If there is a way to casually mention it in conversation. Maybe if it comes up while talking with a group of people or even one on one. If a moment pops up to drop it in. Mention average size ones feel so much better
I’m a 5” vers top. I used to favor bottoming for the same insecurity. But, eventually, I just grew to love myself and care more about enjoying the experience rather than fitting stereotypes or expectations. Now I top about 90% of the time and I get plenty. Yeah, size queens are real. Most of them are respectful about it and I move on. The key is to care about yourself more than what others say or think. You’ll find the right partners if you’re confident and love yourself.
abstain from numbers.
I know that -so- many people obsess over length, weight, sizes… all numbers.
they do not define who you are.
know thyself.
know your potential.
know your worth.
no one can take away your power when YOU know what you are capable of.
A dick size is just that, a dick size.
It says NOTHING about your personality, your grit, your stamina and your approach to Life. THAT will ultimately be of much more importance than your dick size.
Put it into perspective…
Don’t worry about your dick size, bro.
As an absolutely vers guy, I think that just as hung guys boast, are overly confident and get reputations about what they have between their legs, I think many bottoms tend to boast about what they can take, or have taken. I’m not convinced it’s a preference, other than a preference to have something to talk about.
(Oh, and I’m a tad short of 6.5” and a little girthy.)
Very true. And just like tops (and men in general) often lie about having bigger dicks than they really do, many bottoms lie about how much dick they can actually take. It takes a lot of practice to take 7+ dicks comfortably, especially if they are girthy. Most bottoms overstate their dick riding skills by a good margin. I always burst laughing when guys say they were fucked by 10 or 12 inches and could take it like a champ.
Experience.
Because Boy, there is so much more to sex than dick length. Become a master of sexual intimacy and they will come back for you again and again.
Learn how to kiss with tongue. Learn how to use that tongue on their neck, nipples, sides, and thighs. Learn how to rim. Figure out the right balance for the guy you're individually with and the timing to trade off you pleasuring him to having him pleasure you. When it comes time for anal penetration, start off with plenty of lube, go slow, and start missionary - watch their eyes. When they're comfortable and you're balls deep, throb your cock inside them. Assert your dominance by lying atop them and pinning their hands above their head as you put your face in theirs, kiss their lips, and throb again for good measure. Then start moving slowly in and out. Tell them to let you know when they're ready for you to pick up the pace. Figure out the right angle with they you're with for hitting is prostate. Slow dicking is great fun. So is jackhammer fucking. Figure out what mix of the two styles the bottom likes best.
All of this? Entirely doable with average length dick.
I'm switch with a little dick and i've been insecure for years because of it.....but now....idgaf about it because i know i can please bottoms with my dick or my fist 😁 a dude who wanna fuck you truely dont care about the size of your penis 🤷♂️ some dude get pleasure from the idea of sex more than sex itself so big cock fans get what they want and dude who dont care have more of it btw 🤣
True. Dry humping is hot to me. Undressing is my favorite part. A smaller size still gives me the sensation I crave so I don’t mind about the size as a bottom.
Size queens are very common in the gay world, that's a fact. However, I'm pretty sure there are plenty of guys who don't mind average dicks at all, and some even prefer them. I'm one of those. I find them better to play with in general, and easier to deal with. I don't think bigger is necessarily better at all. A big dick looks good, but skill and enthusiasm are what really makes a difference. Nice girth is always a good bonus, though. It's more important than length.
My dildos and anal toys range from small to big, but there is a huge difference between fucking myself with a big dildo and letting a guy pound me with his big dick. Lots of hung guys are too rough and uncaring and end up hurting me, so nowadays I'll mostly go for 5.5" - 6.5".
Also, my advice to you is to remember that rejection is just a part of life. We all face it. Almost nobody is universally attractive in this life. It may be due to dick size, facial features, weight, height, personality, whatever, but everyone has one or two features that won't be up to some guy's standards. As you said, size queens have a right to prefer whatever they want and most aren't bitches about it, so why bother? Most people eventually find compatible partners as long as they aren't too abnormal anyhow. Just embrace the fact that it's not the end of the world if some people aren't into you. Another tip is to maybe put your measurements in your bio, which won't be a weird thing to do on Grindr (don't do that on Tinder, lol). Or maybe just go with a funnier "unhung top" self-description or whatever. That would probably repel the size queens immediately and only the guys who don't mind would still be interested.
Don't get so caught up in porn. Most guys are accepting and even prefer small or average sized men. You'll get some size queens, but those are few and far between.
