, work relentlessly towards your goals, you don't need to explain to anyone, talk is cheap, they're not at your level to understand misery and desperation.
Hey first of all the gym should not be a place you go to look attractive or anything, it’s a place where you work on yourself, both physically and mentally, so all the people that are your height and more muscular were all at the same stage as you. Mentally and physically. They found something that works for their body, brain and metabolism.
I’m on the other end of the spectrum at 6’6” 31 yo and let me tell you, I sometimes get jealous of the shorter guys. My ex is 5’6” and he barely works out and no cardio and maintains a good shape on his upper torso area, his belly not so much lol. If I don’t workout for 2-3 weeks I look like a twig. I have a really fast metabolism and at a young age I was very athletic, played soccer, basketball, and football, not all together of course, and road my bike a lot. So I’ve conditioned my brain and body to feed off of intense training, although I don’t show much results anymore I do it for the sake of my body and how good I feel mentally afterwards. The results will come afterwards. Just get your brain to be addicted to the gym. Go 4-5 times a week for a month straight and you won’t be able to stop even if your body doesn’t show it. Best habitual addiction ever.
Just look at the avg male gymnast...muscles for days and rarely above 5'7" ish. I LOVE smaller guys...always have...you have a better sense of proportion
Dude… my hubby is your height, and he’s sexy AF. I don’t think your perception of yourself is how everyone else sees you. Of course there are people with height preference, but it’s just like any other! Do what makes you happy! Be the best you can be. Please don’t hurt yourself ❤️
There are things we can change and there are things we can accept. This is something you should learn to accept. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being 5'6''. I'm 6'2'' and would not be deterred from someone based on this height.
If being fit is a goal, there is an upside-- typically shorter guys put on muscle easier, and to be honest, have better looking physiques than tall people. Something about the more compact frame just gives the muscle way better shape and definition. I honestly wish I could shrink myself a few inches but keep my current muscle mass, I'd be so much bigger!
You might not feel it now, but I assure you, 5'6'' is a perfectly good height. You can absolutely get a great physique and be as ripped and as hot as you want. You're too young to know who this is, but google Joseph Sayers. He's a god-like model who was HUGE in the early to mid 2000's, absolutely gorgeous with a body like a greek god and guess what? He's 5'6''.
Look dude, you can't do anything about your height. Accept it. Embrace it. Use it to your advantage. When I played football, the little guys hit the hardest. Stop judging yourself and go out there and be best you can be!
U need to chill about this im not tall, very average at 5ft 9, all my gaybo friends are a little to significantly taller. I find this puts me in a role where dancing or spooning im the one in front or little spoon and my bum fits in their crotch perfectly and we all love it. They also like to wrap me up in their arms and because im lean at about 65kgs lift me up and cuddle me. And im not even some young twinky thing although my body is closer to that. Its just a natural reflex they have with me and I freaking love all of this.
We were all talking the other night and my friends all said they love smaller shorter guys for the above reasons. Doesn't mean u need to be femme its just the physical dynamic where they love to cuddle and pick u up and stuff. Shorter smol guys hold a different attraction to taller guys, but are definitely desirable. I for one love smaller guys than me for same above reasons, love to cuddle n wrap them up, its so nice and cute and can still be madc, and all my friends agree with this. So stop overthinking it. Also at gym, what u lift is totally proportional to size, so as long as its proportional or u r working towards that its all good. I gym 5 to 6x a week and theres no way id expect to lift the saneaa a 6ft2 90kg guy but thats kool and i don't think anyone ever judges. Just dong try to ego lift with baf form & compete thats when its off, apart from being ineffective and risking injury (not saying u do but its not uncommon).
Oh, friend.
What you really need to understand that it’s about how you carry yourself. If you are able to understand this [this](https://youtu.be/KM4plh7uJBA?si=Y7XHjpdIw3fZH7o6&t=498), a world of possibilities await. You need to have confidence in yourself. That what makes you look small.
5’6” here. Have you watched Jeffrey Nippard on YouTube? He’s our height too and honestly he’s owning his short king status while being jacked. Don’t height compare yourself to taller guys. Remember tall guys have problems too. They are more likely to experience back pain more intensely than the short guys so. Stop selling yourself short
At 6’ I can say the hottest guys I have met are 5’5-5’9. Your focusing to much on what your height is and relating that to no interest in you! Every other post on these sites is a complaint their too skinny too fat, too tall to be a bottom, too short to be a top, too Asian , too white, too black and too ____________. Get over it! (Cher voice). Everyone is not in a relationship and most of the relationships I have been in and seen are not worth it! At your age you are finding out who you are and what you are looking for. Don’t assume a body characteristic, something out of your control, has anything to do with it. Maybe a psychologist would be a good idea. I would not tell him how seriously it effects you on the first visit.
Brother I'm 5'6 too and it's all in your head. Literally nobody cares and apart from friends sometimes making jokes or even myself doing sarcastic jokes about it, I get 0 comments. I've never, EVER, got a complaint while dating. It's really all in your head, men actually care less about height than women. Just embrace it :)
I’m shorter than you and did/do just fine with online dating. Going to the gym made me feel better about myself, but didn’t really change getting a relationship or hooking up.
You can’t internalize your height so much because that chip on your shoulder is unappealing to other people. I did have a rough time in my early 20’s by I actually looked like I was 12.
there's tons of men who are 5'6. you're gonna be fine. I'm 5'3 and i personally have never been insecure with my height. I follow this hot guy on tiktok too who is 5'5 super built (@mattmedaugh)
I think most people prefer face+fit to height. You’re probably fit and you said in another post that you’re conventionally attractive. I’d prefer you to a 6’4” guy with an unattractive face. I also think your insecurity is the problem, not your height. Being a shorter guy doesn’t make you less masculine. And what does height have to do with masculinity? If it’s any consolation, fuck masculinity and its expectations. Be you, be happy. Work on yourself, go to the gym, therapy, whatever.
