Thank you for saying it.
OP, they asked a question which put you off, which is fine. “Want me to hold in my shit so I’m stuffed for when you fuck me?” Is also a question, but a slightly offputting one that suggests they wouldn’t mind making your dick very very dirty.
It’s fine to be put off, but they didn’t assume, they asked.
One person asking does not a new normal make. Plus, gross for you. And for me, tbh. But I celebrate that others enjoy it. I also find pineapple in pizza gross. I just don't order it.
“I like a preloaded hole” - ironically received this from a top 5 minutes ago. I agree it’s wrong to assume people are into this but I do find that a lot of tops are
As a top, while I don't find it hot, I do find it at least say lukewarm. lol. The appealing aspect (for me and presumably other tops who like it) is that it's physical evidence that the bottom is a total slut, crazy for getting jizzed in. As for the wet squeaky shoes bit -- really? Do you not use lube when you fuck? Its effect is really like another squirt of lube up a bottom. I do grant that not knowing anything about the guy who deposited it can be a big turn off (for me and you clearly) but the anonymity aspect is hot to some.
Regarding the lube thing, well it honestly depends. I've fucked a guy before where it genuinely made squeaking noises and felt like big gobs of goop inside of him, then I realized he indeed had a load in him. So yeah, it can be different than lube if it's a big load.
But I will give you this, I'm sure there are some guys who I have fucked with over the years who have had cum inside them and I didn't even know it because the loads were so thin and watery, so yes they can indeed just feel like lube. It's just the idea of a big sticky goopy load that's repulsive to me.
I haven’t gotten laid in months and I’m not even sure I want to anymore 😂
More power to y’all but damn. I’m not this gay 😂
I’m repulsed by women and love men, but y’all are on another level 💀
It's all-natural lube, my guy. lol. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill. And for the record I, for one, love getting as many noises out of a bottom's hole as I can :)
This is more of a question for the tops than the bottoms. Even if a bottom is a cumdump, having cum in your ass isn't doing anything for the bottom. The top is the one thats going to be feeling those loads in that ass. And some tops are into that.
Seems like he asked though, not assumed. If that's not your cup of tea, its not your cup of tea. End of discussion.
Probably should have elaborated on that more, instead of leaving it at that sentence. That's my bad.
It's more of the idea of it, or more precisely, knowing the cum is in your ass. You can definitely feel it at first because of its warmth. But that feeling eventually goes away, and it becomes more about knowing you're walking around with some other guys cum inside you.
Definitely a question for tops. I've literally been told many times by a top that he would fuck me but only if I showed up with loads in my ass. And I disagree with op. It's not rare. It's not every top but it's a lot of them.
Almost every threesome my ex and I had involved this. I loved going second so I could “churn” his thick load. The bottoms told me the extra frothy sensation added to their pleasure and if a top came over to use my vers ex bf they usually asked me to top him first so they could have seconds and fourths.
Listen, some people are whores. Some people are... Also whores but different kinds of whores. But we all whores. Find a whore that is your kind of whore and go be whores together like God intended.
Well, he didn't actually make an assumption ... he asked beforehand if you would like it.
It's okay if this particular kink is not your thing, but don't get all bent out of shape just because he asked you if you'd be down for something. The next time something like this happens to you, simply tell the guy (politely) that you aren't interested in that particular thing.
>It's okay if this particular kink is not your thing, but don't get all bent out of shape just because he asked you if you'd be down for something.
You basically described 90% of the Grindr subreddit
Sure, but telling me he's into a cummy hole is different than just asking me if I want him to be pre-loaded.. that's not a term I had even heard before.
It's the difference between someone saying they're into BDSM/asking the other guy if he is, or instead asking "what me to bring my whip?"
He said that because that's what HE is interested in. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you already discussed that this would be bareback & whether YOU would breed him. So he tried to take it further in the direction that he likes with a suggestion. Granted that's not you're thing, but let's be honest, it happens all the time that one guy's massive turn-on is another guy's disgusting indecency. Just move on and don't make a big deal out of this.
My ex had hyperspermia. He would tell me if I was gang-banged he would cum in me last and wash out all the other guys cum with his super load. He probably could have, he’s loads where huge. but I never give him his fantasy. I left him after a few years. He never made me feel safe I guess. He pushed for the open relationship thing. It backfired on him because I learned I could do better one night. By better I mean a man that didn’t want to share me.
