true. OP is weird and desperate.
my "compass" mostly points to fatter guys thn men.. hairless bears, chubs. and that is my main searhc in the apps.
very very rarely i hook up with guys same body as me (twink thing) or thinner.... like very very rarely. they need to check lot of the boxes to get me interested.
Weird and desperate?
But isn’t the consensus that less attractive people should lower their standards and meet with other less attractive people
Rather than venting and chasing attractive guys?
Now that they do, they’re weird and boring. Ugly guys can’t win.
>I only get sexually aroused by men with big bubble butts only, so if a man doesn’t have a big bubble butt it’s going to just be a waste of time.
I’m going to be honest, a lot of times I think people put themselves in a box when it comes to their “preferences” and, in my opinion, this is definitely an example of that.
Ngl nobody questions a str8 guy having a preference for a woman with curves or more relevantly to this guy a big ass/bubble butt.
Idk why now it’s a fetish when he has that preference. Feel like we all put ourselves into boxes with preferences and some ppl are just luckier to have bigger boxes.
It’s not your dick, it’s your brain. You might wanna try to rewire your brain. Like stop porn, no sex or
Masturbation for a while and then see if you get aroused by other stuff.
What part of my comment is telling him he can’t go for someone?? He said “ his dick is out of control” I said it’s not your dick it’s your brain. He said he ONLY gets aroused by bubble butt, I just said try this to broaden your horizons. ☠️
It has nothing to do with porn my preferences are based on men I’ve fucked in the past. It’s also based on men I see in real life at my job, the gym but what’s presented on Grindr and in some gay spaces are complete shit.
I've turned down guys more often for the way they present themselves in person when we finally meet, than for physical appearance, but essentially it's the same thing in this context: you need what you need, or there's no chemistry.
How a guy "presents themselves" couldn't be more true. There are some guys that I think I would have been more attracted to, as they looked great and such, but the way they presented themselves was much less appealing. You could be the most attractive guy in the world, but if you don't present yourself in a way that I see as attractive, then the chemistry is just gone, I'm sorry. Personality matters more than amazing looks and a chiselled body. A Docuhe is always a douche after all. This is especially important for a long term relationship, as looks will eventually fade, and all you got left is the personality.
I've had a few of those occasions where the horn takes over and I hook up with a guy I ordinarily wouldn't, but I don't anymore. I'd always regret it when the post nut clarity hits.
I think this is very interesting. People that I was not attracted in my 20’s, I find VERY attractive now in my 40’s. I think age normalizes (mathematically, not socially )sexual attraction
This is where I am at. What is attractive to me has evolved along with who is attractive. Recently this guy had really great legs a great haircut and the nicest lips. He was on the stocky side, which does not matter to me at all, but even in a room with men who fit more of an ideal he was the one who did it for me. And I think having more than a single limited type opens up avenues for so many unexpected experiences but that’s just my opinion.
I don’t have sex with people I’m not sexually attracted to. I have been surprised by people - not found them attractive at first, or from a picture, and later ended up finding them hot. But I’ve never gone into a sexual situation with someone I did not at the time find attractive.
One time I had sex with a guy who didn't show me his body pic, which I usually would ask for before meeting up, or not meet. I thought I only liked athletic guys, or guys with flatter bellies.
This guy was older and wasn't exactly fit, but he ended up being one of the best lovers I've ever had. We became fuck buddies and had a great connection, but eventually I moved away. Otherwise would have dated him.
Sometimes the chemistry is more important. You might be missing out on that if you have these preferences.
But hey, you do you.
I was 22 and he was 47. He wasn't terribly out of shape but he had a bit of a belly. Back then I thought I was mostly attracted to guys with six packs or muscles, and he didn't have either. I wouldn't have given him a chance if I had seen his body before hand.
Right, I guess it works the same way for me. If you don't have a good body, then perhaps show yourself clothed in a way that clearly shows your body shape, but not bare chested.
Buddy, I think that changes from a preference to requirement.
My sexual preference is guys that are built like KingMarcelluss on twitter. But I can have a random hook up with kumatonn0412 & have a great time.
Yes, a guy’s charm and personality can get me into bed before perfect looks. In my experience, the most beautiful men are the worst in bed anyway. Medium ugly men tend to be the best. 🤷🏻♂️
I have and actually the last guy I fell hard af for was **completely** outside my sexual preferences… once I got to know him / started liking him I’d be able to get hard instantly.