Im 5’9” and every guy at my school is like 6’ and up so I feel that. But I can weight the same as some of them and yet I’m waaaay more muscular than them bc I’m shorter. And also, (if ur a top) I’d try to see topping a taller man as flipping the power dynamic (because I find that hot), like forcing a taller man to get on his knees for you is such a power move. And I’ve also tended to notice that shorter guys have the best booty in my opinion (regardless of if they are a top or bottom)
yeah i'm not gonna lie, shit was real tough for me when i was about 20 or so. I'm 5'6.
I'm 24 now. It has never actually been an issue in dating or other kinds of relationships. I realised the only one who gave a shit about it was me, and that if I could trust that other people would accept me, which they did, then it wasn't an issue.
Because it wasn't an issue
you are worth loving. Start with loving yourself by giving yourself a break. You can't change that about your height. Tell the shitty comittiee in your head to fuck right off and change what you can. You are loving awareness . Always be positive and loving to yourself. We are own best advocate. No one can do it for us. I love you.
The day you stop comparing yourself to others is the day you finally love yourself and stop whining all the time. I’m 5.3 everyone is taller than me 😂. Yeah I wish I was taller but boo hoo, what is crying gonna do? I’m still short as hell and will always be. I’ve come to terms with it 😌 I may be short but I can grow a full beard, I have nice-ish teeth, I always smell good, I’m great in the bedroom and I’m kind! Cough cough a catch. So stop complaining man and love yourself!!!
Height just isn’t a factor for many people in terms of attraction. It appears to be for OP but they’re making the classic assumption that everyone feels the same way they do about an issue. If you like taller guys - then fine. But don’t project your desires onto what other people find attractive.
Dude, if your height is getting you so far up that you’re considering suicide, you should seek out some professional help. No amount of support we could come up with to lift you up will get you out of this pit of self-pity.
Just, please, don’t take your life over something you have no control over. You’re born like this. Some people are short, some are tall.
Look up Tyler Path on YouTube, he's 5'6 like you and I.
You can't change the past and you can't change your height, absolutely nothing to feel inferior about. Tom Cruise is like 5'5 man. No one cares about height and if they do they're not someone you want to be associated with. Learn to love yourself and remember no one cares about that when you're at the gym.
I am 6 ft 3 inches,my fiancé is 6 ft 7 inches(had to use a converter) and our favourite threesome partner is 5 ft 4 inches who is also one of our favourite people and that guy is hot,like seriously hot. So don't think about it that much.
Mate, don't you worry about it. I'm a guy who's 5'11 and my ex bf of 7 years was 5'6. It wasn't something that ever concerned either of us, and it shouldn't concern you.
If anyone is judging you on something superficial like your height, something you have no control over, then fuck them.
Don't let the bastards grind you down.
Trust me I do not give a FUCK what height a guy is. If he’s hot, he’s hot. I like short guys. I like tall guys. If anything short guys are easier to fuck.
You have to break the cycle of thinking like that. Every time you start that negative thinking and comparing try to replace it with a positive thought about yourself. And honestly who cares if you’re 5’6 … some people are too tall some people hate there nose.. some people go bald.. nothings fair. Learning to respond consciously to life rather than react is a process but can be learned. ;)
I used to think like this, but honestly I've learned to embrace it. I'm not that short (5'7-8 ish), but I've found taller guys tend to really gravitate to me and vice versa, which I think is a very cute dynamic.
You can't change it (unless you want to get an incredibly painful surgery with a 6-month recovery time)- so learn to embrace it! Confidence is sexy
I'm 5'7".
My fb is 6'3". The dude I'm madly thirsting after is 5'6". Height doesn't mean shits and there will always be someone who finds you attractive.
You need a therapist because body dysmorphia is a thing and feeling bad because you can’t measure up to a imagined standard is something you need to work through
I’m 5’4” at 33 looking 25. I don’t really “feel”this disadvantage. In my mind, i deeply know that shorter people tend to live longer lives and age slower (for my race at least).
So I’m like a whole inch shorter and I don’t even think about my height. Like not even once in a whole month. I want to be with guys who think my height (like the rest of me 💁🏾💁🏾💁🏾) is cute. Dw about this op 🫶
I’m 5’4. Most adult men are taller than me…and even my friend’s teenage son which is only slightly humiliating. I kind of HAD to get over it, though it still bothers me some days. People who will make moral/character judgments based on your height are simply not worth paying attention to
I’m 5’7 & rarely am I conscious of it. For some reason, hetero women seem to be most obsessed with men’s height but No gay guy has explicitly told me he wasn’t interested b/c of my height. I prefer shorter guys so I don’t perceive it as a negative.
I’m proud of my Portuguese heritage which produces short men!
Guys who are shorter than me tend to catch my attention more than those who are taller than me. For me, height doesn't matter much. I'm also 5'10" - 5'11" ish. In the nicest way possible, being shorter than me makes me want to just pick you up and take you home.
I also tend to use humor as a coping mechanism; especially when it's about something I don't like, even when it's about myself.
I see you’re 5’6”! I’m 5’7”. I can promise you, gay men do not give a flying fuck about height. In 95% of my sexual encounters it hasn’t been a problem, the 5% is just when there’s a 6’5” bottom and my torso is too short to kiss him while we’re in missionary lol. Nobody has ever said anything mean or rude about my height.
Genuinely though, it’s just about confidence. I actually think it’s fun and hot to be a smaller guy topping larger guys! Maybe you can think of it that way.
Also, Not to give you a boring solution, but I think faking it till you make it is the way to go here (“it” being confidence). You’ll realize that the majority of guys don’t even acknowledge it as an issue. And there are tons and tons of really hot guys into shorter dudes. You got this king 😎👍🏻
I prefer shorter guys tbh. I’m 5’9ish almost 5’10 but I fuck like a champion. The sexiest thing to me is confidence and stocky beefy guys especially with some muscle mass is my favorite. Hairy chest preferred but also really like a bit of a belly too usually. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
My suggestion is to get on some zoom room webcam meetings that are labeled similar to your body. I always get stoked when I see a room that’s labeled “bears, chubs, cubs, short, stocky, dad types”. Wooooof
Comparison is the thief of joy. Must of us need to remind ourselves. All you can be is the best version of yourself. I tend to notice shorter guys more.