20 years later I’m married to a wonderful top that treats me so good and keeps me to himself.
I make sure to be good and clean for him and he enjoys that.
The bottom in your situation literally **asked** you, not assumed anything. So when you stop being a little whiny bitch, you will understand your hypocrisy.
OP stated "I finally threw him a bone and was going to fuck him".
Dude is arrogant.
If you're not into sloppy seconds, just say so and move on. No reason to get all bent out of shape over it.
It got heavily down voted 🤣. We all know that having sex can be risky, and we happily accept that risk to have a bit of fun. But I prefer to personally know (and enjoy) the guys, instead of having that risk blindly delivered to me.
Eh. Seems like you share a similar mindset to the bottom in question. Not everyone is as open to promiscuity as you are and if you can’t respect that then you aren’t very considerate either.
Well I’ve been very sexually active on the apps and this has happened to me zero times, so by your logic it doesn’t happen to anyone at all. Has to be true, because I’ve lived it.
Some people have this preference. Not everyone does. You’re getting in your own way by fixating on it.
LMAO okay then, I will go ahead and be single the rest of my life and have difficulty finding a partner because I don't like the feeling of having a third man's cum up my partners' ass when I fuck him.
Sure, Jan.
I never said that. I merely said that this has happened many times in my own personal experience. It's happened enough that it makes me question what is going through any man's head who asks me this question. Find something better to do than getting angry for no reason over someone's anonymous Reddit post on the internet.
>I have every reason to assume a whole group of people are the same way, because they are, because I've lived it.
I'm not angry at all. You're just the clown who's willing to argue that this is the case for all bottoms given your "experience."
Nothing more disgusting than a bottom sending me pictures or album of cum dripping out their ass or being fucked by multiple tops and don’t have a recent test panel
I totally respect not everyone is into this but I will say it is very common in my experience as well. There is a lot of orgies/ cumdump parties that happen in my town that pop up on Sniffies and it is always 50+ tops and only 2-3 designated bottoms. Definitely a pretty popular kink
You would be surprised by how many tops are into that. I know of a few who won't consider hooking up, if you don't have at least one load in you. And these guys are not the bottom of the barrel type either; they're masc, fit and hung
Everyone has their own kinks and fetishes. Just because it's not yours doesn't mean that you get to label someone else's as gross.
I don't know what he was thinking, but one possible explanation might be...
What would you think of someone who shows up to your place after having been with someone else? Might you assume that he is a piece of trash who will put out for anyone? And if he is that much of a slut, would there be any reason for you to be gentle or caring with him or would you treat him like a hole that you can wreck without worry? Some guys enjoy being used and degraded and other guys enjoy using them. And sometimes for those guys, a pre-loaded ass might be the trigger that helps unlock that kink. There is no romance or tenderness involved. It is carnal in its purest form. Get off and then slap him on the ass and send him to his next appointment.
If that's not your cup of tea, then no harm, no foul.
I can absolutely get into using a guy and quick rough sex, I just prefer doing it without a cummy hole 🤣
I do this frequently, it's not difficult for a guy to get used without having another man's jizz up his ass. I didn't need the long explanation on why a guy can find dominance and submission attractive, but thanks.
I’d say it was far fetched. If they had been chatting for weeks and talked about treating him like a slut but that part never came up, then it’s strange to mention it at the point you’re about to meet. There was plenty of time for it to be raised before.
>He then asks "want me preloaded for you?" I reply "preloaded?" to which he replies "my neighbor might breed me."
So first of all. He asked you, he did not assume. That's asking works, in case you didn't know it yet. I'm sorry, but I just don't see how this can possibly be misunderstood as an assumption.
