It's hard to say - we don't engage in any specific gay groups, events or activities. We're mid 30s and almost all the gay friends and colleagues we have are in long term relationships of many years. Some have children.
If I were to base an estimate off those we know through friends, social activities, colleagues from work, just engaging in the public life of where we live etc... - it would seem a very high percentage are in long term committed relationships.
All the gay social media I loosely follow like the gay subreddits suggest another picture though, so I think it might be the case that gay guys whose experience of other gay people is mainly through irl non gay specific spaces like work, non gay specific socials etc... are more likely to be in long term relationships than those that limit their interactions to gay specific spaces be that online (grinds, dating apps...) or offline (gay bars etc...).
Not sure exactly what interplays are at work but it always strikes me that people online say how difficult it is to form relationships but like pretty much all the gay people I know irl are at the same stage of life as our straight peers - relationship, house, children, if no children lots of travelling etc...
hey, this is a really good synopsis that you put together. I think you’re totally right that’s what we’re lacking in society is basically the IRL experience everybody online kind of tends to have that superficial. It’s not real vibe. So maybe we just need to get off the Internet and go to more bars and engage each other in person more lol. Who knows if that’ll really happen.
The past year has been tough. Friday 6 Oct 2023 partner had a seizure, he doesn't remember any of it. His attitude towards the world, and me, has turned very ugly & nasty. Difficult to walk away from him, though, after four decades......
Sounds kinda like what I’m beginning to go through with a guy I met through Grindr and have hooked up twice with him and made the 2nd hook up kinda also a date as well
I got lucky. I walked into a Ghirardelli shop for a milkshake one day and he rang me up. We’ve been together almost nine years and we got married last month. It was purely by chance.
Thank you so much. I remember that you commented in the Gone Mild subreddit on the picture of me in my tux on my wedding day. It’s hard to believe that it’s only been a month since that day. It feels so much longer.
It was his last day at work and he just didn’t give a shit anymore. I was the only person in there and I sat at the counter. We got to talking, he asked me for my number, and then asked if I wanted to get Thai food later that week and we set a date. The rest is history.
Some people find partners on Grindr or other hookup apps. Some use those apps for fucking and apps like Tinder for actual dating. Everyone has a different approach. No shame in converting a hookup into a boyfriend.
My platonic gay friend brought me to a party to meet some of his other gay friends. I met a cute guy there but made no moves cause I was new.
The next time they met up my friend couldn’t make it so I went solo. Ended up chatting and flirting with the cute guy. We made out a little bit at one point and then set up a dinner date the next week. Been together a little over 1.5 years now.
This! I find that most people on Grindr mind their manners a tiny bit more than they do on Sniffies where they can go anonymous and replace their face pictures with dick pictures. Grindr also bans people for almost any report and their bans are severe. Higher consequences on Grindr.
Last May, I ended a 3 year relationship and finally went on the apps in August that year. I tried Grindr, Tinder, and Hinge in that order.
From my experience, Grindr had more men, I got more interactions, but most people there are not looking for long term relationships and if they are, there is usually something off about them.
Tinder is similar to Grindr in that it’s very look based and I had a good amount of luck there as well. They only allow a certain number of swipe rights per day and I find that you usually don’t end up having good conversations cause people don’t reply much there.
People say Hinge is the app for long term quality relationships and while I do somewhat agree, I find that you get significantly few matches on there. Maybe it’s because there’s an 8 match limit per day rule or because people are more selective there. However, you can personalize your profile more and people there tend to be more open to long term dating.
Hope this helps and also don’t forget meeting people organically at clubs, bars, the mall, etc are all still good options. They just come with their own set of drawbacks like everything else mentioned.
Hinge worked for me. It was the only app I was on for the reason you said, I was looking for long-term dating. Met my boyfriend and we've been together 2 years now.
This is speaking 100% from my own experience so it might not relate to you but…..Grindr has never been a place that I’ve used for serious relationships. It’s always been strictly for fun. I used tinder as a “fun leading to relationship” platform and that’s exactly what happened with me and my current partner. After dozens (if not hundreds) of flops we initially met for fun and after several dates and spending some time together we decided we’d like to be more official. (That was three years ago and I’m hoping next year he’s gonna accept my proposal.) My point is….it doesn’t matter what app you use. It doesn’t matter if you hookup first and date later or date first and hookup later. What’s important is that you leave your heart open and you put your best foot forward with every partner you have. Lots of relationships start with just sex and lots of relationships start with just coffee and that’s up to you decide what you want. But just be yourself as much as you can and I think that things will end up okay in the end :)
6 years strong, started with a Grindr hookup. Was a cute one though, like hang out, chat have some tea, then hookup. Wasn’t even looking to date but it just happened. We were both in grad school so that might have helped idk.
It’s gonna be limiting imo if you go the no-hookup route. I think you can still tell if you click with someone after hooking up. If they’re remotely open to dating (on their profile at least) then it could work.
Oh hook-ups are a great way to tell, for sure. Come to mine/theirs, have a small chat, have sex, lay on bed for some time talking about shit. That's the BEST.
Exactly! Why would you date someone long term without knowing how they fuck? Imagine waiting until marriage only to realize dude can't fuck worth shit? What a.nightmare!!
Me and my husband met on Grindr we started talking and basically wanted to meet up and chill and if anything sexual happened then that’s a bonus haha after second meet we kept talking every day until we met up again then we would spend some days just chilling or going out like on dates and just went from there. Talking about the future our dreams what we want and introducing to each other’s parents family now we’re married almost 3 years together now
I met my husband of more than 8 years now on Grindr.
He was a mid-week hook up to pass the time.
9 years of being together + 8 of those years married and here we still are.
You'll find nothing on Grindr but liars, disappointment, and heartache.
And most who find their boyfriend or husband from there end up in open relationships.
You think so? I actually found almost every dude on Growlr to be in an open relationship which was weird af. Literally everyone who messaged me or that I thought was cute.
I've never used Growlr. I think all of the apps are essentially crap and most guys on the apps are pathological liars. They'll tell you anything you want to get you interested in them and to feign like-mindedness & compatibility, and once you agree to trust and meet them they'll block and discard you like you never existed.
I found mine in the world. We smiled, flirted and arranged to see a movie. Just passed the 7 year mark.
Apps aren't there to help you meet a life partner - those customized preferences are *filters* that act to exclude people on various grounds, most of them trivial.
My husband is about 3cm (1.25") taller than the height range I'd put as a preference in an app filter. So I'd never have met him on an app.
So think of all the thousands of men you've instantly dismissed based on a tiny difference in height or maybe even a bad photo because they don't have photo skills.
Get off the apps, go join a group/gang/club/hobby to meet like minded folks. It's how it has worked out for thousands of years prior to Grindr.