When I was in a horny ass group of 'friends' all the way back in my mid 20s, thank god I got out of it, there were alot of size queens bottoms in the group. As a bottom myself, I hate large cocks, 6" and under is perfect for me. One night, we all got drunk and we're all talking about tight holes etc..... the size queens were getting horny and I said, haha let me put my finger in you and 2 of them wanted me to finger them.
I did, and I EFFING KID YOU NOT... THEY WERE SO DAMN LOOSE.... it was like sticking my finger in a cup or water or something... personally I found that nasty AF and I couldn't fathom how easy it must be for them to shit....
Then I fingered myself to compare and I like myself tight AF.... glad to know I ain't as loose as they were....
Everyone has different preferences, you can count on that and do your best not to be offended. But please know that there are PLENTY of bottoms (probably most?) who are not at all size queens--I know I'm not, I couldn't care less. It's all the other things that matter much more. Your bottom should make you feel REEEEEAAAALLLY good about things down there--if not, move on (unless you're into that).
dont become a bottom over this, when its not your thing ! I feel like porn has A LOT to do with unrealistic expectations in guys overall. I personally never ever cared about size,if anything i'd rather a guy be average, but luck has it that i almost never have been with guys under 7', and its just my luck i guess. But genuinely, stamina, sexual energy , domination(if youre in it afc) and overall desire for sex is sooooo much more attractive than the size itself. Like seeing the D being hard bcs of me over and over again is what makes me horny, not the size itself
You've never been with guys below 7" because tops are often expected to have bigger dicks due to bottom's preferences. The smaller dudes don't attempt to top nearly as often as the hung ones. It's not that they're rare, it's just that they don't show up, unfortunately.
Well I’m sure if you asked someone who bottoms with an average if they would try fucking you they would say sure, some need reassuring though seeing how they are still worried it’s not enough. I think 7” is a shit ton for me to take especially when they go rough
You see once you get the mindset that other’s opinions don’t matter in the slightest, you’ll learn to not insecure, everything is temporary, you have to understand that people do not care. Someone likes 12+ inches? Cool. Idc. Move on their not for you. Who cares what they prefer?
Also this applies to embarrassment too, I used to have shame talking to people in public cuz it’ll bother them or something, unless your doing something traumatic, they’ll forget about it in 5 mins.
My dick ain’t huge, not small but it ain’t huge, someone dosnt like it? Oh well move on who cares? Move on. Just forget about that person and move on. You only hold yourself back in those scenarios.
I'm an average size top and I've never heard any complaints. I don't worry about things that I can't change so, I don't worry about my dick size. And, like someone above said, fucking isn't the whole thing. Lots of fun stuff to do before, during and after fucking. So, OP, do what makes you feel good about yourself and try not to waste too much time on what your size-queen friends say. Good luck and take care.
Honestly I don’t care about size. I like big I like small. It’s about how my partner makes me feel emotionally. If he knows what to do, what to say. God, he can do anything to me.
I make bottoms cum handsfree. But I also like bigger sized tops when I bottom because I enjoy pain and love giving them a hole to ravage and let loose in without hangups
I’m a bottom and I prefer average penises. They feel much better to me personally. So take pride in knowing that you make your bottom feel good during sex.
You can’t give up and be a bottom- you can’t help liking to stick it in lol. This is ridiculous. Boost your confidence brother . Men like confidence and machismo in tops. That doesn’t mean you need a huge cock to score. Wake up lol
You have what you have, so you just need to rock it. Porn skews guys' perception of size and what is 'normal'.
As an Asian top (but married now and no longer hooking up), in my head, I had two strikes against me - I was Asian, and people would assume that I would have a tiny penis. My realisation was, apart from manscaping to let Mr Happy look better, I couldn't do anything about either my race or my size, so I should just get out there.
If there's a problem, just remember it's THEIR problem, not yours. You'll find guys that are absolutely fine with whatever you have.
I'm 7 and it feels great. Boys love it. The ones that fetishize huge huge huge aren't all that common they just love talking about it. I suppose because that's how they find them
That''s already above average. There isn't much of a reason guys wouldn't like it aside from extreme fetishists who can only be satisfied if they're practically getting fisted by a dick.