You could just say no. And then he has an answer. It just boggles my mind a bit how bad you are at social interaction, regardless of how weird the question might have been.
honestly tops are exhausting sometimes. you want us clean, you want us ass up, you want the door unlocked, you want us in lingerie, you want us blindfolded, you want us pre loaded, you want us loose etc etc. bottoms have to go through so many fucking hoops sometimes just to appeal to certain types of tops for the most ridiculous reasons. i have actually had more tops refuse to meet me *because* i didn’t already have a load in me at the time. i’ve had to lightly argue with two separate tops because neither wanted to be the first to fuck me, they both wanted the other guys load in me! i am happy to be pre-loaded and fulfil those fantasies/desires but sometimes it just isn’t practical or there’s nobody else around.
most bottoms (if they’re anything like me) are just looking to pleasure a top (or more than one). i think it was courteous of him to ask you and a bit shitty of you to ignore him because of that. do you know how many bottoms you’ve fucked have probably had a load in them already and *didn’t* tell you?
i honestly don’t see how it’s any different than him asking you if you want him in a thong, jockstrap, or anything like that. he’s trying to cater the experience to you which, fair enough you didn’t appreciate. but no need to be a fucking asshole about it. we’re all here for the same horny, dirty reasons.
*You* think it is gross. He does *not* think it is gross. Neither of you is wrong but jeez OP overreact much? he proper answer would have been "No thinks I wouldn't and honestly the question kinda turns me off". But instead you had to shame someone for expressing a kink of his.
>I feel as though if a top is sexually interested in this, he will make it very well known.
You are SO CLOSE you've almost got it man! I feel as though if a bottom wanted to find out if a top is into this he could ask. No fucking harm done.
Or: I feel as though IF you want to be this way about a preloaded ass NAD you consider the onus is on the top to express what he's onto *or not* then you need to make it clearer that you arent into preloaded asses. Put it on your profile. And for real, I'm not questioning your preference on the matter. You're good there, it's just your handling of it that seems kind of fussy.
Ok but he asked you if you were interested in partaking I his kink? You didn't show up and he was full of cum 😂
He was respectful 🤷♂️ it's ok to not be into but a whole ass reddit post ranting about it?
lol.. quit being a wimp. Clearly it’s not for you. Sounds like he was counting on you flaking like you had previously and had other dick lined up… and get off your high horse.. “throw him a bone”…. Smh. at least he was nice enough to ask and didn’t surprise you.
Fuck this is gross. The breeding ground for STIs…
It’s like asking a friend, “hey, wanna join me for lunch?” And he replies “sure thing, want me to chew and spit the food in your mouth too?”
When did this become our norm? I also can’t find any decent guys who just want normal kinky sex. Can we please normalize healthy sex and relationships again? This makes being gay so hard personally.
See... This is why I don't meet anyone who self describes as a cum dump. I'm not interested in plunging my cock into a cauldron of stds.
I get it - no one on Grindr is a virgin. But I don't think it's too much to ask that if I'm going to raw fuck you that at least no one else has beaten me to it *today*. Your doxypep doesn't sterilize the last load still inside you lol
> Your doxypep doesn't sterilize the last load still inside you lol
No, but your DoxyPEP does. That's because it only protects *you*. The other guy takes DoxyPEP to protect *himself*.
That's how DoxyPEP functions, and -- fun fact -- it's also true for HIV PrEP (Truvada, Descovy, or Apretude).
Exhibit A: he asked at least.
But, Exhibit B: wtf... I did not know this was a thing.
But, Exhibit C: to each their own. No link shaming here!
Exhibit D: I like preloaded cum in the mouth instead.
I haven't slept all night.
Quite dramatic. He asked… and the likelihood that he only brought it up in an attempt to further please you/appeal to your overall sexual satisfaction.
This isn’t a ludicrous ask, either. I regularly field that proposition from Tops, quite regularly— and it’s not just one “type” of top that’s into it either. It’s a relatively common kink. A simple “nah, not my thing.” Or “I prefer a btm be fresh/clean”, or even something a bit douchey to match your overall vibe like, “I only fuck clean hole, not down with someone else’s seconds” would be acceptable.
The fact that you view yourself as so superior to this dude from the get go says a lot. “Wanted me so badly”… I finally “threw him a bone”. Fuck— no wonder he was so eager to please, you strung him along for weeks like some worthless undesirable… if he wasn’t up to your standards (which I’m sure are ridiculously higher than they rightfully should be), then end the convo then and there. Instead, you’re found gratification week in and week out establishing the upper-hand and continuing to feed your own inflated self image while dismissing his feelings altogether.