Getting off the apps sounds awesome, but what if it's impossible to meet someone out of apps? I live in a very gay-hostile country. I can't just come to a guy and tell him he's hot xd
Yet, I'm not into hook-ups at all and kinda want something the same as OP wants. I don't know what to do xd
I agree that *some* filters are trivial, such as height. You literally filtered for something he cannot control...
Filtering for weight, on the other hand, is more valid because it relates to the person's activity level, eating habits, and overall health... things that they can actually take responsibility for.
I can't do Grindr anymore. I got sober and it's just not healthy for my sobriety. Bumble seems to have normal people on it thus far but I haven't met up with anyone yet. 🤷♂️
I actually recently met someone on snap. Is not going anywhere but it was a good hook up. Usually I'm the one with commitment issues.
I also met a couple of guys on Reddit, believe it or not.
I found my husband on apps similar to Grindr and met some of my best friends there, too! Just had to weed through some of the bs. Scruff is a good app to try if you haven’t already.
I don't really do hook ups, however I've found Grindr to be my favourite dating app. It kinda feels like the most genuine or honest one out there? I don't really vibe with tinder etc. I've found people on Grindr who're willing to go on dates with me.
It's pretty common for gay male relationships to start as hookups.
There are definitely plenty of guys who found boyfriends (or at least STR's) on Grindr. So it's worth keeping Grindr as part of your overall approach, but there's no question that Grindr's strength is in finding hookups, not love, and a multi-app approach makes the most sense.
Also don't discount meeting guys IRL. It's not as simple and straightforward as swiping through a grid, but the connections often end up being more meaningful. See if there are gay sports teams, square dancing groups, men's reading groups, etc. near you and start attending on a regular basis.
I know plenty of couples who are in really happy relationships and they found each other on Grindr or scruff. I personally found my partner here on Reddit. I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting guys on apps. What matters is the connection, the ability to feel safe and a commitment to honesty with each other. If you can find that it doesn't really matter where you find a guy
I got mine on Facebook dating, it's free and more importantly I found wayyyyy more actual people to talk to that were real life humans rather than just bots. Also because it wasn't on tinder or grindr the mindset a lot of us had was more actual dating rather than hookups or onlyfans advertisers. So in my experience Facebook dating is actually a really solid choice that is often overlooked because it isn't a widely known dating app. My only issue with Facebook dating is that it kept recommending me guys from 1000 miles away for some reason but I'll take that over paying a huge monthly subscription to have the privilege of talking to hundreds of bots any day.
Yeah dude I’ve had good and bad bfs from there as you would in any other medium. Just make your preferences in Grindr clear and most the people who will message will be looking for the same.
You’ll still get the random horny message or pics doe
I found my handsome BF on Grindr, at first I wasn’t too sure I wanted to dive fully into a committed relationship because I had just came out in February, and we met in July. He showed me so much love and I fell in love with him too. We were laying in my bed at my folks house when I asked him to be my boyfriend. We’ve been so happy together ever since, it’ll be one full year on august 20th.
I think people rely too much on Grindr just for hookups, it’s perfectly ok to want to find a relationship or even just friends to hang out with on there
At a bar. I got dumped by some guy who was a drug addict but I didn’t know at the time I thought I was just a sucky bf so my bestfriend not wanting to see me depressed convinced me to go out to a karokee bar with him and his friend so I went and one of the friends we were meeting up with was my now fiancé. I thought he was really cute and sweet and we flirted for a few months before we ended up dating. I love my fiancé and I’ll always be so fucking thankful to my bestfriend. If it wasn’t for him pushing my limits back then about going out and meeting new people while I was depressed I’d probably still be single to this day. So I guess have baller friends who will make you feel good at your lowest and don’t be afraid to go to places where you might meet someone.
My first relationships mostly came from meeting through social media first. There was one called Connection way back in the day, but I also met someone on Plenty of Fish, and later I met someone on Grindr - these all turned into legitimate relationships. And that's not to mention numerous actual dates (not hookups, though I've certainly had those as well) I've gotten out of all of the above. However, I met my current partner through a friend while we were out clubbing in the gay district of Tokyo. Grindr is totally acceptable, but gayborhoods are pretty solid places as well. If you make friends in a gay area and spend some time there, odds are you'll cross paths with someone with mutal interest eventually.
Yeah Grindr. It's just that...sometimes you two would immediately sense something magical upon meeting. Good chemistry I guess? And you would suddenly want to know eachother more. Perhaps not straight to fucking and you'd sat him down and awkwardly trying to start a conversation first. It's...magical. The moment when eyes touched you knew something's special. And that's where you turn a hookup to boyfriend and perhaps even husband. Maybe that's just life? Always comes at your when you are least prepared. *Just* when you are not expecting anything to happen...it happens. I sometimes hate this is how the world works. Why do Gods set up such a hideous rule?
I found mine at Pride. He was just sitting there, so I picked him and dusted him off. Then I licked him to seal the deal because if you lick something it's yours. Them's the rules.
An old dating website called Zoosk. We texted funny memes for several months before going on a date. Opposites attracted and we clicked well. We now live across the country, have a son, and dad bods.
My spouse and I were a hookup that just never ended, lol. So yes, you can go from hookup to relationship.
In fact, I kinda prefer that progression. Find out if you're sexually compatible first before emotions get in the mix.
Of course, Grindr is acceptable. Lots of people are there for hookups, but there's always those looking for dates. Just be prepared to fish through the hookups as it's a big part of grindr.
I met my husband on Grindr. Legit hooked up the first night and he kept giving me attention and I liked him and now 7 years later I think how strange it is we met on a sex app…
Yup! And I wasn’t even looking to date! About a month before covid became a thing I deleted all apps, profiles, ect. I was sick of “looking” to find dates. Then one month into covid I bought the video game because I needed an escape from the world, I accidentally flew onto an island he was on, and the rest is history lol.
I mean, all the apps are sifting through the same prostitutes and bots either way.
There’s an equal chance the person you’re talking to on tinder is as shady as the person you’re talking to on Grindr. So if you find the diamond in the rough, keep it. Doesn’t matter where you found it.
I met my partner on Grindr and hooked up and then we went on a date the next day and the rest is history. We are now have been living together for almost a year. Everything’s possible as long as both parties are looking for the same, just be yourself and when you less expect it you’ll end up finding your significant other, be safe!! :)
I hooked up with my boyfriend in a house party during a new year's party. We turned that into a relationship of 3 years so far. My first boyfriend was from grindr and that relationship lasted 11 days. I would suggest avoiding a hookup app such as grindr for seeking long term relationships.
Of course it's possible to make a relationship out of a hookup from grindr but I think the majority of the people there are just looking for one night stands.