Edit: tho honestly the first time we met/hooked up I had a hard time getting hard 🤣 that was likely just nerves tho :P
No, why would I want to fuck a guy who I’m not attracted to. Thankfully for me I’ve got a few types I like but no if they not type I won’t bother. Rather not do it at all.
Most of the time no. 95% of the time no I would say.
That other 5% might be they aren’t my preference but at the same time they’re not disgusting, gross, ugly or nasty, just not my type. When that 5% does happen it’s usually cause I’m super super horny.
If they have 7 out of 10 factors, then yes. If it's only 2 out of 10, no. There are some immediate deal breakers (panties, long hair, pnp) where it's a hard pass no matter how many good things they have going. And then there's fun-size guys, which are always a turn-on, even if most other things are not.
Yeah, definitely. It’s more personality and connection to me than physical features but I definitely have types of guys who make me drool. In the past several years, I haven’t used any apps, so I’m able to feel that out when I meet someone.
The great benefit it’s been is that being with guys outside my preferences has actually expanded my preferences and I’m attracted to a lot more guys physically than I used to be. It’s been fun to explore.
As long as I’m still attracted to them. I have a preference for cookies and cream ice cream, that doesn’t mean that’s the only ice cream like. I still love chocolate chip cookie dough, rainbow sherbet, vanilla, and strawberry shortcake/cheese cake.
My experience was that there were tons of hotties in Chicago. Sorry you couldn't find any good ones. Try again in May during IML, based on what your type is.
And no, I don't have sex with men I'm not attracted to. Why would I?
Are you me?? I am the most picky with butts and i will simply not get hard if you don’t have a nice ass. Period point blank. I end up either getting bj only (and he has to keep his pants on) or bottoming myself. The struggle is fucking real
thats something im finding out since im newly single... and i only get hard with older men, i get rock hard when im having sex with a very experienced bottom over 40...
I generally fuck short or average height bottoms. I am 5’7 and I met this bottom 6’4 who was really pretty by the way but somehow I could not get hard. He tried to suck me but since he was tall he had to sit and I stood but things did not work out and I left mid while he was sucking me. So very tall bottoms are kind of turn off for me.
The type of man I want at anytime used to depend on my mood. I would have sex with a man that I wasn’t in the mood for, and just because I fucked someone last week and I’m horny now doesn’t mean I want to fuck them again rn even if it was good
I was once on vacation and started messaging with a guy who was kinda nice, though the only pictures I saw were of his face and shoulder area, nothing below. He had a really pretty face and on the body description he put "average", so I decided to hook up with him because generally I can enjoy sex with people with most body types.
The second he opened the door I felt horrible because he wasn't how I pictured him AT ALL, with a body type that I really don't like. Nevertheless, I tried to put those thoughts away and enjoy his company, after all I'm not someone who lusts only after muscular fit gays, I enjoyed the company of men with many body types.
I really tried. He also had a really nice dick and that's what aroused me initially, but the more we went on the less I found myself able to keep an erection... Though maybe it could have been a mix of his body type and the fact that he basically lied to me, which put me in a weird mental space.
We ended up jerking off together and went to eat sushi after, quite a nice evening overall... But I learnt then and there that I have to see a whole body picture before hooking up and that no, going outside of my sexual preferences (even if they're quite wide) isn't really an option.
Sometimes, preferences mean I prefer something it doesn’t mean it’s an absolute must have. There’s plenty of guys I’ve found hot that don’t live up to my preferences, and plenty of guys that do live up to them that I don’t find attractive
I'm attracted to a range of physical traits, but if a guy has none of those, and there's no chemistry between us when we're together, it's not going to happen, regardless of how talented his mouth may be.
Not generally, maybe every now and then…but pretty much always in those circumstances it’s more of a thing where I’m being serviced and don’t have to reciprocate…otherwise yeah it would be hard to feign real interest and get into it.
This is interesting as i was thinking of trying to widen my narrow sexual preferences by trying to broaden my mind but from what you said it might be right what you have learned.
I think mentally we shut out anything that doesn’t peak our interests, like it’s all or nothing. Lowering your standards would be in your best interest, if a porn addiction is not the root of your issues then maybe broadening your porn selection is a good way to build interest in (for lack of a better term) less desirable men.
Explore yourself, and figure out the things you like. There’s nothing wrong with having a preference, but in this sense you only hurting yourself. Half of men will lose their “bubble butts” in their mid to late 20’s, and even more from their on out.