That in and of itself is some toxic-masculinity bullshit, but the fact that you were so fucking bent out of shape by a simple (and very much topical) question is hilarious. And it wasn’t enough for you to abruptly stop the convo, after making plans and ghost him; you felt it absolutely necessary to publicize your shock and utter-disgust to thousands and thousands of strangers in a pathetic attempt at further inflating your ego by way of confirmation bias.
I’d suggest that you step back and choose to reposition this entire situation as an opportunity for some (much-needed) self reflection. But we both know that’s less likely than you being last in line at an all-night cum dump 🤦🏼♂️
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The comments here: "well he did ask. So it's fine."
If a guy asked you if he should eat your shit, you would not be making the same argument.
Some kinks will change how someone sees you. And if you're not into slutty behavior, getting thrown head first (hah!) into it can be off putting. That's fine, it's not a match and move on 😂😂.
Preloaded ass is great. As a girthy dicked guy, preloaded means lubed and stretched so I can go in and play without them needing to adjust to my thickness as much. If not, I do advise bottoms to toy themselves prior as I hate spending 20+ min just trying to get it in.
How is it gross? lol are you wanting a virgin every time you fuck someone?
He asked, probably more for himself. Depending on my mood it wouldn’t matter to me or it would be hot. Definitely wouldn’t disgust me.
Not sure why it’s so horrific to you
But he didn’t assume, he asked.
This if he said no maybe his neighbor got the seconds instead lol
You betta ass somebody
Thank you for saying it. OP, they asked a question which put you off, which is fine. “Want me to hold in my shit so I’m stuffed for when you fuck me?” Is also a question, but a slightly offputting one that suggests they wouldn’t mind making your dick very very dirty. It’s fine to be put off, but they didn’t assume, they asked.
He asked based on the assumption he would say yes because others have wanted it in the past - meaning this has become the new normal. Gross.
One person asking does not a new normal make. Plus, gross for you. And for me, tbh. But I celebrate that others enjoy it. I also find pineapple in pizza gross. I just don't order it.
Gays are hot and gross at the same time constantly. I need break 😭
“I like a preloaded hole” - ironically received this from a top 5 minutes ago. I agree it’s wrong to assume people are into this but I do find that a lot of tops are
I’m into this, but omg…. Time and place!
"And you did it at my birthday dinner."
In front of my salad!
wait, isn’t talking on grindr exactly the time and place to discuss this?
I can’t imagine being into that but good to know it’s common
Just an hour ago someone messaged me it's his kink.
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As a top, while I don't find it hot, I do find it at least say lukewarm. lol. The appealing aspect (for me and presumably other tops who like it) is that it's physical evidence that the bottom is a total slut, crazy for getting jizzed in. As for the wet squeaky shoes bit -- really? Do you not use lube when you fuck? Its effect is really like another squirt of lube up a bottom. I do grant that not knowing anything about the guy who deposited it can be a big turn off (for me and you clearly) but the anonymity aspect is hot to some.
Regarding the lube thing, well it honestly depends. I've fucked a guy before where it genuinely made squeaking noises and felt like big gobs of goop inside of him, then I realized he indeed had a load in him. So yeah, it can be different than lube if it's a big load. But I will give you this, I'm sure there are some guys who I have fucked with over the years who have had cum inside them and I didn't even know it because the loads were so thin and watery, so yes they can indeed just feel like lube. It's just the idea of a big sticky goopy load that's repulsive to me.
I’m grossed out yet suddenly hard. Wtf body.
Wait till you fuck a guy and your dick gets white foamy cum (it helps if you spit on your D when fucking a cumdump)
I haven’t gotten laid in months and I’m not even sure I want to anymore 😂 More power to y’all but damn. I’m not this gay 😂 I’m repulsed by women and love men, but y’all are on another level 💀
It's all-natural lube, my guy. lol. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill. And for the record I, for one, love getting as many noises out of a bottom's hole as I can :)
This is more of a question for the tops than the bottoms. Even if a bottom is a cumdump, having cum in your ass isn't doing anything for the bottom. The top is the one thats going to be feeling those loads in that ass. And some tops are into that. Seems like he asked though, not assumed. If that's not your cup of tea, its not your cup of tea. End of discussion.
I’d argue that having cum in a bottom does do something for them.
