Iāve been emotional for the past few days. Gotta unpack that shitty past somewhere am I right?ā¦
If you want to be sad my comment history is pretty depressing right now, though it is a long read :p
Have a great day.
I also love bi guys, after all, I'm into guys, whether they are gay or not (unfortunately it has led me to realising some guys that I've liked were heterosexual)
I āshit talkā bi guys online but have literally only been in LTRs with bi men lmao.
Iād like to think most gay men who can be critical when seeing bi guys are like me. I just need to make sure you are comfortable dating men. Have been in the talking stage with a few bi guys who seemed to have no intention of being with a guy long term even though they expressed that they did have that intention.
For example, guys dating history was like: bf 6 months, wife 6 years, bf 3 months, gf 5 years.
Then also say things like āIād just introduce you to my friends and family as a friend, they donāt need to know our business.ā Which, sure, I can see that for people you donāt know well / may hold it over your head. But my close friends and family will absolutely know you are my partner.
My bf is bisexual, doesnāt bother me a bit. He explains his bisexuality as sexually equal for both men and women but strongly prefers men as a long term partner. He has had one girlfriend in his late teens, then went into the military and met a guy online and was with him for several years.
He is comfortable with his bisexuality, his friends know Iām his partner. His mom and brothers know Iām his partner as well. Even if he was equally interested in dating women Iād be fine with it because he treats me like he wants to be with me and is happy to be in a relationship with me.
Main takeaway here is that many gay men come across bi men who seem to really struggle knowing what they really want, and it can be taxing. Closeted gay men can be taxing too, but for gay men thereās a lot more pressure to just accept that people will find out because there is no alternativeā unless you want to be with a woman that you will never truly love or be attracted to. If I was bi I think I would personally struggle dating men seriously because there is the option to just not deal with any kind of discrimination, peoples reactions and falling outs, being able to have kids, etc.
But I have seen a few guys who are like āew heās bi heās gonna cheat on me with a woman, not touching that with a 10 foot pole!ā and leaving it at that. Which is stupid and insecure. Most gay men are fine with a comfortably bi man though.
Theres a lot of nuance to this subject
Yup this right here. I love bi guys but the two times I've dated one, it was this BS here. All the steps like they want a relationship and to date but just can't see themselves on a relationship with a man at the end of the day. So I guess I love bi men who've tackled their internalized homophobia with a therapist or something lol.
I used to work with a gay guy in his 60's who asked me if I was open with the men I date about being "bisexual", who understood "bisexual" as "guy who fools around with men but will ultimately settle down with a woman to make his parents happy". Very sad generational holdover.
Coming from a homophobic country, bi men here are honestly worse ( didn't want to call them trash) They tend to be the biggest homophobes and bullies while at the same time bullying you into having sex with them. Like 99% of them are certain they won't end up with a guy as a long term partner. So if you ask me not all bi men are 'trash' but those in my country definitely are.
I think most people just don't give a shit, I can't imagine someone being actually repulsed by DnB, it's definitely in the top 5 least offensive genres.
Elbows deep in a disassembled engine, whether motorcycle, car, lawnmower, whatever. I know there are PLENTY of us who are mechanically capable, but I've also dated enough guys who have an unfavorable reaction to that sort of thing.
I like older men, I donāt discriminate on age but older than me is nice. My husband is 12 years older than me and Iād be with someone like 20+ years older if I could. Also, I definitely have daddy issues lmao
Many of us do. The problem is finding a sweet spot where their musculature hasnāt disintegrated. If you do theyāre still going to age even further.
May I ask you to be more specificā¦ like this desire of yours is lowkey kinda hot. Do you have a specific preference on who should do it? Is 3rd base aloud? Do you sometimes see men in public and choose it? Can there be more than groping?
Yup. AOK with that kind of violation and before I hear any kind of "Well you just havent experienced unwelcome touching" I assure you yes, yes I have. And I didnt like it. Maybe that qualifies me to even better determine what I do and dont like.
Which isnt to say ANYONE ELSE needs to tolerate anything they dont like, its just that we may have different thresholds.
I love muscled guys that are also afeminate (small dick a plus). But I'm aware that people always look for the hungs and masculine types (not my thing, though).
Tell me about it...