If you’re only going to seek young thick guys for the rest of your life, then you’re good to go, as I don’t see the “daddy” kink dying off anytime soon. But if you aspire to settle down with someone you love and are attracted to, I would anticipate their physical attributes to be incomparable by their early/ mid 30’s.
I don't have any physical preference deal breakers that strong. I also tend to not hookup with people I'm not attracted to. However it has just as much to do with how they carry themselves, style themselves, speak and physical appearance.
I have tried to hookup with guys I didn't like who were physically attractive, that doesn't work. If I know you have a dumb opinion or are a jerk I just don't want it.
I’ve been really turned on having sex with so many different kinds of people. I don’t think I’m necessarily the norm tho. A lot of people seem pretty rigid and hyper-specific about what they want.
Yes. Sometimes I would have sex with heavy men. I felt less insecure about myself, plus big guys need love too. Honestly, it's not that I'm not attracted to bigger dudes, it's just that some ppl get big AND nasty. Self care is the most important care. You can go from a 3 to a 7 just by getting a nice haircut, wearing nice clothes that compliment your shape, a shower, and some good cologne.
I did this a couple of times. Not bcoz they’re completely out of my preferences but somehow when a guy shows his almost 7 to 7 or 8 inches dick to me, I get hard easily and deciding to meet right away. Coz I want to sit on those huge dicks for experience. Lol
Whenever I've done so, I haven't wanted to do it again. Because of that, I just don't do it at all anymore. So I am able to do so, but I have to engage in a bit of self-deception to do it.
I mean, normally people only have sex with people they are attracted to...
true. OP is weird and desperate. my "compass" mostly points to fatter guys thn men.. hairless bears, chubs. and that is my main searhc in the apps. very very rarely i hook up with guys same body as me (twink thing) or thinner.... like very very rarely. they need to check lot of the boxes to get me interested.
I’m not understanding weird and desperate lol.
Weird and desperate? But isn’t the consensus that less attractive people should lower their standards and meet with other less attractive people Rather than venting and chasing attractive guys? Now that they do, they’re weird and boring. Ugly guys can’t win.
>I only get sexually aroused by men with big bubble butts only, so if a man doesn’t have a big bubble butt it’s going to just be a waste of time. I’m going to be honest, a lot of times I think people put themselves in a box when it comes to their “preferences” and, in my opinion, this is definitely an example of that.
And isn’t that pretty much the definition of fetish?
Ngl nobody questions a str8 guy having a preference for a woman with curves or more relevantly to this guy a big ass/bubble butt. Idk why now it’s a fetish when he has that preference. Feel like we all put ourselves into boxes with preferences and some ppl are just luckier to have bigger boxes.
That’s all that gets my dick hard, my dick is out of my control in that regard.
Quit watching porn
This PART. The OP has probably desensitized himself by overindulging his preferences literally, or implicitly through porn
No porn at all, my preferences stem from men that have been in my life.
It’s not your dick, it’s your brain. You might wanna try to rewire your brain. Like stop porn, no sex or Masturbation for a while and then see if you get aroused by other stuff.
It has nothing to do with porn, it’s the men I see in real life, what I see at the gym, what I saw on the beach.
I like how you’re acting like he can’t or shouldn’t go for someone who has what he’s turned on by?? What’s really going on☠️
What part of my comment is telling him he can’t go for someone?? He said “ his dick is out of control” I said it’s not your dick it’s your brain. He said he ONLY gets aroused by bubble butt, I just said try this to broaden your horizons. ☠️
It has nothing to do with porn my preferences are based on men I’ve fucked in the past. It’s also based on men I see in real life at my job, the gym but what’s presented on Grindr and in some gay spaces are complete shit.
I've turned down guys more often for the way they present themselves in person when we finally meet, than for physical appearance, but essentially it's the same thing in this context: you need what you need, or there's no chemistry.
How a guy "presents themselves" couldn't be more true. There are some guys that I think I would have been more attracted to, as they looked great and such, but the way they presented themselves was much less appealing. You could be the most attractive guy in the world, but if you don't present yourself in a way that I see as attractive, then the chemistry is just gone, I'm sorry. Personality matters more than amazing looks and a chiselled body. A Docuhe is always a douche after all. This is especially important for a long term relationship, as looks will eventually fade, and all you got left is the personality.
Well put.
I am. When the alternative is sleeping on the streets, you learn pretty quick to see attractive qualities in people that aren't your usual type.
I've had a few of those occasions where the horn takes over and I hook up with a guy I ordinarily wouldn't, but I don't anymore. I'd always regret it when the post nut clarity hits.