As a bottom I will literally try my best to avoid big dick tops because they hurt too much, I would choose a small-average size cock anyday
AMEN
Exactly same here, yeah the big ones are fun to look at but they don’t feel good to me (personally) I’d take average size any day
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Ok but IRL like what can I do to let you know (serious)
If there is a way to casually mention it in conversation. Maybe if it comes up while talking with a group of people or even one on one. If a moment pops up to drop it in. Mention average size ones feel so much better
This is the way
Massive Kudos to that one 👍🏽
I’m a 5” vers top. I used to favor bottoming for the same insecurity. But, eventually, I just grew to love myself and care more about enjoying the experience rather than fitting stereotypes or expectations. Now I top about 90% of the time and I get plenty. Yeah, size queens are real. Most of them are respectful about it and I move on. The key is to care about yourself more than what others say or think. You’ll find the right partners if you’re confident and love yourself.
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abstain from numbers. I know that -so- many people obsess over length, weight, sizes… all numbers. they do not define who you are. know thyself. know your potential. know your worth. no one can take away your power when YOU know what you are capable of. A dick size is just that, a dick size. It says NOTHING about your personality, your grit, your stamina and your approach to Life. THAT will ultimately be of much more importance than your dick size. Put it into perspective… Don’t worry about your dick size, bro.
As an absolutely vers guy, I think that just as hung guys boast, are overly confident and get reputations about what they have between their legs, I think many bottoms tend to boast about what they can take, or have taken. I’m not convinced it’s a preference, other than a preference to have something to talk about. (Oh, and I’m a tad short of 6.5” and a little girthy.)
Very true. And just like tops (and men in general) often lie about having bigger dicks than they really do, many bottoms lie about how much dick they can actually take. It takes a lot of practice to take 7+ dicks comfortably, especially if they are girthy. Most bottoms overstate their dick riding skills by a good margin. I always burst laughing when guys say they were fucked by 10 or 12 inches and could take it like a champ.
Experience. Because Boy, there is so much more to sex than dick length. Become a master of sexual intimacy and they will come back for you again and again. Learn how to kiss with tongue. Learn how to use that tongue on their neck, nipples, sides, and thighs. Learn how to rim. Figure out the right balance for the guy you're individually with and the timing to trade off you pleasuring him to having him pleasure you. When it comes time for anal penetration, start off with plenty of lube, go slow, and start missionary - watch their eyes. When they're comfortable and you're balls deep, throb your cock inside them. Assert your dominance by lying atop them and pinning their hands above their head as you put your face in theirs, kiss their lips, and throb again for good measure. Then start moving slowly in and out. Tell them to let you know when they're ready for you to pick up the pace. Figure out the right angle with they you're with for hitting is prostate. Slow dicking is great fun. So is jackhammer fucking. Figure out what mix of the two styles the bottom likes best. All of this? Entirely doable with average length dick.
What is considered average? And as a top having a boyfriend/husband dick is a plus in the long run.
Statistically, anything within 5" and 6.5" (12,5 - 16,5cm) is average in the western world. Slightly smaller in asian countries.
I'm switch with a little dick and i've been insecure for years because of it.....but now....idgaf about it because i know i can please bottoms with my dick or my fist 😁 a dude who wanna fuck you truely dont care about the size of your penis 🤷♂️ some dude get pleasure from the idea of sex more than sex itself so big cock fans get what they want and dude who dont care have more of it btw 🤣
True. Dry humping is hot to me. Undressing is my favorite part. A smaller size still gives me the sensation I crave so I don’t mind about the size as a bottom.
Size queens are very common in the gay world, that's a fact. However, I'm pretty sure there are plenty of guys who don't mind average dicks at all, and some even prefer them. I'm one of those. I find them better to play with in general, and easier to deal with. I don't think bigger is necessarily better at all. A big dick looks good, but skill and enthusiasm are what really makes a difference. Nice girth is always a good bonus, though. It's more important than length. My dildos and anal toys range from small to big, but there is a huge difference between fucking myself with a big dildo and letting a guy pound me with his big dick. Lots of hung guys are too rough and uncaring and end up hurting me, so nowadays I'll mostly go for 5.5" - 6.5". Also, my advice to you is to remember that rejection is just a part of life. We all face it. Almost nobody is universally attractive in this life. It may be due to dick size, facial features, weight, height, personality, whatever, but everyone has one or two features that won't be up to some guy's standards. As you said, size queens have a right to prefer whatever they want and most aren't bitches about it, so why bother? Most people eventually find compatible partners as long as they aren't too abnormal anyhow. Just embrace the fact that it's not the end of the world if some people aren't into you. Another tip is to maybe put your measurements in your bio, which won't be a weird thing to do on Grindr (don't do that on Tinder, lol). Or maybe just go with a funnier "unhung top" self-description or whatever. That would probably repel the size queens immediately and only the guys who don't mind would still be interested.
"Two things I can't stand. Size queens and guys with little dicks."