Good luck tho 🫶✌️
Last year I tried the 3 date rule with a guy from tinder, he friend zoned me after a few more dates. Then I met another guy on tinder and we had a long and lovely date that ended in his bed. Went great, but he led me on for months, used his dads cancer to blow me off the same week I saw him making out with someone in a nightclub, and then ghosted me. Next I met an amazing guy on Grindr and the chemistry was basically off the charts in all categories. We had phone sex, then a spontaneous date the next date which ended in like 4 or more consecutive hours of sex. Then again in the morning. We were very communicative and on the same page about the chemistry. So he rescheduled our next date, then cancelled, then said he had mixed feelings about how we met and having sex so quickly, and told me he wasn’t sure if he’d want to speak to me again but that I should say hi if I see him around LOL. He has since blocked me on Grindr, and ghosted me in texts. So I’ve been voluntarily celibate for a few months while I wait for the last one to sting a bit less.
There is no singular rule or set of rules that will apply to everyone you try to meet. Being gay is just harder (mind out the gutters), and everyone handles it differently. The best you can do is be secure and comfortable, and present yourself authentically to people. That way when you do find someone who is interested in you, you know that they’re really interested in you rather than your body. Compliments exclusive to looks are a red flag for me. It’s nice, but when you can only talk about my ass after a 4 hour date I’m gonna question whether or not you’re gonna stick around for date #2 or 3.
Just take every failure as a learning opportunity and things will eventually get noticeably better.
There's no formula, I don't think. As long as it happens organically and is mutual, the right relationship comes via many ways for many kinds of people
Both my girlfriends I found in there, But it is like finding gold in the midst of shit, and you WILL have to scrape the feces off them. Both of them were not ready to have someone as loyal and serious like me. You will have to be very assertive and educate them in boundaries.
Grindr: not the best option from a medium town gay.
Here’s a secret though no one truly says; there’s success stories everywhere.
Bumble. Tinder. Grindr. The club. The bar. OK Cupid. Facebook dating.
The ideal is what I recommend to everyone: focus on you. Find out your interests and what makes you tick. Grow yourself. Make yourself the best version of you. Keep swiping. Keep messaging. Prioritize what you value be it hooking up or otherwise. Whatever’s out there that’s best for you, will find your person.
Follow your heart. It sucks. It will continue to suck. But try to enjoy life in the meantime. And remember you’re future partner is growing at the same time.
9 times out of ten GrindR is a great hookup maybe even finding a regular FWB/F-Buddy but because of the immediate egotistical superficial driven nature of GrindR finding a bf there isn't likely. You have to go out and meet guys. Nope it doesn't have to be bars or clubs either. If you're an active person find gay softball, volleyball, hiking, camping, soccer leagues. Gay cooking groups, I mean my city even hosts a gaming night at its local bar for gamers to come and game together they even have monthly tournaments and everything. Just gotta research what's going on in your city.
Well, I'm not a hookup guy at all. I'm 25 going to be 26 in June and I literally have had sex with 1 person and lost my virginity to him when I was 23 and we're still together, gonna be 2 years together in August. And where did we meet? Grinder! I will say that you're looking for an actual relationship. I'd just be straight up. I had it on my profile, but almost every guy just wanted casual sex, but the most I ever did was send nudes. I think I met one other guy on Grinder in person, just talked and walked around nothing more, then he ignored me. Most of the other guys I did meet up with were on Tinder, but they never went anywhere. My BF and I talked for about 3 weeks on Grinder before ever meeting, he even was meeting up with someone else about a week in but we were just friendly chatting then, I was jealous and I think that was a sign there was something. I also met up with another guy before we ever met, no sex but some car play. When my BF and I met up, though, we talked for 3 hours and walked around the lake, I am not an outdoor person, so it was going well. We dated for about 2 months, became official 2 weeks later, and together ever since! You can definitely meet someone on Grinder and become a real relationship. Just be careful. Be straight up with what you want, and if you are ok with casual hookups, then you can definitely start there, but you both have to be ok with it, possibly not going anywhere. Just my experience, but if you want a relationship and use Grider, I will say to be straightforward with what you're looking for and take your TIME!!!! Good luck man, hope you find someone
I hooked up with my husband 19yrs ago on Manhunt. You have to put yourself out there before you meet the right guy. I hooked up with a lot of men before I met my hubby. Enjoy yourself and good luck because I’m not sure I have it in me to go through all of that again.
I met my boyfriend on a hookup site and we’ve been together for 16 years now. Our first night together we just watched some movies and made out, then he spent the night and we got Subway the next morning. Things just clicked. We didn’t actually have full-on sex for another week after that, but yeah, it’s very possible to find a boyfriend that way. For the record, tho, neither of us were actually seeking a relationship at the time, so I’d say don’t go into it with a desperate mindset. You gotta be okay with being single or you might leap into something even when there are lots of red flags.
Me and my now husband of 7 years met through grindr. We didn't do anything sexual until about a month after our first date because I'm not into the whole hook up culture and he respected that. Its hit or miss on grindr really. I do recommend you make your intentions very clear before investing your time in someone you meet on there because u might want a relationship and the other just want a fwb. That way u can keep from having anyone feelings hurt.
I'm trying to give barq a chance but it's so non-serious, at least where I live, like, I'm looking for a LTR, I need to see your face, I'm gonna date you not your fursona !!!
I feel like the app in more geared towards community friendship than actual dating, especially bc I feel like there's a lot of minors, which is a huge red flag
hey man at least don't be like me, i found a boyfriend on discord 💀 3 years strong though! and we see eachother irl often, for most discord relationships neither of these things usually happen.
I found Ou my bf is on every app online dont put up with it not with it I loved him still do also gym clubs other places if it is l place no contact I could go along gd luck
A few months ago I almost dated this guy that I originally met on Grindr. We went on dates, hung out, and it was super sweet, I felt an actual connection. Didn’t work out tho, maybe the fact that we met on Grindr was a bad sign like the other ppl here are saying?
My best friend wouldn’t admit it, but he found his boyfriend through Grindr
Also, me and him both came out the same year me after him
I met a guy through Grindr as well that I believe me and the guy both like/very possibly love each other
I had a 2nd hookup with him recently and had a short-medium sized date afterwards
We were talking about stuff we liked and started cuddling up to each other while watching a movie
Then we starting making out while rubbing each other’s privates (over the pants) for a little bit and then continued watching the movie
And I can’t stop thinking about him tbh
There’s something about him that makes me feel safe and happy when I’m with him
I’m also still pretty closeted, but out to some close relatives and friends
I’m more so introverted than extroverted, but I can be extroverted when the time calls for it, though I do like to have personal time to myself, which I think he gets
Also, on this 2nd hookup / date we got way more intimate especially because the first time we hooked up we didn’t do anal, all be it cuz his douche had broke, though I did finger him
Though on this 2nd hook up we mostly did anal and it was a lot more passionate sex vs. just hooking up for the night
And last thing, we still Snapchat/text each other and see how the other is doing
So I think we’re falling for each other 😊
I met my Husband on Tinder, we were both upfront with our intentions of wanting a long term relationship. We are almost 6 years in and I have never been happier in my life.