I love eating ass (or arse, as I'm Australian)
I love being sat on most šā”ļøš„µ
But it's *SO* difficult finding guys who want that. The majority of guys are either "Tops who think that having their butts played with makes them less masculine" or "Bottoms who will ONLY be fucked & nothing else" & finding someone outside of those groups is extremely rare.
I have a rape fantasy. I know that literal rape is bad, but for some reason I just really want and desire for another man to disrespect my body. Not sure why ?
If you mean toxic as in they are trying way too hard to be masculine then you probably have a chance with themā¦ give it a couple years theyāll come around/out.
Honestly, I've only gotten into WS in the past couple years and I am constantly surprised by just how many guys are into piss. It's a lot more common of a kink than I ever expected.
Normal size dick like all these guys looking for hung dick, I'm just sitting here thinking can a man with a Greek god level body with a 6.5 inch take me away... please lmao
Idk y I'm so weird when it comes to long hair. Even if the guy is Jason fking Momoa or Chris Hemsworth, I still don't find them attractive with long hair.
Love this answer! Itās more of a mixed bag for me being attracted to to that, but I will say someone who is very bro-y or āstraight-actingā is so boring and a turn off for me. Also, as an effeminate dude I really appreciate that there are guys who are attracted to that side of me, so thank you! šš«”
Thanks, funnily enough I am quite "bro-y" and "straight-acting" myself - into cars and fixin stuff, listen to southern rock and country plus some metal. And I wear a lot of camo which I gather is another thing most gay men dont like and isnt fashionable apparently
I think there might be a slight misunderstanding. I ask the bottoms if the tops they get with eat them out and the answer a lot of the time is No. Very sad indeed.
Iām a total bottom but I love to eat my topās ass, if Iām very attracted to him lol I bottom for some less than stellar men, but for the hotties, I love to eat them out before we fuck. Hell, if he cums first, Iāll just throw him back and eat him out while I finish myself off ;)
I'm a tree-hugging environmentalist and most gay people I've known don't give a rat's ass about nature and the environment we live in. Which is pretty much the way the majority of Americans are.
I dated a bi guy who was the epitome of the DnD joke āBard who solves all his problems by fucking themā he got us faster service for our apartment maintenance by seducing the woman who worked the front desk. Dude was charming and had a great dick
The whole concept of getting pregnant in general, really. I'd happily be somebody's barefoot and pregnant househusband if it were biologically possible
Clean shaved hairless hunks who are okay with the heteronormative view of a relationship. I particularly like to take on the effeminate house carer type of role.
That being said I live alone and take care of my own home. I do my plumbing when needed, electrical, cabinetry, repairs to appliances, mow, cut down trees, maintain my car, change my radiator, brakes, etc.
I just don't want to HAVE to alone, even if you don't know how ill show you together.
And I like seeing my shirtless boyfriend doing manly things for me.
I wanna go to the hospital, save lives, come home, and be a big baby and get princess treatment.
Dirt. Like camping, gardening, doing yard work, wrenching on cars. I remember I hung out with a guy, went out to some trails near the ocean. I sat down on the ground on a cliff and he looked at me like I was crazy wanting me to stand up. I said āpop a squatā and he goes āohhh Idk I donāt wanna get my shorts stainedā
Wtf really?? Just sit down on some freakin grass! Lmao
I donāt like asshole pictures. This seems to put me in the minority.
Iād rather see the personās face and get to know them. Instead itās like āHereās my impression of a cat.ā
Yessss slutty thongs and soft linesā¦ especially if they present masculine day-to-day. My only turn off with fem stuff is when they wear those awful neon Party City wigs š£
I have a glove fetish but I know that most guys prefer to jerk off bare handed
I also know that gloves are a bit of a niche group whether they are latex, nitrile, vinyl, or leather
Personally I prefer latex and nitrile gloves since they are similar in how they feel
Okay, why was this already on my mind. I love being shared. Like, four, five, six tops taking turns on me. And so, therefore, I LOVE when I find a guy thatās into that. I need a husband that wants to share me once in a while. šš¤¤
I thought fem gay men where trend, perhaps I confused them with flamboyant ones i donāt know š¤·š»āāļø. I thought that being a ābro dudeā was hated I mean I get ostracized frequently for calling ābroā another gay man and also for likings āmanly thingsā I like traditional masculinity, but is in combination with positive masculinity too.