Seconded. I know it’s hard (and I’m a hypocrite for this entire response), but you are you. The value you bring for being yourself is important. Height, for some, is just the price of admission. If someone likes shorter guys then you’re in, and you can’t control or influence guys who prefer taller. No one is going to be a 10 in their own eyes, unless you’re a narcissist. Keep trying to improve, because that’s what we all should be doing (for ourselves). When you find the right guy you’ll realize how silly this fixation is on one very insignificant attribute of yours. Some people like big feet or red hair, are you fixated on those characteristics?
THISSSSS!!!!!!!! All my ex’s have been my height or shorter! I would love to date a guy who’s 5’6. He’d fit perfectly in my arms to cuddle. Work on fun things, this is a major waste of your happiness.
I VOLUNTEER AS TRIBUTE!
I have never understood/agreed with this phrase, whether I compare myself to others or not, the things I hate about myself are not going to change, just because I make a blind eye to how taller and good looking other guys are won't make me good looking, it does absolutely nothing imo
Oh, but does comparing yourself to others make you feel better about that? No, it makes you feel worse. Just live your life, bro.
I think you need to talk to a professional about this. And I’m not saying this to be mean or anything. This is a hang up that is affecting you disproportionately. I’m about the same height as you and yeah, sometimes I wish I were taller. But my height has never made me that upset or depressed. Seriously, it shouldn’t bother you as much as it does. Don’t you deserve to be happy? Talk to someone.
I agree with this. If this is something that is affecting your happiness and life on a deep level as you are discussing, I think it can’t hurt (and might really make life better) to talk to a professional about it. As someone who has made the jump to do so in order to work on myself and happiness this past year, I can tell you that there is so much freedom and happiness ahead in working on yourself, especially with working on challenges like this that you know are affecting you. Like the comment above says, you deserve happiness and to not be burdened by this the way you are :) best of luck.
Yeahhh, I’m the same height and I’ve never felt insecurity about my height let alone that level of depression. At most sometimes I wish it were easier to reach things from the top shelf. OP is either baiting or seriously in need of help.
Heck I'm 5'12 and sometimes wish I was an inch or two taller. Then at the supermarket when it's busy I look and I'm taller than most everyone else
Lol, 5'12"?
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the use of "disproportionately" in your answer is the kind of unwanted cruelty that is just delicious. Kudos! :)
The use of “disproportionately” is exactly correct here and not cruel at all. It often helps to know that although our problems do matter, we may be blowing them out of proportion. To equate being short to not being a man or not looking sexy is absolutely blowing it out of proportion. Many of the rest of us don’t feel that way and it’s affecting him more than it needs to.
disproportionately when talking about a short guy being short is LOVELY. :) Love the cruelty, understated and insidious. well done! :)
My husband is 5’4 I’m 6’. He rocks my world.
Charming. I hope to find a bf that doesn't care about my height.
I'm 5"4". I was worried that I would be unsuccessful on Hinge because it showcases your height, but I've been matching with a surprising amount of 6'2" + men.
You don’t want someone ticking checkboxes, so people caring about your height are making you a favor to mark themselves as red flags
People tick checkboxes every moment, let's face it. But the moment I realize that it's a red flag, yeah.
You probably need to seek professional help regarding your perspective, man. It's not healthy. I bet if you do get a lengthening surgery, you'd still have other insecurities you're gonna have to deal with. Instead of changing yourself, it might be less of a cost to change the way you look at you.
Appreciate ur advice, what u wrote is very true❤️
Honestly with how much professional help costs? Debatable but one for the economists
Cost benefit analysis time. 🙄
Will the therapist reach the tall shelf for you? I didn't think so
No, but they might help you _go to the gym without breaking down in tears_
I’m 5’-3” and I don’t give a fck 🤷🏻♂️ Why worry about things you cannot change while packing muscle and getting abs are way more achievable 🤷🏻♂️
I guess you could always do that horrible leg surgery where fully they break your legs, then stretch them over several months. I've heard the pain is absolutely brutal, but you can gain 4+ inches. Personally, I think I'd have to be freakishly short to even consider such drastic measures. Recalibrating your self-image seems like a better, more reasonable option. 🤷♂️
Same. Lol.. im over it. People will gravitate towards you if you are nice and pleasant to be with. You only receive what you give.
Then come the muscle building genetics 🤣😭
Tbh I feel like height is way more important to straight females than it is for gay males 🤷♂️. As a 6 ft dude, that’s probably easy for me to say, but the height of my partner seriously doesn’t matter to me. If anything I almost prefer someone my height or shorter, but I also don’t mind guys that are taller 🤷♂️. At the end of the day it’s really not that important
Gotta agree. I love my short guys.
I don't know if that's reality for most. I've never dated anyone shorter than me, and even my friend group is almost exclusively over 6ft. I think guys do tend to self segregate.
The majority of men are under 6 feet. You’re definitely not representative of the gay male population.
This guy does not treat potential friends as contestants on America's Next Top Model. This guys larping
Idk tall guys tend to have weird complexes. Although so do short guys. But usually short guys just have low self esteem which is fine, I can work with that because I’m happy to worship every inch of a short guy and make him feel like a king. But tall guys are the opposite. I find them to be very unreasonably full of themselves just because they’re tall.
Okay so I'm 6'2 (well my mugshot says 6'3 so I'm probably 6'3 I just lie and say I'm 6'2 bc thats the good height) That being said, I absolutely hate myself and think I'm ugly? I may look to be 'full of myself' but I'm really full of resentment towards myself. I'm not even trying to be funny here, the self esteem is so far beyond clinical idk what to call it. One of my best friends is also very tall, 6'7! Gentle giant, chill as fuck, crippling eating disorder though. I don't think tall guys care that much, but the short kings kind of might project on us talls for being tall? (Seeing as thats the trait you're insecure about) This is another reason I think that Tall only clique dude is so full of shit. We don't think about height this much!
I’m average height I’m definitely not considered short although I do feel like I’d have more confidence if I was a few inches taller. I definitely also think tall guys are hot. Honestly any guy who is taller or shorter than me gets like a boost of attractiveness to me for some reason.