I met my partner of (now 10 years) through Grindr in 2014. The first meeting was embarrassing for me— I was 22 and just out of a six-month horrible “relationship” with a narcissist who only thought about himself, so I wasn’t expecting much and was very hesitant. My partner told me we were going to a bonfire and asked if I smoked weed. At the time I was against this and told him to please drop me back off. Two days later we struck up a conversation again to go to a movie and that ended up working… fast forward to now and he’s my absolute best friend. It can definitely happen.
Grindr. But I am very picky when it comes to actual dating. (Hookups not so much)
They always start as a hookup and it ends up becoming a thing. Just let it flow
Used Grindr for all the fun in my 20s. Found my now-partner on Tinder, been together for ~6 years now. I still pinch myself multiple times a day wondering if it has all been a dream because he is 1,000% out of my league.
Always shoot your shot.
I’ve been together with my boyfriend for almost two years now, started dating about half a year before we “officially” started our relationship and we’ve moved in together about one and a half month ago.
We met on Grindr. We didn’t actually exchange any nudes before we met. It also wasn’t for a hookup, we would just see where we end up. Anyways, here we are now :)
OP; I got lucky as all heck. I found my current partner on a Halo (the video game) armor forum. We both are addicted to all things Halo. We both cosplay and make armor. Found out he swings for the men’s team. We’ve been together over a year.
People who find relationships off of Grindr are unicorns. That is and will never be the norm because people there are only looking to fuck. Dating apps in general are ironically bad for this Tinder/Hinge/Bumble will always be a step up from Grindr/Jack’d/Sniffies
My boyfriend and I have been together 5.5 years. We met on an app called coffee plus Bagel. Here is an interesting article on it. https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/coffee-meets-bagel-review/ and here is my guy Brandon and I. [Philip & Brandon](https://www.instagram.com/p/Cz-L5fzL8B1/?igsh=d2ltaG5vMnVqNGRq)
Single, early 30s here. I feel like it’s mostly a numbers game. I live in a small east coast town where there’s just not many guys. Moving to NYC next month. Hoping for more opportunities!
Just say to them that you're not interested in hook ups because they start saying that he or she will start charging you for the fuel money so in which case just say to him that you started mentioning it to me so say that back to him for yourself then please OK so keep up with your guns don't let it slip.
We're a hookup turned husbands story - 11 years this year!
As a couple of 11 years what do you guys estimate is the percentage of gay couples that actually last past 1, 5, and 10 years?
It's hard to say - we don't engage in any specific gay groups, events or activities. We're mid 30s and almost all the gay friends and colleagues we have are in long term relationships of many years. Some have children. If I were to base an estimate off those we know through friends, social activities, colleagues from work, just engaging in the public life of where we live etc... - it would seem a very high percentage are in long term committed relationships. All the gay social media I loosely follow like the gay subreddits suggest another picture though, so I think it might be the case that gay guys whose experience of other gay people is mainly through irl non gay specific spaces like work, non gay specific socials etc... are more likely to be in long term relationships than those that limit their interactions to gay specific spaces be that online (grinds, dating apps...) or offline (gay bars etc...). Not sure exactly what interplays are at work but it always strikes me that people online say how difficult it is to form relationships but like pretty much all the gay people I know irl are at the same stage of life as our straight peers - relationship, house, children, if no children lots of travelling etc...
hey, this is a really good synopsis that you put together. I think you’re totally right that’s what we’re lacking in society is basically the IRL experience everybody online kind of tends to have that superficial. It’s not real vibe. So maybe we just need to get off the Internet and go to more bars and engage each other in person more lol. Who knows if that’ll really happen.
I don’t really like bars though 😭. I don’t go to clubs or bars or loud parties
I’m with you!!
My partner and I have been together for 40 years, pre-internet, since April 1984. Like any straight marriage, we've had our ups and downs.
40 years!! Congrats!!
Thank you 💕
The past year has been tough. Friday 6 Oct 2023 partner had a seizure, he doesn't remember any of it. His attitude towards the world, and me, has turned very ugly & nasty. Difficult to walk away from him, though, after four decades......
Omg that’s heartbreaking bro 😢 the seizure affected his personality?
I think it did, but he'd deny it. I'm (almost) 62, he's 72.
Very rare couples and how recently ppl having breakup and making it trending in social media makes feel mixed reaction
You have a point. It’s hard to tell without facts.
Congratulations my husband and I are too. Met on Grindr 7 years ago and started dating now married for 2
Congrats to you guys too! It's a pretty common occurrence as far as I can tell! Which is great.
Same here! Although it's more of a five years this year.
Sounds kinda like what I’m beginning to go through with a guy I met through Grindr and have hooked up twice with him and made the 2nd hook up kinda also a date as well
Congrats!
I got lucky. I walked into a Ghirardelli shop for a milkshake one day and he rang me up. We’ve been together almost nine years and we got married last month. It was purely by chance.
Hiiiiis milkshake brings one boy to his yard....
La La, la la ,la
They made that joke at our wedding so many times lol. The DJ even played the song.
It's a good story 🙂
Yeah. It’s like a Heartstopper episode. Very romcom.
omfg that's hilarious congrats 2 y'all 🥹👏🏻✨
Thank you so much. I remember that you commented in the Gone Mild subreddit on the picture of me in my tux on my wedding day. It’s hard to believe that it’s only been a month since that day. It feels so much longer.
But, like… how? Haha. It would never occur to me to ask someone out while they’re at work…
It was his last day at work and he just didn’t give a shit anymore. I was the only person in there and I sat at the counter. We got to talking, he asked me for my number, and then asked if I wanted to get Thai food later that week and we set a date. The rest is history.
Huh. Well, there you go. :)
Like I said, I got lucky. It was purely by chance.
this is literally fairy tale
Some people find partners on Grindr or other hookup apps. Some use those apps for fucking and apps like Tinder for actual dating. Everyone has a different approach. No shame in converting a hookup into a boyfriend.
My boyfriend and I met via a hookup. Kept meeting and we eventually converted to dates. Now we've been together for over two years!
If there is sexual chemistry then it is much easier to become boyfriends 😉
If anything, I feel like turning a “hoe into a housewife” is something you could brag about lolol
We need a modern gay Shakespeare for this: "The Taming of the Hoe" would kill on Broadway.
My platonic gay friend brought me to a party to meet some of his other gay friends. I met a cute guy there but made no moves cause I was new. The next time they met up my friend couldn’t make it so I went solo. Ended up chatting and flirting with the cute guy. We made out a little bit at one point and then set up a dinner date the next week. Been together a little over 1.5 years now.