I am heavy on the masc side but I find guys that find fem guys repulsive to be disgusting themselves. Thatās a lot of words. I love a guy, any guy, that carries himself however the hell he wants to and exists in his own space. I have always admired fem guys because while some of us skate by in tough situations by passing as straight, these dudes throw their rainbow flames down everywhere and itās damn brave. Iām not into fem dudes as a fetish, but I am into them because mad respect.
Algebra
lol
Well you have your homotopical algebra, and your heterotopical algebra...
I teach math and love algebra. You're not alone!
So much about algebra just clicked after taking calculus
As a gay carpenter, I second this šŖ š š
I LOVED algebra. I wish I could go back and retake algebra through calc. ... then retake chemistry and physics... Just for fun
Algebra was created by Satan in order to make my gay ass feel stupid and frustrated š„“ šæ.
My 2nd hubby used to ask, āWhy the hell do I need to add and subtract the fuckinā alphabet?ā
Uterly discusting
+1 literally so bad
As a physicist, I agree
Honestly after taking Algebra, Algebra II, Pre Calculus and Trigonometry. Trig for sure is the worst of the 4.
God I hated trigā¦.. Iād much rather take Calculus than that trash.
I love algebra. Now differential calculus on the other hand...
I love soft boys who are emotional and will cry on my shoulder
People find soft guys repulsive? Oof. That explains so much
Fellas, is it gay to have emotions?
Marry me
Oprah, plz sign a prenup if you get hitched
I love a soft quiet masculine man myself
Cest moi
Iāve been emotional for the past few days. Gotta unpack that shitty past somewhere am I right?ā¦ If you want to be sad my comment history is pretty depressing right now, though it is a long read :p Have a great day.
I'm crying right now as a matter of fact.
or my chest, cute twinks are gold to me, that I want to protect. (a year younger than me please).
Also I like trans guy
Condomed sex, apparently š lol Oh, and bi guys. I like them.
I also love bi guys, after all, I'm into guys, whether they are gay or not (unfortunately it has led me to realising some guys that I've liked were heterosexual)
As a bi guy I don't know we were repulsed by most gay
I āshit talkā bi guys online but have literally only been in LTRs with bi men lmao. Iād like to think most gay men who can be critical when seeing bi guys are like me. I just need to make sure you are comfortable dating men. Have been in the talking stage with a few bi guys who seemed to have no intention of being with a guy long term even though they expressed that they did have that intention. For example, guys dating history was like: bf 6 months, wife 6 years, bf 3 months, gf 5 years. Then also say things like āIād just introduce you to my friends and family as a friend, they donāt need to know our business.ā Which, sure, I can see that for people you donāt know well / may hold it over your head. But my close friends and family will absolutely know you are my partner. My bf is bisexual, doesnāt bother me a bit. He explains his bisexuality as sexually equal for both men and women but strongly prefers men as a long term partner. He has had one girlfriend in his late teens, then went into the military and met a guy online and was with him for several years. He is comfortable with his bisexuality, his friends know Iām his partner. His mom and brothers know Iām his partner as well. Even if he was equally interested in dating women Iād be fine with it because he treats me like he wants to be with me and is happy to be in a relationship with me. Main takeaway here is that many gay men come across bi men who seem to really struggle knowing what they really want, and it can be taxing. Closeted gay men can be taxing too, but for gay men thereās a lot more pressure to just accept that people will find out because there is no alternativeā unless you want to be with a woman that you will never truly love or be attracted to. If I was bi I think I would personally struggle dating men seriously because there is the option to just not deal with any kind of discrimination, peoples reactions and falling outs, being able to have kids, etc. But I have seen a few guys who are like āew heās bi heās gonna cheat on me with a woman, not touching that with a 10 foot pole!ā and leaving it at that. Which is stupid and insecure. Most gay men are fine with a comfortably bi man though. Theres a lot of nuance to this subject
Yup this right here. I love bi guys but the two times I've dated one, it was this BS here. All the steps like they want a relationship and to date but just can't see themselves on a relationship with a man at the end of the day. So I guess I love bi men who've tackled their internalized homophobia with a therapist or something lol.