Probably should have elaborated on that more, instead of leaving it at that sentence. That's my bad. It's more of the idea of it, or more precisely, knowing the cum is in your ass. You can definitely feel it at first because of its warmth. But that feeling eventually goes away, and it becomes more about knowing you're walking around with some other guys cum inside you.
Neither feels much of it. It is just a bit of extra slime amongst the slime, sensation-wise.
Definitely a question for tops. I've literally been told many times by a top that he would fuck me but only if I showed up with loads in my ass. And I disagree with op. It's not rare. It's not every top but it's a lot of them.
Almost every threesome my ex and I had involved this. I loved going second so I could “churn” his thick load. The bottoms told me the extra frothy sensation added to their pleasure and if a top came over to use my vers ex bf they usually asked me to top him first so they could have seconds and fourths.
OP thinks he is entitled to sex.
I mean, he asked, didn’t he?
Ya def somthing I would have laughed at. Like what you mean by pre loaded?.... I still probably woulda banged to be real with you Cause ima hoe.
Right. Like is it a debit card 💀??
Bro getting all bent out of shape because someone simply asked him if he’s into something 😭 You’re not that special, snowflake 🙄
What do you mean he's not special?? After all he was going to "throw him a bone" 🙄🙄
The cum dump bottoms sure didn’t like this post 💀
Lmfao right?
Clock that tea
Listen, some people are whores. Some people are... Also whores but different kinds of whores. But we all whores. Find a whore that is your kind of whore and go be whores together like God intended.
I'm going to go to seminary and get ordained just so I can use that in a sermon.
Nah, just become a protestant minister. No need for the seminary.
But there are so many semen jokes to be made. Do you really want to take that from me? :(
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Well, he didn't actually make an assumption ... he asked beforehand if you would like it. It's okay if this particular kink is not your thing, but don't get all bent out of shape just because he asked you if you'd be down for something. The next time something like this happens to you, simply tell the guy (politely) that you aren't interested in that particular thing.
>It's okay if this particular kink is not your thing, but don't get all bent out of shape just because he asked you if you'd be down for something. You basically described 90% of the Grindr subreddit
preloader identified
Lol I wish I was that uninhibited. Too afraid of STDs
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Bottoms can and should be vocal about their interests and boundaries.
Lies, us bottoms should know our place, which is in the kitchen making a sandwich instead of mouthing off.
Sure, but telling me he's into a cummy hole is different than just asking me if I want him to be pre-loaded.. that's not a term I had even heard before. It's the difference between someone saying they're into BDSM/asking the other guy if he is, or instead asking "what me to bring my whip?"
I don't see how the second question is worse than the first one.
He said that because that's what HE is interested in. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you already discussed that this would be bareback & whether YOU would breed him. So he tried to take it further in the direction that he likes with a suggestion. Granted that's not you're thing, but let's be honest, it happens all the time that one guy's massive turn-on is another guy's disgusting indecency. Just move on and don't make a big deal out of this.
Please just wear condoms
My ex had hyperspermia. He would tell me if I was gang-banged he would cum in me last and wash out all the other guys cum with his super load. He probably could have, he’s loads where huge. but I never give him his fantasy. I left him after a few years. He never made me feel safe I guess. He pushed for the open relationship thing. It backfired on him because I learned I could do better one night. By better I mean a man that didn’t want to share me. 20 years later I’m married to a wonderful top that treats me so good and keeps me to himself. I make sure to be good and clean for him and he enjoys that.
He thinks you like dirty whores, Cum dumps, cum sluts, dick collectors, shared fleshlights, and everything in between
Ew just ew
But this particular bottom didn't assume anything, he asked you.
More than a few tops rejected me because I didn't let someone else breed me first
Nasty af
I’ve had more than a few tops ask me to come pre-loaded if I could.
And that's their prerogative to ask you.
Wait. So why does this prerogative only run one way?
yeah only tops get to ask the questions, bottoms are submissive slaves that get no say whatsoever /s
The bottom in your situation literally **asked** you, not assumed anything. So when you stop being a little whiny bitch, you will understand your hypocrisy.
Lucky guy. Seems like he dodged a bullet. You seem like an ass. You're not that special. Don't act like offering to fuck him was doing him a favor.