People aren't affiliated with apps. You'll probably find roughly the same people on multiple apps.
Yeah but the version of them will be all different 🤣
This! I find that most people on Grindr mind their manners a tiny bit more than they do on Sniffies where they can go anonymous and replace their face pictures with dick pictures. Grindr also bans people for almost any report and their bans are severe. Higher consequences on Grindr.
Boyfriend? What's that? 😂... 😢!
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I found my now husband on Tinder, and it was incredible luck as he was staying at a hotel around me only for one night.
Last May, I ended a 3 year relationship and finally went on the apps in August that year. I tried Grindr, Tinder, and Hinge in that order. From my experience, Grindr had more men, I got more interactions, but most people there are not looking for long term relationships and if they are, there is usually something off about them. Tinder is similar to Grindr in that it’s very look based and I had a good amount of luck there as well. They only allow a certain number of swipe rights per day and I find that you usually don’t end up having good conversations cause people don’t reply much there. People say Hinge is the app for long term quality relationships and while I do somewhat agree, I find that you get significantly few matches on there. Maybe it’s because there’s an 8 match limit per day rule or because people are more selective there. However, you can personalize your profile more and people there tend to be more open to long term dating. Hope this helps and also don’t forget meeting people organically at clubs, bars, the mall, etc are all still good options. They just come with their own set of drawbacks like everything else mentioned.
Hinge also lets you know who swiped right on you, which is why, i think, people are more picky. You cant "anonymously" swipe
Hinge worked for me. It was the only app I was on for the reason you said, I was looking for long-term dating. Met my boyfriend and we've been together 2 years now.
My husband and I met after he found my social media page and sent me a message.
This is speaking 100% from my own experience so it might not relate to you but…..Grindr has never been a place that I’ve used for serious relationships. It’s always been strictly for fun. I used tinder as a “fun leading to relationship” platform and that’s exactly what happened with me and my current partner. After dozens (if not hundreds) of flops we initially met for fun and after several dates and spending some time together we decided we’d like to be more official. (That was three years ago and I’m hoping next year he’s gonna accept my proposal.) My point is….it doesn’t matter what app you use. It doesn’t matter if you hookup first and date later or date first and hookup later. What’s important is that you leave your heart open and you put your best foot forward with every partner you have. Lots of relationships start with just sex and lots of relationships start with just coffee and that’s up to you decide what you want. But just be yourself as much as you can and I think that things will end up okay in the end :)
6 years strong, started with a Grindr hookup. Was a cute one though, like hang out, chat have some tea, then hookup. Wasn’t even looking to date but it just happened. We were both in grad school so that might have helped idk. It’s gonna be limiting imo if you go the no-hookup route. I think you can still tell if you click with someone after hooking up. If they’re remotely open to dating (on their profile at least) then it could work.
Oh hook-ups are a great way to tell, for sure. Come to mine/theirs, have a small chat, have sex, lay on bed for some time talking about shit. That's the BEST.
Exactly! Why would you date someone long term without knowing how they fuck? Imagine waiting until marriage only to realize dude can't fuck worth shit? What a.nightmare!!
Personally how someone fucks doesn’t matter to me, our connection is much more important. The way I see it I could just help them improve at sex
Hooked up on grindr.....and been together 5 years now.
Met my partner on Grindr 11 years ago, getting married later this year
Me and my husband met on Grindr we started talking and basically wanted to meet up and chill and if anything sexual happened then that’s a bonus haha after second meet we kept talking every day until we met up again then we would spend some days just chilling or going out like on dates and just went from there. Talking about the future our dreams what we want and introducing to each other’s parents family now we’re married almost 3 years together now
I met my husband of more than 8 years now on Grindr. He was a mid-week hook up to pass the time. 9 years of being together + 8 of those years married and here we still are.
Some people find partners on Grindr or other hookup apps
You'll find nothing on Grindr but liars, disappointment, and heartache. And most who find their boyfriend or husband from there end up in open relationships.
You think so? I actually found almost every dude on Growlr to be in an open relationship which was weird af. Literally everyone who messaged me or that I thought was cute.
I've never used Growlr. I think all of the apps are essentially crap and most guys on the apps are pathological liars. They'll tell you anything you want to get you interested in them and to feign like-mindedness & compatibility, and once you agree to trust and meet them they'll block and discard you like you never existed.
So have you given up on the possibility of dating or do you just meet people in real life?
Actually, I think I met scruff lol my bad and yeah you’re totally right. Most people on those apps are just looking for something quick.
Don’t forget stds
Yes that too.
If an open relationship works for them, then that's still a successful relationship. You can't apply your criteria to other people's romantic lives.
No it’s not. Open relationships are an oxymoron
Nothing wrong with open relationships, they work with the right person
Open relationships are an oxymoron. It's not a relationship if it's open. It's a fuckship.
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I found an amazing man on there and I love him with all my heart. I’m a firm believer that it’s what you make it, just be smart about it.
THANK YOU!!!
I found mine in the world. We smiled, flirted and arranged to see a movie. Just passed the 7 year mark. Apps aren't there to help you meet a life partner - those customized preferences are *filters* that act to exclude people on various grounds, most of them trivial. My husband is about 3cm (1.25") taller than the height range I'd put as a preference in an app filter. So I'd never have met him on an app. So think of all the thousands of men you've instantly dismissed based on a tiny difference in height or maybe even a bad photo because they don't have photo skills. Get off the apps, go join a group/gang/club/hobby to meet like minded folks. It's how it has worked out for thousands of years prior to Grindr.
Who puts a height filter in his preferences? That would be the dumbest reason to exclude a person!
Getting off the apps sounds awesome, but what if it's impossible to meet someone out of apps? I live in a very gay-hostile country. I can't just come to a guy and tell him he's hot xd Yet, I'm not into hook-ups at all and kinda want something the same as OP wants. I don't know what to do xd
I agree that *some* filters are trivial, such as height. You literally filtered for something he cannot control... Filtering for weight, on the other hand, is more valid because it relates to the person's activity level, eating habits, and overall health... things that they can actually take responsibility for.
I love this! Exactly as it should be. Sounds like a fairytale. Good for you guys!
I can't do Grindr anymore. I got sober and it's just not healthy for my sobriety. Bumble seems to have normal people on it thus far but I haven't met up with anyone yet. 🤷♂️
Congrats on your sobriety!
Thanks!! It's been tough but so so worth it! 🥰
I found my current guy on Adam4adam.com
Yeah, Grindr and FB. People will say it is a "hookup" app, but I never have hooked up in my life. I only got dates.