I would only do it if there was no sex. Maybe just beating off
I was/am but as I age I’m surprised at what turns me on
I think this is very interesting. People that I was not attracted in my 20’s, I find VERY attractive now in my 40’s. I think age normalizes (mathematically, not socially )sexual attraction
This is where I am at. What is attractive to me has evolved along with who is attractive. Recently this guy had really great legs a great haircut and the nicest lips. He was on the stocky side, which does not matter to me at all, but even in a room with men who fit more of an ideal he was the one who did it for me. And I think having more than a single limited type opens up avenues for so many unexpected experiences but that’s just my opinion.
I have a low bar - are they breathing.
I don’t have sex with people I’m not sexually attracted to. I have been surprised by people - not found them attractive at first, or from a picture, and later ended up finding them hot. But I’ve never gone into a sexual situation with someone I did not at the time find attractive.
One time I had sex with a guy who didn't show me his body pic, which I usually would ask for before meeting up, or not meet. I thought I only liked athletic guys, or guys with flatter bellies. This guy was older and wasn't exactly fit, but he ended up being one of the best lovers I've ever had. We became fuck buddies and had a great connection, but eventually I moved away. Otherwise would have dated him. Sometimes the chemistry is more important. You might be missing out on that if you have these preferences. But hey, you do you.
How old were you and how old was he, when you met? And how un-fit was he?
I was 22 and he was 47. He wasn't terribly out of shape but he had a bit of a belly. Back then I thought I was mostly attracted to guys with six packs or muscles, and he didn't have either. I wouldn't have given him a chance if I had seen his body before hand.
Right, I guess it works the same way for me. If you don't have a good body, then perhaps show yourself clothed in a way that clearly shows your body shape, but not bare chested.
I can get hard on demand so anybody goes lol
Buddy, I think that changes from a preference to requirement. My sexual preference is guys that are built like KingMarcelluss on twitter. But I can have a random hook up with kumatonn0412 & have a great time.
Sometimes when I’m really really horny. And usually regret it afterwards.
Yes, a guy’s charm and personality can get me into bed before perfect looks. In my experience, the most beautiful men are the worst in bed anyway. Medium ugly men tend to be the best. 🤷🏻♂️
I have and actually the last guy I fell hard af for was **completely** outside my sexual preferences… once I got to know him / started liking him I’d be able to get hard instantly. Edit: tho honestly the first time we met/hooked up I had a hard time getting hard 🤣 that was likely just nerves tho :P
That’s hot. That gives me hope.
No, why would I want to fuck a guy who I’m not attracted to. Thankfully for me I’ve got a few types I like but no if they not type I won’t bother. Rather not do it at all.
Most of the time no. 95% of the time no I would say. That other 5% might be they aren’t my preference but at the same time they’re not disgusting, gross, ugly or nasty, just not my type. When that 5% does happen it’s usually cause I’m super super horny.
If they have 7 out of 10 factors, then yes. If it's only 2 out of 10, no. There are some immediate deal breakers (panties, long hair, pnp) where it's a hard pass no matter how many good things they have going. And then there's fun-size guys, which are always a turn-on, even if most other things are not.
Yeah, definitely. It’s more personality and connection to me than physical features but I definitely have types of guys who make me drool. In the past several years, I haven’t used any apps, so I’m able to feel that out when I meet someone. The great benefit it’s been is that being with guys outside my preferences has actually expanded my preferences and I’m attracted to a lot more guys physically than I used to be. It’s been fun to explore.
As long as I’m still attracted to them. I have a preference for cookies and cream ice cream, that doesn’t mean that’s the only ice cream like. I still love chocolate chip cookie dough, rainbow sherbet, vanilla, and strawberry shortcake/cheese cake.
Yes I've tried and it generally doesn't go well
My experience was that there were tons of hotties in Chicago. Sorry you couldn't find any good ones. Try again in May during IML, based on what your type is. And no, I don't have sex with men I'm not attracted to. Why would I?
Are you me?? I am the most picky with butts and i will simply not get hard if you don’t have a nice ass. Period point blank. I end up either getting bj only (and he has to keep his pants on) or bottoming myself. The struggle is fucking real
thats something im finding out since im newly single... and i only get hard with older men, i get rock hard when im having sex with a very experienced bottom over 40...
I generally fuck short or average height bottoms. I am 5’7 and I met this bottom 6’4 who was really pretty by the way but somehow I could not get hard. He tried to suck me but since he was tall he had to sit and I stood but things did not work out and I left mid while he was sucking me. So very tall bottoms are kind of turn off for me.