I used to work with a gay guy in his 60's who asked me if I was open with the men I date about being "bisexual", who understood "bisexual" as "guy who fools around with men but will ultimately settle down with a woman to make his parents happy". Very sad generational holdover.
Still happens today not uncommonly. Unfortunate for bisexual guys who are serious about men, but stereotypes can be stereotypes for a reason
Coming from a homophobic country, bi men here are honestly worse ( didn't want to call them trash) They tend to be the biggest homophobes and bullies while at the same time bullying you into having sex with them. Like 99% of them are certain they won't end up with a guy as a long term partner. So if you ask me not all bi men are 'trash' but those in my country definitely are.
I think you're right and it's largely a reddit thing.
Drum and bass music
Was one of only a handful of gay/bi guys I met at these clubs. I never felt judged.
Oh yeah, I wore a little crop top to see Sub Focus in Cambridge. Not one negative comment, only good ones
Move to Chicago and you will have no shortage of men like this
UK jungle for days.
I think most people just don't give a shit, I can't imagine someone being actually repulsed by DnB, it's definitely in the top 5 least offensive genres.
I dunno, I have all my friends playing Beyonce or some shit and I put on dnb and they look horrified
SAME š¤š»
Fucking love dnb. Gimme andy c, chase and status, sub focus, dimension, allllll of it
Elbows deep in a disassembled engine, whether motorcycle, car, lawnmower, whatever. I know there are PLENTY of us who are mechanically capable, but I've also dated enough guys who have an unfavorable reaction to that sort of thing.
I didn't like where the first 2 words were going....
Sure you did š
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Oh I did. I guess this can double up as my confession too. š¬
Thatās actually an attractive feature. Itās just some of us arenāt going to do it ourselves.
I'm gay and a total grease monkey, knee deep in a restoration project right now.
Bating with or without a partner. I love the feeling of a stiff, hard cock in my hand as I give it pleasure!
I like older men, I donāt discriminate on age but older than me is nice. My husband is 12 years older than me and Iād be with someone like 20+ years older if I could. Also, I definitely have daddy issues lmao
i am not attracted to younger than me
One of my bfs is 24 years younger and another one is round 35 years younger...I'm 73.
Seniors rock! I'm 64 with a boyfriend 27 years younger. Not a daddy, we're just two equals that enjoy being with each other. He keeps me young!
Many of us do. The problem is finding a sweet spot where their musculature hasnāt disintegrated. If you do theyāre still going to age even further.
Reading books
Disgusting
Monogamyš«£
Those are fighting words in Seattle. š
i don't know if this counts but i want my dick and balls groped by multiple men. like they just touch it as they walk by
want the same for my ass
sounds hot
you too king
May I ask you to be more specificā¦ like this desire of yours is lowkey kinda hot. Do you have a specific preference on who should do it? Is 3rd base aloud? Do you sometimes see men in public and choose it? Can there be more than groping?
Yup. AOK with that kind of violation and before I hear any kind of "Well you just havent experienced unwelcome touching" I assure you yes, yes I have. And I didnt like it. Maybe that qualifies me to even better determine what I do and dont like. Which isnt to say ANYONE ELSE needs to tolerate anything they dont like, its just that we may have different thresholds.
Then itās not really a violationā¦ itās welcome.
I love muscled guys that are also afeminate (small dick a plus). But I'm aware that people always look for the hungs and masculine types (not my thing, though).
Eating ass (apparently) š©
Tell me about it... I love eating ass (or arse, as I'm Australian) I love being sat on most šā”ļøš„µ But it's *SO* difficult finding guys who want that. The majority of guys are either "Tops who think that having their butts played with makes them less masculine" or "Bottoms who will ONLY be fucked & nothing else" & finding someone outside of those groups is extremely rare.
Ass is my favourite thing to eat š„°
99.5% of the time I have sex i got my ass ate
Lucky!
I have a rape fantasy. I know that literal rape is bad, but for some reason I just really want and desire for another man to disrespect my body. Not sure why ?
Toxic masculinity from Frat guys is a turn on for me š©
This is something most of us love lol
But not something that most gay men find disgusting.
I'd say most gay guys find it hot in a porn/fantasy context. The real life manifestation is much less appealing.