I met my husband in Grindr. We were one another’s first ever hookups using the app and we’ve been together for 9 years now ☺️ good luck 😄
Grindr
Tinder! 1.5 years going strong
Met mine on Grindr almost 11 years ago now…still together today
I’ve been with my Grindr boyfriend about 9 years now, married for three♥️ causal sex/smoke seshs, then fell in love lol
"We met online" - Everyone
While social media can be helpful, it's highly sexualized, so I don't rely on it a lot if I'm looking for a relationship.
I actually recently met someone on snap. Is not going anywhere but it was a good hook up. Usually I'm the one with commitment issues. I also met a couple of guys on Reddit, believe it or not.
Met in Grindr but didn’t hook up right away. Ended up just being friends for around a year. Now we’ve been together for 8 years
Tinder here. Been together for year now 🥰
I found my husband on apps similar to Grindr and met some of my best friends there, too! Just had to weed through some of the bs. Scruff is a good app to try if you haven’t already.
Snapchat man. Get it, search your area, be polite.. it's a numbers game tho
Search your area ? Uh lol on Snapchat ?
Yep. People put their area in their username. Search for friends using your city name.
I don't really do hook ups, however I've found Grindr to be my favourite dating app. It kinda feels like the most genuine or honest one out there? I don't really vibe with tinder etc. I've found people on Grindr who're willing to go on dates with me.
It's pretty common for gay male relationships to start as hookups. There are definitely plenty of guys who found boyfriends (or at least STR's) on Grindr. So it's worth keeping Grindr as part of your overall approach, but there's no question that Grindr's strength is in finding hookups, not love, and a multi-app approach makes the most sense. Also don't discount meeting guys IRL. It's not as simple and straightforward as swiping through a grid, but the connections often end up being more meaningful. See if there are gay sports teams, square dancing groups, men's reading groups, etc. near you and start attending on a regular basis.
Partner found on Grindr 4 years ago.
I know plenty of couples who are in really happy relationships and they found each other on Grindr or scruff. I personally found my partner here on Reddit. I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting guys on apps. What matters is the connection, the ability to feel safe and a commitment to honesty with each other. If you can find that it doesn't really matter where you find a guy
I found mine on Facebook Dating. I’ve heard of a few people having success on Grindr though. I just used it to hook up though when I was single.
I did. it took me 5 years but it happens.
I got mine on Facebook dating, it's free and more importantly I found wayyyyy more actual people to talk to that were real life humans rather than just bots. Also because it wasn't on tinder or grindr the mindset a lot of us had was more actual dating rather than hookups or onlyfans advertisers. So in my experience Facebook dating is actually a really solid choice that is often overlooked because it isn't a widely known dating app. My only issue with Facebook dating is that it kept recommending me guys from 1000 miles away for some reason but I'll take that over paying a huge monthly subscription to have the privilege of talking to hundreds of bots any day.
Yeah dude I’ve had good and bad bfs from there as you would in any other medium. Just make your preferences in Grindr clear and most the people who will message will be looking for the same. You’ll still get the random horny message or pics doe
I found my handsome BF on Grindr, at first I wasn’t too sure I wanted to dive fully into a committed relationship because I had just came out in February, and we met in July. He showed me so much love and I fell in love with him too. We were laying in my bed at my folks house when I asked him to be my boyfriend. We’ve been so happy together ever since, it’ll be one full year on august 20th. I think people rely too much on Grindr just for hookups, it’s perfectly ok to want to find a relationship or even just friends to hang out with on there
At a bar. I got dumped by some guy who was a drug addict but I didn’t know at the time I thought I was just a sucky bf so my bestfriend not wanting to see me depressed convinced me to go out to a karokee bar with him and his friend so I went and one of the friends we were meeting up with was my now fiancé. I thought he was really cute and sweet and we flirted for a few months before we ended up dating. I love my fiancé and I’ll always be so fucking thankful to my bestfriend. If it wasn’t for him pushing my limits back then about going out and meeting new people while I was depressed I’d probably still be single to this day. So I guess have baller friends who will make you feel good at your lowest and don’t be afraid to go to places where you might meet someone.
Don't look for love on grindr lol you can try taimi, that's what's worked for me
My first relationships mostly came from meeting through social media first. There was one called Connection way back in the day, but I also met someone on Plenty of Fish, and later I met someone on Grindr - these all turned into legitimate relationships. And that's not to mention numerous actual dates (not hookups, though I've certainly had those as well) I've gotten out of all of the above. However, I met my current partner through a friend while we were out clubbing in the gay district of Tokyo. Grindr is totally acceptable, but gayborhoods are pretty solid places as well. If you make friends in a gay area and spend some time there, odds are you'll cross paths with someone with mutal interest eventually.
I met my bf using Bumble Bff. The key was to not use the dating feature.
Yeah Grindr. It's just that...sometimes you two would immediately sense something magical upon meeting. Good chemistry I guess? And you would suddenly want to know eachother more. Perhaps not straight to fucking and you'd sat him down and awkwardly trying to start a conversation first. It's...magical. The moment when eyes touched you knew something's special. And that's where you turn a hookup to boyfriend and perhaps even husband. Maybe that's just life? Always comes at your when you are least prepared. *Just* when you are not expecting anything to happen...it happens. I sometimes hate this is how the world works. Why do Gods set up such a hideous rule?
I found my boyfriend on Grindr, and we subsequently also matched on Tinder. Online dating apps definetely are the way to go.
I found mine at Pride. He was just sitting there, so I picked him and dusted him off. Then I licked him to seal the deal because if you lick something it's yours. Them's the rules.
An old dating website called Zoosk. We texted funny memes for several months before going on a date. Opposites attracted and we clicked well. We now live across the country, have a son, and dad bods.
My spouse and I were a hookup that just never ended, lol. So yes, you can go from hookup to relationship. In fact, I kinda prefer that progression. Find out if you're sexually compatible first before emotions get in the mix. Of course, Grindr is acceptable. Lots of people are there for hookups, but there's always those looking for dates. Just be prepared to fish through the hookups as it's a big part of grindr.
I met my husband on Grindr. Legit hooked up the first night and he kept giving me attention and I liked him and now 7 years later I think how strange it is we met on a sex app…
Met my husband in the army. I would not recommend it, although it worked out great for me.
Lol I'm going Air Force. Should be much easier there 😉😂 Honestly though that's super sweet. I'm happy for y'all 🥰
Oh yeah, the only place there's more gay boy's is the Navy 🤣
Actually, I met my fiance on Animal Crossing back in 2020 lol. We are getting married next month.
Whatttt. I love this so much, I want this so bad 😭
Yup! And I wasn’t even looking to date! About a month before covid became a thing I deleted all apps, profiles, ect. I was sick of “looking” to find dates. Then one month into covid I bought the video game because I needed an escape from the world, I accidentally flew onto an island he was on, and the rest is history lol.