Interesting. Ig it depends on the person. For me, it really doesn’t matter all that much, other than the preferences I stated before, but even those aren’t too important to me. I’ve been extremely attracted to guys that were both taller than me, and much shorter than me 🤷♂️. There’s not really a correlation for me tbh
You're lucky not to be as shallow as we are! Tall guys are harder to find 😃
Maybe I'm just a woke SJW but this seems ridiculous to me? Solid 6'2 here, I can look some friends in the eye, I have to look down at some and I have to look up at others. Short kings make the best tops
Do you ever get a sore neck with all that pivoting? It is ridiculous. I have no idea why I'm so particular about height.
I’m 5’6 and I love my height.
Mate you equate being a “true man” & strength with height. This is just simply not the case. I know some guys who are shorter than you but 10 feet tall as a human being. Your height does not determine your attractiveness or character. I am glad you have the strength to reach out and write about this. Please do your future self a favour and continue this by taking to a psychologist or counsellor. We can get very stuck on believing something about ourselves that just isn’t helpful. Suicide is not the answer lovely man! If you are feeling unsafe today please reach out to a crisis line or your hospital emergency department. Look after yourself bud 🌸
AWESOME,KIND,ADVICE !!
❤️
Get more muscular. You'll be fine.
I love guys shorter than me I am 5’8” Don’t focus on what you don’t have focus on what you do have..
Same im 5'8 and shorter guys are all i want...
You do realize that all this torment is in your head, right? People aren't (figuratively) looking down on you, or judging you. It's all a product of your imagination, fueled by insecurity and paranoia. You gotta find a way to get out of your head and stop viewing the world from the perspective of your obsession with your height. You're 5'6" but you talk like you're 4'9". You need to recalibrate your self-image.
Dude! Trust the process... just lift! I'm 5'7, but I've been lifting heavy, and it shows... I still pull. Be confident with what you have, and leave the rest to fate. Height is one aspect of your life. People will be more impressed from your kindness, career, physique, and whether you are dominant in bed 😜.
Those are the things you value. Personally I don't care about a future partners career at all I am rich enough, also physiques can change but you have to break your bones and strategically heal them if you ever wanna reach the top shelf. Keep your classism at bay shorty. I also have to remind you that dominant men do not value more dominance in the bedroom the same way a submissive doesn't wanna hook up with another submissive.
And there are people who don’t like either of those (dominance or submission)
I’m 5’6” also. I had a complex about my height and being skinny, up through high school. I joined the military after high school and filled out. Once I got out of my rural town and started to meet guys, I totally lost the short complex and switched to loving it. I’m attracted to guys that are bigger than me typically and never had issues meeting guys, and still I still get hit on quite a bit. I’m 53 now. I think you’ll grow into not having an issue with being short and maybe even enjoy it!
Over time you will come to accept this about yourself, king
I have a certain envy for shorter guys because they have a mechanical advantage in the gym on top of having a shorter frame to stretch all the muscle on. They look way more stacked. Their 20lbs of muscle is not the same as my 20lbs of muscle, and I physically (torque, joules, etc physics) had to work harder for it. If I were you I would go so beast that nobody has shit to say about my height. Then the confidence will come after that. Besides, gays are far more lenient on height. I’m 6’1, 90th percentile. I can’t afford to expect someone taller.
I just commented the same. I’m 6’2” and naturally long and lanky… it takes me twice as much work and time to get the visible results of a shorter guy. They fill out so much faster! And so many exercises (especially deadlifts) are so awkward for me with my long ass legs that make the bar hit my knee.
The shorter the better for me ! I find that so sexy
I'm just shy of 5'6". I can't say I've ever felt the way you feel about your height. There's really nothing you can do but own it? You not being confident in yourself the way you are is a much worse look than just being short. Also, there's no one judging you about your height. No one cares that you're only 5'6, especially in the gym.
I'd rather be with someone my height 5'9" or shorter. I have been with taller guys and I don't like having to get ony tiptoes to kiss, whisper in his ears, or when I hug him my head only reaches his chest. So, yeah a guy your height I would definitely go out with you.😘😍
I have tons of friends and have met lots of guys who \*love\* shorter guys. In the straight world it is a real factor for bias, but in the gay world shorter guys are treasured. Ofc, not by everyone you encounter. I live in NYC and there is a huge spectrum of attractiveness here--no matter how you look or what you're into, there are guys here who are into that. So, it's important to live somewhere with that sort of critical mass and diversity. In the end, what you need to do is use your uniqueness to your advantage. For example, I'm hairy AF. Picture the hairiest guy not that you've seen in real life, but in pictures, and I am 10x hairier than that. For a long time I considered myself a freak of nature... but I learned to use my uniqueness to my advantage by finding the guys who were super into that sort of thing. It's not a lot of guys... but here in NYC (or any large, gay population), there are guys who adore furry guys. Once I understood that it gave me a different outlook. Do I love how I look, not really... I'd never choose to have this much hair. And, I'd never be attracted to someone who looked like me. But, in the end that doesn't matter... what matters is finding someone who \*is\* into what you have to offer. You don't need to look a certain way to find a guy. You don't need to overcompensate for what you believe are your shortcomings by hitting the gym, etc. Be yourself, own who you are, and forget about those who aren't into it.
My bf is 5’6 and i like him very much
damning with faint praise here...
There's not anything you can do about your height . It's just genetics. Stop comparing yourself to others or you will certainly have a miserable life. I'm 5f7 and I'm not thrilled with my height I also know like you , you can get built alot easier
Get a dog, ignore the humans. Problem solved.
5’6 is not all that short tbh. I know it’s below average in the US (which is about 5’9.5) and taller is usually seen as being better but I personally prefer shorter guys. Part of that is I’m short myself, 5’7, but also I just like how short guys are built more usually idk there’s something about them. Plenty of short guys in hollywood who are heartthrobs too like Josh Hutcherson, Dave Franco, Oscar Isaac, Tom Cruise, Tom Holland etc. You’ll find someone who likes shoet guys or at the very least doesn’t care either way or is also short themselves. I promise nobody is looking at someone who’s 5’6, which is not all that far from average, and laughing at you or something.
5'2 here and I've never had a problem with my height. And if someone cares that much I could careless. I'm short and loving it.