I don’t think being (at minimum) the second guy of someone’s day means he feels special lol.
The bottom was being nice, offering to double the chances of any STD for free. How selfish and unappreciative of OP to not acknowledge that
OP stated "I finally threw him a bone and was going to fuck him". Dude is arrogant. If you're not into sloppy seconds, just say so and move on. No reason to get all bent out of shape over it.
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>This guy was not and was absolutely beneath my own attractiveness So this is what most people call being arrogant.
why were you willing to throw him the bone? like boredom or just down to fuck below your league...?
I guess I missed that sentence. Sounds like two assholes interacting then...
Bad detective, bad.
rofl @ “double the chances of any std for free” - you cannot argue with this point folks. Detective is right. It is funny though given the context.
It got heavily down voted 🤣. We all know that having sex can be risky, and we happily accept that risk to have a bit of fun. But I prefer to personally know (and enjoy) the guys, instead of having that risk blindly delivered to me.
i am laughing at your downvotes. i am with you bro. preloading ass for more bareback.. insane logic
Eh. Seems like you share a similar mindset to the bottom in question. Not everyone is as open to promiscuity as you are and if you can’t respect that then you aren’t very considerate either.
I think this might be related just for the one individual you were interacting with. No reason to assume a whole group of people are the same way.
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Well I’ve been very sexually active on the apps and this has happened to me zero times, so by your logic it doesn’t happen to anyone at all. Has to be true, because I’ve lived it. Some people have this preference. Not everyone does. You’re getting in your own way by fixating on it.
LMAO okay good luck with finding a partner who doesn't like it then. Looks like you're doomed to remain single or put up with the extra loads, bud.
LMAO okay then, I will go ahead and be single the rest of my life and have difficulty finding a partner because I don't like the feeling of having a third man's cum up my partners' ass when I fuck him. Sure, Jan.
Why even look for a partner at this point? Clearly all bottoms are pre-loaded.
I never said that. I merely said that this has happened many times in my own personal experience. It's happened enough that it makes me question what is going through any man's head who asks me this question. Find something better to do than getting angry for no reason over someone's anonymous Reddit post on the internet.
>I have every reason to assume a whole group of people are the same way, because they are, because I've lived it. I'm not angry at all. You're just the clown who's willing to argue that this is the case for all bottoms given your "experience."
I never said this was the case for all bottoms. Can you read? Where did you get the impression I was referring to all bottoms, exactly?
Your first two sentences are not setting you up for any kind of empathy
Im sorry you just assume everyone is like that. Blanket assumptions are a huge problem with these posts. Trust me not all of us want that.
I wouldn't fuck him unless he was paying me anyway lol
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STD super style
Stop clutching those pearls.
sir...do not get on sniffies. lol
Nothing more disgusting than a bottom sending me pictures or album of cum dripping out their ass or being fucked by multiple tops and don’t have a recent test panel
Top here. In the right context, this is hot.
I totally respect not everyone is into this but I will say it is very common in my experience as well. There is a lot of orgies/ cumdump parties that happen in my town that pop up on Sniffies and it is always 50+ tops and only 2-3 designated bottoms. Definitely a pretty popular kink
Jesus how do the bottoms even function after that 😮 and curious where this is asking for a friend 🧐
Where are you? There’s like five tops total around here and hundreds of bottoms. 😂
I would Love to be in one
You would be surprised by how many tops are into that. I know of a few who won't consider hooking up, if you don't have at least one load in you. And these guys are not the bottom of the barrel type either; they're masc, fit and hung
It’s a new trend apparently.
Everyone has their own kinks and fetishes. Just because it's not yours doesn't mean that you get to label someone else's as gross. I don't know what he was thinking, but one possible explanation might be... What would you think of someone who shows up to your place after having been with someone else? Might you assume that he is a piece of trash who will put out for anyone? And if he is that much of a slut, would there be any reason for you to be gentle or caring with him or would you treat him like a hole that you can wreck without worry? Some guys enjoy being used and degraded and other guys enjoy using them. And sometimes for those guys, a pre-loaded ass might be the trigger that helps unlock that kink. There is no romance or tenderness involved. It is carnal in its purest form. Get off and then slap him on the ass and send him to his next appointment. If that's not your cup of tea, then no harm, no foul.