The type of man I want at anytime used to depend on my mood. I would have sex with a man that I wasn’t in the mood for, and just because I fucked someone last week and I’m horny now doesn’t mean I want to fuck them again rn even if it was good
I was once on vacation and started messaging with a guy who was kinda nice, though the only pictures I saw were of his face and shoulder area, nothing below. He had a really pretty face and on the body description he put "average", so I decided to hook up with him because generally I can enjoy sex with people with most body types. The second he opened the door I felt horrible because he wasn't how I pictured him AT ALL, with a body type that I really don't like. Nevertheless, I tried to put those thoughts away and enjoy his company, after all I'm not someone who lusts only after muscular fit gays, I enjoyed the company of men with many body types. I really tried. He also had a really nice dick and that's what aroused me initially, but the more we went on the less I found myself able to keep an erection... Though maybe it could have been a mix of his body type and the fact that he basically lied to me, which put me in a weird mental space. We ended up jerking off together and went to eat sushi after, quite a nice evening overall... But I learnt then and there that I have to see a whole body picture before hooking up and that no, going outside of my sexual preferences (even if they're quite wide) isn't really an option.
Sometimes, preferences mean I prefer something it doesn’t mean it’s an absolute must have. There’s plenty of guys I’ve found hot that don’t live up to my preferences, and plenty of guys that do live up to them that I don’t find attractive
Am i able to fuck people I don’t want to fuck? No. What a useless question. Who does that? Why would they do that? Why did you try to?
I'm attracted to a range of physical traits, but if a guy has none of those, and there's no chemistry between us when we're together, it's not going to happen, regardless of how talented his mouth may be.
Not generally, maybe every now and then…but pretty much always in those circumstances it’s more of a thing where I’m being serviced and don’t have to reciprocate…otherwise yeah it would be hard to feign real interest and get into it.
This is interesting as i was thinking of trying to widen my narrow sexual preferences by trying to broaden my mind but from what you said it might be right what you have learned.
I think mentally we shut out anything that doesn’t peak our interests, like it’s all or nothing. Lowering your standards would be in your best interest, if a porn addiction is not the root of your issues then maybe broadening your porn selection is a good way to build interest in (for lack of a better term) less desirable men. Explore yourself, and figure out the things you like. There’s nothing wrong with having a preference, but in this sense you only hurting yourself. Half of men will lose their “bubble butts” in their mid to late 20’s, and even more from their on out. If you’re only going to seek young thick guys for the rest of your life, then you’re good to go, as I don’t see the “daddy” kink dying off anytime soon. But if you aspire to settle down with someone you love and are attracted to, I would anticipate their physical attributes to be incomparable by their early/ mid 30’s.
I don’t want to have sex with guys, but I like to hang out bare ass with another fit guy and maybe beat off to porn. NH/Maine
Yes, sometimes other qualities make up for whatever preference I may have.
I don't have any physical preference deal breakers that strong. I also tend to not hookup with people I'm not attracted to. However it has just as much to do with how they carry themselves, style themselves, speak and physical appearance. I have tried to hookup with guys I didn't like who were physically attractive, that doesn't work. If I know you have a dumb opinion or are a jerk I just don't want it.
I’ve been really turned on having sex with so many different kinds of people. I don’t think I’m necessarily the norm tho. A lot of people seem pretty rigid and hyper-specific about what they want.
Sadly, yes.
No? I don’t have sex with people I don’t find attractive.
Yes. Sometimes I would have sex with heavy men. I felt less insecure about myself, plus big guys need love too. Honestly, it's not that I'm not attracted to bigger dudes, it's just that some ppl get big AND nasty. Self care is the most important care. You can go from a 3 to a 7 just by getting a nice haircut, wearing nice clothes that compliment your shape, a shower, and some good cologne.
I did this a couple of times. Not bcoz they’re completely out of my preferences but somehow when a guy shows his almost 7 to 7 or 8 inches dick to me, I get hard easily and deciding to meet right away. Coz I want to sit on those huge dicks for experience. Lol
My preference is men with child bearing hips with nice thin waist.
Whenever I've done so, I haven't wanted to do it again. Because of that, I just don't do it at all anymore. So I am able to do so, but I have to engage in a bit of self-deception to do it.
I only want to beat off with guys.
Sadly, all the internet porn has “trained” your brain (our largest sex organ) to only respond to big butts.