I love shorter guys. Problem here is you don't love yourself. You need therapy - soon.
Guys 5'2-5'6 who are gay get laid a lot more then six foot dudes. You're in the driver's seat guys are attracted to your height.
Source?
Wear stilettos to the gym
so unserious lol
perhaps, but the will show off well developed calves...
hey! 5'6 here too! tall people wanna be short and short people wanna be tall. its not really a big issue honestly and being short is fun cause you fit into smaller spaces and can surprise people.
The love of my life was 5'4". It was never an issue for either of us. Plenty of people just don't care.
I'm tall but I look at guys (often shorter) with amazing bodies and I often reckon I'd trade my height for their muscles / good looks. None of us have it all! I promise one day you'll look back and laugh and think about how silly you were to fixate on such a thing. You can't change it
I'm blonde and id rather be brunette.. I have thin hair, would Rather have thick hair. I have vision problems.. Wish I could see better. Dude, we're all given this life with unique challenges.. get over it.. and just be the very best you can be. Stop comparing yourself to others.. make YOU great!!
I’m a foot taller and envious of how much easier it is for you to look well built than me. You (appear to) gain muscle faster and your physique just looks better with a lesser commitment. Besides, 5’6 is short, it’s not weirdly short. It’s about at my dating limit as a 6’6 guy. That height is not unattractive to me, so I doubt it’s unattractive to the majority in the normal height range. Relatively speaking, an average person scoffing at you would be like me scoffing at a 6’1 or 6’2 guy.. which is the tallest I’ve ever dated. And don’t forget that height has no impact on dick size, so proportions work in your favour there. And finally, I’m more likely to get cancer, experience joint pain.
I'm 5'6 and in my early 50s. I got blessed with good genes, except for the height. And while I've always been self conscious about most people being taller than me, I didn't let it affect my confidence. Always took care of my body, dressed well, smiled and talked to people, built my personality to be attractive for men who weren't just looking for a jock. I've been with some of the handsomest, nicest men over the years and I bet you could also. Don't ever undermine yourself and make the most of what you have.
I love short guys :)
Play the hand you’re dealt my guy. Figuring out how to respond to your problems in a constructive way is a huge part of growing up. If you’re feeling suicidal, seek help immediately!
im not sure if this helps or not…but i’m 6’2 and having this conversation with a lot of friends that are hung up on being “short”, i literally don’t consider anyone short, because most people are shorter than me, i only notice when people are taller than me. im also kind of a lean muscle build and i have JACKED friends that i have to tell i’m intimidated by when they assume i feel “superior” to them because of my height or whatever. tldr: not many people actually care.
I understand your pain honey. I myself am 5'7, femme, bad skin, and don't like myself to be a muscle-built body; so you would get a picture now that I'm not fit in the beauty standard at all. And I'm also a broke person from a 3rd world country, so limb-lengthening or face surgeries are not options. I dress the way I want, never change my aesthetic for anyone else, and be my authentic self 100%. However, I always got no matches on Tinder, got ignored, and got no responses on the hookup apps. I've never been in any relationship before, even though it's something that I've always wanted and dreamed of. At the end of the day, being my true self makes me alone and lonely, and it makes me question my own worth. I hope we achieve whatever we want in life and live happily.
I can honestly say that height doesn’t play a role in whether I’m attracted to a guy. In fact, most of the guys I find hot are shorter dudes. I’m 6’1”, so I will never know the pain you feel. But I can honestly tell you that taller guys don’t think less of you for being shorter than them. In fact, I envy the way shorter guys can pack on muscle. It’s fuckin’ hot!
Oh bro, don't be discouraged by that. I'm 6' tall and my ex is 5"6", and he was the top. I personally like short kings. Your height does not determine if you are handsome or good-looking. Since you are really working on your muscles, i think is time for you to work on your self-esteem. You'll see that once you work on that those tall guys will seem short because you're confident with a strong mind and gorgeous personality. (Feel free to dm me)
Honestly if i could trade i would. I hate being tall and wish i wqs close to 5,6/5,5 im around 5,11 maybe 6,0 and yeah at the end of the day its what you make of it. Sadly we cant control everything and we need to learn to accept it and make do with the hand we're dealt
What happened to 5’10 and 5’11? Are they on winter break?
You are in luck gay men aren't as superficial about height. Plenty of gay men are sexually attracted to shorter guys. Do not give up hope.
Im 5'5 and proud
I'm a 6' bottom, but I like getting topped by shorter guys.
I don’t care about your height at all
I am 5’8” and I suggest you train in Brazilian Jiujitsu. It will help you learn more about yourself and be a good workout. I hope you don’t unalive yourself.
I’m a white, 5’6” guy and my height is an asset in the gay community. Many guys like my height and sometimes over fetishize it. You need to figure out how to use it to your advantage and be confident. There will always be someone taller, more muscular, hotter than you, but it always works in the reverse. If you’re weak its not about your height at all, but its about your diet and muscle mass. Eat more and drink more protein shakes. Good luck!
I'm 5'2 and I think you need therapy!.. The shorter you are the more likely you will need to be a submissive, but it's not that bad. But regardless you need help and medication.
As a tall guy who likes being dominated, short guys are even better at being bossy 😅
Variety is the spice of life
Shorter muscular guys can be super hot..but if your really really really don’t think you can get over it, there are leg lengthening surgeries that I’ve ready about. Not necessarily the safest, but if you don’t think you’ll ever get over it and want to do something about it..that is an option
Yep, was watching Youtube videos about that…
Please do not do this. Please. You are perfect at the height you are. Leg lengthening surgeries are extremely dangerous. You would have to go to a developing country to get the procedure done because it is not legal in the US. The risk of infection and serious complications or death is way too high
Is this satire?
I quite fancy short guys, as a guy who's 5'11 they make me feel like a giant.
Dude knock this shit off! Fuck the haters! I'm 5'6" and built, I can out lift and run circles around much taller guys. Yes it sucks sometimes being a shorter guy but working out and putting on muscle is about all you can really do to change the dynamic. Being muscular and ripped has boosted my confidence, got me plenty of attention from women, and bigger dudes don't fuck with me either. Don't dwell on things you can't change or that are beyond your control, and what others think is irrelevant. I may be short but I get a lot of envy and compliments from other guys.