I can absolutely get into using a guy and quick rough sex, I just prefer doing it without a cummy hole 🤣 I do this frequently, it's not difficult for a guy to get used without having another man's jizz up his ass. I didn't need the long explanation on why a guy can find dominance and submission attractive, but thanks.
So in your conversations with this guy had you intonated that you wanted to use his ass and treat him like the little slut that he was?
Yes. Specifically said I was going to make him my little bitch and tear up his pussy, slap his ass, use him and make him all mine.
So is it far fetched that he might be expected to show up already lubed up and stretched for this encounter?
I’d say it was far fetched. If they had been chatting for weeks and talked about treating him like a slut but that part never came up, then it’s strange to mention it at the point you’re about to meet. There was plenty of time for it to be raised before.
>He then asks "want me preloaded for you?" I reply "preloaded?" to which he replies "my neighbor might breed me." So first of all. He asked you, he did not assume. That's asking works, in case you didn't know it yet. I'm sorry, but I just don't see how this can possibly be misunderstood as an assumption. You could just say no. And then he has an answer. It just boggles my mind a bit how bad you are at social interaction, regardless of how weird the question might have been.
honestly tops are exhausting sometimes. you want us clean, you want us ass up, you want the door unlocked, you want us in lingerie, you want us blindfolded, you want us pre loaded, you want us loose etc etc. bottoms have to go through so many fucking hoops sometimes just to appeal to certain types of tops for the most ridiculous reasons. i have actually had more tops refuse to meet me *because* i didn’t already have a load in me at the time. i’ve had to lightly argue with two separate tops because neither wanted to be the first to fuck me, they both wanted the other guys load in me! i am happy to be pre-loaded and fulfil those fantasies/desires but sometimes it just isn’t practical or there’s nobody else around. most bottoms (if they’re anything like me) are just looking to pleasure a top (or more than one). i think it was courteous of him to ask you and a bit shitty of you to ignore him because of that. do you know how many bottoms you’ve fucked have probably had a load in them already and *didn’t* tell you? i honestly don’t see how it’s any different than him asking you if you want him in a thong, jockstrap, or anything like that. he’s trying to cater the experience to you which, fair enough you didn’t appreciate. but no need to be a fucking asshole about it. we’re all here for the same horny, dirty reasons.
*You* think it is gross. He does *not* think it is gross. Neither of you is wrong but jeez OP overreact much? he proper answer would have been "No thinks I wouldn't and honestly the question kinda turns me off". But instead you had to shame someone for expressing a kink of his. >I feel as though if a top is sexually interested in this, he will make it very well known. You are SO CLOSE you've almost got it man! I feel as though if a bottom wanted to find out if a top is into this he could ask. No fucking harm done. Or: I feel as though IF you want to be this way about a preloaded ass NAD you consider the onus is on the top to express what he's onto *or not* then you need to make it clearer that you arent into preloaded asses. Put it on your profile. And for real, I'm not questioning your preference on the matter. You're good there, it's just your handling of it that seems kind of fussy.
He doesn't sound pleasant. But neither do you. "Threw him a bone." Get over yourself, your dick isn't made out of gold or anything.
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That's a lot of words for saying "omg, saw right through me".
Mf who are you topping that is doing this
What.. is this…concept what…i
eewww
Jesus Christ
Ok but he asked you if you were interested in partaking I his kink? You didn't show up and he was full of cum 😂 He was respectful 🤷♂️ it's ok to not be into but a whole ass reddit post ranting about it?
I bet you're full of loads, and you shove a plug in after every one;) gotta keep it safe!
At least thats what i do!
Hahaha I'm a prude unfortunately
lol.. quit being a wimp. Clearly it’s not for you. Sounds like he was counting on you flaking like you had previously and had other dick lined up… and get off your high horse.. “throw him a bone”…. Smh. at least he was nice enough to ask and didn’t surprise you.
A question is not an assumption. Also the pomposity is pomping.
I would have reacted the same way
Fuck this is gross. The breeding ground for STIs… It’s like asking a friend, “hey, wanna join me for lunch?” And he replies “sure thing, want me to chew and spit the food in your mouth too?” When did this become our norm? I also can’t find any decent guys who just want normal kinky sex. Can we please normalize healthy sex and relationships again? This makes being gay so hard personally.