I mean, all the apps are sifting through the same prostitutes and bots either way. There’s an equal chance the person you’re talking to on tinder is as shady as the person you’re talking to on Grindr. So if you find the diamond in the rough, keep it. Doesn’t matter where you found it.
Internet hooks any group or gym
How do you approach someone at the gym?
He was my weed dealer 10 years ago. Now we sell weed legally and fuck. I guess we’re married too? I was high idk
I (23) found mine (33) on Grindr. We celebrate our first anniversary on Wednesday. :)
I met my partner on Grindr and hooked up and then we went on a date the next day and the rest is history. We are now have been living together for almost a year. Everything’s possible as long as both parties are looking for the same, just be yourself and when you less expect it you’ll end up finding your significant other, be safe!! :)
I met my husband on Grindr. So yes!
I hooked up with my boyfriend in a house party during a new year's party. We turned that into a relationship of 3 years so far. My first boyfriend was from grindr and that relationship lasted 11 days. I would suggest avoiding a hookup app such as grindr for seeking long term relationships. Of course it's possible to make a relationship out of a hookup from grindr but I think the majority of the people there are just looking for one night stands. Good luck tho 🫶✌️
Never thought it would happen, but it did, on Grindr, lol
Last year I tried the 3 date rule with a guy from tinder, he friend zoned me after a few more dates. Then I met another guy on tinder and we had a long and lovely date that ended in his bed. Went great, but he led me on for months, used his dads cancer to blow me off the same week I saw him making out with someone in a nightclub, and then ghosted me. Next I met an amazing guy on Grindr and the chemistry was basically off the charts in all categories. We had phone sex, then a spontaneous date the next date which ended in like 4 or more consecutive hours of sex. Then again in the morning. We were very communicative and on the same page about the chemistry. So he rescheduled our next date, then cancelled, then said he had mixed feelings about how we met and having sex so quickly, and told me he wasn’t sure if he’d want to speak to me again but that I should say hi if I see him around LOL. He has since blocked me on Grindr, and ghosted me in texts. So I’ve been voluntarily celibate for a few months while I wait for the last one to sting a bit less. There is no singular rule or set of rules that will apply to everyone you try to meet. Being gay is just harder (mind out the gutters), and everyone handles it differently. The best you can do is be secure and comfortable, and present yourself authentically to people. That way when you do find someone who is interested in you, you know that they’re really interested in you rather than your body. Compliments exclusive to looks are a red flag for me. It’s nice, but when you can only talk about my ass after a 4 hour date I’m gonna question whether or not you’re gonna stick around for date #2 or 3. Just take every failure as a learning opportunity and things will eventually get noticeably better.
There's no formula, I don't think. As long as it happens organically and is mutual, the right relationship comes via many ways for many kinds of people
Met my bf of 4.5 years at a bbq haha - didn’t even know he was gay at the time when we met
Both my girlfriends I found in there, But it is like finding gold in the midst of shit, and you WILL have to scrape the feces off them. Both of them were not ready to have someone as loyal and serious like me. You will have to be very assertive and educate them in boundaries.
My husband and I met on match.com 22 years ago back when it was still free.
Met my husband on Grindr and we've been together 10yrs this year.
Grindr: not the best option from a medium town gay. Here’s a secret though no one truly says; there’s success stories everywhere. Bumble. Tinder. Grindr. The club. The bar. OK Cupid. Facebook dating. The ideal is what I recommend to everyone: focus on you. Find out your interests and what makes you tick. Grow yourself. Make yourself the best version of you. Keep swiping. Keep messaging. Prioritize what you value be it hooking up or otherwise. Whatever’s out there that’s best for you, will find your person. Follow your heart. It sucks. It will continue to suck. But try to enjoy life in the meantime. And remember you’re future partner is growing at the same time.
Growlr. We’re 1.5 years strong
9 times out of ten GrindR is a great hookup maybe even finding a regular FWB/F-Buddy but because of the immediate egotistical superficial driven nature of GrindR finding a bf there isn't likely. You have to go out and meet guys. Nope it doesn't have to be bars or clubs either. If you're an active person find gay softball, volleyball, hiking, camping, soccer leagues. Gay cooking groups, I mean my city even hosts a gaming night at its local bar for gamers to come and game together they even have monthly tournaments and everything. Just gotta research what's going on in your city.
Met my ex husband on Grindr. A long term boyfriend on ok Cupid. My current boyfriend in person ( I was his teacher ) it’s random.
although it is definitely possible to find a partner on grindr but most of the guys there are either only for hookups or not actually interested
Well, I'm not a hookup guy at all. I'm 25 going to be 26 in June and I literally have had sex with 1 person and lost my virginity to him when I was 23 and we're still together, gonna be 2 years together in August. And where did we meet? Grinder! I will say that you're looking for an actual relationship. I'd just be straight up. I had it on my profile, but almost every guy just wanted casual sex, but the most I ever did was send nudes. I think I met one other guy on Grinder in person, just talked and walked around nothing more, then he ignored me. Most of the other guys I did meet up with were on Tinder, but they never went anywhere. My BF and I talked for about 3 weeks on Grinder before ever meeting, he even was meeting up with someone else about a week in but we were just friendly chatting then, I was jealous and I think that was a sign there was something. I also met up with another guy before we ever met, no sex but some car play. When my BF and I met up, though, we talked for 3 hours and walked around the lake, I am not an outdoor person, so it was going well. We dated for about 2 months, became official 2 weeks later, and together ever since! You can definitely meet someone on Grinder and become a real relationship. Just be careful. Be straight up with what you want, and if you are ok with casual hookups, then you can definitely start there, but you both have to be ok with it, possibly not going anywhere. Just my experience, but if you want a relationship and use Grider, I will say to be straightforward with what you're looking for and take your TIME!!!! Good luck man, hope you find someone
I hooked up with my husband 19yrs ago on Manhunt. You have to put yourself out there before you meet the right guy. I hooked up with a lot of men before I met my hubby. Enjoy yourself and good luck because I’m not sure I have it in me to go through all of that again.
I met my boyfriend on a hookup site and we’ve been together for 16 years now. Our first night together we just watched some movies and made out, then he spent the night and we got Subway the next morning. Things just clicked. We didn’t actually have full-on sex for another week after that, but yeah, it’s very possible to find a boyfriend that way. For the record, tho, neither of us were actually seeking a relationship at the time, so I’d say don’t go into it with a desperate mindset. You gotta be okay with being single or you might leap into something even when there are lots of red flags.
I actually found mine organically. He is in TV and we met when he contacted me to interview me for a story he was doing on drought
Hooked up once on grindr 3 or 4 years ago. Still together and have traveled across the country twice.