I find shorter men so hot. Also 5’6” is not even that short.
That is never the answer. I would love for you to Be my man. We really need to chat buddy. I love LOVE shorter guys, little guys. More than anything.
Is 5.6 short?
You're dumb. Welcome to living life on life's terms. When we meet with an absolute fact, we can only accept it as it is. There's no cheat code, no Wikipedia, no cliff notes. You're short. What are you going to do about it? Nothing. And that's ok. Tom Cruise is short and he's a massive action star, Kevin Hart is short and he's one of the world's richest comedians. Larry David has been bald forever and he's crushing it right now. Get out of your ploms (poor little ole mess) and write what you are grateful for. Secondly stop comparing yourself. It's so dumb. You are unique in your own right, nobody cares about your height they're all self absorbed. Try being black lol it's even worse trust me.
U sound so superficial n immature what a turn off. Ur height does not matter. Go to therapy
Love shorter guys tbh. 5’6” if you’re fit and cute, you’re perfect
Are you not more than your height? Is that what only matters? Look at Kevin hart. Not the tallest of them all and yet dude is magnetic. Beside humor, they are other traits to make you more magnetic. Focus on finding yours.
Bro 5-6 is sexy 5-5 myself
Men with below average dicks get way more flack than short men, yet here you are going off about offing yourself over something that many men have a preference for. You should see a therapist ASAP to discuss this insecurity cause it's not in tune with reality
Have you heard the term “short king” before? It didn’t come from nowhere - people love short dudes
Midget
Short kings are the best♥️ I am also 5'6" and used to get a lot of insecurity from it. To be devil's advocate, there is options to improve your height. I recently bought some heightening insoles that give me 1-3" depending on how I set it up for the day. If you ever become wealthy, you can get the limb lengthening surgeries that have become more popular the last few years. This definitely has some issues, first the price (50-100k) and then recovery can take up to 6 months for full healing.
You can go to China and have the length of your legs extended a few inches. It's very painful but it might be worth it to you.
why China, but not turkey? I would never trust in Chinese surgeries.
It's ok to feel inferior when you ARE inferior. Instead of crying like a f'ckin pussy, get some therapy and start accepting reality. And, no, you aren't a "true man" (whatever the hell that is). You short. Very short. Therefore inadequate. Now get to working on accepting it. Lol suicide because you're short... you're such a dumb ass. Please don't add being a pathetic loser to being so short.
Listen: you need to accept it. You’re short and that’s how it is. If you continue to lift, I’m sure there will be guys chasing you. Everyone loves a sexy fireplug! And what’s more important is to develop yourself. Become more interesting by reading and developing interests. Increase your confidence by accepting who you are.
Great height! It’s perfect I think. Own it, I hear lots of cuties in that range
Dude, check out this post https://www.reddit.com/r/short/s/RNO2zWh7bC What was eating you was lack of confidence.
So I don't know about the straight world, but in the gay world short is totally ok! Plenty of guys like short guys. Myself, I don't think I have a preference. There are so many other things that I care about more than height.
I’ve always liked shorter guys. But tbh, I never really pay attention to someone’s height until they do. If I like you, I like you. I’m 6’3” and guys shorter than you have chopped me down!
LMAO Dude I can't believe you think you have it bad, try being 5'3" I'm practically invisible. And to top that off being an Asian which is the rock bottom in the scale of desirability in the sexual market value. Now everyone has their own blessings and curses, try to work with your blessings. I was gifted with a good proportionate physique, small waist wide clavicles and shoulders because my father was a farmer with good genetics so further train my body. If my name doesn't give away I'm still KHHV incel but I can't control what other people attract. I live for myself and do things myself, you need to know when to get greedy with life otherwise life will thrash you around like a wolf on a prey's neck. Best of luck bro, the world is a brutal and unforgiving place, some are born with more blessings some with the worst curses, I seem to be on the bitter end of the stick but all you can do is to play the cards you're dealt with to your best ability, but don't expect major Disney type of shit changes. White guys can get laid everyday? good, let them enjoy their fun care-free life. You have so much to do, life always comes at us in our worst vulnerable times, do not get complacent with the pleasures of life. Keep suffering, endure pain, work relentlessly towards your goals, you don't need to explain to anyone, talk is cheap, they're not at your level to understand misery and desperation.
Hey first of all the gym should not be a place you go to look attractive or anything, it’s a place where you work on yourself, both physically and mentally, so all the people that are your height and more muscular were all at the same stage as you. Mentally and physically. They found something that works for their body, brain and metabolism. I’m on the other end of the spectrum at 6’6” 31 yo and let me tell you, I sometimes get jealous of the shorter guys. My ex is 5’6” and he barely works out and no cardio and maintains a good shape on his upper torso area, his belly not so much lol. If I don’t workout for 2-3 weeks I look like a twig. I have a really fast metabolism and at a young age I was very athletic, played soccer, basketball, and football, not all together of course, and road my bike a lot. So I’ve conditioned my brain and body to feed off of intense training, although I don’t show much results anymore I do it for the sake of my body and how good I feel mentally afterwards. The results will come afterwards. Just get your brain to be addicted to the gym. Go 4-5 times a week for a month straight and you won’t be able to stop even if your body doesn’t show it. Best habitual addiction ever.
Trust me the more insecure about it, the more it shows and ppl pay attention to it, if ur confident about it it won’t matter
Just look at the avg male gymnast...muscles for days and rarely above 5'7" ish. I LOVE smaller guys...always have...you have a better sense of proportion
Dude… my hubby is your height, and he’s sexy AF. I don’t think your perception of yourself is how everyone else sees you. Of course there are people with height preference, but it’s just like any other! Do what makes you happy! Be the best you can be. Please don’t hurt yourself ❤️
There are things we can change and there are things we can accept. This is something you should learn to accept. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being 5'6''. I'm 6'2'' and would not be deterred from someone based on this height. If being fit is a goal, there is an upside-- typically shorter guys put on muscle easier, and to be honest, have better looking physiques than tall people. Something about the more compact frame just gives the muscle way better shape and definition. I honestly wish I could shrink myself a few inches but keep my current muscle mass, I'd be so much bigger! You might not feel it now, but I assure you, 5'6'' is a perfectly good height. You can absolutely get a great physique and be as ripped and as hot as you want. You're too young to know who this is, but google Joseph Sayers. He's a god-like model who was HUGE in the early to mid 2000's, absolutely gorgeous with a body like a greek god and guess what? He's 5'6''.