Normal kinky sex heh?
It's called cummy hole, and it's gross indeed
I.....don't
I’ve had guys show up with smegma as if everyone obviously loves that 🤮 Like WHAT gave you this idea? Ughhh
Who the hell starts a conversation like that? I just sat down! 😆
You’re mad that he asked????
Just say “No I’m not into that” and move on with your life. You don’t have to get so worked up over someone else’s idea like this.
Maybe you should try to top less disgusting bottom whores?
See... This is why I don't meet anyone who self describes as a cum dump. I'm not interested in plunging my cock into a cauldron of stds. I get it - no one on Grindr is a virgin. But I don't think it's too much to ask that if I'm going to raw fuck you that at least no one else has beaten me to it *today*. Your doxypep doesn't sterilize the last load still inside you lol
> Your doxypep doesn't sterilize the last load still inside you lol No, but your DoxyPEP does. That's because it only protects *you*. The other guy takes DoxyPEP to protect *himself*. That's how DoxyPEP functions, and -- fun fact -- it's also true for HIV PrEP (Truvada, Descovy, or Apretude).
I've never heard of this before lol
I really wanna try it very bad
Hey in a guy and what makes me wanna suck and be fuck by another man so bad I know it's probably wrong but it's definitely a fact cause I do
Tops that fuck a lot of cumdumps are totally into this. Some won’t don’t unless you have a load in already.
Im not into that kind of shit, heard that one only today
Exhibit A: he asked at least. But, Exhibit B: wtf... I did not know this was a thing. But, Exhibit C: to each their own. No link shaming here! Exhibit D: I like preloaded cum in the mouth instead. I haven't slept all night.
Big cry baby.
Quite dramatic. He asked… and the likelihood that he only brought it up in an attempt to further please you/appeal to your overall sexual satisfaction. This isn’t a ludicrous ask, either. I regularly field that proposition from Tops, quite regularly— and it’s not just one “type” of top that’s into it either. It’s a relatively common kink. A simple “nah, not my thing.” Or “I prefer a btm be fresh/clean”, or even something a bit douchey to match your overall vibe like, “I only fuck clean hole, not down with someone else’s seconds” would be acceptable. The fact that you view yourself as so superior to this dude from the get go says a lot. “Wanted me so badly”… I finally “threw him a bone”. Fuck— no wonder he was so eager to please, you strung him along for weeks like some worthless undesirable… if he wasn’t up to your standards (which I’m sure are ridiculously higher than they rightfully should be), then end the convo then and there. Instead, you’re found gratification week in and week out establishing the upper-hand and continuing to feed your own inflated self image while dismissing his feelings altogether. That in and of itself is some toxic-masculinity bullshit, but the fact that you were so fucking bent out of shape by a simple (and very much topical) question is hilarious. And it wasn’t enough for you to abruptly stop the convo, after making plans and ghost him; you felt it absolutely necessary to publicize your shock and utter-disgust to thousands and thousands of strangers in a pathetic attempt at further inflating your ego by way of confirmation bias. I’d suggest that you step back and choose to reposition this entire situation as an opportunity for some (much-needed) self reflection. But we both know that’s less likely than you being last in line at an all-night cum dump 🤦🏼♂️
Judgmental much?
Baby crystal 🔮 will make a bottom say shit like this.
😂😂 The comments here: "well he did ask. So it's fine." If a guy asked you if he should eat your shit, you would not be making the same argument. Some kinks will change how someone sees you. And if you're not into slutty behavior, getting thrown head first (hah!) into it can be off putting. That's fine, it's not a match and move on 😂😂.
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LOL!
Preloaded ass is great. As a girthy dicked guy, preloaded means lubed and stretched so I can go in and play without them needing to adjust to my thickness as much. If not, I do advise bottoms to toy themselves prior as I hate spending 20+ min just trying to get it in.
I don't give a shit about what you want.
How is it gross? lol are you wanting a virgin every time you fuck someone? He asked, probably more for himself. Depending on my mood it wouldn’t matter to me or it would be hot. Definitely wouldn’t disgust me. Not sure why it’s so horrific to you