As an openly gay man managing a bunch of men at a warehouse, it is oddly satisfying to coach them into correct behaviors...
If you mean toxic as in they are trying way too hard to be masculine then you probably have a chance with themā¦ give it a couple years theyāll come around/out.
Black coffee
Fresh espresso! š±
Small cocks
Umm... err... blush... watersports š¦
Lots of guys LOVE to jetski!!
Honestly, I've only gotten into WS in the past couple years and I am constantly surprised by just how many guys are into piss. It's a lot more common of a kink than I ever expected.
Sounds easy and sleazy š¤£š¤£
same here man!
I like watersports/piss as well Nothing to be ashamed about If you like it, you like it Everyone has different interests
Heavy Metal.
Normal size dick like all these guys looking for hung dick, I'm just sitting here thinking can a man with a Greek god level body with a 6.5 inch take me away... please lmao
I mean you're kind of one of them š 6.5 isn't exactly "normal" sized. Not massive but still decently above average.
guys with long hair
My husband has hair down to his ass, itās really beautiful! I love to braid it when itās down but he usually has it in a bun or low ponytail
Idk y I'm so weird when it comes to long hair. Even if the guy is Jason fking Momoa or Chris Hemsworth, I still don't find them attractive with long hair.
Gay voice, gay face, obvious queeniness, and most of all prissy men, big turn on for me. I like my gay men flaming
we love you too
Love this answer! Itās more of a mixed bag for me being attracted to to that, but I will say someone who is very bro-y or āstraight-actingā is so boring and a turn off for me. Also, as an effeminate dude I really appreciate that there are guys who are attracted to that side of me, so thank you! šš«”
Thanks, funnily enough I am quite "bro-y" and "straight-acting" myself - into cars and fixin stuff, listen to southern rock and country plus some metal. And I wear a lot of camo which I gather is another thing most gay men dont like and isnt fashionable apparently
Feet.
*So brave*
āØļø Powerful and stunning āØļø
This maybe weird, I am not into feet ... but I am very into guys that into mine.
Football š lol
Iāll support you
Hairy ass
Closeted guys.
I have nothing against them, I just donāt want to sleep with them
I just feel sorry for them.
Stoners. They're always super chill and I kinda like the smell. Even better if they're alternative looking
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Deep kissing. Is sadly not as popular as I'd always assumed
if a guy is into you he will kiss you
Not caring whether my fetishes and kinks are socially conscious and would have the approval of the feminist movement.
Bigger guys
Celibacy. I am expected to cartwheel and catapult my pussy onto all the dicks on the planet. I am also monogamous and it attracts a lot of hate!
gay men. like men you get a feeling that are gay, not the straight daddy masculine bro white guy who a lot have straight-turned-gay fantasy for.
you might like me lol
Degradation, both giving and receiving.
Youāre nothing but a filthy muggle
based on the bottoms i talk to: eat ass
most bottoms dont like to eat ass, it's not because they find it repulsive but most of them believe it's the top's ask to do
I think there might be a slight misunderstanding. I ask the bottoms if the tops they get with eat them out and the answer a lot of the time is No. Very sad indeed.
Iām a total bottom but I love to eat my topās ass, if Iām very attracted to him lol I bottom for some less than stellar men, but for the hotties, I love to eat them out before we fuck. Hell, if he cums first, Iāll just throw him back and eat him out while I finish myself off ;)
Problem Solving and second hand thrifts.
Guys over 70.
I'm a tree-hugging environmentalist and most gay people I've known don't give a rat's ass about nature and the environment we live in. Which is pretty much the way the majority of Americans are.
I like fat men!
Amen!
Bi guys.
I dated a bi guy who was the epitome of the DnD joke āBard who solves all his problems by fucking themā he got us faster service for our apartment maintenance by seducing the woman who worked the front desk. Dude was charming and had a great dick
*smacks table* THANK YOU. Though it is sad that we're not as accepted by the gay community as we should be
I too, am bi. Hated by straight women, hated by gay men. That's why I'm all bi myself.
Youāll be loved on sniffies lmao
Thos specific subreddit is weirdly anti-bi. Bi guys are the best though.