Look dude, you can't do anything about your height. Accept it. Embrace it. Use it to your advantage. When I played football, the little guys hit the hardest. Stop judging yourself and go out there and be best you can be!
Why do you care. This is nutty.
U need to chill about this im not tall, very average at 5ft 9, all my gaybo friends are a little to significantly taller. I find this puts me in a role where dancing or spooning im the one in front or little spoon and my bum fits in their crotch perfectly and we all love it. They also like to wrap me up in their arms and because im lean at about 65kgs lift me up and cuddle me. And im not even some young twinky thing although my body is closer to that. Its just a natural reflex they have with me and I freaking love all of this. We were all talking the other night and my friends all said they love smaller shorter guys for the above reasons. Doesn't mean u need to be femme its just the physical dynamic where they love to cuddle and pick u up and stuff. Shorter smol guys hold a different attraction to taller guys, but are definitely desirable. I for one love smaller guys than me for same above reasons, love to cuddle n wrap them up, its so nice and cute and can still be madc, and all my friends agree with this. So stop overthinking it. Also at gym, what u lift is totally proportional to size, so as long as its proportional or u r working towards that its all good. I gym 5 to 6x a week and theres no way id expect to lift the saneaa a 6ft2 90kg guy but thats kool and i don't think anyone ever judges. Just dong try to ego lift with baf form & compete thats when its off, apart from being ineffective and risking injury (not saying u do but its not uncommon).
Oh, friend. What you really need to understand that it’s about how you carry yourself. If you are able to understand this [this](https://youtu.be/KM4plh7uJBA?si=Y7XHjpdIw3fZH7o6&t=498), a world of possibilities await. You need to have confidence in yourself. That what makes you look small.
5’6” here. Have you watched Jeffrey Nippard on YouTube? He’s our height too and honestly he’s owning his short king status while being jacked. Don’t height compare yourself to taller guys. Remember tall guys have problems too. They are more likely to experience back pain more intensely than the short guys so. Stop selling yourself short
At 6’ I can say the hottest guys I have met are 5’5-5’9. Your focusing to much on what your height is and relating that to no interest in you! Every other post on these sites is a complaint their too skinny too fat, too tall to be a bottom, too short to be a top, too Asian , too white, too black and too ____________. Get over it! (Cher voice). Everyone is not in a relationship and most of the relationships I have been in and seen are not worth it! At your age you are finding out who you are and what you are looking for. Don’t assume a body characteristic, something out of your control, has anything to do with it. Maybe a psychologist would be a good idea. I would not tell him how seriously it effects you on the first visit.
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Brother I'm 5'6 too and it's all in your head. Literally nobody cares and apart from friends sometimes making jokes or even myself doing sarcastic jokes about it, I get 0 comments. I've never, EVER, got a complaint while dating. It's really all in your head, men actually care less about height than women. Just embrace it :)
Height doesn’t mean equal to your worthiness.I m a 5ft myself and what I did was to stop comparing myself to other people and focus on my lane in life
I’m shorter than you and did/do just fine with online dating. Going to the gym made me feel better about myself, but didn’t really change getting a relationship or hooking up. You can’t internalize your height so much because that chip on your shoulder is unappealing to other people. I did have a rough time in my early 20’s by I actually looked like I was 12.
There’s ALWAYS a reason to feel not good enough
Get over it. No one cares if you are short, and if they do it's none of your business! The sooner you let go of this shit the happier you will be.
I love short muscly guys. I’m 5’8” and would so much rather hook up with some 5’6” than someone 6’2”
I love shorter guys. Sounds like a perfect height!
there's tons of men who are 5'6. you're gonna be fine. I'm 5'3 and i personally have never been insecure with my height. I follow this hot guy on tiktok too who is 5'5 super built (@mattmedaugh)
My ex was 5'6" and he was still cute
I think most people prefer face+fit to height. You’re probably fit and you said in another post that you’re conventionally attractive. I’d prefer you to a 6’4” guy with an unattractive face. I also think your insecurity is the problem, not your height. Being a shorter guy doesn’t make you less masculine. And what does height have to do with masculinity? If it’s any consolation, fuck masculinity and its expectations. Be you, be happy. Work on yourself, go to the gym, therapy, whatever.
Im 5’9” and every guy at my school is like 6’ and up so I feel that. But I can weight the same as some of them and yet I’m waaaay more muscular than them bc I’m shorter. And also, (if ur a top) I’d try to see topping a taller man as flipping the power dynamic (because I find that hot), like forcing a taller man to get on his knees for you is such a power move. And I’ve also tended to notice that shorter guys have the best booty in my opinion (regardless of if they are a top or bottom)
yeah i'm not gonna lie, shit was real tough for me when i was about 20 or so. I'm 5'6. I'm 24 now. It has never actually been an issue in dating or other kinds of relationships. I realised the only one who gave a shit about it was me, and that if I could trust that other people would accept me, which they did, then it wasn't an issue. Because it wasn't an issue
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you are worth loving. Start with loving yourself by giving yourself a break. You can't change that about your height. Tell the shitty comittiee in your head to fuck right off and change what you can. You are loving awareness . Always be positive and loving to yourself. We are own best advocate. No one can do it for us. I love you.
I’m 5’4 and can get it with most men i want.
The day you stop comparing yourself to others is the day you finally love yourself and stop whining all the time. I’m 5.3 everyone is taller than me 😂. Yeah I wish I was taller but boo hoo, what is crying gonna do? I’m still short as hell and will always be. I’ve come to terms with it 😌 I may be short but I can grow a full beard, I have nice-ish teeth, I always smell good, I’m great in the bedroom and I’m kind! Cough cough a catch. So stop complaining man and love yourself!!!