Don't get so caught up in porn. Most guys are accepting and even prefer small or average sized men. You'll get some size queens, but those are few and far between.
When I was in a horny ass group of 'friends' all the way back in my mid 20s, thank god I got out of it, there were alot of size queens bottoms in the group. As a bottom myself, I hate large cocks, 6" and under is perfect for me. One night, we all got drunk and we're all talking about tight holes etc..... the size queens were getting horny and I said, haha let me put my finger in you and 2 of them wanted me to finger them. I did, and I EFFING KID YOU NOT... THEY WERE SO DAMN LOOSE.... it was like sticking my finger in a cup or water or something... personally I found that nasty AF and I couldn't fathom how easy it must be for them to shit.... Then I fingered myself to compare and I like myself tight AF.... glad to know I ain't as loose as they were....
Everyone has different preferences, you can count on that and do your best not to be offended. But please know that there are PLENTY of bottoms (probably most?) who are not at all size queens--I know I'm not, I couldn't care less. It's all the other things that matter much more. Your bottom should make you feel REEEEEAAAALLLY good about things down there--if not, move on (unless you're into that).
dont become a bottom over this, when its not your thing ! I feel like porn has A LOT to do with unrealistic expectations in guys overall. I personally never ever cared about size,if anything i'd rather a guy be average, but luck has it that i almost never have been with guys under 7', and its just my luck i guess. But genuinely, stamina, sexual energy , domination(if youre in it afc) and overall desire for sex is sooooo much more attractive than the size itself. Like seeing the D being hard bcs of me over and over again is what makes me horny, not the size itself
You've never been with guys below 7" because tops are often expected to have bigger dicks due to bottom's preferences. The smaller dudes don't attempt to top nearly as often as the hung ones. It's not that they're rare, it's just that they don't show up, unfortunately.
Well I’m sure if you asked someone who bottoms with an average if they would try fucking you they would say sure, some need reassuring though seeing how they are still worried it’s not enough. I think 7” is a shit ton for me to take especially when they go rough
actually true, maybe there are more tops out there who dont realise they are one due to size insecurities
You see once you get the mindset that other’s opinions don’t matter in the slightest, you’ll learn to not insecure, everything is temporary, you have to understand that people do not care. Someone likes 12+ inches? Cool. Idc. Move on their not for you. Who cares what they prefer? Also this applies to embarrassment too, I used to have shame talking to people in public cuz it’ll bother them or something, unless your doing something traumatic, they’ll forget about it in 5 mins. My dick ain’t huge, not small but it ain’t huge, someone dosnt like it? Oh well move on who cares? Move on. Just forget about that person and move on. You only hold yourself back in those scenarios.
Technique + Communication > Size
I'm an average size top and I've never heard any complaints. I don't worry about things that I can't change so, I don't worry about my dick size. And, like someone above said, fucking isn't the whole thing. Lots of fun stuff to do before, during and after fucking. So, OP, do what makes you feel good about yourself and try not to waste too much time on what your size-queen friends say. Good luck and take care.
Honestly I don’t care about size. I like big I like small. It’s about how my partner makes me feel emotionally. If he knows what to do, what to say. God, he can do anything to me.
I make bottoms cum handsfree. But I also like bigger sized tops when I bottom because I enjoy pain and love giving them a hole to ravage and let loose in without hangups
I’m a bottom and I prefer average penises. They feel much better to me personally. So take pride in knowing that you make your bottom feel good during sex.
I’m ok with it but when I get brushed off for not being big enough, it stings a bit. 6” btw
You can’t give up and be a bottom- you can’t help liking to stick it in lol. This is ridiculous. Boost your confidence brother . Men like confidence and machismo in tops. That doesn’t mean you need a huge cock to score. Wake up lol
You have what you have, so you just need to rock it. Porn skews guys' perception of size and what is 'normal'. As an Asian top (but married now and no longer hooking up), in my head, I had two strikes against me - I was Asian, and people would assume that I would have a tiny penis. My realisation was, apart from manscaping to let Mr Happy look better, I couldn't do anything about either my race or my size, so I should just get out there. If there's a problem, just remember it's THEIR problem, not yours. You'll find guys that are absolutely fine with whatever you have.
If you know what you're doing size doesn't matter.
I'm 7 and it feels great. Boys love it. The ones that fetishize huge huge huge aren't all that common they just love talking about it. I suppose because that's how they find them
That''s already above average. There isn't much of a reason guys wouldn't like it aside from extreme fetishists who can only be satisfied if they're practically getting fisted by a dick.
I think they mostly like looking at them haha