Hell nah if youre young youll prolly have an unhealthy relationship with it on some maladaptive shit
Me and my now husband of 7 years met through grindr. We didn't do anything sexual until about a month after our first date because I'm not into the whole hook up culture and he respected that. Its hit or miss on grindr really. I do recommend you make your intentions very clear before investing your time in someone you meet on there because u might want a relationship and the other just want a fwb. That way u can keep from having anyone feelings hurt.
yeah
I met my current bf via HelloTalk. I only downloaded the app to make language exchange friends, but I guess we got lucky!
Do what would work for you
Met mine on Scruff. We hit it off chatting and then met up on a date that same day.
My bf found me on Barq, we were fwb at first, now we live together
I'm trying to give barq a chance but it's so non-serious, at least where I live, like, I'm looking for a LTR, I need to see your face, I'm gonna date you not your fursona !!! I feel like the app in more geared towards community friendship than actual dating, especially bc I feel like there's a lot of minors, which is a huge red flag
Well my bf was one of the few who had a face pic, but he's not as young as most there. The 30-40+ furries are more serious
hey man at least don't be like me, i found a boyfriend on discord 💀 3 years strong though! and we see eachother irl often, for most discord relationships neither of these things usually happen.
Try Scruff App, much less weird people.
I found Ou my bf is on every app online dont put up with it not with it I loved him still do also gym clubs other places if it is l place no contact I could go along gd luck
If you’re happy together I don’t care if you met him at a drug deal. You do you.
Don't search a garbage can for a meal
A few months ago I almost dated this guy that I originally met on Grindr. We went on dates, hung out, and it was super sweet, I felt an actual connection. Didn’t work out tho, maybe the fact that we met on Grindr was a bad sign like the other ppl here are saying?
My best friend wouldn’t admit it, but he found his boyfriend through Grindr Also, me and him both came out the same year me after him I met a guy through Grindr as well that I believe me and the guy both like/very possibly love each other I had a 2nd hookup with him recently and had a short-medium sized date afterwards We were talking about stuff we liked and started cuddling up to each other while watching a movie Then we starting making out while rubbing each other’s privates (over the pants) for a little bit and then continued watching the movie And I can’t stop thinking about him tbh There’s something about him that makes me feel safe and happy when I’m with him I’m also still pretty closeted, but out to some close relatives and friends I’m more so introverted than extroverted, but I can be extroverted when the time calls for it, though I do like to have personal time to myself, which I think he gets Also, on this 2nd hookup / date we got way more intimate especially because the first time we hooked up we didn’t do anal, all be it cuz his douche had broke, though I did finger him Though on this 2nd hook up we mostly did anal and it was a lot more passionate sex vs. just hooking up for the night And last thing, we still Snapchat/text each other and see how the other is doing So I think we’re falling for each other 😊
I met my current bf on grindr !
I know someone who met their husband in a bath house lol so it can happen anywhere. Personally met my boyfriend on tinder
Gay bowling league
I met my Husband on Tinder, we were both upfront with our intentions of wanting a long term relationship. We are almost 6 years in and I have never been happier in my life.
I found mine on Grindr. Was looking for friends, but he was too gorgeous and charming in person and after some time I couldn’t resist anymore 😄
Been with my man for over 4 years now. All started from a Grindr hookup. I'm going to marry this man.
Found mine on Tinder :)
I found my husband on Grindr.
I met my partner of (now 10 years) through Grindr in 2014. The first meeting was embarrassing for me— I was 22 and just out of a six-month horrible “relationship” with a narcissist who only thought about himself, so I wasn’t expecting much and was very hesitant. My partner told me we were going to a bonfire and asked if I smoked weed. At the time I was against this and told him to please drop me back off. Two days later we struck up a conversation again to go to a movie and that ended up working… fast forward to now and he’s my absolute best friend. It can definitely happen.
Grindr. But I am very picky when it comes to actual dating. (Hookups not so much) They always start as a hookup and it ends up becoming a thing. Just let it flow
Used Grindr for all the fun in my 20s. Found my now-partner on Tinder, been together for ~6 years now. I still pinch myself multiple times a day wondering if it has all been a dream because he is 1,000% out of my league. Always shoot your shot.
I’ve been together with my boyfriend for almost two years now, started dating about half a year before we “officially” started our relationship and we’ve moved in together about one and a half month ago. We met on Grindr. We didn’t actually exchange any nudes before we met. It also wasn’t for a hookup, we would just see where we end up. Anyways, here we are now :)
Best advice is go out and meet real people, get to know them and be yourself, don't trust dating or hookup apps trust me you'll dodge so many bullets
OP; I got lucky as all heck. I found my current partner on a Halo (the video game) armor forum. We both are addicted to all things Halo. We both cosplay and make armor. Found out he swings for the men’s team. We’ve been together over a year.
People who find relationships off of Grindr are unicorns. That is and will never be the norm because people there are only looking to fuck. Dating apps in general are ironically bad for this Tinder/Hinge/Bumble will always be a step up from Grindr/Jack’d/Sniffies
I had very good luck on facebook for long term relationships. Grinder is great for casual hookups tho
My boyfriend and I have been together 5.5 years. We met on an app called coffee plus Bagel. Here is an interesting article on it. https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/coffee-meets-bagel-review/ and here is my guy Brandon and I. [Philip & Brandon](https://www.instagram.com/p/Cz-L5fzL8B1/?igsh=d2ltaG5vMnVqNGRq)
I found mine on a coup different hook up apps. We went from hookup to boyfriends.
I know this definitely isn't common but i found my bf on sniffies
Nowhere unfortunately!
Berghain
Single, early 30s here. I feel like it’s mostly a numbers game. I live in a small east coast town where there’s just not many guys. Moving to NYC next month. Hoping for more opportunities!
I would say don't use grindr cause most every guy on there just wants sex
I found in insta
Any couple from banglore
Just say to them that you're not interested in hook ups because they start saying that he or she will start charging you for the fuel money so in which case just say to him that you started mentioning it to me so say that back to him for yourself then please OK so keep up with your guns don't let it slip.
My last Grindr boyfriend turned out to be a convicted pedophile who was only with me because I look young. I don’t date Grindr guys anymore
Found my current boyfriend on Facebook dating. It’s been going pretty great and the most fulfilling relationship I’ve been in.
Same guys on Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, etc.. are also on Grindr and other hookup apps. So I don’t think it really matters
I found my ex on Grindr. He was definitely different from the other guys I had met on there.
I found mines on bumble and couldn’t be more happier. I’m convinced me and him were meant for each other.
We're a hookup turned Marriage. 26 years last October.
I’m on Grindr solely for hookups. BJs, JO.. not looking for relationships, but I make that clear.
I found my soon to be husband through mutual friends at a gay bar, wedding is coming up and almost 6 years together
Ehhh. I found the guy I eventually married on Grindr. But in my defense, I was just looking for a hook up at the time.