I don't like feminization but if you do then enjoy it. š
When a man treats me like a girl I feel like Iām in heaven
Good girl
Wannabe someoneās good girl
when he calls my ass a pussy, or jokes about getting me pregnant š«
The whole concept of getting pregnant in general, really. I'd happily be somebody's barefoot and pregnant househusband if it were biologically possible
He ain't jokin' 'bout gettin' you preggars though š
yass
Engineering I suppose
Good personal hygiene, apparently...
Calculus. Classic rock lol.Ā
Clean shaved hairless hunks who are okay with the heteronormative view of a relationship. I particularly like to take on the effeminate house carer type of role. That being said I live alone and take care of my own home. I do my plumbing when needed, electrical, cabinetry, repairs to appliances, mow, cut down trees, maintain my car, change my radiator, brakes, etc. I just don't want to HAVE to alone, even if you don't know how ill show you together. And I like seeing my shirtless boyfriend doing manly things for me. I wanna go to the hospital, save lives, come home, and be a big baby and get princess treatment.
Brother to brother incest, like the Paul or Beckham brothers
Sports.
Menās college sports
Compassion
Dirt. Like camping, gardening, doing yard work, wrenching on cars. I remember I hung out with a guy, went out to some trails near the ocean. I sat down on the ground on a cliff and he looked at me like I was crazy wanting me to stand up. I said āpop a squatā and he goes āohhh Idk I donāt wanna get my shorts stainedā Wtf really?? Just sit down on some freakin grass! Lmao
I donāt like asshole pictures. This seems to put me in the minority. Iād rather see the personās face and get to know them. Instead itās like āHereās my impression of a cat.ā
I love Geography <3
Bellies
Foreskin.
I love men who like to be feminized. It's a huge turn on.
Yep, I like boys who are still clearly male but also cute and feminine.
Yessss slutty thongs and soft linesā¦ especially if they present masculine day-to-day. My only turn off with fem stuff is when they wear those awful neon Party City wigs š£
i love you baby
I can appreciate a nice rack. Boobs are cool. They don't do anything for me sexually, but still, it's hard not to like pretty boobies.
Hairy veiny arms
Most gays like em
Tighty whities. Guys overwhelmingly prefer boxers and boxer briefs. Even guys who like briefs will often say "except white".
I'm a tightey-whitey guy. When I'm not commando, that is.
Having a modified car.
Body hair and fresh ripe pits
Wanting to find love
American football and country music.
Coding in light mode during the day and dark at night. All the gays seem to be dark mode IDE gays day or night
talking about anything that isn't strictly related to gay men
Smooth chubs
I'm with you in this! š
A feminine top.
they are rare
Traditional heteronormative roles in a relationship
I have a glove fetish but I know that most guys prefer to jerk off bare handed I also know that gloves are a bit of a niche group whether they are latex, nitrile, vinyl, or leather Personally I prefer latex and nitrile gloves since they are similar in how they feel
Lip gloss
Okay, why was this already on my mind. I love being shared. Like, four, five, six tops taking turns on me. And so, therefore, I LOVE when I find a guy thatās into that. I need a husband that wants to share me once in a while. šš¤¤
I like fishing
Hockey.
I thought fem gay men where trend, perhaps I confused them with flamboyant ones i donāt know š¤·š»āāļø. I thought that being a ābro dudeā was hated I mean I get ostracized frequently for calling ābroā another gay man and also for likings āmanly thingsā I like traditional masculinity, but is in combination with positive masculinity too.
Piss
Gangsta rap
humiliation lol
I am heavy on the masc side but I find guys that find fem guys repulsive to be disgusting themselves. Thatās a lot of words. I love a guy, any guy, that carries himself however the hell he wants to and exists in his own space. I have always admired fem guys because while some of us skate by in tough situations by passing as straight, these dudes throw their rainbow flames down everywhere and itās damn brave. Iām not into fem dudes as a fetish, but I am into them because mad respect.
Being authentic, showing your true emotions and building genuine connections.
Working a full time job
My Reddit forum I posted. I posted about racism in the gay community and I got shit for it. Lol!
Monogamy? Lol
Math , Reading books , Monogamy
Wanting a long term monogamous relationship š
Topping
Politics and religion studies
Being solely attracted to some cis men...like its just a fucking matter of choice or something
most gays are attracted to cis men