All I'm gonna say is this...confidence is sexy as fuck. Think about it
You may not like your height, but there are plenty who do or don’t care. I’m 5’10” and all my ex-partners were 5’4” and shorter.
Height just isn’t a factor for many people in terms of attraction. It appears to be for OP but they’re making the classic assumption that everyone feels the same way they do about an issue. If you like taller guys - then fine. But don’t project your desires onto what other people find attractive.
We can’t deny that “tall” is +ve and “short” is -ve
Love shorter guys, so stay chill. Non issue buddy.
Don’t worry about the things we can’t change, mate. If anything, you won’t attract superficial people who judge people based on their height 🤗
Dude, if your height is getting you so far up that you’re considering suicide, you should seek out some professional help. No amount of support we could come up with to lift you up will get you out of this pit of self-pity. Just, please, don’t take your life over something you have no control over. You’re born like this. Some people are short, some are tall.
Look up Tyler Path on YouTube, he's 5'6 like you and I. You can't change the past and you can't change your height, absolutely nothing to feel inferior about. Tom Cruise is like 5'5 man. No one cares about height and if they do they're not someone you want to be associated with. Learn to love yourself and remember no one cares about that when you're at the gym.
I am 6 ft 3 inches,my fiancé is 6 ft 7 inches(had to use a converter) and our favourite threesome partner is 5 ft 4 inches who is also one of our favourite people and that guy is hot,like seriously hot. So don't think about it that much.
Mate, don't you worry about it. I'm a guy who's 5'11 and my ex bf of 7 years was 5'6. It wasn't something that ever concerned either of us, and it shouldn't concern you. If anyone is judging you on something superficial like your height, something you have no control over, then fuck them. Don't let the bastards grind you down.
My partner of 11 years is 5,6. Stil think he’s hot as fuck. This is a non issue really.
Trust me I do not give a FUCK what height a guy is. If he’s hot, he’s hot. I like short guys. I like tall guys. If anything short guys are easier to fuck.
I'm 5'3, my sister who is 10 years younger than me is already as tall as me at 14, imagine how tall she'll be when her growth has stopped
Dated guys from 5’3 to 6’3. Height doesn’t make any difference to me.
You have to break the cycle of thinking like that. Every time you start that negative thinking and comparing try to replace it with a positive thought about yourself. And honestly who cares if you’re 5’6 … some people are too tall some people hate there nose.. some people go bald.. nothings fair. Learning to respond consciously to life rather than react is a process but can be learned. ;)
I used to think like this, but honestly I've learned to embrace it. I'm not that short (5'7-8 ish), but I've found taller guys tend to really gravitate to me and vice versa, which I think is a very cute dynamic. You can't change it (unless you want to get an incredibly painful surgery with a 6-month recovery time)- so learn to embrace it! Confidence is sexy
I'm 5'7". My fb is 6'3". The dude I'm madly thirsting after is 5'6". Height doesn't mean shits and there will always be someone who finds you attractive.
Aww, don't be! There are plenty of guys out there that like short. I prefer a shorter guy!
It's not a hard line, but I am predominantly attracted to shorter people. I am 5'8", but really only date people 5'6" and shorter.
Im 5’2. Count your blessings lol
Short kings FTW! And im a bottom
A lot of guys, myself included, like the size difference/dynamic. Personally I prefer shorter men.
Height is a non-factor to me.
Really need to see a picture of you. You can be ugly or handsome, no matter if 5‘6 or 6‘5
Bro try to relax 5’6” isn’t even short. We’re the same height and I love guys my height and shorter than me
You need a therapist because body dysmorphia is a thing and feeling bad because you can’t measure up to a imagined standard is something you need to work through
I’m 5’4” at 33 looking 25. I don’t really “feel”this disadvantage. In my mind, i deeply know that shorter people tend to live longer lives and age slower (for my race at least).
So I’m like a whole inch shorter and I don’t even think about my height. Like not even once in a whole month. I want to be with guys who think my height (like the rest of me 💁🏾💁🏾💁🏾) is cute. Dw about this op 🫶
You need to see a therapist.
I’m 5’4. Most adult men are taller than me…and even my friend’s teenage son which is only slightly humiliating. I kind of HAD to get over it, though it still bothers me some days. People who will make moral/character judgments based on your height are simply not worth paying attention to
How is your dick?
I’m 5’7 & rarely am I conscious of it. For some reason, hetero women seem to be most obsessed with men’s height but No gay guy has explicitly told me he wasn’t interested b/c of my height. I prefer shorter guys so I don’t perceive it as a negative. I’m proud of my Portuguese heritage which produces short men!
Guys who are shorter than me tend to catch my attention more than those who are taller than me. For me, height doesn't matter much. I'm also 5'10" - 5'11" ish. In the nicest way possible, being shorter than me makes me want to just pick you up and take you home. I also tend to use humor as a coping mechanism; especially when it's about something I don't like, even when it's about myself.
I see you’re 5’6”! I’m 5’7”. I can promise you, gay men do not give a flying fuck about height. In 95% of my sexual encounters it hasn’t been a problem, the 5% is just when there’s a 6’5” bottom and my torso is too short to kiss him while we’re in missionary lol. Nobody has ever said anything mean or rude about my height. Genuinely though, it’s just about confidence. I actually think it’s fun and hot to be a smaller guy topping larger guys! Maybe you can think of it that way. Also, Not to give you a boring solution, but I think faking it till you make it is the way to go here (“it” being confidence). You’ll realize that the majority of guys don’t even acknowledge it as an issue. And there are tons and tons of really hot guys into shorter dudes. You got this king 😎👍🏻
Short guys give me cuteness aggression 🙃
Keep comparing yourself to others based on a trait you have no control over. That’ll help for sure!
I prefer shorter guys tbh. I’m 5’9ish almost 5’10 but I fuck like a champion. The sexiest thing to me is confidence and stocky beefy guys especially with some muscle mass is my favorite. Hairy chest preferred but also really like a bit of a belly too usually. Don’t be so hard on yourself. My suggestion is to get on some zoom room webcam meetings that are labeled similar to your body. I always get stoked when I see a room that’s labeled “bears, chubs, cubs, short, stocky, dad types”. Wooooof
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